You Make Too Much Money To Be This Broke!

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The call is free, and some say the advice is worth exactly what you pay for it. Joe is in Dayton, Ohio.
Hi, Joe. Welcome to the Ramsey Show.
Hi. Thank you for taking my call.
Sure. What's up? So I'm calling because we had filed bankruptcy back in 2019.
Things happened. We thought we were ready to buy a house.
And now we are back in debt again for a sum of about $118,000, not including my mortgage. So I know that there's an issue.
I admit that. I don't know where to go from here because there's a lot of things that I've done that my husband's not aware of.
And I just want to get out of this cycle because I'm done. Wow.
That's got to be kind of scary. It's very scary.
Yeah. So what is it you've done your husband doesn't know about? I've opened my credit cards.
I have a total of like 18 credit cards. Why? What are you doing with them?

If I can be completely honest and vulnerable, when we bought this house, I felt that I needed new things.

We are the poster child of trying to impress people and wanting to have nice things and do nice things.

And we put on this front like we have all of this money. Would it be okay to say that that's you not we yeah that's a you um it's i will say it's both of us he just doesn't know he thinks because i make a lot of money that we just so he's not involved in the finances at all not he doesn't even have access so the reason he doesn't know about it is just because of his lack of involvement, not because you've actively deceived him.
Fair, yes. That's exactly it.
Okay. What do you make? I make $125,000 a year by myself.
What does he make? He makes $35,000 a year, and I make an additional $15,000 with my side hustle.

Okay.

And what's your home worth?

My home is worth about $225,000.

And what's all this debt on, credit cards?

I have, so I have, I owe $1,300 to the IRS.

I have $9,500 of pay over time, like paying for, like PayPal and Corona. I have $16,000 in like online loans, like Prosper.
We have a $40,000 car loan and then $45,500 is credit card. Okay.
All right. And you guys are 55?

I'm 40.

I'll be, actually, my birthday's in a couple weeks.

I'll be 43, and he'll be 45.

Okay.

All right.

Cool.

All right.

Well, the first thing I would tell you, and John can elaborate, is that you're not going to be free or heal by yourself. This idea that you're going to carry all the weight of this financial family and make all the decisions is unwise and it's not working.
Agreed? That's correct. And so we need two things relationally.
One is you go to him and say, honey, we're in a mess again because I didn't say no and you weren't involved. So I've got to have you and me working together from this point forward for the rest of our lives where both of us know every single thing every single month, period.
We're going to do a budget together, and we're going to take this $175,000 income, and we're going to clean up this new mess that we've made since bankruptcy, because basically you filed bankruptcy and didn't change a single habit. No, not at all.
And your need to impress other people with money you don't have that you don't even really like continued. That is correct.
And so we relapse is what it amounts to. So that's got to stop this need for affirmation from others.
One of the things we find with wealthy people is that one of the keys to them becoming wealthy is they reach a point they don't give a crap what anybody thinks. And you give way too many craps what people think.
I do. You said that.
You said that. It comes from my childhood.
Oh, it comes from all of our childhood. We all need affirmation.
We all need a pat on the head. Right.
But you're too dead gum old and rich income-wise to act like a 14-year-old girl that needs affirmation.

Time to be a grown woman and stuff.

And can I ask one more question with that?

Sure.

Because I know that this is wrong.

My husband has worked at the same job for like 22 years.

He's not leaving. He's made it very clear, but he only makes $16.75 an hour.
And so part of me, again, I know this is wrong. I get angry with him and sometimes tend to blame things on him.
Like, what's your fault? You're not doing your part. So I feel like I do this because I do what I have to do.
How can get over that? I know that that is not right and I shouldn't do that It's a separate issue isn't it? You're looking to blame don't do that You've lost respect for him a long time ago and if you lost respect over him over a dollar amount that's something you gotta mine your soul over and y'all need to get into a marriage counselor because that's a mess. Okay.
I want to double click on what Dave said. Anytime you have a behavior that you need to change that's resulting from something out there that you're afraid of, you're afraid of what people are going to think, the only way to heal is straight through it.
I had a season when I drove a used Corolla. Dave has a great story about a used car after bankruptcy.
I want you to start selling stuff. Yeah, this car's got to go.
The car's got to go. Everything's got to go.
And I want you to practice not having nice stuff and have people see you. And you're going to find out you're not you're not going to die and this is the path towards not giving a crap this is the path to freedom but you got to you got to practice it and go right through it okay sell everything everything not tied down so the two of you are going to do a budget every month with every dollar on paper we both look at We both understand it.
We both agree what the money's going to go before it goes for the rest of your life. That's your antidote.
And what comes with that is cleanliness, meaning you have to sit down and start with, oh crap, here we are. So you're going to say, hey, here's what's going going on and you cannot bring up his income as part of this conversation his income is not the reason you bought crap for the spare bedroom right okay oh for corona for god's sakes yeah i'm here to tell anybody who does that that is the worst thing to do i'm the poster child of you think that you have enough money and you make it and you can make the payments until you.
So you live on beans and rice. You don't go out to eat.
You cancel any vacations. And the two of you roll up your sleeves and sell everything in sight.
And you have one hundred and seventy five thousand dollar your income to clean up one hundred thousand dollars in debt. It's going to take you 18 months of scorched earth living where your broke friends

are going to think you joined a cult. And that's just fine.
You need some radical, dramatic, traumatic changes to swing the pendulum all the way to the other side for a while. This is the Ramsey Show.
Dr. John Deloney, Ramsey Personality, is my co-host today.

Rachel is in Eugene, Oregon. Hi, Rachel.
How are you? Hey, good. Thank you for taking my call.
How are you? Better than I deserve. How can I help? So my husband, he's a business owner, and frankly, the business is tanking.
And he's racked up a lot of debt on both personal cards and business cards and between that and his truck and trailer we got a little over 90k in debt that we're looking at we have a home that we own we owe about 175 still on still on it, and we have about a 4% interest rate. Estimates are saying that our home is worth about $250 if we tried to sell it.
So I was just going to see if you would advise us selling a home and going into a smaller place or hanging on to it. What do you make? Nothing.
I'm a stay-at-home mom. What's he going to do? He's looking at just getting a local job here, possibly electrician apprenticeship, but I mean, we'd be making hardly anything, and he's not gotten a paycheck from work in probably three months.
How are you eating? We had a stocked pantry that we've been working our way through,

and there's a food pantry locally that we've been going through.

Are you paying the light bill?

We had a last month, but I don't know if we're going to this month.

Okay.

Yeah, I've got about $25 in your checking account. Yeah.
So why would he take a half-butt job making nothing? Our area is just there's not a lot. We've looked.
He's very skilled. He works in construction.
But even with that, he'd be lucky to get a $30-an-hour job. Why, Oregon is not like not doing construction.
There's construction all over the place around you. There is, yes.
And he can maybe try and get on two crews, but just hours for that. You know, most crews are on the same hour.
You know, they would both be day 10, 10 stuff. Yeah, but an apprentice electrician is not going to make anything.
You said that. So why would he even consider that? Go get on three different crews and work like a maniac.
You have $25 and your wife's scared out of her mind. You're about to not have electricity.
There's a Walmart in Eugene, isn't there? Yes. Can you go throw boxes on the night shift? Like you got two guys here who've got wives and kids and I can't fathom the situation you're in right now.

Not doing anything is not an option.

Right.

And I'm going to invest in my future by becoming an apprentice and starve to death?

No, thank you.

No.

Okay.

We need money.

You're just trying to think of a new career to start.

Not now.

I need money.

Y'all are drowning.

That's like trying to think of a new boat when yours is sinking.

Like the first job is to get to shore.

Sure.

Okay.

So I want him to go get three jobs in construction and walmart box slinging okay today i want him starting right now okay the truck and the trailer bullcrap construction stuff right there what in the world what is that stuff worth um the truck he owes about 14 still and i looked on kelly blue book it's probably worth about six if we're lucky he's kind of run it to the grounds with working it yeah what's the trailer worth um i haven't looked at what it's worth we bought it for 17 000 um and it's a 2024 so it was brand new um but i don't know what it would go for Okay. Let's get rid of that.
And it doesn't sound like you're stuck in the truck for right now. And let's get six jobs.
And here's what I want you to do, okay? I'm going to put you on hold. Team is going to pick up, and we're going to put you with one of our financial coaches.
Okay. Now, he has to go get three jobs this week.
Okay. Now.
Can I ask you about that? Yeah. Something about that, though? Yeah.
With his business, he has a couple open jobs that he hasn't finished. We'll finish them on the weekend.
Okay. That's what he's talked about doing.
Okay. We got $25.
Yeah. Rachel, how many kids do you have at home uh three with a fourth on the way i thought so okay yeah okay so uh honestly i i don't want him to let those other customers down but i'm more concerned that he doesn't let his pregnant wife down yeah okay where you are is terrifying yeah my wife sharon will tell you that when she was in the exact same position,

she felt like she was driving down the interstate and hit a patch of ice

and the car was spinning and she was getting ready to hit the crud out of something.

She just didn't know what it was.

You know that kind of terror where you open your mouth to scream and nothing comes out?

Yep.

That's where you're sitting, kiddo.

Yes.

And so you guys, and the only answer to it is extreme activity.

on the next slide. out yep that's where you're sitting kiddo yeah and so you guys and the only answer to it is extreme activity on his okay part so i'm working three things and he can he can put off working weekends until he uh at the new jobs until he gets these jobs wrapped up but he needs to get them wrapped up and wrapped up now and i want him to see how much money he can make well i don't want to overwork.
I might burn out. You're not going to burn out.
Right before you die, you will pass out. He's definitely going to do that.
Yeah. He's been working 60 to 80-hour weeks the last three months.
But making no money. Right.
Yeah. See, that's the issue.
So we need some money short-term. This is survival.
Now, once we get you with a coach and a counselor, here's what we're going to do the first money that comes in let me tell you what you buy with it you ready yep food okay period not eating out food grocery store food you're at home with kids you cook yep. Yep.
Fresh vegetables. Fresh meat.

Yeah.

Homemade everything.

You cook.

Yep.

Okay.

Food.

Lights and water second.

Okay.

Keep your utilities on.

Or you rent, you own the house.

Pay your mortgage third.

Okay.

Pay the truck payment fourth.

Okay.

And I don't care about anybody else until your family is warm and housed and fed. Okay.
He can make that much money by the end of next week. Okay.
Yeah. You follow me? So we'll get the wolf away from the door and the terror and the panic, and then we can start to think about long distant future But right now, we've got to take care of our own household first.
Okay. That's biblical.
Yes, for sure. Take care of your own household first.
Yes, and the idea of possibly selling the home to gain the equity. You may have to do that later, but I don't think you do.
I don't think you have a home problem or even a trailer or a truck problem. I think you've had an income problem for some time, and it's compounded and fell in on itself.
If we reverse that trend and create a huge income with a ridiculous number of well-paid hours, then we can flip this thing on its head pretty quick. I don't think you're going to have to sell it, but it all depends on how much money he can go make.
Okay. Is that okay? Thank you.
Yes. Listen, we're not charging you for this, Coach.
We're going to pay for it. I've been right where you are.
I remember what it feels like to be so scared you can't breathe. Yeah.
Okay. And, kiddo, listen, last thing is this.
Your husband is a good guy. Yes, he is.
He's a good dad, and he's a hard-working dude his business just failed that doesn't mean he's a bad guy and he doesn't feel real studly right now no he doesn't when his business is failing it takes away some of your manhood you follow me yeah so you remind him you married him for him not for his truck and trailer absolutely okay and he married you you married him because you knew he was going to take care of you and he is he'll go do it yeah he'll go do exactly what i told him to do this guy's not a bad dude yeah how old is he 26 uh 24 yeah okay almost like i. Yeah.
Honey, you're going to be okay. We're going to walk with you, okay? Okay.
All right, you hang on. They'll pick up and get you set up.
Dave, what is the, this is a world I don't know that you've lived in. What's the moment when, especially in this case, a man with a dream calls it? Because I can't imagine working 60, 80 hours a week and my wife's going to a food kitchen.
We always call it too late. Yeah.
Because we always hang on that much longer. Yeah.
And sometimes it's too late to turn it or salvage anything. Yeah.
So he should have been out of business six months ago. Right.
Because it wasn't working then. We know that because of the debt he's racked up, not earning money.
So we know he's been supporting this habit called a small business. So this dream, but your dream becomes a nightmare.
And those of us that are entrepreneurs, we hang on five months, four months, three months too long,

almost always.

And then you got a scared wife saying about to cut the lights off.

Yeah.

Sharon would have left, but she didn't have a car.

That's right.

Yeah, exactly.

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This is The Ramsey Show, and on the debt-free stage,

we have Tanya and Ariel. Where where you guys coming here from we are

coming from what you live florida out is that outside of tampa yeah it's about an hour and a

half south ish all right and how much have you paid off so we paid off our house 189 000 whoa

weird people yes sir weird people no dad what's the house worth? I think last I checked was $287,000. How old are you two? We're 34.
34 each. You're going to pay for a house? Yes, sir.
You know that's weird. It is, yes.
In such a good way. You're awesome.
And how much is in your 401Ks in your retirement? I think right now, last I checked, it was around, I think, $70,000, something like that. Okay.
So you're approaching a half-million-dollar net worth on your way to being millionaires, and you're only 34 years old. Yes.
Look at you. Well done.
That's a beautiful house. Oh, thank you.
That's stunning. Well done, guys.
It is nice. And $189,000, how long did it take? It took us 34 months.
34 months. 34 months.
And your range of income during that time? So I started out at my local hospital around $120,000, and then we took a travel job, and I think last year it was around $350,000. Your nurse? Yes, sir.
Okay. Wow.
Travel nursing. Here we go.
Does the whole family go on the adventure, or are you just out town? No. So, we're fortunate enough my wife stays home and she homeschools our boys.
So, I was basically gone at work all the time. Okay.
And she was home staying, taking care of the kids. Yeah.
But we all traveled with them. We all traveled together.
Okay. Okay.
So, you're not gone from the family all the time. No.
Okay. Are you going to keep doing that or are you going to go back and land at home? No plan to go home okay all right good for you well i mean you got that nice house yes living in a dadgum hotel i mean now wow okay good for you man you paid a price to win is what you're saying yes sir we did wow was it worth it oh yeah did people think you're weird somebody did anybody criticize you you know life's too short to work so long.
You just work all the time. People say stuff like that? We heard it, but we're used to being different, so.
Yeah, we've been on the Dave Ramsey Financial Peace University since 2012. Oh, wow.
And we got married super young, and we needed a way to find how to manage our money and your financial peace university came into our lives so we've been weird since 2012 okay so is that your church or what yes sir oh which church at that time it was a celebration church yeah absolutely okay very cool guys congratulations how fun how does it feel to have no payments in the war. Celebration church.
Yeah, absolutely. Okay.
Very cool, guys. Congratulations.

Thank you.

How fun.

How does it feel to have no payments in the world?

Like a weight off my shoulders.

Yeah.

So what, you know, you guys, you go out of town.

You're really working a lot.

Like you said, I work all the time.

And you knock your house out at 34 years old.

What drives that?

What was your motivation?

What was your why?

Why push so hard?

At that point, like we had said, we had been debt-free up until our house.

So we went from having no debt to the $189,000. And it was just a mortgage, but it still felt like a weight on my shoulders.
Because it is. Yeah.
And so I was always thinking about paying it. We were both about paying it off early and i always thought i guess moving the morbid side of me from being a nurse what could what happens if i die or if i get sick and i can't work then it's on my wife so i wanted to pay it off and it just be something we don't have to worry about when did you start traveling during covid yes sir, sir.
March of 2022. Okay.

Oh, after COVID. Okay.
All right. Right after.
But still, there's a lot of travel nursing going on. Oh, yes, sir.
Yeah, because there's a shortage. Yeah.
Yeah. Wow.
All right, Mom. So, husband comes and says, I'm going to hit the road.
I'm going to double, almost triple my salary. Yes.
And you're going with me. But you're going to be on your own.
Right right well um the good thing about us is that we've always had a strong uh communication so we were kind of thinking about it together he didn't just come to me and was like this is what I'm gonna do he was coming to me and he was telling me like this is something you know um painting a picture of our future for us us so he wanted to make sure that I was on board with him first before he went and made that decision and took the steps for it and of course I was because I think for me the most important thing was to have him home with our children more than what he was because he was working just as much just getting paid like regular nursing paid so I was like it'll be worth it in the end so just a few short years we're gonna hammer this thing out and then you can be home yes forever the rest of your life correct what I had in in mind in my mind the whole time because it did get hard sometimes.

Yeah, live like no one else

so later you can live and give like no one else.

So I have, this is a personal,

I have a bad habit of having this kind of conversation.

Are you in? I'm in.

We're going to do this and then it's going to be amazing.

And my wife and I, we cross hands and we cheer

and it's like, ah!

And then like 30 days later, I'm like, this is the worst. I'm out.
Right? So how did y'all keep going? Because there's a point when this leaves a cool idea and a neat moment to this is miserable day after day after day after day. Oh, yeah.
Honestly, it was seeing the progress that we would make, every paycheck that he would so about every two weeks i was done and ready to go home and then the paycheck would hit and we were like okay we can do this this is why we're doing it i can do it for two more weeks i just put 15 000 on the mortgage i can do it for two more weeks yes sir yes that that really was um something that kept me going for sure with the kids what do you tell people the key to getting out of debt is yep it's been budgeting being on the same page like donya said budgeting and sticking to that plan and i think living below your means not comparing yourself to what you do or don't have yeah yeah that's very nice good for very, very proud of you. Excellent job.
So talk to the person who's out there considering, I don't know. I don't know about working all those hours for a couple of years, but I'll be free.
I don't know. It sounds tough.
It is hard, right? Oh yes. Is it worth it? Talk to them.
I think it is. You just have to decide in your mind that the end goal is better than what's going on.
I would rather take a couple years of pain than a lifetime of misery. Yes.
The ability to delay pleasure is a sign of emotional and spiritual maturity. That's what it comes down to.
How did you decide that this mortgage was painful? Because most people get a mortgage and they're so happy that they quote-unquote qualified. They feel like they won something by getting to get underneath a squat bar that is their mortgage.
What in your life said, no, this is a burden. This isn't something I should be happy about.
I think when we moved into the house after the butterflies left of owning our own home, looking around at how beautiful it is, and then just thinking about the mortgage payments coming up this month and we weren't making much ground on it on the monthly payments. And I was like, we've got to get rid of this.
I didn't like the feeling. I like it.
Good for you guys. All right, and you brought the kiddos in.
What are their names and ages? We have Noah, who's nine, and Jude, our baby, who's three. He was actually like one years old when he started the training.
You want to bring him up and have him in the debt-free scream or not yes yes sir come on up guys come on guys come on there you go very fun good looking young men well done have they been practicing their debt-free scream they sure have yes sir we have all right all right because mom and dad are heroes they changed your whole whole family tree, boys. It's pretty incredible.

You guys are amazing.

I'm so proud of you.

Thank you.

Very, very, very well done.

All right.

It is Noah, or Tanya and Ariel, I'm sorry.

Noah and Jude paid off $189,000.

House and everything in 34 months at 34 years old, making $120,000 up to $350,000.

Count it down.

Let's hear a debt-free scream.

Three, two, one.

We're debt-free.

Yeah.

Wow.

Wow.

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1988, September 23rd, which is today, for those of you listening live, was the day I filed bankruptcy and started this whole thing so that those people could be standing there right now. Thank you, God.
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The Live Like No One Else cruise. The entire ship is Ramsey.
Holland America, veryica very high end very nice it'll be all the ramsey personalities including me and sharon the entire week manit shohan from the food channel stephen curtis chapman uh man the lineup is unbelievable and uh of course it's all inclusive the restaurants are top of the. We've got all kinds of Ramsey experiences and talks we'll be doing on the cruise stage.
Oh, by the way, yeah, it's premium Caribbean. Turks and Caicos, Puerto Rico, St.
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We've got the spa. Ken Coleman's going to be conducting a pickleball clinic on how not to play pickleball.

George Campbell will be doing a cannonball contest in the pool that he'll lead.

Yeah, that's it.

Like per square inch of body mass.

Exactly.

You have to measure it differently.

Dave, I've never been on a cruise.

You haven't?

No, this is my first one.

But explain this to me.

There's different levels of cruise ship. I guess that makes sense.
But there's... Definitely.
Way different levels. Yeah.
This is the fancy one. This is the fancy one.
It's not the fanciest, but it's up in the top echelon. Yeah.
Okay. Yeah.
There are some that are pretty much Walmart on the seas. This is...
Yes, this is not that. This is not Walmart on the seas.
This is Target. I'm just kidding.
No, this is not even Target. This is Nordstrom.
This is much better than that. All right.
Excellent. But, yeah, it's not a private shopping experience, but it is Nordstrom.
There you go. So good stuff, yeah.
Yeah, some of the other ones I'll pass on. I'm getting old.
But this is one of the ways they talk me into doing this is we're going to do it right. So, all right.
Hey, RamseySolutions.com slash cruise.

There are a handful of cabins left.

You can reserve one for 600 bucks, and that puts you in line, by the way, to upgrade.

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So you just got a minute, hot minute.

Tabitha is in Savannah, Georgia. Hi, Tabitha.
Welcome to the Ramsey Show. Hey, Dave.
Hey, John. I am calling.
My husband and I are in Baby Step 4, and he is having issues getting qualified for life insurance due to some medical issues. Why? He's PTSD, sleep apnea that is not treatable.

He is a disabled veteran, total and permanent, 100%. So we've been battling that for about five years,

and we just keep getting turned down because of his medical past.

With the PTSD, he is in therapy, doing what he needs to do,

taking his medication, doing all that,

but we still are coming up against being turned down. Is he also overweight? I mean, slightly.
I mean, he could maybe lose 30 pounds. Okay.
All right. Does he smoke? He does not.
Okay. All right.
Well, PTSD is enough to make you, depending on the intensity of the diagnosis or whatever, that is enough to make you uninsurable. So what you've got is an extra, how old is he? 33.
How old are your kiddos? None. Okay.
All right. So what we're trying to do with life insurance is make sure you're okay if something happens to him.
Yes. Okay.
Now, when you can't get traditional life insurance, you're uninsurable, there are things called guaranteed issue policies. They are more expensive.
But they're guaranteed issue.

There's no medical.

They just write it.

You write them a check, they do it.

And the biggest one you can get is call your mortgage company

and they will sell you a mortgage life insurance policy.

They would love to sell you one.

It's about 5X of what you pay for the same amount of term

if he didn't have these diagnoses.

But you can still get it, okay? So at least the mortgage would be paid off if something happened, and I would do that, okay? Okay. The other guaranteed issues are usually kind of gimmicky, small policies like $10,000 with your checking account or two times his salary with his work, and they do it through a group policy and it's guaranteed issue.
Or if he's in an association of something or a hobby in something, sometimes they'll let you buy a $10,000 or $20,000 guaranteed issue. Again, per thousand, they're expensive.
But if you bought four or five of those and you got mortgage life, then, you know, you got a check for 50 grand and your house was paid off. That's better than nothing.
Nothing. And it's not so expensive that it just breaks the bank.
Okay. It's not an efficient way for the rest of you out there to buy life insurance.
But when it's your only option, it's your only option. And, Dave, there's the other side of this teeter-totter which is tabitha you guys have to be hyper and intentional about not having anything on the you owe something ledger yeah you get out of debt stay so if something was to happen to him the only bills you would need to pay if you have mortgage insurance is you got to come up with food and electricity and water, right? Yes.
And I work, so the biggest worry is the house. Like, if something were to happen to him, a car accident or whatnot, I just want to make sure I can pay off the house so I'm not having to figure out, like, grieve him and then figure out where to go after that.
That's right. Yeah.
The mortgage life, again, they love selling it's it's it's five times what it ought to be and it's really profitable for them so they'll sell you one believe me um i'm sure they have i'm sure they have one in their back pocket that they'll just whip that thing right out and hand it to you so yeah so that's your biggest one mortgage life insurance for the rest of you do not buy mortgage life insurance it's five times more expensive buy the same amount of term insurance pay off your house with that for one time the expense i mean it's you know just you know don't and don't get ripped off by your work life insurance uh if you're insurable um and i will tell you i brought this up to her but um because she said sleep apnea is what made me think about it um that there's a correlation between that and being overweight typically uh not completely but um but typically so the biggest things that keep people out of the life insurance market are smoking when you smoke it your life insurance doubles instantly. And there's a reason.
You're going to spend more time in the hospital and you're going to die earlier. It's a statistical fact.
Okay? So there's a lot of reasons to talk about that's a habit I got to kick. It's super expensive.
And I'm not talking about the cost of the cigarettes. I'm talking about the cost of the medical care because you're two three x on your medical care cost and your intent your likelihood of dying and your two x on your life insurance cost so we're talking those cigarettes are costing you somewhere around 15 20 bucks a piece something like that if you're out there in the market between all the things that add up that that's costing you and uh right behind that is being overweight and so these are two things that people can adjust right it's not easy to quit smoking it's not easy to lose weight um but but it's worth it there's some serious financial benefits not to mention everything else to.
That's right. Yeah.
And so, you know, these are things you need to address. I was playing coffee the day with this doctor who was slightly overweight.
And he said, he goes, you know, most of my patients are overweight. I go, yeah, well, me too.
You too. And he goes, yeah, me too.
And he goes, it's ridiculous. He goes, it's crazy.
It's America, right? We're all, we're all carrying a few extra. And he goes, this lady came in and she said, I think I have a glandular problem.
He said, no, ma'am, you don't. There are no fat people in concentration camps.
What a brutal old doctor. i thought well well, there it is.
It's caloric intake, Dave. Stay away from the donuts, Dave.
You brutal old doctor with your belly sticking out telling this story. It's great.
I loved it. No, it's hard nowadays.
I think we're running out of, with all the new medications, we're out of of excuses to not say okay i can have some sort of control over this thing well you can't i mean there are obviously a few people who have medical situations yeah but i mean there's so many options now this whole guy but the oh man but the the these are two things that most people can gain control over, and they will affect your finances. Will they deny your life insurance over obesity? Oh, definitely.
Had no idea. Oh, absolutely, depending on the level of it.
But, yeah, definitely. And you can't get premium for sure.
But BMI, I mean, they're looking at that for premium pricing, for sure. This is The Ramsey Show.
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Anthony's in Springfield. Hi, Anthony.
Welcome to the Ramsey Show. Hey, Dave.
I didn't realize how easy it was to get a hold of you. Just dial the old phone, brother.
Yeah, that's awesome. What's up? I, you know, I first heard about you when I was in high school.
That was six years ago, seven years ago. So it's cool to be able to talk to you over the phone like this.
Well, honored to have you, sir. How can we help you today? So I have had for the past two and a half, three years, I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder.

And I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and I was really sick. I was misdiagnosed for a while, so my symptoms got really bad.
I could hardly get out of bed. I had also just moved out of my parents' house, and it was really hard for me to work, make any sort of income, and as time went on, it got worse and worse.
Eventually, I found some medicine that works for me. and now I'm trying to I just wanted to

hear what you had to say

about how I could maybe go about finding a job that is good for me,

even though I have maybe a little bit more of a difficult time with my condition.

How long have you been on these meds that are working only about five months okay so what i my experience walking alongside folks with bipolar um one or two over the years has been after several difficult episodes of either being really up or really down. And then you find some meds that work.
The hardest thing is to reestablish trust in you. Yeah.
Cause you're always waiting for this other shoe to drop. Is that ring a bell? Yeah.
Yeah. Okay.
The two things that I've seen folks over the years stumble with bipolar disorder is, number one, never fully taking that next step after they have, and I hate to use this word, but I'm just going to use it. You know what I'm talking about, just between us.
But stabilize. Once you're leveled out, it's a fear of taking that next step.
And

the other thing that I've seen is this feeling after six months, eight months, I'm quote unquote,

okay. And I quit taking my meds.
Yeah. My mom's a nurse and she's really, really

kind of knocked that into me. Okay.
So if you're there, the next thing I want you to do

is trust yourself as much as Dave and I are going to trust your next step.

Thank you. knocked that into me.
Okay. So if you're there, the next thing I want you to do is trust yourself as much as Dave and I are going to trust your next step.
Okay. Every single person you come into contact with in your, whatever job you take is going to be fighting their own battles.
Their mom's going to be sick. They're going to be struggling with depression.
They're going to have credit card debt. They're going to have a dad who's struggling.
Everybody's fighting something.

So I want you to focus on taking the next right thing,

which you got to go get a job.

And you're going to slowly establish trust again in you.

Yeah.

Right?

And you'll have ups and downs, and that's okay. But you're going to keep going, you're going to keep going,

you're going to keep going.

I'm proud of you, man.

And by the way, it's logical to trust the current version of you it would be illogical to trust the one-year-old version of you when it comes to work agreed one year ago was not a good thing agreed yeah but that's not the pattern we're dealing with today. Today we've stabilized.

We've got some meds that cut this thing leveled off,

and so there's reason logically to trust in your ability to hold the job.

What do you want to do, man?

I have no clue, and I've never known.

Okay.

Well, I'm going to hook you up.

We're going to hook you up with Ken Coleman's Get Clear assessment

and maybe give yourself a picture. But what brings you joy? What lights you up? I really like talking with people.
I'm kind of a people person. I enjoy hearing people's stories and getting closer and stuff like that um i don't know i love i love going to church uh um well a 24 year old that can play well with others has got a lot of possibilities what's that i said a 24 year old that can play well with others has a lot of possibilities yeah you might be an amazing salesman you might be an amazing um restauranteur i mean there's if you like talking with people listening to their stories so much of our world is so obsessed with people talking about themselves if you like hearing somebody else's story you could you could do anything yeah you're the opposite of selfie yeah that's cool that's that's i'm proud of you man way to Anthony.
Way to go. Now it's just about reestablishing trust in you, my brother.
Coleman's book is find the work you're wired to do. It has the get clear assessment as part of it.
We're going to give that to you as our gift. As soon as you get it, Anthony, take the assessment and then start looking and see if it doesn't spark some ideas because it'll give you answers instantly of the direction you should go.
Also, let's send in proximity principle, and that's going to give, Anthony is going to give you some tips on meeting people in your current area that might be doing the thing that you're like, oh, okay, I might try that. It's going to walk you through step-by-step how to go meet those folks and begin to ask the right questions so you can take your next step.
Yeah, and don't put pressure on yourself that says, I have to select the thing I'm going to do for the next 40 years. You have to select the thing you're going to do for the next one year.
Yeah. The thing I'm doing right now didn't exist 10 years ago, 15 years ago.
No such thing as YouTube or podcast. Didn't exist.
And here we are, right? Or TikTok, which Dave is a huge fan of. Yeah.
I was gonna say something smart aleck but i'll just leave it at that you know i saw the guys reach for the dump button and then they just they pulled back slowly they were afraid i was gonna air try to air something that's unairable that's gets fined by the fcc there we go open phones here at triple eight eight two five five two two five john we got one minute going into the break um i have dealt with in the financial world bipolar so much um because um when they're manic they spend like maniacs no no pun intended um and uh then they're then they're shamed and depressed all right they go into water and they can't work back and forth back and forth back and forth so it affects income affects spending both um but the and that doesn't bother me i can help you with those things uh what bothers me is there's too many people in the mental health field and i've used up all the time that act like this is not uh that you can't get better and people get better all the time yeah well they they act like this like this is, you're the worst thing that's ever, you've ever been labeled. And so you just go over in the corner because you can't do anything.
It's just not true. You and I both know people who work really hard.
They take their medication. They start taking care of their bodies and their minds.
And man, they can go on to do great things. Yeah, they're very functional.
Yeah, and they can be some of the most amazing thinkers and doers out there. It's astounding.
And Anthony's got the world wide open in front of him right now. Absolutely.
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Today's question comes from Savannah in Michigan. Savannah writes, I've been following your plan for three years and I've done well for myself as a single parent.
I'm debt free. I have a healthy emergency fund and will likely pay off my house in three years.
I've had to make many sacrifices and I've worked hard. However,

some of my friends and family are struggling. There's a constant stream of complaints at family

and church gatherings about the cost of groceries, increased rent, and house prices being unaffordable.

This is usually followed by snide comments about the haves and have-nots, which occasionally

descends into assumptions that those who own their home and have investments are rich, greedy people who benefited at the expense of others less fortunate. How do I, as someone who has worked so hard to better my situation, deal with the hurt I feel when I'm called greedy and selfish? How do I not feel angry and resentful towards those people when i've made so

many sacrifices to get where i am they're the ones who choose to complain about their situation rather than do something to get out of it what do i do that's tough you need some new friends i was gonna say man you

as Jay-Z once said

you dust your shoulders off

and you head out the door man yeah um shake the dust off your sandals and keep moving uh yeah yeah you do you've got to um here's the thing uh one guy calls those people energy vampires and uh they're sucking the blood out of your soul is what you're saying, because that's what negative people do that are victims and complain and blame everyone else. They're the opposite of people who provide hope, who provide encouragement, which refreshes people's souls instead of drains them, right? and so you have to say, all right, the people that I spend time with that are negative is going to be limited to the amount of energy I have to try to help them not be negative.
But just to hang and sit for two hours while somebody bitches and moans, no, I'm not doing that. I don don't do that if i have someone enter my life that's going to act that way they get limited access to my brain yeah and i can't stand it that's been a really positive for me that's been a hard thing for me and it's it's i i'm realizing to choose to spend time around those people is to choose to have less of time left less of an impactful meaningful time with my kids with my wife with my co-workers with my other friends it's finite that's right it gives you the flu that's right it's contagious yeah and i spend time it i it gets on me i get in my car and i'm like well what did you do who like it be it's hard not to become the air you breathe and so dave Dave, how do you, whenever we have.

If everyone in your church is acting that way,

you need to change churches.

It's time, that's right.

But Dave, how do you begin to,

that sounds weird, make new friends?

You got to go make new friends.

You got to go be weird, make new friends.

We were just talking off air about a mutual friend of ours

that's sober.

He's been sober about two years.

He's not doing cocaine anymore. He's not drinking anymore.
You know what he's been sober about two years yeah he's not doing cocaine anymore he's not drinking anymore you know what he's got new friends he's got new friends that's exactly right because he wanted new life yeah you can't keep hanging out with people snorting cocaine if you want to quit cocaine hello you got to get new friends and you can this this is mental uh cocaine yeah it's mental leukemia you know and you're gonna catch it if you around with it, you become who you hang around with. You talk like them, you think like them, God help you, you vote like them.
Right. And so, you know, read books change and you don't have to be mean about it, but I mean, think about it.
If all your buddies are your drinking buddies and you have an alcohol problem, you have also got a friend problem and you you have to change friends you do not have a choice if you want to stop your alcohol problem our buddy doesn't have a choice yep he can't run with the other crowd he used to run with and be anything but a drunk and a coke head and real friends will say hey we're going to love you and support you on this new adventure and either we're going to stop or man we're we're going to honor you and not do this around you yeah i mean if you got buddies that are you're drinking buddies and you know they say hey come over the party but we're not going to force it on you and we're not all going to be laying in the floor throwing up you know i mean you know i'm saying i mean it's like you know what are you a bunch of college students i mean what is this and so um you know the people that are 50 years old still act that way i know it's's shocking, but they do. And so, you know, you've got to get new friends.
We yelled this a lot on the show, and we celebrate being weird, but the truth is being weird sometimes comes at a cost. People don't want to be around you.
You know that kid in math class that always has got hundreds and everyone's kind of annoyed by him?

You become that for their life.

Dave, first thing this morning at staff meeting in front of a thousand people, we had a guest come in and we've been doing a documentary with her.

She's one of those amazing women that's a single mom who takes away every single excuse.

Rural America, tons of different identities. And she just said, enough is is enough is enough and we keep running into these people over and over and over i remember the teacher in new york city when there was a hundred percent lockdown and she figured out a way to pay off six figures there's just these folks that continue to say nobody's coming for me i'm gonna go out there and make this thing happen i'm not gonna sleep i'm not gonna i'm just gonna go and go i'm gonna stop blaming because the blaming doesn't feed my family complaining doesn't help solve anything and they just go do it and but that comes at a social cost when everyone wants to just complain you know we built a house a few years ago um that was a little bit ridiculous truthfully um it was a lot of fun it was a really nice place and we lived there for about 14 years but we had a friend at that time when we about the time we moved in came with some other friends we weren't there and it got back to us that she said well they're just out of control that's ostentatious they should be ashamed of themselves you know what i helped her with that she never had to visit there again yeah it was not a problem for her she did not have to endure my problem anymore so i assisted her with not being offended anymore right she never ate dinner there so there you go yeah it's like you know it's okay i can help you with that well and your best friends are the ones you call and when you have those moments they celebrate with you yeah they they cheer you on, man.
Yeah. They cheer you on.
A group of guys I get with once a month, and one of our rules is, cone of silence in the room. Now, tell me something good that's going on.
Tell me something you can brag about in here because there's nobody else you can brag to. Yes.
And I'm your friend. I'm proud of you.
I guarantee you everybody walks out of that room, standing a little taller, a little more inspired. Shoulders back, head up, baby.

A little more like,

oh, I'm going to go get mine then.

Oh.

Yes, that's so cool, man.

Yeah, baby, howl at the moon.

I'm saying, you know, that's it.

That's it.

That's versus like,

well, you know the little man can't get ahead.

We're all stuck.

I sure hope we can elect a president

who will fix my miserable life because I won't get off my assumptions and do it myself. I've never heard get off my assumptions.
That's fantastic, Dave. Eeyore is your spirit animal.
Come on. Seriously.
That's what she's dealing with. I feel for you, darling, because, I mean, we've all got the reason we're going off on is we've all got people like that but here's the thing 15 years from today your income will be within 10 to 15 percent of the average of your 10 closest friends income and i bet you know what i've never read this study but i bet your emotional health will be too i bet your marriage marriage will be too.
Yep. I bet the books you read.

I bet just the joy you walk through life.

Maybe the fact that you even read a book.

Yeah.

Ooh, there's a thought.

Yeah.

Wow.

Do you hang out with people that read

or that knows everything on Netflix?

Hmm.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And by the way, groceries have gotten expensive.

Houses and rent have gotten expensive.

They have. Yeah.
So we can make snide comments or we can get about it it just is here's the thing we're talking about this this morning we don't have people on the debt-free stage screaming complaining about inflation no you notice that yeah none of them are griping about interest rates yeah they're not talking about the cost of eggs. They're not talking about Bidenomics.
They took control of their life. Interesting.
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Dr. John Deloney, Ramseysey personality is my co-host today in the lobby of Ramsey solutions on the debt free stage.
Corey and Corrine are with us. Hi guys.
How are you doing? Well, Dave, how are you better than I deserve? Welcome. Where do y'all live? We live just outside of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania,sylvania about 45 minutes northwest city of brotherly love i love it welcome to nashville and how much debt have you two paid off two hundred and seventy four thousand dollars how long did this take uh six and a half years wow good for you and your range of income uh we started out at117,283 and went up to $145,731.
Cool. What do you all do for a living? Are you an actuary? To the dollar.
No, but I am a nerd. I am an HVAC service technician.
Love it. Okay, cool.
And I work at the YMCA.

I'm a call center registrar.

Amazing.

So $274,000 over six and a half years.

I'm guessing that might be the house.

Well, Dave, we paid off a loan from a 401k.

And then we bought property in the mountains. And we paid that off.

And then, yes, we did pay off our primary residence as well.

Looking at weird people.

Very good.

What's this house worth?

Well, it's going to sound kind of funny.

The one in the mountains, we built a house on it.

It's 143 acres.

That one's about 800,000.

And the one that we currently live in is about 279. Okay, I'll go with that.
I like it. I like it.
Very fun. Very fun.
So you're millionaires and how old are you? I'm 50 and she looks a lot younger. I'm 52.
Proud. I like it.
I'm going with that. Wait, wait, wait, wait.
You can't be a millionaire and have two properties if you work in hvac and at a call center at the y that's humanly impossible haven't you heard about the price of eggs it is impossible it is impossible if you don't follow the ramsey plan sign him up sign him up yeah there we go do you tell people? I mean, this is pretty impressive. You pulled off a deal here.
Now, let me guess, too. The way you did the mountain property, you don't have anywhere near 800 in it.
No, no, no, no. We bought just bear land, and then I pretty much built the house with family.
Yeah, okay. We just paid as we go.
Yeah. That's what we did.
So you got little to nothing in it compared to the value, yeah. Yeah.
But you still end up with a fabulous property, and then your home, your day home, you're through the weak place. Right.
Yeah. I like it.
Congratulations. What's it like being one of those kind of guys

that can fix stuff and build stuff?

I honestly,

if I had to pay somebody to do everything,

that would be a big problem.

It's a lot cheaper

to do it yourself. He's also tight.

Yeah. And the nice thing was

you taught me how to do everything too.

So in case he's not around, I can

fix a kitchen sink too. Whoa.
Just kick me while I'm down. Thank everything, too.
So in case he's not around, I can fix a kitchen sink, too.

Whoa.

Just kick me while I'm down.

Thank you, man.

Appreciate you.

Jeez.

John, John, I don't know what this means about you, but we'll deal with that later.

I think we all know what this means about me.

We'll deal with that later.

This is not your moment.

This is theirs.

I know.

Okay, so what happened?

What happened six years ago and you just said, forget it.

Let's just be millionaires and pay it all off as we go.

Okay, so we never really had a lot of credit card debt um but um one or two months that we did carry a balance over i got upset with her for not being able to pay it off when i was the one spending on it and um that was which was like a hundred dollars completely unfair of me and i didn't know that until dave uh smacked me upside the head with a two by four um metaphorically metaphorically of course yes and and so we um i found you guys um i'm so tech unsavvy it's it's crazy um a friend of mine set me up with iHeartRadio, and it's a part of the setup. It asks what you're interested in, and I said, finance and talk radio.
Well, ding, ding. You came up.
I guess I did, yeah. As soon as I heard your message and that you pulled your teaching from the Bible, God's never lied to me.
So I figured go ahead and follow that plan. That works for me.
And we had four and a half hour drives up to the mountains on more of a regular basis. So then that's how he got me into it too.
So we listened as we would travel and then I got really excited about it. And he surprised with the girls and I came home I'm a type a personality and there was this just obnoxious chain just the big chain link all the way around my kitchen and for every link it was a thousand dollars left on our debt and so I was motivated to get rid of that chain just for aesthetic purposes awesome exactly yeah double payments to you know snip it away amazing well congratulations you two how's it feel great great yeah really does any suggestions you have to somebody listening um yes um follow the plan exactly i like i said i uh service heating and air conditioning and there is what we call a sequence of operation if you want to know what's wrong with the piece of equipment you have to know where it stops in the sequence of operation and if you want to know what's wrong with your finances figure out where you've stopped in the sequence of operation is what I call your baby steps.
And respect each other and respect the program, respect the budget. Meaning stick to it.
Well, I like the way you said that because that's different than like stick to it. Yeah, like there's something about respect me and I'm going to respect you and we're going to respect this thing.
That's a level of dignity and we both promised right we gave our word on this deal that's cool he's my hero so are you but he's my hero yeah this guy you guys are incredible i'm so proud of you you're both heroes way to go when you're sitting here 50 years old you got a paid for mountain property paid for home everything's paid for you're millionaires as a result and um you did that working as a heat and air tech and working in the call center at the Y.

It's very impressive.

Don't tell me you can't win.

They just took away all your excuses, boys and girls.

Yeah, very well done. Corey and Corinne, Philadelphia, $274,000 paid off in six and a half years, making $117,000 to $145,000.
Count it down. Let's hear a debt-free scream.
Three, two, one. We're debt-free! Yeah! Yeah! There we go.
There we go. I think the universe is trying to tell me something, Dave.
This is the fourth or fifth person I've met personally today that is a curve buster, is an excuse stealer. You can't make any excuses.
Yeah. Well, I mean, that's it.
It has to take away. It's one of the reasons we do this.
It's called hope, right? once you see someone and you go, I can do that. That's hope.
That's hope. I can do that.
It's a light in the darkness. I can do that.
I can do that. Look at that.
I can do that. I got smart, but I'm smart.
I can do that. That's right.
I can do that. He worked hard, but I work hard.
I can do that. And that's called hope.
And that's why we put these stories that are true out there and have for so many years. We kind of backed into this debt-free scream thing.
We didn't invent it. A lady just called up and started screaming one day.
I'm debt-free. I'm debt-free.
I'm debt-free. I paid off everything, Dave.
And she hung up. And that was the first debt-free scream.
You know, it's like, so, yeah. But, hey, you need to celebrate when you freaking win.
Right. We were just talking about that with the other thing a minute ago.
You need some people you can brag to, and we're the people you can brag to. We'll brag with you.
We'll brag on you. We're proud of you.
You're heroes when you take control of your life while standing neck deep in a bunch of victims. You know? Everybody's standing around barking and carrying on and acting like they're

stuck. And in the richest country the world has ever known with more freedom and technology at your fingertips than at any time in human freaking history, you got no excuses.
You are free. You live in America, shut up and go suck it up, Buttercup.

Go do it.

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Hi, John. Welcome to the Ramsey Show.
Thank you for taking my call. Sure.
What's up? I've owned a home in California for the last, well, 50 years ago is when we purchased it. We've rented it for the last 20 to the same renters, a young couple.
And I'd like to see about how we can go about selling that house to them. And I carry the paper.
Why would you want to carry the paper? Because I don't think they can afford to go get a loan for the amount of money that would be needed to purchase the home. So if they can't afford a loan, why would you want to be their bank? They're nice kids.
They've never mistreated the house. We're getting up there in age, and so I don't need a serious amount of money for any particular reason.
We live comfortably. We've been debt free for, I don't know, 45 years.
What's the house worth? About $425,000 to $500,000. Okay, so if you sell it to them for $450,000 and you carry the paper, they're going to have payments to you, correct? Correct.
And if they get a bank loan, they're going to have payments to the bank, correct? Correct. Correct.
And the payments are going to be almost the same? Well, no, because I wouldn't charge them near as much. Honey guess banks aren't charging much interest now.
And you can get a 5% loan now. Okay.
If you charge them 2%, there's no difference in the payments. Not much, anyway.
Okay. Not much.
I mean, they're going to have about the same payment either way. And if they can't afford to pay the bank payment, they're not going to pay you.

How much are you renting it to them for?

$900 a month.

Okay.

$900 a month won't support this house if you sell it to them.

No, but I could financially do it for $1,300 a month plus property tax. They'd have to cover property tax and insurance.
Which covers about $160,000. And it doubles in monthly payment.
If you put the monthly payment out there, let's say they put down nothing and you put a monthly payment on $450,000, you know that right i know that's not 1300 i'm not that silly i know but i'm not trying i'm not calling you silly i'm just saying it you can't sell unless you sell them this house for 160 000 they're not going to have a 1300 payment okay so that's how that would work is i would sell it for less yeah if you want to give them if you want to give them half of the value of the house for free because they're a nice young couple then carry the paper also but um i think you giving them half the house for free because they're a nice young couple is probably enough of a gift i think they go get their own mortgage okay Okay. Here's my problem, okay? They're used to paying for a long, long time way below market rent.
Would you agree with that? Oh, yes. Yeah.
And you're afraid they can't afford any more than that? Well, I don't know if I'm afraid or if I've just not asked that question. Okay.
All right. I guess I would find out their incomes and let's figure out how we can assist them.
I'm okay with the idea of you giving them a deal on the house. I just don't want you putting them into something they can't do and you turn a perfectly good situation.
It's not perfectly good because it's way under rented rented but a perfectly good young couple and we put a pinch on them while we were trying to do something good you were trying to do something nice but if you put them in a payment that strangles them that's not the net result is not nice agreed agreed yeah so i really want to get into this and figure out how we can do this so having said all that, let's pretend that you find out that they can afford a payment on a price that you're willing to take for the house. What would you be willing to sell them the house for price-wise? $350.
Okay, all right. So you can sell them the house for $350, and they have a $3,000 a month payment, and you can either carry back the paper or you can ask them to get a bank loan.
Assuming their credit is good enough that they could get that bank loan, I would much rather you have the cash because otherwise you have a payment with someone who's used to paying $900,000, and now we've got them on $3,000 a month and three times as much, and then if it goes sideways, you have to try to foreclose on someone in California, which is dead come near impossible. Yeah.
It's the worst state in the United States for a foreclosure. So your advice is for them.
Don't carry the paper is don't carry the paper don't carry the paper carry the paper yeah just get out of get out of the business if you want to give them a bargain give them a bargain as you walk away if you want to be a blessing to them and help them and you do you love them you you think they've been with you 20 years you like them they're a nice young couple you you don't need the money so we're going to sell them a 450 000 house for 350 that's a deal you're a generous kind man john i'm a thanks and walk away you better walk away okay yeah don't don't don't get don't get yourself in a place where you end up having to be the bad guy after you were the good guy. Because you won't be able to be the bad guy.

You'll just get no money, and they'll keep staying in the house.

Yeah, it'll be Squatterville.

Yeah.

I mean, because California foreclosure laws are...

Yeah.

I mean, New York and California, you don't want to try to foreclose there.

Yeah.

Very, very difficult.

What about the other side of that?

What if you sat and said, hey, I'm going to stay with this way way way under market rent the renter if they're in california they're in a 450 000 house paying 900 bucks a month at some point if they're able to sock away the overage every month that they would be paying so if they were able to put away yeah they could you could could, you could help them just talk, talk them into saving the other 2,100. Yeah.
It seems to me that they get way ahead of 24,000 a year. Yeah.
They could do all right with that over time. 50,000 over two years, a hundred thousand over four.
You put it down a good payment and you know, I'd give you an option to buy it from me later and save up the money. There you go.
But something like that's fine. But so in general, folks, if you have a paid for piece of property, keep it and rent it or sell it.
Because if you're renting it and it goes up in value, you're the landlord, you get the benefit of it going up in value and you can raise the rents as the market goes up. If you sell it to someone, you've locked in all you're going to get for it.
The total price is locked in. It's not going to go up.
They're going to get the appreciation, and the monthly payment is locked in. It's not going to go so you're if you're going to collect payments from

someone on a piece of real estate you're better off being the landlord than by being than being the bank so the chances of me owner financing something are zero i'll be the owner if i'm gonna oh if i'm gonna owner finance or if i want to get rid of it i would rather take a little less and get the cash and be done.

A clean break.

Be over.

Done.

Finale. Over.
Done. You know, it's just these things come back and bite you in the butt five years later, and you go, ah.
And I'm afraid that's where he's going to end up. And part of that's just because he's just the nicest guy on the planet.
He's got a great soul. That's right.
Yeah. I'm not trying to say you have to be mean, but he's just really nice.
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