"Narzisstische Manipulation und häusliche Gewalt" mit Svenja Beck

1h 10m

Svenja Beck hat es aus einer toxischen Beziehung geschafft, die von einem narzisstischen und gewalttätigen Partner geprägt war. Zwei Mal eskaliert die Gewalt so weit, dass sie hätte tödlich ausgehen können. Beim zweiten Mal beginnt es mit einem harmlosen Spieleabend und gipfelt darin, dass Svenja von einem Würgeangriff ohnmächtig wird, bevor der Mann von ihr ablässt. Gemeinsam mit einer hartnäckigen Freundin lässt Svenja die Verletzungen dieser Nacht endlich in einem Krankenhaus dokumentieren, es kommt zur Anklage und Verurteilung. Doch nicht mal dieser Urteilsspruch öffnet Svenja endgültig die Augen – dieser Moment tritt erst in einem gemeinsamen Urlaub danach, beim Frühstücksbuffet, ein.


Insbesondere rückblickend gibt es in der Beziehung schon früh Anzeichen auf übergriffiges Verhalten, doch 2012 befindet sich Svenja in einer Krise und sehnt sich nach physischer Nähe – ein leichtes Opfer für ihren späteren Peiniger. In dieser Folge führt sie uns durch diese Beziehung, die ungeachtet vieler Ons und Offs circa fünf Jahre gehalten hat. Svenja verschließt vor sämtlichen Warnzeichen und vorerst „kleineren” Übergriffen, die Augen – das weiß sie seit der ersten Backpfeife, die bereits nach wenigen Monaten Beziehung, aus einer Nichtigkeit, erfolgt. Sie gewährt uns einen Einblick in die Denkstrukturen, die sie trotz allem in dieser Beziehung gehalten haben. Love Bombing und sog. Silent Treatment durch ihren Ex-Partner lassen Svenja sich schämen, abhängig und ihrer Situation selbstverschuldet fühlen.


Svenja begibt sich noch während der Beziehung in psychologische Behandlung. Nach der Beziehung gründet sie den Verein „Toxische Beziehungen überwinden e.V.” und widmet sich damit der Unterstützung von Menschen, die in ungesunden Beziehungen feststecken, insbesondere Fällen narzisstischen Missbrauchs und häuslicher Gewalt. Der Verein bietet bundesweit und virtuell Selbsthilfegruppen, emotionale Begleitung und Aufklärungsarbeit an.


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content warnung, in this volume, is explicitly von Gewalt gig,

her dinner podcast as

a false

nicht wolf.

I have the church in Zein Coffer.

And in this

blackboard, the School in the Coffer Stellar Papers,

the Holy School is a clutch,

and the other is a very good thing.

I had in the Schwangerschaft,

guns, guns, gunslimmed dinghy, with my mark and a

hundred years ago, namely in the Schwangerschaft, not

so forth.

Man,

it is no gunskurt moment, the

completely.

I

think I have this podcast

and

a moment

of the early

days.

The thermal media bonuses criminal.

Spitter merits, but what

we have is that it is a trust.

But I learned from Oske that was yet written in the

family.

So a

bit of a

power

of partners and ex-partner, alleged tags.

This is a

field.

So,

I think

I have written

a fraud from your partner or the ex-partner.

Also, the statistics.

And the

feeling

of the podcast

but

the article of the

tea and

the

uber

and the

rapid and

the same thing.

What

is Thai was

not

so important and in show notes for concrete angels for

the time.

the

same.

Yes, I am

in the

microwave.

Okay.

Then the

spread of this tag that

coordinates with it.

That is the talk and the end goal of the ex-partner trend.

We need to

be in podcast Thumbs,

with the Trenung Parmal Fourth

May Zurich.

Indeed,

in a Kutzov in Nuremberg, what

happened

and we are

going to be able to do it.

We have no status.

We are in Nuremberg, but some clinical

monitors,

and yeah, these

are

three,

where that

expart.

Haters to the plant and these written results or the sponge.

That complex sponge.

I hate that.

Or

I wish

that I

was so up to

the next

plant where we

had

spurred.

Will you feel

what the auslus then was?

Yes,

I

feel with him,

emotional,

and

a great

deal

of auspices.

And a Diesel is at first

well as

my project, but

also

normal,

and also

the spirit,

also

for

the emotional explosion.

And the scale of

it, and in this

case, also the norm, that

I can't

wait to see this situation.

The kanji

and what moment I

have

spanned

is

that what

we have to do in the

fallest in this hotel in Nuremberg by Fruit.

I warn Gansroig.

So, I

was that

very important, but I can't

remember what I have.

We have a Nuremberg, we have not been able to plant and

then come here in the hotel where

we

have

to go.

Auchine,

it had so far

that I was understood.

We come

off the

passenger, but we can

see that

three

trends on and off and feel

comfortable.

So, we

can also see

the level of

Thomas Kendan,

Also,

I think

I

have a

iron, that is what

we have.

So, that

X man

star problem,

also,

with robots, we have

even

a problem,

then

that's the same thing.

That means

that in

the

rest of the time, my total issue is a non-job,

we have no

familiarity, and also

this

is

my dash,

Haben Thomas Widagetroffen.

I think in the morning,

in a click,

in a dispute,

and

in this moment, as my manner, the front von Mein's own,

and I

think also,

and

Thomas Eben Dorgewesen.

And Erhatsumirge

when you

are

feminist.

And

Absolutely.

I have this also formulated.

That's why even the point is

that all

the

machines, what

are you

not

saying?

While

we have a lot of people who are not going to

be instrumentalized, um, let's say,

and this is

what

I'm going to do.

That's the

hardest

a very optimistic.

And that also

in front of me,

I have

a weekend, and so this moment

for my mankind,

and that

now, in this moment, I wish to

be able to do it.

And we

it to

you.

So, when they charismatic

good also,

what they

do is

good,

and yeah, that we

That the

merchant, that is the interest,

and then it feels

like all

the moments for

another result, that is not

and charismatic.

Yes, what relative schnell was the situation that I

was, or Labello, that

my

truck, and

that is the

bap of myself.

And

English,

or

Mark,

and

also my

hinge has

auto-labeled.

And that was a great

example, which is true,

but what English

signal

that

we

have normal.

And then the next aspect

is

to

make it when the

Hernandez is not

in the hand.

That's why

the

argumentation of the summer,

as

a formula.

That war from

Emma and Imabilate and

a gun,

and I

do not know.

I

also extremely

warden, but I

think it's

Zakatumas das a Nazis,

that is a natural

trend begriften,

the Nazis

now and the Lupitzunim.

The griffin also

met

the Jungling Nazis, the Allegheny

and Zurich,

the Gotta Nazis with Stilbar Hofnung, Selfstliebel, Nazis, Philip, and Eigen Spiegelbilt, and the Treasurer

can

von Sim Spiegelbilt.

So,

the hermits, so

don't reality, Nazis

mentioned the

same

empathy that

extremely

criterion

and Über de Folge in Sweden's children.

In the Forschung and the

people of Nazism, the grandiose and the vulnerable Nazism.

The vulnerable

nature of

the people, why

not?

This

is

defensive, zoomed in indirectly,

but in a stake

of

the world, grandiose systems and

extroverted and

dominant.

This is

really

important when also in a person for Einstein.

But we

have a business

that we are alleged.

It is

also with social media,

we have all

the

public.

That is a problem.

problematic

when these eigenstates

will empathy and social

for Lorraine that's partner Gans Claude.

It's

relatively

Yes,

relative

that

prime

that we have in

the world,

what we have.

And the

sexuality of

people,

and that was the aspect of

it,

then I think

know that

this wage that English

feels,

that we feel.

And that would be

a very important thing.

That

language also

can

be

think

was right?

Yeah, so it's audience

here.

And that is why

we have

a shopping center, and I have

a suggestion,

and

I also

have

the same

thing.

And that's why I

say was

able to

do it.

And in the sense of

this

freshman, in this

centre, and

I student

and

the other people, or

the Nuttenstein, and the war,

but it was relatively

different.

I have so ashamed.

I can't

remember, I suppose I stand

here.

And then

what

do you bring?

And I

should have in seven coffee.

And in this

black wool, the church in the coffer

had a backfire,

yeah.

So,

and in this moment, we

start

Chapter

first,

seine.

The handwriting is auto geset so that

I have

so far.

And that

was

the same thing.

When we

go on,

and can

fuel

it as

to wooden,

I was shame.

I would be shame, and I can't

say

that,

but in this

case, we have

a hurt,

also,

what is

the gesen?

But we

are,

and what

I

know, not,

that's my

study.

That was

an instant, and do melts or

trend,

so forward.

I have done

it and then

this mention

is in the

middle.

The

signalization is not

my positive

and

Imnarch,

so

that

also

in this context,

that

bombing and idealizing,

that man

in a emotional appendage.

That we have a

moment.

And

yes,

in Zwiftbalt, with this, man,

from intellect,

we have a

wider sense of the world, but

the fool

also feels

that it

is not

and the

anonymity of

not a very important thing.

Just

love bombing,

can't

be in time and

love bombing.

Yes, this is love bombing for English that I continue to

bloom for

this

in other words,

and would be English from Yatzu Ya, Schlimmer, also

that

from Balkhone, my tantrum, and music also

probe

um

and

WhatsApp,

also what

English mentioned

in this moment

also,

or

even the English.

I will not

say that

you have done what

she

was saying, the blue flag, to

be for an

easy one.

Nine, I can't

say that.

So, that is also

a very important thing.

That's not allowed to

be

able to do

it.

And

then all

the time what

is

a

dimension

when the natural

regions

with black

in a community.

And by the way,

from the beginning of

the day,

it's not a very important thing.

Do haste.

And the label also

kind of

tenants

relative to the fruit also

that

is so that

good

and common wider

order of the ability to

be able to

do it.

And that happened to me that

we

have

to go and

see what we have to do.

About hatred of

angers, and also kind of

here is what

here we are and

cooking wives and

the other things.

the kind of

thing?

Yes, my kind of

auskend, but it is so that my kinder toy, toy, toy, the schlimpson,

and

a marklock,

so

pluton floss is that the kinder dash,

but

also

the kindergarten, they horrific wagon,

in the bad one,

had

also

been

a very good thing.

It is

a

very important thing, but I will not

be condemned.

That is why

I have

seen it, that I have

to

kind of

thing is, that's why.

The kanji also

must be.

That is the

end of the tab.

I have the

kind of

thing that

I know, but

also

the answer.

But not only.

Yes, I

think

it's

what we are in blood

and

industry,

and

these

are the things that a fraud

the

case,

and

this is also contacted.

Oh, God, that's

not

and that

practice

in Europe

also practices

and

police.

And

that

we

have the toll is done with me in the toilet.

I had a half pack, so

it was a very important thing.

So that evening, and so even

though it was a very good thing.

And then

the

base, the base, the base, so this practice would be that

of mister Lengthen.

And then we're also

going to be

hat and stand with auto and wolf,

but

that you can

go and

out, and in this

case, a fertile

And

this is a practical

and

the tournament

is

practicing

and

the same thing.

But in the end, that's the same thing.

And so they had nothing to

rebuild

in this million

hangover, that

is,

what

is written

in the work that

we have?

Yes, we can't

While I in this

case, so neither

of us

would

be

able to

do it.

While I

get

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And then come

that solution.

And that

makes sense in the

asylum treatment, that is

drafted with libraries and so on, but

with communications and so on.

So Immediately when it is a problem,

the angles and is also the situation

and what we need to do.

And that

we

have a practice that

is

a very important thing to complete

what

English

and phenomena

we have and

love bombing and silent treatment.

Laugh bombing is a manipulation tactic by the

person with Übermessigen

complement and

emotional antenna.

The tactic can often

be

library and also begin,

that's

fortunate

for

the strategic laugh

can be emotional.

But if you

have

families,

the partners.

Typically,

when they

are

libel

vermin

and

Übertribul for the moment,

it is

done by

criticism,

manipulation, or

misprogression.

Silent treatment is an emotional

absence

with the community and

control.

So, this is also in this field, that

from theater

in conflict,

and that club also

is a very important thing.

See, we

have to

cranked.

So, in early, then

a chance when I

was then

also,

and the

a mindset.

What does a wonderful

thing?

Also, I can't

wait to

talk about 2000

in a kind of central

kind of centre

and

the Eileen.

So, what we are doing,

And that was all underneath and that

we

completely

rationalized.

That was a absolutely

darkness,

I created

English for

cognition cognition that

we have and then

English in the situation where

I

was like,

that's my total solution.

It's kind of

naive,

it is also

good.

I don't know if it is about

it.

So, this

is

the same thing.

I think it's

English all of you,

and this

in the

results

and the

ham lengthen

so

could not

be.

We

have a spielder,

and

this is

are the things that

are

also

business,

all

right,

that

results.

But by mentioning Nazis,

is so that these men,

this

is

not anger, and I have my coverage, coverage,

that is international,

and that is

what we have.

I was

not sure what it is.

There is and my fragment.

And therefore,

not

in the

body, and had Malvida, sine

pact, and

international.

One,

one,

and other

silent treatment on the the situation,

but I don't think so, but you can't

baby, that's not

yes, and then

the situation.

That is a marketable warden, my

wonderful,

I don't know what

to say.

That even automatically.

Yeah, and then I

will come and

von the

Kopp in the Tolette.

And the new strambled and

all

the hands

here and

the risk

warn and

in the toilette had

the key.

I

stammered the skin, the skin,

the

waffle,

angst, and I have no

mercht and

then this

is the

same.

And to leak there, and Auschwitz,

Blutus, to Wescat was

the

mark in the bedgern.

I spindan in Spetge

and Hab Treisweind.

intuitive, I can

do

it and

in a Tupperbox Getan die,

and Habdie Wechestelt.

And Habdan bin Dan so Hellene,

and we had

a plant, that we

had to

come, I have the same exmangasol, but

photos.

We have all

photos, from these

photos, for the cats, for the black flag photos,

and

the other one.

And then I said,

We can

begin to

essentially.

And we need essentially,

I was so

to me.

We

are so good.

And we wander in Hannah, and then we have no

idea.

We have no fussballs, so we

have to go and then we are

going

and

so

on.

Yeah, but

this tag so we have a plant where

And then

in this water,

that we

have undergenied

and

that

baby forms from 1 books and this

is not

Uber Swift, they not only

speak

and

the same thing.

And then we are in common and I can't

remember

from Holly Sagewald, and the

people and we

have to

be musical.

And

then I

was political

and

then what

directions

are the

angle.

And

then the point that

your partner is in relative relatively different

ways.

Now, what we do is

stabilized,

as I can

say, I think, what

are you, and

hate

stabilizers, and then

we have to do it.

And

it is my zone, and by the time,

also

in this

way,

that

is,

that I am

and all the

people.

That

is

what

the social,

that

is even

more important.

I

say God,

border,

that's my

favorite thing.

And in the Turkey,

there is a

lot of people who are not going to be able to do

it.

Had a misusing.

for

the content.

The heist

pluglagen

and the

sound.

A year and a half,

the

process was to

process,

but that

also

is a little bit more than that.

No, so we don't have

to say anything.

Okay, so

And then the targets are in Nuremberg, that we have an function

of a

lot of

studies

and

contests.

Has a clear

dashboard of a

single

data

set, but I sober lessen and we

have

social diet.

The mirror organ hat

dies.

And that was a very important thing

in my bologna, the heart of the

world,

the Ichanitapurgen für Misaba and

Susan.

Yes, I have a

penguin,

but I

think

this is

a very important thing.

hurt,

that ended,

and also

what is

full of people.

I think

that's

not

what it is.

I have

this niche.

Oh, my God, yes, this is end culture.

And I have my current

habit.

That is end cultigation, but I

database.

Then how

much

is

it?

What do you think of the fact that the annual

films are?

Are you okay?

I have

done what a gun

partner

can

feel

the mind.

But then

also,

as you have

seen, that

is not

that

Chris and the leaders

have

airplanes,

and that's possible, that the

wall that

we have, what

I would say in a hospital.

product.

that's the same and

the

trauma

that kindergarten

statefundenhat walm

continues.

I gallop the kinderwater,

that young friend of the hat would kinder practice.

And

let's endlessly.

stalking Tagburg

was medical

and

the same thing.

And that was

a

thread,

also

stalking Tagburg, a thousand

passes and the riches, when

it was at this moment,

a

lot of schloss.

And then

you have

be a little bit more difficult.

Yes, I have

the

same thing.

I have

to

go to the

bottom, but you can see the kilometer from

the bottom.

But

also in contact with the zone, what

is the health of this

kind of

traumatic

auffext?

And I think

that

was

a mark that

we can

immerse for

the

material

with email.

Demail

and here the market.

Wow.

Schwerstep

I was all rational,

I was all

myself,

and legitimately

in

my life, and in my kindergarten, and in my Zukomp, and

in the auxiliary

Europe,

that

yard also

is so wichtwaldest

with

Gaubenburg.

The Bericht is Über hundreds of people and

the Fraun Gricht.

Über 1000

von Husslichwalden in

Feuer is the

And we

have to get to bring it to the side of the world, that we have to

get away from the children.

The Dunkelson

also.

And there she is.

Much of the telephone by Gewell Fraunhin

and

Hundred Sechtsin null sechtsin is discussed and

the ur fürich

befinded when

the music is not a very important thing.

In this

way,

for example, we Femitzmann be a mod der on music or sexist

status.

This offer is also sufficiently

important, but also within.

So, that three

would try to

registered

in the future.

Had developed and

also

partnerships,

they had that

toxic.

We come to the idea of a group.

It is not all

direct males.

I find

that nothing

is

combined, and the chaff

is

clubbed away.

And these impulse

was

also.

And I think that last

night

I

was able to do it.

That was

the same thing.

And I

guess they

were able to sell emails and when the emails are

seen.

And I have to say,

200 minutes frequency,

and that's what

lockdown

and in this

plug is the thing that

we're going to do.

And yeah, all of that was machines,

that was

the key, I would trigger

that.

All this

year,

and the

results are thousands of

documentation in the IRD.

The

toxic distribution is

my

producer in the male mechanics that

are on the site.

And that is a to be toxic.

Yeah,

What is the siege for a

construct?

Yes, English

preventive.

So, that was

the auxiliary,

what

we had

European by politics

in the job center,

but a seminar that

was a very important thing to do.

But that

Wow.

And

yes, therefore, a gender

we have

started and we

not so filmed

and

we had

actual

and yes, that hinders and

the energy not only.

That we

can also

say.

We

are

going to

not

be able to do it.

We have guns with

these auxiliary

trauma terrain, the mid-half,

but we

have workshops,

that the mention we

have and that

a new

is that

all

can be

the information

in the podcast show notes that

we have

and

what I would say.

That

also

is

the insights from Thomas, but

I know

that

we can

see that.

Yeah, the extra von Thomas is holding

all the time.

We

have all the families,

so

that I should

say,

Daddy, that's

a contact and

also

the same thing.

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crystallize.

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and

Kumar,

that

when we start here, I have so much.

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there are global men, I

think,

they

are

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global

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had gotten

this craft,

and that was my

favorite.

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good in the world, and that's

right.

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a bit of follow-up

and physical art.

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you

study?

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gift.

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is kind of

a leader at the end.

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if the aspect of the Gewalt alleged in this book,

and

this book also

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think the potrift that is a longer derogation,

but that's why the solar water and a wonderful

actual situation

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can be

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also

one

thing when I

stay in the American

stick.

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be

an impulse to mostly so for three,

while these men

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health directions,

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the thema also

in

the world, to hasten,

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soul,

in the Ichra,

not the person directly,

but that's what

it is.

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in the video of this.

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that's a good

one.

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have

the hand and renown, but also

that person.

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the solution of Thomas.

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are in the auspices.

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absolute clues also

end up

in children.

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I would say is that

it is

a very important thing.

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emotional for me.

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was so sharp and was

price

than

I think so

that

I wouldn't have

allowed

you in the wall and

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so much

dynamic that

we

have

in 2016.

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And

I think

the industry society

is

also

confronted.

And I

think we can

all

be

allowed to

be in partnership with Mitchburgh, but

not a reflection and

the same thing.

I think superwich means to be

a

podcast

from the Manny Wider Beginner.

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is interested in

a

podcast on the Podimo family, the podcast Zwelflie,

in George Stafford, Zwelflie, the Gewalt bended or

ended.

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touchdowns.

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political dimension of

the world is a very important thing to do.

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the

Oder Director Blieben.

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friend for Gewell.

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podcast, Zwolflieben, for

Podimo.

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in Eigen, I totally

have the Apple Podcast to the Liebling podcast,

2005.

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the Sophie

and that

is a great community.

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is not the

same.

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the Podcast Nicholson.

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with a gun,

I travel Bob Blume der ain't revolution

or

something.

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a great problem with the Schuylkill and building this team with

this land.

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is that

position

and we

have to go to 2000 followers on Instagram?

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is the NIST in the middle of the year.

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say that, and in the social site, it's not

a new podcast and

we can see that you can see that.

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thing to do when i denoise the immersion.

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is a very important thing.

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