Sarah Fitz-Claridge - Taking Children Seriously

What children should be learning is what they want, is what interests them, is how to solve problems. They don't learn that by being institutionalized for 12 years and bossed about by an authoritarian teacher who doesn't know very much.
They just, it's an insane idea. Hey folks, and welcome to the Lunar Society podcast.
Today, I had the great pleasure of talking with Sarah Fitzcleridge. Sarah is a writer, coach, and speaker with the falliblist worldview.
She started a journal that became Taking Children Seriously in the early 1990s after being surprised by the heated audience reactions that she was getting when talking about children. She has spoken all over the world about her educational philosophy, and you can find transcripts of some of her talks on her website at fits-clerge.com, and the link to that will also be in the description.
So we had a very interesting conversation. I'm broadly sympathetic with Sarah's worldview, though I do have my differences, so I had a lot of fun playing devil's advocate.
But whether you agree with her or not, Sarah is an incredibly original and first principles thinker about how our society treats children. So without further ado, here's Sarah Fitzclaridge.
So Sarah, can you explain what Taking Children Seriously is?

Yes. Taking Children Seriously is an educational philosophy that takes seriously the idea that human beings are fallible, and that includes parents.
so instead of interacting with our children coercively, we are trying to create consent with them.

We're trying to find solutions to problems that don't involve coercion.

Because coercion decides issues under an irrational institution.

It embodies the theory that might makes right, which is false. So we don't do that.
It's actually a new view of children in that the standard view of children is a bit like the view of women before they were emancipated or say black people when they were slaves in America. It's not that they're not people.
They are people. This is the standard view.
But they're not quite able to control their own lives. They need a benevolent, patriarchal parent, husband, slave master to just make sure that, you know, nothing goes wrong for them.
And of course, it's not that parents are trying to be dictators over their children. It's just that is the view that really the whole world has about children that they are not quite the same as the rest of us they're not quite rational and creative and so we need to manage and control them to make sure that they turn out to be citizens who can be responsible for themselves.
So I think instead that children are creative and rational and that they're creative and rational from birth. You know, we're born with human minds, not just animal minds, but we have this human mind as well.
and it just doesn't make sense to think in terms of rationality and creativity being turned on at some later stage and so it's there from the beginning and you know how does a child learn language a baby learn, if they're not creative and rational.

So, taking children seriously, you could say is non-coercive educational theory.

It's about raising children in a way that doesn't involve coercion.

Yeah. Just for the audience, my position currently is somewhere between yours and the conventional view.
So hopefully you can nudge me closer to your view. So now one obvious counter argument is that, you know, when it came to women or other races, we view them, we viewed them as a different kind of thing.
But children are literally a different kind of thing, right? Like they're biologically different from adults adults doesn't this mean that they're entitled to different rights perhaps fewer rights that is the same circular argument that was used in the past about women and black people well their skin is black so obviously they're not the same as the rest of us well they're women so obviously there's an there's an actual difference there they're not men they're not the same as the rest of us. Well, they're women.
So obviously, there's an there's an actual difference there. They're not men.
They're not white men. It's the same circular argument.
It's yeah, doesn't make any sense. And I think those are sorry.
I think that there will come a time in the future when people will look back at how we view children now, and they will be as horrified by that as how it seems to us when we look back at the arguments that people made in the past about Black people and women. Yeah, no, I actually do agree with that, especially given how the schooling system works.
But now here's a, just to continue that argument, between different races, these are superficial differences, right? And between different genders, they're not entirely superficial, but they're minimal when compared to the difference between a two-year-old and an 18-year-old. Like there seems to be such a difference in the kind of person we're talking about.
It's entirely likely that a chimp is smarter than a two year old, right? Now, why is a chimp not entitled to the same rights against coercion? No, no, that's, that's, that's false. In the, in the relevant sense, children of whatever age are the same, because we have creativity and rationality.
If you're talking about a baby who's just been born and knows nothing except genetic knowledge, like an animal has genetic knowledge, but basically that's all they have. But that child, by the time the child is two years old or or so the child will be speaking and doing many other things that a chimp or any other animal will never be doing and that's because of this creativity and rationality you know something has happened in those two years and it's that the child has been forming inexplicit conjectures about what words mean about what we call different things and about a huge number of other things it's not just language obviously whereas a chimp or whatever animal is doing none of those things yeah so in case in case your question is sort of suggesting that I'm saying leave a baby to its own devices that's not what I'm saying what I'm saying is coercion versus not coercion I'm not saying that we don't assist our children of we do know, we do know more than a baby.
So the question is, what do we do with this greater knowledge? Do we think that it justifies coercing the child or not? And when you're coercing, that is, you're, you're basically saying might makes right, and it doesn't. Yeah.
So I guess it would be useful to define coercion in this context. How do you think about the coercion of children? What does that mean? Well, coercion is causing someone to do something or not do something against their will, roughly speaking, that's, that's a way of putting it.
I mean, there is more to it than that. I think that we can look at more subtle issues than that.
But basically, you're, you're talking about imposing your will on someone else against their will. So that's what I would say for coercion.

Right. So I remember vaguely that chimps, they did like an experiment where chimps and children were given like something like an IQ test, but it was like a very basic one.
And it turned out that chimps actually had higher working memory. So they obviously have a lower capacity to learn.

And learning requires creativity.

And we could talk about that as well.

So the reason that children are entitled

to a right against coercion

is because of the fact that they can learn, right?

As opposed, it's not just their pure intelligence.

It's just like what they could become.

It's that they are creative and rational beings and a chimp is not a chimp a chimp has genetic knowledge which allows a certain range of behaviors and things it can learn but it's it's limited whereas human creativity is not. And that applies equally to children as it does to adults.
Although I mean, a two year old is limited, right? It's not as if a two year old can do anything that an adult human can do. Why don't these limits entail certain sorts of limitations on the rights that child has as well? Well, I would say that children actually are more creative and rational than adults, not less, and especially young children.
If you look at the enormous amount of stuff that young children learn, and how difficult it is for many adults to learn things. If anything, they have more creativity and rationality, not less.
Yeah, yeah. Although if we're going to apply that criterion, I mean, there are many things that adults can do that children can't do.
One of them is just having like formal verbal arguments about and like reasoning through different possibilities.

You know, you can talk to an adult and say, you know, is this career choice the best career choice for you? And you can go through reasons, pros and cons. You really can't do that to a toddler.
And what people would say that this is the basic definition of rationality, right? Like, can we engage in a conversation where we're both able to make explicit our positions and go through the, you know, the different parts of our argument? We can't do that with children. Well, actually, we can.
But if you just define rationality to exclude young children, then obviously, you're going to say, look, therefore, young children are irrational. But rationality means your ability to actually learn, create new knowledge.
And so, as I said, babies are clearly

rational because they learn language. That's clear evidence of rationality.

Right. So we'll have to come back to that because that's going to be a longer discussion.

Let's talk about something we probably both agree on, which is the treatment of people who are teenagers or younger than teenagers, the impact that mandatory schooling has on people within this age range. Because I would say that actually people in this age range should have a presumption against coercion and that the schooling system is a real affront to their rights against coercion.
Well, one thing I just want to say about that is if you're imagining that you can raise a child from birth with a coercive top-down authoritarian dictatorship sort of relationship and then suddenly switch at whatever age you think that they become rational in your sense by that time you've already wrecked your relationship with your child and I don't know how it's going to go well. We need to start from the beginning with a view of children that they are rational, they are creative, they are reasonable rather than thinking that you can just change course at some later state, later stage.
Yeah. So although is that, is that true? I mean, you know, most parents, I would say almost all parents raise their kids, at least to a certain age, as if they are inferior to them, and they must obey them.
And you know, most kids have a healthy relationship with their parents, maybe not healthy in the way you would define it, probably. But they don't resent them in any sort of explicit sense, right? There's not an animosity there.
I think that there is actually a lot of resentment. And I'm not sure that I would say animosity, but I think that there is a lot of resentment between parents and children both ways.

And there is people are, and it's the parents as well, because they have this view of children that is not,

at least as far as I'm concerned, is not correct.

It does create friction and it does pit parents and child against each other.

So it does create friction and it does pit parents and child against each other so it does cause problems you're instead of solving problems you're coercing the child and and then of course sometimes parents who have this authoritarian mindset um are also tend to be self-sacrificial with their children. Like they're thinking, right, I've got to do this for my child.
But it's not that the child is requesting something and they are sacrificing in that way. There's just a lot of, with coercion, tends to come self-sacrifice.
And the whole thing is not rational and problem when problems aren't solved people it hurts people and that includes the parents as well not just the children yeah okay can you talk about what education would look like if you were uh when you're parenting somebody or when you're within a i guess a school-like context how should children be educated? Children should children should be supported to learn whatever they want to learn and how they want to learn it and very few children actually would want to go to school.

That school is such an inefficient way of learning anything. And it's so authoritarian.
The whole structure of the school system is this incredibly authoritarian structure. So I think the vast majority of children children if not under psychological or other pressure to to lie would say that they definitely wouldn't choose to go to school they might choose to go to some kind of formal education later when they have decided that they want to become a doctor say then obviously they're going to go through formal education.
But that might not happen until later. Yeah.
And it's not mandatory in the same sense as school is. Absolutely not, no.
Yeah, the child gets to choose. The school system is, I think it's a sort of throwback to the past when people were trying to turn out good factory workers.
It's, you know, in our knowledge-based society now and moving forward, And we're not looking for good factory workers who will obey and just do the mindless task that someone is setting them. We're looking for people who are creative, who come up with new ideas that will solve problems so that the world will be improved and will make progress.
And suffering will be ended. The is just damps down people's creativity.
It's stultifying for the majority of people.

Right. The objection people have to this view is even if you want people to be creative and come up with their own ideas, there's a certain base of knowledge of the need to be able to engage with problems on the frontier in the first place.

And that you need children are just not going to want to go through the preliminary steps that are necessary to get up to that high level where they can get to solving their own problems. And therefore, you need to coerce them at a younger age to learn the basics so that they can eventually become creative.
The problem with this body of knowledge idea is that if everyone has the same body of knowledge, where are the new ideas going to come from? If you think about it, in the past, before schools, the new ideas came from people whose history was completely different from other people's history, who had learned something for the sheer joy of learning that thing. They didn't think, oh, I have to do this.
I have to study this body of knowledge, this foundation of knowledge, and then I'll have all the ideas I need to come up with something new. No, it's new ideas are more likely to come from people who haven't got the same body of knowledge as everyone else.
So I just think that idea is a mistake. Right.
And furthermore, even if that idea was true, the idea that the modern schooling system or anything that even closely resembles it gives you a useful body of knowledge in the first place is it's rebutted by an experience of just like visiting school for one day, right? You're memorizing the difference between like alliteration and assonance or, you know, what date was this battle fought? and some person is droning on. And also the idea that then they get to decide

when you can use a bathroom or when you can eat. Like somehow that this level of coercion is necessary to give people just a basic foundation to be able to interact with the world.
That seems improbable to me. Absolutely.
I'm 100% with you on that. Yeah.
Yeah. So Brianrian kaplan who was actually my first guest on this podcast he wrote a book called cases against education and uh he homeschools his own kids the basic idea is that people are much less educated uh than you would expect given the 12 years of mandatory schooling they have you know people don't know the basics about how government works how uh the basics about math or science or anything once they leave college to an astonishing degree.
The one thing he did say, though, was when he homeschools his kids, the one thing he courses his children to learn is mathematics, because he has noticed that people who are in the unschooling movement, that the children who are raised up this way, they seem fine in every way, except for the fact that they struggle with even basic arithmetic. And so he supposes that children are just not going to want to go through the basic steps of math.
And math is actually an important subject that is required in many problem areas. So it's important to course your children to learn math.
Well, for a start, I don't think it's true that children taken seriously don't know how to do arithmetic. I think that's ridiculous.

I don't know which unschoolers he's talking about. Some of them do have some strange ideas,

such as not allowing children to learn or trying to stop them learning stuff until later. So I

I think that's a good thing. Some of them do have some strange ideas, such as not allowing children to learn or trying to stop them learning stuff until later.

So I don't know.

But in terms of the mathematics idea that we must co-ass our children to learn mathematics,

well, for a start, I disagree that most people need mathematics.

I don't think that's true.

To the extent that it is true, it's people learn it naturally anyway. But also, I think this idea is patently false.
If you think about it, every new idea in mathematics, every discovery in the field of mathematics was discovered by someone who was not being coerced to learn maths. It was discovered by someone who found mathematics a joy, a delight, fascinating.
And that's how they came to discover it. And so, yes, it might be the case that most people don't feel like that about mathematics.
Probably a lot of that is to do with the horrendous coercion in school about mathematics. It's enough to give anyone a lifelong aversion to it.
But even apart from that, assuming that it's true that most people just are not into maths. Well, most people don't need maths.
I just don't think it's true that we have to coerce anyone to learn anything. It's just not true.
People who haven't been coerced, who've been taken seriously, have no trouble at all learning whatever they need to learn when they realise that they need it. We don't need to go through 12 years of torture or even a year or two of torture at home with home education under coercion to learn mathematics.
That's ridiculous. Right.
I'm of two minds on this. On the one hand, I think you're right in the sense that I remember reading there was some superintendent who in his or her district decided that children would not be required to learn math before the seventh grade.
And it turned out that the children who learned math in the seventh grade were no more behind after eighth grade in mathematics than the people who had been learning math since, you know, first grade. So maybe it is true that you can pick it up at a later date.
But I worry. So, you know, there will always be people like, you know, Gauss or Newton who just are intrinsically motivated to learn math.
And, you know, maybe for them, maybe for these people who are going to make the advancements in our mathematical knowledge, they'll be able to do that without a course of education system. But what about the people who would want to become programmers, but they realize by the time they become 18 that they just don't have a strong enough grasp on mathematical concepts to be able to take further steps towards becoming an engineer or just towards even balancing their budget, right? I don't think that's true.
I think that when people are pursuing their own interests, it just all happens naturally. And it is in no way, if someone wants to be a programmer or an engineer or a doctor and they and maybe they only suddenly realize this later on in their childhood although I think in many cases people have this kind of drive earlier on in their childhood but even if it is later in their childhood people can learn later I, for example, not that this is about mathematics,

but Karl Popper's PhD thesis was not in philosophy.

It was in psychology, educational psychology.

And yet he became one of the most important philosophers ever.

So there is an example of someone who changed his direction

Thank you. became one of the most important philosophers ever so there is an example of someone who changed his direction late in his life relatively speaking and i i think the same is true for maths i i just don't agree with brian caplan about this right and i do agree with you that the presumption um you shouldn't just coerce children just in case it happens to help them.
Exactly. Like my position is probably a little bit milder than yours.
But I think there should be like a very good reason to coerce children, not just like in case they happen to need this skill. Well, if there's a very good reason, surely you can persuade your child of that reason.

If it is a good reason.

Although children are not known for being easily persuaded. Well, maybe that's because of the way that they are thwarted left and right throughout their childhood.
And so then they don't trust the adults around them because they, how is a child who's been thwarted and coerced their whole childhood to know when you're saying something that actually is important, that is actually in their interest rather than just another thwarting for this, for some silly reason. Right.
So now another worry about this way of raising children is the view that school teaches people, even if the knowledge itself is not useful or necessary, just the act of just like getting instruction and following it, that teaches people self-control, discipline, executive function. It lets them know how to engage with authority and with hierarchy when they enter the real world.
So they'll know how to interact with their boss or how to, you know, exist within the company, within the community, and so on. That's ridiculous.
To the extent that they will encounter authority, work situations, that kind of thing later on, they can learn how to navigate

that kind of thing then. This idea of teaching children self-discipline by coercing them,

by disciplining them, is an equivocation on the word discipline. It's suggesting that

Let's rubbish. In the case of the Olympic athlete or the MMA fighter or the concert pianist, this is something that they live for and it's their own passion.
And so they are pursuing it fully, wholeheartedly. That is a completely different thing from disciplining children.

Disciplining children says, don't pursue your passions wholeheartedly.

You need to do what I say.

So it's like the opposite.

It's actually training children not to be able to follow their passions with full heart and really going for it. Yeah, that's a good point.
Now, there's a concern that why should we expect the passions that children have to reflect the actual skills and knowledge they should have to be able to function well in the world? You know, people have plenty of passions, but maybe there's certain things that children need to learn regardless of what their passions are. And that the child is not in a good place to understand what these things are that he or she must learn.
Because he or she has not been exposed to the world yet to know what problem situations will arise. Well, if you have a non-coercive relationship with your children then you can talk about these things and you can and you can express your your concerns about you know that you need to know this because of this and and you can have a conversation you can yeah you can persuade by reason if you if you just impose, then the child probably is still not agreeing with you.
And the effect of that is not predictable. So you might find that these little bits of coercion that you want to get in there because you're worried about some future thing that might never happen,

but sort of make everything go wrong in the present. And really what matters is how we're living in the present.
Not that we can't have goals and things that we think are important for

the future and we can have those conversations, but if you're making life miserable in the present then what you're teaching the child is that life is miserable and that you that in life you can't actually solve problems you can't get what you want so you might as well just give up yeah that is not conducive to anything important that the child will want to do to you know doing something important it doesn't help to have coercion added to that it just doesn't help it just it it uh it's telling the child to that he can't trust himself, that he has to just live for the approval of someone else. That's not the kind of state of mind that that concert pianist is in or that Olympic athlete.
That's not how it is. Yeah, yeah.
No, that's a very good point. Now, is there where we can actually know the psychological impact of this kind of the conventional way of raising children? I am skeptical that it does have the on most people has a traumatic, very traumatic effect, because just generally just changing people's personality or their the way they interact the world way they interact the world.
It's, uh, it's just very hard to do that. Uh, parents, uh, you can, for example, there's a lot, a lot of literature with twin studies where, you know, twins that are separated at birth and are adopted by different parents, um, regardless of how different the parents are, usually most of the difference, usually the twins are actually pretty similar, even if they're raised in different households.
And so I'm skeptical of the idea that raising children this way will significantly, will make them significantly different than they would have been otherwise. Now that doesn't mean that justifies the current treatment of children, right? Like you don't, you're not changing adults by coercing them, but that still means, that still doesn't make the coercion of adults.
Okay. But it does mean that I doubt that there's some sort of deep psychological harm that's done by the conventional approach.
Suppose you're right that it makes no difference. Does that make immoral behavior unobjectionable? No, yeah, just as I said, when it comes to adults we're not we're not looking at the adult and saying well um there's no ill effect from coercing my wife you know if I think she needs to be kept under control and you you show me the studies that show me show that there's a there's a bad effect so it's fine obviously when it comes to adults we don't use those arguments we you know we don't say oh the the research shows that um that corporal punishment of of children uh causes a problem you know later and therefore, you probably shouldn't do it.
We don't say that when it comes to adults, we say it's wrong to hit someone. So it's thinking about the effects is not the point.
That is an example of this different view that we have of children this this this view of children that is I think a mistake right yeah you don't get to log somebody up for 11 years in an institution and say that it's not a big deal because it doesn't we can't tell if there's any long-lasting effects from that yeah that's that's an immoral it's immoral argument. You wouldn't make the same argument of an adult about an adult.
Right. So now how do you respond to the needs and demands, not the demands, sorry, but like the needs and wants of a very young child who might have unreasonable demands, or even a nonverbal toddler who it's even hard to know what the needs and desires are?

Well, for a start, I don't think it's unreasonable. As I said, I think that children have reason just like we do.
So with pre-verbal, I think that this is another example of the difference in view, actually because most people have this view of babies say as just being unreasonable and and just crying and and so on they're not paying attention to the signals that the baby is giving and so the baby is ignored the baby's signals are ignored and so the baby starts really screaming. And then parents do things like, right, I'm going to force the child to learn to sleep through the night by ignoring her cries.
The problem with that is, number one, you're teaching the baby that the baby can't have an effect on the world, that problems are not soluble.

But also, as I say, you are causing this conflict ridden relationship to be created.

Whereas if you're taking your baby seriously, then you're paying attention and you are trying to make conjectures about what it is that the baby might be wanting or not wanting. And so you're responding positively at a much earlier stage.
And so you don't have the screaming, you know, the sort of terrible stuff that you get in in most homes like this idea of um the terrible twos and temper tantrums that doesn't happen if you're taking your children seriously it just doesn't happen because you're never it's never getting to where it's that kind of a problem you're actually responsive to your child right uh so you have more experience with children than i do so i'll defer to you there so i just don't have a strong position on how children turn out based on how they're raised uh my i guess my

null hypothesis is that if uh until i see the evidence that it makes a difference or the evidence that like the kids won't have uh temper tantrums if they're raised this way um i'll it seems safe to assume that they will um but probably just experience in life will let me know otherwise yeah why why would someone end up end up that upset if they weren't if their needs weren't being ignored at a much earlier stage it's it's i guess you could ask the same thing of okay so let's take a person who is an adult, but is mentally ill, right? Now, he might have tantrums. And you would never suggest that, or you could suggest that it's because, well, actually, that's just a response to what's going on in this world.
But you could say, well, a better explanation for what's going on is that he's just mentally ill, right? And there's probably some things that are upsetting him. the proximal cause of his tantrums is the fact that he's mentally ill and you can say the same thing about a two-year-old it's like okay so there might be things that are upsetting him or her but like the proximal explanation is just that these are the terrible twos well it's it's not true that is that that's a myth that if you if you do raise children non-coercively you will discover that that's just a myth yeah yeah i'll have to find out how i mess up at some point when you're when you're paying attention to your very young child then you're noticing when you know when when people are not completely happy when there's, when a problem, when, when there's a problem, you see it in their eyes.
Why is, why is the parent not noticing that there's a problem until the child is in a screaming traumatic, you know, traumatized state on the floor? Like, why is that happening? Right. It doesn't't need to happen it just doesn't need to happen and children who who have experience of their needs being met and not being thwarted they trust that there's you know that their needs are going to be met yeah so I think my parents philosophy on was, they explained it to me at some point, and you'll disagree with this very much, but their idea was if you respond to tantrums, you're teaching the child that the way you get a response is by throwing a tantrum, whereas if you ignore the tantrums and then respond to the child when he or she is being more reasonable, then you're teaching the child that, you know, tantrums are not the way you get what you want.
And but that if you're in another mood, then that's the way you should interact with the world. Yeah, using dog training techniques on children is I think is just immoral.
And if you think about it from a young child's perspective, what that is doing when you are shunning them, ignoring them, you're basically withdrawing love. And for a child, a young child, that is absolutely terrifying.
So I think that if parents could put themselves in their young children's minds and see how it is for those children, I don't think that they would want to do that. And, you know, we are not animal.
I mean, we are animals, but we have a human mind. So the question is whether you want to be training your children by dog training techniques, by behaviorist operant conditioning or classical conditioning, or whether you want to use reason.
Right. Coercion decides issues under an irrational institution.
And so you can't get the right answer that way. Yeah.
Now objection that i've encountered people oh sorry go ahead carry on yeah uh one objection people seem to have when i talk about these ideas they worry that children in their natural state are uncurious um lazy or not necessarily lazy but just unmotivated by the kinds of things that would probably make

them have a better life when they're adults. So they would probably spend all day like watching TV or playing video games or something like that.
They aren't going to do the things that we would optimistically hope they would do with their free time if we just let them non-coerciously spend their days. So they're not going to be, you know, exploring and learning and reading and all those things.
Well, speaking as one who was raised in the standard way, not the way I'm suggesting, I tried to do everything I could to escape from the coercion and the fighting and the endless stuff that was my time was, you know, school and homework and ballet lessons and piano lessons and violin lessons and ballet lessons, acrobatics and all the other stuff. And I would escape to my room whenever I could.
And in my case, this was before computers and computer games. So in my case, it was was reading but I think it's in no way surprising if children raised in the standard way need an escape into things like video games who wouldn't it's it's it helps people to relax and calm down and it's so I think that a lot of that a lot of

what you what you might see as laziness and um doing something that you might think is mindless although actually I don't think it's mindless at all I think it's very educational to play video games is, is just needing to just calm down from all the stress of life in the in the coercive family and the with all the schooling and everything so so there is that so for a start I don't think it's true that children well it's not true children left to their own I mean it's not left to their own devices, but not coerced, would do nothing but play video games. But even if they wanted to do that, I think that that might well be a positive thing.
Now, it is possible that it could be a negative thing. It could be that a child has no other real options, in which in which case obviously that's a mistake the parent is is not giving the child enough real options that are interesting that are engage the child's interest and attention but apart from that with that caveat I think that doing things like playing video games and watching television are incredibly educational.
I mean, if you think about it, if an alien came from outer space, what would the quickest way to learn about our culture be? Well, it would probably be doing things like watching soap operas on television rather than someone trying to teach them in a school situation they would learn much more inexplicably from watching television than they would get from lessons about it right people are mistaken about how educational these things are and it it's completely mistaken to think that children

who aren't coerced are not curious.

It's entirely the opposite.

Do we not notice how children's curiosity

when they're a young child seems to just disappear

in their later childhood?

Can it not be something to do with the way that they're educated and raised? Right. Yeah, it would be astonishing if millions of years of evolution decided that the best way to produce a survival machine would be to have something that lays around for the first 18 years of its life and does nothing, right? Just like from first principles, you can anticipate to that.
There's probably a reason that we spend the first part of our life as children and that, you know, you would just expect evolution to have trained us to be curious and to explore because, you know, that's probably the reason we're children in the first place. And as far as the video games go, I always tell my friends when they make this objection that they're just going to play video games all day.

It's like, where's the evidence that this is any worse a time way to spend time than going to school? Right. If you just look at the studies on the efficacy of school, you know, they're wasting their time there anyways.
But the fact is that they're getting they're suffering while they're spending their time there. So at least they're not suffering while they're playing video games, right? Yeah, I mean, I think it's I think it's more positive than that.
But yes, and what what children should be learning is what they want is what interests them is how to solve problems. They don't learn that by being institutionalized for 12 years and and bossed about by an authoritarian teacher who doesn't know very much they they just it's it's it's an insane idea yeah yeah i i think back to you know uh like my years in schooling and it just the amount of um not only wasted time that i was bored or uh didn't want to be there, but also the opportunity cost, just the things I could have learned at a much younger age.
Yes. Right.
Like this time in the child's, there's first of all, the fact that, you know, children have a different sleep cycle than adults. And so they're sleep deprived and that's probably messing them up, messing up their development there's also the fact that you're using um all their time with homework and with schoolwork i think in the us it's like average of three hours a day of homework that's after eight hours of schooling um so where's the time for the child to do the kinds of things that uh would make them grow and would help them develop yeah as um pollyanna said said in the book of the same name, when will I have time to live? And that was after her aunt had told her that she was going to be having lessons in the morning.
And when will I have time to live? Right. Another point of that, you know, twin studies literature.
So it actually also makes the case against the sort of coercion of children, right? Because if, you know, forcing your kid to take Taekwondo lessons, and then, you know, making them go to school and, you know, getting them extra tutoring and homework, if this stuff doesn't make a difference anyways, like why are you making your child suffer in this way? yes but of course i i think all these expedient arguments and trying to make a science of it are a mistake because you know we didn't end slavery because the studies said such and such we didn't emancipate women because the studies said such and such it was the were moral and philosophical. Yeah.
And I think people can get into some very dark territory when they start thinking that they can turn everything into a science that isn't science. It's scientism.
Yeah, and then speaking of the treatment of women, one question to ask is, how could it be that every society that has ever existed has been wrong on this very basic moral question, right? But then the response is, you know, every society before the Enlightenment, before like 100 years ago, was very wrong on the treatment of women. So it's not that surprising that societies would universally get a moral question wrong.
Now, the response is, well, at least there was a way there where one part of the population did not have to experience the pain of another part of the population, and so could oppress them in this way. But when it comes to children, we've all been children.
So if we all experience the coercion and the trauma of this uh of the conventional way of raising children why are we not realizing that as adults yeah um with regard to uh how this could have evolved uh you might want to read david deutsch's the beginning of infinity i it's chapter 16, The Evolution of Creativity. I think that the interesting thing is how we got from a static society to the enlightenment and creativity and all the rest of it.
So I think of taking children seriously as like the final phase of the Enlightenment or maybe not the final phase, but it is certainly one area that we haven't applied Enlightenment thinking to. So yeah, I think that, as I said, I think that in time people will look back on 2021 and how the people view children and they will be as horrified as we are when we look back at how women were viewed in the past.
All right. But do you have an idea for why, despite having been children ourselves, we still when we grew up to become adults, most people still adopt the same authoritarian authoritarian practices that they experienced themselves and to which they presumably suffered from.
Yes, and again, this is something that is in The Beginning of Infinity by David Deutsch, which is the idea of anti-rational memes. So whereas rational memes replicate themselves with criticism, like criticism doesn't hurt a rational meme.
It's wonderful for a rational meme to be under critical scrutiny. But anti-rational memes disable their holders' ability to criticise them.
And so in this way in this anti-rational way develop the same hang-ups the same anti-rational memes that cause them to do the same thing to their children I mean not that it's 100% you know that you can if you're aware of the idea of antirational memes, you can, you can criticize and, and, and using creativity, at least to some extent, overcome them. And that's how we have, over the years, things have, have liberalized somewhat for children, but we still have this view of children that is, that is pre-enlightenment, I think.
So, but yes yes anti-rational memes uh is a is an explanation I think for why people grow up and do the same thing to their children yeah I do do um is there a way you expect the evolution of these ideas will go will it be enabled by uh for example in the United States maybe elsewhere as well, there's a growth of something called Montessori schools, which kind of approximate this philosophy of children where they can and will learn just by their own curiosity. How do you expect this movement to grow? I think that the shift will come in a similar way to the shift that came when women were emancipated it wasn't all in one go you know that women got the vote um I don't know which order things happened in actually but it didn't all happen at once and people and the idea of women in the culture changed gradually and then there were certain things that happened like women got the vote that that did make a difference but for example even in 1933 my own grandmother lost the job that she loved when she told her boss that she was getting married and she said that's just the way it way it was.
If you were, if you were married, you couldn't, you couldn't have a job. So even, you know, in my grandmother's lifetime, things were still changing quite some time after women had got the vote in England.
So I think it's going to be a similar kind of thing I think um I hope that my book might

make a difference you know that because once you see once you see this view the view of children is like that our view of women was in the past and black people in the days of slavery once you see that you can't unsee it you know it's yeah it's sort of wow and i i think that people are going to start to see it and then that's going to start making a difference and it'll just be you know a sort of domino effect and and then gradually children will be being taken seriously more and more. So is this book coming out soon? Well, I keep thinking it's nearly finished, but I'm doing another rewrite.
So I'm not sure when it will be, but I hope not too long. Yeah, I'm excited to read it.
I'd love to have you back on once it's published so we can talk about it. Absolutely.
Love to. Right.
Oh, just a question that occurred to me while you were talking about the treatment of women. You know, one of the ways, obviously, that society coerced women and oppressed them was they weren't allowed to work, right, because they were seen as incapable of making the decision to work or to be able to perform well.
Should we get rid of child labor laws if the similar kinds of rights are also to be expected of children? I suspect, and this is just a conjecture, although I am a libertarian, I'm not a utopian libertarian. I'm a Popperian libertarian.
So I don't actually know what the future will look like, but I would imagine that at some point in the future, some of these things will change. The child labor laws definitely do cause problems for, for example, young entrepreneurs.
I've met someone who was a brilliant person and started a business at the age of, I think it was 11. And, and he had to lie about his age.
And so now he's been banned from that the particular financial, online financial service that he was using because he lied about his age but you know those those laws are are do make it very difficult for children although it's weird because when I was a child lots of children worked not um not in full-time jobs because obviously they were at school but lots of children worked a lot more than they do now especially in america so i don't know i think that that will i think that that's one of the things that will change yeah yeah people have this idea because because of when child labor laws were banned of like the kind of dangerous jobs that children are doing that that's the kind of jobs that 11 years 11 year olds would be doing if they were allowed to now. Except, you know, just imagine the job that a 14-year-old does when he's allowed to, like he's a clerk at H-E-B or Walmart or something.
He would just do that, be allowed to do that at 11. I wouldn't expect that that is far more, oh, let me just connect my battery.
I would expect that that's far more pleasing to the child than to be forced to stay in an institution, whereas he to choose to work and he gets paid for his labor and you know he has a voluntary relationship with his boss and so on yeah yeah yeah obviously in the past um parents forced their children to work in dangerous conditions you know out of desperation for survival. So, you know, I, I under, the people who, who brought in those labor laws obviously had very good intentions.
It's just, we're in a different problem situation now, and certainly going into the future, things, things will be different. So I'm sure that that will change.
Oh, and how about sexual consent laws? So age of consent laws? Well, at the moment, because people have this view of children that is problematic, those laws do at least try to protect children. But I can imagine sometime in the distant future when children are taken just as seriously as everyone else is taken, when they might also not be needed.
I think that any kind of sexual relationship where there is a differential of power and authority is going to be

dangerous and so I don't know what what it will be like in the future so I'm just speculating but

many of these laws obviously were needed to protect children and maybe still are in some

respects but may not in the future when children are taken seriously. Thank you.