Nobody Would Believe Me: Dads Part 2 (S1E5)

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So as we reported on child abuse from the father's point of view, we came across one story that that shows how even a case where the evidence is really strong can go wrong.

Because of the outcome in this next case, the participants wanted to keep their identities private.

And so we're calling the father in this case John and the alleged perpetrator Sarah.

I wanted to share this story because these are the patterns that we keep seeing.

And we've learned along the way that this form of abuse happens across socioeconomic backgrounds, across races, different ages, different places in the country, different places in the world, but there are these things with all that variety that keeps showing up again and again.

Just as with Hope, Sarah had not only lied about her children's health, but lied about her own health, her professional background, and there were other lies throughout the course of their marriage.

My producer Tina and I sat down with John and his new wife when we traveled to Fort Worth to interview people for this podcast.

I was immediately struck by how warm and open John was with us and how generous he was with his story because I knew it wasn't going to be an easy one for him to tell.

He told us about when he had been a small business owner in the Fort Worth area and when he'd first met his ex-wife, Sarah.

She had seemed lovely and normal, attractive woman when he first got to know her.

She told John that she had worked as a nurse in a NICU and just loved kids.

But as it turns out, this was one of the earlier lies John uncovered.

She had no medical education, had no nursing degree, and purported herself to be a nurse when my son was born.

And she said, well, no, I've worked here.

I don't think I ever said I was a NICU nurse.

So she went into denial that she had ever said it.

And under those circumstances, with just having a new baby, I didn't press the coin.

It didn't seem, it seemed like she was embellishing her story originally, but then I learned the truth and found out that it was what I would consider to be just a person trying to make themselves seem more important than they were.

At this point, John had begun to have some suspicions, but with an infant son that was coming home from the hospital, he was completely overwhelmed.

When they arrived home after Jimmy was out of the NICU,

Sarah moved into Jimmy's room to keep an eye on him.

Most mothers can relate to having a brand new baby, especially if it's your first, and being really nervous about every breath they take.

I think even if your child hasn't had any complications, a lot of us feel that way in the beginning.

However, this went on a little bit longer than most people would have expected.

And especially after Sarah became pregnant with their second child and they had their second child, John began to become concerned that Sarah was actually neglecting their younger child.

So with Sarah fixated on Jimmy, John took primary parenting responsibilities.

And then something very strange happened.

John noticed something disturbing on Sarah's computer.

She left the computer open and she had been communicating on the computer with her ex-husband about sexual episodes and described in detail having just been with him.

In fact, as it turned out, I learned later that she was just with him, came to lunch with me in a sweater that he had purchased for her.

Here's Mark Feldman, clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of Alabama and author of the book Dying to be Ill.

A common underpinning is deceptiveness and impulsivity and poor judgment.

And that kind of

person is likely to engage in all kinds of behaviors, whether it's infidelity, lying about aspects of their lives that may not even involve illness in any way.

When it's severe, we call it pseudologia fantastica, which is a a Latin term for pathological lying, where the person mixes some truth with fiction, which makes for the best lie in a sense.

It's really hard to tease apart what's true and what isn't.

Amidst all of this drama, John and Sarah eventually got a divorce, and Sarah hired a lawyer.

Unfortunately for John, he did not because Sarah, by all accounts of those who knew her, was an attractive, persuasive, smart woman who had the backing of a really wealthy family.

That's a tough thing to come up against from a legal standpoint.

Sarah reassured John as many times as he needed to hear it that she was not out to separate him from the kids, that even if she technically had full custody, she would let him see them as often as he wanted.

She knew he was a good dad, and he really didn't feel worried that she was out to separate him from his kids.

John just figured that this was the easiest way to go and didn't want to end up in a long, drawn-out court battle.

In 2008, when John and Sarah were divorcing, John believed he'd have joint custody of their children until one day, Sarah took their son to a party.

It was a social gathering at some friend's house where there was drinking involved.

It was actually a pajama party that she had attended with friends to meet other people.

An adult pajama party.

An adult pajama party.

And the kids were left upstairs to play

by themselves.

And it's interesting to note that the family that was hosting the party, we were both friends with when we were married.

And at the times that they had other in-home social gatherings, you know, parties and so forth, Christmas and so forth, they had always had someone to watch the children upstairs.

And this time that did not occur.

There was no one to watch the children and the boys were climbing on the second story rail.

I was at work and I received a phone call at work of what happened.

So I raced to the location and he had already been care flighted, although he was nearer the Cook's Children's Hospital.

He was care flighted to one of the Dallas facilities.

According to my ex-wife at that point, that was a better facility for him to go to.

And so I quickly left from that location and drove to Dallas, which is a bit of a drive.

And first time that I saw him, he was in the hospital in Dallas.

Five-year-old Jimmy was treated at the hospital and sent home after about three days.

When we left the hospital, he rode with his grandparents and mother, and I drove separately, and they were headed to my house where he was going to stay with me and her.

And once we got to the house, she had changed her mind.

And my son was in the arms of his grandmother, And they

completely blocked me from getting anywhere near him and ultimately got in the car and drove away.

I cried.

Our relationship became very strained after that.

He was not allowed in my home.

He was not allowed in my personal care for a long time.

And whenever he was with me, even after that point, she would give me a whole laundry list of how to take care of him and and would always complain that I was putting him in dangerous situations.

And he came with so many medications.

I mean, that was one of the things that really came out.

He had about 15 different medications that she had him on, or the doctors, I should say, had him on, because she had told one doctor of his symptoms.

That doctor would tell her, well, he doesn't have this, so he must not have that particular thing.

she would go to the next doctor add the symptoms that he needed to have to the next doctor the entire focus became your son

became on my son and his medical problems she liked to be the person who knew what was going on even when i went to doctors appointments with her we would get into arguments because my response was always

well he doesn't have that symptom at my house well he doesn't have that problem when he's with me.

You know, in fact, I even had him riding a bike and riding, you know, one of these little scooters that the kids have.

And, oh, that was terrible.

That was just terrible that I let him do anything where he could fall.

Many other dads, I think, who are living with the perpetrator and are subject to, as you described, this really intense manipulation day in, day out, that they're just so baked in it that it takes them a while to sort of come up for air.

And that's actually really understandable.

Here's Detective Mike Weber who investigated this case.

The main thing for the public, I think, to understand about these investigations is this is abuse.

It is physical abuse, it is psychological abuse, it is emotional abuse.

Many times it's educational abuse.

It is

long-term torture of these kids and using the medical establishment to commit that torture.

Even though John observed a healthy son every time he spent time with Jimmy, Sarah continued to insist that he was having every medical issue under the sun.

Complications from his head trauma that she said he had following a coma that he was allegedly in after the fall led to a brain shunt being put in his skull to relieve fluid off the brain after he developed a condition called normal pressure hydrocephalies, a disorder which is almost never found in children, John would later learn.

At this point, Jimmy's shunt had become infected, so Sarah took him to the hospital.

They suspected that he might not actually need that brain shunt, and they shut it off.

After they shut it off, they realized that in fact, he did not need it.

And Sarah was not very happy with this development, so she took him back to a hospital up north where the doctors were more credulous and had the brain shunt put back in.

In addition to all of the medical back and forth, she's also claiming that he's developed developmental disorders, that he's autistic.

She has him in a special school that's attached to the children's hospital in Texas where she'd been taking him, claiming that he's never going to lead a normal life.

Given how much more credulous the doctors up north were of Sarah's claims, she continued to bring Jimmy there for treatment hundreds of miles away from where his dad lived.

And given the custody agreement that John had agreed to back when he was on good terms with Sarah, he was unable to see his son as often as he would like.

And often their visits were confined to video chats in between procedures that Jimmy was having at this hospital.

Sarah was pursuing treatments for Jimmy in two separate states.

On the Texas side, this landed on Detective Mike Weber's desk.

And that's when I met with CPS and law enforcement about the case, and they went on to explain to me what Munchhausen by proxy medical child abuse was all about.

So how did that land on you when they explained that to you?

I cried.

I called one of her

relative who I knew and talked with her, and she told me that I need to get an attorney immediately and get to the bottom of it.

John finally had custody of his children.

During the investigation, the court ordered me to have custody.

She had supervised visitation during that period.

So I did have custody of the children for two years.

When you took your son, and your other child,

how did his health do under your care i took him immediately to the local hospital in my county took him to see one of the highest respected doctors at that hospital and she immediately took him off his medications that was the first thing that happened He was on medications for a variety of different things.

He was on antipsychotic medications.

He was on medications that just made him so drowsy on the way to school.

As I was driving him to school in the morning when she still had custody and he was at my home sometimes, when I would drive him to school, you could just see him gloss over.

You know,

his whole expression changed from a bubbling boy to a drugged child who was

at that point unable.

to comprehend a lot of things.

And once I got custody of him, he was immediately taken off the medication.

Where was your mind in all this as you're watching your son blossom from this medically fragile child to a healthy child?

That I was right, that everyone around me was right, that she was doing something awful to him that was abusive and stunted his childhood.

He was not able to play sports.

He was in a special needs school.

We immediately got him enrolled in the fifth grade at a local elementary school.

We signed him up for baseball.

In fact, I took two or three months off from my job and got him moving forward in terms of his skills.

The one thing I remember is we went and played pitch and catch and he, you know, and I would be the catcher and he would be the pitcher and then I would be the pitcher and he would be the catcher.

And, you know, I would hit him fly balls and, you know, grounders and all the things that dads do with their kids.

I took a few months off to really help him gain his strengths, make up for lost time.

And like I say, he was put in the fifth grade at a local elementary school where he did well.

The evidence in the case against Sarah was strong, and Mike Weber was working it on the Texas side, and he was the most experienced detective in the country on these cases.

But this case had incredible complexities given the fact that surgeries had happened in two separate states.

To make matters worse, in 2015, a huge change in leadership at Detective Weber's office threw a big wrench in the case.

Mike tried to do something through the Texas court, and, you know, the Texas court ultimately said, gosh, there's no law against this.

She broke the law in Minnesota, not here in Texas.

And Minnesota didn't pursue any legal charges against her for breaking the law in Minnesota.

The family court system, once they dropped the charges against her, decided she was also innocent.

So they were willing to put the kids back with her and it became a just a normal custody case.

Ultimately, because they felt like she was losing the normal custody case, the grandparents stepped in and they decided they would be a better place for the kids to live.

And the judge in this particular case wouldn't listen to evidence about medical child abuse.

As far as she was concerned, that was a criminal issue and she was either guilty of it or not guilty of it.

And if she was not guilty of it, then it didn't need to even be brought up.

And all the things that mom had done were purportedly in the best interest of the child because she was innocent.

So, family court, you know, they don't even want to hear CPS.

They literally took CPS out of our case, would not listen to CPS.

The guardian ad litem and a counselor and the case manager for the court all thought that I was being a vindictive ex-husband.

On the other hand, the detective and the the doctor from the hospital, they were on my side and we had to come to a decision at that point whether to move forward

and let the judge decide what was going to happen or to have a jury trial.

We mediated and I,

just because of the cost, and the cost to the children, decided to try to get things closed and gave the grandparents custody of the kids.

I determined to agree to things in mediation that I wish it could have gone a different direction.

I

will forever

feel like if we laid this out properly,

that a jury would see things very different.

than what the mediation ultimately turned out to be.

It cost me any relationship at this point with my children.

It's been three and a half years since I've seen my children or communicated with them.

I even send them gifts on their birthdays and Christmas.

I send them checks so that they, you know, know that dad is doing something.

None of the checks have been cashed.

So as far as cost to me, it's ongoing.

Do you think

that the interventions that happened and the time that your children were with you and that sort of interruption of what sounded like escalating behavior on your ex-wife's part, even though it didn't end the way that it ought to have ended, do you think that that made a difference?

I think it saved my son's life.

It cost him greatly.

As far as family ties go, not being in contact with his father, it cost him greatly there, but it changed the outcome of his life.

Getting out of mom's care for a short time saw them how the world could really be what a, if you will, normal child has as far as opportunities.

It put him in regular school, it put him in sports, it did all of those things.

Sadly, he is still called a special needs child by mom and sister, but it saved his life.

That's not nothing, is it?

No, that's not nothing.

It's what you hold on to.

When we recorded this interview two years ago, the dad we called John in this story did not want his real name used, but I have an update for you.

Today is November 1st, 2022.

I spoke to John last week about some recent developments, and he told me because of what's happening with his son now, he no longer wants to remain anonymous.

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This next story is really different because whereas most of the stories of Munchausen by Proxy that I've read about, the fathers of the children were married to the perpetrators and deeply involved with them, in Ryan Crawford's case, he barely knew the mother of his child.

Ryan Crawford is a young, handsome dad with a big, warm smile, and he just exudes good-naturedness.

The first time that I watched an interview with him, I found myself in tears just listening to him recount his story and how hard he had pushed for justice for his son.

Ryan told me about the first time he met his son's mother, Kayleen.

I went out with some friends to a club and just hanging out, having some drinks and she was there and, you know, I thought she was nice looking and I approached her and, you know, we seemed to have a good conversation and we exchanged numbers and we started communicating.

Initially, I was just saying, oh, you know, she's a nice looking woman.

You know, she seems to, you know, take care of herself.

I didn't grasp any type of awkwardness or any type of strange behaviors.

I didn't actually see that, obviously, you know, just meeting her.

You know, it was just more of, hi, how are you doing?

And, you know, hello, my name's Kaylene.

We met up

maybe once.

I think we did dinner.

The conversation at that point still seemed on par as far as just telling me her background.

A lot of the background now that, you know, I know so much, you know, was a lie.

But as far as her going to school, her graduating, having a track scholarship, that part may be true.

I haven't verified that.

But the initial stages of meeting anyone, it's an interview process.

They're going to try to sell you the best them.

They're going to tell you everything that you want to hear.

After they met, Ryan and Kaylene went out a couple of times, but ultimately, Ryan just didn't see a future with her.

I just felt that she just wasn't the one for me.

And something was off.

The vibe was off.

The energy was off.

The communication was off i always you know had the intuition just to back up and just you know just keep on moving and so we kind of lost communication after the first two or three dates

and then at some point you get a call from her she called me august 31st 2008 because it was my birthday she called me to wish me happy birthday And when she called to wish me happy birthday, I was surprised to hear from her.

Now I said, oh, thank you.

And she said, well, I would love to take you out tonight.

And I said, Oh, well, I already have plans.

I'm going out with my friends.

We're going to a club, have some drinks, and just enjoy my birthday.

You know, she paused and she said, Well, how about I come after?

And, you know, being young, I knew what that meant.

So, after I end up leaving the club, she ended up coming over later that night, and that's how Christopher became in the making.

Literally, we did not see each other again.

That initial night was my fault for the simple fact.

Knowing that I wasn't interested, I should have never had her to even come over.

But, you know, I, you know, blame hormones and me being young on, you know, that situation.

Kaylene reached out to Ryan again a couple months later, and this time it was a very different kind of phone call.

I missed that phone call, but my instincts told me exactly what she was calling me for.

I was hoping I was wrong, but

I was not.

And, you know, I called her back and, you know, she told me that, you know, she thinks the possibilities of her being pregnant is likely.

Inside, my heart was just racing.

And because I just had a child two and a half years ago.

And I'm like, wait a minute.

At the same time,

the shock mainly came from

her telling me that she was on birth control and come to find out

from her own mouth, she said that she had just started taking it that week.

At this point, who really knows if there was even any birth control at all?

You know, as a man, I just try to take responsibility and just be like, you know, okay,

she couldn't have done this without me.

So Ryan and Kaylene went back and forth about their options.

And ultimately, Kaylene decided to go forward with the pregnancy.

And Ryan was fully supportive of this.

There's not too much for us to actually talk about because, you know, there was already no interest there.

It was, you know, something that happened.

And now we have to take responsibility for our actions, but

it was just in the best interest at the time just to wait until she called me or wait until the child was born.

And then I'll just end up putting myself on some child support, get visitation worked out.

But she called me like two or three months later, claiming that she was in the hospital and that she had a hundred and ten degree temperature.

So she was saying she was sick.

And obviously, that's really scary if you're four months at that point, probably pregnant.

She claimed to be in the hospital almost the whole pregnancy.

And there was even times that she said that she was going to have the baby, you know, that she was going to be induced.

And she would never call me.

So,

you know, I would end up finding out the next week that it didn't happen.

It was stressful, like actually trying to go through the just the whole pregnancy thing.

You know, finally, she called me out the blue.

I was driving.

She was like, I'm about to have

our child in the next 30 minutes.

I need you here at the hospital.

He can't make it, I understand.

But I end up making it, you know, and seeing my son born.

Ryan had an extremely busy life.

He already had a child, and Kaylee was a veritable stranger.

But nonetheless, he was really excited to meet his new new son.

He was a premie, so he was six weeks early.

But see, I never knew the exact date because, you know, it was, she was always saying different dates, you know, she was always saying that she's going to be induced or, you know, she's going to go into labor.

And none of those things ever happened until, you know, she finally called me for the last time and said that, you know, hey, come up to the hospital.

But I still try to

make it seem as if in my head that, you know, hey, this is someone that you don't know.

They don't don't even know you so what do you expect ryan i mean it's gonna be like a lot of tension and a lot of misunderstanding because you don't even know this woman and she doesn't know you so i tried to downplay it thinking that maybe i was overreacting a lot of the times but you know come find out i was never overreacting

in the previous stories The dads didn't want to question the mother of their children because she was someone they loved and trusted.

In Ryan's case, he didn't want to question her because he felt like he didn't know her well enough to question her.

As it turns out, how close or distant you are, this behavior in and of itself is so unbelievable that when confronted with it, it's almost impossible to wrap your head around.

When Christopher was born, of course, being six weeks early, he has to be in the incubator.

And being in the incubator, he was fine.

The doctor said he was fine.

He did have a tube in his nose because six weeks early, you know, they need help eating.

So that's completely fine for a preenie.

I went up there to the hospital quite a bit, no issues.

Obviously, she can't control anything in the incubator.

You know, that's the doctors and the nurses.

So when did you first start to suspect that

something

was really wrong?

The problems didn't actually start until our child actually got out the Inthiban.

She would complain that he needs to try like 20 different milks.

Every milk that he would take, he would regurgitate.

And the times I fed him, he was just fine.

But when she would call me or when I'm not there, she would say, Oh, he's regurgitating milk.

And so she would start taking him to the hospital maybe once every

two weeks,

not more.

Just things just progressed where she still was just taking him to the hospital like time after time at the time, where she would say that he was having breathing issues.

He was having fevers.

He was

just not eating at all.

He was crying all night.

Just anything and everything.

And I remember one time I went to the hospital with her in the emergency room and he was so tiny they couldn't find a vein vein in his arm so they had to put the the IV in his head I was okay with that because I mean these are what the doctors are saying they're saying we need to put IV in the head to give him you know the nutrients he needs and she was so adamant about making sure that that didn't happen I don't want that to happen what if you miss a vein there and that's so strange that at that point that she was so trying to be so careful but you know as you progress, you know, she wasn't careful at all.

But, you know, I had to end up making that decision because the doctor was like, we need to do this.

Even though Kaylen's behavior was making Ryan increasingly nervous, he really wanted to be in his son Christopher's life and he wanted to secure his place as Christopher's dad, essentially.

So he kept going through the steps to make sure that he had custody rights to Christopher and that he was all set up to contribute to child support.

When I would try to see Christopher, she wouldn't allow me to.

It was always he's asleep.

He is sick.

He's been in the hospital for the last 10 days, even though she didn't call me or, you know, whatever the case may be.

It was always something to do with sickness and that kept me from actually being able to see Christopher.

As Ryan's custody case worked its way through family court, Ryan became increasingly frustrated with Kaylee's attempts to block him from seeing Christopher.

And he was becoming suspicious that Christopher didn't really have all of the medical ailments Kaylene was claiming he had.

That judge heard all these things and automatically assumed that my son was disabled.

And I was like, judge, I never heard of any of these things.

I don't know what she's talking about.

Like, I'm here just to establish, you know, put myself on child support, get visitation.

I have no clue what she's talking about.

He paused for recess, took us back to his chambers, and started telling me that Ryan, you know, you're going to have to accept, you know, your son, the things that he's going through.

And that Kayleen is saying that he's probably going to need leg braces.

He may not ever walk.

And I'm like, what?

He was looking at me as a deadbeat father that doesn't care about his child.

You know, I get it that you see some of those come through the courthouse, but every father is not the same.

Kayleen is responsible for Christopher's medical care.

As Ryan's pushing to continue to try and get his rights as a father recognized, every time Kayleen shows up before a judge, she's tearfully listing out this litany of medical problems that Christopher allegedly has, even though Ryan's never heard of any of it.

We saw the district judge maybe three times, three different times, and each time he's dying.

I don't know how the judge didn't catch on, but he was dying every single time.

The last time that we saw that judge, the judge was asked me, Ryan, do you want to see your child one last time before he dies?

I said, judge, my son is not dying.

I don't know what you're talking about.

And I provided evidence.

I provided medical paperwork.

I've been to the doctors.

Nobody is saying what she's saying here in court, but she ignored me because Kaylene's in the back crying.

just hollering.

And she's apologizing to Kaylene that, you know, I brought her here and tells Kaylene, would you mind if Ryan sees his child one last time before he dies?

And Kayleen says, no, I don't want him to see Christopher.

And that just stripped my rights from me.

That was 2014.

At this point, he's four.

At some point, you have a big turning point.

And I think it was in 2015 when you stumble across some writings from Deanna Boyd in the Fort War Star Telegram.

I felt lost.

I felt alone because

nobody believed me.

Ryan reached out to a nonprofit for legal help.

The director told him that what was happening with Kayleen sounded like a case of Munchausen by proxy.

I was like, what?

I'd never heard of that.

And he looked it up for me.

And when I read the definition, I said, yeah, this is it.

This is exactly what's going on.

And he was like, you're going to need to get you a good attorney and try to fight this.

i had just got through praying like you know god please like protect christopher you know i was sitting in my apartment i was on facebook and bam an article comes up much housing by proxy uh i start reading the story literally that was my whole life like i saw christopher the whole article obviously it was someone different but you know in my mind everything from the g2 to the wheelchair to all the lies everything this is exactly how my son's story goes I don't even know how this is even possible that my child's mother has somehow mimicked in my mind this whole story even if you read a whole book about my child's and by proxy if you haven't experienced it you're still gonna have questions you're still gonna doubt the father because nobody wants to believe it So after reading an article, I posted on Facebook, I said, I'm going through this exact same thing with my son's mother.

I said, I wish there was somebody to help me.

And that's when Michael Weber reached out to me.

I had checked Facebook to see some of the comments, to see what the public perception was.

And I saw a comment from Ryan.

And his comment was, I'm going through this right now, and no one believes me, and no one will do anything.

And it's happening to my son.

And, you know, I knew that from my previous involvement in these cases, that that could 100% be true.

So I sent him a private message through Facebook Messenger, just said, hey, this is who I am.

This is my office number.

If you're serious about this and you're not just some internet yahoo, call me at the office on Monday.

And I got a call from Ryan.

You know, he told me he was going through a custody situation.

You know, that's a red flag against this abuse, right?

You have a custody battle.

But then he checked pretty much every box about about what this abuse is and what I had seen in this abuse in previous cases.

Every box.

At this point, Christopher was four years old and he'd been through 13 surgeries.

He'd been in a wheelchair.

He was fed via a feeding tube.

And all the while, Ryan believed that none of these things were necessary.

And this feeling

of being a Cassandra screaming into the void and then being cut out of the child's life is so visceral for me.

To think of Ryan just desperate to save his son, it's unimaginable.

Ryan pushes to get his son re-evaluated by the doctors caring for him to see if any of these health problems are actually legitimate.

Finally, CPS submits a petition to have Christopher removed from Kayleen's care and he goes to a children's hospital in Dallas where he's put under observation for a week.

After CPS removes Christopher from Kaylen, all of his health problems seem to melt away.

He no longer needs oxygen, he no longer needs a wheelchair, and he can eat on his own perfectly fine without a feeding tube.

Detective Mike Weber started messaging with Ryan, but because this was in Dallas, it was not in Detective Mike Weber's jurisdiction.

So he reached out to the detective working on the case and tried to help him, help Ryan move things forward.

They sat on the the case for two years, didn't do anything.

I kept emailing them every few months.

They kept telling me they're gathering more information, more information, more information.

I pretty much gave up because I was just like,

they're just going to keep getting me to run around and keep telling me that they're still looking into it.

But one day I was at work.

It was almost 7 p.m.

time I get off.

And her first child's father called me and said, Ryan, they're about to take the kids from Kayleen.

My heart just dropped.

My tears wanted to come out of my eyes.

Like he hadn't even explained to me exactly what's happened, but I just knew that just taking the kids away, that they were going to be safe.

The DA's office was still investigating Kayleen,

but instead of sending Christopher to be with Ryan, they put him in foster care.

And I'm like, I'm his father.

And they're like, well, he doesn't really know you.

What do you mean he doesn't know me?

He doesn't know these foster care people.

What are you talking about?

And they're like, well, with the foster care, we have a training program set up and, you know, you're not in that program.

I'm his father.

It strikes me listening to this part of Ryan's story that this is the point where a lot of people would just give up.

Ryan didn't.

Ryan kept fighting for his son.

In 2017, Ryan and his lawyer headed back to family court once more, but they were still getting stonewalled.

At that point, that's when I knew I had to get in contact with the media.

This story is a big enough story where everybody's interested in it.

We're going to get this heard.

Ryan remembered the news story that he'd first found on Facebook, the one that had connected him with Mike Weber.

It was a story written by investigative journalist Deanna Boyd of the Fort War Star Telegram all about Munchausen by proxy cases.

I told her what was going on.

She ended up writing an article.

The article went worldwide almost within 24 hours.

It was around the world.

People from Australia, Japan, everywhere were in my direct messages asking me questions.

They were interested in what was going on.

A Dallas mother accused of faking her son's illnesses has just been sentenced to six years in prison.

I want to show you some video of Kaylee Bowen Wright being taken out of the courtroom in handcuffs.

This happened just just a few minutes ago.

In August, she pleaded guilty to injury to a child causing serious bodily injury.

Authorities say she subjected her now 10-year-old son to years of needless medical procedures and surgeries.

So this story is really blowing up in the media and you get temporary custody of Christopher

and

At this point, there's a criminal investigation happening.

I mean, she was charged in 2017 while we're still still going through the family court,

and she didn't actually go to prison, get convicted until October 2019.

Two whole years and she was able to have access to Christopher during that time period.

So what was that time period like for you?

Stressful.

Like having to like see that woman at all, period.

Because for simple fact that we know that these women that choose medical abuse, that abuse these children that they're master manipulators we're dealing with uh medical abuse you know somebody who truly abuses a child and consciously knows exactly what they're doing and so with her being able to see christopher uh every other week and manipulate him and it just was not in the best interest He was so young when it happened that all he knows is that, you know, he loves his mother.

Even though she took advantage of him and

and of his innocence all he saw was that he had a he had a mother and that would hug him and kiss him and tell him things are going to be all right so he doesn't see the side that an older child or an adult would see i still make sure that i don't speak negative uh about her and you know i explained to him the consequences of lying that once you start lying you have to continue to lie i don't go too much into, you know, he knows that he was abused, but still at this age, he still doesn't quite understand how the magnitude of how serious it was.

And he had trauma counseling in the very beginning, and he really has been blessed.

God truly watched over him.

Christopher has not been to the doctor not one time outside of a physical every year since 2017.

No feeding tubes.

I had that feeding tube removed.

I guess a week or two after I got the temporary custody, I had that removed because he was eating.

So he has no feeding tubes.

He has no oxygen.

He's just a normal child.

It struck me listening to this, what a good dad Ryan is, because he understands.

That even if listening to this story, you can surmise that Kayleen wasn't a loving mother towards Christopher.

The love that Christopher felt for Kayleen was still real.

The love that all of these people surrounding the perpetrator, their family members, their spouses, and their children especially, the love they feel for that person is real.

And this gave me some insight into one of the things that I think about a lot when it comes to my niece and nephew, and even when it comes to trying to explain to my own daughter this situation when the time comes, how do you explain this to a child?

Ryan's years-long battle with the system paid off.

Christopher is thriving under his care.

He's completely healthy.

He hasn't had any type of medical issues, any feeding issues, any type of disabilities.

Nothing like that has happened.

His life has truly turned upside down for the better.

The only way that you would know that he's been through what he's been through is if you looked at his chest, he has a couple scars.

Outside of that, Christopher is your normal, healthy 12-year-old that is enjoying life finally.

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