"Narzisstische Manipulation und häusliche Gewalt" mit Svenja Beck
Svenja Beck hat es aus einer toxischen Beziehung geschafft, die von einem narzisstischen und gewalttätigen Partner geprägt war. Zwei Mal eskaliert die Gewalt so weit, dass sie hätte tödlich ausgehen können. Beim zweiten Mal beginnt es mit einem harmlosen Spieleabend und gipfelt darin, dass Svenja von einem Würgeangriff ohnmächtig wird, bevor der Mann von ihr ablässt. Gemeinsam mit einer hartnäckigen Freundin lässt Svenja die Verletzungen dieser Nacht endlich in einem Krankenhaus dokumentieren, es kommt zur Anklage und Verurteilung. Doch nicht mal dieser Urteilsspruch öffnet Svenja endgültig die Augen – dieser Moment tritt erst in einem gemeinsamen Urlaub danach, beim Frühstücksbuffet, ein.
Insbesondere rückblickend gibt es in der Beziehung schon früh Anzeichen auf übergriffiges Verhalten, doch 2012 befindet sich Svenja in einer Krise und sehnt sich nach physischer Nähe – ein leichtes Opfer für ihren späteren Peiniger. In dieser Folge führt sie uns durch diese Beziehung, die ungeachtet vieler Ons und Offs circa fünf Jahre gehalten hat. Svenja verschließt vor sämtlichen Warnzeichen und vorerst „kleineren” Übergriffen, die Augen – das weiß sie seit der ersten Backpfeife, die bereits nach wenigen Monaten Beziehung, aus einer Nichtigkeit, erfolgt. Sie gewährt uns einen Einblick in die Denkstrukturen, die sie trotz allem in dieser Beziehung gehalten haben. Love Bombing und sog. Silent Treatment durch ihren Ex-Partner lassen Svenja sich schämen, abhängig und ihrer Situation selbstverschuldet fühlen.
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Welcome to McDonald's.
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Now it's back.
We need snack wraps.
What's a snack rap?
It's the return of something great.
Snack wrap is back.
Before
a
content warnung, in this volume, is explicitly von Gewalt gig,
her dinner podcast as
a false
nicht wolf.
I have the church in Zein Coffer.
And in this
blackboard, the School in the Coffer Stellar Papers,
the Holy School is a clutch,
and the other is a very good thing.
I had in the Schwangerschaft,
guns, guns, gunslimmed dinghy, with my mark and a
hundred years ago, namely in the Schwangerschaft, not
so forth.
Man,
it is no gunskurt moment, the
completely.
I
think I have this podcast
and
a moment
of the early
days.
The thermal media bonuses criminal.
Spitter merits, but what
we have is that it is a trust.
But I learned from Oske that was yet written in the
family.
So a
bit of a
power
of partners and ex-partner, alleged tags.
This is a
field.
So,
I think
I have written
a fraud from your partner or the ex-partner.
Also, the statistics.
And the
feeling
of the podcast
but
the article of the
tea and
the
uber
and the
rapid and
the same thing.
What
is Thai was
not
so important and in show notes for concrete angels for
the time.
the
same.
Yes, I am
in the
microwave.
Okay.
Then the
spread of this tag that
coordinates with it.
That is the talk and the end goal of the ex-partner trend.
We need to
be in podcast Thumbs,
with the Trenung Parmal Fourth
May Zurich.
Indeed,
in a Kutzov in Nuremberg, what
happened
and we are
going to be able to do it.
We have no status.
We are in Nuremberg, but some clinical
monitors,
and yeah, these
are
three,
where that
expart.
Haters to the plant and these written results or the sponge.
That complex sponge.
I hate that.
Or
I wish
that I
was so up to
the next
plant where we
had
spurred.
Will you feel
what the auslus then was?
Yes,
I
feel with him,
emotional,
and
a great
deal
of auspices.
And a Diesel is at first
well as
my project, but
also
normal,
and also
the spirit,
also
for
the emotional explosion.
And the scale of
it, and in this
case, also the norm, that
I can't
wait to see this situation.
The kanji
and what moment I
have
spanned
is
that what
we have to do in the
fallest in this hotel in Nuremberg by Fruit.
I warn Gansroig.
So, I
was that
very important, but I can't
remember what I have.
We have a Nuremberg, we have not been able to plant and
then come here in the hotel where
we
have
to go.
Auchine,
it had so far
that I was understood.
We come
off the
passenger, but we can
see that
three
trends on and off and feel
comfortable.
So, we
can also see
the level of
Thomas Kendan,
Also,
I think
I
have a
iron, that is what
we have.
So, that
X man
star problem,
also,
with robots, we have
even
a problem,
then
that's the same thing.
That means
that in
the
rest of the time, my total issue is a non-job,
we have no
familiarity, and also
this
is
my dash,
Haben Thomas Widagetroffen.
I think in the morning,
in a click,
in a dispute,
and
in this moment, as my manner, the front von Mein's own,
and I
think also,
and
Thomas Eben Dorgewesen.
And Erhatsumirge
when you
are
feminist.
And
Absolutely.
I have this also formulated.
That's why even the point is
that all
the
machines, what
are you
not
saying?
While
we have a lot of people who are not going to
be instrumentalized, um, let's say,
and this is
what
I'm going to do.
That's the
hardest
a very optimistic.
And that also
in front of me,
I have
a weekend, and so this moment
for my mankind,
and that
now, in this moment, I wish to
be able to do it.
And we
it to
you.
So, when they charismatic
good also,
what they
do is
good,
and yeah, that we
That the
merchant, that is the interest,
and then it feels
like all
the moments for
another result, that is not
and charismatic.
Yes, what relative schnell was the situation that I
was, or Labello, that
my
truck, and
that is the
bap of myself.
And
English,
or
Mark,
and
also my
hinge has
auto-labeled.
And that was a great
example, which is true,
but what English
signal
that
we
have normal.
And then the next aspect
is
to
make it when the
Hernandez is not
in the hand.
That's why
the
argumentation of the summer,
as
a formula.
That war from
Emma and Imabilate and
a gun,
and I
do not know.
I
also extremely
warden, but I
think it's
Zakatumas das a Nazis,
that is a natural
trend begriften,
the Nazis
now and the Lupitzunim.
The griffin also
met
the Jungling Nazis, the Allegheny
and Zurich,
the Gotta Nazis with Stilbar Hofnung, Selfstliebel, Nazis, Philip, and Eigen Spiegelbilt, and the Treasurer
can
von Sim Spiegelbilt.
So,
the hermits, so
don't reality, Nazis
mentioned the
same
empathy that
extremely
criterion
and Über de Folge in Sweden's children.
In the Forschung and the
people of Nazism, the grandiose and the vulnerable Nazism.
The vulnerable
nature of
the people, why
not?
This
is
defensive, zoomed in indirectly,
but in a stake
of
the world, grandiose systems and
extroverted and
dominant.
This is
really
important when also in a person for Einstein.
But we
have a business
that we are alleged.
It is
also with social media,
we have all
the
public.
That is a problem.
problematic
when these eigenstates
will empathy and social
for Lorraine that's partner Gans Claude.
It's
relatively
Yes,
relative
that
prime
that we have in
the world,
what we have.
And the
sexuality of
people,
and that was the aspect of
it,
then I think
know that
this wage that English
feels,
that we feel.
And that would be
a very important thing.
That
language also
can
be
think
was right?
Yeah, so it's audience
here.
And that is why
we have
a shopping center, and I have
a suggestion,
and
I also
have
the same
thing.
And that's why I
say was
able to
do it.
And in the sense of
this
freshman, in this
centre, and
I student
and
the other people, or
the Nuttenstein, and the war,
but it was relatively
different.
I have so ashamed.
I can't
remember, I suppose I stand
here.
And then
what
do you bring?
And I
should have in seven coffee.
And in this
black wool, the church in the coffer
had a backfire,
yeah.
So,
and in this moment, we
start
Chapter
first,
seine.
The handwriting is auto geset so that
I have
so far.
And that
was
the same thing.
When we
go on,
and can
fuel
it as
to wooden,
I was shame.
I would be shame, and I can't
say
that,
but in this
case, we have
a hurt,
also,
what is
the gesen?
But we
are,
and what
I
know, not,
that's my
study.
That was
an instant, and do melts or
trend,
so forward.
I have done
it and then
this mention
is in the
middle.
The
signalization is not
my positive
and
Imnarch,
so
that
also
in this context,
that
bombing and idealizing,
that man
in a emotional appendage.
That we have a
moment.
And
yes,
in Zwiftbalt, with this, man,
from intellect,
we have a
wider sense of the world, but
the fool
also feels
that it
is not
and the
anonymity of
not a very important thing.
Just
love bombing,
can't
be in time and
love bombing.
Yes, this is love bombing for English that I continue to
bloom for
this
in other words,
and would be English from Yatzu Ya, Schlimmer, also
that
from Balkhone, my tantrum, and music also
probe
um
and
WhatsApp,
also what
English mentioned
in this moment
also,
or
even the English.
I will not
say that
you have done what
she
was saying, the blue flag, to
be for an
easy one.
Nine, I can't
say that.
So, that is also
a very important thing.
That's not allowed to
be
able to do
it.
And
then all
the time what
is
a
dimension
when the natural
regions
with black
in a community.
And by the way,
from the beginning of
the day,
it's not a very important thing.
Do haste.
And the label also
kind of
tenants
relative to the fruit also
that
is so that
good
and common wider
order of the ability to
be able to
do it.
And that happened to me that
we
have
to go and
see what we have to do.
About hatred of
angers, and also kind of
here is what
here we are and
cooking wives and
the other things.
the kind of
thing?
Yes, my kind of
auskend, but it is so that my kinder toy, toy, toy, the schlimpson,
and
a marklock,
so
pluton floss is that the kinder dash,
but
also
the kindergarten, they horrific wagon,
in the bad one,
had
also
been
a very good thing.
It is
a
very important thing, but I will not
be condemned.
That is why
I have
seen it, that I have
to
kind of
thing is, that's why.
The kanji also
must be.
That is the
end of the tab.
I have the
kind of
thing that
I know, but
also
the answer.
But not only.
Yes, I
think
it's
what we are in blood
and
industry,
and
these
are the things that a fraud
the
case,
and
this is also contacted.
Oh, God, that's
not
and that
practice
in Europe
also practices
and
police.
And
that
we
have the toll is done with me in the toilet.
I had a half pack, so
it was a very important thing.
So that evening, and so even
though it was a very good thing.
And then
the
base, the base, the base, so this practice would be that
of mister Lengthen.
And then we're also
going to be
hat and stand with auto and wolf,
but
that you can
go and
out, and in this
case, a fertile
And
this is a practical
and
the tournament
is
practicing
and
the same thing.
But in the end, that's the same thing.
And so they had nothing to
rebuild
in this million
hangover, that
is,
what
is written
in the work that
we have?
Yes, we can't
While I in this
case, so neither
of us
would
be
able to
do it.
While I
get
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And then come
that solution.
And that
makes sense in the
asylum treatment, that is
drafted with libraries and so on, but
with communications and so on.
So Immediately when it is a problem,
the angles and is also the situation
and what we need to do.
And that
we
have a practice that
is
a very important thing to complete
what
English
and phenomena
we have and
love bombing and silent treatment.
Laugh bombing is a manipulation tactic by the
person with Übermessigen
complement and
emotional antenna.
The tactic can often
be
library and also begin,
that's
fortunate
for
the strategic laugh
can be emotional.
But if you
have
families,
the partners.
Typically,
when they
are
libel
vermin
and
Übertribul for the moment,
it is
done by
criticism,
manipulation, or
misprogression.
Silent treatment is an emotional
absence
with the community and
control.
So, this is also in this field, that
from theater
in conflict,
and that club also
is a very important thing.
See, we
have to
cranked.
So, in early, then
a chance when I
was then
also,
and the
a mindset.
What does a wonderful
thing?
Also, I can't
wait to
talk about 2000
in a kind of central
kind of centre
and
the Eileen.
So, what we are doing,
And that was all underneath and that
we
completely
rationalized.
That was a absolutely
darkness,
I created
English for
cognition cognition that
we have and then
English in the situation where
I
was like,
that's my total solution.
It's kind of
naive,
it is also
good.
I don't know if it is about
it.
So, this
is
the same thing.
I think it's
English all of you,
and this
in the
results
and the
ham lengthen
so
could not
be.
We
have a spielder,
and
this is
are the things that
are
also
business,
all
right,
that
results.
But by mentioning Nazis,
is so that these men,
this
is
not anger, and I have my coverage, coverage,
that is international,
and that is
what we have.
I was
not sure what it is.
There is and my fragment.
And therefore,
not
in the
body, and had Malvida, sine
pact, and
international.
One,
one,
and other
silent treatment on the the situation,
but I don't think so, but you can't
baby, that's not
yes, and then
the situation.
That is a marketable warden, my
wonderful,
I don't know what
to say.
That even automatically.
Yeah, and then I
will come and
von the
Kopp in the Tolette.
And the new strambled and
all
the hands
here and
the risk
warn and
in the toilette had
the key.
I
stammered the skin, the skin,
the
waffle,
angst, and I have no
mercht and
then this
is the
same.
And to leak there, and Auschwitz,
Blutus, to Wescat was
the
mark in the bedgern.
I spindan in Spetge
and Hab Treisweind.
intuitive, I can
do
it and
in a Tupperbox Getan die,
and Habdie Wechestelt.
And Habdan bin Dan so Hellene,
and we had
a plant, that we
had to
come, I have the same exmangasol, but
photos.
We have all
photos, from these
photos, for the cats, for the black flag photos,
and
the other one.
And then I said,
We can
begin to
essentially.
And we need essentially,
I was so
to me.
We
are so good.
And we wander in Hannah, and then we have no
idea.
We have no fussballs, so we
have to go and then we are
going
and
so
on.
Yeah, but
this tag so we have a plant where
And then
in this water,
that we
have undergenied
and
that
baby forms from 1 books and this
is not
Uber Swift, they not only
speak
and
the same thing.
And then we are in common and I can't
remember
from Holly Sagewald, and the
people and we
have to
be musical.
And
then I
was political
and
then what
directions
are the
angle.
And
then the point that
your partner is in relative relatively different
ways.
Now, what we do is
stabilized,
as I can
say, I think, what
are you, and
hate
stabilizers, and then
we have to do it.
And
it is my zone, and by the time,
also
in this
way,
that
is,
that I am
and all the
people.
That
is
what
the social,
that
is even
more important.
I
say God,
border,
that's my
favorite thing.
And in the Turkey,
there is a
lot of people who are not going to be able to do
it.
Had a misusing.
for
the content.
The heist
pluglagen
and the
sound.
A year and a half,
the
process was to
process,
but that
also
is a little bit more than that.
No, so we don't have
to say anything.
Okay, so
And then the targets are in Nuremberg, that we have an function
of a
lot of
studies
and
contests.
Has a clear
dashboard of a
single
data
set, but I sober lessen and we
have
social diet.
The mirror organ hat
dies.
And that was a very important thing
in my bologna, the heart of the
world,
the Ichanitapurgen für Misaba and
Susan.
Yes, I have a
penguin,
but I
think
this is
a very important thing.
hurt,
that ended,
and also
what is
full of people.
I think
that's
not
what it is.
I have
this niche.
Oh, my God, yes, this is end culture.
And I have my current
habit.
That is end cultigation, but I
database.
Then how
much
is
it?
What do you think of the fact that the annual
films are?
Are you okay?
I have
done what a gun
partner
can
feel
the mind.
But then
also,
as you have
seen, that
is not
that
Chris and the leaders
have
airplanes,
and that's possible, that the
wall that
we have, what
I would say in a hospital.
product.
that's the same and
the
trauma
that kindergarten
statefundenhat walm
continues.
I gallop the kinderwater,
that young friend of the hat would kinder practice.
And
let's endlessly.
stalking Tagburg
was medical
and
the same thing.
And that was
a
thread,
also
stalking Tagburg, a thousand
passes and the riches, when
it was at this moment,
a
lot of schloss.
And then
you have
be a little bit more difficult.
Yes, I have
the
same thing.
I have
to
go to the
bottom, but you can see the kilometer from
the bottom.
But
also in contact with the zone, what
is the health of this
kind of
traumatic
auffext?
And I think
that
was
a mark that
we can
immerse for
the
material
with email.
Demail
and here the market.
Wow.
Schwerstep
I was all rational,
I was all
myself,
and legitimately
in
my life, and in my kindergarten, and in my Zukomp, and
in the auxiliary
Europe,
that
yard also
is so wichtwaldest
with
Gaubenburg.
The Bericht is Über hundreds of people and
the Fraun Gricht.
Über 1000
von Husslichwalden in
Feuer is the
And we
have to get to bring it to the side of the world, that we have to
get away from the children.
The Dunkelson
also.
And there she is.
Much of the telephone by Gewell Fraunhin
and
Hundred Sechtsin null sechtsin is discussed and
the ur fürich
befinded when
the music is not a very important thing.
In this
way,
for example, we Femitzmann be a mod der on music or sexist
status.
This offer is also sufficiently
important, but also within.
So, that three
would try to
registered
in the future.
Had developed and
also
partnerships,
they had that
toxic.
We come to the idea of a group.
It is not all
direct males.
I find
that nothing
is
combined, and the chaff
is
clubbed away.
And these impulse
was
also.
And I think that last
night
I
was able to do it.
That was
the same thing.
And I
guess they
were able to sell emails and when the emails are
seen.
And I have to say,
200 minutes frequency,
and that's what
lockdown
and in this
plug is the thing that
we're going to do.
And yeah, all of that was machines,
that was
the key, I would trigger
that.
All this
year,
and the
results are thousands of
documentation in the IRD.
The
toxic distribution is
my
producer in the male mechanics that
are on the site.
And that is a to be toxic.
Yeah,
What is the siege for a
construct?
Yes, English
preventive.
So, that was
the auxiliary,
what
we had
European by politics
in the job center,
but a seminar that
was a very important thing to do.
But that
Wow.
And
yes, therefore, a gender
we have
started and we
not so filmed
and
we had
actual
and yes, that hinders and
the energy not only.
That we
can also
say.
We
are
going to
not
be able to do it.
We have guns with
these auxiliary
trauma terrain, the mid-half,
but we
have workshops,
that the mention we
have and that
a new
is that
all
can be
the information
in the podcast show notes that
we have
and
what I would say.
That
also
is
the insights from Thomas, but
I know
that
we can
see that.
Yeah, the extra von Thomas is holding
all the time.
We
have all the families,
so
that I should
say,
Daddy, that's
a contact and
also
the same thing.
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crystallize.
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warm and also be so fruity and lust and straight
and
Kumar,
that
when we start here, I have so much.
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there are global men, I
think,
they
are
a
global
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had gotten
this craft,
and that was my
favorite.
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good in the world, and that's
right.
When it's a fraud, it is the greatest podcast.
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a bit of follow-up
and physical art.
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you
study?
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I can't remember that
gift.
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is kind of
a leader at the end.
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if the aspect of the Gewalt alleged in this book,
and
this book also
in the hell of a game.
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think the potrift that is a longer derogation,
but that's why the solar water and a wonderful
actual situation
that
can be
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also
one
thing when I
stay in the American
stick.
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be
an impulse to mostly so for three,
while these men
and trucks
are not.
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have
health directions,
also
the braus, India, India, and
the thema also
in
the world, to hasten,
the
soul,
in the Ichra,
not the person directly,
but that's what
it is.
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I was
in the video of this.
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that's a good
one.
I don't know if you also
have
the hand and renown, but also
that person.
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the solution of Thomas.
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are in the auspices.
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absolute clues also
end up
in children.
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I would say is that
it is
a very important thing.
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emotional for me.
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was so sharp and was
price
than
I think so
that
I wouldn't have
allowed
you in the wall and
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so much
dynamic that
we
have
in 2016.
So, I think that a great respect and
And
I think
the industry society
is
also
confronted.
And I
think we can
all
be
allowed to
be in partnership with Mitchburgh, but
not a reflection and
the same thing.
I think superwich means to be
a
podcast
from the Manny Wider Beginner.
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is interested in
a
podcast on the Podimo family, the podcast Zwelflie,
in George Stafford, Zwelflie, the Gewalt bended or
ended.
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touchdowns.
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political dimension of
the world is a very important thing to do.
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the
Oder Director Blieben.
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friend for Gewell.
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podcast, Zwolflieben, for
Podimo.
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in Eigen, I totally
have the Apple Podcast to the Liebling podcast,
2005.
We have the podcast University, and I think
the Sophie
and that
is a great community.
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is not the
same.
So, we have an Apple Podcast and
Gans of Designer Moment of
the Podcast Nicholson.
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with a gun,
I travel Bob Blume der ain't revolution
or
something.
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a great problem with the Schuylkill and building this team with
this land.
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is that
position
and we
have to go to 2000 followers on Instagram?
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is the NIST in the middle of the year.
When you
say that, and in the social site, it's not
a new podcast and
we can see that you can see that.
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an important
thing to do when i denoise the immersion.
then
is a very important thing.
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