Traveling the World: Impacting Lives with Tim Storey | Digital Social Hour #78

You've been to 78 countries.

A lot of people watching this haven't even left their state.

Yeah.

And they're confined.

How has traveling the world sort of created your view on the world?

So

three ways to learn.

Education,

conversation, observation.

And are you a fan of charities?

Big time.

You don't feel like some charities are a scam though?

No, some charities are a scam.

Welcome to the Digital Social Hour.

I'm your host, Sean Kelly, here with my co-host, Wayne Lewis.

What up, what up?

And our guest today, Tim Story.

How's it going?

Tim Story, good to be here.

I'm loving these studios.

Not bad, right?

My pleasure to have you.

For people that don't know your story, could you give a quick summary?

Yeah.

Born and raised in Southern California, Los Angeles, and loved sports as a kid,

but also like cared about people.

And I decided to go to seminary to be a humanitarian.

And that's what I've been doing all my life.

Wow.

78 countries deep.

That's insane.

So what is a humanitarian exactly?

I think humanitarian is things you guys do.

I just put a name to it, and that is looking out for others,

lifting people up, finding answers, looking for a way where there was no way.

And so part of that was being raised in a family that

was very confined and conflicted.

And then I started to find answers through a lot of mentors and tutors.

And when I found those answers, I'm like, man, this is dope.

I can help other people.

And then that's what I've spent my life doing right now.

Wow.

And you mentioned going to Disneyland was kind of the spark that changed your life, right?

Yeah, that was cool.

So I was seven, and somebody gave my family tickets to Disneyland because we could not afford them.

And

man, I'd never seen anything like it.

Like someone could drop trash and then someone was picking it up.

And then you see like Mickey Mouse, Donald Duck, everything was right there.

So I think that so much of

how we grow is observation.

So that observation of Disney was so dope because I saw this life that was beyond and it just reminded me of the person that I knew I was going to be.

Mine was

First Prince of Bel Air.

That changed your life?

That was.

Yeah, well, not changed my life, but it gave me

a different outlook.

Gave me a different perspective, although it was fake.

Yeah, it

I

wanted to shoot for that.

I wanted to shoot for that, but that makes sense because you saw how they lived on that TV show,

and even aesthetically, when you saw the house that they lived in, I wanted to live like that.

Yeah, yeah.

So, you've been to 78 countries.

A lot of people watching this haven't even left their state, yeah, and they're confined.

How has traveling the world sort of created your view on the world?

So

three ways to learn.

Education,

conversation, observation.

So that's why I'm so excited about the podcast you guys are doing because on the conversational side, we're really missing a lot.

So when I went to Sweden the first time when I was 20, I've now been there 68 times.

I went there in seminary to go speak to just schools about dreaming.

I'd created this dream course at 20.

And I just sit there and I talk with these Swedes and I noticed that like a lot of them didn't brag.

I could be with a really wealthy guy and he didn't even tell me about everything he had.

And I learned a lot about different cultures on how they did things, how they saw success.

And then

So I really expanded myself through traveling.

So you mentioned a dream course.

What role do dreams play in your life?

Because they play a pretty big role in mine.

So I'm curious how you view dreams.

Yeah, so to me, you know, as kids,

we have what I call a miracle mentality.

A miracle is something extraordinary, uncommon, not regular, not the norm.

So you ask little kids, what do you want to be when you get older?

If they're like five, six, seven, an astronaut.

I want to be like LeBron, a little girl.

I'm a princess.

I'm a queen.

I'm going to rule the world.

It's always something super, super imaginative.

And so I think that this miracle mentality is innate, is innate.

And because of my spiritual background, what I say is an utmost God did not create almost children.

So Oprah Winfrey asked me, at what point did you know you were Tim Story?

And I said, when I was 10.

But we were broke when I was 10.

But I knew I was Tim Story at 10.

Wow.

So you were broke at 10.

What role did money play throughout your life?

Because now obviously you're successful.

Yeah.

So the interesting thing about money

is once I saw that you could make it and

it could help people,

it could help your mother, it could help her pay her bills.

So that's when I talked a man into giving me a job as a dishwasher at 15 and a half.

So there was a white guy by the name of Mr.

Anderson, and he had like a cool restaurant.

And so I went up to him and I said, hey, you know, I'm a good athlete.

My name is Timmy Story

and I want a job.

And so I talked him into hiring me as a dishwasher, but I like getting those little checks.

But those little checks meant that I was adding to my mother to take pressure off her.

So to me, finances and getting some money at that time, then a lot of money later was about leverage and being able to help somebody else.

Right.

So when people say that money doesn't equal happiness, I feel like I hate that phrase so much because I feel like that phrase was created to keep a certain group of us in bondage to

keep us like striving for less or be complacent with where we're at in life.

So I can definitely understand like the drive when it, the driving force when it comes to money.

And you're right, it helps you.

It makes your life better.

yeah it definitely

it definitely does so I agree with what you're saying so to me money gets me out of the center seat on an airplane when I don't want to be in a center seat and coach

so I feel like probably if I went into your childhood and your childhood there's times in life you felt like you're in the center seat

the whole the whole time right and there's and there's no elbow room yeah so that's how I was raised with no elbow room.

And then when I began to see how other people lived by being like in Paris, France, and being in Italy at 21, 22, 23, all by myself with my little passport and my little humanitarian self, I started thinking, man,

these are not like people living in the center seat with...

with no elbow room.

So I'm going to find that way.

Right.

So you're a humanitarian.

Are you a fan of charities?

Big time, yeah.

I spend so much of my life on the charity side.

And

I continue to work with prison reform.

Robert Downey Jr.

is a great friend of mine.

He started something to help incarcerated people and brought me and a few people on.

Wow.

And we started going in.

educating people in the prison system and then helping them when they got out.

So I'm deep in that space.

I'm also deep in the recovery space for mental health.

I'm the only mindset coach in gaming.

You know, as you guys know more than me, we have over 3 billion gamers.

So I'm the only mental health coach that we know of in the whole gaming capacity.

Oh.

You don't feel like some charities are a scam, though?

No, some charities are a scam.

A lot of them are a scam.

No, some charities are a scam.

Just like I came out of the the Laker game last week and they were cooking some bad hot dogs.

You get my point?

There's like people like making hot dogs.

You're like, where'd they get to meet?

Yeah, yeah.

No, a lot of charities are a scam because I think that with this whole

go fund me and all that, you always have people

with bad motives.

So I think like

at your guys' level,

you're super wise and you just ask questions like, like

what charities

do you guys think that we should roll with and

that that's that's that's what I do but I love to educate people out of the position and place that they're that they're in

and gives me a lot of joy in life so how do you go about

how do you know when you've penetrated someone like what's the

you know the psychological aspect or strategy behind actually penetrating people when it comes to a mindset thing Because sometimes a lot of people are in their own way from a mental standpoint.

Yeah, no doubt about it.

How do you break that?

Yeah.

So I think to me, it's about getting better.

It's never about getting cured.

I'm helping somebody get better.

Not cure them.

I'm not trying to cure somebody.

So

if you've done your research, which you have, I work with the biggest rappers in the world.

So I'm not trying to cure them, even if they're saying crazy and saying stuff.

But I do want them to be better.

I want them to find a place of peace,

a mindset of

tranquility.

And this whole idea of mental health,

the whole idea is to be psychologically and emotionally better.

So better is pretty good.

You know, most people.

You can't cure it, right?

No,

I don't think that we're ever cured until we pass away.

I think that there's two things that we all go through at the same time, recovery and discovery.

So right when I think I'm cured, somebody's going to sue me.

Right when I think I'm cured, somebody in my family's acting up.

So I'm never looking

for the cure.

I know I'm going through recovery and discovery at the same time.

And if you could ever get that mindset, man, you're in a good place.

Because someone could bring you bad news and you just go, okay,

that's life.

Some's recovery, some's discovery.

So your approach is to cure through mindset and not physical supplements and like antidepressants and stuff.

I think that there are times that

you can come together as a collective.

I do know that there are people that I am their life coach, if we can call it that way, that it has been good that they were on medication to even them out, in all fairness to them, because they were in a manic state.

But more and more we're finding out the power of exercise.

And as you guys know, more and more, you probably had guys on the show, the power of breath work.

Okay.

The power of breath work.

The power of exercise.

The power.

of meditation.

Natural, like the normal human thing sitting in water

going to the shore.

100%.

Listening to the ocean, listening to the ocean.

Yeah.

So if you guys were ever around me for a long time, like the thing that people say about me, they're like, Tim's story seems like he's got like

really cool music, slow jazz playing in his mind at all times.

And I do.

There could be a fire right there, and I still won't get dramatic in the drama.

Wow.

But a lot of that is I train my mind to be this way.

So do you,

do you smoke weed or microdose?

That's a great question.

I've never been asked.

I mean, because the reason why I'm asking is I've never been asked that.

Who helps to help?

Yeah.

So when Superman needs help, who helps Superman?

So who helps to help?

So what's your go-to?

Is it micro-dosing mushrooms or psychedelics?

Is it maybe, you know, drinking a wine or is it smoking weed?

I'm loving this podcast.

Because no one or

balls has me that.

Well, I got them.

Okay.

That's why I'm loving this.

That's like Deepok Show, bro.

Do you smoke?

What's your thing?

No, so, and I would always answer you guys

total honestly because I like you guys.

But so, number one, I don't.

Okay.

But I don't have a problem with people doing what they feel like they want to do.

Okay.

So

for me, for me, where I get a lot of strength is what I'm getting from right now.

Because I'm getting some young energy,

but I'm getting a lot of wise energy.

Okay.

So

I don't ever run from an empty cup.

And part of the reason I get my cup filled up, like you just said, I feed off people's energy.

Man, like I could be on the set of a movie, because we all know entertainers.

and just like see a scene and see how they did it again and see this cinematography and see how that guy relit that or be in the studio with people that we know.

No, I get a lot of my energy feeding off humans.

Nice.

Touching back on Robert Downey Jr., how did you build a relationship with him?

I think that

what happened with us is there's a friend of mine named Brent who,

you know, very, very well known.

So he had the Hyde on Sunset that everybody used to go to.

Oh, yeah.

Like in the early days, that's what I was doing.

Oh yeah, what is this place called Hyde?

Yeah, Hyde.

You'd always see Paris and Kim in the early days.

And then he had body English here with DJ A.M.

So he was the biggest thing in the 90s, 2000s, into today.

All his stuff is dope still.

So at Coachella, he does Neon Carnival.

So he's a guy that introduced me to Leo DiCaprio, Cameron Diaz, Jared Leto, probably no less than like 50 celebrities.

Wow.

So what I began to be known as is that, you know, Tim is

a cool guy and he has answers.

And so that's how I started with Robert of just us having conversations.

So I never divulge like the depth of conversations with people that I have.

But what I have with these people, male and female, is trust.

And

I'm a good listener.

That's a powerful skill to have a lot of people because they can't trust people at that level.

Think about it.

Smile is always telling their business or leaking.

Well, you know that.

Selling the story.

You know that.

I mean, that's why I think that even with this

JB Fox situation, at the time we will release this podcast,

it will still be news one way or another.

But that's why you don't no one really knew like, well, what really did happen.

Yeah,

because part of the situation is who can these people trust?

So I became like one of the go-to guys and like within my culture, within my skin color, I became the go-to guy.

But I think part of that is

listening, caring, but also having some pretty good answers.

So you seem to be able to control your emotions very well.

Very well.

How can people watching this get better at controlling theirs?

Some people have anger issues.

Some people are depressed.

What's some strategy there?

Yeah, the reality is is that if you really break it down to basics, okay?

So if I get a thought, that's just a thought.

So that thought, what I do is I let that thought go around in my mind once or twice before I respond.

Because people,

the more successful you guys get, because you're successful already.

But you're nowhere compared to where you're going.

They're going to jack with you non-stop.

Okay?

Like you could be the greatest singer and someone's going to say something stupid at the end of the concert.

Yeah.

That was terrible.

I'm telling you.

Or you could be so proud of yourself and then you end up at a family Thanksgiving and they're saying something that's not

that's not right.

So I am a master

at

the projection.

Like the old school days, like when I was a kid, they had like the projector.

And then remember the slide would go around?

You guys have at least seen this on YouTube.

So someone can just say something really dumbass to me.

And I just look, I'm just letting the damn thing go around.

And I don't just respond.

Okay.

No matter what it is.

So you let it sit for a bit before you respond.

100%.

100%.

So you're not reactive, you're responsive.

Yes, very much so.

But the dope thing is, whether somebody's into

this biblical story or not, but it's a dope one.

So the whole thing about Jesus is he talked in parables.

He was a master of the riddle and the rhyme.

Right.

He never told everything that was in his heart.

The Bible says only a fool tells his whole heart.

Because not everybody can handle the bigness in you or the bigness in you.

I can

because I respect it and I honor it.

Most people can't.

So if someone would tell Jesus something, he would always come back to them with a riddle and a rhyme.

And I started to pick this up at an early age.

And the more I got around some dope people that were older, that were like rolling like this from all walks of faith, I think, man, that brother, he talks in riddles and rhymes.

He ain't even telling the whole stuff, but he's he like.

He knows where he's going.

He knows who he is, but he's not telling everything.

So that's how I roll.

I roll in riddles and rhymes.

Interesting.

Yeah, it is.

Because you can frustrate a lot of people.

It's dope.

You can frustrate a lot of people.

So that's where Kanye messed up, is giving his whole heart.

Yeah, but that's that.

But that's my little brother.

And like, so, so close.

I was with him for like six albums straight in that studio non-stop.

But, but, but that's to me, yeah, a lot of it is

the the challenge of what he's going through right with with uh mindset

but

being pushed and provoked right okay so one day i was at the san diego zoo and it was a big old gorilla and he was taking piles and throwing them at the people.

And I thought this was so funny.

So I found the zookeeper that was trying to stop him from doing it.

So I said, I said, let me tell you my background.

I'm a psychologist.

I said, why is that gorilla doing it?

He says, because they're frustrating him.

He feels provoked.

So therefore, he was retaliating by throwing his crap at them.

So do gorillas know that they're throwing their own at them?

Heck yes.

He knew what he was up to.

He was like, don't be messing with me acting the way

I'm going to throw it.

So notice about this, you could be having like the greatest day

and people start pushing, provoking, disrespecting, right?

It wants to take you out of that mindset, that place where you're supposed to be.

Absolutely.

So I think that with the Kanye,

that he felt provoked and pushed.

And that's why you would see these strange interactions with the paparazzi because I could be with him maybe 18 minutes before that and he was all chill

and he's talking about like Art Basel and he's talking about something he's gonna do with Nigo so yeah it's like two different people yeah

yeah you see that with Justin Bieber and the paparazzi too yeah no doubt I think with me too what I started to realize is that I'm not a victim I'm a participant so I have to then hold myself accountable too because my reactions actually matter in this situation not whether I'm being provoked with what's being said to me, but it's also how I react.

That can be the outcome.

100%.

Good or a bad situation.

So it's like if you're the most important person in your life, then you have to act in that matter.

Yeah, and I think that that's the

challenge and the privilege of being both of you.

Okay.

Because now life has decided to go ding, ding, right?

Right.

And say, okay, we choose you to to be leaders.

Now you have a lot of people that are following you, okay?

So you're leaders.

So what I like to say is, man, when that calling is calling you, you got to step up.

Yeah.

I mean, Nelson Mandela was in prison for 25 years for something he didn't do.

Right.

But yet he continued to speak in parables.

continued to walk in love and continued to change a whole country.

A lot of people seem to have a negative mindset.

Yeah.

Unfortunately.

You're very positive, it seems like.

What's your advice to people to sort of change their mindset to becoming more positive?

I think it's one step at a time.

I think that the reality is you have to, number one, become awake.

What's awake to you?

Awake to me is if you just break it down the dictionary is to be conscious.

And like when you were a kid and you were a kid, we both had, we all three had moments where we got awake where like maybe other kids had like cool Levi's and we did not.

And then you notice that at school.

Does that make sense?

Yeah.

That could be like an awake moment or someone had dope converse, but we didn't.

And oh,

snap, but I don't have that much money.

So awake is you become conscious.

But once you become awake, you now have to take inventory.

That's what most people are afraid to do.

And the inventory goes in various areas.

What's my mindset like?

What is my strength of my mind?

Okay.

And what's the clarity of my mind?

So awake, take inventory.

And then the third thing, and this is really powerful,

you got to partner with the right people.

Because if you don't partner with the wrong

people, you're surrounding,

we're going to go to the wrong place.

So how were you able to find the right partners?

I think

first it was being okay to be by myself.

I think

any real creator

that has done like amazing things,

like if you were ever to interview a Timberland,

these guys

were a lot by themselves.

Pharrell Williams a lot

by himself.

Right, guys?

Yeah, I'm by myself a lot.

I live by myself.

I'm always alone.

Okay, so you got it.

So I think that we have to be okay in our own aloneness

and and then i always like to say it this way if you build your spot

life will put the spotlight on your spot

like

all the beauty that you guys are creating out of this studio you you're building your spot and life is putting the spotlight on your spot so i knew if i was creating dope recipes, people would kind of come and find my restaurant.

Come to you.

And that's what happened.

So a lot of self-work.

A lot of self-work.

No doubt.

Because how does one,

how does one become like,

and now hear ye, hear ye.

You are the life coach to the stars.

You'd be a fool.

You'd be voted off the island.

No,

I just got good at my craft.

I'm not good at a lot of other people's crafts that people do some amazing stuff.

But I became very good good at my craft but it did take a lot of loneliness a lot of

dedication

and just

believing that someday it pay off and how important is reading to you big time how often how many books do you do you read do you

like what's your goal to reach every year like how many

I'm gonna challenge this theory of so many of my friends because I I roll with those guys that talk about reading so much because those are all my guys okay

I don't I don't like that because I think

that it's almost like a lyric to a song

that when you hear a certain lyric no matter who the the person is let's say if it is a Drake lyric you know when that doggone next thing is coming, that next phrase is coming, right?

And even like little kids, I see little kids, like they're like, like they know that they know the lyric.

I think people are rushing through books so quickly that they're not taking in the lyrics deeply.

So, if I read Atomic Habits, that book that's so dope, I love it, I will literally marinate in that thing for three months.

Right.

And guess what's going to happen?

It's going to come out of me.

Are you audiobooking or actually reading?

For me, I'm an audiobook guy.

Just saying.

Yeah?

Because for me, guys,

my life is sometimes sometimes on airplanes.

Yeah.

So that's like my little meditation time of

listening to amazing people.

But try to take in what I'm saying on this.

I would rather have you guys

take one dope book and marinate on it for a while.

In fact, people are always trying to give me books.

I'll take them, but I'll say, I'll be honest with you, I probably can't get to this for four to five to six months

because

I want to take in those other lyrics.

Gotcha.

I'm the same way.

I enjoy reading.

I take time out every day and listen to audiobooks for sure.

I don't finish it that day, but

chapters.

Why do you think a lot of celebrities have mental health issues?

Do you think it's because their life is such a roller coaster of high highs and low lows?

No doubt.

So it's

like,

let's take even in Major League Baseball.

If you are hitting like, you know, over 300, that means you did something not to get a hit two times and got a hit one time.

But in the space of being an actor, you're getting rejected nonstop.

Like

you're up against three of the best actors or actresses or five or 10 or 20.

But I've seen some of these people on the set where the director could be brutal take 26 take 27 man I could wear I could wear on you so I think that there's so much like

rejection hitting you all the time I'll tell you a cool story take me 60 seconds

I like Phil Jackson who used to coach the Chicago Bulls as you guys know right one thing that he said is that I work my players hard during practice and that during the game I didn't call a lot of timeouts

because I wanted them to try to sort out what was going wrong.

I think too many people are calling timeout on everybody.

Like

that sucked or you had a bad day or you're off.

Time out, time out.

Sometimes we need to just trust and let people sort it out.

Wow.

But I also think that it's a lot of pressure to perform at such a high level and not disappoint and I think that actually in itself is a challenge and a struggle because how do you continue to reach these highs and you don't know if you're still the same person or is it going to grasp the audience like it did so I think it's there's a lot of mental stress too when it comes to celebrities and then they don't really have friends bro really Sean no bro I'm around these people they don't really have friends trust issues they're around a group no they're around a group of people there's difference between a group of people and then friends

you're exactly right.

A group of people, we're out together.

A friend is, hey, Sean, what time is the game start?

Okay, cool.

We can actually conversate and you have a trust in me.

A lot of those guys around are, they're useless.

Not to say that they're useless human beings, but for the person, they're useless.

So who do you go to?

I think you got that exactly right.

And so

the way I write it in this book,

I say like there's three levels of intimacy.

One is the acquaintance, and we all have like a lot of people we know.

Yeah, the second is like the friends and family.

The third, you guys are gonna like is the green room.

So, like, if all three of us went and spoke at a conference somewhere here in Las Vegas, right?

They would say, Okay, there's your green room.

You can have eight people there.

There's your groom room.

You got eight people.

There's your green room.

There's eight people.

So the green room is invited guests.

I think we've all all put people in our green room that should not have been there.

Because the green room, to me, is a place of secrets.

It's a place of safety.

It's a place of seclusion.

Vulnerability.

It's a place of vulnerability.

Yo, I can't have you in my green room.

Yeah, that means I don't need to be around you.

And not to say that they can't, but, you know, I need, you got to, as friends, we have to pour into one another.

You know, Sean should be able to come and talk to me about whatever that stays with me.

You know, I should be able to give him advice about whatever he's ready to give me advice about, and we should be able to correct one another.

Yes,

so if you guys even noticed, like,

I just came from a speaking engagement where everybody was clapping for me, okay?

I came into the studio quietly.

Yeah, I didn't even notice you were here.

I just came in, kind of disappeared.

I just came in all quiet,

and then I just,

you know, hugged you guys.

And then

basically what I'm saying is,

I respect you guys for what you're doing.

And right now, I was just an acquaintance at that point.

Okay.

Then we're getting along.

You guys may upgrade me to friends and family.

Down the line,

we may collaborate and do dope stuff all over the world.

And we're crazy in each other's green room.

And so I think that that's a lot of how people need to approach each other.

And you can't just bum rush somebody's green room.

Yeah, nah.

I only want to be around green room people.

Yeah.

Because they're going to stop you.

Yeah.

They're going to stop your impulses.

They're going to stop your, you know, the emotion aspect.

They're going to speak life into you and stop you from doing a lot of things, from self-destructing.

And that was the only group of people I want to be around.

Yeah.

I really don't need a group of 50.

Nah, quality was a quantity of

useless minds around me.

I'm there with three people, but we're strong.

And I had that mindset in high school, trying to be friends with everyone.

But I was so upset back then trying to please everyone.

But once I limited my circle to like five people, I became really happy.

And I think that the idea

of understanding that that is really normal to us

is that we don't, if we're not in the mood to talk a lot, we shouldn't talk a lot.

That's it.

If you feel like having a quiet day, don't answer your phone.

And that's just who we are.

i've been practicing dnd a lot i've never put my phone on dnd until like two weeks ago and i gave the best lead i get to pick the time where i'm ready of course yeah

of course because there's there's there's so much um

in quiet

of rejuvenation

and man the the creative thoughts you can come up with

right

like driving down the road with no music on and something that just comes to you, or just being quiet in some setting.

And I think we really have to fight for those moments.

Absolutely.

And keep them sacred.

Absolutely.

Tim, that was amazing, man.

What are you up to next?

Anything you want to promote?

No.

I'm just glad to be around you guys.

Appreciate you for coming, man.

For sure.

What's the 79th country you're going to?

Israel.

Okay.

Israel.

Yeah.

79th is Israel.

So

I've been to that many, 78, but I've been to some as many as 80 times.

Wow.

So we're doing some dope stuff like to change people's lives in Ukraine.

Here a lot of humanitarian work.

I'm working on a good movie with somebody that you know.

And I like all that stuff.

But right now, I'm just in the moment and being with two world shakers and proud of you guys.

So if you ever need us for anything, you know, we'll be down and do some humanitarian stuff.

Absolutely.

Change the world, shake it up a little bit more.

I love it.

I think we're going to do a lot together.

Absolutely, I'm sure.

Wayne, any closing comments?

Thank you guys for watching and follow me on Instagram.

Sean Kelly here.

Thanks for tuning in, guys.

Digital Social Hour.

I'll see you next time.

Peace.