Pattern Interrupts: The Master Key That Unlocks All Success | #Success - Ep. 14

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whatever you want to call it, is it's the master key that unlocks all success. And I've been geeking out over the last, I mean, honestly, two decades of my life, three decades of my life, trying to figure out how to be successful in wrestling and then in business and other things in my life.
My family, my kids, all sorts of stuff. I geek out on it.
I buy a lot of books. I study.
I go to the obsessive compulsive level. I think I'm at like 18,000 books I've bought in the last two years, all based on success.
Yeah, so I'm into it deep. And I want to simplify so much of it for you guys because there's a lot of stuff and you can get down the weeds and the rabbit holes.
But there's some things that are really, really simple and you understand them. It literally is the key.
I'm calling it the master key. Napoleon Hill, he has a course called Master Keys.
Charles Hanel has a course called Master Keys. Both these guys have courses from way back in the early 1900s.
But this for me is like my version of that. This is the master key that when you understand this and you plug it in and you use it, it can literally unlock all your success in any area of your life.
I don't care if you're trying to be more successful an entrepreneur, as a father, as a wife, as a spouse, as an athlete, whatever it is, this key is the key. And it's so simple and so powerful after you understand it.
And so I want to to spend some time going deep into today. So if you guys are cool with that, I'm going to jump right in.
I got three core things I'm going to talk about. Each one we'll go kind of deep on because they all kind of build upon the other.
So make sure you don't skip to the end. Don't make sure you don't miss anything because the first one builds on the second, which builds on the third.
And then when you place all three of them together, it's like, oh, that's the secret. That's the whole key.
And so that's kind of the game plan that we're going to go deep into right now. So hopefully you guys have fun with that.
Hopefully you're okay with that because it's going to be a lot of fun for me and I just enjoy talking about the stuff. So let me know in the comments down below if you're cool with that.
And if so, I'm going to jump right in. Okay.
So the first thing you got to understand, this is one of my favorite things to study and to learn about is understanding the difference between the conscious mind and the subconscious. Okay.
I talk a lot about this. If you've ever been to my Selling Online event, I go deep in this, but from a standpoint of like helping, like learning how to sell people stuff, right? Because I'm having a conscious conversation with somebody, but if I want to sell them, I'm actually speaking in a way that I'm speaking directly to their subconscious mind because that's what gets them to break their false belief patterns, gets them to move and you have to understand how to do that.
So I have a whole event about that like in context of selling,

but this one I want to explain it in context for you just understanding your life

and why you do the things you do and why you sometimes don't do the things you want to do, right?

And it all comes down to this conscious and subconscious,

like how these two minds of ours work, okay?

And if I can get deep into like the, you know, the science behind it,

I just want you guys to understand what you need to understand to be successful with it, okay?

So the first thing is... of ours were, okay? And I'm not going to get deep into like the, you know, the science behind it.
I just want you guys to understand what you need to understand to be successful with it, okay?

So the first thing you understand is that like by default when we're born as kids, like we're blank slates, right? And everything we're learning is patterns. We're learning these patterns and

they get ingrained into our body, into our mind. And that's like, that's the, like really what's

happening. So consciously we decide like, hey, I want to go do this thing, you know? And like,

I think one of the easy examples to think about is like, let's say when you want to learn a car the first time, right? You've jumped behind the car and you're consciously have to be aware of all these things, right? Okay. Here's the steering wheel.
Here's the clutch. If you're, you know, old school like me, or like, you know, here's the things, here's the radio, here's the, and so like all these things you're driving, you're trying to stay within lines and you're like consciously keep going back and forth, you know, stay in line, stay in you know, you go back and forth and you're trying to figure out where you're going and you've got a map and you're trying to, and like you're consciously doing all this stuff.
That's why the very first time that you, um, that you drive somewhere, it's really hard. It's a really difficult thing, right? But then what happens is we do it once, we do it a second time, a third time and a fourth time, right? We keep consciously doing it, but consciously we're, we're doing this thing, but it builds a subconscious pattern, right? And so eventually you jump in the car and you start driving and you don't even know what's happening.
Like your brain is consciously thinking about something else. You know, all these things are happening and your subconscious mind's like, I know how to get into the office and boom, you show up to the office, right? And you get out of your car.
You're like, how did I get here? I don't know how I even got here. Or sometimes you think you're going to go somewhere else, but then you stop paying attention.
Your subconscious mind will take you to where you like, you end up the office, I was trying to go to church. Like, what just happened, right? Because the pattern's still there.
And so all we say is consciously, I want to go to this place. Subconscious mind takes over.
The pattern happens, and then boom, we just go, okay? And so these patterns happen over and over and over again. Like, the first time we do something, it's consciously.
Second time, it's consciously. Third time, we keep doing it over and over and over again until it becomes a pattern, and then it becomes part of us, okay? In sports and athletics, a lot of times they call us muscle memory, right? Again, I didn't understand conscious or subconscious back then, but I was competing as an athlete.
That's what they said. Like, you got to drill something so many times, it becomes muscle memory.
It's just part of you, right? And that's what they're talking about, right? When I was in wrestling practice, I consciously would sit with the coach and they'd say, okay, here's how you do a single leg, right? And you go through, here's where the arm goes and the other arm and we walk through all the pieces, right? And then we drill and we drill and we drill and we'll drill that same move hundreds and hundreds, if not thousands of times, right? It's like, I'm not like, it's not that hard to get the move, right? But what I'm doing is I'm taking this consciously, I'm turning it into a subconscious reaction, right? And so I know that like when somebody moves this way, right? I'm not thinking, okay, the person stepped here, now I'm gonna go take a shot. Instead, what happens is you've got so many times that your subconscious mind just feels it all.
It's like there's less pressure. Something's opening here, something's moving, and you don't even know what's happening, but boom, your subconscious mind, because you've drilled it so many times, consciously, it's become subconscious, and your subconscious mind just takes it, and it happens.
And it's really fascinating. And the reason why it's so important, I was doing some studies and looking this up, like the speed of our conscious mind versus our subconscious mind.
It's like our conscious mind can handle, I think it's like 50 bits per second or something like that, where our subconscious is like 400 billion bits per second. It's insane.
In fact, the stat I found, and there's a bunch of different stats, they all kind of conflict a little bit, but basically it was 27,500 times faster. Like that's the speed difference, right? And so when I started wrestling again as an old man, I started going to these tournaments.
It was crazy because I get out there and start wrestling and I would be, I'd be wrestling out there. All of a sudden I see the move, like there's the move, like his legs open.
And my, but I'm very conscious, right? Cause I've been doing it. It's like, I was conscious.
I go to shoot and I'm like slow. And by the time I'm like halfway there, the guy's legs already gone because I move so slow, right? That's what happens when we're conscious, okay? But when you get back to the spot you're drilling, you're drilling it gets in your subconscious you're not thinking you're just out there playing you're having fun all of a sudden it's like boom, you just go because you felt it subconsciously 27,500 times faster, right? That much faster boom, your brain just subconscious goes, right? That's why they always talk about if you're in your head you're dead because as an athlete if you're in your head you're consciously thinking okay, what do I do now? What do I do now? Right? It's when you get out of conscious and into subconscious, that's when you get into flow state.
And you can do so much more because your subconscious is so much faster. Because it's built patterns.
And you've done those patterns so many times that just that part of your brain takes over. And it's so much faster than your conscious mind.
Okay? So anytime you're doing things consciously, that's when you struggle. I see this happening when I'm speaking on stage.
If I'm on stage and I'm very conscious, like I'm too slide driven or too much, I get out of the rhythm and it's just hard to explain where I'll get in a spot where I'm doing something and also I don't know what happens. I feel like something else takes over and it's a different experience.
I can tell the times that I'm teaching consciously versus subconsciously. When I'm teaching subconsciously, that's when magic happens.
People are crying, things happening. And it's hard to get to that point, but it's just tons and tons and tons of repetition that transitions you from conscious to subconscious, right? And so it's the key.
Now, a couple of things to note, and this is going to set up the next part. So it's important to understand this.
I had a really good coach one time and he asked everyone, he said, you know, we're practicing, we're practicing the same thing over and over and over again. He says, he says, um, what do you guys know about practice? And some of my team's like, practice makes perfect.
And my coach was like, well, that's not actually true. We're like, what are you talking about? And why are we practicing all day? Right.
We're trying to get perfect. And he said, perfect practice makes perfect.
Okay. So this is what happened.
I see this every, actually every jumper. I wrestled in middle school.
I wrestled in high school. I wrestled at college.
I wrestled, like, you know, I trained at Olympic level. Never got to compete at that level, but I trained there.
So, like, what's interesting is that each level, what happens is you come in with your good habits and your bad habits, right? So, as a kid, I'm learning a single leg. And, you know, my coaches, my dad, everyone's, like, just trying to get me to actually shoot.
Like, just grab, like, shoot and grab their legs, right? So, I do it. And eventually, I get better.
I get pretty good at it because I've done it so many times and like i have some success you know i'm aggressive so like i start winning some matches that way it's like cool i'm i'm good on my feet right i'm good at shooting and taking people down but then i get to the high school level and also go out there and like uh like i didn't realize this but i have bad habits i'm standing too straight my elbows are out like it didn't affect me at this level because um because you know the kids weren't that good but the next level those kids who are better than me, they pick it apart really easily. You're out of position.
You're out of stance. It's really easy to beat me.
So I have to go back and relearn the pattern. I have this pattern that I've been doing in middle school.
I go to high school and the pattern doesn't work anymore. So I have to break the pattern.
I have to redo it. So I have to come back.
I have to relearn how to shoot, how to keep my elbows in, how to keep my arms small, how to keep like in stance and then I shoot over. And so all through high school for the next four years, I'm drilling, drilling and I'm building this new muscle memory, right? It gets better and better and better.
The spot where I get to a certain level, right? For me, it was like, I became a state champ, went to, went to a national, took second place in the country. I was, I was really good.
Right. And then I got a college scholarship.
So I go to college and I show up the very first day. And again, I'm, I'm a state champ.
I'm second place in the country, all American. Like, I think I'm going to just kill it.
When I walk in this room with these college kids and I get destroyed and it was humbling for like, what just happened? Like, I'm, I'm really good. Like, how are these guys beating me so bad? And I realized just because, um, I had been practicing to that level, but I was out of position in so many places I didn't know.
Right. I get the next level and it's like, these guys are so much better that I can't do things sloppy.
My hips are out. These little tiny little nuances changed everything.
So I had to go learn how to rebuild these patterns in a way where I could beat the guys at the next level, okay? And so I saw it so much in wrestling, every single area I'd go to, right? But the key was understanding, first off, that just default, you have these patterns, right? From whatever level you are. Okay.
Now, obviously I'm sure I got a handful of wrestlers listening to this. Most of you guys aren't wrestlers.
You're mostly, you guys are entrepreneurs who are listening. And so I want to liken this to entrepreneurship, right? And just any area of your life, actually with your family, with your kids, with, with anyone, right? We have these patterns and the patterns started when we were young, right? And, um, we don't remember consciously making these, but they happened, Right.
Um, and so the pattern, it could be, it could be all sorts of things. Tony Robbins talks about, you know, when you're a little kid and you're trying to get attention, trying to get love and stuff.
And also like one kid goes and he trips and makes everyone laugh. And he's like that day a comedian was born.
Cause you saw the pattern like, Oh, I tripped. They laughed.
I'm going to do that again. And so you start doing funny things.
And like, that's how you get love. Right.
And someone else, like they tried a bunch of things and their family wasn't paying attention to them and they went they achieved something right and all of a sudden like they saw they had success achieving he's like that day an achiever was born right it's like if i achieve something something's gonna happen it's like we start building these patterns that just based on things that are happening right as when we're two years old three years old five years old ten years old right we don't even know they're happening but these patterns start happening right and a lot of times these patterns serve you in some areas of your life and they will hinder you in other areas of life, okay? But you're showing up to your life right now with a whole bunch of patterns that have been programmed, right? It's me wrestling in middle school doing something that got me through life. Now I'm trying to operate at this level and my pattern is wrong, okay? It was okay, it was good enough to let me win at that level, but I'm at the next level now and I just keep failing and failing and I don't understand why.
I'm so confused, right? And so that's the first step to understand is that this is what's happening in our whole brain. There's this conscious thing we wanna do and we're building subconscious patterns, right? And the subconscious patterns, if done correctly, will lead you to the next level of success.
If done incorrectly, will hold you back, okay? And again, a lot of times it's something that served you, which is why it's so frustrating because They served me for so long, but now it's not serving me. Right.
And it's understanding that it's coming back to say, okay, uh, I I'm in a pattern that's not correct. Right.
My subconscious programming that got me to this level is not getting the next level. I got to fix that.
Okay. And this is where most people make the mistake when they want success is they're trying to figure out like, Hey, I work harder.
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And man, we had Funnel Hacking Live two or three weeks ago, whenever it was, Tony Robbins came and spoke at the very end of the event. And as Tony does, he shares a million cool things, but he shared one of my things, one of the things I've heard him talk about a lot, it's one of my favorite things, but it's understanding patterns.
He's like, patterns are the key to everything in life, right? Like when you start understanding like, like everything's happening as a pattern, somebody punches you, you instantly are going into a pattern, right? You're subconsciously moving to a pattern. Um, you get a bad email morning, you instantly hit a pattern.
Um, somebody says something to you, like someone honks at you, like, like a million different things, right? Um, you, you're scrolling on Facebook and something happens on Facebook and something happens or Instagram or YouTube and like these patterns are just automatically being fired off from things that you've been doing for the last, you know, however, how old you are right now, all those years, these subconscious patterns you've built to like survive life have been in the program, right? And so what's happening is like these patterns keep happening and then you react to them and you don't even know, right? So a trigger happens and then you react to the pattern and you're stuck in this pattern, okay? And so what Tony talked about is three levels of this. And honestly, when I met Tony Robbins back, man, 15, 16 years ago, like of all the things he did, he did so many great things for me, so many things that I learned and like I could go on to like all the frameworks I learned from him, but really like one of the most powerful things is he helped me become aware of my patterns.
And when you become aware of something, then you can actually do something about it. Most of us, most people live their lives not even knowing that they have these patterns and they're frustrated that they're not having the success they want, the happiness they want, the health they want, the whatever, and they don't realize it's all just because of these patterns.
They have their middle school wrestling patterns and they're trying to wrestle in college and they're not having success and they're just frustrated. Like I'm working harder, but it doesn't matter.
If you're out of position, right? For the analogy, if I'm out of position, those guys are going to beat me every single time. It's not me working harder.
It's me realizing that I practiced imperfectly and perfect practice makes perfect, not practice makes perfect, right? So I got to come back to the drawing board, reset my patterns, and then practice perfectly to build the correct patterns, okay? All right, so here's Tony's three levels of patterns. Okay.
Level number one, he says, you have to recognize the pattern. Okay.
And this is again, one of the greatest gifts I can give you is helping you to start recognizing patterns. Okay.
He said, you got to identify patterns in your life, such as history or in your own habits or things that are happening. Right.
So what are the patterns? So I think about this all the time, like with myself specifically, like the same struggle with my wife. I'm like, okay, every time we get to this certain circumstance or your situation, whatever, like things, things unravel, like why, you know? And most times it's like, oh, we're so frustrated versus like, okay, what's the pattern that's happening here? There's, there's this input.
And then I'm slipping into a pattern. What is the pattern? Right.
We figure what that thing was. Um, you know, I'll share a really good example with this.
So, uh, growing up in wrestling, a lot of you guys know wrestlers, we cut weight. That's what we do.
Especially when I was in high school, we used to cut a lot of weight. In fact, all the way until, man, my senior year in high school, there were three kids in the country that all died from cutting weight.
They changed the rules and stuff, which was way better for the sport. Prior to that, I would come in on a Monday morning weighing 160 pounds and by Thursday, I was weighing 130.
So I'd lose 30 pounds. And then by Sunday, I'd be back to 130, or sorry, 160.
And by next Thursday, back down to one. I was losing 30 pounds a week, week in and week out, right? But that's just the game.
And it's water weight, so don't send me your health advice. Every time I talk about weight, people send me other health advice.
I'm like, you don't understand. You don't lose 30 pounds by eating less calories.
You do it by squeezing the water out of your body, right? It's a different mindset. But I did that every single week for 12 years of my life through middle school, high school, and college.
I was coming in and losing 15, 20, 30 pounds every single week. So what happened is I was so strict all week long, right? I ate healthy, cut out water, all the things, I'm not gonna teach you.
Maybe I'll do a training in the future on how to cut weight. That could be a whole different video that like four of you guys would care about.
But I had a whole pattern. Then we'd weigh in.
After weigh in, you take as much nutrients to your body as possible because you're wrestling an hour later. So you get the right nutrients, light things, get energy back up.
Then you go out there and wrestle, right? And then you're like, okay, I have a week to next weigh in. So what do you do? You eat everything.
You haven't eaten in five days. So you eat so much and you drink so much.
And it's just like you're consuming because you're like, you're just starved, right? And so then I blow up, gain my 60, you know, back to 160 pounds. Monday, come on, jump on the scale.
Oh crap, 30 pounds over. And then we start the process.
Eating perfectly, dieting, losing weight, like all this stuff back down. And so like, that was the pattern for 12 years of my life.
Okay. Then I get done wrestling, um, and I'm no longer competing.
My wife and I are, um, you know, living our life. She, we have twins.
Uh, she gets pregnant with twins, you know, and, and it's a funny season of our life because she's now got two babies inside of her. And so she's eating for two.
I just got done wrestling. And so I like, I'm no longer working out and my wife's eating a ton of food.
And I'm like, I'm going to eat food too. So we should both start eating.
And both of us gain in the next, you know, four or five months, we both gain like 50, 60 pounds. Right.
And so I'm like, you know, and she's big cause she's pregnant. And then the craziest thing happened.
One day, December 11th, she has twin babies and loses like 50 pounds overnight. And I'm sitting here like my weight's still here.
Right. And I had that weight for the next eight years, Could not get it off, tried everything.
And what I started realizing, what I started seeing in myself is I would come in every single Monday. I eat super healthy Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday.
I see my weight dropping, dropping, dropping. Then Friday, what happened? Weekend starts, what do I do? I just made weight.
And I'd go in all weekend long, boom, boom, boom. Come back over the weekend, I was like, I gained a pound, right, from the weekend prior.

And I'd lose weight, lose weight, lose weight, lose weight.

Weekend party, you eat a ton of food.

You know, this is Mormon partying.

So this is me just eating a lot of food,

going to Burger King and eating, yeah,

all sorts of stuff, right?

And then start, and so like for eight years,

I was, this cycle kept happening over and over and over.

And it was crazy.

It wasn't until my friend, Carrie Woodward,

she, and she had wrestling brothers and stuff,

but she looked at me one day and she's like,

you realize you have an eating disorder, right? I'm like, what are you talking about? I don't have an eating disorder. And she's like, no, you do.
She's like, look at like the pattern. You literally are in the same pattern that you were in your entire wrestling career.
Like you eat healthy, eat flawless, like perfectly execution. And the weekends you gain it all back and you do that thing.
And like, you're in the exact same cycle. The last eight years you've been doing for the 12 years prior.
And I was oh my gosh and suddenly I was aware of the pattern which is phase number one right recognizing the pattern I recognize the pattern this is why I can't lose any weight there's this pattern that was built subconsciously right and and it's there and I didn't even know it was there so if I don't know it's there it controls me forever unless I'm aware of it I can't fix it so number phase number one, write this down, tattoo it to your hand. Recognize the pattern.
What is the pattern you're rolling into? Okay? Again, health, fitness, business, whatever it is, right? What is the pattern that is negatively holding you back? You have to recognize it, okay? That's step number one. Phase number two now in Tony's process is then you have to learn how to use the patterns, okay? So after you see the pattern, say, okay, now I know this is my pattern.
How do I use that pattern for my good, right? So for me with the eating thing, it was like, okay, now I know this. So I'm like, if I can just survive Saturday and Sunday, and a Friday night, Saturday, and Sunday, I'm gonna be okay, right? It's the pattern is the weekends I'm gonna party because I feel like I made weight so I can eat whatever I want, right? And so for me, it was like, okay, now I know the pattern.
I'm aware of it. I recognize it.
And I can use that pattern, right? So I start figuring out how to use that pattern. How do I use that in a way that's going to be beneficial? So for me, it was like, okay, now I know this is my weak spot.
So I got to fortify myself. How do I make sure Friday, Saturday, and Sundays I'm good? And then when I do that, then Monday starts and now I'm starting back off again, right? And so I started tweaking things around.
And, and I might go deep into all the things I was doing but as soon as I was able to recognize the pattern and figure out how to use the pattern, right? How to manipulate it, then I started having more and more success, right? My weight started coming down, things got better and like so much that came from like understanding the pattern, okay? So phase number two is like using the pattern but there's the better, there's the next phase which is even better and I'll get to that here in a second but that's that's for a lot of you it's the next phase right so it's like um i keep trying to launch my funnel but i'm not having success well why not and you know i probably asked a couple questions you're like well you know i'm on my my 30th try or you're like um i don't have an offer yet and i'm like how long you've been listening to me like i'm listening for three years for every book i'm like you don't have an offer yet that's step number one you got to create, right? Or it's like you get in this learning cycle, right? Because it feels good to learn. I see this all the time where people are like, the pattern they have is like, I love learning.
I go to seminars, events, listen to podcasts, read the book, and they get in this learning pattern because they love it, it feels good. But they're not in a pattern to be successful, right? So it's like, oh my gosh, I'm in a learning pattern.
When I was in college, I was in high school, I used to love to learn. I felt smarter.
I felt like significance, but the fact that I was smarter than other people, so I love learning. So I went to school, went to, you know, and for some of you guys, especially you guys who are like, you've got your master's and your doctorate and you're like, you're just this pattern of like, I love to learn.
I'm going to, I'm going to acquire all this knowledge, but you're not in a pattern of executing, getting things done. Right.
So you realize like the reason I'm not successful, I've been stuck in this pattern and I'm in this pattern because it gives me significance and happiness and all these things from back when I was in high school and then middle school and college, right? And it's like, I'm in the same thing now. I'm just learning and I'm learning.
I'm stuck in this pattern, right? Maybe it's not you. Maybe it's like you got the thing out, but now you got the fun alive and you did all the pieces that you created it all, but you're not getting traffic.
And it's like, why am I getting traffic? It's like, well, what's your pattern? Okay. There's a pattern that's holding you back from doing it, right? What's the subconscious pattern? Like, well, every day I wake up and then I come and I, and what are you doing? I don't know.
I mean, I would ask these questions to figure out what the pattern is after you're wherever it's like, Hey, well, the pattern to get people to come to your funnel is this, right? There's two ways. The free or paid.
If you're doing, if you're doing free traffic, it's like you need to create a new pattern. Oh, sorry.
I'm showing you guys what phase three is, but basically I got to create a new pattern that it's going to give me the outcome. Right.
So what's the pattern, okay? It's me and my wrestling coach saying, Russell, you're losing because your elbows are out, okay? What's the new pattern? Coming back, elbows in. Now I'm gonna drill and drill and drill a thousand times, 2,000, 5,000 times this way until it becomes subconsciously inside of there and then now instinctively when it hits, the pattern is the correct pattern I go to, right? So I kind of skipped ahead, but phase number three for Tony is then creating a new pattern, okay? So phase one, recognizing pattern.
Phase two, learning how to use those patterns to be more successful. But step number three, phase number three is way better, which is now creating a new pattern, okay? You have a soul pattern, it's been great, okay? But now you got to create a new pattern.
So what's the new pattern that we're consciously creating? Not the one that was given to us because our dad said something to us or our family member or someone at school made fun of us or whatever the thing is, right? It's like, what's the pattern I want to create? I consciously create this thing, okay? And this is where, you know, morning routines people talk about or habits, like how do we make something habitual? Habitual habits are things that you just do over and over and over again until it becomes a pattern, right? And so at the beginning though, you don't, like you have these pre-built patterns that are either helping you or they're holding you back, right? When I get to the third phase and you create new patterns, like it's coming back and say, okay, I'm going to create a pattern, but I'm doing it consciously, right? And so the very first consciously, it's going to be slower, right? I got to do the thing. I got to practice.
I got to practice again. I got to practice again.
I got to practice again. I'm drilling the move.
I'm drilling the move, right? I'm driving to the office. I'm driving to the office.
So eventually it like, it becomes the pattern, okay? And you got to drill that thing like repetition over and over. Repetition is such a big part.
You do the repetition until it becomes a new ingrained pattern. Patterns are kind of like ruts in a field.
Think about a tractor. A tractor's out there in a field that's doing the tractoring thing.
It's going through all the fields. And let's say the field's wet a little bit.
So it goes through and starts digging these ruts into the mud, into the dirt. And then the mud hardens and stuff.
And now these huge divots, these huge ruts, right? And if I'm driving a tractor, I could drive to the rivets. I could jump out of it and they'll snap into those ruts, right? And it'll just follow the pattern, right? That's what's happening in our brain.
We've done things so many times that there's these ruts. So for us, it's like, hey, if I'm going to be successful, I can understand, okay, here's the ruts.
Here's what's happening. I'm aware of it now.
I'm seeing it.

But if I want to really be successful, I got to create the new ruts, the new pattern.

So I got to stop the tractor, get some boards, drive it out of these ruts.

And so, okay, now what's the ruts I need it to be in to be successful?

And then you start building it, cultivating it, drilling it over and over and over until it becomes a new pattern.

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Okay, so with that said, the third piece, and this is the key, this is the master key, okay? I told you guys this episode, there's a master key, and this is what the master key is. When you understand this, this is the part that is the key.
And I found this randomly. You guys know Viktor Frankl.
I wrote, man, search for happiness, like one of the best books of all time. But there's a quote, and I can't remember if it came from that book or another book.
I bought everything he's ever written because he's amazing. But there's this quote.
And this is the thing that unlocked everything for me, okay? You think about patterns, right? There's usually something that happens. There's like, there's the stimulus and there's a response, right? And so someone hits us.
We get the email. We see the thing on swipe.
Someone shoots on our legs. Someone, like, fill in, like, whatever that version is for you.
Okay, you get depressed. You get anxiety.
You get fear. You get whatever.
Like, there's some stimulus and then there's the response, right? And that's what happens. And so this response typically by default is going to be the pattern that you've done the most, right? Stimulus happens, boom, you instantly hit into, or your stimulus hits, you instantly into your subconscious pattern.
Okay. And so this quote, like it gave me so much freedom when I understood, like, again, this is the master key.
So this is what he said. You guys ready for this? This is a writer downer.
I'll read it twice because it's so important. Victor Frankl said, between the stimulus and the response, there's a space.
And in that space lies our freedom and power to choose our responses. In our responses lies our growth and our freedom.
You guys catch that? Between the stimulus and the response, okay? So the thing happens, the trigger happens, your subconscious response. He said between the stimulus and the response, there's a space, okay? It's a gap, it's a little tiny space, and it's not long.
It's very, very short, right? There's this gap, there's a space. It says in that space lies our freedom and our power to choose our response, to choose the pattern we want, okay? That's the problem most people have.
They don't choose the pattern. Stimulus hits, response, boom, in a subconscious pattern, and it's gonna either serve them or it's gonna destroy them.
And it happens every single day, 100 times every single day or more, right? Okay, in that space lies our freedom and power to choose our responses. In our response lies our growth and our freedom, okay? That's the key.
That's the master key is understanding that we have a choice. We need to become aware of our patterns because there's gonna be a stimulus and there's gonna be a response, okay? And by default, you are running off of response.
You know, again, wrestling, it's me, it's my middle school thing that I drilled, right? I'm at a college level trying to compete and all of a sudden the stimulus hits and my response is a middle school wrestling response, right? The guy takes me down easily.

And I'm like, man, I gotta work harder.

No, no, no, you're not gonna work harder.

You have to fix the response, okay? The pattern is incorrect, okay?

Perfect practice makes perfect,

not just practice makes perfect, right?

So right now you have been living your entire life

at this point practicing imperfectly.

Like the subconscious responses have been happening

because of just life happening. You were not aware of it, right? Now you're aware of it, right? Phase number from Tony, become aware of the pattern, right? Now the stimulus hits, I'm aware.
Oh my gosh, my pattern is always to do this. Okay.
My pattern is when Friday happens, I'm going to go eat as much as possible because I feel like I just earned like free food because I've been cutting weight all week, even though I'm not cutting weight anymore, right? Stimulus response, stimulus, I become aware of the pattern.

Stimulus hits, I become aware of the pattern, and now there's this space.

And the space happens, and it's very short, okay, where I can go and I can figure out

what is the pattern I want to move to, okay?

And then we start doing that, right?

We build a new pattern, we create a new pattern, we go there over and over and over again until

it becomes the correct response, okay?

But until it does, and it's going to take a while, right, you have to realize that there

is a space between the stimulus response.

I'm not to is anger. The pattern I normally go to is fear.
The pattern I normally go to is tears or whatever. No, no.
What's the pattern I need to go to that's going to give me the new ruts I's the new ruts I got to create? What's that look like? Okay, here's the new ones. I got to create the new pattern, okay? And that's how you start growing in life, you guys.
That's how you got to start having more success. That is the master key is starting to come back and looking at this whole thing, stimulus response, okay? Here's the stimulus.
What's the pattern that I'm responding to? And so think about any area of your life you're not happy with. It could be your finances.
It could be your family. It could be your spouse, your kids.
It could be your coworker. It could be whatever, right? When you start becoming hyper aware of the stimuluses that are happening, right? What is the stimulus? And when that stimulus happens, what's your response, okay? I watch this all the time with coaching clients.
I have a chance. I don't do a lot of it, but I have my inner circle.
I do one-on-one coaching with them. It's always interesting because I'll ask them a ton of questions.
People are like, you just sit there for like, because there's this thing we call decade-to-day. I give people 15 minutes and I'll spend 10 minutes just asking them questions.
They're like, why do you keep, they're like, I just want you to solve my problem and I keep asking questions. They're like, it's so interesting and then I ask questions for like 10 minutes or so and all I'm really doing is trying to understand their stimulus response.
What's the pattern that they're in? And I ask the questions, ask the questions eventually, I'm like, okay, this is the pattern you're in. And because they paid for me to coach them, I'll tell them, this is the pattern you have.
Here's the tweak, this is how you change the pattern. Right now, every time you say this, you default it, you see it sometimes in their face, they'll talk about their business, and they'll sigh, and they'll get sad, and they'll look around, I can see sad.
And they're like, look around. Like, I can see you, but you're not going to have success in this business.
I can see that, right? I see the response is happening. Like the patterns happening is showing up on your face and I can see it by asking a couple of questions.
And sometimes they're excited about the business, but then you ask them about their team or you ask them about traffic or about whatever the thing is. Right.
And you see the, they see the response, this, the physiological shift in their countenance happens because of that. And I can stop and like, okay, they're like, you were so happy.
Tell me about your vision. And the second I asked you about your team, everything dropped.
I was like, I saw the pattern, right? We got to fix that pattern. If you hate your employees, you got to go, you got, like, there's the pattern.
So you got to learn how to love them or you got to get new employees or like whatever that thing might be. Or sometimes I see people who they have this response where it's like they want to grow a business, but they have pain associated with it.
I have a friend who, man, this is probably 20 years ago. He had way too much success too fast.
And it destroyed him, his life, his marriage, got into drugs, alcohol, lost everything. And And it's fascinating now he's come on the other side of that.
And I watch him as he, as he starts new eras of his life. He starts having some success.
And every time he gets this little glimpse of success, he, he just self implodes and he doesn't understand why I keep trying to tell him, I'm like, cause you liken success to ultimate failure even though you consciously want success your body's like last time i had success this is what happened to me right and so it's built patterns to make sure that you never happen that never happens to you again so because that he can never have success i'm like you got to become hyper aware of that pattern right and then you got to go create new patterns because until you do you will never like your subconscious is moving so fast right 20 say 27,000 times faster, your conscious mind, as soon as you're thinking about it, it's like not happening. Like you can feel it.
You can see it. People can see it externally on, on you, right? When you think about it, when you start going towards it.
Um, and so it's just such a key to start understanding those things. And so think about any area of your life, you're not happy and think about this, excuse me, think about the stimuluses that are happening and then the pattern that's automatically responding.
And you have to come back and say, look, for me to be more successful, it's not for me to work harder or work longer hours or do anything. It's me fixing the stimulus, the response to my stimulus, fixing the pattern, rebuilding the pattern in a new way.
Me coming from middle school to wrestling in college, I could put in 20 hours a day and I'm not going to get any better because my elbows are always out because that's the pattern I drilled my entire middle school, right? I have to stop that. I have to change the pattern, get in the right stance and then drill that as many times as possible till that becomes the pattern.
The ruts get deeper and deeper and deeper, right? It moves from being conscious to subconscious. Now I'm out there wrestling.
I don't even know what's happening. I shake hands, everything disappears and I'm wrestling.
And all of a sudden it's like, I feel like, I don't even know subconsciously 27,000 times faster. Subconsciously my brain's like feels he moved.
That means his legs open, boom, right? And like that fast in position shot, elbow correct, like boom. And like it happens, right? But that's the way the game is played.
And it's not just athletics. It's in business.
It's in entrepreneurship. It's in relationships.

It's everywhere.

And so that is the key.

That's the thing you guys have to learn and understand and master.

Okay, really quickly before we move on.

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And in that space, you have the opportunity to stop and to choose the pattern you want, right? It's the pattern interrupt. You got to like interrupt the pattern.
There's some space. And then from there, you're rebuilding with a new pattern.
And you got to drill that new pattern until it becomes second nature, until it becomes the default, until it becomes the response. And when you do that, then when life comes at you, business, personality, whatever, like you've created the correct pattern that's going to take you to the result you want.
And that's literally the key. It's so fascinating because for years of my life, I've tried so much to like outwork it, outdo things.
And like, there's a lot that goes to hard work, right? And hard work is good at helping you build the habits and the things I have. So I'm not against hard work.
I love hard work probably more than most people. But what's crazy is like, instead of like trying to push a car up a hill where someone inside has got the foot on the brake, if I can stop, like take the foot off the brake and like fix things, you know, change the pattern, then it becomes really simple and really easy.
And so yeah, that's what I want to share with you guys today. I hope it was helpful for you.
It's fun for me to talk about this kind of stuff because most of the time I'm talking about business and it's like the reality is like the squeeze page isn't the thing that's holding you back. It's your ability or your willingness to follow – like to get out of the pattern that's holding you back and get the right pattern.
That's really like the bulk of what I do with people when I have a chance to work one-on-one with them. It's less about the tactics because the tactics of business is actually pretty easy.
The hardest thing is like recognizing and rebuilding your patterns that'll allow you to actually execute the game plan. Because game plan is simple.
I've read about it in all my books. You've got any of them.
You've got dot-com secrets, expert secrets. You have all the books.
You've got the plans. It's just your response when the thing hits you, okay? What does Mike Tyson say? Everybody's got a plan until you hit in the face, right? You have a plan consciously and you hit in the face and your subconscious takes over.

And depending on how you've trained that,

depending on the patterns that you have consciously built

to correctly response to the punch in the face

is how the success looks on the other side of it.

So that's it, I hope that helps.

Thank you guys so much for listening to the show.

I appreciate you all.

Thank you for allowing me to serve you guys.

I love it, I love you.

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Thanks so much and we'll talk to you guys all soon.

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