How To Overcome Your Past To Manifest Your Ideal Future

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Speaker 1 Why do do you think so many people lack the energy to create the vision, the dream that they want? Is it something they're missing? Is it something they don't have access to?

Speaker 1 Or they lack that energy that heals and draws to them their dreams?

Speaker 1 I think that, you know,

Speaker 1 we live in chronic disbelief.

Speaker 1 What if the truth was that you're greater than you think?

Speaker 1 more powerful than you know, more unlimited than you could ever dream. If that was the truth, that you are the creator of your life.

Speaker 1 You have to start.

Speaker 1 If you believe that to be the truth, then you have to believe in yourself.

Speaker 1 And your belief in yourself must be earned. It must be earned.

Speaker 1 And

Speaker 1 the only way that we can believe in a future is when we feel the emotion associated with it.

Speaker 1 Because if you feel the emotion associated with it, your body is your

Speaker 1 unconscious mind. It's so objective, it does not know the difference between the real-life experience that's creating that emotion and the emotion that you're creating by thought alone.

Speaker 1 And so, you're giving your body a taste emotionally of the future. And the stronger the emotion you feel, the more you remember that future.

Speaker 1 And you literally are embossing the circuitry for you to believe in it more.

Speaker 1 So,

Speaker 1 if we default and become the victim of our our life,

Speaker 1 and we say that some person or some circumstance or some condition is causing me to feel this way and to think this way, the moment we become angry or frustrated or guilty or unworthy or afraid or anxious, we can't believe in that future any longer.

Speaker 1 Those emotions are associated with past memories. And those emotions cause us to behave as if we were in our past, make choices that are equal to our past and believe in our past.

Speaker 1 And more people believe in their past than they believe in their future. And it's so much easier to forget your vision of the future than to remember it.

Speaker 1 And so if that's the truth then,

Speaker 1 if you understood that this emotion that you're feeling is really a creative emotion.

Speaker 1 living in fear and living in anger and living in hostility and hatred and judgment and resentment

Speaker 1 that has nothing to do with your future. It has everything to do with the past.

Speaker 1 And so the problem is that we get addicted to those emotions that keep us connected to the past. And there's a story that goes with that past.

Speaker 1 And so many people believe in that story. And why not believe in a different story?

Speaker 1 And it usually takes crisis or trauma or disease or diagnosis or loss

Speaker 1 for people to finally make up their mind to change. But that default

Speaker 1 that takes place

Speaker 1 so seamlessly when we feel the emotions of our past causes us to think the same way, to act the same way, and to feel the same way.

Speaker 1 And how you think, how you act, and how you feel is called your personality. And your personality creates your personal reality.
That's it.

Speaker 1 That's it. So the present personality who's sitting here today called you has created the present personal reality called your life.
That's the truth.

Speaker 1 So if you wanted to create a new personal reality, a new life, you would have to change your personality.

Speaker 1 And the first step in that is becoming conscious of your unconscious thoughts, those thoughts that say, I can't. It's too hard.
I'll never change. It's my ex's fault.
It's a what, you know, whatever.

Speaker 1 You know.

Speaker 1 It's It's all

Speaker 1 X.

Speaker 1 Or if you really truly wanted to be a happy person, you would have to stop complaining.

Speaker 1 You would have to stop blaming and have to stop allowing your environment to control how you're feeling and thinking.

Speaker 1 And if you truly wanted to become a new personality, you would have to decide that the emotion of lack

Speaker 1 cannot belong in an abundant person.

Speaker 1 Oh, this is where the rubber hits the road now.

Speaker 1 Because how could you believe in a future that you haven't seen yet? And the end product of an experience in three-dimensional reality is called an emotion.

Speaker 1 And so most people wait

Speaker 1 for their wealth to feel abundant. They're waiting for their new relationship to feel loved.
They're waiting for their success to feel empowerment.

Speaker 1 They're waiting for their healing to feel wholeness or gratitude. That's the old model of reality.

Speaker 1 So you got to trade that emotion of your past and that story's got to go with it. And when you overcome your emotions, you master your creations.

Speaker 1 And that's freeing the body from the past.

Speaker 1 So the person who wants to become wealthy,

Speaker 1 they got to romance wealth. Romance it.
They have to romance it. And you have to start thinking about how a wealthy person would think,

Speaker 1 how a wealthy person would act,

Speaker 1 how a wealthy person would feel, and you would have to become that personality. And that personality really should begin to create some change in your personal reality.

Speaker 1 You know, the synchronicities that are not just parking spaces, you know, not that stuff.

Speaker 1 But the bigger stuff that would stretch your belief so that when you see the synchronicity, all of a sudden you're like, oh my God.

Speaker 1 I created that. Is that possible that I actually created that?

Speaker 1 Now you start believing more that you're the creator of the your reality instead of the victim of your reality and that's the truth and you cannot experience that truth unless you step in the realm of creation

Speaker 1 and in order for you to arrive at that wealth you have to make a very clear decision that that person who wants the wealth and who is in lack of having it is going to have to make a lot of changes to finally run into that goal or vision of their wealth.

Speaker 1 You can't create a new personal reality as the same personality, honey.

Speaker 1 You got to become someone else. That means you got to give up

Speaker 1 some aspect of those unconscious thoughts, behaviors, and emotions that are programmed because we do them so much and think that way. And that's the hard part of change.
And people

Speaker 1 do the work. I want to be really clear.

Speaker 1 They don't do the meditations to heal.

Speaker 1 They do the meditations to change.

Speaker 1 And they understand that when I change,

Speaker 1 my body will change. My life will change.
That's the experiment they're involved in. So this energy, this feeling that you have,

Speaker 1 the fundamental question is when you leave this place,

Speaker 1 can you take it with you every day? Could you remember this feeling and could you bring it up on your own?

Speaker 1 Ah, now you're becoming the creator of your life because now you'll believe more in that future and less less in your past.

Speaker 1 And then you'll default just like we all do, but how many times do you have to forget

Speaker 1 until you stop forgetting and start remembering? That's called the moment of change.

Speaker 1 And that's catching yourself from defaulting seamlessly back to that old personality that has been programmed for us to be victims.

Speaker 1 That if you say to someone, why are you so unhappy? Why are you so mad? Why are you so angry?

Speaker 1 Oh, it's that person, it's that circumstance that's causing me to to feel this way and think this way well that's an unconscious program a person is saying that someone in their outer world or some condition is controlling

Speaker 1 it's controlling their feelings controlling their thoughts anything that's controlling us we're victims to

Speaker 1 and that's got to change so then to overcome victimization is worth more than all the wealth in the world because that's exactly what creates the wealth that's exactly what creates the health It's the overcoming process

Speaker 1 that is the becoming process. And that's how you arrive at that vision.
And this energy is the energy that takes you there. And you got to be able to bring that up on your own.

Speaker 1 That means you got to come out of your resting state. And that when coming out of your resting state and not allowing or waiting for someone or something to do it for you.

Speaker 1 But doing it on your own, wow, there's sovereignty and there's empowerment in that. That's how any person arrives at their dream.
They just don't let their energy drop.

Speaker 1 And if they do, they get back into that state again. And they earn the belief in themselves.

Speaker 1 First off, what are the emotions of lack so that people can make a distinction and say, I don't think about lack. I'm not in lack.
But maybe they are based on certain emotions.

Speaker 1 So, what are the emotions that cause us to feel in our bodies lacking as opposed to abundant?

Speaker 2 And

Speaker 1 caveat:

Speaker 1 how much of those lacking emotions can we have on a daily basis and still be abundant?

Speaker 1 That's a good question. You know what I mean? Is it 50% victimhood and we're still going to be good? Is it angry 20% of the time? Is it

Speaker 1 like how much, like, how much wiggle room can we give ourselves grace and still, I'm still going to be able to get my drink?

Speaker 1 So, what are the emotions of lack and how much time

Speaker 1 can we really allow ourselves to be in a state of frustration or sadness and still be abundant? Yeah, I got it.

Speaker 1 But we create based on lack.

Speaker 1 We create based on separation. You see the sports car, you see the wardrobe, you see the scene, you see the vacation, and you see that

Speaker 1 experience that you want.

Speaker 1 Your brain naturally goes, oh God, that would be so wonderful to be in that reality, to be in that future.

Speaker 1 Based on the lack of not having it

Speaker 1 in the plane of duality and separation that lack causes us to dream about having it

Speaker 1 so the natural thing is to dream of a new possibility based on the your understanding that you don't have that experience yet you understand yes so then now

Speaker 1 that vision of that future the brain naturally creates

Speaker 1 For the passionate person

Speaker 1 that vision where they're seeing that future they put themselves in that future. And when they do that, they feel the emotion of that future.
And they're actually doing that by thought alone.

Speaker 1 So once they feel the feeling of that future,

Speaker 1 they can believe in that future because they felt it. Interesting.
Right? And they'll tell you there's nobody or no one or no circumstances. I know that I could create that.
And you've all done it.

Speaker 1 Everybody in this room has done something great.

Speaker 1 And

Speaker 1 you kept that vision alive in your mind, and you got your behaviors to match your intentions. You got your actions equal to your thoughts.
You got your mind and body working together.

Speaker 1 You stopped thinking certain thoughts like, I can't, it's too hard. I don't feel like it.
I'll never change. You had to make different choices.

Speaker 1 And the hardest part about change is not making the same choices the day before. And that means you're going to get uncomfortable.

Speaker 1 You stopped doing the same things, the same habits, sitting on the the couch, whatever it was.

Speaker 1 You didn't have time to complain, you know, that stuff.

Speaker 1 You start staying away from the experiences with certain people in certain circumstances. You didn't want to live that anymore.

Speaker 1 And you had to really get beyond your emotional feelings and do it anyway.

Speaker 1 And we do this all the time. And, you know, then you run, and all of a sudden the synchronicities start to happen.
Everybody's experienced this.

Speaker 1 And the next thing you know, the experience occurs, and you feel the emotion from that experience. and it takes away the lack or separation from not having it.

Speaker 1 So the emotion is the end product of the experience in three-dimensional reality.

Speaker 1 Say it again. The emotion is what? The end product of the experience.
It's the payoff. The payoff from the experience, having the experience, is the emotion that is the consequence of the experience.

Speaker 1 And that emotion is all the sensory information that you're perceiving. Everything you're seeing and hearing and smelling and tasting and feeling.

Speaker 1 all that information is rushing back to your brain, and jungles of neurons are organizing into networks.

Speaker 1 And when they string into place, another part of the brain called the chemical brain, the limit brain, the emotional brain, begins to make chemicals to produce that emotion.

Speaker 1 And that emotion then takes away the lack.

Speaker 1 And now you say, I created that, and then you go to the next one.

Speaker 1 Now you can get really good at doing this.

Speaker 1 You could study, you could get schooled, you can get coached, you can learn from your mistakes, you could get disciplined, and you can accumulate more things. You can get better at doing that.

Speaker 1 But there is another way to create where you don't have to do so much.

Speaker 1 And those are laws that transcend just typical Newtonian laws. And what if you were to feel the emotion of the future before it happened every single day?

Speaker 1 Remembered that feeling, and that feeling was for your heart to fall in love with your life, to fall in love with your vision, you'd have to awaken that heart.

Speaker 1 If you could do that and marry that with the vision of your future, I promise you it'll be easier to make choices to step into that future.

Speaker 1 I guarantee you you'll believe in it and do things to advance yourself into that future and you step right into it.

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Speaker 1 So then if it doesn't happen when we want it to happen, you know what I mean? Like people stop me and they say, well, I've been creating my reality for three days, nothing happened.

Speaker 1 And

Speaker 1 I say to them, you're not that good. But I don't know what else.
I don't know what else to tell you. You're not that good.

Speaker 1 Or they'll say, how come I'm not living in Mallorca with my two dogs and a lover?

Speaker 1 I'm like, because the person who's living in Majorca looks nothing like you. Like, that's not what the person looks like.

Speaker 1 So, when it doesn't happen,

Speaker 1 the lack becomes greater.

Speaker 1 And because lack is separation.

Speaker 1 And separation is based on time.

Speaker 1 And so when you imagine that vision of your future, you're putting your attention in a future reality.

Speaker 1 You have one point of consciousness, that's your future, and you are making the choice from this point of consciousness that that's where you want to go.

Speaker 1 And the distance between those two is called time.

Speaker 1 So time is based on lack or separation. Are you with me? Yes.
And when it doesn't happen,

Speaker 1 we start to feel more lack and more separation. So we start to force outcomes.
So we try harder. We try harder.
We manipulate. We compete.
We fight. Because trying is what you do when you're in lack.

Speaker 1 And so the person's living in separation their whole entire life, waiting for the event to occur to take away the feeling of not having it. And it could be their whole entire life.
Wow.

Speaker 1 And that becomes a program.

Speaker 1 So then you ask them, why are you this way? Well, because life isn't working for me. That's the belief that they have.
That's unfair. And they'll have a whole story that goes along with it.

Speaker 1 So then, if you could fall in love with your future

Speaker 1 and the heart produces a very strong magnetic signature and you get your brain coherent and working really well,

Speaker 1 that intention that you have has a signal in the field.

Speaker 1 And we've measured this.

Speaker 1 And so then if you could begin to experiment by changing your energy, could it change my life?

Speaker 1 That's the experiment. I'm just curious.
If you started doing it, that you could actually shorten the distance between the thought of what you want

Speaker 1 and the experience of having it. And all of a sudden, you're no longer going anywhere to do it.
It's kind of coming to you.

Speaker 1 Now, if you experiment like that and then you are successful at it and you start seeing the synchronicities, I guarantee you, you're going to keep it up. Yes.

Speaker 1 I guarantee you it's not going to be like, oh God, I got to go fall in love with my future now.

Speaker 1 It's not going to be like that. You're going to be like, whoa, like it's happening and like whatever that is that i don't know what it is

Speaker 1 but you're changing your energy and so to become a creator in your life and truly truly practice it if you're feeling the feeling of your future you can't look for it how could you look for it if you feel like it already happened and we cannot

Speaker 1 attract anything in our life that we feel separate from.

Speaker 1 And that means you got to maintain that modified state of mind and body to keep your vision alive. And if you do, the experiment should be,

Speaker 1 hey,

Speaker 1 hey, I'm doing this to experiment. Is it the truth? I'm doing it for the truth to take the belief and actually behave that way to ultimately become the creator of my life.

Speaker 1 And so that you fall in that zone, you fall into that flow.

Speaker 1 And now you're going to want to feel that feeling more than you're going to want to feel your victimization.

Speaker 1 And that's when you no longer belong to your past, that's when you belong to your future.

Speaker 1 Abundance is just one experience, and the infinite number of experiences I believe that we could have as creators. And people just

Speaker 1 forget all the wonderful things they did or became when they created that abundance. And I've sat with billionaires, I've sat with them, and you know what they say to me?

Speaker 1 They say, they've said it more than once: we are miserable,

Speaker 1 we are in agony.

Speaker 1 You know why? Because they can't be present enough

Speaker 1 to enjoy a sunset, even though they're on a yacht.

Speaker 1 They can't be present enough to

Speaker 1 enjoy a great meal.

Speaker 1 They just can't be present with their families. They can't be present.

Speaker 1 And so, like, that's not the life you want.

Speaker 1 What you want, abundant people want to be free. Yes.
That's what they really want.

Speaker 1 For you to do it, right? And then and to and really,

Speaker 1 if your model of abundance is that you have so much more than you need

Speaker 1 that you would give it away, that would be an abundant person, yes or no? Yes. And so your experience of abundance in the experiment called life can be way more than being an angry abundant person.

Speaker 1 If you can create a harmonious relationship from the higher self of you to the wounded self parts of you,

Speaker 1 then things are going to start to flow better in your life. Oh, well, yeah.

Speaker 2 In every area. Well, because think about it like this, like my controller part, I've done so much work with her.

Speaker 2 You can gender these parts of you. They have no gender, or they could have the opposite gender.
It doesn't like sort of whatever is intuitive for you. My parts are female.

Speaker 2 So I have that controller part that you knew for so long or the anxiety part, right?

Speaker 2 Even to think about all where we were maybe 10 years ago in these conversations to where I am with you right now and how much more self-energy you feel in this moment. So you make me cry.

Speaker 1 It means so much to me that you've been there with me.

Speaker 1 It's been like, what, 13, 14 years? 14 years. 13 years maybe since I've met you.
2008, I met you.

Speaker 2 And when you first met me, like I was like parts on fire, right? Like, like on, literally on fire.

Speaker 1 I was a work off.

Speaker 2 Really extreme, really extreme. I was sober, but like workaholism, I was just extreme anxiety, didn't know that I had had trauma.
So I was living in hyper vigilance. I was so scared all the time.

Speaker 2 I was so controlling. I was, it was just like, I was doing,

Speaker 2 you can still be going through hard things and do beautiful things in the world.

Speaker 1 Yeah, you still get results in life.

Speaker 2 Yeah, and do good, but you can, but you might be having a lot of struggle, right?

Speaker 2 And so as a result of this, this model and what I'm going to teach everybody today and living this and developing this and practicing this and every day being checking in with these parts of me, checking in with these parts of me, I've unburdened them.

Speaker 2 And so it's not that they go away, it's that they're not extreme anymore.

Speaker 1 Interesting. So the parts that were wounded are still inside of you.

Speaker 2 They're no longer wounded.

Speaker 2 They're in their beautifully developed chrysalis. Their new, for instance, the part of me that was a controller, I mean, that part did good things, right? She wrote 10 books in 14 years, right?

Speaker 1 Took action, got things done.

Speaker 2 Yes. But now she can be in the flow, right?

Speaker 2 Like now she can be like, I don't have to force my way to like get this thing to there i'm like oh you know what lewis like i'm gonna be in la like does that work i'll be there like i can show up with an energy she's she's she's she's on top

Speaker 2 but she's but she's trusting she's not forcing not forcing anything she's just relaxed like in the presence so it's still like so it's like a really great quality to have that control part present because she gets things done but without craziness right right right chaos

Speaker 1 so these parts of us that once controlled us or hurt us to try to protect us because they all had an intention to serve us but they didn't help the self really at our highest they're blocking self they're blocking self blocking self but they're an attempt to try to protect us totally uh these parts of us when we can have a relationship a harmonious relationship with them through healing and mending those wounds Then we can use them for good.

Speaker 1 That's correct.

Speaker 2 Yeah. You're so great at like digesting and bringing it back.
Yeah, it's beautiful. That self right there in action, clarity.
Clarity is one of those qualities of the self.

Speaker 2 So you have such a good job of listening, thinking, pulling it together, bringing it back.

Speaker 1 And it sounds like we could, you know, by doing the self-help work

Speaker 1 and by following this four-step process that we're going to cover in a second and just going through the book.

Speaker 1 It sounds like when we can start to have a different relationship with these parts of us that have caused us pain and suffering, but also try to protect us.

Speaker 1 If we can start to have a new relationship by mending those relationships, it can get a lot better.

Speaker 1 But it doesn't mean those things can come back at some point if we don't keep having a relationship with them in a healthy way.

Speaker 1 So you might be six months, I feel better, but then something triggers you and you go back to the wounded part of you that says, I don't feel safe.

Speaker 1 You need to control this. You need to protect this.
You need to be a perfectionist in this moment, whatever it is, hypervigilance.

Speaker 1 And so it's a constant relationship and a conversation of checking in, it sounds like.

Speaker 2 It's called the check-in process. Okay.

Speaker 1 All right, here we go.

Speaker 2 And I like that because everybody has a few minutes to check in, right? Or a few seconds to check in throughout the day. And

Speaker 2 the simplicity of it being this four steps of checking in with the part

Speaker 2 makes it such that you can have this relationship to the part rather than

Speaker 2 why are you doing this? It's with

Speaker 2 why the pain, right? That's like what God Marmata always says, like not why the addiction, why the pain. And so by

Speaker 2 moment when you notice a trigger or you have the space in your body to like see oh you know i'm i'm out of alignment right now

Speaker 2 in those moments checking in are these moment to moment experiences of presence with with

Speaker 1 bringing self to these parts so i'll i'll break it down for you Give me a specific example in your life that may be a part of you that comes up sometimes that causes you anxiety or stress or and how i would do the steps your yeah your your team are like oh gabby's in that mode her part of her you know is coming out in this moment you know okay they're watching right now they're like oh shooting a perfectionist or she's over controlling or she's not whatever yeah exactly yeah so whatever that part is for you that maybe it's tended to come up with a lot in the past can you give me an example of how you could use this while you're sharing with these four steps okay so the the the protector that's freaking out right

Speaker 2 she uh she's freaking out because something isn't going the way she wants, right? So she's the freaking out protector. Actually, doing a lot of work with her in therapy right now, so it's nice.

Speaker 2 And I do IFS therapy, so of course.

Speaker 2 And she's having a freak out, like, you know, some email isn't good, or like the things aren't working as fast.

Speaker 2 It seems not working as fast as possible, or if she feels like she has a burden belief, right? This freak out girl. Her belief is if I don't do it, nobody else will.

Speaker 1 Zang.

Speaker 2 And so she is maybe just like, like,

Speaker 2 and she has also has another, and I'm cursing a lot, but just bleep me, okay? But she has another phrase that she says, which is like, what the f is going on here?

Speaker 2 And when I think about her,

Speaker 2 I think about, okay, so let me give you the check-in process. So let's say I notice she's coming in, she's showing up, and I'm like, uh-oh, I notice her.

Speaker 2 I have enough awareness to be like, she's here. She needs help.

Speaker 2 So I need self to help, self, help me. I'll say that again.
I need self-to-help, self-help me.

Speaker 2 And I, you know, have that awareness.

Speaker 2 I choose to check in. Step one,

Speaker 2 choose to check in.

Speaker 1 Make a choice.

Speaker 2 Yes, because

Speaker 2 remember, parts are like little children. So if you try to force something on a little child, like if I try to go to Ollie and say to him, bro, what the hell is going on? You seem upset.

Speaker 2 Let's talk about it. He's like, yeah, mommy.
Like, get away, mommy. Right.

Speaker 2 So there has to be some buy-in. Okay.

Speaker 2 So there's some buy-in, and I'm going to choose to check in.

Speaker 1 So is that the adult self choosing to check in, or is that the child self choosing to check in? It's both.

Speaker 2 Okay. So it's, it's, the choice is

Speaker 2 choice is a self-like quality,

Speaker 2 but the part has to make the choice.

Speaker 1 So it's like what you said with your son, if he's not willing to reciprocate, like saying, let's talk about what's going on. And he's like, no, screw you, mommy, or whatever he's saying.

Speaker 1 then that's not a check-in. Both parts need to check in.

Speaker 1 Yeah, it has to be my presence presence of self and his willingness willingness to receive or talk openness yeah okay so not that your son would say screw you mommy but i'm just saying like you never know yeah yeah you never know

Speaker 2 six years old he might say things like that he would say screw you mommy yeah

Speaker 2 so uh he makes me think of like cartman do you know that i do a really good cartman skit you man

Speaker 1 I'm getting hints. That's good.
I'm really good at it. That's good.

Speaker 2 Okay. So choose to check in.
So choose to check in, detour from Cartman.

Speaker 2 Choose to check in. So you have this awareness that the part's triggered and you're saying, okay, I'm going to choose to check in right now.
So you, you, step one, that's it. Choose.

Speaker 2 And if you know that you feel that buy-in, like, okay, the part's ready to go, we can get, we can keep going, right?

Speaker 2 Choosing to check in is also just sometimes even having the awareness that you need to check in because that's like step one.

Speaker 2 Step two

Speaker 2 is curiosity. Become curious.
These are all C qualities, remember, right? So it's like acting as if.

Speaker 2 And so the curiosity is start. So I'm in this place where the, this, this manager is up and she's like, what the f going on here? Nobody, I have to do everything.
Nobody else will do it.

Speaker 2 And so I choose to check in with her and I become curious and I start to notice the feelings and the thoughts and the sensations inside.

Speaker 2 I start asking her questions, like, where do you feel that in your body?

Speaker 2 And she's like, and I'm not breathing and there's tension in my chest.

Speaker 2 And I start to say, you know, what kind of thoughts or sensations? And her thoughts are like, what the f is going on here?

Speaker 1 Why is this happening?

Speaker 2 And I ask her for any images or visions. And she shows me my six-year-old self in my dining room with my pigtails.

Speaker 1 And I'm screaming, no bumps, no bumps.

Speaker 2 Because the only way that I could find control in this out-of-control life that I had was to control the bumps in my pigtails.

Speaker 1 To make your hair like look perfect or whatever. Right.

Speaker 2 And so she's, so this girl that's now this adult that's screaming, what the f is going on here is the little girl. This is the vision she showed that she shows me.

Speaker 2 The little girl screaming, no bombs with the pigtail. So I start having all the, I flash out this information about her.
You can see I'm like, I could tear up as I think about her.

Speaker 2 And that connection that you, can you feel that connection I'm having with her right now?

Speaker 1 Yes.

Speaker 2 That connection shows me that there's some self-energy here. Okay.

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Speaker 2 And so as soon as you start to feel some kind of connection to that part, the third step happens.

Speaker 2 And by the way, you you can spend as much time as you want in curiosity. You could just ask more questions, let the part speak.
The parts want to speak.

Speaker 2 Step three:

Speaker 2 compassionate connection.

Speaker 2 So I can look at that little girl and I can ask her,

Speaker 1 little Gabby,

Speaker 1 what do you need right now?

Speaker 2 And right away she'll speak back. She'll say, you know, at times she said things like, I need a mom,

Speaker 1 or

Speaker 2 I need to rest,

Speaker 2 or I need to play.

Speaker 2 I need to scream. I need, you know, they're just speaking for what they need, right? I need to speak up.
I need to be heard.

Speaker 2 And so the little voice gets to speak up and say what they need. And once that response comes through internally, the fourth step is to check for C qualities of self.

Speaker 2 So you scan your inner system and you ask yourself, do I feel any connection? Yes. Right now in this moment, I just did the check-in with little Gabby and I feel connected to her.

Speaker 2 Do I feel compassion? Holy right now, I feel so much compassion for her. Do I feel clarity? Yes.
She just showed me it's a little girl, right? She showed me exactly where she was.

Speaker 2 I feel clear what she needs. Do I feel calm? I feel calm, even more calm right now, just having done that check-in process out loud with you.
Connected. Hell yes.

Speaker 2 Courageous, much more courageous. Clarity, I think I said.
Confidence. I got confidence.

Speaker 1 The one that you're remembering now, confidence. Creativity.
Yes.

Speaker 2 Check for C's, even if you just have one C quality of self show up, you feel a little bit more calm, you feel a little bit more compassionate, you feel a little more connected.

Speaker 2 You've done the four steps. You've done the four steps, even if you just get to check in, to choose to check in.
Just even the decision to check in for two seconds is the check-in process.

Speaker 1 Because if you're not starting step one, then you're just going to stop

Speaker 2 fight or flight, you know, control-freak anxiety or whatever your manager is is doing well your manager won't have enough of a pause to pivot because the managers

Speaker 2 we can become blended with the managers which means we believe that we are that right there's times in your life when you get so worked up right and you're so that you're like

Speaker 2 I am the only one that can do this. Or, you know, the only way to live life is to fight back and tell everybody else that they're wrong.
And that's the only way to live.

Speaker 2 And if anybody challenges that, like that's, they're gone, right? So we're blended with these parts. Right.

Speaker 2 So the only way to start this check-in process is to slightly unblend by choosing to check in.

Speaker 1 Interesting. Because otherwise you are those parts in that moment.

Speaker 2 Yeah. And there's going to be plenty of times when we're so blended that we can't do the check-in until two hours later, two days later.

Speaker 1 So you can reflect. You just take a nap.
Yeah,

Speaker 2 you can check in hours later.

Speaker 1 You're out of the environment.

Speaker 2 Most of the time when people start this work, they're going to find themselves the next day being like, ooh, what happened there? And then just check in, right?

Speaker 2 But you should start with little. That's why I want to work with managers because this is about a process, right? It's like making it a habit.

Speaker 2 Do it with the small moments, right? So like

Speaker 2 just, just this morning, you know, like, or yesterday, right? I arrived in LA.

Speaker 2 I was like.

Speaker 2 kind of overwhelmed by the energy. I didn't love like the view out of my hotel room.
This sounds like a luxury problem, but like the energy is really important for me.

Speaker 1 You're staying at a wall.

Speaker 2 I'm I'm staring at like a chase bank. And I was just like, where, you know, and I was like, in this, and then you're like, you know, I'm, I want to have a good vibe right now.

Speaker 2 And so I was seeing that controller come in and she wasn't too bad, but she did ask my, my assistant to call five other hotels and like, you know, very lovingly asked, you know.

Speaker 2 And at night, I, and she's like, I don't ever come back to LA. Like, she's like, and so instead of like, actually, I did fire off an email to my PR team who was like, cancel an October trip.

Speaker 2 And then at the end, I was like, chill up. Okay.
So I came back and I rewrote an email. I was like, don't cancel the October trip.
And then I checked in with her.

Speaker 1 Wow. Right before.
Wow. Okay.

Speaker 2 And so she wasn't like, that's just like day, this is a day-to-day thing that normally we're just acting out in these ways.

Speaker 2 And we don't actually, and then maybe we come out of it because we just got some logic, but we never tend to it.

Speaker 2 And so I was like, oh, what do you need, honey?

Speaker 2 And so I just checked in with her and I just heard her and she's like, I just want to feel like warm and safe. And I just want to feel like I've got a good energy around me.

Speaker 2 And what do I need right now? Like, I need to find the right place to land when I get here. And I need to just sort of sort those things out.

Speaker 2 And I started to feel calmer as I checked for those seed qualities. And so this is where the manifesting comes in.
Okay. So she calmed down last night.
Okay.

Speaker 2 She slept great.

Speaker 1 That's good.

Speaker 2 She woke up. She's like, I'm going to see Lewis today.
She worked out. It was like 5 a.m.
Cause I'm on East Coast. I was like, let's go work out.

Speaker 2 I was feeling great. I sat down to get my makeup done.
I was like super chill.

Speaker 2 And I'm like, you know, I think my makeup artist who you met Christina and I was like, you know, Christina, I'm like, I like, I had this whole drama yesterday.

Speaker 2 I'm like, all I really want is like high vibe energy, super connect. I want to, I want to find my hotel in LA.
I have to be out here all the time.

Speaker 2 I want to just make it my home, like leave a toothbrush. Like I want that.

Speaker 2 And then like, I'm coming back in October and I really want to have like a retreaty vibe for two days because I need to write when I'm here and it's a weekend when I'm here.

Speaker 2 i'm like this is what i want and i was like it'll happen like the universe is going to deliver it i call our mutual friend jeff krasno because i was like oh he's got an amazing because i got the hit and i was like you know what just called jeff right he's got the whole community it's i wasn't even calling sanctuary i was calling him about something totally different okay i call jeff and i'm like hey what you know and then i was like oh you know what as i'm talking to him i'm like i'm like was calling me about getting on the podcast and i was like hey what bro i'm like wait when i come in la you're gonna be doing a retreat in topanga and i was like wait a second I'm like, let me come for two days in Topanga.

Speaker 2 I'm like, is there a place for me to write? And can I like come do yoga with Skylar? And can I like, you take your class and eat food with you guys? And he's like, of course you can.

Speaker 2 And I was like, and then I was like, wait a second, hold on. So I just found my two days, my little retreat to go write.
Right. And then I look at my calendar.
I'm like, wait a second.

Speaker 2 I have a podcast interview in Topanga on Friday. Some of the guys showing up in Topanga.
And then I'm on the phone with Jeff. And he's like, you got to call Robin Burzen.
She's in LA.

Speaker 2 Call Burrs right now. She's staying at the Soho house.
I was like, wait a second. I'm a member at the Soho house.
There's a Soho house here?

Speaker 1 Yeah.

Speaker 2 And all of a sudden, I thought there was no hotel. So I'm like, hold on a second.
So I call Robin. She's like, get in the hotel.
I call the hotel. They have one room left.
Get in the hotel.

Speaker 2 I was saving so much money going over to this other hotel that I want to be with with my one of my best friends tonight.

Speaker 2 I find my hotel that I want. I mean, this sounds like a stupid luxury thing, but look how fast the manifesting was.
And then boom, I was in the flow. Here I am.

Speaker 2 And I've got this whole next trip in October, totally sorted with the trip to Topanga, the hotel that's that's going to make me feel safe, the community I want to be with, the creative space to do my writing.

Speaker 1 Now,

Speaker 2 did a controlling type A person make that happen? No.

Speaker 2 A creative, calm, connected,

Speaker 2 curious, right?

Speaker 1 Compassion.

Speaker 2 Curiosity, we keep forgetting curiosity is self-energy. Curiosity.

Speaker 1 Compassionate.

Speaker 2 It was just like curious, right? Curiosity said, let me call Krasno and see if he can do a podcast. And then we asked me about Topanga, right?

Speaker 1 Hello.

Speaker 2 Sounds stupid, but that, that, but my, my, my makeup artist was like, that all just fell into place like a domino in 30 minutes. Like, that feels really weird to me.
I was like, this is the morning.

Speaker 1 It was this morning?

Speaker 2 That was right before I came. Wow.
And so I'm like, but that whole like boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, working out the details, that's how life is meant to be.

Speaker 2 We're meant to be in the flow and the awe and the synchronicity of self. Yes.

Speaker 1 You talk about in one of your books, becoming a super attractor.

Speaker 1 How can we become a super attractor by applying this method?

Speaker 1 Because it sounds like you applied the method and you wouldn't have been able to figure this out if you were in stress and control and manager freaked out, control-freaked mode, you know, if that little part of you is back in that, like it needs to be a perfect pigtails or whatever.

Speaker 1 So how can you attract abundantly without managing the parts of us that are wounded?

Speaker 2 So we wouldn't want to manage the parts of us. We'd want to bring self.
We would let self help them, right? Just for language purposes.

Speaker 1 Um, so it's not managing them, right? Because the managers are managing, you can't manage the managers, yeah.

Speaker 2 You can't, that's correct. Managing the managers is like when the firefighters come in, or you know, that's right, that's managed.

Speaker 2 You're really getting it, it's so cool. Um, people might have to listen to this episode twice to read the book, right? Read the book, right? It's all there.

Speaker 2 So, um, there's no way that you can manifest effortlessly unless you have tended to these protector parts

Speaker 2 because

Speaker 2 you might have a lot of things that you can create in your life, but you're up or limiting yourself. You're going to hit ceilings, classes.

Speaker 1 You won't be able to break through certain levels. Yeah.

Speaker 2 Because your sheer will can get you some of the way there and, you know, whatever. And you might have a little moments where that creative flow comes in, but then you just sort of block it again.

Speaker 2 But to live in the flow.

Speaker 1 Effortless.

Speaker 2 To say it and it will be. This morning, I would like a retreat center and a home base in LA.

Speaker 2 And 30 seconds later, clarity and curiosity, call Jeff, get curious, boop, boop, boop, boop, boop, boop, boop. Because manifesting isn't about just sitting around, nothing happens.
You're doing.

Speaker 2 But to be a super attractor and to be a co-creator, you have to dwell in the energy of creativity.

Speaker 2 You have to be calm. You have to be faithful, right? You have to be connected.
You have to be courageous to take the action. with that flow energy.
You have to be curious about what's possible.

Speaker 2 You have to be creative, absolutely creative, creative, creative, creative. You cannot be judging yourself.
You have to be compassionate toward every part of who you are.

Speaker 2 And so we are all super attractors. We all have self in us.

Speaker 2 We all have the ability to live with ease, no matter what our circumstances might be, but there are absolutely some of us who have far more privilege than others. Let's be real about that, right?

Speaker 2 Like for those of us that are in Western cultures, those of us who can watch this podcast right now, we have privilege.

Speaker 2 And those of us who have that privilege, it is our responsibility to do the self-help work, to clean up our side of the street, to get more flow in our life, because in that flow, we can serve more people.

Speaker 2 Yes.

Speaker 1 Period. That's true.

Speaker 1 Do people need to think about motivation in order to overcome themselves and their problems and their challenges? Or do they need to think about being more disciplined to overcome?

Speaker 1 the weight of the world they're feeling. Yeah, I say both and, but to your point on the discipline, you need to be more disciplined about your minds.

Speaker 1 What do people need to be thinking about with their minds? So here's the deal. You're already in pain.
Get a reward for it. It's just like, look, do me a favor.
Everything you say, you're right.

Speaker 1 But why go through life with whatever people did to you when you were younger or a young adult? And then you have to live with it for the next 40, 50 years. Like,

Speaker 1 why would you sit here and all the stuff that you said was absolutely right? My daddy wasn't there. My mama did this.
This person did to me. Why would you let them destroy your life?

Speaker 1 Let's go.

Speaker 1 Why would you let them own you? Why would you allow that thing they did to hurt you now define the rest of your life? It's like, no, I was in pain. It's real, but get a reward for it.

Speaker 1 So for me, walking into, first of all, driving here in a car service, getting to LA, walking in this beautiful facility, seeing the other businesses that are here. I'm like, E, I'm proud of you, bro.

Speaker 1 You made it.

Speaker 1 You could have stopped at the homeless board and nobody would have tripped. Your daddy wasn't there.
Your mom was 17 when she got pregnant. All the negative that happened to you, Eric, we understand.

Speaker 1 Bump understand. Let me tell you, one of the things that just blew my mind the other day.
So, you know, we were fortunate to own a home in California on the hill, right? So we got this property.

Speaker 1 We got the basketball court with the logo, all the companies that, whatever. And I go outside yesterday.
And I see my wife and my son playing basketball.

Speaker 1 And I'm thinking to myself, in in California, on the hill, looking at all these beautiful properties,

Speaker 1 my wife and my son are outside hooping.

Speaker 1 Dream life.

Speaker 1 My wife was like, I want to work out. My son was like, I didn't even know.
She was like, I'm going to play basketball. I'm like, I can't do it right now.
And I'm listening to a voice.

Speaker 1 He came home, heard the basketball, went out with his mom. I'm like, yo, my son, 29 years old, is spending time with his mom as an adult male.
He could be anywhere doing anything.

Speaker 1 He's with his mom, her firstborn. They got this bond that I don't have.
And they're out here hooping.

Speaker 1 And as I look at the property, I'm like, yo, what if the 16-year-old Eric Thomas would have stayed the 16-year-old Eric Thomas? So I'm saying for those who are listening, get a reward for it.

Speaker 1 And then do me a favor. Don't just think about you.
Like, do you know that my son

Speaker 1 in his mind, this is where you... Like, this is where you start.
Like, he got the son of the pool, the whirlpool. He's starting somewhere I never started.

Speaker 1 The cars, the um rolls royce the escalate like he's starting somewhere i didn't start why because i didn't stop where i started i didn't stop i was like okay this is where we started but this not about to be my end and so his his beginnings look total my man went to michigan state and was a general manager for inzo he traveled the world he's got a final four ring and elite eight ring he's got the he got the jack he sat under coach inzo hall of fame coach for four years wow coach og he sat under these guys like his boys boys, some of his boys went to the league.

Speaker 1 There's some of them still in the league. Like, he got that because I didn't go.
I quit because my mom, my dad didn't. So I quit.
I give up. This is the worst thing ever happened.
I was like,

Speaker 1 you get a reward for it. And so to see my son, I'm coming to a concert tonight with my daughter.
Listen to me. Like, I didn't give up.
And so I'm saying to everybody, we all go through pain.

Speaker 1 Some of us go through pain and it becomes our tombstone. Some of us go through pain and it's a scar.
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Speaker 1 I'm my ticket out of the neighborhood, or you know, I'm the broken curse, like whatever you want to call yourself.

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Speaker 1 No. You know why? Because what I didn't realize as a young adult is that when you say it somebody else, whether you mean to do it or not, you give them the keys to your life.

Speaker 1 You give them power over your life. They got your whole life in their hand.
Because you said it. You said it.
They didn't do this. And because they didn't, they got the keys.

Speaker 1 Now, I'll be honest, the reason why we don't want to take the keys, because we got to drive. We got to drive.
And I told you today, I was like, I got too much to do. I normally drive.

Speaker 1 I'm like, I got too much to do. And it felt good to be in the car driven.

Speaker 1 It felt good.

Speaker 1 like i'm going to phone talking to my wife we having worship doing our thing making a couple business calls like i don't have the responsibility of the traffic paying attention i gotta pay attention i think he moved over and got i was like why is he stopping in the middle of going to but it was a uh the truck was coming so he had to move over i didn't know what was going on because it was the first time in my life that i wasn't really like responsible because i normally drive and that's why people don't want to drive in their lives they don't want to be responsible it's so much easier to say my life is messed up because you did this and you did that.

Speaker 1 Once you take the keys now, you got to go anything, but I'm going to tell you this. This is why I like it.
While it's more responsibility, it's more freedom.

Speaker 1 It's more independence. It's more control.
Opportunities.

Speaker 1 They limit it. But the limitless when you take the keys.
And so I took the keys in my life and said, my, thanks. Dan, thanks for not being there for me.
You gave me a dog. You gave me a passion.

Speaker 1 You gave me a resilience. You taught me how to make it it when the very thing that's supposed to be there for you isn't there for you.

Speaker 1 And I tell people, what I want, some kid asked me the other day, he's like,

Speaker 1 man, wouldn't you say your son is lucky because you're in his life and his mom is in his life? I said, yes and no.

Speaker 1 I say, yes, he's blessed to have his mom and dad, but he ain't got that dog. He doesn't have the hunger.
He ain't got the hunger. Oh, man.

Speaker 1 My son is a great kid. But he doesn't have the drive.

Speaker 1 He ain't got the same drive I got. And that drive came without some stuff that I lack.
That stuff came from lack. And so I say to anybody,

Speaker 1 you got to understand it could go either way. But when you take the, you take the, it's like I walk into a school and I ask, how many of y'all, 50 kids, how many of you kids in here? A thousand kids.

Speaker 1 How many of you dads want in your life was not living in the house? 90% raise their hands. Wow.
And guess what? I automatically can relate to them.

Speaker 1 That's the genesse qua that my daddy wasn't there. That's the it factor.
If my father had been there, I might not be able to go in here and relate or my videos and go viral.

Speaker 1 People are like, okay, maybe if I just had Eric's voice or if I just scream and I just look past it,

Speaker 1 bro, that's not what, that's not what it is. It's when I speak, you hear it because I've been through what you've been through.
Wow. And so you, you recognize that voice.
You recognize the pain.

Speaker 1 You recognize the struggle, but you recognize I overcame it.

Speaker 1 And that's why you like, I want to rock with this dude because this one ain't some kind of way, Eric ain't the one that's making us feel like, oh, it's okay that you went through this, and it's okay that this, and you, it's okay if you don't want to grow, and it's okay if you don't want no.

Speaker 1 What you hear from me is a coach that's saying, Jordan, you got six rings in you, but you got to stop playing this way, and you got to start playing this way.

Speaker 1 Kobe, you got great, but you got to, you got to do it this way. Serena, you got a Venus, you got to that Richard Williams is saying, he's not out there just

Speaker 1 he's he's teaching, training, but he's also correcting. And so for me, they hear my voice.
I'm not letting you get away with murder because greatness is in you. The greatness is in you.

Speaker 1 And now it's time to go to school. It's time to go to work and bring that greatness out of you.
So yes, anybody, anybody could be successful. But as long as you're playing the blame game,

Speaker 1 you have given permission, the license, registration, the keys, you give it all over to somebody else. And the day you take it is the day that you can start deciding which direction you want to go.

Speaker 1 Wow. So that sounds like step one: take the keys back to your life.
Take the keys back. What would steps two and three be for setting people up for their ultimate life? Would that beginning process?

Speaker 1 Is it get clear on a goal? Is it start with motivation? Start with discipline, like change your habits. What would the next couple steps be to set up the mindset for success? I would say, step two,

Speaker 1 and I don't know why they don't teach this in school.

Speaker 1 Like, be your first best friend.

Speaker 1 You know, like get to know you. We're so busy wanting to be in a community that we don't realize we are a community.

Speaker 1 Right. And look, I'm not trying to be deep.
You know, people could, you know, you believe this, you don't believe in this.

Speaker 1 But what I was taught, you know, in school, especially Catholic school, it seemed like Adam was by himself first. It doesn't seem like it was like somebody else.

Speaker 1 It was like Adam was first and then whatever happened after that. So the first man was by himself.

Speaker 1 And I think that's important for those of us who study that. Why?

Speaker 1 Because all of us think we have to have somebody to be somebody. And this guy started on it.
He started his journey on his own before he connected with somebody. Whatever.
He knew his purpose.

Speaker 1 You know, he walked in his confidence. He walked his own.
And a lot of us are going. I hear people say all the time,

Speaker 1 well, I'm not doing good life. Why not? I don't have nobody.
I'm not in a relationship. I'm saying, you're telling me, no, listen to me very closely.

Speaker 1 Do you think for one minute that getting in a relationship with somebody it can't be the key because so many people have gotten in relationships and gotten out of it so that that can't be the key now two healthy people not perfect but two healthy people coming together oh no that's different expansive but guess what has to happen you got to be healthy with you

Speaker 1 before you can be with them so we even messing each other up when we have two dysfunctional people trying to connect with each other because we think two functional people gonna come together to make each other it's not gonna work so i just think the first step after the first step is you got to figure out who you are and love you and feel good about you and show up in the ring

Speaker 1 you and not care what nobody think about you. And that's why this relationship has worked so well for me over the years, because when we're together, it's never been a thing of E, why you do that?

Speaker 1 E, why you do that? Or E, why you do that? It's always been like, E, you have a unique set of skills that make you great.

Speaker 1 You have a unique set. And so we've always focused on what's our unique skills and what do you know that I don't know?

Speaker 1 And how can you help me get And so, a lot of these young kids are joining things they shouldn't join and being with people because they think their happiness is going to come from being with somebody else.

Speaker 1 And I just think if you, if you be, eagles aren't trying to,

Speaker 1 they just are eating, they're not trying, lions aren't. What do you think about me?

Speaker 1 What do you think about my roar? You think I'm too loud when I roar? They're not concerned. And so, I think step two: figure out who you are, love you.
And step three,

Speaker 1 figure out your North Star and wake up every single day going after your North Star.

Speaker 1 Because when you have a North Star, you know, and the people that you love and you spend time with have a North Star, have a purpose. And look, their purpose might be.

Speaker 1 We both have people whose purposes are help us with our purpose. They don't necessarily have

Speaker 1 an individual purpose. Like they felt like they were called to help us with serve our mission.
That's it. So we need a North Star so they can know what their North Star is.

Speaker 1 So that would be my third one. It's like, you got to figure out what makes you happy.
And again, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with

Speaker 1 first time. I did a behind the scenes coming in here just because I was like to my Patreon community, like, yo, y'all need to understand where I am and what's going on.

Speaker 1 But I don't, if you follow me on Instagram or TikTok, wherever I'm on, you don't see behind the scenes. I think that's a phenomenal tool to show other people what, but my wife is private.

Speaker 1 So for us, that does not work she does not want to be seen in the line she doesn't want to be in Dubai and stop and go let's take a let's document what we're doing she doesn't like that so for some people it works but I don't have to do that to still find a space right there's some people you know they do tours right I don't do tours that's not my thing I used to do them.

Speaker 1 I don't do them now. There's some people that write books.
Some people don't write books. Like it doesn't matter.

Speaker 1 But what matters is you have to find a thing that wakes you up at three o'clock or six o'clock or 10 o'clock.

Speaker 1 You got to find the thing that brings the life out of you, the joy out of you, the happiness out of you. And you can't do that following somebody else's north style.

Speaker 1 So my last one would be, man, figure out what you was put on this earth to do. And I mean, every single chance you have to do it, do it.
And when you're not doing it, enjoy your life.

Speaker 1 My son was like, damn, I'm tired. I said, you tired? You burnt out for what? Look at your mom and dad.
You work for the family company. What are you doing?

Speaker 1 Well, I've been up the last six days working 10, 12 hours. I said, for what? What would you be doing that for? Like, why wouldn't you take advantage of the, you said, what should I be doing?

Speaker 1 I said, you should figure out what it is you do. He's a designer, right? You should be designing clothes Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, whenever, five, six hours a day.

Speaker 1 And then Saturday, Sunday, or Friday, Saturday, because of your family, you should get a trip somewhere and go spend it with a friend. You should go see the, you should go to Italy.

Speaker 1 You should go to Rome.

Speaker 1 You should go to South Africa. So you should go to the Gold Coast in Australia.
Son, what are you, like, you should, what are you doing?

Speaker 1 Like, you should work, but a part of work also is, where's your play? You should play. We worked hard so you could be balanced.
So don't be like us. We grew up in a working class home.

Speaker 1 We grew up in Detroit. We grew up blue collar.
You're not blue collar. So go enjoy your life.
Be balanced.

Speaker 1 So I'm not just saying find your no-star in terms of what you've been called to do for others, but there should be a healthy amount of time that you spend enjoying your life, you know, and enjoying the little time that you have here.

Speaker 1 Because

Speaker 1 we both know we won't be doing this podcast 100 years from now. Sure.

Speaker 1 We don't know how much longer we have, but I won't be 154 sitting down talking with you. So however much time I have left, I need to work hard and I need to enjoy that time.
Absolutely.

Speaker 1 Those are beautiful, man.

Speaker 1 I've heard you talk about a concept I want to share in a second, but I feel like there's a group of people we've been talking to, you've been talking to, that are the people that have maybe don't have the opportunities they want.

Speaker 1 They don't have the life they want. They feel like people are holding them down.
That's one group. Then there's another group of people, which I feel like is a majority of people that have

Speaker 1 a good life. It's okay.
It's good, but they're not living a great life for themselves.

Speaker 1 Maybe they got a good job and they're pretty healthy, got a decent relationship, but something, there's like something missing.

Speaker 1 I think if you can, if that resonates with anyone listening or watching, comment below or leave a like if you feel like, yeah, my life is good, but I feel like something's off.

Speaker 1 You have this great concept called creating a mental rock bottom to push yourself towards your goals. Can you share more about kind of some practical steps of creating your own mental rock bottom?

Speaker 1 so that you can go to the next level in your life? Okay, I want to use the term that you use and you said create.

Speaker 1 And I just think so many of us have stepped into careers that group we have worshiped create create our careers more than we worship create and so the first thing i was head of that group is what would life look like if you did it on your terms

Speaker 1 because right now you're really not doing on your terms what you've done is say yo if i want to survive if i want to strive,

Speaker 1 this is what I have to do. And you have allowed people to tell you, okay, you need to be an engineer or you need to be a, and you need to move it.
So you've done a phenomenal job in being obedient.

Speaker 1 You've done a phenomenal job in complying. Yes.
Like you've done a phenomenal job. You follow the rules.
Yes. Congratulations.
You know what I'm saying? Like you didn't rob a bank.

Speaker 1 You know what I'm saying? Like you haven't done anything illegal. You did exactly what a good child should do.

Speaker 1 And I have a daughter that I have to get on her sometimes because she's that child that's like, yo, dad. What do you guys want me to do? And I, and I said,

Speaker 1 she's obedient. Stephen's up.
I said, do me a favor. Don't always be obedient.

Speaker 1 Like, you need to sit down and ask yourself, if you weren't thinking about the family's name, if you didn't, if Eric Thomas, E.T. the hip-hop preacher, was not your father, what would you be doing?

Speaker 1 What would you be doing if you didn't have to worry about honoring the dynasty?

Speaker 1 And you're doing a phenomenal job of honoring this dynasty. I'm not saying anything.
Went to school, handled your business. You've never been in trouble before.

Speaker 1 We've never had to spend money to do anything. You've been a phenomenal child.
But what would you do if you live life on your terms and you were able to to go where you want to do it?

Speaker 1 And so that's the first thing I would ask them to do. I want you to think about your life instead of the life because that's what you've been thinking about, the life.
Now think about your life.

Speaker 1 And I want you to start putting it everywhere. Now,

Speaker 1 the next thing I want you to do is I want you to know that if you have the ability, like I never forget, CJ was like, okay, E, you know what you're missing that the big boy, all the big boy speakers, you know what you're missing?

Speaker 1 I was like, no.

Speaker 1 He was like, the New York Times bestseller.

Speaker 1 Now, I'm not telling you got to do it, but I'm saying that's missing.

Speaker 1 You got it.

Speaker 1 So he was like, first of all, do you want it?

Speaker 1 Do you want it? Don't do it because I'm saying you want it. But do you want it?

Speaker 1 And he could elevate you, but do you want it? And I was like, yeah, I want it. The next question becomes, what does it take to do it?

Speaker 1 And then am I willing to do what it takes to get it?

Speaker 1 Because it's a lot. It's a lot.
But here's the thing. I believe if you think about it, it is only because somewhere inside of you, you have what it takes.
Now, capacity is there.

Speaker 1 Willingness is something totally different. Yes.
That's different. But I want every human to know.

Speaker 1 You wouldn't be watching the school of, you wouldn't be watching or listening to the school of greatness if you didn't believe you were great.

Speaker 1 I'm just, for real, you wouldn't be spending time with this man on a regular basis. I'm telling you, I wouldn't be going to Columbus.
I drove to Columbus. Bruh, it's not a,

Speaker 1 trust me when I tell you, it's not a, you don't get off the freeway.

Speaker 1 Like, it's not 65 and you get up. Why did I go? Because this man is great and greats want to hang with greats.
I need y'all to understand. Look, y'all may not know.
Listen to me.

Speaker 1 I've got nomad suitcases that I still carry this day because he gave them to me. Like,

Speaker 1 I didn't buy a new one. I've carried the exact same ones that he gave me.
And my son bought a set because I had a set. Because it reminds me of him when I travel.
It's like greatness, great.

Speaker 1 So you wouldn't be watching. You wouldn't be locked in.
Something in your spirit had you tuned into this band because you know you're great.

Speaker 1 Now you got to say to yourself, am I willing to cooperate with the greatness that's in me? And then once you do, and you start consistently operating in that, you're going to feel good about it.

Speaker 1 Here's what you have to do. You have to understand, Andre Deshields, I think, said the top of one mountain is the bottom of the next.
Wow. So you get to the top of the mountain, but you understand the

Speaker 1 GED was just one.

Speaker 1 The Fourier degree was just one. The masks was just, after the PhD was the New York Times, after that, it's the assessments, it's the training, it's the coaching.

Speaker 1 I'm in masterminds.

Speaker 1 I get coached. Right.
And so it's this idea of yesterday's greatness can't be enough. because I'm alive today.
So if I'm alive today, it must be some more greatness in me.

Speaker 1 And it's my job, like the toothpaste, it's my job not to just look, I don't know about you, but I would just use a little bit of it and get another one.

Speaker 1 I'm squeezing. I got money.
I'm squeezing that toothpaste. Why? Because I'm trying to get everything out the tube before I go to another one.

Speaker 1 And with my life, before I get out of here, which is why I could murder myself that I didn't realize at 12 that I was great. And that's why I say you got to check.

Speaker 1 in 2025 you 2025 right because i didn't know i was great and once i checked it and realized how great I was, I was like, bro, we're going to keep doing this.

Speaker 1 And to the day we die. And so I would just say to you, you're watching.
You're in this space. You're reading his books.
You're going to his conferences because you know it's in you.

Speaker 1 And it's time to stop being lazy. And

Speaker 1 it's time to activate. I love that, man.
I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness.

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