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Welcome to another episode of The Truth After Dark. I am your host, Cesar Faraday.

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Speaker 9 And tonight we have two very special ladies who run the podcast game, launched the hit TV show, sold out tours, and shot commercials with Summer Walker Clocket.

Speaker 9 These are two ladies not to be played with. Please welcome Lex P and Draina Cole of Poor Mind.

Speaker 2 Hey,

Speaker 2 that was an introduction. Every time people intro us, we always be like, we did all this.
I know.

Speaker 2 Come on, girl. Get a song.
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Speaker 2 Hell yeah. We did.
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Speaker 9 And thank you guys for joining. I really love y'all.
Thank you. You have such a genuine, cool spirit.
Like your chemistry together is just dope.

Speaker 2 Like, I really love your content and people really rock with y'all. So, you know, that's incredible.
Thank you for having me.

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Speaker 9 How did y'all meet?

Speaker 2 We met.

Speaker 9 We love this story.

Speaker 2 So, we met in Houston at the strip club. Okay.

Speaker 2 We were both working at the strip club. We were bartenders, not dancers.

Speaker 2 We were bartenders. It was like my first real bartending job.
I had never really bartended before. So, you know, I was just making like the typical Henny and Cole,

Speaker 2 cranberry vodka, keep it cute, glass of champagne.

Speaker 2 That's what you come to me for.

Speaker 2 She had been bartending for a minute, so she was a little more experienced.

Speaker 5 Yeah, I'm serious,

Speaker 2 yeah.

Speaker 5 I'm holding him up.

Speaker 2 And we had been working together for a few months. And we, I don't know, we would speak.
Like, we would say hi to each other, but we never really had like a conversation. Okay.

Speaker 2 Until one night, I had a customer who was just asking me for like the craziest shit, like Bob Marley's and stuff. Yeah, I'm like, who the hell know how to make that?

Speaker 2 But he was just trying to talk to Joe. He was trying to talk to me.

Speaker 2 He was trying to holler at me and he was tipping really well he was okay but he was asking for a lot of stuff that i'm like girl i remember he ordered a manhattan

Speaker 5 hatting in the strip club

Speaker 2 right what are you doing and so i'm like look

Speaker 2 like hey girl if you

Speaker 2 like help me make these drinks we could bust this money down because he was giving me He was giving me so much money.

Speaker 5 He was tipping her like $100 every drink that she gave me.

Speaker 2 He only gave me like $2,000 that night.

Speaker 2 And then me and her, I was like, okay, we can bust this down. We can split.

Speaker 5 And I was making them strong, too.

Speaker 2 I was like, yeah.

Speaker 2 I'm finna double that. And we just stayed friends after that.
Like, we remained cool.

Speaker 2 I ended up moving to Atlanta a year after we met. The whole year I was there, me and her would still communicate all the time.
And then I convinced her to move to Atlanta.

Speaker 2 For real?

Speaker 9 And then how's y'all decide to do the podcast?

Speaker 5 I think we would, it sounds so common now because everybody's like, oh my gosh, we're so funny. We need to start a podcast.

Speaker 5 But honestly, it was like people every time we would go to a bar, be having a conversation, people around us would just start listening to our conversation, chiming in.

Speaker 5 And like, my ex at the time, the guy I was dating at the time, he was like, man, y'all need to record this. This is funny.
Yeah. Because we had started a YouTube channel.

Speaker 5 We used to be on there doing mukbangs, beauty content,

Speaker 5 all type of stuff. And he was like, no, this is what y'all need to record.

Speaker 5 So we recorded the episode and like it got like 100 views, which was good for us because everything else is getting like

Speaker 2 yeah. I was like, We did it.

Speaker 9 Yeah, we hit gold.

Speaker 5 So, honestly, after doing that, it just stuck. And then, my friend, she had a popular podcast at the time.
She was like, Hey, do y'all know about podcasting? Turn into a podcast.

Speaker 5 And honestly, we've had so much help along the way of people just being like, This is a good product.

Speaker 5 Y'all need to keep doing this and helping us brand it because it was Wind Down Wednesday, which is so generic. But we were like, Okay, let's brand it as Poor Month.

Speaker 2 Yeah, that's dope.

Speaker 9 And not everyone, like, I, there's so many podcasts, but not everyone could just, they think anyone get on a mic, but it's hard as that

Speaker 9 interesting conversation that just captures people. And y'all really do have that.

Speaker 2 Like, y'all are hilarious and funny, like, and just a vibe.

Speaker 9 And you don't have to have guests. It could just be y'all.
Yeah.

Speaker 9 Yeah. And that's big because some people are guest driven.
That's dope.

Speaker 2 We started off doing that. Like for the first, we actually just really started having guests within the past two, three years.

Speaker 2 For a long time, it was just her and I just recording by ourselves. Solo.
I love that.

Speaker 4 That's kind of been like what our motto is because we're like, you want people to fall in love with y'all. Right.

Speaker 2 You get all those things. You get it.
You know, because

Speaker 4 when you're guest-driven, you can run out. Yeah.
Like, when they fall in love with you, the guest is a bonus. Right.
You know what I'm saying? And that's how we feel.

Speaker 4 But, like, yeah, I think you guys have been doing fabulous in this space.

Speaker 2 I'm definitely a fan.

Speaker 4 I've seen clips of come up a lot of y'all, and I just had me cracking up.

Speaker 2 Yeah, we didn't think that.

Speaker 9 He was like, They're so funny.

Speaker 2 When he said it, I was like, Yeah, yeah, yeah. He was like, Yeah, I know who they are.

Speaker 2 I was like, No, I love that. Are y'all living in relationships? I'm not currently.
I was for like two and a half years.

Speaker 9 Okay, I saw you say that on Joe Budden that you were.

Speaker 2 So now you're not. I'm not.
I'm single, but

Speaker 2 yeah. I mean, I'm single.
I'm single. Somebody Somebody about to be mad.

Speaker 2 My ex, he still be, he was texting me earlier, but so, but y'all been on and off.

Speaker 2 So, or y'all were we were on, okay. But then, as of, I would say this year, we've been on and off.
Okay, so do you think that this is a off permanently or you go back on?

Speaker 2 You know, I don't even want to lie. I'm not sure just because him and I have to be in close proximity to like a lot of the time because we work together and stuff.
So, okay, I don't know.

Speaker 2 So, you're like, I don't know.

Speaker 9 We might get back together.

Speaker 2 I heard that. Okay.
It's hard out here. It's hard out here.
It is. Dating is.

Speaker 9 What about you?

Speaker 5 Yeah, I'm in a relationship. You know, we're figuring out.
I always say, but I'm not married. Like, I'm 36.
So I think it's so weird to be like, oh, yeah, I have a boyfriend.

Speaker 5 So it's like, technically, I am single.

Speaker 2 I'm not married.

Speaker 2 Because what are we doing? You know what I'm saying? What are we doing?

Speaker 9 So you feel like if I'm in a relationship, but we're not married, you're single.

Speaker 5 Well, I mean,

Speaker 5 I say single because like with like paperwork, that's what I put. You can't put you got a boyfriend.
Yeah, you put it. But I mean, as far as like, I'm not going out with other men.

Speaker 5 He's not going out with other women as far as I know, nigga.

Speaker 2 Because don't play with me. Don't play with you.

Speaker 5 But yeah, I think like at this age, it's kind of like, you know, I am with somebody, but it's kind of like, you know, I'm too old to be like boyfriend, boyfriend, girlfriend.

Speaker 2 So how long have y'all been together?

Speaker 9 Two years. What do you think the timing is? And does it change on age for y'all?

Speaker 9 What do you think the timing is for you to be like?

Speaker 2 Hello?

Speaker 9 Like, are you going to propose? And if not, I'm moving on. Like, what do you think?

Speaker 2 Are we at that time? Yeah.

Speaker 9 Because of the age? Is that what it is?

Speaker 2 Okay. Well, no, to be honest, I think I've always felt that way.
Okay. I feel like men know, at least that's my opinion.
I be feeling like they know.

Speaker 2 Like, it don't take 10, 15 years for you to figure out if you want to marry somebody.

Speaker 9 So, what is the year?

Speaker 2 Damn. To me, when you start to get close to that three-year mark, nigga, what the fuck you trying to do? Right.
Yeah, I agree. This is what I feel.
I feel like you gotta live.

Speaker 2 Like, what are you trying to do?

Speaker 2 Because when we get to five first, if we're still not, you said, well, I think you gotta live with each other. You know, a lot of women have a rule of like, I won't live until I'm married.

Speaker 2 Women have that rule. I don't have that rule.

Speaker 9 I don't have that rule. I live.

Speaker 2 You don't know nobody. I need to know.

Speaker 9 I need to know. I need to live with you.

Speaker 5 I'm not mad at that, but I feel like it needs to be a plan.

Speaker 5 Like, because I feel like sometimes if you move in with the guy, because I've lived with somebody I've dated before, and I feel like if you live together, it's kind of like they get comfortable, like, babe, man, we don't need to go to that courthouse.

Speaker 2 Man, I love you.

Speaker 5 What I got to get them white people involved for?

Speaker 2 Why we need the paperwork?

Speaker 2 Yeah. They're like, oh, crying.

Speaker 5 Yeah, you know what I'm saying? Because they get comfortable. They feel like, why do I have to do this? We're good.
We're in the same house. What more do you want from me?

Speaker 2 Common law, Mary. Yeah, they do.

Speaker 5 So I feel like, I think it needs to be like, everything needs to be aligned. Like, is there a proposal that's about to happen? At least we need to be engaged and living together.

Speaker 9 So you feel like there should be a plan, like, hey, I want to move in. This is the time we should start living together because I think that we're getting to that point.

Speaker 9 Once we live together, we should now be getting engaged. Like, that should be a conversation.

Speaker 2 I think so. I don't need no roommate.
Yeah.

Speaker 9 I don't mean no. You want a plan.
You want a man with a plan and he wants to be vocal.

Speaker 9 Well, I notice with men, though, they do a lot of their own inner thinking and they don't really express their plan all the time. They don't.

Speaker 9 You know, like they could have a plan, like, oh, I'm going to, let's move, let's do this, but they don't always sit down and communicate it and be like, hey, this is what we're doing.

Speaker 9 Because men don't operate like that, I feel.

Speaker 5 You better let me know because time is chicken.

Speaker 2 Hey, like, like, this is the thing.

Speaker 4 Like, you all, like, for men, I'm going to speak for the men because we just, we kind of live in the moment.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 4 You know what I'm saying? It's not like I'm going to come in here and I got a plan laid out for you. Here we go.
After two years, we're going to get engaged.

Speaker 2 And then after three years, I'm going to to marry you. And then after four years, you're going to have a kid.

Speaker 2 We don't got the paper. We don't got the paper for that.

Speaker 2 We in the moment, we just, we don't even know we even love with you.

Speaker 2 We get slapped over the head.

Speaker 2 Damn, I love her. Yeah.
Like, damn. How did that happen? Yeah.
You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 4 It's just like, you know, but I truly feel like you don't.

Speaker 4 Why is marriage even important? Is marriage important?

Speaker 4 Is that important? Is that something you're saying? That's what I want to do.

Speaker 2 Yes.

Speaker 2 At this age, yeah.

Speaker 2 I think when I was younger, I definitely didn't care as much about marriage as i get older i do because i also look at marriage like it's a business 100 so it's a business it is it should be about love but also you need to be with somebody where it makes sense

Speaker 5 on paper and i say i look at it like this because um my parents were married and my dad passed away and when my dad passed away my mom was taken care of because he had everything in order and i think about like if they wouldn't have been married he could have had cousins and everybody else that's coming from from the woodworks fighting her for what was hers, but they don't recognize that unless that piece of paper says, hey, everything belongs to her.

Speaker 2 So you see that a lot of times.

Speaker 5 Somebody passes away and it's like, oh, he's survived by, and they're like, oh, this is her little friend.

Speaker 2 His lifetime companion. Long time companion.

Speaker 9 Or like, you know, you have this intimate relationship with a man that you've been building for all these years and then he dies and you like, no one is even taking you seriously.

Speaker 9 You're like, wait a minute he's the person he talked to me about everything he wanted to do everything he needed me to put together but then you get cut out completely and you get and sometimes they have people that just want to take advantage and you're like damn i really want to help and make sure this is straight your kids are straight these people and i can't even do that because now it's like i no one's taking me serious you know so i think that that's for that's how i look at it and if something was to happen to me vice versa because your partner is the most intimate person that knows you the most no matter what because you're with them every day you tell them everything.

Speaker 9 So, I would want vice versa. Sometimes you should be able to be like, I know this is what she will want.

Speaker 5 And I saw that, I think it's a union before God. It's a beautiful thing.
You know what I'm saying? Like, it's something that, you know, a lot of people, some traditionally do it in a church.

Speaker 5 Like, this is a beautiful moment. And it's like, I don't look at marriage as something scary or a bad thing.
I look at it like another step in life that's, you know, a progressive.

Speaker 2 Yeah, I agree. I don't know.
I just feel like if it's something that you want, you just need to stand 10 toes on it.

Speaker 2 Because also, I think a lot of women, their biggest fear is wasting all of that time. Like you're with a man for five years and y'all don't, you trying to keep it cute and you trying to play coy.

Speaker 2 So you're not really bringing up the fact that you want to get married.

Speaker 2 You letting him do it on his own time or hoping that he will. And then now y'all five years in, six years in, seven years in,

Speaker 2 he still haven't married you. You tapping your foot like, what's going on? Then say y'all end up breaking up.
That's seven years you spent spent with that person

Speaker 2 and you really wanted marriage, or you really wanted kids, and it never happened.

Speaker 4 This is what I'll tell you this, and I started to break you, but like, I feel like after 33, he gets one year.

Speaker 4 I ain't mad at it. Living with each other, though.

Speaker 8 Okay. Living with each other.

Speaker 4 One year, okay.

Speaker 2 He got to make a decision. I feel you.
I'm not mad at that.

Speaker 4 I think that's what it should be.

Speaker 2 But do you think men respond well to ultimatum? Because that's kind of like an ultimatum.

Speaker 4 I got to do something else.

Speaker 4 Because, like you just said, what?

Speaker 2 Five years go by. Yeah.

Speaker 4 Well, six years go by but then check this out now say like you together three four five years

Speaker 2 why jump because this this we we we we good right now right we good is everything good no it's not why i mean everything i want to be married and i'm not in hell no shit ain't good

Speaker 9 for you it's good but the woman's in her head every day like am i not worthy enough why does he want to marry me why doesn't can i have this

Speaker 9 like god forbid a man's been married before then you really like oh wait hold on.

Speaker 2 Why not? Yeah,

Speaker 9 yeah.

Speaker 2 Yeah, he really ain't gonna be in no rush. Exactly.

Speaker 9 So then a woman starts to get in her head. So it's not good for a woman.
But like my best friend, her fiancé, they met, and in a year, he proposed to her on his birthday. I like that.

Speaker 9 They're about getting married in February in Jamaica.

Speaker 2 You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 9 I feel like when you're older, a man just knows if he's rocking with you or not.

Speaker 4 But then she said this, it's a business, right? So say he treated like a business too. So say, like, all right,

Speaker 4 I'm going to get us this house. I'm going to put it in your name.

Speaker 2 Boom.

Speaker 4 All right I'm gonna do a couple things in your name is is is there a rush now is there still a rush when he's starting to do stuff okay my will your name

Speaker 4 like now what

Speaker 2 you can kick back a little bit

Speaker 2 you can kind of like okay

Speaker 2 you know what we gotta get married but he did a couple couple things that like if something happened then I'm good No,

Speaker 2 it's a business though. Because to be honest,

Speaker 2 I'm not putting no house in my name for us and we not married. That's all I mean.
I'm I'm nervous. Better if I get on the name.

Speaker 9 And now we're broken up and now I have the mortgage and both.

Speaker 2 Gotcha.

Speaker 2 And why do I have to do it? Like, it's giving, it's giving you illegitimate. Yeah.

Speaker 2 Then you ain't got your shit together. Why you got a whole nother family? Yeah, why it needs to be in my name?

Speaker 4 Because I just want to make sure if something happened, baby, like,

Speaker 4 you know,

Speaker 2 red flags will go up.

Speaker 2 Yeah, to me, that would be.

Speaker 9 Like, both of our names could be on the house if we decide to buy a home and live together or something like that.

Speaker 4 He don't have his name on it, too, then.

Speaker 2 I mean, but he doesn't have to be a bad person.

Speaker 5 A smart businessman is going to make sure his name is on the house, too. So if you're doing that, it's like, what you up to?

Speaker 2 If you just want it to be in my name and you don't want to have no parts legally,

Speaker 2 I'm going to be questioning the fuck out of that shit.

Speaker 2 Something in the milk is going to be a little bit more. Something for it.
Yeah, something right.

Speaker 9 Oh, something in the water ain't clean.

Speaker 2 Good luck if you think that brings clean.

Speaker 9 But do you you think, but do you think that the woman, the idea of like a man like proposing to you and wanting to marry you and do this in front of all these people, is that something too?

Speaker 9 Like more than it just being a business, do you feel like, damn, I feel special? Like this was,

Speaker 9 you know, like I feel like women want that moment because you want to feel like, wow, you really thought about this.

Speaker 2 You got on your knee. You did this in front of that.

Speaker 9 I think women also, they love that. Like, you know, that's something.

Speaker 4 I think I just like the ideal of marriage.

Speaker 2 I mean, and I think men will only go to those type of lengths when they really love you and are choosing you.

Speaker 2 I think it's about feeling like you love me enough that you're choosing me out of all of these other options. Yeah.

Speaker 9 Yeah. And it's not, I think a lot of women do love the idea of just being like, I got the ring.

Speaker 2 I'm married.

Speaker 9 A lot of women do love that idea.

Speaker 2 For sure.

Speaker 9 And then there's some women who really just love that man. And you're like, I want this man to choose me and want to do that.
And I don't want to be in a space where I'm like.

Speaker 9 Are you going to propose to me? I'm not doing that.

Speaker 2 Me neither. I will never do that with a man.

Speaker 9 I'm not.

Speaker 2 I'm not pressuring you.

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So we're going to talk about intimacy, intimacy, okay?

Speaker 9 I want you to rank these in order from best to worst. Okay.
Morning sex, daytime sex, or nighttime sex.

Speaker 4 Ooh,

Speaker 4 so,

Speaker 4 oh man, that's a good one. I think

Speaker 4 I'm going to rank morning number one.

Speaker 2 Morning, I agree with that.

Speaker 9 Why is morning number one?

Speaker 4 No, because that's the start of your day. And, you know, I just feel like when you wake up and you have that intimacy in the morning,

Speaker 4 it just flows throughout your day. You feel good.
You know,

Speaker 4 you just got to, you positive, you smiling. You just, everything feels like it's just, you're going to have a great day.
Okay, so it sets the tone for the day. It sets the tone for the day.

Speaker 4 You're like, dang, all right, you know, we got it in. It was cool.
Man, I'm feeling good, getting the shower, get ready. I'm ready to take on the day.
Period. You know what I'm saying? Okay.

Speaker 4 That's that morning time be hidden. And then, so like, second is probably going to be that

Speaker 4 night because it's a little, you could be a little more romantic at night. Because you know, nighttime is a vibe.

Speaker 2 Right.

Speaker 4 You know, and

Speaker 4 you just say, you, you, you,

Speaker 4 you just got you might throw some roses, a bath, candles, nighttime, give you all that type of feel. Yeah.
You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 4 You could do so much at night, movie, dinner, wine, drinks, lay down, back,

Speaker 4 back massage, all of that.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 4 And it just hits at night. So that's second.
And, you know, during the day, it's just like, I feel like a daytime hit is like a quickie type situation. Right.

Speaker 4 Just like a quick one to get to sit with a bunch of people. You know what I'm saying? So that's how I'm going to rank them from one to three.

Speaker 9 Okay. I think I'm going to do the same.
Nothing is better than like a morning sex rollover.

Speaker 4 Like, ooh, rollover, hit it, hit it, hit it, boom, bam, bam.

Speaker 9 Then you're cracking for the day. You know what I mean? I love a morning sex and I love a wake-me-up sex.
Like, I'm waking up to it, it's a vibe. Like, I'm waking up, like, oh, okay, okay,

Speaker 9 cracking. Okay.

Speaker 9 And then, for sure, nighttime, I'm gonna say nighttime, like you said, is like more sexy and vibey.

Speaker 9 And then, yeah, daytime sex is like, all right, let's get it in real quick, but it could be cool if you just, you know, all right, like, we're both feeling it, let's get it in.

Speaker 9 So, okay, another ranking: shower sex,

Speaker 9 beach sex,

Speaker 4 car sex,

Speaker 8 or

Speaker 4 bathroom sex.

Speaker 9 You making this up? I'm making this up right now.

Speaker 4 You just made.

Speaker 4 No, rank these.

Speaker 9 Which one? Sex in the shower.

Speaker 4 Okay.

Speaker 9 Sex on the beach.

Speaker 9 Sex in the bathroom real quick.

Speaker 4 Like, boom, baby, let's go to the bathroom.

Speaker 9 You know, or sex in the car?

Speaker 4 I'm going to say sex in the bathroom one. That's one.

Speaker 9 Okay. Why is that one?

Speaker 4 Well, I feel like that's a situation where where you got the mirror right there

Speaker 4 you know saying if ain't nobody around say it's in your crib or your apartment or wherever it is not a public bathroom not on the that's not a public not a public bathroom i'm talking about like in the crib or apartment you know something that where you could just like that mirror hit okay so you could see the mirror see little reactions from each other right there hands might be on the window you're like oh okay it's like it's hitting okay so that's one for me for sure and then you said shower will be second okay It's just something about the shower.

Speaker 4 You know, that's just, you know, you like that suds. You get the suds going.

Speaker 4 However, watch your partner, then y'all get it cracking.

Speaker 4 So I'll say the shower is number two. And then you said, what, the beach? And what was the beach? Or the car.
I'm going to say the beach is third.

Speaker 4 I don't even know if I've ever done that on the beach. Wait, yes, yes, yes.

Speaker 4 I don't know. Maybe.

Speaker 4 I can't remember if so.

Speaker 4 But like, then I think,

Speaker 4 hey, damn, cars.

Speaker 4 Man, the car is uncomfortable. Car is uncomfortable.
Car has to go last for this. Car is uncomfortable.
I agree with that.

Speaker 4 Car, that's. I agree with that.

Speaker 4 For me, because I'm tall, it's just too uncomfortable for me.

Speaker 9 I would say

Speaker 9 probably

Speaker 9 a car is going to be last for me. Shower is cool, but shower can get tricky.
Like shower is to me overrated because y'all are

Speaker 9 trying to get the position. And then if you're with someone that's like super tall and you're not the same height, like it'd be a whole situation.

Speaker 4 You'll be trying to get shit.

Speaker 4 Lay here, lay here.

Speaker 9 You'll be uncomfortable. Then you can't even focus on getting it cracking.
Like shower is tough to be.

Speaker 4 Might be too wet.

Speaker 9 Yeah, it's slippery. It's this, it's that.
You fall in. You try to get it.

Speaker 9 Like, I like it, but I think that it's just like overrated sometimes because, you know, like, I'll still get it cracking in the shower, but I need like, it's not my first one, I don't think.

Speaker 9 I would probably say bathroom is going to be one, but like you said, not a public because the mirror, okay, cool, that hits. And then maybe,

Speaker 9 I don't feel like these are good options. I'm going to say like

Speaker 9 beach, if you're on a vacation, hitting it, it's warm.

Speaker 2 Yeah, I'm hitting that beach.

Speaker 9 Yeah, the moon out.

Speaker 4 You warm out there. Spash in.
Ooh.

Speaker 9 Yeah, you know what I'm saying? So that, then shower, then car.

Speaker 2 That's what I'm going for, period.

Speaker 4 I think that's a cool line. You should have gave better options.
You got to be like jacuzzi.

Speaker 9 Okay. You give her options.

Speaker 4 What's the option? You just made them up.

Speaker 9 Yeah, I just came up with them. You give three.

Speaker 4 Oh, all right. So let me see if you can rank these.

Speaker 2 Okay.

Speaker 2 Uh,

Speaker 4 rank these in order. Okay.

Speaker 4 Props

Speaker 9 like toys.

Speaker 2 Okay.

Speaker 4 A video.

Speaker 4 Okay, like making a movie. Okay.

Speaker 4 Okay.

Speaker 4 Or like

Speaker 4 bondage.

Speaker 9 Okay, you went all the way there.

Speaker 4 I think you're going to be like, Jacuzzi.

Speaker 4 Like,

Speaker 4 come on.

Speaker 9 Let's go right there. Okay, so you said bondage is like what? Like someone's tying you up and this and that, right?

Speaker 4 Yes, yes.

Speaker 9 Okay, I can get with that. I'm going to say

Speaker 2 toys,

Speaker 9 bondage.

Speaker 9 And then what was the last one?

Speaker 9 Sex tape. Sex tape.
I'm going to go those three.

Speaker 4 Sex tape is third.

Speaker 9 sex tape is third because sex tape is cool, but sex tape has to be like you trust this person, you love this person, and you guys know y'all not ever gonna be on some really

Speaker 9 good stuff, yeah.

Speaker 4 You someone you love, and I think you know, ain't on those

Speaker 4 stuff like that, yeah, for sure.

Speaker 9 So, I mean, sex tape is cool, I'm totally with that. Like, you can watch it back when you're not with the person, boom, boom, boom, like, that's cool, you know.
But I also feel like, okay,

Speaker 9 maybe, yeah, maybe that's my order. Sex toys,

Speaker 9 you know, those are cool.

Speaker 2 What is your order?

Speaker 4 Well,

Speaker 4 probably like

Speaker 4 toys and stuff. Yeah.
You know, you know, like stuff that's like,

Speaker 4 like, you know, you get the cream or the

Speaker 4 feather. The lovely food.
The blindfold, the blindfold, stuff like that.

Speaker 4 Handcuffs. Exactly.
You know what I'm saying? Stuff like that. I like that.
I'm cool. That's

Speaker 4 And then I'll say sex tape is two. Okay.
And then I'll go to bondage where it's just like, oh, got you tied up to the

Speaker 4 thing. Or something like that.

Speaker 9 The bondage gets intense. It's not just tied up.

Speaker 4 It's giving whips and chains. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
I don't know if I'm about all of that. I don't think I've ever done that.

Speaker 9 I never did that before. I'm willing to try things, but that's intense.

Speaker 9 But yeah, okay. Those were cool.
I thought you were going to hit us with like jacuzzi

Speaker 9 in the movie theater. Have you ever had sex in a movie theater?

Speaker 4 I don't think so. That's a lot.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 9 Okay. Where's the craziest place you ever had sex?

Speaker 9 Man.

Speaker 9 I don't know, man.

Speaker 2 I don't know the plane. All right.

Speaker 4 The plane?

Speaker 4 I feel like that's normal, though. I never had sex on a plane before.
That's not normal. I mean,

Speaker 4 when you do like private jets,

Speaker 9 yeah, then that makes a difference. We're talking about a public plane in that bathroom.

Speaker 4 Yeah, that would be crazy. That's blowing me.

Speaker 9 So I'm not doing that.

Speaker 4 Yeah, so like

Speaker 4 play so you're just like, damn, what?

Speaker 4 Maybe like,

Speaker 2 I don't know.

Speaker 4 I don't know the plane. Okay, the plane is cool.

Speaker 9 I'm not mad at that.

Speaker 4 All right. Private jet, though.

Speaker 2 Yeah, okay.

Speaker 4 That's your private jet, though.

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Speaker 5 But to a point that what he made, like, we had this conversation with a married couple that came on our show before, and he was like, do you want to be a bride or do you want to be a wife? Yes.

Speaker 5 Cause it's a big,

Speaker 5 it's a lot of responsibility to be a husband and to be a wife. That's a lot, you know what I'm saying?

Speaker 9 They always say, get with someone who doesn't just want a husband, but they want to be a wife, and vice versa. Get with someone who doesn't just want a wife, and he also wants to be a husband.

Speaker 9 Yeah, because a lot of people just want the idea of like, oh, I'm a wife now, I have a ring now, and they don't even be happy, right?

Speaker 2 Or they don't want all that comes with it because shit ain't always going to be sweet. But that's what you're signing up for when you decide to marry somebody.

Speaker 2 Like, what's the good, the bad, the ugly?

Speaker 9 Exactly. The rich or the poor.
And, baby, once you marry me, honey, I'm not divorcing.

Speaker 2 Oh, we're doing it for you, figure this out.

Speaker 9 Like, we're gonna take a walk, take a nap, come back, and we're gonna talk about it. We're gonna be all right.
Like, I'm not doing no divorce, not at this age and not at this stage, man.

Speaker 9 If I was like, I'm not doing that, like, we're gonna be

Speaker 9 for the rest of life. You, we, we dying together, yeah.

Speaker 2 I'm with you on that.

Speaker 9 We're dying, you die, I'm dying the next day.

Speaker 2 Like, we're done. Like,

Speaker 2 for real, I'm not playing that.

Speaker 4 Yeah, so what's the the worst way you and y'all been in like probably several relationships right oh several

Speaker 2 several let me ask you this let me ask you this so now i'm hearing her talk and i'm hearing y'all you know yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah

Speaker 4 on never leaving the next man in marriage and everything because you know y'all getting older and everything so what's the worst way you found your man cheated or has a man ever cheated on you now you know damn well right nigga

Speaker 2 needs to be cheated

Speaker 2 what's the crazy? Wait, what's the problem?

Speaker 4 You ain't even got a name the worst way.

Speaker 8 How did you find out?

Speaker 5 I'm Inspector Gadget.

Speaker 2 My last relationship.

Speaker 5 The thing is, with my excuse, he has a type, first of all. He has a type.
Like, me.

Speaker 2 Anytime you say that, I always know exactly who you check.

Speaker 5 Because he has a type.

Speaker 2 Me, his baby mama, the girl he was cheating on with all look alike. Triplets, hey, twin.
Hey, girl. They do have a similar aesthetic.

Speaker 5 Yes, like, so he didn't follow a lot of people at the time. And this was so crazy.
He actually left me at his house because he was, because I came in town last minute.

Speaker 5 And I used to always stay with him when I would go home. And so he was like, hey, babe, I already had something planned.
I got to go do something, blah, blah, blah. So I was like, okay, cool.

Speaker 5 I'll just be at the house, whatever. So I don't know what made me just like.
Something in my spirit, that intuition.

Speaker 2 I was like, what is he doing?

Speaker 5 Because if I'm in town, why you didn't just push it back, move something around? You know, like you couldn't change your schedule, whatever.

Speaker 5 So i went to the people he was following and i was just scrolling and i seen a brown skinned big booted bitch i said i that's her you was like that's her i mean i didn't even have to click i clicked on her page i went and looked at her story y'all they was at the dallas mavericks game having a ball he hit the camera like this

Speaker 2 No,

Speaker 2 he was turning. Letting her record him is nuts.

Speaker 5 Yes, she was like, why would he let her record him?

Speaker 2 That's crazy. Because he didn't like sloppy.
Oh, my God. gosh,

Speaker 9 you sloppy, but you know, isn't there something about going through a following list and you just know which one?

Speaker 9 You just always know as a woman. I've seen memes about this.
As a woman, you could just look and be like, I feel like I'm feeling

Speaker 2 messing around.

Speaker 9 You just know certain things or you know a certain vibe.

Speaker 2 Like, you know.

Speaker 9 And men don't realize that we know what kind of girls you like from.

Speaker 5 Like, my man now, I know his type.

Speaker 2 Every time I see a bitch, I'm like, you know, my nigga, you know him?

Speaker 5 I know. Do you know this nigga?

Speaker 2 I know it.

Speaker 2 I don't know. I feel like for me, it was my friend telling me because the guy that I was dating, he was like.
in the same vicinity with somebody who knew the girl I was cool with.

Speaker 2 And he called her and told her that he was up there with a girl. But not to be like on no messy shit, just like kind of letting her know who was up there.
Yeah. Yeah.

Speaker 2 Be cool.

Speaker 9 Yeah.

Speaker 2 Like she was just, she was basically just like, oh yeah, he told me so-and-so was up there, and so-and-so was up there, and he was up there with this person and that person.

Speaker 2 And this is my friend, but we wasn't really friends like that. She didn't know that was my man yet, basically.

Speaker 2 And she told me just on some chopping.

Speaker 9 Just

Speaker 2 letting me know who was up there at the place. And so I'm just like, what the fuck? He up there with who?

Speaker 2 And I tried to keep it real cute because, like I said, she didn't know that it was my man. So I'm like, what the fuck? So I called him and I asked him about it.

Speaker 2 And then he was like, oh, no, that's crazy. People be lying.
I wasn't up there with her. Yes, the fuck you were.
Oh, my God. But then I went and looked at the girl's story.

Speaker 2 And she was indeed in the same place as him. Oh, yeah.
No, no, no, no, no.

Speaker 9 Now, okay. Have y'all ever seen somebody you know? Like, let's say you have a homegirl.
She ain't your best friend, but you, like, know her man. And he's out on a date with someone else.

Speaker 9 What are you doing?

Speaker 9 I don't think that's a good one. That's a tricky situation.

Speaker 2 You better pay. I don't know.
Because I just feel like stuff like that just get real touchy.

Speaker 5 It gets touchy about their partner.

Speaker 9 And

Speaker 9 they start to blame you in a minute. Like, hold on, girl, you was lying.

Speaker 9 That's why it's hard. But what if it's your best friend?

Speaker 2 What you doing? No, if it's my best friend, I'm telling you that I've seen y'all.

Speaker 9 I ain't taking you a picture, Zoom.

Speaker 9 Yeah.

Speaker 5 But I want him to know that I saw it. Like, I would walk up to the table.

Speaker 2 Hey, how you hearing?

Speaker 5 Like, yeah.

Speaker 2 Like, hey, what you doing up here? Yeah. Who is this? Todd.

Speaker 2 100%.

Speaker 5 My man, he can't do no wrong girl. You all have been, you don't even know what we got going on.

Speaker 2 I'll be like, Never mind, yeah, I'm gonna try to help you. I don't be getting involved if I see someone.

Speaker 4 You can't look from afar and go tell because you don't know what that is.

Speaker 2 Yeah, I will say that, though, because I was gonna say, my mom told me this story about how when her and my dad first started dating, my mom had four brothers.

Speaker 2 So, one of her brothers he was in the navy and like when he would go away she would drive his car and so one day she ended up picking him up from the airport when he got back and i guess somebody that was cool with my dad seen her picking him up from the airport and then called my dad and was like oh yeah i seen your girl at the airport picking up this man and they was hugging and x y and z and then come to find out it was my uncle

Speaker 2 but my dad trusts my mom so he believed you have to trust because people will put things in your ear.

Speaker 4 You have to know exactly what it really is.

Speaker 9 If it's my best friend, I don't care what it is. I'm just letting you know.

Speaker 2 I can be a bad friend. I'm with somebody.

Speaker 9 I don't need context when it's my best friend. I'm just letting you know this is who he's with.
Okay, that's his sister.

Speaker 2 Cool. Yeah.

Speaker 9 Like, it's not going to be no beef. That's why you only do that with your best friend.
You don't do that with nobody.

Speaker 4 It don't matter if it's your best friend. Like, yeah, that's your best friend.

Speaker 5 But, like, your best friend could be he over here, arm around this girl walking through where he lit but this is his cousin but his family his family but also if that's his if that's your best friend and that's her man she'll already know oh he outside with such and such like you know what i'm saying you'll know she'll know if i tell her like hey girl i seen your dude he was outside oh he was with XYZ because you know where he was at.

Speaker 2 That's why y'all got to stop lying.

Speaker 9 Exactly. And your best friend's not going to be mad at you because it's your best friend.
She's going to be like, okay, girl, yeah, he's out. Actually, he's out with his cousin.

Speaker 9 That's his

Speaker 4 man, like I said, like a man, we're not gonna tell you every step of the way, yeah. We ain't gonna tell you, I'm out with X, Y, Z, X, Y, Z, Z, Z.
It's like five of us, we're gonna say, we're gonna go

Speaker 2 and I'll be out for a little bit, yeah.

Speaker 2 It's not a hugged up, but it's like, say, like,

Speaker 4 you in a section, it's like couple girls.

Speaker 2 Like, this is where y'all make.

Speaker 4 This is why y'all get, all right, y'all look, y'all rolling with this. Say your man, he out with his boys.
It's three of the boys.

Speaker 4 Okay, they got a a section at the club, but it's like four girls in the section.

Speaker 2 Kenny is without me. Okay, without you.

Speaker 2 Where am I?

Speaker 2 You at the crib. While he out with a bunch of girls?

Speaker 4 No, he's not with the girls.

Speaker 2 His boys.

Speaker 5 His boys.

Speaker 2 I'm not going to lie.

Speaker 5 Stuff like that doesn't bother me. Like, I get it.

Speaker 2 It doesn't bother me.

Speaker 5 I mean, think about it. If your man is outside, they don't want to be in a section with a bunch of niggas.
It's like,

Speaker 5 if it's innocent, like women are around, y'all drinking, having fun, that's cool. But as long long as it stops right there, nothing, I don't want a woman to ever feel like, oh, yeah.

Speaker 5 Because a lot of times it ain't even about him.

Speaker 9 It's about I was with Dre a man last night.

Speaker 5 He was all in my face.

Speaker 2 They love girls.

Speaker 2 You can date a nigga because you date. You date.

Speaker 2 Girl, you see a sign.

Speaker 2 And he was all in my face.

Speaker 9 And the men don't realize that women are calculated and they do that shit on purpose. Yes.

Speaker 9 They know and they'll literally go and then that's how you get caught up because the next day they'll be like, girl, and even if you weren't doing anything, like as a man, you can never be too friendly.

Speaker 9 Yeah, you can't because a woman's gonna flip that as he was on me. He was trying to flirt with me, and then everyone else is gonna interpret it as that.

Speaker 9 So now she's going around talking about your man is flirting. And even if it's not the truth and she forgives you, it still just feels, it don't feel good for a woman.

Speaker 2 Like, I'm not gonna feel that.

Speaker 9 You know what I'm saying? Like, you ain't, what, what is your example of a man being too friendly? Like, where has you crossed the line?

Speaker 2 Ooh,

Speaker 2 I don't know. Cause you know, I'm not gonna lie, I'm a little lax when it comes to that.
Like, I'm a little relaxed when it comes because I feel like my ex, he was real flirty.

Speaker 2 Yeah, but people also tell me I'm really flirty, too.

Speaker 2 And I think people will think that I'm flirting with them, and I'm not even trying to just because of my energy. That's what people be.
That's yeah, I'm just yeah, just because of my energy and stuff.

Speaker 2 So, and he he knows that and he get it, and it's the same with me. You do.
So, I feel like it doesn't really bother me sometimes.

Speaker 2 Whereas, other women that i'm friends with they would shut that shit down yeah when they feel like they man is being too flirty or too friendly i don't really mind it because i feel like it goes with knowing your man right you know the man i was with that's where it stops like he gonna be friendly but he ain't doing nothing no he knows it ain't leaving right there yeah

Speaker 9 once it's the same but it just depends on the circumstance in my opinion right and who's around and what's why like don't you can't just be making me look and feel stupid yeah that's where i draw the line but like i also agree where it's like you're gonna gonna say stuff you're gonna do stuff you're gonna live you're gonna get it like that's just a part of life you know like yeah you can't be too uptight with a man i agree and i'm just not an overly jealous person like i think that

Speaker 2 first of all bitches be fine they be looking good so

Speaker 2 yes

Speaker 2 you know what i mean so i don't expect my man to not look i saw something online the other day and this lady was basically saying like she don't want her man looking at anybody, she don't want him looking at other women,

Speaker 2 looking at them.

Speaker 9 That's crazy, though.

Speaker 2 Yeah, because

Speaker 9 I heard a girl tell me, she was like, My man can't be around like pretty girls. I don't allow him crazy.
First of all, girl, you can't control a man. He's going to see pretty women.

Speaker 9 You're not the most beautiful woman in the world.

Speaker 2 Sorry, none of us are.

Speaker 9 There's always going to be someone prettier,

Speaker 9 better body, this and that. Just like there's going to be a finer man, a

Speaker 2 richer man,

Speaker 9 everything. So you have to be secure into your own shit.
Like, I can't, can't i don't like to control and micromanage that that's

Speaker 9 so miserable miserable i'm gonna be stressed out i can't i can't control that you be around women matter of fact be around the baddest in the world and still choose me

Speaker 9 be around the baddest and be able to be like i'm cool like that's what i want

Speaker 9 you know what i'm saying like be around that and then still choose me then i'm cracking

Speaker 2 And I also feel like you get the best version of your partner when you let people be

Speaker 2 like you're not supposed to let that nigga disrespect you. You know what I mean?

Speaker 2 He shouldn't be trying to holler at no women or nothing inappropriate while you around and stuff and you seeing it and you just being cool with it. But you, if he, if he like looking, I don't know.

Speaker 2 I just don't care about that. I don't care.
I think you're going to do that.

Speaker 9 Me, I don't want nobody breaking no neck to look at nobody.

Speaker 9 That's going to blow me.

Speaker 2 If a nigga is like, yeah.

Speaker 9 But even if a man, like I'm with a man, he's like, oh, you know, oh, you're a pretty girl.

Speaker 2 Or like, even says, I don't care.

Speaker 9 I'm like, whatever. But if you

Speaker 2 want want to lie,

Speaker 9 then I'm like, this is crazy.

Speaker 2 Now it's a bit much. Yeah.
Now you're trying to get cussed. Is that a thin line between somebody being flirty and somebody being thirsty?

Speaker 5 I don't want no thirsty. Let me ask y'all.

Speaker 2 Let me ask y'all. So y'all walking.

Speaker 4 Y'all together boom.

Speaker 4 That's cool.

Speaker 2 I love mine.

Speaker 2 Yeah, a little mine.

Speaker 2 If she fired, I probably go bland, too. Yeah.

Speaker 5 No, that's too much.

Speaker 2 You You moved up that shoulder, nigga.

Speaker 2 Catch that shoulder.

Speaker 5 The first time you were like this, the second time you was like,

Speaker 4 we know how to do it, though. Cause a dude, a dude, we be like,

Speaker 2 what's she doing all night?

Speaker 5 Now we in Atlanta too.

Speaker 2 So it's a lot of that. I'll be like, God damn.
It's a Tuesday afternoon.

Speaker 2 Yeah, we do.

Speaker 9 I look at women all the time because I was like, okay, she's hitting, got a little thing, body to the colour. Like, I'm very friendly.
I love people. I be chopping.
Like, so I get it.

Speaker 9 And I'll even be like, oh, look, look at that.

Speaker 2 Look at it.

Speaker 9 Like, I don't do stuff like that, but don't break no neck.

Speaker 2 Yeah, don't break it. Don't break no neck.

Speaker 9 Because now you're taking it too far. And now she already thinking like her.
Because you know what? I hate as a woman when I'm out and I see a girl and her man and he's staring me down.

Speaker 9 It's so embarrassing for the girl. And it's like, wow, I would never want my man to do that.

Speaker 2 Because I want to feel

Speaker 9 crazy.

Speaker 9 Because I'm looking at him, looking at me. So you're staring him.
No, you feel someone.

Speaker 2 You feel. You feel someone staring when somebody is staring at you.
You feel it.

Speaker 9 It's very uncomfortable.

Speaker 9 And then you see it, and it's like you with a whole woman and you just staring down. And then you feel stupid for her, like embarrassed.

Speaker 2 Like, damn, I get second-hand embarrassment from you, girl. Oh, my God.

Speaker 9 And I hate that. And I don't want that.

Speaker 2 Don't be doing that.

Speaker 9 Women like that one-up.

Speaker 2 A feeling of dating.

Speaker 2 He was on. She's still just staring.

Speaker 4 It ain't nothing. It's just a look.
He's just like, whatever.

Speaker 2 You're crazy. But why are you staring? Staring is crazy.

Speaker 2 Acknowledging that she's fine, but staring.

Speaker 5 You know what's crazy? My friend, one of of my closest friends told me a story. She was on vacation with a man she was dating at the time.

Speaker 2 Okay.

Speaker 5 They went to like Mexico or something. They're at a resort.

Speaker 2 Okay.

Speaker 5 They're like hugged up in the pool, kissing.

Speaker 2 Okay.

Speaker 5 And I think he had eventually like got up, went to the bathroom or something. A girl was like, hey, I just want to let you know your man is winking at me.
No. And like.

Speaker 5 She was like, she had to tell her. She was like, it ruined the trip.

Speaker 5 What are you doing? Literally, while they're hugging, he was looking at another girl and winking at her. Staring at.
Yes, I swear to God.

Speaker 9 That is crazy.

Speaker 5 That's what I'm saying. So it's just like,

Speaker 9 yeah, you got to draw that line somewhere.

Speaker 2 You got to draw the line.

Speaker 5 Because it's like, yeah, a look is a look, but sometimes when you know when somebody's staring you down, a star down.

Speaker 2 It's like, what are you looking at?

Speaker 9 And you know a breakneck.

Speaker 9 Those two things, it's like you're doing too much.

Speaker 9 Do y'all, would y'all bring a third into your thing, into your relationship, like just for a night or something?

Speaker 5 I don't like coochie. Keep that shit away from me.

Speaker 2 And so, see, when I was younger, I used to like I had a girlfriend before.

Speaker 9 Okay, so I don't know.

Speaker 2 I be saying, once I get married, and me and my ex have like talked about this before, like, I don't know, you might be open to it.

Speaker 2 Maybe like a little girlfriend or something when I get older, I don't know, like so, an extra girlfriend for both of y'all, yeah, okay, yeah, yeah, why is he your ex right now?

Speaker 4 Because it's clear that you still have something.

Speaker 2 Oh, wow, look, look,

Speaker 2 I I think,

Speaker 2 I feel like we just were not in alignment with the things that we wanted currently.

Speaker 9 Which is what?

Speaker 2 Which is like, where the fuck is the ring, nigga? Okay.

Speaker 2 That's just how I feel at this point when it comes to me and him. And I feel like, you know, he is marriage-minded.
He wants to get married, all of those things.

Speaker 2 But I think he has been like jaded like most men in a lot of from previous relationships and stuff.

Speaker 2 so i just think he's apprehensive and he's really big too on he already has a kid so he doesn't want to have another kid without being married first because he's like he like i don't want to be no two-time baby daddy

Speaker 2 so i'm like okay i respect it so wear the ring then because i'm also ready to hop babies old yeah period so we just you know not in a line so do you give him an ultimatum like uh we're gonna be getting married or we're not gonna be together oh well i don't feel like i gave him an ultimatum but that's why we're broken up because we just not on the same page and i feel like he know where we stand with it so

Speaker 2 i feel like

Speaker 8 for you

Speaker 4 she built something right here and when you build something with somebody and you have a history and it's like you comfortable and it's like damn i don't want to tear it all down and start all the way over And then that's a whole nother process.

Speaker 4 That's a whole nother five years for something else. Yeah.

Speaker 4 And it's like you wanted to work. It just feels like, but you're just not sure.
But then it's like, damn, if I could start something new and start building somewhere else,

Speaker 4 damn, the start, the rebuild is a process.

Speaker 2 But should, but do you really feel like you should stay for that reason?

Speaker 2 Because then you do have situations too where women get out of long-term relationships and they end up meeting the love of their life and get engaged in like a year. Like she said, you friend.

Speaker 2 That was literally my best friend.

Speaker 9 She has her whole baby daddy. He's this, that, that.

Speaker 4 She left him, was like, I'm not dating whatever went on one day married engaged because you get you get like the thing is when you when you break up with somebody you have that initial of like i need to be with somebody when you with somebody you like you make a mistake you can make a quick mistake yeah you know what i'm saying because you you resented that person now and now you looking for something quick then i'm oh i got i found somebody quick yeah now it's a mistake but that's not always the case

Speaker 9 a lot of people do that but no a lot of people do that but people she like took a break for like a year yeah

Speaker 2 dating in general.

Speaker 9 And then she literally was like, I'm so comfortable alone, I don't even want to date.

Speaker 2 Like, I don't want to.

Speaker 9 I don't even care to be with nobody. And then, boom, it hit her in the face type thing.
You know, because you do hear those stories about women and then, boom, they're with the next man.

Speaker 9 It's like, wow, you're doing all of this. You're ready to marry.
You're not playing games with me or whatever.

Speaker 2 I don't know.

Speaker 9 I don't know with men. And I don't know how much time you let a man slide with stuff.
If you want something, he's not willing to give it to you, then

Speaker 9 do you let it go?

Speaker 2 I don't know. And I think that's where

Speaker 2 in life, you never really know if you're making the right decision. Yes.
You know, and I think that's sometimes the scary part about life.

Speaker 2 You never really know, like, okay, is this the right decision that I'm making? I hope it is.

Speaker 2 Because then you also, on the other side, have women who leave relationships and then they don't never find nobody else.

Speaker 9 Yeah, that's true. I doubt that's going to be your situation.
I thank you.

Speaker 9 You know, like, I feel like women feel that way. And I'm like, me and my homegirl say that.
I'm like, look at your your track record. How long have you ever been single in life?

Speaker 2 You haven't ever been single for that long.

Speaker 9 Like, you, you're going to get a new man. Trust me.

Speaker 5 But outside of that, being single is not scary. No.
It's not like a bad thing. Like, I really enjoy, you know, the freedom that I have of like living alone, living alone sometimes.
And so it's like.

Speaker 5 Being alone is not scary. And it's not like, oh my gosh, the most horrible thing ever either.
So I feel like it's a win-win either way.

Speaker 5 If I find my husband and we have kids and live happily ever after, that's cool. But if I'm by myself, I'm cool with that too, you know?

Speaker 2 Yeah, you have to be okay with that. Yeah.

Speaker 2 I don't know that I would be okay with it. I would.
I think it's because I have community. Like, life is not meant to be lived alone.
It is, but I'm not alone, though.

Speaker 5 Like, for me, like, I have such a strong community. Like, me and my sister are like extremely close.
I have my nephews. I have my friends.

Speaker 4 You're probably not alone. You got yourself.

Speaker 9 Yeah, I have, you know, it's nothing. It's different.
than having one person in that household

Speaker 9 and knowing like you have that one person you call on But I agree with you, like, yeah, community is important.

Speaker 9 People always make me feeling like being alone is such like a they make it like a sickness. Like, oh, you're single.

Speaker 2 Why should you guys?

Speaker 2 Oh, God.

Speaker 2 Yeah, what's wrong with her? They always say that.

Speaker 9 It's like, what's wrong with y'all? It's a real question. That's why we don't want to deal with y'all.

Speaker 2 Like, how about that?

Speaker 9 Yeah. Because it's easy.
People think, oh, it's so hard to get a man. You can get a man if you just don't want to be alone.

Speaker 2 You can get a man.

Speaker 2 This is the easiest thing to get. Exactly.

Speaker 9 It's getting a quality man.

Speaker 2 Yeah, yeah. Getting a good man is hard.

Speaker 2 Getting a man.

Speaker 9 There's a statistic that says women want, um,

Speaker 9 women are more attracted to men who are taken.

Speaker 2 Oh, okay.

Speaker 9 And men are less attracted to women who are taken. So, like, when a woman is knowingly taken, less men, which I actually can feel that.

Speaker 9 Like, if you're knowingly public or, you know, whatever, less men get at you.

Speaker 5 I need to shut up then. I'm single, y'all.
I need to shut up.

Speaker 2 I'm talking about women. They say that, but even Cardi B has said that.

Speaker 9 but less men honestly uh like even cardi b said that when she was married yeah no men were getting they were cool like oh hi she wasn't getting men at her like that but when men are married or men are taking women want them more because they're like oh you can be a husband you can be a boyfriend i might be cuter than her i might be able to take her man why can't he be my boyfriend he he has the ability to be a husband and a boyfriend and a relationship person so it makes them to a lot of women more attractive.

Speaker 5 I think there's a lot of truth to that, too, because I think it's so interesting all the time when a woman has a child with a man, they were together, then they break up, and then she ended up being the side bitch to her baby daddy.

Speaker 2 Oh, yes, because they'll do that.

Speaker 2 Yeah, that's crazy. That's how you go from being the main to the side girl.

Speaker 5 Yeah, women go from being the main to the side all the time.

Speaker 9 So the baby mama becomes the side

Speaker 2 man once he gets a new girl. He gets a new girlfriend or a new girlfriend.
And then, yeah. I'm not.
But you was once the girlfriend.

Speaker 9 Do you feel like if your man cheated on you with his baby mom, is that like, would you get back with him for that?

Speaker 9 No. That's a cheat you can't do.

Speaker 2 Because I feel like you still have feelings for that. Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 9 And y'all have a kidney. This is someone you're going to have to deal with forever.
So you can't just be like, I'm going to cut her off, babe. I'm never going to talk to her again.

Speaker 9 No, I don't deal with that. That's the one line where it's like, now, would you take a man back if he cheated?

Speaker 5 No, not now.

Speaker 2 I used to not.

Speaker 5 Yeah, I used to like kind of not care, but I think now.

Speaker 4 what's levels to cheating.

Speaker 9 Yeah, so the game said that there's levels to cheating.

Speaker 2 Did y'all see that?

Speaker 9 Okay, so let's talk about it.

Speaker 2 So, you know, some people say that cheating to them is anything that you do that you can't tell your partner about. Okay.
I'd be more so feeling like it's physical. Yeah.

Speaker 2 For me.

Speaker 5 Emotional to me cheating is actually worse.

Speaker 2 Emotional is worse, but usually if it's an emotional connection, they fucking. Yeah, true.
Yeah, that's true. Because

Speaker 9 what if it's like your man is sending somebody money and helping them with stuff, and you're dumping,

Speaker 2 yeah,

Speaker 2 yeah, they hit it up, that's worse than

Speaker 9 fucking you paying this bitch bills if you really like her, yeah, you really fucking with her, or you, or what if a girl hit him up, like, hey, I really need help, my car, something, something, can you send me some money?

Speaker 2 I'm, I'm cool, they have sex, but they ain't never had nothing sexual, no, but you about to have sex with her if you want to, you definitely

Speaker 2 open it, you warming her up, yeah, you warming her up, warming her up.

Speaker 9 Or even if y'all had sex once or twice, she's hitting you up.

Speaker 9 What if your man has a homegirl that he sends money to? Is that okay?

Speaker 2 A homegirl that he sends money to? And they're not. Where's her nigga? Yeah.
What does she send her?

Speaker 2 Where's her job?

Speaker 2 She needs a little help.

Speaker 4 It's the economy.

Speaker 2 If you need help one time, cool. I'm not opposed to like my man helping one of his friends once, but sending her money consistently.
No, that's a

Speaker 2 consistent.

Speaker 9 A man sending a woman money is blowing me in general. Like, if, you know, unless it's your family members or something like that.

Speaker 2 What?

Speaker 9 Like,

Speaker 9 she ain't sitting here having sex with you and doing this and doing that.

Speaker 9 But I see like a cap thing. Like, what if she need $200 still pay that? You're saying, like, is there a cap?

Speaker 2 Is there a cap on what?

Speaker 9 Do you think you should be hitting a man who's single and available to be

Speaker 9 giving you money and not someone else's man? That's fair. Like, who's building a life and an empire? Like, it's not his responsibility to take care of another woman.

Speaker 9 Like, if it's to the mother of his children, that's different.

Speaker 5 Yeah, that's definitely different.

Speaker 2 100%. She got a car, bro.

Speaker 9 Like, yeah, that's different. You know, you can send your baby mom money for stuff.
I don't think that that's a problem, but just a rant, like a homegirl.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 5 And I realize with cheating, too, I used to be like, oh, I can get over it.

Speaker 9 You don't.

Speaker 5 Like, for me personally, like, I used to be like in relationships and like he would cheat or something and do something. I'm like, oh my gosh, I forgive him.
We're going to move on from this.

Speaker 5 And even if we did move on and he becomes the perfect guy and he changes it's still in the back of my head and i'm just like you know what i don't think i can forgive this i think this is actually a deal breaker for me are you a person that bring it up though like you can't get over it and then you bring it up like when y'all having other arguments like in my last situation yeah that it happened because i realized i'm not over this like i can't get over it and i won't get over it you know what i'm saying now i've had situations like with somebody i'm dealing with like we're on and off and like we were off and they were like maybe dealing with somebody and stuff like that is different like if we if we had an off period and you were dealing with somebody else like it's gonna hurt my feelings and make me mad but you didn't cheat on me because cheating is just different I don't know it just hits me different do you have levels of cheating though like what is it like what is like if a man is like oh you know he went out let's say his homegirl's in town he went to go get drinks with her but he didn't tell you like if that's your homegirl why are you not telling me right anything that you do behind my back i wouldn't necessarily categorize it as cheating but you're being you're you're being dishonest you're being sneaky there's no trust there you know what I'm saying you don't trust me not to not trip I don't trust you to be honest so it's like what are we doing here so anything that you do behind my back that you're being sneaky about is dishonesty so I just I can't do this cheating let me ask y'all say like

Speaker 4 He go to the club with his boys, he gets drinks, so he just meets a girl.

Speaker 4 You pull up to the club and you you walk in there. You see, and it's a girl on his lap.

Speaker 4 As soon as he sees you, he pushes her off.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 2 Like, what are you doing?

Speaker 2 At the club. At the club.
Okay. At the club.
Not a stripper. Like if it's a stripper, a stripper.
I've seen this happen.

Speaker 4 No, I've seen this happen, though. He just met the girl.
I've seen this happen.

Speaker 2 You friendly. That's what we were talking about earlier.
Why is he all friendly?

Speaker 2 She's walking. That's too friendly.
Look, she walked in.

Speaker 4 He thought he saw a ghost. He was like, ooh, exactly.

Speaker 2 He pushed her. Now I'm really suspicious.
Why are you pushing her?

Speaker 9 But let me tell you something.

Speaker 2 Y'all know he was comfortable five minutes ago. Because he saw you.

Speaker 9 Even if he didn't push her.

Speaker 4 Is that cheating?

Speaker 9 A woman sitting on my man's lap is cheating. Yeah.

Speaker 2 Because what are you?

Speaker 2 Like I said, you being friendly as hell.

Speaker 5 Because guess what?

Speaker 4 Now y'all have a conversation like, no, we just met. She right there.
She like, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 Say I never walked in the club.

Speaker 2 So even more reason why she's sitting on your lap. You just met her.

Speaker 4 We was just vibing. There was no other seats.

Speaker 2 But say I never walked in.

Speaker 2 seat.

Speaker 5 If I never walked in the club, was you gonna come home and tell me what happened? Like, man, I was at the club and this girl sat on my lap.

Speaker 4 We're not gonna tell you that, exactly.

Speaker 2 Of course not. And you're in the middle.

Speaker 4 But why would we need to tell that? Why we want to start an argument?

Speaker 5 Because I like to fight.

Speaker 2 See it on someone. Why do you want a girl sitting?

Speaker 9 Okay, let's answer this question. If you walk in the club and your girl has a man and she's, I mean, she's sitting on a man's lap.

Speaker 4 If I walk in and my girl is sitting on a dude's lap,

Speaker 2 I'm good.

Speaker 2 Exactly.

Speaker 9 But it's okay.

Speaker 2 that shit, but that is not going to be a bit.

Speaker 2 I can't stand that about

Speaker 2 it.

Speaker 9 Men can be smiling in a girl's face, flirting. The moment a man even comes talk to you for two seconds, they be like, but

Speaker 2 what would y'all talk about?

Speaker 9 Yeah, but you could be kiki and turtle. Like,

Speaker 2 man, do the ball.

Speaker 2 You finna go. No, no, no.

Speaker 4 Look, if I see it, I'm not even going to approach her.

Speaker 2 I'm going to look and be like, oh, that's what she on.

Speaker 4 All right, I'm going to go play the bar over here.

Speaker 4 I might go start talking to something else.

Speaker 2 Like, all right, yeah.

Speaker 4 Now, now i'm gonna start flirting right here now all right i'm about to do it right here about to walk over here i'm like oh hey come here come here real quick oh no hey hey hey hey how you doing

Speaker 2 so is that automatically like the end of the relationship if you started yeah but get what yeah every excuse for when a girl was on here but this is the thing are y'all right yeah every excuse

Speaker 9 on my life i said this is what i saw right but let me ask you this are you leaving a man if you see that so let's say you come in the club the girl is sitting on his lap rubbing his head and it's not about the action, it's about how it makes me feel.

Speaker 5 And what I'm every time, now, every time you step out, you're gonna be like, I'm gonna get the bills rubbing on his head.

Speaker 5 Now, you thinking every time you go, every time that he's miserable, I don't want to, every time you step out the house, I don't want to be like, damn, I wonder what he's doing. That's not fun.

Speaker 5 So, the actual action of it is the bigger picture, and it's the after effects of what you did. You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 4 But you can get over.

Speaker 2 No, I can't. It's not

Speaker 2 that.

Speaker 4 Now, here's another scenario.

Speaker 2 Some kind of scenario.

Speaker 4 So that's not cool, but it's cool if you walk into the strip club and she's twerking on them.

Speaker 2 Yeah, she's working. She don't love the strip club.

Speaker 5 They do not want them niggas in there.

Speaker 2 They do not. Well, sometimes they actually do.
Sometimes. But I feel like

Speaker 2 this is an appropriate setting.

Speaker 9 This is an appropriate setting to do that.

Speaker 2 It's a strip club.

Speaker 9 And also, too, no. Like, you know, I'm thinking like, this is a strip club.
You come here to do that. So you already already to expect and I like

Speaker 2 my man going to the strip club and nobody

Speaker 2 right there getting all rock he right there getting

Speaker 9 the back back room with her though you now you doing

Speaker 2 the private he's just private no the private

Speaker 2 not necessary get out there with everybody too many people on him he's just like no i'm gonna be no a private dance is crazy in the back he can't get a private you too horny you're horny you need a little head

Speaker 9 you getting a little head back there for sure that's won't me if you in the back you won't meet it's crazy because i just came to the realization there was a viral me like guy and he was like when guys tell me to go to the strip club they're like oh you want to go get hard in the club together and i realized like men are hard in the streets.

Speaker 2 They are. I didn't know that.

Speaker 2 Why wouldn't I know that? They used to walk up to the bar, like, water wings, just, uh, let me get that lemon pepper.

Speaker 9 No,

Speaker 9 I don't know why I was so naive to not realize, like, because I'm not getting like turned on, but obviously, I'm not, you know, whatever. But I'm like, thinking, like,

Speaker 2 y'all are just hard all y'all here.

Speaker 5 All standing around together, just hard as hell.

Speaker 2 It's hard as hell. What are we coming here for then?

Speaker 2 What are we here for? And y'all live in Atlanta, right?

Speaker 9 So I used to live in Atlanta, honey, and my homegirls worked at Onyx, and she was cracking. Okay, this was back 10 years ago.
But them strip clubs is no joke in Atlanta.

Speaker 2 I don't know. I've been seeing them eating each other.

Speaker 9 Everything.

Speaker 2 Everything in Atlanta. Toys.

Speaker 9 I'm like, oh, y'all are having a porno shoot.

Speaker 2 Yeah, it gets every butt naked. They just be having it out.
If you go to walking around, just handing it out.

Speaker 9 But I mean, if you go to strip club Atlanta, what's more cracking? Atlanta or Houston for the strip club? I've never been to Houston.

Speaker 2 It's a striping to me.

Speaker 5 I'm biased because I worked at one of the really popular strip clubs for a very long time. And now when we go back, we always go to Area 29.
We always talk about Area 29.

Speaker 2 We love Area 29. It's a good time.
But to me, I'm not going to lie, Atlanta strip clubs be more popping because the girls out there be really dancing.

Speaker 2 They really be professionals. They be climbing the pole, jumping, doing the tricks, flipping.

Speaker 2 The Houston girls, they just fine. They fine.
They know they fine. They're going to do a little shake.

Speaker 2 that little bit.

Speaker 9 Okay, so before we wrap up,

Speaker 9 y'all, Paul has some viral clips, and I want to know what y'all think.

Speaker 5 I'm not going to lie, I was very scared to come here today.

Speaker 2 I was.

Speaker 5 Because I was like, oh my God, he's going to say something crazy.

Speaker 2 I'll be like, oh my God.

Speaker 9 Everyone who comes is always like, you're so nice and you're so cool.

Speaker 2 Because he's talking crazy. Yeah.

Speaker 9 He talked crazy. I was scared.

Speaker 2 He's going to do it with me and her. Okay.
He talks crazy.

Speaker 9 But with other people, he don't do that. So he said, cheat to see if you love your, you have to cheat on a woman to see if she loves you.
What do y'all think of this?

Speaker 2 I can't do nothing else. Yeah.
Why is that the go-to? Yeah. And y'all don't have to struggle for love.

Speaker 2 I think, and I think that's a big misconception.

Speaker 2 People think that they have to go through a lot with the man or a lot with the woman for y'all to be compatible or to make sure that y'all supposed to be able to make it work.

Speaker 2 Like, I feel like, why can't it just be smooth selling from day one?

Speaker 5 But I'll say this a point because I think sometimes you do have to go through things to make it work right yeah but it don't have to be cheating like i have like um i had a situation where like his grandmother died and it's like yeah you know do you can't how do you suffer you got to see how somebody goes through something you know maybe something has happened with you financially and you're going through a season or maybe i'm going through a season like we can go through things you ain't got to go fuck another bitch to see it let me see how strong she is exactly no there's a lot of things that can happen in life that can test our relationship outside of cheating to see if we can weather the storm.

Speaker 4 I'm not saying like initially like, hey, all right, you know what? I'm going to go see. I'm going to let her catch me and let's see.

Speaker 8 Let me test her will.

Speaker 4 I ain't initially saying that,

Speaker 4 but I know guys that's found out because like I'm talking about like people in my position. Motherfuckers that got hella money.
That's mean, that's that's already known.

Speaker 4 Say like, shit, he'd already got 100 million. Now I'm meeting you, how I know that, you know, you ain't like the rest of them.

Speaker 2 Right.

Speaker 4 You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 2 You chasing checks out here or something. So what I got to do to know this?

Speaker 2 So

Speaker 4 how do I find out?

Speaker 8 And what I'm dumb.

Speaker 4 I'm dumb as hell. Cause I'm just, I'm just, I like girls.

Speaker 2 Whatever. I'm just like, oh, she's fine.
Damn. She got a good personality.
Oh, come on. Let's be my girl.

Speaker 4 Yeah. No dumb motherfuckers out here.
So how do I know for sure that she ain't about to just try to get me for my shit?

Speaker 2 I don't think you really know.

Speaker 2 I think you have to give it time and really get to know the person and vet them properly i think a lot of the time men and women just fall head over heels really early and you don't really know this person you know the representative you have to give it time time tells all people can only keep up a facade for so long right first few months yeah a year in you gonna see the real them yeah they say after six months you can't hold on to your representative for too long and i agree like you've said before they actually do be knowing.

Speaker 9 They just decide, like, well, I'm going to stay because she's cool. We're sex cool.

Speaker 2 She's pretty. I can take her.

Speaker 9 They be knowing for real after a while. They're like, yeah, she ain't, but you already inched the deal at that.
You got to deal with it. You know, she's not going to really be with you.

Speaker 9 She ain't rolling with you. You die.
She's going to be taking that money and smiling and laughing to the bank.

Speaker 9 But you know, when a woman is genuine, who she hangs around, how she operates, the real friends she got, the people she talked to. Like, you know, you know.

Speaker 2 And then it's like, yeah, me I know when women be gold.

Speaker 5 I truly do believe and get you a lot of times, these men get you a woman that got something to lose, they got her own business, they got her own things going on outside of you.

Speaker 2 Exactly, you know what I'm saying?

Speaker 5 When you have a woman who has something to lose and things going on,

Speaker 5 it's just like, yeah, it's cool that you have money, it's a plus, but it's not why she's here because she got her own going on, she knows how to run a business, she knows how to talk to people, she knows how to do things, she's adding value to your life exactly.

Speaker 9 She wants to, you know what I mean?

Speaker 9 She's not just like, oh, spend this money also some women be like no don't spend that babe save this do this like you peep that yo she really rock with you like don't don't don't get it twisted like there's other ways

Speaker 2 you ain't gotta cheat the link is so long

Speaker 9 very very long yeah it is um okay so paul also says that he feels like women overseas are better to be in a relationship with he didn't say it but i'm summing it up to be in a relationship with they're just more submissive they want a family they want to do like the passport so that's why I was gonna say you support the passport I never I don't even know who the passport boys are she she she brought that up and I and I that's my first time ever hearing really I said that the women overseas have more

Speaker 5 traditional family values than American women okay and you know what I'm not gonna say you're wrong but also on the other side of that the men are more traditional as well so they're doing that because they're raised in a household where it's like I'm taking care of the household I'm being a man.

Speaker 5 I'm being a leader. We were forced to be independent.
So yeah, there's no men in the house. So yeah, I have to pay the bills.
I have to be strong.

Speaker 5 I have to be, I'm going to be a more militant and a little more argumentative because this is how I run my house because ain't no man in here.

Speaker 5 Y'all be going to get some milk and y'all never come back. So it's like the society and the culture is a lot different here because we were forced to be the man of the household and independent.

Speaker 5 So yeah, those women are going to able to be more submissive and listen more because they hold family in the house literally they raise their family the grandmother in the house the grandfather everybody in the house together they got help and the men are running the bills and this and that and the women have their they have a village and they already see that that's what it is they're like oh this is what it is okay and guess what the men don't wait three years to marry you for you they're gonna be like

Speaker 9 we're having a family we're getting married this is your

Speaker 9 sign yeah exactly exactly but when them overseas women come over here they got an agenda baby

Speaker 9 That's the difference because I've seen that. They come over here, baby.
They're doing the same thing everybody else doing.

Speaker 2 Okay, they want that check.

Speaker 9 They want that check, honey.

Speaker 2 And that's all you had to take me shopping.

Speaker 9 Oh, you this? Oh, yeah. They coming over here for a reason.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 2 Period point black.

Speaker 5 Melania did it too good.

Speaker 2 She said, I didn't mean to be the first lady. I just want a little chick.
Exactly. That pussy got her in some trouble.
Ended up getting putting the white.

Speaker 2 You know what I'm saying? You don't even know how to speak English. She don't marry Christmas.
Like,

Speaker 2 I'm crying.

Speaker 9 Okay, y'all. This has been fun.

Speaker 9 It's been fun. This has been so fun.
We're going to wrap up with a little segment.

Speaker 2 Okay.

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Speaker 9 So the segment is I'm going to ask you to, what is your fantasy in a relationship? Not sexually, it can be, but like, what do you want more of from your man?

Speaker 9 Like, what do you wish men knew about women like what do you and what do you wish they did less like i want them to know more of

Speaker 4 like for me she asked me this what do i want more from a woman what like less stop talking so goddamn much

Speaker 2 i know and that's a tough one for us

Speaker 2 you know how crazy

Speaker 2 it's not tough

Speaker 5 i tweeted one time and it went viral because like i was at dinner with my man i was trying to be like romance i was like bae like what's your fantasy like what do do you want me to do?

Speaker 5 He was like, to be quiet.

Speaker 2 I said, oh,

Speaker 9 that's

Speaker 9 me up.

Speaker 2 We think it's

Speaker 9 like,

Speaker 9 we're just be like, shut up.

Speaker 9 The girl wants to be quiet.

Speaker 2 It's crazy.

Speaker 9 But it's like, sometimes, what? Do you just supposed to sit there mute all day?

Speaker 2 You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 2 You know, I don't know. I think that sometimes we think that we're coming up with a solution or we think we're helping.
And then they be looking at it like being combative.

Speaker 2 But we're not trying to be combative. We really think we're helping the situation.

Speaker 9 That's what it is. It's like it always has to question it, but it's like, I'm not questioning, I'm just thinking, like, can I also come up with a different solution or bring this to your attention?

Speaker 9 Because sometimes you don't remember this.

Speaker 9 And then they're like, you just always question me and you don't follow me. You're compatible.
But it's like, I'm just trying to help.

Speaker 2 Like,

Speaker 2 he told me, he said, it's okay because I'm not always looking for an answer.

Speaker 2 Like, sometimes I'm just talking to you. I'm just getting like, I don't necessarily want you to come up with a solution or to help me.
But us as women, we just can't help you. We can't help.

Speaker 9 And we'd be like, well, didn't you say you didn't like that?

Speaker 2 Right.

Speaker 9 Like, girl, I just said I'm going here.

Speaker 2 But I'll tell you what.

Speaker 5 I think for me, like, what I would like more is just like a balance. Cause he's like a workaholic and stuff.
And so it's like, I'll be having to make him take a break.

Speaker 5 Like, literally, I'd be having to make him sleep and go get a facial, go relax today. So, I wish, like, they would, men would find more of that work-life balance of like relaxing sometimes.

Speaker 5 But I get it. Like, you know, when you just are in hustle-hustle mode, I understand that.
But I think life is all about balance because you don't want to look up and you're like 67.

Speaker 5 You're like, damn, all I did was work.

Speaker 2 Like, all I did was work.

Speaker 9 And then travel or do nice things.

Speaker 2 Like, just for yourself, even though you're relaxed. Yeah, yeah, for sure.

Speaker 5 So, yeah, I think that's something that I think,

Speaker 9 yeah what about anything less from a man like

Speaker 9 they'd want us to be quiet less talking

Speaker 9 i think i said i would like a man to be um like less Like I don't know how to put this in a like the right term, but like stop holding shit in so much.

Speaker 2 Oh, okay. You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 9 Like, because they'll let shit build up and you don't even know. And it could be small.
Like, it could be, you could be annoyed by the smallest thing I do.

Speaker 9 Like, babe, can you go do this or turn off the light? And it's just like, I hate when you ask me that. Just turn like little stuff.

Speaker 9 And then they get all mad and it just boils up and they're irritated. It's like, just tell me sometimes.

Speaker 2 Like, communication. Communication.
More communication.

Speaker 9 But you know what I've realized?

Speaker 2 I think men don't like doing that, though, because then when they talk too much, that'd be a turnoff for some women. Like, they'd be like, oh, he nagging.
He's sassy. You know, I'm complaining.

Speaker 5 But I think that's so crazy. Cause like, if this is your man and somebody you're dealing with, like, I'd be wanting you to tell me what song I was going to sing to.

Speaker 9 I want to hear every top song.

Speaker 5 Everything.

Speaker 9 Bring it. What else? What were you going to say?

Speaker 2 Bring it. Say it.

Speaker 9 I want to hear everything a man got to say. But men have said it, like, even my past relationships, a man has told me, like, yeah, you act, like, women act like they want to hear your problems.

Speaker 9 But once you start giving the problems, they start respecting you less. And I don't, I don't find that to be true.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 9 Because the more I know, the more I can anticipate your needs and help you and help us grow, you know? Like, I'll say this.

Speaker 2 I definitely want you to tell me, but then I think it gets to a point, and this is just people across the board. Like,

Speaker 2 how many times are you going to bring it up, though? The same thing. Yeah, that's true.
Over and over and over.

Speaker 5 We got to come to a solution.

Speaker 2 Yeah, then it gets to a point to where it's like, okay, damn. Yeah.

Speaker 2 Like, now, what are we going to do about it? And I think us as women, we're naturally that way. This is cool, but what are we going to do about it?

Speaker 2 Like, I understand how you feel, but let's come up with a solution. I like to be a solution-based based first same same

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