S3 E8: Striving Is Bad for Your Health

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Speaker 1 Have you ever heard the legend of John Henry? Before I did the interview you're about to hear, the best recollection I had of the story came from a Disney short I saw like 20 years ago.

Speaker 1 In that cartoon version for kids, it's a story about the ultimate can-do man, a man with supernatural grit and determination.

Speaker 1 His story was first shared as a folktale among African Americans in the late 1800s, and then it became a song performed by black folks, and then white folk singers, about the magnificence of the steel-driving man.

Speaker 1 That's the human precursor to a jackhammer or pneumatic drill. For over a century, it's been upheld as a story emblematic of the American dream.
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Speaker 1 Have the right mindset and the rest will fall into place.

Speaker 1 Except that's not what happens in the end of the legend of John Henry, not even close. John Henry's life doesn't get better, no.

Speaker 1 The ending of the legend of John Henry is totally perplexing, so much so that scholars have argued about its meaning for almost 100 years.

Speaker 1 One of those scholars, a retired Southern black professor, Dr.

Speaker 1 Sherman James, used the story to come up with a hypothesis about why putting your mind to something and trying your very, very hardest isn't necessarily a good thing for any of us.

Speaker 1 Any of us, not just the person driving the steel.

Speaker 1 Here's how Dr. Sherman James tells the story of John Henry.

Speaker 40 According to this legend, sometime in the early 1870s, John Henry, an uneducated African-American, was working as part of a work gang, probably a group of convict laborers.

Speaker 40 And so one day, John Henry, who was reputed to be

Speaker 40 the best steel driver that the world had ever known, was challenged by his work boss to compete against a newly invented machine, mechanical steam drill.

Speaker 40 And he rose to the challenge, arguing that a man was nothing but a man, but a man was certainly better than a machine. And so this epic battle, man against machine, ensued.

Speaker 40 And after a long, long confrontation with the machine, John Henry won, but he dropped dead after his victory from complete mental and physical exhaustion.

Speaker 1 And what was that legend meant to teach us at the, or when it was created?

Speaker 40 Yeah, that's a great question. It's probably debatable as to what the legend actually signifies.

Speaker 40 The earliest work on the meaning of the legend was by an anthropologist by the name of Guy Johnson, who actually went to the area where this legendary contest was supposed to have taken place,

Speaker 40 near Talcott,

Speaker 40 West Virginia. And so he interviewed a number of Black folks and

Speaker 40 he came away with the idea that John Henry may not have actually been a real person,

Speaker 40 but that really didn't matter. Here's what he wrote in his book, John Henry, Tracking Down the Negro Legend, first published in 1929.

Speaker 40 The question of whether the John Henry legend rests on a factual basis is, after all, not of much significance.

Speaker 40 No matter which way it is answered, there remains the fact that the legend itself is a reality, a a living, functioning thing in the folk life of the Negro.

Speaker 40 So the legend had this large meaning in the lives of working-class African Americans who felt that it sort of signified the triumph of the spirit of Black people.

Speaker 40 So it was, you know, standing up to power and refusing to back down and winning, even at a very high cost. Now,

Speaker 40 in 2006,

Speaker 40 historian Scott Nelson wrote this really interesting book, Steel Driving Man, The Untold Story of John Henry. And it's a wonderful piece of historical research.

Speaker 40 Scott Nelson concluded after extensive archival research that John Henry was probably a real person

Speaker 40 and not necessarily necessarily

Speaker 40 a freed slave. Maybe he was born in New Jersey and he worked his way south shortly after the Civil War looking for job opportunities and he got caught up in the Black codes.

Speaker 40 But actually he was accused of petty larceny and was tried and convicted and thrown into

Speaker 40 jail, a very long prison term, and wound up working as part of a work gang on the Chesapeake and Ohio Railroad, and then was exposed to all of the toxic dust that men who carved out tunnels and mountains were exposed to.

Speaker 40 And he probably died of what we might call coal miners' disease. So that in a sense then, he was a, you know, the legendary John Henry

Speaker 40 was the victim of sort of the first. the first wave of mass incarceration of black people.

Speaker 40 So Scott Nelson concluded that the meaning of the story for everyday Black folks, it was like a cautionary tale. Don't let this happen to you.

Speaker 40 Run away as fast as you can. Don't get caught up in this system.

Speaker 40 So we have these, I'm going to say competing versions of

Speaker 40 what the legend means.

Speaker 40 For me, I sort of lean more toward the former,

Speaker 40 because I think it really taps more it taps more more

Speaker 40 more deeply more authentically into the

Speaker 40 into the spirit you know of of black americans to confront adversity to not give up on their dreams to succeed you know against the odds um so it's more of a of a fight, if you will, kind of response than a flight kind of response.

Speaker 40 And then, of course, I think that there are both rewards and costs associated with engaging in that kind of fight response.

Speaker 1 So with this story in the back of his mind, Dr. James headed off to college and became a professor of epidemiology at UNC Chapel Hill.
He studied diseases and their causes.

Speaker 1 And he decided to look at the problem of high blood pressure in black men in eastern North Carolina.

Speaker 1 He said he chose this population because they were unlikely to regularly go to the doctor and very likely to die of heart attack and stroke, the end result of a life with high blood pressure or hypertension.

Speaker 40 And so a physician colleague of mine gave me the names of six of his black male patients whom I could interview. So I drove about

Speaker 40 55 miles north of Cape Lehill to a farm

Speaker 40 in Alamance County to speak to a man by the name of Mr. John Martin.
And he was retired. He was 71 years of age at the time.
He was waiting for me in his backyard. It was mid-July, very hot.

Speaker 40 So I welcomed me warmly, invited me to sit next to him in a chair under a big tree.

Speaker 40 And we just started talking. And he began to tell me his life story.
It was a phenomenal story. Born into a sharecropper family in 1907.

Speaker 40 His father was, of course, uneducated and could never get out of debt because the sharecropper system was designed to keep, particularly black sharecroppers, perpetually in debt. And so when

Speaker 40 John Martin, Mr. John Martin, was

Speaker 40 probably an early adolescent and he saw

Speaker 40 how his father just fretted and hard he worked and he could just never get ahead. He vowed that that would not be his fate.
Under no circumstances would he be caught up in that kind of exploitative

Speaker 40 system.

Speaker 40 So some years later, when he became a young man, got married, and he was a sharecropper himself because he had to drop out of school in the second grade in order to help out on the farm.

Speaker 40 His wife's brother

Speaker 40 was a landowner, an independent landowner, and

Speaker 40 his wife also came from a family that owned their own land. And so both of them, his wife and his brother-in-law, prevailed upon him to

Speaker 40 take the risk and go to the bank and get a loan and buy his own property.

Speaker 40 So with some considerable reluctance,

Speaker 40 he did. And he got a mortgage, a 40-year mortgage, to purchase 75 acres of fertile North Carolina farmland.
And

Speaker 40 he always had this sort of deep sense of vulnerability to powerful forces because he saw what had happened to his father and

Speaker 40 by working literally night and day uh for you know six days a week um

Speaker 40 uh he he with a lot of help from his wife managed to pay it off in five years a huge accomplishment and so then he uh

Speaker 40 turned to me and he said i think that's the reason why my legs are all out of whack

Speaker 40 I pushed myself too hard in the fields. Now, I knew that he had high blood pressure, and he had two canes

Speaker 40 that were leaning against the chair in which he was sitting. So he was suffering from a very severe case of osteoarthritis.

Speaker 40 And in the course of telling me about his life story, he also told me that in his mid-50s or so, he had to go to the hospital and have 40% of his stomach removed because he had a very serious case of peptic ulcers.

Speaker 1 Oh my gosh.

Speaker 40 Yeah, so he had these three major diseases that had a huge stress component.

Speaker 1 Stress component, meaning these diseases that can be caused or triggered by stress.

Speaker 40 Yeah, that stress plays a role. So he'd been talking for maybe a couple of hours and

Speaker 40 his wife

Speaker 40 came to the door and she

Speaker 40 said, John Henry, it's time for lunch and

Speaker 40 bring your guests with you. So I looked at him and I said, your name is John Henry.
And he said, yeah, John Henry Martin.

Speaker 40 And I thought, just like the legendary John Henry went up against the machine, and in the case of John Henry Martin, the machine was the sharecropper system,

Speaker 40 which he beat.

Speaker 40 He won his struggle against

Speaker 40 the machine, the economic machine that was the sharecropper system, but he paid a price.

Speaker 40 I began to think, well, maybe there's something here, you know, maybe there's something here,

Speaker 40 because

Speaker 40 his story reminded me,

Speaker 40 John Henry Martin's story reminded me a lot of the story of my parents, the story of my grandparents.

Speaker 40 My grandfathers, on both my mother's side and my father's side, were shackrobbers. So I could identify with what John Henry Henry Martin was telling me.
And I thought, his story is not just his story.

Speaker 40 This is really the story of black people, black people in America, having to go up against these very powerful political and economic forces, these systems, these institutions that are in place.

Speaker 40 to keep black people subjugated and forcing them to have to work extremely hard in order to make ends meet and in order to try to move ahead.

Speaker 40 So that really led then to the John Dehinderson hypothesis that maybe that's the explanation for why we see so much high blood pressure and strokes and heart attacks that affect African Americans, particularly working class African Americans, fairly early in adult life.

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Speaker 40 And so I came up with 12 questions

Speaker 40 that constitute the John Henry's

Speaker 40 scale for active coping or high effort coping. And

Speaker 40 I can give you, if you wish, a couple of sample questions. Yes.

Speaker 40 So here's the first question.

Speaker 40 When things don't go the way I want them to, that just makes me work even harder. Now, the response options are strongly agree, somewhat agree, don't know, somewhat disagree, strongly disagree.

Speaker 40 So here's the second question.

Speaker 40 Once I make up my mind to do something, I stay with it until the job is completely

Speaker 40 So, you know, the remaining questions continue to work this theme of tenacity, persistence, not giving up. So that's the John Henryism scale.

Speaker 1 And guess what? His hunch was right. He found a very strong correlation between scoring high on the John Henryism scale and having hypertension.

Speaker 1 and all of its attendant problems like stroke and heart attack. The more these men strived for excellence, the sicker they became and the shorter they lived.
And contrary to what Dr.

Speaker 1 James and his colleagues speculated, the link was there even for those who had already moved up the socioeconomic ladder, who had achieved success and stability and were aiming to achieve even more, as we all do.

Speaker 40 This was very surprising to us. I can't emphasize that enough.
So, this is the late 1980s, when at the time,

Speaker 40 there had been very little epidemiological research

Speaker 40 the health of middle-class black people. And we sort of expected to see that, oh, they will be doing so much better than their working class counterparts, right?

Speaker 40 We're talking about the post-civil rights movement,

Speaker 40 folks who came of age in the 1960s, who benefited from the 1964

Speaker 40 Civil Rights Act, 1965, the civil rights legislation. And now they were moving into these white spaces

Speaker 40 from which

Speaker 40 Black folks had, for the most part, been excluded. There may be a lot of physiological wear and tear that attends

Speaker 40 going up against taking on these

Speaker 40 intrinsic, shape-shifting

Speaker 40 institutional constraints against upward social mobility.

Speaker 1 That's wild.

Speaker 1 I mean, I understand it. I understand it, but

Speaker 40 yeah.

Speaker 40 I mean, obviously very disturbing, right? A very disturbing finding.

Speaker 40 So what so what the data are telling us, what these data are telling us, and again, I want to emphasize that this is not just one study,

Speaker 40 but there are multiple studies that have shown this effect. What this is telling us is that successful upward mobility in America

Speaker 40 for people of color, not just Black Americans, but for people of color, comes with a price. Just like we saw in the story of John Henry Martin.

Speaker 40 He achieved, there was upward social mobility, he became a landowner, he became an independent farmer. He had some wealth, but he paid a price.

Speaker 1 I kept wondering how Dr. James's findings extended to women.

Speaker 1 At the end of one popular version of the John Henry song, the story goes on to talk about his widow, Polly Ann, who just picked up John Henry's hammer and went right on driving steel in his place.

Speaker 1 So I spoke to a professor at the University of Michigan's School of Public Health, Dr. Arlene Geronimus.

Speaker 45 My area of study is health inequity.

Speaker 1 Okay, tell me more about that. I think that's something we all want to know a lot about right now.

Speaker 45 Yes, which is interesting to me because 30 years ago, people weren't that interested.

Speaker 1 Dr. Geronimus began her research into health inequity back in the 70s in a school for pregnant teen moms.

Speaker 1 She had a hunch about teen pregnancy and the way we thought about it, that it wasn't the very worst thing to ever happen to someone, and it wasn't nearly as negatively impactful on people's lives as other larger forces in society.

Speaker 1 It wasn't the root of all evil.

Speaker 1 But in observing the poorer moms or the moms of color, she did notice that they often had health problems that usually don't appear until much later in life, problems that had nothing to do with being pregnant.

Speaker 1 What was going on?

Speaker 45 Well, I came to this theory I've now pursued for all these decades, which I called weathering, which was the idea that if you're part of a denigrated group, you're both exposed to more assaults that wear down your health at earlier ages.

Speaker 45 And so that's weathering as in a rock being, you know, weathered by wind and rain over centuries.

Speaker 45 But you're also, and this, you know, this is what I had seen initially in the school for pregnant moms, you're also weathering in the sense that you're having to, and this actually relates a lot to some of the concepts in Sherman James's work.

Speaker 45 having to expend so much effort and coping with all the things you're exposed to because you're still trying to withstand the storm. You're trying to survive it.

Speaker 45 You're trying to even overcome it or help overcome it for the next generation. If we're talking about racism and poverty,

Speaker 45 that keeps you chronically stressed, even while you're sleeping.

Speaker 45 It's not something you can just say, let me meditate or let me try to reframe the situation. Let me smile and put on my high heels and pretty dress, feel positive.

Speaker 45 These are things that are happening day in and day out.

Speaker 45 And they're happening to you and they're happening as you, as I said, work very positively and assertively and proactively to survive and withstand them.

Speaker 45 And I've come to believe, you know, some of that is just objective things in your environment. You know, meditating isn't going to help you deal with environmental toxicity.

Speaker 46 Right.

Speaker 45 Meditating isn't going to help you deal with the fact in order to feed your children, given that the value of real wages, which was never very high in the lower rungs, has gotten even less,

Speaker 45 means you have to do two or three jobs or take night shift jobs that impinge on your sleep, or that you don't have a car, so you're relying on really bad public transportation.

Speaker 45 to try and get to your various jobs. You're also juggling how do you get your kids to school? How do you have them taken care of when they're home?

Speaker 45 At the same time, you don't have any control over the hours you work.

Speaker 45 So, there's just this endless coping that is kind of psycho, I might call it psychosocial.

Speaker 45 And what I've come to understand, and what I think goes beyond a lot of how people think about stress, besides that, it's not just this individual thing you can manage or control,

Speaker 45 is that a very big part of what sets off all those stress reactions in your body, the cortisol and all of that, is

Speaker 45 that we all, as human beings, need to

Speaker 45 have a sense of how safe we are in any particular situation.

Speaker 45 And safe can mean literally life or death safe, or it can mean, are we somewhere where we can be authentic, where we will be treated fairly?

Speaker 45 So it can mean things short of that life or death, or it could mean, you know, the intersection of them, such as if you're a black person stopped by a police officer.

Speaker 45 That's both something that you worry is unsafe and it could be life-threatening.

Speaker 45 Also, so

Speaker 45 we set off these stress reactions that people kind of vernacularly know as fight or flight. But if you think about what happens when you set them off, you start to see how your health wears down early

Speaker 45 along the very things that cause

Speaker 45 the health inequities by race and class in the United States.

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Speaker 1 I think when you were talking about the like, you know, having so many jobs and not sleeping and taking public transportation and all of that, I feel like

Speaker 1 for

Speaker 1 a large part of our society in America anyway, those are the actually the answers. Those are the solves, right? Like get another, work harder.

Speaker 1 If you don't have a car, take the bus. It's like, just change your attitude, you know, be more positive, like be optimistic and have a better, a better mindset.

Speaker 45 What I've seen is in the very same populations who weather, I've never seen more resilient people who keep going on in the face of adversity and who can be very optimistic and who have all these sayings and support from, you know, the people they're in networks with or their loved ones about, you know, take one foot forward or, you know, keep on, keeping on.

Speaker 45 But given that I've seen how optimistic

Speaker 45 and what a good attitude by, you know, by some measures

Speaker 45 people in these communities have,

Speaker 45 and they still get so sick, it certainly doesn't seem to me that that's much good evidence that being optimistic or you know, having grit or being resilient or making the best of bad situations is what's going to make you healthy.

Speaker 45 It certainly hasn't worked in these circumstances.

Speaker 45 You know, you'd have to, people would have to, they'd have to accept how inequitably structured our world is and that they didn't really earn their right to have vacations

Speaker 45 and time off for yoga and me time.

Speaker 45 Where you get your me time when you're raising kids and working night shifts and then working another shift in the day and then trying to figure out do you pay your electricity bill or not?

Speaker 45 Do you fight with your landlord that he hasn't fixed the heater in your building? And you have to make these decisions all the time.

Speaker 45 Yeah, and then you're also being told you don't work hard, you don't have future orientation,

Speaker 45 you're not a good person, you had your children too young, which just proves you aren't a good person.

Speaker 45 If you just really, you know, pulled yourself up by your bootstraps, you'd get all the same things we got.

Speaker 45 Those are

Speaker 45 stressful things to work against, too.

Speaker 1 I wish I could say that these findings shocked me, but instead they affirmed a feeling I've been having about the self-improvement woo-woo coachie world.

Speaker 1 There's just something really privileged and tone-deaf about the idea of picking yourself up by your bootstraps.

Speaker 1 An idea we've heaped upon people of color in this country, I think, to absolve white people of having to do any hard work to help their fellow man.

Speaker 1 An idea that we've gifted white people, convincing us we've earned everything we have. An idea designed to keep those in power in power, while blaming people we oppress for their powerlessness.

Speaker 1 The mindset stuff from Napoleon Hill, the individual responsibility of the unemployed folks in Texas, Ray Higdon's insistence that you just need to defy your negative feelings to overcome adversity.

Speaker 1 These are all just distractions from the larger forces that make it harder for so many people to rise in this country. Things like racism and sexism and all the isms I'm constantly banging on about.

Speaker 1 Despite what these pitch men might say, you cannot think yourself out of being the only woman in a business meeting, believe me, I've tried.

Speaker 1 There are people, groups of people, for whom this think and grow rich stuff is just plainly detrimental, and that it's bad for society on the whole.

Speaker 1 When entire enormous communities suffer in an effort to not suffer, we all suffer.

Speaker 1 I want to put you in a room with Tony Robbins while he's like screaming about how, you know, this like rugged individualism and your mindset just needs to overcome stuff.

Speaker 40 No, it's more complicated. It's more complicated.
These motivational speakers have figured something out, right?

Speaker 40 You know, how to um speak to the aspirations of people and

Speaker 40 how to connect

Speaker 40 their shtick

Speaker 40 with um

Speaker 40 the american dream

Speaker 40 and and you know we americans um

Speaker 40 you know our our mind is conditioned right to think about our country as a place where hard work pays off. I mean,

Speaker 40 all of us have internalized to some degree that notion, that aspiration. They have been sold the American dream.
A lot of us have been sold the American dream.

Speaker 40 This is where I want to give them some grace, if I may put it that way. What they don't know is the kind of thing that you and I have been talking about.

Speaker 40 They really don't know

Speaker 40 the physiological costs associated with this. Now, the question, for me, the the question becomes, what would they say if they knew? How would it change

Speaker 40 their message? How would it change what they say to people if they knew? But they don't know. And of course,

Speaker 40 it's a very powerful dream, isn't it?

Speaker 40 I mean, I mean, what a wonderful idea the American dream is. I mean, it's a powerful idea.
It attracts... it has attracted people from all over the world, you know, in search of opportunities

Speaker 40 to be freer than,

Speaker 40 you know, they're able to be free in their home countries, to

Speaker 40 realize their potential,

Speaker 40 to be safe

Speaker 40 from harm, to be successful economically, to gain wealth, to pass something on to the next generation, to make it easier for the next generation to live their lives and have been the case for them.

Speaker 40 There's nothing wrong with the dream, but it's a dream. The problem is the problem is

Speaker 40 um

Speaker 40 and you mentioned this you know earlier the um you know the recognitive individualism that is such a a core uh attribute of american culture the the notion that um

Speaker 40 that america that the united states is a meritocracy i was just going to say yeah the meritocracy thing yeah yeah that you deserve what you get and you get what you deserve right And that, yeah, in the end, it's really up to you.

Speaker 40 So don't ask me, you know, to pay higher taxes so that, you know, opportunity, so that the opportunity structure can be expanded and we can have some social safety nets that will make your striving to be successful less costly.

Speaker 40 And other countries have in place much stronger social safety nets, such that the kind of upper mobility striving, the kind of

Speaker 40 desire, you know, for self-realization to realize your potential, to you know, to live a life that is meaningful and satisfying, does not come with it.

Speaker 40 The pursuit of it, of that kind of life, does not come with an unnecessary cost to your health. And that is one of the things that distinguishes our country from other

Speaker 40 rich countries in the world.

Speaker 40 One could argue that that is the most distinguishing factor that distinguishes the United States of America from our peer countries

Speaker 40 elsewhere in the world.

Speaker 40 It's very sobering, but it's important to know

Speaker 40 that this phenomenon exists. And now that we know it, and we have to keep, you know, have to keep talking about it, we have to engage in educating the public of course there'll be the skeptics

Speaker 40 but we have to we have to do our best certainly to educate policy makers and and advocate you know for social and economic policies that make um urban mobility striving less costly

Speaker 1 We're going to leave you today with a version of John Henry sung by the civil rights activist Harry Belafonte, who died this year. Enjoy.

Speaker 41 John Henry, he could hammer. He could whistle, he could sing.

Speaker 41 Went to the mountain early in the morning just to hear his hammer ring, Lord, Lord, just to hear his hammer ring.

Speaker 41 And just to hear his hammer ring, Lord, Lord, just to hear his hammer ring.

Speaker 41 When John Henry was a little baby, sitting on his daddy's knee, picked up a hammer and a little piece of steel, said, Hammer will be the death of me, Lord God. Yes, Ham will be the death of me.

Speaker 41 Yes, Ham will be the death of me, Lord Lord. Yes, Ham will be the death of me.

Speaker 41 Well, John Henry's family needed money, said he didn't have but a dime. If you wait till the rising sun goes down, I'll get it from the men in the mine, Lord Lord.

Speaker 41 I'll get it from the men in the mine.

Speaker 41 I'll get it from the men in the mine, Lord Lord. I'll get it from the men in the mine.
Well, the captain said to John Henry, John Henry, what can you do?

Speaker 41 I can hoist a jack, I can lay a track, I can pick and shovel too, Lord God, I can pick and shovel too.

Speaker 41 I can pick and shovel too, Lord Lordie, I can pick and shovel too.

Speaker 41 Well, John Henry said to the captain, oh, man ain't nothing but a man.

Speaker 41 But let your steedrill beat me down. Well, I'll die with the hammer in my hand, Lord God.
I'll die with the hammer in my hand. Yes, I'll die with the hammer in my hand, Lord.

Speaker 41 Lord, I'll die with the hammer in my hand. Well, the captain said to John Henry, I'm going to bring me a steam drill round.

Speaker 41 Gonna bring me a steam drill out on the job. Gonna wha that steel on down, Lord, Lord, gon' whah that steel on down.

Speaker 41 I'm gonna whoop that steel on down, Lord. Lord, he gon' whoop that steel on down.

Speaker 41 Well, John Henry said to his shaker, Shaker, what don't you sing? Throwing 15 pounds from my hips on down. Listen to the cold steel ring, Lord, Lord.
Yes, listen to the cold steel ring.

Speaker 41 Oh, listen to the cold steel ring, Lord. I lordy, won't you listen to the cold steel ring? Well, the man who invented the steam drill thought he was mighty fine.

Speaker 41 John Henry drove his 15 feet and the steam drill only made nine Lord Lord. Steam drill only made nine.

Speaker 41 Yes, the steam drill only made nine, Lord Lord. The steam drill only made nine.
Well, the captain said to John Henry, all your mountains sinking in.

Speaker 41 John Henry said to the captain, oh my ain't nothing but my hammer sucking wind, Lord Lord. Nothing but my hammer sucking wind.

Speaker 41 Ain't nothing but my hammer sucking wind, Lordy, Lordy, ain't nothing but my hammer sucking wind. Well, John Henry said to the captain, look beyond what I see.

Speaker 41 Hold on, choke, you drill done, broke, and you can't drive steel like me. Lord, Lord, can't drive steel like me.

Speaker 41 Oh, you can't drive steel like me. No, no, you can't drive steel like me.

Speaker 41 Well, John Henry drove into the mountain.

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Speaker 41 Well, the people took John Henry to the White House and they buried him in the sand.

Speaker 41 Every locomotive come roaring by says, There lies a steel-driving man, Lord God. Yes, there lies a steel-driving man.

Speaker 41 Yes, there lies a steel-driving man.

Speaker 41 There lies a steel-driving man.

Speaker 41 Yes, there lies a steel-driving man, Lord Lord. Yes, there lies a steel-driving man.

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