Britney De La Mora: “I Was a Top P*rn Star… And Completely Empty Inside” | DSH #1677

Speaker 1 I dealt with some a lot of emotional and verbal abuse almost on a daily basis, which left me feeling really rejected. Right.

Speaker 1 And I feel like my entire life I was searching for validation and acceptance.

Speaker 1 And unfortunately, I had found that in the adult industry for some time, but I realized that the amount of validation, I mean, I had hundreds of thousands of followers, people praising me on a daily basis, and it just was never enough.

Speaker 1 It left me feeling more empty.

Speaker 2 Wow.

Speaker 2 That's pretty deep, right? Because you're doing this for this money and this recognition and you're feeling even more empty.

Speaker 1 Exactly.

Speaker 2 Okay, guys, a beautiful story for you guys today out here in Los Angeles. We got Brittany De Lamora and she had quite the transformation.
So I can't wait to dive into your journey.

Speaker 2 Thanks for coming on.

Speaker 1 Of course. Thanks for having me.

Speaker 2 Yeah, you've lived a couple lives, right? Yeah, definitely.

Speaker 1 Two completely different worlds.

Speaker 2 Yeah. So for those that don't know, I guess you were in the adult industry, right? For a little bit.

Speaker 1 Yeah, I was in the adult film industry for seven years of my life. Wow.

Speaker 2 What age range was up?

Speaker 1 From 18 to 25. Wow.

Speaker 2 Yeah. So very young.

Speaker 1 Yeah, very young. I got right out of high school pretty much.
I mean, I went to Santa Barbara City College for a couple of months and then pretty much just got right into the industry after that.

Speaker 2 Was that the plan or kind of just happened?

Speaker 1 No, not at all. I was going to college where I wanted to do broadcasting and journalism.

Speaker 1 And I had an experience when I was about 16 years old where I had some heartbreak and we went out to Mexico to go party with my friends and I and

Speaker 1 I ended up in a strip club and took my top off that night and so it was kind of when while I was there I had people telling me you're so beautiful you know I love you and I made like 80 bucks or something like that which wasn't bad for a few minutes for a 16 year old

Speaker 1 and so fast forward to college

Speaker 1 I just had the idea of you know what it's hard working a full-time job and going to school full-time. So I started dancing again.

Speaker 1 And it was really like that, that affirmation that kind of pulled me in. And then from dancing, I had the opportunity to get into the porn industry.
Wow.

Speaker 2 So for you, do you think it was some

Speaker 2 childhood trauma that led to you kind of wanting to express yourself in that manner?

Speaker 1 Yeah, 100%. I dealt with some, a lot of emotional and verbal abuse almost on a daily basis, which left me feeling really rejected.

Speaker 1 And I feel like my entire life I was searching for validation and acceptance.

Speaker 1 And unfortunately, I had found that in the adult industry for some time.

Speaker 1 But I realized that the amount of validation, I mean, I had hundreds of thousands of followers, people praising me on a daily basis, and it just was never enough. It left me feeling more empty.

Speaker 2 Wow.

Speaker 2 That's pretty deep, right? Because you're doing this for this money and this recognition and you're feeling even more empty.

Speaker 1 Exactly.

Speaker 2 Interesting. So money couldn't fill that.
that whole that void.

Speaker 1 Money couldn't fill the void and the amount of affirmation.

Speaker 1 I always thought like the reason why I got into the porn industry is because there were a couple producers at the strip club, and they said, You are going to be a star.

Speaker 1 And when they said that, I thought, oh, if I'm going to, I'm going to be a star.

Speaker 1 Like, if I could be famous, then maybe enough people will, and if enough people know my name, then maybe I'll hate myself less, right?

Speaker 1 If enough people recognize me and praise me and affirm me, then maybe I will learn to somehow love myself.

Speaker 1 And so I chased after that for many years, but it didn't matter how much, you know, fame I acquired. It was never enough.
I just, I continued to just feel more and more empty.

Speaker 2 Because you got to the top of the game. I mean, you were top 12 in the world.
Yeah. And you still didn't feel like it was an off.

Speaker 1 No, it was not enough.

Speaker 2 So it makes me wonder, even if you were number one in the world, it probably wouldn't be enough.

Speaker 1 Yeah, no, I definitely wouldn't have been.

Speaker 1 I mean, I think that I achieved almost everything that I was hoping to achieve in that industry as far as, I mean, I was going on like Howard Stern regularly.

Speaker 1 It was Maxim Magazine that nominated or voted me one of the top 12 hottest adult stars.

Speaker 1 Yeah, so it was like I was having some crossover experience from porn to mainstream, but honestly, it just, it honestly did not fill me.

Speaker 2 That is nuts. Yeah, I'm very curious when I talk to people in that industry why they got into it.

Speaker 1 Oh, I've talked to so many people. I was always curious about people's stories, even while I was in the industry.
And I would ask women, like, why did you choose this? Right.

Speaker 1 Because I knew that I chose that life because I had a jacked-up childhood. And they all had the same sad stories.

Speaker 1 I mean, behind the scenes, they would open up and say things that they would never maybe say on camera. There was a lot of molestation and rape and...

Speaker 1 a lot of abusive households. And it was abusive in the way that I experienced it with just the verbal abuse.

Speaker 1 But then there was also the religious abuse where there were women that felt like their parents would tell them, you're going to go to hell if you don't do X, Y, or Z, right? Which is not God's heart.

Speaker 1 Like God's heart isn't to cast you down into hell, but their parents would beat them over the head with the Bible.

Speaker 1 So they felt like they could never be good enough for this judgmental God that their parents painted him out to be.

Speaker 1 And so they figured, well, I'll just do whatever I want. And then I think that there's this subconscious rebellion inside of you when you grow up in that kind of house.

Speaker 1 Like, I want to just rebel against my parents. I want to rebel against my family because you feel hurt by them.
So subconsciously, you want to rebel against them. 100%.

Speaker 2 Yeah. I think as children, especially, we're just kind of a little naturally rebellious, right? We want to kind of go against the grain a little bit.

Speaker 1 Yeah, especially, I think, when you don't have a good relationship with your parents. When you have a good relationship with your parents, you want to honor them.
You want to respect them.

Speaker 1 You want to follow their words because you love them and you trust them. Right.

Speaker 1 But when you, when you feel like you're being belittled by your parents, then you want to rebel against them because you're hurt by them.

Speaker 2 So true. Because I was so rebellious towards my mother, but not really my father, honestly.
And the way you described it is exactly why. Yeah.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 She was just trying to be a little too controlling, in my opinion. Uh-huh.
And it didn't work for me. Yeah.

Speaker 1 No, it doesn't work. So So you're like, well, if you're going to try to control me, then I'm just going to go and do whatever I want.

Speaker 2 Right.

Speaker 2 Were your parents controlling in the religion part of stuff too?

Speaker 1 No, not at all. I didn't grow up in a religious household, but my mother was also very controlling.

Speaker 1 And I know control comes from a place of fear, right? Like you're afraid that your children are going to turn out bad or you're afraid.

Speaker 1 So you do everything you can to just try to control them so that everything goes well. And if you can control them in your house, a lot of people think their peace comes from the external, right?

Speaker 1 So if you control your household, then you'll have peace, but peace is an inside job, not an outside job.

Speaker 1 And so when your parents are trying to control you, I think that deep down they mean well, but it's also coming from a deep place of fear, right?

Speaker 2 Yeah, that is very fascinating. So do you think there is a place for some type of control or you kind of just like let the kid figure it out mainly?

Speaker 1 I don't think that you should let your kid figure it out all out on their own, but I don't think you should try to control them. I think that you influence your children through relationship, right?

Speaker 1 Like, I mean, I have a six-year-old and three-year-old, so mine are still fairly young, but I know, I notice on days when my six-year-old is, she's not naturally rebellious, my three-year-old is, but my six-year-old is not naturally rebellious.

Speaker 1 She's very wants to,

Speaker 1 she wants to follow, you know, the my instructions. But I notice on days when she's a little rebellious, I look at where our relationship's been.
And maybe I've been a little busy.

Speaker 1 I haven't been playing toys with her, going out on our, on our daily walks that we normally do. So I notice that when I bond with her again, then she wants to follow my instructions naturally, right?

Speaker 1 Because relationship establishes influence.

Speaker 2 Yeah, that is interesting. So more like lead by example type.

Speaker 1 Exactly. Lead by example and by instruction and not being afraid to to correct them when they're wrong, right?

Speaker 1 Even in the Bible, it says that if you don't correct your children, it's because you hate them, right?

Speaker 2 Like, oh, really?

Speaker 1 It says that? Yeah, if you got to correct your children, you have to, but not in like this controlling way. It should come from a place of love.

Speaker 1 Like, I love you so much and I need to correct you because this is not going to lead you down the right path.

Speaker 2 And that's that's how I did not feel when I was corrected as a kid because I would just get sent to my room locked in there. And I didn't think that was productive, to be honest.

Speaker 1 It's not because it puts you in a place of shame and you start to internalize things. I'm a bad kid.
I'm not a good person because what I did was wrong and now I'm locked into my room as punishment.

Speaker 1 I don't agree in punishment, but I agree with discipline. And I think discipline is from the root word discipleship.
So we should disciple.

Speaker 1 We should discipline in a way, but everything that God does, he does out of love. So I always think of like, when I do wrong, that conviction that I get, do I feel horrible?

Speaker 1 No, I don't feel horrible, but I feel compelled to change because I feel God convict me from a place of love, right?

Speaker 1 So when I talk to my children, it should be edifying, but then you also correct them, right? So you correct, but you also edify.

Speaker 1 So maybe, hey, what you did was not okay, but that doesn't mean that's who you are. right? Because shame says it's who I am.

Speaker 1 Conviction or discipline says it's what I've done, but I can change what I've done.

Speaker 1 But if I believe that that's who I am, then I can't really change because my belief system is so strong that I'm a bad person. I'm a failure.
I'm not good enough. So how are you supposed to change?

Speaker 1 Because you believe that you're not good enough to change.

Speaker 2 I love that. That resonates with me.

Speaker 2 Discipline is probably the most common question I get asked other than my height. And do I play basketball?

Speaker 2 I love it. It's like where two questions asked.
Where does my discipline and work outfit come from?

Speaker 2 And I often think like, like is that teachable i think so you think so yeah i think so i think some people naturally have it like you seem like maybe you naturally have it maybe your father taught you i don't know i definitely from childhood trauma work harder than i i should be if that makes sense yeah um but are you trying to prove yourself yeah maybe you that was a big drive at first for sure and then i got to a certain level and that kind of died off yeah but i still work really hard yeah i often wonder like because now my kids are going to grow up in a total different environment than i grew up in right immigrant household

Speaker 2 My parents came here with nothing. So, it's like, will I be able to replicate this discipline in my future children?

Speaker 1 Absolutely. I think, you know, my husband's a great example.
His father works extremely hard, and he has instilled that into him.

Speaker 1 When all his friends were enjoying summer break, my husband says that he was the one going out to work with his dad, but now his work ethic is impeccable. And I've learned so much from him.

Speaker 1 So I do believe discipline can be taught, like that self-discipline, because I've learned a lot from my husband. I don't think I had a ton of self-discipline before being married to him.

Speaker 2 Yeah, I've grown a lot.

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Speaker 2 Interesting. So, even because you said at 25, you left that industry, right? Yes.
And you still were lacking discipline then?

Speaker 1 I think so, yeah. I mean, I started to kind of grow into it as I started to build on my relationship with God.
The fruit of the spirit is self-control. That's one of the fruits, right?

Speaker 1 So, I started to learn self-control and started to learn to be disciplined, but it's gone like next level since being married to my husband.

Speaker 2 Nice. That's beautiful.
How tough was that transition out of it at 25?

Speaker 1 You know, it wasn't an easy transition, but I was so broken and so I had hit rock bottom in such a way that I was willing to do whatever I felt the Lord telling me to do.

Speaker 1 Like I just, I needed his guidance in life. Like I had messed up my life so horribly.
Like I was a drug addict. I wanted to end my life and actually tried to a few times.

Speaker 1 By the grace of of God, I'm still alive today.

Speaker 1 I mean, obviously choosing the path of porn was not the most productive path for my life, but

Speaker 1 yeah, I was so broken. I remember I was actually on an airplane going to film a porn scene.
And at one point in my career, I had gone to church with my grandpa and his wife and I was given a Bible.

Speaker 1 And so I'm reading the Bible on the airplane as I'm on drugs reading this Bible.

Speaker 1 And I read the scripture that talks about how God has given this woman named Jezebel time to repent. And I just got this conviction in me.

Speaker 1 Like, and he says, you know, she's a woman basically that commits sexual immorality and leads people into sexual immorality. And he's given her time to repent.

Speaker 1 And if she doesn't repent, she was going to get cast into a sick bed along with all who commit immorality with her. And I started crying because it was like, I just got this deep conviction.

Speaker 1 But then I felt the spirit of God speaking to me. And he was just like, Brittany, I love you so much.
This is not the life that I have for you.

Speaker 1 The life that I have for you will overflow with so much love and peace and joy. And if you would just quit this business today, I would bless your life like no man ever could.

Speaker 1 And I'm just crying because I felt the grace of God that even when I was deep in sin, even when I was super broken, like he still loved me and he was still pursuing me.

Speaker 1 And so I went to set that day and told everyone about Jesus, but then I quit the industry that day as well and never looked back.

Speaker 1 But why I bring that story up is because I was so broken that when the Holy Spirit said, I have a life that's going to overflow with love and peace and joy, he gave me hope that day.

Speaker 1 And that was something that I didn't have. I didn't have hope.
And before we started, we were talking about how hope deferred makes the heart sick, right?

Speaker 1 Like when you don't have hope, you literally get sick. Your heart gets sick.
You get all in your mind, ruminating every negative thought. That was me ruminating all these thoughts of I hate myself.

Speaker 1 I wish I was never here. I should just end my life, like constantly ruminating that.
And so when the voice of God gave me hope that day, I never looked back. That is beautiful.

Speaker 2 Was that the first time you felt like you heard him talk to you?

Speaker 1 Yeah, I think so. Well, there was another occasion when I was trying to commit suicide, but I didn't recognize it as the voice of God that time.

Speaker 1 I was like, I took a lot of crystal meth and I was slitting my wrist while I was in the adult industry. And I heard a voice.
And I, at the time, was like, I don't know.

Speaker 1 I was hearing a lot of voices at the time because I was on meth, but most of those voices were honestly very evil and leading me to self-destruction, very demonic.

Speaker 1 And I heard another voice that said, Brittany, turn the lights on and put the scissors down. Turn the lights on and put the scissors down.

Speaker 1 And that voice spoke with just this, this peace. Like I felt peace for the first time in many years.
I felt peace. And so I turned the lights on, I put the scissors down.

Speaker 1 And now looking back, I'm like, clearly that was now that I recognized the voice of God. That was the voice of God.

Speaker 1 But at that time, I would just tell people, yeah, I heard a voice, you know, but I didn't know what it was.

Speaker 2 That's nuts. Did you have a huge attendance yesterday because of what happened with Charlie Kirk?

Speaker 1 Oh, so my husband and I don't have a church building. We have an online ministry.
We did used to serve

Speaker 1 at a church in San Diego, but we've moved. So we're no longer in a church building, but we have an online ministry.

Speaker 2 But yeah. I was seeing some videos of their like full.
full churches, you know, it was pretty cool.

Speaker 1 Yeah, I know. I know.
I saw

Speaker 1 a few people that are probably you would think is the less like the least likely to go to church because they've spoken out against church in their life.

Speaker 1 But they posted videos about how they showed up at church and they were welcomed with open arms. And I just thought that is so beautiful.

Speaker 1 I saw someone else, Isabel Brown, posted Kirk means church because so many people were going to church because of him.

Speaker 1 And yeah, I think the legacy that he's leaving behind is bigger than probably he could have ever even imagined.

Speaker 2 Yeah, even myself, I haven't been in church in probably over a decade, but it caused me, that incident caused me to start asking some questions. Like, why would that happen?

Speaker 2 You know, that, like, I'm still thinking about what went down and it was like a week ago.

Speaker 1 Yeah, no, me too. It's honestly, it's consumed my mind.
I've been thinking about it a lot and praying and processing it and crying. And Charlie Kirk was a man of faith.

Speaker 1 He was a man of God who stood for, he stood for the word of God and he was a disruptor for the kingdom of darkness. He was disrupting it.
And

Speaker 1 you can tell the difference that he was making based on the demons that are currently manifesting.

Speaker 1 I mean, the fact that anybody would rejoice over somebody being martyred, over somebody being assassinated is absolutely evil. It is demonic.

Speaker 2 Over 40,000 people.

Speaker 1 That's how many people are rejoicing.

Speaker 2 There's a database.

Speaker 2 I don't know who assembled it, but that's how many people made public videos

Speaker 2 laughing or dancing or celebrating it.

Speaker 1 It's absolutely horrible.

Speaker 1 I've been in very dark places in my life that were very self-destructive, but never would I laugh at another human being, even in my worst days. Like I could never laugh at another human being dying.

Speaker 1 And it just goes to show, I mean, he was really disrupting the kingdom of darkness.

Speaker 2 Yeah, it makes you really wonder, are these people like demonically influenced or possessed? 100%. Because there's no way you're, we're born so innocent, all right?

Speaker 2 There's no way you would just do that out of nowhere. 100%.

Speaker 1 I just saw a video today on social media. It was a mother asking her children, and they were young children.
She's like,

Speaker 1 this is the best news ever. Something really good happened.
They go, what, did Donald Trump die? And then she's like, no. Well, what about, was it the vice president? No.

Speaker 1 And then they go on to say a few other names. And she's like, no, it's the best news ever is that Taylor Swift is getting married.
Right.

Speaker 1 And it's like, okay, but the fact that your children went down the line and they were young, maybe like six and four.

Speaker 1 saying that these politicians have died that are on the right. Like, what is it that you are instilling in your children on a daily basis? Right.
And then you think of like, what is,

Speaker 1 like, what morals or lack thereof, what are you teaching your children in the house that they can go off and think that it's okay to kill a man because you disagree with him?

Speaker 1 And I think that we live in the most offensive generation. I've never seen people so offended in my life.
It's right. I mean, whatever, it's like.

Speaker 1 You can speak the truth and people get, it's just this offended generation. And it's really, it's really sad.
I think we live, like I've been been around for, I'm 38.

Speaker 1 This is the worst I've ever seen in our world.

Speaker 1 My grandmother, who's 93, says the same exact thing. She said, when I was a kid, you could leave your doors unlocked.
It was safe to play outside.

Speaker 1 You could do anything, you know, and you never had to worry about anything.

Speaker 2 Hell no.

Speaker 1 And no, nowadays, absolutely not. I left my garage open for an hour by mistake, and we had our rat bike stolen.
I'm like, what? I know, and we don't live in a, in a bad neighborhood. So it was just.

Speaker 1 Wow.

Speaker 2 This is in LA or no, Santa Barbara. Okay.
Well, I heard terrible things about living around here. Oh, yeah.
Same. Same.
Like, it's bad. Yeah.

Speaker 2 It's, I'm sure as a mother, you're constantly just being aware of what information is getting into your two kids' heads.

Speaker 1 100%.

Speaker 2 Like, I'm at the point now where, will I even let them use social media? Oh, I don't think

Speaker 1 that's a good idea. No, not at a young age.
Definitely not. It's, it's definitely influencing our generation in a negative way.
I would never let my kids on social media.

Speaker 1 I mean, I was just typing in my name. A guy, I met a guy at a restaurant.
He owned the restaurant before I got to this place, before I got to you. And he's like, well, what's your Instagram?

Speaker 1 So I typed it in for him and all these photos of my past came up and I was mortified.

Speaker 1 I'm like, I didn't even know that was on, you know, social media, but it's just the things that kids are being exposed to. They're being exposed to porn from social media.

Speaker 1 My husband was on Facebook the other day and he goes, you'll never believe what I just saw. It was an AI video.
He showed it to me of a woman taking her top top off and exposing her breasts.

Speaker 2 Holy crap. Kids are on this.

Speaker 1 I mean, this is what children are being and then only fan creators are getting very creative so that they can promote their explicit content on only fans they will get a baby that looks like a real doll because you're allowed to show breastfeeding and so they'll act like they're breastfeeding a child but it's really a fake baby doll just so that they can say click the link in my bio geez that is crazy you don't i mean and then on top of that i think of like charlie crook's assassination and the woman who was stabbed to death on on the train or the subway.

Speaker 1 And I think of these videos are being shown on social media and it's desensitizing. Like you think of the next generation.
It was a young kid, 22 years old, who killed Charlie Kirk.

Speaker 1 What has he been exposed to on social media? How many killings has he seen, right?

Speaker 1 It's like our world is being desensitized because you see something like a brutal stabbing or a fatal gunshot and you just keep scrolling.

Speaker 1 You don't, as a child, I don't even think that you think to stop and process that what I just saw was harmful.

Speaker 1 And then you think of all the video games they're playing where you're just grand theft auto. It's something we played as kids.
It's all of these things are normalizing murder.

Speaker 1 They're normalizing the dysfunction that we see in this world. Yeah.

Speaker 2 It's so true. I mean, the close-up of Charlie Kirk's video will probably never leave my head.

Speaker 1 Likewise.

Speaker 2 You know, and I've seen hundreds of death on Twitter with all the wars going on and all these terrible photos.

Speaker 1 And then you see girls joining OnlyFans 18 and they're like little tae a couple weeks ago and now she said today she's making a million a month it's insane it's insane yeah i was i i heard so i did a video about that as well because

Speaker 1 her the content that she released was on her 18th birthday so when did you film the content or or take the photos you you had to have been underage but then i had people telling me oh well her content is non-nude apparently but the amount of people that are buying into her content i mean basically, she's promoting her content to people who are nearly pedophiles, right?

Speaker 1 Because if she had to record that content before her 18th birthday, so whatever it is that she's putting on there, even if you were hoping it was nude, I don't know if it is. I can't confirm that.

Speaker 2 Most of them probably assumed it was, to be honest.

Speaker 1 Exactly. So like, that's disgusting.

Speaker 1 Old men and it's the same thing that's been going on.

Speaker 1 When I was 18 years old and in the porn industry, they would pair me up with old men and put me in pigtails and have me say things like I'm barely 18. I had to stop doing that kind of content.

Speaker 1 After about a month, I told my agent, this is disgusting. This is encouraging pedophilia.

Speaker 1 And I was not a woman of conviction at that time in my life, but I have a really big heart for children, probably because of the household that I grew up in.

Speaker 1 I've always been very protective over kids.

Speaker 1 And I thought that, like, I can't do this kind of content because this is going to encourage in real, in real time, men to go and do things to little children.

Speaker 2 That's terrible. Do you think porn should be entirely banned or what's your approach?

Speaker 1 I think that would be an incredible goal. I don't know if that's necessarily,

Speaker 1 I don't think it's obtainable at this time in

Speaker 2 states are starting to age restrict areas. They are.

Speaker 1 I think that should be mandatory across all states.

Speaker 1 If you have to, if you have to show an ID to buy cigarettes or alcohol or get into a strip club, then you should certainly have to show an ID to get onto a pornographic website.

Speaker 1 I think that that's a great place to start.

Speaker 2 Yeah, I think so too, because I found it on accident, honestly, at like 15. Yeah.

Speaker 1 And most kids do. It's so sad.
What was that experience like for you, if you don't mind me asking?

Speaker 2 Yeah, just like was looking up great. It's so weird to say it, but like girls kissing on Google.
And then images popped up. Then I was like, let me watch, find a video of this.

Speaker 2 So I kept searching and then Bornhub came up. Yeah.
And I was 15. Yeah.
Got right on. Just get on.
Yeah.

Speaker 1 Yeah.

Speaker 1 And what it does to a person's mind, especially at that age, it's these are things that we're not supposed to be exposed to.

Speaker 1 And I mean, the mental health crisis amongst teens and young adults is just on the rise.

Speaker 2 So bad.

Speaker 1 I know.

Speaker 2 And the loneliness numbers are terrifying. Going up.

Speaker 2 The virgin rates have been going up a lot. People don't know how to talk to each other anymore.
Yeah. Everything, like all the statistics are just heading in the wrong way right now.
Yeah.

Speaker 1 Yeah. And I don't mind the virgin rates.
I think save yourself for marriage, right? I did things the wrong way. I encourage people to practice it God's way.

Speaker 1 But I think there's so much wisdom in that of not being

Speaker 1 sexually active. But I do understand what you're saying is that because people are so consumed with pornography, they're so glued to their iPhones.

Speaker 1 They don't know how to have communication with the opposite sex.

Speaker 1 A big thing with that too is that in pornography, there's no rejection, right? Like you're not afraid of anything and you still get your needs met.

Speaker 1 So I understand why those rates are going up as well.

Speaker 2 Have you seen the brain scans on porn addicts? Oh, yeah. It's so bad.
It's like they compare it to cigarette smokers. I know.

Speaker 1 Well, it releases the same amount of dopamine as doing the line of cocaine.

Speaker 2 Wow.

Speaker 1 So it really is a new drug. Like pornography is a drug.

Speaker 2 Holy crap. I did not know that.
So it's pretty much equivalent to doing drugs. Exactly.

Speaker 1 It is. And that's why there's so many addicts.
My husband and I, we have two organizations, Love Always Ministries and Jesus Loves Pornstars.

Speaker 1 We could talk about those if you'd like, but we see a lot of porn addicts that come to us, people that, you know, they hire prostitutes, porn stars and um you know then we get people that are just heavily addicted to porn well they will spend 13 hours a day sometimes just watching pornography because they're chasing that dopamine once it's released in your brain and you get used to that without it it's you withdraw and that's a thing i've i've heard from so many people it was so hard for me to stop watching porn because i had withdrawal symptoms they felt depressed they felt anxious that is crazy did you have an issue with watching it too?

Speaker 2 I didn't.

Speaker 1 I mean, I saw a few softcore scenes from time to time as like a 17-year-old. Honestly, the first time I saw porn, I think I was about 13 or 14.
It was in the neighborhood that I grew up in.

Speaker 1 Some boys were like, come on, I want to show you and your friend a movie, right? Like, okay, we'll come watch a movie. And it was pornography.

Speaker 1 And I looked at my friend with like my jaw to the floor, like, what is this? And I'm like, you're not supposed to show this stuff on TV.

Speaker 1 this is illegal that's what I thought right and she's like shut up it's a porno and I'm like this is not okay like I just I inherently knew that it was wrong um and never told anybody about that experience and then ironically I get into the porn industry and it was something that I was actually repulsed by as a teenager and then at 18 got into it but for me it wasn't about the porn it wasn't about the sex it wasn't even about the money because I actually made more money at the strip club that I I was dancing at than I made per day in pornography.

Speaker 1 It was really about that promise of fame. It was that loneliness inside of me that just thought if enough people know my name, then I'll learn to love myself.

Speaker 2 Yeah, I see that issue in social media too. People are chasing these views for the wrong reasons.

Speaker 1 Oh, absolutely.

Speaker 2 Yeah, it's like drama or like calling people out or, you know. Yeah.
It's a dangerous road to go down, no matter what industry I make.

Speaker 1 Another great reason to keep your kids off social media because you don't want to be them to be infiltrated by trying to do things just for likes and for attention.

Speaker 1 And, you know, that's where a lot of, I think, the promiscuity comes from, too, is I learned at a young age that if you take your clothes off, that's when you're going to be noticed.

Speaker 1 That's when you're going to be praised, right? And, you know, the less clothes that you have, the more men that are liking your photos and commenting on it.

Speaker 1 But that's the wrong kind of attention, you know?

Speaker 1 My husband, he preached a word when I first started going to church that actually changed my whole world around. He said, if you don't like what you're attracting, change what you're promoting.

Speaker 1 And I was like, wow, that is so good. I went home and deleted all my social media that was attached to my former life because of that message.

Speaker 2 Were you able to get the videos taken down or unfortunately?

Speaker 1 No. That's something that I'd like to pursue eventually.
I think that it's wrong for people to continue to make money off of exploitation.

Speaker 1 Like I was on drugs the whole time that I was on that industry.

Speaker 1 I had a pimp the last three and a half years that I was in that business. So that's like exploitation and they're making money off of that.
Still to this day, millions and millions of dollars.

Speaker 2 I saw Lana Rhodes say the same thing. She was trying to get her old videos taken down and she couldn't.
Yeah.

Speaker 2 So I feel like a lot of you probably talk to them, but the people regret it, right?

Speaker 1 Oh, yeah, absolutely.

Speaker 1 And I think, too, another thing I was pushing for with another organization called Exodus Cry was trying to at least get the legal entry age to get into pornography to be 21 years old because at 18, the brain is still forming.

Speaker 1 You are wild at that age.

Speaker 2 They don't form until 26.

Speaker 1 They just formed. 26, exactly.
But it's like, if you have to be 21 to drink alcohol and you can get into porn at 18, it's like

Speaker 1 you're so impressionable at that age, even at 21, right? But it's like...

Speaker 2 18, I was, I look back at the decisions I made at that age and it's all like a cringe. Right? You know?

Speaker 1 Right? We've all been there. We've all had those dumb moments.
So,

Speaker 2 yeah. I hope you can make some progress on that.
Thank you.

Speaker 2 I know you made videos on Lily Phillips and Bonnie Blue. So Lily's been on the show.
Bonnie's coming on. What was your message to ladies like that, I guess?

Speaker 1 My heart breaks for those girls. I think that those are girls that are also trying to push the limits of

Speaker 1 how much attention can I gain from sleeping with a thousand guys or a hundred guys.

Speaker 1 And then the fact that Lily had said that her parents were supportive, which now it's kind of come out that they're not. They did an interview saying they're not supportive.

Speaker 1 They actually offered to sell their house just to get her money just to get her out of OnlyFans. So I think that that was possibly a lie that she created.

Speaker 1 But my heart really breaks for them because these are two women who they don't know their value, they don't know their worth, they are settling for where they are finding the most validation.

Speaker 1 And unfortunately, in the culture that we live in, the more sex you have, the more you take your clothes off, the more validation that you're going to get.

Speaker 1 Because there's, I, I, I see a rise in godly and conservative men, but I think that there's still more men that are not conservative, more men that are, I mean, perhaps not, but but it's the celebrity, the celebr, uh, the celebration that you gain from taking your clothes off for money is, I mean, it was very easy for me to grow an Instagram following when I was in the porn industry.

Speaker 1 It's been a lot harder for me to grow an Instagram following as a Christian. Oh, I bet.

Speaker 1 Right. So

Speaker 1 I see the path that they're taking. It's a destructive path.

Speaker 1 And yeah,

Speaker 1 my heart hurts for them. And I hope that their eyes will open and that they'll see the truth.

Speaker 1 That the path that they're on on is a path that is I think that when you're in that industry you don't consider the future right like when I was in that industry I lived for the now I didn't think about the fact that one day I'd be married and I want I've always wanted children and I didn't think about the fact that one day I'm gonna have to talk to my children about the fact that I did born you know and I don't think these women consider that either it's you don't consider the future right how about you're dreading not to oh yeah I mean well that's a strong word but yeah I'm not looking forward to it.

Speaker 1 Yeah, I'm not like, I think that it's going to be a very hard conversation. I do believe that

Speaker 1 God has really given me a lot of grace in life. And I believe that when he blessed me with an incredible husband, truly an incredible husband, I don't deserve him.
He's amazing.

Speaker 1 And blessed me with two beautiful children, that he also knew the outcome of the whole thing. So I try not to worry about it because I know that everything is in his hands.

Speaker 2 I believe everything happens for a reason. Absolutely.
I 100% believe that. Good or bad.
Yep. Right.

Speaker 2 I just,

Speaker 2 I hate when, like, it gets like, because they go to school, right? So then they'll have kids talking shit or whatever. So that gets annoying.
But hopefully you could figure that out. Yeah.

Speaker 2 It'll all work out. Let's end off with your two companies you mentioned earlier, the mission of those.

Speaker 1 Okay, so loveawaysministries.com started originally as a ministry to help people overcome pornography and purity, but we're kind of rebranding that because my husband has a big heart for faith and

Speaker 1 just for the Christian walk in general.

Speaker 1 So so beyond that so i just launched jesuslovespornstars.org and next year we are going in and speaking of charlie kirk he would go to colleges to talk about faith jesus politics i'm going into porn shows no i'm going to hand out thousands of bibles to consumers porn creators and have conversations with them about jesus smart so you'll be at a vn in vegas unfortunately they don't allow christians the last time i checked oh really yeah they used to i've actually gone to avn under jesus with jesus loves porn stars And I've actually, I have a video, I'll send it to you later of me talking to a woman about Jesus.

Speaker 1 She was an atheist. And after our conversation, she committed to Jesus and going to church.
Yeah, she said that her whole life, she'd been beat over the head with the Bible.

Speaker 1 And so hearing that God is gracious and forgiving and loving, she's like, I want to actually go to church now.

Speaker 2 That's beautiful. Well, I think that's a great idea.
I think having those conversations is important.

Speaker 1 Yep, absolutely. I agree.
I agree. So we're very excited.

Speaker 2 I can't wait to see that.

Speaker 1 We're going to L.A. and Miami.

Speaker 2 Nice. Those markets need some Christianity for you.
Absolutely.

Speaker 1 And hopefully, as we evolve, we'll be able to go to more shows as well because there's tons of shows all over the U.S. So we're going to start with two and then

Speaker 2 progress from there. Where can people find you, Brittany?

Speaker 1 Either on Instagram at Brittany DeLamora, love always ministries.com, jesuslovespornstars.org.

Speaker 2 Awesome. Check her out, guys.
Thanks for coming on. Thank you for having me.
See you guys next time.

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