EP 19 - Nancy

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Speaker 1 Nancy grew up in Boston in the 70s. She was the youngest of three girls.
From birth, she was deemed a medical miracle.

Speaker 29 When I was born, they told my mother that I'm going to die in three days because I have a pinhole in my heart and a twisted valve.

Speaker 29 She's like, I don't think so. She took me home.
They told her, well, she's going to have to have open heart surgery by the time she's five.

Speaker 5 Didn't.

Speaker 29 Well, she's going to have to have, at least by 18, or she's going to die.

Speaker 5 Didn't.

Speaker 29 I'm 55. I've never had open heart surgery.

Speaker 1 Because of her heart condition, her mother kept a close eye on her. Her activities were restricted.
She wasn't even allowed to go to gym class in school.

Speaker 1 Family and teachers babied her, mostly because she was so small.

Speaker 29 I'm only 4'11,

Speaker 29 and when I was

Speaker 29 five years old, I think, I actually have a picture. I look like them too.

Speaker 29 So

Speaker 29 everybody treated me like I was a baby all the time.

Speaker 1 As a kid, Nancy went to the cardiologist every week for her heart condition. She wasn't scared about it, but she knew her mom was.

Speaker 29 I even remember being over at her friend's house. We'd be playing with their children, and they'd be in the kitchen talking, drinking, or whatever.

Speaker 29 And I would hear her crying and telling her friend, I'm so afraid that she's just going to die on me one day.

Speaker 29 I never told her I heard that, never.

Speaker 1 She surpassed medical expectations and grew up to be healthy. But doctors told her she wouldn't be able to have kids of her own.
The entire experience made Nancy and her mom really close.

Speaker 29 I didn't hang out with friends on a Saturday night. I hang out with my mother because she's just my best friend.
Everybody loved her because she was just down to earth.

Speaker 1 Early on in her life, Nancy saw that her father was treated differently than her mother.

Speaker 29 Back in the day, my mother and my father used to get pulled over a lot. And the cops would ask my mother, is he hurting you?

Speaker 29 Because she's white.

Speaker 1 Her father was black, and other kids teased Nancy about having interracial parents.

Speaker 29 It's like, what's wrong with your mother?

Speaker 29 There's nothing wrong with my mother. What are you talking about?

Speaker 29 My mother never paid attention to it. She said, if you pay attention, that's giving them more energy to do what they're doing.

Speaker 1 When Nancy was a teenager, she met a boy in her neighborhood named Devon. He was always trying to catch her eye.

Speaker 29 So I'm like, who is this person?

Speaker 29 And he was extremely handsome.

Speaker 1 One day, Devon brought her a present.

Speaker 29 So he heard that I love soft star vanilla ice cream with colored jimmies.

Speaker 29 From that day on, we were together.

Speaker 1 She and Devon became high school sweethearts.

Speaker 29 We were a class class couple. Of course we weren't.

Speaker 29 We were together all the time.

Speaker 29 It was like nothing could come between us.

Speaker 1 Their plan was to be together forever. And to this day, Nancy still wishes they could have been.
But tragedy derailed their future.

Speaker 29 I had heard that there was this extremely bad car accident. And I was in a school that sat up on a hill.
So you could see like the police cars and the ambulance and all that.

Speaker 29 That looks like a really bad accident up there.

Speaker 29 Everybody knew but me. Nobody wanted to tell me because they were afraid to tell me.
He was in that car accident.

Speaker 1 He was a passenger in the collision and they needed the jaws of life to pull him out of the car.

Speaker 29 When I found out, the person who told me said he was in a car accident and he died.

Speaker 29 I passed out, woke up in the nurse's office

Speaker 29 and i'm like i didn't just hear what she said

Speaker 29 the nurse said he wasn't a car secret but he's not dead

Speaker 29 he was in a coma for three days

Speaker 29 i went every day waited in the room every day waited in the room talked to him

Speaker 1 She was by his side when he woke up from the coma.

Speaker 29 But when he woke up,

Speaker 29 it was a different person. You know, they asked things like, when's your birthday? What's your name? Who's the president? Things like that.

Speaker 29 He said his name was Robert something and he was born in 1921.

Speaker 1 Devon was never the same.

Speaker 29 After that, he started smoking cigarettes, never smoked. He was like completely against it.
He started drinking, swearing, and he was like mean sometimes. And I'm like, who is this person?

Speaker 29 I'm just like, okay, it's going to get better. It's going to get better.

Speaker 29 It never got better.

Speaker 1 After his traumatic brain injury, it wasn't the same relationship. It was a lot for a 17-year-old to manage emotionally.

Speaker 29 I felt like he died in that accident. To me, he died in that accident.

Speaker 1 Nancy made the tough decision to leave Devon and focus on herself.

Speaker 1 She started her own life in Boston, working in the office of a stock brokerage.

Speaker 10 brokerage.

Speaker 1 By her early 20s, she was living on her own and fully supporting herself.

Speaker 29 I had a beautiful condo. My house was fully furnished.

Speaker 1 Every day on her lunch break, Nancy chatted with a guy who worked outside her building.

Speaker 29 I worked in the financial district. There was always construction going on at the Liberty Mutual building.

Speaker 29 You know, the construction guys would do the cat calling when the girls walked by, but there was this one guy. He was just, when he's having lunch, I'm going to lunch.
He's having his lunch.

Speaker 1 His name was Marvin. And Marvin became a fixture in her daily life.

Speaker 1 A friendly face that she felt comfortable with.

Speaker 29 And then he invited me to this club that he belonged to. It was like a dance club.
It was like the Caribbean cultural club.

Speaker 1 He was Jamaican, and Nancy's dad was from Cuba. So she was interested in Boston's Caribbean community.

Speaker 29 And I was like, all right, me and my friends have come for me this weekend. I was like, all right.

Speaker 1 That weekend, as promised, she and her friends stopped by. It was a lively scene with music and dancing.

Speaker 5 So when I went into the club, I was expecting to see Marvin, you know, let him know that I did come for his invitation.

Speaker 5 And I never saw him that night at all.

Speaker 1 But she hardly noticed. because she got distracted by a guy her age named Seth.

Speaker 29 He asked me to dance. I danced.
To me, it's just a dance. I wait to sit back down with my friends that continue

Speaker 5 hanging out. And he asked me to dance again.

Speaker 5 All right, I'm going to dance again.

Speaker 1 Seth wasn't exactly her type.

Speaker 29 Well, being 4'11, it is a lot, but because everybody's gonna be taller than you.

Speaker 29 Yeah, he's 6'3.

Speaker 1 Nancy and her friends decided to leave the party before it got too late.

Speaker 29 About that time, the night night was ending, and he comes running out the club.

Speaker 29 I'm like, oh.

Speaker 1 Seth wanted Nancy's number.

Speaker 1 It was the 90s.

Speaker 29 So he had to go to his car to get pen and paper.

Speaker 1 Nancy found it endearing. She thought she was meeting up with a friend from work and instead ended up meeting this nice guy.
It felt like fate. The next day, Seth called.

Speaker 29 I'll not forget, It was a Sunday. It was two o'clock in the afternoon and he called.
He said he was working. He was a butcher.
He's like, oh, I want to come see you after I got off work.

Speaker 29 I said, all right. He's like, where do you live? I said, I live on River Street.

Speaker 5 He goes, really?

Speaker 29 I work on River Street. I'm like, wow.

Speaker 1 He worked just a few blocks down from her apartment. So they agreed to meet up for lunch.
Seth recently moved to Boston from Jamaica.

Speaker 29 So he told me about, you know, living in Jamaica and that he was here on a visa.

Speaker 1 She loved his Jamaican accent, especially the way he said her name. She also liked his easygoing personality.
So she said yes to a second date. That's where he really impressed her.

Speaker 29 He cooked for me. He actually cooked it at his house and brought it to my house.

Speaker 29 I was like.

Speaker 29 So it's Jamaican food. It was a red snapper.
Delicious. Absolutely delicious.
He's an excellent cook.

Speaker 1 She hadn't had a serious boyfriend since Devon in high school. And Seth reminded her a bit of him.
He went out of his way to make her feel special, just like Devon had.

Speaker 29 I always tell people, you sweep me off my feet. I'll say the biggest attraction was he was pleasant and calm and respectful.

Speaker 29 She treated me like a lady.

Speaker 29 He was good to me and everything just seemed like it clicked.

Speaker 1 After they'd been dating for a few months, Seth took Nancy to meet his uncle. He was one of a few people in Seth's family who also immigrated to Boston.

Speaker 1 When Nancy walked through the door, she was shocked.

Speaker 29 And I was like, I know him.

Speaker 1 It was Marvin, Nancy's lunch break buddy.

Speaker 29 And I was like, you do the construction at Liberty Mutual, right? He's like, yeah, yeah, I see you when you're going to lunch sometimes.

Speaker 29 Yeah. Well, I said, wow, what a small world.

Speaker 1 Years later, Nancy would find out it wasn't much of a coincidence at all.

Speaker 1 That summer, she and Seth took their first vacation together.

Speaker 29 We went to New Hampshire, New Hampshire Beach. I went every year with friends or whenever.

Speaker 29 And I stayed at Bay View Hotel every year, right across from the beach.

Speaker 29 And I know that's where I can leave my child. I know that for a fact.

Speaker 1 Nancy had lived her whole life believing she'd never have kids. She told Seth she couldn't get pregnant.
When she found out that she was expecting, it felt like another medical miracle.

Speaker 1 Her first call was to her mom.

Speaker 29 She was like, yeah, you'll have to get married now. I said, right now.

Speaker 29 Right now.

Speaker 1 It seemed old-fashioned, but she trusted her mom to guide her in the right direction.

Speaker 29 We went to City Hall to register for the marriage certificate. I'm four months pregnant, and the lady gives you the paper.
It's split in the middle.

Speaker 29 Your information is here, and his information is here. And I was like, oh, they have your birth date wrong.
He's like, no, that's right.

Speaker 29 I said, no, it's not.

Speaker 29 He's like, it is.

Speaker 29 Well, you can't be 26 with this date of birth.

Speaker 29 He was 19.

Speaker 1 He lied about his age. He wasn't 26, like he said.
He was 19.

Speaker 1 Nancy was 23 at the time.

Speaker 1 Seth gave her a simple explanation.

Speaker 29 He had to make up that age for me to be interested. Because if he told me he was 19, I would have definitely not dated him.
He said, I said, you're right. So he lied to be able to date me.

Speaker 29 I just stood there for a minute.

Speaker 5 The place that you get, the marriage certificate, was at the bottom floor in the building where there is an echo because there is a big square with balconies. And I screamed out, what?

Speaker 5 And it echoes all over the place.

Speaker 5 All you saw was people coming over looking down.

Speaker 1 Seth insisted that it wasn't a big deal.

Speaker 29 He didn't comprehend that it was wrong. Like telling a child that it's wrong to play in the dirt, and they look at you like, why not? Like that.

Speaker 29 You know, like, what's the problem?

Speaker 29 I'm like, you know what? What do I do at this point?

Speaker 29 I got a marriage certificate in one hand and a baby in the belly.

Speaker 1 She decided she was going to let it go. She couldn't change his age, so she signed the papers.

Speaker 29 I think I was more in love with my baby than any situation.

Speaker 29 I wanted her to have a married mom and dad, and I wanted everything for her.

Speaker 29 So

Speaker 29 that was in my head.

Speaker 1 A few weeks later, Nancy and Seth had a small wedding. The couple set their sights on parenthood.
They got an adorable apartment on the top floor of a converted Boston mansion.

Speaker 1 complete with a castle-like turret.

Speaker 29 It was like a cute little quaint honeymoon beginning of life apartment.

Speaker 1 Nancy wanted the sex of the baby to be a surprise.

Speaker 29 When she came out, it was a girl. He actually had a frown on his face.
I said, I don't care if it was a frog. All that I went through, you better be happy.

Speaker 1 Seth's disappointment quickly faded.

Speaker 28 They both fell in love with their daughter.

Speaker 5 I was just in awe of her every day.

Speaker 29 She was a wonderful, wonderful little girl.

Speaker 1 Those first few years of their daughter's life were magical.

Speaker 29 He was an excellent father.

Speaker 29 He always took care of my daughter. Always.
Like he diaper her. Not chin with hampers.

Speaker 29 He diapered.

Speaker 29 Like washing material diapers.

Speaker 29 He made her baby food.

Speaker 29 He's the one that got up in the middle of the night. I didn't change poopy diapers because he did that, all of it.

Speaker 1 He was also excellent to Nancy.

Speaker 29 He did all the cooking. He did all the cleaning.
I could tell him, oh, I'm so tired. I'm coming home from work.
He'd have a bath ready for me. He'd have a glass of wine for me.

Speaker 29 He always cooked dinner.

Speaker 1 And this wasn't a phase for him. Year after year, Seth showed up for their family and their marriage.
She and Seth were a team.

Speaker 5 We worked together in the house without effort, not like, okay, you're going to do this and I'm going to, we just did it.

Speaker 5 Like even my mother used to say,

Speaker 5 you guys just do things effortlessly.

Speaker 1 Years into their marriage, they were still very much in love.

Speaker 5 The romance was still there, as far as I'm concerned. That didn't change at all.

Speaker 1 Even a neighbor commented on how physically close they seemed.

Speaker 5 She was like, every time I see you guys, you're so close.

Speaker 5 She was like, he's mowing the lawn and you're right next to him i'm like picking weeds but we were we were always close together like that always

Speaker 5 at the time nancy worked at a bank i had a computer to take home just in case it was inclement weather

Speaker 5 nancy was the only one in their house who used the computer and i had told them this is just my work computer only i can go on

Speaker 5 all right everybody knew that that was good.

Speaker 5 One day, I went on the computer and a dating website popped up.

Speaker 5 It was called adultfinder.com. I'll never forget it now.
The username was there, but the password wasn't there.

Speaker 1 The username was Peter Parker.

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Speaker 1 Five years into their marriage, Nancy found a strange dating website on her work computer with a username she didn't recognize.

Speaker 5 I'm like, Peter Pac is so, I'm like, somebody got my computer and put their name on me. I'm thinking Peter Pac is a person.

Speaker 5 And I'm like, Seth, what is, did you see that? He was like, oh, those things are like pop-ups. And I'm like, oh my God, let me call my company and let them know I did not go on that website.

Speaker 5 And they took it at its face value. They didn't dig into it or nothing like that.

Speaker 1 And Nancy didn't either. Besides, her focus was on their daughter, who just started school.

Speaker 29 I went to every after school program and every play, and I was always by myself because he was working.

Speaker 1 He'd taken a demanding job at the Metro Rail. He often worked overtime hours to make extra money.
They were only in their 30s, but they were already planning for an early retirement.

Speaker 5 And we always talked about retiring in Jamaica.

Speaker 5 I have a house there. Up in the hills where his father had a house, it's beautiful up there.
The air and everything is different.

Speaker 5 We had a book in everything that we wrote in what we want, what we're going to do.

Speaker 1 A book where they wrote down their dreams for the future. In order to make those dreams happen, Nancy and Seth worked long hours.
The only day they both had off was Sunday.

Speaker 1 That day was reserved for family.

Speaker 5 When she got older, like 10, 11, we would go to the mall. I would go one way and they would go another because they're going to the video game store and I'm in Macy's or Jay C'A or something.

Speaker 5 And we had wonky talkies. We had wonky talkies.
It was cute. We had a lot of fun with her.

Speaker 1 One Sunday, Nancy was looking forward to their family time, but Seth took an overtime shift.

Speaker 5 Well, I called him at work for something. I can't remember what it was.

Speaker 5 And he said he's not here. I'm like, oh, did he go to the bathroom? You know,

Speaker 5 no, he's not. Today's his day off.

Speaker 5 But he's not doing overtime today?

Speaker 5 No.

Speaker 5 So when he got home, At midnight, when he normally gets home, he comes in the door. I didn't mention to him that I knew he wasn't at work.
I said, Oh, you're home a little bit later than normal.

Speaker 5 I was like, I know there ain't no traffic at this time. Are you okay?

Speaker 1 He said he stayed late to talk to a coworker who was having a relationship problem.

Speaker 5 He was like, We would talk a long time because he was telling me that he cheated on his girlfriend and she found out. And that's why we was talking.
He needed somebody to talk to.

Speaker 5 I was like, Wow, a woman always finds out what you're doing to dog comes to light. Don't forget.

Speaker 1 She knew she'd caught seth in a lie he hadn't been at work that day at all and he certainly hadn't been comforting a co-worker so where was he

Speaker 1 instead of asking him directly she decided to wait and see what else she can find out plus she wasn't ready to accuse him of anything once you put it out there that you don't trust them your whole relationship changes it can really ruin even like a friendship.

Speaker 5 Say you and I, if we're friends and my pocketbook is missing, i put it in the wrong place but now i'm like did you take my pocketbook our friendship is over it's over

Speaker 5 you just have to be careful with stuff like that you know so i was kind of stuck until i can get something tangible and soon she would get something tangible or maybe metaphysical

Speaker 1 Nancy was in bed late one night and out of their bedroom window, she could see Seth standing outside their house.

Speaker 5 And I saw a figure next to him.

Speaker 5 And I was half asleep and half awake and I still got to sleep. And I talked to him the next day and I said, were you okay last night? Did anything different happen?

Speaker 5 He goes, yeah, I almost got into a car accident. We were the only two cars in a road.
I almost got in a car accident. And I was like, I figured something was wrong.
He said, why?

Speaker 5 And I told him the story how I saw the figure. I said, that was your guardian angel That's it.

Speaker 1 After that, Seth was spooked. He knew she'd seen something.
And Nancy knew that the figure next to him was no guardian angel.

Speaker 5 After that, you can tell he was so nervous to do anything.

Speaker 1 She wasn't about to start spying on him. So she waited.

Speaker 5 I'm not checking your pockets and your cell phone records and finding out where you're going or following you where you're going. I'm not doing that.
I'm not checking no man like that.

Speaker 5 I don't have time for that.

Speaker 1 But she kept setting traps in their conversations just to see how he would react.

Speaker 5 And I told him I kept having a reoccurring dream of him being for somebody else.

Speaker 1 Christmas was coming up and that year, Seth went all out.

Speaker 5 Every year we always said we would buy each other just one gift and we'd splurge everything else on our daughter. And we did that for the longest time.

Speaker 5 Well, this Christmas, I got it was an iPod at the time, the skinny one, and he got it engraved and back with a whole paragraph. I love you, I love you to the day I die.
I'm like, oh, wow.

Speaker 5 I got the Nikes with the pedometer that was inside the shoe. I mean, he gave me so many, and it was expensive gifts.
And I'm like, why'd you buy me so much?

Speaker 5 He's like, I just wanted to.

Speaker 5 I'm like, okay.

Speaker 1 As Christmas Day Day went on, she noticed that Seth was acting strange.

Speaker 5 He was so quiet. Like, he's a quiet person anyway, but I mean, nothing.
After we did the gifts, we were going to my mother's house in Boston. Not a word driving there.
Not a word during dinner.

Speaker 5 Not a word coming back home.

Speaker 5 My was like, what's wrong with you? Are you sick? What's wrong? He was like, nothing. I was like, something's wrong.
What's the matter? Nothing. Okay.

Speaker 5 We went to bed.

Speaker 5 Two o'clock, and I got up. I said, I can't take it anymore.
Something is wrong. What is wrong with you?

Speaker 5 He jumps out of the bed and gets on his knees like he's going to pray and closes his eyes and said,

Speaker 5 I got another woman pregnant.

Speaker 17 There it was.

Speaker 1 The confession she'd been waiting for. But it was much bigger than she could have imagined.
the revelation was so overwhelming she passed out it was like somebody like boom right in my chest

Speaker 5 i finally came to and i just said well i guess you just have to go he said just like that i said uh yeah just like that he goes you're not even gonna try to fight for me I said, how can I fight for something I already lost?

Speaker 5 I said, you can come get your stuff later. For now, you have to go like right now.

Speaker 5 Because if you don't, I really don't think you're worth going to jail for. So I really think you should leave.

Speaker 1 Right after he left, Nancy called her mom. It was 3 a.m., but of course, her mom still picked up.

Speaker 5 She's like, I can't, I really can't believe this.

Speaker 5 Because you would have never known that. And she loved him to depth.
She said, he deserves an Oscar. He really deserves an Oscar.

Speaker 1 The next morning, Seth was at their front door. He needed to pack a bag.

Speaker 5 And that's when I asked, how long have you been seeing her?

Speaker 5 He admitted to four years.

Speaker 5 He goes, I know you knew. I was like, how?

Speaker 5 When you told me about that guardian angel, I knew you knew then.

Speaker 1 Nancy figured that the dating website she'd seen years earlier was connected to this affair.

Speaker 5 And I said, and who the hell is Peter Foker?

Speaker 5 He said, it's Spider-Man, like I'm supposed to know. I was like, huh? He said, that's his real name.
I said, so what does that have to do with you? Cause you're not a damn Spider-Man.

Speaker 5 He said, it's my favorite character.

Speaker 5 Okay, Spider-Man.

Speaker 1 Seth had been weaving a web of lies for their entire marriage. And Nancy was just starting to unravel it.
She told him to expect divorce papers on Monday.

Speaker 5 He's like, like, You're divorcing me?

Speaker 5 I said, dude, you're not getting it? I told you, you got to go. Would you think I just want you to spend the night somewhere and just come back home? No,

Speaker 5 done.

Speaker 1 With that conversation, their marriage was over. They'd been together for 15 years.

Speaker 1 Nancy thought she'd heard the worst of it, but she'd soon realize his deception was far bigger than an affair.

Speaker 5 Kim eventually told me the whole story. And I said, why me?

Speaker 5 He said, as my uncle was saying,

Speaker 5 why not you?

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Speaker 1 Nancy's 15-year marriage was blown apart when her husband confessed to getting another woman pregnant. But that wasn't the whole story.
The real story started before Seth and Nancy even met.

Speaker 1 Here's what Seth confessed.

Speaker 5 He goes, Well,

Speaker 5 I came to America with a visa. I was only supposed to stay for six months.
I started a job and I decided I wanted to stay.

Speaker 5 And he said, Marvin told him that you have to get your green card and to get that, he would have to get married.

Speaker 5 And I said, oh, okay.

Speaker 5 He goes,

Speaker 5 well, it was you. I said, it was me.
Like, I was chosen.

Speaker 5 He said, yeah.

Speaker 5 So our relationship was set up from the beginning and I had no idea.

Speaker 1 The night Nancy first met Seth at the Caribbean Club, that wasn't fate. It was orchestrated.
She'd been singled out by Seth's uncle Marvin. You know the guy from work?

Speaker 1 And he invited Nancy there for a purpose.

Speaker 5 His uncle had his eye on me and invited me to the club. When I came to the club, he made sure his nephew was there, made sure his nephew danced with me.

Speaker 1 She felt lucky meeting Seth at the club. But it turns out it was all planned for one goal.

Speaker 29 He told me his uncle was like, she looks like she has money. He's the one that put us together for this crappy green card.

Speaker 1 When Nancy got pregnant, she knew Seth was still on his visa.

Speaker 5 He goes, I have to go back. And I'm like, oh, boy, I need you to have a baby.

Speaker 5 So I said, we can't get married then because I didn't know. He goes, yeah, we can, but that changes everything.

Speaker 5 I just have to go and make it right at the immigration office with this certificate called a green card.

Speaker 1 She was having a baby and was scared to lose Seth. So back then, Nancy had jumped into action.

Speaker 5 I was like, okay, so what do we need to do?

Speaker 5 He's like, well, it's easier and faster if we have a lawyer. And I said, okay.

Speaker 5 So I spent $10,000 of my own money to get the lawyer.

Speaker 1 Nancy saw the green card as another piece of paperwork they needed to get married. She had no idea she was part of an elaborate scheme.

Speaker 5 I definitely feel like I was singled out.

Speaker 5 Fortunately for them, it worked out, and Seth got his green card.

Speaker 5 Marvin was the mastermind of the whole thing.

Speaker 1 And to add insult to injury, Seth had another reason why he chose Nancy.

Speaker 5 Because, well, you told me you couldn't have any children that fit into

Speaker 5 the plan, that I wouldn't have to have any connection with you.

Speaker 5 I said, wow, you guys are evil.

Speaker 5 That is evil.

Speaker 1 This revelation made her feel as if her whole relationship was manufactured, that she had been used.

Speaker 5 I was just a pawn in their little game.

Speaker 1 Every day of their marriage, he welcomed her home with a glass of wine and a home-cooked meal.

Speaker 1 Nobody had ever shown her love like this before.

Speaker 1 If Nancy was just a means to an end, why did Seth bother staying with her for 15 years

Speaker 1 well Nancy asked him that directly

Speaker 5 and I said okay well we were married for 15 years

Speaker 5 so I don't understand

Speaker 14 he said

Speaker 5 well

Speaker 5 I know I'm going to hell because

Speaker 5 I had to stay married to you a little bit longer because my girlfriend in Jamaica wanted to come here and for me to be able to bring her here, I had to show

Speaker 5 that I was economically fit to be able to bring her here.

Speaker 1 Nancy had assumed the affair was from Seth's online dalliances as Peter Parker, but it turns out he'd been with the other woman for their entire marriage.

Speaker 5 He knew her

Speaker 5 in Jamaica. I don't know if it was since they were kids or all their life.
I'm not sure. But he brought her here from Jamaica.

Speaker 1 Seth finally confessed his double life to Nancy because he was just in too deep. It turns out the pregnancy he told Nancy about wasn't the first one.
He had a whole other family.

Speaker 5 He told me that day because she was pregnant again.

Speaker 5 So there were four. She was pregnant with the fifth.
At that point, he couldn't take it anymore, like do what he was doing financially with me and our daughter.

Speaker 5 He said he had come to a point where it was just becoming too much.

Speaker 1 All those years, Seth claimed to be working overtime, he was actually going over to his other house, to his other children. It shattered Nancy's reality.

Speaker 5 I felt like I was living the life of the Truman show,

Speaker 5 and I still feel that way.

Speaker 5 I don't know what was real or not. I feel like I would have cried because I feel so stupid.

Speaker 5 Everything was fake.

Speaker 5 Who was I living with? Are the walls real? Am I going to push them down? And we're on a television program. What is this?

Speaker 1 Their daughter was 14 at the time, and Nancy wanted to protect her from the reality of her father's dishonesty. She tried to maintain a sense of stability for her and her daughter.

Speaker 1 She moved to a new place while they figured out the divorce, divided their assets, and split up shared lives.

Speaker 5 I had moved to a smaller townhouse. I was going back and forth to the home that we owned together, Seth and I,

Speaker 5 because I had to figure out what I was bringing to my new home.

Speaker 1 They were waiting to put the house on the market until the divorce was final. In the meantime, clearing out the old house was a constant chore.

Speaker 5 One day I went during the day and I went to open the door with my

Speaker 5 key,

Speaker 5 but someone on the other side of the door opened it for me.

Speaker 5 Someone's in my house

Speaker 5 scared the living craps out of me. I'm like, who are you? He's like, who are you? I'm like, this is my house.

Speaker 1 Seth short sold their house without telling Nancy. The person who'd opened the door was the new owner.

Speaker 5 I was only on the deed and not the mortgage, so I guess I didn't need to be there for the sale of the home.

Speaker 1 Since it was a short sale, there wasn't even a profit to divide in their divorce, even though she'd paid half the mortgage for a decade.

Speaker 1 It felt like a slap in the face. She couldn't move out on her own terms.
But to make matters worse, some of her most prized possessions were still sold with the house.

Speaker 1 And she would never see them again.

Speaker 5 My diaries and my ledgers that I been writing in since I was 12, 13, up until that point, I had like a memory box that I had my daughter's baby shoes in it.

Speaker 5 It had hairbows of hers, some things, little things that like memory stuff, ornaments that meant some, you know, baby's first Christmas, things like that. All of that was gone.
And it was just

Speaker 5 devastating.

Speaker 1 After they separated, Seth wasted no time stepping into his new life. After all, he'd been building it for some time.

Speaker 5 He has his whole other new family to go to as if he didn't have to skip a beat while I'm scratching and scrounging to try to move and find out where I can live best for me and my daughter.

Speaker 5 And it just didn't seem fair.

Speaker 1 Nancy was left to pick up the pieces. It all took an intense toll.

Speaker 5 I don't remember three years of that after the divorce. I was like in a fog.

Speaker 5 I don't know any other way to explain it.

Speaker 5 And I told my mother, I lost like two or three years of my life. I wouldn't even know what happened in between that because I was just going.

Speaker 1 Her daughter got her through those difficult years.

Speaker 5 And she was always

Speaker 5 my priority. Always.

Speaker 5 You kind of feel ashamed because I start thinking to myself, how stupid could I be?

Speaker 1 Nancy is a survivor.

Speaker 5 Even though I was considered ill with the

Speaker 5 twisted vowel haunt murmur, I was born a warrior.

Speaker 1 It took years to recover emotionally and feel like herself again. And now, 15 years post-divorce, she's proud of how far she's come.

Speaker 5 And after time went on, I can talk about this without crying, without being upset. Like, he doesn't deserve my tears.

Speaker 5 That's not my fault.

Speaker 5 I did survive and I feel stronger now than I did before.

Speaker 5 The resilience in me, nobody can take that from me.

Speaker 1 We end all of our episodes with the same question: Why do you want to tell your story?

Speaker 5 It is my story, and I want to tell it. Maybe somebody's in it right now, and they're not thinking about it

Speaker 5 because this happens too much,

Speaker 5 and it's somebody's life. You know,

Speaker 5 I have a lot to give from that heartache

Speaker 5 that can turn into a good thing

Speaker 1 on the next episode of betrayal,

Speaker 1 I said to him on those last few days as I was holding his hand in the hospital, I was just like, Man, you've got to go up there. You've got to talk to mom.

Speaker 1 You've got to find me answers.

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Speaker 1 Hosted and produced by me, Andrea Gunning. Written and produced by Monique Laborde.
Also produced by Ben Fetterman. Associate producers are Kristen Mel Curie and Caitlin Golden.

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