Life Is Too Short To Choose Money Over Happiness

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Up first, we have Charles in Tulsa, Oklahoma.

Hi, Charles. Welcome to the show.
Hey, thanks for having me. Absolutely.
How can we help? Yeah, I was just recently notified that my company plans on laying me off in the near term. Sorry.
I'm trying to write down a long-term financial plan, and I'm writing down my assets. And I'm just kind of looking at what I have down, and the vast majority of my stuff is not liquid.
I mean, it's either a retirement account or it's equity in my home or whatever. and I'm trying, if it came down to it and I needed to access that money, what would be the best way to go about doing that? Okay.
So you don't have any savings right now? Anything liquid is what you're saying? No, I do have savings. I have like three months of savings.
Okay, great. Well okay great well i mean this may feel pollyanna but you're not laid off now you know you're going to be in the near term what does that mean does that mean 30 days three months six months they couldn't give me an exact date um but i did say most likely january but my manager was kind of My manager was kind of doing me like a really solid and he wasn't really supposed to tell me like this information and and so insider like insider and so he so i wouldn't i wouldn't yeah so i would make it a goal not to pull money out of your house equity wise not to pull it out of retirement because you're going to get dinged with penalties and taxes um because i mean it's between yeah you have four months to continue to save and look for a new job right i mean so i mean in a perfect world yeah the goal is to do that and i'm just trying to do last-ditch efforts yeah i'm trying to write down a plan i feel like you have to I think you're focusing on the wrong part.
You're focusing on what do I have to depend on if I don't get the job as opposed to focusing on what will I do to get the job? Because if I'm you, I'm taking those other, especially the retirement, the how I'm taking that off the table. Like it's not even an option.
So I feel like you've got to go into this pretending as though that money doesn't even exist. Because if you go into it with even like just a piece of that in your brain as an option, then when the time comes, like let's say the time does come and it's getting close to the wire, you're going to be like, well, at least I have this money here.
And yeah, it's dangerous. Yeah.
I think, I mean, this is the extreme stance we even take, Charles, is that we say not to pull money out of retirement unless it's to avoid a bankruptcy or a foreclosure. So, I mean, yeah, so I, to Jade's point, I would act like it's not even there.
So financially, Charles, how are you? Are you living paycheck to paycheck? Do you, you have three months of savings, which is big. So, yeah, it sounds like you're in a good spot.

Well, yeah, my original goal was to get out of,

because I started listening to the show earlier this year,

and my goal was to get out of debt this year.

And the only thing I had on my card was my car payment.

And I took a radical stance, and I sold my car. Good for you.
And I traded it in for a car that has $300,000 on it. So I'm debt free with three months of savings.
So if anything, my radical plan. And what kind of line of work are you in?

Yeah, I'm in accounting.

Okay.

Listen, you're going to land on your feet, no problem.

Yeah, I think you're, I mean, I appreciate the due diligence of the plan and everything,

but I would encourage you, Charles, I think you're in a better spot than you think you are.

I mean, you have no debt.

You have three months of savings.

If I were you, between now and then,

I would just be stockpiling cash.

I would get that up to a six-month emergency fund

just in case.

And then as an accountant,

I mean, you'll have

plenty of opportunities

to find a job.

And then when you plug

into a great job

and you have too much savings,

maybe you could say,

okay, I'm gonna take some of that,

maybe put more towards my retirement.

But maybe between now and then,

focus on just stockpiling cash.

Are you able,

like legally

or with the stipulations

of your job,

Are you able like legally or with the stipulations of your job, are you able to start kind of

creating a book of business on the side so that you kind of have that as a bridge?

I do corporate accounting. So not, not specifically client.

Got you. Okay.

Stuff like that.

Well, I would start networking too, Charles, right? Between now and then, I mean mean talking to companies that are looking for someone and nothing's stopping you from talking having coffee no no and i was told like two hours ago so i'm trying to do like i started sitting out okay that's fair you're still writing in your journal like you're still trying to make heads or tales of it. Yeah.
I'm, I got like a bunch of stuff for now and then I'm just trying to create a plan of action and. Good.
Are you married? Figure out what to do next. I know I have a eight year old son now.
Okay. Okay.
Yeah. Yeah.
So from, from all that, I mean, yeah, if I were you, I would just be saving money. I'd be looking for another job.
And if they're going to lay you off and you find a great opportunity, then it's time to say, okay, that door is shut and I'm going to walk into something else. I mean, in that sense, that's not a selfish thing or you're not leaving them high and dry.
You're taking care of yourself in that situation, too. Right.
Right. Right.
Exactly. So great.
I mean, I don't like if I leave early, like it is where it is, you know. That's right.
Yeah. If you for sure i'm like yeah well thanks for the call charles i hope i hope that's helpful um yeah and and i appreciate that he called us two hours after he found out because there is probably a level of like panic and oh my gosh what he was doing when he called us was like getting all my ducks in a row which makes more sense that he's like already going going to, okay, what if I run out of money? But when you let the drama settle and the emotion settle, it is amazing how you can, and he's put himself in an incredible position, right? I mean, this is a totally different conversation.
If he has no savings, has a car payment, has, you know, is living paycheck to paycheck, then there's going to be, you know, a whole other level of, hey, this is, there's going to be more pain to this. Absolutely.
But that's one reason you do all of this, you guys, is to set yourself up for the unexpected.

And we always say the emergency fund is there after you are debt free and you have a fully

funded emergency fund of three to six months of expenses, which is what Charles has, that it takes

a crisis and turns it into an inconvenience. That's right.
Hey, did he say it was his leader

who let him in or was it just somebody he worked with? I think he said his leader. I hope I i hope i was gonna say like that's probably another piece of this is just to make sure it's accurate yes information and not like hearsay or like office rumor that you're yeah because that can happen as well right you jump you jump off this train that wasn't even yeah right because of what people are saying at the water cooler but i think think he did say it was Liz Leader.
Yes. Okay.

Yeah, I think we're getting nods.

But again, Jade, I think too,

that padding of planning is great of what he was talking about.

But getting yourself in that position

that when life happens,

because it's not if, it's when,

and it may not be a job layoff,

which I feel like we're hearing more and more of.

I don't know.

I feel like we're getting more calls with that.

But you know, the health of one of your kids or family members,

I mean, stuff is going to come up. And to put yourself in a position, not that money,

money does not make you immune to life, right? But it does give a buffer when those hard life events happen. It can soften the blow.
It can. Absolutely.
Yeah. So great.
Well, Charles,

again, thanks for the call. This is The Ramsey Show.
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next we have Richard and Maria from Tacoma, Washington. Hey, guys.
Welcome to the show. Hi.
How are you guys? We're doing great. How are you all? We're good.
Good. It's fun having both of you.
We usually have a single caller, so I'm glad we have two. Are you guys, what's going on? Are you guys married? What's means debate i know it does it yes we are married all right so how can we help so we need to get a truck because we'll be moving to upstate new york within the year so we need a vehicle that can handle the snow.
So we both have agreed we want to buy a used around $30,000 truck okay we differ on how we want to buy that truck okay so we have we have $50,000 in savings right now not including our IRAs and 401ks okay and then so she wants to buy the vehicle outright and then I want to use our uh we both have pretty good credit and then I want to use a sizable down payment to try to get our APR under 4.6 percent so that we Richard have more money in our savings. Okay.
So we have more money in our savings.

Okay.

So you have more money in your savings is why you want to do your way.

Maria, why do you want to just pay for it outright?

I don't want to have any debt or any car payments,

and I would just like to buy it cash and not worry about it anymore.

All right.

I have a question.

What portion of the 50 000

would you consider to be your three to six months of expenses that that's the other 20k that's why we set the uh mark at 30k for the truck so 20k would cover your emergency fund and then 30k okay well i mean richard you called the ramsey show. i think you know what we're gonna say uh i know yes i know uh yeah so i mean i understand richard the mathematical side right some people not with car payments it's the one part of i mean i understand him wanting to have the savings more savings yes yes but realizing realizing that richard that you're gonna be paying four to five percent on an asset that's going down in value where you could have that possibly invested even in just an index fund making 10 to 12 percent your money could be working for you way more and just for fun you said you'd want to put down a decent down payment what what were you thinking you would put down on the 30 000 car the car? About half the value of the car.
Okay, so $15,000. So then let me see if I can make you feel better about this.
So what's you guys' income? We make around $100,000 a year. Okay.
And so how long, without a car payment, how long do you think it could take you to save up that additional 15K?

Because in your mind, that's what you'd be parting with is $15,000. That was the part that made you

feel uncomfortable, right? Otherwise, you would have been willing to put the full down payment,

like pay the thing in full. So how long could you save up? How long, how quickly could you

save up 15,000 with no car payment? Probably like five or six months.

Yeah. So that's, I mean, we're talking about something that is almost less than half a year in order for you to be completely free, for you not to be investing in, to Rachel's point, a depreciating item.
I'm not even going to call it an asset because it's going down in value. So I feel like that, I feel like we made a good case.
Yeah, that makes sense. Richard yeah I am you know what I think is hard though I because again when we talk about money naturally the math is going to come in people's emotions come into all of it so it all that that all makes sense but the part that you just can't calculate though Richard is is this level of not having risk of having autonomy completely over your life and Maria is probably thinking too right what like you know god forbid something happens who knows um there's no risk at all right we just talked to a caller that's about to be laid off and he has no debt he actually sold his car to get out of car payments has an emergency fund and then you know that that life change for him is going to be very small impact wise financially than the opposite so I know you guys have savings and you're probably thinking well we could just cover it you know if something happens but there's still a level of risk and the other part of just of being owned I mean honestly I'm like having Toyota Motor Company having a part of paycheck every single month, there is something emotional there that can't go into a spreadsheet.
And we had Dr. Arthur Brooks on the show a few weeks ago, and he talked about the science, scientifically what the brain does when you have debts.
There is a level that you're, you know, you're not safe. Like there is something there in eight that people don't talk about.
So there is a freedom here, Richard, that, again, may be a little painful parting with the cash, but I would encourage you guys, this is why you did that. This is why you saved, is to be able to use your money and not use other people's money.
And then there's a practicality of, I mean, we're going to talk about this later in the show, but insurance costs are going up, and to be able to enter into a car with no car payment, it frees you up to be able to deal with those fluctuating costs that have to do with just life in general, whether it be the cost of your insurance going up or the cost of groceries going up.

Like there's a lot going on.

And so to be able to clear out as much variable as possible in your life, it's just for me, it's worth it.

Yeah, absolutely. Maria, how are you feeling? I'm feeling good.
Okay, so she's like, I won. So how does this work though? Because we talk to usually just one of the spouses calls in our show and usually it's Maria that calls in and it's like, hey, I want to pay cash for this car.
My husband doesn't want to. So we're usually talking to one of the spouses.
And we talk about the idea of being aligned values-wise with your money. So I'm curious for you guys, if you will share, you don't have to, but what does that conversation look like for you all? Is it Richard you saying, all right, Maria, I hear you.
I hear Jade and Rachel. I'm going to just make the decision.
Or what does those conversations look like when you get off the phone, do you think?

The conversations are honestly very good because the only thing we want is to just make the best choice for us.

And we just want to save the most money.

And I totally agreed with him.

And I'm like, you know, we can do it your way or we can do it my way.

It's just the reason I want it my way is just to

not have that feeling, oh, we have debt. And he feels the same way too.
But with his reasoning,

it was also, could we get a little bit more money in our savings doing it my way? And I'm okay with

doing it his way, but I also just had my idea. And I think our talks about money are great we pretty much agree on everything did you guys have debt prior to this that you paid off together oh okay so you've been living a debt-free lifestyle yes oh okay so Richard you were like we could just see what it might feel like you're like I'm willing to dip a toe in the water that's funny that's funny how the other side lives see how they live with stress and payments richard yes and i'm terrified to live that way and i know i would be insanely stressed but i also know that we've got about 10 months until we move and need that vehicle yeah so i was hoping yeah that 10 months we would save up, you know, solely have a car savings.
100%. Well, based off the numbers that Richard gave, as quickly as you could save up $15,000, I think that that's actually pretty feasible.
So very good. Yeah, you guys could continue to save and make the cushion even more.
Yeah, that's a great point because it's in 10 months. Well, you guys are awesome.
I appreciate you both calling in and talking through it because there's a spirit of humility there too, right? Of just saying, hey, we want to be on the same team and we want to do this well. We have the end goal is the same.
How we get there might start to kind of weave a little bit, but hearing each other I think is great. So thanks for the call.
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Up next in San Francisco, we have Maria joining us. Hey, Maria.
Hi, ladies. Thank you so much for taking my call.
I'm so excited to be on the Ramsey Show. Oh, I'm so glad you called.
How can we help? Okay, so I'm 50 years old, and I have only $100,000 in my retirement. And I own two investment properties.
I recently adopted my daughter who's two now and my priorities have changed. Yes, congratulations.
Thank you very much. So I want to know if I should be just selling my rental properties, what to do about increasing my retirement.
I have $15,000 in credit card debt, which I am in the process already. I have three credit cards.
I already paid one off. Okay.
Good job. Yeah.
And yeah. So I need your help.
I need you to tell me if I should just get rid of these properties.

How many is it?

There's two. So one is just a simple duplex and the other one is two flat plus a basement apartment.
How much do you owe on each and how much are they worth? Could you sell them for? yeah um So the one that the duplex is worth $144,000 and the other one is worth, I'm sorry, I owe $144,000 and the other one I owe $396,000. Okay.
What could you get them for? The one that's $144,000, I could get $242,000, which I haven't earned much equity on it. I bought it for $180,000.

It's ridiculous. And then the other one, which I recently bought three years ago, that I can get $550,000.
Okay. All right.
Okay, good. So yeah, $250,000, pretty much you could cash out before taxes and fees and everything.
Okay, and then your retirement, you have $100,000. How much are you making a year in your job? I make between $100,000 to $120,000.
I work for the school district, so I make $100,000 during the school year. And then over the summer, I can work privately.

So I make about $20,000 more.

That's so great.

And you have the credit card debt of $15,000.

Any other debt or is it just that?

Just that.

I don't have student loans.

I don't have CARB.

The one thing that I do have is, so I'm in California right now, and I'm living in my parents' home, but I pay the mortgage. They helped me out by buying this house back in 2013 because I made the big mistake that you guys always say not to do is buy a house with a fiancé before he was my husband.
Oh, a, that was a bad decision. And so, um, my credit got hit, so I couldn't afford anything.
So my parents said, you know what, instead of renting, you want to just buy a house and you pay the mortgage. So I've been doing that and their plan is to, yeah, for me to, this is my house, like to own the home.
Um, so they would transfer the loan, the title, whatever over to me and the equity is mine okay when will that happen we we i mean it could we couldn't do that right away um it's just a matter of finding out what the process is and if that's even doable with the type of loan that it is okay um do you have any liquid savings i have uh another problem i have two thousand dollars in my bank account right now i had i had um twenty thousand dollars but i used that money one to pay off the last credit card the one credit card yeah that's good that's right uh-huh and then the other the rest of it was was I went to Chicago where I'm originally from and I was not working. So I lived off that to pay.
Yeah. So now I only have $2,000.
Okay. So the good news is you don't have a ton of consumer debt.
It's the $15,000. You could probably knock that out fairly quickly with your income and then you've got these assets uh about 250 000 of equity if you were to offload them so you've got options here and then the next part of the equation is just assuming everything continued going as it is now right you're 50 years old let's say you plan to retire at 65 you've got 100 000 saved in retirement now if you just kept contributing once you clear out this credit card debt you save up three to six months of expenses if you just contribute 15 percent fifteen hundred dollars a month for the next 15 years you're going to retire with over a million dollars so that's okay that's as it sits now which and as a teacher will you have a pension what is there other question yeah yeah so I'm a therapist and yes I I only have a so I'm currently working through an agency um and they don't offer a pension but I was working through the district directly in the past so I do have somewhat of a pension um in and in Illinois, but that only adds up to like

$60,000 right now.

Okay.

Well, that's great.

$60,000 a year is what it'll end up being.

No, that's $60,000 that's there.

Yeah.

Just a lump sum.

Oh, I hear you.

Yeah.

When do you have, okay.

Do you have access to it?

Like when do you, if it's just a lump sum, when do you get access to it? And is it something that you could take and reinvest until you're ready for it? I don't know if I could take it and reinvest. I know I have access to it once I retire, but I don't know if I could pull it now and put it.
Is it growing well? Do you know what percentage it's growing growing year after year i don't know that okay those are the questions that i need to ask no no you're great

and i think yeah i would find that out because i think the more information you have maria around

the situation uh even jade just plugging in you know your info for the next 15 years and an

investment calculator like oh a million dollars okay this is feeling this is feeling better right

um so so what i would do if i were you i would would sell the two properties. Um, I mean, at this point, I think, you know, being in real estate and all of that, it's not paid for.
And I think it's going to cause more stress. And I think you need the money.
I mean, I think at 50 years old, you're going to be able to do some really great things investing wise for your future with that money. Did the income you quoted include the profit from the rentals? No.
Okay. How much do you make for those per month? So right now, the one that's the single house, that one, I was making about $800 a month.
The problem with that is that... $800 a month in San Francisco no no no that's in Chicago oh sorry yeah oh so these are not these aren't even in your these are both in Chicago and you're in San Francisco yeah yeah even more reason then I would definitely sell them Maria definitely I would not be a long-distance landlord with with this bill yeah so um if I were you I

would find a great real estate agent you can actually go to ramsey solutions.com slash real

estate or slash agent and there's ramsey trusted agents in that area and you can interview a couple

of them uh check out them and and use one of them because they you know basically do exactly what we

teach and they're going to help you through the process um but I would sell that I just bought

even the one that I just bought like three years ago. Yeah.
Yeah. It's long distance, number one.
And to your own point, you could use access to that money because the next step then is I would get with a smart investor pro. And if you find out that the deal with the parents house and all that is going to be a longer than five year play, like you could invest this money for the short term, and then when you're ready to come back to it, that could be the money that helps you have your own property in cash.
Right. But wouldn't I get dinged with taxes if I just use the equity from these two properties, if I just invest them rather than...
You will pay some capital gains, yeah, but it's been over a year. So yeah, there will be some taxes, but there will be taxes when it sells eventually as well.
Yeah. So I would offload them.
I would want my plan, one more detail on there. My plan is to be closer to family in Chicago.
So I wanted to buy a home in Chicago, a single-family home for my daughter and I. And when the time comes, you could do that, but you're projecting of, you're projecting really far in the future and there's nothing to say that you're going to want to live in either one of these properties that you've been renting out for X amount of years.
Yeah. I mean, I, yeah, usually you don't want to move back into something that's been rented out to families for the last five to six years.
You're going to want your own thing. So yeah, Maria, I would sell those.
I would use that money, pay off the credit card debt, get a good emergency fund of three to six months of expenses, and then sit down with a SmartVestor Pro and look at your income, look at the cash you have and your investing strategy going forward. Because I think that's going to bring you peace, knowing that you and your daughter are going to be taken care of in the next five to 10 years down the road.
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Today's question comes from Matthew in Oregon. He says, my wife and I are debt-free except our expensive townhome.
We bought it in 2022 with a 30-year term mortgage. Our monthly payment is about $4,200 a month, including escrow and PMI, while our net take-home pay is $8,750 a month.

Wow.

Our annual gross income is $110,000, which means our housing costs take up about 40% of our income, which limits how much we can invest.

We both have the potential for income growth, but today's high cost of living is challenging, especially with four kids. We're in baby step four, five and six, but still feel trapped.
It's hard to see a finish line of no mortgage payment. Should we stay where we're at and wait for our income to grow or sell our house and move? This is this is one of those reality moments, Rachel.
I think that if you're truly engaged in what's going on financially in your home, these are the moments where it's like, it's really tough because for those of you who don't know, here we teach that your payment shouldn't be any more than 25% of your take-home pay. And the reason for that is once it creeps beyond that, especially beyond 30%, is you really do start to feel that.
And you start to experience what we call being house poor and your blessing your blessing on the house now becomes a burden right because you're not able to have the margin to do the things that life calls for i mean in this case it could be anything from child care it could be anything from they're wanting to pay off their mortgage and they don't have any margin yeah well and if you're in baby step four you're funding 15 percent of your income in retirement so automatically that's taking it you have 45 percent of your income to live off of that's before food and utilities and everything yeah so it does it starts to dwindle um not always like in the right spots right and so and if you give 10 forget about it that's right oh yeah that's right now you're down to 35 percent and for basic living so yeah it, it's almost that feeling of like, we work too hard to feel this broke. You know what I mean? Like we shouldn't feel like this.
And it is because 40% of your income is going to housing. And so, yeah, I mean, I would be looking elsewhere because you say an expensive townhome, which I'm assuming is a really nice one, probably in a nice area.
And so I would be looking for other options. You know, you may be getting an older home.
It may not be near the city because that's usually where prices go up the closer you are to the city. So you may be moving out and all of it, which I know with four kids, I know it's so easier said than done just to be like, oh yeah, get up and move.
I know that that's like, could be changing schools, all of this. But the quality of your life and going to bed at night and having peace and not stressing and not being, you know, to this point of like on a, like, you just feel like, oh my gosh, I just go to, I go to a job and I have no progress in my life.
Like, that is daunting. That's for the birds.
You go, think about how much time you spend at work. You go to work all day, eight hours a day, some people far more than that.
And then you, you feel like you have nothing to show for. You can't enjoy your life.
You can't do the things that make you feel like you're making progress in life. Then there's the part of this equation, Rachel, where they do see a way for their income to go up.
Now, there's been times people have called in the show and they're like, hey, I'm at 30 percent of my income. But I know that I have a raise coming up in the next 12 months.
Yeah. we get that raise, it'll equal out.
And so there's a part of that where if they said, hey, we see a place where we're going to get a 15% increase. Both of us.
Both of us. And that's going to happen in the next 12 months.
Maybe there's a part of this where you can ride it out. That's right.
But only if that's 100% absolutely going to be true. Yes.
Yeah. Don't be on a wish and a prayer of it may be happening and then you're stuck in the cycle for the next four to five years because that's going to be exhausting.
Yeah. All right.
Let's go to Will in Miami. Hi, Will.
Welcome to the show. Hello.
How are you? Doing great. How can we help? Yes.
So my father bought a car years ago. This is a Mercedes.
He's a retiree surgeon, and he now works as a surgical assistant. And here, since all the recession and all the economic problems we've been going through the country that area of health he hasn't been able to get a job on for the last year he has some stuff on and off but he hasn't been able to have a stable job.
The payment for this car is $500 a month, $550 plus insurance that rounds up to somewhere between $650 to $700 a month. And because he doesn't have a job right now, it's been really difficult to maintain all the expenses.
What's he doing to maintain it? I mean, right now, all our family is working. We are immigrants, and everybody contributes.
You're paying for your dad's car payment? No, I'm not. I'm just saying that everybody's paying their fair share, but the car right now is one of those crazy expenses.
Are you all under the same roof? Yes. Okay.
And so explain to Rachel and I kind of how that works. When you say everybody's paying their fair share, what does that that mean so between my sister and i we the our rent is three thousand dollars uh my sister and i pay about half of that okay and the rest of the expenses are covered by our parents although So we didn't start paying until recently, until about six months ago.
My sister just graduated from college. I'm still a student.
Okay. How old are you, Al? Oh, I'm 28.
I'm just a late bloomer student. That's great.
I was just curious. That's great.
Okay. So it's just you and your sister.
The agreement is we all kind of live under one roof, but together you guys pay for half of the rent and we pay for the other half and everything else. Yes.
And so you're concerned that since your dad is not working, how is he affording to pay for this Mercedes or this expensive car that he has? I mean, to be honest, we cannot afford anything right now. Even though we are able to cover the basics, that doesn't cover the credit card debts my parents have.
That's why I believe that the car is one of the things that is taking them down, go ahead, Rachel. Well, so, okay, a couple of things, Will.
Where did you guys immigrate from? I'm just curious. Oh, we are originally from Venezuela.
Okay, yeah, yeah. We've been here for eight years.
We became citizens last year. Okay.
The only reason I ask is I do find, even in the Hispanic culture, there is there is this like gathering of family right there is there is more than just the standard american that's like oh it's you know americans i just feel like we're more independent and you just kind of you know you run you run on your own track uh where other countries other cultures there is more of this like family oriented life uh so i'm not saying one is wrong or the other will. But as a 28 year old guy, and I know you want to support your parents and be there for them and all of it for your your own dignity will as a man.
Emotionally, I do want you to somewhat separate what your parents have chosen with their own lifestyle versus what you're choosing. Right.
So they've chosen to, or he's chosen to have a Mercedes, okay? That's his choice. You have not done that.
The credit cards, I don't know if the credit cards are paying the light bill to keep the, keep the, you know, the house going, that's one thing. But if it's credit card debt that's coming from your parents that charge their own cards for their own lifestyle, that is, that is their money and their choices uh it does get a little bit confusing when you are living under one roof so i think will emotionally i would detach myself from your parents choices um and until they start affecting you which they might soon will there may be a point that you say hey i'm gonna have to make a different decision for my life.
Yeah. And I may have to go get a job, pause school, and do something different because I'm not going to be taken under because of their bad choices.
But here's the thing, Will. Jade and I joked earlier.
We were like, it takes a lot of therapy to realize you can't change people. You cannot change people.
So I hope that helps, Will. You're an awesome son, and we wish you the best.
Thanks to all the guys in the booth. Jade, thanks always for being a great co-host.
Thanks to our live studio audience here in Nashville. And thank you, America.
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Hey, Josh. Welcome to the show.
Hi. Thanks for having me and taking for my calls.
Absolutely. Kind of straight to the point.
Straight to the point. I live in the People's Republic of California.
I'm trying to leave this state. What I have a problem with is it's kind of financial and life career as well.
So right now I'm a federal government employee. I am seven years out from retirement or when I'm eligible.
My wife is a nurse. She makes really good money in California, and they make around anywhere for $90 an hour.
My goal is to one, sell my house, transfer to a different position and to a different state within the same agency. Just because I have a very toxic work environment going on right now and I just I need to get out but the problem is if my wife leaves the state of California she'd go from $90 an hour to $30 an hour which is a huge financial huge financial cut she'd also probably lose her 401k as well as that we did talk about doing foster to adopt in the event that we did move.
But my question to you, I guess, is am I just being, cutting my nose off the spot on my face and just should I just deal with it? Knowing the fact that I have seven years left to retirement, my house will be paid off in four years. You sound like you're at the end of your, like, rope.
You sound really frustrated. Oh, I am.
I'm very frustrated. Yes, I'm very frustrated.
I've wanted to transfer and get out of the state for 17 years of my career. Does your wife want to leave as well? Besides the money.
I know she'll take a pay cut, but just in general. Her family's here, but she realizes how frustrated I am.
And like I said, my boss is just terribly horrible right now. And it's been going on for a long time.
Oh, yeah. Yes, it has.
So my question to you is my being emotionally stupid by wanting to leave just so I can, quote unquote, have a more happy life to trade one stress for another for financial stress. Well, is it California? Like, OK, so if you you work whole gambit.
It's California. The state sucks.
The high taxes, just getting out of everything. All right.
Okay, you are, yeah, you're at your wits end. You're done.
You're done. Okay, so if you were to leave, what would you do? And where would you go? I'd basically stay with the same federal agency um i would go from what i'm doing now to basically to just a different function of job function but just to the same pay is there a different i would get it a little bit i'm glad it would be a lower cost of living which would be 13 grand a year where but i'd imagine that so it'd be from california possibly to georgia but i'm wondering if why georgia tax rate out of cash well that's where that's where the position is at for my agency have you ever been to georgia okay have you ever been yes i have okay what's your wife think about georgia sections of it she hates okay because here's the thing josh i mean i can hear you're frustrated and i i mean i could only imagine i mean i understand is from, from like just the state perspective that you're frustrated with.
And then on top of that, you have a terrible job. You go and work somewhere for 40, 50 hours a week.
Yeah. In a miserable place.
So yeah, you're, you're not in a good, this isn't like a good headspace for Josh. So my question is, you're not the only one in this equation, right? So your wife is going to have as much of an input in this decision too, because I think that there has to be this, you know, I don't know, but if she is not on board, resentment later on in life, you know, moving away from family, going to a place she hates, she's going to end up being you in four years, possibly.
I don't know. But that's a warning sign.
It's just like, you guys need to be so tight knit on this decision because it's a big deal to move across the country. So you guys need to lock arms and like be like we are in this together.
The good, the bad, the ugly, we are in this together because I don't want your marriage to be destroyed in the process either right and i want to be able to give her a voice too and her frustrations may not be as deep as yours um and i don't want her and i and honestly josh the motivation for her i'm like i there's a part of me that i'm like i i would hate for her to do it just just to make you happy because because josh is frustrated so we got to go do what josh wants to do right so like there needs to be a level of agreement upon you guys. And I thought plan B too, which I know you hate California, but is there a different position you could take where you guys live? A different job, a different opportunity, at least to get out of the toxicness of that job and then just have the frustrations with the taxes in California.
I don't know. But if you and your wife agree to move to Georgia, then make the move.
You're not. No, leaving a job seven years away from retirement is not stupid because the work is, you're in a terrible situation.
So no, that is not stupid to leave that. No, listen, I am of the mind that if one spouse is completely unhappy, then nobody's happy.
That's true. So I do think that probably a move is good but if she has come out and said I don't really like Georgia then Georgia's got to be off the table.
You've got to pick a place where both of you are like yeah. I'm up for that adventure.
I mean there's 50. I don't want to say 50 states.
What is it now? 49. No, it's 50.

But don't the other territories count?

Okay.

So there's 50 states and then some territories,

depending on what history book you look in.

Okay.

And so there's a lot of options.

Here's what I'm saying.

Going back to the conversation about the 401k quickly.

What made you say that she'd lose her 401k?

So, so, well, I wouldn't say she would lose her 401k.

What she did is she would stop contributing to a 401k. So she'd be to take it out yeah you just transfer it you just transfer it right okay i just want to be clear about that so i guess the issue is me is you know i've only got seven years left my mortgage will be done in four years on my house my wife is like going from 90 an hour to basically 30 if she decides to work if not then it's like it's a huge let me ask let me ask you this is there any world where you're like i is there any world where you're willing to ride this out longer because you're the person who brought up in just seven years i'll retire and in just four years i'll have my car paid off so or yeah i'm sorry my house paid off so do you really care about those things or do you know what i'm saying like are those things that you're weighing in or are you beyond that so here's the problem emotionally and mentally i'm just i am checked out the problem is is i don't want to live life on the emotional aspect i know logically financially it makes more sense to stay however i don't know if I can emotionally and mentally handle it for seven years.

Yeah, mentally and emotionally is going to be,

because you could be debt-free and still be miserable in your job.

And you're not saying this is after six months.

You've said for years.

Seven years.

For years you've been upset.

Yeah, I thought about most of my career, probably about 10,

the last 10 years of my career, it's gotten like that.

So it's safe to say that you have sacrificed a certain level why have you stayed in it josh i'm curious what was that why have you stayed in it for 10 years uh the pension and early retirement okay so this is a good lesson for america that money does not equate happiness there is a level of your life that as adults we have to decide to bring a level of peace and just, and to work a crappy, I would say a different word, but we're on a family friendly show. Crappy, crappy situation just to make a paycheck.
You guys, it's not worth it. Like life is too short.
Life is too short, Josh. So you and your wife, I would sit down, you guys, yeah, pick a place on the map and say we're going to transfer.

And we may even be in different careers, but we're going to find the level of peace and enjoyment.

And we may make less.

But people that make less and live within their means and work somewhere, they're happy.

So, yeah, you got to.

Yeah, Josh, y'all got to make some changes for sure.

And you should have made them eight years ago, if I'm being honest, not to shame you.

But we need to make some decisions here, Josh.

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One of the, I would say, pillars of winning financially that is so key is doing a budget, being intentional with where your money goes, where your income is going, because your income is going to help you live the life that you want. And that includes being debt free.
That includes having savings and investing and spending and giving and all the things it comes from your income. So being intentional with that is really important.
So our app, EveryDollar helps you do that. And it's fantastic.
And we have people, gosh, I mean, millions that are subscribed and that are building budgets every single month. And we love sometimes to walk through those.
And Jade, you do this a lot, even on your social. Yeah, that's right.
Yeah, I put out a call a while back and I said, hey, if you want me to review your budget, you know, fill out this Google doc. And so many of you got back to me.
And it's really been fun to go through budgets. And so Rachel, today, one of those budgets that was submitted, we actually have Natalie on the line from Chattanooga, Tennessee.
So Natalie, you told me, are you there? Yes, I'm here. So you told me it's you and your husband, right? You're a mortgage analyst.
No, I'm not. I'm actually a stay-at-home mom.
Stay-at-home mom. Is anybody a mortgage analyst? No, my husband is a husband is a chemist oh wow why don't I have that on here all right well stay-at-home mom a chemist is it right that you make 80,000 uh just about that yeah so I want to say his income is about 73 and then I make around an extra 6k a year through like a fixed side hustle that I'm doing.
And then I also have another side hustle on top of that. Cool.
Good for you. And so after taxes, after some little bit of investing you're doing and after insurance, you guys are bringing home around $4,884 a month.
That's what you put on your form. Yeah.
Yeah. That's correct.
Yeah. Just around $4,900.
Yeah. That's pretty much what I've calculated.
Okay, cool. So with everything that you said you have in your budget, which as a matter of fact, we can pull it up on the screen here.
So let's just kind of like go through this budget so everybody can see up at the top, that black number $342. That is your margin.
That's what's left over after we've put in everything that you said you spend money on every single month. So just going through here real quick, we see the mortgage here, $1,556, which is a little bit over the 25% that we talk about.
Water, internet, all that looks good. Sewer looks good.
Groceries, $800. Is it just you and your husband or you have kids as well so we've got four kids yeah wow the grocery budget is is uh listen that's great yeah you can do it for 800 that's fantastic amazing I'm trying to yeah I do a lot of cooking from scratch and I make bread like all that girl I've really slim it down.
That's great. I find that to be actually very impressive.
Okay, so our transportation, $250 on gas, phone, 140. Like this is a bare bones budget.
I see auto insurance. It looks like you've got term life insurance.
That's really good. But then we see that there are three debts here.
A student loan, which if I click into it, the balance is $11,000. And then you've got this car payment.
We've shaved the first student loan down to $8,700. Nice.
We're checking away at that. Yeah.
So we're trying to put like a minimum of $1,000 a month to that first loan okay so that's that's a great segue so we see that your margin is 342 how are you coming up with this full thousand where's that money coming from well i think when i've originally submitted those numbers we had still had some cell phones that we were paying off so we've taken care of those great. We've got a little extra margin there.
And then just through my other side hustle, we try and meet that $1,000 minimum is kind of our goal each month. So we're trying to hit that at least and then whatever we can make on top of it, we've been just throwing up the debt as well.
Okay. So it sounds like, so there's kind of like four areas that we really look for where people

can cut. Like there's more than four, but there's like four key areas that we kind of zone in on

when we're looking at someone's budget. And it feels like you're doing two of the four,

which is your side hustling. Like you're bringing in extra money.
We're usually looking for people

to bring in like an extra 800 to a thousand dollars. You're doing that.
It sounds like. We're always looking for areas where we can cut costs, and your budget is super bare bones.
You know, with kids and having an $800 grocery budget, I feel like that's a green check as well. But then there's two other areas that I am wondering about.
You did, at least when you submitted this, you told me that you guys are investing $200 dollars a month so yeah actually we he we stopped investing to news for all and k i finally convinced him so yeah so that's adding to the to the thousand two probably correct good wonderful so we i think it was actually closer to like 250 that was coming out of this check every every month so we've got that extra money as well so we're not not currently investing and then the so that's three green checks and then the fourth one is you're withholding like do you guys get a tax return every year we do yeah and it's usually a pretty good amount i'm i should probably have to double check that yeah the refund is usually pretty pretty good. A basic way you can look at that is to just see, okay, what's the refund? Let's say it's, I don't know, $8,000 or six, whatever it is, divide it by 12.
And then you're like, Hey, that's money that I could have back into my budget every month. So if I were to give you homework coming off this call, it would be that.
So that going into, you know, the new year for sure that you guys are having more money in your budget.

But I love that you made the progress on the student loan because the way I calculated it here, I took a look at your budget.

If you could get the amount that you're paying extra on this debt up to $2,000, like if you're paying an extra $2,000, you guys are out of your debt free in less than 24 months, which is... That just sounds so amazing.
I mean, that's great. Because we are hustling over here.
I feel it for you. I mean, seriously.
Yeah. I mean, it's powerful what it happens to when you actually start living on a plan.
How long have you guys been doing, living on a budget and doing every dollar? Yeah. Well, so we've been on a a budget for forever but I would say we've been really intentional about paying off the debt since March because we've just had kids like every year in the last like six years so that's just really been the focus and now that we're like you know taking a break from like having babies and being pregnant and all that we're like all right let's tackle this debt you know so good good.
Cause I was going to say, when you start living intentionally, like with the budget every single month, you may find, oh yeah, that was money going out there that I forgot about or I forgot about that Apple subscription or whatever, you know, and it could be 20, 30, $40 here or there. But for you guys, I mean, that makes a significant difference, you know? For sure.
Yeah. And I think that was the issue.
Like once we in March decided like, March decided like hey we're gonna do this it was kind of me sitting down with him and saying like I'm really sick and tired of like trying to like pull from savings every month just to like me you know yeah there's always that deficit of like hey we're overspending so we need to pull from savings but then we're not really going anywhere if that makes sense so Jade on the first but on the first debt, the first student loan, how much is the payment a month? The first student loan, the payment is $184 a month. Okay, because that's another great thing too, is that's another, you know, almost $200 freed up once that's paid off to throw at the next debt too, right? So like you can count that quote unquote as found income too.
Yeah, our goal is to have this first debt completely paid off by either February or March because he typically gets, he gets an annual raise, but also a bonus check that comes with that. So whatever we get from that is literally just going to pay off that first one, whatever's left over, obviously up until that point.
And then we'll move on to the next one. Because you have two more.
more so if i had if i had a piece of homework for you it would be to increase that margin with more side hustles get like yeah if you're doing a thousand now try to increase it by a thousand and if you do that then you're able to pay off that student loan and far far like far exceed your timeline there and then if you do that it frees up the, like Rachel said. And you could pay off the $18,000 Chrysler in six months, just over six months, seven months, which is exciting.
But I did want to ask you because last time I saw that you submitted this, you had $4,000 in savings and you had $2,000 in single stocks. And so that's also money that has the ability to be liquidated to put towards this.
Yeah, I'm not sure where that came from. We just have the emergency fund.
So we've just got the $1,000. But no, I don't know if maybe I put an error in there.
Oh, okay. We really got no extra cash.
Yeah. I guess that's probably the mortgage analyst, you know.
Yeah. Who knows where he came from.
But this is great. Good job, Natalie.
I love that. And Jade, you're so great, though, of walking through it because it's the truth.
When you start living on purpose like that, you start to see, like, the nooks and crannies of your money situation and let it work for you. That's the power of using your income.
So great. Thanks for the call, Natalie.
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We just went over a budget live here last segment and Jade, you're actually going to be doing a webinar,

walking people through the every dollar budget, how to budget, what budgeting looks like,

how you actually put this into practice day in and day out. Yeah, we're just doing a live training.

It's going to be Thursday, September 12th. So tomorrow, and you can get the clarity that you finally need with your money.
And we're going through just like we did with Natalie before the

break. We're going through those four areas where you can find money in your budget because most of

Thank you. And here's the thing, over 100,000 people have registered for these free trainings in the past, and they have come away with it with the tools they need to manage their money.

And so really now it's your turn to really get involved.

And yeah, don't wait.

And we answer your questions when we do these webinars.

We're there live and Q&A.

We'll sometimes pull up a question or you can comment.

And if anything, honestly, seeing other people, I mean, it's up to 7,000 people that can be in it live. I mean, you're seeing everyone comment on the side.
That's what I love the chat going, because it's people from all over and all have a similar goal. Usually have a similar emotion around it with a lot of fear and shame.
A lot of people that live paycheck to paycheck their entire life and they're trying to make a change. So it's really motivating to see other people on the journey.
So make sure to check it out and they can sign up. You can sign up.
You can go to everydollar.com slash webinar to sign up and or you can click the link in the description if you're listening on YouTube or if you're listening on podcast. So that's tomorrow, September 12th.
All right. Up next, we have Blake in Bowling Green, Kentucky.
Hey, Blake. Welcome to the show.
Hey, Jade. Hey, Rachel.
How y'all doing? We're doing great doing great how can we help so to expedite this this story um i bought a farm but come with a house at 17 i paid 60 000 for it put 20 000 down i cash flowed all the renovations and now my wife and three kids, we all live here,

and we've outgrown this house and we're going to sell it.

I would say the house and farm is conservatively worth $350,000.

Wow, that's great.

We owe $35,000 on the farm.

But the question that I have is my wife has $80,000 in student loans. Do we take some of this money that we're going to use to build another house and buy another farm, do we take that equity and put it all towards the student loans? Yes.
yes yep i would um because i wouldn't encourage you guys to go back into home ownership until you're at a point where you have debt paid off in a fully funded emergency fund and the equity you're about to get is going to be able to do all of that plus be able to put some money down payment yeah on a new build or new construction loan uh is that the only like is that the only debt you guys have is this 80 grand um we made a bonehead mistake and took out a loan for a camper um in in march which we've uh dove head first into your all's um plan and trying to pay this debt debt off. We paid 15,000 in the past three months.
Good for you guys. That's great.
So we owe 18 on the camper. Okay.
And yes, that's the only, that's the only debt we have is just really the camper. Okay.
Yeah. I would pay, I would pay both off then.
How much do you guys make a year? About 200200,000. $200,000.
Okay, that's great. Yeah, I mean, always kind of my friendly warning, if we were all hanging out, I'd probably say this to you, is whenever you get a lump sum of money, and we find this with people that may get money from insurance or they may have gotten an inheritance or they have a ton of equity that they're liquidating.
Whenever you get a large sum of money and then you go and you just wipe out the debt, because you're going to be able to do that in one day, it's a really amazing gift to be able to do that. But also, you're skipping a little bit of the sacrifice and the process to get out of that debt, which usually makes people never want to go back in because they've had to get extra jobs and sacrifice lifestyle and they feel this pain associated with debt and getting out.
And you guys aren't going to have that necessarily. I mean, you're going to kind of go through and wipe it out, which again is such a gift and you guys have been so smart on all of it.
So I think though it takes an extra step of you and your wife sitting down, shaking hands, pinky promising. I I mean all the things that we're never going back into this because you know you're gonna have to and I and I heard that from you a couple of times of oh gosh we made this mistake in that mistake so that's my only level of of advice when it comes to you guys going forward, that the behavior really has been changed.

And I believe it has for you guys, the way you're talking. But I'm excited for y'all.
I mean, that's great. I mean, you'll come out after, gosh, you'll pay taxes and all of that.
And so, yeah, you may have enough. How much of a house new construction loan are you guys going to take out? Do you know? um

we don't How much of a house new construction loan are you guys going to take out? Do you know?

We don't want to take out any more than about $450,000.

Okay.

So I'm thinking with all this debt paid off from the home equity,

hopefully we can put down about $200,000.

Yeah, possibly. It might be a little thin because you'll be paying some taxes.
So yeah, I would run some of those numbers, but it could be close. And then I would want you guys to have some cash to a side just for an emergency fund above what you're going to put down.
We do have a $25,000 three to six month emergency fund put up. Oh, Blake.
All right. So you got 25 grand.
Yeah. Okay.
That buys you, that buys you a little bit more. Yeah, for sure.
And if you guys wanted to just have fun, pay off the camper today with that money before, you know, put the house for sale and everything. I mean, you could, you could, you could do some of this now.
The other problem The problem that me and my wife are going back and forth on is her student loans are able to be forgiven because it's like a public service forgiveness. If she pays monthly for 10 years, then the entirety of the loan is forgiven.
Yes. Is that something we should look into? No, I wouldn't for two reasons.
usually to get that forgiveness you have to be in some type of line of work for that long to be able to to qualify for it uh which kind of just puts you in this position of being forced into something you may not want to be in and then honestly blake if i'm being frank i mean in 10 years who knows what's going to be out there where congress is going to be who's going to be president I mean who knows between now and then and so the idea that you guys can do this on your own and have power over your situation without anyone else's influence or dependence on anyone else there's power in that and there's going to be more hope in you guys changing your lives and doing this than waiting for a program but I hear you know we get that question sometimes and and i get the benefit and for some people they've been in something and it's a year out then i'm like all right well that's fine yeah but i would not force myself into a box to be able to qualify for it and again if it's in you know eight to ten years who knows what's going to be happening in dc i don't trust it right personally i don't trust it either yeah so um i hope that helps like well done you guys you I mean I can't believe you you guys bought that property again we'll say this for $60,000 when was this I bought it when I was a senior in high school in 2016 oh wow okay and you put $20,000 down on the $60,000 property yes wow way to go and to go. And now it is $350,000.
That's incredible, Blake. Well done.
You guys, I mean, you guys have made some smart decisions. And make sure again, with the sale of that, make sure you, again, all the check marks are, you know, all the boxes are checked when it comes to taxes, capital gains, anything like that.
Make sure you do that your due diligence of making sure that's all covered and if you need a tax pro like or even a real estate agent you know you can go to ramsey solutions.com and check out our trusted pros there um to to be able to help you through some of it if you need that additional help make sure to check them out um but yeah that's i mean that's a doesn't get much better than that that's a story everyone wants i think gosh so in 10 years it appreciated like crazy Yeah, that's, I mean, that's a... Doesn't get much better than that.
That's a story everyone wants, I think. Oh my gosh.
So in 10 years, it appreciated like crazy. Yeah, that's really great.
I'm happy for them. That camper is my only question mark.
You want to sell it? I want to get rid of... You know what? Everybody's not a camper person.
And they're camper people. So I'm not going to...
You're not? Jade, would you camp or camper? I would glamp. Uh-huh.
I'm with you. I'd glamp.
My husband went away this weekend with some friends. Yeah.
And they basically stayed in a house that didn't have air conditioning or balls. It was basically camping.
And he brought an air mattress. I was like, you all are crazy.
So, yeah. But Blake, I'm sure you guys, I'm sure the camper was nicer than that.
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Grab your tickets at ramsaysolutions.com slash tour before they're gone. So one of the expenses that is hard to face as adults, but it's true, there couple of them but one of them is insurance and in recent years uh recent months i mean i guess close to 18 months now they just seem to keep going up up up home auto i mean it's just it continues to rise and according to uh quadrant information services home insurance rates are about 23 percent higher than they were last year.

Car insurance is up 39 percent compared to December of 2019.

Yeah, it's a lot. And the factors that are playing into it, it's interesting.

So even if you look at like car insurance, I mean, you do have to think about where you live in the United States.

Is climate an issue or do you live in a place where there's tornadoes and so there's hailstorms and it damages your vehicle you know it could be something like uh I mean wow I just had a completely blanked my brain out there no but I mean but yeah you think about whether it's got tornadoes rain hurricane anything that can be damaging your climate's a climate. Climate's a thing.
And then you think about models, right? We're doing a lot more electric vehicles. There's more technology inside of them.
And so there's that part of it. And so by and large, we're seeing an increased amount of car accidents, which is interesting.
Okay. So there's that's playing into it.
Some people would still say supply chain, although part of me is like, I feel like that's over. It's pretty much like do you remember though in that in that height of covid you would drive by a car lot and there would be like no cars it was so eerie and now now they're pretty full i would say the car lots are there might be some cars still on back order but i think for the most part you can yeah you can get if you need it and so you know a lot of people are probably like well what can we do about it and this right here rachel is where what we teach really does play in because if you do buy a car in cash you run the if you buy it in cash it's used then you are qualifying yourself for a lower rate and so that right there is a good motivation motivation obviously the car model that you choose still plays a part in it uh how old you are still plays a part like so all of that plays a part so there are some ways to get around this but even when you do all those things correctly there is still the idea like it is getting higher and that just i mean the truth is that that just sucks yeah and it's one of those expenses too that you're like i can't do anything about it right like when your property tax goes i mean whatever it is you're just like oh my gosh i just feel you feel stuck you feel trapped because you have to have it yeah but yet it's one of those things that just continues to rise.
I mean, you could raise your deductible. That's something that you could do.
You know, there's another thing about if you buy your car in cash and you have enough money saved up that if something were to happen to that car, you could replace it in cash. Then you could drop off like comprehensive insurance because you're like, hey, if something happens national like natural disaster something that's crazy i have the cash that i could actually repair it if i need to yeah yeah so there's things that you could do to save on it um but there's just a big part of this that it is you know it's frustrating yeah for sure yeah so there's other things that you can do um whether it's look discounts, you can even bundle policies and you'll get a better deal that way.
But I would, again, shop rates because sometimes the bundles, it really is helpful. And sometimes if you're shopping from just like one carrier and you're not comparing prices, you may not be getting the best price.
So make sure to do your research there. And I mean, the same thing's happening also with home insurance.
We're seeing certain states are not willing to cover things that they once did. And again, some of this is linked to climate, some of it's linked to natural disasters, that sort of thing.
And I mean, we had a call the other day where a lady called in, she said, I'm being dropped from my insurance because my state has decided that they don't cover you if you have a flat roof. And it's like, okay, great, you know.
And so all of this, this at the very least it really ties in what we teach and trying to put yourself in a position where you can have as much peace as possible so if these things do crop up it's not a disaster it's like okay this is very inconvenient but because I've set myself up I can deal with it and so that's how this works if you want to work with an independent insurance agent you could contact a Ramsey Trusted Insurance Pro. The good thing about our Ramsey Trusted Insurance Pros is they are going to advise you and help you do things the way we teach.
And so that's what you're looking for. They're not tied to any one carrier, and they'll pull quotes from all companies to help you pick the best deal.
So you can go to ramseysolutions.com slash bundle to get connected and to start saving money on your insurance because it is a part of the budget it's just part of the life part of the life yes all right up next we have is it shay in chicago hey welcome to the show hi thank you so much for having me absolutely i'll try to make this quick i'm thinking of doing a voluntary repossession of my car and i'm just wondering if that's a good idea well i'm gonna call it well let me rephrase that i call it a voluntary repossession but i'm really trying to get rid of some debt i'm tired of paying a car note i thought that was the right idea yes but can we sell it can we sell it that's my goal i'm hoping to try to sell it to the dealership um and i'm of course, can we sell it private sale? Ah, I'm not, well, I currently pay on it. So I'm not sure if you can be, I guess.
Okay. So here's what I would do.
I would not give it back to the dealer. I would not do a voluntary repossession, even though that's not what you meant.
I would never do that because that's going to destroy your credit and just be heartache. And I wouldn't sell it back to the dealer.
Cause they're not going to give you the best price for the vehicle. If I were you, what kind of vehicle is it? It is a Buick Encore GX.
Okay, what year? 2021. Okay, I'd get on Kelly Blue Book today after you get off this call and I'd see how much can I get for this private sale? What do you owe on it? $22,000.
Okay, and just your best guess if you're like, hey, I have done a little bit of research. What do you think you could get for it? I'm hoping to get at least 20,000 okay and just your best guess if you're like hey I have done a little bit of research what do you think you could get for it I'm hoping to get at least 20,000 okay so if you thought that giving it back to the dealership would give you 20 then I bet blue booking it you might be able to break even on this just based off of what you've said yes Jay what's causing you to to get rid of it is it just because the payment is so high yes and honestly I'm just trying to get out of debt.
I want to be able to pay off. My mom and I just bought a family due pay.
So I want to put my money into paying this off, not a car note. Not a car.
Yeah. Do you have any other debt? Yes, I do have credit card debt.
How much? $9,000. Okay.
Anything else? No. How much do you make a year? I make $73,000 a year.
Good for you. That's so great.
Okay. What's caused you to just up and say, I got, I want to get out of debt.
I don't want to do this anymore. I'm just tired of living the life that I've been living.
I don't feel like I'm living like a 25 year old, you know, I'm making okay money and I'm not seeing the benefits from it. Yeah, for done i mean that's that's a good why we usually find people that start saying gosh something's got to change uh a lot of it comes like that to say i work hard and i don't feel like i have anything to show for it it's just this feeling of i mean there's nothing and i'm and yeah and you're 25 making 73 000 that's a lot that's.
Where'd the credit card debt come from? Because you've got a good income. Honestly, poor decisions.
And then also before I got this car, I had a car that was giving me trouble. So I was putting some money into it and put it on my credit card, trying to get it fixed.
And it honestly, it still ended up going out on me. So I love this car.
I love when people stop and realize that they have a choice. Like you don't have to keep going the way you've been going.
You have a, you can opt out of that lifestyle and you can go, you know what? Yeah. I want to do better than this.
I want to feel like I'm making an impact. I want to feel like my income matters.
I don't want to keep living like this. So bravo.
I think so great. Shay, have you been, have you plugged into the Ramsey baby steps at all? No, I have not.
Okay. So I would, I would encourage you to, to, um, yeah, dive into some of the stuff.
We'll have Christian pick up and we'll, we'll give you financial peace university, which is our, our nine week course that we always say every high schooler should have taken. But at 25, if you can get this Shay, because there's a process, I, cause your emotions there, the decision in Shay has been made that I don't want to live like this anymore.
So now the best way to be effective of this and to actually see a lot of impact is to have a step-by-step process of what you do. So, Shay, we have what's called the Ramsey Baby Steps, which the first thing you do is going to get a $1,000 emergency fund.
The second thing you're going to do is pay off all of your debts, smallest to largest. So it would actually be you getting rid of this car, which is great,

and then knocking out the credit card. So if you have multiple credit cards,

write each of those out separately, smallest amount to largest amount, regardless of the

interest rates, pay minimum payments on everything and pay off that smallest credit card first and

work your way up. I would be getting a side hustle.
I mean, I would do

anything I could to knock this out. And again, you make some great money.
So even limiting your lifestyle, living on a budget, doing a couple of those things is going to help you. And then your next goal, Shay, will be to get a fully funded emergency fund, three to six months of expenses saved in the bank.
Okay. And what I mean, could you how would that feel right now? If you had no debt, and you had five months of expenses saved in the bank, how would that feel? Amazing.
Amazing. So good.
Okay, stay on the line. Christian will pick up and we'll give you some stuff to help you on your journey.
I'm so glad that you that you called in. I know.
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