Overcoming Abuse to Achieve Success: The Journey of Christianna Hurt | Digital Social Hour #30

All right, welcome to the Digital Social Hour.

I'm here with my co-host, Wayne Lewis.

What up, what up?

And our guest today, Christiana Hurt.

How we doing?

Good, I'm excited to be here.

Yeah, so you're coming from Florida, right?

Yeah, and it's crazy because we've known each other a couple years now.

Yeah, it's been a while though, since we last saw each other.

Yeah, we've been in the mud.

Yeah, we used to speak at all those e-commerce conferences for real.

We were in the tension together doing e-commerce.

That's how she made a name for herself, eBay and Amazon.

Actually, no, I didn't start doing that until almost 2020.

Fun fact.

I was strictly doing Shopify.

I didn't really touch Amazon, eBay, and Walmart till like almost 2020.

Okay, so I had a little bit of bread to play with by then.

Yeah, okay.

What were your biggest successes with e-commerce?

Digital products are like flat-based product based.

Okay.

So product base, I had Just Kidding Around kids before Just Kidding Kids and we sold those silicone baby mats.

I made a killing with those, but I got a seasoned assist.

Yeah, somebody had trademarked the word happy mat or no must mat.

So I had to like just change the name, but they didn't patent or trademark the actual mat.

They only trademarked the name.

The

name.

And you got to really like read into your seasoned assist letters.

The first time I didn't really understand it and I panicked, but once like I read it through, it was like, wait, I can sell this.

Yeah, and they have to send you like three before you actually shut down, guys.

Oh, really?

I didn't even let it get that far.

And then, even then, some people don't even pursue beyond that because then you have court fees and stuff.

So, I mean, the bigger companies like the Chanels, the Fendi's.

This girl was doing, she was like on Shark Tank.

So I think she would have

taken it there.

But I mean, had my big break there.

And then digital products, I did 10.4 million selling vendors lists during the penny.

Yeah, just vendors.

You know, like the AliExpress information?

You know how there'd be like a hundred like, let's just say like waist trainer vendors.

Yeah.

I would give you a list of like the top five that I know are reliable and I would sell it to you for like 20, 30 bucks.

What?

Yeah.

And you sold $10 million of that?

Yeah.

Oh, wow.

You're helping.

I mean, she was helping people create.

I was, I, and I was the urban community.

You got to think.

Like, so everybody was trying to start

the hair business and the clothing brands, which, you know, now being so deep in it, I know that that's not like your exit plan.

But if you're just starting out, that's your dream.

It's like, oh, I have my own clothing brand.

So I just capitalized on it, honestly.

I feel that.

Let's dive into your travel life because you've been traveling the world.

I can't even salute with you.

22 countries in 2022, man.

Just in 2022.

Yes.

That was like a thing I did.

Whoa.

Was that purpose?

Yeah, that was on purpose.

Oh, yeah.

That was planned.

Yeah, yeah.

That's two a month.

How did you do that?

Honestly, just committing.

So like, even for 2023, I have a list of countries, and then we pick the countries and the place, the times that we'll go by the weather.

So, like, for example, Peru is in September because that's the best weather, the optimal time to go.

So, I actually am not traveling until July, so I'll do 16 countries between July and December.

So, you have pretty much your business set up on like automation?

No, hell no.

So, you're not working, or are you always working when you're doing?

So, I feel like this is really where it becomes the difference between public figures and influencers.

I feel like I'm a public figure at this point because my brands have advertisements running and, you know, ads running and things like that, but I don't run any ads to me myself, I just live life.

So, like, as a public figure, you don't see like the owner of Fashion Over running ads to his page.

That'd be mad creep.

You know, so I have brands and you know, like CMOs, and like, I really have people that work for me that do get six-figure salary, so I take a smaller cut, but I'm able to like live my life.

Yeah, what were your favorite countries that you visited?

Jordan, because of Petra, that was a really big one that I wanted to do.

Peru because of Rainbow Mountain, and Vietnam, because of Hot Long Bay that's the only

movie that was filmed in Vietnam was King Kong so I got to see like where that was filmed you say King Kong Peru the new one yeah it was filmed in Vietnam I didn't know that what about uh what about food-wise

food-wise Peru the food overseas is very I have like a five-year-old taste palette like okay like small like chicken head or small

stick with the same yeah I've tried like don't get me wrong like Vietnam obviously I didn't have no choice but to eat rice basically all the time But, like, trying like all those different foods, like, no, you'll get sick, like, honestly.

So, who do you usually travel with?

Like, friends or you?

Um, it depends.

So, I have girl trips that we do.

A lot of my girls' trips are to the Caribbean, so that's how I knocked out like your ABC islands and stuff like that.

And then, like, I'll have work trips, like, my staff and things like that.

And then I have my trips with like my boyfriend.

Okay, so you got a boyfriend though?

Yeah, I've been in Armies for like a year.

Yo, so we went viral.

What?

Wait, what?

What did you go?

Wait, so they

were saying, like, you don't date guys who make less than what?

I don't.

100K?

100K.

I don't.

So he makes over 100K.

Yes, he makes over 100k.

So he makes like 110.

You think he's, we just went to Finland and he footed the $15,000 bill.

You think men.

Guys, it's probably $210,000.

Yeah.

But yeah,

that's your question.

When you say make less than $100K, is $100K the minimum requirement or above $100K?

No,

my baseline is like $200 and up.

That's your baseline.

That's my baseline.

For him.

For you, for him to be attractive to you.

You know how you go on a website and you hit filter and you filter it?

I hit filter and I filter 200K and up.

So you found him on a dating site?

I wish.

I wish it was a dating site for like,

so it makes him less attractive if he makes less than 200K.

How is he going to provide the life that I already grew up with?

Number one, I grew up at that level and have for myself.

How is he going to provide that lifestyle for me?

But how does 200k provide that lifestyle because it can afford paying the rent it could be a sole provider it could be a one-income home so you want him to pretty much take care of everything i mean

are you a 50-50 man i'm i'm i'm asking you i'm asking you are you

if you have a girlfriend you guys split the rent i don't have a girlfriend but if you when i did have one no i was a guy I was a guy.

So how would you like to?

Well, no, I'm just asking everybody's system and program is set up differently.

I'm not paying rent.

I'm standing on it.

I'm not paying rent.

Like, okay, so does that mean you guys have to eventually move in together or there's no separate housing?

Is this if we live together?

You were paying those bills before I got there.

Does it matter if I'm there?

Like, that's how I feel.

You would pay for the food.

He does.

Okay.

What do you actually like?

As far as do I pay for?

No, no, no.

Like gifts.

Like, are you like a what are you contributing in that aspect?

I have knee pads.

And I so I speak life into him.

Boom.

I speak life into him.

No, I do speak life into him and I support him.

And, you know, like, anything he does need done, I get it done.

Like, you know, like, whatever.

Like flights or whatever.

But you don't need them financially at all.

No.

Okay.

But you just like for your man to have, to be financially supportive.

What does my money bring to a relationship?

What does his money bring to it?

Stability.

So your money, no, so you, so you just save all yours.

He's pretty much like.

I'm not.

See, you had it.

Why do you have car insurance?

In case you get into a crash, right?

But do you plan to get in a crash?

No.

So it's the same thing.

My money is like car insurance.

So it's just in case he goes flat.

It's in case if, like, he runs out of money, you gotta take care of him.

Yeah, I would pick up the.

Oh, see?

Hey, okay.

I like that.

Yeah, like, if my man fell off this morning, by the end of the day, he'd be back up and you would never know.

Wow.

But ladies, do you guys see that?

Did you just hear her?

She got him.

But that's a committed relationship.

I'm not giving that to my first date, and I don't know you from a can of paint, trying to tell me that I can't ask for a man to make a certain amount of money.

You don't know me and I don't know you.

So who am I to ask you to pay my rent and who are you to demand that I pay for anything?

That's right.

So

could you date a guy that does OnlyFans?

No.

Okay.

But what if you're making like 400,000 on there?

Wait, wait, wait, what if you're making 400 grand?

I am like trying so hard not to talk about this.

I'm wondering if you did research.

I'm going to ask you off camera.

What if you make the 400,000?

I dated somebody that was involved with OnlyFans.

Was he making a nice money?

He was making a lot of money.

But I just felt like in this situation, he did give me a great life.

I will never

take that from him.

He was a great guy.

But I felt like I was living in a delusion.

Why?

Because whatever he told me, I believed it.

Because everything, like, he was, the relationship was so top tier that there was nothing nobody could tell me.

Like, about

how it's supposed to be with our relationship.

Looking back, I was delusional, though.

100%.

He probably was sleeping with those girls, but he was taking care of me to such,

I was waking up to flowers.

I was waking up to breakfast.

So, of course, I'm not really like, I was delusional because he was pushing so much that I wasn't paying attention.

I won't even lie to you.

Like, our first date, he bought me a PS5.

Now looking back, I think he bought the PS5 because he knows I would have just been playing.

I wasn't paying attention.

I was just like, wow, a game.

Damn.

Wow, a game.

I was, I, at that time, PS5 said just came out.

I, my money, I could not get it.

So, he was bringing something to the table that I couldn't get, which got me through the door.

I was like, okay, like, so what if you do OnlyFans?

But now, like, seeing where you're at in life, and if a guy came to you, absolutely not.

So, it would be automatic, no?

Absolutely not.

You wouldn't even like, no, no, no, no, no.

What comes with that?

No, it's horrible.

Like,

what do you think of all these girls making millions off OnlyFans?

I think they're going to have a hard time getting a ring.

Okay.

Like, I I don't think they'll not get boyfriends.

I'll never take that, but I think it's hard to get to retain your relationship for a long period of time doing that.

I think that you can get them in the door.

You know what I mean?

Like, you could probably get your rent paid and whatever.

But I don't think you're going to get like a longevity, like, a real commitment.

Just because of the industry that they're in.

Yeah, I don't think you're going to get a ring out of it, no.

Well, porn stars get married eventually, right?

Yeah, Liley Regis got married.

Yeah, they do.

They got a chance.

They do, but that's a very small percentage.

You got to find somebody.

And again, you're doing what percentage is.

Okay, that's okay with what you're doing for sure.

Just like I was looking for somebody that made a certain amount of money.

You take your dating pool real, real small.

So you can do it.

There's billions of people in the world, but like just take into consideration that it's a small pool.

Yeah, your pool gets smaller for sure.

Let me ask you this.

What are your financial beliefs when it comes to like

your overall perspective on how you feel like from a woman's standpoint?

Like what are some of your financial beliefs?

Like what am I supposed to do with my money?

You know, like what are you after when it comes to like fine the finances like and in regards to like your thought process what about making money and like you know always leveling up and money is abundant so i don't really have a scarcity mindset in any way shape i didn't grow up scarcity you know what i mean some people do grow up on survival and i i grew up in a home of love so like money to me is very like we have more options we'll get more of it like right it may rain today i'll buy an umbrella tomorrow so i don't really have scarcity in any way shape or form.

Like, it's damn near delusional, but it's the way that I've lived my entire life.

Everybody preaches generational wealth, but they're not even like putting those beliefs into their home.

You know what I mean?

Like, all of my siblings are the same way.

Like, it's like, oh, we'll go to college.

If it doesn't work, try something else.

Oh, it didn't work.

Oh, do this.

Like, it's very, like, that's okay.

We'll just do it again.

Did your life change when you became a millionaire?

No.

Not at all?

Not really.

Really?

I mean, I just gained control.

I feel like me becoming a millionaire was a control thing.

It was definitely a control thing.

And I didn't become a millionaire out of like inspo.

I became a millionaire on some villain origin story because I moved out for a boy.

He told me he was going to pay the rent.

He didn't.

So I.

You started hustling.

No, I like the relationship turned sour.

And you know how, you know, you always hear about men leaving the women like that was down with them because the women was like calling them out their name and shit.

Same shit.

Like he was putting me down and it was was so bad and so toxic.

And DV was involved so much.

I was like, I'm going to violate you.

So you was like, yo, what?

I shitted on him his whole life.

What does he think of you now after seeing you blow up?

Bro.

Has he seen you again?

He hit me.

No.

And you know what's crazy?

If he hadn't seen me before 2020, I probably, you know, would have had to been judged by 12.

You know what I'm saying?

Like, I would have taken it there.

But after, like, when I really had like a million dollars and shit was fine, it like,

who cares?

Like the karma is the life you live every single day.

So who am I to like go and make it worse?

Like who cares, bro?

Like I, he feels like he made me.

I don't.

I personally don't feel like putting somebody in a corner like is making me.

I mean, I'll say when you make somebody, you actually

introduce them to certain things in life that they need.

They need, but what's the difference between introducing somebody to something and exposing them to it?

You know what I mean?

He exposed me that making money from the internet was a thing it exists he never introduced introduced it like do this you will make x y z it was just he was doing this he was making money and it was around me i could see it you know what i mean so i don't really feel like again that's a huge argument like exposing introducing making somebody i feel like if you made me you should be able to make me 10 more times and i haven't seen nobody out here in in this industry that's coming close to me to be honest with you like i just

like, yo, you know, I made you an instance of like, you know, I put you on.

It's like, you wasn't trying to do this internet stuff prior to me.

Correct.

And I'm like, but I got evicted.

You got me evicted.

Right, right.

Do you believe everything happens for a reason that that relationship was supposed to happen in your life?

100%.

I definitely do.

But again, like when people try to be like, oh, I want to follow in your footsteps or da-da-da-da, I really be telling them, like, you really think at the day of my eviction, if somebody had, like, given me two doors and said one door was like date another millionaire or become a millionaire yourself, at 21, you don't think I would have just picked dating somebody else?

Right.

Like, I would have just picked that.

But I didn't have that door and I didn't want to go back home.

So it was like, all right, I'll just do it myself.

Yeah.

So.

Could you date a guy shorter than you?

No.

No.

That's no way.

You just gotta be taller than me, honestly.

But he could date a girl taller than him.

I would.

What color is your lip gloss?

I don't, I don't like lip gloss.

You sure?

I can date a girl taller than me.

Yeah, for sure.

You sure you don't split the bills?

Nah, not at all.

Not at all.

Ask them.

Yeah, ask them.

Okay.

Ask them.

You're like, no, I pay the bills right now.

Yeah, yeah, I do, because it's my house.

Yeah.

It's my shit.

So, nah, yeah, for sure.

What about ethnicities?

Could you date any ethnicity?

Yeah.

Okay.

You know what's crazy?

The boyfriend I have now is the lightest I've ever dated.

Okay.

Yeah.

Lightest or the whitest.

He's half Italian and Jamaican, but he's like, oh, he's light, like people confuse him with white.

Oh, okay.

But I will say, you know what's crazy?

As a child,

like real like childhood crushes, I was into like punk rock bands and stuff.

And obviously most band lead singers are Caucasian.

He resembles it.

Okay.

Which is so weird.

Sometimes I think you go back to your origin.

You go back to like what you wanted as a kid, which is so weird.

Maybe that's why it works.

Yeah, maybe that's why it works.

Maybe he fits your criteria too.

He's successful.

He makes money.

Everybody I've dated, with the exception of one person, has been at that level.

You're lucky.

You're lucky that that's not happening.

You are what you attract.

That's very true.

That's very true.

And even if I was dead broke, I was going to get that.

Like the relationship I moved out for, he found me at Wing House.

I was a server.

Wow.

Yeah.

But I would never date a server.

Isn't that crazy?

Yeah.

How can a girl attract a high-value man?

You know, honestly, doing it the first time, like, if I had to scroll all the way back to like 18, 20, I think it's just being nice, like, just being like happy and nice.

Yeah, but you got a certain energy about you, though.

And you got your look together.

You got your shit straight.

You got your.

But I didn't have shit back then.

I worked at

the wing house.

I was just cute, happy, and

be there.

Yeah.

You got to look.

It's pretty privileged to think.

It does because that's men are physical.

What?

So we look at attractive.

That's what naturally attracts us to us.

She's very subtle.

She's not like, you know, like overbearing when it comes to like over sexualizing herself so she's she's classy so she's obviously she's more more appealing to more men too because she's not over sexualizing herself she's hidden that is a big thing yeah so it's i mean it's a lot that go into looks when it comes to men especially attracting the kind of men that she's attracted to it's class i feel that yeah i know my dad always told me that men want to be around happy absolutely too happy and i've just always just been the type of person that is just happy to be here like i'm not a person that's like oh, I need to go here, I do this.

I'm just happy to be there.

So, and you're personable, too.

Like, you can, like, you can have a conversation.

I get taken to those places.

She has intellect.

She has substance.

I get taken to those places.

Like, I've never not sat courtside.

I've never, like, I've been in those places my whole life.

So, I just be like, it's normal to me, you know what I'm saying?

So, and nothing really moves me.

I just be happy to be there.

What do you mean, nothing moves you?

Like, being like wind and dine or taken places doesn't move me.

Oh, you don't get impressed?

I don't get impressed.

I just be happy.

The same happiness I would have to take a bike ride.

That's solid.

I'd just be happy.

So he could take you to eat anywhere and it wouldn't matter.

I have the food palate of a five-year-old.

Yeah, 100%.

So Chick-fil-A.

Chick-fil-A.

Super down to earth, too.

Nuggies.

Right.

Imagine it having being a millionaire and still being super down to earth, being personable, being likable, not oversexualized.

The only thing is I always want to go somewhere.

That's probably the biggest, the big, if my boyfriend had to do an interview, he'd be like, This girl always wants to go somewhere.

Like, she just wants to eat chicken nuggets in China.

And he's right.

I think traveling the world is important.

You get a lot of perspective and you learn a lot.

I mean, you learn.

I feel like Egypt was my most educational trip, honestly.

And that's where I was able to take in the most.

It was really, and you know what's crazy is I went to Egypt like on like a dating type of vibe, not with my current boyfriend, but it really showed me I needed to date people that shared the same interests as me.

It does, it's, you know, that income is that filter button, but like, you know, you have those people that when you travel, there's the people that get up at 5 a.m.

for excursions, and there's people that do tequila shots and do hookahs.

Which one are you?

Which one are you?

I'm a 5 a.m.

excursion.

Oh, I am heavy on them.

I don't care how drunk we got.

We're going to climb this mountain.

And my current boyfriend, within the first 30 days, our first date, I told him, I was like, I want to climb an active volcano.

And I think he was just like, okay, yeah, you're so pretty.

We're going to climb.

And then we really did it.

And it was crazy because halfway up the mountain, I was like, f this shit.

And he's like, you're the one that put us here.

And I was like, I know, but I'm cold.

But we did a six-hour hike overnight, top of the volcano, saw like active volcano super cold.

Did you see it erupt?

And we flew to Iceland to also see a volcanic eruption.

Really?

Yeah, it was just like something I was really into, like just seeing volcanoes erupt.

It's been like

a list.

Definitely do it.

It's a cool, like, it's really like, I don't know how to explain it.

It's just like, wow.

Yeah.

Like,

awesome.

Well, any closing thoughts to where people can find you?

Yes.

So you guys can find me anywhere on social media, Christiana Her.

And I have a free class every Wednesday teaching people how to sell online.

And we just give you guys the products to sell.

So there's no possible way to fail.

Awesome.

Well, you heard it there, guys.

Christiana Her.

I'm Sean Kelly.

That's Wayne Lewis.

See you guys next week, Digital Soulflower.