Heather Mitts Feeley: Embracing the Gold Medal Mindset for Success in Life and Leadership

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Speaker 4 The biggest thing is being able to share my story.

Speaker 1 with others.

Speaker 4 And so I came up with what's called the gold medal mindset.

Speaker 4 And I do go to a lot of business leaders and I share

Speaker 4 what helped me on the field to succeed. What is that gold medal mindset? What is that athlete mindset that then can then translate into the business world? Because it's really not,

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Speaker 1 Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to another exciting episode of McGunplow. And today we are in for a banger, one of my favorite athletes of all times.

Speaker 1 We're talking about a three-time Olympic gold medalist, a trailblazer in women's soccer, and a fierce voice for equity and sport.

Speaker 1 From dominating the pitch to shaping the next generation of leaders, she embodies resilience, fierce leadership, and unapologetic authenticity.

Speaker 1 Please join me in welcoming my friend, the dominating Heather Mitz-Feely. Heather, how you doing today, dear?

Speaker 4 I love it. Thanks, Mick.
I'm great. Thanks for having me on.
I'm so excited to be here.

Speaker 1 I'm the excited one. You know, we were talking offline.
Most people don't know.

Speaker 1 Well, everybody knows I'm a tar hill. Everyone knows I'm a UNC tar hill.

Speaker 1 Most people don't realize how dominating UNC is in women's soccer. And literally my first week on campus, I went to a UNC women's soccer match and I have been hooked since 1996.

Speaker 1 Like literally, One of my favorite sports of all time is women's soccer. And one of my favorite players of all time is Heather Mitz-Feely.
Heather, this is an honor.

Speaker 4 Truly means that. Oh, that's so sweet of you.

Speaker 4 You know, I think UNC is like where it all began, right? Anson Dorrance,

Speaker 4 Cindy Parlow,

Speaker 4 so many greats that went there.

Speaker 4 It's a great place to fall in love with soccer, that's for sure.

Speaker 1 Absolutely. So let's talk about that though, because you did not attend UNC.

Speaker 1 You went to this little school school in the state of Florida that likes blue and orange that may or may not have just won the national championship in basketball.

Speaker 1 How did you arrive at the University of Florida?

Speaker 4 You know, there was

Speaker 4 a couple schools that I was looking at. Florida was probably the one that was a little further away.

Speaker 4 Becky Burley was just starting the program

Speaker 4 and

Speaker 4 she just

Speaker 4 showed me a lot of interest. I decided to go down there on my recruiting trip and

Speaker 4 really had no intentions of going there, but

Speaker 4 I was blown away kind of by the balance, the academics and the athletics of the school

Speaker 4 and their passion for what they wanted to create. I knew it was something new, so that was kind of exciting for me too.
to be a part of something that's building up from the from the ground.

Speaker 4 So when I went my freshman year, we were only in our second season

Speaker 4 and

Speaker 4 never would have expected for it to turn out the way that it did.

Speaker 1 I love it. So Heather, for you, when did soccer become a passion for you?

Speaker 4 Probably the first time I went out in the backyard with my brother.

Speaker 4 He was 18 months younger than me.

Speaker 4 And

Speaker 4 he was actually way better

Speaker 4 at soccer than I was from a young age. He was actually traveling overseas and doing, it's called Corber soccer.
So he was going over and doing these little demonstrations.

Speaker 4 He was really technical with the ball, great with the footwork.

Speaker 4 And so we would go out in the backyard and just have these 1v1 battles, you know, that would end up me most of the time just trying to get the ball away from him.

Speaker 4 But they would, we would, you know, always end up in a fight, one of us heading home into the house um and i said i basically owe my brother for the fact that not only my love of the game but also you know my toughness i was i was gonna say the fight

Speaker 4 in the backyard i was trying to get the ball away from him hence why i kind of probably gravitated towards a defensive position um i was always small but i was i was always tenacious and so um you know that's where it all began was in the backyard and that is literally why you were one of my favorite players, right?

Speaker 1 Like, everybody that knows me knows, like, I like gritty, right? Like, you give me gritty and scrappy, and that's me all day long. And that was you.

Speaker 1 Like, before, before saying someone was a dog was a great thing, like, you were a dog, Heather. Like, you were the person that, like, I say set the tone defensively.

Speaker 1 Like, if there were a comparable, Heather was like the Draymond Green of women's soccer, right? Like, without the technical, without the red cards, yellow cargoes defender.

Speaker 4 That was it. That was it.
Yeah.

Speaker 1 Yeah. But

Speaker 1 you sacrificed a lot too. I mean, you, you've overcome injuries, even when people didn't think you were going to come back from them.
Like, like, what was that drive like?

Speaker 1 Like, what was that, like, I'm not giving up spirit that you had? And I'm not even going to say it's proving people wrong.

Speaker 1 It was just, I think you were just proving to yourself that I'm not done, right? Like, what was that like for you?

Speaker 4 Yeah.

Speaker 4 I mean, I look back on my career i had a million injuries i was only five four like 120 pounds soaking wet so i was tiny and i was playing defense against much bigger and stronger girls and i was a dog you know i was throwing my body everywhere so um

Speaker 4 you know but i i learned a lot about myself through those injuries i think my acl injury was probably the biggest one um You know, it happened at a not great time.

Speaker 4 It was right before what would have been my first ever Women's World Cup where I was starting. I was so excited to wear my ACL.

Speaker 4 I ended up going online mistakenly and reading some of the comments when the announcement came out that I would not be playing.

Speaker 4 And some people were like, you know, she shouldn't have been starting anyway. She'll never make it back,

Speaker 4 you know, when she's competing against these much younger, much talented players.

Speaker 4 And there's this quote, it's telling me I can't, then I'll actually work twice. It's hard to prove you wrong.
And I just kind of, that was it. You know, I just kept grinding and grinding and grinding.

Speaker 4 And really, that gave me an opportunity during that break to focus more on the things that I wasn't as good at to become more well-rounded.

Speaker 4 Even though it was a little bit further into my career, and they say you can't teach an old dog new tricks, it's not true.

Speaker 4 But I started to focus on the things that needed improvement in my game.

Speaker 4 And then, kind of, when I had an opportunity to play again, it was like, this is it. And I knew how much the sport meant to me.
So I was just,

Speaker 4 I was trying to survive and get a spot.

Speaker 4 And I would not only end up getting a spot, but playing every single minute of 2008 Olympics, which ended up being one of my favorite memories, just because when I stood up there in the podium, it was like, wow.

Speaker 1 you did yeah you did it you never gave up and this is what it's all about yep you know heather Heather, I don't know personally many three-time gold medalists, right?

Speaker 1 Because a lot of you don't exist. Like, it's hard to really gold medal three times, right? Yeah, in the same event, right?

Speaker 1 Like, you know, there are different sports where you can medal every year, but for soccer to medal three times, what was that experience like when you sit back and like look back at that achievement?

Speaker 1 Because again, there's not a lot of you that exist, right?

Speaker 1 How does that make you feel?

Speaker 4 You know, it's still surreal. Um, I actually had an event this past weekend where I was throwing out a first pitch at my little, my, both of my little sons

Speaker 4 first league, or what is it? It's called uh, it's like minor league baseball, or like, uh, what I'm totally messing this up. Can you cut none of this?

Speaker 1 I got you, I got you. Little league, little league.

Speaker 4 Why can I not remember?

Speaker 1 Oh, okay, little league.

Speaker 4 And I had my medals on and it was just like, I don't take them out very often. I don't even think about it that often because I'm a mom now.
Like that's, that's my main focus.

Speaker 4 That's what I'm, I'm, you know, completely set and focused on is just being

Speaker 4 a very present mom. And so it's not till it's events like that where I actually take my medals out that I'm like.

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That's pretty cool.

Speaker 4 You know, you get to share them with the kids and you get to show them this one's

Speaker 4 this one's from Athens, this one's from Beijing, this one's from London. They all get bigger and bigger as they go.

Speaker 4 And, you know, you're reminded of that journey because it does seem like an entire lifetime ago. And sometimes it doesn't even seem like it existed because it was so long ago.

Speaker 1 That's amazing. That's amazing.
So, you know, I have a lot of athlete friends and they all tell me the hardest part

Speaker 1 is knowing when to walk away because there's a lot of times when your mind is like, I've still got it, but your body is like, No.

Speaker 1 And then I have a couple that are like, My body was good, but my mind was like, I can't go through the grind of preparation.

Speaker 1 Because people don't understand with professional athletes at a high level, like you,

Speaker 1 the mental grind

Speaker 1 a lot of times is 10 times tougher than the physical grind, just knowing the preparation that you have to go through.

Speaker 1 So, I want you to talk about that preparation aspect first, and then I have a follow-up question.

Speaker 4 Yeah, I mean, it you're right, it's it's It's a lot on both. And I think the one thing that I am so grateful for is

Speaker 4 that I always had the mental side of it. That is what helped me to

Speaker 4 achieve my goals.

Speaker 4 Clearly, as you know, my body was probably like, please, please stop.

Speaker 4 And eventually I knew when it was time,

Speaker 4 it was in 2012

Speaker 4 and 2011 was like a really hard year for me um

Speaker 4 would have been my first world cup to start and play i had an injury earlier in the year i barely made the roster and so after the the world cup they they actually cut down the roster from 21 to 18.

Speaker 4 And so I knew that my chances of making that roster were pretty slim.

Speaker 4 And so I actually thought about retiring. I had told a couple people that I was going to retire because I just didn't, I didn't think I was going to make it.
And I was at the time afraid of failure.

Speaker 4 And my husband also, we had this agreement: like you play in one World Cup and then we're going to start a family. And so I knew that's what he wanted.
I was getting older and

Speaker 4 he knew I wasn't ready. And so he said, all right, have give it a go.
And so from that moment on, I just

Speaker 4 I did everything.

Speaker 1 Luckily, I made that team.

Speaker 4 Luckily, we won gold. And so then when I stood up there in that podium one last time, I was just like, we did it.
This is everything that I ever dreamed of. And now I can walk away on my own terms.

Speaker 4 I can start a family. I can do whatever's next.
And

Speaker 4 I know how fortunate I am because I know a lot of athletes don't get to do that.

Speaker 4 But I'm so thankful for the opportunity to have been given by those coaches to even be on that roster for my teammates to help me win that gold.

Speaker 4 You know,

Speaker 4 it's a dream come true.

Speaker 1 I love it. I love it.
So then you kind of answered my follow-up, which was, I was going to ask you, how did you know officially it was time?

Speaker 1 And like, no looking back, like lying in the sand, I'm retired, I'm moving forward.

Speaker 4 A lot of it had to do with my age. Yeah.
You know, it's

Speaker 4 it's tough, I think, even tougher being a female, because for me, I

Speaker 4 had a lot of teammates that could do the juggle, but I

Speaker 4 knew I didn't want to, and

Speaker 4 I just knew how tough it would be. So,

Speaker 4 you know, I.

Speaker 4 I knew when the time was for me to come to an end. And I think, you know, it helped that my body just wasn't cooperating at the end.

Speaker 4 You know, I was just doing everything just to kind of manage to even get on the field half the time.

Speaker 4 So all the, all the stars were aligning and

Speaker 4 I knew when it was time to walk away.

Speaker 1 Love it. So again, things that I always say,

Speaker 1 you retire from the sport. You don't retire from being an athlete.
Right. Right.
Like. Hitler is still an athlete through and through.

Speaker 1 The dog mentality is still there.

Speaker 1 And you took that very well into business and leadership. And, you know, being a sports nut, I tell folks all the time, the parallel between sports and leadership is so strong and dynamic.

Speaker 1 Because if you were a leader of your team, leader doesn't mean the most popular. Leader doesn't mean the highest scorer that usually the fans see.

Speaker 1 In every locker room, in every field, in every team, in every huddle, there's a leader. And I know that you were that.

Speaker 1 How did you take those skill sets and then transform them out of sport into the business world?

Speaker 4 You know, I think the biggest thing is being able to share my story with others.

Speaker 4 And so I came up with what's called the gold medal mindset. And I do go to a lot of business leaders and I share

Speaker 4 what helped me on the field to succeed. What is that gold medal mindset? What is that athlete mindset that then can then translate into the business world? Because it's really not,

Speaker 4 it's not any different. Right.

Speaker 4 You know, you're doing the same thing and it does come down to mentality, but I think it comes down to giving yourself permission to imagine a positive outcome, you know, to dream and even figuring out what that dream is.

Speaker 4 A lot of times we think we dream as kids, but we have to continue to dream as adults and to set our goals.

Speaker 4 Set our goals high, make them scary and unattainable, what they seem like, because then you're to be surprised.

Speaker 4 I did that when I was playing soccer and I achieved all my dreams and then I had to set new ones because we all need to continue to dream throughout our lifetime.

Speaker 4 And learning what you can control, because in this crazy world that we all live in, in the business world, there's things that are completely out of our control all the time.

Speaker 4 So instead of focusing on those things, figure out what what can I control? And then you're surrounding yourself with positive people.

Speaker 4 They say we are the sum of the five people that we spend the most time with.

Speaker 1 And

Speaker 4 that blows my mind.

Speaker 4 Because at one point in my life, my five weren't great, but now they are amazing.

Speaker 4 And I feel like once I went to college, I found those athletes around me that were just driven and successful and positive and caring.

Speaker 4 And so I learned that that was helping me to become a better, not only athlete, but a better person.

Speaker 4 And that's something that we all need to continue to try to focus on is who those five people are because they have a big influence on our lives every single day.

Speaker 1 Totally agree. And I believe in checking those five on a recurring basis too, right? Like I'm always leveling up.
And so sometimes, you know, one or two of the current five,

Speaker 1 I need to move this five over and go attain a little bit more. But Heather, like, I just learned something I want to unpack a little bit because, as your biggest fan in the world,

Speaker 1 I didn't know that your five wasn't always good. So, let's talk about that.
Let's go back in time a little bit. So, tell me about, tell me about that, Heather.

Speaker 1 Um,

Speaker 4 yeah, how do I say it? My, my dad always used to say, I'm, I'm the reason that he had gray hair and

Speaker 4 very little of it later in life.

Speaker 4 Um,

Speaker 4 I was a handful in high school. I really was.

Speaker 4 I was not hanging out with a great group of kids.

Speaker 4 You know, my parents divorced and I think that was very hard and I just was trying to kind of navigate that whole thing and

Speaker 4 I wasn't handling it correctly. And I wasn't motivated.
You know, I was cruising on my natural ability, but I wasn't surrounding myself with positive people. And it wasn't till

Speaker 4 one of my best friends in high school ended up dying in a car crash

Speaker 4 because he's under the influence that I realized that

Speaker 4 that could have been me, that I could have been in the car, you know. And so that really kind of was like my aha moment.

Speaker 4 I think losing someone that's really close to you at such a young age is, it's a wake-up call.

Speaker 1 Perspective, right?

Speaker 4 We can

Speaker 4 choose the right choices or the wrong choices. And it's up to us every single day.
It's positive or negative.

Speaker 4 And luckily, you know, by going away to the University of Florida, I went away from those friends. And I look back on it and I realized that soccer saved me.
You know, it gave me something.

Speaker 4 to focus on that I was I was really darn good at and that I really hadn't been you know putting in my all in it and so it gave me an opportunity to kind of refocus

Speaker 1 yeah

Speaker 4 and here I am

Speaker 1 and I'm glad you're here totally glad that you're here so let's fast forward now to the gold metal mindset what are a couple of pillars of the gold metal mindset I kind of went through two of them, giving yourself permission to imagine a positive outcome, to dream,

Speaker 4 learning what you can control, surrounding yourself with those positive people that we talked about. I think finding a great coach or a mentor or a take in a class to kind of get you ahead and be

Speaker 4 surrounded by those people that have been through it, that

Speaker 4 you know, want to help you succeed and maybe see something special in you that you might not even see in yourself.

Speaker 4 Figure out what makes you unique and hone that skill so you become known for it.

Speaker 4 I think a lot of times we're into comparing ourselves when instead we should be focusing on us and how we can be the best version of ourselves.

Speaker 4 Demand more of yourself because who else is going to do it? And

Speaker 4 don't ever stop until you're successful.

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Speaker 1 That's it. I love that.
I love that. That parallels into a couple of things that are my pillage, right? So I have seven, but two of my favorite, and I picked these up from sport,

Speaker 1 is a great leader knows their team better than their team knows themselves, right?

Speaker 1 Meaning, you know how they think, you know the right positions to put them in, and you set them up for success by knowing them better than they know themselves.

Speaker 1 And then the second thing that I think all great leaders do, and I got this from Angelo Dundee, Muhammad Ali's trainer, they know when to move the stool. Meaning

Speaker 1 Ali was tired. It was round 12.
He was struggling. His opponent was struggling.
And Dundee made Ali stand up in between that round and said, face your opponent. And Ali was like, what are you doing?

Speaker 1 And he said, if he sees that you're willing to stand up and take this, right?

Speaker 1 Then all of a sudden, his mind is not on the fight anymore. It's how are you doing it? And then also by moving the stool, he made Ali do something he didn't think he could do.

Speaker 1 And I think that's a great leader. A great leader knows when to make Heather stand on her own a little bit.

Speaker 1 Knows when to make Heather face that adversity, to face that challenge head on, because it's real easy to sit down. It's real easy to, hey, I need a timeout.

Speaker 1 Sometimes in life and sometimes in business, you don't get that time out. And so, again, things that I've learned from watching you, my scrappy one over there.

Speaker 1 And I put that into my pillars is like knowing when to move the stool because I feel like that's that's a lesson you learn as well too.

Speaker 4 Yeah, I love those. Those are great.

Speaker 1 Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1 So let's talk a little bit about family for you now. So, you know, you've got an amazing family.
AJ,

Speaker 1 you know, I'm a Patriot fan. So, you know, there was a little bit of time AJ and I couldn't quite get along.
He played for another team that, you know, we were, we didn't like each other.

Speaker 1 But what's family life? What's mom and wife, Heather, like?

Speaker 4 You know,

Speaker 4 y'all getting like teary-eyed. It's like the greatest, the greatest gift.
You know, I think about it all the time.

Speaker 1 How lucky I am.

Speaker 4 You know, from

Speaker 4 the minute I had my first son,

Speaker 4 I just feel like my life completely changed.

Speaker 4 I was opened up, you know, to this

Speaker 4 different perspective on just everything when someone depends on you.

Speaker 4 And you have this opportunity to lead. We're talking about leading.
You know, I think there's, no greater gift, and so you learn a lot about yourself.

Speaker 1 Um,

Speaker 4 you know, I've changed a lot,

Speaker 4 a lot, um, through becoming a mom. Um, what I thought I was going to be like as a mom is not who I am as a mom.
You know, I think I'm

Speaker 4 more tender

Speaker 4 now than I've ever been. You know, I was always like that

Speaker 4 fight mentality, the hustle, all those things. And, you know, it has definitely just softened me up and trying to figure out the different personalities.
I have three kids.

Speaker 4 So I have an 11-year-old boy, I have a nine-year-old daughter, and I have a six-year-old son.

Speaker 4 And just trying to figure out the best ways to connect with each one of them personally.

Speaker 4 and with their personalities and just to be extremely present.

Speaker 4 But I also take lessons from both of my parents, you know, the things that I loved about them.

Speaker 4 And I try to incorporate into who I am and then say the things that maybe I didn't think resonated as well.

Speaker 4 And just try to make sure that I'm doing a better job of guiding my kids.

Speaker 1 I love it. I love it.
Do you ever have that moment? I'm sure you do as a parent where it's like,

Speaker 1 why did you do that? And then you realize, oh, I probably did that too.

Speaker 4 I definitely did it.

Speaker 4 You know, that's the funny part is, you know, I see a lot of them in me.

Speaker 4 And so they probably do get away with a little bit more because I'm like, you know, I turned out the way I did. Like, it's all a part of the journey.

Speaker 4 So we're just kind of there to help them along, you know. And I want them to become their own person.
I want them to be completely confident in who they are, to love them no matter what. So So

Speaker 4 it's a lot of fun to love.

Speaker 1 Yeah.

Speaker 1 Yeah. I love it.
So my next question, I'll make unplugged. I like to talk about your because,

Speaker 1 that thing that's deeper than your why, right? Like, I know your children are your why, but it's the but why. It's the, it's the, the because,

Speaker 1 right? So

Speaker 1 brilliant athlete, amazing mother, amazing spouse, amazing speaker and leader, but what's your because?

Speaker 4 Because we get one chance, you know, we get one chance on this earth to make an impact.

Speaker 4 And

Speaker 4 there's

Speaker 4 there's no other way to do it than just to do your best and

Speaker 4 to try to live the most positive life that you can in the time that we have on this planet.

Speaker 4 You know, my dad and I had an amazing relationship, and he unfortunately passed at Alzheimer's almost three years ago.

Speaker 4 And

Speaker 4 so, kind of watching his decline, he was the most amazing man, super smart, cardiovascular surgeon, worked his whole entire life for his family.

Speaker 4 but never really got to do the things at the end that he always wanted to do, you know? So I think

Speaker 4 I realized from him that our choices that we make every single day make a difference.

Speaker 4 And,

Speaker 4 you know,

Speaker 4 to take advantage of the time we have, you know, take the trip, do the things that you've been saying you wanted to do, but you, you just never had the time to do it. Make time for it.
So

Speaker 4 just making the most of every minute, every day.

Speaker 1 Amazing. Totally amazing.

Speaker 1 You know, another reason, Heather, that I'm a huge fan of yours, aside from playing the sport, you're a huge, huge, huge advocate for equity in not only sport, but also in business and in leadership.

Speaker 1 And I don't need to ask how or why that became a passion for you because I know that answer. But talk to us about the fight that needs to continue to happen for equity.

Speaker 4 Yeah, I mean, we've just still got a long way to go.

Speaker 4 It's night and day

Speaker 4 what

Speaker 4 I

Speaker 4 experienced when I was playing and I love to see the growth, but it's just, it's still not where it needs to be. And,

Speaker 4 you know,

Speaker 4 what I love the most is that there's so many women that are so passionate about this.

Speaker 4 So many of my former teammates. so many just friends.

Speaker 4 So

Speaker 4 it's at the forefront. And, you know, it's a major topic, and we're all invested.
And so I know it's only a matter of time, but we still have more work to be done.

Speaker 1 Amazing. And whatever, Heather, and I mean this for my soul, whatever I can do,

Speaker 1 don't ask you, just tell me and literally consider it done. Okay.

Speaker 1 Absolutely. All right.
You ready for your hot five, Heather? Oh, gosh.

Speaker 1 Hot five. You ready? Uh-huh.
Question one.

Speaker 1 It's a cheat day. Cheat meal.

Speaker 1 What's your cheat meal?

Speaker 4 Handles ice cream.

Speaker 4 Handles ice cream. Yeah, it's the best, though.
So when you come in town, I'll treat you to it.

Speaker 1 Flavor?

Speaker 4 I'm usually pretty boring though. I do raspberry with

Speaker 4 chocolate sprinkles on a comb.

Speaker 1 Okay. I can dig that.
I can dig that. Stop easy.

Speaker 1 Mom Heather,

Speaker 1 it's time to cook a meal.

Speaker 1 What's your go-to meal that you're cooking?

Speaker 4 Prime meatballs.

Speaker 1 Ooh. Easy.

Speaker 4 Everybody likes it. That's the hardest thing when you're a mom is like getting one meal that everybody's going to like.
That's a crowd pleaser. So that's my go-to.

Speaker 1 I'm there for meatballs. All right.
That's one of my top.

Speaker 4 Next time you're in town.

Speaker 1 I mean, not together, but

Speaker 1 one, you know, which meatballs first.

Speaker 1 Just messing with you. Toughest player you had to defend, and why?

Speaker 4 Cindy Parlow. I'm not just saying that because she went to UNC.

Speaker 1 Um,

Speaker 4 literally, the toughest player.

Speaker 1 Uh, I

Speaker 4 would say, even

Speaker 4 more so than Abby Wombach.

Speaker 1 Um,

Speaker 4 so obviously, I had to go against Abby a lot throughout my playing career being at University of Florida together.

Speaker 4 I think I kind of learned the ways against Abby, but Cindy, ooh, there was no one,

Speaker 4 nobody else I would rather not defend than Cindy. She was

Speaker 1 physically

Speaker 1 quick. Yeah.
Oh, I'm having flashbacks. Back to those UNC days.

Speaker 1 Those UNC days. All right.
So, putting you on the spot with this question, because everybody's listening: your favorite teammate of all time and why?

Speaker 4 This is a hard one.

Speaker 1 Uh-huh.

Speaker 4 I've had so many.

Speaker 1 Hmm.

Speaker 4 I mean, I'd have to go back to college.

Speaker 4 Those girls are still my best friends to this day.

Speaker 4 So

Speaker 4 what we built at the University of Florida, what we achieved by winning the national championship, still one of my best friends. So I would say Sarah Yoi.

Speaker 1 Okay, Sarah. I like that.
I like that. All right, last question for you, Heather.

Speaker 1 The book of Heather Mitz-Feely has been written.

Speaker 1 The last chapter, the last paragraph. How does Heather want to be remembered?

Speaker 4 As someone who

Speaker 4 lived vivaciously, who was authentic,

Speaker 4 passionate, loving,

Speaker 4 and

Speaker 4 made an impact on this planet.

Speaker 1 Love it. Absolutely love it.
All right, Heather, how can people follow and find you? And before we do that, Peace, shout out to Rose at Players for Good.

Speaker 1 How can people book you to speak? Because if you haven't heard Heather speak, one, you're lost, but two, the energy, the passion, like

Speaker 1 it is what you want. So how can people book you to speak first and foremost?

Speaker 4 Well, if you go to Players for good

Speaker 4 they have all of us listed including you mick um so we're all we're all there and that's the best place

Speaker 4 on social media um which i'm you know not that busy these days on it since i'm so busy with my kids i was gonna say you're at little league all day every day my my main um places that I'm I'm active are on Instagram, HMITS2,

Speaker 4 and on Facebook, Heather Mitz fan page.

Speaker 1 There you go.

Speaker 1 Heather, I know how busy you are, but like I told you when we first started, this means the world to me.

Speaker 1 One of my, you know, Cindy is my favorite soccer player of all time, but my number two

Speaker 1 was Heather Mitz, I promise you.

Speaker 4 We've been up there. All right.
I love it.

Speaker 1 No, you were my number two. Even Mia went to UNC, but she was there before I got there.
So, you know, Mia's number three, but

Speaker 1 you were number two. And I mean that sincerely.

Speaker 4 Ah, a true honor. Thank you so much.
Absolutely.

Speaker 4 I really enjoyed our time today.

Speaker 1 I did too. And

Speaker 1 anytime you want to be on, you just tell me. And again, I mean this from my soul, whatever you need, whenever you need from me, consider it done.

Speaker 4 You're an advocate. Thank you for your time, for having me on, for everything that you do.
You're an amazing man.

Speaker 1 You got it. And for all the viewers and listeners, remember, you're because is your superpower.
Go unleash it.

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