Call Him Daddy... At Work?

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Speaker 4 As you may know, I co-host a career advice podcast with the entrepreneur editor-in-chief, Jason Pfeiffer, called Help Wanted.

Speaker 4 And if you heard my episode yesterday, you know that this week I'm sharing some episodes of Help Wanted that I think will be really valuable for money rehappers.

Speaker 4 And the episode today, oh my God, I honestly can't believe that I aired this once and I'm about to do it again.

Speaker 4 It is probably one of the most embarrassing moments of my life, but this totally mortifying moment happened when I was trying to answer the question, when is it a bad idea to bring your romantic partner into work?

Speaker 4 In this conversation, we give you a framework to help you decide when your personal life and professional life should stay in separate lanes and then just for funsies we spontaneously call up the guy at the center of my embarrassing moment i honestly might delete this at some point it is just that embarrassing so please enjoy it while you can

Speaker 5 this is help wanted the show that makes your work work for you I'm Jason Pfeiffer, editor-in-chief of Entrepreneur Magazine.

Speaker 4 And I'm money expert Nicole Laffin.

Speaker 4 On Tuesdays, Jason and I answer the helpline and help callers solve their work problems and on thursdays i give you one way to improve your work and build a career or company you love and it starts now

Speaker 5 you're gonna be able to keep it together for this one

Speaker 4 i'll try

Speaker 5 so nicole we have a real topic to discuss today But before we get there, we got a real story we got to hear.

Speaker 5 I'm not going to give anything away about this story of yours,

Speaker 5 but I will just tell you that I received this voice memo, which you sent to Morgan and I. We were about to play it.

Speaker 5 I happened to be sitting in a very drab airport eating an awful airport stromboli, and I nearly spat that thing out. Can we just play this?

Speaker 4 Oh my God, yes.

Speaker 4 And I guess the only thing, dear listeners, need to know for context is that in this voice note, I was describing how I introduced my boyfriend Jared to the president of my favorite professional network, Patow, over email.

Speaker 4 And

Speaker 4 this is what happened.

Speaker 4 And so

Speaker 4 I sent this email.

Speaker 4 Oh my God. Okay, so Jared is saved in my phone.
Oh, this is only a recent change. We were watching some comedy special.

Speaker 4 I'm progressing that guy's name, the British guy. And he was talking about what his baby mama, girlfriend, whatever is saved in his phone.
And we were watching it.

Speaker 4 And I was like, okay, I'm going to change what you're saved in my phone.

Speaker 4 So

Speaker 4 I

Speaker 4 save him in my phone as

Speaker 4 daddy.

Speaker 4 And when he gets the email, he's like, babe,

Speaker 4 did you know that in the email to the CEO or whatever, it says to him and to Todd?

Speaker 4 Like, I thought this was just for me.

Speaker 4 Apparently, it's not.

Speaker 5 I didn't know. All right, we're back.
How do you feel about that being heard by everybody?

Speaker 4 Are you sure we want to do this? Yes. Oh, you have to.
All right. All right.
Learn from my mistakes, people.

Speaker 4 right the mistake is telling your friends who you make a podcast with about anything that happens that's embarrassing because it immediately will go in the podcast all right you sent me a screenshot of what this email looked like because i couldn't quite picture it so i thought it was saved in my phone and i thought i was the only one who could see it so when it was sent no idea at all that the way you save it in your phone apparently is the way other people read it too.

Speaker 5 Yeah, I did not know that either. This is a public service announcement

Speaker 4 for anyone who doesn't know that.

Speaker 5 So, just to be clear, here's the screenshot you sent me. Imagine looking at an email, right?

Speaker 5 Everyone, so first it says the subject line, which in this case is a very boring thing that says recolon brand lift and case study. And then it says from Nicole Abben, 10:51 a.m.

Speaker 5 to Tracy, comma, Morgan, comma, daddy.

Speaker 5 And if you expand it underneath, it just keeps going with it.

Speaker 5 This is from Nicole Lappen and then your email address to Tracy, her email address, Morgan, her email address, and then Daddy, which is Jared's email address.

Speaker 4 Oh my God.

Speaker 4 Yeah. Or you can see the actual email that I sent where this was all uncovered.
So I was really thoughtful about this idea that

Speaker 4 this community.

Speaker 5 Patow that you have connected daddy to.

Speaker 4 The president, Ryan, has been on the show. We've talked about it a lot.
I am a big ad hoc ambassador. It's an important business community that I've been part of for 15 years.

Speaker 4 And I was concerned. I don't know if that's the right word.
I was

Speaker 4 extra cautious and thoughtful about how I

Speaker 4 nominated, because you have to nominate executives for membership into the community. How I would

Speaker 4 toe the line of this is my romantic partner and he's amazing and qualified and he should be part of it.

Speaker 4 And I'm recommending him, but I'm not ignoring the fact that he's a romantic partner because that's disingenuous, but I'm saying it in a way that also shows just how much I believe in him, regardless of that.

Speaker 4 So this thoughtful email, it took me a minute to craft the right balance. So I say, Ryan, it's with great joy that I introduce you to Jared.

Speaker 4 There is no one I know that more closely embodies the ethos of planning to take on the world than him. So Patau stands for Plan to Take on the World.

Speaker 4 He is the CEO of one of the most exciting AI companies out there, Canvas, which proprietarily measures consumer feelings and gauges emotions for the world's biggest brands.

Speaker 4 Jared's accolades are long and impressive, but none more impressive than the fact that he lives with me and has not completely lost his mind yet.

Speaker 4 As you both know, Patau is such a special community to me. I have thought long and hard about whether this intro would be mutually beneficial to the max.
The only answer I kept coming to was

Speaker 4 colon, hell yes.

Speaker 4 So, with that, I hope you can connect and discuss the beautiful shaded part of your Venn diagram while swapping embarrassing stories about me, Nicole.

Speaker 4 So, my goal was to be professional, but also casual and connote the idea that he is important, but also self-deprecating.

Speaker 4 And it's like a weird situation because this is a professional and romantic thing. And I don't want him to get extra special consideration because

Speaker 4 of me for some reason, which he doesn't need.

Speaker 4 So I tried to write it pretty thoughtfully, thoroughly, use complete sentences, which, as you know, as the recipient of many of my emails do not have complete sentences.

Speaker 4 And then I sent off this email.

Speaker 4 And daddy, this very professional email.

Speaker 5 Yeah, it's like preparing for a big presentation and just absolutely nailing it. And then you get off stage and someone was like,

Speaker 5 very toilet paper attached. Yeah, that's a good question.

Speaker 4 How did you know that?

Speaker 4 That's 100% 100% what it felt like. Digitally.
Yeah. And so finding out that this inside, very, very personal thing

Speaker 4 first went to this very important community that I care about. And then now it's going to everybody.

Speaker 4 Okay.

Speaker 5 I could just marinate in the absurdity of this all day, but to try to make an actual purpose of this outside of just that I wanted to share it with our listeners. What's the big idea here?

Speaker 5 The big idea here is that mixing personal and business relationships, particularly romantic and business relationships, can be complicated because why?

Speaker 5 I mean, you tell me because you've had to navigate this a number of times, given the number of very professional and personal connections that you've made through your dating life.

Speaker 5 So, what's the balance? What's the thing that you have to walk?

Speaker 4 Oh, Jason, can't it just be a funny story?

Speaker 4 Aren't there enough podcasts out there that just vomit on the mic and have no takeaway and no lesson and just two people laughing about crazy shit that happens in their lives?

Speaker 4 All right, we can dig deep.

Speaker 4 So, yeah, it's a tricky balance to strike, especially when you get together later in life. You've created rich,

Speaker 4 full careers with networks and people and texture and contours and all the yummy things of a career well had and a life well lived. I've had that.
He's had that independently.

Speaker 4 And coming together with that, I think is a little tricky for a lot of reasons. It's tricky when you also act like a child and save your romantic partner's name as.
Daddy.

Speaker 4 So are there boundaries? So I struggled with trying to figure out where the boundary was.

Speaker 4 I have a romantic relationship, I think, for the first time in my life that feels very complete and safe and nurturing outside of work.

Speaker 4 And the shaded part of that Venn diagram is not a core tent pole of what's holding this thing up, which frankly, it has been before.

Speaker 4 And I was very fast and loose with incorporating romantic partners in work. And as you know, work.
it has been my life. And so that was the thing that I wanted to talk about all day, all night long.

Speaker 4 And I never really

Speaker 4 had a boundary and always wanted to be helpful to somebody else and vice versa. And so now I was trying to figure out where,

Speaker 4 if at all, these boundaries are around this idea that this is a community that I care a lot about. I have been a complete, full human.
Nobody needed to complete me. This

Speaker 4 romantic relationship has been only additive to my life. Like it's not filled me in a way that wasn't already full and complete.

Speaker 4 So how do I incorporate him into something that already feels pretty great, if at all? And there's other communities. I happen to think this is the best one, as everybody knows.
They do not pay me.

Speaker 4 I still pay them. So

Speaker 4 they can pay me to say these things. They won't.
But is there a boundary? Could that just be my thing? And that could have been fine too.

Speaker 5 I have to say that feels like a really compelling question that I relate to. Can this just be my thing?

Speaker 5 Because when you have a partner who you share a lot with, including professional interests and ambitions, then there are going to be these overlaps. And some of those overlaps are great.

Speaker 5 But also, I think many people, as they get deeper into a relationship, they start to ask themselves, like, what's still just mine? You know, like, what's mine and not ours?

Speaker 5 And that's been a very important part of my relationship with Jen, my wife, is we have our own things and then we have our things together, but we also do somewhat similar work in that we're both in media.

Speaker 5 And so there are a lot of times where things just overlap. And you know what's interesting is that sometimes they overlap in a way that forces a reduction of something.
I'll give you a tiny example.

Speaker 5 We have a friend named Andy. Andy's a very successful writer.
And we've been meaning for Andy and her girlfriend to come over and catch up with Jen and I who haven't seen for a long time.

Speaker 5 But at the same time, also Andy and I had had a whole bunch of work things we wanted to talk about, like newsletter strategy and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I realized, you know, if Andy

Speaker 5 and her girlfriend come over, we're not going to talk business. And I actually kind of want to.

Speaker 5 And I want to talk about stuff that like Jen's not that interested in, which is like newsletter strategy. So we decided to create two plans.

Speaker 5 There was week one, Andy and Julia came over and we had dinner and we talked about the things all four of us are interested in.

Speaker 5 And then literally the next week, just Andy and I got together and we talked newsletter strategy and other stuff. And that felt like a really good way to do it because it's intentional.

Speaker 5 Yeah, it's intentional. You get these intersections, and one doesn't subtract the other, right?

Speaker 5 It's not like Andy and I couldn't continue to develop the kind of worky relationship that we would have because it doesn't fit into the relationship that I would share with my wife.

Speaker 5 And so, doing both felt really good and useful. And I think that that's that's where I want to make sure I'm always living in.

Speaker 5 I want to share as much as we can, but I also want to make sure I'm being mindful of how some things, even things I might share, can still just be mine.

Speaker 4 I love that. I mean, you wrote a book with Jen.
You also wrote your own book. So that's an extreme example.
Yeah, right. Here is my book.
Build for tomorrow. Here is our book, Mr.

Speaker 4 Dice Guy, wherever you buy your books.

Speaker 5 Thank you for the dual book plug. Yeah, Jen and I wrote a book together.
And that was like a great project. But, you know, we also didn't then

Speaker 5 immediately start merging all of our work things.

Speaker 5 In fact, we use each other pretty intentionally in each other's work. For example, my newsletter, I have found that Jen is a great

Speaker 5 last sounding board before that thing goes out. So I send my newsletter out Tuesday mornings.
Monday night, I read the newsletter to her. And after that, I've fussed with it all week.

Speaker 5 And now I just want her to hear it and to call out anything that doesn't work. And, you know, fortunately, she hasn't heard it and been like, this thing is terrible.
You should throw it away.

Speaker 5 Cause then I wouldn't have anything on Monday night. But I really like that as a process.
The newsletter is mine, but we share this part of it together, which is this check-in just before it goes out.

Speaker 5 I think that if you have a partner partner who you have some professional entanglement with, it makes it often more fun. There's like more things to talk about and to do together.

Speaker 5 But you just have to know whose is what's, if that makes sense. What is who's.

Speaker 5 Stick around. Help wanted.
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Speaker 5 Welcome back to Help Wanted. Let's get to it.

Speaker 4 The big question is, is Ryan laughing his ass off right now? Do I ask Ryan?

Speaker 5 Oh, you haven't asked him. No.

Speaker 4 So from the looks of the response, he clearly knows. Has this circulated the whole community? Is everybody laughing at me? Will I never live this down now in every Patal mixer and conference?

Speaker 5 Oh my God. Would you call him and ask him? Because Nicole, if you would,

Speaker 5 if you would call him and ask him, I got some questions for him.

Speaker 5 Did you think about saying something?

Speaker 5 And then also, if Nicole noticed and just wrote you and gave you what is the actual explanation, which is, okay, so just to be clear, I don't actually call him daddy.

Speaker 5 It was like a joke and it was from the TV show and the whole thing. Is that worse? Does that look like you're making up a story? How do you clean this up? I guess is the question.

Speaker 5 Like, Like, that's what I really want to know. How do you clean this up? And what is Ryan thinking? Can we call Ryan?

Speaker 4 Okay, let's call Ryan.

Speaker 4 Do you hear her here?

Speaker 4 Well, hello. Hi.
How are you? Good. Do you have a second?

Speaker 4 Always.

Speaker 4 You're the best.

Speaker 4 I just wanted to check in and

Speaker 4 have you join. Jason and Morgan and I just for a little chat we were having about you and things and patow.
And we were like, let's call Ryan.

Speaker 6 I'm glad to be called.

Speaker 5 So, number one,

Speaker 5 we are so glad to hear from you right now. Number two, we're going to tell you something.

Speaker 5 It's not going to be embarrassing for you. It is going to be embarrassing for Nicole.

Speaker 4 So, how was your chat with Jared?

Speaker 4 It was great.

Speaker 6 Why?

Speaker 4 That's awesome.

Speaker 5 Ryan, I have a simple question for you. Ready? When Nicole sent you an email and introduced you to Jared, did you notice anything funny in that email?

Speaker 6 You know, now that you asked, I may have picked up on something.

Speaker 6 How is this brought to your attention?

Speaker 5 Well, because when Nicole noticed it, she was mortified. And then she sent me and Morgan a voice memo about it in which she could barely breathe.

Speaker 5 It was possibly the greatest couple minutes of audio I've ever heard. And our first question is, what did you think? And our second question is, what did you do next?

Speaker 6 So to the first question of what did I think?

Speaker 6 I think I was like, good for Jared.

Speaker 4 You know, that's

Speaker 6 lofty standards to be entitled such, to be given such a nice title within a relationship.

Speaker 6 What I did next was I did think to myself, on a scale of one to the most awkward thing ever, how awkward would it be if I reached out to Nicole to let her know and had an internal debate about that for a little bit.

Speaker 4 But you did not. But I did not.

Speaker 4 Does the entire Patal

Speaker 4 now know about this?

Speaker 6 Of course not.

Speaker 4 You're about to say, of course.

Speaker 4 Now just everybody who listens to our show knows about it.

Speaker 6 Yes, we're going to put you on the main stage and have you tell the story with screenshots and everything.

Speaker 4 By the way, it's a great PSA. It is a very important career PSA for the Patau community.

Speaker 5 The PSA, Ryan, is that Nicole had absolutely no idea that the way you list someone in their phone is how they show up in the email. That was not a thing she knew.

Speaker 4 I was today years old when I discovered that when you save somebody, which is crazy because I've saved exes in the past, like asshole, do not call.

Speaker 4 I didn't put them in an email with the president of Patow or whatever. So we were watching a comedy special and the guy had his girlfriend saved as baby or something.
I don't know.

Speaker 4 And then I was like, oh, we have each other saved as such boring things like our actual names. And so right before I sent that email, I changed it in my phone.
And I just thought that that was for me.

Speaker 4 And nobody else would see it ever.

Speaker 6 So since you are recording, I just want to let the record state that I don't believe that story for a second.

Speaker 4 I can't lie. That's all.
Brian, I wish like lying was like a good skill set of mine. I just can't.
It's just impossible for me. It's true.
That was the time that I figured it out.

Speaker 4 And when I said, hey, babe, like, oh, I sent this email. And then he opened opened it and he's like,

Speaker 4 did you know that it said daddy on it?

Speaker 4 And I said, wait, you can see that?

Speaker 6 And so the best part about this is since that is how he was introduced to me, when he emails me now, that is also how he comes up just on his own.

Speaker 4 I can't breathe. I can't breathe.

Speaker 6 It's a great PSA, though.

Speaker 4 Brian, we'll let you go on your merry way with your very important patow duties.

Speaker 6 Well, I hope you all have a lovely weekend, and I'm sure we'll chat soon.

Speaker 4 If you don't chat with daddy first. Exactly.

Speaker 4 And I guess my closing thoughts here are: not every professional project has to be yours, and not every professional project has to be shared.

Speaker 4 If you're thinking about having your romantic partner be a business partner in some way, you just need to make sure that it's mutually beneficial.

Speaker 4 And if there is something professional that you're sharing with your romantic partner, maybe

Speaker 4 just don't call him daddy.

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