864. Q&AF: Young Entrepreneur With Big Goals, Taking Out Time For Yourself & Building Company Culture As A Young Leader

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I'm excited. Yeah'm excited yeah yeah yeah i am too man i'm i'm excited hit that boner button don't be a boner hopefully no boners today hopefully no boners i mean like i said i mean we got the questions um but it's gonna be a great time to engage with some real ass fans out there you know and give context to some of these questions yeah i can't give you because i didn't write them you know so yeah um well you want to just do the thing yeah let's do it we should get him another button so it like makes it seem like he's calling ring ring ring you gotta give him a rotary phone is that canned laughter that's good we need that for dj we gotta get a rotary phone bro that'd be fire well here we go first caller this is Daniel let's give Daniel a call hello Daniel can you hear me yes I can hey what's up brother this is DJ hey hey dj how's it going good man you are live on the air i got andy big dog sitting right here yeah what's up daniel how's it going andy good brother so what you got for us today yeah uh so first of all i just want to say thank you both for doing the show i've been listening a little bit over a year and uh it impacted me and me a lot.
So I just turned 20 a few days ago and I have pretty like ambitious goals for my future. And really simply just what would you guys say is the best ways to just maximize my early 20s to just set myself up for long-term success and happiness? Well, I mean, I think that's a great question, dude.
And I think a lot of people struggle with that, especially at your age. You know, you have all different kinds of advice that goes on the internet, telling people, you know, to have fun in their 20s.
And then you got other people that say, take it serious in your 20s. And I think the biggest thing that you need to do, man, as a young man your age is to cultivate the skill of discipline.
Make sure that you are working to become a disciplined human being

because when we have, as you know from listening to the show,

when we have the ability to make the proper decision

that serves our goals long-term,

there's really nothing that we can't do.

Most people do things in their early 20s that really get them off track, okay? One, they party too much. Two, they think they have all the time in the world.
Three, they never work on becoming disciplined. And because of the ability to not make the proper decision, that gets them off track long term.
So if I were talking to myself at 20 years old, I would say, hey, Andy, look here. This is what you got to do, bro.
You got to figure out how you can make the proper decision in the inconvenient circumstances so that whatever plan we lay out, we meaning Andy, they them, right? We lay out, we could stick to the proper choices moving forward and accomplish that plan. You know, most people have dreams that they can never really accomplish, bro, because they don't have the discipline to make the proper decision.
And if you could cultivate that discipline at 20 years old, you're going to be 18 years ahead of where I was brother because I didn't really cultivate that till I was in my late 30s and uh you know once I figured that out and once I started really working on that with live hard and 75 hard lifestyle uh everything even changed for me and I was already doing very well. So that would be the first thing I would do.

And then after that, you know, I'd really do some searching about what it is you think you want. What is it that you do want? Are you asking? Yeah, I'm asking you.
What do you want? So my brother-in-law has a pretty successful business. Nothing compared to you.
But he does really well for himself.

He's in his 30s.

I mean, he's just great overall you know he he makes the money that i want to make one day he's a great father you know he's able to just like you said kind of the discipline part he kind of just built his life to kind of be what he wanted by doing what he wanted but uh yeah i'm kind of like in a analysis. I mean, I have a good job right now, but it's definitely not the dream of any sport.
Well, listen, bro, you know, everything that we do when we're young serves us a purpose, okay? Even if it's not what you want to be doing, you're going to learn lessons at that job, even if it is what not to do or what I don't like doing. And that's valuable as well.
But it sounds like you have an awesome role model ahead of you, which is a great thing. Most people don't have that.
No, they don't. They don't have someone in real life that they can look and see and touch and know.
And bro, I would just, you know, I would stay away from the major mistakes, man. You know, the major mistakes are, you know, too much fun, too many girls, drugs, and too much, too much alcohol.
You know what I'm saying? And, uh, you know, usually they go together, but, uh, but yeah, bro, you know, avoid those mistakes, decide where it is you want to go. You know, most people you're a, I think you're way ahead of the game, brother, because you're already thinking it is you want to go.
Most people, I think you're way ahead of the game, brother,

because you're already thinking about where you want to go and you're willing to take it serious now,

which is going to give you a tremendous advantage.

You're going to hear a lot of your friends,

and they're going to say, hey, man, you need to take it easy,

and you're working too hard, and you've got these big dreams. Bro, those people, people when you're 40 are going to be doing the same shit that they're doing now so it's super important that you understand that you're way ahead by just being aware that i want a certain kind of life so take some time redefine that like you know get more focused in on what it is you want work a plan backwards from there on how to get there, and then just start chipping away at it, brother, you know, there's really no secret to this, it's just making a decision about what it is you want, forcing yourself to go, and figuring it out along the way, you know, when I was your age, dude, I always thought that people were going to come along, and sort of, you know, give me permission.

I thought like, you know, some of these successful guys that I looked up to were going to, you know, call me on the phone or tell me I was qualified or give me permission to do the thing. And, bro, I'm going to tell you that never comes.
And you don't need it. Okay.
You have every right and every available skill set available to you

To build whatever it is you want and there's no there's no gatekeeping there's nobody keeping you out bro you just got to go and if you go now you're going to be way ahead i mean that's when i started i started when i was 19 so you know i didn't have anybody telling me we could do this they all told was fucking crazy. So I would, I would work on developing that discipline and then use that discipline to execute against that plan of where you want to go, bro.
And really it is that simple. There's no magic.
There's no luck. It just appears to be luck to people who haven't been watching you work.
So, um, so yeah, man, that's what I would do if I were you. Yes, that makes perfect sense.
All right, brother. Daniel, appreciate you, man.
Thanks, Daniel. Your first caller ever on Real AF, bro.
Really? I was the first one? Yeah, first one ever. That's awesome.
Well, no, I seriously do appreciate everything I do. I'm always, I'm always tuned in.
I'm excited for MFCO to come out. That'll be huge.
When you had the first part of it, um, I was, I was still a little kid, so I didn't know about it, but now I i'm aware so i'm excited for it to come out all right brother well listen dude have a great day and uh let's get this going right now right yes sir thanks so much andy and dj all right yeah yeah that was good hey i like I didn't know what to expect. It's kind of like that first time, you know? I don't know how this is going to go.
All right. Well, we got a little longer than my first time.
That was good. Sure, it was longer than his first time.
Hey, listen, Daniel. I love it, bro.
You got it all figured out. You're 20 years old.
You're already thinking about it. You're not worried about all the crazy distractions.
And it's good and reassuring to hear that from a young man. It was good that he actually had somebody with him.
You know what I'm saying? Like, I think that's one of the biggest. Yeah.
Like, if you call it a setback, I guess you could call it a setback that, like, young people face now is like. Yeah.
Bro, nobody around him is fucking really doing it. Yeah.
And, a lot to that man just being able to witness it yeah even if you don't know the person just being able to see it close yeah you know what i'm saying um well it makes sense why so many people fall for these fucking gurus now yeah they don't have nothing else to look at 100 percent they need real people next to them yes 100 that is why because they've never seen it in real life and dude i was very fortunate to know uh i knew i knew of two people that i was able to like see their life right um and and being able to touch and see and know that those are real people that did real things that was a big deal for me

because it validated like you know i have enough confidence in myself to understand like well for the most part if if that person can do it i could do it too for sure you know and i think that's that's where we we need to understand and to have paralysis of analysis and over analyzing Daniel is very common bro

and even it's

it's common even if you're experienced, you can get caught up in it. I can get caught up in it.
You know, we want to analyze, analyze, analyze, analyze to make sure that we're going to do the best thing while somebody else is just starting to execute and they figure it out as they go. And that's the game of entrepreneurship, man.
You got to go and really life, too. You got to go and then you figure it out as you go and that's the game of entrepreneurship man you got to go and really life too you got to go and then you figure it out as you go yeah i love it man i love

it we got next caller technically we're calling them i mean technically so we're gonna figure

this out we're gonna call our next person yeah let's get chris on the line uh here we go

hello chris chris what's up buddy this is dj the line. Here we go.

Hello, Chris.

Chris, what's up, buddy? This is DJ.

Oh, man. What's up, man?

What's going on, man? We got Andy here with you.

What's up, Chris? Oh, no. For real?

Yeah, what's up, dude? Oh, man.

Yeah, this is his direct cell phone number.

It's a call at a time.

This is crazy. Oh, I will.
I will. I know where to call.
What's going on though, man? Oh, my God. Damn, this is surreal, man.
You don't even know. I've been listening to you guys since MFCEO.
I found you during COVID, all that bullshit. And it changed my life, man.
You know, I started earning a lot better than my job. I started getting focused.
I knew what the real was. Thank God.
At the time it really helped me get through a lot of the bullshit out there. And just navigate life and my family.
So thank you guys for that. Bro, you did that.
You did that. Yeah.
What you got for us today? What's the question man my question is how do I take time for myself without feeling guilty about it um I just struggle with this you know as a dad and a provider I feel like you know even when I sit down on the couch after a long day or if I want to chill and go and do something like in my mind I still hear that voice like, you should be doing this. Hey, you need to get up and do that.
Hey, someone's got to take that out. There's always something.
I don't know how to kind of be okay with putting me first. I think that's my question.
Yeah, dude, listen, I think anybody who's driven and has massive amounts of responsibility struggles with this as well if they actually care. And the reality is, dude, is, you know, you got to think about it like this.
If you're on an airplane and something happens and the masks fall out of the top of the airplane, what do they tell you to do? They tell you to put the mask on yourself first and then help everybody else around you. And the reason for that is, is because if you're incapacitated, you can't help anybody.
So you have to think about that and expand that thought process out across your life. Okay? You're doing everything that you can, it sounds like.
You know, if you were just sitting around and, you know, being a deadbeat and not doing shit, I'm going to assume that's not the case. But if you were just doing that, you know, we'd have another problem.
But you wouldn't be feeling I don't think you'd be feeling the way you do if that's what was going on. So we have to understand that, like, dude, sometimes you have to be selfish to be selfless.
All right. And what that means is we got to take care of ourselves.
We've got to make sure that we make time for ourselves to develop mentally, physically, keep those things fine-tuned. Uh, and you know, having some time to ourselves is a very big portion of that, uh, because that's the time where we get to audit and the time where we get to, you know, think and analyze and, you know, decompress.
Yeah. When we're in the heat of every, all of our obligations, you know, it can be very difficult to take that time to think about what's next or what actually needs to be done or if something needs to change.
And what that could create, brother, is a spiral, you know, where your life is just spiraling and you have no control at all. So, you know, I, I, I would start accepting it right now that you need that time.
It's not a, it's not a luxury. It's something that's required and it should be part of your routine.
And, uh, just like, like you know everybody else in the world you know we have to understand that you know while you're carrying a lot of load on your back dude you're still going to need to have that time and start looking at it as an accessory to what you're doing not something that you're taking away from what you're doing. Does that make sense? Yeah.
Yeah, yeah. I see that.
I can see that now. It's just a shift of perspective.
I guess it's just, you know, the inner voice in my head just keeps kind of like, hey, man, you should be doing this. You should be doing that.
I can't relax. Well, listen, first of all, there could be worse things.
All right. There could be,

you could have nothing going on up there like most people. All right.
So, uh, the fact that,

you know, you're overstimulated a little bit, man, you know, that that's even more,

I think the reason why you need to make that a priority, dude, because at the end of the day,

you know, even the most hard and disciplined people are going to need that time. They're going to need it.
So, yeah, I think you're right. I think it's a perspective switch.
I think it's starting to look at it as it's required instead of its icing on the cake. And I think that will help alleviate some of that guilt.
Yeah. You know, the other thing, too, dude, is do you use the power list as a daily tasks tool yeah i do i do it every morning or every night than the day before well remember dude once you get those five critical tasks done the rest of that time is to be used living your life you know what i'm saying that's the purpose of.
The purpose of it is so that you can be successful and continue to move forward while not having to do what all the gurus say, which is work 27 hours out of 24 every day. Right.
Right. So just remember, there's only so much we can do in a day.
And once we do those critical tasks, you know, the rest of our life is meant to be lived in the rest of that time.

Yeah, that's powerful. Thank you.

Well, I mean, I appreciate you, man.

What do you what do you think, bro?

Yeah, no, I think you're right.

I think, well, what's it all for if we're not enjoying the journey? Right.

I guess, you know, it's just yeah, I think I think you're right.

I think it's, you know it's just yeah i think i think you're right i think it's you know you put in the work so you can reap the reward i think just maybe a mental shift i need to make that like you can enjoy the fruits of your labor where you don't have to feel like okay i still got to do this okay well we got to get home because i got to. Like, be in the moment probably is something I'm trying to tell myself right now.
Yeah. And, yeah, not rush through.
You don't want to become the guy that works all the time and lives no life. You know what I'm saying? Right.
So keep that in mind. The purpose of what we're doing in our lives here is not just to work, work, work, work, work it away.
It is to work so that our life is at a higher quality that we want.

And as an ambitious person, as somebody who wants to be successful, you know, sometimes that can get clouded.

You know, it gets clouded for me, bro.

So just remember, you got to take that time for yourself.

And, dude, honestly, if you're having trouble, add that onto your power list as one of the tasks that you need to do.

You know what I mean?

Until that becomes a habit.

Yeah, yeah.

Yeah, I'm going to do that.

All right, Chris.

Oh, yeah.

Anything else for us, bro?

Dude, I mean, you know, keep shining the light, boys.

I mean, you know, thank God we made this shift. So I have a lot of hope for our future now.
I mean, I was worried there for a minute. I was getting ready.
But, you know, still want to see the wood chipper out there. That's my last wish.
That's the only thing I missed. Remember, dude, that's going to come down to men like you and I and all of us listening here.
So you're doing good work, brother, and we appreciate it. Thank you, guys.
Thank you. I appreciate the call.
I mean, this is really precious. I appreciate you guys.
All right, Chris. Take care, bro.
All right. Thank you, Andy.
Thank you, DJ. See you, brother.
All right. Dude, I was just thinking, too.
I feel like a lot of people, because it's like, dude, we live in this world where it's just two extremes. It's either work all fucking day or play all day.
You know what I'm saying? I think a lot of people have issues with that piece, too, where it's like, well, I'm in fear if I relax even just a little bit. I lose that momentum.
I get really upset with the way that it's presented in entrepreneur culture because it is both. It's one or the other.
I work five minutes a day and make $50 million a minute, or I work my, you know, 27 hours of 24 and you can't keep up with me cause I'm a fucking machine, which demoralizes everybody. So there, there's a, there's a middle ground, which is the truth.
And the truth is this, if you execute on your critical tasks over and over and over again, consistently, and you use the powerless method, which is available for free at episode 16 on the audio feed. Okay.

It's called Win the Day. It describes my entire productivity method.
I have an app getting ready to drop on this too, by the way, so that you guys can just use it, which is, it's fucking awesome. But the main thing that we have to understand is the reason that we do all these things is so we can have a life.
And as, you know, let's say you're an entrepreneur, you know, you're gonna have a little bit less of a life or you're gonna have to make the business part of your life. That's just reality, you know? Like we talk about here on the show, the more you want, the higher the price to pay.
And that's just natural order. Everybody knows that it's that way in almost every area of life.
So we can't, you know, we can't forget that the reason we do all these things is so that we can actually have a life that we love and that we enjoy and that we're fulfilled by. And, um, you know, that looks different for everybody, but I can tell you, you know, Chris, you know, I'll tell you this, dude, like, you know, I don't show my whole life every single day,

but I promise you once those five tasks are done for me,

I'm in complete fuck off mode.

Yeah, like.

Well, some days you don't get that though.

Yeah, some days I don't ever get it, right?

Some days it's till 11, 12, one o'clock in the morning.

It was last night. I was doing shit till 1 a.m.
Some days, you know, it's I'm done by 11 a.m. You're done by noon, right? Yeah, and dude, you'll see me smoking a cigar at 12.30.
You know what I'm saying? So we have to understand that. And, like, dude, I could tell you from being around all these people, like, all these people on the Internet, I know almost all of them.
And, yeah, there's a few that, you know, really do it the way they say they do it. But most of these guys, they're fluffing it up for the Internet, okay? Like, people, you should not, I guess what I'm trying to get to is you should not feel fucking guilty for having some time every day to live.

I mean, that's the point of doing this.

Yeah, 100%, man.

100%.

Well, we got another one.

Yeah.

On to the next.

Hello.

What's up, Joe?

How's it going?

Yeah, we're live, baby.

We got a big Andy dog right here. What's up, brother? Hey, how's it going we're live baby we got a big handy dog right here what's up brother hey how's it growing doing good doing good so what's up man what we got what you got for us yeah so i work in a health care facility and i'm successful in getting rid of contract agency staff my main goal now is get my overtime down.
I'm spending about 100 hours a week on overtime. I did a wage analysis and we're averaging about $5 an hour lower than all of my competition.
I brought this up to my corporate. They are interested in hearing that.
They told me, you got out of agency, figure it out out so um those are the hands i'm dealt so i'm focused on engagement and culture my so far i've been doing monthly cookouts uh town hall meetings with raffles um different competitions with the staff i have an anonymous box for um staff that don't feel comfortable talking um in about any issues. Employee of the month and $5 gift cards for staff members that receive positive Google reviews.
What are some other strategies I could implement to help compete with these higher paying competitors? Well, look, first of all, when you make the atmosphere, I think you're on the right track, by the way, when you make the atmosphere fun and rewarding and, you know, something that people want to be a part of, you can you can overcome that issue that you have with the wage being less. however it it's going to take more than, you know, just doing a cookout or giving a, you know, a special gift card for a review or something like that.
What we have to do is we have to get clear on what the mission is for these people. All right? And then reward them based around what the mission is and how they accomplish the mission instead of talking to them about the money, all right? There's an old saying, people will work for money, but they will kill for recognition.
But the recognition has to be genuine and it has to be real and it can't come off as corny or we're just trying to do this fake culture to appease you. It has to be real.
And to make a real culture, the culture drivers of the department or of the business need to make sure they're building real relationships with the people that they want to buy into the culture how many people are we talking about here i have a total staff of 130 and on average i have 40 to 45 staff members in my building at a time okay do you know all these people by name i don't and that's I've identified that as a massive area that I need to improve on. Like I talk to them, but I need to get more in depth with my communication with them.
A thousand percent. Okay.
You got to know who they are. You got to know what, what their story is.
And you have to build a personal connection with these people and then facilitate an environment for them to build a personal connection with each other. That might look a number of different ways.
Okay. But how it's really going to look is you guys spending time together, uh, in a genuine way.
So when we think of, and really dude, and I know you're in healthcare and this might not suit what you're doing, but the quickest way to build camaraderie and teamwork and culture is through mutual suffering, meaning, you know, we work out together or we go on a run club or we do something like that. I don't know if that's a real thing and what it is that you do or not, but I would think along those terms because bonding happens in uncomfortable situations.
And if you want a strong culture, the quickest way to do it is to create intentional situations where people get uncomfortable together because that creates mutual respect. It's vulnerability.
People learn to see each other as equals, not as positions of power inside of, you know, a power structure ecosystem of a company. And you end up having tight relationships form from that.
Some companies do that in different ways. You know, they do social functions.
It sounds like you're really trying hard to find out what that is, but at the core of that, bro, it's going to be you making sure that you know who these people are, having regular conversations with them, making sure that you're checking in on them personally. And this is really what separates great culture from, you know, fake culture, right? Every locker room of every losing team ever has a sign in it that says, we stand for this, and we go out and do that, and, you know, we play hard or whatever.
But the difference between the good teams and the bad teams is that the good teams actually spend time together cultivating that guideline of what the mission is and what the values are so do you have core values established does your company have that my company does not I've actually been working with my directors on building internal values because my company's not involved to a stance where they're going to stop me as long as those core values are what most companies would want in the core values okay and. And I base, I base my structure off of first forms core values for my rough draft.
Okay. That's fine.
Um, I would encourage you to analyze those core values and make sure that they align with who you are as a person, because it's, it's impossible to live those core values if they're not authentic to the leaders of the value driving position, which is you. So, you know, take some time, reflect on those, make adjustments where you need to make sure that they're authentic.
Set an overall mission for what, you know, your team here is trying to do. And remember, this is not our mission is to make money.
You guys being in the healthcare business, your mission, you know, how would you describe your mission to me? My mission is to help these people that come into my rehab facility, give back to their highest level of care, because I don't want to see them living inside of a healthcare facility their whole life. I want them to get back out onto the real world.
And then we'll be there for them when they're ready to come back. But let's get you back to your highest level of function.
There you go. I mean, dude, that's extremely noble mission.
That would be easy to get people to rally behind. Okay.
Because what you're actually doing is you're giving people their life back. All right.
Nobody wants to come into a healthcare facility and stay there their whole life. So stressing that importance over and over and over again of how important it is for us to do our jobs, to make sure that we're giving people their life back, because here's the reality, dude, people are tired of working for a paycheck.
They want to work for a purpose. They want to work for something that matters.
And the more that you can articulate that and build that, the more buy-in you're going to get from the team. And honestly, the more fulfilled you're going to be, the more fulfilled they're going to be.
And through that fulfillment, the business will offer a better product, which will, you know, naturally increase revenue and profitability as long as whoever's making those decisions about profitability can do math okay so um you know i i i commend you for where you're at it sounds like he cares oh fuck yeah bro i mean you can clearly yeah i've been listening since 15 so like i've literally structured my whole core values and just my upbringing on the podcast. So I try to implement that in my facility.
How old are you? 28. Okay.
And how old are the people on your team roughly? They're about in their 40s and 50s. Okay.
That might be a little bit of a challenge just because they're, you know, you're the young guy trying to do the new thing. But the way you get those people to buy in, man, is to say things like this.
Because this is true. Hey, look, guys, you guys got into this industry to make a difference.
That's why you're here. You're not here for a paycheck.
You're here because you care about these people. And you want to get them back out doing what they do in life.
And let's get refocused on why we're here. This is why we do this.
what makes us happy on the inside you know i if it were me i'd ask him i say how many of you guys get excited when we see somebody go back out on the street and live their life and they're all going to raise their hand and just get them realigned with that mission and that purpose and then learn to communicate when you correct and when you guide

in line with that purpose. And then when you do correct, you know, correct in terms of what the value system is, right? Hey, Bob, this is why we don't do this this way.
You know, this goes against our core value of X and this is why that's important. And dude, if you do just those things, you're going to be way, way, way further ahead than most people.

And then build your reward system around cultural ideals, not necessarily performance, if that makes sense. Okay.
Yeah, I understand what you're saying. Yeah.
Because my goal, like, personally, my goal is to help CNAs go to nursing school if they want to. I just promoted a CNA that's like a top performer to a director position.
I was like, hey, let's try this out. This building's meant for new upcoming directors.
So that's like my personal goal. One of the things I guess I could – Go ahead.
One of the things I think I could really focus on is talking to the CNAs and finding out who wants to go to nursing school and helping them navigate the process of applying to one of the nursing schools in our area. And especially navigating the financial aid part so that way they don't end up with a ton of debt coming right out of nursing school.
And applying for grants and just other ways I can invest, I guess, is one idea I have. Brother that you're hitting on a very important aspect of culture building.
And which is they need to know that you care and you should look at it as here's what I tell the people in my companies. I say, look, dude, I'm teaching this because whether you stay or whether you go, you need to know this skill.
All right. And if you end up going and moving on to something else, I want you to look back on your time here and say, that's where I learned the most.
And so I take pride, a lot of pride in developing people, making sure they're learning skills. And when these people start to understand that you actually care about them, then they really buy into the culture and you start to get the team to really move the direction that you're looking at to move it.
So, I mean, bro, honestly, it sounds like you're right on the cusp of really putting this together and making a really good recipe for your own culture. And I think you've got a good framework and a good idea of how to do it.
Just keep these tips in mind, man. And, you know, and just keep at it, dude.
A good culture takes time. You know, you're going to have people that are going to wash out because they don't fit to the evolving culture.
But as those people wash out, the new people that come in that learn that you're trying to help them get their career together, get their life together, those people are going to be very grateful for that culture. So just keep that in mind as you go, brother.
It sounds like you're doing really good stuff. Perfect.
Thank you so much. Yeah, bro.
All right, Joe. Appreciate you, brother.
Thank you. Yeah, I was just thinking about that, too.
I don't want to pop pop the bubble right but like what about the people that don't want to get on the board like they well i mean look that's the natural occurrence of business okay people don't like to adapt and they don't like change especially when they're a little bit older um they're set in their ways and you know they think they it's an ego thing they think they know well you you know But you know what you knew From X amount of years ago Things are changing Things have to evolve This isn't the 1980s Where we just you know Had a price and people came in and paid it And we didn't give a fuck This is real shit And there's so many options For people to produce income for themselves that if you want to collectivize a group to accomplish a mission, you have to remember that they could probably be making more money doing something else. So the mission has to be real and the mission has to matter and it has to be genuine.
It can't be made up. It be some you know fucking abstract bullshit you the leadership of the the organization or the department or the team whatever we're talking about the church whatever right has to be genuinely bought into that mission they can't smoke screen people and say oh I really you know care about this and then not really care about it because all their people are going to see it's going to come across in the culture people won't buy in it'll be inauthentic and you you actually end up with something worse than doing nothing because what will happen is people who have been either you know customers of yours or uh employees of yours will leave and be like yeah bro that's that's all bullshit they out in public.
They don't do any of that shit. Joe's full of shit.
Yeah, it has to be. It has to be lived on the inside, and that starts with the leadership.
And that doesn't mean you're going to be perfect, but that means you have to make a really strong effort like everybody else. So getting culture aligned, you know, that's something that literally, you you know like if a company wanted to pay for that it would cost them seven figures for someone to realign their culture it's a very valuable in-depth skill that I could talk about and teach about for probably a week straight 12 hours a day but uh that's the gist of it of what we covered here with joe and if

you're struggling with the same thing you know i would just keep all those those little things in mind 100 man extra sauce we got one more man yeah one more what a call another call okay yeah we can do one more all right here we go last call lucky caller number four hello

hey jeryl and this is dj

hey dj Lucky caller number four. Hello, this is Gerilyn.

Hey, Gerilyn, this is DJ.

Hey, DJ, how's it going?

I'm good, how are you?

I'm good.

Well, I got Twisted Steel over here.

How are you?

I'm good.

How are you, Andy?

Good, good.

Well, how can we help you today?

So, did you read the whole message, or should I just kind of start from the get-go? No, he has not seen your question. He is flying blind right now.
It's all on you. Cool.
All right. So just to give you a little background, 30 years old, female, kind of in Dallas, Texas.
Been here for about 10 years now after my undergrad.

Originally from California and then did my undergrad in Iowa

and moved to Texas straight after.

Sorry?

No, I was saying sorry.

Sorry to hear that.

Okay.

He was telling one of his horrible jokes.

Yeah, they are pretty bad.

See?

Thank you. horrible jokes yeah i they are pretty bad thank you um so anyways i am just kind of at a crossfit right now i like texas i'm happy i moved here after college but don't know if this is the you know geographical spot for me it's pretty flat and, and I just miss mountains and nature and all that.
Um, so I, my issue though, is that I love my career. Um, I have a really great job here, great company and great people.
Um, so I'm just trying to figure out what the next step is and, um, make my move. So question is, you know, how do I weigh the comfort and growth of a solid career against the desire

to live somewhere that feels like home?

Take the label, I'm single

and it's quote unquote easy

or stay put and keep building with a company

I respect and could see a long path in,

even if that means sacrificing family convenience

and a place that doesn't really fit my lifestyle. Let me ask you this.
What line of work are you in? I work in financial services. I work for a private equity firm, but I work on the operations side.
So long term would love to kind of see, you know, something in that C-suite spot operationally, but it's pretty open okay well look you kind of already understand the choices you have you have a choice where you can stay somewhere where maybe you don't feel uh is where you want to be necessarily your whole life but you've got a great career and then you are weighing the option of moving somewhere else and sort of starting over, um, with the skillset that you've earned, right. Uh, not, not starting over, but you know, starting over.
Um, I think, you know, I think when we weigh these decisions, if you would ask me this 10 years ago, I would have told you that you've already got a lot of progress, maximize your career, make sure that you get everything you want out of it. And maybe that is the right answer for you right now.
But we have to understand also that there is more to life than our career.

I personally value my career

as one of the main, most meaningful things that I do.

I find a lot of value in it for myself,

a lot of fulfillment for myself.

I feel good about what I do and I like it a lot.

And when I'm honest with myself, is there other places I would like to live? Yeah, for sure. But I've made the choice to stay here for that reason.
So I can really relate to your question. Fast forward 15 years from 30 to 45, which is where I am.
I might give you an answer and say, hey man, you know, you're still young enough to go live the life exactly on your terms and what you want to do. And you've developed a tremendous skill set at where you're at.
And I don't think you should be afraid of moving on to something to, you know, a place where you could see yourself living and enjoying and enjoying the other parts of life besides your career. So I think it just depends, man.
It depends on, you know, is, and by the way, is there not an opportunity for you to do better in your career at one of these other places? I think it would be open. I, you know, have a really, like I said, great company.
They are very supportive. And the great thing about my line of work is we do have a lot of connections, especially since we work with a lot of companies.
And so there's an opportunity there to move that somewhere else. And I think that they would be supportive about it.
But, you know, it is taking a gamble. I really, you know, appreciate the fact that my company, the people here really challenge me intellectually.
And I, you know, frankly, that's hard to find. Dude, it really is.
It really is. So that's my fear.
I am young enough that I, you know, know that this is a time where I have this flexibility, but at the same time, like I said, I'm single, I'm young. Like if I'm going to make that move right now, it's going to be easy versus starting a family and then trying to uproot them and move it to where I'd rather be.
Do you think that if you don't make the move that you're going to always regret it? I think I'm pretty, I, you know, I think I make the best of where I'm at. So I can't see myself holding myself to this regret.
I've, you know, picked up and moved several times at this point in my life, you know, so starting over doesn't scare me. But it is, it's just a gamble.
It's a gamble of moving somewhere that, you know, I could see myself really moving up in this specific company but then just in general like they would support kind of every aspect of me and to rewrite that script somewhere else can be difficult um but yeah there's just I just don't have any ties here all of my family is left do you think it's the reason that you

want to move is because you're in the habit of picking up and moving I have thought about that um to a degree that could be it you know right now I'm just in a stale place aside from just my job so it could be a factor of that

but I think I moved here

specifically with that in mind. And that's why I ended up in Texas.
Because it doesn't really fit my lifestyle. I'm, you know, I'm over my party days, there's just not a lot to do here on the weekends, outside or just in general.
And so I'd rather be in a place where I can actually, you know,

enjoy the quality of life. I think you're answering your own question here.
Okay. Here's

what I hear. I think you've developed a tremendous skillset where you're at.
I think you're going to be equipped to succeed wherever you go. I think that you are young enough to make the change with the least amount of friction and life disruption.
And it sounds to me that, you know, the lifestyle that you're after is not going to be found where you are. And that's going to dictate a lot of our happiness.
So, you know, from what I'm hearing and not knowing anything other than this five minute conversation we've had, it sounds like, you know, you should really consider making a switch now so that you're not in a situation later where you're like, shit, I wasted all this time and I could have been climbing mountains and kayaking and, you know, skiing and doing all this stuff that you want to do. and and and then the other thing is too is if you're in an area like that you're probably much

more likely to find someone that is also into those things that you're going to jive with and, and, and connect with and, and build a life with. So it, you know, it's probably the more difficult thing.
And I found, I found in my life that when I'm presented with two choices, that the more difficult one is usually the right one. So that's, that's what I'm hearing from you and knowing nothing else.
So. Yeah.
I appreciate that. Yeah.
Yeah. You're not wrong.
Well, I just wanted to say that. Here's what's holding you back, dude.
I think what's holding you back is, and tell me if I'm wrong, but, you know, having to start from scratch in your career. And there's options here.
You could talk to your company about remote positions. You could talk to your company about working in a company that's vertically integrated with them.
There's lots of ways to keep that. And I agree, you know, it's hard to find good places to fit in.
And you know what, dude, who's to say you couldn't move for three years and say, you know what, I was, I liked it there better. And you could come back.
I'm sure they would take you back. So for sure.
Gerilyn, I do want to say, I saw your comment about your movie suggestion. What? She said Interstellar was terrible.
I thought it was terrible. Yeah.
What is wrong with y'all? It was terrible. It's a great movie.
The fuck you talking about? It's a great movie. All right.
Well, hope you figure out your life. Well, listen, I think this is a tough decision that lots of people struggle with.
And you'd rather struggle with it at 30 than you would at 45 or 50. So, you know, we only live once.
It's, you know, making money and having a career in the company is very, very important. Having financial means is very important.
But at the end of the day, you know, we have to be happy and we've got to be a place that we want to be in doing the things that we want. Because dude, at the end of the day, we're, it would be arrogant for us to assume that we have unlimited opportunity to do the life the way that we want it.
We just don't. And a lot of people get to to that they get to an age of you know 50 60 70 and they're like fuck i wasn't doing anything of what i wanted and uh you know and at that time to change it you're talking about a massive life-altering fracture that usually has to occur so um that's that's my take you know i can't tell you what, but, or I can only tell you what I think, but what I'm hearing from you is that you're asking for permission to go do this.
And I personally, like if we were friends, which I guess we are now, uh, I would tell you to go, go out there and do it and don't be afraid. And I think you're going to, you're going to be rewarded by that.
Can I ask you, would you would you you know if you had the same situation with a guy that you know is a little bit more um professionally driven would you give him the same advice it just depends it depends on it depends if he was if there was a guy saying the exact same thing that you're saying and and I could hear in his voice that he's not happy where he's at. Yeah, for sure.
I mean, I don't, I don't think I would, you know, I think it's important for all of us to be able to financially take care of ourselves. I don't think that that's, you know, exclusive to, to anyone's gender.
the more financial control and the more career security that we have the less we depend on on other people and i think that always gives us the freedom to live our life on our terms so i mean no i i would give someone the same advice that was a guy yeah i can hear it dude like i can hear it can you hear it i can't yeah you want to go you know what why don't you take a couple weeks off and go do that stuff and like you know you know regular regular trips do a lot you know what i mean uh you get away for a week or two weeks you know it could it could scratch that itch too maybe you just need a vacation yeah yeah no i do i i might like they're very flexible and i'll take off and kind of whatever go remote off the mountain but it is yeah yeah you guys are saying the same thing it's clear that that's kind of the next step for me yeah my my thing for you is just to make sure that it's not a grass is greener on the other side thing you know um when we're in when we're in it and we're living it, it doesn't matter how good it is. We're always looking at how things could be.
And when we look at how things could be, and we focus on how things could be, we lack the appreciation for how things are, even if things are exactly how we want them to be. So I would just make sure, you know, that this is why I asked you, do you want to move Because you're in the habit of moving Because like for me Like I could tell you This is just reality Like if I live in the same house For five or six years I start getting stir crazy I need a new I need a new I need a new routine And a new change of pace And a new visual aesthetic To look at and live in.
And so I understand what that's like. And I've had to really adjust to where I live now because I found myself starting to want to move and do other things and live in other places, even though it's not a different city.
But then when I think about it, I'm like, why would I want to do that? I got everything that I want here, you know? And so it's, I would just make sure that you're not just bored. And, uh, because eventually do, we're going to get bored with everything, right? Like if we, if we move to the mountains, the mountains has become our has become our day-to-day uh life and eventually we don't even notice it anymore you know when i first bought the house i live in uh i remember i went to talk to the guy who owned it the first the first day i went and saw it in person and i couldn't believe it dude i was like this is i was telling him his name was jay i like, this is the most fucking incredible house I've ever seen in my life.
Like, and I asked him, I'm like, why are you selling it? And he was like, I don't see it anymore, dude. And I'm like, what do you mean? He's like, I don't see it anymore.
He's like, it's just my house. And he's like, I don't appreciate it the way that I should.
And I just feel it's time to move on because I'm used to it. And,

you know, sometimes that's, that's what we need. Sometimes we don't need to move across the

country. Sometimes we need to move across town.
So, you know, you got a lot to think about and

I'm not probably making it worse, but at the end of the day, man, you know, you've really got to

understand that, you know, when you die, you're, you're going to feel a certain way about your life.

And I think being in a scenario and living a lifestyle that you feel called to live is going to be an important part of that.

It's a great way to put it.

Yeah.

Awesome.

Well, thank you so much. I appreciate it appreciate it you're welcome good luck with the decision watch understelle yeah and hey i i uh no it's terrible um i've met a handful of your first form crew they're awesome by the way so i just wanted to shout out to them thank you yeah we we are uh i feel i feel every single day it's just like what you said about your company.
Every single day I'm here, I feel fortunate and blessed and extremely excited to come here because I am around great people and they do challenge me and they do fulfill me in friendship ways. ways and you know there's just there is a lot to be said for that so i understand that um

i feel like i get to come to work with the best people on the planet so i i understand that part of of where you're at too it would be hard to leave all right yeah it is it will be definitely but i appreciate y'all thank you so much all right thank you yeah i think that's a that's a that's a core piece which you mentioned too on just even just the gratitude part like I try to tell myself too like there was a point in my life where I wanted to be exactly where I'm at no shit I prayed for it yeah I think that goes for most people like dude like that's that's a very very important piece that people forget man like yeah the grass ain't always green but you asked green, but you asked for this. Yeah.
You are where you wanted to be. Yeah.
What if you asked for something bigger? Right. Something to think about.
Yeah. That's real shit.
You know, we tend to get what we ask for. Yeah.
That's real, man. You know, you might as well ask for everything you actually want, not just half of it.
You know, I don't know if you heard it, but in my opinion, it sounded like in her voice, she felt like she wanted to do it and just needed some permission to go. And, you know, unfortunately when we're 30, you know, and older, you know, really people don't give us permission to do these things.
We've just got to believe in ourselves. And, you know, she's got a skill set that she spent the last, the last you know 10 12 years building and uh that's going to be valuable anywhere but the one thing that i'm concerned about for her is you know she does like all the people she works with and like she said that's very rare and you know if you go out and you know if i were to go right now move to fucking vale which I love Ve uh you know i would never ever ever be able to replicate the amount of relationships and friendships and camaraderie and team that i have here it would be impossible and that would be the price of moving there yeah so there's a trade-off yeah it's a big trade-off too bro you know because as frustrated as i can get when i walk through the doors here dude it changes my mood and i feel better and i like being here and the people here matter to me and um that would be that would be i couldn't do that i couldn't otherwise i would already done it you know that's real man so that's real well guys andy yeah first call into the books i thought it was.
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