How Stockholm Stuck
In August of 1973, Jan-Erik Olsson walked into the lobby of a bank in central Stockholm. He fired his submachine gun at the ceiling and yelled “The party starts now!” Then he started taking hostages. For the next six days, Swedish police and international media would tie themselves in knots trying to understand what seemed to them a sordid attachment between captor and captives. And this fixation, later pathologized as “Stockholm Syndrome,” would soon spread across the globe, becoming an easy, often flippant explanation for why people—especially women—in crisis behave in ways outsiders can’t understand. But what if we got the origin story wrong?
Today on Radiolab, we reexamine that week in 1973 and the earworm heard ‘round the world. Is “Stockholm Syndrome” just pop psychology built on a pile of lies? Or does it hold some kernel of truth that could help all of us better understand inexplicable trauma?
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And today it is producer and reporter Sarakari's turn at the campfire to tell a story.
All right.
Yes.
And we are going to kick it off with a story that I heard from a guy named David King.
Okay.
Yes.
Yeah.
My name is David King, and I'm a writer.
And tell me, David, how did you get obsessed with this story?
Like, where did you first hear about it?
Well,
I had the chance to live in Sweden.
in the 90s and and I used to walk past the square where the robbery took place every day on the way to the library, to the like the Royal Library for another project.
And I always heard of it.
It was a big deal in Sweden.
But I had no idea how good the story was.
I mean, it just had everything.
So this story, it starts off with a robbery, one that maybe you've even heard of before.
But it becomes so much more than that.
Because it would end up giving birth to an idea that lives lives in my head, in your head, in all of our heads, that has become kind of hard
to shake loose.
Oh, yeah.
Okay.
But maybe I should just tell you the basic story first.
Okay, yeah.
Okay, let's do that.
Let's get it.
So August of 1973.
Thursday, August 23rd, 1973.
In Stockholm, Sweden.
Downtown Stockholm.
In this sort of big square in the downtown.
It's called
Story.
It's got restaurants and shops and a big fancy bank.
Svarya's credit bank.
Svarya means Sweden.
And on Thursday morning, the bank had just opened.
A tall, muscular man enters the bank.
He has a ladies' wig on.
Gray zippered sweatshirt.
He has some makeup on.
This kind of bronzing powder.
A pair of tinted sunglasses.
And all of a sudden, he rips out a submachine gun, fires in the air, says the party starts.
Down on the floor.
But instead of just grabbing the money in the bank and running out the door, this guy, his name is Jana Erik Olsson, he starts taking hostages.
They're all young.
Ends up with three women and one man.
They were all bank employees, and he wants to use them as leverage for bargaining.
And this is not something that really ever happened in Sweden at the time.
So
the police...
They arrive on the scene fast.
Oh, the police car is kind of pulled up.
Right outside the building, the square.
Start stationing snipers on buildings near the bank.
On the rooftops.
And right away, alerts are going out on the news wire.
The press is there really fast.
All the major newspapers and TV and radio stations.
Today.
So.
Jana is in the lobby with the hostages and he starts yelling his demands to the police.
He wants
3 million Swedish crowns, which is a lot of money.
Like today it would be like 5 million US dollars.
But the really crazy thing is that then he demands that the police bring him
Clark Olafsson,
Sweden's most notorious gangster.
What?
So Clark Olafsson.
26 years old.
He's very handsome.
Very charismatic.
He was famous for robbing banks and breaking out of prison, but he was also very charming and sort of a media darling.
He had become something of a folk hero to Sweden at the time.
And I mean, in fact, I saw this one list of the 10 most influential people in Sweden.
Clark was one of them.
Oh, wow.
Yeah.
So, anyway, Jana.
He wants Clark released from prison and brought to the bank.
And incredibly, the cops.
They actually release Clark.
They actually do it.
They actually bring him in.
So,
some hours later, Clark is walking into the bank.
And at this point, the media coverage just completely blows up.
It just becomes a huge
national news story.
All the stations
are broadcasting live.
24-hour coverage, live updates around the clock.
At one point, you had about 70% of the entire country watching this.
Oh, wow.
70%.
JFK assassination, the moon landing.
I mean, this was was up there in Sweden.
So pretty much the entire country is following all the news of Yana's demands, all the moves the police are making.
But pretty quickly, everyone's attention turns to the hostages.
Yeah, the police start to see the hostages doing unexpected things.
By this time, Yana and the hostages are sort of back in the bank vault, and the police have made their way into the lobby of the bank.
And at a certain point, Yana lets the hostages go to the bathroom.
And the hostage goes to the bathroom.
One by one, unaccompanied.
They go down some stairs and around the corner, out of sight of Yana and Clark.
And then they...
And go back to the vault.
On the way back, walking right past a bunch of police officers.
They could have run out.
They could have left.
But instead, they go back to the gunman.
Huh.
Like, what?
Why in the world?
What's happening?
What's going on here?
And anytime they come out of the vault to talk to the police, their body language is kind of weird.
That's right.
And Clark comes out with the hostages.
He has his arm around them.
And when the police chief thinks that they're frowning at him, there's a sense of hostility.
But the stories about these hostages really start to blow up when Clark manages to find a phone and brings it back into the vault.
Clark is calling his friends in the media,
giving interviews during the crises,
which are being broadcast on radio.
And at some point, the TV program Actuelt manages to get one of the hostages, this young woman named Elizabeth, on the line.
So they ask her, you know, how are you doing?
How are you holding up?
And she says, you know.
So we're in good shape.
We've been looked after.
I've been real gentleman towards us.
And when the reporter is like, so the four of you are just sitting there hanging out?
Elizabeth corrects them and says, no, we're not four.
We're six.
Then Radio Sweden gets an interview with another one of the hostages, Christine and Mark.
Christine comes on the line.
We interview her.
We were not sure what she was going to say.
This is Bro Jansen.
He was an editor at Radio Sweden at the time, and he told me that Christine basically says, She's more afraid of the police than she is of the robber or Clark of Los Angeles.
The police are the real danger here.
That was extremely unexpected.
Like they're bad-mouthing the police, who trusts a robber armed more than she trusts the police.
And to the people listening to the interview, it's just weird because she doesn't sound scared
or distressed,
not depressed or anything like that at all.
She just sounded angry, actually.
And so now everyone at home is glued to the news
trying to figure out what is going on with these women who seem to be siding with the gunmen.
Again, if you weren't brought into this story yet, you have another reason to be glued to your television or your radio.
And for six days, the hostage crisis carries on like this.
There are reports that the hostages are helping Yana and Clark destroy security footage, that they are insisting to the police to let Yana and Clark go and that they want to go with them.
And at the end of this whole thing, when the police get them all out of the vault, you can see this on video,
they're all saying goodbye to each other like they're old friends.
Yes.
So they were hugging and kisses.
And at one point, the police are sort of forcing Clark down, and Christine says, Don't hurt him, don't hurt him.
And she turns to Clark and says, we'll see each other again.
Wow.
So in the days that followed,
what you had was all these articles and news reports trying to make sense of everything.
And you get all these experts saying that what happened here is that these women, Elizabeth and Christine in particular, had formed an attachment to their captors, to Yana and Clark, potentially even a romantic attachment.
Basically, that they had developed what we all now know
as Stockholm syndrome.
I got it.
Wow.
So, this is the origin of that.
This is where Stockholm syndrome comes from.
Yes.
I went in
with the idea, this is how it began.
I thought that was going to be the story.
But
I had no idea how much we had wrong with it.
According to David King, who ended up writing a whole book about this called Six Days in August, when he dug into the details of this case,
the whole story sort of got flipped on its head.
I mean, from the beginning, in a way, because again, in particular, David says, what you see is the police from the very beginning had no idea what they were doing.
This was the first time that something like this had ever happened.
This is Loch Erik.
He was one of the first police officers on the scene, and he's being translated here by reporter Alice Edwards.
He had no experience negotiating these kinds of things.
So, pretty much right away, what they do is they bring in somebody to be their negotiator.
The most famous psychiatrist of the time.
This is a reporter who was covering the situation at the time.
My name is Osa Mubery, and I'm a writer and freelance journalist.
And she told me that Niels Beirut,
he was supposed to be the best negotiator with those people in the bankboard.
So he was supposed to be talking to Jana and Clark and then advising the police on what to do.
But it doesn't always seem like it was very good advice.
For example, when Yana asked for all that money, at first the police seemed to be trying to meet his demands.
The police are scrambling to try to get this money.
And Niels Beirut actually walks in with the money, but it turns out to be sort of obvious that they're traceable bills.
Which ends up making Yana, who already seems unstable, even more pissed off.
And that at the same time, they're escalating the situation by coming down the staircase, coming in other entrances, trying to sneak into the bank lobby.
And we're trying to see what's happening.
And trying to
crawl into this scene.
So they can shoot him.
Then Jana shoots at me.
Seven bullets, like a silhouette around my head.
So Jana's really freaking out, ends up pulling the hostages back deeper into the bank.
And when Yana demands that they bring Clark into the bank, well, they agree because...
They're hoping Clark could be a help.
I mean, the police were kind of desperate.
But instead, they just handed Yana a charming, media-savvy accomplice who knew what he was doing.
And from there, it's just like misstep after misstep.
I mean, at one point, when Yana and Clark and the hostages are in the vault, the police bring in beers, but then it's so obvious that the beers have been drugged that Yana catches it right away.
He takes it and he just shakes it a little bit.
There's a fizz.
He realized that these bottles have been opened.
Oh, man.
Which just made everything worse.
Now, inside the bank, from the hostages' point of view, of course, at first they were terrified of Yana.
I thought
he was crazy.
He was so nervous.
It was very frightening for me.
So this is actually one of the hostages, Christine Enmark, in an interview that she did with podcast host Terence Mickey.
And she told him that while she was scared at first, once Clark showed up, the situation became totally different.
He said, you can't have the girls tied up like this.
He was calming everything down and Jane became very calm.
So I thought, wow, what's happening?
So while the police are sneaking in and trying to shoot them or sending in drugged beers, it's starting to feel like Jana and Clark are on their side.
You know, the hostages want to call home.
They want to call their family.
Clark goes out.
He finds the phone.
Brings it back to the vault.
Hostages can call home.
Jana and Clark make it happen.
Now, at this point, Yana and Clark have demanded a car, and the police got them a car and agreed to let them drive away.
And Yana and Clark are nervous, so Elizabeth and Christine volunteer to go with them as collateral.
And the cops are saying, no, we can't do that.
We can't let you go.
But, you know, for Elizabeth and Christine, they just want to get out of the bank.
And this is where you get those phone calls where they're talking to the media, where you hear them saying these guys are being gentlemen and they're more scared of the police than they are of Yana and Clark.
Okay, then maybe the craziest thing of all happens.
Around this time, Clark is called in a favor from one of his journalist friends and manages to get connected to the prime minister of Sweden, Olaf Palme.
And so Christine gets on the phone with him.
Christine is almost like begging her.
I said, I want to go with these guys.
Let us go.
We want to go.
olaf palma meanwhile he's been woken up from a nap he listens to everything christine has to say and he's like
no we can't do that he says
you know we have law and order
and christine is like you can tell me about law and order some other time
and then according to christine the prime minister says
wouldn't it feel good for you to die on your post?
What?
Yeah.
Why would he say that?
what a tone-deaf thing to say yeah the the authorities denied that that was said it's not it's not in the transcript right but part of the transcript is missing
interesting i think it happened and i think i know exactly where it happened because you could read the transcript and all of a sudden You could hear Elizabeth saying something.
There are enough dead heroes out there.
And it makes absolutely no sense.
Yeah.
Except this little spot, if if you put it in, you know.
It makes sense.
If you insert that part where I think it is, then it makes sense.
Christine said it, Yana said it, you know, Clark, they all heard it.
Oh, wow.
Okay.
So I was 23.
I had this very low status at the bank, of course.
It's like one of those moments where just like all the blood drains out of you.
Right.
The person who's supposed to be most in your corner is like...
like doesn't care whether you live or die.
When he said that, I thought, you don't understand nothing.
Shortly after that, Niels Beirut and the police make a decision that would turn this whole situation into a total nightmare scenario.
They sneak up to the door of the vault and I remember hearing the
door was shut.
They lock Christine and Elizabeth and the other hostages in there with Clark and Yana.
So now they're trapped in a vault.
Yeah.
If you excuse me.
That's when the shit really hit the fan.
They call him a monster.
They call him a madman.
And now we're locking the hostages up with him.
If you back somebody in a corner, they can become dangerous.
And Yonas, he felt like a rat, you know, caught in a trap.
What was their plan?
They just hadn't thought it out.
They just were like, let's contain them.
Let's get trap them in the vault.
Do they have a plan trapping them in the vault?
Well, it turns out
it kind of was a little bit deliberate.
Niels Beirut realizes the more time these people spend together, the more likely we hope that they will start seeing each other as as human beings.
They will be less as objects, less as leverage points.
It's as if his strategy, his actual intentional strategy was some version of like mutual Stockholm syndrome and he's literally trying to create that attachment.
And in some ways,
he does.
The police had managed to bug the vault.
I had the access to the conversations that they had.
They're talking about, you know, their hopes and their dreams and what's the meaning of life, a little philosophy, what books have you read, and talking like old friends.
They start doing things to pass the time, like playing tic-tac-toe, or even playing cards, playing poker.
They got a lot of
money to play poker.
They're in there now, and the vault is locked, and so they don't have food.
But Yana had saved some pears, and he pulled it out and split it up, divided into six.
And one of the hostages, or a couple of them, noticed that he kept the smallest piece for himself.
Meanwhile, the police
started drilling.
From above, we started to drill holes down into the concrete.
This is Jan Olsson.
My full name is
wait, to the bank robber?
No, actually, Jan was a police officer on the scene who happens to have the same name.
Yes.
It's a little embarrassing.
But he told me that
the drilling was very loud.
The entire building started to rumble.
It must have been a horrible noise for the people inside the vault.
I remember that there was some kind of scent, like a smell of something grinding hard against stone.
The light went out.
The vault goes suddenly dark because the police have drilled through some electrical wiring.
They're drilling and they're drilling.
Yan is like, don't drill.
He has hostages underneath, you know, the the falling concrete.
Even strings up nooses and puts them around the hostages' necks as a threat.
But they keep drilling.
Day and night, for I don't know how many hours, how many days.
So, I mean, it was a nightmare, nightmare situation.
And then comes
gas through the holes.
To your gas.
And then something I'll never forget.
These violent screams.
you can hear on the the tape the coughing the choking
devoured by the gas
help help
and it takes over 30 minutes
30 minutes yeah after that yana finally surrenders they all come out of the vault and when i look out i see these guys looking like rambo and the police are right there no shirt on because they don't want to get tear gas stuck on their clothes.
Weird.
And, you know, this is that moment where after going through all of that together, the hostages are hugging and saying goodbye to Clark and Jana.
And so they drag them all out to the front of the bank where they have ambulances lined up with stretchers laid out.
And the hostages were ordered to lie down
on the stretcher.
And I refused.
I wanted to walk out because I was so angry over the whole situation.
At the end of it all,
the hostages all get taken to the hospital.
I read my journals from the hospital, and it was very emotional.
It shows how scared I was when I came there, how I couldn't sleep, how I wanted someone to hold my hand.
I was screaming.
And a doctor walks into the room.
And the first question that Christine received was, are you in love with Clark?
So weird.
And Christine is just flabbergasted by this.
Like, what?
The psychiatrist couldn't believe that she was not.
Or another thing, they couldn't believe that Janet Clark had not made some sort of pass at them.
And this story of this attachment, including the baseless rumors of romance, It continues along these lines, like long after the fact.
Like when the case eventually gets to trial, there's a rumor about the hostages refusing to testify against Yana and Clark.
They testified.
I read it.
I read the entire court transcript.
There's a rumor that they got together and tried to raise money for the defense of either Yana or Clark.
That also didn't happen.
No.
I've read PhD dissertations on this subject, and they'll confuse.
They'll confuse Elizabeth and Christine or Breita.
I mean, a lot of basic details get bungled.
I don't know.
It's just, it's amazing how something gets going and somebody quotes it and doesn't check and it gets quoted again and again.
And then you get this absurd monster in the end.
Now, I should say, like during and right after the actual robbery, psychologists didn't really talk about what happened to these women as some kind of generalized disorder.
In fact, No one really even used the phrase Stockholm syndrome.
But when we come back,
we're going to take a break.
When we come back, we're going to trace the path of this idea that we all know from this
rumor-laden Swedish bank all the way into your head.
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Hello.
Talking about Stockholm Syndrome.
Or the thing that, as I said right before break, in the months after the hostage crisis, wasn't yet even called Stockholm syndrome.
Niels Beirut is credited with that.
Coining the term, you mean?
Yes.
But
I read all his reports to the police, listened to the interviews, and he doesn't use the phrase.
According to David King, the idea of this being a syndrome actually comes from the New York Police Department.
The NYPD.
What?
Yeah.
Why?
So.
In the early 1970s, hostage negotiations were a relatively new thing.
No police department anywhere had any kind of systematic approach for what to do.
And it was, you know, let's see if we can talk or the hell with it.
We're going in.
This is Ed Conlon.
My name is Edward Conlon, and I was a detective with the NYPD, and I'm also a writer.
And he's written a lot about the moment when hostage negotiation as a practice emerged.
And one of the things that interests me about it is that it was created in response to the 1972 Munich Olympics when
Israeli athletes were taken hostage and killed.
And we had a chief here who said, do we have a plan?
What do we do if something like that happened in New York City?
The answer was no.
And he said, let's come up with something.
And the guy who was tasked with coming up with something was a police officer named Harvey Schlossberg.
Harvey Schlossberg, a former detective with a degree in psychology.
If there was a museum of New York Jewish accents,
Harvey's would be in it.
Yeah.
It's Brooklyn 1950.
You can say a lot of things wrong.
It doesn't really matter.
He's small, kind of a trim guy.
He's got the 70s sideburns.
He smokes a pipe.
He's kind of classic New York intellectual type.
And so all through the summer of 1973, Harvey's trying to figure out what they should do, what they need to think about, and how do they put together a plan.
And in August of 1973, you have the bank robbery in Sweden.
Harvey Harvey hears about it.
He reads up on the case.
And shortly after.
Stockholm syndrome.
I'm not going to go through the whole Stockholm syndrome, but this is.
There's footage of him using the phrase Stockholm Syndrome with a group of New York City police officers.
At this point, let me suffice to say the Stockholm Syndrome simply means the forming of a relationship.
Of course, the more stress in the situation, the quicker the relationship and the more intense it's going to be.
As far as David King can tell, Harvey is the first person to coin the term yes oh wow so this is the guy mr mr stockholm syndrome himself yeah i i contacted him too oh did you just to get it confirmed i said yep huh and specifically what he would tell police officers in these trainings is you should not trust the hostage The hostage will side with the criminal.
Don't automatically assume they know who the good guys are and who the bad guys are.
You cannot share intelligence with the hostage.
The hostage will tell the criminal criminal everything you tell him.
Wow.
That's like it's not a one-off thing.
It's like I just presume that's true.
Yeah, right.
And, you know, after training, you know, the New York City police officers, Harvey and his team, they train the FBI and then they start traveling all over the place, training other police departments.
Every police agency in the Western Hemisphere and some of the Eastern.
I mean, they train the world.
I mean, they trained 7,000 officers across 1,500 different police departments.
Wow.
It's so interesting that so much of this is a, it's like a cop diagnosis, right?
It's like, it's like law enforcement and, I don't know, the psychologists working with them as the ones defining what this is.
Yeah, totally.
But then in 1974, it leapt out of the police training handbook and into the public consciousness.
There's been a big kidnapping on the West Coast.
The victim is Patricia Hearst.
Thanks to the kidnapping of Patty Hearst.
The granddaughter of the legendary William Randolph Hearst.
So February of 1974, just six months after Stockholm, Patty Hearst, 19-year-old heiress to the Hearst family fortune, is kidnapped by this group called the Symbionese Liberation Army.
Dragged screaming half-naked from her Berkeley apartment.
She's kept in a closet, beaten, and raped.
Then 71 days after the kidnapping, a bank robbery by the SLA.
Two months later, the SLA is robbing a bank in San Francisco and on the security footage from the bank you can see Patricia Hearst in the middle of it all.
The girl in the wig with the automatic rifle was Patricia Hearst.
She appeared to be helping them rob the bank.
Then she actually gave an interview saying that she joined them.
I have been given the choice of one, being released in a safe area or two, joining the forces of the Symbionese Liberation Army and fighting for my freedom and the freedom of all oppressed oppressed people.
I have chosen to stay and fight.
And sort of like with the Stockholm situation, when people heard this interview, they just thought she didn't sound the way that someone who's been kidnapped and beaten should sound.
Yeah.
There's no hint of coercion or anything.
Yeah.
And so some people started to think maybe she's brainwashed.
Other people, to this day, think that she was ideologically aligned with the SLA.
And as the entire nation was trying to make sense of all this,
in June of 1974, I have to give Truman equal time.
Well,
Truman Capote goes on the Tonight Show with Johnny Carson.
Somerset Ma once referred to him as the hope of modern literature.
Super famous writer, like wrote Breakfast at Tiffany's and In Cold Blood.
Fiction, non-fiction writer, probably one of our times.
Would you welcome Mr.
Truman Capote?
He sits down with Johnny Carson and he explains, well, you know, what I think is happening with Patty Hearst is.
But that that thing called the Stockholm syndrome.
You know what the Stockholm syndrome?
A couple of years back.
So he tells the whole original Stockholm story.
They were having continuous sort of affairs
forced in the beginning.
False rumors and all.
These girls refused to testify against them, and one of them is now engaged to this convict and is going to marry him on his release.
That statement hits the news wires, and this totally bogus version version of the Stockholm story just goes viral.
One of the women is waiting for the robber to get out of jail to marry him.
What?
One of the females went on to marry one of the captors.
Suddenly, everybody
is talking about Stockholm syndrome.
The individual is reduced to total helplessness.
And running with this idea that people, especially women, in these sort of hostage or kidnapping situations become attached even romantically to their captors.
There may be a similarity in the Iranian hostage situation and what you refer to as the Stockholm syndrome.
And then through the 80s and into the 90s.
It's a very primitive, almost childlike attachment that develops.
People try using it to explain why some kidnapped kids seemingly never try to escape.
For 18 years, JC Dugard was held by a convicted sex offender.
She developed a bond with her abductor.
Elizabeth Smart, kidnapped from her Utah bedroom in 2002, never tried to run either.
And pretty soon it's getting used to explain cult members, sex workers, victims of sex trafficking, victims of child abuse.
Right.
It's the when you have a hammer, everything looks like a nail kind of thing.
Yeah, totally.
I mean, it's being used to explain things that are not at all like hostage situations.
Most prominently.
Is it reasonable to take what we've learned about Stockholm syndrome, relate it to kind of domestic abuse?
Domestic abuse.
How do you deal psychologically with a a woman who feels like the Stockholm Syndrome tied inextricably to the batterer?
So I think that the media really hooked on to this concept because it was mysterious.
You know, how do these victims get changed in this situation?
Well, here's a really simple explanation.
This is journalist Jess Hill.
I'm the author of See What You Made Me Do.
And Jess says when Stockholm Syndrome is applied to women who are caught in an abusive relationship, it can act as almost a cover for for a much more deeply pernicious idea.
That actually women, they stayed with their abusers because they liked it.
It becomes clear how it draws on a long history of psychological theories that try to explain or maybe even explain away those relationships, going all the way back to the early 1900s.
From Sigmund Freud, who claimed to have discovered that there are these essential forces that drive human behavior.
And according to Freud, all women who were essentially lesser for lacking a penis and envied men for having penises were innately masochistic and unconsciously sought to be punished.
So in the 1940s and 50s, when you had, you know, Freudian theories are really at their peak, social workers who were working with what we'd term battered women,
they believed that women would actually look for men who would abuse them.
Then just says when you get to the 1970s, you start to have a supposedly more modern scientific understanding, drawing on physiological science about fight or flight and learned helplessness, to say that actually women stay in abusive relationships because they are rendered unable to act.
Now, of course, it's an improvement on masochism, where you'd actually feel some pity for the victim instead of just thinking that there's some masochistic harpy, but it still lays the blame on the victim for her abuse.
It's your passivity that drove the perpetrator to actually abuse you in the first place.
And so Stockholm Syndrome comes around, and I think part of why it's so resonant is it ties all of those ideas into a super neat little package, right?
Like, you have elements of like, she's into it, and also she's helpless, and those ideas are kind of just packaged together.
Yeah, it's a cocktail.
It's a cocktail.
All those other ideas.
Yeah, that have been floating around in the culture.
And these days, it's still thrown around by the media in this kind of willy-nilly way.
It comes up in pop pop culture.
Is it in the DSM?
No, actually, it's not.
And it never has been.
And even though it's not in the DSM, you know, in the academic world, it still comes up.
You'll see like a paper here or there that mentions it, or, you know, a psychologist going on TV that talks about it.
And it's still sort of around.
Yeah, oh, yeah.
In curriculum, it comes up.
If you begin to work with law enforcement, it can come up periodically in that arena.
It's just kind of part of the air that you breathe in a certain kind of way.
So, this is Alan Wade.
He's been a therapist for over 35 years.
Specializing in cases of interpersonal violence.
And Alan told me that about eight years ago, he was working for a while in Sweden.
Out of the blue, one of my close colleagues said, Would you like to meet the Stockholm Syndrome lady?
Meaning Christine Enmark.
The woman who's said to have Stockholm Syndrome.
And I thought about it for a minute.
I said, Well, talking to the first person ever said to have Stockholm syndrome is a bit of a rare opportunity.
So I said, okay, sure.
We arranged to meet in a Wayne's coffee shop
in the central part of Stockholm.
So I'm sitting having a cup of coffee and Christine, who I didn't know was Christine, but suspected it might be, tapped me on the arm.
And what does she look like?
Oh, she has blonde hair.
She's very well attired.
Not fancy, but pleasant.
So they sat down and started talking.
And Alan says that right away, Christine, she said, are you interested in Stockholm Syndrome?
And I said, well, honestly,
I'm a little bit unsure about the idea.
And she looked at me with a big smile and said, me too.
So Alan and Christine ended up talking for the next several hours.
One of the things I realized quickly is that none of the world experts on Stockholm Syndrome had ever talked with Christine.
People had been traveling the globe talking about Stockholm Syndrome as experts.
But none of them, apparently, had ever asked her about her experience in the bank.
About the events as they unfolded.
So Alan just started talking to her about it.
Could I ask you this?
Could I ask you that?
And he says that there were these moments in the conversation where it seemed like Christine was still trying to make sense of her own behavior.
She said to me, Why did I volunteer to be the hostage that went with Jana Olson to leave the bank?
Why did I volunteer?
So I asked for more detail about context.
And I learned that there were three other hostages.
Christine talked about these other hostages, Sven and Elizabeth and Brigitta.
And when she said Brigitte's name, she began to tear up a little bit.
And she told me overhearing a phone call that Brigitta had from the bank vault with her husband and said something like, yes, dear,
I'm a hostage in the bank, and I won't be home for dinner.
You're going to have to pick up the girls from school, and they'll be hungry.
I left some fish at the back of the fridge, etc.
So at that moment, I looked at Christine and I said,
were you protecting those little girls by protecting their mother?
And she looked at me with a very
firm expression and said, you know, I had a purpose.
So at that moment, at that moment, the framework of so-called Stockholm Syndrome really fell apart like a house of cards.
So
for Alan, clearly Christine wasn't helpless or weirdly under the sway of these bad men.
She didn't have a syndrome.
She was acting in a way that was rational, that made sense given the situation that she was in.
So it's like even patient zero didn't have the thing.
Yeah.
But now where does that leave you?
Like, what, what do you make of this?
Like, is that just all total BS and is case closed?
I mean, obviously, it's as you said, Christine didn't have Stockholm syndrome.
It doesn't apply to her.
And you can trace, as we have, this whole journey of how this thing that was
started out as a lie becomes warped into this thing that we all know.
And so I guess for a lot of the reporting, I, you know, I've kind of been operating on that assumption.
This is a lie.
This is, there's nothing here.
But as I went through the reporting, I came across accounts of people that, you know, felt something for their captors, felt attached to their captors.
I literally argued with psychologists who were saying,
this is real.
And my patients come into my office experiencing feelings for people that have hurt them.
And I was like, no, you're wrong.
This is a lie.
And I haven't known what to do with it.
I don't know.
I feel like I've even seen this in my own life.
Like, there are people you see, and not just women, men too, who are in situations of domestic violence, or there are people who are in these very complicated, toxic relationships, and they can't get out.
Like,
there is a thing to be explained.
I mean, yeah, true.
And, and, and even when, you know, I go online and go, go poking around in places like Reddit or TikTok.
I need to talk about Stockholm syndrome because right away very real trauma response that can happen called Stockholm syndrome.
You can see that, like, for a lot of people,
Stockholm syndrome in relationships.
You start to sympathize with your abuses.
This thing that
started out as a lie feels like
I'm like
Stockholm syndrome or something.
They're truth that they feel seen in
some way by Stockholm syndrome.
They're self-diagnosing with it.
And you know, under every one of these TikToks, there's comments and comments of people being like, Yes, that is me.
I
not in a not in an ironic, like a silly way, like in a real, like, this is, I have this.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
And honestly, I just felt stuck.
But
after the break, I will tell you about how I got unstuck.
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Yep.
And before the break, you were telling me how stuck you felt and how you didn't even, you weren't even now sure what to think of Stockholm Syndrome.
Right.
So I
did really want to talk to people that have actually been through something like this and are trying to reckon with their own experience.
They make sense of it themselves.
Yeah.
So if there were to be a mess up, can I just pause for a sec and like recollect myself?
Oh my gosh.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So I ended up talking to a couple different people with very different experiences, but I want to start us off with this woman.
Yeah, absolutely.
Grace Stewart.
So I'm originally from the greater Philadelphia area, and I now do a lot of domestic violence advocacy through social media.
I I actually found her on TikTok, but she also has a podcast.
Called Why She Stayed.
And she does one-on-one coaching for people who are in abusive relationships.
And I came into this space just through my own lived experience.
Grace herself was in an abusive relationship for several years.
There was a lot of emotional abuse, sexual abuse.
There's so much.
And one of the things that I noticed in Grace's TikToks about the relationship, which is honestly what made me want to talk to her, is how despite all that, when she was in the relationship, she would have a lot of conflicting feelings about walking away.
Yeah, absolutely.
I think I'm curious if
I asked her, you know, had she ever come across Stockholm Syndrome and what did she think of it as a label or an explanation for her experience?
So yeah, it's an interesting question.
And she told me that she did actually contemplate the term at one point in her relationship.
At the time, so many people just definitely wanted me to get out of it and were putting a lot of pressure on me to not marry him.
Like, please just don't do it.
But I was still very bonded to him.
And I remember sitting in my recliner in my living room, just very disheveled.
I hadn't eaten that day.
I was just so sick with like...
anxiousness.
So sitting there on her couch, Grace says she opened up her computer.
And that's when I searched Stockholm Syndrome.
She says that when she read up on it, she felt relief.
I was like, okay,
this feels like what I'm going through.
Maybe I'm not insane.
And I think having that name for your experience is extremely important in getting free.
Because she says, it helped her start to see where her resistance to leaving and that feeling of being bonded to her ex was coming from.
The best way I can describe it is many victims have amazing instincts and they are really intuitive, but people don't realize how much of domestic abuse is about confusion.
For Grace, it was
confusion about what was even happening.
What if I overreacted and made something out of nothing?
Whether to judge her ex by his good days or his bad days.
Is he the good guy or is he the bad guy?
Is he kind or is he cruel?
Or if maybe
perpetrator?
Am I a narcissist?
There was something wrong with her.
Let me just change this one thing about myself.
Grace says at the time, she wasn't even sure what to call this thing that was happening to her.
I felt like I had nothing to point to, nothing concrete to say, this is what's happening to me.
It's the thick confusion that kept me trapped.
And so when she ran into the idea of Stockholm, it was like, look.
this is what's happening here.
And that was super
allowed me to take a deep breath.
So if someone resonates with the term Stockholm at some point in their journey and it brings them clarity, then okay.
It's not the term I would select as the best one.
I related more to trauma bonding, which is the term that I find more appropriate for survivors, but it's a starting point.
Thinking back to when I was stuck about whether Stockholm Syndrome was true or false, or what,
I think what I heard from Grace is that there is a grain of truth here that matches her experience, which is that
you can feel care or loyalty or empathy or affection for someone who's treating you badly.
But I remember the turning point.
She also told me that the real turning point for her
was when she figured out how to stop.
troubleshooting her own actions and instead put the microscope on what the abuser is doing and kind of unravel their tactics.
What's he doing to make you
doing?
Yeah.
Yeah.
And that's when she started noticing.
They'll inflict pain, then they'll rescue.
All of her ex's tactics
wasn't always telling me I couldn't go see friends or I couldn't see my family.
He would just make those things very difficult for me.
Subtly isolating her.
Or he used to flip cause and effect so much.
He would say, I got him like this.
Shifting blame onto her.
Or even, oh no, that didn't happen like that.
You're crazy.
Plain old gaslighting.
It was about power and control.
And Grace says that when she was able to identify what her ex was doing and how she was responding to it.
For me, that was what opened my eyes.
It really sealed the deal for me.
It really did.
So.
It's really important to know that coercive control.
What's interesting is that when I was talking to Jess Hill, she told me that this shift to to looking at the perpetrator, looking at the abuser,
it's not just helpful for victim survivors like Grace.
It's also helpful for people looking at these kinds of situations from the outside.
When you start to see what the perpetrator does, the behavior of the victim survivor starts to make much more sense.
And not just that, it means that you can do away with terms like Stockholm Syndrome and try to talk about and look at what's going on without the victim blaming or scrutiny.
And like for me, to get to this point in the reporting, it was really exciting because it's like,
okay, here's a way to talk about things that are happening, things that are hard to talk about in a way that doesn't do more harm, you know?
But
I swear to God, in the middle of all this, I sat down one evening and I was watching this sort of true crime documentary about the cult at Sarah Lawrence College.
And I'm watching the people that are joining this cult.
And it was all just so strange and foreign to me that I found myself having this knee-jerk reaction of asking these questions like, oh, why did they do that?
What, like, why didn't they just leave?
Like, why did they do X or Y or Z?
You know, strange thing.
And so, of course, as I'm doing this, I'm like, oh my God, I am still doing the same things, like all of those same impulses to
scrutinize the victim.
And it's like, it just like immediately just slotted right back into my brain.
And like literally in the midst of all this reporting.
So that felt very uncomfortable.
And so I'm sitting there and I'm thinking all this stuff.
And I'm like, honestly, maybe what I need to do is call one of these people.
I'm going to take a sip of this water.
Yeah, do it.
And get used to hearing every detail in such high fidelity.
And so I did.
Okay.
My name is Daniel Barban Lemon.
I live in Los Angeles and I'm 33.
I kind of want to get a little bit into your backstory.
And
I think that this is the conversation that
finally got me where I wanted to be.
Not just like intellectually, but also emotionally.
I recognize that I guess what I'm about to ask is a really big question,
but
you already know what I'm going to ask.
What happened?
Yeah.
Okay.
I went to Sarah Lawrence College.
One of my roommates' dads, Larry Ray,
got out of prison and needed a place to crash.
And we said yes.
And
he started a sort of self-improvement routine with me and my roommates, which seemed fairly innocuous at first.
And
the next summer, he got an apartment in Manhattan and offered me a couch to crash on while I was working in the city.
And I took him up on it.
And all of that devolved over time into abuse, sexual abuse, psychological, physical abuse, coercion, and
ultimately what you would call a cult.
And that averaged around maybe eight people in this apartment in Manhattan.
I was there
for
about two years altogether, and then I left.
And I spent the next five or so years
processing, not believing what had happened, being totally shell-shocked.
And
so about six years after Daniel left the cult, news about it broke.
This is in 2019.
It became a big story about the Sarah Lawrence cult.
And Daniel has since been interviewed about it.
And I mentioned there was a whole documentary about it.
But for those six years, he said he didn't talk to anybody about it at all.
Yeah.
I think just like couldn't really face what had actually happened.
Right.
And I mean, it's like, how do you,
it just was such a crazy thing to say out loud.
It's like you feel like you're constantly trying to prove it both to yourself and to someone, even a sympathetic listener.
It's like you're telling them you saw an alien.
Totally.
It's really, it takes a lot of self-confidence that I don't really like come with out of the box.
No, I get that.
I wish there was one word I could say and it would be fully understood.
But
counterintuitively, actually leaving the situation required letting go.
of a need for an explanation.
I had to accept that I wasn't going to know why this had happened,
how I could justify it to myself or others.
I just needed to listen to my body and leave, or else I felt like I was going to die.
But, you know,
I wish that I could just, I wish that I didn't feel like any of it was my fault, you know?
Everybody who hears a story of a man beating and sexually abusing a bunch of 18 to 20 year olds in an apartment in New York think to themselves, I would have walked out the door.
I mean, I felt myself doing this when I watched the documentary, like knowing everything I know and working on this, I was still just like
searching for
something like, like, what was it about these people, you know, and like catching myself asking that question.
Yeah, I mean, it's fair.
That has been hard for me to navigate too.
There were people who were living in that same house where he was sleeping on the couch and didn't get pulled into the cult.
But, you know, speaking for myself, I was 18
going to college for the first time, had not reckoned with my
neglectful upbringing and my mom's chronic illness and my own struggles with sexuality and just trying to figure everything out and having no guidance.
And that's a great time for somebody who presents as a kind of father figure to show up and offer some relief.
On the other hand, Daniel says, I mean, he knows that his vulnerabilities don't fully explain what happened either.
Like, we all have vulnerabilities.
A lot of people have vulnerabilities and trauma and all of these things.
And it just seems like, you know, you could either scrutinize the victim survivor more and more, or you could look at the pernicious tactics of the perpetrator.
But Daniel feels like both of those things can leave people with the same same picture of the person who is going through the experience.
What people imagine is that you sort of become like a mannequin and someone's pulling the strings as if you're being magically controlled.
And I think that it's so much simpler than that.
I
did things that I might not otherwise do because I was in a situation where that was the seemed like the most sensible option according to the information i had you know
and i was scared like when i lived with larry i remember looking down at my feet and seeing like visible dirt spots because it had been so long since i'd been allowed to shower and now of course that sounds so out of control but you just kind of proceed trying to avoid pain
you know and then you add on top of that all of my friends were there and i watched them do the same things.
We didn't have opportunities for like crosstalk or reality checking.
It's like, you know, him slicing a grape vertically versus horizontally and having me taste it and say that it tasted different, sliced horizontally or vertically.
And I agreed, you know, even now I'm like, I guess this is the oxidization.
There's like more surface area, you know, so it's.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And
on top of all of that, Daniel was was telling me about how at the time he was basically broke in New York City and he'd find himself thinking that maybe things would actually be even worse if he left.
You know, so it's just like the known evil versus the unknown evil and sunk cost.
And
it's all the same factors.
The brain hasn't magically changed.
You know, you're just in a different situation, which I, and I know I'm not ignoring that the situation is crazy and really, really bad, but you still just you only have the same tools and are bringing them to bear and you know the way you make decisions is just with the information you have that's a way of answering that question why didn't you leave and it would be much easier if the answer was just
we developed stockholm syndrome right
I mean, speaking of Stockholm Syndrome, I guess I am curious what you think of it or how you feel about it.
I think that Stockholm Syndrome, it's one in a long line of really easy answers that we offer to ourselves in order to not have to confront complicated and scary questions.
Questions like, you know, is it possible that something like this could happen to me?
Like, like, because if you have those vulnerabilities and this kind of person walks into your life,
then it's like really hard to say what you would do.
I think that's that's the scariest piece of it.
And I think that's what an idea like Stockholm protects us from.
It satisfies our need to be like, well, I would never respond like that.
And the fact is, you don't know how you would respond until you're put in that situation.
And I can tell you, victim survivors, they never thought they'd respond like that either.
And now they're on the other side of that experience.
And they realize things that they never thought they would do, they did under those conditions because it's a fundamentally human response.
I actually think that trauma is unfortunately one of the more normal experiences you can have.
Yes, the facts of what occurred are extreme, but the effects are still the same.
You know, fear and grief and confusion and isolation.
But when people hear Stockholm Syndrome, it's just like it's such a throwaway term.
And I think we should be suspicious of any concept which doesn't invite further curiosity.
I mean, people, if it is a thought-terminating answer and we just say, oh, well, it was Stockholm Syndrome,
anything that ends our curiosity, I think is really bad.
I feel that.
I feel that hard, especially as a journalist, but also if you're, you know, a psychologist, or also if you're a friend, or also if you're a, you know, just someone who watches a lot of cult documentaries.
Like,
I do think that you gotta, you have to want to ask more questions.
Yeah, right.
And I think that if the questions that we were asked was less like, explain to me why you didn't leave, and was more like,
How did you leave?
I'm so glad that you got out.
Can you help us understand
how you did it?
And honestly,
at the end of all of this, just to go back to the beginning for a sec,
I can't help but think about
Christine Enmark, you know, the patient zero of Stockholm Syndrome, and all of the questions that for 40 years nobody asked her.
I always felt that I did something wrong.
I said wrong things.
I said that I was afraid of the police.
I wanted to get out.
I wanted to go with them.
And after this trauma, all the attention has been focused on this.
Instead of looking at what did Yanne do, What did Clark do?
What did the police do?
What did the society do?
You said
not really healthy.
They got into something wrong.
You know, a syndrome.
So I had this 40 years of the feeling of doing something wrong.
All the things that I did was instinct of survival.
I wanted to survive.
I don't think it's so odd.
Thank you for that whole journey, Sara.
Thank you.
And thank you all for listening.
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Sara, do you want to do the special thanks?
Yeah, yeah.
Okay, I should say this episode would not have been possible without Alice Edwards in particular.
She contributed research, reporting, translation.
Also, big, big thanks to Terrence Mickey for letting us use the tape of his conversation with Christine Enmark, to Mimi Wilcox for help with archival audio.
Check out her documentary Bad Hostage, very similar vibes to this episode.
And thanks also to Frank Auchberg, David Mendel, Ruth Raymundo Mandel, Kara Pellegrini, Kathy Ewen, and Yanni Pelica.
Oh,
one more thing before we go, Sara.
Uh, yes.
Do you remember when you produced that story about Zoo's Vei?
Yeah, of course.
The moon-ish object around Venus
that we officially named Zuzve.
And then we learned that Earth has quasi-moons too.
Right.
And then we started a global competition to come up with a name for one of these quasi-moons.
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.
Well, I am here to tell you, and anyone who is listening, that we gathered a bunch of expert people, astronauts, astronomers, celebrities,
high school students.
We had this crack panel who helped winnow down, because we got something like 2,700
name submissions.
Wow.
From like, I think 90 something, almost 100 countries.
And so they winnowed that all down to seven finalists.
So now you and everyone and anyone living on planet Earth can vote for the name of the Quasi Moon and the winner will be the official name that will outlive us all.
That is so crazy, Lethib.
I still am not over how this started with you seeing a thing in your kids.
It's just crazy.
Anyway,
but the fun that I and that we had in naming Zuzve, it's now
we've democratized it and it's it's out there and anyone anywhere can can vote for their favorite.
And the names are beautiful, interesting, and and wait, and and where do you go to vote?
Is there somewhere you can see all the names and stuff?
Is that sort of
the place where you see the names and votes, same place, go to radiolab.org slash moon.
Radiolab.org slash moon.
Voting is open now all the way until january 1st 2025.
uh so yeah this this december uh tell everybody you know and vote yourself and that is really your best chance to make your mark on the heavens ah amazing i'm gonna go vote right now Okay, and while you do that, I will say that this episode was reported and produced by Sarakari with production help from Rebecca Lacks, edited by Alex Neeson.
That's it for us.
We'll We'll catch you next week.
Bye.
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