Ben Reacts To Woke TikTok's: Bad Marriage Advice

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Stephen, repeat after me. With this ring, I the wed.
With this ring,

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Alrighty, folks. So we are now aware of TikToks that are talking about marriage.
And this can't be good. And so my producers have delved in and brought me the worst of the worst for me critique.

I am not shitting on marriage. I am not shitting on anyone who has figured out how to make that thing work for them.
Again, everything's not for everybody. Monogamy is for you.
It's not for me.

I realize this. I know this now.
And it's like a weight lifted off my shoulders.

I realize I spent so much time lying. and trying to be somebody that I wasn't for the sake of somebody else.

Complete and utter time wasted when I could have just been exactly who I am, said exactly what I want, exactly how I'm rocking, exactly how I'm not, and then waited for those people to gravitate to me.

Yes, I mean, the worst thing in the world would be for you to, you know, put your desires aside on behalf of another person.

That would be just terrible to become a better person on behalf of another person. You know, that would have been just absolutely awful.
By the way, I mean, interesting jewelry choices, dude.

And that's a hat. That's a hat.
I mean, like Kevin Costner in Yellowstone or Nayo talking about polygamy. Who knows?

He's not crapping on monogamy. He's just saying that there's nothing wrong with being a complete piece of crap who sleeps with multiple women at the same time.

You know, when it comes to him being terrible, yes. Also, what's up with the wives? What's wrong with you?

Can we put a spotlight on the women who agree to demean themselves this way? I know the TikTok shiks are going to come from my neck, but...

I don't really believe in marriage. Not in modern day, at least, because I would say that the majority of the time it doesn't work out.

And even when it doesn't end in divorce, it ends in absolutely hating and resenting each other towards the end of life. And the reality is that in most marriages, women get the short end of the stick.

Like women are the ones who have to sacrifice their careers, their health, their well-being to take care of their husband and the children.

And in modern days, a lot of women are still working at the same time as doing all of that other stuff that has always been an obligation for women. I'm not sure.

By the way, if you want to talk about the matrix and indoctrination, the indoctrination of women into the belief that marriage is a patriarchal institution for the betterment of men and for the vicious harm of women is one of the stupidest things ever conceived.

Truly one of the dumbest things ever. What marriage does is it forces a man to trade his polyamorous instinct in favor of a commitment to build and defend.

That's a pretty major sacrifice by men because women are instinctively not built the same way. Biologically speaking, this is just rote biology, rote evolutionary biology.

Men are programmed to have sex with many, many different partners. Women are programmed to have sex with fewer partners because, of course, women bear children.

And that means they have to be a little bit more careful, historically speaking, until the birth control bill, about whom they chose to mate with.

And so, what tied a man down to the woman such that he would actually defend his offspring and protect her?

What would actually do that? That was what the marriage deal was.

That's what it was. So, it is a series of commitments made by both parties.

But the idea that women are happier if they're single, like I'm just waiting for any data, like one shred of data that demonstrates this is the case. Because that is not what the data show at all.

What comes with polygamy from what you've seen?

The responsibility that comes with polygamy, right, is being the caretaker of two, three households, having to manage three women's, multiple women's finances,

lifestyle,

children. That's a lot of responsibility that I don't think when men talk about polygamy today or any type of poly, they're just thinking about their sexual pleasure.

And I don't think that people really understand the whole concept. Like it's deeper than that.
You got to be well off to even subscribe to that lifestyle for it to make sense for you, at least.

Got to be well off. It's a rich man's sport.
Yeah, a powerful man's sport for sure.

This sort of very, shall we call it a traditionalist view of polygamy, in which you are the head of a household and you have multiple wives and they all live on your farm together.

I'm going to say that that's not what most people are doing when they engage in quote-unquote polygamy. Because it's illegal and you will go to jail.

At some point, isn't it important for children to know that their father and their mother are the partners in their life and that there are no other partners who are sort of like hanging on to the side?

You're going to be our side piece.

Polygamy is not good, people. It does not work.

historically speaking polygamy is tribally based polygamy is interpersonally vicious it does not tend to work out particularly well i mean when you read the bible it's funny people are always like oh there's polygamy in the bible yeah and it works out horribly

hey read the book of genesis every polygamous situation works out horribly in the book of genesis like literally all of them marriage is a matrix programming you don't own your partner the way we have known marriage is a damn matrix programming many people think that marriage equals ownership of someone and this is exactly why most of humanity suffers this is why we have so much toxicity in relationships because majority of people live under illusions the illusion of control the illusion of possession the illusion that people belong to us so let me break it down to you you don't own anybody not your partner not your kids not your friends not even your husband or wife every soul belongs to itself nobody is your possession and nobody is meant to control you either that's matrix programming that's patriarchal bullshit you don't own and you're under an illusion.

Now, two people can choose to be in a relationship. Beautiful.
If it's coming from integrity, love, harmony, amazing.

But the second that you think you possess them, you're asleep and under the illusion of the matrix. And this is why marriage, the way it's been designed, is part of the matrix because it doesn't

own you now. And people confuse that with love.
But true love is not possession. Love is freedom.
Okay, love is commitment. That's what love is.

This idea that love is freedom. Well, no, because because then you are free to do whatever it is that you want to do at the expense of the other person.

When we talk about ownership, okay, it is mutual ownership. That is the idea of marriage.
That's why there is a contract

in which the parties owe obligations to one another. I know that we want to remove this to sort of the romantic love angle, but the reality is that marriage historically was a contract.

It was a contract between two parties who are mutually agreeing to form a relationship with one another in which they, yes, had obligations to one another.

Because again, love and duty are alliance on one another. There can be no love without duty, nor should there be duty without love, presumably.
These are the same thing.

This is why probably the best song about love ever written is actually from the musical Fiddler on the Roof, where Golda and Tevia, they have not really discussed marriage in terms of love because for the vast majority of human history, by the way, people really didn't think in these terms about marriage.

And it's a beautiful song because Golda and Tevia are singing to one another.

And Golda finally comes to the conclusion that if you live with someone someone for 25 years, have children with them, make house for them, build a life with them, then yeah, that's what love is called.

That seems to me a much better version of love than whatever pop song is spilling into your ear. Okay.

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As my polyamorous husband and I say to each other the monogamous couples wouldn't understand. Part one.

My husband's away on a work trip, and today I casually mentioned that no one on my roster is in town either.

Literally responded with, I'm sorry your lovers aren't home, and then of course said, poly people problems. While some couples are out here arguing over who liked their Instagram photo.

Polymerie has taught me anything. It is truly that I can say and do and be anything I want to be with my husband and he loves me anyway.

Not only is he sad that he's gone, but he's also worried that my lovers are gone. So one of the things that you find in all of these videos is that no one ever discusses kids.

It's all about the sexual pleasure that you and your partner are having with multiple other partners and all the rest of it.

So the question is why you bother having a relationship with that person at all, really? The purpose, again, of marriage is to build a household together.

That is the actual purpose of the thing, which is deeper than just whatever sexual relations you're having with your various lovers on the side.

By the way, I'm going to go with the time arc on this relationship is not going to be particularly long. Because if you're 60 and you're still doing this,

I have doubts. Let me put it that way: serious, serious doubts.
I just really, I really wish women would stop getting married.

And there's always a conversation that's being had around like SW and how, like, SW sets women back and how it feeds into the patriarchy.

And just because a woman chooses to participate in it doesn't mean that it's not still harmful and doesn't mean that it's empowering. And that's a whole nother conversation.

But if we're going to say that about SW, I think this is my little opinion that's probably going to make you mad. But I feel like the same can be said for marriage.

Marriage is an antiquated idea that I believe oppresses women and inrefutably, unrefutably has a history and an origination in the oppression of women. No.

No.

We are trying to continue to get something to work that is so

like so flawed from its inception, and it's not going to work. Since you did not know the word irrefutably, then I'm probably going to take a risk.
What is SW producers? Clue me in.

Yeah, SW, sex workers. Well, we're using acronyms now.

I had no idea what that was. Okay, so saying sex workers is bad for society, which is true.
Sex work is bad for society. It makes men worse.
It demeans women. It devalues sex.

It devalues relationships. It is bad.
Comparing that to marriage is insane. Meanwhile, the sort of ahistorical notion that marriage is purely a cram down on women.
It's a way to harm women.

That is just wrong. It's not true.
It's a way to preserve and protect women. That is what marriage was for.

I know that we now live in a modern society in which women feel incredibly safe, which is great. That's wonderful.
I'm glad that we built this civilization. That is a wonderful thing.

But historically speaking, and in many parts of the earth right now, women, particularly single women on their own, are not safe. And especially single women with kids are not safe.

And their kids are not safe. And what marriage does is it clues everyone into the actual higher value.
That is what marriage does. It is a protective mechanism for women.

It's insane to pretend that it's anything else these are four reasons why you should reconsider marriage let's get it one look at the numbers bro your family and friends the up-to-date divorce rate in america is 56 with 80 being filed by women and you know

so first of all that is not true 56 of people getting married do not get divorced and 56 of marriages do not end in divorce so he's looking at old stats number two When you look at divorce stats, you have to look at how many people who are getting married get divorced, not how many marriages end in divorce, because people get divorced multiple times.

Let's say I get married once, married my whole life to my wife, with the help of God. Like that, that's the, that's the plan.
Okay, let's say that somebody else gets married five times.

What that means is that five out of six marriages end in divorce. Okay, but actually they're only like me and this other dude.
So that means that actually only one of us is screwing up marriage.

So those stats tend to be a little skewed. 10 to 15% of couples, right? They stay married unhappily just to keep the family afloat.
You know, it's cheaper to keep her, you know? I have a question.

Why is that the biggest problem in the world? Seriously,

this notion that all of life is about your temporary joy as opposed to building things that actually matter is poison. It's absolute poison.

If you have kids and you're unhappy in your marriage, but if your marriage with your partner makes sure that your kids have a stable home, you should stay with your partner. You should.

Barring physical abuse, barring some sort of tremendously exigent circumstance, you have kids now.

And kind of this, the selfish notion that the main goal in life is to find your personal pleasure or happiness. That's actually where true lifelong unhappiness stems from.

Sometimes sacrifice on behalf of a more important good is where happiness comes from. Business owners, six figures, millions, right?

A lot of y'all meet y'all wives after y'all success was already made, right? So guess what? When she divorced your ass, right? Because look at the stats, right?

When she divorced your ass, she's walking away with half of your assets and money just for having a meow between her legs and looking pretty. She didn't work for this.

So if she wants to watch you shooting in the gym before your success, don't marry her. All that can be solved with a prenuptial prenuptial agreement.

I mean, that sort of stuff is a real concern for presumably people who bring a lot of assets to marriage. You can have a prenup.
Okay, that does exist. Most likely in the first three years, right?

The sex is still good. You know, she's doing things for you, things of that nature, right? But guess what? When you're falling, it feels like you're flying into reality hits.

All that shit slows down eventually in most cases. Again, look at the stats.
I ain't just making up numbers. Man lie, woman lie, numbers don't.

There is truth to the idea that early relationships do not totally resemble later relationships. That, of course, is true.

If you're lucky, and thank God I'm lucky this way, then you still have a wonderful sex life.

And that's true for, I think, most married couples, actually. The statistics show that married couples are more sexually satisfied than single people by far.
It is not close.

But if what you're saying is that the beginning of a relationship does not resemble a relationship 20 years in, of course, that's true.

That doesn't mean that the relationship 20 years in is somehow deficient or bad.

It means that it has changed and deepened and broadened and become actually a profound part of your life in a way that it was like I married my wife when I was 24 24 and she was 20.

We didn't know each other nearly the way that we know each other after almost 20 years of marriage and four kids. And I love her a lot more now than I did then because I know all of the situations.

I know all the sacrifices we've gone through. I know all the things we've built together.
I know our kids.

Would I sacrifice all of that because I want the feeling that you have like the first time you hold hands? No, that's silly.

Not almost every married man I know that been married for 10 plus years, they always tell me, don't do it, bro.

You know, it's openly with a little smirk, a little laugh, but let me tell you something, bro. Every joke has the truth behind it.
Like a hating mother f ⁇ , right? Come on, bro.

Y'all got to tighten the f ⁇ up and think with your f ⁇ ing brain. You know, the head up here and not the head down there.
Okay, anecdotal evidence is not good evidence.

And also, why don't you go talk to single men and see how happy they are? Are they really, really happy? I mean, that ain't what the stats show.

We've talked a lot about single women in this particular video. Single men are not happy.
Their stats are awful. They have higher rates of suicidality.
They have higher rates of poverty.

They have higher rates. of drug and alcohol abuse.
They have higher rates of loneliness.

It's as though we exist in a vacuum in which if marriage is not perfect, the alternative is the perfection of single dumb. And that isn't true.
The alternative is loneliness.

The alternative for a huge majority of people is a sense of meaninglessness. Like, yes, you were built to need another human.
That is true. And that's not a bad thing.
It's a good thing.

Alrighty, so as always, don't listen to TikTok when it comes to your life advice because the people on TikTok are idiots. And you know that because they're posting on TikTok generally.

Unless it's this TikTok.

be getting mad.

Go into the chapel.