Michelle Buteau on Comedy, Community and Calling Out Dave Chappelle

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From New York Magazine and the Vox Media Podcast Network, this is On with Kara Swisher, and I'm Kara Swisher. My guest today is Michelle Buteau, the multi-hyphenate comedian, writer, actor, and producer, and one of my favorites.
Last year, she made history as the first female comic to record a stand-up special at Radio City Music Hall, A Beautiful Mind, her second special for Netflix, and she starred in the movie Babes with Alana Glazer. Buteau's comedy has been described as dynamic, conversational, and big-hearted.

I just think she makes me feel good,

and I think comics right now are doing some of the most

trenchant analysis of what's happening

from a variety of different viewpoints,

not always things I agree with,

but I'm really enjoying how much comics

are really contributing to the conversation now,

especially compared to a lot of people,

including our politicians.

The second season of our Netflix series,

Survival of the Thickest, came out last week, the same day we talked. The show is loosely based on Buteau's memoir, Personal Essays, which she published back in 2020.
It's about the size-inclusive stylist who wants to change the fashion industry and not just for big girls. And she surrounds herself with friends, including friends in the transgender community that help her do that.
I think it's a wonderful show. There's a series of shows right now that have a lot of political elements that aren't so obvious but actually are about joy and friendship and community.
I think it's just what we need around this time because they're also not silly and stupid. They're actually quite substantive, and this is one of those shows, and it does make you feel better because everything Michelle does tends to do that.
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Our expert question today comes from her babes, co-star,

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Listen every Sunday morning, wherever you get your podcasts. Michelle Buteau, welcome.
Thanks for being on On. I hear you were just in Australia filming your next movie.
I was there too, just recently. How was the trip? The trip was long.
I felt like I was in a spaceship for a whole day and then I was in in the future, and I didn't know who I was, and everyone kept telling me, we have this wonderful thing called avocado toast. I'm like, yeah, I heard of it.
Where do you guys live? Australia is interesting, and the running joke is that they're all convicts. I'm like, you guys got to come up with another joke.
Yeah. They're not all convicts, by the way.
And they tell you they're not the convict people. Yes.
They're very particular about it we're not the convict people. I feel like those people are dead, so I don't have a judgment going on there.
What were you doing there? Talk a little bit about the trip. It's beautiful.
I was filming a movie called Spa Weekend, written and directed by John Lucas and Scott Moore, who also did Bad Moms. And I was filming with Leslie Mann, Isla Fisher, and Anna Faris.
Wow. And me.
That's a gang. It was amazing.
So it's the ladies. It's like White Lotus, right? But funny, essentially.
You know, but funny, yes. Yeah, it was a time.
It was a master class. It was beautiful.
I was pinching myself. I was like in my body and outside of my body.
It was amazing. It was really amazing.
And what I love about, I mean, I've been doing this for like 25 years, right? I've been doing this since Taylor Swift had curly hair. That's how long I've been doing this.
And to still do things that I am excited about, it feels like I'm starting all over again. It's like the first day of school is like really dope.
Yeah. Well, that's fantastic.
So you've been really busy, for people to understand. We're recording this on the same day that season two of your Netflix show, which I love, Survival of the Thick, is premieres.
Congratulations. I think it's wonderful.
Thank you. Did you watch it? Yes.
I watched the first season and then they sent me early things. There's a series of series happening right now.
Running Point is another one that I think are just lovely to watch. And they're fun and interesting and feature women, different, different.
But the series is based on your book of personal essays that came out in 2020. Can you explain the show? You're Mavis Beaumont, an up-and-coming stylist.
Talk to me a little bit about the show and how you conceived it. Yeah, for sure.
It's so interesting that you mentioned running Point because also co-created by Mindy Kalin. So when you have women of color in positions of power to call the shots and to really, as we say, put their foot in it and create something delicious, then it's only going to sing.
And so that's why diversity matters. That's why, you know, when you have a table, make sure that everybody gets a seat, but come to that table with some manners.
Okay. Not Mindy.
I'm just, you know, throwing strays to people who don't have manners. But, you know, and that's the beautiful thing about working with Netflix too.
It's like such an international platform. It isn't like the old school networks where you really have to fit a circle in a square and it's just like my wife and kids and, you know, it's just giving, we subscribe to two genders.
It's like, no, life is wild and beautiful and we have vocabulary to like describe our feelings and, you know, our journeys in a way we never had before. And I love that Netflix is like, the more you do you, the more specific you are, the better it is.
So I love that you said running point because one of my writer-producers, Grace Edwards, who's amazing on my show, also worked on that show. And I'm just like, I love women of color.
So I have been doing stand-up for a long time. And most stand-up comedians will tell you I want to write a book.

We don't know about what.

We just, like, feel like it's on the list.

Like, you want to go to the Montreal Festival.

You want to do late night.

You want to do a special.

You want to do a half-hour special, an hour special with, like, a maroon curtain behind you and, like, you know, just looking up at the crowd and waving and just wearing, like, a black suit, you know, like.

Yeah, there's a journey.

There's a journey, right?

And there's, like, a list that everybody.

But anyways, I wanted to write a book. I met a book agent, you know, like.
Yeah, there's a journey. There's a journey, right? And there's like a list that everybody, but anyways, I wanted to write a book.

I met a book agent, Robert Gunzler,

who's working with Phoebe Robinson and Junior Charest Ray.

And I didn't understand what the idea was.

I just was like, I have buckets of personality. I want to do something.

And this is so long ago.

And then I started my IVF journey and I'm like, I'm busy.

I don't have time to do this.

And I was doing morning TV on VH1.

And he kept checking in.

He's like, what's the book?

What's the book?

Thank you. go.
And then I started my IVF journey and I'm like, I'm busy. I don't have time to do this.
And I was doing morning TV on VH1 and he kept checking in. He's like, what's the book? What's the book? At this point, I'm like 2016, 17, 18.
I'm like, I don't have time to write a book plus like who's going to read it. And so I got into this, like this, I guess it would be like imposter syndrome or something.
I don't know what to call it, But I was doing that thing where I was telling myself no before other people told me no. And I was like, I don't know.
What's the point? Which is so – I think that's part of the process and you should feel that. But you got to – A lot of people do that.
You got to try. You know what I mean? You got to try.
It doesn't have to be perfect. It just has to be done.
And then when I finally was over this IVF journey and brought my twins home from the hospital, I'm like, I think I have time to write a book now that I have twins at home.

What was I thinking?

Right.

So I signed on.

I tried, and I couldn't really get anything together.

And I didn't know what I wanted to share.

And I was either sharing too much or not enough.

I'm like, is this funny? Is this too emotional, too sincere? What's my place? What's my voice on paper? But I had all these stories like through podcasting or storytelling shows that didn't fit into straight up standup that I was like, these stories mean something and they're wild, but where do they go? And Phoebe Robinson gave me a great piece of advice when she was writing her book that she told me and she didn't make it up but someone told her um write like everyone you know is dead i don't know that worked for me it i i i was able to sort of get over my writer's block and just spaghetti theory that shit how did it move into the show because you're not a stylist yeah i mean i was just, I was just like, get it done. I don't know who's going to read it and who cares, you know? What I didn't realize is that like a lot of people were waiting for a lot of IP from me because I was pitching a lot of stuff.
I was writing a lot of stuff, but I realized that I wasn't writing it in my voice. I was writing stuff for what I thought people wanted.
And that's why I wasn't able to sell any of it. So when Kristen Zollner, an amazing executive that was at Netflix, and now she's moved on to other stuff, she read it and she was like, this has to be a show.
And this is even the name of the show. And I couldn't imagine that that's how a show would get done.
Because I thought you do like a really strong stand-up set on Fallon yeah you know uh a la Roseanne Barr or Ellen you know and and that's how you get your show or you just keep pitching and writing or you go to a festival but it's like no pouring your heart and soul out in a bunch of essays about anything you started your career in journalism and after 9-11 decided to pursue comedy. Explain to me what you're doing in this particular show.
This is you, this character, but it happens to be a stylist. What's the sort of main themes from your perspective? I thought being a stylist was such a great parallel to stand-up comedy.
You know, having parents from the Caribbean, they work so hard to give you everything and a good education. And when I told my parents I was doing stand-up, they're like, but you still have a job, right? They couldn't wrap their mind around it.
And I could see Mavis' parents being like, people can dress themselves. What are you doing? And so there was that.
And being a stylist is also one of these great artistic jobs in New York where you could make no money or make all the money.

You could be in a back alley styling someone or in a penthouse in two days. It's also one of those jobs, much like comedy too, where you have to fight.
You have to hustle. You have to listen to your inner voice.
Intuition's everything. You have to put yourself out there.
and then also I thought being a stylist

was a great way

to showcase

the indiscrepancies

in um You know, intuition's everything. You have to put yourself out there.
And then also, I thought being a stylist was a great way to showcase the indiscrepancies in fashion. And, you know, really being a stylist is serving the stories where every body deserves to feel loved on and that we don't have to live up to some unrealistic patriarchal standard of beauty.
Like even though we don't see ourselves in those magazines, we can see ourselves within each other. And so I thought fashion was a great way to do that too.
And then honestly, being a stylist, I was like, she's got to wear really cute clothes, guys. We need a budget for the clothes.
Yeah, that's funny. But what were you going to do in journalism? What was your thought of why you wanted to do that? Oh, my goodness.
I really wanted to be an entertainment reporter. I wanted to be Mary Hart, John Tesh.
I wanted to wear a statement lip and have some shoulder pads and give you the news for a half hour after dinner. And that's what I really wanted to do.
Because my mom I like loved reading the Inquirer and like just having tea time and and I went to school in Miami for TV production and I remember we were going around the class and my professor was like what do you guys want to do with this degree and I said entertainment journalism and entertainment reporter and he said You're just simply too fat to be on camera. And I was so young.
I was like 18 or 19. And I was taught to respect my elders and not question people.
And so while I was kind of embarrassed, I was also like, he's right. I don't see myself anywhere on TV.
So I guess that's true and sort of accepted it and went into production.

So I'm like, well, at least I still get to be a part of the process.

Right, right.

But even editing people and field producing, I was so tired of telling basic people how to have fun.

I'm like, where's your joy, bitch?

Find it.

Why are you here?

Right.

But speaking about your childhood, in your book, you write about watching TV as a kid and not seeing anyone, as you said, with your body shape. It happened way before that.
You made the show, I think, you were missing back then in a lot of ways, despite the title, Survival of the Thickest. It's more than about survival.
I mean, it's obviously a pun on Survival of the Fittest. But it's about the joy of being the thickest and using thickest as a positive term, right? For people who haven't seen it.
Can you describe a scene where you feel like you really nailed that joy or is it a more general vibe what you do and don't say? I think it's more of a general vibe. There's at no point where my character doesn't think she's sexy or worthy of love, know and I feel like let's lead by example you know it's funny because in the pilot when my character gets cheated on she tells her best friend Khalil like how dare he leave me for like a skinny version of me and a lot of people were like uh-oh here we go another big girl sorry for herself.
It's like, no, she's sorry that this happened.

And she's just stating what happened.

But at no point does she think that her size is not beautiful.

And that is the main takeaway.

Right, right.

I think that was interesting because you do exude that.

Like, I look great.

I look sexy.

Even the first scene with your boyfriend in the back when you're looking at clothes is like that which I was noticing I was like huh that's you don't see that it's usually the center of the topic I'm so tired of that I am too but all the body positivity has been a thing for a while but um in the past year or so obviously and part of my next book is about some of these drugs around weight loss around psychedelics a whole bunch of stuff about future tech. But no spoilers, but I did catch a hint of diss in season two when your characters say, look out Oprah Gale on the side of Ozempic.
Did you ever want to use these things in the plot? Because it's called Survival of the Thickest, and there are body issues in it, although it's not the center of the plot, which I really appreciated. Because, again, it could have gone have gone that way yeah i think enough people are talking about ozempic it was more just like it was more just like a joke because it's so in the zeitgeist you know what i mean but um there's a lot of like those little throwaways that like mean something you know um like deep in the season i think it's like episode seven or eight mavis gets into it with a fashion designer um who has decided to just um design skinny bodies and i remember one of my improv lines that i fought to keep in there was like leave dressing skinny white women to kanye that's his thing and everyone's like oh we don't know about that i'm like i do I do.
Yeah, I do. Leave it in there.
You know, it says what it needs to say. We can move on.
Perfect timing. Perfect timing now.
I mean, he just continues to step in it. You know.
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I feel like I'm Pacino in three. Just when I thought I was out, they pull me back in.
Why are we talking about the 2024 election again? The reason why we're still looking back is that it takes a while after an election to get all of the most high quality data on what exactly happened. So the full picture is starting to just come into view now.
And you wrote a piece about the full picture for Vox recently, and it did bonkers business on the internet. What did it say? What struck a chord? Yeah, so this was my interview with David Shore of Blue Rose Research.
He's one of the biggest sort of democratic data gurus in the party. And basically, the big picture headline takeaways are, on today explained, you'll have to go listen to them there.
Find the show wherever you listen to shows, bro. The show is about flipping conversations about bodies, all shapes and sizes.
You and Alana Glazer kind of did this last year with Babes, which I love, the movie. Oh, thank you for watching.
No, I know. I talked to Alana about it, but it's essentially about motherhood.
But you push back against reviews that called it raunchy. It was a lot of discussion about body sex and bodily fluids and stuff like that.
A lot of shows are starting to enter that with women very explicitly talking about it. And I guess in some weird way, Sex and the City did it, but they did it in a clean white lady way, I guess.
I don't know what else to say. Yeah, fancy way.
Fancy way. Talk a little bit about that idea.
I didn't think it was raunchy, but I could see why people did at the same time. I I could, you know, I try hard to be like, huh, why do they think that? Yeah, Alana and I were talking about this too.
It's so crazy because we were just like, how is this raunchy when it's just the female truth? But we realize that females aren't allowed to say things. Don't complain.
Don't talk about your body. Be sexy, not too sexy.
Be smart, but not too smart. You know, have an opinion, but don't keep talking.
And so it's just like, we're constantly figuring out how to take our space up, whether it's in a room or like on a subway. And I'm really kind of tired of it.
Like, I'm not really kind of tired. I'm actually exhausted.
Like, I have been tap dancing for the patriarchy way too long, you know? And we keep talking about a boys club and this, that, and the third. I'm just like, what about the gays and the daze? You know, getting back to the whole, like, Mavis is not going to apologize for being big and being loved on.
I have so much in common when I talk to gay men and they talk about, like, being in high school and the guys that, like, always really loved them, but we were always a secret. And it's just like, we're not a secret anymore.

To say we're a secret is to say something's wrong with us.

And I think also for women, especially since like our bodies are under attack.

Like we are literally fighting to make decisions about our own holes.

Insane.

I can't.

Oh my God, Mitch McConnell and his three chins.

Let's just move on. I don't want to body shame his face but look go ahead um but look um yeah and it's just like if I don't even feel comfortable having this conversation with my doctor what that's crazy and I am bending over backwards killing myself to have health insurance which is like a luxury in America and I when I i even show up i have to make my male doctor feel comfortable which is right what i love about those scenes that alana and josh wrote in babes it's like even though we are in our most vulnerable positions legs up scoot down why am i sitting down why is there even a chair you know what i mean right i still have to make you oh i've been and your hair transplant come to it's like so insane and so feel better you know I do feel like arts film tv music yeah and you know you can you can move the needle it is culture you can have a conversation you know it actually reminds me it's interesting you talk about that when I was pregnant I have a female gynecologist and I had she was away and so someone had to check me at the very last parts of my pregnancy and it was a guy.

It was a guy.

It was a male doctor.

Some male doctors are great.

I wouldn't impugn all male doctors.

But he did the checkup

and he was rough, right?

He was rough

and he made me bleed

right at the end of my pregnancy, right?

When he was doing it.

And I said,

what in the actual fuck?

Like in the room.

And he didn't say sorry.

And of course you're demented at the end of your pregnancy because you think everything's going to go wrong, right? I know. So I said, you and your fucking manhands.
And I go, he goes, what? And I said, your manhands made me bleed. Do not have your manhands made me bleed.
Never do that to a woman who's pregnant. And he was like shocked.
And I was like, manhands? He goes, I don't have manhands. I go, manhance.
And this was like, it felt like a Larry David episode or something. But Babes is actually a story about friendship.
There is a lot of raunchy. There's not raunchy.
That's not the right word. It's just explicit, I guess.
And you talk about things women actually talk about. But you have a longstanding friendship with Alana.
In your real life, you spent 20 years working in comedy before landing. You're an overnight sensation after 20 years.
Before landing your first special, you were on the road with a lot of big-name comedians. Amy Schumer, Hannibal Barres, Camille Nanjani, who's a lovely guy, name a few.
How do these relationships affect you, and did their work influence you? You write about a fellow comic stealing your stuff, which I think is common. It might have been Camille, actually.
I don't know who it was.

No.

I'm teasing you.

Yeah.

Wait, can I just get back to man hands for two seconds?

Sure.

Sure.

Because I, you know, I wasn't able to carry, so we had a surrogate. And so I felt so outside of my body.

Because surrogacy was illegal in New York.

So we went to the closest state, which was Pennsylvania.

These surrogates are like walking angels on earth.

Thank you. body like because surrogacy was illegal illegal in new york so we went to the closest state which was pennsylvania these surrogates are like walking angels on earth they are and i remember she had to go to another doctor at the end and she started to bleed because he was rough and she was carrying my twins and like super tender and so i remember this took me back because i remember her crying on the phone and i I was just, it felt like someone just lit me up.
I wanted to run to Pennsylvania at that point. Get him.
It was like a Costco size serving of road rage. Yeah.
Just to, you know what I mean? And I feel like no matter what life and the universe is always telling me to share your space, share your heart and defend people when they need it the most. And, you know, if anything, being the only child and going to so many schools has taught me to collaborate well, listen to people, be a team player.
It isn't all about me. We can work better together.
We're stronger together. Recognize when someone doesn't have your back and move on.
Don't try to convince a bad person that you're a good person. Because I used to be like, no, no, no, we can do this.
No, no, no, we can do this. I'm just like, why am I so upset? And so saying the man hands of it all, I was like, I mean, I really found my inner Karen.
Yeah. You know? And then I stomped with Andy Cohen in New York to overturn gestational surrogacy.
I didn't believe it. When you just said it was illegal, I was like, what? Like, what are you talking about? And even the reasons that, because we talked to a bunch of officials, and even the reasons that they were talking about, like, but is it sex work? And it's just like, sex isn't even involved.
Like, why are you sexualizing everything? How come, like, alternative family planning is not a priority on your list? Everyone deserves love. And this is like also the themes in my show.
Everyone deserves love. It doesn't matter what they look like or how they identify.
You know, it's called humanity, bitch. Look at the fuck up.
Like, what are we talking about? And so like, it was so crazy and beautiful and like, just, just heart wrenching meeting cancer survivors who were able to, like, save their eggs because they want to, you know, they knew that they wanted to start a family. And they knew that they were going to survive cancer.
How are you to say to them, no, like, what are you even? So all this to say, man hands? Not into it. In fact, I mean.
It should be the name of your next book if you want. But tell me about your colleagues when you when you're on the road with colleagues.
Oh, my goodness. You know, that saying you are the company you keep.
I do think it's the same in comedy. What I love is about comedy is like it's such a motley crew.
It's such a ragtag of like fuckery. And you're really forced to be in a space with someone that you ordinarily would never hang out with.
And the common theme is how do we make shit funny? We've all been through a lot. Everyone's been through a lot, but we recognize it and we talk about it, you know, and we just see the world a different way.
And so I actually miss, I miss going to comedy clubs and hanging out with people, but I don't miss late nights because I want to be in my bed at 930. Can I answer your question? I don't even know.
Yes, it's fine. But listen, that actually works perfectly into this question.
Every week we get a question from an outside expert. We have a special one for you.
Hi there. Alana Glazer here with a question for Michelle Buteau.
Michelle, I am privileged to be close to you and to be friends with you for many, many, many years. And I've watched you always bring so much energy and life and juice and sauce to every room you walk into.
Things have been very full for you from putting out your stand-up special as the first woman to film a stand-up special in Radio City Music Hall, putting out the second season of Survival of the Thickest, which you worked so hard to do from the inside out, and you just finished filming a movie overseas. What is a moment you remember from being a kid or a teenager that connects to this moment of fullness for you? Sending you love.
Love you. You're both my heroes.
What in the This Is Your Life is going on? I know. This is it.
So answer that. That's a great question.
Yeah. This is so ridiculous, but maybe I was seven or eight, and I lived on a cul-de-sac in Jersey.
And instead of just drawing, I made like a little magazine. So I found the stapler, and I was like, oh, I could put it together.
And then I decided to make a bunch of magazines, and I called it Head Over Heels. And I had like a severed head and a shoe and I was very literal and then like I would kind of write stories about all the happenings on the cul-de-sac like so-and-so's dog pooped so-and-so's like doing their pullover and I would put it in everybody's mailbox and at one point the neighbors asked my parents for me to stop putting stuff in their mailbox.
But I just remember thinking, this is so fun. I didn't understand what community organizing was then, but I was like, I'm going to bring everyone together.
And this is going to be really fun. And I get to be artistic.
And then also I was rejected and I was like, okay, got it.

You don't want to hear from me?

That's weird.

That's such like a moment for like what this career is.

Right.

I'm going to keep putting stuff in your mailbox.

Like you put your heart and soul out there and someone's like, I don't know.

Not for me.

It's like you can't even appreciate the thing I made. It's very mother-in-law at Thanksgiving.
It's like, but taste it, you know? Wow. Yeah, wow.
How dare you? Did you continue? Did you keep going? No, I moved on. And this is also telling.
I was like— Head over heels was head one issue? You know, I think around college, I came up with this like mantra for myself and it was dating, but it actually applies to the industry. If you don't want to hear from me, you're going to hear about me.
And so I moved on and I started the Pound Puppy Cabbage Patch Kid Club. And I invited four or five girls.
Oh, that's a position of power. To come over.
And it's interesting because community is, it's about community, I think is what you're talking about. It's a major theme in Survival of the Thickest as well.
In season two, you lean into your characters' connections with the transgender community. It's not overtly political, but it is.
Talk a little about the community because this came up in your Netflix specials, a stand-up special at Radio City Music Hall, Beautiful Mind.

You tell a joke about beautiful black lesbian friend.

Everybody laughs.

And then you go meta and reflect on making that joke.

I want to play the clip first, and then I want you to reflect on it.

We could tell jokes and stories and not disparage a whole community.

We can do that.

We can make it funny.

We just have to work at it, right?

So if you guys ever run into Dave Chappelle,

can you let him know that shit?

I don't think he know that shit.

I don't think we'll ever run into Dave, though,

because he is the GOAT.

And he is the GOAT,

if that means going off about trans people.

Dave, it's not funny.

It's dangerous. Make it funny.
That's all. I can't believe somebody would make millions and millions of dollars for making people feel unsafe.
That is so wild to me. Like, truly.
I'm manifesting this shit tonight. This is a Radio City Music Hall takeover, and I'm going to tell everybody, I want to make millions and millions of dollars for making people feel safe, seen, secure, heard, and entertained.
You know, you're making a really salient point here. I went off on Netflix on Chappelle only because I was like, it's not funny.

Like, it's also an hour of not funny.

He had a bit about lesbians who also wasn't funny.

But I was like, I'm up for lesbian jokes.

If they're good, they're good.

I'm willing to listen to them. I'm not overly sensitive.

Talk about that idea of what you're doing there and you're doing it on the show again.

And actually, you're not just calling out Chappelle. You're making the point about what's funny and what makes money.
Talk a little bit about what you were doing here. I feel like once you're given the opportunity to speak your mind on a platform, then be responsible and do that.
And so I can show up and be funny and write jokes and not offend. But it's not about that.
It's about making people think. Have some thought-provoking anything.
And I really had to say something because it is dangerous. And people are being rewarded for that.
And I'm just like, and the internet really tried to hand my ass back to me, you know. And it's like, and the same parallel with this administration.
It's just like, why do you get to say the most egregious shit, but I can't put my hand up and say, I do not agree. Right.
That's dangerous too. Why would you punch down on a marginalized community? Constantly.
That's not fun. That's not even how comedy really works.
And so a lot of these comedians who are just like, you can't say anything anymore. You can just make it funny.
Put the work in. You can do it.
You've done it before. By the way, y'all were woke 20, 25 years ago.
Don't forget that. I think it's really egregious to say these horrible things, not just a lot of it.
It's okay to say these really egregious things about people who cannot defend themselves, people who are trying to live their life, stand in their truth, and you have the government saying you don't exist and you shouldn't exist. That's insane.
This is where it leads. And culture makes a difference.
Look at Kendrick Lamar's halftime show. Okay.
You can do that. I'm not saying everybody's got to, you know, stand on business and be political all the time.
But, like, if you're going to say something, at least make it funny. Or entertaining.
You know, because these people are, like, really rich. And they get to say whatever they want to say.
Then they go on their private jets. And they talk to who they're going to talk to.
And they have yes people around them. And everybody works for them.
And they go home and they're safe. No, we have to be out in the world.
We have to walk down that street and get ourselves home. We have to be on the subway, you know, and people are like looking up to these people and listening to them, whether they're a politician or musician or comedian.
And so I... And you went the other way in survival where you really integrated in the trans – you integrated them into the show, which is interesting.
When you just – But it's not – to me, it's not integration. It's just your life.
It's life. Yeah.
It's life. You know, I told Netflix from Jump, I want to show my version of New York City.
And this is my – you know, like, I grew up in New York City in my 20s, my 30s. And it's just like, I love sex in the city.
I love friends. I love Seinfeld.
But I'm just like, y'all don't have one Puerto Rican friend? Y'all live in New York City? That's crazy. Not one black friend, not one gay friend.
What is going on? So like, yeah, I'm like, we're not going to a diner. We're going to the drag bar.
Right, right. That's where we met up.
did you worry at all in both those instances about calling out someone as powerful as Dave Chappelle given the political environment you said the internet handed it back to you yeah I'm still trying to figure out my relationship with social media ignore it you know um it's the loudest people in the room it's not reality yeah and um because there's like so many sick people in my family, I know that we're not promised tomorrow. And so I'm just like, I am who I am.
I'm going to stand on business. It's going to be hard.
It hurts my feelings. I move on.
It doesn't determine my worth or happiness. And I'm doing it for those people that need it you know because I like that one voice like matters you know what I mean like if I can make someone feel better seen then that's all that matters and you know the dms that people send me or the stories that they tell to my bloated, freckled face at 4 a.m.
in the airport, I do appreciate. Yeah, me too.
There's another moment in a special where you tell a story about being high and your husband dragging you to a reptile exhibit where you have a special encounter with a bearded dragon and a MAGA lady. You really don't—you go right in there.
Let's listen to this. The tour guide was, like, so happy.
He's like, she never does this. She trusts you.
listen to this the tour guide was like so happy he's like she

never does this she trusts you she loves you and i was like she sure do but honestly right now it's giving they them okay just being on the real real and then i heard a voice in the pack of camouflage saying oh oh, you one of them woke ones? And so, you know, I'm a little high. And I go, what'd you say? I couldn't hear you through your four good teeth.
Don't come for me unless I send for you, bitch. See be nice girl i want to be nice but yeah you know people don't think that i can be mean because it is giving jolly you know back fat freckles you know what i mean but like it was still a good don't do it talk about what happened next because your husband takes a step back and you get serious talk about what happened next.
Yeah, it wild like you know it's so wild when you feel like you're an adult and you know you know how to protect your peace you're not gonna like you know um participate in road rage but some people just push your button sometimes they get the right moment the perfect storm with no george clooney right and i got like the jersey mall parking lot in the back back of my throat. And I'm just like, are we doing this? Am I a DMX song? Are you really coming for me? But it was bigger picture because I knew exactly.
It's just like woke. Okay.
It really felt like I was on a Megyn Kelly podcast. I was like, let me just tell you something.
And like, I can't even like, you know, I can't even imagine what it would be like as a non-binary trans person trying to defend yourself to somebody. Like, that is so insane.
Because I'm lit up. I'm lit up.
And as a straight woman, I'm lit up. And I'm like, what is happening? And so, look, do I think it made a difference in her life? I don't know.
But I know I feel better about it. And I wrote a joke about it.
But yeah, sometimes you just got to say the thing and know when to walk away. Yeah, I didn't mind it at all.
And what I do too is wear the outfit the next day. Because I need like a better memory in the outfit.
And so I do that. Because it's like, how dare you make me waste this shirt? Yeah, I just had a debate with Scott on Scott Geller in my podcast about whether you can say things to cyber truck owners.
I'm like, yes, you can. They bought it.
They made a choice. And he's like, you should be civil.
I said, only white guys can talk about civility. Gay people, people of color, have been beat upon for years.
And maybe they go too far. Maybe they push too hard.
But it's because after years of people saying shit to your face constantly. And I was like, and sometimes you just, you've had it, you've had it, and you may be censorious, but they actually do the thing.
You may be irritating, the left may be irritating, but the right actually does something about it, like banning books or taking words out. I said, the people taking words out are actually the Trump administration out of government.
I was like, left-wing people are irritating at the worst, and they actually make things happen. So I was like, I think I'd feel good pushing back.
You know, the opposite of DEI is its diversity, equity, inclusion is homogeneity, inequality, and exclusion. So I was like, I'm for DEI then.
Yeah. When I see that, I'm just like, okay, I get to have a show.
It's going to be the biggest, the blackest, the queerest, the baddest, the sexiest shit you have ever seen. Because everything is feeling like a takeover.
Which Chappelle did originally, didn't he? He really did originally with his show, did that, that very thing. The interaction feels very real, and obviously the situation

has gotten a lot worse for trans people recently. I interviewed Laverne Cox earlier this year, right before her prime show Clean Slate came out.
She was talking about how to push back against fascism, the politics of cruelty we're seeing right now. Let's listen to what she said.
For me, it's about humanizing people. It's about a re-humanizing process.
If we start to look at this, at all of our politics and the lens of dehumanization versus re-humanization, how do we humanize individuals and people and change the language from culture war to human rights and civil rights? Then we can start to frame these issues on our terms and on the terms around truth. So that's a resonate.
You like to say that is someone's child. Why do you think it's hard for most people to think, start from that perspective? I think it's because so many, I don't want to generalize, but a lot of white Americans, just like saying Americans, because I know some Europeans too, but let's just say that never have to think outside of themselves.
They never have to think outside of their five block radius. and they will always be protected in social situations

without anyone even knowing the moment before. They are protected.
Whether it's in a kindergarten class, whether it's on a football field, whether it's late at night, whatever it is, they are always protected. Excuse me.
So sorry, I'm allergic to racism. Yeah, I have allergies.
It's called Fox fox and friends um yeah yeah but yeah it's it's sort of like it's this thing where you've never had to think about anybody else and so for someone like me a little light-skinned thick caribbean gal in central jersey going to an all-white school i've had to think about me i've had to think about my family that is darker than me. I've had to think about my Chinese and Indian family,

and I've had to think about me. I've had to think about my family that is darker than me.
I've had to think about my Chinese and Indian family. And I've had to figure out how to move in a white space since I was in first grade and sort of explain why my hair does this.
I have vocabulary about hair density at seven and eight. It was so important to me in season one, episode five to put in the show the first time I was called the n-word because that is a story that so many people can relate to yeah and everyone's got that story and you definitely lose your innocence you know a lot of white kids lose their innocence when they find out Santa's not real.
But what about the little Afro-Latina and black and brown kids that lose their innocence when they've been called a nigger on the playground when they're five or six? And so it's not a shared experience, but we can, and I like to over-communicate, we can talk about it. And, you know, and if you're open so we can understand each other.

One of the things, someone asked me why

social media, for example, is so,

it's such a difficult place for a lot of people

and why there's so much ugliness in it.

And I said, because the people who designed it

never felt unsafe a day in their lives

because they don't understand lack of safety

because they don't experience it.

We'll be back in a minute. You've talked about how Netflix was supporting shows that have their own voice.
Of course, they do also difficult voices like Chappelle, which I do appreciate in a lot of ways. So do you think the current climate will change? What kind of shows get greenlit? You know, I was just, I was at this event last night and some of the people from SF Pride came up to me and they said, you know, all the corporate sponsors are pulling out right now because of the Trump administration.
Are you seeing that at all? And after Trump was first elect, a lot of people in Hollywood did speak out, but we haven't seen as much this time around.

There's a lot of jokes.

I know.

But I do think there's a definite pullback. And I was just reflecting, like, on this Atlantic story where they're really pushing the Trump administration on this signal thing.

Lorraine Powell Jobs is the only billionaire owner who is just not backing down, right?

And, of course, it's a woman.

But it's like, do you see that happening? Are you afraid of it having an impact on your career? I can't say that I see a difference because it's always been hard. It's just always been hard trying to get shit greenlit, period.
But I really hope not. I really hope Netflix is like, no, international we are behind you know every voice you know for better or for worse whatever that means and so I really hope not and this is the beauty of stand-up because it's like no matter what like I always have the power to do what I want to do and say what I want to say now you know depending on like what will have me, but I'm just like, I don't even want to speak it into existence because I'm scared.
I'm really scared. Does that make for you to edit yourself? Absolutely not.
I'm not working from a place of fear. Fuck that.
No, no, no. I've worked too hard on myself and in my, no.
and it's too important, no. No.
Edit yourself, no. I've worked too hard on myself and in my career.
No. And it's too important.
No. No.
Edit yourself. No.
No. So many people edit themselves and they do what they think they should be doing.
And then they beat themselves up when it doesn't go through. You know, when it doesn't get a second season or get greenlit.
And it's just like, no, I need to sleep at night. And if I'm not doing what I know I need to do, what my intuition tells me I need to do, then I'm not going to sleep.
So no, working from a place of fear is, if you're an artist, get over that shit real quick. So I want to finish up talking about your business.
You've been building your career and brand for 20 years. You're an actress, producer, writer, stand-up comic, podcast host, TV host.
You're on Barbecue Showdown, which I didn't know. It's a true multi-hyphenate, and thank God you did that last one.
At this part, how do you decide what to take now? Because I get that. I do a lot of things myself.
But what are you interested in? What's your criteria right now when you're picking? Because now you have choices, right? You know, you have choices. Yeah.
It's also like, how long am I going to be away from my family? Because I don't like that. So I'm like...
Then you need to be in bed at 930. But also like, how can I make the most money in the shortest amount of time and feel inspired? I love connection.
And so what I loved about Barbecue Showdown, it's like, you see barbecue, but once you get in there with the pits, it's like people are reclaiming their ancestors' stories through a recipe. This guy that won Thyrin in season two, I've never met a black man from Appalachia.
And the first time he had barbecue, his mom was so poor, she found a discarded refrigerator and learned how to smoke meat in it. What? And even this Chick Michelle that was in season two, she started barbecuing because her father passed away.
And it was her and her sisters. And every Sunday he would barbecue, and they missed him, and they missed the Sunday barbecue.
So she taught herself how to barbecue. And it's just all these stories.
So anyways, all this to say, connection. If I can be sassy and friendly and a little shady, then that's, like, my sweet spot.
You are now executive producer of your stand-ups and TV show. How much creative control do you, as you were saying, you'll do what you want to do.
Yeah. How much do you get involved with everything else? Where do you, what don't you want to do and what do you want to do? I think about this all the time, what I want and don't want to do.
And I think the most powerful moment in my career came when I walk away from stuff where I say, I don't want to do that. And I started being more successful when I got selfish.
I use the word selfish in a different way, where I'm not going to do that. How do you think about your career? That's so funny.
Especially as a woman and a woman of color, you know, because you don't have as many choices. Neither do I.
It's sort of a continuum of choices that people get in life. That's so interesting.
So there's nothing that I don't want to do when it comes to my shit. So being selfish for me is putting my foot in it and doing all of it.
I want to be a part of all those conversations. I want to be a part of all those meetings.
I want to see how people are talking about, you know, black, brown, and queer background, hair and makeup department. I want to be a part of all of it.
And I think, especially running two seasons of my own show, which is, like like so amazing, right? I love being in the rooms because like working with people, they always say, but they want, they want. It's just like, okay, we are the they.
So start saying we. What do we want? What do we want to do? And so, you know, the thing I won't do for sure is try to make other people happy.
Especially when people are saying, we want you to be happy. I'm like, do you? Then this would make me happy.
If I can't do that, how do we like, you know, come to some sort of like happy medium? And if people are just like, oh, I don't get it or that's not funny,. It's like, oh my God.
Okay. Then it's my job to figure out, you know, how to make it funny and for you to get.
So I don't mind taking notes and going back to the drawing board because, you know, it's not personal. It's like, you know, it's a living organism is always going to like change and grow and all that stuff.
But like, for me, I want to be in it. I want to know, I want to know who you are and what you think, and I want to be a part of the process.
So being selfish for me is like getting up in it. Because people are so different when you're not in the room.
And I'm like, what do y'all really think? Yeah, absolutely. Wouldn't it be great to be able to read people's minds just for, you know, an hour?

And not long, because then you'd go crazy.

But so my last question, you talk about manifesting the reality you want right now.

That's what you're talking about.

Is there a new role, new title you'd like to add?

What interests you right now?

It feels like you'd be a great late-night host. So that's not really the journey for people anymore, because those ratings are going down, for example.

Yeah. So what are you finding interesting right now? Oh, my goodness.
I just sort of had this conversation with one of my really good friends last night. A title like late night or talk show host, like daytime talk show host or movie star, I feel like that shit's limiting.
and by saying movie star then i'm like giving my power over to like like a few hundred people that make movies and it's just like fuck that you know i can make a movie too so i just feel like for me the thing i want to do is be working is to be an artist to to executive produce my own shit, to give people a voice to tell their stories, to uplift people, to change their resume, to make sure that people who have not had access to things have them, get them in the room, give them confidence to believe that they can do it. And while I'm also, hello, making money too.
Let's go, you know, to really create some generational wealth so we can have some generational health, period. So there isn't one title because the title is Michelle Buteau.
Hello. I like that.
Yeah. The title is Michelle Buteau.
That's the name of the episode. I'm going to leave it at that.
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