The Solution to Your Problems Is the Person in the Mirror

Speaker 1 From the Ramsey Network, it's the Ramsey Show. I'm your host, Jade Warshaw.
Next to me is George Camill. We've got a rowdy studio audience over there behind the glass.

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If you're not here live, you can call in.

Speaker 1 The number is 888-825-5225-225 and we'll get you on the line. We've got the incredible Christian over there screening the calls, making sure you're not a psycho, but we don't think that you are.

Speaker 1 So let's go straight to the phone lines. We've got Lily, who's in New York, New York.
What's up, Lily?

Speaker 2 Hi, thanks for taking my call. I'm calling because I want to know your guys' opinions on me taking a second consolidation loan out for my boyfriend's credit card debt.

Speaker 1 Ooh, is that even for you?

Speaker 3 It was like three bad decisions wrapped up in one. How did we get here?

Speaker 2 So I've been with my boyfriend for about two years, and when we met, when we met, he was making a good income. I was making good income.

Speaker 2 He, I guess, didn't really understand credit cards. I'm a credit card person, and I know you guys hate that term, but I really am.
I've never been in debt.

Speaker 2 I'm the one person that's able to reap the benefits, not pay the interest.

Speaker 2 But my boyfriend has taught me now why people are not credit card people.

Speaker 2 He didn't really understand, I guess, interest. And the first time around was about a year ago, I was hoping to move in with him, take the next step, but we wouldn't do that.

Speaker 2 He was about 20,000 in credit card debt.

Speaker 2 And so I had an offer, 0% interest, 15 months, up to 20 grand. I said, I don't need it.
I'll take it. And I gave it to him.
It was about 15 i took some for myself and wait you gave him the

Speaker 1 hold on hold on let me make sure i understand this you took out the credit card in your name but gave it to him to use

Speaker 2 no so it was a it was a credit card loan he had his own credit card but i took out a consolidation loan for him because i i was given an offer like to me to just take out x amount of money i need but it's in your name

Speaker 2 yes and it's mostly paid off actually

Speaker 1 okay so help me explain where we're at now because my thought is like if you took out one and it didn't work why are we taking out another one and why isn't he doing this did he pay this off or almost pay it off or is this you

Speaker 2 the the loan he he almost paid it off um it's about like 90 paid off uh the reason why we're here again is because um He continued to use credit cards and

Speaker 2 maybe that can be a little bit more difficult.

Speaker 1 Because we didn't change any of the habits.

Speaker 3 You bailed him out, like a government bailout, and then he went, more, please.

Speaker 1 Listen, This is a red flag It bothers me There's a couple things that bother me about this

Speaker 1 a that you're on the line and he's not that's the the raging thing the

Speaker 1 And then you're the one taking out Yeah, to George's point You're the one taking out the loans even though he's paying it the loan is in your name and you're saying hey, you can do it like this

Speaker 1 Yeah, it feels like you're kind of in charge and you're trying to mold him into who you want him to be financially and he's like all right you want me to do this okay i'll do it a little bit And I does, do you see that?

Speaker 2 Yeah, I definitely do. And that's something I, you know, planned toward.
I think that's probably what happened the first time. At this point, you know, he's 30,000 in immediate debt, if not more.

Speaker 1 Oh, so we're we went from 20, paid it almost off, and now we're at 30?

Speaker 2 Yes.

Speaker 1 Okay. And what's he spending it on?

Speaker 1 Does he not have a job? What's going on?

Speaker 2 No, so he takes home about, yeah, he makes 80 before taxes. So his take-home pay is about 43 a month.
And we did the math, we did the numbers.

Speaker 2 We just moved in together, and I didn't know he was back in debt until we after we moved in together.

Speaker 2 So I would have not have done that.

Speaker 1 What type of work does he do, and what type of work do you do? Because you guys are living in New York City. I want to see it.

Speaker 1 If you're living in New York City, it better be like suits. Like you got to have a reason to be there,

Speaker 2 right? Right. So we were both born here and raised.

Speaker 2 He is a junior project manager in the city, and he makes pretty good. And then I am, I do have a couple of jobs.
I'm a teacher's assistant, and then I'm a bartender, and I have a lot of side jobs.

Speaker 2 I take home about $4,500 a month after taxes and everything. And like I said, his take-home after tax is about $43 a month.

Speaker 1 Okay, so

Speaker 1 here's the short end of the conversation, and then we can go back and trace back how we got there. You guys are living together, that's your choice.

Speaker 1 You're living in New York City, which feels too big for your britches for the jobs that you're doing, but that's also your choice.

Speaker 1 Going forward, what I would not do in your shoes or in his shoes is I would not combine my money with this person. That's A1.

Speaker 1 And I would not put my neck on the line to get them out of debt because there's not a true, true commitment there. And there's certainly no legality there to protect either of you.

Speaker 1 And so I would keep this. I would not, if you're going to choose to live together, that's your choice.
I might say something different and I would say something different.

Speaker 1 I'd ask, well, why don't you just get married?

Speaker 1 But if you're not going to get married, at the very least, keep your money separate because he's getting himself into this mess and he has a habit of spending more than he makes.

Speaker 1 He spends all that he gets and then some. And he's not really interested in doing anything about it.

Speaker 1 George, she seems like to be the only person who's interested in getting him out of that, which again is. You care more about it than he does.

Speaker 3 And at this point, it's enabling.

Speaker 3 Would you agree?

Speaker 2 Yeah, I mean,

Speaker 2 I would agree,

Speaker 2 which is why I came to my breaking point recently.

Speaker 3 Well, it sounds like you've made an ultimatum, like, hey, we're not going to move this relationship forward unless you get out of debt.

Speaker 1 Yes. But then you moved in with him.
Right. So you took back your word.
It was after.

Speaker 2 I found out after.

Speaker 1 Got it. So it was,

Speaker 1 there's another part of this, which is like, I found out. So it was kind of a secret that he was going back into debt.
Am I hearing that right?

Speaker 3 Breaks the trust in the relationship.

Speaker 2 He wasn't taking it seriously. Yeah, no, that was bad.
I agree. And he acknowledges like that was not okay.
Yeah.

Speaker 1 Do you have any debt?

Speaker 2 Sort of pushing it on.

Speaker 2 No, I don't. I have maybe $10,000 to student loans, but that's not accurate interest.

Speaker 1 And

Speaker 1 so trick question.

Speaker 3 Number one, you do because you took out the credit card loan in your name. Plus, you still have the student loans.
So you've got your own financial goals.

Speaker 3 And we're trying to babysit this guy into doing the right things financially. So I feel like like we got to get our ducks in a row.
And you go, dude, you live your life.

Speaker 3 We're not going to combine finances. You want to take this seriously? Let me know.
At this point, this relationship is at a standstill. Yeah.

Speaker 1 Lily, we have a studio audience here and they're listening.

Speaker 1 And I kind of want to know because based on what you're telling me, if you were my best girlfriend, I'd be like, man, it might be time to kick this guy to the curb.

Speaker 1 And I want to know what they think by a show of thumbs up or thumbs down.

Speaker 3 They did the gladiator thumbs down.

Speaker 1 There's a lot of thumbs up over here, Lily, because we are seeing a woman who's trying to move forward. We're seeing a woman who understands what she needs to do in life.

Speaker 1 And it's almost like you're being more of a mom to him than a

Speaker 1 lady friend. You know what I'm saying? Like you're taking care of him.
You're helping him to do. And don't get me wrong.

Speaker 1 There is a there is part of a relationship where you are helping each other and you're teaching each other, but this feels a little bit more.

Speaker 3 You're going in opposite directions.

Speaker 1 And so that's what worries me.

Speaker 3 So I would have a real hard conversation and I would always, I would also go, I'm never letting anyone loan, I'm never loaning money to anyone ever again.

Speaker 1 No, no, at the very least, I would not be living with this guy at the very least, because that for you, that's your leverage to say, hey, I have goals and there's some things I want to do.

Speaker 1 And I'd love for us to be on the same track and going in the same direction with our money.

Speaker 1 I'd love one day for us to be able to combine our lives and get married, but you're not doing your side of it. And I can't move in with you right now.

Speaker 3 Yeah, you're one step away from paying this guy's bills because he goes, oh man can you front my rent i'll venmo you next month i promise yeah yeah don't like that yeah don't don't give away your leverage um

Speaker 1 yeah i want to what's that that they say george uh no one's gonna buy the cow if they can get the milk oh for free yeah i know i just turned into my grandmother this is the ramsey show

Speaker 1 You're listening to the Ramsey Show. Next to me is George Camille.
I'm Jade Warshaw. We're the ones taking your calls today.
So if you call in, this is who you get. The number is 888-825-5225.

Speaker 1 George, you ready to get into it?

Speaker 3 I hope so. Let's do it.

Speaker 1 We got Lee from Newark, New Jersey. What's going on, Lee?

Speaker 2 Yeah, hi. I listen to you guys all the time.
I really love your show. And

Speaker 2 I wanted to call because my husband and I have some credit card debt. Okay.
And we're debating about whether we want to transfer the balances of those credit cards to different credit cards for 0%

Speaker 2 interest while we pay it down.

Speaker 1 How much is the credit card debt?

Speaker 2 We have one card that has about $20,000 on it, and the other one has $12,000.

Speaker 1 Okay. And what's the current interest rate?

Speaker 2 Probably between both of them, somewhere between $27,000 and $29,000.

Speaker 1 Added pain and regret. That's what APR stands for.
George, what do you think? Yeah.

Speaker 3 So here's the deal. These are not inherently evil, these 0% balance transfers, but you got to know what you're getting into and you got to know that it's not actually doing as much as you think.

Speaker 3 Most people do these transfers and think they've actually done something to get out of debt.

Speaker 3 But if you're already crazy gazelle intense, you've sold so much stuff, you're working extra, and you do this as one little move while keeping intensity, then it can be okay.

Speaker 3 But you're going to pay, you know, anywhere from 3% to 5%.

Speaker 3 to make this transfer happen.

Speaker 1 So it's not free.

Speaker 3 It's going to cost you something. And it does not actually speed up your debt payoff if you're not already intense.
So what makes you think you're going to pay off this 32 grand before the 0%

Speaker 3 is over?

Speaker 1 Or is this going to be a 0% card or what?

Speaker 2 Yeah, both. I would like to have both of them be a 0% card for anywhere from 18 to 21 months.

Speaker 2 We already are paying

Speaker 2 probably close. I've already paid off my car.

Speaker 2 We're getting ready to pay off another smaller debt

Speaker 2 next week.

Speaker 2 My husband got a pretty good pay raise.

Speaker 1 Okay, good.

Speaker 2 So we're hoping that we can pay about $1,000 a week

Speaker 2 to these credit cards, but getting them down to 0%

Speaker 2 while we're doing that. We have two kids.
We're still trying to maintain life, things like that.

Speaker 2 But we are getting very serious about paying off debt because we'd like to start saving more for our kids' college and

Speaker 2 for retirement. retirement.

Speaker 1 So what's your total debt and what is your household income?

Speaker 2 So

Speaker 2 the credit cards are about $32,000. Our furniture is about $3,800.
We do have a smaller annuity that my husband pays quarterly. That's about $6,500.

Speaker 2 And our mortgage is about $534.

Speaker 1 Okay, so let's ignore the mortgage for now.

Speaker 3 That'll be a baby step six item later on. So you're looking at about, we'll call it 40 grand in debt.

Speaker 2 Right. So I do have an $18,000 student loan, but it's eligible for forgiveness as soon as, you know, that goes through.

Speaker 1 When?

Speaker 3 What do you mean?

Speaker 1 As it goes through. So,

Speaker 3 yeah, I've already paid the right amount of payments.

Speaker 1 Is this the PSLS? Yeah, I'm on public service.

Speaker 2 Yes, it's public service loan forgiveness. I've already had a $200,000 loan forgiven.
Good, okay. And this is the remaining $18,000, which was a separate direct loan.

Speaker 2 And that is, I've been actively calling to see when it's going to be forgiven. Unfortunately, I haven't been given enough time as to when that's going to happen.

Speaker 1 But you've done your side.

Speaker 2 Yes. Okay.
I have enough payments to be forgiven.

Speaker 3 And what's your household income?

Speaker 2 My gross income, my personal gross income before taxes. I work two jobs

Speaker 2 is about $190,000.

Speaker 1 Wow.

Speaker 2 And my husband,

Speaker 2 with his, thank you, with his new job venture, it's a little bit on the wax and wane side. It's when he gets work, he gets paid well.
When he doesn't, we kind of have to like pinch our pennies.

Speaker 1 What's a good month? And what's a bad month?

Speaker 2 A good month is $5,000 a week

Speaker 2 before taxes. Okay.
And a bad week is $2,000.

Speaker 2 A bad month is probably somewhere around $8,000. Okay, so

Speaker 1 that's not bad. He's feasting.
I'm making over $200,000. But you guys are making hundreds of thousands of dollars.

Speaker 3 So this debt should be paid off in a few months.

Speaker 1 Yeah, the consolidation at that point is truly negligible because this would be gone in under a year.

Speaker 1 What's keeping that from happening? Because

Speaker 1 to be making over 200,000,

Speaker 1 well over 200,000

Speaker 1 and having $40,000 $40,000 of debt helped me understand because I'm thinking, okay, why aren't you just living? I mean, I know New Jersey is an expensive area, but is there something I'm missing here?

Speaker 2 I'm just trying to get, I'm really at a point, I'm 39 years old, my husband's 41. We haven't done the best in saving throughout the years.
Unfortunately, I've been with my husband for 17 years.

Speaker 1 You know, so I mean, well, that doesn't really answer my question because you almost

Speaker 1 300,000.

Speaker 1 But do you see our point here?

Speaker 3 The balance transfer doesn't change any habits. And that's what worries me here.
A couple making $300,000 shouldn't be needing to go to debt for furniture.

Speaker 3 They shouldn't be needing to swipe the credit card. And so that's what I'm trying to figure out is what got us here and how are we stopping that part before we ever agree to this balance transfer.

Speaker 1 I have a feeling it's a budget thing. Can you tell us about that? It is.
Okay. It is.

Speaker 2 Our budget is not exactly where I would like it to be, and we're starting to get a little stricter with how we spend our money.

Speaker 1 Are Are you using every dollar?

Speaker 2 I have not yet.

Speaker 1 Okay, we're going to, that's the key. We're going to give you every dollar because something tells me you guys are kind of a set it and forget it.
I made a budget three months ago, kind of

Speaker 3 in my head. We looked at our bank account.
Yeah. We should spend this much.
And that's where every dollar is going to really help.

Speaker 1 Is are George and I right?

Speaker 2 A budget issue for us.

Speaker 1 Yes, I agree.

Speaker 1 So we'll give you,

Speaker 1 before we get off the line, Christian will pick up. We'll give you every dollar.
And it's a budget that you make every single month.

Speaker 1 And the good thing about every dollar is it kind of has this kind of copy-paste feature where at the end of the month, you copy it.

Speaker 1 And then for the next month, you just go through it and make whatever tweaks and changes you need for that month. But what George and I want for you to do is understand that every month is different.

Speaker 1 You have different goals, you know, different things pop up. And so the budget needs to change to reflect that.
And here's the thing. You make $300,000 a year, a little bit more.

Speaker 1 You don't have a ton of debt in ratio to that, but I think you're kind of in this, what we would call messy middle where your income is good and so your debt it's not like you know it's nothing's on fire it's nothing's on fire right it's not the serial killer at the door it's just like all right this is moderately uncomfortable and so i think just a creeper out the window but he's down the street yeah that's kind of how it's like yeah your debt's a peeping tom it's it's

Speaker 1 not the analogy jade wanted to make but i'm i forced her to do it okay but do you see what we're saying here

Speaker 1 yes okay

Speaker 3 i want you to act like it's on fire because that's the only way you're going to get out of this thing in three months. Because I think you guys are incredible.

Speaker 3 You work really hard and you make too much to be this broke. Would you agree?

Speaker 2 I agree. I agree.
I am actively working to try to revamp our spending and our budget.

Speaker 1 Is he on board with that?

Speaker 2 So we're working on that.

Speaker 3 Is he like an anchor that's going to drag this down or is he on board and he's gone, I'm willing to do whatever it takes?

Speaker 2 No,

Speaker 2 he's resolved to letting me kind of like handle the financial financial part of this and whatever it is I need him to do, he's willing to do.

Speaker 3 But he needs to be a part of this budget making because unless he sees it and he goes, oh my gosh, Lee, this is insane. We make so much money.
Where is it going?

Speaker 3 He's not going to be willing to make the right sacrifices. And if it just becomes a, well, you do this, I do this, it's just going to become another to-do list for him.

Speaker 3 And I want him to really feel this.

Speaker 1 Yeah, I agree. Okay.
I agree. So we need to give you every dollar.

Speaker 1 We probably also need to give you Financial Peace University for you and your husband to go through together so that you can be on the same page and he can see that he's really an intricate part of this equation, just as important as you are.

Speaker 1 And you might be the, don't get me wrong, usually there's one spouse that kind of takes a slight lead, right, George? You're probably the one who's going to be kind of plugging the numbers. Copilot.

Speaker 1 Yeah, pilot and co-pilot.

Speaker 3 They both have to be in the cockpit, paying attention. That's right.
Not a passenger on the plane.

Speaker 1 That's right. Not a passenger.
I agree. Very good analogies, George.

Speaker 3 I feel like... I had to redeem it after the peeping tom one.

Speaker 3 Like I owed you that.

Speaker 1 You took me there.

Speaker 1 But the point point is, a lot of you listening are probably still in that messy middle. Your income is good and the debt is just at that point where it's not ruining your life yet.

Speaker 1 And you're still able to go to Applebee's every Friday. You're still able to, you know, buy the new sneakers you want, but it's kind of that creeper in the corner and you see it.

Speaker 1 And now's the time to deal with it. Don't wait till it gets worse.
We can help you today. This is the Ramsey Show.

Speaker 1 All right, you're listening to the Ramsey Show. We're here on the Ramsey Network.
It's myself and George Camill today.

Speaker 1 Hey, that last call we just took was all about the budget. You know, it was a couple or family.
They're making $300,000, George. Making great money.

Speaker 1 But still feeling the weight of living paycheck to paycheck, seemingly not able to pay off $40,000 of debt. And when I look at that, I mean it's the budget every time.
It's not being intentional.

Speaker 1 It's really not having a budget. You know, a lot of people think it's, I said it and forget it.
We made it at the beginning of the year.

Speaker 3 Well, we have to define what a budget is because a lot of people think, well, Jade, I look at my credit card transactions. That's like doing a budget.

Speaker 1 No, they're way off.

Speaker 3 I looked at my bank account. There was money left.
I did a budget. No, it's not something in your head.
It's not your bank account. It's not a credit card statement.

Speaker 3 It's an actual budget, like a budgeting app, like every dollar.

Speaker 1 That's right. And so the way we teach George is we want people in there every single month.
You're starting with your income, all of the income that comes into your household.

Speaker 1 And there's an area for you to put the income in.

Speaker 1 And then you go through and you're methodically thinking about every area throughout the month that you could spend money and it's divided into categories so you know it's like your your lifestyle stuff it's your utilities and home and your transportation and you can customize it but essentially you're giving a assignment to every single dollar and you're knowing on purpose this is what i'm spending on even the extra money you're giving an assignment to right and that could be paying off debt that could be going towards savings that could be just you know miscellaneous it could be a cushion it could be you know grandma's birthday whatever you decide that's what every dollar is for.

Speaker 1 And so you're really making the most of your money. And the way you do that is by creating a budget, guys.
Every dollar makes it so simple. They make it easy to plan spending.
You can track expenses.

Speaker 1 You save for what matters most to you. And like George said, it's all in this easy app that is on your desktop computer or it fits in your pocket.
So you can take it with you to the grocery store.

Speaker 1 And your spouse, if you have one, has the exact same budget on their phone with the same login. It makes it that easy.
So if you don't have it, download every dollar for free.

Speaker 1 You can do that in the App Store or you can do it on Google Play or you can just click the link in the description if you're listening to this right now on YouTube or podcast.

Speaker 1 But the crux of this is we have found that people who manage their money well and people who have success with their money, they do it because they're on a budget.

Speaker 1 So there's a direct correlation there.

Speaker 1 Get a budget. All right, George.
Let's get back to the phone lines. We got Vincent.
He's in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. My neck of the woods.
What's going on, Vincent?

Speaker 5 Hello. Hello.
Good morning. Good afternoon.

Speaker 1 Good afternoon. What's the weather like?

Speaker 5 Oh, you know, we didn't really get any issues over here from the storm.

Speaker 1 Praise be the Lord. I heard it's a little outside.
I heard it's pretty sunny. Yeah.

Speaker 1 Good sunny. Sunny, warm, and beautiful.
Love to hear.

Speaker 5 I just want to say thank you for you guys taking the time to take my call. And so I was actually watching George this morning on a video with Tom.

Speaker 5 from like impact something.

Speaker 3 Yeah, Tom Billieu, compact theory. Had a fun interview with him on my YouTube channel.
Thanks for watching.

Speaker 5 Yeah, it was really good.

Speaker 5 Yeah, so my situation is a little different than the average American. I'm a 39-year-old, 100% disabled veteran, single, no children.
And so

Speaker 5 I have four times the expenses in the emergency fund. I don't have any debt, great credit, currently renting.

Speaker 5 And so I'm not sure if I'm in, you know, or like how vital step number four is because I have guaranteed tax-free income until I die, which adjusts for the inflation.

Speaker 5 Right now, it's $3,737, so $3,700 a month.

Speaker 5 And, of course,

Speaker 5 it adjusts inflation like, you know, like 10 years ago or, you know, like 13 years ago is like $2,700. So it's one of like a grand in 13 years.

Speaker 1 Do you know what the rate is yearly? Is it 4%? Like, how does it go?

Speaker 5 That's the federal government. They make their decisions.
Like, supposedly, it's going to go up like 2.5%. So that'll be like another $100.

Speaker 3 Do you just kind of follow the CPI and inflation rates and all that

Speaker 5 i i guess i'm not really sure to be honest with you i just know it it does it it does make changes um

Speaker 5 and so i'm thinking like possibly i'm in step seven and so i'm like i'm really seeking advice and counsel for potential options and like paths to follow uh i'm considering buying a home and like if i subtract my emergency fund then that leaves me like like 43 000 that i have in the bank i don't have any investments everything is just savings okay but my ultimate goal is to live in the caribbean so i'm still living in some islands I got my eye on some, but like, you know,

Speaker 5 I'm not sure if like maybe buy a property here, start here, then go there.

Speaker 1 I'd start here and then go there.

Speaker 1 I'd probably start here and go there. So you've never been a homeowner before.

Speaker 1 And so I'd probably want to learn that and get kind of your sea legs, for lack of a better term, under home ownership before you go abroad. But I love that.

Speaker 1 I think home purchase is a good thing for you. We say all the time here that, you know, your rent, it's the biggest line item on most people's budget and it's variable as long as you're a renter.

Speaker 1 And so being able to kind of stabilize that line item and have a mortgage and one day pay it off in your situation is huge.

Speaker 1 I do have a question. And I mean, you're welcome to say, no, I don't want to talk about that or whatever.
But if you're 100% disabled,

Speaker 1 do you feel that there's any work that you'd want to do and could do?

Speaker 5 Oh, certainly. So, you know, each person is different.
It's kind of like a different situation than the Social Security disability.

Speaker 5 Like with a veteran, it could be a variety variety of spectrums but yeah like you know i am limited i had situations that i'm dealing with however my my ultimate goal is to continue doing something like i i i you know i'm with like with dave like i think he would agree like i i don't plan to stop working until like i die and then you know yeah meet jesus you know what i'm saying so i want to be doing something gainful with my time i think it's you know good for your mind and good for community and so i'm not sure what that's going to look like i looked at maybe like teaching english or even like i went and visited the island and they pitched me being a tour guide because I know I can speak to English to the English tourists so I'm kind of like putting the excuse me to the feelers out there I'm just really in this situation like I don't know what to do as far as like financially and just want to see like what options you guys might suggest to me and just so I can kind of like have stuff to consider I don't want you to take your foot off the gas I would continue following the baby steps and that means investing 15% of your income you need to look into what you can do with that income if you need you know different earned income from working outside of your disability payments in order to invest in a Roth IRA, for example.

Speaker 3 But I would put you in this baby steps four through six. And baby step seven is really, hey, I've got a paid for house.
I don't have payments in the world. I'm not trying to save up for a house.

Speaker 3 You've sort of already overcome that. So that would put you in this kind of long-term journey of investing 15%,

Speaker 3 probably saving up for a house as well. You're maybe going to end up paying off that home.

Speaker 3 And that's only going to set you up for success later on down the road when you want to buy something in the Caribbean and you're on a fixed income.

Speaker 1 And to George's point, I like continuing to work the baby steps. And when you are ready to buy a house, just remember your emergency fund isn't your down payment.

Speaker 1 So right now you said you've got four months of expenses. So, you know, for all intents and purposes, that is your emergency fund.

Speaker 1 So if you're ready to if you're wanting to buy a property, you need to save up a separate down payment because I don't want you depleting that in order to make your home purchase. Yeah?

Speaker 5 Yeah. I I'm on the same page.
I you know, like Dave says, um, and you guys have said too, like, you know, stuff will happen. The hot water heater will go, air conditioning or something.

Speaker 5 So I'm definitely on board with that.

Speaker 5 And that, like, I like that I've been listening and, you know, I didn't hear before about like doing, like, he recommends not using the VA loan if you can do it because, you know, there's more fees and stuff.

Speaker 5 And if you can put 20% down and do a 15-year mortgage, I'm like, wow, that's a really good idea.

Speaker 3 That's right. It's just a better loan product in general.
Now, there are some times, you know, you can waive the funding fee because you have the 100% disability. It's not that it's a bad product.

Speaker 3 Just what tends to happen is people who have no money, they put zero down and they can end up underwater on their home or they buy too much home because they have zero equity in this thing.

Speaker 3 So it's all mortgage. And so that's the part that's worrisome.

Speaker 3 But if you go to it and that's the right product for you and you can talk to our friends at Churchill Mortgage and they'll walk you through, here's the A-B of a 15-year versus the VA loan and what makes sense for you.

Speaker 3 But thank you for your service. What a sacrifice.
I can't imagine what would necessitate 100% disability.

Speaker 1 So a lot of sacrifice. God bless her.
Thank you so much. Yeah, George, you're right.
You know, and speaking of Churchill, I was talking with him the other day.

Speaker 1 And, you know, because of the Fed lowering interest rates, even though home interest rates aren't really being affected by that just yet, a lot of people are still looking at refinancing and is it time and is it this?

Speaker 1 And talking to the guys over at Churchill, they're like, the time is to make a plan.

Speaker 1 So it's always good to call up Churchill and start talking with someone and say, here's, here's where I'm at and here's what my goals are.

Speaker 1 And they can help you walk through that process and figure out, okay, what does it make sense for you to do?

Speaker 1 If you're, if your goal is to refinance, if your goal is to buy a house, it's like it's never too early to call them up, make a plan to get prepared because they're all about relationships, they want to build a relationship with you, they want to get to know you, they want to get to know all the factors that are surrounding your home owning or home selling or whatever refinance even

Speaker 3 a year or three away. That's right, at least you know what to do in the meantime, exactly.

Speaker 1 And it gives you time to actually start working a plan towards that. So, contact our friends at Churchill.
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Speaker 1 All righty, you're listening to the Ramsey Show. We're here on the Ramsey Network.
I'm Jade Warshaw. Next to me is best-selling author George Camille, author of the book Breaking Free from Broke.

Speaker 1 If you haven't gotten a copy, make sure you do because it's Liddy. All right, let's go to the phone lines.
We've got Jacqueline in Austin, Texas. What's going on, Jaclyn?

Speaker 2 Hey, thank y'all for taking my call.

Speaker 1 You bet. How can we help?

Speaker 2 We are on baby step number two, and we're working to pay a hundred and five thousand dollars in debt okay and we have twenty three thousand of that enrolled in a debt relief program okay and there's been a settlement reached with one of the creditors of course after they rightfully so threatened to sue yeah and then the other one is still being negotiated so my question is with all the other debt that we have

Speaker 2 Is it wise to try to get out from underneath this program?

Speaker 1 I mean, what made you go into it to begin with? It's kind of odd to me that you had 102,000, but you kind of chose this subset to turn over to them.

Speaker 1 Can you tell me more about what caused you to do that?

Speaker 2 It was out of desperation in the time for just because the interest rates were so high, and I just wasn't, I was not very wise about the decision at all.

Speaker 1 Were they already

Speaker 1 like were you already behind on them?

Speaker 2 Yes.

Speaker 3 Okay. Let me summarize what happened and you tell me if it's correct.
So you reach out to the company and they tell you, hey, stop making payments on all of your debt. Let it go to collections.

Speaker 3 Let them sue you. Instead, you make those payments to us and then we'll help settle with the creditors for a lower amount.

Speaker 2 That's pretty much how it's happening. I didn't know about the suing part.
Yeah.

Speaker 1 Yeah, they tend to leave that part out in the pitch in the brochure.

Speaker 3 Hey, we're going to implode your financial life, tank your credit, have people coming after you to sue you, but it's going to be awesome.

Speaker 1 And we're going to kill it.

Speaker 3 And they don't actually help you learn how to manage your money.

Speaker 3 So they're just middlemen that are unnecessary. And for those reasons, I would get out of this agreement because I think you are way more in control than you think.

Speaker 3 And I wouldn't let it to a middleman to implode your financial life to help.

Speaker 1 What's it going to take to get out of it? And what have you paid to them so far?

Speaker 2 Quite a bit. They've already made a settlement.

Speaker 2 And

Speaker 2 I'm about $2,500 in on those payments.

Speaker 2 I have about $1,500 in a savings account with them because that's, you know, you make the payments, they put it in this account, and then that's what they use to make payments back to the creditors.

Speaker 2 And I can take that out. I mean, they said I can get out at any time.

Speaker 2 I am just not aware of any hidden fees that they may have because

Speaker 1 they don't have any money at all. Yeah, you'll need to ask them about that.

Speaker 3 But I'm hoping you can get out without much penalty and fee and move on and do this yourself using the debt snowball method with Gazelle Intensity using the baby steps.

Speaker 3 That's the way people actually get out of debt.

Speaker 1 And so that's your homework. Your homework is to go and figure out what's it going to take to get out of this.
You said you've paid $2,500 in, which on $23,000 of debt isn't much.

Speaker 1 It sounds like you're still in the beginning process of this.

Speaker 1 You said they made a settlement. Did they tell you how much the settlement was for? Is it for the lump sum or just

Speaker 1 an individual one in there?

Speaker 2 It's for the lump sum, but

Speaker 2 it saved me maybe maybe $3,000.

Speaker 1 Not very much.

Speaker 2 But then with all their fees, I ended up not saving any money at all.

Speaker 3 But it makes you feel like, well, this still saved me money and a hassle. But listen, you can negotiate this stuff yourself.
If you've got debt and collections, you can call them.

Speaker 3 You can say, hey, I want to settle. I have two grand.
Will you settle on the six? Call it paid in full. And so if you do have debt and collections, you can do this yourself.

Speaker 3 The rest of the debts, stay current and attack them with a vengeance using the debt snowball method.

Speaker 2 Okay. Yep.
That's what we're that's what we're working on.

Speaker 1 All right. Hopefully.

Speaker 2 I just didn't want to do any more of this with this guy.

Speaker 3 Yeah, I wouldn't go down this road any further. U-turn.

Speaker 1 Thanks for the call. Yeah, George, we never recommend debt relief programs, debt consolidation.
They're charging you to do what you can do for yourself.

Speaker 3 Well, they market to you like Ramsey would. They're like, we're going to give you financial freedom and we're going to help you get out of debt.

Speaker 3 Except we know the solution is the person in the mirror. That's right.
Not some middleman who's going to take your payments while imploding your financial life. That's what they do.

Speaker 1 Yeah. Don't make payments.
Let it go to collections because then when it's in collections, now we have the ability to settle. Yeah.

Speaker 3 And trust me, I do not care about a credit score, but I don't want you to tank your credit score on purpose. It will hurt you financially to have a bad score.
That's right.

Speaker 1 Yeah, we would never tell you to do that on purpose. All right, let's go to Ray in Columbus, Ohio.
What's going on, Ray?

Speaker 1 Hi. Hey, what's up?

Speaker 2 So my question is, is how do I begin to pay down this debt that I have with the low income that I make?

Speaker 1 Okay, so tell us what your debt is and tell us what your income is.

Speaker 2 Okay, so total debt is about $30,000

Speaker 2 and monthly I bring home after taxes $1,200.

Speaker 1 Ooh, what are you doing for work?

Speaker 2 I work at a gym

Speaker 2 and I'm only part-time currently. And basically speaking to my boss, he tells me he doesn't have the hours to allow me to work full-time.

Speaker 1 Okay, so why don't you go ahead, George? I'm just wondering, are you getting paid hourly?

Speaker 3 Yes. And what are you making hourly?

Speaker 2 16.

Speaker 3 So could you not find a job that's full-time paying 16 or 17 or 18 or 20 or 25?

Speaker 2 Unfortunately, jobs are not really hiring.

Speaker 2 You know, I've put in tons and tons of applications for lots of places. And this is a lot of people.

Speaker 3 Like, Greg, we're heading into the biggest shopping season of the year. You're telling me no retailers are hiring?

Speaker 1 Yeah.

Speaker 1 I mean, you checked them all.

Speaker 3 You checked them all. Every single one.
You went to every retailer in your city.

Speaker 1 Well, you're telling me there's no jobs.

Speaker 3 You just said there's no jobs.

Speaker 1 You're looking. Okay.

Speaker 2 You're clearly looking for another job.

Speaker 1 We're pushing on you right now.

Speaker 2 Now, as far as the applications I put in, I'm not hearing anything.

Speaker 3 I just think Ray is worth more than $1,200 a month. Would you agree?

Speaker 1 I agree. Yes.
What is this? What is the most you have made?

Speaker 1 Tell us when you were doing.

Speaker 1 If you had a moment where you're like, yeah, I was doing well.

Speaker 2 Yeah, my previous job actually i ended up getting laid off because they just were having major budget budget cut issues and i was making about 50k that when i was working okay so

Speaker 1 what is your skill set here

Speaker 3 i'm sorry what what's the skill set

Speaker 2 what's your background it was manufacturing it was at a factory do you have education in that field or did you just kind of fall into it

Speaker 2 I just fell into the job and started working there.

Speaker 1 Okay. Is it just you or do you have a family? Is there a spouse? Anything like that? I do.

Speaker 2 I do have a son. Okay.
And then my boyfriend and I do live together.

Speaker 1 So

Speaker 1 what does child care look like?

Speaker 2 Child care, I do get like assistance for that, but I do pay a little bit monthly for that.

Speaker 1 How much do you pay monthly? Can I ask?

Speaker 4 Only $108.

Speaker 1 Okay.

Speaker 1 So you've got that, we wanted to know that because we want to know, are you freed up to be able to work full-time? And it sounds like you are. Okay.

Speaker 1 At this point, point, you got to just get like pound that pavement. That's the only, the only solution to this is income.
I wish that there was a magic button, but there's just not.

Speaker 1 In your situation, income is your only thing that's going to break you free. Luckily, 30,000, you know, you can tackle that, but you got to be making it.

Speaker 1 Let's get back to the 50,000. Let's let that be kind of a goal point for us.

Speaker 1 But the reason that George and I were really pressing you on the income is because we know like, like you can go to Walmart, you can go to Wendy's, you can, like, there's places that are paying 18 an hour and it's not, um,

Speaker 1 they're, they're, they're places that aren't hard to break through. And so I think at this point, you've got to raise your

Speaker 1 really raise what you're calling a lot. I've applied to a lot of places.
If in your mind, a lot was eight, well, now a lot is going to be 30, right?

Speaker 1 And you're going to talk to people that you know and say, hey, I'm looking for a job. Are they hiring anybody where you're working? Do you know of anywhere that's hiring?

Speaker 1 So before you get off the line, we're going to give you Ken's book, Proximity Principle, because we want you to be

Speaker 1 having the tools to really get out there. We're going to give you the find the work you're wired to do, get clear career assessment so you can figure out what you want to do going forward.

Speaker 1 Because I think you're at a crossroads. Yeah.

Speaker 1 And I think you're really,

Speaker 1 I do

Speaker 2 23.

Speaker 1 Yeah.

Speaker 3 Have you decided I'm not going to borrow any more money? Because it sounds like right now you're going into debt just to exist, just to survive.

Speaker 2 Well, so the debt is, it's like $17,000 from a car accident. Two of them are credit cards, but they're within 800, you know, each.
So one is 500 and then one is 800.

Speaker 2 And then more debt, it was like 8,500 was from a car that I had to repossess after I lost my job.

Speaker 1 Yeah. And then 3,200 in student loans that I had from the past.
Exactly.

Speaker 3 So I think the lesson learned is no more debt. No more debt.
It works out as long as life's working out. And then life hits you and you go, oh boy.

Speaker 1 Yeah.

Speaker 1 And the problem is being in this situation has the ability to really impede the decisions that you make um and i don't want that for you so keep keep hitting the pavement you will find a job it's just a matter of time we believe in you we believe you've got it stay in touch with us and see if there's anything we can do to help this is the ramsey show

Speaker 1 From the Ramsey Network, it's the Ramsey Show. I'm your host, Jade Warshaw.
Your other host for the day is next to me, George Camill. We'll be taking calls about your life and your money.

Speaker 1 You can get your call up on the line by calling 888-825-5225. We'll screen you and try to get you in.

Speaker 1 But yeah, as long as you're calling to talk about your life and your money, you can even throw in a career question. You know, we'll help you out with that.

Speaker 1 Ken's usually the career guy, but you know, he talks to us during our lunch break. And so we have some information.

Speaker 3 He's giving a lot of wisdom for you. That's right.

Speaker 1 His desk is right next to mine. All right, let's go straight to the phone lines where we've got Emma in Colorado Springs, Colorado.
What's going on, Emma?

Speaker 2 Hi, Emma. I'm sorry.

Speaker 1 That's all right.

Speaker 2 Thank you so much for taking the call.

Speaker 2 So my question has to do with my dad wanting my husband and I to take a $60,000 loan that's a parent-plus loan he took when I went to college.

Speaker 1 Okay.

Speaker 2 And at the time,

Speaker 2 I never made a plan with him to pay it back. He never said, you know, at this date, you're going to become responsible for this or anything like that.

Speaker 2 I've been married three years now, and we have wanted to help my dad,

Speaker 2 because obviously it was

Speaker 2 helped me a lot.

Speaker 2 But I'm really, really regretting that now.

Speaker 2 And I think, like, he never said anything when we got married or anything like that. And I think he's just

Speaker 2 he's had a lot of conflicts with my husband. And

Speaker 2 the way I see it, it's like he's just frustrated with us. And

Speaker 1 so you think this is for spite?

Speaker 2 I do.

Speaker 3 How much can you tell us about the the context of this resentment? Was it because of financial choices?

Speaker 3 No. Or is he using this as leverage?

Speaker 2 I believe he's using it as leverage.

Speaker 2 I I think if if I were to say like, oh, yeah, sorry, my husband is this, this, and this, just like you say, then maybe he would be like, okay, just because for the past 12 years, he's been paying on this loan and has not ever mentioned it.

Speaker 1 So what does he not like about your husband? Where's the beef?

Speaker 2 Oh, my. So I think in retrospect, so in the past, I was really close with my dad, and now I'm just processing all of these things that happened.

Speaker 2 I wonder if he what has been maybe kind of enmeshed with me. Like in high school, he would tell me a lot of details about his own financial situation that I don't even know if he told my mom about.

Speaker 2 When he got the loan, when he got the parent-plus loan, he told me to not tell my older siblings about it.

Speaker 1 Okay. And

Speaker 2 I'm the youngest of six kids.

Speaker 1 So what does this have to do with your husband? Yeah, you mentioned, you made it seem like it was kind of a...

Speaker 2 Yes, yeah. So he thinks that

Speaker 2 he's been a very bad influence on me.

Speaker 1 I think that has to do with me. What does that mean?

Speaker 1 How old are you, Emma? Did you get your ears pierced? What did you do? Did you get a tattoo? What happened?

Speaker 2 It's been so ridiculous, you guys.

Speaker 3 So you're still daddy's little girl, and he's like, I don't like what this guy's done to my daughter. And I don't agree with that.

Speaker 1 I don't like it. He votes wrong.

Speaker 3 It's everything.

Speaker 1 And

Speaker 2 I think he's never let me go. I think he doesn't like that I've...
I've become a bit more assertive, which I feel like my husband has helped me really grow.

Speaker 1 I mean, you're married, girl.

Speaker 1 You left him.

Speaker 1 You're married.

Speaker 3 Have you had a one conversation with your dad yet to say, dad, I love you.

Speaker 1 I'll always be your little girl, but I'm also a grown woman and I'm married to this guy and we're doing our own thing.

Speaker 3 And it feels like you're using this and dangling it over our head to go, all right, you little grown-ups, here's your $60,000 loan back.

Speaker 3 Is that a good summary?

Speaker 2 I feel like that's a very good summary, unfortunately.

Speaker 1 And you're the youngest of six. Did you say that?

Speaker 2 Yes.

Speaker 1 Okay.

Speaker 1 Papa is struggling. That's what it sounds like.
It sounds like he is trying to hold on to a last little thread of what life was. At least that's the way it sounds.

Speaker 3 Is he doing okay financially? Because it sounds like he doesn't have the ability to even pay back this loan.

Speaker 1 Otherwise, he would have done it.

Speaker 2 So that's why it's so complicated.

Speaker 2 I have wanted to help with the loan, never take it on myself, but I've wanted to help because honestly, he's made some poor decisions.

Speaker 2 He's a teacher.

Speaker 2 So he told me recently that when my sister and I were in school, he deferred some of his own debt to keep us in private school and to pay for music lessons and stuff like that.

Speaker 2 So I feel like he has, in his mind, he's done the very best he can, which I'm sure he did in many ways.

Speaker 1 But I think you're reading too much into it. I got to cut you.
I think you have to look at this pragmatically and look at it for what it is. Otherwise, you're going to keep circling a drain.

Speaker 1 Because the truth is, yes, our parents do sacrifice for us and they, they're supposed to, and they do, you know, cut things off for them so they can do it for you.

Speaker 1 Like that, they're supposed to do that. And when they do it, we're grateful.
And I don't think any, you don't have to replay that to prove that you're grateful to him because we know that you are.

Speaker 1 But if we look at this, like, let's just pretend that George and I are kind of the judge here.

Speaker 1 I think parent plus loans are really tough because here's, here's what, here's what we're really deciding between.

Speaker 1 The money was used for you and it was for your your education you got your education and then you kind of

Speaker 1 did you ask for the loan I don't know did you no I remember he really he really wanted me to go to this college and I didn't want to go but I remember saying like are you sure this is a lot of money but if you did if you didn't pay for it what would have happened you just wouldn't have gone or what was the I would have gone to a different school for much cheaper or little to nothing and you would have paid for it in cash or there still would have been a smaller loan

Speaker 2 So,

Speaker 2 no, actually, this is the kicker. He actually teaches at a college, and I could have gone there for free, but he wanted me to go.
Okay. I know, it's so bad.

Speaker 1 That's so bad.

Speaker 3 Isn't that like the one reason to work at the college so your kids can go for free?

Speaker 1 Oh, my goodness.

Speaker 2 He really wanted me to go to this Christian private college.

Speaker 1 Okay, so now

Speaker 1 we have, but now we have the facts because I don't want to run out of time. The fact is, he took out this loan.
He wanted you to go to this school. You were willing to go someplace for free.

Speaker 1 And let's add the legality to it. The loan is in his name.
So if you came in front of Judge Jade, you have no legal or moral obligation to pay this back.

Speaker 3 But if it's going to weigh on you and you have the financial means, then help pay it down. It's that simple and have the conversation.
You didn't have the conversation before.

Speaker 3 So the next best thing you can do is have one now.

Speaker 1 And you go, all right, here, can we come up with a game plan?

Speaker 3 I don't want this to hurt our relationship. I know you disagree with my husband.
Neither here nor there. Let's make a plan to get rid of this debt.

Speaker 1 And if I were you, I'd try to settle for half and half. I'd be like, let's go half zies on this.
You played a part in it. I took it.
I took the gift. I took the loan.
So I played a part in it as well.

Speaker 1 And so that's what I would do. And if you do make this, try to,

Speaker 1 I say this, but this is family stuff. And I hate, I hate business between family, but try to get it in some sort of writing of, hey, this is what we both agree.
Let's sign it.

Speaker 1 And so that we can always say, hey, we said this. Here's what we said.
I'll pay 30. You'll pay 30.
What's the balance now? Is it still 60?

Speaker 2 So it's 60. I'm guessing it was closer to 72 when he first took it.

Speaker 1 Okay, well, let's talk about it at this point and say it's 60 now. You pay 30, I'll pay 30, and no hard feelings.
And from now on, none of us co-sign for each other.

Speaker 1 And, you know, maybe you write him a letter and say all the wonderful things that you were going to say on the air about how he sacrificed. And, you know, that's that on that.

Speaker 3 But if the wedge has already been driven, then this debt is not going to change much of that. No.
It sounds like he's got other beef, and this is just one part of the puzzle, which I'm so sorry.

Speaker 3 That's not a fun thing to deal with. And money getting involved just makes it 10 times worse.

Speaker 1 It does. Yeah, parent-plus loans are a big, big problem.
Please don't do it.

Speaker 3 If you're listening and you ever take a parent-plus loan, just know I'm mad at you. And the puppy stops wagging its tail.

Speaker 1 Yeah, it's a problem. Don't do it.
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We're the ones taking your calls. We'll give you our best advice.

Speaker 1 Some say the advice is worth what you paid for it. All right, let's go to Sophia in Washington, D.C.
What's up, Sophia?

Speaker 2 Hi there.

Speaker 2 So I'm kind of dealing with this situation where I got divorced three years ago. I was able to buy my ex-husband out of the house.
I'm looking at getting remarried now.

Speaker 2 And my boyfriend is asking to be put on the deed to the house right now or after you get married

Speaker 2 after we get married and you don't want to

Speaker 2 i've had to make a lot of sacrifices to be in the financial situation i'm in and i just don't feel like he makes those same sacrifices and he's just walking into a house and hold up then why do you want to marry this guy is already you already have resentment toward him

Speaker 2 I don't. He just really enjoys boating, and I enjoy having a roof over my head.

Speaker 1 Girl, uh-uh, there's something, there's animosity there.

Speaker 3 You don't think this is going to play out in a marriage?

Speaker 3 Because it's only going to get worse from here on out.

Speaker 3 Because it's going to be, well, this is my money that I earned, and so I'm going to spend it here, and we're going to split the rest. At that point, just get a roommate.

Speaker 3 I don't want you to get married if you're going to enter into the situation where you're resentful.

Speaker 1 So do you want to... The perspective?

Speaker 2 I come from it is that once we're married, we'll put everything into a bank account together and we can save up for our own house.

Speaker 2 The problem is I have a child from my first marriage and I want the house to go to her if anything were to ever happen to me.

Speaker 1 Okay, but that's not the way marriage works necessarily.

Speaker 1 So let's let's pull back because you came you came in hot into the conversation to the point to to where George and I were like, wow, this woman has some beef towards him.

Speaker 1 So let's kind of back out for a second because you're marrying a guy, right?

Speaker 1 That if to me, if you're marrying somebody, this is the person you ultimately trust that you want to build wealth, that you want to build wealth with, and you trust your children with them.

Speaker 1 So what I just heard you say sounded as though,

Speaker 1 and how old is your child, by the way?

Speaker 1 Three years old. Three years old.
So what you just said sounded as though if something were to happen to you, God forbid,

Speaker 1 you want the house to go to her, but wouldn't the house go to your spouse who is taking care of your daughter? What's wrong with that?

Speaker 2 Her father would technically get custody of her.

Speaker 1 Oh, she wouldn't

Speaker 1 have any of that.

Speaker 3 So then the father's going to move into the house that your husband's in to take care of her?

Speaker 2 No, the way I have it set now is that the tr the house is in a tr in a guardianship.

Speaker 2 So my parents are the uh executors on that and would be able to s rent the house out until she's 18 and then sell it.

Speaker 3 Do you have life insurance?

Speaker 2 I do.

Speaker 3 Okay. You got term life in place, 10 to 12 times your income?

Speaker 1 Yes. Okay.

Speaker 3 That could be the solution to a lot of this, because you can make her the beneficiary and she'll have the money. It can be in a trust.
It'll you'll have a, you know, the the guardian of it.

Speaker 3 But I I feel like the this is like a leverage piece and you've got a lot of hurt from the past, which is very understandable.

Speaker 3 But I think bringing that into this new marriage is going to just put a wall up instantly that says, I'm not going to let you totally in, but I want 100% from you.

Speaker 1 And I felt the wall. When you just said it, I felt like, oh, wow, this lady's got, she's really protecting herself.

Speaker 1 is what it feels like you're trying to do and really almost walling off your daughter as well.

Speaker 1 And it just, for George and I, I mean, we've just been talking to you just for a couple minutes, and it feels like, oh, okay.

Speaker 1 So I like what George said about the insurance. And if I'm the spouse, like, let's George and I sit in the in your boyfriend situation for a minute.

Speaker 1 If I come into this, I'm like, wait a minute, I'm living with you, but I don't have any rights, you know, like I want to go on the mortgage together.

Speaker 1 And of course, it makes sense if something were to happen to you that, you know, yeah, is his name going to be on the mortgage?

Speaker 2 No, his name would not be on the mortgage.

Speaker 1 mortgage why not

Speaker 3 i guess that would require us refinancing and it's at a low interest rate okay but he and let me put it in his shoes he's going okay i'm helping her build equity to a home that i have no real involvement in

Speaker 1 and that's going to go to the daughter which i'll have no real involvement in if something were to happen you did mention that you were interested in saving up money together to buy your own place.

Speaker 1 What would happen if when you got married, you said, okay, I've got the life insurance for my daughter. She's covered.

Speaker 1 And essentially, if you guys were to get married, your spouse would have life insurance too. So if something happened to him, you'd be covered.
So like everybody's going to be covered here.

Speaker 1 And then if you guys said, okay, this current house, we're going to sell it and buy something together. What's wrong with that?

Speaker 1 Or you just add him to it.

Speaker 2 Yeah, I just, I guess I wanted him to understand what it's like to be a homeowner and sacrifice with me to build something completely from scratch together.

Speaker 1 Okay.

Speaker 3 I think we can address that without using this as a leverage piece with the deed.

Speaker 3 I think you need to address this with him and say, listen, I want to spend my life with you, but I have some real concerns about the way you handle money. And I want to raise this child.

Speaker 3 I want to build wealth together. And it sounds like you want to just go have fun and boat in your spare time.
And I need someone who has more skin in the game.

Speaker 3 I think if we address the underlying issues, then the deed is whatever. Add them to it.
Don't, you know. Do you think you could have that hard conversation with him?

Speaker 2 I think I can.

Speaker 3 Would he be shocked to know that you don't like his free spirit, childlike attitude toward money?

Speaker 2 He would not. Okay.

Speaker 3 This has come up before.

Speaker 3 It has. I would also use that gut check to say, should this relationship move forward until we address this? Because if we don't align on this, I don't think you should move forward.

Speaker 1 I wouldn't move in together.

Speaker 2 To be fair, he has been addressing it. He recently sold his boats, stopped paying marina fees.
So there are steps in the right direction.

Speaker 1 So he's boatless now.

Speaker 2 Wildly one.

Speaker 2 He's boatless now.

Speaker 1 That sounds like the ultimate sacrifice.

Speaker 2 Yes, and I do appreciate it quite a bit.

Speaker 1 Okay.

Speaker 3 So it sounds like he is wanting to make strides. And again, if you're going to go into this, I would be all in.
I think it's the only way.

Speaker 3 I know you have past hurt, and once you're going, you've gone through a divorce, in the back of your mind, you're always thinking I need an escape hatch with the what-ifs but I think if this is going to work it's got to be we're all in on this and that means we're going to combine bank accounts combine incomes combine everything combine houses deeds mortgages it's all us and that that's what creates a teamwork

Speaker 3 yeah

Speaker 3 okay

Speaker 1 okay Thanks for the call. We need to have a reality check.
Yeah, we want the best for you.

Speaker 1 You know, we're not trying to accuse you or poke holes in your plan, but we we really want the best for you.

Speaker 1 And when you call and we hear that in your voice or we hear that fear or that hurt, we definitely want to address it because it's more than money, right?

Speaker 1 It's in this case, it definitely is more than just money. There's a lot of emotion there.
There's, to your point, George, a lot of previous baggage there.

Speaker 3 And that's normal. Well, and she's got, you know, the mama bear wants to protect that baby for a three-year-old.
And I totally get that. So there's a lot at play here.

Speaker 3 And there might be some healing to do. And I just don't want that to be projected onto this guy to

Speaker 3 hurt Hurt the relationship in the long term.

Speaker 1 And the truth is, you know, if you're dealing with a three-year-old, if we're really thinking about this, okay, you got a three-year-old, you want to make sure they're set up.

Speaker 1 Life insurance really is the best way.

Speaker 1 Because think about it, a lot of times if somebody does pass away and they're left property, the first thing they do is sell it anyway, right? Because they want to get their hands on cold hard cash.

Speaker 1 So that's really what people want is that cash. So 10 to 12 times your income is going to be plenty to make sure your final wishes are taken care of and then that they're taken care of.

Speaker 1 It's for anybody who relies on your income, basically, is what you're covering.

Speaker 3 And the idea there is that you take that lump sum from the life insurance and you invest it, and the returns off of that

Speaker 3 could replace your income. That's right.
That's why we say 10 to 12 times. We've seen the average return in the stock market over a long period of time, 10 to 12%.

Speaker 3 So if you want to get term life in place, connect with our friends at Xander. That's where I have mine through for my wife and I.
Same with Jade. And just run away from anyone selling you whole life.

Speaker 3 Term life is a fraction of the cost. You're going to get great coverage, and you only need it for that 15 or 20 or 25 years because you're going to become self-insured.
You follow the Ramsey plan.

Speaker 3 You're going to get the house paid off. You're going to build up sizable investments in that nest egg and your family is going to be okay.

Speaker 1 And if you're a stay-at-home parent, we still recommend getting, you know.

Speaker 3 At least a half million dollar policy. Exactly.

Speaker 1 Because you have something. Again, there's people that are relying on you.
But what we don't do is take out policies on children. So hopefully that gives you a little bit of insight.

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Speaker 3 Today's question comes from Shelby in Oklahoma. My husband and I are in our early 20s and just got to baby step four.
Our income is just north of $250,000 with the help of overtime and side hustles.

Speaker 3 But living below our means is actually how we've gotten to where we are.

Speaker 3 I'm facing a lot of emotional conflict over family and friends hating on us for doing the hard work of the baby steps and for our high income amount.

Speaker 3 We don't have anyone cheering us on except the Ramsey community, and it feels very lonely at times.

Speaker 3 Knowing that we're still very early in our careers and knowing we will only increase in our wealth, will the jealousy and nay saying only get worse?

Speaker 3 We really just need some encouragement.

Speaker 1 Wow.

Speaker 3 Will it get worse?

Speaker 1 Probably.

Speaker 3 Because they're going to make fun of you for doing the plan. Then they're going to be jealous, envious, and judgmental when you do well.

Speaker 1 Yeah, they're slipping on their

Speaker 3 way with these people. Yeah.
Man. So here's an easy life hack.
Stop caring what other people think. If they don't pay your bills, they don't get a vote.
That's my policy.

Speaker 1 I agree. Yeah, they're on that hater aid.
But you know what, George, it is painful because you want your family to be like, yeah, way to go.

Speaker 1 You want them to notice that you've done something good, right? You want them to slap you a high five or say good job or just some sort of acknowledgement.

Speaker 1 So I do think it's tough when you don't get that, when you've done something pretty amazing, like pay off debt, and when you've done something amazing, like, you know, garner a higher income, that that's that's over.

Speaker 1 There's probably two pieces here.

Speaker 3 Number one, I think they're secretly envious of their amazing income in their early 20s. I mean, how many people in the early 20s are making 250 grand? Not many.
There's one piece.

Speaker 3 And then the other piece is they're doing a hard thing and transforming their life. And that holds up to a mirror to how out of shape I am financially.
That's right. And therefore, I don't like it.

Speaker 3 Yeah.

Speaker 3 And so I think there's a both and there, and it's only going to get worse as they become debt-free, as they make more money and build wealth, because then it's going to be, wow, look at the house they have.

Speaker 3 They must be doing pretty, and we did so much for them. You'd think they would.
And so there's always going to be something.

Speaker 3 With unhealthy people, you're always going to have some of this unhealthy, toxic conversation. So the best thing you can do is shut it down, ignore it, don't talk about it.

Speaker 3 And again, you said we have no one except the Ramsey community.

Speaker 3 Listen, there's hundreds of thousands of people in the Ramsey Baby Steps Community Facebook group alone that are excited for you when you tell them weird things like we just paid off our house.

Speaker 3 That's right. So there's always a place for you to go.
It's a safe place. And so go join that group.
Go join a Financial Peace University class. All of that.

Speaker 3 Get people around you who want to see you win.

Speaker 3 And it's going to be a much more fun journey.

Speaker 1 Yeah. Hold your head high.
Tell them get that dirt off their shoulders. Okay, George.

Speaker 1 You know, something that I noticed with these calls lately, and it's worth talking about because, you know, we're going into this third hour here.

Speaker 1 Money, we talk so much about money and the health of our money, the peace that we need to experience with our money, getting debt free.

Speaker 1 And we talk about that so much because we know that money is entwined in everything, right? It's wrapped up in everything that we do. There's a motivating factor underneath it all.

Speaker 1 And when you're in debt, it does skew your motives sometimes without you even realizing it. Think about it.
You're in debt.

Speaker 1 You take a job that maybe you don't like, but it pays more, but the motive is, I need that money because I want to pay off this debt.

Speaker 1 Or

Speaker 1 you sign a parent-plus loan because you think maybe this will give me a connection to somebody, and I'll be able to kind of help them make a decision. I can have a say in what's going on.

Speaker 1 So, there's a motivating factor underneath that. Or, I don't know, one of the callers, you bought a house and you bought it in a hard time and you sacrificed everything to get it.

Speaker 1 So, now that you're getting married to a guy, he didn't have to do that sacrifice.

Speaker 3 You've weaponized. Now, you've what?

Speaker 1 So, there's always this like motivation underneath money. And so, ultimately, we know that it's important to have a healthy relationship.
When your debt is cleared, it clears a lot of that motive out.

Speaker 1 And when you have a healthy relationship with how you view money, it clears a lot of that out. And so just a reminder that it's not just paper with dead presidents' faces on it.

Speaker 3 There's a lot of emotion and relational equity tied up in that. That's one of the reasons we tell people never, ever, under any circumstances, lend someone money.

Speaker 1 Right. Because that adds a lot of money.

Speaker 3 If you want to gift it to them as a one-time thing, that's fine. But if you lend people money, it always ends up hurting the relationship.
You become the banker.

Speaker 1 That's right.

Speaker 3 And they become the person who owes you money, which makes it real awkward every time they interact with you and you see them go on vacation and you go, wait, they owe me money.

Speaker 3 No matter how much you love them. So don't intertwine money before you're married.
Don't sign on the parent plus loan for your kids. Don't take out the debt consolidation loan for your boyfriend.

Speaker 3 And if you think these are things I'm making up, these are all calls we've taken in the last 60 minutes. Yeah.

Speaker 1 And then there's the part of it, George, where let's have conversation, like let's normalize talking about each other's views on money.

Speaker 1 Because if you're going to enter into a relationship with somebody, but you're not talking about the elephant in the room, which is the fact that we both have money, he makes more than I do, or I make more than he does.

Speaker 1 I spend it like this.

Speaker 1 He saves it like, if you're not talking about that, you can hear when people call in and there's like kind of that animosity or there's a little bit of resentment because they're not talking about it.

Speaker 1 And so if you're dating someone, if you're engaged to someone, if you're married, it's never too late to say, okay, let's, let's have a real conversation here because here, here are my views on money.

Speaker 1 Or maybe I actually like to start with the other person's views on money. Tell me your views on money.
What's your philosophy? What do you think about debt?

Speaker 1 You know, is it something that you did one time and you made the mistake and you never want to do it again? Or is it something that you did one time and you feel like it's a great thing to leverage?

Speaker 1 Like have those conversations because it's going to pop up again. It's like a zombie.
It never really goes away.

Speaker 1 And so you want to know what this person's views are before you get too down the line with them and before it feels too late to make a change.

Speaker 3 Yeah. And if those are that person's principles and values and they're not going to change, that's fine.

Speaker 3 At least we know. Now we know.
But now we know not to move forward with the relationship or we have to go to. counseling to find out how we're going to overcome this in a marriage.

Speaker 1 Yeah, because how many times have we taken the call where one

Speaker 1 person in the relationship kind of has their money together or they're working on it. And then the other person.

Speaker 3 Or they feel like they're doing so much better than the other person.

Speaker 1 Yeah, they feel like they're doing so much better. And in their mind, they're kind of the caretaker.

Speaker 1 They've taken in the person who wasn't making as much, the person who didn't have as much debt or has more debt, not, you know, not having the better financial situation.

Speaker 1 And so underlying the whole time, they're thinking like, are they just taking advantage of me? Are they just living here? Cause I'm giving them.

Speaker 3 They're mooching.

Speaker 1 Are they mooching? So this is, these are many of the ways that money just filters in. And if we don't talk about it, it kind of just festers and grows in our mind.

Speaker 1 So have these conversations with your spouse. Have these conversations with your boyfriend if you've been dating for a while.

Speaker 1 Certainly have them with your fiancé and make it part of marriage counseling. Like before you get married.

Speaker 3 Yeah, well, that's why I encourage people to take Financial Peace University as a part of premarital counseling because it'll start these conversations.

Speaker 1 It is a big deal. Okay.

Speaker 1 Do we have time to take another call? I don't want to. Is it risky? No, it's risky.

Speaker 3 Let's just.

Speaker 1 It's not rolling dice.

Speaker 3 One thing I do want to add to that, Jade. A lot of people think, well, I don't want to marry someone with debt.
I don't want to date someone with debt. And here's the deal.

Speaker 3 We never discourage someone from marrying or being in a relationship with someone with debt, but you do have to figure out, are they wanting to stay there?

Speaker 3 If they're with gazelle intensity trying to get out,

Speaker 3 and a lot of people go, well, Jade, I worked so hard to stay debt-free or become debt-free. And now they're coming into the relationship with $100,000 in student loans.

Speaker 3 And if you treat them like this project or like, hey, that's your debt and you need to figure that out once we're married.

Speaker 3 Don't get married.

Speaker 1 Don't get married yet.

Speaker 3 You're taking on all of them. All the good, all the bad, and the bad might be part of their debt.
But guess what? If you look at it as this is a season,

Speaker 3 hey, I know I saved up all this money for a house, but now it's going to go toward my spouse's debt.

Speaker 1 And then there's other part of it where it's almost like we want them to have the same penance that we had. And it's like, I had to walk through this.
I had to sacrifice. You should have to too.

Speaker 1 And I'm like, listen, if you're getting married and you have the money to bless your spouse in the way of saying, hey, we're getting married.

Speaker 1 I've saved up $40,000 and there's $40,000 of debt once we get into this marriage. That's a blessing.
And to make it seem like you have to, you have to go through what I went through.

Speaker 1 That's another sign of you're not ready. You're not ready.

Speaker 3 Basically, just get healthy before you get in a relationship.

Speaker 3 That's all we're asking.

Speaker 1 And if you don't want to marry them, if they're in debt, then don't marry them that's also your choice too it's a free country it's a free country this is the ramsey show

Speaker 1 This is the Ramsey show. I'm Jade Warshaw.
Next to me is George Camill. Hey guys, I know we've been talking about this, but I really want you to be on this live like no one else cruise.

Speaker 1 So we're going to keep talking about it. It's March 22nd through the 29th, 2025.
And you already know most of the cabins are gone, but we want it sold out.

Speaker 1 And again, this is not your average cruise this is a premier Caribbean cruise Caribbean or Caribbean I'm a Caribbean kind of guy all right that's right Caribbean queen that's it okay so we're going to Turks and Caicos Puerto Rico St.

Speaker 1 Thomas Bahamas and again this is a top-of-the-line cruise I can tell you I've been in the cruise business for a long time that's what I did before I came here Holland America It's pretty top draw.

Speaker 1 Okay, this is a nice cruise.

Speaker 1 Holland America, it's the new staten dam uh it meets the standard for the ramsey guest okay let's let's just put it like that we're not gonna have anything shabby this is very nice it's all inclusive foods included even room service okay so you can get your hot dog on at 3 a.m in the morning and no one's going to stop you get your hamburger a lot of poor decisions happen cruise ships at 3 a.m heck yeah it's that's the fun part you order room service you have some drinks yes it's like blank check richie rich Yeah, and then they've got these specialty restaurants that are top of the line.

Speaker 1 Um, and then there's, of course, really, really great entertainment while you're on. Uh, there's pools, the hot tubs, the fitness center.
Ken and I will be on the pickleball courts.

Speaker 1 There's the spa and salon, which I have been to, and I can tell you that it's on point.

Speaker 3 Jade and I will be doing karaoke night.

Speaker 1 Yeah, I told him we have like a sunny and sheer thing planned.

Speaker 3 Oh, that's amazing. We should work on a routine, yeah, a little song and dance for the people.

Speaker 1 Yeah, so all the Ramsey personalities are going to be there. And no, George and I are not going to do Sonny and Shira.
That is a lie. But we will be there.
We'll do the costume at least.

Speaker 1 We'll do the voices. That's right.

Speaker 1 We're going to have fun. The point is, by the time you end, we're all going to be best friends because we will have spent seven days with each other for better or worse.

Speaker 1 And so, yes, if you want to book your cabin, do it today at ramseysolutions.com/slash cruise. You can click the link in the description if you're listening on YouTube or a podcast.

Speaker 1 Be there or be square, my friends. All right, let's take another call.
We've got Mark, he's in Augusta, Georgia. What's going on, Mark?

Speaker 1 hey guys hey how are you

Speaker 4 all right well i'm good now we got power yesterday fixed 12 days and stuff oh my goodness

Speaker 1 was this from helene

Speaker 4 yes oh wow it looks like someone opened a can of what is it called release sticks or something like that and just dumped it oh my gosh my neighborhood and three neighborhoods down we're probably like one mile directly from the master's and where people have parked their cars, I don't know if you've ever been there on the outskirts of it.

Speaker 4 There's probably 50 pine trees down there.

Speaker 4 We're slowly getting power over in that area and stuff, but over here, people have like four and five pine trees on top of the house. There's no way, no way but to rebuild the house and stuff.

Speaker 1 What about to probably tear it apart?

Speaker 4 Actually, we had the last storm was 10 years ago, and we used to get them every 10 years. It was an ice storm that came through here.

Speaker 2 Yeah.

Speaker 4 And it broke down a lot of the limbs and all that stuff. So, what we decided to do then was go ahead and get rid of all the trees in our yard.

Speaker 1 So, that saved you.

Speaker 1 Yes. So, how can we help today?

Speaker 1 How can we help today?

Speaker 4 Okay, one of the things I wanted to talk to you about was this happens to a lot of neighbors and stuff when their neighbor's trees fall on their property and stuff, and then

Speaker 4 the neighbor's responsible to remove their neighbor's tree and stuff. And I don't know who passed that law and stuff.
I just don't get it.

Speaker 1 So, did a neighbor's tree fall on your house?

Speaker 4 No,

Speaker 4 if a neighbor's tree falls in your yard, which it did, it did during an ice storm that cost us $4,600 to remove it.

Speaker 1 Okay.

Speaker 4 It was their tree and stuff, and it fell in our yard. So that's what a lot of people are dealing with right now.
And some people don't have the money and stuff.

Speaker 4 And the neighbors are just sitting back and say, hey, you got to do it.

Speaker 1 So what are you dealing with, Mark?

Speaker 1 What's your financial question?

Speaker 4 Okay, my financial question was i've got we just got our house painted and all that stuff we had storm windows on the front of the house and stuff uh after the storm no power and all that stuff we couldn't open windows because the flies and mosquitoes would drive us crazy okay so i've got i've got one company and i'm not going to say their name and all this stuff they're well known and they said they will come out we're going to have to measure them they'll be homemade and all the stuff and it will affect us four months before we can get them but they want me to give them 50

Speaker 4 up front And I said, I'm not going to do that. I said, I'll give you 10, maybe 15.
I said, I can even get you a letter from the bank saying I'm good for the whole loan.

Speaker 4 But that's money that I'll be losing if I have it in the savings account or something like that.

Speaker 3 How much money do you have in savings?

Speaker 1 Do you have the full amount? I'm going to have $169,000.

Speaker 1 Okay. I'll get the $400 or something.

Speaker 4 That would blow up there.

Speaker 1 Well, look.

Speaker 4 Pretty careful, Kimney Clark.

Speaker 1 I mean, I'm good to go.

Speaker 1 Let me pull back. So you're trying to get storm windows, or you're trying to to get a different type of window.
You can place all the windows and they'll have open windows.

Speaker 1 And how much is that going to cost total?

Speaker 4 I actually ran across a guy. I saw the business and I got a haircut.
I walked in next door to grab a beer and the guy was sitting right there. And he said, $8,700.

Speaker 1 Okay, well, I don't know that I would go with a guy who was just sitting there getting his haircut drinking a beer.

Speaker 3 You're going to get multiple bids from reputable companies that I'm searching for.

Speaker 1 My hair cut. Oh, but still, he's the first guy you saw.
And he mentioned it. Here's the thing.
You've just come off of something traumatic. It's scary what just has gone on where you live.
Oh, shit.

Speaker 1 And you

Speaker 1 and then you've got the 12 days with no power.

Speaker 1 And you're thinking to myself, I want to, just like you did with the ice storm, you're like, I'm doing everything I can to make sure if this happens again, I'm in a better situation.

Speaker 1 So you cleared out the trees and now you're going through that same motion again. And you're going, next time this happens, I'm going to be a better situation.
I'm going to get storm windows.

Speaker 1 Storm drains and

Speaker 1 I'm not mad at you for doing that. And it might be a good idea based on where you live.
however i don't want you going with the first yahoo off the street that says i'll do it for you 8700.

Speaker 1 i want you to take your time no no no

Speaker 4 it's not that it's this is a place that's well known okay my neighbor across the street and all of his friends have highly recommended yes but i still want you to get

Speaker 1 i still want you to get a couple of estimates right that's just you doing your due diligence and saying there might be another well-known company that'll do it a little bit cheaper maybe they'll do it a little bit faster but at least you can compare right and that's just being being a good consumer at that point oh yeah and you get your expert and you look at what type of materials and all that stuff and all this stuff and then when you do it only pay cash do not borrow money for this

Speaker 4 okay i'll i'll kind of end with this jay you were talking about this

Speaker 4 i've been listening to y'all for 40 long

Speaker 4 45 minutes i'm sorry judge i'm so tired that's okay 45 minutes and the women were talking about that were trying to uh protect their investments well they're they're right all right guys are nothing but dogs I'm telling you.

Speaker 4 So they'll go wherever they got to do and stuff, but then they finally realize at the end, I need to settle down somewhere. Wait a minute.

Speaker 1 You went off on a tangent. We're supposed to be talking about storm windows.
No, but I'm just telling you,

Speaker 1 Mark's got some beef with these guys out there.

Speaker 4 Guys,

Speaker 4 they will take advantage of women.

Speaker 1 Well, not a good guy. Hey, we hope that everything works out with you in this storm.

Speaker 1 And I do think if you live in an area that's prone to natural disasters, you need to make sure that you have the right things in place to keep you covered.

Speaker 1 And of course, for a lot of people, it's impact windows. It might be having the hurricane graded roof, right? Obviously, having the right insurance is in place.

Speaker 1 And we know that insurance has gotten very expensive because of the storms that are happening. And so just do your due diligence.

Speaker 3 The other piece is don't let companies use this to sort of fear monger and get you in your time where you're vulnerable to say, you need all these things to protect your family and it's going to cost $30,000 and here's the loan.

Speaker 3 Right. A lot of people will fall prey to some of that as well because they're so scared.
It's so fear. And so you got to do things from a calm perspective.

Speaker 3 The person with the most patience, information, and options wins. And that's what we're talking about here.
Do your research with a calm head, pay cash, save up, have an emergency fund in place.

Speaker 3 Don't owe people money. And that's going to put you in the best position for no matter what life throws at you.

Speaker 1 And no matter what it is that you're trying to get done, don't go with the first company that whose card you get, you run into them at Home Depot or, you know, you met them at Chili's.

Speaker 1 I don't know, whatever it is.

Speaker 3 at least get a couple of different estimates because the truth is you might find a better one yeah i don't take business pitches and chilies yeah that's my that's my rule it's my thing no no no well jay this uh hour is about to end so if you're listening on youtuber podcast you got to jump over to the ramsey network app to finish the show uh so Go get it.

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Speaker 3 Cause I see some good calls on the board that you don't want to miss out on.

Speaker 1 I was approved for a home loan. Should I get a home in Baby Step 2? We'll talk about that.
Is it better to pay off my mortgage or invest the extra into retirement? I don't know. That's a cliffhanger.

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