From ‘I’m Too Short’ to ‘I Feel Amazing!’ How to Transform Your Dating Confidence NOW (Live Coaching with Ryan)

And it's going to make it so much easier for you to approach.

And also, you're going to feel a lot more confident.

Does that sound like something you'd be up for?

Yeah, definitely.

I sound like a used car salesman.

If I could put you in this Cadillac, would you be interested in that?

Hey, Ryan. What's up, happy uh friday to you hey how's it going yeah uh excited for the weekend and um yeah i'm uh going back home so it'll be good to like see friends and everything how are you doing i'm good i'm ready to help you um make some breakthroughs here with approaching and with confidence.

Before we get into the exercise that I had in mind for you, tell me a little bit about what you've been struggling with in terms of approaching, especially in the area of things you might be

insecure about or things that hurt your confidence with the women you want to date.

Yeah, I think I've traditionally throughout my life struggled with anxiety and self-esteem. And getting older, you know, this has a massive part in terms of dating success, I've realized in terms of like anecdotal experience.
And I think like self-image things like I'm uh I'm relatively short and um involved and

it uh and I'm also um younger I'm like 24 um and these things for a long time were kind of

um things I was pretty insecure about and I think recently like I'm kind of starting to notice a

slight change in terms of things but this is also like something that I have a lot of work to do. And, um, you know, and in terms of like approaching women, whether it's like kind of in a, the context of, you know, just everyday, uh, life or, or like going out, you know, these are things that kind of come, come to my mind and kind of can affect my vibe.
Yeah. So as you might know from knowing a little bit about my book, in my book I talk about this idea of the higher self and the lower self.
And the lower self is that voice of self-doubt where you see a woman you want to talk to and that part of you is like, oh my God, I would love to go meet her. But then that little voice says things like, oh, she won't like me because X or Y.
I'm not this enough. I'm not tall or rich or cool enough.
Do me a favor. Just give me a quick 30-second play-by-play for when you want to approach your type of attractive woman.
What does that little voice say to you that stops you or that inhibits you in any way? Yeah, it's a good question. I think like, um, yeah, let's say I'm like in the grocery store and I see a super attractive woman like, you know, a nine or something that's, you know, wearing like, like athletic and, you know, beautiful and everything.
I think oh man like this girl's so hot but she gets hit on all the time she's

way out of my league I'm kind of like

there's not too much point in approaching her because she's yeah she's like so far out of my league and um it probably just um won't go anywhere basically out of your league why i don't mean right now if you don't feel that way but in those moments doubt, what specifically makes her out of your league? What are you lacking or not having to offer? I think really like the main thing is just appearance. Like I feel in terms of like the rest of my life and I'm at the point where I've, you know, over the course of years of, um, getting to where I want to be, I feel good about my career my um life experiences you know which would um travel and um friends and social skills and stuff in terms of getting to a place where i want to be with that and even just like talking to random people like whether it's in a romantic or uh just friendly context so it's it's it's more just, oh, this girl is a lot more physically attractive than I am.
That's probably the main thing. So she's a nine or 10 in your mind physically.
And in those doubtful moments, what number are you? Or how do you feel you are in those moments when you're like, oh, man, I'm not the number she wants. What number are you? Maybe like a five or something.
Um, or maybe it ranges maybe from like a four to a seven or something. Um, yeah.
So maybe like a four on those days, I think realistically, like if I look at it logically, um, it's probably higher than that, but on my worst days it's a four, maybe even like a three to be honest. Um, where I'm like, Oh, I'm just like, you know, I don't like the way I look in the mirror and stuff.
And. Okay.
Yeah. And a couple more quick questions here, then we'll get to this exercise we're going to do.
But before we get to this, what I call the higher self awakening, where we're going to wake up that most authentic, confident version of yourself. Let's just tell me a little bit more about that lower self.
You look at that gorgeous woman. She's a nine, she's a 10.
Why are you a five in those moments? Is it your face? Is it your lack of hair? Is it something else? I think it's, and this is something that's kind of changed throughout my life. Like I've been insecure about multiple things.
I think it's kind of a combination at this point it's probably more my hair than just my face like I don't think I'm at least I'm you know I don't think I'm hideous looking at least not like typically although I do when I get into those kind of dark moments then I'm like oh like I look kind of grotesque but um yeah just like having a normal like uh you know nice guy type of face but not like, oh, like I would look kind of grotesque. But yeah, just like having a normal, like, you know, nice guy type of face, but not like this swagger, like Brad Pitt or like, you know, type of, I'm like, oh, like my face is kind of weird looking and stuff.
It's more of that because, you know, there's some ball, like there's some short ball guys with these gorgeous faces that I'm like, oh yeah, they're, they're killing it. So that's kind of where my mindset's at right now, at least.
Okay. Got it.
So you have some core beliefs that hurt your confidence and are doing some damage. The very least are hurting you emotionally.
And I would imagine there's a lot of times when you would love to approach some women, but you don't do it because of how you feel about yourself. Is that fair to say? Yeah, it's fair to say.

Okay. Definitely would be taking shots with some really hot women if I was able to feel better about that.
Okay. Let's do the exercise.
I'm going to guide you through something I call the higher self-awakening. We're going to identify and transform and flip your biggest belief that is limiting you and flip it into something that feels so much more powerful and confidence inducing and also true.

And it's going to make it so much easier for you to approach.

And also you're going to feel a lot more confident.

Does that sound like something you'd be up for?

Yeah, definitely.

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All right, let's first define the biggest limiting belief that's holding you back.

And by the way, there's different beliefs in the world. Some beliefs are true, some beliefs are false, and some beliefs have a gray area.
Not every belief is limiting, or I should say not every belief is false and limiting. For example, I believe that I am not going to win the Wimbledon tennis tournament next year.

Well, why?

Because I routinely get beaten by this post-menopausal woman who I play tennis with. And if I can't beat her, I'm probably not going to take down Federer or a top player.
So some beliefs are absolutely true. We want to make sure there's not a belief about you that's actually more, that's bullshit or partial bullshit.
So let's get to it. First question for you is, what do you feel is the biggest belief about yourself that hurts your confidence? A story that makes you feel like, oh man, I'm just not, just not enough for the kind of women I would love to approach and to date.
Yeah. Um, I think, yeah, it's interesting, uh, perspective.
I think, um, I think if I had to summarize it, it would basically be, um, yeah, I'm not, uh, good looking enough. Like my fates isn't like, you know, good looking enough and my, you know, height and hair probably don't help either.
But to, you know, date these super pot women that are out of my league physically. I think that's probably, I'd like to summarize it.
All right. So would you say not good looking enough is the biggest weight pulling your confidence down, at least in the area of approaching? Yeah, definitely.
I think I'm like at least on a good day, like in this depends for sure. Cause there are days where socially, I don't feel as confident.
But then on those days, it's like, you know, I'm going to make a fool out of myself. I'm going to be weird.
I'm going to be creepy. Like that can 100% play a role.
I think generally speaking, and like maybe a neutral or positive day, like I think I'm pretty well socially calibrated to situations. But, you know, that can come up as well.
If it's like, oh, I'm feeling crappy today, I'm probably going to give out this weird, creepy, like type of vibe. Um, yeah.
Okay. So I'm going to write this sentence down.
Tell me if this is pretty close to what you feel. I am just not good looking enough to approach and attract quality women.
They want better looking guys than me. That's basically it, right? Yep.
Yeah. A hundred percent.
Okay, cool. So we've identified it.
Is that belief true? Is it false? Is there a gray area? I don't know. Let's find out.
Let's examine it using this process that I call the higher self awakening trademark patent pending. Um, and here's one, let me give you a little inside baseball.
Here's why this belief feels almost like it's just, it probably doesn't even feel like a belief. It probably just feels like, oh, that's just the way it is.
It's reality. Do you feel like that sometimes? Oh yeah, 100%.
Me too. By the way, my belief back in the day, the mid to late 2000s was I'm just too nice and skinny and not alpha enough to approach hot girls.
I'm a nerdy, skinny ginger. They want big, muscular alpha men.
That felt like the reality of the world. So I know what it feels like to have a core belief.
So anyway, the reason why this belief, it feels so cemented, I believe, inside of you is because it's two beliefs in one. There's two kinds of beliefs.
One is what's called an identity belief, essentially something that you think you lack, which is looks. That feels pretty heavy duty sometimes, right? The other kind of belief that exists is what's called a worldview belief, which is how other people think and how they view the world.
And if you think about it, your belief is a double-decker shit sandwich. It's an identity belief about you lacking looks, but also there's a supposition in your belief, which is that quality, attractive women want Brad Pitt, quality, model, super handsome guys.
Now, you didn't say that to me me but would you say that's a fair like supposition that's that's kind of inherent in your belief yeah you know women want uh guys that are super um yeah physically yeah just like attractive um and yeah and unfortunately like i'm a pretty uh maybe because of like my career, just the way I- You're a software guy, right? Yeah, yeah, yep. I'm a pretty logical person.
And so I do kind of see it a little bit in the gray area because I'll, again, like I think confirmation bias can kind of play a role here. but um you know on like, I'm like a bad day.
Like, it's like, I'll, I'll see this evidence and I'll like, kind of, you know, like convince myself that like logically that I'm kind of, um, some of the things are right. Um, I don't entirely fall into, like, I would say more than not, like those are my beliefs.
There are times where I'll see things and I'm like, all right, like maybe this, um, is a little bit of, uh, something that, you know, is eyeopening or maybe doesn't entirely fit into my worldview. Um, but yeah, like typically speaking, I'll, you know, use all this logic and kind of the things that I apply to my job to kind of like, you know, reinforce this, uh, belief.
Okay. Well, let's, maybe we can use logic to your benefit.
I think logic is going to help us today, but I hear what you're saying. Okay.
You're just not, well, I'll use your first person. I'm just not good looking enough to approach and attract quality women because they all want really hot guys, physically hot guys.
Okay. Here's what we're going to do.
Here's a thought experiment. imagine you and I are in a courtroom and I'm your co-counsel.
I'm going to help you. And you're the lead attorney.
And I want you to imagine you're standing in front of a jury and you're going to make your case to the jury. I mean, you can talk to me.
You don't have to actually talk to a jury, although you can. Basically, make your case to the jury that you are not good-looking enough to approach and attract quality women.
In other words, what is some of the evidence you have that this is true? And what are some justifications and stories you tell yourself to back this up? In other words, genuinely try to make your best case, convince the jury that you are just not good looking enough. What's the evidence? How do you justify it? And I'll help you as needed because I'm on your team.
Man. Okay.
Yeah, I'm a little, hopefully this doesn't get too dark and depressing. Yeah.
It sounds like you're telling me don't hold back with kind of my don't hold back viewer um okay yeah i think basically like what i would say is uh yeah i i think more often than not uh people in the world are relatively looks matched or on certain platforms like online dating like the women are you know typically more attractive um you know how you look can play a massive kind of role in the way you're treated like i had this um my best friend in high school was tall really good looking um and would just get hit on like all the time like um not like good looking in like kind of the Brad Pitt way, but kind of like more of the tall, like shy guy type of way. And throughout my life, I've kind of just like seen the different ways that you're treated.
And when I'm out at night, like there are times where like these girls will like come on to me and they're girls that I'm just like not interested in at all. And even like- So lesser attractive women do come up to you, but not the quality ones.
Yeah. I mean, I've like throughout my life, I've had interest.
Um, and it's pretty rare that the types of girls that express interest are the types of girls that I'm interested in. It's, it's happened a few times, um, throughout my life, like is anomalies like, Oh wow, like she's actually pretty cute.
Um, but let me jump in, let me ask you to stay focused and imagine you are talking to a jury, be really, really efficient with your language and be really make your case. Um, online dating is all about looks.
That's one of your. Yep.
A hundred percent. Yeah.
Your best friend got hit on a lot. He was a good-looking guy lesser girls come up to you great keep going what's your what other evidence do you have that you are just not good-looking enough to approach and attract quality women yeah one of the things that i kind of do to like try to break this belief and this just further reinforces my point is i'll think um i'll see a guy that's looking and like, and I'll be like, Oh, like this is kind of proof that like looks don't entirely, um, matter.
But then I'll just like realize like, Oh, actually women find them incredibly attractive. Like if he had a Tinder profile, he'd do really well.
Um, so even though like, even in those cases where you're like, Oh, like, you know, this person's like unconventionally like, or weird looking, it's still kind of further proves that, Oh yeah, it looks kind matter of time you're like oh like you know this person's like unconventionally like or weird looking it's still kind of further proves that oh yeah it looks kind of matter of time you know like um and uh you know just subtle body cues like if somebody's kind of like engaged with you and talking and smiling and like you know playing with their hair versus kind of looking around or on their phone and they're just like oh like this weird dude just came up to me he He's like kind of beneath me and stuff. Is this firsthand experience of you experiencing that? Yeah, I've definitely experienced that with some like more attractive women or like, you know, there are times where like, I'd be like, kind of be like, oh, maybe I'm treated in like a bit of a different way than this like, you know, gorgeous person.
These are women you've approached? Get specific. Remember, you're talking to the jury.
We've got to make a real strong case here. Okay.
I think I would say so. Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, here is proof that I am Quasimodo to quality women.
Yeah. So, like, I remember, like, in high school, like, with my, like, really good looking friends, um, there'd be girls where like, you know, we'd both be Snapchatting them and she would disappear like, or just not respond.
And she'd be sending him like nudes out of the blue and stuff. And I'm like, all right, like there's a massive, uh, you know, like, you know, not saying a word to her or just like, there's a massive kind of difference.
Like he's just getting these opportunities by existing basically without any sense of game. So you're going snapchat for your evidence yeah i'm going to that i'm also like sometimes like in the bar or the club like i had a moment um i've had a few like kind of like blowouts or rejections like um and you know uh sometimes i'm like this is entirely uh look space like you know recently i was out at the the bar and there's this girl and she didn't want to dance with me and my friends ended up dancing and making out with her.
So I'm like,

you know, uh, she probably like more is physically attracted to him. Um, okay.
So you saw her,

she rejected you. A different guy was making out with her.
Did you feel that guy was better

looking than you? Yeah. I mean, definitely.
Um yeah, I would also say like, the other thing that I'll see that really reinforces this is there's like, this is kind of depressing. So it's hard for me to like fully buy into this.
But yeah, the other thing that I see is I'll go on like these, like I'll look at this dating stuff sometime, like these shows, there's like, you know, these things online, there's like a show called updating or these like various things. And like so much of the time, like, I feel like, especially with these young, like really attractive women, it basically comes at least in these more like bar, like type of situations.
But also, you know, in everyday life, it just comes down to looks like you'll see these people kind of set up on a blind date

and then the blindfolds will come off and you know they'll want the really good looking guys like kind of regardless of how their personalities combine or you know media and stuff like a lot of it will come down to the decision for yeah that's the evidence I would support okay is there anything we left out that is a really strong piece of evidence, or is this your strongest case right now? I think it's rare that firsthand I've seen somebody that has a ton of struggle in online dating in terms of situations where you would show a picture of them and girls would say, oh, yeah. Let me jump in as your co-counsel, because I don't want the judge to yell at you.
To remind you, your belief is not about online dating. It's about approaching and attracting quality women.
So try to stick to that. We want to get real narrowly focused here.
Because your belief is not, oh, well, I suck on the apps because I'm unattractive. That would be a different belief.
When flipping a limiting belief, we want to try to stick to the core narrative and evidence that supports that. So let's stick to approaching, if you would, for any more evidence you have, if you have any.
I think various – so, yeah, there's the bar situations. There's, yeah, various times where kind of I've been rejected and I've seen the girl

like go and like make out with another dude or dance with him.

Yeah, like the blowout, make out with the other dude story.

Yeah, it's a pretty, I mean, like there's, you know, other stories like that, but that's

kind of a, yeah.

Got it.

Let me ask you some questions to help you, I hope, because I'm your co-counsel.

and we'll see you next time. That's a pretty, I mean, like there's, you know, other stories like that, but that's kind of a.
Got it. Let me ask you some questions to help you.
I hope because I'm your co-counsel. I want to help you make the best case possible.
So you are just not good looking enough to approach and attract quality women. Okay.
How many attractive women who you've approached have said to you explicitly. Sorry.
you're just not handsome or attractive enough?

Not a ton.

Ballpark number, how many have said it?

Very, in a day situation, honestly, I don't know if anyone said it.

I have gotten blowouts where like, even like a few days ago, this girl kind girl kind of gave me a disgusted type of look, but she didn't say anything. I think at night I've had...
How many women have said, I'm not interested, you're not attractive enough? Or used a clear word that referred to your looks? Remember, we're talking to a jury. We the evidence i'm i'm i assume it's happened a dozen or so times because this is your core belief i would say maybe like and that that includes if a girl's like oh yeah like i'm not attracted to like short guys or stuff or i'm not attracted to like bald like if a girl says something like that like that we're counting that as evidence anything that's looks related you're not good looking enough so something about your looks yeah i'd say like probably a dozen times something like that, like that, we're counting that as evidence.
Anything that's looks related. You're not good looking enough.
So something about your looks. Yeah, I'd say like probably a dozen times.
Not like to me, like, um, to me personally though. Like, I mean, cause again, yeah, to you personally, like you're not, um, how many times has a woman said explicitly, sorry, you're just not like, I had a woman once look at me and go, you're too old.
No, thanks. That's evidence that i could have used at that time to say i'm too old to approach women so i'm looking how many women

have said clearly with clear language you are not good looking or attractive enough maybe 10

10 times okay a dozen times a dozen times give me one of those stories please give me that example

um what exactly did a woman say where were you give me a real quick story

Thank you. one of those stories please give me that example um what exactly did a woman say where were you give me a real quick story i'm trying to uh i'm not saying how many times did you feel that was the reason i want the actual like if she were to appear in court with us she would have to testify under oath that she said you were not attractive to you.
I want it to be that specific. Like to my face.
I think if it's happened 12 times, I assume you have a story ready to throw at the jury. I think, yeah, man, my case maybe is solid in terms of this.
But I think just like, okay, there was a time where a girl basically said like, yeah, you're, she was like, oh, you're really sweet.

Like, I'm like, you're a bit too short for me.

That's different than looks.

Height is a different one. We could tackle that too short for me.
That's different than looks. Height is a different one.

We could tackle that too and separately,

but we're talking about looks.

Not having the Brad Pitt looks,

not good looking enough.

We'll throw bald in there.

We'll throw that into looks.

So how many women have said,

ew, get away baldy,

or no thanks,

you're not attractive.

I'm talking specific language very i would not say i would modify my original estimate i mean i want to say more um and i feel like a lot of it is more um sub or it's how many women have said it to you you have to pick a number if you would i can't remember any like right can't remember any actually. Oh, so zero women have said you're not good looking enough with those words.
With those words, I would say zero actually. Oh, okay.
Just wanted to make sure I knew the number. So if there was a big number, we could use that.
But it sounds like we can't use that because we're on, you know, we're in a court. We got to tell the truth, truth right yeah i kind of can't i mean verbatim it's pretty difficult to remember like those exact words yeah okay fair enough um all right maybe they didn't say you're ugly but how many of them said i don't date ball guys.
Or, sorry, I, you know, you're just like, I want somebody who's

handsomer. Anything like that? Clear language I'm talking.
Not vibe,

not you interpreting it that way, but clear language that women have said to you

in an approaching situation.

I don't really think there, nothing comes to mind.

I'm sure there are times because I've done approaching. And, you know, again, more it's like a vibe thing.
But in terms of explicit, like, saying that, like, I, yeah, I don't, yeah, I think so. Got it.
Okay, good. Next question.
the next question is, how does this, when you feel this way, give me a quick brainstorm of how it feels to, when you're really sucked into that, what I call that lower self mindset, how does it, how do you feel about yourself when you are feeling, you know,, sorry, yeah, physically unattractive when you see other guys with hot girls? Yeah, give me a little, if you don't mind being a bit vulnerable, give me a little brainstorm of how it feels, especially in those lower moments. Yeah, basically, I mean, lowest moments.
I think like kind of worst case of everything situation is like I'm out at night, like I'm a little drunk, which, you know, and I'm already like a pretty anxious wreck and not feeling good about myself. I'm like, damn, like I just got like a ton of blowouts.
Like these girls are, you know, making out and dancing with other guys. She kind of gives me that disgusted vibe when I'm like talking to her and stuff.'s just like no way that this is gonna work out and maybe it's not explicit like this is probably it's it's tough if i'm presenting this to the jury like maybe it's not explicit but my evidence is she rejected me and then she came on to somebody else uh in a very like you know we're moving away from the evidence part now we're talking about how this belief makes you feel about yourself or how you feel about yourself in the context of approaching and seeing other guys succeed and you fail.
I'll use myself as an example. If I was asking myself, my 15 years ago self, I would say, oh, well, I feel like this beta male who can't attract a woman.
I can't approach confidently. I feel unattractive like shit.
I feel small and unworthy. I feel like I have limited options.
I compare myself to other guys and I'm like, why can't I be like those guys? Basically, I feel sad and stuck. That's how I felt 15 years ago with my belief at the time.
That's mine, you don't need to use mine, but through that lens, how do you feel when you really get sucked into that feeling of, oh man, I'm just not good looking enough for these girls? Yeah, it's, it's similar. I mean, like also, you know, comparison with others, like, oh, like I'm just, you know, not attractive enough.
I'm not, I don't measure up to some of these other good looking guys that just, you know, or like just more um attractive than i am um like i feel like shit you know there's no point in approaching these girls that are out of my league there's yeah be kind of like that okay do you feel more attractive or less attractive when you're in that state i feel less attractive feel okay um feel super confident medium confidence or low confidence i feel like shit i've like yeah i mean i feel very low confidence okay yeah all right terrible i appreciate the honesty i really do this is not easy stuff to talk about talking to me is a little like therapy sometimes. Yeah, I know I'm giving off kind of a negative view as well.
You're doing great. You're doing amazing.
No, this is great. I mean, you're doing everything perfectly.
So I want to do one more. I'm going to do an exercise with you that will actually be the hardest part of this whole exercise.
And it's going to hurt a little bit, but it's about to get a lot

better and it's going to feel amazing in about 15 or 20 minutes. So for the next two minutes, would you do a little exercise with me? That is going to sting, but it's coming from great intentions from me and love for you and me helping you.
You up for it? Yeah. Awesome.
Cool. I want you to do a little exercise with me.
Um, I want you to tap into how you feel when you're in that lower self state and let's do it. Let's get our physiology, our bodies to help you do it.
I'm going to do this with you. So I'm going to actually do this with you.
I'm going to ask you to, are you seated right now? Yeah. Great.
Stay seated. And I want you to sit, sit small.
What I mean by that is, um, I'm going to do this too. Put your feet together, put your knees together, slump your shoulders a little bit.
I don't know if you can see me on the screen, but I'm doing it. Starting to slump your shoulders.
And I want you to just allow your body to feel small, kind of beta, for lack of a better term.

Are you doing it? Yeah, yeah. Slump your shoulders.
No, that's feeling very well. Slump your shoulders a bit.
Feel free to drop your head so that we can still hear you, of course. And so for the next 60 or 90 seconds, I'm going to ask you to stay in that physical space, a physical position.

And I'm going to say some things. And all I'd like you to do is repeat everything I say, but don't just repeat the words.
I also want you to echo and mirror the tone of my voice, the emotions I use, and really just mirror everything I say and do. Okay.
Okay. Okay.
And again, this won't feel good, but it'll feel a lot better shortly. So here we go.
I'll count down, start repeat everything I say and do starting three, two. Oh, by the way, sorry.
Also any noises I make just basically be my mirror. Okay.
Here we go. Three, two, one.
I am just not good looking enough to approach really quality girls. I'm just not good looking enough to approach really quality girls.
Other guys are so much

better looking than me. Other guys are much better looking than me.
Why even bother approaching it won't work? Why even bother approaching it won't work? I get lesser girls into me, but not hot girls. I get lesser girls into me, but I can't at hot girls I saw my friend make out with the girl who rejected me fucking sucked I saw my friend make out with a girl that rejected me and it sucked it's not fair it's not fair I feel not fair.
I feel like shit sometimes. I feel like shit sometimes.
Really low. Really low.
Maybe I'm just a bald, average-looking guy who's going to have to settle. Maybe I'm just a bald, average-looking guy that's's gonna have to settle for connell means well but nothing's gonna help me i'm stuck connell means well but nothing's gonna nothing's gonna help i'm i'm stuck i'm just not good looking enough and that's the reality i'm just not good looking enough.
And that's the reality. I'm just not good looking enough.
That's the reality. Okay.
Hold that body position for five more seconds. Just really feel it in your body and your mind.
Now, right now, bro, on a scale of one to 10, 10 being amazingly confident, positive, hopeful, one being low, negative, unattractive, stuck. What number are you at right now? Like a two.
Okay. Please return to a neutral position.
Thank you so much for doing that. Okay.
I did not make you feel like a two to be a jerk. Um, I have good intentions at a two, I wanted you to feel the consequence,

the emotional consequence of your belief. I wanted you to feel how shitty it feels.

I wanted you to feel how small it makes you feel. And I wanted you to feel how stuck and

kind of low and shitty. I wanted you to feel the emotional consequence.
Here's why I wanted you to feel that way. By the way, let me ask you this, feeling it a two out of 10 right then and there, did you feel like it would be almost impossible to approach a woman in that state? Yeah.
And I had this feeling like quite a bit, I feel like embarrassed even like I'll have this feeling and even I was kind of trying to talk in this way, but sometimes I'll have these convert, like I'll kind of like have these things and I'll like almost feel like embarrassed to go out or I'll be like, you know, I talk in this like quiet voice and like shifty eye contact, kind of that.

Okay.

Yeah.

So when you're feeling in that state, does that state, is it possible or probable that that state stops you from going up to some pretty hot women? Yeah, well, yes. I still sometimes kind of force myself to do it, but it kind of further reinforces.
Sometimes if I do that, I mean, usually it doesn't go well. Okay.
Or I just won't do it, you know, one of the two. Okay.
Is it fair to say that feeling it, you're at a one or a two or a three out of 10, do you think that has kept you from approaching some beautiful women that you could have possibly succeeded with? I would argue I couldn't have succeeded with them, but yeah. Has it kept you from even taking some chances? Yeah, yeah.
Okay. Has it cost you, has that feeling, that two out of ten feeling, you feel how it costs you confidence, right? Yeah, of course, yeah.
Is it possible that it's cost you performance, that it's hurt your interactions with women? Yeah, yeah, yeah um is it possible that a lot of women may is it possible that feeling at a two or three out of ten has um interfered with you talking to girls gotten in the way of being confident getting in the zone feeling good in terms of going up or in actually talking? Actually talking. Do you think women are attracted to a guy who feels like he's at a two or three out of ten the way you just felt? No, definitely.
I mean, if I'm already insecure about my looks and I'm telling myself that I'm shitty, it definitely makes everything worse, like 100%. Is it possible that you at a two or three out of 10 has hurt your interactions and

pushed away some women you've approached? Yeah. Does it affect your voice? Yeah, it affects my vibe.
Does it affect your body posture? Does it affect your energy? It does. If you're at a two out of, are you going to be attractive to any women? Probably not.
Maybe people that are hitting on me. But even then, I mean, they probably will lose interest.
So there's probably nobody. Here's a question.
Here's the big question. And really think about it before you answer.
Is it possible, maybe not 100% certain, but is it possible that this belief that sucked you down to a two out of 10, is it possible that that is hurting you just as much and maybe even more than your actual physical appearance with women? It's a really hard question to answer. I think that it's, I don't know about more than, I definitely think it hurts and I definitely think it makes a bad situation worse.
A hundred percent. I don't know.
I don't know if I agree that it hurts. I mean, it's kind of hard to quantify like one versus the other, but yeah, I don't think if I start, you know, being magically amazing of like overnight, I'm going to be be sleeping with models or anything.
Didn't ask you that. But is it possible that a lot of women – do you think a lot of women would be repelled by a guy who's at a 2 out of 10? Oh, 100%.
Yeah, I think so. So this belief is making some women repelled by you? Yeah, I agree with that.
Yep. Okay.
There you go. Here's my suggestion to you.
Let me break out a character here and just give you some straight coaching truth before we finish up the exercise and get to some really fun stuff. The hard part is over, I promise.
I've been doing this for 15 years, approaching and working on my dating life for 20 years. Different women have different blueprints for what they're attracted to.

Plenty of women want super hot, handsome, attractive guys.

I'm not going to pretend they don't.

Some of them could give two shits.

Look at Tina Fey's husband.

Look at Lyle Lovett, who married Julia Roberts.

Look at Chris Davidson.

I'm sorry, Chris Davidson?

Pete Davidson?

What is it?

Pete Davidson? Pete Davidson, What is it? Pete Davidson?

Pete Davidson, sorry. Yeah, look at Pete Davidson and every woman he's ever dated.
Some women want really hot guys. Some women it's optional.
Some women don't really care. But I would say every quality woman pretty much wants a man with a lot of self-confidence and belief in himself.
and if you are at a two or three out of 10, hell, if you're not at a seven or eight out of 10 or higher in terms of your state and confidence, you walk up and approach a woman, they're going to smell that self-doubt on you like body odor or like too much cologne. So I'm not saying your looks are completely irrelevant.
People have eyes. They look at a man and make a decision.
But if there's one thing that pretty much every quality woman wants, it's a guy with a lot of self-confidence in himself, that swagger. And do you see how your belief is robbing you of swagger, of confidence? Yeah, I think I'm not even giving myself the opportunity to um like again like if this is a gray zone like maybe there's some woman that regardless won't be interested like with perfect confidence but even the ones that would be like i'm kind of robbing myself of that opportunity even though yeah exactly a chance.
Totally. So would you agree that this

belief is contributing to your struggles? Because even for women who'd be open to dating a man who looks like you, for whatever that might mean to her, if you're at a two or a three, what woman would want to date that guy? It'd be tough, right? Yes. Yep.
A hundred percent. I agree with that.
Um, so let's do a little recap of what your belief is costing you.

It's costing you good emotions. It's costing you.
You went down to a two out of 10. I mean, people not to get too dark here, but people get down to a one, two, three out of 10.
That's when they start hurting themselves or give up or become depressed. And how could you

possibly attract a woman in a social complex, social dynamic situation like a bar? If you're

at a one, two, three out of 10, um, confidence is universally attractive to almost all women.

And your belief is robbing you of yours. Could I share, um, like, yeah, I think, um,

Thank you. all women and your belief is robbing you of yours.
Could I share?

Please. Yeah, I think, and again, this is like a little vulnerable and personal, but I'll have these episodes where I'm like completely, like I've had a few episodes in my life where I've completely hit rock bottom and I've like kind of ranted in front of like my my parents are just in like hit completely low and maybe those feelings that I'm saying like I'm even like you know having those conversations or I'm on the phone and I'm like in this quiet voice because I feel like I can't say it and then I like hear back like how are you like you're super depressed you're talking to us right now like this is fucking like insane like how are you expecting to go out and like date a girl like or have success when you're literally like doing this when you're literally like depressed and like having these like breakdowns in front of others and you know like so like having this whole side of you that you literally are like basically hiding from like you're you know having these breakdowns in front of us so then meanwhile you're going out that night and hanging out with your friends like it's ridiculous to think that you know you like having this breakdown and talking to us and then you going out with your friends to the bar that night that like that's just gonna you can like uh basically compartmentalize like those those two things like that's not how it works that's yeah yeah one of my old coat one of my first my very first coach used to say a guy named owen cook who really taught me a lot he used to say probably still does say the true self is always shining through yeah how you feel about your emotions, your authentic you and your beliefs about yourself.
We're always shining those out into the world for better or worse. And that's why we're having this coaching session first, before we talk about the mechanics and the how to, because with approaching women, 80% of your success is going to come from your confidence, your mindset, your good state, because we want to transfer fun, confidence, authenticity, and just good mojo toward women.
And they're so wonderfully forgiving about things like height and looks and how much hair you have if you're making her feel the feels. It's hard to do that if you're battling some real deep emotional issues, deep self-doubt, breakdowns, depression.
I'm not saying it's impossible, but boy, it's tough because that stuff's going to be shining out of you. Not shining, but reflecting.
You're approaching success and you're dating success in general, but you're approaching success is like a mirror. It's reflecting back to you your beliefs about yourself and also where you are in terms of your mindset.
And we know where your beliefs are. Your beliefs are, I'm not good looking enough to approach and attract quality women.
And it's bringing you down to a two. Do women want to date a two? Yeah, no, they definitely don't.
I've been out with guys who look like, maybe not literally Brad Pitt, but who are tall, handsome, model hot dudes. But they're cowering in the corner.
They're kind of in their heads. Women don't want them either.
They might look pretty to them, to the women, but she doesn't want that guy. Not at least not the way in the state he's in.
So, um, the reason why I wanted to make you feel too, it's just it before we can get a real nasty belief out of our mindset. First, we just have to see the cost of it.
It's costing you action. It's costing you approaches.
It's certainly costing you emotionally. It might have cost you sex, girlfriends, love.
In fact, I'm sure it has. It's a hypothetical sliding door situation.
We'll never know for sure, but I believe it has. I believe the belief itself is hurting you more than the actual symmetrical shape of your face and hair.
I'm not saying your looks are irrelevant. I'm saying your belief is making it so much more important than it actually is.
And it's tearing you down. And so we just have to see the cost and the consequences of something before we change it.
Make sense before we move on? Yeah, I think. I had to do this two years ago.
I had to do this with myself in a certain way i had to see the cost and the consequences of my drinking i was uh drinking whiskey a quart of whiskey a month and you know drinking six days a week and it was taking a toll i looked in the mirror i was 25 pounds overweight i was having erectile dysfunction a beautiful incredible girlfriend. I'll check with her and make sure she's okay with me saying this, but I was having erectile dysfunction.
I wasn't pleasing her because of the booze in my system. I just looked bloated in the mirror.
I had to stand in front of the mirror and notice the costs and consequences consequences of my behavior um more behavior based than belief based but basically i believed i needed whiskey to be happy so i had to i had to see the cost before i said this stops now are you ready to say this stops now in terms of this bullshit belief that's been fucking you fucking with you and turning you into a two.

I would love that.

Cool.

Let's do it stops right now.

Let's do it.

Okay.

Um, let's go back to the courtroom.

Uh, this is going to be more fun though.

Have you ever seen, um, like a courtroom movie or a TV show, like a few good men or, you know, any TV show where like the, the cross examining attorney interrogates the witness and the witness just crumbles on the stand and says,

I did it, I'm the murderer.

Have you ever seen a movie like that or a TV show?

Have you ever seen a movie where an attorney

just destroys the witness on the witness stand?

Yeah, I've seen that. Okay.
What's that movie with Joe Pesci? Oh, wait. My Cousin Vinny.
One of my favorite movies. Yeah, My Cousin Vinny.
Yeah. That's one of my favorite movies.
Cool. I love that reference.
My mind goes to A Few Good Men, where Tom Cruise, Jack Nicholson's on the stand stand and Tom Cruise just destroys him. But I also love my cousin Vinny where same thing happens.
So you get to be Joe Pesci. I guess that makes me Marissa Tomei.
Great. I wouldn't mind that.
Yeah, I wouldn't mind that. I'm Marissa Tomei.
I don't look like her, unfortunately, but for you. But okay, let's go back to the courtroom.
Here's our little thought experiment. We're back in the courtroom.
Sitting in the witness stand is your old belief. Your old belief, again, I'll say it one last time, I'm just not good looking enough to approach and attract quality women because they all want hot guys.
Imagine that that's the witness. You're going to cross-examine the witness, and you're going to ask questions that are going to poke holes in the witness's story.
Here's how you're going to do it, and I'll help you, of course. Think this way.
What is some counter-evidence that's completely the opposite of your old current belief? Or what are some holes in the story? What's some nuance? Another way to think about it is, are you 100% sure this is 100% true all the time? Basically, imagine you are a highly paid attorney and your job for the next couple minutes with my help is to find counter evidence or poke some holes in the story. And even if you don't believe the line of questioning, just like a high paid attorney, you got to do the job, whether you think the guy's innocent or guilty, right? So please take that mindset of counter evidence, tearing down the stories.
I'll help you in a second, but as needed, but I'll ask you to start. What are some holes in the story or what's some counter evidence that your old belief is either false or maybe it's just nuanced and much more of a gray area? Yeah, I've actually thought about this a lot on my own.
And sometimes I'll have these, like, I'll try to play the role in my own life of kind of that attorney, and then I won't believe it. And on my worst days, I'll, I'll try to like argue with the attorney basically.
But I actually have thought about some of the kind of counter arguments. You've done some homework already.
Take it away. The courtroom floor is yours.
Okay. And again, like, I think it's, you know, I don't necessarily agree with a hundred percent of it, but I think one of the arguments I would make is like, um, the guy that Selena Gomez is dating right now, um, is not very attractive and like, sure you could make, like, at least I'm like seeing a photo of him and I'm like, oh, like, I don't like necessarily think he's good looking, but maybe like, you know, on Tinder, he gets swipes.
But then I like, I went on to Reddit. Like I'm like seeing a photo of him and I'm like oh like I don't like necessarily think he's good looking but maybe like you know on tinder he gets swipes but then I like I went on to reddit like I was like like you know like because a lot of women are like how the hell is he dating this guy and like how would you rate this guy and a lot of women are saying like two out of ten like three out of ten you know um one out of ten like and he's um he dated a model before her and stuff so like I think maybe if he was just a photo of him with no context like woman wouldn't necessarily be turned on by him i'm looking him up right now i'm not i have not seen him hold on selena gomez boyfriend oh.
You're not kidding. He looks like just a dude with just a regular dude.
Like a five if I'm going to put a number on him. Interesting.
That's great. I didn't even know about this.
All right. Exhibit A.
Selena Gomez's boyfriend is at best of five. Keep going.
What other counter evidence do you have or holes in the story? I think I've seen, um, comments. I'll tell you, I'll see like any, oh my gosh.
All right. I'm not going to like qualify or um try to remember you're

being paid what's a what's an attorney make two thousand dollars an hour okay yeah I would say um yeah I would say um there are these is evidence you know I've um seen examples on YouTube where there's these like another example is like Travis Barker. Like he has like

head tattoo and stuff, like kind of a, like strange, like looking guy. And I'll see like these comments for him and for Selena Gomez, like, Oh, I didn't see what, um, like these YouTube comments or women will say like, Oh, I didn't really see at first, like what was special about him.
But after watching this video of him talk, like, I really like see it now. I see what she sees in him.
What does she see in him, do you think?

Just like their personality.

You're getting... about him but after watching this video of him talk like i really like see it now i see what she sees in him what does she see in him do you think just like their personality or getting after a video to you know get to know them they'll see like um they'll see like oh like i actually do um yeah i would they they're saying like basically i'm not like attracted him at first but after

listening to a video of him like i basically see why uh like i i get it basically like let's call

selena's boyfriend of five what would you call travis barker physically his physical attractiveness

he has kind of a weird maybe five at best or something i don't know so if these guys are

both fives does that mean that selena and travis's woman respectively see other value in them

Thank you. best or something.
I don't know. So if these guys are both fives, does that mean that Selena and Travis's woman respectively see other value in them? Yeah, uh, I would say so.
And even in a lot of these Jay-Z and Beyonce is another one. Um, I mean, that's like, I I've actually even heard, um, for Beyonce, like I, again, like, you know, I've done my research and tried to find counter arguments.

And I've even seen things where Beyonce said like in an interview, like, oh, I was like, basically like her friends and everyone was saying like, at first, like, oh, she wasn't into him. Like, she just saw him.
She's like, yeah, I'm not into him and stuff. And obviously, like, they ended up getting married.
So if Jay-Z and Travis and Selena's dude are all five, six,

in terms of pure physical attractiveness yet they're with incredibly beautiful high status women what does that say about your universal rule about what women want in a man? There's holes there for sure.

What is the hole?

That these guys, maybe if you just saw a picture of them

facially with no other context,

these women would not be attracted to them.

Is it possible that, does this mean that

not every single quality woman

needs a physically attractive model caliber guy? Yeah, I would. Yeah, definitely.
I mean, this is counter evidence. Okay, great.
Now let's get away from those are those are great starting points. However, they are secondhand.
They're other people. Maybe there's something in your life or background that we can look at.
I don't know. I don't know you that well.
But let me ask you this question, a little sidebar, attorney to attorney. Who is the most attractive? You don't need to name her or anything, but describe or give a name.
You can give a fake name if you want. Who is the most attractive woman you've ever had any kind of romantic success with a kiss, sex, girlfriend, any kind of romantic win.
Who's the most attractive woman you've ever dated or had some kind of romantic win with? Um, yeah, there's two that come to mind. Uh was this girl in uh chicago and we went out and oh i kissed her and um that was yeah then she disappeared after but um okay uh she was like i remember showing up on the date and she was like uh dressed up and i was like holy shit like this girl is really attractive on your one to ten scale what number was she like a nine all right so you kissed a nine yeah i mean so you were attractive enough to attract her you were you were you attracted her right you she kissed you yeah i mean yeah okay so she's a nine and she was attracted to you yeah somewhat i don't know how much somewhat at least remember you're in the courtroom do your job yeah okay for this yeah yeah she was thank you yeah um who's just real quick give me the other girl you mentioned two girls give me Give me that little anecdote or reference.
Yeah, I was in, I was out of the country in Latin America recently. And there was this girl that I approached on the street that was, yeah, really nice body, like very attractive.
And she showed up in like a pretty form fitting, like dress to like the date and i was like holy crap like this girl's pretty

pretty hot she's a what i call a wow girl basically a wow girl is like you're eight nine or ten yeah yeah she's a wow girl and you approached her yeah and had a date with her was there any physical contact any kissing any love in the night at all there wasn't no um it was uh uh, do you know, I was kind of, uh, getting used to, um,

and gone on a ton of dates before. Yeah.
So let me just get this straight. So you approached a Latin American wow girl successfully and had a date with her.
Yeah. Yeah.
And I would say she was at least like somewhat like interested. Okay.
but I'm confused though, because you say you approached a beautiful Latin American

wow girl.

You say you had a date in Chicago with a nine, and you guys kissed.

However, the belief that you has been running your dating life is that you're just not good

looking enough to attract these kinds of women.

So what are you lying about?

These two things can't be both true at the same time, can they? No, I mean, unless you're like holding, I mean, you could say like it's all luck or whatever, but I mean, I don't necessarily think it's all luck if it's happened a few times. You're not good looking quality women that's the belief yet made out with chicago girl approached and attracted the latin american girl at least enough to have a date these do you see how these these things cannot both be true yeah yep which is bullshit are you making up the two girls are they fiction yeah they're a figment of my met uh no um i think the belief that i'm not attracted to success with any attractive woman is right not it's not true yeah do you see how your belief is essentially painting all attractive women with a giant brush yeah uh it's definitely not honor yeah it's it's not true right i'm not saying there's no truth in it i'm not saying looks are completely irrelevant to all women i'm saying your belief is basically telling you well there's four billion women in the world none of them who at least who are quality are going to want to be with me but you.
Yeah. I know, I know they weren't your ex-girlfriends.
You didn't, you didn't have intimacy with them, but, um, yeah. Are there any other firsthand experiences that, that could, um, serve us here? Um, if it's okay, if the answer is no, but, um, are there any other women who are like, you know, eights, nines or tens who you've approached and at least, I don't know, had a good flirty conversation with or gotten a phone number from? Yeah.
I get numbers. Uh, I mean, again, like a lot of the time, like might not go anywhere, but if I'm thinking like evidence, like, um, great, uh, yeah, like there was this time in college and again, like doesn't, but yeah, there's, I guess that would kind of be counter evidence.

Yeah, that would, that would also be counter evidence like there is should I say yeah yeah please um yeah I mean there was a time in college

like there was um yeah there was a girl on another sports team that was you know popular and like it

kind of hooked up with a lot of the like pretty attractive like guys on my team and stuff and

Thank you. girl on another sports team that was, you know, popular and like, it kind of hooked up with a lot of the like, pretty attractive, like, guys on my team and stuff.
And it kind of ignored me up until and there was one night where she was kind of like flirting out of the blue and was like, yeah, saying super forward and like flirty stuff. Like, like, yeah, like she's straight up, like said, like, you're,'re attractive and stuff.
Um, interesting. So you've got zero women who have said, I don't want to date you.
You're unattractive, but you do have a woman who called you attractive. Yeah.
Yeah. Isn't it interesting what the lower self focuses on? Yeah, it's definitely, um, yeah, it's um yeah it's depressing what's depressing that i just can't take it's depressing i can't take any wins i mean even at the point where i'm starting to like recently like starting to have success or the various like rare i mean times that i've had it that i just can't let it that i can't focus on those times and i'm focusing instead on the that's cool that's why we're talking to start you get get get the mindset and the confidence to a place where you do regularly focus on this you're doing great by the way here's our counter evidence you got three really quality women eights, and tens, who have shown romantic interest in you.

And that's exactly counter to your belief.

You got Selena, Beyonce, Travis Barker's woman.

Clearly these women see value in these guys that aren't about their looks, right?

Yep.

Yeah.

Let me ask you a couple more questions.

Are you 100% certain? This is me helping you talk to the witness basically. Are you a hundred percent certain that this belief that you're not good looking enough to approach and attract women? Is it a hundred percent true? A hundred percent of the time with every woman? I'm not a hundred percent certain.
No, we already know it's not because at the very least, Latin American girl you approached. Yeah.
Yeah. And again, echoing back to an important point from a few minutes ago, is it possible that some of the women who you have approached and maybe they blew you off and went with some other guy, maybe that two out of 10 state that depressed lower self is what she wasn't drawn to it and it wasn't about your looks is that possible yeah especially with a girl's like if i'm not getting um like maybe a girl like there's a possibility but she's not like if a girl's like you know smiling and like right off the bat i'm like, all right you know yep but if a girl is maybe in more of that gray area where maybe at first she doesn't do it then i have to kind of work for it a bit like maybe in those situations there there is a bit of possibility that maybe if i had worked for it and had self-esteem maybe she didn't like notice me and she's like oh this is like super attractive guy came up but i could have potentially won her over if I had been confident.
Is it possible that maybe there's some holes in your game, some escalation moves, some flirting moves that you don't know how to use yet? Maybe could that have cost you some of these approaches or some of these women? Yeah, I would say so. Yeah.
Is it possible that you've misinterpreted a lot of your quote failures and put it on the whole i'm not good looking enough because that's just how your brain to interpret it but there was a misinterpretation i would say some of them yeah okay great um that's great to understand or to know that. Also, your evidence about approaching, that I asked you or that we did earlier, the statement to the jury, I mean, look at your support for it.
It was all from these other areas that don't have anything to do with approaching, most of it. Online dating is about looks.
That's not really what we're talking about here my best friend gets hit on I don't the Snapchat situation do you see how you are interpreting a lot of quote-unquote failures and putting it all on your looks at least some of the time um so many times you've said early on you're like oh it's a vibe i can just tell it's a vibe yeah i think um stay in character we're in court i'm playing the role of the well don't no big deal i just don't want you to push back on this because we really need to to i'm not saying i want you to believe something that you don't yet fully believe but um think of think of your belief as this lens and our brains crave certainty our brains need to understand make sense of the world It's a core human need. If you check out Tony Robbins' Six Human Needs TED Talk, it's really fascinating.
We all try to make sense of how the world works. And what I'm seeing here is you've had all these dating setbacks.
And your brain's like, well, I've got to make sense of it somehow. I guess it must be that I'm just not good looking enough.
And there's probably some women who you weren't their type physically. But so many women are open to dating a guy who's not six foot three and Hollywood handsome.
But because your emotions are in such a low shitty place and because there's some holes in your game, I think that you've been analyzing everything through this belief and going, oh, well, that's why,

clearly, because your brain wants that kind of certainty. So many times your evidence was, it's a vibe, but zero women have said, go away, ugly.
I've literally had women say, go away, old man. So I have some evidence that I'm too old for some women.
Here's a big question it possible, bro? Is it possible that there are plenty of women who don't want to date you because you're not their physical type, but that there is, there is an abundance of women who are absolutely open to dating somebody like you? It's possible. Yes.
Yeah. Because, Hey, um, here's what here, let me kind of, to be efficient here and move toward the wrap-up in a few minutes,

here's what's happening.

You've got this core belief, kind of how you see everything.

And what you probably don't fully,

you probably intellectually know this,

maybe you just don't feel it yet,

is here's what every woman wants.

Here's the big reveal. Here's what every woman wants.
They want a man who brings value to her life. A man who can help her thrive and survive romantically and fulfill her needs as a woman, romantically, emotionally.
Let's call that value. What your belief is telling you is that every woman sees the most value in physical

appearance. Yeah.
Yep. Is the world that simple? Don't you think that a lot of women have different

blueprints for what they want? Yeah, there's more nuance, I would say. Hell yeah.
I'll go one

Thank you. it's not going to get me to go home with you.

It's not going to get me to date you.

You've got to bring a lot more to the table.

So think of what women want as value.

Women want a man who can bring value to her life.

Every woman has her own unique blueprint for value.

Selena Gomez must have a blueprint that does not make looks the most important thing, right?

Yeah. Yeah.
So does the Chicago girl, at least for kissing you. So does the Latin American girl.
By the way, I'm not like, I would say I'm probably a seven physically, a physical seven. You know, I got a little bit of a tummy, no muscle to speak of.
I have a pretty nice face,

I'm told, or handsome. Some nice features, but I don't know.
I'm a seven. If I'm a seven, physically, how have I dated models and dated literally hundreds of women? yeah I'm you probably have I mean you probably have a lot going for you like other in other areas like what i'm fishing for a compliment now i'm not actually fishing for one but i do want to hear what you think look i'm you know one of the top oh one percent people in this area and i've dated an insane number of gorgeous women and i have my dream girlfriend and um i didn't do it with great looks women have never fanned themselves as i walked down the street okay um i'm not saying i'm ugly but i'm certainly you know why is it that um i've dated literally models and society nines and tens what have they what do they see in me maybe probably uh i think charisma i mean even like from the conversation you seem like you're a good conversationalist and you live well as well like you that's something that yeah like that's something as well that i'm like learning if you can kind of lead and do all those things and even like in the structure you're like kind of leading the conversation and stuff and that's yeah women love a man yeah charisma is a nice bonus for a lot of women it's kind of like looks it's not required but it's nice bonus for a lot of women um i'm pretty funny on my better days a lot of women like witty good conversationalist i'm a very good conversationalist at times.
Yeah, I would agree with that based on this conversation. Thank you.
Again, I'm not fishing for compliments. I'm certainly not trying to impress anybody.
I want to impress upon the listener and you to say, women just want a man of value. And every woman has a different blueprint for what that value is.
And your blueprint has been, they all want the same thing.

Use your logic.

Is that a rational thing to think about all beautiful women?

No, it's not.

If it was, I could only date physical sevens, whatever that means.

But I've dated some insanely beautiful women.

You'd say we're more physically attractive? Yeah, absolutely. I have to work a little harder maybe than some guys.
I can't do it with my muscles. I can't do it with model looks, but if I can make a woman laugh, if I can, I'm incredibly great at flirting.
I'm really good at emotional connection. Basically, I'm a man who's got his life together in a lot of ways.
Women just want a guy who's got his life together and can make her feel good feelings and feel certain and safe that she's with a man of value. Yeah.
Yeah. Um, okay.
Let's finish up here. So do you see, is it fair to say that there's some people, there might be a couple people in the jury who has some reasonable doubt?

yeah i think if there was a especially if there's a group of people that don't have an agenda that like we're kind of viewing the situation neutrally yeah um yes because obviously you know

a lot of people are stuck including me or you know stuck in your beliefs but if there was a

neutral jury that like didn't have anything going into the court case, then yeah, some of them would be some of their definitely it definitely wouldn't be a unanimous decision. There'd be some doubt.
Yeah. Well, it only takes one juror.
Yeah, it wouldn't be unanimous at all, 100 to know that's all we need for that's all we need

to begin the process of destroying this old belief is reasonable doubt because you already know the cost and the consequences of this belief brings you down to a two makes you feel like shit makes you feel like a anxious wreck do you want to keep feeling like an anxious wreck no um i want want to give myself all the chances I can, you know? Yeah. I don't think, is it fair to say you have never or rarely, if not ever, walked up to a gorgeous woman feeling like you're at a 9 out of 10, just in the amazing zone? It's happened.
Okay. But it's, yeah, it has happened.
Okay. But it's definitely definitely more rare okay got it like so what we want to do is we want to put that guy in charge of approaching women put this guy in charge of your dating life i call him the higher self uh so your old belief last time i'll say it is i'm just not good looking enough to approach and attract quality women.
Let's write a new belief. And here's how it can be phrased.
I like it to be kind of the mirror opposite and have some supporting evidence that this new belief is true. So for example, my old belief was, oh, I'm just a nerdy, skinny ginger.
I'm a seven. And I'm also just kind of beta and nice.
I'm too nice and nerdy and beta. Women don't want me to attract them, approach them.
And then I saw the bullshit of that story and what it was costing me. My new belief became, you know what? I'm witty.
I'm funny. I'm pretty successful.
And a lot of, and I'm very intelligent. A lot of women love intelligent, witty men and some women like gingers.
And all of a sudden I realized, wow, not only does that new belief feel a lot better, but man, I went out and test drove it and found out it's actually true. And that's when some really good things started to happen.
See chapter one of dating sucks, but you don't. Um, um, so what new belief, um, what new belief might feel amazing if you had it.
And here's a little cheat sheet. You could start it with the phrase I am like making an identity statement.
Like I am more than enough to attract some amazing women because x y and z so you do need some supporting

evidence but i'll shut up now what are your thoughts on a new one permission to butter myself up yeah no butter yourself up like a christmas turkey um yeah i would say um I would say I'm a catch for a lot of women out there because I,

um,

I'm a catch for a lot of women out there because I'm a good conversationalist. I'm emotionally intelligent.
I have a good sense of humor and I have instincts around flirting, even if it's not polished. I have my life together and I have a good job.
I travel travel a lot I'm athletic um I you're pretty fit

yeah yeah yep okay got any abs got any muscles people can see I have a six-pack yeah you have a six-pack yeah dude talk about burying the lead you have a six-pack I don't have a six-pack I have two-liter.

Yeah.

I don't have a six pack. I have a two liter.
Yeah. I don't, you know, like you said, I've learned this.
I don't think muscles are the end all. Like there's, there's more to that.
But yeah, I would say that's, yeah, that's not even the main thing for me. I, yeah, I think I, yeah, I think I, um, dress well.
Um, I have friends and I'm like pretty good at like forming connections with people quickly. Like I've never had an issue making friends really quickly in new locations and it's different, but at the same time, like a lot of the social ability, um, can kind of carry over, especially when you kind of combine it with a good sense of humor and uh nice so i think there's some uh yeah i would i would say you're also into mountain biking and skiing you're kind of are you fair to say you're adventurous yeah rugged outdoor adventure guy yeah i think naturally and again like this part of me is like suppressed when i get into that like other state but i think i'm actually pretty ballsy and like bold when i'm able to uh get into that state more you know okay do a quick recap of some of the things you said i'm gonna give you the six or seven things you said and i want you to give me the three that feel the best to you okay make you go fuck yeah that pretty good.
You're emotionally intelligent. You have a good sense of humor.
You have a six pack, awesome friends, awesome social circle. You're a rugged outdoorsy guy who's into skiing and mountain biking, adventurous.
In other words, ballsy and bold of all the things I just said, what two or three things hit you the best that made you go? Yeah. I would say number one is like ballsy and bold.
I like that too. I'm getting a little attracted to you.
I don't usually say that on a first date with a man. Keep going.
Ballsy, bold. What else? You're crushing this.
This is great. I would say ballsy.
Yeah, it's probably the first one. I would say, um, like good social instinct and ability to connect with people is probably number two.
Um, great. And I think, um, emotionally intelligent is probably number three.
Okay. Nice.

Do you think if I was in a room with 100 women doing a poll

and I said,

ladies, put your hands up,

all of you single ladies,

everybody here who would love to meet

a man who is ballsy and bold,

has a great,

he's great at emotionally connecting,

he's emotionally intelligent.

By the way,

he loves adventure and has a six pack.

How many ladies would be interested

in hearing more?

I think a lot of hands would go up.

Yeah.

I'll see you next time. By the way, he loves adventure and has a six-pack.
How many ladies would be interested in hearing more? I think a lot of hands would go up. Yeah, I definitely think it wouldn't hurt.
Wow, boy, what a committed answer. Oh, boy.
No, it would be good, of course. Yeah, no, no, no.
I think like, no, I mean, 100%, like if I could embrace that and stuff,

like it would get my foot in the door, 100%. If I asked a rational person who wasn't.

If you kind of serve a similar purpose.

If I asked a guy who wasn't drowning in self-doubt,

do you think a rational person would say,

that sounds pretty good?

I'm fucking with you.

Yeah, I'll joke aside.

Do you feel like a lot of women want a guy who's good at emotionally connecting ballsy and bold uh has a six-pack that's a nice bonus for some women would you is that reasonable assumption yeah it's a reasonable assumption definitely so let's let's create this new belief let's get it into your system uh here's's what we're going to do. We're going to do the same exercise as before, except it's going to be a little bit, a lot different, actually.
It's going to feel a lot better. Now, it's going to be a bit out of your comfort zone, but it's going to be in a positive way.
So I'm going to ask you to stand up, assuming you can still have, do you have headphones? We can still hear you if you're standing up? Yep, A hundred percent. I'm going to ask you to stand up.
Um, I can't stand up with you cause I got to stay on this microphone here, but I'm going to do it while seated and I'm going to essentially do the same thing. Um, by the way, I want you to real quick, give yourself, I want you to give yourself a, what I call a higher self name, like a superhero name that captures the essence of how you feel in some areas of life when you're at your best.
So for example, my higher self name is Conal fucking Barrett. That's how I feel when I'm playing tennis or coaching or doing improv.
I have a client named William. He calls himself William the Conqueror.
when he's when the zone at work, he's closing a deal. He's like a finance shark.
He is a motherfucking closer. He's like William just conquered.
So think for a quick 10 second exercise here. Think about how you feel when you are crushing it on a mountain bike or swooshing down the slope skiing or any other area of life

when you're in an amazing zone what's a name you can give that version of ryan um i like yeah i would say probably like Ryan Swagger, my last name, or Ryan the Bold. Let's go Ryan the Bold.
I love it because that ties to ballsy and bold. Okay, cool.
All right, stand up, please. We're going to do these same exercises before.
This is going to feel a lot different and a lot better. So are you standing? Yep.
Great. I want you to stand in a specific way.
Stand like Ryan the Bold. Manspread.
I want a nice wide stance, athletic stance. Okay.
Stand up nice and tall. I want your back to feel like a steel rod.
Yeah. Steel rod, shoulders back.
And by the way, before we do this, do something with me here. Let's just take a, you know, we've been talking for well over an hour now.
Just do a little stretch with me. Just kind of literally stretch your arms, shoulders.
Get out of your head a little bit. Get into your body.
Okay. Take a couple deep breaths with me.
Ready? One, two, three, inhale. Exhale.
Oh, man, that feels good. Just moving around a little bit and shaking my shoulders.
One more inhale. Okay.
Cool. We want to get into our body here in a good way.

Okay, are you standing tall?

Nice wide stance?

Cool.

Now for the next 60 seconds or so, say everything I say, mirror me emotionally, and to the best of your ability, do everything I say and do.

And I know you have people around you, don't do anything that's going to get the cops called,

but at the same time, really commit to this because that's going to make it work really well.

Okay.

Okay.

Here we go.

Countdown.

Three, two, one.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

I am Ryan the Bold. I'm Ryan the bold.
Nice. I am Ryan the ballsy and bold.
Ryan the ballsy and bold. I am a great catch to lots of attractive women.
I'm a great catch to a lot of, a lot of attractive women. Try not to laugh, okay? Try to really commit to this with your voice.
You're doing great, but really try to mirror me. I'm not laughing, so don't you laugh, unless it's out of fun, not out of...
This is awkward and weird, which is probably where it's coming from, okay? But you're doing great. I am Ryan the bold.
I'm Ryan the bold. I am ballsy.
Ballsy. I have a great sense of humor.
I have a great, that's a swagger laugh. Good.
Yeah. Swagger laughs I like.
I have a great sense of humor. I am very emotionally intelligent.
I'm very emotionally intelligent. And a lot of attractive women love ballsy and bold men.
A lot of really attractive women love ballsy and bold men. Lots of nines and tens love ballsy, bold men.
Lots of tens love ballsy, bold men. The Chicago nine loved my ballsy side.
The Chicago nine loved my ballsy side. That's why she kissed me.
Why she kissed me. The Latin American I approached loved my ballsy side.
The Latin American girl I approached loved my ballsy side. Absolutely.
Selena Gomez would probably leave her man for me. She met me.
Say it. I can't say this one without laughing, man.
But you can laugh without a silliness. Just don't laugh out of self-consciousness.
Okay. Selena don't know.
Selena Gomez, she'd leave her man if she saw me. Not if she saw me.
She'd leave her man if she got to know me. Great, cool.
Let's do it again. I'm going to wrap everything up in a shorter sentence, okay? Repeat after me.
I am Ryan the Ballsy and Bold. I'm Ryan the Ballsy and Bold.
I have a six-pack. I have a six-pack.
I am a rugged outdoor adventurer. I'm riding the ballsy and bold.
I have a six pack. I have a six pack.

I am a rugged outdoor adventurer.

I'm a rugged outdoor adventurer.

And lots of women love guys like me.

Lots of women love guys like me.

Not all of them, but an abundance of them.

Not all of them, but an abundance of them.

Cool.

Let's keep it going.

Repeat after me.

I'm a great catch. I'm a great catch.

I'm a great catch.

I have a six-pack, unlike Connell, skinny, fat Connell.

I don't want to say it.

Say it.

I have a...

I'm giving you permission to fuck with me.

Say it.

I have a six-pack, unlike Connell.

I have an awesome social circle.

I have an awesome social circle. I'm really good at emotionally connecting, and women love emotional connectors.
I'm really good at emotionally connecting, and women love emotional connectors. Yeah.
Did I mention I have a six-pack, ladies? Did I mention I have a six-pack? Cool. Great.
Now let's do something fun. This might scare you, but it shouldn't.
Just for 10 seconds, I want you to go back to that lower self state. I want you to literally put a finger in your nose like the world's biggest dork in high school and repeat after me, okay? Wah.
I'm not good looking enough to approach women. Wah.
I'm not good looking enough to approach women. I'm not getting lucky in the mouth to approach women.
I'm not a model, so I have to marry an inflatable woman. I'm not a model, so I have to marry some woman I'm not attracted to.
No girls like me, except the Chicago 9. No girls like me, except that one girl.
And the girl in Latin America. And the girl in Latin America.
And all the phone numbers I got. And all the phone numbers I got.
Okay, stand up tall again. Let's finish strong, okay? I really want you to commit to this with your voice and body.
I want you to be loud and silly and goofy, and I'm going to do some character work here. I'm going to use my voice in a silly way and really lean into it, okay? I am Ryan the Bold.
I'm Ryan the Bold. I am deeply intelligent.
I'm deeply intelligent and refined. I have a good sense of humor.
I have a good sense of humor I have a good sense of humor Oh ladies, I have a six pack Do you want a drink? Oh ladies, I got a six pack You want a drink? And I have an awesome social circle Bitches I got an awesome social circle, bitches Alright, got an awesome social circle, bitches.

All right, let's finish strong.

Do this as you.

Don't do voices.

Don't even try to be like me.

Just let this come from your soul, your heart,

that side of you who comes out when you're skiing

or mountain biking feeling amazing.

Repeat after me.

I am Ryan the Bold.

I'm Ryan the Bold.

I have so much value to give some amazing women. I have so much value to give to some amazing women.
I'm ballsy, I'm adventurous, and I'm so good at emotionally connecting. I'm ballsy, I'm adventurous, and I'm so good at emotionally connecting.
And with Connell's help, and with Connell's help, I i'm gonna get devastatingly good at approaching and flirting

connell's help i'm gonna get hella good at approaching and flirting i got swagger ladies i got swagger watch out here comes ballsy bold ryan watch out here comes ballsy bold ryan let's finished with some falsetto. I am Ryan the Bold.
Motherfucker! Do it. I am Ryan the Bold.
Motherfucker! Motherfucker, here I come, motherfucker! Go. Say it.
Motherfucker, here I come! Nice. Okay.
Right now, on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being shit on my shoe, 10 feeling like Ryan the fucking Bold, what number are you right now like eight yeah you're at an eight right now yeah think about that you quadrupled your number from earlier yeah not bad eh eight you're in eight out of ten right now right now would it be a much easier than it was before to go approach a total hottie yeah a, 100%. Yeah.
Fuck yeah. Would you be more attractive to a woman, do you think, at least than you were before? Yeah, definitely.
Yeah. Listen to your voice.
Do you hear the change? Oh yeah, 100%. Oh my God.
You sound like a new man. What did we do? All we did is, I'm talking the last five minutes.
I don't mean the last 90 minutes, but all we did over the course of this coaching sesh is to get you from a two to an eight, we essentially changed your story, that limiting belief that was costing you so much and shifted your focus to something that feels so much better. And I think you at least want to believe it, even if you don't fully believe it, and that that's okay but the new story feels a lot better than the old one.
Would you agree? Yeah, it feels much better. Hell yeah.
So underneath all this I would love to believe that. Great.
We change your story and we also change your physiology, your body. Motion is emotion.
I forget who said that but it's brilliant. You can change your state by using your body, standing tall.
You stretched, you did some silly voices. You got out of your head and got into your body.
And this new belief essentially reconnected you with a promise of the worth you have to women. And this is a new belief.

And I want you to take this belief

and think of this as like the emotional fuel cell

or the engine for your dating life,

your approaching life.

Now, here's the thing about this new belief

that we just wrote.

Hold on, let me pause for 10 seconds.

I just have to text the guy.

Hold on a second.

Yeah, no problem. I also have my...
I just kind of move. We're literally two minutes away from being done, but I got to send Daniel a message.
Hold on. Yeah, one sec.
Hey, Dan, I'm still on the podcast with our boy, quote unquote, Ryan, aka Ethan. And yeah, please do me a favor.
Please text my two o'clock and tell him I'm so sorry. I'm running late, but I'll call him by two 15 Eastern.
Thank you so much for, for accommodating me, bro. Thanks.
Okay. Um, obviously I'll cut all that out.
Are you, you're back to, yeah, yeah, yeah. I hope the audio been decent.
Everything is awesome. Everything is awesome.
So back into character. So you just wrote a brand new belief that is going to make it so much easier for you to approach women.
By the way, the way you're feeling right now at a solid eight, do you feel how there's like kind of like an emotional kind of buzz, kind of like coming off you? A little swagger? Yeah, I feel like I watch, I don't know if you watch like, Conor McGregor with the strut kind of buzz, kind of like oomph coming off you? A little swagger? Yeah. I feel like I watch, I don't know if you watch like Conor McGregor with the strut, like kind of the...
I love it. Yeah.
Yeah. Maybe that's your new hire self name, Conor McGregor slash Ryan the Bold.
But the reason why I mentioned that is right now, the way you feel right now, if you approached a woman this way, you would create a lot of attraction with a reasonable number of them. Here's why.
Looks, nice bonus. Good looks are like jacuzzis.
Nice to have, but overrated. Women get tired of it.
They want to feel emotions. And you could walk up to a woman right now.
And if you're in that eight out of 10 state, a lot of women are going to get attracted to you because women are drawn to emotions first and foremost and the way men make them feel. Looks is a nice bonus, but if you don't have quote-unquote handsome Hollywood looks, then we got to do it in other ways.
The nice thing is all you got to do is get yourself in this Ryan the Bold state state okay um and the next thing i wanted to mention is god damn it i think my guy was calling me hold on okay um so women are drawn to how we make them feel as. So you could walk up to a woman right now and use a very generic kind of simple, boring opening line.
Like, Hey, what's up? I'm Ryan the bold. I just wanted to come up and say hi.
And a lot of women would get into that because they're reading your, your better posture, your louder voice, the tone of your voice, you sound like a totally

different man than when you were at a two out of 10, right?

Yeah, yeah, yeah, 100%.

And so a woman's going to read that off of you and say, I don't know what it is about

this guy, but wow, he's got charisma.

He's got confidence in himself.

And so whether if she's a woman who is open to dating a guy who is not a society nine or 10, which most women are, then you're going to have a real shot with her. And if you don't, that's fine.
Because remember, your new belief is there's an abundance, lots of women like men like you. And so what I love about the new belief that you wrote, again, I am Ryan the Bold.
I'm a great catch for a lot of women. Basically, I can approach and attract them because I'm ballsy and bold.
I'm a great at emotional connecting. Those are all part of the value proposition that a lot of women love.
Not all women. We don't need to succeed with all women.
We just want to carve out your niche. And plenty of women love ballsy, bold with six packs jobs cool mountain biking hobbies dude um again i'm getting a little into you myself um and does that make sense yeah yeah it does make sense now your new belief your new belief which feels like your new belief which feels like an eight right now great um.
Think of it like this. Your new belief is a tabletop, but it doesn't have four strong legs under it yet.
To get the tabletop to feel really strong and sturdy, in other words, for you to know in your marrow that you are super attractive to lots of women who you approach, that's going to take new evidence, new proof. You're going to have to, my old coach used to say, the brain needs proof, not just promises.
So in our coaching session today, all I can really give you is a promise. We did it together.
The proof is going to be in the pudding of you going out to meet women. But when you walk up to them and you're in that 7, 8, 9 zone, that's going to make the results so much better.
Because you're going to be talking louder, laughing, bringing so much more value to the table. And women who like men with a good sense of humor, ballsy, bold with six packs, boom.
Plus, you're just going to get amazing at flirting working with me. That'll also help.
You're going to be a flirting approaching Jedi. Great things await you.
I guess my point is if tomorrow morning you wake up and you're like, oh man, that session with Conor was good in the moment, but I feel the same again. Don't panic.
Don't worry. It's something that we'll build on.
So again, this is like a tabletop. We're going to have to put legs under it though, to make it sturdy.
Those legs are the new approaches, the new actions, the new evidence of your Ryan, the bold and ballsy awesomeness. And that's what really makes it say, go, um, Oh wow, I guess really hot,

some really hot, amazing women do like me. And then that's when you'll be, um, truly Ryan the bold with approaching, but that takes the references and the, and the, the proof makes sense, man.
It does make sense. Yeah.
Thanks so much for your time. You got it.
Any final questions about anything, Mr. Swagger, Mr.
Ballsy and Bold.

I guess the idea is um and like it sounds like what you're saying is like could i could i try to like rephrase it obviously not like everything but like please yeah do an hour uh summary but uh um it's like all these things it's like you're not going to attract everybody but you're going to have enough swagger and stuff that like maybe if those girls aren't interested you're going to be like fuck fuck it like I'm going to go talk to some other girls and then you're still going to like end up like being like flirting with some other girls at night like you know like having some other successes and it's like that stuff just doesn't like it's like you're outcome dependent you don't you don't like you have this underlying like confidence which is what i'm trying to get to yeah ultimately you want that underlying certainty in the in the worthiness and significance you have to bring to women and that they and you know a lot of them are going to see it. Not all of them, but a lot of them.
Please read chapter, the opening story that kicks off chapter, well, actually chapter one of my book and chapter four, especially chapter four, because there's an amazing story in chapter four where I approach this gorgeous woman and we hook up at a bar, at a lounge in Vegas. What I don't say in the book, just because I had to cut it for space was right before I approached this gorgeous rock chick drummer in an all girl rock band and succeeded with her, the girl before her, I approached literally 20 seconds earlier.
She said, and I quote, fuck off, Ginger. Oh, wow.
Yeah, that's a harsh blowout. I can relate.
I mean, I've had like harsh blowouts at night. Yeah.
It used to be a harsh blowout. But by then, I had really made my mindset shift.
To me, no woman has the power to make me feel less than. So that woman said, fuck off, Ginger.
Here's what I did. I immediately laughed and I turned to my right and I see this stunner standing at the bar next to me.
She's wearing a little Bart Simpson t-shirt with her tummy exposed, just gorgeous. And I went over to her.
I said, did you hear what that woman just said to me? She just said, fuck off, Ginger. Can you believe that? But I wasn't upset.
It was more like, that was a crazy, funny thing that happened in Vegas. And she was like, what? That's a mean thing to say.
But she was smiling. And basically, that was my opening line.
So I turned a seemingly harsh rejection into an approach that led me to hooking up with the single hottest woman in the venue. I'm not saying that to brag.
I guess I'm trying to underscore the idea that by then my belief in myself had become so rock solid. No woman saying fuck off, Ginger is going to hurt me because I draw my confidence from within me.
I know who I am and I know the value I bring to the table because I'm Connell fucking Barrett, baby. And you're now Ryan the Bold, or at least you're beginning to be.
So going forward in our next session, you and I are going to go deep on some fun mechanics,

the flirting moves, the escalation, basically how Ryan the Bold is going to be approaching

and bringing the value and fun and confidence to the approaching game.

Because man, once you got the mindset in place, you've got 80% of what you need to have success. So thanks for going so long and so deep today.
I know it was a long, long session, but you really stepped up. You just put basically 80% of the puzzle pieces there on the board.
We just got to snap them into place. And then we'll talk about mechanics, flirting, what to say, all that fun stuff in our next call.

Sound good?

Sound good.

Thank you so much, man.

I appreciate it.

You rock, dude.

Go take your six-pack to the gym, and I'll talk to you next time.

Sounds good.