Unf*ck Your Sex Life: The Bedroom Truth Every Entrepreneur Needs | Jennelle Gordon | EP 74

Speaker 1 Sometimes women at night, they sort of come out. Now they might be tired, but their sexual energy,

Speaker 1 prowess, comes out. And even if you think of strip clubs, it's at nighttime, right? That most of the time they're filled.
Right. Why is that?

Speaker 1 Yeah, you're off work and stuff like that, but it's like that energy is like alive and it's dark. There's never like bright lights like this in strip clubs, right?

Speaker 1 So for men and women to have that sexual exchange,

Speaker 1 it is better for men because you're the performer in sex. And I get a lot of flack for this, but women, yes, they do have a part in sex.
But for the mechanics of sex, it's mostly men.

Speaker 1 What is up, entrepreneur DNA family? I am back with a very special guest.

Speaker 1 Men, if you've been watching this and listening to this podcast for some time, you know I typically have a lot of strong male figures, entrepreneurs making a lot of money, moving in direction of success.

Speaker 1 Well, today, slightly different. I I have a very strong female on here who focuses heavily on how to actually live a great life, feel good, and unfuck your sex life.
You heard it here first.

Speaker 1 Her new book just came out. Janelle Gordon is here.
How are you? I love this. I'm so happy to be here all the way from Newport Beach.
Yeah.

Speaker 1 It was meant to be. It was meant to be.
I love being around

Speaker 1 divine masculine presence, which is what we call Shiva energy. And

Speaker 1 there's some of it in our mastermind group. I don't know if there's a lot of it, but there's some, but I recognize it.
And when a woman is around that, she's able to soften and be more feminine.

Speaker 1 So it's nice. I want to applaud you for being that, you know, for your wife and your community, because we need more men like you.
Well, I appreciate that. Yeah.

Speaker 1 Well, let's get into what I think the guys, guys, you're going to want to pay attention to this because this is for us, by the way, okay? This is definitely going to be for us.

Speaker 1 She has a great book, by the way, you might want to get either for yourself or for your significant other. Make sure you get this book, Unfuck Your Sex Life, Janelle Gordon.

Speaker 1 But let's talk about us entrepreneurs. We run very fast.
We're heavily goal-oriented. We want to provide.
We want to have the female. We want to have the family.

Speaker 1 Talk to the man about what it really takes from your perspective to get that type of woman. You know, I think that this is something that we all

Speaker 1 as men, what I'm speaking for y'all, as men, we all sort of have a vision for our life, right? And a man without a vision is lost, right? A man without a purpose is lost.

Speaker 1 And in most men's purpose, there's sort of an

Speaker 1 like a triangle or a archetype of not archetypes, not the word I'm looking for, like a structure, if you will. And it's typically a higher power God at the top themselves.

Speaker 1 And then underneath or slightly sort of vacillating by their side, but a little bit underneath. I think that is the problem with a lot of us

Speaker 1 relationships today for women is a woman, right? Women, men really want this. They want a woman who can come and support them, not be a slave, but support them while they lead them, right?

Speaker 1 And while this person maybe, if they want a legacy, create raises children for them and supports them, not financially, but just is a feminine, nurturing, sometimes emotional support for him as he's building and creating his empire and legacy.

Speaker 1 Can you agree with that? Yeah, well, what do you feel about, you know,

Speaker 1 the super, I don't know how to name it, but like the super masculine male type, right? Who is like, I'm the fucking man.

Speaker 1 And whether you cuss or not, but it's more about that like over-the-top dominating man-female dichotomy that like, it's my world, it's my house, I create, and you're here to support.

Speaker 1 Is that still, that was in favor for some time?

Speaker 1 Like the 50s,

Speaker 1 kind of that 60s, even then 70s, like the sexual revolution starts happening. You know, I think that,

Speaker 1 I think that anything, and my work is from the tantric practice. So everything is about balancing, right? Yeah.
Balancing sexual energy, balancing sexual polarity. Why?

Speaker 1 Because it's the first thing to go. So it's very fucking important.

Speaker 1 Even though now people are like, oh, you need someone with, you know, who's nice and raises your children. Yeah, you need all those things.

Speaker 1 But if you actually want to fuck your wife, you need someone that you're attracted to. Otherwise, you're just going to go get an escort.

Speaker 1 So, and I don't like that if we don't have to do that, right? So I think that

Speaker 1 those

Speaker 1 trad values, if you will, they call them right, traditional values were set in place because you're a successful entrepreneur. You understand that every business you've ever run has what?

Speaker 1 Sort of a hierarchy, right? There's the CEOs, there's the CFOs, there's the CM, there's all these things, right? And they all sort of answer to one person, or if it's larger, a board.

Speaker 1 But ultimately, there's always an agreement that has to be made, right?

Speaker 1 So in relationships, it's really no different.

Speaker 1 I think that there's been an imbalance, if you will, where some men have taken that a little maybe extreme, right?

Speaker 1 Because, and I don't think it's their fault. I think it's the modern feminist movement where now we have women who are making more money than you even.

Speaker 1 Some women who are making more than most men.

Speaker 1 they're um single they're unwed they don't have children and then they're like why am i gonna submit to you boo do you see what i'm saying yeah they're they're they're trying to basically say i don't need you i don't but then there's that clash then right because then the guys need to say well i need you and then she says i don't need you and then you have and then no harmony for a man it's really actually devastating

Speaker 1 to not be needed

Speaker 1 by his shakti by his woman yeah because women, we just now had this thing where we went like this, and now we're making more, we're earning more, we can, you know, save our eggs if we want, we can have a kid later with no one, or we, most women are now opting not to.

Speaker 1 They're polling that single women are the happiest women, you know,

Speaker 1 in their demographic as far as women, single, married, whatever, right? Yeah. So

Speaker 1 I think now we have this push-pull where it's like,

Speaker 1 well, we have these men who want to be needed. They want to provide.
They want to protect. They want to preserve their legacy.
And they want to pleasure their woman.

Speaker 1 But you have a woman who's like, I don't need that now. I can pleasure myself.
I'm providing for myself, protecting whatever. I'll get a camera and a gun, whatever the case may be, right?

Speaker 1 So it's like you're not needed anymore.

Speaker 1 And then when that happens, I think sometimes there's like a power struggle where men are feeling like, well, maybe if I just exude this, like, I don't like that word, toxic masculinity, because I don't think that masculinity is toxic, but I think maybe an overuse of power, I think is how you worded it.

Speaker 1 Then that can damage it. And then women are like, I'm not signing up for that.
What are you talking about?

Speaker 1 So we're at this impasse now, right? Well, someone's got to give. Who's got to give? Who's going to do it?

Speaker 1 And I think that's where the open communication, like for my perspective, my communication with my wife at least is whatever you want to do, I'm going to go support that.

Speaker 1 So if you want to be the powerful female and go work and make a bunch of money, I'm going to support that. In the same way, she actually is chosen the other side.

Speaker 1 She actually wants to be a stay-at-home mom by choice and be with the kids and raise our children her way in our way versus not.

Speaker 1 And how, and how is, and so for, for, for you, I mean, you got lucky, if you will, in a sense that you have someone who wants to be hands-on with the children.

Speaker 1 And we know that there's so much fuckery going on with kids and trafficking and DS and BS. you know, diddies of the world, if you will.

Speaker 1 So it's like, if you know that your kids are with your wife, then you're not worrying about that.

Speaker 1 You can focus on what you need to do in your business and handling your team and all these things and creating and creating your,

Speaker 1 you're leaving your mark in this world. But I think for many men, the women, that's not what they want to do.
Not maybe they want to be out there too.

Speaker 1 So I think, you know, you did say, yeah, I will support you in anything you do, but

Speaker 1 how hard is it really? Because there's this like, do I want another man telling my wife what to do if she's in the workfield, right? Sure.

Speaker 1 You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 1 I see the polarity. I would say, I don't think there's an easy because it is also not easy to come home to a wife who's exhausted.
Kids take it. Like, I could never do what my wife does.

Speaker 1 I am very clear. I am back to all of you.

Speaker 1 I know her job is infinitely harder than mine. Not even close, not comparable.
If you're watching this,

Speaker 1 your job is way harder. I know that, though.
Because even when I'm with these kids for a couple hours and I'm like, oh, she does this all day long.

Speaker 1 long the time right yeah and so i'm very aware her job's infinitely harder so there's there's not an easy route no matter what you go right because then i get home she's exhausted she's exhausted she wants a break which is fine and then i get to see my kids so i'm not against playing with my kids yes but then i basically go from one job to immediately going into being a parent right so yes we have no downtime like in

Speaker 1 you guys to build your intimacy right and so we do it in a very good strategic way in my opinion is because we always have a a pretty strict bedtime for the kids. Yes.

Speaker 1 So that allows us to like give us our time. And now I'll touch on that because for when you talk about like you're tired, you come home and then you're playing with the kids.

Speaker 1 And then it's like she gets a little reprise and, but she's probably kicking dinner at that point. I don't know if you have like.

Speaker 1 No, she's already doing the next thing, whether it's laundry or she's kidding you or whatever.

Speaker 1 It's still like. I have someone who comes and helps, but I'm still doing shit all the time.
All the time. Yeah.
So it's just like, and for a woman, you know, our job,

Speaker 1 it's naturally in this, if you're a hormonally balanced woman who's healthy, who's never been on a bunch of birth, you know, like you're, you want to nurture and provide.

Speaker 1 And like when I people come over, it's just like, I'm like, okay, well, I'm going to clean this. I'm going to do this.
I'm going to do this.

Speaker 1 And I don't just sit, you know, he's like, I don't want to sit. I want to make sure everyone's okay.
Yeah. So I think even if you do have abundant resources, you have help.

Speaker 1 It's still like this thing where it's like, okay, there's something else to do. I need to.

Speaker 1 And so where that's not always great for intimacy, and I think that for sexual intimacy, if you will, and just intimacy as well, it's you've got to create like different rules for how you have sex and how you connect.

Speaker 1 Because for men, actually, it's not great to have sex at night.

Speaker 1 How I explain that, I know we don't have tons of time, we'll have to do a part two, but is basically there's different kinds of, you're familiar with energy, right?

Speaker 1 Understand, do you understand like the basis of the chakras and energy and the elements using basics because i'm from california so i definitely have that woo-woo side of me for sure then you understand yeah we're speaking our same language but basically there's masculine and feminine energy and they correlate to different elements in the universe and so for the the masculine energy we sort of call that shiva energy and the feminine we call it shakti you could call it Elvis and Marilyn, whatever.

Speaker 1 It's just we put names on things because when we're dealing with things we can't see, energy and metaphysics, we want to have to naming it. It's like math.

Speaker 1 I don't really get math, but they have all these, you smile. Do you like math?

Speaker 1 I don't like math. But you understand like how, yeah.
So we have to give it, we have to call it something.

Speaker 1 So basically, when you think of the male energy, the Shiva energy, the sun rules that energy, the daytime.

Speaker 1 There's a reason why you wake up and you have morning wood, right? Yeah. Why? I wonder why.
Oh my gosh, because I have to tell my wife all the time, I'd rather go morning than at night. night.

Speaker 1 Correct. Correct.
Because you're ready.

Speaker 1 So what we call this, it's vital energy. So your body has literally produced all the energy that you need to get and maintain a strong erection.
You're just rested.

Speaker 1 For men, to get an erection, it's mental. And you have to be relaxed.
And so when you wake up. After sleeping, you're pretty what? Relaxed, right?

Speaker 1 It's not like you've been out in the day, out in the workfield talking to employees, just in traffic. No, you're just ready to go.

Speaker 1 And so, but for women, it's the antithesis of that because we're creatures of the moon because you guys have the sun. So Shakti is the moon or the night energies.

Speaker 1 And that's why sometimes women at night, they sort of come out. Now they might be tired, but their sexual energy,

Speaker 1 their prowess,

Speaker 1 did I say that word?

Speaker 1 Prowess. Prowess comes out.
And even if you think of strip clubs, it's at nighttime, right? That most of the time they're filled.

Speaker 1 Why is that? Yeah, you're off work and stuff like that, but it's like that energy is like alive and it's dark. There's never like bright lights like this in strip clubs, right?

Speaker 1 So for men and women to have that sexual exchange, it is better for men because you're the performer in sex. And I get a lot of flack for this, but women, yes, they do have.

Speaker 1 a part in sex but for the mechanics of sex it's mostly men and you guys have the hard work to do you have to get an erection.

Speaker 1 You have to be relaxed enough to actually get the erection, to relax enough to keep the erection going long enough to sustain more than five minutes, which is what the average man lasts today.

Speaker 1 And then you have to make sure that worry about if she's going to have a chance of climaxing, which we know that most women are not. So it's like all this pressure.

Speaker 1 And so the best time for you is in the morning. Yeah.
So I think this is where we have the struggle.

Speaker 1 How do we navigate this? And yes, for you, for men, it is better at night or in the morning, rather. So it's like, we got to rearrange the schedule a little bit, right? We have to sort of have a, um,

Speaker 1 uh, what is the word when you're talking about like a compromise where men, maybe you're having sex in the morning, maybe at night, women, you're having a more intimate night where you're not putting forth effort, if you will.

Speaker 1 Like maybe you're doing oral or doing something else or just yab yum, which is what we do.

Speaker 1 on the cover of my book you know this posture which is very intimate right yeah but there's no sex so does that make sense i mean it can lead to that but yeah

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Speaker 1 Well, I think the reason why I think this episode is so needed for men is because you're giving us a perspective that we may need to hear, not heard, right?

Speaker 1 If we're all a bunch of dudes talking, oh, yeah, you got to give it to her like this, or this is when, and this is how it goes. But really, we're not listening to your side of the table.

Speaker 1 And then that advice isn't very good. Yeah.
But, you know, men want to know how they can have, I know all men want to know this.

Speaker 1 How can me and my wife fuck more all men want to know that there's not one listener watching that don't want to know that yeah you know i think that's a great question because a lot of times i hear how to last longer but how to have more sex and you hit on something very powerful because we know that once you get married your sex diminishes um they they pulled married couples they're having sex approximately one to two times a week at best, but in worst cases, it was once a month.

Speaker 1 Can you imagine

Speaker 1 you're having sex

Speaker 1 from average couples once a week, but for the tough ones is once a month. So you're having sex 12 times a year.

Speaker 1 It would be tough. It's crazy.
Right. Especially for a guy.
Now, how does, how do women feel about that?

Speaker 1 Because as a guy, you're like, okay, great. They're going to go masturbate and that's what they do, whatever.

Speaker 1 But like, and I knew, I know females do too, but like, as a woman, it's like, you really want to have a man that fucks you once a month? No. No.

Speaker 1 And then I'll say this again. There's so much to play here.
And so it's like, I'm like, okay, how do I

Speaker 1 And we only don't have so much time. So we have to do this again.
But it's like, we're going to take what I'll feel is what I feel is the most valuable. So women are very sexual creatures as well.

Speaker 1 Shakti energy is powerful. Like we create life.
So we have a call. We want to have sex too.
But for us, the.

Speaker 1 the indications or the surroundings or the atmosphere and everything has to be kind of right for us. So it is trickier for us.

Speaker 1 So I would say, is your, you have to check basic things like, what is the hormonal health of your woman?

Speaker 1 Is she on birth control? That fucks things up. Like, I'm not a proponent for birth control.
I do everything pretty natural. So

Speaker 1 because I believe that there's more harm done than good there, there's other ways to practice, say, family planning, if you will. So is, are her hormones balanced?

Speaker 1 Then the other thing with women, if you want her to have more sex with you, there's there's a few things that you need to remember.

Speaker 1 So women want to be seen, they want to feel safe, and they want to be loved, basically. Seen, safe, and love, provided it's sort of a given.
We're not taking that right.

Speaker 1 So provided protective, those are like basics. But in regards to like sexual things, they want to be seen, they want to feel safe, and they want to be loved.

Speaker 1 So they need to feel like they can trust you. So if you've chosen a partner wisely, you've made sure that the sexual polarity was there before before you started.

Speaker 1 A lot of men maybe don't always think of this long term. They just think, oh, she's hot and oh, she'd be a good mom for my kids.
And I don't want her too hot because then other men will look at her.

Speaker 1 I don't want her too plain because then I don't, I'm not going to get an erection to fuck her. Like, I know how guys think.
Totally. I tell my wife all the time, I want guys to be staring at you.

Speaker 1 Like, we were in the water. You guys are in Miami.
I think it's a little bit guys staring at my wife. And I'm like, this is awesome.
Yes. Because I want to have the wife that is hot.

Speaker 1 Like, I feel proud to have. And I, and I think that, okay, so I feel like for every demographic, it's slightly different.
In Miami, y'all are wild down here, right?

Speaker 1 You want everyone to fuck your wife, but only you be like, want to fuck her.

Speaker 1 The only gifts do. Yeah.
Because I've seen this on other shows down here too. So, and it's a different kind of like, is your wife Latin? It's like a different kind of, yeah, it's a different flair.

Speaker 1 And, you know, everyone's a little different down here. California, it's different too, but it's a little bit more nuanced, if you say, then we have LA and that's a whole other ballgame, right?

Speaker 1 So I think it's, it's about creating the space for you so that your wife does feel

Speaker 1 connected to you. So there's a difference between sex and intimacy.

Speaker 1 And guys have, I use my hands a lot, I keep knocking this, and guys have this so confused because guys will be like, oh yeah, do you offer intimacy in your sessions? I'm like, absolutely.

Speaker 1 My sessions are very intimate. Intimacy is the foundation for all relationships and for sex.
But most guys think that sex is intimacy.

Speaker 1 And that's where it's very, there's, it's, it's just a very grave mistake.

Speaker 1 So in Tantra, we do a lot. So if you, to answer, go back to your question, if you want your wife to fuck you more, you have to fuck her in her heart.

Speaker 1 So what we do in my work and my retreats, we host luxury retreats around the world. We have one coming up in in Bali in September and Dubai in November.
It's an immersive process.

Speaker 1 So no kids, no work, no one, just you and her and other couples and other singles who want to dive into intimacy as well.

Speaker 1 So we teach men how to deeply connect to their wife or their spouse in a way that opens her heart because her heart is what opens her yoni.

Speaker 1 So basically, yoni is the Sanskrit word for vagina. I figured you got that.

Speaker 1 And so there is exercises that if you just connect with her heart, don't touch her anywhere else, she'll automatically be just soaking wet.

Speaker 1 It just like opens her up. And so that goes back to the scene safe and loved.
The heart,

Speaker 1 we call it the heart chakra. It's not the heart.
It's like right here in the center of the chest. This

Speaker 1 sort of the from a polarity standpoint, which is the plus and minus, if you're with me,

Speaker 1 that is what sort of fires up.

Speaker 1 That's kind of a bad word, word but ignites it because it's actually getting wet but ignites that passion to create that lubrication okay and it starts in the heart so i think for women if you want her to have sex more um you have to make sure the sexual polarity is there before you marry her long term and don't say it'll build because

Speaker 1 that gets worse not better you said if it will build like the sexual polarity will build like maybe like it will grow

Speaker 1 it's not gonna grow if it's not time right it's start it's got to to be there to the start. I believe it is.
Now, Dr. The Gottman Institute, which they, they're a little more old school.

Speaker 1 I don't know if you're familiar with them. The Gottman Institute, they have known to be able to accurately predict whether a marriage will last off of a simple questionnaire.

Speaker 1 They're older, a lot older. And I think their relation, like, I think their model is amazing, obviously.
Yeah. But I think times have changed.
And when times change, we have to change, correct?

Speaker 1 So people say, well, you put a lot of like emphasis on sexual polarity. Yeah.
Because what's the number one reason people are getting divorced for? Infidelity and finances.

Speaker 1 And typically they're intertwined. Well, that's why this episode was so good is because this is typically about finances.

Speaker 1 But if you look at the other side of this, it's the infidelity slash the intimacy of intimacy. That's what we do it for.

Speaker 1 Like as men, we, we want to pride ourselves on we provide, we make the money, we give the great house, we give the great lifestyle, and we have sex with our wives and reproduce, right? Yes.

Speaker 1 But that is the, that's why this episode's so great is because this is a part that, at least on my podcast yet, we've not talked about it.

Speaker 1 It's a lot of the men providing and running businesses and going at, you know, high speeds. Is that even something women want in men?

Speaker 1 Is that like a, do you guys look or is that something that we should be so proud of? That what you create, like what you've created.

Speaker 1 I think that for, again, I will say this time and time again, because there's such an attack on femininity today where we have the modern feminist movement who've destroyed the feminine woman they've idea ideologized can you help me with this word ideologized yes where they've made it like so oh appealing to be the single woman who's making multiple six who can buy her seven even who can buy her own hermese and chanel and loubu ton and all these things which are fun to have i have them too but it's like

Speaker 1 they put that, like, they push that versus you don't need a man. You can have a 365 horsepower plastic dildo that you stick inside of you, which I would never put those inside my body.

Speaker 1 It's plastic and metal and it desensitizes you and then makes it almost impossible for you to climax with your actual spouse. Right.
So then, so I think they've destroyed. the feminine woman.

Speaker 1 And so I will say for a hormonally balanced, healthy healthy woman, she does want that. Anytime a man like that's around, I'm like,

Speaker 1 ooh, it's like, you know, it's like, um, is it like, it's, it's an instinct. When I'm around a man who's like Shiva, who's like unfuckable, unshakable, like he's just steady in his present.

Speaker 1 He's a lighthouse. He's a tree trunk.
He's all of these things, right? That you think are just, they don't move an anchor in the bottom of the ocean, right?

Speaker 1 I see that.

Speaker 1 I'm like, oh and i always tell them wow you've got shiva energy amazing it's not even a sexual thing it's just like that is sexy because i want to be more feminine sure right like i want that allows you to be feminine i want to and for women sexually we receive a man our yoni is not external we take you into our body so in order to do that we have to embody surrender yeah which is why when women are like oh i can't do that i'm like well good luck because what happens outside of the bedroom just plays in in the bedroom.

Speaker 1 Well, let's ask what I think. You already brought up.
Most people want to know this. So I'm sure my audiences do.

Speaker 1 How do men and or women, how do you create more stamina in the sex life? Yes. I'll do women first because

Speaker 1 men are always coming first anyways. So we'll deal with the women.
So for women, a healthy sexual stamina, it's different for us, right?

Speaker 1 Again, I'll go back to hormones again, get your hormones checked, get off birth control. If you're taking medication, consult your doctor.
But if you,

Speaker 1 this is controversial. I don't really believe in like depression-ish.

Speaker 1 I think that there's, yes, I think there's real mental health challenges, but I believe a lot of that shit is diet. It's how you're living.
It's lack of sun.

Speaker 1 It's trauma that's stuck in the body that can be pulled out. This is the work I do.
We work with removing sexual trauma out of the body, removing sexual shame. So postpartum, is that real? Absolutely.

Speaker 1 But what is that? An imbalance of hormones, especially like for myself, I did it naturally.

Speaker 1 So all those things, get your lady checked out for all those things and help her start working on what I do is like Shakti embodiment.

Speaker 1 People are like, oh, and my copywriters, everyone on my team knows, do not use empowerment ever in my work when it relates to women. Women are fucking powerful enough.
Look at, look at, look at me.

Speaker 1 Look at this world. It's all from women.
It's all the

Speaker 1 Shakti feminine energy that creates. So we don't mean more power.

Speaker 1 We need more embodiment, which means we are inside of our body. How many guys have been with a woman and she just laid there and you felt like you were having sex with a blow-up doll?

Speaker 1 No, you've had this. I know you have because men tell me, like, just lays there.
She's really hot, but she doesn't do much. She's not even there.
I fucking promise you. She's not there.

Speaker 1 And even our wives who we love sometimes, they do it because they're not, they don't.

Speaker 1 She was prematurely penetrated. She didn't want to be fucked.
She did out of obligation, which for men is actually worse.

Speaker 1 You'd rather just jack off than feel like someone fucked you because they had to. Right.
Right. So, for women, it's more about building their feminine energy.
Get them in embodiment classes.

Speaker 1 Get them doing things. Get them doing things to build that energy and to be more surrendered.
Take them to a retreat. Take her to do some Shakti work.
Get her yoni eggs. Have her steaming her yoni.

Speaker 1 All these things build feminine energy. The more like feminine and watery and connected and moving and dancing and flowing and less rigid.
The masculine is task detail oriented.

Speaker 1 The feminine is flowy, soft, all over the place, right? So you want to build more of that for her.

Speaker 1 And that will create the openness and the surrender and the like the flowiness, if you will, to be like, ooh, like for me, I'm always basically in the mood because I'm so feminine.

Speaker 1 Like I didn't look at any of my podcasts until I got here. I trusted Zomb.

Speaker 1 I was like, I'm trusting you, Zom, because to me, that is like, how do I, I want to emphasize this to show you how feminine I am. Looking at a schedule is like, oh my God, I'd rather die.
But for you,

Speaker 1 you know your schedule before you go to bed. Yeah.
Correct? Yeah. So does that, does that help you see the difference between feminine and masculine?

Speaker 1 It's just, so for women, you want to focus on things that build more feminine, flowy energy. Got it.
And for, and having them be all the things I said, safe, seen, loved, and hormones balance.

Speaker 1 For men, it's different. So stamina is, I always get controversy controversy on this, but a few things again.
We want to start with a blank slate.

Speaker 1 And I have to cover these things because you wouldn't believe how many people are addicted to porn on SSRIs, stress the fuck out,

Speaker 1 anti-antidepressants.

Speaker 1 But, and if you know anything about like the shootings in all the schools, one thing they had all in common was maybe the most recent cases, they weren't, but they were all Caucasian men and they were all on SSRIs.

Speaker 1 Okay, so I'm very like, I do,

Speaker 1 I think

Speaker 1 that the medicine is useful. Yes.
If you're, if you cut your arm open, go to a hospital. Yeah.
Not an idiot.

Speaker 1 But I think they're medicating us, they're drugging us, and they're using us as little, as, as just ATM machines and as rats, little test rats in the lab. So that's just my personal thing.

Speaker 1 But back to men. So if you're, if you're not on any of those things,

Speaker 1 if you are on corn, you have to stop. If you're on porn, you have to stop and you have to find a good coach to help you with that.

Speaker 1 I've gotten some great results with that, but there's also people who specialize just in that. So amazing.
But if you want to last longer, it's a few things. One, you have to start with the breath.

Speaker 1 Breath is life.

Speaker 1 If you notice anything, think about the last time you were having sex. What is one thing you noticed as you started getting to that point of climax?

Speaker 1 Your breath. Your breath does what? Tell me.

Speaker 1 Starts

Speaker 1 getting a little more deeper. It gets more elevated.
Well, you're in good shape. You're in the, you know,

Speaker 1 you're like a pusser child for health. But a lot of men, they'll start breathing heavier.
Yeah.

Speaker 1 Their pulse starts getting faster. They start tensing.
So when everything tenses, and you're,

Speaker 1 look, am I going to be able to last? No, I'm over the edge. She just arches her backs or says, oh, poppy, or whatever, and you're fucking done.
It's over.

Speaker 1 Berto knows. He had that experience last night.

Speaker 1 So, no, I'm just like, but anyway, so so yes, so the breath is key. Okay.
Breath work is key. Another, there's so many.
I have a whole course on this. So it's like super cheap to me.

Speaker 1 Where can everyone find you to get the core and get like just follow up with that? Where could you push everyone? I mean, Shakti, Shakti Living on my Instagram, Shakti Living, JG, Janelle Gordon.

Speaker 1 Yeah, because that's my real name. And then right in there is my

Speaker 1 link tree, everything. Perfect.
Course is so cheap because a lot of my work is not. And I wanted something that was available to everyone.
Yeah. And so men care about lasting fucking longer.

Speaker 1 So breath work is key. I say remove meat.
That's me personally. I do argue with some of the best

Speaker 1 holistic biohackers on this, but Dr. Group's a huge one in the chat.
And he's, he's, has, takes my stance. Meat sits in your body.
Oh, remove meat. Remove meat.
I thought you said meat.

Speaker 1 I was like, I don't know. No, remove meat.
Sorry, meat. Got it.

Speaker 1 Remove meat from the body. And I'm not saying I've been vegan since I was sixth grade.
It's not for everyone. Intuitively, I knew I was going to be a healer, I guess.
And so I did it.

Speaker 1 It's not for everyone. But if you're having challenges or you want to just test, use your

Speaker 1 government uses your body as a test lab. Just use your own body as a test rat.
Remove meat and see what happens.

Speaker 1 What happens is you're going to notice that your body is going to digest and assimilate your food quicker and you'll have stronger. What do we need to get that lingam heart?

Speaker 1 Freaking circulation, right? Circulation. How do we get healthy circulation? Everything passing and flowing.

Speaker 1 Breath work. Ding, ding, ding.
It oxygenates the body and the blood. And then if we're not eating meat, meat sits in your body for seven to 10 days, depending on what the meat is.

Speaker 1 Fish being two to three, chicken being a little more. Then a beef is like six or seven.
And then pork is like 10 days, can be up to 10 days, right?

Speaker 1 So just test it out for a while and just test with that a little bit. The other thing that men can do, so everyone can do breath work.
Everyone can remove meat for at least a little bit of time.

Speaker 1 And if you, and then just integrate it back in, if that's not your thing

Speaker 1 to do full time, right?

Speaker 1 And then the last thing I would say is, and this is again, after we've removed porn, after we worked with someone on depression, because if you're depressed, you're not getting it up. Yeah.

Speaker 1 Because your depression is complete. And then the medication you're on is making it impossible.
And listen, guys, this is very serious. Do not go experiment with Cialis Viagra.

Speaker 1 Don't do it without going to a doctor because it could be your last direction if like legitimately if you have any kind of circulation issues heart issues anything and you get on one of those without consulting a doctor you're just a recipe for disaster and you can die and it it does happen so the main thing that i think helps men to last longer is training.

Speaker 1 You train in the gym. I imagine five days a week, three to five days a week, right?

Speaker 1 You've conditioned your body, which means if I say, hey, you're going to, I don't know what you bench if you bench whatever two, I don't know bench step. Like, I would be joking.

Speaker 1 I would be like making it up. But I, say, I tell you,

Speaker 1 I don't know, what do you bench? 250. I'm guessed.
Very intuitive. Say you bench 250 and that's good.
You can do that, right?

Speaker 1 Say in another, like, I don't know, like in next week, I'm like, okay, you're going to bench 500. You're like, no chance.
I can't do that. I need to what? Train? Yeah.

Speaker 1 Probably lift more, probably take more protein, probably take some, all the steroids everyone does around here, but like whatever, you know, like I'm just honest. Let's just be honest here.

Speaker 1 So you're not conditioned for it. Yeah.
Right. Or a marathon is even a better thing.
If I say, go run a marathon now, you might be able to do it, but you're like, can I just condition at first?

Speaker 1 And then I could do it. Even I could do it.
Just strat these babies down and go. But like, no, seriously.
So the thing is, you have to condition your lingam. Okay.

Speaker 1 How many of you actually train your lingam? Probably none. None because you just, you're just like, I'm going to use it.
But it's what? A muscle too, right? It requires circulation, right?

Speaker 1 So the more blood and circulation that we get to those extremities, the better they're going to fork.

Speaker 1 Just like the more blood and circulation tearing down and breaking out, the more I'm going to have a little gain. Oh, there's one.
So that's the thing.

Speaker 1 So with what we teach men is there are strokes that you do every day. So you do about 50 strokes in each direction.
So I say the very minimum north,

Speaker 1 or I don't know direction. North, south, east, west.

Speaker 1 I know what I know. And then Mantak Chia, who's like sort of the guru for this work, will say to go in every direction.
So north, south, east, west also go here, here, and here. What is that doing?

Speaker 1 If you're doing this training, you do the shower if you want. It's taking 10, 15 minutes.
You're literally like lifting weights.

Speaker 1 And there's actual weightlifting for your lingam, but you're training your lingam.

Speaker 1 So when you get into bed with your wife, and you're tired and you're having sex 10 o'clock at night, 11, you're fucking tired. You're not going to last for shit.

Speaker 1 But if you've been training, you're going to last a little bit longer. Does that make sense? Yep.
So give me the five again. Okay.
So we'll just start. No porn.
No porn.

Speaker 1 Breath work. Breath work.

Speaker 1 No antidepressants. Well, so we'll start with like,

Speaker 1 try to work through the depression. Sure.
The depression, the depressions and the medication is going to make it more challenging for men to get that erection. No porn.
And then breath work is huge.

Speaker 1 Start controlling your breath.

Speaker 1 The other one was working out the lingam. And the fifth one is kind of part of that is peeing and stopping, peeing and stopping, peeing and stopping.
Like normal peeing.

Speaker 1 Not a lot of reactors are saying, like, just go pee and stop, pee and stop. So you're going to like

Speaker 1 stop and pull it in. I'm doing it right now.
And then I'm going to release because we have bundas. There's about five of them.
And they lock. and hold like I have all five of them in right now.

Speaker 1 And you can't kind of see it come up, right? Pulled it up because it's pulling up.

Speaker 1 So when you pee and stop like that, it is the same muscles that when you were a kid, if you ever put a towel on your lingam and like put it up and down, some kids do this, they were bored.

Speaker 1 It just depends on what part of the country. Maybe Midwestern kids did this in Miami.
You guys had better things to do, or Callie. But yeah, so that will lift the towel up.

Speaker 1 So, it's those same muscles. So, when you're peeing and stopping, it's like a break and accelerator.

Speaker 1 So, then when you're actually in bed having sex with your wife or your spouse, then you're actually able to be like, stop, pee. Oh, I've been doing this.
Oh, I've been working out.

Speaker 1 Oh, I got my breath. And these are just basics.
There's so many more, but these are very basics. Any man can start with.

Speaker 1 Any man can start to look at his addiction to porn and understand that how that's affecting his erection quality because he's being conditioned to see images on the screen and he needs those exact conditions to get erection into

Speaker 1 climax, if you will.

Speaker 1 And then you can, you know, work on your mental health challenges.

Speaker 1 A lot of that time is just working out and getting shame out of the body. And always talk to your doctor.

Speaker 1 I'm not a doctor, but a lot of those medications are not set up to, it's just like it makes you more depressed. Some of them, even my son, we don't watch TV, but we'll be in hotels and stuff.

Speaker 1 They'd be like, these commercials make no sense, mom. It'll say like, you're depressed.
And then it'll say like, may cause suicide. He's like, I don't understand this.
I'm like, exactly.

Speaker 1 My son's woke. He knows.
Yeah. Like woke in a good way.
But then the meat is easy. And then just

Speaker 1 like,

Speaker 1 it's attached to your body. Do something with it.
Like, it's not there just for decoration to pull pull it out at night for five minutes. It's there.
You got to train it like you train your biceps.

Speaker 1 And women have the same thing, too, but you don't deal with women as much. So

Speaker 1 you can get my work and go to the store. Again, follow you at Janelle Gordon.
Shakti Living JG. Okay.
And so JG is for Janelle Gordon. And then the book.
Just

Speaker 1 out recently. Yes.
Let's go get that a little.

Speaker 1 This is actually, please. And the thing that's cool about this, I love, is that we have for him, for her, and we have, it's, it's illustrated, guys.

Speaker 1 I give you actual, like, I want to show them this real quick. This is the, this is the cheat sheet in the back.
I give you the anatomy.

Speaker 1 Like, when have you ever like studied your anatomy and studied your partners and your wife's? And I, so we talk about, we have every perspective from the woman's, from the man's.

Speaker 1 This is, this, you're meant to you, this is the exercise I was talking about to get more sex.

Speaker 1 You want more sex do this and so yeah and then if you want an immersive experience come retreat with us we do luxury retreats we take you out of your comfort zone we show you not just read you i show you how to do these things and and i create the energy for you to take home and and take these into your to your bedroom into your life because let's be let's be honest you could have all the money in the world you'd have all the limbos the ferraris the Bugattis, whatever everyone's buying today, all the watches, the private jet, all that.

Speaker 1 But if your relationship sucks, if you're not, if your wife doesn't want to blow you,

Speaker 1 you know, if your wife isn't climaxing,

Speaker 1 what's it all for? I'm telling you, I've met guys who have nothing and they're happy because they hear me scream. You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 1 Like in my, in my younger days, they just, that, for a man, that's everything. Sure.
It's, it's a, it's a part of your ego.

Speaker 1 If you know you can pleasure a woman and then that woman is yours too, meaning she's devoted, committed to you having money is good too

Speaker 1 but the other is

Speaker 1 that's why we do everything make sure you are following this woman uh hopefully you guys took notes rewind this take more notes ask her questions this is you on instagram ask her questions

Speaker 1 i know this is like a taboo conversation for most people but if you don't know what you don't know then you know you'd be able to have the wife that you want yes that's right thank you for coming on thank you for having me it was so fun make sure you pick up her book make sure you follow her on instagram we will see you on the next episode of the Entrepreneur DNA.