Being "Normal" with Money Sucks, Be Weird!

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Katie is with us in Los Angeles. Hi, Katie.
How are you? Hi. I've been better.
How are you, Dave? Better than I deserve. What's up in your world? Well, I am a stay-at-home mom of two young kids, and my husband is a business owner.
I've been living with my head in the sand for the last couple of years as he's managed the money, and I've just recently discovered how poorly he's been doing that. We are in a world of debt right now and trying to

find a path out of it. Okay.
So what caused you to suddenly become aware? He called me one day and said, I'm going to tell you before you get home to see the mail today, but we got a foreclosure notice on our house, which was due to a second mortgage he took out on our house in order to purchase a warehouse for his business. I naively thought, okay, I'm going to fix this.
I'm going to cash out one of my 401ks, pay that off, get the house out of foreclosure, and then we're going to move forward and do everything right from here on out. That was very naive.
As I started to dig deeper, I realized the trouble that the business was in. He has a huge overhead and is not making enough to sustain that.
How old are you guys? I'm 39. He's 42.
How long have you been married? Six years. When was the phone call on the foreclosure notice to you? Well, on the house or on the house.
Now, when did he call you? What day? How long ago did he call you and say? Oh, this was back in May. May.
Okay. So you've been gathering more information, and you all have been having more discussions for a couple of months now.
Correct. Okay.
All right. So what is he now saying? He has a very motivated mindset, and he feels like he just needs to keep pushing forward with the business and things are going to turn around any day any week and he's going to be able to fix all of this meanwhile it feels as if things are not getting better Things seem to be getting worse.

Twice this month, he's not been able to make payroll for the employee.

I've found out about some IRS debts, some property tax that's delinquent.

So why are you, once you discovered one thing,

why do you not have a conversation when the two of you sit down

and he tells you everything? Why are you having to continue to pull the thread on the sweater? Well, eventually he did. Okay.
Once I found out about the IRS. So we're all on the same page today.
What's the total debt, Katie? Including mortgages? Yeah. Sure.
Yeah. About $4.5 million.
Okay. And how much is the mortgage on your home? Our mortgage is, we owe $480 on the house, plus the additional, the second mortgage, which is $400, so about $880.
Okay. What's the house worth? What's the house worth? Probably $1.1.
Okay. What's the mortgage on the warehouse? Is there one? The mortgage on the warehouse, yes, there is.
The mortgage on the warehouse, we owe about 3.3 on it, and the monthly payment on that is about $26,000. And what's it worth? It's worth 4.1, 4.2.
Okay. Is it on the market for sale? Yes.
I sat down with our broker. Okay.
So that's on the market. Is your home on the market for sale? No.
Okay. And, um, so what other debt is there other than these two? Uh, there's credit card debt, which totals about $ 120,000.
There's a personal loan from my parents,

which is 115,000. There is the property tax, which is about a hundred thousand.

There are, are ridiculous cars, which are 140,000. Are they on the market for sale?

No, they need to be today. Okay.
Okay. Now, is he, the thing about business is this, okay? You do have to be an optimist to operate a business.
And to operate a business in California, you have to be an unbelievable optimist with the taxes and the regulations and the crap you all face, okay? It's unbelievable. So he has to be an optimist or he's dead in the water.
we have to have that category we can put him in that's a good thing um but what you need to hear and i don't know the answer to this is you need to hear him articulate a detailed tactical strategy a strategy overall but the tactical implementation of the what items are we doing to make this thing profitable? Because all you're describing to me are signs of death of the business. He has some reason, hopefully logically, that there's a reason for life in the business.
I don't know what that is. I can't I'm not hearing his part of that story.
It is possible that he's got four things that if those, that if three of the four things will ever flip, that he can turn the business around. Okay.
But the poor management and continue to go further, further into debt is a pattern of, I think I can out earn my stupidity. And that's what you need to see him stop doing because it's driving you nuts.
So the two of you need to sit down and, you know, it's okay for you to quote, require of him for your peace of mind as his wife, that he show you what the clear path is and exactly what the steps are to get out. Not just if I grit my teeth, it's going to get better because if I grip my teeth and keep doing the same thing, it ain't going to get better.

It's going to be doing the same thing.

Yeah.

And I think a timeline is appropriate too, Katie, because you guys can sit here in this cycle forever and ever and you need an end date or I would. I would be like, hey, I will give you X amount to figure this out.
But at some point you got to just stop it and go get a job. Like we have to clean this up.
I mean, it's just. So just so henry cloud says in his book necessary endings that you end something when you lose logical hope that it is going to get any better okay so when do you close a business you close a business when you have no reason logically to believe it's going to turn around and you need to see something other than all the death signs you feel like you're sitting beside the hospice patient hearing all the signs of death coming and you've and yet it's not a hospice patient maybe maybe it's just a patient that's got the flu but that's how you're feeling because you don't know what's going on here i don't know what's going on um selling the warehouse is going to be a big lick.
That's going to be really helpful. Getting rid of your cars is really helpful.
And, you know, we got to get back to scorched earth. We got to get this thing right sized to where we can make payroll and we see a path, a light at the end of the tunnel that's not an oncoming train.
The two of you need to find that together. And if you don't see it, Katie, you speak up too because so far the patterns

haven't been here.

IRS stuff, I mean,

it's not looking good.

No, he has poorly managed it.

That's for sure.

But if there is a clear path,

but otherwise we need to talk about

how we're going to sell everything off

and shut it down.

So you're right on track

and trust your gut.

You've got good gut instincts on this.

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That's better difficult. But there's some principles that Rachel gets to talk about, and I get to talk about a lot, that weave into a situation like that.
By the way, the irony of that call is it's almost exactly where we were. Only I wasn't 42, I was 28.
I had $4 million worth of debt. Rachel was a brand new baby when we hit bottom, but it took two and a half years of fighting for us to go all the way to the bottom to bankruptcy.
So by the time I filed bankruptcy was the year she was born. But Sharon was a full-time mom with Rachel's older sister and had absolutely zero knowledge of anything going on, not because I was deceiving her.

I just didn't ask, nor did I tell.

And neither did she ask.

She's like, she just classic, whatever you want to do, honey.

And just assumed I had a clue.

I thought I had a clue and I was wrecking a business.

And so there's a couple of things that go with this principles for you guys to use out there, uh, that'll keep you from finding yourself in a situation. They may be so far gone.
They don't make it out of that. They may be bankrupt.
They may lose everything we did. Um, because we were so far in.
So principle number one is men in particular, but ladies too, when you are running a business, it does not give you relational or wisdom permission to keep that all the other side of some kind of wall. Now, you don't need to come home and whine every night to your spouse about everything being hard.
Nobody wants to hear that. But your spouse needs to be involved in all major decisions that affect the household, and that includes the running of the business, period.
And here's why. Proverbs says, who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband safely trusts her and he will have no lack of gain. And so while my sweet little wife is at home with a little baby and she's a full-time mom with a home ec degree she is academically not qualified to speak into the operation of my business but the bible says that if i listen to the wisdom of my virtuous wife i will have no lack of gain the way sharon says it is i may not understand but i have common sense and she around like, like, and she does have common sense.
She has wisdom. And so I, after I went broke and I learned that proverb, I no longer make major financial decisions, major decisions of any kind without Sharon and I talking it through and being in agreement.
Now, sometimes we argue about it. Sometimes she's wrong.
Uh, sometimes she's right. And I hear something I'd ever heard before.
And, uh, but I don't, you know, we don't go and buy a $2 million building and then tell her we did it. Um, we can, but we don't.
And so we don't, you know, I don't book. We run our calendars.
We run our budgets together. We know where everything that's going on in our time, everything that's going on in our money.
And therefore, we make better decisions. And the added benefit is that it absolutely solidifies your marriage against the storms that will come.
Yeah, and being able to, I think, go there with your spouse too is what we talk about so often, is having this knowledge and understanding of who they are because usually in those business conversations and or the money conversations, the person and their fears and their anxiety around this subject over here or the thoughts of this or the excitement of that like you get to know your spouse in the middle of it too right I mean like there's there's all this added benefit to not only having somebody outside the picture looking in with a different perspective which is so wise and so healthy but you also you're doing stuff as a team and when you're married that's where a rich marriage comes from is that you're on the same team and you're talking about it and you get to know your spouse in the middle of it even more versus again, feeling like, okay, this whole part of our life is over here and I'm not, I'm not going to bring you in. So if you're in the situation where that lady's husband is, you're the husband or the wife, and you're in that situation, you're running a business.
As of today, it is now your job to unpack everything that's going on that is of note, anything of size. We don't have to discuss where we buy copier paper, okay? But we are going to talk about the big things that are happening in the business.
Here's what's going on. Here's how we run the business.
Here's the things. And we're not going to move the big pieces around the chessboard without talking about it further.
If you are the person who is at home or is not in the business, so to speak, it is your job as of today to know what the flip is going on in your own life. You are not a little child.
You have to plug in. And if they don't want you to, that's a bad sign.
If you're just too lazy to, you don't want to put forth the effort. Oh, he's handling it.
I'll let him handle it. That's just laziness.
And you're going to make really stupid butt decisions, and you're going to craft a life that you don't like at the end of the story if you don't plug in and make these calls together, like two grown-up adults. Well, we're not alike.
We look at things differently. Absolutely.
Most of the time, opposites attract. Larry Burkett used to say, if two people just alike get married, one of you is unnecessary.
Of course, one of you is a spender. Of course, one of you is a saver.
Of course of course one of you is an abundance and the other one's a scarcity of course so what that what that means is you're getting good rounded viewpoints on these major decisions and you don't reach a point that oh i borrowed on our home where our children sleep to buy a warehouse.

Can I say that feels deceitful?

Like when you start to muddle the waters,

which I know happens a lot in business,

but you start to reach over to the,

like putting that in danger, that feels like,

I don't know why it feels different if it's like,

oh, I went and got a warehouse,

but my own home, like my home, that feels so personal. I don't it that felt that felt deceitful to me well it's not um because the arrangement that they were no the arrangement they were operating on is she don't care he can do whatever he wants and so he did whatever he wants and he had no he had no thought that he was going to lose the home he he thinks it's just going to turn around he's going to out earn his stupid stupidity.
Make all this other money. He didn't, he didn't sit down and really sat down and go.
Now, I will, I will tell you this, having adopted this, we don't do major things without Sharon. It means that I actually have to not only sell myself on the idea of going forward on something.
I have to sell her for on it. And it makes me, it makes me critically think through the idea more thoroughly knowing I've got to get agreement from someone else.
I've got to be able to explain it in such a way that it makes sense and get agreement. That's why we always talk about don't do your money alone.
Even if you're single, have somebody an account, something that you are accountable to, right? Yep. A spouse, a friend.
Again, if you're single, maybe it's a mentor, like like whatever it is whatever the situation is it's hilarious that inside of our own little brains we can talk we can make the dumbest thing we're crazy we can make the dumbest thing sound smart inside our own little brains but when you have to speak it and set it out on the table in front of someone that loves you and that cares about your future as soon as you set it out on the table sometimes before they say say anything, you go, oh, that's dumb. Oh, that's, I, and when that was in my head, it was really smart, but when I put it out there in the daylight, it looks really stupid, and it's almost like that time that you had this problem, and you sat down with your friend, and by the time you explained your problem to your friend, you knew the answer, and all that is, is your brain had to process from simple digits floating around in your brain into verbalized.
When you have to turn something into language, your brain is required to go through another higher function of critical thinking skills. So when you turn something from a thought into language and put it in front of someone else, it makes you process the thing you're talking about more thoroughly.
That's why you already know the answer before your friend ever says anything. You go, oh, thanks for listening.
I now know what to do. And they never said a word.
They just look at you like a hoot owl, right? And the same thing's true here. You know, it's when you have to do this with your spouse, it opens up everything.
It's like right before the show, I was telling Dave about my new prepping conspiracy that I heard last night and he looked at me like a hoot owl and he just shook his head and we just went to air. It's good to say it out loud sometimes.
I don't know. I don't know about that conspiracy.
I guess there's one in every family. This is the Ramsey Show.
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People like to go after it. It's a good thing to go after it.
It's an Instagram thing to go after the boomers, so I get that. We're just mad that y'all bought houses that were $20,000.
I bought a house with a bucket of strawberries. That's exactly right.
I traded one bucket of strawberries for my house. Now it's worth $42 million.
We're all just mad about it. You could make, you know, $20,000 and be fine in life, you know, just the 80s.
And y'all never took economics to find out that those numbers are actually not true. I was kidding.
But they're there. But they're slow, though.
We're just mad at y'all. Amanda is in Memphis.
Hey, Amanda, what's up? Hey, Dave. Thank you for taking my call.
Sure. How can I help?

I need guidance. I need to know we got a loan on our home and it was, they were not transparent

about any of the fees. What do you mean? It's kind of hard.
And all the fees that were associated

with the loan, the APR, the only thing we knew was the interest rate. We knew that is the APR.
Why did you sign the documents if you didn't know what you were doing? Well, when it came to closing, I mean, so the lender was telling us all along that he would tell us the fees once we settled on the percentage that we were going to put down. It was pretty cut and dry, Dave.
We wanted to walk away from our other home with $75,000 under 6% and have a house note $2,000 or under. It was that simple.
But it wasn't that simple. When you went to the table and it wasn't that, why did you sign it? We didn't know it wasn't that.
You didn't sign a mortgage paper that had a blank in it. That's bull.
No, no, no, didn't say that. Yeah, you did.
Okay, but the loan is just in my husband's name. It is not in my name.
I don't care. Why did he sign it? I'm the one that did all the conversation with the...
Were you at the table when he's there to sign it? I was at the table. And you look down and the numbers aren't right, and you signed it anyway? Why did you do that? I wasn't the signer.
But besides that, let me go backwards just a little bit. Okay.
Because the lender said, okay, 6.375. He said, I'll get you under 6% if you sign with us right now.
And so we did that. We got on the computer, we signed with them and everything.
And so then it became, um, you know, they wouldn't tell us any of the fees. The underwriter said, we'll get the paper over to you so you will know what all your numbers are before you go to the closing table.
And if you need someone there to sit with you, we have someone in your city that can sit with you. And we said, no, let's just wait.
And we went through the process, and then we go to the closing, and the closing attorney says, you know, here's this, you know, you've already went over this, da-da-da. You know how they go through it.
We went with this company because they said they were going to do everything, so we just assumed that's how it was, okay? When we told them what we wanted to go to, we didn't know what our cash out was going to be until after all the papers were signed.

After all the papers were signed,

the closing attorney came downstairs with a sheet of paper and a breakdown and said,

Ann, you're getting $65,000.

Like, no.

We're supposed to be getting $75,000.

So we didn't know anything. They were not transparent, and they misguided us.
We had to pay for points. They never told us we had to pay for points.
There were many things, and to the point that I called after the loan to the underwriter. Okay.
Why did you not turn around and look at the attorney and say,

just tear up the documents?

I don't want $65,000.

We agreed to.

We're not doing this closing.

Our house was sold.

We were in a stress.

We're both 61.

I mean, we were.

That doesn't mean you have to accept a deal.

No, we don't have to accept a deal.

Just look at him and go, this isn't what we agreed to.

Tear up the papers.

We're not doing this.

And where were we going to live?

I'm walking out of here. You're right about the trap part.
I said, because you felt trapped you weren't trapped stand up walk out go rent an apartment and give them the middle finger as you walk out the door don't sign stuff and and then gripe about that you did that what you signed when you sat down look your husband signed it after you sat there and looked at it if you said if you say to me you're going to give me the numbers before I go to closing, then we don't go to closing until you give me the numbers. And we don't go to closing if the numbers aren't what you tell me they're going to be.
I look at stuff ahead of time. That was your job.
It's not their job. But it's their job to get it to me.
It's your job to not do anything until they do. True.
Okay. You let this happen.
But like you said, at our age and no family to run to, you're right, we could rent, no doubt. But we had...
Hey, I'm sorry, Dawn, and I'm older than you and I ain't feeling trapped. And I don't need to run to my family.
I'm just going to walk out the door if somebody's trying to screw me. It's that simple.
I'm going to stand up and walk out the door. I'm sorry, you're not a victim.
You're not a victim of anything except your inability to look at someone and say no. Just look at them and say no.
I'm not signing this. It's not what we said.
That's who you're a victim of. You're a victim of your own inability to say no.
You and your husband should have thrown your shoulders back and said, no, this is not what we agreed to, and walk away. This lender didn't do anything wrong.
They were just sloppy at best. This is The Ramsey Show.
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Open phones at 888-825-5225. I was telling our team and staff meeting on Monday that how we do what we do at Ramsey, helping people with God's ways of handling money, grandma's ways of handling money, common sense ways of handling money, how we do it has changed a lot over the 30 years.

The advice has not changed hardly at all because it came from the Bible.

The Bible didn't change, and it came from common sense, and common sense doesn't change.

Now, there was no digital anything when we started.

There was no computers.

We didn't have a computer.

There was no internet.

There was no podcast, for sure,. YouTube hadn't even been thought of.
MTV was quite the rage. But, you know, it was a different time.
Infomercials were a thing. VHS tapes are what we started with, right? And so we were telling the team this.
I said, the things that I say that are from god and your grandmother are are the exact same things i say today i said back then it really hasn't even changed so our producer james um decided to take upon himself to prove that and somewhere down in the deep bowels of Ramsey has uncovered a video of me on a TV show, I guess it is, from 1995. 30 years.
Almost 30 years. So let's see if I say the same things or not.
If you have very few of these, but a whole lot of these, you're going to like our show today. We're going to talk to a financial expert.
His name is Dave Ramsey. What's the number one question that you get on the air concerning financial problems? What do they want to know? Concerning financial problems, how to get out of debt.
How do I get out of debt? And I would say the second thing is communication with spouses. It's the stuff Grandma talked about.
So save money, live on less than you make. Two concepts Congress can't grasp.
And then we talk about getting out of debt, the borrower's servant to the lender. And so lay down a plan, have a budget, spend every dollar on paper before the month begins.
Because it's more behavior than it is math. Don't spend money you don't have.
Understand, when half your net worth is tied up in something that loses 60% of its value in four years, you're not going to get ahead. I don't meet with people with a million dollars and say, gosh, Dave, I got ahead using credit cards and car payments.
What solves it is getting mad at it. Some healthy, righteous anger and saying, hey, that's it.
I'm drawing a line in the sand. I'm going to be weird.
I'm going to get this stuff paid off. Oh, my gosh.
I have no words. I have no words.
Your voice was so, you're so, it's changed. How old were you in that? How old? I was probably about your age.
Mid-30s? Yeah. Oh my gosh.
Well, 95, I was 35. Yeah, I was your age.
Wow. Wow.
Yeah, I'm 36. There you go.
Give me my year. All right.
I'm sorry. And you still use the same jokes.
The same exact jokes. Live on less than you make a concept of Congress can't grasp.
Now, I did take I had a guy come in and train me for a year and a half on and removed a portion of my accent. So I've got a lot less accent now than I did then.
That was pretty country there yeah that was that was some nashville that was some 80s nashville pretty southern pretty southern sweet tea there and uh the little comb over thing that little last that little less vestige of hair you got a little bit there it was still stuck on there wasn't really a comb over there was just a little just look old in those days do what like you look like you're 50 in that video. Isn't that interesting? Back in the day, I just feel like the way the style was, the way it was shot.
Well, the style and, you know, a suit and tie and the glasses, the Mr. Magoo glasses.
Yeah. I mean, like, it just makes you, it just ages you.
But what's interesting is if you quit looking at all that stuff, which is fun to make fun of. I'm okay with that.
That's good. But the, what did I say? Gave every dollar a name to a budget.
The every dollar app. And now we have the every dollar app.
And little did I know there was going to be an internet. Communicate with your spouse.
We would have an app called every dollar. Give every dollar a name.
And live on less than you make. And cars go down in value.
People don't get rich on credit cards and car payments. It's pretty wild.
Yeah. And 35 years later, I'm still saying the same thing and I have more listeners than we've ever had before at this moment.
And I've not changed one thing. I mean, it's nothing new here.
It's very, even the be weird element. That was there.
Yeah. You said that just be weird to be weird.
Be weird. And now, now when on and does their debt-free scream, we call them a weirdo, right? And that's before it became a political thing in the last few weeks.
But yeah, we've still been doing that. Oh, yeah.
Oh, man, they hijacked the word. They stole my word, yeah.
Now I have to clarify that it has nothing to do with the Trump campaign. It's weird because you're just not, yeah, not normal.
You're not normal, yeah. You know know it's so refreshing though like that it is there there is something about longevity in life principles in all of life i think it's probably true within relationships and health money like spiritually all of it that it that it works you know the new flashy way to do something or thing, it doesn't have the proven track record.
It doesn't have longevity and the level of trust you can have in a system and a process that truly has been, yeah, for 30 years. Same, same freaking thing.
Do you get tired of saying the same thing every day? For 30 years. I haven't done it for 15.

Yeah.

I've been half of it.

Yeah.

There you go.

There you go.

When we look back on this interview right now,

this discussion right now,

your voice is going to sound weird.

Oh,

yeah.

Look at that haircut.

What is she wearing?

What did,

where did she get that?

That's awesome. Well done, James.
The style you used to have back then that'll be it so but the whole the whole thing is that the truth something that's the truth and we're people of the book we're people of faith so we believe that the bible is the truth the truth does not change and it's not negotiable your feelings. And so that's why we've been able to have the integrity to say the same thing over and over and over and over again for 35 years through several fashion changes.
Yes. And not only survive but continue to prosper you guys, to not only survive in the business but be able to continue to help you guys.
And it still helps you to hear those exact same things from that interview all those years ago. So we still say them over and over and over.
And that is a type of integrity, to stick with something, to finish, to not quit, to not abandon every time somebody has the latest.

You know, all of a sudden, Bitcoin is the new answer.

And so we have to stop.

No, no, it's not.

It's not.

All of a sudden, you know, NTF is the answer.

No, it's not. Well, credit card points and miles, that game has ramped up majorly.

Yeah, it's crazy.

And, you know, when we started, there were no credit cards accepted in grocery stores and there were no credit cards accepted in fast food. And I remember doing a rant aghast on the air that it was going to ruin the American family, that they could buy their groceries now and go into debt to buy their food.
And I remember going off about that. And, you know, now it's not even that.
Now it's just delivered to your door. Your door in particular.
But, yeah. Rachel hasn't seen the inside of a grocery store in years.
No, no, no, no. I'll go if I have items.
On Mondays I work, and that's why I do my grocery shopping. Oh, okay.
I'm sorry. Conveniences and take people live like no one else later you can live and have your groceries delivered i'm sorry one thing i do for myself one thing the one thing when's the last time you've been in a grocery store i why not since that video yeah no no but entirely possible no i've been there because your mother sent me but yeah but the um i think the point is is that these principles work and the way that we deliver them whether it's some it's you know tomorrow we may be on a hologram i don't know uh tomorrow we may have some there's going to be another technology in five years or what we end up doing with AI to be able to, we're going to use anything that's available to deliver the exact same message over and over and over again.
Yeah. And I would say for people that are newer to listening because YouTube and podcasts has become like one of the major parts of this, of this show is just because something feels simple and kind of boring and like, Oh, is that it? Really? You live on less than you make kind of that common sense.
That's almost the, that's, those are the ones to lean into, right? Like with stuff starts to get complicated and too fancy and it feels like this, like whoo thing. So to be confident for people that are new to this younger people, even like it's been working and it still is helping people get free and control of their money, which is what we want.
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Daniel is in Oklahoma City. Hi, Daniel.
How are you? Hey, Dave. How are you doing today? Better than I deserve.
What's up? Hey, got a couple questions for you. So I just recently got married about two weeks ago.
Congratulations. I really appreciate it.
To wife that I met in, uh, in college. And we, you know, we talk about finances all the time and everything, you know, preparing for marriage and all that.
Um, we talked about that a lot in our premarital counseling, um, through our church and it was great. Um, big question is, so I'm coming, uh, out of college with no debt, which is awesome is awesome, but my wife has about $130,000 in student loans.
We just have been looking at them a lot recently and realized her minimum monthly payment's a lot higher than we expected it to be. It's about $1,800 a month is what that minimum monthly payment is looking like right now.
Um, so we make about $5,000 a month after taxes right now. What's her degree in marketing? Okay.
And what does she make? Yeah. Uh, she makes about $47,000 right now with her job, a brand new job out of college.
So she's actually had the job for about two years. She had been doing some marketing stuff prior to college and had a lot of experience.
And what do you make? So I still have a little bit of school left. I actually make only about $25,000 a year right now.
When will you graduate? I have a year left of school. Okay.
And what will your degree be in? My degree will be in business. I'm actually taking over my mom's business.
So I'll probably be making right at six figures once I'm out of school. Okay.
And that's a year from now? Yes, sir. Yes, sir.
All right. Okay.
So your big hope is that you can just keep things afloat, and then when your income kicks in, you'll be able to plow through this pretty quick, right? Absolutely. Yes, sir.
It's really just the next year. Just what do you think our best options are to do? Side hustles.
And she's underemployed. Why is she not making more than that? You know, it's a big conversation that we have had lately.
She's actually in the process of looking for a new job. I would guess she could probably add $20,000 or $30,000 to her income, don't you? That's about what the median is.
It's about $20,000 to $25,000 more here in Oklahoma City. So hoping she can find a better job that can make a little bit more money.
But her job right now is nice. It's very flexible.
But that's a big thing. Yeah, I wouldn't be looking for flexibility at this season, right? Yeah, absolutely.
Yeah, I mean, I think you guys just have a couple of months until some stuff is really going to start opening up for you. I mean, if I were her, I'd be pretty aggressive at finding a new job because that's going to be significant, right? A $25,000.
And then a year from now, you'll be working full time. Are you able to plug in more to your parents' business, Daniel? So right now, that's what I'm actually doing.
I'm working for her on the weekends and then a little bit during the week. I'm just traveling for her and stuff.
So that's how I'm making about $25,000 a year. See, if she increased her income like we're talking about, it would be about the equivalent of the student loan debt.
Yeah, that's about what we were thinking, yeah. $1,800 is like $23,000.
So that's, you know, you'd be right there, okay? Yeah. Yeah, that's.
And I would say, Daniel, and I'm sure people, maybe if you've talked to them about this, but can I just, I just want to say that you're in like the perfect season, relationally wise, like with marriage, no kids, you guys are starting out. Like if you're going to be working extra hours, this is the time to do it.
It gets more complicated, right? The longer you're married and if kids start entering the picture it just becomes more weighty and so if you guys can really make a plan and just dream I would have fun and just say okay what if she made 25,000 more I'm making 100 grand how fast can we get this paid off if I'm making that in a year and kind of map it out and you guys are able to see it so that way if you guys have to take on extra work for the next two to three months until her income's up, just to keep that, you want to keep that minimum payment for sure. Because these payment plans on the principle of specifically student loans, I mean, people pay so much money and then they look and they owe more than where they started.
I mean, it's just, it is so frustrating. I'm not even looking at the monthly.
I'm thinking her income goes up by 25,000. Your income goes up to a hundred.
That puts you at $175,000 a year income. You owe 130.
You should do this in one year. That went from the time that that happens.
I mean, and that's a year from now. And during the year in the interim, just hang, figure out a way to pay the payment, maybe a little more inside hustles.
Get after, though. Peter is with us in Austin, Texas.
Hi, Peter. How are you? I'm great, Dave.
Thanks for taking the call. Sure.
What's up? I had a quick question. I have 90% of my wealth.
I just turned 62, 90% of my wealth in my Roth IRA. And I've kind of gone down a path where I've been doing it all in private lending, doing private notes,

but 150 average. I'm only doing firsts and I'm at 55% or less in loan to value.
And I'm getting

12.5% right now. And I like that, but I'm wondering what risks may be associated with that and if I should diversify that as I keep the money there you spit that out

in such a way that it makes me believe you do actually know what you're doing. Most people don't in that world, but I think you probably do.
So that doesn't bother me. So what is the risk on 55% LTV mortgages that you're holding only if the bunch of real estate collapsed and you became the owner of it, right? Yes.
That would be your only risk. That's not a real high risk.
I think, uh, what's the average loan value, loan size? I'm doing, uh, anywhere, uh, average to be 185 right now. Okay.
All right. So you're not, you're not sitting on $2 million ones and that kind of, what's the total, the total portfolio? Two points, approximately 2.6.
Okay. So you're just doing a self-managed IRA, got it in a Roth and you're rolling this money over in private lending.
Wow. That's pretty cool.
That's what I've been doing. Yeah.
It's like your job too, almost. Yeah.
It is. But when you have them going and they go for anywhere from, let's say, three years at the average with a nice prepay, if they come back in early, it does well.
And I'm trying to simplify my life and be simple. I have a little bit of fear of the stock market and feel that $2.6 million coming in each year.
I don't have any fear of it, but I don't have any fear of what you're doing either. So if you wanted to, I mean, diversification equals a lowered risk always.
Okay. I love real estate and I'm heavy in real estate.
I'm probably, I don't know, 80%, 90% of my net worth is in real estate. Um, so, uh, but I love it.
I'm comfortable with it. I know what I'm doing.
It's not a, so I have very little risk associated with that, but I've got a, you know, then I've got a bunch in a lot in, in the stock market and mutual funds. And so, but, and I haven't done what you're doing, but because I, the, the amount of effort it would require, I'm not willing to put in.
So yeah, there's nothing wrong with being heavy in something you're good at and no. That's my point.
So I'm not panicked about where you are. But always, it's a good question to be asking yourself, should I diversify more? That's a good question to constantly look at and go, all my eggs in one basket.
The Bible says, put your portions into seven, yes to eight, for disaster may come upon the land. Diversification is in Ecclesiastes.
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My wife and I put our children through college, bought them cars, and provided them for them until they moved out. To this day, we still pay their phone bills, despite the fact that our oldest child is a doctor and our youngest is a manager for a high-end retail company.
Both earned six-figure salaries due to unforeseen circumstances. We were hit with two natural disasters last year, a flash flood and a fire to our home.
We didn't have flood insurance, but we're able to cash flow the repairs for the flood and are deductible for the fire. We currently only have three debts, two vehicles, which replace the ones that we lost in the flood, and our mortgage is $47,000.
Even though our children earn four to five times what we make, they say, according to your teachings, in parentheses, they have no obligation to help us.

They have told us, well, dad, Dave Ramsey says to allow you to sink or swim because your debt is your obligation.

Are we wrong to ask them for help or are they interpreting your advice incorrectly wow um okay it doesn't sound like they're seeing i mean first thing is it's weird when you pay your grown kids bills of any kind including their phone bill and you know whose fault that is robert yours you should have cut that off when they left home i don't pay rachel's dad gum phone bill i don't pay her netflix bill denise does have your netflix password though well i didn't give it to her that's the point that's not the point the um so that's thing one thing two robert when you raise children and as part of raising them um you buy them a car and pay it for their college and when they leave college and they become successful adults that does not obligate them they're not in debt to you that was like your job. You're the dad.
That's what you're supposed to do there. You know, well, I changed your diaper.
So you need to send me to France on a vacation. What you I've heard this crap my whole life.
I do not understand it. Okay.
You, your, your children are not obligated to any of you because you did your job as a mother or a father. They are not in debt to you because you fed them, period.
So the entitlement that is dripping through this, Robert, you know, my disgust with your entitlement, yes, that is my teaching. That's a disgusting entitlement that you should think that your children owe you something because you were just simply a father and did what you were supposed to do.
My children are not obligated to me. Now, I have never said, Dave Ramsey says, allow you to sink or swim because your debt isn't our obligation.
That is not a phrase. That's not phrasing and verbiage that I would use.
So either your children have added drama to what I say, or you have, I'm not sure who, what I would say is, is it's not their job to take care of their mom and dad. They're not morally or ethically obligated to do that.
Now, if they are able and mom and dad are in a pinch and they want to give mom and dad some money because there's somebody that I love and they're hurting, I've never said not to do that, but that's way different than being obligated by the fact that you simply did your job as their dad. That's different, okay? So if you have car debt, it's not because of the flood.
You had car insurance that would have replaced your car in a flood. Flood insurance is on the real estate.
It's not on the cars. So you cash flowed the repairs for the flood and the deductible for the fire because you had insurance on the house for the fire and we only have three debts two vehicles which replaced the ones lost in the flood no they didn't you bought cars that were nicer than you had in the flood and that's why you're in debt you upgraded after the flood because you got a check from the car company on your car insurance when you lost the cars in a

flood. And oftentimes when people lose a car, get a car total, they for some reason use that as an

excuse to upgrade and go into debt when they weren't in debt before. I do not understand,

but people do that like you did all the time, Robert. So that's not, none of this is your

children's fault and none of that is a natural disaster. You actually cash flowed through the

two tragedies. Congratulations.
And then went and got you a couple car payments to celebrate. So they are not obligated to pay your car.
They are not obligated to do this. If they look because they make six figures and you once gave them some food.
They're they're just not that is not how works, buddy. But sink or swim, we're not that harsh about it.
I just want to draw a line. Charity that is extracted through guilt is not charity.
If your children want to be charitable towards you and give you something, that's wonderful. They've got money it done well mom and dad just got a little mortgage a couple car notes we're gonna reach over and knock them out just because we love mom and dad but not because mom and dad think they're entitled to their money there's a difference yeah and he sounds a little resentful in some way yeah even though they earn four to five times what we make you know yeah and Dave Ramsey says just tell you sink or swim you know it's like oh brother there's a little bit of yeah Robert's I bought their cars I bought their cars bought their books and sent them to school this is always this is always a hard line for me the the adult child parent conversation because we get this a lot that the parents are struggling and the adult children are able to help.
And even vice versa, right? The parent has an adult child that needs help, right? That's always a hard boundary for me to navigate because it is so situationally specific, maturity specific, relationally specific. I mean, there's just so much.
Enabling specific. Yeah.
I i mean there's so many elements of it that can go quickly one way or the other but but what is a in this case um when okay so a parent should never expect their child to help them but there is something honoring in about you know what i'm saying like like what's that taking care of because it's a cultural thing too in america we're very independent though you go to other cultures and it's a you know bring mom and dad home like it's a generation we are in america so that's where we are we are that's where this question took place but i'm not saying we're right either so i'm curious yeah we are and don't be judgmental be curious here's the thing here's Walt Whitman. So the proper thing is Robert goes and says,

hey, we need some help.

Can you all help us? Yeah. Not your children should give you money because you gave them cars and bought them books and sent them to school.
Yes. The entitlement versus the request in love.
Yeah. Those are two different things.
Yeah. But this is dripping in bitterness like they owe him something.
And that is not, that's not, that's not, that's not, that's a non-starter. The second thing is if you're going to help someone, particularly someone you love, particularly someone you love inside your family, you should help them in a way that causes them to reach sustainability on their own, not become dependent upon you.
And so if you reached over and paid off the house and paid off the cars, it would be mom and dad, you're getting on a budget, you're going through Financial Peace University so that you can live on your money for the rest of your life. And this is just going to give you a little smooth start.
Yeah, it's going to give you a jumpstart. So even when we're helping, like your sister runs our family foundation, and we're helping someone that's in a poverty situation, we don't just throw endless money at a poverty situation.
We throw money in a way, in a way that causes the person to step up out of poverty and stay out. We're the lift out, but we're not the system.
Keep them in check. I don't want to keep them them in.
I don't want to be the one writing check, allow somebody to stay in it. So we're not enablers.
And that's the thing you got to get to when you're on the giving side of this. This is the Ramsey Show.
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We also right here across the glass from us installed the debt-free stage, which is where Chris and Jennifer find themselves. Hey guys, how are you? Good.
How you doing? Welcome, welcome. Where do y'all live? We're in Raleigh, North Carolina.
Love it. What a great town.
And how much debt have you two paid? We have paid all $500,000. Wow.
How long did this take? About six years. Good for you.
And your range of income during that time? We're in real estate. It varies.
We started out in different careers, so it was around $200,000 at the time. And then, you know, whoa yeah doing great way to go you guys thank you all right so i'm gonna guess and say that might be your mortgage and you paid off your house we are on baby step number seven yeah looking at a couple of weirdos a debt debt-free couple, house and everything.

Absolutely.

How old are you two weirdos?

I'm 47.

I'm hanging on to 49.

I will be 50 this year.

So that was a good advice to get this done.

And a paid-for house that's worth how much?

About $1.3 million.

I love it.

And how much in your nest egg?

We have about 60% in real estate, about 40% in IRAs in IRAs, 401ks, you know, investments, things like that. So about 3 million.
Total net worth. Yeah.
Way to go, Baby Steps millionaires. I'm guessing you didn't inherit any of that.
We did not. You've had a fabulous income and have done a great job with it.
Way to go, you all. Great job, you guys.
Way to go, heroes. All right.
Now you're 50 years old, $3 million net worth, zero debt in the world, making a half million a year debt. Come, man.
Who wouldn't want to be you two? Wow. How's that feel? It's weird.
I know. We talked about it.
We thought we were going to have this feeling when we accomplished it. And it is a wonderful feeling, but we're just overachiever.
So now we're like, what do we do next? What's our next goal? You're moving on to the next thing. Yeah, you are overachiever.
What are you going to do to celebrate big? We're here. Oh, come on.
I'm something big. We are going to do, we're going to go on the bourbon tour in Kentucky a little bit later this year.
We've never been to Kentucky. We thought it would be something cool to do with our friends.
And we're big tennis players. And it's our tennis community.
We're going to go do that. And it's going to be kind of a quiet celebration.
If you fill the trunk with bourbon and you go across state lines, we call that whiskey running. Head back over to Raleigh with a whole truck full of bourbon.
Yeah, you don't know what that is. I don't know anything about that.
I've never known anyone that did anything like that. Way to go, you guys.
Congratulations. Thank you.
That was so fun. So six years ago, what made you guys, I mean, because you're doing fine.
You could have just kept the mortgage on, you know, for 30 years or whatever it was. What made you want to just get rid of it six years ago? Well, ironically, we had talked about achieving this goal.
And then I was working from home. And Chris came home for lunch.
And he was like, I think I'm gonna get laid off today. And I said, What? You're gonna get laid off today? He said, Yeah, I think I'm gonna get laid off today.
Yeah. I said, That's crazy.
He went back to work, came home at four o'clock. He was laid off.
So he was a biochemist before and I was a professional fundraiser. he had gotten his real estate license and it's a passion of ours and that terrible moment in our life really spurred things forward for us to take that step and trust in ourselves and throw ourselves into real estate and then once the business got up and going then i left my career and joined with him and we've never looked back so wow that's a different biochemistry straight into real estate is not something i sign up for every day i get that a lot so yeah i you know i did the corporate world i was in big pharma for about 20 years i did anything from drug development you know had a quality control um you know we we made vaccines we made flu vaccine in my last job and um you, just we were kind of talking about it at lunch.
You feel like you're held back a little bit. You could just be doing more.
And I always wanted to own my own business and just kind of try that. But, you know, you've got a salary.
You've got benefits. You've got that security.
You're a little scared to go make that jump. So they helped you.
They helped me. Yeah.
And it was it didn't feel like like it at the time. You know, but we went ahead and we talked about it.
We did it. I made the decision.
We work with a smart Vestor Pro in Raleigh, Brent Spessart. And he's been, you know, super, super supportive this entire time.
He actually pushed us to kind of get us, get this house paid off. And I called him.
He's the first person I called and said, Hey, I'm scared. Can I, can I do this? You know, I'm leaving everything you know i'm leaving everything can i can i do this he goes absolutely you know you i'll put you in touch with the right people and honestly yeah the day that that i went and quit my corporate job uh you know we were getting i got laid off but i was doing some contract work until i got the business up and going but until i jumped into full time i literally uh went in resigned the next day Jen lost her job oh my gosh yeah oh yeah yeah reorg I mean reorg the family yeah it happens but it's one of those things that's probably the best thing that could have ever happened to us and it launched us to get here and it's just one thing after another and that's why it took six years you know yeah we were really comfortable and God made us uncomfortable in the best way for sure so part of the motivation of selling the house is just to remove risk as well like if it's just this feeling of i'm sorry i'm sorry hang it off that's what i meant but just the idea of oh my gosh like we it made you that much more motivated to get the risk out is that right yeah just because you know we're there's so many factors in real estate we can't control interest rates you know the economy people losing their jobs like we did yeah there's just so many unknowns and um you know i expected to pull into the driveway and there'd be fireworks going off and you know hey you're celebrating but it wasn't like that but i actually a couple days after that i had a deal that was going south and i remember it was just this calm and this peace i didn't have I didn't have any concerns it was okay and it was it worked itself out you know I mean nothing really fell apart but in that moment I was like oh this is what he's talking about you know when when you don't have that stress and you don't have to be you know burdened by debt it's it's just it's unreal and our friends have just been so supportive and family this entire time it's been it's been great, it's awesome, you guys.
Amazing. What do you tell the people the key to being 100% debt-free and having a $3 million net worth at 50 years old is? I think it's not living like the Joneses.
You know, I made the comment to one of my friends, and I said, there's no handbag or shoes or anything that's worth the feeling that you get from being debt free. And I think mine would be surround yourself by friends and family that support you.
I can't tell you how many people over the years go, why would you want to pay off your debt or your mortgage? Can't you take that? Can't you invest it? And I just knew that we were in the wrong circles. Right.
So, you know, we surrounded our friends and family, you know, and where we're at in Raleigh. And it was just, it was a great feeling.
They all supported us and they understood what we were trying to do. And it's just been a great experience.
You know, that's an interesting way of looking at it. I've done that too.
And I never thought about it. But it's like, if you're going to sit and tear down my plans and tear down my dreams, just because you're that person, you just opted to the back row of my friend list.
Exactly. Correct.
Exactly. And you get to sit on the back row because I'm not putting up with that crap.
I want the cheerleaders up here on the front. Now, I don't mind somebody telling me the truth if they're concerned.
That's different than just negative ninny. But negative ninny can opt to the back row, right? Yeah, we've had so many people tell us that we should use that money.
We should leverage it. We should buy other businesses, do all these things, but that's not our goal.
That might be their goal. It's not ours.
Hey, not everybody goes from biochemist to real estate agent to whiskey runner. That's right.
All in one fell swoop. I'm just saying.
That's right. Not everybody can do that.
So way to go, you guys. I'm very proud of you.
Thank you. You look like life is great.
You guys look like a great picture right here it's awesome very very cool stuff alright it's Chris and Jennifer Raleigh North Carolina 500k paid off in 6 years making 200 to 550 and a 3 million dollar baby steps millionaire net worth in the process count it it down. Let's hear a debt-free scream.

Three, two, one.

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Dorothy is with us in Fort Myers, Florida. Hi, Dorothy.
How are you? Hi, David. Hi, Rachel.
Thank you for taking my call. And I'm in Naples, just so you know.
Okay, cool. How can we help today? Well, I unfortunately am a widow.
My husband committed suicide last year. Oh, my gosh.
Sorry. And I would really appreciate it if you'd let me borrow your Magoo glasses to see my way through my mess.
I'm so sorry. Wow.
Me too. Me too.
It was certainly something that we weren't expecting. And now I'm, you know, I have a lot of debt and I want to get rid of it.
And I have some very specific questions for you. One of them is I have an IRA that has some money in it that was part of his, you know what the drop is? How much is in the IRA? It's not a lot.
It's about 40 grand. About 40 K.
And it's not invested in anything that's earning us and earning me anything. How old are you? I'm 57.
Okay. And what is your career? I don't have one.
My husband wanted me to be his playmate when he retired. And we had a granddaughter who was born with some complications.
And so I stopped working to help, you know, get her through that. And he just did want me to go back to work.
So I didn't. And, um, so we played and we accumulated a lot of stuff and I know I can sell that stuff to get into a much better financial situation.
And it's just taken some time to kind of sort through, sorry, to kind of sort through everything. And I wasn't expecting to get emotional, um, to sort through everything and get some clarity in all of it, you know? Um, so I know I need to get a job.
I do know that. And I, I want one and I've, I've, I already started looking for one, and it's kind of hard not knowing what to do because I have no technical skills whatsoever because I've been out of work for so long.
I'm a personal person, so I know, you know, like customer service and things of that nature I should do pretty well at. So I plan on doing that right away, and I plan on selling several assets, uh, right away.
Um, it's just taking me some time to get there. I already downloaded your every dollar app.
And so I'm, you know, working with that right now. Um, what is the most pressing thing you have today that we can help you with? Um, well, I, you know, I still have our two trucks that I have payments on,

and I have some credit card debt.

And that was one of the questions I wanted to ask.

Do you have any cash other than this $40K?

No, sir.

Okay.

How are you paying light bill and food bill and all that?

His pension.

Oh.

Yeah. And that's supposed to die out.
How much is his pension? A year or monthly. Either.
Monthly, it's just under $5,500, and for annual, it's like $65,900. And how much is your house payment? My house payment is $1,900.
I always pay $2,000. And how long does the pension last? The pension is going to end in less than five years.
Okay, good. So we've got a really good plan here.
You can survive monthly. You can survive and have been monthly on the 55 with the every dollar budget.
That's very possible. We may or may not use the 40.
We'll see. Prefer to wait until after 59 if we can.
Okay. And you're going to get rid of the truck payments by getting rid of the trucks and getting you a car you can afford.
And you're going to start the next chapter of your life. You're a wee 57-year-old.
You have a lot left. A lot left.
This is your chapter your chapter two this is act two after the curtain comes back up we took a bow it's an encore didn't turn out like we thought it was going to the story takes a twist a rather tragic turn and the heroine steps forward with her shield and her sword okay thank you thank you that's you that where you're going. And so what's going to happen is three years from today, you're going to be booming as the biggest real estate agent in Naples or whatever it is you choose to do.
Okay. And you're going to be laughing about this little tiny pension, but it survived you.
It sustained you when it should have, and that was good, but it's certainly not your future. You are your future.
Okay. Right? Mathematically, you are.
Emotionally, you are. Spiritually, you are.
Yes. Financially, you definitely are.
So you're the secret sauce to the equation, and you're up to it. You can do it.
I can tell by talking to you. I mean, you're hurting, but any normal human would be hurting with what you've gone through, honey.

But I think there's a lot going on inside Dorothy.

How much debt, Dorothy, you mentioned that you guys kind of just traveled and bought stuff and racked up some debt.

I'm just curious, what all is the debt?

How much credit card debt is it?

I have about, it's actually $18,306.38. Okay.
And what other debt is there? I have, the house is just a little over $100,000. That'll be under $100,000 after September's payment.
I have two trucks totaling $21,000 and an RV that's at $15,000. Yeah.
So the trucks and the RV are gone and get you a reasonable car. But that's it, right? Okay.
And then we're going to plow through the credit cards. Is there anything else? The credit card? No.
I mean, just monthly payments, of course. Yeah.
All right. Here's what we're going to do, okay? I'm going to load you up with homework.
Are you ready to go to school? Yes, sir. All right.
Can I ask you one more quick question? Yes, ma'am. I'll wait until you're done, and then maybe I'll ask.
No, you go ahead. Go ahead.
Go right now. Well, I had already taken one of the credit cards and put it on a 0% for 18 months, and I'm plugging away at that one.
The other one has an interest rate.

It's the one that's only at $6,000.

Would it behoove me to transfer that to a 0% for 18 months?

It doesn't matter.

You can if you want, but that's not your problem.

Your problem is getting the income up and having your future lined out,

and once you see that, then you can turn up the heat and just get rid of them. And the interest rate doesn't matter when you're paying aggressively on them.
So if you want to, it's okay, but it's not really the answer to your situation at all. So hold on, Christian's going to pick up.
We're going to put you into Financial Peace University. We're going to provide you with a financial coach.
All is our gift. Okay.
We're people of the book and the book instructs us to take care of widows and orphans. And we will do that today.
Okay. So you're going to get that.
I'm also going to send you Ken Coleman's book, the, uh, find the work you're wired to do. It has in it an assessment.
I want you to take the assessment and I want you to start the process of, uh, dreaming about what the new future looks like for Dorothy. What is it you want to be when you grow up? You're just a wee 57-year-old, just a tiny little.
You can do it. You can do it.
And Dorothy, and I'm so proud of you. Can we just say, too, you haven't messed anything up.
When people go through tragedy, we even tell them just to pause for even a year, right? So you're not behind all of it. I know it probably feels very overwhelming, but you've done the right thing.
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