Does anyone actually like their job?

Welcome to Search Engine.

I'm PJ Vote.

Each week, we try to answer a question we have about the world.

No question too big, no question too small.

This week, I try to answer a question that actually plagued me a decade ago, that haunted my entire 20s.

Does anyone actually like their job?

Or am I being lied to by a Brooklyn-based musician?

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And I'd have just a moment in passing to ask him does it work out

and this older grizzled version of me would just like sagely nod his head and then disappear presumably into the fog of night

just to be clear this anxiety i had about my future it was not about my health or my friend's health or who was going to be president from about 2006 to 2014 what I fervently stayed up all night thinking about was whether one day I would get to do the thing I'm doing exactly right now in this moment.

I wanted to tell stories for a living.

I was living in New York, a college dropout with a decent temp job doing research and editing for a radio journalist.

But I wanted to tell stories myself.

I wanted this the way people forced underwater want oxygen.

I was convinced that if I could have this, every other problem would take care of itself and I'd just be in a permanent state of happiness.

Like I would not feel pain.

Taking ecstasy would be like drinking room temperature tap water.

24-7 nirvana, if I could just get a job telling true, reasonably amusing stories.

My life had a focus.

Perhaps too much focus.

Because on the flip side, I was also convinced that if this didn't happen, no matter what else worked out, I would be miserable.

There's a word for this toxic condition, this poisonous, all-or-nothing kind of thinking.

It's called ambition.

You get a glimpse of a life you want, you fix on it, and from that moment on, you feel intense, all-over pain every moment you're not there.

I now know that despair is not a rare feature of anyone's 20s.

Even very fortunate people often spend that decade stuck in a life they don't want without a clear path to the one they'd prefer.

But that despair felt, like most things about life then, completely unique to me.

I couldn't find a container that could hold it.

My boss at the time had this sign above their desk that said,

The sun shone having no alternative on the nothing new.

I became convinced that everyone in a job was miserable, that the entire world was filled with people who spent Friday dreading Monday, that anyone who claimed to like their job was just lying to me, personally, for what reason, I'm not sure.

But then I heard about this band.

They were called the Hold Steady.

Indie rock music, the kind of band that seems to have zero casual fans.

Either you've seen them a hundred times or you don't really get it.

I got it.

The songs I thought were perfect.

Stories about down-and-out partiers in America.

People with fucked up lives who had slid far off the path of their own dreams, but still had a sense of humor about it.

Constitutionally unable to enjoy something without becoming obsessed with it.

Yeah, very obsessed with the band.

And in particular, with this one small part of their mythology.

I'd heard about how the singer, Craig Finn, had supposedly had a very strange path into his music career.

And the story of that path gave me a kind of hope.

What I'd heard on the internet was that before The Hold Steady, Craig Finn had languished in a drab office job.

In one version of the story, he was an IT guy at Goldman Sachs.

And this legend, it was believable because Finn was a balding, horned-rimmed, glass-swearing guy with a pretty nasal voice.

The joke in the reviews of the band was sometimes that he actually looked more like an accountant than a rock singer.

In the version of the story I'd heard, he'd basically become an accountant and he'd had to make peace with it.

But then years languishing in a job he didn't want, he started this new band just for fun, the Hold Steady.

And that band had taken off, it had rescued him from his life.

And there's a little more evidence for this story.

The story of a guy who late in life had escaped a job he hated and found one he loved.

When I'd see them play live over and over again, there was this thing he'd almost always do towards the end of the set.

He started to tell stories.

And then on the stage, he'd offer something that felt almost like a prayer.

Man, I say the same thing almost every night.

I don't, I don't, I'm not fooling anyone.

But I only say it because it's true.

Where he would just express pure gratitude that his life had worked out, that he got to do his job for a living.

There is so much joy in what we do up here.

I want to thank you for being here to share that joy with us.

And I came to understand that maybe I was going to all these concerts really just for that moment.

Maybe I really needed to believe that someone really did love his job, that everybody else wasn't just faking it the way I was faking it.

But being constitutionally incapable of not becoming obsessed with things, I started to think about it too much.

And I started to wonder, like really wonder, what if Craig Finn was lying?

Because I knew that even most dream jobs eventually become jobs.

They become onerous.

And if Craig Finn had ever just once publicly said in some interview that he loved his job, and if people had responded to that, he would have been bound to that fiction forever.

For years, stuck in my own unhappiness, I wondered about his happiness.

Wondered if it was real.

I would plot and scheme about ways to ask him about it where I might get a real answer.

In 2014, I bid in a charity auction where the prize was you got to go jogging with Craig Finn.

I had this idea that if I asked him when he was sort of winded, then I'd get a real answer.

I won the auction, but I never sent the email to book the actual run.

The band's manager even followed up with me, but I ducked his emails.

I chickened out.

Whenever I'd see Craig Finn's name after that, I'd feel this little jolt of embarrassment and regret.

In the years that followed, a lot of things would happen in my life.

Over a decade later, I think I'm now actually the age I was picturing back then when I couldn't sleep, that grizzled, older version of myself.

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A few months ago, I tried just sending Craig Finn an email, telling him where I was coming from and asking if he might be up for what could be a slightly unusual conversation.

He said he was game.

Okay, so I think my first question for you is just, can you give me a picture of like

your early life?

Like, how old were you when you first decided the job you wanted was musician?

I think, I mean, I remember telling my babysitter when i was really young that i wanted to be um a rock and roll singer like when i was like i don't know eight

i i was listening to bands like the bassity rollers and kiss

and getting really enthused about music and also the monkeys who are on tv uh it looked like that was the best job you You know, it looked like

I think there was the camaraderie of being in a band that looked fun.

Yeah.

The ability to burst into song.

It seemed like girls liked guys in bands.

Like the whole thing looked pretty great.

And I was a very mild-mannered, nerdy kid.

So like it was not,

it didn't seem like I was destined for it, but it's what I wanted.

And I think it led me before too long probably to

ask for an electric guitar.

And what did your parents do?

Oh, my dad um, worked for Ernst ⁇ Young, the accounting firm.

And my mom was a homemaker since I was born.

So they were not, you know, they were not rock and roll people, but they were very supportive.

And maybe I was half saying, I'll probably work in the music industry.

And did you feel like, like, I think one of the things that people use the word ambition, and I think, I think what's weird about my relationship to that word is that it sounds like a powerful feeling.

It's like, I'm going to do all this stuff.

But whenever I've experienced it, it's been like a painful feeling.

It's like, I want this thing.

I see a huge gap between my life and the life I want.

And I feel like I'm on the other side of the glass and it like hurts.

Like, did you feel that way towards music?

Yeah.

I mean, one thing I can point to is like in college, I went to Boston college and I was writing for the school newspaper.

I was like reviewing records.

And that was, you know, I did that and maybe I did okay at it, but like.

I got the feeling that that wasn't the side of it I wanted to be on.

Yeah.

And then a friend of mine had started a booking agency and she was booking cool bands and maybe a little more part of this indie scene than I was.

And I started hanging out with her and helping her with some of her stuff.

And again, it just got me closer to bands, made me realize like what I wanted to do was to just play my own songs and have a band rather than do sort of this, you know, the whatever involves booking a tour.

Now, turn your stereo up and your TV on to Cable Channel 6.

Here's your host, Amy Dahl.

This video clip is from December 1997.

A 26-year-old Craig Finn is playing with his up-and-coming band, Lifter Polar, on live public television in St.

Cloud.

Ladies and gentlemen, may I present to you Lifter Polar on Monday Night Live?

Thereafter,

we'll refer to this

fortune.

In the video, Craig Finn looks quite young and like a guy who maybe did not have time to change after work.

He's wearing a red Oxford tucked into Chinos, playing a telecaster covered in stickers.

I will say, Lifter Polar, I do not love the way I would love what would come later, the whole study.

Honestly, it might just be that the lyrics are harder to make out, but I do feel like I can already hear some of what Craig Finn is going to do really well in his next band.

He's going to tell these gossipy stories about an underground world that he has this magic ability to conjure.

This seedy, sleazy underbelly of Minneapolis that might only exist in Craig Finn's own imagination.

People here are always waking up high and bewildered on intersections that alliterate.

The drug dealers cross paths with the sorority girls.

Everybody wonders about this mysterious fire set at a nightclub called the Nice Nice.

It's a world you can sink into.

The characters from one song sometimes cameo in another.

By the time Lifter Pullers started in earnest, Craig Finn had decided not to pursue his music industry job as a booking agent.

In his mind, it just didn't feel right to be working in the industry while simultaneously trying to make it as a musician.

Like, maybe people wouldn't take him seriously.

So he got a real day job.

And the job he got, not what you would expect from a man staying up all night in clubs singing songs about arsonists and drug dealers and pimps.

It wasn't the one I'd heard.

He He wasn't an IT guy, Goldman Sachs.

But honestly, it was pretty close.

I started working at American Express Financial Advisors, which has a big campus downtown Minneapolis.

So you were working at American Express Financial Advisors while you were in Lift or Polar?

Yeah, yeah.

It was really kind of an interesting.

spectacular place.

I started out in the annuities department and people would call in and you'd tell them your balance and you'd do small transactions for them.

You know, I'd wear a headset mic and there'd be, it'd be like this like football field sized office, right?

Like, you know, and everyone had their little cubicle.

And there were a lot of young people that worked there.

So there was its own scene, you know, I mean,

what was the scene like?

It was weird, you know?

I mean, it was like the office kind of experience that in some ways is very stereotypical.

Like you'd have a Christmas party and people would misbehave.

Yeah.

You know, I remember there were these guys that I'd hang out with sometimes and they would, they would come, they would like go out almost every night and then they'd come in and they'd rate their hangovers and they would like uh and you had we had like an intranet system you know like um so you could like talk to each other and i can't remember what the level i think level six was you threw up at work um

so

that's so such a low number for them

yeah i mean and it's funny the thing was is there'd be a tax season um where people would need their tax forms and whatever yeah and it would get really busy And it was really awful.

Like people would have to wait on hold for like a long time before they talked to you.

They'd be really angry when they got you.

And so like, I remember during that period each year,

not wanting to go to work, like lying in bed and being like, I don't want to go there today, you know?

A lot of people, faced with a job they don't love, survive just by living in their imaginations or looking forward to nights and weekends.

Craig Vinn, for whatever reason, decided the way he would thrive at American Express Financial Advisors was he would just apply himself to the job more deeply.

He realized there were these tests he could take to climb up the corporate ladder.

Aaron Trevor Brandeis: There kind of was like a company-wide directive that you had to pass

what they called a Series 6 exam, which it's a regulatory thing.

Okay.

And a lot of people had problems passing that exam.

And I think a lot of people were in a different place than I were.

They were parents, et cetera, and they just didn't have time to deal with it.

I was able to pass it pretty easy.

And so I said, wait a minute, I'm going to go get this Series 7.

Listening to Craig Finn talk about all this, I have a moment that feels like genuine disassociation.

This person who I admire so much, his ability to tell stories, his ability to make music that has sustained me as a human.

He's talking about his LinkedIn corporate accomplishments with such straightforward, normal pride.

It feels like we've slipped and fallen into some other multiverse where I'm now a hiring manager trying to figure out if Craig Finn would be a good fit synergy-wise for my team.

Series 7 allows you to trade stocks and bonds.

So I went and studied for that.

And then I got Series 24, which for every amount of Series 7s you have, you need a Series 24 to kind of sign off on their transactions.

So I

saw this exam taking as a way to kind of

make myself indispensable.

Yeah.

And through that, I moved up to a wealth management area.

And so you're not,

when you would go into work at your day job, was it like, it sounds like it felt fine.

Like, it doesn't sound like it was like a life of quiet desperation.

It was like an insurance policy that was supporting.

Yeah, it was exactly that.

And it allowed for some stability.

I mean,

you know, my bandmates largely were doing more like,

you know, freelance stuff.

They were like catering and things like that.

And that was, felt more stressful to me than getting a paycheck every two weeks.

So just to remind you of the question I'd actually come here to answer, I'd wanted to know if Craig Finn liked his job as an indie rock star.

It had never occurred to me to ask the much stranger question of, before he was an indie rock musician, did Craig Finn like his job working at American Express?

But he had.

He liked it fine.

So the first thing that surprised me is that Craig Finn, like pretty much every person I've ever met, was better adjusted in his 20s than I was.

When he looked at his life then, What he saw was a steady paycheck that let him focus on his real passion, Lifter Puller, a band that was becoming Minneapolis famous.

One day he got a call from a guy above him on the Amex corporate ladder.

There was a guy who called down and said, hey, do you follow local music at all?

And I was like, yeah, a bit.

And he goes, there's a band called Lifter Polar, and their singer has the same name as you.

And he said, he didn't think for one second it could be me.

Stuff like that would happen, and it was cool.

But Lifter Polar struggled to break out beyond the local scene.

And pretty soon, the band realized they'd probably gone as far as they were going to go.

Lifter Polar breaks up, and Craig Finn goes from being Craig Finn from Lifter Polar to just Craig Finn, ordinary person.

He moves to New York.

He gets a new day job doing the thing he said he wouldn't do, working on the business side of the music industry.

He joins this tech startup.

They were trying to stream concerts online in grainy, early millennium quality internet video.

It was 2000.

It was kind of his first internet boom, you know, and it was kind of that time where there was a lot of internet companies and there was like, you know, no one knew how they were going to make money, but you like ate cereal and sat in beanbag chairs.

So I knew a lot of people that were doing gigs like that.

And I moved on a Friday and I started on a Monday and I didn't have the job when I moved.

He was 29 years old.

He'd made peace with the idea that professional musician had just been a fun, youthful dream.

Was he miserable?

No, of course not.

He was fine.

A couple years passed.

He told himself he'd still write songs just for himself, just for fun.

In fact, the story he started to tell himself was that maybe part of the problem with Lifter Polar, his final artistic endeavor, had just been that the fun of making music had been kind of ruined by ambition.

So he and a few friends decide to start a new band with the explicit goal of not being successful, not taking off.

Because he knows now that success, or the desire to have success, can be a kind of poison.

So they make some ground rules.

I mean, it was comical what we were talking about.

One was that we weren't going to play any shows.

You didn't want to.

Why?

Because I surmised, perhaps correctly, that when you move the gear, that's when the trouble starts.

Wait, what does that mean?

Like once you get like, I mean, I think it was like, okay, so you know, like in the lifter puller, you go out and you like.

You want to be in a rock band, but you know, you start out your rock band and you end up learning a lot about your van because it breaks down a lot, you know, and like suddenly like all your time is like auto repairs, you know.

And I'm like, well, this wasn't exactly what I imagined it.

Once you get like, move the gear and get it in a van and go play a show, then that's when the fighting starts.

Between the band.

Yeah.

So I was like, well, if we just like drank beer on Tuesday nights and played, wouldn't that be like the most fun part of it?

And then, you know, no pressure.

But of course, that wasn't going to work.

So the second someone asked us to play a show, we're like, okay, yeah, you know.

This show,

not a show exactly.

This invitation for the least ambitious band in Brooklyn went thusly.

Some guy had a comedy troupe.

It's called Mr.

Ass.

Mr.

Ass?

Yeah.

And they were doing this thing at Arlene Grocery and they're like, do you want to do like bumper music?

Like get a band together, do like bumper music.

It'll be like, you know, when we're changing sets, you'll play like back and black.

No singing.

So I was like, yeah, that sounds fun.

That's something to do.

So we go and do that.

And are they doing like improv sketch?

Yeah, yeah.

So they're doing improv, a scene ends, and then you guys will play like...

Yeah, and then they like, you know.

So we did that twice.

And the second time they're like, hey, do you guys have any songs you could just warm up the crowd, play a song?

And I showed the guys Knuckles, which ends up being the first hold steady song we ever had.

I've been trying to get people to call me Freddy Knuckles.

People keep calling me Ride Set Fred.

And it's hard to keep trying when half your friends are dying.

It's hard to hold it steady when half your friends are dead already.

And

so we played that.

And that was, I guess, the first Hold Steady show.

But then after two of those, we were like, yeah, you know what was the most fun part about that is when we played our own song.

Remember, they weren't going to be ambitious.

They weren't going to turn this into a real thing.

The trouble starts when you move the gear.

But

they were having fun.

So they figured maybe they should just take the songs they were playing and record them they made a demo they kind of liked it they made another they realized oh you could sort of put these together it'd almost be like an album we just combined them and called it a record but it was really started with demos and it did it feel as easy like you're describing it as like

not accidental but just breezy

i think

i knew

that there was a power in

keeping it light or something, you know, or keeping it, you know,

if you take whatever the opposite of desperation is,

I think people really react to that.

And so we were kind of like, whatever, you know, we'll, I mean, that was always my thing about how the whole study was going to operate, at least at the beginning.

I was like, every time we have 10 songs, we'll call it an album, you know, like, and that way you're not like recording 25 songs and being like, which are the best?

And how do we perfectly sequence them?

And how do we make our masterpiece?

Like, no, you know, we got 10 songs.

Want to hear them?

It's so, it's so, there's like a part of my brain that refuses to accept the story because I think that I, in my mind,

things that succeed are the product of like worry and desperation and painfulness and like fussing.

And like,

it's so,

it, it feels like you're praying to a different God than me.

Well, we were, we were, I mean, we were the antithesis of something, you know, like a lot of the music that was happening there was really syncopated and pretty pretty tight.

And we were kind of this big sloppy bar rock band.

And I think people were kind of like weirdly refreshed by it.

And it took pressure off in a way that like,

i don't know maybe at that point in my life i just didn't need pressure on the art

when i was in my 20s i was unhappy in a challenging job and so i fell in love with this band called the hold study because they seemed like they were having fun at work and i needed that to be true what i didn't know then was that it was true but it hadn't happened by accident the singer it turned out had already learned a lesson that was about a decade away from me.

The lesson was this.

The desire to succeed can give you what you want while at the same time removing your ability to enjoy it.

And there's a secret power sometimes in just not trying so hard.

In the early 2000s, as the band began to play shows, Craig Finn remained disciplined.

He told anybody who'd listened, the old study was a bar band.

A bar band, like the ones you see in your hometown that play journey covers and never hit the high notes.

They were a bar band and nothing more.

But the problem is the universe universe has a sense of humor.

And so the band that was built to not succeed,

obviously they started to.

So with the whole study, I thought we just like

play these shows around town and we do this bar rock.

But eventually the bars started filling up, you know?

And the thing is, is when you're in New York,

The press is inherently national, you know, like in Minneapolis, you were hoping for like the, you know, I mentioned the local weekly.

Yeah.

But then all of a sudden it's in Rolling Stone, and then, you know,

booking agents want to talk, labels want to talk.

And then

I remember we decided to make our second record, and the Village Voice did an article on it.

And then we got word that they're putting us on the cover.

And it was the first time a band had been on the cover in a long time, a decade or something.

And

like, that was really experienced as a turning point.

Felt like that's kind of when we, all of a sudden, things kicked into overdrive and we became the whole Steady is like a real band.

After the break, the Hold Steady becomes a real band and a real job.

20 years of a real job.

How do you stay happy when you get the thing you want?

When you find yourself in a situation that you're really not allowed to complain about.

That punk with the mustache who brought us our breakfast never came back with a chip.

On our third day of driving, with no expectations, except some vague sounds to the west.

On the saddle of our arms in the air,

amazed by the size of the sky.

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I've thought about Craig Finn and his happiness since I was 23 years old.

And when I finally decided to interview him almost 15 years later, it was this March.

It was the same time I was trying to figure out this show, the show you're listening to now.

It's a funny feeling to be starting again.

I made a podcast before.

It was successful.

The success didn't feel the way I imagined it would.

Getting what I thought I wanted didn't give me the feeling I told myself it would.

It was like instead of crossing a finish line, the race just kept going.

One problem was just that I had a very disorganized kind of ambition.

Like if we did a great story and people liked it, somehow immediately that great story became competition that I felt like we had to outdo and quickly.

And it was a little embarrassing, absurd even, to have found a dream job for myself and then to notice that I was just experiencing it as pressure, not really enjoying it very much.

So I just didn't think about it.

I figured probably more success or external validation would solve these problems.

Didn't work out that way.

So starting this show, I was thinking a lot about that experience and very desperate not to recreate it.

When I emailed Craig Finn, I initially thought that what I was doing was kind of weird, asking him a question that belonged to a younger version of me.

Does anyone like their job?

Obviously, I now know that some people like their jobs.

I have liked my job.

But the more we talked, I realized, oh no, my real question was actually a different, more pressing one.

I wanted to know how ambitious people find a way to be happy.

Like, how do you succeed without making your own misery part of the machinery of that success?

Craig Finn is now 20 years into his job as frontman of the whole study.

He says the job is fun, but that it's the kind of fun where the good parts of the job are obvious to everyone, and the harder parts of the job, those happen a bit offstage.

There is a business aspect to the band as well as a

musical performance.

And, you know, that part can be hard.

And what does it look like when it's hard?

Well, I mean, just standard money stuff.

You know, I mean, like, here's an example.

You book a show.

It's in another state and you make a budget.

And when you go to book the flights, they're 30%

more than what you budgeted for.

Yeah.

And you're like, oh, we aren't going to make very much money on this show.

You know, and that's, that's like a very sober 1 p.m.

conversation, you know?

But it's pretty easy for me anyways to have that conversation and be a little disappointed at 1 p.m.

And then at 9 p.m., when it's time to get on stage, to turn up the amp and be like, well, this is great.

This part's great.

Kind of still kind of bummed in the back of my mind about the 30%

over budget on the flights.

But

like, I can forget about that easily for the next two hours.

Sometimes, again, it's not ticket sales, it's the expenses, you know, or,

you know, there's a lot of business stuff that, that is kind of boring, but it is part of being in the band, you know, and especially for me as someone who gets involved in that.

And do you, do you have times in your life where you think about like the alternate version of your life where you had stayed in a more like job job?

Yeah, I do because, you know, I turned 50.

I'm 51 now, but, you know, like when I get together with friends from college, I mean, like

whole study has allowed me to do amazing things, but I'm certainly not anywhere near wealthy.

And it's probably another path would have led me to more wealth or more stability or something.

And so, yeah,

when you're getting together with a guy's at 51 and your friend's talking about sending this kid off to college and then they're going to go down to their beach house and you're like, well, oh, that's that's there's a part of me that says that sounds nice.

I understand I didn't pursue that.

Yeah.

You know, but there is a part that's like, wow, that does sound nice.

Are those like, and those are people who followed like more of like the Amex path?

Yeah.

Yeah.

Some sort of traditional path.

Yeah.

It's funny.

There's probably so many more people on the other side of it, people who pursued more like safety and convenience who are sort of like, have like the faint ghost of like, what if?

Well, there's this funny thing that

I was thinking of on the way over here because I, you know, I knew what we were going to talk about a little bit.

And every once in a while, I'd say like 10 times in my career, I've I've been cornered by this guy, not a different guy each time, but a type of guy who really has like these pointed questions about like what you have.

And you get the feeling that he's trying to figure out, like, trying to make himself feel better.

You know, like,

what do you mean?

Well, like, you know, so, so, like, how much money, how much money you guys make?

You know, like, and it's like, wow, I'm not telling you,

I just met you, you know?

And yeah, so when'd you quit your job?

Like, they really want to know like how this all works.

And you get the feeling that it's like, maybe

they're trying to justify their own last 30 years or something, you know?

Interesting.

Like, if they knew how much you made and they knew they made more, then if they knew exactly how poor you were, they could feel better about themselves.

That's such a brutal conversation.

I know.

And it's really, it's like, dude, I, I'm, I'm getting away from you.

But like, there's, there's a type of guy.

And let's be honest, it's always a guy.

Yeah.

Um, that, that will really press for that.

this guy who has finagled his way backstage in order to harass a musician about how much money he has very badly behaved we can all agree

but

also

how different is he from me really the question he's asking about money is obnoxious it's kind of rude but underneath that question are other questions that I can't help but recognize.

Am I doing any of this right?

Are you happy?

Why aren't I happy?

I was told if I did everything right, I'd be happy.

What happened?

We only get to be here once, which is such a short time to learn anything at all.

We're given these very confusing lives.

It's normal to look at other people for clues, to wonder if maybe they've figured something out.

So you believe

you believe that it is possible to like your job.

I absolutely do.

I think that the hang-ups really come, I don't want to say from ambition, because I think ambition is healthy, but from this kind of envy or coveting.

And I think that it's very easy to like, no matter who you are and what you do, it's very easy for the goalpost to move to be like, okay, well, like, oh, that band's selling out this room and we only sold out this room.

It's like, you sold out.

Like, there's like a thousand people here.

Yeah.

And they're really, they're all singing the words.

So it's, I think it's important to kind of train yourself not to look it for that, you know, like other shiny object.

I mean, it's like

things come and go.

But I mean, it is also a very natural human instinct to be like, I want more.

So I do think you have to kind of remind yourself

to be grateful and be present in that moment.

Every morning we burn the bread,

walk it down to the water's edge,

See the seagulls eat cigarettes

Check your breath in a spoon

All your stuff in the storage shed

Twisted sheets on the trumbo bed

And the antipsychosis meds

Made you feel on maroons

Last summer at the shore when I was warning.

Craig Finn, lead singer of The Hold Steady.

He says he's happy.

I think I believe him.

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Oh, yeah.

One more thing.

Is there anything that you have a question about, any topic at all that you would like me to look into?

Yeah.

Oh, all right.

So my question on this is, um,

this seems like somewhat,

it's very anecdotal.

But when I was growing up,

it was considered kind of common knowledge that the first time you smoked weed, it didn't work.

I remember this.

And

I

always wondered if there's anything to that or if it's just the first time you smoked weed, you most likely got a hold of bad weed.

Right.

Right.

Because I remember first time I smoked weed, I was like 12 or 13, this guy Ned, and we smoked out of a filming canaster.

And he told me, he's like, you're not going to get high the first time.

And I didn't get high.

And then it was the second time.

And the other thought I had was like, maybe I'm just doing this wrong.

Like, I didn't smoke cigarettes.

So right.

Well, that was always the thing.

But

it also felt like the way they were explaining it, that you were kind of like, you're putting in the experience.

You were making a deposit at the bank.

And it was only the second time or the third time that it was going to pay off.

Did you, the first time you smoked weed, did you get high?

No.

Interesting.

But I don't think it was the first few times.

Yeah.

And, you know, every once in a while you'd be like, some guy would be like, I got high for the first time.

And you kind of wouldn't believe him.

Yes.

You know?

So I'm wondering, now that we have all this legalization, I'm wondering if there's any science to this or any answer.

That's a really good question.

Thank you.

Yeah, thank you.

Well, I hope we get an answer.

We'll see what we can do.

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