S02 Ep07: Megan

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This episode is going to be a departure from the Britney Phillips case that we have been discussing all this season.

Today, I'm going to tell you a little bit more about my own story.

A year ago, I submitted a public records request to the agencies who who investigated my sister for medical child abuse of her younger daughter.

In response to that request, I received multiple voluminous files and am in fact still receiving files, including police reports, some of my sister's social media posts, nearly two years worth of emails between the investigating detective and various parties, as well as the court order dismissing the state's dependency petition.

I've based today's episode on these documents and we will share a link to them in today's show notes.

Because my sister named herself publicly by contacting the media, portraying herself as a parent who was falsely accused of medical child abuse, I feel it's especially important to use her real name today so that you can get a more complete picture of what happened in that case and the risks that children in these cases like my sisters face.

My sister, Megan Carter, was originally investigated 12 years ago on suspicions of medically abusing her then one-year-old son.

My parents and I felt that those suspicions were warranted for all the reasons that I discussed in season one of this show.

I also mentioned in season one that she had been investigated a second time for possible medical child abuse of her younger daughter.

Since season one, I've gone much deeper into what is in the public record about that investigation.

And during this period of the last three years of my life, I've spent a lot of it talking to experts about this form of abuse and what these patterns look like, including Detective Mike, who I'm going to talk to today, including people like Dr.

Mark Feldman, Dr.

Mary Sanders, B.

Yorker, all the other amazing.

experts that we've had on this show.

And looking at the records that I uncovered, I'm more convinced than ever that the system has utterly failed my niece and nephew.

And as I've been digging into so many of these cases and hearing stories from survivors, from non-offending parents like the dads we talked to last season and a lot of other people that I've met since last season came out, I know now that the system fails most children in this situation.

And I feel really strongly that if we don't bring these failures to light, nothing will ever change.

I was obviously very careful about what parts of my sister's story and my life I talked about.

And in season one, I really talked about the things that I was there for, right?

So the pregnancy, the birth of her first child, that first investigation.

I've been out of my sister's life for 12 years now.

So, I mean, there's a huge portion of her life that I have not been a witness to, except from a distance.

Since I wrote the book, We Came Here to Forget, my novel, I feel like I've gone through this experience over and over again of saying, like, okay, that's it.

I'm done talking about this.

But the reality is the situation isn't over and things continue to happen.

And a lot has happened since my sister has been out of my life.

Things that we find out about are very distressing.

And everything that I have found out about since she has been out of my life has only pushed my fear one way, and that's to make it worse.

I suppose I am sensitive about this narrative that I'm like out to get her, or this is some kind of vendetta, that this is just some some personal thing that I'm sort of can't let go.

And I mean, what I wish had happened in the interim is that something would have happened to change my mind.

What I wish is that some new information would come forward to explain all of these events that does not implicate her.

But that's not what's happened.

You know, what's happened in the interim is One of the things that we heard about a couple of years after the first investigation, and that again was the end of our contact with her by her choice, was that she posted a picture on Facebook Facebook of herself in the hospital holding a baby that had died or was stillborn.

And this was something that people who were still connected with her on Facebook told us about.

And that was obviously really distressing.

At this point, we believed nothing that we didn't have documentation for.

So my mom looked that up in the county death records.

And in fact, that happened.

She had a son who was born right around 24 weeks, which for those who are not as familiar with pregnancy and its weeks as I am, having just gone through two, 24 weeks is about the line where a baby can survive outside the womb.

And in fact, premies do pretty well, all things considered, sort of compared to like 10, 20 years ago.

But this one, this one did pass away.

There was a death record.

So seven months after that, she had another baby.

She was also born at 24 weeks.

Of course, the timing of all that is notable.

This is now the third baby she said, premature, and it's gotten increasingly premature.

You know, we talked about the prevalence of premature babies in these cases and as with anything else that we talk about in these cases, gastrointestinal issues, breathing issues, seizure disorders.

So none of these things are risk factors in and of themselves, but they are all a huge part of the pattern of these cases.

And I brought in Detective Mike Weber, who is the top law enforcement expert in the nation.

He wrote the guidelines on this abuse for the FBI.

He is a member of the American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children's Munchausen by Proxy Committee.

He's really the guy to talk to about these investigations.

And we talked through what I'd uncovered in my sister's case and specifically this thing about premature births.

Can you talk about sort of the way we see that playing into these cases?

That's in Dr.

Feldman's book, In Dying to Be Ill, where a mother actually admitted to inducing the premature birth.

And in

I think the first five or six cases I worked, all of them included a premature birth.

There's been cases where I've had evidence that the premature birth was induced and evidence by defendant statements.

The reason I bring this up is my involvement with the second case against my sister that had to do with her younger daughter.

The police detective, when they were investigating it, reached out to my father because he had sent an email to the hospital with their concerns when a relative saw my niece on the hospital's like featured child page.

You know, they have those pages that are sort of for fundraising and they talk about the kids that are that are in the hospital.

And so her daughter was listed there with a whole bunch of issues.

And again, a family member saw it and brought it to our attention.

And my father emailed the hospital to let them know that we had had concerns about her older child and that there had been a previous investigation and we had had concerns about Munchhausen behavior previous to that, i.e., the fake pregnancy that I discussed in season one.

So he had let them know.

And so I believe that was how the detective probably got in touch with him.

So Mike, one of the things you do when you're investigating a case is get in touch with family members, right?

Like collateral interviews are a part of these investigations.

So it makes perfect sense that the detective called.

Well, correct.

And, you know, the detective would have had access to all CPS records that, you know, if he's doing his job, which I'm sure he did, the CPS worker would have informed him that there's a previous case also with this claim.

He would have gotten that paperwork.

He would have read it.

He would have seen y'all's concerns and he would have contacted y'all, which is exactly what happened.

So my dad, my mother, and I had lengthy conversations with Detective Muse over the months that he was working on this case, but these related to her life before, because we didn't know anything about her daughter, really, because we hadn't been there.

I mean, we knew as much as anybody else basically had seen online at that point.

This coincided somewhat.

It happened before my book came out.

So I had not been in touch with, but the investigation lasted about two years.

So at some point also, this was when I was really beginning to meet a lot of experts,

such as Mark Feldman, such as Detective Mike, and, you know, really meet with the committee.

And so as I met those experts, I, of course, offered to put them in touch with Detective Muse.

And Mike, you are not at liberty to share what you discussed with him, but you did consult with Detective Muse towards the very tail end of this case.

I want to be transparent about that.

You are not at liberty, obviously, to share anything that's not in the public record already.

Right.

I won't share what the conversations were.

I will say that he did reach out to me.

And I will tell you that that's pretty rare for a detective to do that.

I've had numerous dads call me, and they'll say there's open investigation.

I'm like, we'll have the detective reach out to me.

Obviously, I cannot reach out to detective.

That would go horribly, terribly badly because they're going to think that I'm trying to stick my nose into their case.

But I am always open to any detective reaching out to me, and I will offer any advice that I can as far as where the investigation should go.

Okay, so because there were no charges ultimately filed in this case, I was actually really surprised at how much information there is in the public record about this case.

Part of that is because my sister went to the media with this story, which we'll get to.

So she shared the family court judge's decision.

So we have that.

And they're also the police reports, which we've mentioned are public record.

And there's also an extensive amount of emails between the police detective, the district attorney, and several of the other people who are working on the investigation.

What I have seen in this documentation is really alarming.

Nothing I have seen in here convinces me that there was nothing to this investigation.

And the reason I want to make it public and the reason that I want to make my sister's name public, my sister's name is Megan Carter, is for a few reasons.

The biggest being that everything I have seen about this case and also these patterns, which we have discussed, has made me feel

very afraid.

I feel very strongly that the system has failed here.

And in talking to both experts and survivors, one of the only things I feel that I can do.

I basically going public as such and using her name is a kind of last resort.

I have tried to talk to the detective.

I tried to talk to the district attorney while this was going on.

I tried to put them in touch with the resources that I had.

By the end of the investigation, that meant some of the best experts in the country on this topic.

I've tried to follow up with the prosecuting attorney's office to figure out what happened here.

And I've been told the same thing again and again and again, which is that they point me back to this family court judge's order, which is unbelievably flawed.

And we'll get to that.

And

one of the only things you can do when you feel you're in this situation is hope that by bringing light to it, there will be more eyes on that situation and more eyes on that child.

And that is what I've been told over and over again by experts.

And

I spoke to some of the survivors that I'm really close with and asked them, if I were your aunt, what would you want me to do?

Does this seem like the right thing?

And they said, yes.

So that is my number one motivation.

My secondary, also strong motivation is that this story ended up in the media.

It was covered by NBC in affiliation with the local station King Five here.

And that coverage was irresponsible.

It was misleading.

And it absolutely dragged through the mud the doctor who worked at the hospital who reported my sister.

And number one, morally.

That's repugnant.

And number two, stories like this have a chilling effect, I believe, on doctors' willingness to report abuse.

It is a doctor's job to report suspicions of abuse.

And just to be clear, and Mike can talk maybe a little bit about these systems, but a doctor, one doctor's opinion, is not going to get children removed from their parents.

Right?

Right.

Well, and it's very important to point out that doctors are not investigators.

Doctors' function is to simply report the abuse.

There was Dr.

Woods at Marybridge who reported the abuse.

There was another doctor who did medical record review, Dr.

Carol Ginney, who literally wrote the book on this abuse.

But they don't determine guilt or innocence, either of them, of mom.

They determine whether there is evidence in the medical record that there could be abuse happening.

It is a responsibility of police and CPS to determine.

CPS's function is to determine whether the children are safe with the offender.

It is law enforcement's role to determine whether or not a crime has been committed.

And it is then the DA's office's role to prosecute that crime.

So you have a ton of systems that have to work together.

And it's very easy to single out, you know, I see this

from these offenders quite often in this abuse, is they will pick one person and make them the scapegoat.

And they will ride on them.

And if only not for this person, none of this would have happened.

It's very, very familiar to me.

The truth that we can see from all this documentation is that it wasn't one person who was convinced that abuse was happening.

It was many people.

There were multiple doctors mentioned in the police report, including Dr.

Carol Jenny, who, by the way, is one of the most well-respected child abuse pediatricians in the country.

She is the person doing the medical record review.

The CPS investigation RTB'd her, and just to remind you from our conversations with CPS supervisor Susan Ryle, RTB means reason to believe.

So they came to that conclusion in their investigation.

And then based on that, the state filed for dependency, meaning that they were petitioning to remove the children from that home.

And we also know from the judge's decision that is available to us that the CASA, the court-appointed special advocate, this is in some states called a guardian ad litem.

This is the person who is charged with representing the child's interests in court, also supported the state's dependency case.

There was a two-year-long police investigation that was referred to the DA for a charging decision.

This doesn't happen unless they feel that there is evidence to charge someone with a crime.

What I want to do today is review the documentation that we do have and Mike, get a little bit of context from you.

So according to the police report, my niece was brought to the hospital in March of 2018 and that kicked off this series of events that led to the hospital calling the police.

So she had been brought in having an infection in her vascular port, which is used to administer medication to children that have chronic illnesses so that they don't have to get constant injections.

That led to a life-threatening diagnosis of sepsis, which is a blood infection, that had sent her into organ failure.

She was sedated and intubated in the PICU, which is the pediatric intensive care unit, for a full five weeks.

In medical child abuse cases, when there is a port placed in the child, that now gives the offender access to the child's blood.

And that gives the offender the opportunity to put things in or take things out of the child.

For instance, she could put feces in the child to cause a polymicrobial blood infection, multiple organisms in the blood, which would cause sepsis.

Or she can also take blood out of the child to cause anemia.

It opens up a variety of new ways to abuse the child.

The doctors, when they were reviewing the medical history of the child at that time, noticed some red flags, including in their words, unnecessary surgeries, unsubstantiated medical treatments, repeated hospitalizations, and doctor slash provider shopping.

Importantly, at the time of this incident, my niece had, in addition to her vascular port, a surgically implanted feeding tube.

She had had alleged feeding issues throughout the course of her life and had had various interventions, including different types of feeding tubes, and at one point was on what's called TPN, which is when a child receives nutrition intravenously.

In May of that year, after this five-week stay in the PICU, my niece developed a blood clot.

She was on an anticoagulant medication because she had been having frequent blood clots.

And because this medication could be painful to administer, they were allowing my sister to actually administer that medication.

And as I said, because there were previous suspicions, they had placed her in a video surveillance room.

My niece had developed a couple of blood clots despite being on this medication.

And what the video captured, what they describe in the police report, is that my sister was administering the medication, looked up to see if the nurse in the room was watching, and dumped some of the medication out onto the bed next to her child.

They caught two instances of this.

Many of the medical staff had seen the video and agreed that this is what it showed.

And the police also viewed this video and it's described in detail.

Mike, I wonder what's your reaction to that in terms of just the role of video surveillance in these cases?

Video surveillance is indispensable in these cases, if you can get it, right?

Different states, different laws, different hospitals have different practices.

From one children's hospital to the next, it may be completely different policies.

But if you can have video surveillance on these cases, it can provide great evidence, like this evidence, right?

So we know that she doesn't want her child to get better because she's not giving her the medication that is needed.

And then we see her dumping this medication and directly after, her daughter develops a life-threatening blood clot.

And the nurse reported to the police that there was no way she could have developed this blood clot if she was on the dose of drug medication that she was supposed to be getting.

And I don't know Washington law, but I do know Texas law.

If this had happened in Texas and she had developed a blood clot after mom was seen dumping that medication, then under my state law, that would be a substantial risk of death.

So that would be injury to child, serious bodily injury, because there was a substantial risk of death just on that one act alone.

So after this call that I mentioned in May of 2018, the police removed my sister from the hospital and put her daughter under protective custody.

So, for a while after Megan was separated from her, my niece was in the hospital.

And during that time, she started to do really well.

It mentions in the report that she was taken off of her oxygen that she was on and that she was eating without any trouble.

The detective mentions watching her eat fruit loops and pizza.

And she, in fact, had gained six pounds by the time she was discharged.

We saw a similar thing in the Britney Phillips case.

Correct.

And separation test is the gold standard, right?

And what we see in a lot of these cases, if it really is medical child abuse, once you separate the offender from that child and you let that child be a normal child eat, what you see is they don't have the medical ailments described by the offender.

I mean, Going to eating by mouth in that short of a time period with that weight gain is huge evidence of medical child abuse.

So indeed, when my niece was discharged from the hospital near the end of the month, she was sent home with my brother-in-law, Andy, and his parents, Ruth and Roy.

I should mention that from my previous experience with these three people, they have always been supporters of my sister.

And that's a problem.

Yeah.

Why is that a problem?

Because you cannot place with anyone that believes the offender is innocent.

Because

you will get, as I've seen in one case, we actually have munch housing by proxy by proxy where a CPS investigator went to the doctor's apartment when the child was placed with maternal grandparents.

And they got to the doctor's apartment and they called mom on the phone to give the doctor medical history.

You know, I mean, you cannot make that placement.

These offenders are extremely manipulative, especially with loved ones who don't believe that they're guilty.

They will violate any safety plan or any placement plan.

The family members will allow the offender around that child and they won't supervise.

We've seen it time and time and time again.

And that is, in fact, exactly what happened here.

So, five days after my niece was discharged, she was brought back to the hospital because she had lost a pound after leaving the hospital.

And the family reported to the doctors that she had demonstrated a quote, intolerance of foods and that they'd subsequently halved her feeds that she was still receiving through, I believe, a G-Tube and supplemented her diet with pediolite, which is a very strange thing to do.

Pedialite doesn't have many calories in it.

They did this, and it was not under the direction of doctors, right?

Doctors did not tell them to do this.

So when Roy, my sister's father-in-law, was questioned about this feeding plan that they'd put her on, where they were halving her feeds and all of that, and where they were getting that information, he was extremely cagey.

And he expressed incredulity that the weight that the hospital was getting was correct.

He was just doubtful that that weight was correct, which is very strange.

He admitted around this point of the investigation that they were letting Megan spend up to 11 hours at the house, that his concept of supervising her was either they're all in the house at once or they're all outside at once, and that they were letting her do things like change her diapers, which she was still wearing at five.

This should have led to an immediate CPS removal from them and placement somewhere else.

It's apparent that her father-in-law was not going to be convinced by any evidence.

And at that point, there should have been a removal.

I face these same issues with CPS in my state.

A lot of it is educational problems, right?

They don't have policies.

They don't know what this is.

They don't know what to do about it.

And a lot of times, even if they do, their judges won't allow them to.

Judge Meanie in the family court dependency decision, she uses the fact that my niece was still on a feeding tube as evidence that my sister was not the cause of the problem, as though they had actually been separated when in fact they had not been separated.

So they won't pull that tube out for several months until afterwards.

That's pretty standard in every case that I've had.

The feeding tube is always going to stay in for a month or two after separation because they need to make sure that it's the correct diagnosis.

They need to make sure this child can eat.

They may need supplemental feeds while they learn to eat by mouth.

I counted referrals to CPS from four different hospitals in the area, from Children's, from Valley Medical, from Swedish Hospital, and then, of course, from Mary Bridge.

I feel like that is also similar to the Brittany Phillips case.

It shows doctor shopping, right?

If she doesn't get something, she goes somewhere else to get what she wants.

And did all of those hospitals report concerns?

Yeah, there were mentions of CPS referrals from four different hospitals.

Yes, that is obviously extremely concerning for this abuse.

You're not just having one person say it.

I mean, unless, you know, let's go back to Roy's mindset.

Really, are four different hospitals conspiring against this poor mother?

No, you have four different independent entities seeing this and saying something isn't right here.

So in reviewing all of the documentation that I have, Here is a recap of the biggest things that stuck out to me.

A pattern of increasingly premature birth in three babies, one of whom died.

Two babies, my nephew and my niece, both diagnosed failure to thrive, both of whom had feeding tubes.

My niece had a G-tube.

She had a vascular port.

She was hospitalized for sepsis, which is something that we see come up a lot in these cases.

There was obviously a previous investigation of abuse for my sister's older child.

And along with the suspicions about her own Munchausen behavior, which we covered really extensively in the first season.

My sister also has a nursing background, which comes up a lot in these.

And in fact, she worked as a nurse until about 2009 in a high-risk OBGYN clinic.

She was only licensed to work as a nurse through 2004.

So she worked for a long time with a laps license.

Again, we covered there was this video evidence of her withholding anticoagulant medication and all of the feeding issues that seemed to resolve in a very short period of time once she was separated, only to come back once she was presumably, according to her in-laws, spending a lot of time with the child once again.

We also have Dr.

Jenny's report and just the mere fact that there were 73,000 pages of medical records and as I mentioned, four different entities who appear to have reported her to CPS.

Again, all of the documents that we refer to here are in the public record.

We have collected them and we'll put that link in our show notes.

And then I want to talk about this piece that was in the media because I think that these things can do a lot of material damage.

I feel that this particular media story has made children in this state less safe.

Do you agree with that?

I would agree.

And not just this one, this series of stories by this particular reporter.

The journalist that we're discussing, his name is Mike Kicksenbog.

And for the record, I did reach out to him and ask him if he would like to join us.

He politely declined that offer.

And I also reached out to the local journalist, Taylor Mefendreski from King Five, who covered this.

And she did not get back to me.

So Mike Kicksenbach did a whole series called Do No Harm that was about parents being accused of abuse, parents being accused of medical child abuse.

In mid-February of 2020, a piece was published about my sister Megan's case.

The headline they used is, a Tacoma doctor diagnosing child abuse is missing a key thing, her certification to do it.

Mike, I would say we could probably just go ahead and start with the errors in that headline.

What do you want to say about that headline?

Sure.

Well, what the article talks about is a child abuse pediatrician and having that certification.

That's a fairly new certification.

Mainly, only doctors at children's hospitals in major cities have that.

We have nurse practitioners who are diagnosing child abuse in rural counties in your state and my state.

That article makes it seem like you have to be a child abuse pediatrician to diagnose abuse, and you don't.

It is a slanted article.

Yeah, and I mean, I think the child abuse pediatrician element of this.

So, this article came out in February of 2020.

So, this was during the criminal investigation.

And one of the misleading things that this article says is it mentions that there was a police investigation initiated, and it says that no charges were ever filed.

Well, that makes it sound as though nothing came of that investigation when that investigation was very much ongoing when this article came out.

So, I mean, as far as I can tell, and you know, again, Mike Hicksenbog did not want to talk about it or his, you know, methodology for putting this piece together, so I don't know.

But best I can tell, the main source document that's used in this piece and that is linked to in this piece is a 26-page report from Judge Susan Amini.

She is the person who oversaw the dependency hearing.

The state in this case did file for dependency of my sister's two children.

Mike, can you you tell us what a dependency petition is?

Again, CPS decides whether the child's safe.

That is a civil process, right?

That is separate from the criminal process.

So they will go before a family court judge, juvenile court judge, whatever it's called, state to state, and both sides will present facts.

And then the judge will make a ruling on custody of the child.

That's not a criminal ruling.

That's not a determination whether mom is guilty or not.

That is merely custody of the child.

So should the child remain in the home at this time?

That's correct.

All that to say that a civil court ruling should never preclude a criminal prosecution.

So the way that this judge's order is used in this article, and in fact has been used elsewhere, I have been sent this judge's order numerous times via a cease and desist from my sister's lawyers.

It is treated like it is the final word on this case.

And in fact, what you're explaining to us here is that it is not.

It's the final word on custody, but it's not the final word on criminal charges.

That court has nothing to do with criminal charges.

Yeah.

And it's not that judge's job to say this person is guilty or innocent.

Well, no.

And if you look at the date of that petition, she didn't have the evidence to do so.

Right.

So, you know, as we mentioned, this article, and it's clear from the headline, they really fixate on Dr.

Elizabeth Woods, who was the head of the child abuse team at Mary Bridge Hospital, which is in Tacoma, Washington.

And they really, really fixated on the fact that she is not a child abuse pediatrician.

So child abuse pediatrician, we've spoken to one on the show, Dr.

Jamie Kaufman at Cook Children's is a child abuse pediatrician.

You're going to find people with that designation at large, well-resourced children's hospitals.

Now, there are a lot of places, obviously, we can see the problem right there, which any children's hospital is going to be, you know, required to report abuse.

And if they suspect abuse, and actually one of the, something you and I, Mike, have talked about a lot is that there is a misconception, even among doctors, of when they should report.

You should report when you suspect abuse, right?

Not when you have a smoking gun.

Correct.

I mean, I've reviewed medical records on cases where three, four years before it was finally reported, they were charting munchhousen by proxy.

And to doctors listening, if you are charting munch housing by proxy, you are charting abuse.

You're technically violating

at least my state law.

I'm sure of

laws.

Yeah, probably mandatory reporting laws in most states.

But doctors weirdly view this, this, and I think it goes to the lack of understanding of this actually being abuse.

They tend to view it as, well, that's mom's mental health.

Well, no, it's abuse.

It's abuse on the child.

So you are required by law to report.

But you see it, again, not with Cook's records, because they're better on this than others.

But I see it with other hospitals, even in our area.

where they're charting two, three years and never reporting to child protective services.

They may report to their child abuse team, but that's not what the law says.

If you're charting this abuse, you must report this abuse.

To whom?

CPS or law enforcement.

I recommend reporting to both because of the lack of understanding around this abuse with CPS and law enforcement.

You report to both and you hope one of them gets it.

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The thesis of this article is that basically that Megan is innocent because the person who reported her was not a child abuse pediatrician.

However, this was in the middle of the investigation, and they did have a child abuse pediatrician reviewing the medical records of this case.

In fact, they had one of the most well-respected child abuse pediatricians and experts on munchasm by proxy in the country reviewing the medical records of this case.

That person is not mentioned once in this article.

And I find that an intentional omission, right?

I mean, they linked the decision, knowing that probably no one's going to read it, as an intentional omission to present a narrative.

I mean, it's not reporting to me.

It's being a pundit.

It's what you would see on late night talk shows.

So, as we mentioned, Mike Hicksenbaugh has done an entire series on this issue.

My sister reached out to him.

He mentioned that in a previous piece that he did a very small thing on her case and then decided to do this larger, quote, expose.

So she reached out to him.

It's sort of, he put out the bad signal for people who this thing, quote, false accusations in his parlance, has happened to.

And she got in touch with him.

So what I'm holding here is a 26-page report from a judge Susan Amini of the Superior Court of Washington County of King, so King County Juvenile Court.

This document was linked in its entirety in the NBC piece.

I don't believe normally this would be part of the public record just in and of itself, because usually things revolving around juvenile court and family court are sealed, right?

Because it has to do with minors.

So presumably my sister shared this with the reporters.

it has also been sent to me numerous times by my sister's lawyers who wish to inhibit me from talking about her and basically this is being sent to me and sometimes people i'm working with my book publisher etc

in the context of it being proof that my sister is innocent So I wanted to go through this document and talk about what's in it and talk about some things that stuck out at me.

Maybe also we should just talk about a juvenile or family court hearings.

These are not the same things as a trial.

A judge gets to decide what they want to hear and what they don't want to hear.

And you don't have a jury sitting there making a decision.

So I want to start with my experience of reading through this, which I didn't do for years.

I knew the gist of it and I thought, I don't know that I need to put myself through 26 pages of this.

When I finally did read it in detail, something jumped off the page at me and it was so surprising that the first time I read it, I thought, oh, just they got their words wrong.

And then it's mentioned three other times in the document.

And then I thought, oh, no, this really, they're really saying that this happened.

Here is what it says.

Testimony was presented from Dr.

Woods and Dr.

Jenny.

So again, that is Dr.

Woods is the person from Marybridge Hospital who reported Dr.

Jenny is the child abuse pediatrician and medical child abuse expert who is reviewing at this time the 75,000 pages of medical records that have been subpoenaed about my niece.

And obviously she is not done with her review at this time because there were 75,000 pages of it.

So testimony was presented from Dr.

Woods and Dr.

Jenny that the mother, my sister, had been the victim of medical child abuse, which they stated was a risk factor for perpetrating abuse.

Number one, there has never been any whisper of abuse happening to my sister in her childhood from my family.

My sister was not sickly as a child.

I mean, there's no way that anyone would have that impression.

My parents have never been investigated.

My sister wasn't sick as a kid.

She started to have these health issues when she was a teenager.

And again, you know, some of those we know she was responsible for, other ones we don't know so much about.

But, you know, that behavior started when she was a teenager and kind of went into her 20s, right?

She She wasn't in and out of the hospital when she was a kid.

She wasn't born premature.

She didn't have any of these things that fit into this.

One of the things that going through a case like this does to your psyche, it leaves you with this lingering feeling that at any moment, the walls around you could fall down and you could find yourself to be in the middle of a big lie that you didn't see.

There was like this tiny part of me that was like, is there something about my own family that I don't know?

And then I sat with it for a minute and I was like, no.

I sat and just rifled through my memories and I was like, no, no, no, no.

And then I thought, my God, why would Dr.

Jenny say that?

Because it's right here.

It's in detail.

I mean, the first time it was mentioned, it was mentioned that it was in like the state's petition that she was a victim of medical child abuse.

And my immediate thought when I read that sentence was, oh, they've got it wrong.

They're talking about the suspicion of her Munchausen behaviors, right?

Of her exaggerating, inducing illness on herself, right?

So these things like her shaving her head in high school and saying she was losing her hair, the entire fake twin pregnancy that she had in her 20s.

So I thought, oh, that's just like a, it's like a misprint.

And then reading this, it was in such detail that I was like, oh, what?

You know, it just, I was flabbergasted, I was confused.

In that moment, I was like, again, even though I knew how flawed this decision was, because the nature of it is flawed, I still was like, but it's right here in the record.

So I called Dr.

Jenny, who I know.

She is an expert who is part of the American Professional Society on the Abuse of of Children's Munchausen by Proxy Committee, which is a committee that Mike and I are also on.

I did not know her at the time of this ruling or at the time of her beginning this investigation.

So that relationship does not have any bearing on this case, but we do know each other.

And Dr.

Woods, unfortunately, is not able to comment on any of this, but I was able to confirm with Dr.

Jenny.

You know, again, this is testimony in the public record.

And at this point, it doesn't have anything to do with medical records, right?

It's about her testimony.

And so right now, what stands in the public record that that has been shared with the media is that Dr.

Jenny sat on the stand and accused my parents of child abuse.

So obviously this didn't sit right with me for many reasons, but for a long time, I wasn't sure if there was anything I could actually do to set the record straight.

Fortunately, I happened to know Dr.

Jenny, and I already had her in mind as an expert to interview for this podcast because she is the person who coined the term medical child abuse and is just really one of the most well-respected experts in this field.

And just to say, we're going to be releasing that interview as its own bonus episode, I highly recommend it.

She is absolutely fascinating.

So, most of that interview is just us talking about her work, but towards the end, I was able to ask her a couple of direct questions about her testimony in this hearing.

Here's that part of my conversation with Dr.

Jenny.

The judge mentioned several times in the opinion that she wrote that you, Dr.

Jenny, had testified that my sister was herself a victim of medical child abuse and that that made her more likely to be a perpetrator.

And that because Judge Yamini did not see any evidence that she was a victim of medical child abuse, she used that to basically discredit you.

I don't understand that.

Essentially, right now, there is a public record that you sat on the stand and accused my parents of abuse.

That never happened.

I never did.

All I did was read the medical record.

I can tell you that in the medical record, which is my only source of information, there was no evidence of any abuse of the mother of any kind in the medical record.

That's all I have.

I had no outside sources.

I had no investigation.

Just to clarify why Dr.

Jenny is being so emphatic about what was and wasn't in the medical records, her only role in an investigation like this is to examine the child's medical records.

So she is not talking to family members about the history of the alleged perpetrator.

She's not talking to anyone about anything else.

She is just looking at the medical records.

There would be no reason for her to opine on an alleged perpetrator's history of abuse.

I mean, it's several times she says that you and Dr.

Woods testified, oh, Megan was a victim of medical child abuse.

And so that's why she perpetrated medical child abuse.

I said that.

According to Judge Amini, yes.

Okay, well, that was not in the medical record.

I'll read you the piece.

Here is one of the instances.

Testimony was presented from Dr.

Woods and Dr.

Jenny that the mother had been a victim of medical child abuse, which they stated was a risk factor for perpetrating abuse.

Neither Dr.

Woods, Dr.

Jenny, or any of the other witnesses presented at trial investigated this allegation, and no evidence was presented about what abuse the mother suffered.

An experts' opinion must be supported by credible evidence.

I never said that.

The court did not

hear what evidence the doctors had used to opine that the mother, quote, was a victim of medical child abuse herself.

No evidence was presented to show what, when, where, or how the mother had been a victim.

There was no evidence presented at trial to establish that the mother was a victim of medical abuse without any factual basis to support the opinion of Dr.

Woods and Dr.

Jenny on this point.

The court is not convinced that this opinion is, in fact, accurate.

That was not my opinion.

There's one other paragraph about you.

Okay.

Dr.

Jenny, who has extensive experience, was factually mistaken at times and at other times did not support her opinion with the underlying facts.

Her testimony showed that in her review of the record, she basically rubber stamped Dr.

Wood's findings without a critical view of her findings.

For example, both doctors claimed that the mother was a victim of medical child abuse.

Neither one investigated this claim.

There is no evidence to prove this claim, but they used it as a factor against the mother.

I never said that.

That's crazy.

And this claim that you rubber stamped Dr.

Wood's findings, you were still in the middle of the record review at this time.

It was not complete until I was only halfway through it.

And I was put on the stand when I didn't have a complete record.

On the other hand, the record was so compelling.

There was no doubt in my mind as to what I testified.

And the rubber stamp, I guess you can say if the evidence is there, it's there.

And if we both quoted the same evidence, there you go.

It's interesting because like doctors, that's their paradigm, right?

That's the way they look at things is here is the evidence.

So if you're both saying the same evidence, then yeah, And what I would really like would be for the news,

whoever is interested to go back to the court.

Well, not even the court, because that was only half the evidence, but go back to the people that have my final report, get permission from the parents to have it released and read the whole 37 pages single spaced that I wrote and see, you know, what the evidence actually is.

Yeah.

We have reached out to the prosecutor about this case.

I sent a letter to Judge Amini yesterday letting her know that we're going to be discussing her decision and some of the factual errors in it and wondering if her office would like to comment.

And in fact, Andy Carter, my sister's husband, has many times said on social media and elsewhere that I am lying, essentially, and that he has documentation to prove it.

I assume he's referring to the judge's opinion, but we've invited him on here.

And certainly, if he wants to share with me or any other media outlet this documentation, I would be happy to look at it.

So we will again invite them to give Dr.

Jenny permission to share her report.

Okay.

One of the things that, as I sort of understood and picked it apart over the years, that I couldn't understand

was how do you ignore Dr.

Jenny?

How do you sit there and ignore testimony from someone?

And again, she was not finished with her medical record review, but it's clear from these documents that she also testified, you know, against my sister.

It's very clear that she had concerns from that she had concerns.

Yeah.

This is what the court is meant to evaluate at this time, right?

Not guilt or innocence.

So well, and this is, again, a flaw in the system with these cases.

They are actually determining a final outcome and they're determining that final outcome before all the evidence is reviewed.

And that's, again, the final outcome for custody that they're determining.

And they're doing it before all the evidence is reviewed.

And that's really not fair to either side.

I don't know if people will believe me when I say this, but I did not set out to find more evidence to somehow condemn my sister.

It is horrible to think about these things that might be happening to my niece and nephew.

You would be happy if you found information that she didn't do this.

Yes, yes.

And again, maybe this because I've been sort of personally accused of this, this exists more in my imagination than it does in anyone else's perception, but I have been vilified by that side.

I mean, my whole family has, as my father has, that's in the documents.

And like, there is nothing in it for me other than than I feel like I have tried everything that I could think of to protect my niece and nephew.

And putting the name Megan Carter out into the public with this information, which is public record, and putting it in context for people with all that I know and all that you know is a last resort.

Like, listen, I know that my sister and her husband and her supporters are going to hate me for doing this.

And I know full well that my niece and nephew may also hate me for doing this.

But I couldn't live with it anymore, knowing all of this and having the context that I do and seeing what's been put into the media and what hasn't.

And my feeling, this is my opinion, my feeling that the system failed and put my niece and nephew back in harm's way.

I couldn't live with it anymore.

And so what consequences come from this?

I guess I'm just willing to take that at this point.

And it has taken me a long time to get here, but I can't be the keeper of this knowledge.

I wish someone else had reported on it.

I wish Mike Kicks and Bog had done an actual reporting job on this case.

Yeah, just report it fairly.

Just report on both sides.

I don't need anyone.

And that's the thing.

You don't need to believe me.

You don't need to believe my impressions or my opinions.

Just look at what is in the public record and come to your own conclusions.

Let's assume that this abuse is happening and these systems, all of them have failed, these children, you are the last line of defense.

Maybe a doctor will hear this podcast that's treating them and think twice about the treatment course.

So this charging decision was made in April 2020, which is several years ago now.

And I don't know very much about how my niece and nephew are doing.

I felt like all of this was important to share because my big goal for this show was to really shine a light on this abuse.

And I've been really inspired by a lot of the people we've talked to about their story who've been really brave in sharing what they know.

And I hope that sharing these details about how, in my opinion, a case can go very wrong, even when there is very strong evidence, will help people understand just how far behind we are on this form of abuse.

Because this is the story I've heard the most, is that these cases fall apart in family court.

This investigation wrapped up three years ago because nobody in my family or in my life is in touch with Megan or Andy.

I do not know much about how the kids are doing other than the occasional updates that they share with the media or on their social media.

So that's a bit of a mystery.

I can tell you that in the intervening years, my sister has started working as a paralegal for her attorney, and they worked on the Sophie Hartman case, another local Seattle case.

of an offender who was arrested and also got her children returned to her by family court.

Megan's husband, Andy Carter, has always publicly maintained his support support for my sister.

However, I recently found out that he did file a petition for divorce during these family court hearings, though he withdrew it several days after the judge's decision came down.

He is currently, according to his Facebook page, president of their PTA and is running for school board.

Both Megan and Andy have been invited by my producer to share their thoughts publicly on this show.

Both have declined, and that is a standing invitation.

And if they share anything anywhere else, I will respond to it.

She's such a cool kid.

She began to lobby us.

She says, I need to be a full wife.

Alyssa had come to us, and it had really, really been bothering her that she wasn't adopted.

She knew that we were her parents and that she was going to live with us forever, but she knew that she wasn't adopted.

And she asked us to do whatever it took.

That's next time on Nobody Should Believe Me.

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