Christopher Kai: Your Story is the Greatest Gift to the World

If you look at society, before there were it was even written paper that the Chinese invented thousands of years ago, it was stories that your mom and dad talked to you about, your grandfather, your grandmother.

And that's why when we talk about life and what I talk about stories, it's not a coincidence that every single thing I do, at least for my brand, Gift Director Talks.

I believe your stories give to the world.

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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to another exciting episode of Mic Umployed, and today we've got a special one for you.

We're talking about going from the streets of Queens to global stages across five countries.

He's the CEO and founder of the gifted professional speakers and the man whose insights have shaped Fortune 500s, billionaire entrepreneurs, and global change makers.

Today, we're going to go deep into legacy, purpose, and the business of storytelling with my brother, my friend, the incomparable Mr.

Christopher Kai.

Chris Friday.

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Chris, man, you know,

met you, what, seven, eight months ago.

We were in LA at a Les Brown event, and I've been a huge follower of yours on social media, you know, looked at a lot of your content, studied a lot of your content.

And when I met you, man, like what I loved and what I appreciated was that you were just a dude.

Yep.

Right?

Like, you're just a dude at the core.

And we were cutting up.

We were doing the robot out on the dance floor.

Like, you were about to break dance, like, with your New York flare and all that.

But I just appreciated the fact that you were a dude, bro.

Yeah, I mean, frankly, Mick, and when you meet people, when you're on stages, I mean, I literally wrote a book about networking with billionaires and executives, and I've easily met over 100 billionaires and celebrities and royalty.

And so, when you actually meet that level of success, at least on the outside, you start seeing what do you want to be on the inside?

And if you saw that and more felt my vibe as a dude, because that's what my mom raised me as, right?

She was an immigrant from Hong Kong.

My father and my mother immigrated from Hong Kong to the U.S., and they raised three boys.

I'm the youngest one.

So I always remember, I want to remember my roots, right?

So when I meet you, good dude, good heart, good spirit, because at the end of the day, it's easy to flex and show certain things you might have, which is cool.

Everyone wants to do their own vibe.

But the fact that you feel that way, I'm grateful because that's the vibe I want from people that I meet, you know?

Yeah, man.

I love it, brother.

So growing up in Queens, you know, I like to ask people about their because, that thing that is their purpose,

their real reason of doing what they do.

If I were to say today, Christopher Kai, what's your because?

Why do you keep doing the things that you do, man?

It's still the same because when I was a six-year-old kid talking a lot in first grade at St.

Mary's Elementary School in Woodside, Queens, four miles east of Manhattan, where I just wanted to talk.

The difference is now that I know there's a purpose in life beyond just sharing words is really how can we serve?

How can we serve individuals?

You look at someone like Michael Jordan, when people ask him, hey, why do you still

go on on courts and shoot balls?

I was like, well, someone in that audience might not have seen me.

And for those who don't have a genuine, authentic value in yourself, you might look at me and say, well, how dare you compare yourself with Michael Jordan?

Well, how dare me not?

He's a human being as you and I are.

And I know that I'm a gift from God and my mother raised me, right?

So when you start seeing that we all are similar in terms of our value, then you're okay saying, yeah, I don't mind comparing myself with Michael Jordan.

If he's a goat, I'm a goat, right?

But it's still the same purpose.

But now, Mick, because you know, when you see these people and you meet these people and you feel their heart, how can you not go on?

How can you not serve?

Because we all know we're going to be here for a short time, at least physically.

But if I have the ability to literally be flying to Atlanta in a few days and speak in front of a thousand people, or be on a yacht tomorrow, or be speaking at one of the largest realtor associations in the whole country, the United States, why wouldn't you, right?

Because how many people, Mick, can actually do what we do?

Meaning, we actually genuine genuinely love what we do.

We get to serve people and make a good living, right?

So, from the moment I am here till, let's say, Andrew Young, I don't know if you ever met Andrew Young,

Dr.

Martin Luther King Jr.'s ambassador.

That boy is like 90 years old.

Or when I met Reebot, co-founder, who I interviewed recently for Gift RX Talks, which is one of my speaker platforms, it's been called the TED Talks for Entrepreneurs.

He's 90 years old.

When I interviewed the TED founder who created the TED Talks, who literally created this renaissance of public speaking, he just turned 90 years old, right?

So whether you're 90, 30, 20, 50, or a young man like yourself, maybe you're 28, who knows, you know?

It's about service to others.

But as business owners, why not be a business owner?

We are living in the most catatonically

inspiring yet scary time of human history where technology has always moved things forward.

But with AI, if you're not on that AI ride, you're going to be left behind.

This is not instilling fear.

This is just letting you know, I'm not a tech guy, but if I can use AI as a non-tech guy to help my business, help my clients, you have to really understand how the world can be moved exponentially forward.

This isn't no linear thing.

This is like when Jeff Bezos talks about it's like electricity.

If you think about that, process that, that AI is like electricity, which affects everything.

It's kind kind of an inspiring time we live in that now.

Oh, totally, man.

And we're only in the emphasis stages of AI.

Like what AI is going to be tomorrow and next month and 12 months from now is going to be night and day of what it is and what it's capable of today.

So totally agree.

Christopher, man,

you're a man of many talents, and I talk to you about this offline all the time.

But I think one of your greatest gifts is storytelling.

And you've made many comments and you talk about it in your books that leaders who are great storytellers are 22 times more likely to be memorable talk to me talk to us the listeners and viewers a little bit about the science behind that and more importantly why storytelling is something that is a common theme with every billionaire every great entrepreneur that you're associated with yeah let's first give credit to the person from stanford university her name is professor jennifer acker so she studied this actual science of storytelling right so So Jennifer Acker, I've never met her before, but I love learning about the science, right?

So the fact is, if people have studied this at Stanford at that level, right?

It gives you this credence and awareness that it is important.

But when you make it down to the most basic things, how do we meet at a Les Brown event, who is the goat of public speaking, seven months ago?

So we're already building our story, our history, right?

But if you look at society, before it was even written paper that the Chinese invented thousands of years ago, it was stories that your mom and dad talked to you about, your grandfather, your grandmother.

And that's why when we talk about life and what I talk about stories, it's not a coincidence that every single thing I do, at least for my brand, Gift or X Talks, I believe your story is a gift to the world.

GPS, gifted professional speaker, I teach entrepreneurs how to be speakers.

The gift or podcast, my podcast.

Because imagine in a networking world, in a relationship world, that every single time you met someone, you're either giving a gift, i.e.

your story, or receiving a gift, which is feeling their heart.

And even your story, right?

Last time we spoke, dude, you're a South Carolina guy.

You're going back to your home.

I asked you why, because if you don't share your story, especially the more vulnerable ones, you're not really connecting on a deeper level.

It's very easy to be surfaced.

Oh, yeah, Mick, how are you?

I've written seven books.

I have shared the stage with...

President Clinton, President Trump, Richard Branson, Bill Gates.

Who cares?

But if you know that I've had struggles, as you have, I've had challenges, I have obstacles, those are the challenges, obstacles, and things that we allow ourselves to catapult ourselves' futures.

So, anyone who's listening or watching, whatever you see in Mick or myself, it's good to admire us, but don't put us on a pedestal because we're human beings.

And that's why I love what you said, literally, is what my good friend Michael Lee said.

I've known him since college when I was on his, when I was in his wedding party, he said, you know, I really admire admire that you're real and genuine.

I've had many compliments and many criticisms and many shout outs, right?

But, dude, literally, I literally say, dude, still

because when you lose that authenticity, you've lost your soul.

And especially when you're rolling in circles as I am, I literally still take public transportation deliberately to remind myself to know what real people are.

Because if you lose sight of that, yeah, I can be on the yacht and private chats and mansion parties parties and penthouse.

They're nice.

I'm not going to deny that.

But if we lose track of who the people are, who I am, who I was, who my mother was as an immigrant, I mean,

it's important, you know?

No, wholeheartedly, man.

What are some other traits?

Because you work with so many entrepreneurs.

You work with...

I'd say a ton of billionaires.

They're not a ton of billionaires, but you work with a good percentage of them, right?

Like you have a good batting average when it comes to working with billionaires.

What are some other traits that you see that they have in common that are important

for us to understand, for us to work towards?

That's a great question, Mick.

I mean, first, let's talk about why you should even learn from billionaires.

You know, some people,

I don't even want to be a billionaire.

I met enough billionaire.

It's more about a mindset.

For instance, if there are 8 billion people in the world, And you know there's only 3,028 billionaires, according to Forrest magazine.

And if you are a capitalist, and if you're an entrepreneur, and if you're a business person, which all of you should be frankly even if you're an employee working for some man or woman why would you not want to learn from the Picasso the Dalis and the Michelangelos of capitalism that's how I thought it's less about how much money they've made is the fact that there's eight billion people and only 3028 of them are billionaires why am I going to waste my time learning for someone else and so when you realize that okay I want to learn from the Picasso, I want to learn from Michelangelo, it's really an art form.

You look at a Mark Cuban, he's like,

I love business because it's the most creative thing in the the world, right?

So, first, it's letting everyone know why you should learn from billionaires.

And the key things that most of them have, at least the self-made ones, are they're like what I just said.

I don't mind comparing myself with Michael Jordan or Kobe Bryant.

I'm not a basketball player, but if I am a GOAT, meaning I've spoken at the top corporate events, I've spoken to the top self-development events, I spoken for the Crown Princes Charity in Saudi Arabia, you know, I've spoken for a prince in Thailand.

So, I'm just saying, recognizing that they have this mindset that Steve Jobs once said, once you realize that you are no different from someone else that created the laptop that we're on right now, that created the actual lights that are looking at me, right?

That created the camera, that created the microphone, right?

If you realize that every single one of those people, man or woman, created the very things that we're using right now, then why shouldn't you be more bold and more excited?

Because Michelangelo, going back to arts, once said the challenge that most of us have is not do we aim too high and miss it, we aim too low and reach it.

I'll state it again.

Michelangelo, and mind you, for those of you listening and watching, Michelangelo was in his 20s who crafted this thing called David 500 years ago in his 20s, but he said that

most of people's challenges is not that they aim too high and miss it, they aim too low and reach it.

That's powerful, brother.

That's powerful.

You know, I talked about one of your skill sets being storytelling.

I'm going to tell you, and I'm looking you in your eye, and you know, you know how I feel about you.

I don't know if there's three other speaker development coaches in the world that are better than Christopher Kot, right?

So being able to tell your story is one thing, Christopher, but being able to then go on stage, especially that first time, right?

That first time you get on stage, it's a little bit different.

So how do you coach speakers?

What's, I don't want secret sauce, but like, what are the first three or four things that you're working on when a speaker comes to you or someone that wants to really get into it?

Because again, telling your story is one thing, but being able to tell it on stage in a commanding presence is a totally different one.

Yeah, that's a great question.

And just to be clear, when I teach my clients how to speak, it's either for corporations, I'm speaking at eBay, Amazon, Google, or more the post-development space where you're offering a program and selling a program, right?

So the first thing is just recognizing why are people afraid.

and again, there's a lot of physiology involved with it because if you're on stage, I'm on stage back in the day, if you're away from an audience, a group, a tribe, you have a higher probability of being eaten by a bear, a lion, or a wildebeest, right?

So, you have to understand why are we afraid?

And then we look at objectively: okay, when you see someone on stage, hmm, I don't really like Christopher's face or his eye color or his hair.

It's kind of thin, you know?

So, we are very critical.

So, I first lay down the bare foundations of accepting the fact that, you know what, I've been on a lot of stages.

I met a lot of people.

At the end of the day, no matter how you look, no matter how your English might not be your first language, if you share with your heart, they'll vibe with that.

And those that don't, I don't know if I can curse, but F them.

You know,

the reality is, you know, you don't have to please everyone.

You know, I have some people that like me, some people that don't.

But I just know genuinely, if they are feeling my heart and they're learning, and yeah, I I will sell you something, why shouldn't I, right?

If they accept that biologically, physiologically, we're the oddballs.

We're the weird ones that actually want to be on stage because we're literally opening up vulnerability.

So, if you accept the fact that physiologically, you're not supposed to be on stage because you're literally wanting and allowing yourself to be more vulnerable from a physiological standpoint.

We all think that we're so rational and logical, but from our brain system, we have the prefrontal cortex, which is more of the rational imaginatory side we have this thing called olympic system where there is a thing called the amygdala and you're a science guy so it's like the actual fight or flight so if you just understand basic biology and know that when i started in high school and in college i was literally pacing outside the room before going into the room to give a speech my palms were sweaty my stomach was churning I was looking back and forth.

I was pacing.

And I remember telling one of my friends named Dustin in college, he said, a Christopher you walk around back and forth you pace around when you speak I'm like do I no I don't again my ego likes to share his opinion but he showed me the video and there I was walking back and forth now if I walk back and forth It's because I want to show love to everyone on stage and everyone off stage because it really is a skill set and an art.

And so anyone I talk to, I first always ask them, hey, Mick, what is your end goal?

Do you want to inspire people?

Do you want to make money?

What do you want to to do, right?

It's always understanding who your audience is.

Because whenever I meet people that brag about how much they love speaking and have a lot of ego, I run the other way.

I don't care how much money they have.

It's actually easier for me to coach someone who's humble and is not that skilled in speaking because I literally break down what they've learned in the past to rebuild what they want to do in the future.

Because in the speaking world, especially in the speaking to sell world, meaning you're speaking on stage and selling a program like Les Brown does, he is a goat in so many levels because he's 80 years old, as you know, Mick, but I just want to always never assume who's listening and watching.

This man is 80 years old, and you know this, Mick, because we both met him.

He's like a father figure to you.

This man, his heart, his spirit, he still has that jovial, happy, innocent laugh as if I met him at an eight-year-old kid.

That's what I hope to be like when I'm 80.

And even the age thing, it doesn't matter.

It's like if you have a voice, which all of you have, if you have a purpose to serve and make, you want to make money, which all of you should have, then you should start speaking by first accepting where you're at.

Don't compare Mick or myself.

Know that we're all on a journey.

As long as you compare yourself with how you're yesterday, meaning if you, let's say, have issues with immensity in your words, and I still have an issue immensity in my words.

And if you can say something like strategy

or setenta.

in Spanish, which means 70, because sometimes I mumble those words and I did it better than yesterday.

Great job, Christopher Kai.

Great job, Mick.

So for those of you who are watching, don't be so impressed with who we might be, at least where we are now.

Look back at the journey, look back at the struggles, look back at the sacrifice.

Because I know, Mick, we're getting to know each other, but I can feel your heart.

Every time you talk to me, there's a sense of deference and respect.

Every time you talk to Les Brown, is that a coincidence that I feel the same way as you do to Les?

Because there's a respect, right?

Right, totally, man.

Totally.

So, where did this all start, right?

And by by start, again, I know a lot, but I want you to be able to tell the audience, you know, speaking for corporations, everybody doesn't land that opportunity.

And again,

this is

the genius of Christopher Kai.

You can get it once

if you're there, but to be, as I call it, bankable, to get the repeat, hey, Christopher, we need you for this event.

We need you for that event.

How did that journey for Christopher Kai start, brother?

You know, from an entrepreneur standpoint, seven-year-old Christopher Kai was knocking on doors in my neighbors' homes when it's really cold in New York City and just saying, can I shovel your yard, your porch, your driveway?

And when you're a seven-year-old kid, not having a lot of money, you have like a hundred bucks in your hand, you're like rich, right?

So from a very early age, a lot of entrepreneurs start that young.

But from a business standpoint as a speaker, it started when I was in college where a young man named Henry, who's a buddy of mine, he's like running for office and he's like, I want to be like Christopher.

I want to be charismatic.

And it was someone else telling me that I was charismatic.

I didn't even know what that meant, right?

So it's just, that's why I love coaching, by the way, Mick.

It's like, I get to recognize who they are.

Not who they think they are, but I know who they are from their heart.

And then lastly, when I was, I think, 26, I was at an all-black Pentecostal church in Stanford, Connecticut.

At that point, I wrote a book about college success.

And my colleague at American Express was also a pastor named Reverend Desmond Hamilton.

I'll never forget this.

He asked me to speak at his church.

They're literally speaking tongues at one point before I walk in.

I'm like, well, what's going on?

I grew up Catholic, but it's all good.

You're praising the Lord.

I'm down with this.

Give him my speech, sell a few books, I'm all happy.

But Mick, he hands me a check for $50,

and I'm like, woof!

I'm rich.

Yeah.

Because again, you rewind all those times I was punished and teased and told I was stupid, told told I was ugly, I was really short, but a man of faith, a man of stature, a man of authority, it didn't matter.

If he gave me a quarter or even five cents a penny, I'm like, wow.

And now I made a little more than $50

for a speech.

But it's always those moments.

That's why I want to remind everyone on this call, this podcast, man, just go out there and share your store on Instagram.

In time, you get more bankable when you become more branded.

Now, I'm I'm a branded speaker where I didn't know this whole stuff, right?

Like

I almost want to cry every time I meet people

because they think it's just a story.

They think it's just their content.

They think it's just their heart, but I don't want them to go through the pain that I went through.

Eight years writing my first book, having a website, having speeches, spending hundreds, if not thousands of hours and a lot of money.

And me, if I was more smart, I would have hired a coach earlier because I ended up moving my ego away and my

arrogance away and ignorance and ended up hiring a guy named Dan Poyner God rest his soul he's since passed away but he wrote over a hundred books at a seminar in Santa Barbara I literally flew out there didn't have the money bought his program didn't have the money he upsold me didn't have the money but guess what that eight years could have been eight weeks because after investing in a coach I exponentially improved my awareness and ability not what I think I need to do to write a book now I knew what to do because this man wrote over 100 books.

That's what for me, I've easily given over a thousand presentations globally for anything.

That's why it pains me because, usually, especially with men, sometimes that have had some success.

I tell them what I charge and they look at me as like, really?

I'm like, do you want to spend 20 plus hours, tens of thousands of hours?

That last year alone, Mick.

You want to guess how many miles I flew last year alone?

Tell me.

Close to 200,000 miles.

That's more than seven times.

That's just one year.

So when people ask me to help them,

it's really a pay-to-play mile because I'm a coach and a consultant, right?

It's like, if you don't recognize the amount of time I've spent and you don't honor my value and you don't have the ability to pay me, that's okay.

I still think you're a good person.

I just don't realize that when people go to school, they go to a restaurant, if you go to a nice five-star restaurant, Are you going to eat that meal?

And if it didn't meet your expectations, you're like, yeah, I don't want to pay the restaurant.

Like, it's so insulting if you're a coach or speaker, know your value and charge for it.

Because frankly, if you have a job and a salary, why wouldn't you want to charge for it?

Especially if you have a voice as you do, you know?

No, wholeheartedly.

I agree with that 1,000%.

And, you know, one of my other mentors, you know him very well, Damon John, right?

So Damon.

When I started the consulting piece outside of my insurance business, I was like, Damon, I don't know what to charge, right?

Like, I feel like I'm always going to have to prove myself.

And he said, Mick, you charge what you're worth.

And as long as one person or one entity is willing to charge you that, then that is your worth right there.

And so I think a lot of times when people look at, and I'm going to say coaches, but I'm going to say, Chris, you're more of a sponsor, right?

Because yeah, you coach, but the real person that you are is you help people get into rooms that they belong in.

You help people get on stages that you are.

And to me, that's the difference between coaching, mentoring, and sponsor.

Like, yep, I can coach you.

I can mentor you, but I pride myself on being a sponsor, meaning I am going to put you in the actual places.

I'm going to get you in the rooms.

And that is literally who you are.

And so I love that fact because, one, you already know you're worth every penny.

But two, for those that are listening, that's what separates Christopher.

He's not just going to coach you.

He's not just going to mentor you.

He is going to put you on stages.

He is going to get you in front of opportunities.

And that's what makes my guy, Christopher, very special.

It's about transformation, man.

Do you want a transaction or transformation?

I mean it literally.

Just like all the mentors, coaches, and trainers that I've met through my life.

For me, it's about three C's of explosive success.

When you look at gunpowder, Mick, do you have any basic qualities there in gunpowder?

You know what the basic qualities are in gunpowder?

What's that?

It's literally just charcoal, sulfur, and potassium nitrate.

But in business, regardless of what scale, whether you're at five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, doesn't really matter, it's connections, credibility, and communication.

I figured out, okay, I'm gonna get them in the right room, i.e., network.

But I realized they don't have the credibility, so I helped build their personal brand.

And lastly, even if they have that, they're not gonna communicate.

You're a great communicator.

You're genuine, you're humble, you're authentic, you're respectful.

But communicating is also on a stage, and that's a different skill set.

So if I can help my clients build their connections, build the credibility, and build the communication skills, they really can pursue whatever the dream they are.

Whether they want to make the first million, 10 million, 100 million, billion, it doesn't really matter because at every scale, in every country, in every culture, I literally spoke inside Arabia.

I talked about leadership, I talked about heart.

And this woman, who's a Saudi woman, mind you, she's fully in her job.

I can only see her eyes.

As an American, I can hear her voice like, oh my gosh, Christopher, you talk about Chinese character, about leadership.

My first inclination was to hug her, but obviously that's not appropriate in the Muslim culture.

but she wasn't American wasn't a man but what I'm saying is when you speak with your heart you can connect with anyone and for those who are listening and hearing what we're talking about you have a purpose to serve and your story is a gift and it's like a seed you're not placed in this earth to just keep that seed in your hand you're placed in this earth to place those seeds of your story into someone's heart.

And the more you connect with people and you're more genuine people, and you have to, again, don't worry about, oh my gosh, Christopher, Mick, you guys are so amazing.

What if they don't like me?

Who cares?

You don't need everyone to like you.

But as long as you speak with your heart and authenticity, and you're a good, genuine person, you're good.

All day.

All day.

Christopher, you know, we could do this all day, right?

We're going to have to have some of those behind-the-scene moments that you and I have and give people insights to some of those conversations if we can.

But man, where can people follow and find you?

ChristopherKai.com.

My last name is K-A-I.

Instagram, ChristopherKai Dum, K-A-I-D-U-M, not Kingdom, but Kaidum.

Hit me up there.

Love to hear what your thoughts are.

And Mick, thank you so much for the opportunity.

If you wanted to learn more about Nick, make sure you reach out to him.

Absolutely, brother.

I appreciate it.

I will make sure that we have links in the show notes to all the great things you have going on.

Next time we do this, we're going to get into some of your books, too, because Chris is also a best-selling author.

Here, we got this.

exactly.

This is actually the most excited about.

It's actually The Wizard of Words: How to Speak, Persuade, and Sell like Steve Jobs.

That's the one that's coming out this year.

There we go.

Well, we'll make sure that we actually have a second conversation to promote and talk about that book.

Great.

Thanks so much for your time.

I appreciate you to all the viewers and listeners.

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