Stop Letting Your Financial Past Ruin Your Financial Future

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It might. Does that work for you? No, it doesn't, but it makes good radio, I guess.
Just be kind. It's a good life principle to live by.
And would you know it? John in Fort Worth, Texas is kicking us off. This guy's from Fort Worth.
He's from the 817. He's from the right side of DFW.
He's going to be kind. What's up, John? Salt of the earth.
What's going on? I try to be kind. How are you guys doing?

Excellent.

I understand that when an Oklahoman comes into town, it makes it really tough, but you're trying. I appreciate you.
It's a whole different story then. What's up? Okay.
I'm 57 years old. I've got $51,000 in debt.
I've been served on three of the accounts

and just don't know where to go. I'm considering Chapter 7, but I don't know if I have any better options or not.
Well, a better option is not filing bankruptcy, for sure, because it's going to implode your financial life. What kind of debt is the 51? I've got four credit cards and then one unsecured loan.
What happened? Oh, gosh. Back in the COVID years, I lost my job.
I had a hard time finding one after that. And that occurred a lot of it.
John, what do you do? Because I've lived in Texas most of my life and most of my friend community still lives there. My understanding, it's been a hiring bonanza the last 36, 48 months.
What do you do for a living that you struggle to find work? I'm in purchasing and customer service. Okay.
What are you making right now? Well,

right now I'm an employee again. I got laid off about three months ago.
Okay. My division

that I was working for moved to Atlanta. And did they go without you or they want you to

move and you didn't want to make that jump? Well, I mean, I wasn't, it wasn't even an

option. I wasn't going to move to Atlanta.
Okay. But, and I mean, I've put in, I mean, that wasn't even an option.
I wasn't going to move to Atlanta. Okay.
And, I mean, I've been on Indeed and LinkedIn. I've put in various applications and just not getting any feedback other than thanks but no thanks.
But what are you doing in the meantime? Right now, I'm doing nothing. Have you been in contact with the companies? I'm guessing not the credit card companies anymore, because that's long gone.
Now it's with the collectors? I haven't contacted them at all, no. Okay.
Have they been contacting you? Because they've been serving you. The one opened, my credit cards, they've all been closed.
They haven't put into these contacts since then other than I've been served on three of them. And is it the credit card company suing you personally, or is it collections coming after you? Uh, this would be the credit card companies, I guess.
Okay. I would contact them and let them know what's going on.
I want you to be proactive about this. I know it's kind of easier to be just ostrich head in the sand and be in la la land, but I would let them know, hey, listen, I got laid off three months ago.
I want to pay you back. When I'm working, can we set up a payment plan? Can we negotiate this instead of filing bankruptcy? Okay.
Because you file bankruptcy, they get nothing. But if you work your butt off, you can clean this up, avoid bankruptcy, and give them something and clean up this debt.
And that's what I want to lean on, man, only because I love you. And I'm just trying to think of myself and your situation.
What have you done for the last three years or four years? Well, no, I mean, I was working at that time. Let me ask you this.
At point will you say okay i've done purchasing for a long time i'm trying these these avenues it keeps being things but no things i got to go to walmart and get a job i got to go get three jobs because i've gotten i've got literally zero dollars and I'm getting sued by multiple people for money that

I've already spent that they loaned me. There's a sense of this is all happening to me and I'm trying to reestablish your sense of agency.
You've got a lot more control in this deal and it's not going to look like you did. What were you making before as a purchasing guy? My last one was about 55.

You could go find two full-time jobs that you work in a purchasing guy. My last one was about $55,000.

You could go find two full-time jobs that you work in a single day

to make more than $55,000.

But just sitting there for three months.

I mean, you can go move boxes at Walmart

and make some good money.

Right.

If you make that choice.

You have to swallow your pride

and you have to go get to work. But I mean, you're literally not doing anything.
You have no, no income coming in, do you? Just the unemployment. Yeah.
I mean, I want more for you than that. Are you living alone? No, I'm married.
Okay. And what's your wife do? She's a retired teacher.
Does she have income from that? Just TRS? She does, and she's also subbing us as well. Okay.
Because if she can work more and you work twice as hard as she does, we can climb out of this thing and actually retire with some dignity. But I feel like right now you've lost your fight because you got knocked down a few times.
Right. Which is understandable, but, man, you still got a lot of life ahead of of you and I don't want you to spend it cleaning up after bankruptcy because guess what? They don't want to drag you through court.
They don't want to pay all this money either. And so I would be in contact with them saying, listen, we're going to work our butts off to get you guys some money and get rid of this debt.
Will you settle for X, Y, Z? Chances are, if the debt's old, they're going to settle for cents on the dollar. So you say, hey, listen, I got 10 i got 10 grand can we call this debt good paid in full don't give them access to your checking account and we move on with our life because bankruptcy is not going to solve all your problems you're going to be right back to where you were because zero habits changed and john and george i missed the number how much how much is in collections here 51 000 is,000, is that right? $51,000, that's correct.

And are you continually going into debt right now? No. Okay, so are you paying all your bills? Do you have any other debt that's not in collections? I have like a second mortgage that I did, which is up to date, and a car payment.
What's left on those total? About $10,000 on the mortgage and I think about $3,000 on the car. Okay.
Have you talked to your wife about this? A little bit, not a lot. Is she concerned? Is she just like, you do you, John? What's her attitude? She's pretty concerned.
I think she lost her husband. Right.
This isn't the Fort Worth, Texas guy she married. Mm-hmm.
Can I ask you, where are you? I'm pretty low. Yeah.
Yeah. Tell me about it.
Well, I mean, I just feel defeated. Yeah.
Like the rug's been pulled out and there's no, you know, safety net or whatever, you know? Yeah. Will you get up today and go have work by Saturday morning? I would love to.
Okay. I guarantee you there are places hiring and they are not going to be traditionally sexy places.
And you're not going to be able to tell your friends and community that you're a purchasing guy. You're going to have to tell them, hey, I'm an assistant manager over at Culver's, or I'm throwing boxes from 5 p.m.
to 11 p.m. And they may raise their eyebrow at you, and they may smile real big and say, that's what a husband does when the rug gets pulled out from under him.
He gets knocked down, and he gets back up, and he goes and knocks on the door. And it's not your forever jobs.
These are your right now jobs. And you're going to get your swagger back and your dignity back.
And then when you go into one of these interviews, someone's going to say, you're my guy. Let's go knock on the door and get a job by tomorrow.
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All right, let's get to Rachel in Myrtle beach who awaits. What's going on, Rachel?

Hi. Um, thanks for taking my call.
Sure. Um, I, my husband, I, um, well, I guess it came through

my side, but I recently received we recently received an inheritance

Thank you. call.
Sure. Um, I, my husband, I, um, well, I guess it came through my side, but I recently received it.
We recently received an inheritance, um, of about $7 million before that. 7 million.
Have you gotten used to just saying that sentence? No. Okay.
You said it so casually. Yeah.
We got our inheritance of $7 million. Who passed away? My father.
I'm so sorry. What was his name? His name was Dan.
Man. What a legacy.
Yeah, no kidding. That's amazing.
So how long ago did you receive this inheritance? It's been about six months. Okay.
So where is $7 million sitting? Is it just sitting in an escrow account somewhere? So we have it with a financial advisor, and it's getting slowly invested into different things okay okay um how can we help today so so the problem well you'd think it wouldn't be the money and i know this isn't a typical you know problem for people um usually the opposite but so before we received that inheritance um my husband and i worked really hard to save a million dollars ourselves I've been been a stay-at-home mom, and my husband just worked really hard. We paid off all our debts, our house, everything, without ever thinking we would ever acquire any inheritance.
You know, we had no idea that this even existed. But anyway, so whenever I found out I was going to get the inheritance, I initially thought it was going to be maybe $3 million.
And I came home and told my husband. And I was just crying because I was like, this is going to make him feel so much better because he's always so worried about money.
And he's worried about if we're going to be okay in the future and just about retirement. He's so worried about it.
And so I was so happy that this is going to help help him make him feel peace. But when we got it, it's actually been the opposite.
Um, now he like is super scared about losing it. Doesn't want to spend any of it.
Um, we're actually building the house right now. We were building it before we received or had any idea we're getting the inheritance.
And, um, but he's just like, I i i've kind of wanted to do some extra things now that i that we got the money and um he's kind of he's like he's scared you're gonna blow through the money and have nothing in retirement what did you say is he scared you guys are gonna blow through the money like you're gonna be frivolous with it yeah so even though we've never been like that and we just aren't like i drive a super old minivan still like he drives in his scarcity mindset it's just on right this this anxiousness has never been about the money there's something i don't go ahead go ahead sorry i was just gonna don't, it's, it's really affected our marriage. I mean, money has always been a big issue in our marriage.
Um, just the fact that he, he wants to save, save, save. And I'm all about it.
Like I've, I've supported him. I've done my best to be frugal with our kit.
You know, he does. It's not like he's ever made a ton of money, but we've just worked really hard.
And I don't know how I feel like he puts his value in his money. And but I also feel very controlled by it.
Like, I feel like he doesn't almost like he doesn't love me because he not that he doesn't love me, but kind of that he doesn't love me. He loves his money more, more than he would like me to just enjoy things sometimes like we're building a house and before we had this money we were going to do the basic you know like it was going to it's a lot of money but it was going to cost us 500,000 dollars we were going to pay for it in cash and we were just going to do the basic things like laminate floors and you know whatever but since I got the money I was like well I want to spend some things that I I want to get, you know, quartz countertops instead and like tile in the bathrooms instead of laminate, you know, things like that.
So I kind of made myself a budget of like 50 or $60,000, just extra things that I would like that I would enjoy in my home. And he takes that like I'm like personally hurting him.
And so he like doesn't want anything to do with the house. He doesn't like, he doesn't want to be a part of it anymore because it's like I'm hurting him.
Do you know? I don't know if that makes sense. It totally does.
But I need you to say, I need you to internalize what I'm about to say. This has nothing to do with the money.
Okay. This has...
I don't know. I don't know.
I know. For whatever reason, it could be that he grew up and money was scarce growing up.
It could be that he saw people make fun of his old man for not making enough money. Who knows where these little nervous system GPS pins got put in place.
But at some place, his nervous system says, it's all coming down at any second and it's going to be your fault. And so this doesn't have anything to do with the money.
By the way, you coming in the door with $7 million probably poured gasoline on that fire because you solved the biggest crisis of his life, which is, do I have any worth? And you said look we're free and he goes oh god now i feel even smaller and often the only way to feel bigger is to puff your chest out and to take your ball and go home and not actually sit down and solve some of the problems so this isn't about money um you are well within your rights. I mean, hear us, me and George say, you're not crazy to spend 60,000.
I think you're crazy to only spend 60,000. You have a check for $7 million.
That's like John getting a taco. Do you understand the scale here? I mean, imagine your dad, how big his smile would be if he got to see you put in a pool and like whatever else you want to do.
Right. So here's the bigger conversation.
The marriage that you had is over with a period at the end. Yeah.
What you and your husband have to decide to do is are we going to build something new? Because our life, every bit of our life is different now we are multi multi-millionaires and now the game has changed and you have to own that new reality and then you have as a part of building something new you have to ask hard questions like what do you need and what do you want and what's going to bring peace to you and then you get to say the same things also and just like y'all go through the fixtures and build this new house, y'all got to do this with your marriage. Because it's all different now.
Yeah. He spent his whole life building a sandcastle.
And you just wiped that all away with one big wave. And now there's a mansion there that he didn't build.
And I think that scares the crap out of him. Yeah.
So I think John's right. And I think you also need to sit, he needs to sit down with a therapist.
You guys both need to sit down with a financial advisor and actually crunch some reality numbers and go, listen, dude, if you would put this in a savings account, you're going to make 350 grand a year by doing nothing. And so this idea that you're just going to lose it all is hogwash.
You're not going to put this all in single stocks, the lottery. You're going to invest this wisely, like you guys already

have been doing.

Also, there's

a math problem here, but his problem's not math.

That's what he thinks it is.

I know, but it's not, because that's not reality.

He can put it in a high-yield savings account.

He can prove it to him by showing him the math, and he's going to go, yeah, but

it doesn't matter.

What he needs to know is, I see you, and I love you, and I want to build a new thing with you. Will you come with me? And hopefully he says yes.
And y'all got to go, like George said, you got to go sit with a professional and y'all got to work through this. Congratulations.
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Today's question comes from Scott in Michigan. Scott writes, I have been in the auto industry for almost six years.
I started as a mechanic at a large dealership, moved up to service advisor, and recently was promoted to sales consultant. I bring in about $150,000 a year.
After reading George Campbell's Breaking Free from Broke and the chapter about car loans, I felt guilty for being a part of this industry. Way to go, George.
Sorry. You guilt peddler.
I've always thought of myself as an honest salesperson, and I don't just sell people a car. I try to educate my customers into making the right decision, but yet I feel very convicted after reading this chapter.
Thanks again, George. I went to college for business management, but dropped out so that I wouldn't accumulate any more debt.
And I've been gazelle intense so that me and my wife and kids, my wife and kids think I've gone crazy. I fear that if I pursue another career, I would not be able to earn what I currently make because the auto industry is the one I know.
Is it hypocritical to continue to work in an industry that keeps people in debt while working my butt off to get myself out of debt? Hey, Dave, can I come work for you? Honestly, we are hiring Scott. So we have a lot of sales roles open at RamseySolutions.com slash careers, but that's for another day.
To your question, truthfully, here's my take. John may have a completely different take.
I feel like we need Scott in the car industry. We need people with integrity who are leading people to the right decision who aren't scumburgers.
And it's easy to generalize an entire industry as this is a gross industry. But I think what Scott's doing here is noble.
It's moral. There's no issues with it.
If you are in the lending department and it eats away at your soul, you need to get out of there. But as the salesperson, it's not your job to say, hey, here's the lending part, here's the financing part.
They're going to go to another guy to deal with the financing. You're there to say, hey, what is your budget? Here's a car that is in your budget.
And then if they have questions along the way, you can steer them to go, hey, this one might be better for you guys.

I want you guys to walk away from here debt-free.

There's nothing wrong with that as a salesperson.

And yeah, you might not get as many commissions as going, you should get the car

that's way too expensive

because it has the sweet feature.

I think we need people with integrity

steering people toward that.

So you think Scott can sit down with people

and say, okay.

Until it eats away at his soul. What kind of money do you have? There's a soul tax to pay.
I think a Corolla is a great option for you. Instead of saying, ooh, they just walked in the door, let's get them in a Land Cruiser, even though we know they can afford the payment, right? So they may be the voice of reason.
And people are adults when they buy cars, and they could always. It's not on you.
So don't feel the personal responsibility of that person's decision to buy a car they can't afford and i want to address the the the bottom of this um when this is this is a heavy one this idea that for whatever reason and we live in a wild world now where because of twitter and because of social media, we know how our bosses vote. We know who they vote for.
We know what they think about this issue and that issue. And we know where they stand on this and this.
Not to mention, oh, I thought I was selling cars. I didn't realize that y'all only make money on finance.
Right? We know so much more. Millions of people look in the mirror and say, can I be a part of this particular business for X, Y, and Z reasons? Because I've got this set of values and somewhere along the way in this chain of value hierarchies, we don't align.
The question often comes up, but I won't make this kind of money. A, I think that's a false sense of scarcity.
If you've been able to work yourself up, clearly this this guy is good at what he does. He's a person, a character.
He works really hard because he's moved from this position to this. He continues to get promotion.
So let's let what has happened be the map forward. You'll find a new industry and you'll work really hard.
You'll be a person of integrity. You'll make your way through.
He's a problem solver. That's right.
That's the skill set. He's clearly a good leader.
They wouldn't keep moving him up. That's number one.
Number two, you always have to go back and ask yourself, what's your integrity worth? And that's a scary, hard question. That's a scary, hard question for a guy like me, right? Like what if in my core guts, I just thought at the end of the day, when I put my head on my pillow, I think you can get rich from airline miles.
And my boss, Dave is like, you can't get rich with airline miles. I'd have to ask myself, what's it worth, right? What's it worth? And so I think there's incongruence every day, right? And I just haven't been able to find a way to sleep at night when, when there's incongruence in your life like that.
And so I think all of us have to ask that hard question and then go ask, all right, what must be true, right?

But your kids will feel that lack of congruency.

Your spouse will feel that lack of congruency.

Your body will feel that lack of congruency.

So you might think you're just plugging along

making such and such paycheck,

but man, it will burn the rest of your life to the ground.

It's tough, it's tough.

So if you can be a change agent here, Scott,

and stay in it and make peace with it and not eat away at your soul, do it and keep helping people.

But if you can't, like John's saying, then you've got to make the move out of here.

And we both believe you have the skill set to move into any other industry.

And know that the other industry, they probably also sell stuff that someone can finance.

So can I tell you that there was a pivotal moment in my life from a friend and extraordinary mentor of mine. His name is Dr.
Richard Beck. He's a psychology professor.
He's an experimental psychologist. He's a genius, literal.
One day, I was sitting with him, and some things had happened to some students, and I was really struggling with it, whether the university's response was appropriate. It didn't sit well with me.
So I went and sat with him. And here's what he said.
He said, John, I get your tension here. I get the angst.
And I think you're right. As a mentor, as a friend, I want you to know you're free to go.
You're right. And then he said, just know that if you leave, those students will still be here.
And if everybody runs out the door, just because, quote unquote, because they can, right? And that particular interaction shifted. So now I want to find places where maybe I can offer an alternative voice, or maybe I can say, well, let's think of it this way.
And where can we find, where can we, like, I love it. You said this, Scott, this may be the greatest place for you.
You may be the one salesperson that continues to say, you know what? I don't think you can afford the Camry, but the Corolla is an amazing car. Let's go check it out.
And that you're the person constantly getting poked fun at by your fellow salespeople because your commission checks are smaller because you keep directing people to cars that they can actually afford you know what the new lot is not for you guys let's go over here to the certified new lot because i think this is going to be a better option for you and your family long term what if you were that guy and you slowly painfully change the culture in that and people kept coming back to you because they trusted you well that word of mouth alone i'm gonna go hey you need to go see this guy scott he's the good guy he'll tell you the truth it's so much easier to stand out in a industry filled with scum yes you're the one good guy so if you if there's a place where your boss votes differently the i quit okay or what if you stayed what if you stayed and what if you said let's think about it this way what if you became over time a voice of reason, a voice of a new perspective, and you continue to show up and continue to show up? I think that's how the world changes. If everybody heads for the exits when it gets hard and scary and uncomfortable, nothing changes.
In fact, everything gets more polarized and everything gets harder. And so ask yourself that question, Scott and everybody listening, what if you stayed? What if you stayed and you just began to slowly offer different ways to see the world i just i think that's how the world changes well and especially in this industry cars are amoral now if this was a product that is inherently gross if he's working for a payday or title pawn i'd say all right get out of there that whole place is like dan the the cocaine dealer yes it's't.
It's a car. Right, right.
It has utility. So this was the choose your own adventure, Scott.
We're not going to tell you to do one thing or the other, but you need to follow your conscience and your values. And the fact that you wrote in maybe tells me it might be time for a different career shift.
Who knows? There you go. Or you come here, work for Ramsey.
And thanks for reading the book, by the way. I didn't know I was that convincing, John.
That's amazing. Yeah.
And you've convinced me on some things. Really? Yeah.
To do what? Name one. Put him on the spot.
I got Venmo. Oh, that's right.
You convinced me to get Venmo. You've almost convinced me.
I was in Pennsylvania two nights ago and I reached out to you and said, hey, will you... John doesn't know how to do Instacart or food delivery.
Will you send ice cream as a surprise

to my family?

And I said, John, I'm not your personal assistant.

I'd be happy to do that for my hourly rate,

which you can't afford. I can't afford.
He can't afford that.

I can't afford that. But I would do it as a friend.

But you did convince me to get Venmo, and I may get

Instacart?

Baby steps. I think I'm going to get Instacart.

Let's take it one day at a time, John. Let's not get ahead of ourselves.

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Selena's up next in Washington, D.C. How can we help, Selena? Hi, good afternoon.
Thank you for having me on your show. Sure.
So I have no knowledge of financial literacy at all. And I'm in a space where I am really trying to get my life together.
So I am on baby step two, but I just have a general question about the amount of college debt I have and some concerns with that. So I understand that you guys say to start off with the lowest up that you have first in debt and then to work your way up.

My college loans are $93,000.

And I know that after working for the government after 10 years, these loans can be forgiven.

So I'm kind of confused on if that's something that I should be even paying a lot of attention to or if I should just say, okay, well, after 10 years,

they're going to be forgiven anyway.

I just don't know what to do with that.

So Celina, number one, I would say that I'm proud of you.

It is hard to turn and face the storm and that's what you're doing.

Amazing. Welcome to our gang or cult, whatever you want to call it,

whatever the internet's call us. We're glad that you're here.
It's amazing.

Thank you.

Can I ask you a wild question? Sure. Who was president 10 years ago? Who was president 10 years ago? My brain doesn't work that way.
I don't know. Exactly.
So you know what the federal student loan relief policy was 10 years ago? What was it? Yeah, know but i know this i know i had a lot of extraordinary brilliant law students who did not go into um private uh large firm law because the government said it was going to pay off all their student loans in 10 years and i know that many of them went in to do public defender stuff. They went to help the least of these in our local communities.
And that relief never came because somebody else got into office and then somebody else got into office and somebody else writes a bill and then somebody else sends this to Supreme court. All I have to say is if I look around, I don't have a ton of trust that the government's going to do what they say they're going to do in 10 years.
I do have a lot of trust in my ability to get up and say, okay, ask for me in my house, here's what we're going to do next. And that's a sad state of reality, but that's just me choosing reality.
Yeah. Yeah, I agree.
It feels nearly impossible for me to even think that $93,000 is something that I can pay off myself. Why? Who told Selena that? It's a lot of money.
And then the interest that I see, like two years ago, I was at around $87,000. And then I look again this year, it's at $93,000.
But that's because you didn't have a clue about personal finance, and now you're getting a hold of this thing, and you're going to pay extra. You're going to do the baby steps.
We're going to get you out of debt in a few years. And the worst part of your story is, I hate to tell you this, it makes my heart hurt, but it's kind of awesome that me and my wife paid off $110,000.
And me and George's friend, Jade Warshaw, her and her husband paid off like what, $450,000 of student loans. So here's the deal.
You don't see that you can do it. George and I are on the other side of the tunnel.
We know you can. We can tell you, we can show you the math, we can show you the path, but you got to believe in Selena.
Because we do. Are you working right now? I am working and I'm making the most I've ever made, but I just feel like I don't know where my money is going.
There we go. That's a great problem to have.
And guess what? Next year, you're probably going to make more money than you've ever made. And the year after that, you're going to make more money than you ever made.
And so what are you making right now? I'm making $96,000. That's amazing.
And what's your total debt load out of all your consumer debt?

My total debt load is around $102,000.

Okay, what's the other $9,000 other than student loans?

Well, I have two credit cards.

One is $4,100, the other is $4,800, and then I have my phone, which is $800.

I'm also paying a car that I didn't include in that debt. And that's $375 a month.
Okay. So making $96,000, let's imagine that you get a little raise and you're making six figures sooner rather than later, and you have about $100,000 in debt.
How much do you think you could throw at the debt each year if you got on a budget, you worked extra, you cut your expenses, you live like a broke college broke college person you think you could throw 30 grand 35 a year at the debt if i eat beans and rice like you guys say yeah we go you think you could you could you could manage to throw three grand a month at the debt if you really tried three grand i don't think so right because Because the expenses I gave you were just the debt,

like the thing that I have in debt, but I still have bills. I still have rent and I pay everything by myself.
I know that, but I'm saying if we got real creative with every single line item,

on top of working extra, I think you could find it. Whatever the gap is, you can go find it.

You're that resourceful. And if you do that, just based on napkin math, you're done with this thing

in less than three years and you get your life back. How old are you? 30.
So you'll be 33 years old and completely debt free. Or you could be 40 while politicians still dangle the carrot and you spend all this time waiting and hoping and waiting and hoping.
And now we still have 100 grand left ahead of us at 40 years old. Right.
not taking the chances i think the variables are there's far less with selena than there are with all the outside factors and so selena here's what bonkers looks like jade warshall her husband did not have a bed they slept on an air mattress for years me and my wife sold our house and we moved into a dorm, a college residence hall with a

toddler because we said enough is enough is enough is enough. And I ate in the dorm, I mean, in the,

in the, in the, in the cafeteria at the university to save money. Here's what I'm saying.

When you decide enough is enough, and when you decide Selena's worth going to war for,

Thank you. Wow.
Here's what I'm saying. When you decide enough is enough, and when you decide Selena's worth going to war for, beans and rice become a delicacy.
It's not a sacrifice. It becomes a small price to pay for freedom.
Right. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah, definitely.
But you have to flip that switch, or it will always look like $96,000, $96,000, $96,000. By the way, how much is this car you're driving around that you didn't include in your total debt? So the thing is I am helping my mom to pay this.
This is her car and I just have it temporarily. So I don't really know how much the entire car is because at some point I'm planning on giving this back to her when she's ready.
But you're driving it? Yes, I'm driving it. Why are you paying for your mom's car? She was working from home.
She got into some health issues and all of her responsibilities were a lot. So we decided that I'd take the car just until she's back on her feet.
Can she afford a car? Yeah. It doesn't sound like she can.
But you're paying it. I'm paying it.
She could afford it until she couldn't afford it. She's working from home.
How much is that? What kind of car is it? It's a 2019 Toyota RAV4. Okay.
I want you to get what the payoff amount is on that car, and I want you to ask yourself a hard question because it's a depreciating asset. So it's worth less money every month over every year.
Yet your payment is the same. And I want you to ask yourself, what if we just sold this car? And when mom needs to come back online and start working not from home anymore, then she can buy a $3,000.
She can buy whatever she can afford with cash and you're going to buy whatever you can afford with cash and suddenly, boom, you got $300 a month back in your budget to go towards student loans. Yeah, you're right.
We talked about that too. Sell it, sell it, sell it.
And Toyotas have a great resale value, so sell it. Be free from that one.
Okay. Now, George, what kind of tools can we give her to help her out? I'm going to gift you my book, Breaking Free from Broke.
And there's a specific chapter in there that I think is really going to help. It's called Margin is Breathing Room.
In there, I lay out every one of my best ideas for you to find some margin in that budget to get you to 3,000 bucks a month or more. And you're already making 96.
You've got some skills. I think if you put those to work while cutting expenses, you'll get this amazing thing called margin and you will be in control of

Selena's life. And you live right down the street from these politicians, Selena.
You've seen what

they're saying. But the truth is they don't care about Selena.
Only Selena is going to care about

Selena. And so you've got to do what's right for you and your family.
And I want you to have a

different life than the generations that came before you. And that means we're not going to carry debt into our 40s and 50s and 60s and hope on the government to fix our life.
We're just going to fix it. Let's also hook her up with a year of every dollar.
Oh, I like that. Budgeting app in the world.
And Selena, it's going to teach you how to budget. It's going to help keep you accountable to it.
Hang on the line and we'll get you hooked up. It'll show you all the nooks and crannies you can be saving when you go, oh my gosh, I never actually looked at all that at one place.
Yes. All my income, all my expenses.
I can do better. I can find $3,600 a month, right? And suddenly it just is every, or it shines a light on just how bad things are and you got to get your butt in another year.
And now we can take the next step. I like it.
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Darlene kicks us off in Chicago. How can we help, Darlene? I'm wondering if I can role play with you guys so that I can tell my children to get their act together.
Yes! Who gets to be the children? Well, my children are three girls, three boys, ages 23 to 40. Wow.
Yeah. My husband and I today, we've sacrificed 44 years and we've put our time and energy into fostering, adopting, and we have a 37-year-old son, and mom's about burnout.
Mom's tired of doing the budget thing and saying, yeah, I can loan you money on this app, that app, and then the goals that I have for next year for retiring to our little escape is not going to happen because I'm trying to pay down bills and have everything free and clear so I can live on our budget. So you're still giving grown kids allowances essentially and you're sick.
Pretty much. Okay, Darlene.
Their cell phone, their insurance. I super want to role play this because I think that'll be fun and instructive, but I have to ask you this question.
Yes. Let's not talk about them for a second, okay? I want to talk about you.
Yes. Every time you give them money, every time you pay their cell phone bill, you, my new friend Darlene, get something.
What are you getting? I'm getting anxiety.

Nope, that's not true.

That's not true.

You're getting, that's what your body is doing because of the choices you keep making.

You're getting something positive for this or you wouldn't keep digging a hole deeper and deeper that you keep falling into.

What are you getting from this?

Because that's the root here.

Your kids are not the problem here. All they're doing is what has always worked for them.
Right. You're doing what has always worked for you in a weird sideways way.
So what are you getting from this? I guess the satisfaction of trying to push them into adulthood. Nope.
Nope. Nope.
Because you're not pushing them. You're just putting money into their slot machine.
What are you getting from this? My guess is you're getting the feeling of being needed. You're getting the feeling of that little tiny neurochemical hit that is, just help them out that all of us parents love when we get to help out our kids.
That you're continually, as much as you hate it, you also love that your kids have to keep coming back to you because the thought of them ever going away and being independent completely and quote unquote not needing their mom, I can't go there. I hate paying their cell phone bill but the idea of them ever going away and being independent completely and quote unquote, not needing their mom.
I can't, I can't go there. I hate paying their cell phone bill, but the idea of them waking up and not needing me is really heavy.
Is that, could that be true? That's pretty realistic. But at the same time, I feel like I've given them resources and education over the years.
and I feel like I need to just lie to them and say,

no, I don't have any more money to love.

You don't need to lie to them because then you become a person that you don't respect.

Can I ask one more thing?

Yes.

How much guilt do you have that they're 36 and they're still asking mom for money?

A lot.

Okay.

And so a way to punt that guilt a little bit further down the field is just to give them another $130 for their cell phone

and the next month punt it a little bit further.

And so it's time for you to stare you down in the mirror, Darlene,

because you're the epicenter here.

Your kids are just doing what works.

And we can blame them all day long, but they just,

mom pays our cell phone bill.

Let's role play the part where you stop giving them money. What are they going to do? Throw a fit? Yeah.
Use their own debit card. That's not going to feel good.
Use their own budget. No, but they're going to be angry at you, right? It's going to hurt the relationship.
Well, you know, the last time I said, nope, I don't have money in there. I'm overdrawn.
I don't have money to loan to you so that you can go. Yeah, but that's not true, Darlene.
The integrous way, the stand tall way to do this is to send an email to all of your kids and to say effective September 1 or October 1, mom is no longer paying cell phone bills, insurance, et cetera. Yes.
i'm deleting all of these apps from my phone you'll have 30 days or 45 days to get your own insurance to get your own cell phone bill and then you have to be prepared for the wah wah wah wah wah it's not fair it's your fault blah blah and just know it's coming okay cool but that's the only way to do it. And by the way, it's, I don't know, cruel is the right word.
It would be not cool if you just said, hey, tomorrow I'm not doing, like, that's kind of leaving people out into the wind because you brought them along and suddenly you just are like, I'm taking your coats and I'm going inside even though it's freezing outside. So, but giving them a date and saying, effective this date, I'm deleting all these apps from my phone.
Y'all are adults. Y'all are on your own.
Not that I don't have any money because that's not true. The truth is I love y'all enough to let you go.
I love y'all enough to let you go. That's it.
More not a bank. No more cash app.
No more Apple Pay. No more Zelle.
You have to delete those from your phone. Especially temporarily because you don't have the self-control to listen to your kids cry and whine and not go in and rescue them.
And that doesn't make you a bad person. That just means you are, you have now, you're enabling instead of helping.
Do any of them live at home with you? No, thank We had a house fire in 22, and we helped the youngest to get their own house. It's paid off, and she's still burying herself because she won't pull herself up by her bootstrap.
And I think the hardest part for you is to go, that's her choice she's making, and I can't continue to rescue her. And Darlene, you've been clipping her bootstraps every time she reaches down to pull them up.

Pretty much.

Yeah.

And so I think the actual challenge over the next six months

is not the whining adult children.

It's going to be you feeling like,

my kids don't need me anymore,

which means I don't believe I don't have any value anymore,

which is not true.

It's a lie.

But you're going to have to deal with those feelings.

And you're going to have to look at that knuckleheaded husband of husband of yours and say hey you want to build an amazing new marriage how do we do that that's the new adventure and it might expose the fact that this relationship was largely transactional we have to create a different relationship that's not based on what mom gives to the kids that's hard to connect in a different way well i feel like i just need to tell them we're entering our new season and you guys are on your own yes and i'm deleting all of the apps i will not pay for the following effective this date be very clear clear. Clear as kind.
We say that around here all the time. Clear as kind.
Yes. Now, now let's role play.
Hey, mom, it's October 1st and our insurance is going to be due. You want to go ahead and just cash out me that money? Nope.
Sorry. I already told the insurance company that here's your information.
Call you.'ve deleted the apps i don't even have a way to do it no more apps they're gone and i love you enough to let you figure this one out for real hey darlene you're making a huge change and it's very very hard hard. And we're proud of you.
But now you got to go do it.

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Open phones at 888-825-5225. Let's go out to Hannah in Atlanta, Georgia.
What's going on, Hannah? Thank you so much for answering my call. Sure.
The question that I have today is, my husband and I have been married for about 12 and a half years. We have one eight-year-old child.
And back in 2018, I became disabled and I'm not able to work very much. My income is roughly $1,000 a month for both myself and I receive a little for my child.
It's a lot on my husband. He is a diesel mechanic.
He was in the military for four years and got out. It was not much money at all.
He got out. We quit traveling with the military and came back home to Georgia.
And he went to college to be a decent mechanic. I was in college to be a surgical technician and, of course, was unable to fulfill those dreams.
I have been back to college trying to finish, but it's proven to be very difficult. I've been going back to college on and off for the last eight years, but just dealing with the stress of being disabled is tough.
So we have no savings. We live in a single-wide trailer.
I drive a vehicle that I bought about five years ago for five thousand dollars i do not have a car payment we don't live beyond our means we try to financially speaking we try to live you know uh smart for lack of better words but we have no savings we've married for 12 years, and lately our trailer needs a lot of attention, probably close to about maybe $30,000 or $40,000 worth of work to it, which we can't afford. We'd have to take out a loan in order to, you know.
But it's just, and, you know, we go back and forth about, well, do we take out another loan to try to fix things up?

Or could we possibly buy a house within the next five or ten years?

It doesn't look possible, but, you know, we just, I feel like financially we're not in a very good position.

He doesn't want to go back to college because, of course, that puts the stress of, I don't think it,

I mean, it could be possible for us to live on $12,000 a year.

It would be really hard. You know what I mean? What's he making right now? Roughly 50 a year.
Okay. And do you guys have any debt? Just what we owe, what we're left owing on the trailer.
And he owns a vehicle that we have a payment on. He pays about $650 a month for his vehicle.
Whoa, good God. That's a huge chunk of money right there.
What's left on that loan for the vehicle? Roughly about $30 to $35 maybe. It's a 2019 F-150.
Does he need that for work? Can he get a 2010 F-150 that does the same thing? It's possible that he can do away with the truck, but his argument is, you know, it would save us $7,800 a year. And I get that's a lot of money, but $7,800 a year, that's kind of like, you know, his argument is I work, I earn the money for the household.
I would like to have a nice vehicle to drive because we don't have much. I mean, honestly, we...
Yeah, but you're also making no progress. If I was able to just give you a $10,000 raise, it would change your life.
Right. That's $10,000 in savings you could have by the end of the year by getting rid of this truck.
Right. So we've got to make some changes if you guys want a different life.
Otherwise, we're going to stay in the cycle.

And what I'm going to say is it's going to sound not compassionate,

and I don't mean that in any way.

When we did the millionaire study here at Ramsey Solutions, we found the number three on the millionaire list was teachers.

Teachers.

That's $50,000 to $60,000 a year. And at the time time it was less than that, but inflation was less.
Okay. Right.
And there's some discussion about, well, teachers are really good at planning because that's what they do for a living. And so they're good at planning their expenses.
I have a different theory because my wife was a teacher and my wife bought a Corolla. And you know why? Because she knew I was only going to make $50,000 a year forever.
And she made peace with a certain kind of life. And what your husband wants is both.
And he wants to be a diesel mechanic, which is an incredible, noble, necessary job. But for whatever reason, he's a diesel mechanic that makes 50,000 bucks a year.
That's the job he has accepted and the path he's accepted. With that mathematical reality, you don't also get to say, while my family is living in a depreciating asset home, a trailer that is falling apart around you, I deserve this truck.
I get to have this. Because we made some choices about math with our job.
We made some choices about our career path. All good.
But you don't then get to say math doesn't count. My family's future doesn't count because I get what I want.
Do you see what I'm saying? Right. That does make sense.
So if he chose to be a diesel mechanic and he chose to work his way up and become a manager of other diesel mechanics and to one day own his own diesel mechanic shop, great. With that will come a bunch more stress.
And with that should come a bunch more stress and with that should come a bunch more money and with that new money go buy yourself a new f-150 you can't afford that now and all of these things are a series of choices your situation your health it was probably not a choice what happened to you where you can't work multiple Multiple sclerosis. I was in a wheelchair back in 2018.
Are you out of a wheelchair now? I am out of a wheelchair now. Congratulations, sister.
You've been working hard, haven't you? Well, life is very hard. It is.
And I am a substitute teacher in my hometown, and it is $100 a day, but there's 170 school days. So, I mean, I cannot physically work all 170.
I'm actually only able to work about roughly five on a good month, days out of the month. That's not a lot of money.
So, I mean, and I'm super, like, don't get me wrong. I'm so thankful for our house.
I don't hear one ounce of a lack of gratitude. I hear somebody who's very, very tired.
Yes. Most husbands.
And that's exactly what it is. I don't say most husbands.
That's not fair. I don't want to over-gender it.
Most people need to hear that from you. Hey, honey, I can't sleep at night.
We have to do something different because I'm just looking and we keep doing the same thing over and we keep getting re frustrated that the same thing is resulting in the same thing. Right.
So, okay. The truck, if he bought a cheap little binger car, $2,000, two thousand three thousand dollars we do not have a payment that takes care of i mean we could have eight thousand extra dollars a year and but ideally what's the goal like you know we i want i would like to have a savings and we've been married for 12 years and at this point i'm like what are we doing with our lives so what type of he sells the truck, that's one part.
If he can increase his income, whether that's with his core full-time work or extra work, that's more income. If you can increase your income a little bit by doing something different, that's more income.
And I would stop sinking money in this trailer and I would go rent somewhere while you continue to save up the emergency fund and then save up to get a house one day. Okay.
And guess what? Five, ten years of savings, you'll be able to have that house. Or we could be right where we are, fixing up an old trailer that's going down in value while we drive our nice truck that's going down in value while we make no progress.
That's the current status, and I think you're worth more than that. And I think all of this happens with a conversation where you have a neighbor that will come wash your kid for a few hours in the morning and you and your husband go have breakfast somewhere and you all say, okay, we've been together for 12 years.
You've served our country. You've gone to school.
I'm seeing you provide. I'm working hard.
I'm out of a wheelchair. I'm working when I can.
We've gone nowhere for a decade. And in 10 years from now, I want things to look different.
What must be true today? So that 10 years from now, things look different. That makes a lot of sense.
And then we're just going to build a map. And that's going to include you having hard conversations like, we can't afford this truck and I know you want it and I want you to have it, but we have a math problem right now.
Okay. Okay.
And this is a rebuild. We're going to rebuild our marriage the same way as we're going to rebuild our finances.
And none of this is easy. You're going to choose your hard path, the hard path of continuing to do the same thing over and over and over again and end up 10 years from now, just further behind, just with more repairs on a trailer.
Or we do the hard thing in 10 years from now, like George said, we're moving into a new house that we put 40% down on. And it's going to look very, very different.
Thanks for the call. You get to choose.
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We are back on the Ramsey Show. I george camill joined by dr john deloney and if you're watching on youtube or the ramsey network app you'll notice there's another handsome guy next to us and that is tom bill you who's he's become a friend of the show you probably have seen his face on youtube you probably listen to the podcast impact theory is the media company that he co-founded.
And before that, he co-founded a little company, a little startup called Quest Nutrition from nothing to a billion dollar business in five years and exited from that. And so he's just this amazing serial entrepreneur.
And we align with a lot of things, Tom. It's an honor to have you.
It's an honor to be here. You guys have been a lot of fun.
I've really enjoyed my time. It's always surprise when we're fun, John.
People don't expect that. No, they think I'm fun.
The jury's out on you. And so it's good.
It's good to hear that we're both fun. We've got to hang out and do interviews and stuff for our other shows these last few days.
And it's amazing to me that the alignment we have with transformation and purpose and delayed gratification. Dave, people say he's an overnight success after 30 years of being in business, scratching and clawing.
And we talked about this idea of entrepreneurship, which is something you're no stranger to. And who is this for? And I want you to tell people who you think entrepreneurship is for because there's a fallacy out there with young people going, I'm going to go work four hours a week and I'm going to crush it, not work a nine to five.
Yeah. So the ingredients of an entrepreneur are going to be a high tolerance

for risk and a just desperate desire to be punched in the face. And if you have those, boy, do I have

something for you. So yeah, I mean, that's the hard reality is building something big is extremely

difficult. Now it's incredibly gratifying and it puts you in control of your own life.
And it is, if you are a competitor and you always wanted to play sports, but maybe you weren't gifted at that, but you really want to compete at something that matters to you, that you love, you have passion for, that's business and you don't wear out. And in fact, in many ways, the older you get, the better you get.
There are limitations. You do fatigue a little bit earlier as you get older, but it's pretty extraordinary.
Business is the game of athletics that you never have to retire from. So that's fascinating because we have young people exiting the workforce in record numbers because quote unquote, they don't want to work for anybody.
They want to set their own hours. That's sideways, right? They are so misunderstanding what is about to happen.
So there you go. Nobody works more than the CEO.
Now you do get the autonomy. So if they're like me and they are pathologically incapable of working for somebody else, which is not a good thing.
That's Dave Ramsey. They just really just can't do it, then it is liberating.
But like there have been periods of my life where I'm working 120 hours a week for eight months straight. It's grueling.
This last round, my wife had to come up and say, you're now damaging our marriage, which is like an alarm bell that she can ring at any time. And she said, yeah, this is getting too much.
And so you're not going to work less. You are for sure going to work more because what they think they're up against is their boss.
And they're forgetting that their boss is up against the marketplace. And so now when you go out into the real world, you're up against the marketplace, man.
And the right way to think about the marketplace is the cold, dead eyes of a shark. They do not care about you.
They just want a solution to their problem. And if you can deliver it, then they feel like your bestie, right? Because you've solved the problem for them.
The second you don't, they're out. They do not care.
So it's brutal. So I guess leaving your nine to five because of the stress and anxiety and trading that for entrepreneurship, you may not relieve that part.
You may not. But look, there are companies that you can find that you may align with more and work better.
I'm not saying stay in a job that you don't want because it's worse out there. No, no, no.
If control is your game, go start your own thing. But there's going to be a high price to pay for that.
If you hate your current job, make sure that your skills are such that you can go find another one, but go find it. I mean, you can and should love Mondays as much as you love a Friday or Saturday.
And that's real, but most people don't get good enough to put themselves in that position. Yeah.
Well, John, one of your hallmark philosophies is that winning won't make you well. And you've experienced this, Tom, you were worth millions on paper and yet you were miserable what what happened there and what have what have you learned since then or in addition to that question will you paint us a picture I just imagine you sell quest for a billion dollars and I'm making up a number here just for fun but they move 500 million bucks into escrow for you and you wake up the next day still Tom well the crazy is it actually happened in real time.
So you're on a call with all these lawyers. There's literally like nine or 10 lawyers.
And, uh, I was in the gym in my garage at that point. So living a sort of nice middle-class upper middle-class life at that point.
And, uh, we're in our just ugly, you have to imagine something ugly with a lot of spider webs. Okay, so that's where we're at.
And I'm on the phone with the lawyers and they countdown, lawyer one, ready to transfer, two, ready to transfer. And they go around the room, they all say that.
Like launching a rocket ship. Literally.
And so then they press the button and you just sit there on your banking app and you hit refresh, refresh, refresh. And then all of a sudden, boom, it's crazy.
Wow. Now the best part is you throw your fist in the air.
You're like, oh my God, we really made it. I'm out of this.
No more spider webs for me. Yeah.
And, uh, and you're like, oh, but wait a second. I have all the same insecurities that I had 45 seconds ago.
You go with you. Yeah.
So it, the thing I want people to understand is money's more powerful than you think. Don't listen to anybody that says money doesn't matter.
Money matters a lot, but it will not make you respect yourself. And so once you understand psychologically, all you actually care about is, do I respect myself? You can lose if you respect yourself, but if you win and don't respect yourself, you will still be in emotional turmoil.
And so thankfully I had already learned that lesson from the period you're talking about where I was worth a couple million bucks on paper and I was completely miserable. So I was like, huh, telling the world that I'm a multimillionaire has solved exactly zero problems for me.
So now what is this really about? And at the time I would have said it's about feeling alive. Now, what I would tell you is that if you want to feel good, like really good, the money's great.
It'll be a cool thing, but it's about becoming the kind of person that is capable of winning a championship. So if you understand, it's better to be playing in the championship game and lose and never get the ring than to sit on the bench of a team that wins the ring.
I would rather have been on the field, played my guts out, and just not won. It just didn't work out for me.
But I was there, man, and I pushed myself and I played. Like that I can handle.
But winning and knowing I didn't contribute, yikes. Yeah, it's tough.
Yeah, it's tough, tough, tough, tough. Yeah, you say struggle well.
Struggle toward the thing that is worth struggling for. Yeah, because no one can guarantee success, but you can guarantee the struggle.
I promise. If you try something sufficiently difficult, you will struggle for sure.
And so now just were you struggling towards something that you enjoyed even while you were losing? And that's the right way to pursue something. So you've developed a reputation as um what i would say one of the most hyper intentional people i've ever been around like very like thoughtful like i want to solve for this i'm going to reverse engineer it and solve for this and i want to i want a better marriage i'm going to reverse engineer this and i want to make this much money so i'm going to reverse engineer my health to be this way broken down intentionality is a of habits.
How do you teach people those? What do you tell people about those habits that you're going to do on a regular basis to get to the thing that you want to get to, whatever that thing happens to be? Honestly, I repeat this a lot when people ask, but I never go out of my way to tell people. But if somebody is asking a specific question about what I do, I will tell them what I do.
I will tell them why I do it. But the short answer is everything I do, I do for cognitive optimization.
So whether you're trying to be a better husband, if you're, if you have brain fog, if you're tired all the time, if you're grumpy, you're never going to be able to help. And so this is why I say, I want people to understand they are having a biological experience.
So get sleep, get sunlight in your eyes, make sure that your diet is on point. Like if you said, Tom, you need to improve somebody's life, but you can only touch one metric.
The metric that I would go for is blood sugar. And so if you let me control your blood sugar, one, it's gonna positively impact your sleep, which people don't see coming.
It's gonna have have a massive impact on your joints. And it, from a metabolic standpoint is probably the leading indicator of brain fog, fatigue, being hangry, all that stuff.
And so you would not expect somebody to say one of, there are many more, but one of the keys to my success as an entrepreneur is my ability to get control of my body. I used to be 60 pounds heavier, six zero.
Wow. And it took me two years to lose that weight.
I've kept it off for almost a decade. It's just really simple rules that if you follow, you're going to be fine.
That's amazing. Tom Bilyeu, go check him out.
That's B-I-L-Y-E-U. And be sure to go to impacttheory.com.
Check out Impact Theory University and of course, his amazing show where he talks to the best minds in the world with fascinating conversations. Tom, thanks for joining us today.
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All right, let's go to the phones. Haley joins us in Phoenix up next.
What's going on, Haley? Hi, thanks for taking my call. How can we help? So I'm 19 and I'm a sophomore in college and my FAFSA was delayed and I don't know when I'm going to get it.
So what I budgeted over the summer and thought what I'd be paying for school this semester has more than doubled. And I don't know what to do.
I feel like I've thought of every option I can, but I still feel lost in what I should do. Why'd your FAFSA get delayed?

Because my school counselor basically emailed me and told me that my mom didn't file her 2022 taxes.

And so that delayed it

because I'm still under my mom's insurance,

so I have to file with her.

So we had to...

Well, it's not because of the insurance.

That means she's still claiming you as a tax deduction.

Oh. Have you talked to mom about this? Yeah, have you talked to mom? Yeah, I've talked to her.
I basically had to talk her into doing her taxes. She's not that great with money.
So we had to mail them out since we couldn't submit them digitally. And I basically can't get my aid until I get the 2022 tax transcript.
Are you already moved in? Yeah, I got this email the day I moved in. Okay.
What's the shortfall? How much do you owe? So I have four payments a month and it's $3,500. I paid the August payment, and I paid until November.
So I've already got the first one out of the way. So that buys you another few months or what? I'm sorry? How much time does that buy you before the next payment? So I pay every 15th of the month.
So I have until September 15th to come up with another $3,500.

And what did mom say?

Does she have any money to help you out with this, or do you have any savings?

Yes.

So I had an emergency fund, so I dug into that for this.

I saved over $6,000, almost $7,000 over the summer, so I have money left over. So by the time September 15th comes, I'll have $3,000, but I'll be short $400-something.
But I don't get paid until the 18th, so I don't know. I'll have enough by the 18th to pay the rest.
But I don't know what the punishment is for paying a few days late. Here's what you got to do.
You got to go sit down with your financial aid counselor. And every university has one.
And you just have to lay out a map. Because here's what I don't want you to do.
I don't want you to take all $7,000 that you earned this summer only to be told mid-October you have to move out. Okay.
And what you'll have done is burned all the cash you have. You'll be worse off for having gone to college.
You'll have an unfinished transcript and they'll either fail you on everything or they'll let you finish a semester and you won't have access to your transcripts until you come up with the rest of the money. Okay.
But I would sit down with a financial aid counselor and say, here's the map, here's my plan on how I can pay this, but I'm going to be three days late here. I'm going to be four days late here.
There is a Hail Mary pass here.

This Here's the map. Here's my plan on how I can pay this.
But I'm going to be three days late here. I'm going to be four days late here.
There is a Hail Mary pass here. This time at the end, I mean, at the beginning of every school year, there's sometimes an overspend and sometimes an underspend of scholarship dollars.
Colleges will, they will budget just like we all budget. They budget for how much scholarship dollars they're going to spend depending on how many ACT scores of a 29 they think they're going to get and how many athletes are going to get, et cetera.
Sometimes they come through and a whole bunch of students, kind of like an airplane, they oversell the airplane and a whole bunch of students show up with 30 ACTs and they overspend their scholarship budget. Also, they often underspend it.
And so there may be, this is a Hail Mary pass,

there may be a pocket of unspent scholarship dollars still there that they can move to your

account and get you through this semester. Here's the ugly truth.
There's not a long-term fix to

this. You're going to have to decide in realistic fashion, can I afford to go to school here? And George and I are both going to tell you, please don't take out loans.
Please don't even mess with the FAFSA. If you can't afford it, you can't afford it, you can't afford it.
That means we have to go look at other alternatives, working all the way through school, going to a community college there in Arizona that they're going to pay for, any number of other options that you can afford. But right now you're driving a Lexus that you can't afford it.
It doesn't matter that everyone around you is taking out money. George and I are just telling you, we've had to pay off student loans after we graduate and it's a nightmare.
It's tough. But I would go sit with a college official ASAP and get their plan in writing and find out what happens if we get to October and I don't have the other $3,000 to finish the semester.
What are you going to actually do? And are you going to kick me out of school, make me move out? Like, what's the deal? But I don't want you waiting on mom's FAFSA to come in so that you can borrow your way into staying. That's punting this inevitable trap downstream and you're the graduates who've gone before you owe in the

was it 1.8 trillion dollars at this point and i just i just can't in good faith tell you to join

that crew what are you studying hailey forensic science are there other programs universities

even online options you could do that would be cheaper in case you can't afford this okay

Thank you. Forensic science Are there other programs, universities, even online options you could do that would be cheaper in case you can't afford this? Okay, so I have looked into this.
I work for the state of Arizona, so they had this program that I was looking into where they reimburse you and basically help you pay for your school. Excellent.
but they only offer it for online students. And unfortunately, since I'm a science major and I have lab courses,

I can't be an online student. But I also thought about commuting to school because I live an hour away from where I go to school.
How many days a week? But I live on campus. I have classes five days a week.
Okay. I did this when I lived at home and I made sure my schedule was I packed everything in on three days to limit my commute.
Once you're not a sophomore anymore, you have a lot of more, you have a little bit more flexibility schedule wise, sometimes, sometimes not. But hey, take that scholarship in, take that reimbursement in and sit with your financial aid counselor and say, I need us to figure this out.
And often universities will do what they can because they want to receive money from any outside source possible. And they may figure out a way to help you do this.
And it could be a classification code. Another thing you may want to try to do is see if you can, you got a job with the state of Arizona.
Is there a way you can get a job at the university? Because that often comes with a tuition discount or a full reimbursement there too. But continue to beat the drum and beat the drum.
With this one idea, I'm not going to borrow any money. That's going to take getting creative, Haley.
We're wishing you the best. All right.
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