The Truth about Liquid Courage + 9 Ways to Make Sobriety Your New Edge in Dating (Part 3)

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Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I'm your host, dating coach Connell Barrett.

I'm here to help you confidently flirt with incredible women, get more dates, and find an incredible girlfriend. And do it all by being authentic.
No sketchy pickup artist moves, no manipulation.

This is about dating with authenticity, radical authenticity. And welcome to part three of my three-part series on sober dating.
I recently, just last week, celebrated my 1,000th sober day.

And I was in Chicago with my girlfriend. On November 25th, we saw Paul McCartney do his last live show of the year.

I'm a huge Beatles fan, and I wanted to celebrate my 1,000th sober day with the most important person in my world, Jess, my girlfriend, and watching my favorite musical artist in the world, Paul McCartney.

I'm a huge Beatles fan. For those of you watching on Spotify or YouTube, check out my t-shirt.
There's Paul with his mullet in full flowing glory. And it was an amazing show.
And this is part three.

And the first episode, I talked all about how to overcome any addiction, whether it's drinking in my case, or porn or masturbating too much, or even just procrastination.

If you are struggling in your dating life, there is probably some kind of dependency that's holding you back. And I don't mean substances necessarily.

It could just be being dependent on procrastination or settling or staying in your comfort zone. So check out part one if that resonates with you.
Part two, I talked about approaching sober.

And some of the best approaching nights of my love life when I was single came when I was sober. And I go out with my clients here in New York City and I help them approach mainly sober.

I don't insist on it. I have no problem with a guy drinking on a date or when approaching, but it's also really badass to go out and approach while sober because you can get drunk.

Or I should say you can catch a buzz off of your own authentic confidence and awesomeness. And today, part three, I'm going to answer 10 questions I have gotten from you.

I've gotten a lot of questions from men who are sober or sober curious. They want to talk about some dating,

sober-related dating questions. So here we go.
I'm going to give you 10 sober dating questions that I've been collecting by email, by Instagram, and a few other ways that guys find me.

So let's get to it. Here we go.
Question number one is, hey, Connell.

What do I do if I have a first date with a woman? I don't drink and she does. does, what's the move? How do I navigate that?

Well, if you don't drink and she does,

then a lot of guys ask me,

do I tell her in advance or do I wait till we get to the venue for the first date? Well,

I believe in telling the truth up front.

So before you even pick a spot, you want to let her know what your situation is with drinking, that you're not drinking if you are a sober guy.

So, you could simply let a woman know something, just text her something like, Hey, just a heads up, I don't drink.

It's totally cool if you do, but I wanted to mention it in case that impacts where we go. This does something really important for women.

First, it shows her that you're considerate, that you're genuine, you're telling the truth. It also gives her the chance to weigh in.
Some women are totally fine going on a date with you.

If they drink and you don't, they'll have a drink, you'll have a

seltzer or a ginger beer, which is my go-to non-booze drink. But some women will feel uncomfortable if you just hold if you, if you don't tell them about

you're not drinking or your sobriety until the date.

I have not personally dealt with this, but I had a client who is sober.

His date drinks, they get to the bar, he orders a water, and she gets insecure and feels like the spotlight's on her for drinking. Some women don't care at all.

So you want to give women that heads up, okay?

She might be totally cool with the drink, cool with having a drink at a bar while you are having your mocktail, but she might not be comfortable doing that.

And you just want to give her that heads up.

Now,

Part two of this question is, well, what do you drink? How do you navigate a date when she drinks and you don't?

Assuming she now has signed off on you guys meeting at a bar, then drink whatever you're comfortable drinking. It could be a zero-proof mocktail, or it could be a mock tail.
It could be seltzer.

The goal is: don't make your sobriety a big deal. It's not a big deal.
It's just a part of who you are. Most women don't care if you don't drink.

What they do care about is that you're confident in yourself. You bring a fun vibe to that date.

So you want to mention your sobriety, but it's just part of the overall package that is you, a single, datable, great guy.

Now, back, let me double back to something. Let's say she isn't comfortable having a drink at a bar since you won't be drinking, and she does.

That's great to know. You can then recalibrate the date idea.

You can say, All right, cool. Well, let's do something else.
Let's do putt-putt, mini-golf, do a fun event date like ping-pong, pool, mini golf.

You can do coffee. You can do fancy coffee.
Bottom line is you could do lots of things that don't involve alcohol.

Any first date is just a vehicle for the two of you getting, hopefully getting closer and romantically connecting.

And if she's cool with a beverage, an alcoholic beverage while you're sober, fantastic. She'll feel comfortable.
And if she's not, it's good to know that in advance.

okay next question hey connell i am newly sober and i'm worried that i'm going to be boring on dates without alcohol to loosen me up how do i stay interesting and fun

well

you were never boring you were just drunk and you couldn't tell the difference um alcohol doesn't make you interesting it might

all that alcohol does is it quiets the voice of self-doubt. Alcohol quiets the voice of insecurity.

So you turned off that part of the brain, what I call the lower self, that makes you in your head and nervous. And it allows you to just sort of be free-flowing and expressive.

So

you were not boring before, and you're not going to be boring now. Alcohol doesn't make you interesting.
You make you interesting.

Your sense of humor, your life stories, your point of view, your heart, your mind, all of your perfect imperfections, sir, make you interesting, at least to women who like your type. Okay.

Just remember that alcohol doesn't give you liquid courage. It doesn't make you interesting.
It just switches off or makes it easier to switch off the voice of self-doubt. Okay.

If you still want to be fun and interesting on dates, then remember that fun comes from

one, well, two core. There's two magic words here.
Two magic words about bringing fun and bringing a good attractive interesting energy to a first date the two magic words are authenticity and play

authenticity being the real you this is you at your most attractive your most singular your most you always be authentic but on a date it's not just necessarily enough to just be quote unquote authentic.

You want to bring some playfulness because that's what flirting is in a word: play.

You know, Shakespeare said in Hamlet, Hamlet says the play is the thing. Well, on dates, the thing is the play.

You want to bring playfulness. Flirtation is basically play.
The definition of flirtation is literally playing at love. Look that up on Webster's, I think.
It's either Webster's or Oxford.

Playing at love. That's what flirting is.
So be playful.

And you can kickstart your playfulness even without alcohol.

Alcohol makes it easier, but you don't need it. So find ways to be playful.

Crack jokes that are your sense of humor. Do playful things on dates.
Play little games. Play two truths and a lie.

Look around the room.

Play a game of who else would you want to be on a date with in this room? Look around the room and see who you might want to go on a date with and tell your date and have her tell you.

Do a staring contest.

Come up with little fun little games in the moment.

Find ways to be or playfully tease her a little bit. See if she likes it.
Yeah, bottom line is you don't have to use alcohol to be playful and attractive and interesting to women.

Your authentic self makes you enough and the playful flirtatiousness you bring to a date will help you have more fun and keep it playful.

Now, if you want to spike the punch a little bit, no pun intended, then you can spike the punch and keep a date fun by doing something fun on the date.

You can, like I mentioned in the previous question,

have fun baked into the date. You can go bowling.
You can play mini golf.

I once had a first date at a coffee shop where we played Jenga and had coffee. This is before I was sober, but it was still fun and it was still booze-free.

So having fun activities helps the fun playful banter come out more organically without needing alcohol because guess what if you're playing jenga if you're playing a fun little game you can trash talk a little bit you can tease each other and that can spike the kind of romantic chemistry that women like to feel on a date anyway you're not boring um you're just you're just still going to be learning how to show up as yourself without the crutch of booze

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Connell.

When is the right time to tell a woman I'm sober?

First date, third date, or does it matter? So this question, I believe, is coming more from the place of a man who's in recovery.

or who has gone out and sought help.

There's two kinds of sober, right? There's, I had a problem sober,

which was me.

Now, I didn't go to a program, but I had a problem.

And then there's the, I'm just living a healthier, better life,

which is a different level of sobriety. So, this question is coming more from the former.
So, this guy is asking, when do I tell women that I had a problem?

Well, if sobriety is core to your identity, you know, you're in recovery,

It's a part of your value system. If it shapes who you are, then mention it early.
I would say mention it by the end of date number two.

You don't need to bring it up on the first date if you don't want to. You can keep things light.

And then you don't need to dump a whole traumatic story on the woman if you don't want to, but you can have a one or two minute.

story ready to talk about. You know, so if I was going to be doing this, if I was single and dating

and I got sober,

I got sober while with my girlfriend, so I never had to have this conversation, but I have had the conversation outside of dating. And my answer would be, you know what, I used to drink a lot.

It was a, it was kind of like a toxic relationship. We had some fun early, but then it got toxic and we had to break up.
And now I'm just committed to my health.

And I said, you know what, I'm done drinking. I don't need it anymore.
And I feel so much better. I feel like a new man.

And that's pretty much what I would say if I was going to go on a first date today. So you could frame it in a very conversational way like that.

But if you are actually, and so you don't have to say that you're in recovery if you don't want to. You can.
I'm a huge fan of vulnerability and opening up.

You can certainly own that and say, oh, yeah, by the way, I'm in recovery. Or I go to a meeting twice a week, whatever it might be.
And it really depends on you and how vulnerable you want to be.

But I would say you want to bring it up in the first couple of,

by the end of day two, and essentially have an honest, truthful, but not trauma-dumping answer for that question.

Now, if you're just a guy who's taken a month off of drinking, you can have the shortest, simplest answer ever. You can say, I'm not drinking today.
Or I'm not drinking this month.

I'm taking the month off just to see what happens. So many people do it.
More people do this now than ever, sober January or any sober month.

In fact, the data, the numbers on the number of people who drink regularly,

regularly drink alcohol, the number of adults, it's at its lowest, I believe, ever in recorded history. I believe.
So it's a very trendy thing.

Not only is it nothing to feel insecure about, it's something that will probably

make a really good impression with a lot of women who are impressed by a guy who's taking good care of his health.

Anyway, the big mistake mistake to make is: don't hide it. Don't feel any shame.
There's no shame in having had, in being sober. There's no shame in having had a drinking problem.

Think of it like it's just a fact you're sharing about you. It's part of who you are now.

Okay, next question. Question number four.
Hey, Connell, I quit drinking because it was making me anxious and depressed.

Should I be honest about that with women or will that make me seem weak or damaged? Okay, a very similar question to the one I just answered.

No, it's not going to make you seem weak or damaged. At least not to the right woman for you.
Being honest about growing as a man is not weakness. It's actually a sign of strength.

But again, there's a difference between sharing your sobriety journey. and turning a first date into a therapy session, which you don't want to do that.

So my little rule of thumb is share your story, but not the wreckage. Share the journey of your sobrietyship, but not the wreckage, right?

So again, you don't want to spend 15 minutes talking about a deep, dark pit of terrible stories if you do have a very dark story about alcoholism or any other addiction.

But you do want to be honest with a woman. So roughly, but by the end of day two, you want to say something like, yeah, I quit drinking a while back.
I had a problem. I've gotten help.

And it was messing with my health, my mental health. And, but I feel, I feel much better now.
I've come through the other end.

And every day I make that decision to be sober and I've never felt better. So I do want you to frame your,

if it's truthful to do this, I do want you to frame, express the narrative of your sobriety in a way that conveys strength, that conveys a man with his shit together.

We we all have things in life that knock us down we all have weaknesses and chinks in our armor so please don't think that you're going to come off as weak or damaged i don't think you will not at least not with the right woman for you if she's the right woman for you she'll respect that you took control of your life she'll see it as a man who's got his life together and every woman every woman wants every quality woman anyway wants to be with a man whose life is together.

And pretty much every woman wants to date a man who's done real work on himself.

And so, let women who aren't into a guy like that, heck, fine, she can self-select herself out.

But you're not damaged, you're just a guy who made a change for the better. So, you can totally own that.
It's all about that power of radical authenticity that I talk about.

Okay, next question: A Connell, how do I answer the question?

If a woman asks me

why I'm sober,

what's a good way to handle that?

Yeah, I would say have a nice, short, simple answer. Keep it short, confident, forward-moving.
You're not writing a memoir.

You're not writing a story. You're giving her a headline.
You might say something like, I feel better without it. I have more energy and a clearer head.

And then

you don't have to stay on the topic. Part of our jobs on dates as men is to lead the conversation to a date-friendly place.

So you can answer the question and then feel free to pivot to a different topic or even pivot back toward her. What about you? Are you more of a wine girl or a cocktail girl?

And then, or change the topic to something else.

Not to evade the topic, but just because you don't want to spend a lot of time on those first one or two dates deeply diving into any sort of addiction or drinking problem that you have dealt with, just because we want to keep dates fun and positive and fairly playful.

That said, don't apologize and don't overexplain. Sobriety is not something to defend, it's something that you can absolutely own.
Or even better, just make it not a big deal. It's just who you are.

I don't make it a big deal, it's just who I am now.

Okay, next question.

When I'm out approaching women, and

when I'm out approaching women, will I seem weird if I'm not holding a drink? What do I do when out approaching women? Okay, a couple options here. No, you're not going to seem weird.

Women don't care what you're drinking or not drinking. They don't even notice.

My clients mostly don't drink. And I'm out with them, literally helping them approach women.
And most of my clients are not holding a drink in their hands.

And they walk up to a woman, and it often goes great. And a woman doesn't say anything.
Now, if you feel more comfortable holding a beverage, which I get, then you can just get a seltzer.

Or this is not product placement, by the way.

I just happen to have bought many cans of.

There's a carbonated water called Liquid Death,

and

it's brilliant marketing. It's this

carbonated water that has like an edgy, badass kind of Black Sabbath design on the can. Liquid death.
It's just carbonated water, but it looks like a can of alcohol.

I've bought many cans of that just because when I go to the bars with my clients, I want to be a good patron. I want to give the bar some kind of financial recompense for being there.

So I'll buy a liquid death. which is just carbonated water, but with

a badass design on the can. For what it's worth, women don't give a damn.
They don't even notice what I'm drinking.

But if anybody did ask, or sorry, if a woman was looking at me, I would just look like another guy holding a can of a beverage, which looks like alcohol.

If she looked closer at it, she would see that it's not, but women just don't care. Bottom line is: as long as you don't care, women won't care.

Again, I told a story in the last podcast episode of the first night I went out and really committed to sober approaching many years ago it was literally the best it was the most confident most in the zone i'd ever felt and i was just holding a plastic cup with water and i was in such an amazing authentic zone that a woman who i had a quick fast makeout with said hey what are you drinking i want some and i was like i'm sober And I let her drink my water.

And she was like, no way. I thought you were buzzed.
I was buzzed off of me. Anyway, so no, don't sweat it.
Don't sweat it. Have a drink if you have a can or a glass of something if you want.

If you are very insecure about it, or if you feel more secure doing this, have them put the seltzer in a

shot glass in a tumbler. And that will make you look like a guy who's drinking.
Women don't. But the bottom line is, nobody's going to care.
Nobody's going to care.

Next question. Hey, Connell, should I put sober on my dating profile or will that scare women off?

I would say

I've shifted on this. I used to say, let's wait, wait and see to find out what your vibe is with her after you match.
If she's a drinker, mention it. If she's not, don't mention it.

But now I believe you should just put it on your profile. and feature it as a virtue.
Sobriety, not only is it

more in than ever,

but it's actually, think of what online dating is. Online dating, I should say, your profile is just a piece of digital marketing.
That's all a profile is. It's digital marketing.

And you want to market yourself in an authentic but attractive way.

And sobriety, if that's important to you, not only is it marketing something truthful and attractive, part of the secret to marketing is talking to your audience, talking to the quote-unquote market,

the customer, quote unquote customer. And in this case, you might want to be dating a sober girl.
So many women are sober. I see so many women on the dating apps who say,

don't drink, sober. They don't say, don't match with me unless you're sober, but they do highlight it.

And I think that if you put sober on your profile, you will magnetize a lot of sober women or sober, curious women who are like, oh, cool, a guy who's not going to be blitzed and slurring his words at the end of our date because he's had so many drinks.

So yeah, I would say put sober on your profile.

It's core to who you are. You don't need to go deep.
Keep it light. Keep it fun.

You can make it a flirtatious prompt. On my profile, recently, I've tested out things like,

just so you know, I'm sober,

but don't worry, I'll catch a buzz off of you and your charming personality if we meet up, Winky Face.

Women love that kind of prompt because I'm now telling women about myself, but I'm also letting her feel, oh, he doesn't need alcohol to feel good. He just needs to be with somebody like me.

And so you could actually turn your sobriety into not a factual statement about you, but turn it into a light, fun, flirty prompt.

And I just think you'll attract more matches this way anyway. I really do.
I see so many women who put sober or not into drinking and some beautiful, incredible women.

So I think you'll only attract more matches that way.

Connell, question number seven or eight.

Connell, how do I handle it? If a woman says she doesn't want to date somebody who doesn't drink?

okay, all right. Those women are in the minority, but they're out there.
There are women who are like, hey, I want a guy who drinks.

Don't argue. Don't try to change her mind.
Just acknowledge it and move on.

You could just mention, you could just text her something like, oh, totally fair. Sounds like we're not a good dating match.

I wish you the best.

Bottom line is some women might be looking for a guy who maybe she's a drinker. She wants to be with a guy who drinks.
There's nothing wrong with that either. Don't plead your case.

Don't try to convince her that you're datable.

The truth is

a woman who says that she needs you to drink is either deeply tied to the drinking culture herself, or she's looking more for a drinking buddy, not a romantic partner.

And there's nothing wrong with those things, but that just means she's not for you. So I would say look look at that as

just a sign that the two of you are not on the same dating page. Wish her well and move on.

Okay, next question: What are the best sober date ideas that are still fun, flirty, and spontaneous? Yeah,

a couple I've mentioned already.

I'm a big fan of games. I've gone to trivia night, didn't drink though.

I've done, my clients have done things like

any kind of, any, any sort of activity date that's not at a bar is a great option, or at least not at a place where alcohol is the main point.

You can go to a bowling alley. Ping pong.

I once had a date once where I met a girl at a bookstore.

We met at a bookstore. And we decided to find each other a book that we thought the other person would want to read.
That was a super fun date.

You could do dessert dates. I really like dessert dates as a first date, meaning you just meet for dessert.

You find the best gelato in town or the best,

the best

cheesecake. I once had a really fun first date.

I met the squirrel at a park.

We were both sitting on a bench and there were all these squirrels around her. She was feeding squirrels.
She had like three squirrels sitting on her.

And I said, are you like the queen of squirrels here in the park? We started chatting, got her number.

And for our first, and she was not, I was a drinker at the time, she was not.

So we had a donut first date. We went to the donut plant, a fun donut spot here in New York City.
So you could do a donut date.

Again, a first date, any first date is just a vehicle for two people to see how they romantically connect. So

the idea here is you want to do something that has novelty,

that maybe a little bit of movement.

I've had golf put putt first dates, driving range first dates,

pizza crawl first dates. I had a first date once where we went on a pizza crawl, tried to find the best slice of pizza in a certain part of the city.

Yeah, alcohol is not required. Bottom line is women, actually, more and more women online on their profiles? They're putting things like

suggest a date that's not drinks.

Not even if they're sober necessarily, just because they're so tired of, hey, should we get drinks?

So, having a good, fun, sober date idea isn't only good for a sober guy, it's also good as a way to break the pattern of what she's used to getting, and it just makes you stand out.

Okay,

uh, next question: I'll skip that one. That's a lame question.

Oh, here's one. Here's a good one.
Kind of a general question.

Hey, Connell, I quit drinking recently and I feel a lot more anxious and in my head around women, especially when I'm at bars or at parties. How can I build confidence socially without alcohol?

Good question.

Well,

you're not more anxious.

You feel more anxious. You're just more aware of your anxiety and alcohol was just numbing it, not fixing it.

Again, something I learned from a great book that I mentioned in part one of this series, a book by Alan Carr called The Easy Way to Control Alcohol. He writes about how alcohol

doesn't give you courage.

It's a myth that there's liquid courage. What alcohol does is it numbs your mind to your insecurities so that you then are

freer

to be more present and feel more confident because the insecurities are not pinging in your head.

And

alcohol, of course, is a fast way to quiet that mind of self-doubt, but it's not necessarily a very sustainable one, or at least it's not a healthy sustainable one.

So if you decided to go sober, that's awesome.

What you can do, it's basically expose your therapy.

When you're anxious in a social situation around women or just a social situation in general, you want to expose yourself to the thing that you're afraid of.

And really the thing you're afraid of is social rejection. That's really all it is.
Or romantic rejection. But really, it's social rejection or social judgment.

That's essentially what triggers the feeling of social anxiety. You're afraid that you're going to walk up to those two two or three people and they won't want to talk to you.

Or you'll talk to those women and they will clearly not want you to have a conversation with them, regardless of whether or not they're romantically interested in you.

And the ultimate fear factor, of course, is when you're at a bar or a party and you want to approach and flirt with a woman, but you're so afraid that she'll reject your romantic interest, right?

That's essentially. And then what you're afraid of is what

that quote unquote rejection will mean

if and when it happens. It's essentially what approach anxiety comes from.

The anxiety that you will feel pain, the pain of I'm not enough for that woman, or I'm not socially acceptable here to society. So what do we do instead of drink?

Well, you expose yourself to the thing that you're afraid of. When you're at the party, give yourself a minimum of three social approaches.

Walk up to three different groups of people at that party and say something authentic, vulnerable,

engaged, present. Ask them how they are, share something about you.
You basically

make yourself

vulnerable to the thing that you're afraid of. It's sort of like you're stepping into the lion's den.

Alcohol takes the fear away, at least a lot of it. Without alcohol, the fear is there.

But you have something that's so much more powerful than alcohol. And also, it's not going to give you liver disease or make you gain 30 pounds like I did.
You have courage.

You always, always, always have the courage to walk up to those two or three people at the Christmas party and speak to them. in an honest, genuine, authentic way.

You always can make an adult decision using good old-fashioned courage to

say hello to the intriguing woman who is sitting there in the coffee shop.

And that doesn't mean the anxiety will go away.

You can't think yourself out of anxiety. You can only act your way out of anxiety.
Take action. You face the thing that you're afraid of.
You walk into the proverbial lion's den.

And then the good news is what you'll find is that there's no lions there.

You don't need,

you have your chair, you have your whip, you walk over to the woman, the people, and you face the thing that you're afraid of.

And then you realize, hey, wait a minute, most people are pretty cool, pretty friendly. And every once in a while, you have a romantic.
chemistry with a woman and that will change your life.

That could be your next girlfriend. But the way you went over to talk to those people and maybe meet her was not through alcohol, because all alcohol does is it numbs the voice of self-doubt.

Instead, you can tell the voice of self-doubt to shut the fuck up.

You are going to use courage, move one foot in front of the other, walk over to that woman, expose yourself to the thing that you're afraid of, and realize, oh, wow, I thought I had to come over here to tame a lion, but there's no lions here.

Just kiddies, just little kittens. There's nothing that's going to eat your face.
And then you do this over and over again.

And after two or three or four four social approaches you'll be out of your head you won't feel anxious because the thing that you've been afraid of didn't happen and you can be your most confident present in the zone self

and that's when good things happen both socially in terms of just meeting in people and socializing and also flirtation approaching getting phone numbers and dates so The anxiety,

the tempting thing about alcohol is, of course, it numbs that voice voice of self-doubt. So you feel like you have quote-unquote courage.
But remember, you already had the courage.

You don't need liquid courage. You already have good old-fashioned normal courage at your disposal all the time.
It's just that you have to call on it.

And then once you call on it, you'll realize, oh, man, I'm in the lion's den, but there's no lions. There's just some kiddie cats.
And then you pet the kitties.

All right. Thank you so much for listening to my three parts about sober dating.

By the way, way, if you're looking to approach women in real life, especially doing it sober, and you live in New York City, or actually, even if you don't live in New York City,

I was about to pitch you on my coaching, but you don't, I coach men all over the world, literally in 20 plus countries. I do in-person coaching in New York City, but I coach men all over the world.

And if you're looking to do, to go out and socialize and approach women in real life with or without alcohol, preferably without, then all you need to do is go to my website, go to datingtransformation.com, and you can book a free call with my team.

And if you and I are a good fit to potentially work together, then you'll hop on the phone with me, also free, and we'll chat about how I can help you overcome approaching anxiety and start meeting women in real life, which is an important, powerful way to do it, especially if you're doing it.

sober.

So don't forget

your dream girlfriend. She is already already out there and she is going to love you, but she's going to have to meet the real, most authentic you.
Until next time.