How Stockholm Stuck

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Speaker 6 All right.

Speaker 6 Yes. And we are going to kick it off with a story that I heard from a guy named David King.
Okay. Yes.
Yeah. My name is David King, and I'm a writer.

Speaker 6 And tell me, David, how did you get obsessed with this story? Like, where did you first hear about it? Well,

Speaker 6 I had the chance to live in Sweden in the 90s, and I used to walk past the square where the robbery took place every day on the way to the library, to the Royal Library for another project.

Speaker 6 And I always heard of it. It was a big deal in Sweden.

Speaker 6 But I had no idea how good the story was.

Speaker 6 I mean, it just had everything.

Speaker 6 So this story, it starts off with a robbery, one that maybe you've even heard of before,

Speaker 6 but it becomes so much more than that.

Speaker 6 Because it would end up giving birth to an idea that lives in my head, in your head, in all of our heads, that has become kind of hard

Speaker 6 to shake loose.

Speaker 6 Oh, yeah.

Speaker 6 Okay.

Speaker 6 But maybe I should just tell you the basic story first. Okay, yeah.
Okay, let's do that. Let's do that.

Speaker 6 So, August of 1973. Thursday, August 23rd, 1973.
In Stockholm, Sweden. Downtown Stockholm.
In this sort of big square in the downtown. It's called Normam Story.

Speaker 6 It's got restaurants and shops and a big fancy bank.

Speaker 5 Svarya's credit bank.

Speaker 6 Svarya means Sweden.

Speaker 6 And on Thursday morning, the bank had just opened. A tall, muscular man enters the bank.
He has a ladies' wig on. Gray zippered sweatshirt.
He has some makeup on. This kind of bronzing powder.

Speaker 6 A pair of tinted sunglasses.

Speaker 6 And all of a sudden, he rips out a submachine gun, fires in the air, says the party starts.

Speaker 6 Down on the floor.

Speaker 6 But instead of just grabbing the money in the bank and running out the door, this guy, his name is Jana Eric Olsson, he starts taking hostages. They're all young.
Ends up with three women and one man.

Speaker 6 They were all bank employees, and he wants to use them as leverage for bargaining. And this is not something that really ever happened in Sweden at the time.
So

Speaker 6 the police... They arrive on the scene fast.
Oh, the police car is kind of pulled up. Right outside the building, the square.
Start stationing snipers on buildings near the bank. On rooftops.

Speaker 6 And right away, alerts are going out on the newswire.

Speaker 6 The press is there really fast. All the major newspapers and TV and radio stations.

Speaker 6 So, Jana is in the lobby with the hostages and he starts yelling his demands to the police. He wants

Speaker 6 3 million Swedish crowns, which is a lot of money. Like today, it would be like 5 million US dollars.
But the really crazy thing is that then he demands that the police bring him

Speaker 6 Clark Olafsson.

Speaker 6 Sweden's most notorious gangster. What?

Speaker 6 So Clark Olafsson. 26 years old.
He's very handsome, very charismatic. He was famous for robbing banks and breaking out of prison, but he was also very charming and sort of a media darling.

Speaker 6 He had become something of a folk hero to Sweden at the time. And I mean, in fact, I saw this one list of the 10 most influential people in Sweden.
Clark was one of them. Oh, wow.
Yeah.

Speaker 6 So, anyway, Jana. He wants Clark released from prison and brought to the bank.
And incredibly, the cops. They actually release Clark.
They actually do it. They actually bring him in.
So

Speaker 6 some hours later, Clark is walking into the bank. And at this point, the media coverage just completely blows up.

Speaker 6 It just becomes a huge

Speaker 6 national news story.

Speaker 6 All the stations

Speaker 6 broadcasting live.

Speaker 6 24-hour coverage, live updates are on the clock. At one point, you had about 70% of the entire country watching this.
Oh, wow. 70%.

Speaker 6 JFK assassination, the moon landing. I mean, this was up there in Sweden.
So pretty much the entire country is following all the news of Yana's demands, all the moves the police are making.

Speaker 6 But pretty quickly, everyone's attention turns to the hostages.

Speaker 6 The police start to see the hostages doing unexpected things. By this time, Yana and the hostages are sort of back in the bank vault, and the police have made their way into the lobby of the bank.

Speaker 6 And at a certain point, Yana lets the hostages go to the bathroom. And the hostage goes to the bathroom.
One by one, unaccompanied.

Speaker 6 They go down some stairs and around the corner, out of sight of Yana and Clark.

Speaker 6 And then they

Speaker 6 and go back to the vault.

Speaker 6 On the way back, walking right past a bunch of police officers.

Speaker 6 They could have run out. They could have left.
But instead, they go back to the gunman.

Speaker 6 Like, what? Why in the world? What's happening? What's going on here? And anytime they come out of the vault to talk to the police, their body language is kind of weird. That's right.

Speaker 6 And Clark comes out with the hostages. He has his arm around them.
And when the police chief thinks that they're frowning at him, there's a sense of hostility.

Speaker 6 But the stories about these hostages really start to blow up when Clark manages to find a phone and brings it back into the vault. Clark is calling his friends in the media,

Speaker 6 giving interviews during the crises,

Speaker 6 which are being broadcast on radio. And at some point, the TV program Actuelt manages to get one of the hostages, this young woman named Elizabeth, on the line.

Speaker 6 So they ask her, you know, how are you doing? How are you holding up? And she says, you know, so we're in good shape. We've been looked after.
I've been real gentlemen toward us.

Speaker 6 And when the reporter is like, so the four of you are just sitting there hanging out, Elizabeth corrects them and says, no, we're not four.

Speaker 6 We're six.

Speaker 6 Then Radio Sweden gets an interview with another one of the hostages, Christine Enmark.

Speaker 10 Christine and Mark.

Speaker 6 Christine comes on the line.

Speaker 6 We interview her. We were not sure what she was going to say.
This is Bro Jansen. He was an editor at Radio Sweden at the time.

Speaker 6 And he told me that Christine basically says, She's more afraid of the police than she is of the robber or Clark Ulosson. The police are the real danger here.
That was extremely unexpected.

Speaker 6 Like they're bad-mouthing the police? Who trusts a robber armed more than she trusts the police?

Speaker 6 And to the people listening to the interview, it's just weird because she doesn't sound scared

Speaker 6 or distressed,

Speaker 6 not depressed or anything like that at all. She just sounded angry, actually.
And so now everyone at home is glued to the news

Speaker 6 trying to figure out what is going on with these women who seem to be siding with the gunmen.

Speaker 6 Again, if you weren't brought into this story yet, you have another reason to be glued to your television or your radio. And for six days, the hostage crisis carries on like this.

Speaker 6 There are reports that the hostages are helping Yana and Clark destroy security footage, that they are insisting to the police to let Yana and Clark go, and that they want to go with them.

Speaker 6 And at the end of this whole thing, when the police get them all out of the vault, you can see this on video.

Speaker 6 They're all saying goodbye to each other like they're old friends. Yes.
So they were hugging kisses.

Speaker 6 And at one point, the police are sort of forcing Clark down, and Christine says, Don't hurt him, don't hurt him. And she turns to Clark and says, We'll see each other again.
Wow.

Speaker 6 So, in the days that followed,

Speaker 6 what you had was all these articles and news reports trying to make sense of everything.

Speaker 6 And you get all these experts saying that what happened here is that these women, Elizabeth and Christine in particular, had formed an attachment to their captors, to Yana and Clark, potentially even a romantic attachment.

Speaker 6 Basically, that they had developed what we all now know

Speaker 6 as Stockholm syndrome.

Speaker 1 I got it. Wow.
So this is the origin of that. This is where Stockholm syndrome comes from.

Speaker 6 Yes.

Speaker 6 I went in

Speaker 6 with the idea, this is how it began. I thought that was going to be the story.

Speaker 6 But I had no idea how much we had wrong with it. According to David King, who ended up writing a whole book about this called Six Days in August, when he dug into the details of this case,

Speaker 6 the whole story sort of got flipped on its head.

Speaker 6 I mean, from the beginning, in a way, because again, in particular, David says, what you see is the police from the very beginning had no idea what they were doing.

Speaker 6 This was the first time that something like this had ever happened. This is Loch Erik.

Speaker 6 He was one of the first police officers on the scene, and he's being translated here by reporter Alice Edwards.

Speaker 6 He had no experience negotiating these kinds of things.

Speaker 6 So, pretty much right away, what they do is they bring in somebody to be their negotiator.

Speaker 6 The most famous psychiatrist of the time. This is a reporter who was covering the situation at the time.
My name is Osa Mubery, and I'm a writer and freelance journalist.

Speaker 6 And she told me that Niels Beirut,

Speaker 6 he was supposed to be the best negotiator with those people in the bank.

Speaker 6 So he was supposed to be talking to Yana and Clark and then advising the police on what to do.

Speaker 6 It doesn't always seem like it was very good advice.

Speaker 6 For example, when Yana asked for all that money, at first the police seemed to be trying to meet his demands. The police are scrambling to try to get this money.

Speaker 6 And Niels Beirut actually walks in with the money, but it turns out to be sort of obvious that they're traceable bills,

Speaker 6 which ends up making Jana, who already seems unstable, even more pissed off.

Speaker 6 And that at the same time, they're escalating the situation by coming down the staircase, coming in other entrances, trying to sneak into the bank lobby.

Speaker 6 And we're trying to see what's happening and trying to

Speaker 6 crawl into this scene

Speaker 6 so they can shoot him.

Speaker 6 Then Jana shoots at me.

Speaker 6 Seven bullets, like a silhouette around my head. So Jana's really freaking out, ends up pulling the hostages back deeper into the bank.

Speaker 6 And when Jana demands that they bring Clark into the bank, well, they agree because they're hoping Clark could be a help. I mean, the police were kind of desperate.

Speaker 6 But instead, they just handed Yana a charming, media-savvy accomplice who knew what he was doing. And from there, it's just like misstep after misstep.

Speaker 6 I mean, at one point, when Yana and Clark and the hostages are in the vault, the police police bring in beers, but then it's so obvious that the beers have been drugged that Yana catches it right away.

Speaker 6 He takes it and he just shakes it a little bit. There's a fizz.
He realized that these bottles have been opened.

Speaker 1 Oh, man.

Speaker 6 Which just made everything worse. Now, inside the bank, from the hostage's point of view, of course, at first they were terrified of Yana.

Speaker 12 I thought

Speaker 12 he was crazy. He was so nervous.
It was very frightening for me.

Speaker 6 So this is actually one of the hostages, Christine Enmark, in an interview that she did with podcast host Terence Mickey.

Speaker 6 And she told him that while she was scared at first, once Clark showed up, the situation became totally different.

Speaker 12 He said, you can't have the girls tied up like this. He was calming everything down.
And Jane became very calm. So I thought, wow, what's happening?

Speaker 6 So while the police are sneaking in and trying to shoot them or sending in drugged beers, it's starting to feel like Jana and Clark are on their side. You know, the hostages want to call home.

Speaker 6 They want to call their family. Clark goes out, he finds the phone, brings it back to the vault.
Hostages can call home. Yana and Clark make it happen.

Speaker 6 Now, at this point, Yana and Clark have demanded a car, and the police got them a car and agreed to let them drive away.

Speaker 6 And Yana and Clark are nervous, so Elizabeth and Christine volunteer to go with them as collateral. And the cops are saying, no, we can't do that.
We can't let you go.

Speaker 6 But, you know, for Elizabeth and Christine, they just want to get out of the bank.

Speaker 6 And this is where you get those phone calls where they're talking to the media, where you hear them saying these guys are being gentlemen and they're more scared of the police than they are of Jana and Clark.

Speaker 6 Okay, then maybe the craziest thing of all happens.

Speaker 6 Around this time, Clark has called in a favor from one of his journalist journalist friends and manages to get connected to the prime minister of Sweden, Olaf Palme.

Speaker 6 And so Christine gets on the phone with him. Christine is almost like begging.

Speaker 12 I said, I want to go with these guys.

Speaker 6 Let us go. We want to go.

Speaker 6 Olaf Palma, meanwhile, he's been woken up from a nap. He listens to everything Christine has to say and he's like,

Speaker 6 no. We can't do that.
he says

Speaker 6 you know we have law and order and christine is like well you can tell me about law and order some other time

Speaker 6 and then according to christine the prime minister says

Speaker 12 wouldn't it feel good for you to die on your post

Speaker 6 What?

Speaker 6 Yeah.

Speaker 1 Why would he say that? What a tone-deaf thing to say.

Speaker 6 Yeah. The authorities denied that that was said.

Speaker 6 It's not in the transcript, right?

Speaker 6 But part of the transcript is missing.

Speaker 6 Interesting. I think it happened.
And I think I know exactly where it happened. Because you can read the transcript, and all of a sudden, you can hear Elizabeth saying something.

Speaker 6 There are enough dead heroes out there, and it makes absolutely no sense. Yeah.

Speaker 6 Except this little spot, if you put it in, you know,

Speaker 6 if you insert that part where I think it is, then it makes sense. And Christine said it, Yana said it, you know, Clark, they all heard it.
Oh, wow. Okay.

Speaker 12 So I was 23.

Speaker 12 I had this very low status at the bank, of course.

Speaker 6 It's like one of those moments where just like all the blood drains out of you.

Speaker 1 Right. The person who's supposed to be most in your corner is like, like, doesn't care whether you live or die.

Speaker 12 When he said that, I thought, you don't understand nothing.

Speaker 6 Shortly after that, Niels Beirut and the police make a decision that would turn this whole situation into a total nightmare scenario. They sneak up to the door of the vault and I remember hearing the

Speaker 12 I know when the door was shut.

Speaker 6 They lock Christine and Elizabeth and the other hostages in there with Clark and Yana.

Speaker 1 So now they're trapped in a vault.

Speaker 6 Yeah.

Speaker 12 If you excuse me,

Speaker 12 that's when the shit really hit the fan.

Speaker 6 They've been calling him a monster. They call him a madman.
And now we're locking the hostages up with him. If you back somebody in a corner, they can become dangerous.
And Yana, he felt like a rat

Speaker 6 caught in a trap.

Speaker 1 What was their plan? They just hadn't thought it out. They just were like, let's contain them.
Let's trap them in the vault. Do they have a plan trapping them in the vault?

Speaker 6 Well, it turns out

Speaker 6 it kind of was a little bit deliberate. Niels Beirut realizes the more time these people spend together, the more likely we hope that they will start seeing each other as human beings.

Speaker 6 They will be less as objects, less as leverage points. It's as if his strategy, his actual intentional strategy, was some version of like mutual Stockholm syndrome.

Speaker 6 And he's literally trying to create that attachment. And in some ways,

Speaker 6 he does. The police had managed to bug the vault.
I had the access to the conversations that they had.

Speaker 6 They're talking about, you know, their hopes and their dreams and what's the meaning of life, a little philosophy, what books have you read? And talking like old friends.

Speaker 6 They start doing things to pass the time, like playing tic-tac-toe. They're even playing cards, playing poker.
And

Speaker 6 they got got a lot of money to play poker. They're in there now, and the vault is locked, so they don't have food.

Speaker 6 Jana had saved some pears, and he pulled it out and split it up, divided into six.

Speaker 6 And one of the hostages, or a couple of them, noticed that he kept the smallest piece for himself.

Speaker 6 Meanwhile, the police.

Speaker 12 The police started drilling.

Speaker 6 From above, we started to drill holes down into the concrete. This is Jan Olsson.

Speaker 6 My full name is

Speaker 6 the first time.

Speaker 6 Oh, the

Speaker 6 European Santa. It's a little embarrassing.
But he told me that

Speaker 6 the drilling was very loud.

Speaker 6 The entire building started to rumble.

Speaker 6 It must have been a horrible noise for the people inside the vaults.

Speaker 6 I remember that there was some kind of scent, like a smell of something grinding hard against stone.

Speaker 12 The light went out.

Speaker 6 The vault goes suddenly dark because the police have drilled through some electrical wiring. They're drilling and they're drilling.
Yan is like, don't drill. He has hostages underneath.

Speaker 6 you know, the falling concrete. Even strings up nooses and puts them around the hostages' necks as a threat.
But they keep drilling.

Speaker 12 Day and night, for I don't know how many hours, how many days.

Speaker 6 So, I mean, it was a nightmare, nightmare situation.

Speaker 6 And then comes

Speaker 6 gas through the holes. Tear gas.

Speaker 6 And then something I'll never forget.

Speaker 6 Voice the screams from below.

Speaker 6 These violent screams.

Speaker 6 You can hear on the tape the coughing, the choking.

Speaker 6 Devoured by the gas.

Speaker 6 help help

Speaker 6 and it takes over 30 minutes

Speaker 6 30 minutes yeah after that yana finally surrenders they all come out of the vault and when i look out i see these guys looking like rambo and the police are right there no shirt on because they don't want to get tear gas stuck on their clothes weird and and you know this is that moment where after going through all of that together the hostages are hugging and saying goodbye to Clark and Jana.

Speaker 6 And so they drag them all out to the front of the bank where they have ambulances lined up with stretchers laid out.

Speaker 6 The hostages were ordered to lie down

Speaker 6 on the stretcher.

Speaker 12 And I refused. I wanted to walk out because I was so angry over the whole situation.

Speaker 6 At the end of it all,

Speaker 6 the hostages all get taken to the hospital.

Speaker 12 I read my journals from the hospital and it was very emotional. It shows how scared I was when I came there, how I couldn't sleep, how I wanted someone to hold my hand.
I was screaming.

Speaker 6 And a doctor walks into the room. And the first question that Christine received was, are you in love with Clark?

Speaker 1 So weird.

Speaker 6 And Christine is just flabbergasted by this like what the psychiatrist couldn't believe that she was not or another thing they couldn't believe that Jan and Clark had not made some sort of pass at them and and this story of this attachment including the baseless rumors of romance it continues along these lines like long after the fact like when the case eventually gets to trial There's a rumor about the hostages refusing to testify against Jan and Clark.

Speaker 6 They testified. I read it.
I read the entire transcript. There's a rumor that they got together and tried to raise money for the defense of either Yana or Clark.

Speaker 6 That also didn't happen. No.
I've read PhD dissertations on this subject and they'll confuse. They'll confuse Elizabeth and Christine or Brigitte.
I mean, a lot of basic details get bungled.

Speaker 6 I don't know. It's just...
It's amazing how something gets going and somebody quotes it and doesn't check and it gets quoted again and again. And then you get this absurd monster in the end.

Speaker 6 Now, I should say, like, during and right after the actual robbery, psychologists didn't really talk about what happened to these women as some kind of generalized disorder.

Speaker 6 In fact, no one really even used the phrase Stockholm syndrome.

Speaker 6 But when we come back,

Speaker 6 we're going to take a break.

Speaker 6 When we come back, we're going to trace the path of this idea that we all know from

Speaker 6 this rumor-laden Swedish bank all the way into your head. Okay.

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We are back with Sara Kari. Hello.
Talking about Stockholm Syndrome.

Speaker 6 Or the thing that, as I said right before a break, in the months after the hostage crisis, wasn't yet even Stockholm syndrome. Niels Beirut is credited with that.
Coining the term, you mean? Yes. But

Speaker 6 I read all his reports to the police, listened to the interviews, and he doesn't use the phrase.

Speaker 6 According to David King, the idea of this being a syndrome actually comes from the New York Police Department. The NYPD.
What? Yeah. Why?

Speaker 6 So

Speaker 6 in the early 1970s, hostage negotiations were a relatively new thing.

Speaker 8 No police department anywhere had any kind of systematic approach for what to do. It was, you know, let's see if we can talk or the hell with it, we're going in.

Speaker 6 This is Ed Conlon.

Speaker 8 My name is Edward Conlon, and I was a detective with the NYPD, and I'm also a writer.

Speaker 6 And he's written a lot about the moment when hostage negotiation as a practice emerged.

Speaker 8 And one of the things that interests me about it is that it was created in response to the 1972 Munich Olympics when when

Speaker 8 Israeli athletes were taken hostage and killed. And we had a chief here who said, do we have a plan? What do we do if that something like that happened in New York City?

Speaker 8 The answer was no.

Speaker 8 And he said, let's come up with something.

Speaker 6 And the guy who was tasked with coming up with something was a police officer named Harvey Schlossberg.

Speaker 11 Harvey Schlossberg, a former detective with a degree in psychology.

Speaker 8 If there was a museum of New York Jewish accents,

Speaker 8 Harvey's would be in it.

Speaker 6 Yeah.

Speaker 8 It's Brooklyn 1950.

Speaker 16 You can say a lot of things wrong. It doesn't really matter.

Speaker 8 He's small, kind of a trim guy. He's got the 70s sideburns.
He smokes a pipe. He's kind of classic New York intellectual type.

Speaker 6 And so all through the summer of 1973, Harvey's trying to figure out what they should do, what they need to think about, and how did they put together a plan.

Speaker 8 And in August of 1973, you have the bank robbery in Sweden.

Speaker 6 Harvey hears about it. He reads up on the case.
And shortly after.

Speaker 16 Stockholm syndrome. I'm not going to go through the whole Stockholm syndrome at this point.

Speaker 6 There's footage of him using the phrase Stockholm Syndrome with a group of New York City police officers.

Speaker 16 At this point, let me suffice to say the Stockholm Syndrome simply means the forming of a relationship.

Speaker 16 Of course, the more stress in the situation, the quicker the relationship and the more intense it's going to be.

Speaker 6 As far as David King can tell, Harvey is the first person to coin the term. Yes.

Speaker 1 Oh, wow. So this is the guy,

Speaker 1 Mr. Stockholm Syndrome himself.

Speaker 6 Yeah.

Speaker 6 I contacted him too. Oh, did you? Just to get it confirmed.

Speaker 6 I said, yep, huh. And specifically what he would tell police officers in these trainings is...

Speaker 16 You should not trust the hostage.

Speaker 16 The hostage will side with the criminal.

Speaker 8 Don't automatically assume they know who the good guys are and who the bad guys are.

Speaker 16 You cannot share intelligence with the hostage. The hostage will tell the criminal everything you tell him.

Speaker 1 Wow. That's like it's not a one-off thing.
It's like I just presume that's true.

Speaker 6 Yeah, right.

Speaker 6 And, you know, after training, you know, the New York City police officers, Harvey and his team, they train the FBI and then they start traveling all over the place, training other police departments.

Speaker 8 Every police agency in the Western Hemisphere and some of the Eastern. I mean, they train the world.

Speaker 6 I mean, they trained 7,000 officers across 1,500 different police departments. Wow.

Speaker 1 It's so interesting that so much of this is a, it's like a cop diagnosis, right?

Speaker 1 It's like, it's like law enforcement and, I don't know, the psychologists working with them as the ones defining what this is.

Speaker 6 Yeah, totally. But then in 1974, it leapt out of the police training handbook and into the public consciousness.

Speaker 14 There's been a big kidnapping on the West Coast. The victim is Patricia Hearst.

Speaker 6 Thanks to the kidnapping of of Patty Hearst.

Speaker 11 The granddaughter of the legendary William Randolph Hearst.

Speaker 6 So February of 1974, just six months after Stockholm, Patty Hearst, 19-year-old heiress to the Hearst family fortune, is kidnapped by this group called the Symbionese Liberation Army.

Speaker 1 Dragged screaming half-naked from her Berkeley apartment.

Speaker 6 She's kept in a closet, beaten, and raped.

Speaker 16 Then 71 days after the kidnapping, a bank robbery by the SLA.

Speaker 6 Two months later, the SLA is robbing a bank in San Francisco and on the security footage from the bank you can see Patricia Hurst in the middle of it all.

Speaker 17 The girl in the wig with the automatic rifle was Patricia Hurst.

Speaker 6 She appeared to be helping them rob the bank.

Speaker 6 Then she actually gave an interview saying that she joined them.

Speaker 17 I have been given the choice of one, being released in a safe area or two, joining the forces of the Symbionese Liberation Army and fighting for my freedom and the freedom of all oppressed people.

Speaker 17 I have chosen to stay and fight.

Speaker 6 And sort of like with the Stockholm situation, when people heard this interview, they just thought she didn't sound the way that someone who's been kidnapped and beaten should sound. Yeah.

Speaker 6 There's no hint of coercion or anything. Yeah.
And so some people started to think maybe she's brainwashed. Other people to this day think that she was ideologically aligned with the SLA.

Speaker 6 And as the entire nation was trying to make sense of all this,

Speaker 6 in June of 1974.

Speaker 11 Well, I have to give Truman equal time.

Speaker 6 Well, I can do this.

Speaker 6 Truman Capote goes on the Tonight Show with Johnny Carson.

Speaker 11 Somerset and Mawmont referred to him as the hope of modern literature.

Speaker 6 Super famous writer, like wrote Breakfast at Tiffany's and In Cold Blood.

Speaker 11 Fiction, non-fiction writer, probably one of our times. Would you welcome Mr.
Truman Capote?

Speaker 6 He sits down with Johnny Carson and he explains, well, you know, what I think is happening with Patty Hearst is.

Speaker 18 But that thing called the Stockholm Stockholm syndrome.

Speaker 18 You know what the Stockholm syndrome?

Speaker 18 A couple of years back.

Speaker 6 So he tells the whole original Stockholm story.

Speaker 18 And they were having continuous sort of affairs

Speaker 18 forced in the beginning.

Speaker 6 False rumors and all.

Speaker 18 These girls refused to testify against them, and one of them is now engaged to this convict and is going to marry him on his release.

Speaker 6 That statement hits the news wires, and this totally bogus version of the Stockholm story just goes viral.

Speaker 14 One of the women is waiting for the robber to get out of jail to marry him. What?

Speaker 9 One of the females went on to marry one of the captors.

Speaker 6 Suddenly everybody

Speaker 6 is talking about Stockholm syndrome.

Speaker 14 The individual is reduced to total helplessness.

Speaker 6 And running with this idea that people, especially women, in these sort of hostage or kidnapping situations become attached even romantically to their captors.

Speaker 20 There may be a similarity in the Iranian hostage situation and what you refer to as the Stockholm syndrome.

Speaker 6 And then through the 80s and into the 90s.

Speaker 1 It's a very primitive, almost childlike attachment that develops.

Speaker 6 People try using it to explain why some kidnapped kids seemingly never try to escape.

Speaker 21 For 18 years, JC Dugard was held by a convicted sex offender.

Speaker 19 She developed a bond with her abductors.

Speaker 21 Elizabeth Smart, kidnapped from her Utah bedroom in 2002, never tried to run either.

Speaker 6 And pretty soon, it's getting used to explain cult members, sex workers, victims of sex trafficking, victims of child abuse. Right.

Speaker 1 It's the when you have a hammer, everything looks like a nail kind of thing.

Speaker 6 Yeah, totally. I mean, it's being used to explain things that are not at all like hostage situations.

Speaker 1 Most prominently, is it reasonable to take what we've learned about Stockholm Syndrome, relate it to kind of domestic abuse?

Speaker 6 Domestic abuse.

Speaker 19 How do you deal psychologically with a woman who feels like the Stockholm Syndrome tied inextricably to the batterer?

Speaker 10 So I think that the media really hooked on to this concept because it was mysterious. You know, how do these victims get changed in this situation? Well, here's a really simple explanation.

Speaker 6 This is journalist Jess Hill.

Speaker 10 I'm the author of See What You Made Me Do.

Speaker 6 And Jess says: when Stockholm Syndrome is applied to women who are caught in an abusive relationship, it can act as almost a cover for a much more deeply pernicious idea.

Speaker 10 That actually women, they stayed with their abusers because they liked it.

Speaker 6 It becomes clear how it draws on a long history of psychological theories that try to explain or maybe even explain away those relationships, going all the way back to the early 1900s.

Speaker 10 From Sigmund Freud, who claimed to have discovered that there are these essential forces that drive human behavior.

Speaker 10 And according to Freud, all women who were essentially lesser for lacking a penis and envied men for having penises were innately masochistic and unconsciously sought to be punished.

Speaker 10 So in the 1940s and 50s, when you had, you know, Freudian theories are really at their peak, social workers who were working with what we'd term battered women,

Speaker 10 they believed that women would actually look for men who would abuse them.

Speaker 6 Then just says when you get to the 1970s, you start to have a supposedly more modern scientific understanding, drawing on physiological science about fight or flight and learned helplessness, to say that actually women stay in abusive relationships because they are rendered unable to act.

Speaker 10 Now, of course, it's an improvement on masochism, where you'd actually feel some pity for the victim instead of just thinking that they're some masochistic harpy, but it still lays the blame on the victim for her abuse.

Speaker 10 It's your passivity that drove the perpetrator to actually abuse you in the first place.

Speaker 6 And so Stockholm Syndrome comes around, and I think part of why it's so resonant is it ties all of those ideas into a super neat little package, right?

Speaker 6 Like you have elements of like, she's into it and also she's helpless and those ideas are kind of just packaged together. Yeah.
It's a cocktail. It's a cocktail.
All those other ideas.

Speaker 6 Yeah, that have been floating around in the culture. And these days it's still thrown around by the media in this kind of willy-nilly way.
It comes up in pop culture. Is Is it in the DSM?

Speaker 6 No, actually, it's not, and it never has been.

Speaker 6 And even though it's not in the DSM, you know, in the academic world, it still comes up.

Speaker 6 You'll see like a paper here or there that mentions it, or, you know, a psychologist going on TV that talks about it. And it's still sort of around.

Speaker 5 Oh, yeah. In curriculum, it comes up.
If you begin to work with law enforcement, it can come up periodically in that arena. It's just kind of part of the air that you breathe in a certain kind of way.

Speaker 6 So this is Alan Wade. He's been a therapist for over 35 years.

Speaker 5 Specializing in cases of interpersonal violence.

Speaker 6 And Alan told me that about eight years ago, he was working for a while in Sweden.

Speaker 5 Out of the blue, one of my close colleagues said, Would you like to meet the Stockholm Syndrome lady?

Speaker 6 Meaning Christine Enmark.

Speaker 5 The woman who's said to have Stockholm syndrome.

Speaker 5 And I thought about it for a minute. I said, well, talking to the first person ever said to have Stockholm syndrome is a bit of a rare opportunity.

Speaker 6 So I said, okay, sure.

Speaker 5 We arranged to meet in a Wayne's coffee shop in

Speaker 5 the central part of Stockholm. So I'm sitting having a cup of coffee, and Christine, who I didn't know was Christine, but suspected it might be, tapped me on the arm.

Speaker 6 And what does she look like?

Speaker 5 Oh, she has blonde hair.

Speaker 5 She's very well attired. Not fancy, but pleasant.

Speaker 6 So they sat down and started talking. And Alan says that right away, Christine.

Speaker 5 She said, are you interested in Stockholm Syndrome? And I said, well, honestly,

Speaker 5 I'm a little bit unsure about the idea.

Speaker 5 And she looked at me with a big smile and said, me too.

Speaker 6 So Alan and Christine ended up talking for the next several hours.

Speaker 5 One of the things I realized quickly is that none of the world experts on Stockholm Syndrome had ever talked with Christine.

Speaker 5 People had been traveling the globe talking about Stockholm Syndrome as experts.

Speaker 6 But none of them, apparently, had ever asked her about her experience in the bank.

Speaker 5 About the events as they unfolded.

Speaker 6 So Alan just started talking to her about it.

Speaker 5 Could I ask you this? Could I ask you that?

Speaker 6 And he says that there were these moments in the conversation where it seemed like Christine was still trying to make sense of her own behavior.

Speaker 5 She said to me, Why did I volunteer to be the hostage that went with Jana Olson to leave the bank? Why did I volunteer? So I asked for more detail about context.

Speaker 5 And I learned that there were three other hostages.

Speaker 6 Christine talked about these other hostages, Sven and Elizabeth and Brigitte.

Speaker 5 And when she said Brigitte's name, she began to tear up a little bit. And she told me overhearing a phone call that Birgitta had from the bank vault with her husband

Speaker 5 and said something like, yes, dear,

Speaker 5 I'm a hostage in the bank, and I won't be home for dinner.

Speaker 5 You're going to have to pick up the girls from school, and they'll be hungry. I left some fish at the back of the fridge, etc.
So at that moment, I looked at Christine and I said,

Speaker 5 were you protecting those little girls by protecting their mother? And she looked at me with a very

Speaker 5 firm expression and said, you know, I had a purpose.

Speaker 5 So at that moment, at that moment,

Speaker 5 the framework of so-called Stockholm Syndrome really fell apart like a house of cards.

Speaker 6 For Alan, clearly Christine wasn't helpless or weirdly under the sway of these bad men. She didn't have a syndrome.

Speaker 6 She was acting in a way that was rational, that made sense given the situation that she was in.

Speaker 1 So it's like even patient zero didn't have the thing.

Speaker 6 Yeah.

Speaker 1 But now where does that leave you? Like, what do you make of this? Like, was that just all total BS and is this case closed?

Speaker 6 I mean, obviously, it's as you said, Christine. didn't have Stockholm syndrome.
It doesn't apply to her.

Speaker 6 And you can trace, as we have, this whole journey of how this thing that was

Speaker 6 started out as a lie becomes warped into this thing that we all know. And so, I guess, for a lot of the reporting, I, you know, I've kind of been operating on that assumption.
This is a lie.

Speaker 6 This is, there's nothing here.

Speaker 6 But as I went through the reporting, I came across accounts of people that, you know, felt something for their captors, felt attached to their captors.

Speaker 6 I literally argued with psychologists who were saying,

Speaker 6 this is real. And my patients come into my office experiencing feelings for people that have hurt them.
And I was like, no, you're wrong. This is a lie.
And I haven't known what to do with it.

Speaker 1 I don't know. I feel like I've even seen this in my own life.

Speaker 1 Like there are people you see, and not just women, men too, who are in situations of domestic violence, or there are people who are in these very complicated, toxic relationships, and they can't get out.

Speaker 1 Like

Speaker 1 there is a thing to be explained.

Speaker 6 I mean, yeah, true. And, and, and even when, you know, I go online and go, go poking around in places like Reddit or TikTok.

Speaker 6 I need to talk about Stockholm syndrome because right away very real trauma response that can happen called Stockholm syndrome. You can see that, like, for a lot of people.

Speaker 6 Stockholm syndrome in relationships.

Speaker 19 You start to sympathize with your abusive thing that

Speaker 6 started out as a lie feels like

Speaker 4 I'm like

Speaker 6 Stockholm syndrome or something. They're truth that they feel seen in

Speaker 6 some way by Stockholm syndrome. They're self-diagnosing with it.
And, you know, under every one of these TikToks, there's comments and comments of people being like, yes, that is me.

Speaker 1 Not in an ironic, like a silly way, like in a real, like, this is, I have this.

Speaker 6 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And honestly, I just felt stuck.

Speaker 6 But

Speaker 6 after the break, I will tell you about how I got unstuck.

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Speaker 6 Yep.

Speaker 1 And before the break, you were telling me how stuck you felt and how you didn't even, you weren't even now sure what to think of Stockholm Syndrome. Right.

Speaker 6 So I

Speaker 6 did really want to talk to people that have actually been through something like this and are trying to reckon with

Speaker 6 their own issues.

Speaker 1 How did they make sense of it themselves?

Speaker 6 Yeah.

Speaker 6 If there were to be a mess up, can I just pause for a sec and like recollect myself? Oh my gosh. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 6 So I ended up talking to a couple of different people

Speaker 6 with very different experiences, but I want to start us off with this woman. Yeah, absolutely.
Grace Stewart.

Speaker 6 So I'm originally from the greater Philadelphia area, and I now do a lot of domestic violence advocacy through social media. I actually found her on TikTok, but she also has a podcast.

Speaker 6 Called Why She Stayed. And she does one-on-one coaching for people who are in abusive relationships.

Speaker 6 And I came into this space just through my own lived experience. Grace herself was in an abusive relationship for several years.
There was a lot of emotional abuse, sexual abuse. There's so much.

Speaker 6 And one of the things that I noticed in Grace's TikToks about the relationship, which is honestly what made me want to talk to her, is how despite all that, when she was in the relationship, she would have a lot of conflicting feelings about walking away.

Speaker 6 Yeah, absolutely. I think I'm curious if,

Speaker 6 and so

Speaker 6 I asked her, you know, had she ever come across Stockholm Syndrome and what did she think of it as a label or an explanation for her experience? So, yeah, it's an interesting question.

Speaker 6 And she told me that she did actually contemplate the term at one point in her relationship.

Speaker 6 At the time, so many people just definitely wanted me to get out of it and were putting a lot of pressure on me to not marry him. Like, please just don't do it.
But I was still very bonded to him.

Speaker 6 And I remember sitting in my recliner in my living room, just very disheveled. I hadn't eaten that day.
I was just so sick with like anxiousness.

Speaker 6 So sitting there on her couch, Grace says she opened up her computer. And that's when I searched Stockholm Syndrome.
She says that when she read up on it, she felt relief. I was like, okay,

Speaker 6 this feels like what I'm going through. Maybe I'm not insane.
And I think having that name for your experience is extremely important in getting free.

Speaker 6 Because she says, it helped her start to see where her resistance to leaving and that feeling of being bonded to her ex was coming from.

Speaker 6 The best way I can describe it is: many victims have amazing instincts and they are really intuitive. But people don't realize how much of domestic abuse is about confusion.

Speaker 6 For Grace, it was

Speaker 6 confusion about what was even happening. What if I overreacted and made something out of nothing? Whether to judge her ex by his good days or his bad days.
Is he the good guy or is he the bad guy?

Speaker 6 Is he kind or is he cruel? Or if maybe

Speaker 6 there was something wrong with her. Let me just change this one thing about myself.
Grace says at the time she wasn't even sure what to call this thing that was happening to her.

Speaker 6 I felt like I had nothing to point to, nothing concrete to say, this is what's happening to me. It's the thick confusion that kept me trapped.

Speaker 6 And so when she ran into the idea of Stockholm, it was like, look, this is what's happening here. And that was super,

Speaker 6 allowed me to take a deep breath.

Speaker 6 So if someone resonates with the term Stockholm at some point in their journey and it, brings them clarity, then okay. It's not the term I would select as the best one.

Speaker 6 I related more to trauma bonding, which is the term that I find more appropriate for survivors, but it's a starting point.

Speaker 6 Thinking back to when I was stuck about whether Stockholm Syndrome was true or false or what,

Speaker 6 I think what I heard from Grace is that there is a grain of truth here that matches her experience, which is that

Speaker 6 you can feel care or loyalty or empathy or affection for someone who's treating you badly. But

Speaker 6 she also told me that the real turning point for her

Speaker 6 was when she figured out how to stop troubleshooting her own actions and instead put the microscope on what the abuser is doing and kind of unravel their tactics.

Speaker 6 What's he doing to make you what's he doing? Yeah. Yeah.
And that's when she started noticing. They'll inflict pain, then they'll rescue.

Speaker 6 All of her ex's tactics wasn't always telling me I couldn't go see friends or I couldn't see my family. He would just make those things very difficult for me.
Subtly isolating her.

Speaker 6 Or he used to flip cause and effect so much. He would say, I got him like this.
Shifting blame onto her. Or even, oh no, that didn't happen like that.
You're crazy. Plain old gaslighting.

Speaker 6 It was about power and control. And Grace says that when she was able to to identify what her ex was doing and how she was responding to it.
For me, that was what opened my eyes.

Speaker 6 It really sealed the deal for me. It really did.

Speaker 10 So it's really important to know that coercive control.

Speaker 6 What's interesting is that when I was talking to Jess Hill, she told me that this shift to looking at the perpetrator, looking at the abuser,

Speaker 6 it's not just helpful for victim survivors like Grace. It's also helpful for people looking at these kinds of situations from the outside.

Speaker 10 When you start to see what the perpetrator does, the behavior of the victim survivor starts to make much more sense.

Speaker 6 And not just that, it means that you can do away with terms like Stockholm Syndrome and try to talk about and look at what's going on without the victim blaming or scrutiny.

Speaker 6 And like for me, to get to this point in the reporting, it was really exciting because it's like, okay, here's a a way to talk about things that are happening, things that are hard to talk about in a way that doesn't do more harm, you know?

Speaker 6 But

Speaker 6 I swear to God, in the middle of all this, I sat down one evening and I was watching this sort of true crime documentary about the cult at Sarah Lawrence College.

Speaker 6 And I'm watching the people that are joining this cult.

Speaker 6 And it was all just so strange and foreign to me that I found myself having this knee-jerk reaction of asking these questions like, oh, why did they do that? What, like, why didn't they just leave?

Speaker 6 Like, why did they do X or Y or Z?

Speaker 6 You know, strange thing.

Speaker 6 And so, of course, as I'm doing this, I'm like, oh my God, I'm still doing the same things, like all of those same impulses to

Speaker 6 scrutinize the victim. And it's like, it just like immediately just slotted right back into my brain.
And like, literally, in the midst of all this reporting, so that felt very uncomfortable.

Speaker 6 Yeah, and so I'm sitting there and I'm thinking all this stuff. And I'm like, honestly, maybe what I need to do is call one of these people.

Speaker 15 I'm going to take a sip of this water.

Speaker 6 Yeah, do it.

Speaker 15 And get used to hearing every detail in such high fidelity.

Speaker 6 And so I did. Okay.

Speaker 15 My name is Daniel Barban Lemon. I live in Los Angeles and I'm 33.

Speaker 6 I kind of want to get a little bit into your backstory. And

Speaker 6 I think that this is the conversation that

Speaker 6 finally got me where I wanted to be.

Speaker 6 Not just like intellectually, but also emotionally. I recognize that I guess what I'm about to ask is a really big question,

Speaker 6 but

Speaker 6 you already know what I'm going to ask. Like, what happened? Yeah.

Speaker 6 Okay.

Speaker 15 I went to Sarah Lawrence College. One of my roommates' dads, Larry Ray,

Speaker 15 got out of prison and needed a place to crash. And we said yes.

Speaker 15 And

Speaker 15 he started a sort of self-improvement routine with me and my roommates, which seemed fairly innocuous at first.

Speaker 15 And

Speaker 15 the next summer, he

Speaker 15 got an apartment in Manhattan and offered me a couch to crash on while I was working in the city. And I took him up on it.

Speaker 15 And all of that devolved over time into abuse, sexual abuse, psychological, physical abuse, coercion, and ultimately what you would call a cult.

Speaker 15 And that averaged around maybe eight people in this apartment in Manhattan. I was there for about two years altogether, and then I left.
And I spent the next five or so years

Speaker 15 processing,

Speaker 15 not believing what had happened, being totally shell-shocked. And

Speaker 6 so about six years after Daniel left the cult, news about it broke. This is in 2019.
It became a big story about the Sarah Lawrence cult. And Daniel has since been interviewed about it.

Speaker 6 And I mentioned there was a whole documentary about it.

Speaker 6 But for those six years, he said he didn't talk to anybody about it at all. Yeah.

Speaker 15 I think just I couldn't really face what had actually happened.

Speaker 6 Right. And I mean, like, how do you,

Speaker 6 it just was such a crazy thing to say out loud.

Speaker 15 It's like you feel like you're constantly trying to prove it both to yourself and to someone, even a sympathetic listener. It's like you're telling them you saw an alien.
Totally.

Speaker 15 It's really, it takes a lot of self-confidence that I don't really like come with out of the box.

Speaker 6 No, I get that.

Speaker 15 I wish there was one word I could say and it would be fully understood.

Speaker 6 But

Speaker 15 counterintuitively, actually leaving the situation required letting go

Speaker 15 of a need for an explanation. I had to accept that I wasn't going to know why this had happened,

Speaker 15 how I could justify it to myself or others. I just needed to listen to my body and leave, or else I felt like I was gonna die.

Speaker 15 But, you know,

Speaker 15 I wish that I could just, I wish that I didn't feel like any of it was my fault, you know?

Speaker 15 Everybody who hears a story of a man beating and sexually abusing a bunch of 18 to 20-year-olds in an apartment in New York think to themselves, I would have walked out the door.

Speaker 6 I mean, I felt myself doing this when I watched the documentary, like knowing everything I know and working on this. I was still just like

Speaker 6 searching for

Speaker 6 something like,

Speaker 6 What was it about these people, you know, and like catching myself asking that question? I mean, it's fair.

Speaker 15 That has been hard for me to navigate, too.

Speaker 15 There were people who were living in that same house where he was sleeping on the couch and didn't get pulled into the cult.

Speaker 15 But, you know, speaking for myself, I was 18 going to college for the first time, had not reckoned with my

Speaker 15 neglectful upbringing and my mom's chronic illness and my own struggles with sexuality and just trying to figure everything out and having no guidance.

Speaker 15 And that's a great time for somebody who presents as a kind of father figure to show up and offer some relief.

Speaker 6 On the other hand, Daniel says, I mean, he knows that his vulnerabilities don't fully explain what happened either. Like we all have vulnerabilities.

Speaker 6 Like, a lot of people have vulnerabilities and trauma and all of these things.

Speaker 6 And it just seems like you could either scrutinize the victim survivor more and more, or you could look at the pernicious tactics of the perpetrator.

Speaker 6 But Daniel feels like both of those things can leave people with the same picture of the person who is going through the experience.

Speaker 15 What people imagine is that you sort of become like a mannequin, and someone's pulling the strings as if you're being magically controlled.

Speaker 15 And I think that it's so much simpler than that. I

Speaker 15 did things that I might not otherwise do because I was in a situation where that was the seemed like the most sensible option according to the information I had, you know?

Speaker 15 And I was scared. Like when I lived with Larry, I remember looking down at my feet and seeing like visible dirt spots because it had been so long since I'd been allowed to shower.

Speaker 15 And now, of course, that sounds so out of control, but you just kind of proceed trying to avoid pain, you know, and then you add on top of that, all of my friends were there and I watched them do the same things.

Speaker 15 We didn't have opportunities for like crosstalk or reality checking. It's like, you know,

Speaker 15 him slicing a grape vertically versus horizontally and having me taste it and say that it tasted different sliced horizontally or vertically.

Speaker 15 And I agreed, you know, even now I'm like, I guess the oxidization, there's like more surface area, you know, so it's. Yeah.

Speaker 6 Yeah.

Speaker 6 And

Speaker 6 on top of all of that, Daniel was telling me about how at the time he was basically broke in New York City and he'd find himself thinking that maybe things would actually be even worse if he left.

Speaker 15 You know, so it's just like the known evil versus the unknown evil and sunk cost. And it's all the same factors.
The brain hasn't magically changed.

Speaker 15 You know, you're just in a different situation, which I, and I know I'm not ignoring that the situation is crazy and really, really bad, but you still just, you only have the same tools and are bringing them to bear.

Speaker 15 And, you know, the way you make decisions is just with the information you have. That's a way of answering that question.
Why didn't you leave? And it would be much easier if the answer was just

Speaker 15 we developed Stockholm Syndrome.

Speaker 6 Right. I mean, speaking of Stockholm Syndrome, I guess I am curious what you think of it or how you feel about it.

Speaker 15 I think that Stockholm Syndrome, it's one in a long line of really easy answers that we offer to ourselves in order to not have to confront complicated and scary questions.

Speaker 6 Questions like, you know, is it possible that something like this could happen to me? Like, like, because if you have those vulnerabilities and this kind of person walks into your life,

Speaker 6 then it's like really hard to say what you would do. I think that's the scariest piece of it.
And I think that's what an idea like Stockholm protects us from.

Speaker 10 It satisfies our need to be like, well, I would never respond like that. And the fact is, you don't know how you would respond until you're put in that situation.

Speaker 10 And I can tell you, victim survivors, they never thought they'd respond like that either.

Speaker 10 And now they're on the other side of that experience and they realize things that they never thought they would do, they did under those conditions because it's a fundamentally human response.

Speaker 15 I actually think that trauma is unfortunately one of the more normal experiences you can have. Yes, the facts of what occurred are extreme, but the effects are still the same.

Speaker 15 You know, fear and grief and confusion and isolation.

Speaker 15 But when people hear Stockholm Syndrome, it's just like it's such a throwaway term. And I think we should be suspicious of any concept which doesn't invite further curiosity.

Speaker 15 I mean, people, if it is a thought-terminating answer and we just say, oh, well, it was Stockholm syndrome,

Speaker 15 anything that ends our curiosity, I think, is really bad.

Speaker 1 I feel that.

Speaker 1 I feel that hard, especially as a journalist, but also if you're, you know, a psychologist, or also if you're a friend, or also if you're a, you know, just someone who watches a lot of cult documentaries.

Speaker 1 Like, like, I do think that you gotta, you have to want to ask more questions. Yeah, right.

Speaker 15 And I think that if the questions that we were asked was less like, explain to me why you didn't leave, and was more like,

Speaker 15 how did you leave? I am so glad that you got out. Can you help us understand

Speaker 15 how you did it?

Speaker 6 And honestly,

Speaker 6 at the end of all of this, just to go back to the beginning for a sec,

Speaker 6 I can't help but think about

Speaker 6 Christine Enmark, you know, the patient zero of Stockholm Syndrome, and all of the questions that for 40 years nobody asked her.

Speaker 12 I always felt that I did something wrong.

Speaker 12 I said wrong things.

Speaker 12 I said that I was afraid of the police. I wanted to get out.
I wanted to go with them.

Speaker 12 And after this drama, all the attention has been focused on this.

Speaker 12 Instead of looking at what did Jane do, what did Clark do, what did the police do, what did the society do, you said they're not really healthy, they got into something wrong.

Speaker 12 You know, a syndrome.

Speaker 12 So I have this 40 years of the feeling of doing something wrong.

Speaker 12 All the things that I did was instinct of survival.

Speaker 12 I wanted to survive.

Speaker 12 I don't think it's so odd.

Speaker 1 Thank you for that whole journey, Sara.

Speaker 6 Thank you.

Speaker 1 And thank you all for listening. If you or someone you care about is experiencing domestic violence, remember you are not alone.
Help is available.

Speaker 1 In the United States, you can reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE, 1-800-799-7233, or visit their website at thehotline.org. They offer confidential support 24-7-365.

Speaker 1 Your safety and well-being matter, and there are people who care and want to help.

Speaker 1 Sara, do you want to do the special thanks?

Speaker 6 Yeah, yeah. Okay, I should say this episode would not have been possible without Alice Edwards in particular.
She contributed research, reporting, translation.

Speaker 6 Also, big, big thanks to Terrence Mickey for letting us use the tape of his conversation with Christine Enmark. To Mimi Wilcox for help with archival audio.
Check out her documentary, Bad Hostage.

Speaker 6 Very similar vibes to this episode.

Speaker 6 And thanks also to Frank Ockberg, David Mandel, Ruth Raymundo Mandel, Kara Pellegrini, Kathy Ewen, and Yanni Pelica.

Speaker 1 Oh, one more thing before we go.

Speaker 6 Sara?

Speaker 6 Yes.

Speaker 1 Do you remember when you produced that story about Zoo's Vei?

Speaker 6 Yeah,

Speaker 1 the moon-ish object around Venus

Speaker 1 that we officially named Zuzve.

Speaker 1 And then we learned that Earth has quasi-moons too. Right.
And then we started a global competition to come up with a name for one of these quasi-moons.

Speaker 6 Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.

Speaker 1 Well, I am here to tell you, and anyone who is listening, that we gathered a bunch of expert people, astronauts, astronomers, celebrities,

Speaker 1 high school students. We had this crack panel

Speaker 1 who helped winnow down, we got, because we got something like 2,700

Speaker 1 name submissions.

Speaker 6 Wow.

Speaker 1 From like, I think 90 something, almost 100 countries.

Speaker 1 And so they winnowed that all down to seven finalists.

Speaker 1 So now you and everyone and anyone living on planet earth can vote for the name of the quasi-moon and the winner will be the official name that will outlive us all that is so crazy lethive like it i still am not over how this started with you seeing a thing in your kids it's just crazy anyway well but but the the the fun that i and that we had in naming zuzve it's now we've we've democratized it and it's it's out there and anyone anywhere can can vote for their favorite and the names are beautiful interesting and and wait and and where do you go to vote with there somewhere you can see all the names and stuff is that yep the place where you see the names and votes same place go to radiolab.org slash moon radiolab.org slash moon voting is open now all the way until january 1st 2025.

Speaker 1 So yeah, this this December,

Speaker 1 tell everybody you know and vote yourself. And that is really your best chance to make your mark on the heavens.

Speaker 6 Ah, amazing. I'm going to go vote right now.

Speaker 1 Okay, and while you do that, I will say that this episode was reported and produced by Sarakari with production help from Rebecca Lacks, edited by Alex Neeson.

Speaker 6 That's it for us. We'll catch you next week.
Bye.

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