Ep 24 - Bill Perkins - How to Die With Zero (and Actually Live First)

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Is Future Planning Ruining Your Future? What if your financial advisor told you to spend your money now? To give away your inheritance early? To go on more vacations? To prioritize experience over investment? What if they told you the only inflation-protected asset is experience? Bill Perkins is a hedge fund manager, poker player, and author of the bestseller Die With Zero. On this week’s episode, he breaks down why money is just a means — and experience is the end. 📚 What We Discuss wit...

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I'm not an anti-delayed gratification person.

I'm a think about the context of your situation and what experiences do you want when.

Life is now, life is urgent.

Would you rather have one ski trip in your 30s or let's say two and a half ski trips in your 50s?

What is the money for?

Hello, friends.

This is Tyler Gardner welcoming you to another episode of your Money Guide on the Side, where it is my job to simplify what seems complex, add nuance to what seems simple, and learn from and alongside some of the brightest minds in money, finance, and investing.

So let's get started and get you one step closer to where you need to be.

Today's guest is someone whose work hit me harder than I expected.

Bill Perkins is the author of Die with Zero, a book that came recommended to me by so many people I trust that I finally had to pick it up.

And not only did I pick it up, but to be honest, at this point, I think I've read it five times.

Because throughout my life, I've been a great saver and investor.

I followed all the rules.

Save early, save often, invest in low-cost index funds, you know the deal.

But what I hadn't realized until reading Bill's book was that the years were indeed starting to pass.

And I'm still not quite finding how to balance my investing with my healthy spending on everyday experience.

Bill Perkins doesn't just question the wisdom of saving for someday.

He challenges it head-on.

Die with Zero is about optimizing your life while you can, turning money into meaningful experiences, and measuring wealth in time well spent, not just dollars saved.

And Bill brings more than theories to the table.

He's been a hedge fund manager, a high-stakes poker player, an entrepreneur, and a world traveler to say the least.

Someone who knows what it means to manage risk and and reward in the real world, not just on spreadsheets.

In this conversation, we explore why saving too much can be one of the biggest mistakes you ever make, how to reframe money through the lens of time and meaning, what traditional financial advisors and many of us get wrong about retirement and estate planning, and how you can start designing a deliberate and action-oriented life that you actually

get to live before it's too late.

So, without further ado, a conversation I have been waiting so long to have with Bill Perkins.

It's funny, you're one of the only books that has been recommended to me consistently over the last three years by every demographic to which I connect.

Like, it's pretty awesome, man.

That like 70-year-olds are like, Have you read Perkins?

And then my 20-year-old connection is like, Dude, you got to read Bill Perkins.

Like, this is awesome.

Like, you, you hit on something pretty deep, which I'm sure you know by now.

But, uh, one of the things that obviously drew me to Die with Zero is there's an incredibly cool core of contrarian thinking to a lot of the nonsense we hear throughout life about deferring joy and just kind of letting all the money sit, you know, and letting our lives and bodies kind of break down along the way.

You made a comment early in Die with Zero that you kind of understood this.

And I'll even say kind of like this wisdom when you were at the University of Iowa and you were majoring in engineering and you realized early that you didn't necessarily want to go the traditional route of working for a company like IBM.

Could you just share a little bit about how you came to that realization so early?

Whereas it takes so many people decades, if not their entire lives, to figure out they want to try to kind of break the traditional money script or job script.

Yeah, I think there was a couple things that happened.

I think I was leaning towards that or it was in me.

And I I was going to engineering because it was like, you need to find something to do.

And I was interested in engineering, but I wasn't interested in engineering enough to study real hard and get good grades, right?

Like, I was interested enough to like go and learn.

Is this interesting?

Maybe show up for the test.

Maybe not, you know, play football, chase girls, that type of thing.

And it just seemed so like death to me, but something that needed to be done.

Like, you need to get a job.

And I was having a discussion.

I don't even know what the discussion was about with this other football player player named Dwight Sistrunk.

He came back at me.

He was like, listen, Perkins, I'm not like you.

I don't want a white picket fence and a house and then a job and two car garage, whatever.

Like, I want a different life.

I just thought it was odd at the time.

I was like, who doesn't want that?

Like, that's kind of like every Chevy Chase movie I've seen.

You know what I mean?

With the,

you know, Steve Morton.

They got the nice house.

I'm like, how do I get a house like that?

It's the perfect image.

It's what we all want, right?

Right.

You know, the fact that he just boldly stated that gave me a little bit of courage or fired off the neurons in my brain to think about, like, what do I really want?

Like, if I could snap my fingers.

And I didn't think this through completely at the time, but I knew it wasn't that.

Yeah.

Right.

Yeah.

Well, and one of the things that kind of sprang from that type of thinking is you also reflect on this.

anecdote where early in your professional career, you had started to chase the idea that all of us are chasing in some ways in our 20s of like, I got to be thrifty.

I've got to save some money.

I've got to invest while I can.

And you had a fortunate run-in with your boss at the time, Joe Farrell.

And Joe, can you tell me a little bit about what that run-in entailed and what it taught you about money and how it shaped your thinking going forward?

So the context is, is like, I read a book called Your Money or Your Life at this time.

It completely changes your view about what money is.

It's like money represents what you exchange hours of your life for.

And so one of the results of reading this book is you become really in touch with your values and you tend to become very frugal.

And I was extremely frugal at that time.

I was looking up all the programs to get like the buy the bus ticket in advance to get the, you know, and then wait a minute, if you get your boss to get into this government program, they can co-pay and just scrimping and saving.

And I wind up working at night, driving a limo.

I wanted to save, I think, about $1,000.

And I was sitting there talking to another clerk at the time about how, you know, I'd saved $1,000.

I'm proud of him.

Joe Farrell overhears the conversation.

He's like, What are you, a fucking idiot?

And I was like, Wait, what?

Wait, what?

You know, I was just kind of looking.

I was like, there's my boss calling me a fucking idiot.

And I'm just listening.

He goes,

You came here to make millions.

Like, what are you doing saving $1,000?

Like, go out and spend that money, like, enjoy your life.

And so

it hit me and I thought about it.

I was like, you know, he's kind of right.

Like, I could easily have quit my screen clerk job to go be a waiter or maybe even work at McDonald's and make more money, right?

I didn't come there for that.

I came for the future earnings growth.

And in itself, that was a form of delayed gratification.

And it's like, why was I borrowing from my poor self to give to my future richer self?

It just didn't make any sense, right?

Like, what is 86-year-old me going to do with an extra thousand dollars, right?

Like, or 60-year-old me.

And so I have this problem of being just like a zero or a hundred type of guy.

So I went like a hundred spend the other way, right?

Like I didn't find balance, but that conversation was pivotal and just me thinking about like, what is it all about?

When should I spend my money and that type of thing?

Yeah.

But I mean, but it's obviously it's not to blame because like that's what we're all told.

And I'll be the first person to admit that like 90% of my online content, I'm highly guilty of convincing the next generation to put it in an index fund and save it.

And they're like, dude, we're living on $40,000 a year in Manhattan.

Like we can't do this.

So it seems like kind of a target audience for some of your thinking here is people in their 20s and 30s is just starting to come up with like what their relationship with money will be.

So how do you address that particular audience at this time who on one hand says, Bill, I got it.

Like I'd love to go out and spend and enjoy my 20s while I'm physically and mentally fit.

And at the same time, every single money pressure is telling us like, got to get that 401k match, got to get that Roth IRA.

Like, how do we balance that for for those listeners?

I think for each individual, there's going to be a different set of financial circumstances.

You know, I'm not an anti-delayed gratification person.

I'm a think about the context of your situation and what experiences do you want when, right?

And so some of us are still saving for our survival number later and that's fine.

But realize that, you know, if you're in your 20s, you got a long, long time, right?

And you can recover and things can go well and then it can go wrong.

We definitely are focusing on the money, but what we're really trying to focus on is what is the fulfilling life for you and what experiences belong when.

So that doesn't mean you have to go into a club and pop bottles.

It just means that, hey, perhaps I'm going to buy a board game, spring for some pizza, and have a fun activity day for all my friends so that I can have a fulfilling life.

Sometimes it means that, yeah, instead of putting into the 401k, I'm going to get on a plane and visit relatives in Italy and stay with them and couchsurf and have that type of life.

And so it's really about not just auto saving just to be saving and auto-spending to be auto-spending.

It's about what activities belong in this time bucket of your life and how do I achieve them?

And within that, there's a sub-optimization.

It's like, well, I really want to go see my friend in Florida.

Okay.

Bill Perkins might just go buy a first class ticket.

You might buy a super saver ticket.

You might buy with coupon and points and follow the points guy, right?

And get it cheaper.

Or this guy might take the bus.

Another guy might hitchhike, right?

But we all get that fulfilling experience of seeing our friend, right?

So there's sub-optimizations and sub-optimizations, sub-optimization.

But what the top layer should be is the most fulfilling life in each period of your life.

And money is one of those variables.

And so, you know, what I tell people is, is like, I would sit down with your financial planner and I would go through this.

If we were just sitting down, we'd hack it out, right?

Yeah.

But one of the problems that I hear from people, not just in their 20s or 30s, but in every era of their lives, is that we are either surprisingly or not surprisingly terrible at figuring out what actually fulfills us.

And like, what, like, so, do you have any tricks?

And I'll admit now, like, I'll get to this later.

I'm very bad at figuring out like, what is it that money can buy that actually at the end of the day is going to leave me being like, that was awesome.

So, do you have any techniques you've used throughout your life to kind of figure out this quantitative approach to like, okay, wakeboarding in Texas, 25 points.

Visiting Graham, California, not 25 points.

Notice that I left that part out of the book.

That's like the hardest part, like knowing what you want, right?

But I think, you know, I talk about time bucketing, about breaking your life up into periods.

And then within those periods, thinking about what type of experiences you want to have.

Just by breaking that out and thinking about it, when you list those experiences you want to have, you're listing experiences that intuitively will be fulfilling for you.

So, if it's like, have a kid, go on a trip, go skiing with my friends, celebrate X, Y, and Z.

And as you sit and stare at that blank piece of paper, and trust me, it's tough.

Like, I thought of this, and it's a lot harder than it's, right?

It's like, oh, yeah, just put it down.

And then you stand at the blank piece of paper into five years, and like, I don't know what I really want to happen these five years, right?

If you write down this time period, let's say you're 25 to 30, you're like, okay, in the next five years, what do you get to do?

Let's wave a magic wand.

What are the experiences you want to have?

Right.

Is there a trip that you want to have?

People you want to visit?

Also realize that even in a short time period, life is discovery.

You don't really necessarily know everything that you want.

You discover what you want.

A world in which you know everything is a very sad world,

even about yourself.

And so, like, you need to come back to that piece of paper multiple times.

What are some of the things that have made that list for you so far?

I know, I know that travel and poker are two of them, you know, from the book.

And obviously, I'm looking at that going going like, oh, I would love to play in some of those poker tournaments.

But what are some other things that at least right now, right?

Understanding too, that they can evolve either in your younger self or in your older self.

But what are things right now you've really solidified and said, look, like this is a really good use of my money right now.

This is something that absolutely, like time and again, gives me fulfillment and satisfaction.

So I recently said that every event that I'm at, whether it's my birthday or a trip or going to the movies, is an excuse to hang out with people I love and meet new interesting people and connect.

So it's like, we're playing poker.

It's like, well, it's nine people.

It's our friends.

We're hanging out.

We're trying to destroy each other's wits, maybe make some money, but it's an excuse to hang out.

Let's make an excuse to get together.

We're going to a rocket launch to see SpaceX.

Like, did I go alone?

No, I went with five other people

and we talked about it and we talked, but I did it with friends.

If I can enhance those experiences or create a playground where that happens, like those are the ones that are the most fulfilling experiences.

And the activity may change.

It's like, oh, yeah, that's, that's a fun.

This is fun, but it's just new setting, same real macro concept.

Yeah.

Those are the things I'm trying to collect.

I love the word you use, collect, because I would say that easily the concept that has stuck with me the most and the reason that a couple of my closest friends gave me your book in the first place was your concept of memory dividends, right?

And I know that this is obviously, like, I could tell even from your writing, I'm like, he loves it.

Like, this is good.

Like, he's hit on something really good here.

Could you explain a little bit about both how you arrived at this concept of memory dividends, what they are, and why you think they're so crucial to shaping how we think about money and experience?

Yeah, I was kind of just wrestling with like, if you're going to spend all your money before you die, how does that distribute it throughout your life?

Your body is going to deteriorate such that some of those experiences are going to disappear and some of those experiences are not going to be enjoyable anymore or you're not going to get as much enjoyment out of them.

And it was kind of like, okay,

but you may have more money so you can do more of them, right?

And so how does that offset?

And I just thought, quite frankly, like when you put money in a bank and it pays you dividends or in a stock, et cetera, you're eventually going to consume that when an experience,

but having an experience is not isolated.

You don't forget it.

And a lot of your, my, you know, our self-concept, the things that we know today and our joy comes from experiences that we've had in the past.

So, that you don't just enjoy the experience while it's happening, right?

You enjoy it planning for it.

There's anticipation.

You have the experience, right?

And then it's the remembrance of the experience, your first kiss, your first home run.

And I noticed like when you gather with friends, a lot of the conversation is about things that have happened.

And I noticed that that is an experience in itself, and that produces dividends.

So these experiences produce an inflation-protected return throughout your life.

Nice.

I love that.

I love, there we go.

I'm writing that one down.

Would you rather have one ski trip in your 30s, or let's say, two and a half ski trips in your 50s?

Yeah.

So, like, I want to address that audience for a minute: the audience that's kind of in their 40s or 50s, because I didn't see this in the book, but I love that you're reflecting on it now.

Is that like there are times in our lives where it seems very easy and straightforward?

Like, of course, I'm going to do that in my 20s.

That's what we do in our 20s.

But you get to kind of this gray area of, like, I don't know, between saving for retirement or spending on experience or spending on my family.

I'm not quite sure.

Do you think that we right now?

And when I say we, I mean kind of like traditional financial advisors and thinkers and planners, do we get something wrong about how we talk to people about retirement planning?

Because

100% unequivocal.

Yes.

Yes.

So retirement planners are extremely conservative and solving for not running out of money, making sure you have maximum to cover these scenarios, et cetera.

But what they should be asking their clients is, what does a fulfilling life look for you now to the grave?

They lose sight or they ignore what is the money for?

And so they always think, okay, the money is for 65 plus, right?

And that's not true, right?

It's for my life.

I'm exchanging hours of my life in exchange for money to do the things that I want to do.

And we really need to be in touch with what is the most fulfilling life for this person.

These are the questions we need to ask them in order to give them the right advice.

You know, a lot of people think their life is going to look like a Carnival Cruise commercial when they retire.

And I lived at St.

Thomas for like six and a half years.

And a carnival cruise doesn't look like a carnival cruise commercial.

Many people die like doing activities that they thought they could do just swimming or snorkeling and they have heart attacks because they're not healthy enough or you know etc and that they have a morgue on board you know it happens all the time and usually they've been so uh habituated into work when they get into like vacation mode they don't even know how to vacation they don't know they're so out of touch it's passed them by and you'll find most of them a little bit of sightseeing and a lot of going into the shops to buy t-shirts and trinkets for their for their relatives yeah i'll probably ask a couple selfish questions here because like you also just hit on like some people are very bad at vacationing and as as my wife knows all too well and frustratingly like i'm one of those people who doesn't know how to vacation i don't know how to like take the time off and how to kind of sit with a nothingness do you have any kind of guidance for someone in that situation about like just even starting to practice yeah how to kind of let go of this endless struggle to achieve or get something done or earn more money well imagine somebody who hasn't gone to the gym and a New Year's Eve.

They're like, I'm going to go into the gym.

And then New Year's Day rolls around.

And then by the end of January, all those people, you know, gyms have this predictable pattern where they're packed first month of January and then it tapers off.

And it's difficult, right?

And the key is to stick with it.

Don't quit.

What you're doing by being productive in your job, learning these habits, repeating these habits over and over and getting into routines that are profitable for you is atrophying the rest of your life.

Right.

So you're the equivalent of a couch potato in terms of living life and enjoying life and relaxing and having other things to do.

And so if you go through 20, 40 years, sometimes even 50 years of doing that and you go into retirement, you're just like, what the hell am I doing here?

You know, you're like the guy in a gym, like, this is terrible.

I'm not going to be good at this.

I can't, I can't, I can't do this.

I, maybe I'll come in tomorrow.

Okay, I can't do this.

Wait, can I just just hang around?

Can I be a consultant for the rest of my life?

You know, I got to go do something, right?

And

it's kind of sad because the younger you, when you were 20, there was a very clear line about like, yes, this is an exciting career, but the money was for something, right?

It was for you to go live your life.

But we lose sight of that over time.

We atrophy.

We stop sprinting.

We stop doing the things we love.

We stop doing the things that connected us with other people that we enjoyed.

And so we get into these habits and these skills and these other things that came to us naturally and fulfilling have atrophied and we are the weaklings in life that's well said it doesn't doesn't make me feel any better about my current state

the advice is is that stick with it you can't give up you have to lean into it and eventually just like the person who stays at the gym for three months you break through, you start seeing results, you're like, oh my gosh, why did I do this more?

You might even get addicted and open up the world that was always available to you.

Where do you fall down on now?

I mean, so thinking about kind of especially as you start to reflect on your own aging, one of the other really pivotal and kind of fresh takes that you have in your book that challenged a lot of traditional financial advisors' views and just people in finance who are is estate planning.

Right.

And you had this very fresh take on charitable giving and how we go about estate planning.

Can you reflect a little bit on that and what more people should consider as time starts to pass and people kind of want to pass on their wealth and be more deliberate about it.

Right.

So I think one of the most absurd things that we do, which is just osmosis from, you know, I guess maybe 10,000 years, is waiting till we die to pass on inheritance.

It is perhaps the silliest thing I've ever heard of, right?

The same physics that govern my body govern my children's body, and they are going to deteriorate, right?

And the money is there for them to purchase experiences, right?

To have have a fulfilling life, okay?

So one, if I'm waiting until I'm dying, right?

Like two-thirds of their life has passed by, depending on the age we had kids.

Two, some of the experiences that that money was for, they will not able, won't have the ability to do it, right?

Like

just the lung capacity, bone density, muscle mass, et cetera, will have deteriorated over time.

And so nobody says, hey, I want to be like Warren Buffett and be rich at 86.

And inherent in that is an understanding that the utility of money declines as we age, right?

So if you're waiting till you die to give a gift to your children, you're giving them a diminished gift compared to when they reach mental and physical maturity.

And so people generally reach mental maturity, that means raw calculation power at 28

and physical maturity by age 33.

That's it.

And then you're in plateau and decline.

Okay.

And so,

and then you're done.

You're done.

And then by just saying, hey, I'm just going to leave it off to when I die to give my kids, it's kind of like this cop-out of like not putting pen to paper and saying, what does my life look like?

What do I want to spend?

What is the amount I want to give my kids?

And when is the best time to give it to the kids?

And the same logic goes for charity.

Life is now.

Life is urgent.

It would be a shame if the people that were supporting, I don't know, polio vaccines, Thomas said, you know, I'm going to save up my money and wait another 20 years before we really work on this polio vaccine or donate the money to the polio vaccine.

Like, how many, how many people die and suffer because of that?

And I always say that there's no return greater than that of a human life or human lives.

And so I don't care if you have an 8%, 10%, 15% market return, saving lives and the compounding effect of that is astronomical.

Do you talk to your family openly about this?

Because like, so, I mean, obviously they kind of have a glimpse into your soul a little bit through the book and are able to kind of see especially because you you realize you kind of wrote it as a diary which is great but i know a lot of families also have a really hard time talking about money with kids with one another so do you have a relationship where you can openly talk about this with kids and partners Yeah, so one of the things is after I wrote the book, I realized, holy shit, I'm an idiot.

I have people here in my will that I wouldn't want to give money to that are actually older than me.

This is dumb, you know?

So I rewrote it.

I took it out.

I took the money that I would be giving to them and i gave it to them then with the kids you know you really don't it's really delicate with the kids to tell them what they're getting when because they're like oh i don't need to work

that was my next question was how do you balance this uh well dad's given me this gift so i'm taking the year off it's not it's a it's not an expert but like it eventually when they get to a certain age they become aware and that like preparing them for hey this is what you're going to get or this is what it it looks like now.

These are the skills you're going to need at a minimum to be able to handle this, right?

Like, cause money's a tool, right?

It's like a chainsaw, right?

It can make things easier.

It can cut your arm off, right?

And so I give them enough time that they can prepare for it and understand it, right?

And not just be like, oh, my God.

But

most absurd thing that people are waiting to die to pass on an inheritance.

No, trust me.

And it's one of the ideas that will stick with me forever you know, if I have that level of disposable income at any point, because I mean, even talking to people right now who are going through this incredible process to avoid a lack of clarity once they pass away, and I go, you know, there's actually a much easier way to avoid a lack of clarity with how you want to just give it away right now.

Like, oh, I couldn't do that.

I go, why not?

Like,

it seems so easy.

It seems like you should do it.

They're just like, you know, that's a great day.

Everybody's going to be cheering when I die that day.

And I want to make it more special.

And I don't know, I'm joking.

They have much more utility of that money, much more access to the memory dividends, a much more fulfilling life with a lesser amount early.

And so you start thinking about when is the optimal time to give money to your kids.

It's not in their 60s, right?

And you can kind of like ping-pong around like, well, what are the things they say?

Well, they have to be mature enough to accept it.

You're not going to give a bunch of money to a 15-year-old, right?

I say it this way.

I was like, listen, fuck me.

I live my life, let my kids live their life.

They want to blow it all on, like, I don't know, nightclubs and popping bottles, then that's their choice.

I've made my mistakes, they get a chance to make theirs.

Yeah.

Right.

I'm not going to control them from the grave.

Can I build on that for a second and just ask, if you're comfortable with it, would you mind sharing any of your financial mistakes in life and anything that you feel like this was something that now looking back was not the way that I would have approached money or finance or even, again, life optimization here?

Gosh, I think when I look at the mistakes I've made with money,

I tend to buy into the advertisement that the extra gold-plated version of it got more fulfillment than just the plane going a trip.

And I say this, it's like, oh, it's so easy for you.

Like, yeah, you go here and you, you, you fly in a helicopter, let's say from here to this island, et cetera.

It's like,

same people are still there.

When I get there, somebody with one hundredth of the wealth is taking in the same view, enjoying the same food, connecting with people and having a good time, right?

Because I'm like, hey, figure out what fulfills you and allocate your capital that way.

But then there's a sub-optimization.

And so I think the mistakes that I have made have been not sub-optimizing.

It's like, why'd you spend this when you could have spent that and gotten the same experience and then got more out of life?

And so by and large, I think that's where I've tended to err.

And then obviously in the book, book, I talk about when I was in my frugal days, not going backpacking through Europe.

I mean, I regret that to this day, not realizing that certain experiences are now or never.

It's very easy to just like, oh, I have to go to so-and-so's funeral, so-and-so's wedding, right?

So-and-so's graduation, these important events.

But what about you?

What is the now or never moments in your life that are like, oh,

if I don't do this in this time period of my life, probably never going to do it, or it doesn't fit, right?

Or it's painful, or it's not even enjoyable, right?

For me to go skiing now, I got one or two runs on my knees and that's it.

Yeah.

Right.

So those like 10 run skiing or hella skiing days or whatever it is, they're gone forever.

So I've made some of those mistakes as well.

And have you largely made peace with that?

Have you largely found that you're, as you move from one era of your life optimization and money spending to the next, have you found a way to say, that's okay.

Like, I'm so convinced that, that there's another chapter ahead of me and I'm okay putting that chapter to rest for now?

Yeah, I realize like I, all I have is now until the grave.

And so.

I try and learn from the past mistakes.

You know, I'm a hard way learner.

I have to make the mistake to learn it instead of, you know, I really like to learn from other people's mistakes.

That's the easy way learner, but the bucket you don't want to be is the never learn.

yeah well said and so i'm at peace with that because i can't be beholden i can't let that define me i still have hopefully 30 years maybe a little bit longer of life to live and to enjoy and if i'm just like oh i i messed this up and whatever like why am i allowing that to rest in the limited neural capacity that i have well and i want to close with with a question that i i intentionally kind of as we were going shifted this to the end because it's something that again again, like I hear this from so many people, especially those who are kind of in this rat race right now, that they want to make six figures, that like their first big financial goal is to make six figures.

And somehow, when they have this job that makes a hundred thousand bucks, it all of a sudden means something in the American lexicon of personal finance.

And yet, you reflect really nicely on the total cost of a job in somebody's life, and that a $100,000 job isn't necessarily either more rewarding, but also on a quantitative level, even more money than a $40,000 a year job.

Could you just speak to that audience for one minute of the people that are just itching to get the more money and as you say, the headline salary and what you would leave that group with?

I think a lot of people get attached to the hedonic value or the ego value of I make six figures, right?

And I have to give credit.

I've said, this is probably the third time, the book, Your Money or Your Life, that it's really your hourly wage.

How many hours

of your life are you exchanging for that $100,000 a year job?

And that may include, well, I have to live in New York City.

Let's subtract that out versus the regular, you know, the other job.

Transportation, they expect me to work this many hours a day.

I have to put on a costume every day.

I have to wear a suit and a tie.

I hate that.

I hate, that's why I hate it.

So that's a certain expense associated with it and time during the day, et cetera.

And then when you work it out, like the total expenses of having that headline number, right, may be less than the $48,000 a year job in, let's say, Erie, Pennsylvania.

And it may be less fulfilling because maybe that's where your family and your friends are and you love going on hikes, et cetera.

And so you got to remember, like the top line fulfillment that I'm optimizing for is your fulfillment, right?

Like you should be thinking, like, how do I get maximum fulfillment?

Not how do I get maximum money?

The money is just a variable to drive fulfillment.

You have your wealth, your health, and time.

Those are the variables.

And we're trying to maximize this lifetime fulfillment.

You know, we have a lot of great books on health, tons of great books on wealth, like how to earn it, how to save it, like all the sub-optimizations, but not that many books on.

How do these three variables interplay to drive what we really want, which is fulfillment?

How do we maximize for our full life?

And so I would tell people like, what is your true hourly wage?

$100,000?

But yeah, let's adjust for the living costs.

Let's adjust for everything.

What's your true hourly wage?

That's what an hour of your time is worth at that ego $100,000.

Well, I know full on now what an hour of your time is worth.

And I just, I'll end by saying, as it should come as no surprise, and I'm sure you've heard from many, like your book is pivotal.

Die with Zero has shifted at least kind of nudging me, get off this atrophy and trying to get more familiar with optimizing.

So I do want to thank you just for spending an hour of your time with us today, just kind of talking through these concepts.

And I know that people will appreciate being poked into some type of action to think more top level and top line about how they use money going forward.

Yeah, I really hope that your listeners are very intentional about their fulfillment, whatever that is, right?

I don't tell people how to live their life.

Just like, okay, these are the things that are fulfilling me.

Let's design that life.

And the same to embrace, you know, this ride.

Enjoy the ride.

You only get one.

Awesome.

Well, thank you so much and have a great ride.

And I appreciate, I really appreciate your time, Bill.

You got it.

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