The Body Trauma Expert: Medicating Kids Can Harm Brain Development! Eye Movement Trick That Fixes Trauma! The Secret To EMDR Therapy! - Bessel van Der Kolk

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Speaker 2 I've proven how helpful EMDR can be for PGST and depression. Why and how? Well, trauma is a reliving, and whatever you're feeling is real, as opposed to feeling like a memory.

Speaker 2 But in our research, we discovered that if you move your eyes back and forth, as you recall a traumatic experience, your brain is able to say, This is what happened to me in the past.

Speaker 2 And 78% of the people we studied who had adult music trauma were completely injured. Can you do it on me? I could.

Speaker 2 What do you see? Basil van der Kolk has been described as maybe the most influential psychiatrist of the 21st century.

Speaker 4 And for over 40 years, his clinical research has revolutionized how we understand trauma and its impact on our brain and body.

Speaker 2 Your early childhood experiences create who you are. And how many of the people that you treated in your practice have childhood trauma? About 90%.
And it's very difficult to change.

Speaker 2 Are they changeable? Yes, that is the great news. But the problem is the focus is not on helping people.
The focus is on funding successful financial organizations.

Speaker 2 And even though I was the first person who studied yoga for PTSD, which was very effective. And then there's psychotraum and neurofeedback.
Weird, our results were stunning. People are so conformist.

Speaker 2 We already know the answers. Let's not explore anything new.
But let's do the science and see how well it works and for home. And what about psychedelic therapy? It's very effective.

Speaker 2 Have you ever done a psychedelic drug? Yeah, of course. What did you learn? That my quest for understanding trauma had to do with my own childhood trauma.
All the pain, the suffering.

Speaker 2 Earlier on, I asked if people could heal from their trauma. Have you healed from yours?

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Speaker 2 Dr. Bessel Vanderkog.

Speaker 2 You've been described as maybe the most influential psychiatrist of the 21st century by the Financial Times.

Speaker 2 What is the mission you've spent your life pursuing?

Speaker 2 I have been interested in how people survive extreme situations,

Speaker 2 how people can

Speaker 2 overcome the history of people doing terrible things to each other,

Speaker 2 and how we can create a better world in that regard actually.

Speaker 2 So the mission has been rather social, but the investigation has been very much based on what we're learning about brain science, what we're learning about psychological functioning, et cetera, et cetera.

Speaker 2 And this word trauma seems to be central to your work.

Speaker 2 And when I looked before this conversation at the rise in the use of this word online and people searching this word, it's pretty staggering what I found.

Speaker 2 There's this graph that shows a huge jump in people using the word trauma. What is your view on the subject matter of trauma, specifically how we've misunderstood what it is?

Speaker 2 Well, there has been an evolution, which is quite striking. And

Speaker 2 when I first started to study trauma, I was on the research floor at Harvard.

Speaker 2 And my colleagues said, why are you studying trauma? Basil,

Speaker 2 when you croak, nobody will ever talk about trauma again. Like, it is a completely alien subject.

Speaker 2 um

Speaker 2 and now everybody talks everything is a trauma and so from being non-existent has become a total explanatory mode and so we have gone as we always do from one extreme to the other and my primary interest these days is not so much into trauma trauma started it

Speaker 2 but somewhere along the line i got to realize that trauma is to a large degree a breakdown of connection between human beings and synchronicity between other human beings.

Speaker 2 And these days I'm much more focused on how we can help people establish a relationship to themselves and to the people around them.

Speaker 2 When people are suffering from some kind of psychological disorder, whether it's depression, anxiety,

Speaker 2 PTSD,

Speaker 2 What is it that you disagree with with the traditional view of how to treat them?

Speaker 2 People are being taught methods that they say can cure people in eight sessions, which they can't.

Speaker 2 And so there still is what people learn in school these days, although no good clinician I know actually practices that, is to help people thinking out, to straighten out people's thinking and to make them not think these crazy thoughts.

Speaker 2 And

Speaker 2 there really is no evidence that we can do that. Is that cognitive behavioral therapy? Yeah, yeah, cognitive restructuring sort of thing.

Speaker 2 Or that you can get people better by blasting them with trauma and then before long they get desensitized to your trauma. And I think both of these methods are just, they don't get it.

Speaker 2 That completely doesn't get the issue at hand, actually.

Speaker 2 Why? I cannot talk you into being a reasonable person. People are not reasonable people.
And trauma is as unreasonable as you can be.

Speaker 2 That's really at the core of, if you understand trauma, is that your brain and perceptual system gets rewired. So you see things

Speaker 2 almost entirely through the past experience rather than current experience.

Speaker 2 Okay, so if I'm traumatized,

Speaker 2 talking about my trauma doesn't necessarily fix my trauma.

Speaker 2 Trauma is a speechless experience. So we did the first neuroimaging study about people reliving their trauma and we saw that the entire cognitive part of their brain disappears.

Speaker 2 That when you're in your trauma, you're just one ball of emotion and there's no thinking. So you're confused, you're befuddled.
It is,

Speaker 2 as Shakespeare says, you suffer from speechless terror. You become dumbfounded.
So the whole traumatic experience is just beyond belief. And so you stay in a state of confusion and agitation.

Speaker 2 And then finding language for yourself at this point is terribly important to help you to begin to organize your relationship to yourself.

Speaker 2 It's not enough, but it's but language and defining your inner experience is terribly important. The word trauma, as you say, has been thrown around a lot.

Speaker 2 And it's become a bit of a cultural joke to some people. When you say, you know, something happens to you, you go, oh, I feel triggered,

Speaker 2 I'm traumatized, etc. What actually does count as trauma? Trauma really is an overwhelming experience of, oh my God,

Speaker 2 when

Speaker 2 something happens and you're completely helpless and there's nothing in you that knows how to deal with it. People talk a lot about small T trauma and big T trauma.
I'm not a fan of that. Okay,

Speaker 2 so explain why not.

Speaker 2 Well,

Speaker 2 you need to be more accurate.

Speaker 2 But the small T trauma is a very real trauma when your environment around you doesn't acknowledge your existence.

Speaker 2 Most people, for example, after natural disasters, do very well because people get together after natural disasters.

Speaker 2 I've seen it where we have a cabin in northern Vermont, we have had terrible floods. The neighbors get together, they help each other, and you get a sense of cohesion actually and a sense of meaning.

Speaker 2 We're doing this together. The small T-traumas have to do with

Speaker 2 not acknowledging that what's going on with you,

Speaker 2 saying to kids,

Speaker 2 stop crying, I'll give you something to cry about. No, you don't matter.

Speaker 2 No, actually, your dad is a drunk because you are such a difficult kid that your father was doing okay until you came into the family and you busted were too much for him and you caused him to be the person that he is.

Speaker 2 I think that people mean

Speaker 2 small T trauma. It's a relational trauma, which is a very big deal for most of the people I get to see in my practice.

Speaker 2 Most people come in not because of big T traumas, It is because nobody saw me. Nobody heard me.

Speaker 2 I was irrelevant.

Speaker 2 We always had to take care of my mom or my dad, but there was no room for us.

Speaker 2 So if you get fired from your job and it's a traumatic event

Speaker 2 for you because you get, I don't know, you get...

Speaker 2 You lose your friends, you lose the job, your parents are embarrassed about you. Can that become trauma, something like that? Yes, you could, depending on how you define it.

Speaker 2 And for some people, it doesn't, for some people, it doesn't.

Speaker 2 It depends again on the context.

Speaker 2 For some people, you get fired. You go like, well, I didn't like those assholes anyway.

Speaker 2 I asked this because I'm wondering if there's a lot of people listening now that...

Speaker 2 I'm trying to understand if their small experience, which other people think is trivial, actually could have resulted in some kind of deeper trauma response. Absolutely.

Speaker 2 At the end, the issue is the perception.

Speaker 2 Your perception. Your perception.
The issue is not the event itself. You and I may have had the same event happening.

Speaker 2 And for me, it reminds me about my brother torturing me, or it reminds me about my mom being sick and not paying attention to me or whatever. And for me, it becomes a very big deal.

Speaker 2 And for you, it goes like, yeah, you know, but I have so many talents. Why not try something else?

Speaker 2 And can you give me an overview of the work you've done in your life that have fed into all of the knowledge and information that you have?

Speaker 2 Just for anyone that might not know who you are, what is that sort of body of work?

Speaker 2 I had a very good psychiatric training

Speaker 2 in one of the Harvard hospitals. And then

Speaker 2 I went to the last state mental hospital in Boston, which is also interesting.

Speaker 2 It was a sanctuary for very disturbed people. And so that institution gets closed.
I go work at the Veterans Administration Hospital.

Speaker 2 I met these guys who were people who I looked up to. They were good athletes, competent people, helicopter pilots, all my age.
And these guys had broken apart. And they had fallen apart.
I go. Oh.

Speaker 2 And they reminded me of some of my relatives who I grew up with, who also had been concentration camp survivors and Japanese camp survivors. And then I learned much else after that.

Speaker 2 But that really opened up my eyes to that

Speaker 2 people can be broken by life experiences. And that really intrigued me tremendously.

Speaker 2 This is central to your story, is this early experience. You said earlier that you were born in 1943.
1943. Very important.
When you're born has a huge influx on who you become. So my earliest imprint

Speaker 2 is of my father at some point was detained by the Germans. He was not in concentration camp, but he was supposed to go off there.

Speaker 2 My mom is by herself, raising small kids in hiding, right next to the place where the Nazis are launching their rockets to go to London. So half of the rockets fell into our backyard.

Speaker 2 And I have no conscious imprint of that, but I grew up like a kid growing up in Ukraine today.

Speaker 2 And

Speaker 2 a lot of kids my age died. I was a very sexy child.
It was a lot of hunger and misery. Half my generation died of starvation.

Speaker 2 And so I grew up with an incredible pre-conscious imprint of what kids in Ukraine and Gaza are going through right now.

Speaker 2 And that must have left a trace in my curiosity and my being, including a trace of having a body that was very sickly. You were born in 1943 in Nazi-occupied

Speaker 2 Netherlands. Netherlands.
Okay. And you're the middle children of five.
That's right. You were very sick as a child.
Yep.

Speaker 2 What were your parents like in terms of love, affection, all those kinds of things?

Speaker 2 My mother was more or less broken by the pandemic of nineteen nineteen in which her father developed um Parkinsonism and became one of those Oliver Sachs type people.

Speaker 2 So my mother was a very frozen person,

Speaker 2 which had a very impact on me. Uh my father was very conscientious, loving.

Speaker 2 You described your mother as being a frozen person. yeah and it had an impact on you yeah having a frozen mother has an impact on you

Speaker 2 what was that impact the impact is that if you have a mother who is not available to love you and care for you that that becomes part of your perception of the world and that means that there's a lot of work to be done about learning about affection and intimacy and closeness and vulnerability and all those sort of things.

Speaker 2 Your mother would faint whenever Bessel Basil would ask her what her life was like when she was a little girl. No, no, I asked her only once.

Speaker 2 I was already a

Speaker 2 junior professor at Harvard, had two kids, and my parents came to visit me. And here's an example of, well, sorry, parents I had.
I left at age 18 for the U.S.

Speaker 2 because I wanted some distance between me and my parents.

Speaker 2 10, 15 years later, quite a few years later, I wrote to my parents, that it's customary for parents to come and visit their children sometimes. We should be interested in coming to visit me.

Speaker 2 That never crossed my mind.

Speaker 2 And so they came, and we actually had a very pleasant time, very civilized.

Speaker 2 And so on the last day that my parents were visiting us, I said to my parents, you know, you probably don't really know what I do for a living, but a lot of my work has to do with incest.

Speaker 2 And

Speaker 2 I wonder, where does that come from?

Speaker 2 And I turned towards my mom and I said, you know, I wonder if something happened to you that I picked up, that you were, were you ever sexually abused? And my mom fainted, fell off her chair.

Speaker 2 And my father said, look what you did to your mother. And my then wife and her.
My father carried my mother into her bed. So I don't know if my mother was sexually abused.

Speaker 2 She just fainted when I asked her the question.

Speaker 2 But that's how it goes.

Speaker 2 You barely get a straight answer to any of these things.

Speaker 2 You said that child abuse and neglect is the single most preventable cause of mental illness, the single most common cause of drug and alcohol abuse, and a significant contributor to leading causes of death such as diabetes, heart disease, cancer, stroke, and suicide.

Speaker 2 That's true.

Speaker 2 And in your book, you say that eradicating child abuse in America would reduce the overall rate of depression by more than half, alcoholism by two-thirds, and suicide, drug use, and domestic violence by three-quarters.

Speaker 2 Yeah, that doesn't come from me. This is data from this very big CDC study

Speaker 2 done by Vincent Fernetti. And so this is a data on 25,000 people.

Speaker 2 People have got increasingly interested in their early childhood experiences as a lens to understand who they are as adults.

Speaker 2 Is that overblown or is it important to understand?

Speaker 2 It's not overblown to be curious about how you became who you became and what the internal ingredients of your cake are.

Speaker 2 I think that's very good for people to be aware of

Speaker 2 how they have

Speaker 2 become the creatures who they are. I think being curious about yourself is very necessary

Speaker 2 also to be curious in order to be curious of other people. When you said about your mother and the incest thing,

Speaker 2 you'd realized as an adult, much of your work focused on incest.

Speaker 2 And then you turned to your mother and asked her if there was an experience she had had and she fainted. Do you believe that there's a part of you that knew?

Speaker 2 No, but I don't know if my mother was incested. I know that my mother was very uptight about sex.
And I wonder what happened to her.

Speaker 2 And her fainting in response to that means that I triggered something, but I don't know what I triggered. I would not jump to conclusions that my mother was an incident victim.

Speaker 2 Something happened to her.

Speaker 2 But I don't know what it is. Okay, but the indicator was that she was always uptight about sex.
It wasn't that you. Unbelievably uptight about sex.
Terrified about sex.

Speaker 2 Yep.

Speaker 2 How many of the people that you treated in your practice have

Speaker 2 could you trace their adult dysfunction back to an early childhood experience?

Speaker 2 Pretty much 90%, let's say, yeah.

Speaker 2 90%. But you know, that's me.

Speaker 2 I mean,

Speaker 2 people with autism or people with OCD

Speaker 2 don't come to see me.

Speaker 2 That's why I have a very narrow filter in a way of who comes to see me. And what's the crux of what happened to them as a child, if you have to simplify it? The crux is

Speaker 2 not being

Speaker 2 acknowledged and honored

Speaker 2 for who they were as kids. That's the big thing is

Speaker 2 they were unseen and people did terrible things to them and nobody seemed to bother to protect them.

Speaker 2 When you say terrible things. Terrible things is being beaten up, being sexually molested, having their bones broken.
What if it was just words?

Speaker 2 Also words.

Speaker 2 One of my patients, mother cats said to her all the time, oh, you'll never have friends. If people really get to know you, they will all reject you because you're such a terrible person.

Speaker 2 That's pretty good. Who said that?

Speaker 2 Oh,

Speaker 2 well, mother of one of the people I'm treating. But that would not be an unusual thing to say.
People do terrible things to kids. Intentionally and unintentionally?

Speaker 2 Automatically. Automatically.

Speaker 2 Is that hurt people hurting people? Yeah.

Speaker 2 You see it in supermarkets and parking lots and stuff like that. Yeah.
What do you see? You see people abusing their kids, saying terrible things to their kids.

Speaker 2 I guess it's difficult for parents because they sometimes think, well, I've got to raise a child that's not dysfunctional, so I've got to have to punish them and I've got to have to discipline them as a way to make sure that they grow up to be healthy and well-rounded.

Speaker 2 Yeah, that's an interesting cultural issue.

Speaker 2 That is sort of how

Speaker 2 my parents and grandparents' generation saw their kids. And then people who grew up in Northern Europe completely changed their attitude.

Speaker 2 Now you go to jail if you hit your kids in Sweden, for example. I think me in Holland also, not in the US.
So people have really changed their mind. But in the US, when they talk about the

Speaker 2 downside of physical punishment of their kids, oftentimes, particularly black people, will say, I want to raise my children knowing about right and wrong.

Speaker 2 And the Bible says I need to punish my children, and that's what I'm doing. And you should not subvert the teachings of my church.

Speaker 2 And they don't argue with that because

Speaker 2 at least not straight on. I grew up in a household where I was punished physically in pretty significant ways, ways that I probably can share because it's just quite, you know, significant.

Speaker 2 Quite horrendous. Yeah, yeah.
And they are horrendous stories, actually. I was born in Africa, so I've got an African mother and an English father.

Speaker 2 It's funny because I look back on it and I go, and this is just me. rationalizing in hindsight.
I go, I'm happy that I had a home where there was discipline.

Speaker 2 Because if I didn't have that home, then I wouldn't maybe have left the city.

Speaker 2 We're one of the few families that actually left the city, the small, fairly small town, relatively small town to some of the towns I live in now, and went and did a lot of things with my life.

Speaker 2 And I didn't get caught up in drugs like some of my friends. I wasn't dysfunctional.
And my mother couldn't read or write as well. So I feel somewhat thankful.

Speaker 2 But I'm doing, I'm like rationalizing in hindsight because it somewhat ended up okay in certain measures of my life.

Speaker 2 In other areas of my life, there's dysfunction. You know, and your perception may change.
Really? My perception about my life and who I became has

Speaker 2 changed quite a bit over time as layers come open.

Speaker 2 But what you talk about that things were predictable is very important. My parents also were predictable,

Speaker 2 which is enormously helpful for at least for you to anticipate, to know what you are supposed to do, et cetera, et cetera. Chaos is a terrible thing.

Speaker 2 I think that point is really interesting because although there was, I was physically punished a lot,

Speaker 2 it was predictable. Yeah.
So I knew that if I

Speaker 2 understood why I was being punished, so I kicked the, I was playing football in the house and broke ornaments or something like that. It was never unpredictable.

Speaker 2 But

Speaker 2 something comes to my mind as you're talking. It's that same visit that my parents finally came.

Speaker 2 I had a three-year-old daughter at that time. We were staying at a house and put my parents on the first floor right next to the main bathroom.

Speaker 2 And then my three-year-old daughter went to that bathroom that was next to my parents' bedroom. And my mother came out and yelled at me, said, how dare she use our bathroom? You should punish her.

Speaker 2 And I almost did. I had an immediate impulse.
Mom said, I should punish my

Speaker 2 three-year-old.

Speaker 2 And I started to walk towards and go like, oh my God, I'm about, I feel like crying.

Speaker 2 Oh my God, I feel I'm about to reenact what my parents did to me. And I made a physician, no, mom, she is allowed to use this bathroom.

Speaker 2 And I said the limit on my mom, which is a transformative experience for me to actually realize that I'm about to repeat what was done to me, which people do routinely.

Speaker 2 And I was about to beat my daughter. And I said,

Speaker 2 that's the end of the story.

Speaker 2 It still causes you a lot of emotion. It's actually, I'm surprised how much emotion comes up talking about it.

Speaker 2 Why do you think

Speaker 2 so much emotion comes up when you talk about that?

Speaker 2 Good question.

Speaker 2 It's an interesting question.

Speaker 2 Because it allowed me to have a life.

Speaker 2 Much of life is automatic. But you can make a choice to do things differently.

Speaker 2 You start owning yourself. And that's the moment I started to own.

Speaker 2 I'm responsible for my kids. I'm going to

Speaker 2 follow what I think is right. It's really a moment of liberation, but also a moment of separation.

Speaker 2 Like, I will not be like you.

Speaker 2 It's tremendously hard to do that.

Speaker 2 Because it's going against your...

Speaker 2 And I think that's a big thing for all of us.

Speaker 2 Because we want to belong, we want to be a member of a tribe. And if you do things differently,

Speaker 2 you lose your tribe

Speaker 2 and

Speaker 2 you become a lonely traveler. So

Speaker 2 this is incredibly complex because

Speaker 2 people want to be part of a tribe. We cannot do without a tribe.
And so the act of actually leaving your tribe

Speaker 2 is a very, very

Speaker 2 major pilgrimage to make.

Speaker 2 There's parts of me that manifest sometimes, and I understand that this is the behavior that I learnt.

Speaker 2 And

Speaker 2 I think there's a part of me that's worried, actually, because I learned, I grew up in a home where

Speaker 2 physical discipline was the response to most kind of forms of unwanted behavior, that I'm worried that if I become a dad, that will be my natural

Speaker 2 probably will be. Yeah, I don't want it to be.
But you don't have to follow it. Yeah.

Speaker 2 Your kids will drive you crazy, because kids do. Yeah.
And at that point,

Speaker 2 I think having kids is one of the great learning experiences in life.

Speaker 2 We all

Speaker 2 none of us know what we're doing, and then our kids teach us how to

Speaker 2 be very important teachers for

Speaker 2 how do you deal with this? Because it's very challenging.

Speaker 2 What did you learn from your children? Oh, I learned a lot from my kids.

Speaker 2 For one thing, so my my firstborn was a is a, what,

Speaker 2 uh, just easy and loving and luminous and pretty and girly.

Speaker 2 And

Speaker 2 she now

Speaker 2 is gender ambiguous and just divorced her husband to be with the woman. So that was completely transformed in her case.
And to see go through that journey with her, like, wow, wow, wow, wow.

Speaker 2 And my son was a neuro-atypical child, very

Speaker 2 out of control much of the time,

Speaker 2 many physical reactions, very bright but

Speaker 2 reactive,

Speaker 2 staying in bed,

Speaker 2 only playing computer games. And he's grown up to be one of the most loving, thoughtful adult parents you can hope to meet.

Speaker 2 So both my kids have become become very different people who I thought they were, but I have a very good relationship with both of them, even though I really don't quite understand either of them.

Speaker 2 When we see dysfunctional behavior in children, I think one of the natural reactions is to give them some kind of medication or to attach some label to them and say that they're broken in this way.

Speaker 2 How do you feel about that? Well, that is what saved my son,

Speaker 2 because

Speaker 2 I am a psychiatrist and I know

Speaker 2 about how these labels are little crutches that never quite capture what somebody is suffering from.

Speaker 2 And

Speaker 2 people started wanting to put my son on medications because, but I was a psychopharmacologist. I really studied drugs and what they can and cannot do.

Speaker 2 And it was very clear that they were not helping him. And I didn't have to submit to authority as most parents would do.
and say, oh, my doctor says this and this and this. I say, I'm a doctor.

Speaker 2 I know about brains and I know about kids. And I don't know what the hell is going on with my kids, but he doesn't have bipolar disorder and he is not responsible to respond to lysium.
And so

Speaker 2 both my kids were major inspirations for really exploring what was good for them. And I'm particularly grateful for my son, who was such a really, very scary kid in many ways, that my wife...

Speaker 2 whom I'm now divorced from,

Speaker 2 she was really great also in terms of exploring what might be helpful. And so what I really got to also be aware of is the issue of privilege.
That I made enough money

Speaker 2 that we could spend a lot of time trying to find things that would help my son. If we had lived in a housing project,

Speaker 2 my son would have been a terrible misfit.

Speaker 2 But because we had been able to give him so much support and care by exploration,

Speaker 2 that he actually found a way of rearranging his

Speaker 2 mental state.

Speaker 2 I mean, just on that point, there's a stat I read that children from low-income families are four times more likely as the privately insured to receive antipsychotic medicines. That's right.

Speaker 2 That's true.

Speaker 2 400% more likely to receive antipsychotic medications if you're... Yeah, that's a very big issue.
It's not really my area of expertise.

Speaker 2 But,

Speaker 2 you know, giving drugs to kids is potentially very dangerous because you interfere with natural processes of brain growth. Brain growth.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 So if you give people medication that changes certain chemicals in their brain at the developmental phase, it may actually change the way that that brain gets formed.

Speaker 2 And it may not allow, as happened in my son, who was able to compensate for many things and his brain was able to learn. how to react differently.

Speaker 2 If you suppress all of that, your brain may not learn these new adaptations.

Speaker 2 You think we should be looking at social conditions before we look at...

Speaker 2 Social conditions, physical conditions, movement, touch,

Speaker 2 synchrony, music.

Speaker 2 So in our world,

Speaker 2 we got stuck in Western people are allowed to do things. They can do one thing is they can, what I call, take a swig.
If you feel bad, you take alcohol, and that makes you feel better.

Speaker 2 So, that's part of our respected tradition: taking a chemical to change the way you feel. And anybody who says you should take that chemical, nobody ever says you're crazy.

Speaker 2 And the other thing that Western people are very good at is yacking. So, let's talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, and understand things.

Speaker 2 And then, I'd like to tell people a story that the first time I went to Beijing in 1992, and China was still very poor and deprived and miserable and

Speaker 2 coming back from this cultural revolution and nobody could talk about anything. No, nothing happened on the Mao, no, nothing happened, no, Chinaman Square didn't happen, it didn't happen.

Speaker 2 And China was filled with every park then as now is filled with people doing qigong and tai chi. And I go down into the park and do qigong with the Chinese.
What's that? Qigong, you said the

Speaker 2 Chinese movement sort of. And I do that with it and I go like, oh my God, that's how they survive, by making these the Qigong Tai Chi movements.

Speaker 2 Which if you do it in Boston, you people say you're crazy. But in China, you cannot talk.
You can calm that body down by the way you move.

Speaker 2 And I became very interested in how cultures around the world actually have very different ways of helping people to regulate their physiology and their synchronicity.

Speaker 2 I want to talk about all of that, specifically this idea of movement and the role it plays in healing. Just to close off on the part about childhood trauma,

Speaker 2 why is it so important for a child to grow up with a secure attachment to a caregiver?

Speaker 2 You become how people see you.

Speaker 2 You become how people see you. Yeah.
So if you're a kid and most people

Speaker 2 Most kids, their parents find being cute, or you have to need a grandparent, you say, oh, you feel cute. You feel lovely.
You're so sweet. And no kid is able to say, I'm just average.

Speaker 2 Look at a billion kids in the world, and I'm not any cuter than anybody else. No, when the kids get told you're really cute, that is your reality.

Speaker 2 And if a kid gets told you're really ugly and nasty and mean, that

Speaker 2 becomes their identity. So you really become how people treat you early on in your life.
And that's a very big legacy that I, as

Speaker 2 a therapist, deal with is these imprints of early experience, which are very difficult to change.

Speaker 2 Imprints of early experience, are they changeable?

Speaker 2 Yes, that is the great news.

Speaker 2 And also the amazing news that even though we know how to do some of that, we're not going there.

Speaker 2 So you can heal from your childhood trauma. Absolutely.
Everyone?

Speaker 2 That's my assumption when I see people.

Speaker 2 In your experience, you've dealt with patients your whole life, your whole professional life. How many of those patients do you think were healable i really think that if given a chance

Speaker 2 and given the resources you can pretty much do something for everybody

Speaker 2 one of the other but but but the problem is again we go back to where you started before the microphone was on is that our focus these days is on productivity and behavioral change and not in how do we find out how to help you.

Speaker 2 All the things that I describe in my book, almost most of the things that I describe in my book as being helpful, and that was 10 years ago, I know some other things since that time,

Speaker 2 are unconventional methods that do not get practiced in mainstream psychology and psychiatry. Because they need to be productive and they need to be cheap.

Speaker 2 And whether you get better or not doesn't matter, or you're cheap

Speaker 2 is the main motivation.

Speaker 2 I think the profit motive is killing

Speaker 2 good practice.

Speaker 2 Your book was very interesting because

Speaker 2 when I read the cover, and then I watched a video you'd made talking about the sort of six sort of treatments and stuff that exist within the body, things like yoga,

Speaker 2 you talk about theater and acting and how that helps you to get out of your trauma etc.

Speaker 2 The body keeps the score.

Speaker 2 This was a pretty radical approach to thinking through trauma. And it became a meme, which is an interesting thing to see.
Well, I use it in my everyday language with my partner.

Speaker 2 And I've heard other people say the body keeps the score, the body keeps the score.

Speaker 2 When we're talking about how our body is holding on to those traumatic memories, traumatic things that have happened to us.

Speaker 2 For someone who has never read your book and doesn't even understand the base premise here, what is the base premise of

Speaker 2 the title there? It's really that

Speaker 2 trauma is a visceral experience. What does the visceral mean? It's heat in your body.
Heartbreak and gut bench.

Speaker 2 You stiffen up.

Speaker 2 You

Speaker 2 surrender. You lose your power.

Speaker 2 You tighten up. That's really where trauma is lived.
I kind of see it as two approaches. You can either go, let's try and change the mind, which will then change the body downstream.

Speaker 2 Or you you can say, let's change the body, which will then change the mind. Right.
You could.

Speaker 2 But I do a lot of CBT with my wife, let's say. Yeah.
I point out her irrational behavior and that she should really see things from a different angle and that I should really see things correctly.

Speaker 2 And I really have much success with that.

Speaker 2 And I'm a bit surprised that psychology does things that most spouses have failed in using very well.

Speaker 2 This somatic approach, I've only recently heard this term from my partner and she says it's amazing and she's told me, she told me to speak to you on this podcast because she says, you know, you'll really help to change her opinion on this.

Speaker 2 What is this somatic approach to healing? Somatic approach is to really experience what your body feels

Speaker 2 and also

Speaker 2 allowing your body to do things that it has been afraid to do. and to explore

Speaker 2 how your body moves to the world in some ways. Why Why are women just to seem to be so much better at this stuff than men? Because they're doing like Pilates.
Sure. Pilates, yoga.

Speaker 2 These are all things, dancing. These are things typically women do more than men.

Speaker 2 And it seems women are just more in touch with it. Yeah,

Speaker 2 I think it's an intriguing question because it's not exclusively women. Of course, men have always done it in armies.

Speaker 2 and basic training and the military.

Speaker 2 And what's intriguing to me is that, you know, when people join the military, oftentimes they're not very well put together people, and they go through basic training, and they really march together, they sing with people, and they climb barricades, and they go through

Speaker 2 composite physical experiences with other people. At the end of 12 weeks, they feel competent, and they feel connected.
and they have found a band of brothers. How do they do it?

Speaker 2 Not by yakking, but by having very deep shared physical experiences.

Speaker 2 One of the interesting things that you write about, which I found particularly interesting because I saw little flashes of myself in the words, is you said, I found that the more traumas your patients have in their background, the more creative and successful they often become.

Speaker 2 Often,

Speaker 2 and we don't know how often that is, but I get to meet quite a few of them.

Speaker 2 It's the people who have had to struggle who often see new possibilities and have no choice but to discover new options. That's true.
That's true. Yeah.

Speaker 2 But,

Speaker 2 you know, but those are the people who manage to get into my practice.

Speaker 2 And the people who don't find the solutions don't have the wherewithal and the capacity to make it into therapy with me. They might be outside with a drug addiction.

Speaker 2 Screwing drugs, lying on the streets, et cetera, et cetera. And to a large degree, I see that as an issue of accident.
You know,

Speaker 2 this past year I visited a program program in Los Angeles called

Speaker 2 Homeboy Industries.

Speaker 2 It's a program for formerly incarcerated, largely Latin men who had no fathers, who have been criminals. And it's a spectacular program where they honor, they say, what do you need? How we can care?

Speaker 2 How can we make a

Speaker 2 safe place for you? And I saw real treatment there. St.
Quentin Hospital, St. Quintin Prison, famous prison in California, is now trauma-based.
They use my book for a text there.

Speaker 2 And they're transforming people's lives by acknowledging the reality of what they dealt with, helping people to be part of the healing system, working in groups, working with movement.

Speaker 2 Like at St. Quentin, they have hula dancing classes.
I go like, yeah.

Speaker 2 moving together with other people gives you a sense of connection, sense of pleasure.

Speaker 2 They're really beginning to understand you can do it. At the Harvard hospital, you wouldn't do the whole lot with people.
You wouldn't dance with people.

Speaker 2 I think there's a bit of a joke in the investment community

Speaker 2 that says

Speaker 2 you'll get better returns if you invest in someone, an entrepreneur or a founder, that is a little bit traumatized.

Speaker 2 And I actually think if I don't want to misquote her, but I had Barbara Cochrane, who's a shark on Shark Tank in the USA here on the show.

Speaker 2 And one of the things she said to me was, with all of her investments the ones that tend to do the best are those that have a little bit of a trauma in their past and she says because when they call me with a problem they call me with the solution attached versus people who have never had trauma they call me and just tell me the problem so they'll call me and say listen barbara this has happened and this is what we're going to do about it and that was her you know she said it in a slightly humorous way but i wondered if you thought there's any truth in this idea that yeah i think that's again a selection bias of people she works with.

Speaker 2 I know certainly plenty of people have had

Speaker 2 plenty of people working for me

Speaker 2 who

Speaker 2 really get paralyzed in the face of challenges and who don't have a solution and who become very dependent on getting the backup. So I think she has a bit of an unusual sample, actually.

Speaker 2 Because I wondered if you've had an anomalous early upbringing, does that make you an anomalous adult? Does it increase the probability that you become an anomalous slightly different adult?

Speaker 2 Absolutely. Okay.
And that can go everywhere.

Speaker 2 You develop a mind and brain to fit with that particular situation. And if that particular situation doesn't help, you need to find new solutions.
And so

Speaker 2 trauma and abuse really forces you to try to find other solutions. But many of them are not successful.

Speaker 2 Is trauma a story in your brain? No, trauma is a perception in your brain. A perception.
What's the difference?

Speaker 2 So the issue is something happens and your brain and mind takes it in and then makes an adaptation to that particular event. That depends on how old you are and the circumstances.

Speaker 2 And it's very different for different people. Give me an example of a perception.

Speaker 2 If

Speaker 2 you would beat me up right now,

Speaker 2 I'd go,

Speaker 2 this guy is crazy and I can call people and ruin your reputation, etc.

Speaker 2 If I'm three years old and you start hitting me as a kid, I don't know what the hell to do about it. And I'll likely think

Speaker 2 I did something wrong that I caused the guy to beat me up and I'm a terrible person. And no wonder that he beat me up because I'm a horrible creature.

Speaker 2 And that's what almost everybody who I know who was beaten as a child,

Speaker 2 just the internal understanding of it. Not when you're eight years old or 15 years old, but when you're very young.
that becomes your experience.

Speaker 2 Because you're still forming your perception of the world. Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 Your brain creates a map of the world

Speaker 2 in very deep ways. And so your experiences form an internal vosta of the world that makes you expect certain things at certain times.

Speaker 2 So if I walk into a room and I see a person who looks like my old uncle who he has to play with, I start silencing up to you because you on a deep level reminds me of that very nice uncle that I once had.

Speaker 2 I don't know that, but my brain is set to interpret the world in a particular way. So

Speaker 2 one of the things,

Speaker 2 most

Speaker 2 profound research experience that I had was purely accidental. We started to do Warshark tests on people.
What's that? Inkblot tests. So you show some formless ink picture and we showed it to people.

Speaker 2 And we saw that people had completely different interpretations of what they projected on that inkblot test. And that really brought home to me that we all are living in different worlds.

Speaker 2 And that our perception, like a lot of the Vietnam veterans I saw saw bloody corpses or mutilated bodies in those carts.

Speaker 2 People who had never been in combat didn't see that.

Speaker 2 Rape victims saw torn vaginas and torn bodies. Other people didn't see this.

Speaker 2 So once that becomes lodged into your perceptual system, you continue to interpret the world in that particular way having to to do with what you have the answer in the past.

Speaker 2 And an ink block test, for anyone that doesn't know, is basically just a piece of paper with random ink. As all it is.
Yeah. But it's been analyzed on about 100,000 people over the years.

Speaker 2 So there are certain patterns you can detect in it.

Speaker 2 I've never done an ink block test. I feel like I should do one.

Speaker 2 I learned as much from my inkblot test as I learned from my brain imaging.

Speaker 2 But the brain imaging is respectable and

Speaker 2 the mind has sort of disappeared. But for example, in our psychedelic research, I still very much hope to do in-blood tests because, as Michael Polland says, how to change your minds.

Speaker 2 But we're not measuring how people change their minds.

Speaker 2 How many people do you think, I mean, this is maybe a ridiculous question, but how many people, what percentage of people do you think have trauma in some form? How you define it?

Speaker 2 You know, the figures are a quarter of people get physically abused, one out of five people get sexually abused, one of eight kids witnesses violence being their parents,

Speaker 2 etc., etc. So, you know,

Speaker 2 if I sit in a room, you know, it's not a binary issue. It's not either you were traumatized, you didn't get traumatized.
But

Speaker 2 when I talk to a room of professionals, which I do a lot, I assume that at least half the group viscerally knows what trauma means.

Speaker 2 And what is trauma doing to my brain? You said you've done a lot of neuroimaging

Speaker 2 scans.

Speaker 2 If I was traumatized and you scanned my brain, is there something you could see?

Speaker 2 Not necessarily. I can see how

Speaker 2 your brain may be different from other people's brains.

Speaker 2 I may take a particular population, you can average it out and you can say, oh, there's a little more activation of the bariac or two gray, a little bit less of the white insulin.

Speaker 2 So you see certain patterns of connectivity in the brain. But to some degree, you know,

Speaker 2 I think we learn a lot about the brain, but we don't know much about the brain. And I think people tend to overstate how much the brain pictures can teach us.

Speaker 2 You know, I love the Hubble's telescope or the Web telescope.

Speaker 2 You know, our brain is like a universe, and our technology is very inadequate to really know about all the unbelievably complex connection the brain has.

Speaker 2 But we have learned a few things in the last 20 years. So how does trauma affect the brain? It affects the brain that you tend to

Speaker 2 do.

Speaker 2 There's one part of your brain that I call the cockroach center of your brain, the periaque gray, that

Speaker 2 lights up itself underneath the amygdala. Everybody knows the word amygdala these days.

Speaker 2 So the part of your brain that tells you that you're in danger. When you're traumatized, you're likely that that little part of your brain way back in your brainstem is firing all the time.

Speaker 2 All the time time you go like, I'm in danger, I'm in danger, I'm in danger.

Speaker 2 And

Speaker 2 that's where it starts, in a very elementary sensory level.

Speaker 2 You don't know what the danger is, but you just feel that you should be scared. And then there's certain

Speaker 2 parts, other parts of your brain, for example, your insula, which makes the connection between your physical sensations and your body awareness that for many people gets shut down because trauma, basically, the experience of trauma is a visceral experience of heartbreak and gut venge.

Speaker 2 And if you have a lot of that, you can learn to shut that part of your brain down so you don't feel your body so much anymore. I mean, you don't feel your body so much.

Speaker 2 You don't feel very alive either, but you don't feel so scared all the time. But it's likely that you will want to take some drugs to make yourself feel alive sometimes.

Speaker 2 Stuff like that. Yeah.

Speaker 2 So the part of my brain, you said just under the around the amygdala? Below them. Below the amygdala.
People that are traumatized, they have some kind of dysfunction in that typically.

Speaker 2 Well, the dysfunction is that it keeps firing. Keeps firing.
And how?

Speaker 2 And so, and then the amygdala, so there's a constant sense of subliminal dread. Is that anxiety?

Speaker 2 Anxiety is already too high

Speaker 2 mental functioning. Okay.
It's more elementary, it's like your dog shaking.

Speaker 2 Yeah, my daughter has adopted a dog two years at a time.

Speaker 2 And two years later, the dog still walks through my house. You've adopted a dog and it shakes in your house still.
Yeah, yeah. But still, never quite comfortable.

Speaker 2 And that's how many times you meet are never quite comfortable. So when someone says they're triggered.

Speaker 2 No, trigger isn't the higher level thing. Okay.

Speaker 2 So then the next level is indeed the trigger that is in part mediated by the amygdala.

Speaker 2 If your amygdala, if your smoke detector that tends to become hypersensitive so that minor things get blown up and

Speaker 2 a minor thing that you may say to me I take as the most insulting thing in the world and so you're constantly triggered by things and that makes makes you feel like you are doing terrible things to me

Speaker 2 and it's not like I'm hypersensitive

Speaker 2 and when you have an off day

Speaker 2 that is your your issue and not my issue. No, when you have an off day, I feel your off day and we start getting into trouble together.

Speaker 2 I've got a picture here of what the brain looks like when the brain smoke detector

Speaker 2 goes off. Is that what it looks like on the brain when you go? That is one particular guy.

Speaker 2 Nobody is exactly the same as everybody else. Can you explain this to me? But basically,

Speaker 2 what you see here is

Speaker 2 this is a guy who is reliving

Speaker 2 a terrible car accident he was involved with.

Speaker 2 What you see here is that the right posterior part of the brain, there's temporal parietal junction, on the right side of the brain fires, and that's the feeling part of the brain.

Speaker 2 So you go, oh my God, oh my God, I'm terrified. But there's no cognition.
And basically the left side of the brain shuts down.

Speaker 2 So when you're in your trauma, you don't become, you're not a reasonable person.

Speaker 2 You actually

Speaker 2 become a little bit of a blubbering idiot. All of us, when we really are angry or upset, and not very articulate, but we have a lot of feelings.

Speaker 2 And then the piece that I showed is

Speaker 2 that as he is, this guy is reliving his trauma, these two parts of your brain go offline.

Speaker 2 This is the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex. That's the part of the brain that's the timekeeper of your brain.

Speaker 2 So if something unpleasant happens between us, let's say,

Speaker 2 I'll go, oh, it's another half hour and I'll be okay. So let me just sort of put up with this.
But when you get traumatized, the timekeeper disappears. And this is all there is.

Speaker 2 You lose your sense of perspective. And that is what happens when you're in your trauma.

Speaker 2 You don't know the difference between the past and the present because the timekeeper of your brain goes offline. And whatever you're feeling is real, as opposed to feeling like a memory.

Speaker 2 Do you get it? Yeah, so for people that can't see it in this brain scan, what I'm basically seeing is the right side is extremely activated. The left side looks like it's off.
Off, yeah.

Speaker 2 And then there's these two blanks, empty spaces that aren't activated called the doors. Doors.

Speaker 2 Part of the system in the brain that give you a sense of time.

Speaker 2 Okay.

Speaker 2 And as long as you have a sense, it's like little babies don't have a sense of time either. So like whatever happens, it happens totally.

Speaker 2 And you see a child slowly grow and they get a sense of perspective. It's happening right now, but tomorrow it will be different.

Speaker 2 Okay, so that's when, I mean, because that's when you get anxiety, right? When you start thinking about the future. It is about

Speaker 2 having the perspective of this is happening right now. Right now I'm really scared, but the moment I go home, the moment I call my friend, I'll feel better.
So

Speaker 2 you need to have that capacity for perspective, and that perspective goes offline when you're in your trauma and you become a traumatized person.

Speaker 2 So this particular person, this brain scan that I have here, this guy was in a car accident. And the triggered brain that I'm looking at here is he was basically put in

Speaker 2 an M F M R I scanner and he was intentionally triggered to see what would happen in his brain. Exactly.
So, he was shown maybe a car accident or something. No, no, specifically his car accident.

Speaker 2 Oh, you showed him a picture of his car. What did you see? What did you hear? What did you smell? What were you thinking? Very specific sensory details.
Okay, so you're...

Speaker 2 Not somebody else's sensory details, your sensory details. And the right side of his brain was illuminated.

Speaker 2 Yeah, his right side of his brain became very active.

Speaker 2 But what got inactivated was the timekeeper of his brain. So he could not lie there and say, oh, I'm remembering what happened to me yesterday.
He is reliving what happened yesterday.

Speaker 2 Instantly.

Speaker 2 You feel like it's happening right now. And that's the nature of trauma.

Speaker 2 Trauma is not a memory. It's a reliving.

Speaker 2 Are you consciously reliving it or is your subconscious relief? I feel like it's happening right now. With all forms of trauma.
But not,

Speaker 2 it's happening right now. But my feeling is happening right now.
And my body.

Speaker 2 You don't know that the feelings actually belong to the time that your dad used to beat you.

Speaker 2 It is now. I feel the same way because I disagree with you.

Speaker 2 So I've been triggered in the past and I felt that sort of instant fight or flight response because something's happened or whatever it can and it's instantaneous so although I don't feel like I'm back there my body does feel like it's back there and so people are confused about it and say oh you relive the past no actually you're not aware that you relive the past because the past is the present so you don't think oh this reminds me about the time that my dad used to be beat me when I was four years old no it feels like you are beating me right now

Speaker 2 and is there a way for this particular gentleman here who's been through that car crash to ever stop this triggering? Yeah, he's done quite well. He's done quite well.
He did EMDR actually, yeah.

Speaker 2 Eye movement desensitization. And what was his results? He is an all right guy.

Speaker 2 He's functioning. He's fine.
He's no longer a traumatized person.

Speaker 2 What's the most radical improvement you've seen in your clinical practice? Oh, really, people really coming to life. People just saying it's over.
Give me the

Speaker 2 the best example. The good example is the videotape I showed you people yesterday of a woman, again, terrible car accident, freezing, uh, upset, freaked out.

Speaker 2 And then three sessions later we go talk about it. She says, Yeah, this shitty thing happened to me.
I I was in this car accident and uh I was jolted for it and my head was swelled.

Speaker 2 And boy, that was terrible back then.

Speaker 2 But I'm now I have a granddaughter and I drive my car to my granddaughter i'm fine three sessions it took three sessions yeah and we saw it in psychedelic therapy all the time

Speaker 2 what did you do in those three sessions so wiggle your fingers in front of people's eyes i mean for for me for me emdr was really the gateway drug like um sorry

Speaker 2 you know i've written three books about ptsd i actually wrote the very first book in which the word ptsd exists in 84 or something.

Speaker 2 But they didn't know how to treat it. So I'm a world-renowned expert, but I have no idea how to treat it because people keep reliving their trauma and they don't know how to stop that.

Speaker 2 And then somebody starts telling me about EMDR and I don't believe a word of it. And they say, yes, you move your fingers in front of people's eyes.

Speaker 2 I mean, you move your eye from side to side as you relive the trauma. And I go, that's crazy.
Everybody who hears it, that's crazy. And then people start doing it and they show me how it works.

Speaker 2 I go like, wow. And people indeed,

Speaker 2 a certain subsample of people we studied indeed, after a few sessions of EMDR, go like, yeah, that really sucked. But it's over.
It belongs to the past. It's not happening right now.

Speaker 2 You're telling me that wiggling your fingers in front of people's eyes can help heal their trauma? Well, and then of course we had to do a little research, which took us.

Speaker 2 15 years to get enough funding to do it to see what happens when you move your eyes back and forth.

Speaker 2 And then we discovered that if you move your eyes back and forth, as you recall traumatic experiences, you activate certain pathways between the temporal parietal junction, which gives you a sense of self and your insulin, which is a sense of your body.

Speaker 2 So your brain is able to say, oh yeah, this is what happened to me, but it happened to me in the past. So these are pathways that makes it possible for your brain to

Speaker 2 make that distinction. And in the research that's been done on this,

Speaker 2 what did the outcome, what was the conclusion in terms of its efficacy?

Speaker 2 Oh, in terms of in our research,

Speaker 2 78% of the people who had adult onset trauma, so

Speaker 2 being assaulted or raped by a stranger, 78% of them were completely cured.

Speaker 2 But that's not the majority of people we see because most people we see have early childhood trauma, which is much more complicated to treat.

Speaker 2 Early childhood trauma is much more sort of stubborn and resistant to this treatment. Yeah, because your early childhood experiences create who you are.

Speaker 2 So if you go to

Speaker 2 a fancy college when you're 18, you do become...

Speaker 2 identified with that college, but it doesn't radically change you into a new person.

Speaker 2 It becomes part of your identity. But if you grow up in a certain family early on in your life, you actually become that.

Speaker 2 The imprint is very deep early on.

Speaker 2 So it's called eye movement desensitation

Speaker 2 and reprocessing treatment.

Speaker 2 I was just looking up some stats about it. It says it's been extensively studied with evidence supporting its efficacy across various conditions.

Speaker 2 With PTSD, a 2020, a 2014 meta-analysis of 26 randomized control trials found that EMDR significantly reduced PTSD symptoms with a large effect size.

Speaker 2 Depression, a 2024 systemic review and meta-analysis encompassing 25 studies and more than a thousand participants reported that it alleviated depressive symptoms.

Speaker 2 The same 2014 meta-analysis noted that EMDR led to significant reductions in anxiety symptoms among PTSD patients with a large effect.

Speaker 2 And finally, A 2024 systemic review and individual participation data meta-analysis concluded that EMDR is an effective, is as effective as other psychological treatments for PTSD, achieving comparable symptom reduction and remission rates.

Speaker 2 So

Speaker 2 can you show me how it works? Can you do it on me? I could

Speaker 2 be. Can I move my chair? Of course you can.

Speaker 2 You're going to come closer. So can you bring to mind a really

Speaker 2 rather unpleasant experience you have had not too long ago? Yeah.

Speaker 2 And

Speaker 2 can you bring to mind what you saw at that point?

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 2 Can you remember what the voices sounded like at that point?

Speaker 2 Or whatever it was? Any sounds come to mind?

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 2 Do you remember what your body felt like back then?

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 2 Can you remember what you were thinking or bring to mind what you were thinking?

Speaker 2 Yeah. Okay.

Speaker 2 So how vivid is your feeling right now of

Speaker 2 recollecting it?

Speaker 2 Like a six, seven out of ten. Okay.

Speaker 2 So stay there. Now follow my finger with your eyes.
So

Speaker 2 look at me right now.

Speaker 2 Take a deep breath.

Speaker 2 So, what comes to your mind right now as we're doing this?

Speaker 2 I feel calm.

Speaker 2 Yeah, I just don't feel calm. Okay.

Speaker 2 So, when you go back to what you were just feeling

Speaker 2 what's it like now

Speaker 2 um it's

Speaker 2 it's hard to recall why i was bothered that's the best way to describe it

Speaker 2 that is the weird stuff you know why is that is that just because why is that no see that is that is what's so great about his work we don't know the linearity

Speaker 2 and we don't know where the hell the emotional imprint is gone now, but it is.

Speaker 2 And, you know, of course, if you

Speaker 2 bring up something much worse than what you had going to, it takes much longer and a lot of other stuff comes up. But what somehow EMDR seems to do, it creates new associative processes in the brain.

Speaker 2 So let's say

Speaker 2 first people did EMDR on me.

Speaker 2 Something really very, very nasty had happened to me, I started off being very upset and then during the EMDR I don't know if that happened to you I had images of sitting at my dining room table as a kid and I had images of playing in a playground in primary school something already don't come in my mind and then we stopped it and indeed so

Speaker 2 yeah that really sucks time to go on an important part is you did not tell me what you were going through no um because i'm suspicious of language, because language is always an interactive process.

Speaker 2 And if I ask you to tell me what happened, you will filter yourself, because certain things may be embarrassing, or you don't want me to know about it.

Speaker 2 And so we circumvent this whole verbal process of your making meaning out of it, and we reorganize some core

Speaker 2 ways in which your brain is perceiving this. So

Speaker 2 you saw a little bit of this very in minor way. for me when i first saw this i was blown away by it and thought i need to study this so when they quoted studies the main study was done by me

Speaker 2 uh nih funded it but i was also the last time that somebody got funded for ni for emdr

Speaker 2 breathwork yeah

Speaker 2 what role did breathwork's become a really big topic my partner runs a business called buy breathwork hashtag ad yeah um and she takes women away she does these breath work retreats all around the world has a studio, etc.

Speaker 2 What do you think of breath work as a way to allow? It makes perfect sense.

Speaker 2 For one thing, it has been used since time immemorial in certain cultures. And people say, people always discover it.
No, in India, people know it.

Speaker 2 Northern Europe, nobody knows about breath work. That's why

Speaker 2 these are culturally dependent things. I think

Speaker 2 the closest may know it. I don't know.
Go out there and see if people do it.

Speaker 2 And so people are so conformist to be approved of by their teachers and their peers.

Speaker 2 That

Speaker 2 then when people do something innovative, they tend to very quickly be or they're cookie, they're crazy.

Speaker 2 Like

Speaker 2 I really got into body work and I've not done breath work myself, but I hear about it from people and I

Speaker 2 so it's perfectly legitimate to me.

Speaker 2 But when we do something new, like I was the first person who studied yoga for PTSD, and people go, like, putting your butt in the air and twisting your spine and press up for trauma.

Speaker 2 Like, I said, well, let's find out. And so we did the study.
And it turned out that yoga was very effective for treatment of PTSD.

Speaker 2 But the overwhelming reaction of my academic colleagues was, oh, there he goes again. He's gone off the deep end.

Speaker 2 And now yoga is sort of pretty well accepted as a

Speaker 2 you can use yoga to treat trauma.

Speaker 2 You can, no, you don't treat trauma.

Speaker 2 You use yoga to treat your relationship to your body.

Speaker 2 It's not the same thing, but trauma really distorts your relationship to your body. And

Speaker 2 what our research also shows is that when you start doing yoga, certain brain areas that tend to get sort of dampened by trauma come to life.

Speaker 2 What did you find in those studies? I've got one particular sort of screen showing.

Speaker 2 Yeah, that's a little study.

Speaker 2 So what's good. Explain here what's going on.
So

Speaker 2 this is a tiny study. So

Speaker 2 what you see here is that after doing yoga, your insula gets more activated. Your insula is

Speaker 2 the place in your brain that makes you know what your body feels.

Speaker 2 like when it rains and you have no raincoat on and you go I better get an umbrella so that you need to know what your body experiences and needs and anticipated and that dimension of self-experience tends to get very damaged by trauma.

Speaker 2 The reason for that is it's an adaptive thing because trauma is so relived in

Speaker 2 physical experiences, as Darwin said, heartbreaking, gut wrench is the visual sensations.

Speaker 2 And so if you're heart constantly heartbroken, gut wrenched, you try to

Speaker 2 put that down, and so you lose contact with your body

Speaker 2 as a defensive maneuver of feeling overwhelmed by these physical sensations. So I want to make sure I understand this.
So the insular part of the brain is the part that links

Speaker 2 what we do with how we feel.

Speaker 2 How we viscerally feel, yeah. What's happening in our bodies.
Okay.

Speaker 2 So it links how we're feeling in our bodies to

Speaker 2 what we know about ourselves. Yeah.
The stories we have in our head about ourselves.

Speaker 2 So that's what the insular does, and trauma interrupts that, which causes what kind of dysfunction on a day-to-day basis because you are out of saturation you feel numbed out or disconnected you don't feel alive you don't feel connected you uh you can't feel pleasure or you feel hypersensitive and you feel hypersensitive because you talk about the two sort of responses being disconnection or hypersensitivity

Speaker 2 There's always these two contradictory things that coexist. Remembering too much and remembering too little.
Feeling too much and feeling too little.

Speaker 2 There is no happy medium. You go from one extreme to another.

Speaker 2 You're agitated and numbed out at the same time.

Speaker 2 And I bet you know what it's like, because we all have been there, that we feel agitated, and at the same time, we feel completely nothing at all.

Speaker 2 And there's almost no mind there. And I think it's a very non-uncommon human experience.
And the insula is playing a role.

Speaker 2 The insula plays a big role in that and many other brain structures. So if I start doing yoga, what is that then doing to that hypersensitivity disconnection?

Speaker 2 Yoga makes it possible for you to reconnect

Speaker 2 your senses in a way,

Speaker 2 to feel what you feel and to make it safe what you feel.

Speaker 2 So as we go to a yoga studio with a teacher with a nice voice who really helps you to not take a deep breath, stretch out your arms, feel that warrior three pose. And then you start feeling it.

Speaker 2 And for many people, doing yoga can be actually quite agitating, scary actually in a way.

Speaker 2 For traumatized people, we see it all the time, is that something gets triggered and you start getting upset just doing a simple down dog, let's say.

Speaker 2 Or certainly the

Speaker 2 yoga pose that all

Speaker 2 sexual abuse victims have great trouble with is the happy baby pose. Happy baby pose is when you put your feet in the air, you lie on your back, you hold your toes and you spread

Speaker 2 your legs wide, so your pelvis is up against the air. For most of us, that's a very pleasant part.
It makes you relax. If you're a sexual abuse survivor, that's going to trigger a lot of stuff.

Speaker 2 Really? Yeah.

Speaker 2 And you have to be very careful doing that.

Speaker 2 Because it's... It's triggering.

Speaker 2 And so because these positions may be triggering, you may hold your body in a frozen position in order not to trigger those feelings of sexual abuse.

Speaker 2 I was just thinking, as you're speaking, about a friend of mine who

Speaker 2 tends to go through life with a sort of crumpled-up body.

Speaker 2 In their low self-esteem, they're quite low-confidence. I've never, I don't know if they're traumatized in any way.
Can't pass judgment on that.

Speaker 2 But they started doing yoga and it really has helped their mental health in a profound way.

Speaker 2 And I'm just wondering what you think the link is between someone who, I'm just telling you on the surface, is like crumpled up through their life, but then absolutely.

Speaker 2 I told you you i was a sickly child

Speaker 2 i was really sickly until i had asthma i was 13 and

Speaker 2 and i think the most helpful thing i ever did was rolling rolfing is a very intense form of massage where they sort of tear your muscles from your fascia and

Speaker 2 i live came to live in a new body i no longer live frozen in that body of this little child who almost died. It had a profound effect to me as much as anything I've ever done.

Speaker 2 Why and how?

Speaker 2 Because you get stuck in habits. In a way, trauma becomes a habit.
My habit is that when I see a strong guy in a room, I get scared. Hypothetical situation.
And so you have habitual responses.

Speaker 2 And part of what you do therapy for is to get to realize your habitual responses. and become curious about it.

Speaker 2 Like, like, you know, whenever a person like that comes to the room, I freeze and I sound like an idiot and and your therapist says so what happens to your body and how long have you felt this way you feel this way when you were six or three or eight and then at some point people get a narrative that may begin to explain it and that narrative may say oh i was bullied by somebody and that feeling comes back when I meet somebody who reminds me of my bully and then you go like

Speaker 2 have you ever tried martial arts

Speaker 2 and see what it'd like be like for you to actually learn to use your body to fight somebody

Speaker 2 and

Speaker 2 that's for example a treatment that I have never studied but I was amazed how many of my close colleagues who are very much into trauma tell me at some point, oh, and now I have to go to my martial arts class.

Speaker 2 And that is, nobody sees that as a legitimate way of dealing with what they're dealing with. But I think people are doing their martial arts because they have memories of being victimized.

Speaker 2 And how it gives me a visceral experience of my body can defend itself. My body, I can use my body to take care of myself.
And that's not the intellectual process. That's a visceral experience.

Speaker 2 People often describe meeting somebody and their body just being off.

Speaker 2 So they say, I met this person and my body was just, I just felt something in my body that they can't consciously articulate, but they just feel it in their body. This person's a bit off.

Speaker 2 What do you think they're describing there?

Speaker 2 I think they're describing two things.

Speaker 2 We pick up each other's energy. There's such a thing as the mirror neuron system,

Speaker 2 which hasn't received much attention in the past few years, but I think it's a very important invention

Speaker 2 that

Speaker 2 I pick up your energy. And if,

Speaker 2 let's say, you're depressed, but you have a job to do, so to talk with me today, it's very likely that I, on some level, will pick up your depression. And it will affect our conversation.

Speaker 2 I'm not saying that I do, that's a hypothetical thing.

Speaker 2 But we pick up each other's energy. And so we may be with somebody who is very angry, but who's trying to behave themselves and behave very well.
But you may pick up that anger.

Speaker 2 And that's really the very complicated stuff in psychotherapy. Am I picking up your energy or am I picking up my energy?

Speaker 2 And so if I feel uncomfortable in your presence, is that because you're triggering something in me about my past or am I picking something up about you?

Speaker 2 And that is the complexity of our interactions.

Speaker 2 And from an evolutionary standpoint,

Speaker 2 as you were speaking, I was thinking,

Speaker 2 where has this come from? You know, this ability to subconsciously just get a read for someone and then form a pattern of, okay, this type of person hurt me in the past.

Speaker 2 And 20 years later, I meet someone in the street and I immediately feel the same. Yeah.
Is that just a survival thing?

Speaker 2 I think that makes perfect sense to me. Like, because we are primates.

Speaker 2 It's something that came up in your interview with Trevor. The degree to which the deep degree to which we're interconnected creatures, that we really don't exist as individuals.

Speaker 2 So we are meant to live in troops. We're meant to be with other people.
And so what is safe with other people

Speaker 2 becomes a critical issue of our survival. The reason that humans have survived is not because of your individual gifts or mine.

Speaker 2 It's because we can band together and build buildings and airplanes and all sorts of stuff. It's all

Speaker 2 communal things. So

Speaker 2 it's not central in our science anywhere today, but it's...

Speaker 2 at the core if you understand human beings.

Speaker 2 We are a collective bunch of creatures who collectively create something and so knowing how to do that and how to adjust to each other is at the core of who we are

Speaker 2 are we losing that a little bit you know people are getting lonelier and lonelier and more individualistic huge huge issue screens as virtual realities is our biggest challenge i think

Speaker 2 yeah

Speaker 2 why

Speaker 2 uh

Speaker 2 because screens give you a virtual reality of pleasure, etc., etc. But it's not real and it is not a product of your efforts of doing something.
You get a cheap reward,

Speaker 2 but ordinarily it takes a lot of activity. And so you get your little dopamine rush and it feels like you had experience, but you don't learn how to get along with other people.

Speaker 2 You don't learn that visceral reaction of pleasure, of we are friends.

Speaker 2 What role does community and social connection play in trauma? Everything.

Speaker 2 Critical.

Speaker 2 And there's another thing that is troublesome about the development of our field, namely

Speaker 2 in our generation, trauma, so it started with experiences like mine, working with combat veterans. I'm not a combat veteran.
I was a conscientious objector during the Vietnam War.

Speaker 2 I don't know anything about the U.S. Marine Corps.
And so I couldn't have told people what it's like. But they went groups.
They talked to each other.

Speaker 2 And they learned about what it's like to be a combat veteran from each other. And the moment they made this connection with each other, they were becoming a band of brothers.

Speaker 2 And that's how people survive trauma, by bonding with other people.

Speaker 2 It seems that women are better at forming those connections than men. Yeah, I think so.
I think so. Although, no, that's not entirely true.

Speaker 2 I learned a lot about love from my combat veterans. To some degree,

Speaker 2 I think most human beings don't know what love is until you know what it's like to be in combat together with other people. It creates an enormously deep, deep bond between people.

Speaker 2 So I know something about male love more from working with combat rats as anything else. When you're in great danger, guys are there for each other.
They really protect each other.

Speaker 2 They really look after each other.

Speaker 2 What is it about that environment that forms what you're describing there as real love?

Speaker 2 It's danger.

Speaker 2 The natural instinct when you are in danger, you know, you and I would become much better friends than we are. If something bad happened to us right now,

Speaker 2 we would start clinging to each other. Is that because we would probably need each other? You'd need each other.
Yeah, you need each other.

Speaker 2 And you're counting each other and you have each other's back. And you're saying to me, I have your back.

Speaker 2 Us making a commitment to each other is a very profound human experience. You don't get that from a screen.

Speaker 2 Well, also in an individualistic society, you're almost trained to not need anyone else but yourself. Well, but, you know,

Speaker 2 I have friends who went to Eton.

Speaker 2 Actually, so the definition for me of many Englishmen is your mother hates you and sends you off to boarding school when you're six years old and never looks after you anymore.

Speaker 2 And what helped my friends who went to the public schools in England was sports.

Speaker 2 Enormously powerful.

Speaker 2 People felt really close to each other, moving together, throwing balls together,

Speaker 2 fighting in the fields.

Speaker 2 That traditionally has been the way that guys get close together.

Speaker 2 Yeah. That may ring a bell with you somewhere.
Of course, yeah. I was thinking back to playing football growing up, and just

Speaker 2 you're one unit effectively. And if there's a problem in this part of the pitch, then it's my problem too.
If you're in trouble, I'm there to help you.

Speaker 2 And I bet you you still make easy contacts with your friends who you played football with 20 years ago. No, 30 years ago.

Speaker 2 It's really interesting because as you were talking, I was wondering how we can bring that back into our lives in the modern world. Yeah.
In a modern world where we live on screens and

Speaker 2 white walls alone. Yeah.

Speaker 2 You know, the studies say that the average, I think it said something like the average American has an average of zero people that they feel they could turn to in a time of crisis, which is down from like three, I think, two decades ago.

Speaker 2 I'll have a look. I'll have a look at the stats.

Speaker 2 I'll pull up the stats. But the general idea of like us being lonelier than ever before, and how do we in a society that's like designed to be lonely, how do I on an individual level fix that?

Speaker 2 I think that's the big challenge. Actually,

Speaker 2 we have a foundation now and the main thing that we're interested in is in finding funding for projects like that. Of how do you help people to connect to each other, be in sync with each other.

Speaker 2 We're very much into

Speaker 2 people making music together, making theater together, creating projects together. That is who we are.
That is our glory as human beings, is this collaborative, active, physical creation of things.

Speaker 2 And that sort of not has not been part of mental health. We talk and we give pills, but we don't really connect people on a very deep level.

Speaker 2 Are you optimistic about this?

Speaker 2 Not after the last election, no.

Speaker 2 Really? I'm very desperate after the election. Yeah.

Speaker 2 You're very desperate after the last election. Why?

Speaker 2 Because the last election was based on othering.

Speaker 2 You are different. Projection.
You're evil.

Speaker 2 These immigrants come and kill us and they project their own discomfort with themselves on people from different religions and different skin colours, etc.

Speaker 2 It's all projection of people's own discomfort with themselves. And there's no honesty about the problem that's inside of me and not you.

Speaker 2 So I think you're not a fan of Trump.

Speaker 2 Let's leave it at that.

Speaker 2 No, I think, no, you're an obvious psychopath who doesn't give a shit about anybody else.

Speaker 2 Are you able to point at anything good about him? And when I've had people on this show that are pro-Trump, I ask them the same questions. I say, can you point about anything bad about him?

Speaker 2 Because he's got a a family. Anybody who goes to China and says, I've been received better than anybody else in Chinese history, is a fool.

Speaker 2 The guy's gone bankrupt any number of times. He says terrible things to other people.
He insults other people all the time.

Speaker 2 I'm sure there's something good about him. Ivanka seems to have loved him at some point.

Speaker 2 He's a terrible person.

Speaker 2 Going back to this point of trauma, you say that there's three broad ways to reverse the damage of trauma.

Speaker 2 So, if I came to you and I was a traumatized person, whatever that trauma might be,

Speaker 2 what would step one be if I came to you for support with my trauma? Step one is: tell me about yourself. Who are you?

Speaker 2 What do we value? What is working?

Speaker 2 What do you want to work? And what gets in the way? So, at start of really, language is terribly important. I don't make a list of how screwed up you are.

Speaker 2 I help to create a DSM at some point, in a very minor role, but the DSM is not a good way of starting off. Namely, how sick are you?

Speaker 2 I want to know who you are, what is working, what isn't working, what has helped you, what hasn't helped you, what gets in the way. And so we create a map.
together of who you are

Speaker 2 and to some degree who you are in a relationship with me.

Speaker 2 And I would check a lot with people about is this helping you?

Speaker 2 So

Speaker 2 I don't prescribe.

Speaker 2 At some point I may say, well, have you thought about doing some martial arts?

Speaker 2 Would you be interested in going to a yoga studio? But by and large, I give very little advice, but I help people

Speaker 2 to discover what is going on and where that leads them in a way.

Speaker 2 And then once you've done that,

Speaker 2 so you find out that I had some early traumatic experience, how do you know what treatment would you give me? That is another tricky thing.

Speaker 2 And that is something in my book, I tried to do that and I failed. And in my new book, I'm not doing very much better.
I would see how agitated you get, how much you stay in focus.

Speaker 2 And if I would see that whenever a particular subject comes up, up, I see you're getting agitated or shut down, I would focus on that particular experience.

Speaker 2 And if I would see that you are sort of chronically agitated and unable to focus,

Speaker 2 I would say, let's just do something. You should do some things that help to calm your body and your brain down.

Speaker 2 And I'd say, when you're sort of overall overwhelmed, let's start with yoga or qigong or whatever makes sense to you in terms of how to move your body. And I'd probably do neurofeedback.

Speaker 2 What's neurofeedback? Neurofeedback is you hook your skull up to electrodes that can harvest the underlying brain waves. So you can project your brain activity on a computer screen.

Speaker 2 And then you can play computer games with your own brain waves to

Speaker 2 organize your brain waves in a way that you can be more focused and pay more attention.

Speaker 2 So I've got some graph what I'll put on the screen for anybody watching and it shows five different types of brain waves.

Speaker 2 Gamma brain waves which are very close brain waves, beta less close, alpha less close, theta less close and then delta which is when you're sort of sleeping dreaming, the waves are very very far apart, almost flat.

Speaker 2 So looking at these different types of brain waves, if we just categorize them from one being when the brain waves are really tight and close to five, which is delta when they're really far apart,

Speaker 2 is one

Speaker 2 gamma? Is that like anxiety or something? No, no, anxiety is very focused thinking. Okay, fine.
But it depends on where it is.

Speaker 2 So the back of your brain is supposed to have these slow waves because your back of the brain is dealing with the housekeeping of your body.

Speaker 2 The back of your brain tells you you have to breathe a little bit more, you have to go to the bathroom, you have to eat,

Speaker 2 you have to.

Speaker 2 So bodily regulation, a very large part of your brain is about your body regulation, which got messed up in a major way by trauma. So,

Speaker 2 for example, when you close your eyes,

Speaker 2 the back of your brain is supposed to develop nice, slow waves to tell you, I'm feeling peaceful.

Speaker 2 When you're traumatized, when they ask you to close your eyes, it is very likely that the back of your brain will get agitated and create much faster waves. than you should.

Speaker 2 And so you get a sense of agitation the moment you close your eyes,

Speaker 2 which is of course

Speaker 2 very detrimental to your health. So my job then becomes how to train your brain so that when you close your eyes, your back of your brain becomes very calm.
For example,

Speaker 2 again, this is not about trauma, it's about brain organization.

Speaker 2 So trauma leads to brain organization, but you don't treat the trauma, you treat the brain disorganization.

Speaker 2 So for the average person that comes to you, what do you typically end up

Speaker 2 telling them to do?

Speaker 2 That the average person? Some people these days, I say, I think it would be very good for you to have a psychedelic experience. A psychedelic interpreter.

Speaker 2 And you found them yourself telling people that more than more and more recently? Well, because I have done the research now and

Speaker 2 our results were really quite stunning, much better than I ever expected, actually.

Speaker 2 But I may tell you, no, you're not ready for psychedelics.

Speaker 2 I think you should really do some neurofeedback and some body practices to live more in your body before we start blowing your mind open when you say body practices we'll get on to psychedelics but body practices these are the things you were talking about like the yoga the martial arts um massages massages any massage

Speaker 2 well i happen to know some very good body people okay who so if you if you have been beaten up or molested

Speaker 2 human touch tends to become very complicated and so you may not feel comforted by human touch And

Speaker 2 other humans may not have a calming effect in your body, which is really what we're supposed to have in each other. So learning to live in a body that can be touched is quite important.

Speaker 2 Is touch healing? Oh, absolutely. But you don't have kids yet? No.

Speaker 2 Well, you have a girlfriend.

Speaker 2 You know. Yeah, it's true.

Speaker 2 Touch is an elemental human comfort thing. You described these three broad ways of reversing trauma, the top-down approach, which is, I guess, talk therapy.
Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 Talk therapy is understanding insight, et cetera. Are you a fan of that? No, basically,

Speaker 2 I'm such a cerebral person, so I'm very suspicious of that piece. That's, you know, explaining things, understanding things is not my greatest handicap.
So

Speaker 2 I tend to downplay that, the importance of that. Number two is taking medications,

Speaker 2 which is to shut down the body's alarm signals, essentially.

Speaker 2 Are you a a fan of that? Well, that's how I started life off as a psychopharmacologist. I did the first studies ever on Prozac and Zorov for PTSD.
And so they're not bad.

Speaker 2 They can be helpful to people. And the third approach, the bottom-up approach, is allowing the body to have experiences that contradict the helplessness or rage or trauma.

Speaker 2 And this is really what you focus on, which are called somatic therapies, which target the body rather than the mind.

Speaker 2 Well, it's a very important piece.

Speaker 2 And I very much think that's a very big missing piece in the therapy, mental health and medical field in general, to give people experiences of connection and pleasure. That is terribly important.

Speaker 2 But when I,

Speaker 2 you know, I wrote this book before I got into psychedelic therapies, I would add another dimension of

Speaker 2 experiences that really blow your mind. that really

Speaker 2 allow you to have an alternate reality experience also.

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And if you do it, please tag me, send me a message online. Can the gym help?

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 2 But that tends to become a very solitary experience also. You're sitting in a little treadmill watching Fox News is not my ideal trauma treatment.

Speaker 2 Because I go to the gym, I lift weights. And so I'm wondering if

Speaker 2 that's going to help me.

Speaker 2 But that's interesting. Like one of my close colleagues, former friend,

Speaker 2 is a weightlifter and she really is very committed that

Speaker 2 lifting weights can be extremely helpful for trauma. And when she says that, I'm sure that's true for her.
And I wonder for how many other people that's true.

Speaker 2 The trouble is that in their current system, you're not going to get the money to study weightlifting for trauma.

Speaker 2 Even though you say it's helpful for you, my friend Mariah says it's helpful for you. I go like, interesting.
Let's see for how many people it's helpful.

Speaker 2 Yeah, one of the ways I think about it is actually a lot of the people that I've interviewed that are weightlifters

Speaker 2 are bullied kids. I think about Mike, who I had on the show, Chrissy Cello, who I had on the show, both of them speak to, even Lane Norton, actually, I think he speaks to some early trauma as well.

Speaker 2 They're kids that were bullied in some form or had a traumatic early upbringing.

Speaker 2 And they are just massive now. And I wonder, you know, some people on the surface go, or even Lilliking, actually.

Speaker 2 You're that way because you're learning to defend yourself and to build your self-esteem. But there's

Speaker 2 that gesture is not the right gesture.

Speaker 2 Like, oh, you're just doing that because yeah as if you're being dismissive instead of saying good for you you're doing that because you felt so helpless and you want to build up your bulk interesting the my association is that i testified on behalf of many people who were abused by catholic priests and almost to a person they had become weightlifters and bodybuilders really clearly for the reason that you also mentioned they were just trying to bulk up to feel a sense of agency and power, and it didn't work well enough for them.

Speaker 2 So that alone wasn't enough.

Speaker 2 I think you also needed to make the connection with their helplessness. Psychedelic therapy.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 What's your view on psychedelic therapy? There's my own personal background. Of course, I'm a child of the 60s.
So

Speaker 2 I knew about LSD.

Speaker 2 And

Speaker 2 I think LSD for me at that time, I became a good medical student and

Speaker 2 came with the culture, stopped taking drugs. But my memory of taking LSD was very positive in that at that time I got to see

Speaker 2 that I'm a very small part of a very large universe and that whatever constructs I make in my mind are just very small constructs of a much larger reality.

Speaker 2 And over time I've had

Speaker 2 quite a few of my friends have become very, very good scientists. And they say the same thing about their early LSD experiences of really truly having opened up their minds to many possibilities.

Speaker 2 But then the culture changed and they became illegal, criminalized, and people stopped doing that. And then Rick Doblin and Michael Mithofer started to open up the world of psychedelics.

Speaker 2 asked me about it 15 years ago or something.

Speaker 2 And I said, I think it's a great idea because when you are traumatized you live in a very constricted world basically the trauma dominates your perceptions and regularly sort of interferes with your exploring larger realities and i think in theory uh having a psychedelic experience an open mind-opening experience would be very helpful but i discouraged them from doing it because i thought it was too you'll never get by the regulatory practices and then they raised enough money and asked me if I wanted to run the Boston side of a very large study, which was eager to do, where we compared very good psychotherapy by people who I largely had trained

Speaker 2 with psychotherapy plus MDMA, and the results were stunning. You described it.
Stunning.

Speaker 2 I thought that therapy would be very helpful in many regards. And it turned out that therapy didn't make that much of a difference.
A little bit.

Speaker 2 But that the MDMA vastly

Speaker 2 changed the situation. And

Speaker 2 I wrote up the paper, but I'm actually astounded by how little that paper gets quoted.

Speaker 2 I mainly focus on the so-called secondary data of the study, which was how trauma changes your experience of yourself.

Speaker 2 And what we saw is that people became much more aware of themselves. People had compassion for themselves.

Speaker 2 so people oftentimes went into their traumatic experience and had this sense of time of, oh my god, this happened to me, that was so awful, it happened to me personally also actually on psychedelics, of

Speaker 2 things coming up that you were unaware of

Speaker 2 were so vivid deep down inside. And then feeling, oh, this poor kid, look what he went through.
He was so little, he was so small, he couldn't defend himself.

Speaker 2 And so you get this very deep sense of self-compassion instead of the usual response of self-hatred and self-blame. And then the next thing that we saw happen all the time is,

Speaker 2 and I was such a beautiful kid, and I had this alcoholic violent father, not talking about myself, but good.

Speaker 2 My poor dad, he never got to really enjoy this beautiful kid that he had. And they have compassion for the perpetrators.

Speaker 2 Like, it's an astounding astoundingly compassion-opening drug, which is what we have been looking for in so many areas in life.

Speaker 2 You call psychedelics a true revolution, yeah, it is, yeah. And you say it's a particularly revolution because we don't know how it works.

Speaker 2 And I was looking at some stats, but we don't know how anything works, you know.

Speaker 2 We just have a bunch of hypotheses. Yeah, I was looking at some stats that say, um, MDMA therapy

Speaker 2 assisted, which is an important point. That's what we did, yeah.
Assisted with

Speaker 2 a therapist there, or someone who's a practitioner there, a phase three clinical trial reported that 67% of participants who received MDMA assisted therapy no longer met the PTSD criteria compared to 30 odd percent in the placebo group, which is a pretty drastic change.

Speaker 2 That is the main paper that on which I'm also an author. It gets quoted.

Speaker 2 But what I think is more important, not whether the PTSD did so well, but people's relationship to themselves changed.

Speaker 2 And my other paper describes that actually. But it doesn't get quoted as much.

Speaker 2 People can be focused on the PTSD.

Speaker 2 The real issue is, do you love yourself? Is your heart open? Are you open to new experiences? You know, not do we have this little list of symptoms in the PTSD skill, but are you a human being who

Speaker 2 embraces himself as a human being?

Speaker 2 Some really interesting studies around treatment-resistant depression as well.

Speaker 2 One with psilocybin, which is what people know as magic mushrooms, a treatment-resistant depression study in 2021 showed that a single dose of psilocybin led to a significant reduction in depression with effects lasting up to six weeks for many participants.

Speaker 2 30% of participants were in remission after three weeks.

Speaker 2 And a study by Johns Hopkins University showed that 71% of participants experienced a more than 50% reduction in symptoms after two psilocybin sessions, with 54% achieving remission four weeks after the treatment.

Speaker 2 And the last study that I'll share is a follow-up study found that nearly 60% of participants maintained reductions in depression symptoms one year after treatment.

Speaker 2 But these compounds aren't even legal in America and the UK yet. That's right.
But ketamine is. Ketamine is.
And we do a fair amount of ketamine assistant therapy these days.

Speaker 2 And I'm intrigued that ketamine seems to have similar effects to psilocybin and MDMA even though they're completely different chemical substances. Have you ever done a psychedelic drug?

Speaker 2 Yeah, of course. You've done that.
As part of my being PI of this MDMA study, I had to do MDMA. But for example, I thought MDMA was ecstasy and put you in a place of pleasure.

Speaker 2 As part of my job, I had to take MDMA myself, and I was ready for my magical experience. I'd never done it before.
And instead, I had always poo-pooed the issue of vicarious trauma.

Speaker 2 No, it didn't really hurt me all that much to see all the trauma in the world.

Speaker 2 And while I was having my MDMA experiences, all the traumatized people's pain that I had experienced over the time came back. I lied there for eight hours in agony, going, oh my God, oh my God.

Speaker 2 And I got in touch with that hearing all these trauma stories did have had a profound effect on me. And so I was really changed by that MDMA experience.
I became a much sadder but somewhat wiser man.

Speaker 2 You became a sadder man? Absolutely. I really felt all the pain much more deeply.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 I was able to sort of ball it off onto that point and the ball came down and

Speaker 2 it was quite painful.

Speaker 2 But what helped me is that my guide, Michael Mithoffer, when I told him how I felt like a failure, having had such a painful experience, he said, yeah, I know.

Speaker 2 I used to be an emergency room physician, and what are my psychedelic experiences? All the patients who died in my hands came to visit me.

Speaker 2 So that was helpful for me, because it

Speaker 2 made me feel like I had a connection with another human being. And so that context is terribly important.

Speaker 2 And that's really what much of the

Speaker 2 issues are about right now. And I think we may very well lose that and that is that

Speaker 2 clearly you need to do psychedelics in very safe

Speaker 2 conditions with a lot of support and that the set and setting of psychedelics which Johns Hopkins study also took very good care of all the studies you mentioned did that is that the context is terribly important and while you're in these experiences the environment needs to be completely supportive and safe and be there for you

Speaker 2 And what our world, profit-driven world is looking for is to give people psychedelics, give them one pill and go off by yourself. And then

Speaker 2 the majority of the people in our study said to us when the study was over, I couldn't have done this if you guys hadn't been here with me.

Speaker 2 Did that experience with psychedelics, the MDMA experience you had, change you? Yeah, I think it did. It made me a much more

Speaker 2 humble person and much more compassionate to people in general.

Speaker 2 Just one dose. Well, I've had some other experiences.
Also, I've had a number of other really painful experiences on psychedelics.

Speaker 2 And it made me much more...

Speaker 2 So, you know, people say, oh,

Speaker 2 how's your life gone? I became much more aware to what degree my quest for understanding trauma had to do with me than, and I learned more after age 70, actually. Really? Yeah.

Speaker 2 Earlier on, I asked if people could heal from their trauma. Yeah.
Have you healed from yours?

Speaker 2 No, healing is a complex word. I would say, yes,

Speaker 2 I'm doing well.

Speaker 2 As do many people I've worked with.

Speaker 2 I think the real power of my book is that it's a very hopeful book. Every chapter tells stories about people who are better.

Speaker 2 And as much science as I've been able to do, I've proven how helpful EMDR can be. I've proven how well yoga can be.
I've proven how well neurofeedback can do.

Speaker 2 That's really has been my mission is to not only be an advocate, but to really say, let's do the science and see how well it works and for whom.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 2 What is the, of all the things that you've tried in your life to help you with your own personal trauma, what are the things that have personally helped you the most?

Speaker 2 There's another thing that's really helped me and that got me into theater is the issue of psychodrama. Psychodrama.

Speaker 2 Yeah, the chapter in the book, and I've never done the science behind it, but I still love doing it. And that is

Speaker 2 when you act out things in three-dimensional space, it becomes a completely different phenomenon. If I tell you, let's put your family in this room.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 And I say,

Speaker 2 when you choose somebody to play the role of your dad, where would you put your dad?

Speaker 2 You know where you'll put your dad.

Speaker 2 I put my dad in this room right now. I put put him there.
Right there. Yeah.

Speaker 2 Not there, but there. Yeah, yeah.
So that's what the hell is happening here. You know precisely where you want him.

Speaker 2 And if somebody would play that role for you, the feelings towards your dad would come up. Maybe even in your imagination to some degree right now.

Speaker 2 If you imagine your dad there, what's the first thing that comes to your mind?

Speaker 2 Well, I put my dad at the... head of the table that we're at because he was always at the head of the table in my household.

Speaker 2 He was always the one when we were at a table who was in charge of us eating stuff. What sort of reaction would you have as you see him here?

Speaker 2 It's complicated because exactly. Yeah,

Speaker 2 it's complicated because one of the reactions is like

Speaker 2 one of the reactions I had is when he sits there, he's in charge.

Speaker 2 But now as an adult, I have this other feeling which is like, no, I'm in charge now

Speaker 2 because I'm at the head of the table. I'm the head of my household now.
So it's just this authority thing of like...

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 2 That would come up.

Speaker 2 It doesn't come up abstractly, but concretely, when you're sitting there, it comes up. And you may say, actually, that I'm the boss now.

Speaker 2 Or

Speaker 2 I hate that you're being the boss. Or something, some feeling comes up.
My freedom.

Speaker 2 And what is striking is that for everybody, when they put that virtual person in the room, the feelings towards that person become very vivid.

Speaker 2 And the overlap is quite different from what the story that people tell, actually. It brings up the three-dimensional...

Speaker 2 And oftentimes people have had harsh and neglectful fathers. And then, but I say at some point after you sort of do things with him, I may even say, you want to hit your dad.

Speaker 2 Possibly, I might actually

Speaker 2 do that, actually. Have you

Speaker 2 hit your dad? put a pillow in front of him,

Speaker 2 but you feel it, oh my God, if I could have done that, it would have been so great. Or how guilty I feel.
So you do something virtually, but you could never do in your words.

Speaker 2 And then I would say, would you like to pick somebody in this room to play the role of the dad that you always wanted?

Speaker 2 The dad you always wanted. And then you choose somebody.

Speaker 2 And I encourage you to see how you would like that person to hold you.

Speaker 2 And when you have that,

Speaker 2 you usually have a very deep emotional release and say,

Speaker 2 oh my God,

Speaker 2 if my dad would have helped me like that when I was three years old or five years old or eight years old and I needed it, my life would have been completely different.

Speaker 2 And so you make a virtual new reality

Speaker 2 that is physical and visceral with other people. And the memory of what it feels like can be very profound.

Speaker 2 And you're doing this in s with a group of people?

Speaker 2 I do this about four times a year with a group of people. It's my favorite kind of activity, activity because i'm always just so astounded by what comes out of it

Speaker 2 yeah

Speaker 2 uh it's almost role-playing your past and role-playing but you really because you work in three-dimensional space it feels much more real yeah

Speaker 2 and so but but therapists usually they have this hope that

Speaker 2 If I'm respectful and caring towards you, I'll give you a reparative emotional experience that will give you the feeling of what it would have

Speaker 2 been like if you had gotten that in the past. And what my old teacher about it said about it's a mismatch.

Speaker 2 I as an 18-year-old guy cannot give you as a 30-something year old guy the feeling of what it would be like if your mom would have loved you at age three.

Speaker 2 We cannot do that.

Speaker 2 But in the theatrical enterprises in three-dimensional space, they're very physical, you do get an imprint of, oh, that is is what it felt like. That's what I was missing.

Speaker 2 So it's a very powerful way of creating a virtual reality.

Speaker 2 So the subject matter of ADHD

Speaker 2 has become very popular in culture. In 2022, approximately 11% of children aged 3 to 17 had been diagnosed with ADHD, up from 9% roughly in 2016.

Speaker 2 And in the UK, between 2000 and 2018, ADHD diagnosis in adults rose 20-fold. What? With a 20-fold increase in medication prescriptions among men aged 18 to 29.
And that's from the NHR.

Speaker 2 And in Australia, over the past decade, ADHD medication has surged nearly 300% with more than a 450% increase among adults and a significant rise among women. What is going on here?

Speaker 2 See, I really see that somewhat differently from the way you guys talked about it before. And that is all these things are on a continuum.

Speaker 2 You don't have PTSD or you have PTD or you have don't have ADHD or you don't have ADHD. There's no binary issues.

Speaker 2 So this capacity to focus, to pay attention, to be flexible in your attention is a dimensional issue.

Speaker 2 So people some people have it better more than others. Some people cannot sit still at all and other people can sit still under certain conditions.

Speaker 2 So

Speaker 2 it's not like you have ADHD or not. You may have some issues staying focused or staying still or paying attention.

Speaker 2 There may be very many underlying issues. It may be that

Speaker 2 your mom took some toxins while she was pregnant with you. It's possible that it is in your genes.

Speaker 2 Just about every traumatized kid I've ever seen met criteria for ADHD because trauma really messes up your capacity to focus and concentrate. So this is not an entity.
it is a fictitious entity.

Speaker 2 It's not like cancer of the gallbladder. It's not having

Speaker 2 astrocytoma in your brain. And these mental phenomena are networks of complicated ways of organizing your mind.
And our diagnostic system just sucks.

Speaker 2 When I spoke to Gabor Mate, he, do you know Gabor Mate? Yeah, sure. Yeah, he was describing what ADHD was to me.
And he said

Speaker 2 he views it as a response to early childhood stress and trauma rather than purely genetic or neurological. Well, but I wouldn't say that.

Speaker 2 I'd say it could be genetic, it could be toxic, it could be trauma. This is the surface behavior of not being able to focus and concentrate.
Like my son certainly had mad criteria with ADHD.

Speaker 2 My son, other than that he disappointed me, was not a particularly traumatized kid.

Speaker 2 No, he really had real issues, organically based, but that he outgrew also at some point. So these things are not stable.
These are configurations that you can grow with over time.

Speaker 2 And they're not multi, they're multifactorial.

Speaker 2 They're surface phenomena. Because I was diagnosed with ADHD, but the way

Speaker 2 other people that have ADHD have just like drastically different

Speaker 2 symptoms to me. Like drastically different.
Like we're not the same people at all.

Speaker 2 When I come close to the same ballpark, like for example, I'm really good at focusing on something for quite a long time if I'm interested.

Speaker 2 Whereas I often hear people with certain types of ADHD be very unfocused

Speaker 2 on things.

Speaker 2 And so I have struggled with understanding what it means to be diagnosed with ADHD when

Speaker 2 there can be so many types. Yeah, that's right.

Speaker 2 So it almost makes me feel that the label, the singular label, which we share, although there's all these subtypes, isn't necessarily helping me to understand myself in any way. Yeah.

Speaker 2 Like I would really you know, everybody who who is serious about this stuff knows that our diagnostic system totally sucks. Really? Yeah.

Speaker 2 Just is a total artifact of us sitting in a room 40 years ago making up little lists of diagnoses. There's no scientific validity to this.

Speaker 2 Actually, PTSD is one of the more scientifically reliable diagnosis of all the diagnoses. Th they're they're just very primitive ways of categorizing human mind.

Speaker 2 and we know so much more and we should move beyond that and everybody who knows something about science knows that we should move beyond it. But we are not.
Why?

Speaker 2 I think we're not doing it because our focus is not on helping people. Our focus is on running successful

Speaker 2 financial organizations.

Speaker 2 You know,

Speaker 2 I teach neurofeedback and there's a chapter on neurofeedback there and this serious research on neurofeedback and we do neurofeedback trainings.

Speaker 2 And so the head of an insurance company took a training with me in neurofeedback and he pulled me aside and said Basil of course you know that as a head of insurance company I'm not interested in getting people better I'm interested in having as many subscribers to my pan as I can you know if we really went back to being real doctors we say how do I get you better what is wrong with you and and we know so much about neuroscience these days about how the brain organizes information that it's time to actually update ourselves to 2024 and start thinking about networks in the brain and what part of the brain is connected with but and mental functioning at different ages and what kids understand at age three, which is different than age five.

Speaker 2 Think in terms of how well is your brain able to filter out irrelevant information?

Speaker 2 How well is your brain able to be still and quiet? And how well are you able to take on the task and complete it?

Speaker 2 How do I not raise a traumatized kid? That's all, because I'm going to have kids probably quite soon, hopefully.

Speaker 2 And I don't want to raise traumatized kids.

Speaker 2 Be sure to listen to people in your environment. Don't raise them by yourself.
I think raising a kid by yourself,

Speaker 2 you'll get the full brunt of your own pathology.

Speaker 2 So it's very important for a kid to be raised by a number of people. So the kid gets to see, oh, my dad is a little bit reactive, but my neighbor across the street is much calmer.

Speaker 2 And so the kid gets to see multiple perspectives as all of us idealize African villages as people having many different parents who look after you. It takes a village.
It takes a village.

Speaker 2 I think kids need to be really part of a large environment where they can see their parents as safe people, but also flawed people.

Speaker 2 And the more nuclear you get,

Speaker 2 the harder it gets to keep your pathology out of your kids.

Speaker 2 life actually. So community is everything also in terms of raising a child.

Speaker 2 Is there anything that you think is healing towards trauma, childhood trauma, all forms of trauma that we haven't talked about?

Speaker 2 Well, the critical issue is that trauma is about being helpless and not nobody coming to your rescue.

Speaker 2 And so it's very important to have the experience that if you really cannot do something or you're scared, that somebody comes to your help at this point.

Speaker 2 And then you get an imprint that even when I feel really bad, somebody will come and be there for me.

Speaker 2 And that is what many people miss.

Speaker 2 When you have a drunken parent,

Speaker 2 we see this all the time in our practice. People have a violent parent, usually the violent, but not always.

Speaker 2 And then

Speaker 2 mom or dad,

Speaker 2 in my case, more or my dad or my mom,

Speaker 2 turns a blind eye and doesn't say, I'll take care of you even though the other parent is hurting you.

Speaker 2 And the betrayal of a parent to let the other parent do terrible things to them and not really say, no, you cannot do this to my kid, is a huge thing for many people.

Speaker 2 It's interesting. Yeah.

Speaker 2 Having bystanders who do not come to your help. very big deal.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 And the way to recover from that is to counteract it with adult information. Yeah, it's

Speaker 2 have life experiences where people come to your help. And I think

Speaker 2 being part of a sports team, being part of a theater group, being part of a musical group, where people really feel now it's your turn, come in. And

Speaker 2 I think the issue of rhythmicity and synchronicity is really at the core of our internal sense of safety and belonging. Yeah.

Speaker 2 Vessel, we have a closing tradition on this podcast where the last guest leaves a question for the next guest, not knowing who they're leaving it for. And the question that's been left for you is,

Speaker 2 what do you believe is the question that the audience have just heard this conversation are screaming down the camera?

Speaker 2 The question is,

Speaker 2 where do I get the help I need?

Speaker 2 I think that's really the big thing, because it is so hard. It is such an exploration.

Speaker 2 Almost everybody who I know who have found a way of getting better has been an explorer

Speaker 2 and

Speaker 2 quite an accidental explorer.

Speaker 2 And then I found this

Speaker 2 kavadi teacher, and then I found this yoga teacher, and then I found this psychodramatist.

Speaker 2 But it's very largely accidental.

Speaker 2 I think the mainstream is not on the right road.

Speaker 2 So you have to discover what works for you. And that's a very tough one because you'll feel stupid and ignorant.

Speaker 2 And if something is not helping you, it is very hard for you to sell for yourself, this is not helping me because

Speaker 2 this person is not helping me. Rather than blaming yourself, there must be something wrong with me that is not helpful for you.
And

Speaker 2 making that distinction is a very tough one. I know it from my experience.

Speaker 2 I've been in treatments for long periods of time despite all my qualifications where it took me a long time to go like i'm wasting my time and my money and if you don't have my education and background it's even harder to say i'm wasting my time my money yeah

Speaker 2 it's interesting as you were speaking i was reflecting on the things that i was thinking a lot about this idea of community and you're talking about how being in sports teams helps and i was thinking about in my adult life in some of my most difficult times when things were difficult and I went and played football or some kind of sports with a group of people, I just felt radically better.

Speaker 2 And I think actually I put it down to, oh, well, because, you know, I did some exercise, but actually, I think there's something deeper. Oh, no.
It's that connection.

Speaker 2 Passing that ball, somebody catching it. You know, I made a difference.
Playing music, my little piece of music that I made made it a better place. Being in a theater group,

Speaker 2 being a cook. You know, there's many dimensions along which you can do that.
Many of us, especially, I think,

Speaker 2 adult men don't have these kind of things. I mean, we go to watch Manchester United play or something like that.

Speaker 2 We go to the football ground, but maybe we need to fill our lives with more of these things. Yeah, we do.
I think. And we should say it ourselves because I need to do more of that also.

Speaker 2 Yeah, well, we kind of just assume that society is designed in such a way where it'll give us what we need. Yeah.

Speaker 2 But in fact, if you think about the loneliness stats and the way things, even like the pub, is less pubs on the high street shutting down across the UK and less community centers. The church is.

Speaker 2 A good example is: I grew up singing all the time.

Speaker 2 And people around me, maybe we sang in schools. And now we got iPods.
Aren't we lucky we get iPods? And then before too long, you stop singing and you start listening to your iPod.

Speaker 2 And so technology has been an unbelievable blessing. And what a curse it has been for us.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 2 Dr. Bessel van der Kolk.
Thank you so much for the work,

Speaker 2 Duke.

Speaker 2 As I said to you before we started recording, you have so many extremely passionate followers, advocates, fans, because your work has made them completely rethink and understand their lived experience and also given them a much more optimistic, hopeful cure or treatment for their lived experience.

Speaker 2 One of which is my partner, who, when she, she's been telling me for three years to get you on this show and was so extremely excited.

Speaker 2 I think it's the happiest I've made her in the last three years when I said that you'd agreed to come on. Genuinely.

Speaker 2 But that for me is such a personal and sort of local

Speaker 2 sign of evidence of the impact you have on people. It is tremendous.
So, thank you on behalf of all of those people for the work that you do.

Speaker 2 And please do keep on doing it because it's opening all of our eyes. And you too.
Thank you. I love you, Shield.
I appreciate you. Thank you.

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