The Most Insane Live Stream Ever Made | Episode 74

Emergency episode, everyone, because the first live birth was just live streamed on Twitch and people online are debating whether this is basically Black Mirror or the pro family content that the world needs to see.

And I have thoughts.

So a streamer that goes by the name Fandy and her husband Adam welcomed their daughter Luna into the world this week through a home birth that was streamed to 50,000 of their closest friends and family.

And before we take a watch, don't worry, it won't be graphic, before we take a watch and discuss what that means for streaming and birth rates and this child's future, make sure that you like this video and subscribe to our channel if you have not already.

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All right, let's just dive right into it.

So, again, this is not graphic, but here is the clip that has now gone viral across social media.

All right, I'm going to pause it right there.

That's really all you need to see.

Those are the final moments of her being in labor.

She is pushing.

The baby comes out.

She's in like a home home birth tub in their living room.

So much of this is just like insane to me.

First of all, I feel like I'm very close to this right now because I literally just went through this like five weeks ago.

Thankfully, not on a live stream, but I'm just like in this moment.

I know what that feels like so intimately right now.

And to know not only that you have a bunch of people sitting around you and you're home watching, but that you are streaming this to thousands and thousands of people.

Like I know that you get into this like primal state and like the world is tuned up.

Like I had no idea how long I was pushing when I delivered a couple of weeks ago, but still the idea that people are watching is truly insane.

And what makes it very like black mirror-y, I guess is like the best way to put it, is the fact that on the TV behind her, you see the chat.

You see people sending in like the Twitch, you know, version of super chats, I guess, donations, and people are commenting on her pushing and how labor is going.

And this stream has been going on for eight hours at this point because she started when she first went into labor.

And they had about 50,000 viewers on Twitch.

But because this obviously went viral and everybody is now talking about it, the stream and clips, like the one that we just watched, now have millions upon millions of views.

like 2 million views on just that one that we watched from one specific account.

And guys, this was all planned and promoted.

So when Fandi went into labor, she said, hey, Twitter, my water just broke.

So I think I'm going to do this live.

Baby time, yay.

And then she put her, like, so there she is in her labor gown, water broke, and she was like, everybody come watch the stream.

So this was obviously, I mean, you can't live stream a birth accidentally, but I just want to say that this was something that they were actively promoting.

And as this was going viral, obviously people's first thought was like, social media has gone way too far.

Like we are way too comfortable.

We do not need to see this.

They were comparing it to an episode of Black Mirror or the Truman show.

They were saying this poor child, like this is the pilot of the Truman show for this kid whose entire life maybe is going to be live-streamed on Twitch.

If they're comfortable live-streaming her birth, then what else are they going to show on social media?

But I don't want to just put words into this family's mouth because Fandy does not see it this way.

She did an interview with TMZ soon after Luna was born, and this is what she had to say.

Well, I've been streaming for about 10 years, and I've kind of documented the past 10 years of my life, pretty much, and a lot of the actual like pregnancy.

We did a gender reveal on stream and it was just a thing that I wanted to share with my community that I've had for the past 10 years.

Now I just want to say I love you guys.

I have been doing a show on YouTube now for almost four years, which is crazy.

There are some things that I will not show.

I desperately love this community and yet there is no way in hell that I was going to cross that line, cross that boundary.

That is not even a boundary that I would consider breaking.

But again, you know, different strokes for different folks.

She wanted to share this with the community, 50,000 of her best friends.

And again, that is her prerogative.

But I do think we need to consider what this means for the child and what this means for privacy online in general.

And obviously, like I said, a lot of people had thoughts.

Some guy posted on X and said, People are allowed to do what they want, but we are allowed to have our opinions on it too.

And my opinion is that this is wild as F to stream to any size audience and should be something that you experience live yourself with the people that you love and then maybe share stuff after.

And I completely agree.

Like also

just knowing how intense birth is and how so many things can possibly go wrong, like the fact that that might have been on camera if you needed to transfer to a hospital, if, you know, the baby's shoulder got stuck, whatever was going on.

Like that just, it's so, I'm like viscerally uncomfortable thinking about that.

Like genuinely, I'm just like, I would, if you want to share, again, your right, your prerogative, maybe wait until after.

Now, another thing that I want to point out for maybe people who do not know this is that this is not the first birth video that exists on the internet.

Obviously, there are ones on YouTube.

I remember being in like elementary school or something like that and being in a biology class being like, let's go see what birth looks like.

Like you can Google things like that.

But on social media, this has become a very common thing in the holistic crunchy space.

Like I follow a lot of these crunchy moms who talk about how they're raising their kids, whether they're vaccinating or not, all of those things.

I follow their accounts.

You would be shocked by how many Instagram home birth live streams are on those types of pages.

So this is not a new thing, but this is a new thing for the gaming Twitch community.

Like this is the first time that this has ever happened on Twitch.

And I think that this also is just the first one that has made its way into the mainstream with more of an entertainment factor.

And I think at the end of the day, that is what really weirds me out.

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This did not seem like that.

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This was definitely for entertainment.

This was for attention at the end of the day.

Whether you like it or not, it was for attention.

And the first place that my mind goes is what is your child going to think about this in 18 years?

In 12 years, in 15 years, like your child is going to know that their entire birth was all over the internet and honestly probably fetishized by freaks because that is something that people do.

You are opening your child up to that.

So again, it is your prerogative.

There are other births online, but it just seems so dangerous and so unnecessary.

There are other ways to share intimate moments with your community.

There are other ways to involve your community and people that you love in the important moments in your life without putting your child in harm's way, without giving bullies fodder in 15 years when they're hanging out with their friends, they go, huh, remember when your mom streamed her entire birth online?

Like it just feels irresponsible to me, personally, to me.

However, for a lot of people, they saw beauty in this.

They thought that it was really important, which is what her husband said in that same TMZ interview.

So I'll play that clip now.

There's a lot of guys, for instance, that have no idea what goes into a birth.

I sure as hell didn't.

I had no idea it was going to be that intense.

And I think it was very educational.

So I'm, and it was, it was great to just, it was great to just share it with with, with everybody.

Again, you can share it.

There are other ways to share it.

But like sitting there with your newborn daughter, your little baby girl going, this is so great that men got to see this so that they could learn.

I'm sorry.

I do not want, you know, if it were me, I would not want my giving birth and my daughter to be what teaches these men.

Like, I'm sorry.

Alex didn't know really what went into giving birth until we started going through the process and taking the classes.

That's fine.

You learn as you go.

You do not need to use your daughter to teach them.

Again, in a way that could very easily be sexualized and fetishized online.

But again, some people seriously loved it.

Like this woman said, the most beautiful moment.

I'm so glad I got to witness this live.

Truly amazing what women can do.

And yes, that is true.

Like the fact that she was able to have a successful home birth, that it went so well, that she was happy.

It seems like she got the birth that she wanted.

That is amazing.

I'm very happy for her.

And it is an incredible moment.

Like, obviously, it is life-changing.

It is transformative.

You really have no idea what is going on for half of it because again, you kind of become this like feral primal animal in a way.

Like your body just takes over.

It is truly wild.

It is truly incredible.

And I think for the fathers who get to experience that when they are in the room with their husband, it is also transformative for them.

But again, I just keep going back to does it need to be transformative for everybody who watches it online?

Like, does this need to be a show for 50,000 to 5 million people?

Another person commented and said, it's not my place to say anything about this.

I respect Fandy and her content.

This was done so tastefully.

And I will say, it was not incredibly graphic.

Like it was graphic in that you heard her and you knew things were going on, but there was no blood.

There was no nudity.

It was very covered up.

It was as tasteful as a live-streamed birth could be, is what I will say.

But this woman goes on and she says, it is not what people are making it out to be as a nurse for the OB NICU.

This was beautiful and something that she chose to share.

You did not have to tune in.

It was actually probably eye-opening for a lot of people and educational for some future or currently pregnant women.

You are always going to have people that put others' content down.

This is no different than the hundreds of thousands of other documented births.

It was just on a different platform.

Y'all need to grow up.

And I mean, she's right.

But again, this was different because it became mainstream, because it turned into interviews on TMZ, because it had millions and millions of views, not just a few thousand on an Instagram live, because a crunchy mom with 30,000 followers decided to post it to be able to talk about home births and not vaccinating her kids, whatever.

Like this was a form of entertainment.

Whether or not they intended it to be, that is what it came out to be.

And a lot of people were sharing the sentiment online and saying that maybe she would be encouraging the online community at large to have children and celebrate families and celebrate women in motherhood.

And listen, if that happens, then I will acknowledge that, you know, I guess that that is a positive outcome from a very, very weird situation.

However, do I think that there are other ways to encourage motherhood and encourage families and make people excited about starting families and make women feel confident and comfortable going into birth?

Yes, there are other ways to do that versus, again, putting your live stream and your child's birth online for millions of people to see.

And so do I think we should do more of this in my opinion?

No.

I think this is it.

This is the line.

I don't think we need to cross anymore.

In general, this is just a sentiment that I have about most people online.

I would like to see less and know less about more people.

And that is how we will end it today.

All right, guys, I will see you on Tuesday for our first episode next week.

Bye-bye.

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