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Normal is broke, and common sense is weird.
So we're here to help you transform your life.
From the Ramsey Network and the Fairwinds Credit Union Studio, this is the Ramsey Show.
I'm Dave Ramsey, your host, Dr.
John Deloney, Ramsey personality, number one best-selling author and host of the Ramsey Network.
Dr.
John Deloney Show is my co-host today.
Open phones here at AAA-825-5225.
Joan is in Florida.
Hi, Joan.
How are you?
I'm good.
How are you?
Better than I deserve.
What's up?
I have a question.
I would like to know if it's okay if I
lock my husband out of my savings account.
Wow.
Tell me more.
Sounds pretty dramatic.
Yeah, it is.
We've been married for 45 years.
Probably 20 some years ago, we got into some credit card debt, a lot of credit card debt to the point where we had to take out a second mortgage.
I also borrowed against my 401k, and it took probably 10 years to claw out of that debt.
And I mean, we were really good about budgeting, and now we have our home paid off.
All our cars are paid off.
We had absolutely no debt until probably the last year.
I picked up a second job before to help get this debt out.
Well, I've since left my second job, and we are just spending, I say we, it's not really we, it's him,
is just spending way more than what we're bringing in.
On what?
Oh, just
he is just, he bought a boat, he's bought a truck to pull the boat, he's bought road bikes, he's bought mountain bikes,
he has gone through $40,000 in savings in the last year buying these things.
What is your all's net worth?
Net worth, our home is worth probably $650,000.
I have $650,000 in my 401k.
I had 50,000 in savings, and now I have, I guess there's about eight in there now.
You keep using the word I.
How much does he have in his 401k?
Nothing.
Okay, so you have a net worth of a million and a half dollars, give or take?
Correct.
And your household income is what?
It's 82,000, between the two of us, it's 82,000.
And you guys are in your 60s?
Yes.
Okay.
And so what kind of midlife crisis is this dude having?
At 60?
He is, he's saying that he wants to get all these these things bought before he retires, and he plans on retiring next year.
So he wants to enjoy his life.
We sort of had a significant event happen in our family.
We had a family member of ours who just worked himself to death and died in his 40s and didn't enjoy life at all.
Didn't enjoy any of the money that he made.
So my husband was like, well, he's not going to do that.
He's not going to be like that.
It doesn't sound like the problem is the boat or the truck.
It sounds like you come home from working your second job, and all of a sudden there's a new boat in the driveway.
Oh, I hate it.
I look out there and I see it and I hate it.
No, no, no, no, no, no.
Him doing crap without you guys.
Without an agreement in it, that's the problem.
I agree.
You didn't know this, you didn't go along with these purchases.
They just occurred.
No.
Well, I did go along with the boat, but I didn't realize he was going to spend as much as he did on it.
And I didn't realize that
he, I mean, he just keeps putting more money into it.
For For people that have been married 45 years, you all suck at communication.
Yeah, not good.
Yeah, I agree.
I agree.
Or did he just change it on you?
Have y'all been communicating well for a decade, and then all of a sudden this went sideways?
No, no.
This isn't new.
We've never really agreed on finances.
You know, I'm more of let's save, let's put it aside.
And he's more of let's enjoy it.
It's just gotten bad in the probably last year.
Joan, I appreciate appreciate your frustration and
even your anger, and those are justified.
But the problem is not the savings account.
That's the symptom.
Okay.
The problem is you all are not aligned.
I agree.
100%.
You're not unified.
And so I don't think I'm hearing you say, because you said I went along with the boat.
I don't think I'm hearing you say that you're opposed to enjoying some some of the money.
What I do hear you say is you don't like being surprised and
people running roughshod over your hard work while you're working two jobs.
Yes, and that's fair.
Second job.
Yeah, that's fair.
I gave up the second job.
But to compare Eural's life in any stretch of the imagination to the 40-year-old workaholic, he's not even on the same planet.
So you can't use that as a justification to do something stupid and lie to your wife.
It's the dishonesty, yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So you really do, for the sake of, I mean, if you're in your 60s and you guys are healthy, you may have to be fighting with this old man for another 30 years.
Right.
Y'all need to really work on this and get on the same stinking page.
I agree.
Yeah.
Sharon and I make more money and have more money, and I don't buy any boats without Sharon knowing what the boat costs.
And we make the decision together beforehand.
And if the boat involved a truck to pull the boat, we would be talking about that too.
We don't just make this up as we go.
And I come home and go, see what I did, honey.
And we've been married 43 years, and I'm 65 years old.
So we're right in the same camp with you, kiddo.
Okay.
And here's the other side of it.
He's not on the phone.
So just you are.
Yes.
The Gottmans are
kind of the goats when it comes to marriage research.
Okay.
Okay.
And they created this thing called the Four Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse.
They can tell with 90 plus percent accuracy after watching a couple communicate just for a little bit whether whether they're going to make it or not.
And the
relational dynamic of contempt,
where one person thinks they are better than the other person, is the number one predictor that this thing's not going to, it's going to fall apart.
And listening to your language,
this is mine.
I put this in my account.
He has nothing.
I'm wondering if there's not a dynamic in your marriage that has established itself over the years of you're the good one and he's the bad one.
You're the smart one.
You're the one who saves and he's the child.
And these dynamics have a way of self-reinforcing themselves.
It doesn't give a pass.
It doesn't give an excuse for his dishonesty, his lying to his wife, his
impulsiveness.
Yeah, acting like a child.
But it creates a context for where if you're going to treat me like a child for 40 years, I'm going to act like a child.
Don't excuse it.
And if he was on the phone with me, Dave and I'd be letting him have it.
But you have to say, this is a dynamic that we have co-created for 40 years where I think I'm better than him because I make more money or I had a second job or I have retirement.
The quality of his soul would be greatly increased if the two of you could mutually respect each other, dignify each other with being in agreement before we make major decisions.
There you go.
And that usually starts.
And that also includes combining ownership of everything.
So you don't have a 401k.
We have a 401k.
You don't have a house.
We have a house.
We have an income.
We are doing this.
We have a boat now.
And that kind of stuff.
When you sit down to have conversations about
feeling dishonest, whatever, if you sit down and say, you went out and did this again and you did this, he's going to fight you.
He has to.
You've declared war.
If you sit down and say, hey, I'm hurt.
I'm scared.
I feel this way.
Start the conversation with I statements and that can be an invitation.
And then if he continues to act like a child, then we're going to have to respond in some different ways.
But you got to reset this whole communication pattern.
Yeah,
you guys got to work on your skills.
That's it.
Your skills are low.
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Brooke is in Pennsylvania.
Hi, Brooke.
How are you?
I'm okay.
How are you?
Better than I deserve.
What's up?
Hi, Dave.
I appreciate you taking my call.
Sure.
So just a little backstory.
I'm 27 years old.
I'm a single mom finishing my MBA.
I work full-time and I raise my three-year-old son mainly on my own.
I live with my nana, but I would like to move out sooner rather than later due to differences and just wanting to move forward in life.
Okay.
I do have some student loans and a little credit card debt, but I feel like I'm in a constant cycle of just, you know, just trying to keep up because my income is not very high.
What's your income?
Which is honestly not.
Right now I make $20.19 an hour.
Okay.
And you're finishing an MBA when?
March 2026.
So six or eight months, okay.
Yeah, and I do currently have my bachelor's in computer science.
Why are you making 20 bucks an hour then?
Because I only work as a customer service representative.
I don't have anything.
You have a four-year degree in computer science.
Oh, I mean, I know.
I apply to jobs constantly, and I graduated in August of 2024, so I've been out of school for quite some time.
Yeah.
Okay.
So your career
search process is not working.
Thus you have a horrible income compared to your education.
Your MBA is not going to make this any better.
Yeah.
If we don't fix the career search process.
Agreed?
I definitely agree.
Yeah, let me promise you that they're not going to suddenly start calling you just because you got an MBA.
And there's a weird moment where the MBA might be a liability because they don't want to pay somebody an NBA salary who doesn't have the experience that that NBA salary would require.
Does that make sense?
That you might find yourself in a leadership gap.
Yeah.
So, yeah,
we got to get your career moving, kiddo.
That's the issue.
What challenges have you had?
I think the main challenge is just that
I have to work from home because I have no help with my son.
Oh.
And that's that's what's a major.
Yeah, that's an issue.
Yeah.
What about child care?
Is that not something you want to do?
It's not something I necessarily want to do.
I did recently try it.
My son had a hard time adjusting.
Plus, it's just so expensive.
Yeah.
And with just my income, it's just hard to make it.
Yeah.
I mean, if you suddenly start making $80,000 a year and you put him in daycare, this whole thing changes.
And he's going to adjust.
Right.
Right.
Kids do every day.
And there will be a tough adjustment period.
He's been with you every day since he was born.
And there will be a tough adjustment period.
But yeah,
I think the problem is you put.
I'm not sure where to go from here because
I probably have applied to 3,000 jobs from being honest.
Yeah, that's what I was thinking.
So here's the thing.
Applying for jobs never works.
You can't get jobs that way.
And I'm going to walk you through what to do, and we're going to give you some help on that part.
But part of the problem was you demanded to work from home and be a full-time mom while people were paying you for working.
And they didn't want to do that.
And I'm not shocked by that.
I wouldn't hire you either
under those circumstances.
Okay?
Because I know what you're doing.
You're changing diapers.
You're not working.
That's the employer's viewpoint.
Work from home.
productivity sucks.
Corporate America and people that hire people know that, including me.
Okay.
And so this idea that you get a full day's work out of somebody when they work from home, no one is under the illusion that's happening.
And it's all in the name of work-life balance, and I want to be with my child.
All of that's great.
You just got to decide some options here.
So if you want to work from home, you are limiting the quality and the number of positions you can get making $70,000, $80,000, $100,000 a year by 90%.
Okay?
Yeah.
So you can't, this is not an option for you in this situation.
You have too many competing goals.
I want to be home full-time with the kid, and I want to make a lot of money.
These are competing goals.
And so I don't blame you for that.
Those are all legitimate feelings and legitimate goals.
But, you know, you're, as you said, I'm a single mom.
And so I'm boxed in this corner.
So there's a period of time here that
we're going to pay a price to get this family, this little tiny two-person family, stabilized and sustainable.
Now, back to the other thing, the practical parts of looking for a job.
We hired at Ramsey, we have 1,100 team members.
Last year, we hired just under 200 people.
We had 15,000 applications.
That's what you're putting your name in.
It's known as a needle in a haystack.
So you don't get through
to good positions simply by filling out things on
LinkedIn and on whatever other automated resume posting process you're using is to get 3,000 applications in.
3,000 applications tells me you had absolutely no contact.
You just filled out the stuff and went and it went right in there.
And no one saw it.
It's one of the 15,000 that came in here and we only hired 200.
But I'll also tell you, every person, when I've called HR and said, I know this person, Steve, or I know this person, Susan, and she's applying for a job here, 100% of them have gotten an interview.
Not all of them get hired.
They don't all get hired, but they at least push them to the stack.
So you got to know someone or know someone that knows someone that knows someone that says, hey, my friend's friend Brooke is solid.
She's finishing up her MBA.
She put in an app over there the other day.
Would you guys at least give her a look?
And you've got to work the phones that way.
You've got to work the emails emails that way.
And it could be somebody down the street.
It could be somebody your granny plays bridge with.
Their grandkid works over there.
I don't care.
But some connection.
It doesn't have to necessarily be a professional connection.
It's just,
you know, my wife the other day, a lady that she
was playing bridge with, a lady, the grandkid applied here at Ramsey.
So then the grandkid gets a look.
I don't think we hired that one, but they get a look.
And they wouldn't have got a look otherwise.
And you're not getting getting a look.
That's the problem.
So Ken Coleman calls this the proximity principle to get in proximity of the people doing what you want to do.
What field are you wanting to go into other than IT?
I mean, I mainly look at positions for software developers, but again, it's
you have the ability to write code?
Yeah, yeah, I do.
Current code.
Maybe not up-to-date.
current.
I mean, I definitely could learn it if it was something that they would, you know, give me the ability to do.
Yeah, okay.
All right.
Well, your information systems, your four-year degree would give you the ability to do more than just write code.
And your code, if you're going to be, if you're going to simply crunch code,
yeah,
you're going to have to really...
be cutting edge on that to get that position.
So anyway, I'm going to put you on hold.
We're going to send you Ken Coleman's book, Proximity Principle.
I'm also going to send you a book called Finding the Work You're Wired to Do.
But my advice to you would be to decide what it is that's most important and become comfortable with the discomfort of that decision.
Okay.
If it's most important that I go make $80,000 to $100,000 a year moving towards my MBA, otherwise there's no point in getting this MBA.
You're just collecting degrees.
You're not a thermometer.
So you just keep going along, going along, going along.
And so
decide where it is I'm going to go.
And then what I've got, the Earl Nightingale used to say that the impediments to success are not what you're willing to do to get there.
It's what you're willing to give up to get there.
And so if I'm going to be out in my own apartment and we're going to have a sustainable income, it's not making $20 at Target
to grow our life together with this baby.
It's going to involve some daycare.
And it's going to involve being at the workplace.
Or the other trade-off is
you're going to be at Nana's.
I'm going to be at Nana's for seven more months until this little one goes to preschool, and then I'll make that move.
But it's it's all going to come with a choice.
And I think, Dave, the challenge that people in her demographic, they went and got the degree everybody told them to get.
And they said at the college, you're going to make this much money when you graduate.
People thought, A, that means I can live wherever I want to, have this stuff all right when I walk out the door.
And you've got a third challenge, which is you're a single mom.
I want to be at home.
And so you're going to have to make some sacrifices short term.
and really get on the phone, start calling everybody you know and every friend of everyone you know.
And that's going to be your way in the door right now and their friends yeah and that get get uh get somebody to pull your application out of that needle in the haystack
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David is in Pennsylvania.
Hi, David.
How are you?
Hi, good afternoon.
Fine, how are you guys?
Better than I deserve.
How can we help?
Hey, just wanted to call in.
A company is switching a little bit of staffing model.
Currently, we have company cars and company paid gas cards affiliated with that.
We're going to switch that over, and I have to turn that in by the end of the calendar year here.
We're going to get a tax-free stipend and mileage paid from the company going forward into next year.
So I just wanted to talk through that with you guys and see what some of the best ideas would be.
Some of the guys I work with are talking about leasing or getting something brand new.
My wife and I, we've been on your program for a while, so we know where you stand with taking loans out on cars.
We haven't had a car payment since 2018.
Good.
So
we're in there.
I just feel a little
bit more.
Number one, it's obvious, and we'll just say it out loud to make sure everyone knows.
The reason the company is doing this is it saves them money.
Translation, it's going to cost you money.
Okay.
The net, net, net effect of this whole thing is you're going to, it's a pay cut.
Okay.
So because by the time you operate a vehicle, the stipend doesn't cover it.
They know that or they wouldn't be doing this.
And so there's no other reason to do this.
And that's why they're doing it.
But that's neither here nor there.
It's still happening.
And that's where we are.
Does the how many miles a year do you drive?
I'm pretty fortunate.
You know, I'd say 15,000.
Oh, so
you're not a road warrior then?
Okay, good.
No.
So they're going to give you the stipend whether you have a car payment or not, right?
Yes.
Do they have guidelines
on the age of the vehicle or anything?
Yes, it can't it cannot be it's got to be less than eight years old.
Okay, cool.
All right.
Do you have any money?
Yes.
Okay.
So go buy a car.
Wait a minute.
Oh, you don't have a car because you're only running you don't have a second car now, right?
You already?
We do.
We have two other cars, but the one my wife uses to run around with the kids.
The other car I have is is 12 years old.
Okay, take some money in the 12-year-old car and upgrade to a five-year-old car with cash and then take the stipend.
Okay.
No payments.
Just pay myself back out of the stipend then.
Yeah, yeah.
Because here's the thing.
If something happens, God forbid, and the company goes broke or they lay you off or fire you, or you decide that they're unethical and you have to walk out one day, you still got a car payment.
Yeah.
Or here's what's going to happen.
They start by not letting people go, and they get rid of this pro, they get rid of the everyone gets a car program to a stipend program.
The next cut they make, they're going to couch it as we didn't have to lay anybody off, but we had to make some sacrifices, and it's going to be the removal of the car stipend.
That's what's going to happen.
But you got the car payment independent of whatever they do.
And so don't take a car payment.
No.
And
I think you probably upgrade your car a little bit anyway.
If you got the cash to do it, put a little bit with a 12-year-old car and get a five-year-old or car or whatever, and then collect that money, put it in your pocket, get your mileage, put it in your pocket, and
know that the good news is with you,
because you're not driving any miles, you're just driving back and forth to work.
I mean, 15,000 is nothing.
So
a little bit more than that.
But I mean, that's not like high miles.
Road Warriors are putting 40,000, 50,000 miles on a car.
So
the good news is with you, I might be wrong.
You might actually net out on this.
It could be, yeah.
The more miles you put on it, the worse this is going to be for the other people in the company.
They're going to lose their butts.
I give this program 18 months.
I'm willing to bet that this is a phase out of we're taking care of our employees' vehicles, and this is a way they're going to phase this out.
No, or even if it's not a planned phase out,
you know, 36 months from now, you got a new CFO, and they're looking at the whole thing again.
We're trying to beat stock price and
whatever it is.
I don't know.
We can let go of 25 people.
It doesn't have to necessarily be with malice or forethought or evil, but it's just corporate America.
They're going to look out for one thing, and it ain't you.
Right.
And so, but either way, yeah, take the stipend and put the money in your pocket and upgrade with cash.
And don't count on it.
Don't start budgeting it.
I mean, I mean, obviously, I mean, budget it, but don't start pretending it's forever.
Which is what people do when they take a car payment against it.
Exactly.
Well, company gives me $500, and that means I need to go get a $550 car payment.
Nope.
That's not what it means.
Mary's in Louisiana.
Hi, Mary.
Hi, thank you for taking my call.
Sure.
How can we help?
I am wondering if it is a wise decision to be paying for life insurance on my mom to protect myself financially from my parents' financial irresponsibility when she passes away.
You're not responsible for their irresponsibility when she passes away.
Right.
And And that is what my husband has
recently been trying to.
Not only morally, but legally.
Okay.
So if your mom, your mom, if your mom, tell me about your mom's situation.
How much debt does she have?
It's got to be over $100,000.
Okay, do they own anything?
Not outright.
No, but do they have a house?
Yes.
They have cars with car payments.
They still
have no car payments.
They still owe on their house.
My mom is 66.
My dad is 61.
Okay, so if you were to guess, if you added up all of their debts, do they even own enough to cover their debts?
No.
No.
Okay, that's called a negative net worth, right?
Yeah.
And so what happens when someone passes away?
When you die, what you own stands good for what you owe.
Okay.
There's no generational debt in America.
It doesn't get passed down to you.
No.
Zero.
The other half of the reason on why I did it is because
if my dad passes away first, my mom is going to be okay.
And then I guess with what you just explained, I wouldn't inherit any of the debt.
I would just have to clean up the mess and close it out.
Oh, yeah, you just send them all a death certificate with a letter that says you're screwed.
And they'll go away.
Okay.
They may have to sell this home if you had your eyes on this house.
Yeah, you don't get to keep anything of theirs.
They're going to sell the house.
No, I'm not expecting anything at this point.
Okay, I see what I mean.
But if you wanted to keep the house, now you've got to go clean up the mess because the house is standing good for the debt, even if it's not a direct lien on the house.
What you own down one column versus what you owe down the other column, assets minus liabilities, that's how it stacks out.
And you have to sell all the assets to pay all the liabilities.
If there's anything left, it's called an inheritance.
If there's nothing left and it's in the hole, the bank is screwed.
They shouldn't loan these people money.
They get what they deserve.
Mary, I'm going to ask Dave a question on your behalf, okay?
So, Dave, let's say there's a house worth $350,000.
It's got $100,000 left on the mortgage.
So there's $250,000 in equity, and this family owes $270,000 in 401k loans and whatever.
Who is responsible for selling the house?
And you have to, would she,
as the trustee or the beneficiary um or the person the executor of the will would she have to sell the house and then disperse the the equity of that house or does she just hand the keys over and say merry christmas y'all duke it out you could do either one even if you're the executor you could do either one you could just say i choose not to invest a year of my life to get you people all paid and i get nothing so the credit card companies and the car dealerships would have to sue they would have mortgage company or they'd have to put liens on the house And then after the foreclosure, if there was anything left on the house, then they would get that.
But yeah, it just depends on how much trouble you want to go to, okay?
And how much of your life you want to invest in, quote, sweeping up the mess after the garage sale.
And so, but you're not obligated to.
So a simple one is I had one the other day that was a friend of a friend, and the guy died with like 14 credit cards, and he was in an apartment, and he had nothing.
So that's a simple one, right?
You really did just send them a copy of the death certificate and a note that says you're screwed.
And those credit card companies got what they deserve, which is nothing because they shouldn't have been loaning that guy money.
Right?
He's a pauper.
And so they, you know, that's an easy one to clean up.
Doesn't take much time.
And, you know, don't call me.
And they're probably going to try to chase down their money and call you, threaten you, whatever.
Fuck.
I'm just jumping the creek.
I don't owe you anything.
Yeah.
I didn't, you ain't got my signature, buddy.
Yeah.
So that's the deal.
And that's that, but
much better thing would be if you could get mom and dad to actually work on this.
And I know you probably tried, hun.
Wow.
That's so sad.
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Or they don't have any at all.
I don't understand this, John.
Why don't people want to take care of their family?
They think they're going to die or something.
Well, I used to be one of those guys.
I didn't even think about it.
And one of my buddies said, hey, the only reason to not have life insurance is if you hate your wife and kids.
And I immediately went and got term life insurance.
That's a gut punch.
And oh, you're telling me, and for decades, Dave, I've sat across people who've lost a spouse.
They've lost somebody important to them.
Me too.
They don't know what to do next.
Me too.
I mean, you're going to have a crisis here.
And, you know, you got two options while you're sitting and talking to a young widow.
She's concerned about how she's going to invest all this money properly and not mess this up, or she's concerned how she's going to eat tomorrow.
That's exactly.
These are the two options.
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John is in Arizona.
Hey, John, how are you?
Hey, John.
Hey, sorry.
Hey, Dr.
John and Dave.
Oh, you can call me John.
That's what my mama calls me.
That's perfect.
What's up?
All right.
Thanks for taking some time.
Hey, so we just...
A family, we just finished building a home.
We moved in last month.
During the construction, we were able to cash flow a good amount, and the remaining mortgage is $600,000.
We're still working to sell our old home.
It's paid for.
We should be getting around $500,000 from that sale.
We have about $880,000 between investments and retirement and $100,000 in cash that has our emergency fund and some intermarked funds to landscape our new home.
The question is with the $500,000 from the sale of the old home.
I'm kind of wrestling with not wanting my network to be so top with home equity versus investments, which is what it would be if I put it all towards that mortgage.
Just wanted to get your advice.
What's your household income?
It's right around between $300 and $400, depending on the year.
Okay, good.
Way to go.
And
what's the new home worth?
Totally cash flow at about a million, so it would be about $1.6 million.
Okay.
All right.
Yeah,
your house is a high percentage of your net worth, and you're not going to get away from that.
You made that decision when you decided to build a $1.6 million house.
Got to get away from us there.
Yeah, that doesn't change.
Scope creep is what got you.
It really isn't the
net worth situation doesn't change.
You can't hide from it now by not paying off the mortgage.
It doesn't accomplish what you're trying to accomplish.
So what I would do is
I'd get that mortgage paid off as quick as I could.
You got $500 to throw at $600 when the other house sells, and then I'm going to take a chunk of my other money and knock out that last $100.
Might use some of that emergency fund instead of putting the bushes in for right now.
Let's get the stinking thing paid off, and I'm going to get it paid for.
And then I'm going to start moving in that direction.
So,
what we've discovered to answer your overall question philosophically, so to speak, not really philosophically, but practically, that's your tactical answer that I just gave you.
Now, strategically, your answer is this.
That's a better way of saying this.
As we were working with wealthy people, what we find is the larger their net worth, the smaller the percentage of their net worth is on personal things, home, cars, vacation homes, toys, whatever.
The smaller your net worth, the higher the percentage is on your home.
So for instance, if your net worth is a half a million dollars and you had 300,000 of the half a million in a paid-for house, that's not disturbing.
That would be fairly normal.
But But that's about your ratios, and you're sitting there with about a $4 million net worth.
Three and a half, right?
And you got half your net worth right now sitting in your house.
So that's starting to be disturbing.
It's not anything to panic about, but we're not buying
any more personal crap on the net worth column side for a while.
You just did it.
Your house poor.
Not technically house poor.
But you see what I'm saying?
You need to get the balance back, rebalance your net worth, because by dumping everything into other investments that are non-personal investments over the next whatever number of years, to where when we look up in a few years, you've got a $10 million net worth.
And of that, the house has doubled and it's $3 million.
Now that starts to be pretty comfortable.
But like I talked to a guy the other day that, you know, we were looking at his numbers.
He's got a $100 million net worth and a $10 million house.
So his net worth is only his house only 10% of his net worth at that.
And yours is over 50%.
So that's the, but again, that follows with the line of thinking of the higher your net worth, the smaller the percentage of your net worth is going to be in personal home cars, vacation homes, toys, so on.
And so,
you know, you take a billionaire and they've got an $8 million jet.
And the billionaire has a couple of homes.
They still, it doesn't add up to even 6% of their net worth in personal consumption.
and so that that that again validates the concept of the higher the net worth the smaller the percentage so but yours is as high as your net worth is i i don't disagree with you john it's a little bit unnerving to be there but being in debt doesn't change it well and you called it out this call should have happened before we we decided what size house we were going to do too late yeah yeah yeah yeah you've already you've already committed it so cows out of the barn i want to i want to take that risk off of my risk profile i'm going to pay that sucker off yeah that that that helps the help situation it does helps the the sleep-at-night factor.
Right, that's right.
Just get it paid off, and then let's just okay.
We have made our personal consumption pledge for the next six years.
That's it, and we're sleeping in it.
And in reality, that means we're going to be aggressive.
Are we going to put 15% in these mutual funds?
Are we going to up it a little bit?
Yeah, we're going to up it because everything's paid off.
You're a baby step seven.
So, we're going to go.
We're going to start doing investments out here big time, and there's not going to be more much more personal.
So, if you go to the beach and your friend has a nice condo at the beach, uh-uh, you can't have one.
Right, because you, instead of buying a $700,000 house and a beach condo, beach condo, your beach condo, put some sand in the bedroom.
Yeah,
I mean, that's that's what we're doing here.
This is, that's where you are now.
So, you're just a little beach there
in the second master suite of the 1.6 million.
Yeah.
So, yeah, that's no.
No more.
Mama, you know, mama wants a Bentley?
No, mama ain't getting a Bentley.
It's not happening here.
We got a $1.5 million house.
And here's the beautiful thing.
You make $300,000, $400,000.
Yeah, you clean it up real fast.
This is two or three years.
It's more of a,
you're stupid discussion, or you've done something extremely dumb discussion.
It's just like, I'm with you, John.
I'm a little nervous about it.
And I would, based on that, start making the moves to not be nervous.
First one, pay off the debt.
Second one, redistribute most of your investing away from personal issues for the next five, six years, and then you'll get it balanced back again.
You'll be okay.
Cool.
Victoria is in Columbus, Ohio.
Hi, Victoria.
How are you?
Hi, guys.
I've had better years.
Uh-oh.
How can we help?
So I'm calling because,
sorry, I promised myself I wasn't going to get a motion, but I feel like my life is at stake.
It's okay, Dawn.
I really don't know.
I really don't know what to do.
We have a business.
It's a trucking company.
My husband is one of the drivers, and we currently have another one.
So you have two trucks you're running in the trucking company?
Correct.
Okay.
We had more, but we've had really bad luck with drivers that really did some bad things for us.
So, we are selling some things to try and liquidate the assets, pay off some of the debt.
But essentially, we're probably about $400,000 in debt.
How much of that is the two trucks?
One of the trucks we own outright.
The other truck we still owe probably about $75,000 $75,000 on.
And what is the truck, the
truck you own outright worth?
It's probably worth about $100,000.
And what about the other one that you owe $75,000 on?
It's probably worth about $40,000.
Okay.
So that's $140 of the $400 in debt if you sold both those and went and got a job.
Correct.
Okay.
I'm just catching up.
All right.
Do you own a home?
We actually own three.
So we have three mortgages, and all three of them are rented.
Do any of them have any equity?
One of them has equity.
One of them
we owe $267 on it, and it's probably worth about $450,000.
Sell it
today.
Put it up on the market today.
Okay.
So, okay,
I'm a little short on time.
I'm a little short on time.
I'm going to give you a Ramsey coach as my gift to sit down with you, okay?
But you're calling me up emotional and thinking you're bankrupt.
And when I sell everything, which is what's going to happen in a bankruptcy, I don't think you're bankrupt.
But you're going to have to turn loose to some things.
You can't hold on.
You can't be the monkey with the hand in the bottle holding on to the jelly beans because you can't get away from the bottle.
You got to let go of the jelly beans.
Pull your hand out of the bottle.
And that's how it works.
I think you can get out, though.
I wish I had more time with you.
I'm sorry.
Hang on.
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Dr.
John Deloney, Ramsey personality, number one best-selling author, PhD in counseling, is my co-host today.
Todd is with us in Texas.
Hey, Todd, how are you?
Hey, guys.
I had a question about
I'm going to be 59 and a half in about six more months.
I just had a birthday.
And my Roth IRA at at my work uh I'll be able to cash that out without any kind of penalties and it's the one where you pay your taxes in advance so I'll be able to get the whole amount out yeah I know about and we own a small yeah we want to we want to uh build a small excuse me a cabin and uh
It looks like I'm going to have about $140,000 to work with.
And we've talked to a couple of builders, and we can get about 900 to 1,000 square foot place built for that.
My question is, would it be more prudent to pull that cash out, because it will take all of it,
and
go ahead and build the cabin and be debt-free as far as any kind of a mortgage?
Or would it be more prudent to actually borrow the money and leave that in there?
Because I think it's getting to the point where the compound interest is really starting to build over the years.
Honey, that's not how compound interest works.
Is it not?
No, compound interest does not get get a running start.
Oh, really?
You just make interest on whatever's there.
And over time, you make interest on whatever's there.
And whatever's there is larger over time, but
it doesn't mathematically get a running start.
So do you have any other money?
I have a little bit.
I have about $8,000 in my savings account.
What about your wife?
Are you married?
Yes, and my wife probably has four or five, and then we have a household account that we have about probably another four or five.
Because you're 59, you quit work, you're going to retire.
Oh, no, no, no, no.
And you're going to be broke.
No, no, no.
I'm not going to retire.
You can't take your money out of 401k unless you don't work there anymore.
That's not what they told me.
This is a TSP, and I work for the federal government.
And no, they told me what they were doing.
Okay, but let me tell you what you just did.
You have absolutely no investments now.
No, I would not, but we would both still be working.
Yeah?
How's that make it smart?
Well, I mean, that's why I'm calling you, buddy.
That's why I'm looking for an answer, my friend.
The answer,
you're not going to do my answer, okay?
My answer is you can't afford a cabin.
Oh, really?
You don't have enough money.
So you told you you weren't going to do it.
But now, that's not my only, you know, I do have, have, you know, I'll have the Social Security, and I have a FERS retirement account with the government.
I know.
Are you familiar with those?
Yeah, I am very.
Yeah.
But I mean,
dude, you have no money and a cabin.
Yeah.
That's just, there's no way that this makes sense.
The reason I'm, see, here's the thing.
If I wait until I'm 70 years old to when I can retire and then I build a cabin, what good is a cabin going to do me?
I'm going to be 70 years old.
Well, you won't have to eat the logs.
Well, my thought was go ahead and, you know, we have a home.
We'll build the cabin.
And in a year or so, if it's looking like it's not working out, I could either sell our home, our primary residence, and move to the cabin.
or I could sell the cabin.
You know, I guess what I'm saying is
what's the thing beneath the thing?
You've wanted a cabin a long, long time, and you haven't saved up enough money to buy a cabin.
Well, it would be in the TSP account.
I know.
You haven't saved up enough money to buy a cabin because you're going to have to retire broke with a cabin.
And that just doesn't, I can't tell you to do that.
I like you too much to tell you to do something that's going to bring you harm, sir.
And this is harmful to you.
In your mind, you're not worried about having no money and a cabin.
I'm really worried about you having no money.
Too many calls from 65 and 68
and 72-year-olds.
And so,
you know, if you want to go stay in a cabin, rent one for the weekend,
and keep your money in your investments.
And,
you know, you have not saved enough money.
You've not done a good enough job with your investments.
to be able to afford to have a second home.
And you just don't have the money.
I mean, it's like calling me up and going, Dave, I want to buy a $2 million yacht.
And I've always wanted one.
Well, you don't have the money.
I'm sorry if you always wanted one.
And it breaks my heart you can't get your $2 million yacht, but you don't have $2 million to buy a yacht.
And it's the same thing.
You don't have the money to do this.
You think you've got the money, but when you go do this and you use up all your money, you're going to be living on social insecurity broke.
with a cabin.
And that's just, I'm sorry.
I can't tell you to do that because I like you too much.
I think you're a good guy.
You're going to do it anyway because you've got to get it all figured out.
But I can't stop you.
But you did call and ask.
And so I'm duty bound to tell you the truth because I care about you.
I'm kind of speechless, Dave, and that's a rare moment for me.
Well, I get really, really wanting something,
but the thought of the thought of relying on the government 20 years from now, like, no, they'll take care of me.
They'll write that check.
That seems infinitely more foolish than, I don't know.
Yeah, I can't wrap my head around it.
It doesn't make any sense to me.
Yeah.
And here's an interesting thing, folks.
Everybody, everyone falls for this, and I have in the past, too, and some of you are doing it right now, that if you borrow the money, it's as if there's no,
like, I haven't,
like, that doesn't count.
I still got my money in my I still got my money.
Right.
Because I borrowed the money.
It's like it allows you to be in denial.
Yes.
You're participating in denial when you borrow money because
you're not admitting that you don't have the money when you borrow the money.
There you go.
Okay.
I bought this car that I didn't have the money to buy.
I didn't have the money to buy the car, but I bought the car anyway because I'm in denial about the fact that I don't have the money and I wanted the car anyway.
And I work really hard.
There's that old saying, whatever you go looking for in the world, you're going to find it.
If you really want a cabin, you're going to figure out a way that this somehow makes sense to you, which is why it's good to have wise counsel.
But wise counsel doesn't do you any good if you don't listen to wise counsel.
So, I guess my promise to you, brother, is if you buy the cabin, I'll be here in 10 years and you can call me when you're trying to figure out what you got to sell, and I'll help you with that.
But we'll be talking again.
Yeah.
I just, I can't wrap my head around that.
And by the way, I really, really want a hunting place with a big cabin on it.
I really do.
With With all my heart, I want that.
I just don't have the money for it right now.
And no, you really do.
Personally, you're not kidding.
I personally, really, really want that.
So, if he builds it and gets in trouble, would you buy it from him?
Depends on what county it's in.
How many deer it's got on it, but yeah, I'm happy to.
Sure, there's I got a feeling there's some deer around it.
He's in Texas.
Oh, man.
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Today's question comes from Andrea in Ohio.
Andrea writes, My partner and I have been together for over 25 years and we have four children together.
I've been asking him to marry me since we had our first child.
Oh, geez.
He recently stated that we can get married if I sign a prenup.
He had nothing at the start of our relationship, and his business has grown significantly.
He has over 300 employees, and his net worth is in the millions.
I gave up my career 20 years ago to raise our children.
We are financially well off, and he has taken very good care of the children and me.
Davis is so sick.
I don't want to finish this.
Is he wrong to ask for a prenup?
I love him, but wonder if i should just let go the idea of marriage
i don't really i don't really know how i can help you i think you let go of the idea of marriage 25 years ago and you started having kids
and andrea you made a really terrible bargain yeah
you gave up everything and he gave up nothing
You raised his kids and helped him build a business and he owns it.
You made a terrible bargain 25 years ago.
Yes, it breaks my heart, man.
And, you know,
the ship has sailed.
I mean, there's, I,
you know.
By the way, he.
Here's another.
I mean,
I'd call his bluff, but I don't think you will.
Because I think this guy's a jerk.
Yeah.
And I think the reality that you feel very, very exposed, you felt exposed for 25 years.
It's because you've been exposed.
You've been exposed.
I also think if this was to go to court, I think you would have some claim to a lot of this stuff, but it's going to be a mess.
And absolutely.
I have no idea what Ohio law is on this kind of stuff.
You certainly got child support coming out of your ears.
The thing beneath the thing here.
Because you're not going to do anything.
I can tell.
No.
You're so codependent, it's unbelievable.
And he's such a jerk.
He wouldn't, he's such a man who lacks any sort of integrity
in any way, shape, form, or fashion.
That the thought of even taking care of
his common-law wife of a quarter decade and the mother of his four kids,
he's thinking of his net worth, protecting him.
His answer is all this money I made while I was sleeping with you
is mine.
I mean.
I wouldn't want to be in the same room with that guy personally.
Yeah, he's slimy.
He's a terrible human being, but here we are.
My guess is you've got, Dave, my guess is she's got bigger issues, and she's either unsafe.
He either has people on the side.
She is recognizing how completely exposed she is.
And I think she needs to go see a professional counselor, but she also probably needs to sit down with an attorney because I think this type of question tells me this is just what's right above the waterline.
Tip of the art.
There's a big mess underneath this.
Yeah, that's true.
This is so.
So, you know what it is, though?
I can't help Andrea, but you know what we can do?
We can read the email.
And here's the point, all right?
You're 24 years old.
And your boyfriend wants to move in together.
I hope you read this email and realize how stupid that is.
I mean, that's just...
Just how unsafe it is.
How unsafe it is and how exposed you are.
It's just straight up stupid.
And I hope some of you get pissed off about me saying this.
I hope you say, I'll never listen to Dave Ramsey again.
Because some of the most smart things I ever did in my life is when somebody made me mad.
And I'm trying to make some of you mad right now.
Because this is, if you're 24 and
you have a 24-year-old daughter and her boyfriend wants to move in with her, you need to grab both of them up and box their stupid butt little ears.
Because this this is what it sets up.
This is what it sets up.
And we've got all the data,
not just the feelings and the research to go with it.
Here's some data for you.
If you're 35 and you're married, your net worth is somewhere around 10x
if you're shacked up and you're 35.
Married men live seven to nine years longer than shacked up men.
Hello?
Cancer survivors.
A much higher percentage of people survive cancer than are married than those who are shacked up in a toxic soup bowl like this woman's in.
And we talk about this all the time, Dave.
What if this woman gets cancer?
Exactly.
Because
$300 million business,
he may or may not want to help you out.
And here's the thing.
We talk about this a lot, Dave.
Success and money makes you more of who you are.
And if you're dating somebody who's a jerk to you,
and maybe you accidentally wind up pregnant, and you say, okay, well, maybe down the road, if
this is how this plays out, somebody becomes very successful.
They were a jerk before they had anything.
They were a jerk when you gave up your entire career and your safety.
Why?
And then they become worth millions on your back and they stay a jerk.
They get an extra humongous jerk.
Yeah.
This is a mess.
Love involves serving each other.
Yeah.
There's no love in this whole equation right here.
This just burns my belly.
Yeah.
It breaks my heart for Andrew.
I'm sorry, man.
Andrew,
you have made some really bad choices 25 years ago, and now you are sitting in the poop.
It's unbelievable.
And yeah, I mean, you don't have any options.
Your option are stay in the poop
or demand that we get married with no prenup, or I'm leaving and taking the kids, which is actually about the only healthy thing to do in this situation.
Load up and leave.
You are with somebody who is
more concerned about them than they are you or the kids.
And hasn't been for days, for decades.
For years, yeah.
For decades.
If he was, he would have committed to you and you'd be taking care of you right now, and you would have been taking care of him.
You gave up.
Wow.
Okay, so but the point is this.
Sometimes in your, some of you in your decision-making frameworks, you think about Friday.
Thank God it's Friday.
How's he feel in the moment?
Well, that's what a child does.
Adults devise and plan and have a plan.
Children do what feels good.
Children move in together at 24.
And it starts, then if you extrapolate that decision-making paradigm, if you use your decision framework and say, okay, how's this going to work out 25 years from now?
Well, Andrea just told you.
And then that tells you if it's a good decision or not.
It might be an okay decision by Friday.
You might get away with stupidity between now and Friday.
But when you extrapolate your decision-making out with a long-term
decision horizon, vision horizon, then you end up with Andrea.
And you can tell the decision is a bad idea.
But this, I mean, this isn't just about the money and the kids.
I guarantee you this is an abusive relationship.
Oh, I promise you this.
Oh, it is abusive, just with what we know.
It's a psychological financial.
With what we know, it's already abusive, but there's got to be more to it.
Right.
Like you said, tip of the iceberg.
So, yeah, this guy.
Andrew, hear from us, man.
You're not crazy.
You're not crazy.
I will bet you dollars to donuts.
He's got a couple on the side.
That's what I mean.
At some point, you've got to go sit down with an attorney and walk through and figure out this mess.
Yeah.
But she's not going to.
No.
I love him.
Well, but also, I mean, also, I want to
be in an abusive relationship, man, you can get trapped, and it's, it's a scary proposition.
Quarter century being told you're useless, you're worthless, you're nothing seeps into
your nervous system over time.
And maybe this is her first reaching out saying, am I nuts?
The answer is no.
You're not nuts.
You've done some stuff that's really damaging to yourself by allowing this to go on way too long.
And our encouragement will be to stop it now.
Stop it now.
Yeah.
You're worth more than this.
I was going to say, you know, tell him the only way way you're sticking around is if you marry him.
I don't think you marry him.
I think you just let him go.
Yeah.
And take half his money.
I don't want to be married to a man who treats who does this.
A wife and I mean a woman and kids like that.
I don't either.
Period.
And I don't want you.
And Andrew, we like you and we don't want you to do that.
We love you.
We want you to win.
So yeah, I think you're done.
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Marie is in Denver.
Hi, Marie.
How are you?
Hi.
I am going to tell you my story.
I am recently divorced.
I'm 73 years old and I'm debt-free.
And I have a total of $100,000 in a money market, and I have to withdraw $1,000 or two each month for living expenses because my Social Security pays all but $100 for my one bedroom apartment.
And I do have a trustworthy car,
and it's fine, it's paid for.
And
I don't I haven't worked in a while, but maybe I can get a part-time job at some point.
But my question is
if I'm doing the right thing by just keeping all the money I have.
Oh, we just lost you, huh?
Oh, no.
Sorry.
She just dropped.
Yeah.
Call me.
Kelly, see if you can get her back and we'll catch back up because that lady needs some help.
Yeah.
Jordan is in Oregon.
Hey, Jordan, how are you?
Good, Dave.
How are you?
Better than I deserve.
What's up?
Good.
Thanks for taking my call.
Sure.
Okay, my question is,
we did a family family deal mortgage before we found you.
My wife and I are huge fans.
We've been paying it like a $15.
We have five years left.
It was all done by a lawyer, so it's legit, but
the interest is only 1%.
I would like to pay it off early, but everyone around me is saying, don't do that.
It's stupid, you know, because the money's making more.
just sitting in high-yield savings.
You don't have the money in high-yield savings.
We do.
Oh, you have the money to pay it off?
We do.
Oh, okay.
Yeah.
Well, who cares what everyone says?
Everyone's broke.
Well, I know, but that's why that's why I'm calling you.
I know, but everyone's broke.
Don't take financial advice from broke people, man.
Yeah.
No, I know.
Or indebted people.
Well, our CPA is even saying not to do it.
Fire him.
Yeah.
He can't add.
Yeah.
Who's who's the family member that owns this loan?
It was my grandpa, and that's part of the kind of the funny equation is that he recently passed away.
So his wife, who's not my grandmother, is now the bank.
And everything is still okay, but something in my gut just wants to pay her off.
Your gut is correct.
You have a good gut.
So here's the thing, okay?
The borrower is slave to the lender.
Absolutely.
Period.
No exceptions.
Correct.
100% of the time that you loan money to someone, you change the relationship.
100% of the time you borrow money from someone, you change the relationship.
It is impossible for your step-grandmother to treat you the same as if you didn't
owe her money.
It is impossible for you to treat your step-grandmother with the exact same honor or dignity
as the former wife of your grandfather.
when you owe her money because we now have this transaction involved.
And the way we say it around here, it doesn't doesn't apply to this situation, probably, but
Thanksgiving dinner tastes different when you eat with your master.
Right.
The borrower is slave to the lender, and if you're a slave, you have, by definition, a master.
Even if it's a sweet, kind, little white-haired master, you still have a master.
Correct.
And you probably have her kids.
How many kids does she have?
Yeah, she's got three, and one of them is fairly involved now with her since my graph has passed.
And that's where you start getting this idea that, well, that's actually
they would be better siblings than most if one, if not several of them, don't think, well, that's our money or we want to get our money settled, et cetera.
Yeah, absolutely.
So you're asking what Dave and I would do.
Both of us
paid off by the other day.
Today.
Yeah.
You know what's going to happen?
You're going to feel like you took a good shower.
You're going to feel clean.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Not to mention you won't have a house payment forever.
Yeah.
Yeah, exactly.
And there is, like, there is a financial calculation, and you're right.
No.
Well, there's a math problem to be made.
No, not when you adjust for risk.
That's true.
Not when you adjust for relationship damage.
Well, that's what I'm saying.
Not when you adjust for the actual realities of what actually happens.
That's true.
Because these people who say, oh, you're making 4% and they're only charging you 1%, so you're making a net 3%.
This is the most naive financial formula on the planet.
You're leaving out risk.
You're leaving out the strain on your body.
You're leaving out the strain on your relationships.
And all of those have an actual dollar cost to them over time that no one has ever been able to calculate accurately, except God says the borrower is slave to the lender, and he meant it.
There you go.
And obviously, he knows I do math better than your broke friends.
And so that's it.
That's what it comes down to to me.
I quit borrowing money, period.
And the last time I'm going to loan anybody I love money happened about 40 years ago.
So if there's somebody that needs money that I've got in my family or friends and I've got the money and I decide they need my money, I'm going to give it to them.
There will not be a loan.
Yeah.
That's simple.
All right.
We were talking with Marie.
I think we got her back.
73.
She's got $100,000.
She's trying to live on her Social Security, but it barely pays her one bedroom worth of rent in Denver, Colorado.
Marie, why are you in Denver?
I moved there from the South, and I have a daughter and grandson grandson there.
And I've been there for like 17, 18 years, and it's hard to go back to the south.
I wasn't trying to get you to go back to the south.
It's just a very expensive real estate market.
Well, it is.
And I'm really north of there, but that's the main area.
Yeah.
You know, it's 16 miles.
Where are your kids?
Are you like up in Aurora?
No, in Windsor.
Okay.
And so
how close to your kids are you?
Physically.
You mean physically?
Oh, real, I'm close to my daughter.
real close to my daughter and grandson.
Can you move a little bit further away and get a much cheaper apartment?
Well, it's $13.90, and that includes they started charging for water and all that.
And
that's about as cheap as I even saw when I was looking.
Yeah, I know, but I'm just asking because you can't afford the apartment.
Yeah.
That's what's killing me here.
Okay.
I don't know because if you burn $1,000 a month and you don't make anything anything on the 100,
then you would burn it up in 100 months, correct?
Yep.
And so you're 80.
Right.
81, 81 at that point.
With no assets, no zeros.
No, no, no, nothing.
And now you're homeless.
Right.
Okay.
That's not a plan.
If we invest the 100 and we made 10% on it, that'd be $10,000 a year, $833 a month.
That'd help.
But you'd then have to live within that.
Otherwise, you're going to burn it up still.
Yep.
Okay.
I can make enough working.
Yeah, so you're going to have to add something to it, and you're going to have to manage your expenses, and that includes the investigation of cheaper rent somewhere, somehow.
Okay.
And I don't know what that is.
I don't have a magic wand to wave.
I just know that Denver is very expensive.
It's a beautiful city, but it's very expensive.
And so, do you move 30 miles out in the country somewhere and
rent a little garage apartment from some little couple that's sweet?
And I don't know.
I don't know.
But you're close enough to family, but you cut your costs in half.
You need to get with a Smart Vestor Pro at Ramseysolutions.com and get the majority of the $100,000 invested so that it starts making something.
Making 4% versus 10% is a deal breaker for you.
So you've got to get up there, get the money in some mutual funds and get to making some money.
And this is a heartbreaking thing to say.
It's one of the hardest things I ever have to say on this show for a 73-year-old recently divorced woman.
That tells me you've been through a lot but you might have to go get a part-time job she said that yeah you have to go get some money coming in somehow so i i would do three i would twist three knobs on this and try to get it to where it runs sustainable because the math you're giving me is not sustainable it's going to burn up knob number one get the money invested so it makes some more money knob number two get your expenses down by considering different rent and knob number three create some income by doing some kind of work while you can and let's try to get this where you create a thing where you're not burning through the money and you know, end up in a really horrible situation.
Blake is in Minnesota.
Hey, Blake, how are you?
Hey, Dave, how are you doing?
Better than I deserve.
How can I help?
all right so i'm 39 years old um uh the only debt i have right now is a personal loan for thirty thousand dollars um it's a 10.9 percent interest rate um i have about 140 in my roth ira
over 50 of that is what i put in i'm just curious if it's worth taking the money out to pay off the personal loan
to
free up some cash.
How old did you say you are?
39.
Oh, no, no, no, no.
You can't do that.
No, you're going to get hit with a penalty of 10% plus your tax rate.
And so you're going to get hit with like a 35% or 40% hit.
So it's like saying, Dave, I want to borrow money at 40% interest to pay off a loan.
No, no, we're not doing that.
Oh, okay.
I thought what I put in, I could take out.
On your Roth, you can, but
I wouldn't unplug your Roth.
What's your household income, sir?
Between me and my wife, almost $100.
Okay.
And how much do you owe on your cars?
My wife's car, she has about $12,000 left, and I have $14,000 left.
Is that the $30,000?
No, the $30,000 was about a year ago we consolidated all of our credit cards and everything into one.
Okay.
Okay.
So you actually owe $60,000.
Yes, besides with the cars and the personal loan.
Yeah.
All right.
So now,
what we'll have you to do, and you've got
two years of pretty extreme discomfort coming.
You're going to live on beans and rice, rice and beans.
You're not going to see the inside of a restaurant unless you're working there as your extra job and you're not going on vacation.
Scorched earth on your lifestyle.
Get on a detailed written budget on the Every Dollar app.
Lay out your budget and live on nothing.
And with your extra income that you create and the stuff you sell around the house and the tight budget, you pay off $30,000 a year for two years and you're 100% debt-free, except except your home.
Now you got your life back.
But you guys have chip-shotted one little thing at a time, one little thing at a time, one little thing at a time, and then bought a car and then one little thing at a time and then bought a car and then one little thing at a time all the way into $60,000 worth of debt, making $100,000 and you can't breathe.
Yeah, I mean,
we're not struggling by any means.
Yeah, you are.
But I just figured you're at such a young age.
Yeah, you're broke.
Yeah.
Bro, I've been there.
Both of us have.
This is not fun.
I mean, you're not bankrupt, but you got no wiggle room in your budget.
It's no fun.
It's why you're trying to do something about it.
It's uncomfortable.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And there's no, but there's no hack.
The hack is hack through it as fast as you can by living on nothing.
for a short period of time.
You and your wife sit down and say, what would it feel like if we had no payments?
What would it feel like?
How fast could we build some wealth?
What kind of generosity could we do?
How would we change our whole family family tree if we had no freaking payments?
And then you get in attack mode and knock it out.
I don't know if you're ready to do that or not because you call me looking for an easy way out.
You're not quite ready to be disgusted yet.
But the people that change their lives, sir, are the ones that say, I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired.
I've had it.
And you kind of got to get that thing going in your voice.
When you do that, well,
now you're going to start to see some things move.
And that'll work.
So.
But don't rob future you
because you can't quit consumption.
Right.
Last time you tried to borrow your way out, by the way, borrow your way out of debt, it didn't work.
Hey, credit card debt.
Went and got a consolidation loan.
Now we're going to cash out.
We're trying to find, always trying to find an easy pill.
There's no easy button on this.
You got to get it.
And that's a hard thing.
So, John, I was being interviewed on one of the podcasts the other day, one of these famous guys,
and he was asking me because we've got so many Gen Zs and so many millennials here.
And I kind of had a thought, and I thought I'd run it by you.
Uh-oh.
It kind of came to me.
It came to me in the middle of it.
Well, I often get asked because I'm such a proponent of Gen Z and millennials.
I love those two generations.
I'm a big fan.
I've got...
600, 700 of them on my payroll that work here, and I love them.
They're incredible team members.
They do a great job.
And the guy was going, well, why is that?
And he goes, you got the good ones.
Yeah, there's some bad ones.
There's some good ones.
There isn't every generation.
And but why is it?
It's because they grew up with this magic wand in their hand.
And so anything is possible because if I push a button or download an app, anything's possible.
I push a button, stuff shows up on my porch.
I push a button, I can answer any question.
I push a button, AI will write my paper for me.
I push a button.
I mean, everything is possible.
So they're possibility thinkers.
Their abundance mentality is unbelievable.
Well, the The toxic version of that, when it goes too far, is its entitlement.
Correct.
But the other thing I thought, he said, well, what's the main thing we could teach them?
I was actually speaking at a college, too, recently with a bunch of
young Zers.
And
he said, what's the first thing you could tell this generation?
I said, well, what comes with this instantaneous abundance,
not only is the positive of it, is you get this thing of
anything's possible.
And so you really think positively rather than negatively.
Where like some of my generation sits around with their lips stuck in
straightened nails, right?
The world's coming to an end and everything's so bad.
And, you know, everybody's got a bunch of whiners in their generation, but our generations were like negative thinkers.
And we had to teach them with Zig Ziglar how to be a positive thinker, right?
But these guys all think positive already.
What they don't have is the patience.
And that comes out, that lack of patience when a boomer or somebody's looking in from the outside, they call that entitlement.
I don't think it's really entitlement.
I think it's I'm used to getting something quickly, and when it doesn't come quickly, I don't know how to act.
It's an expectation.
It's not even entitlement.
It's just the way it's always been.
It's the way it's been.
Right.
Every time I push a button, something happens, and then I push the button and nothing happened.
And
you have to be able to distance food apps from developing a great relationship with somebody.
It takes time.
Or getting strong.
Paying off $60,000 worth of debt.
Paying off debt.
Right.
There's things that just take time.
Two years
of grind.
Right.
Oh, you mean I can't push a button?
Yeah.
No, it's two years of grind.
You mean I can't...
No, it's two years
of grind.
Right.
No, no, no.
There's not an app.
There's not a hack.
There's not a shortcut.
TikTok ain't going to help you.
It's two years of grind.
And then you'll be free forever because you will be changed, not just your money.
And the hardest sell for me is people realizing you're going to be out of debt, but you're not even going to recognize yourself.
You'll have muscles you didn't understand, you'll have strength you didn't understand, and you take that level of discipline and strength and ability to grind, and then put that on top of or underneath this endless possibility mindset.
And literally, the world is yours.
But that only comes from
high reps over an extended period of time.
That's it.
This is not I lift two pushes on the bench press.
This is high reps, low weight every day.
For years.
Every day.
And then you are transformed.
You're transformed.
And
then the money is transformed too.
But that's just the, that's, that's some, like you said, it's not the best part.
The best part is you are changed.
You're different.
When Sharon and I went through the crucible of losing everything and then having to claw our way back out with our fingernails, it isn't that we went through that.
It's that we went through that.
Right.
I mean, it's it, we are so freaking permanently changed from that in such a good way that, that, you know, it makes the strain worth it.
And so if I could inject with a needle a big syringe into a generation that is fabulous, the ability to persevere over an extended period of time,
add that to their incredible abundance thinking and possibility thinking.
Unstoppable.
It's going to be the biggest, baddest, coolest generation in history of man.
Ever.
And that means, whereas I remember my granddad, my grandmother, they got a sack of oranges for Christmas one year.
Yeah.
Because there wasn't oranges everywhere, right?
And that was a big deal to get oranges in December, right?
That was huge.
Well, you knew somebody in Florida.
You knew somebody who knew somebody who got a sack of oranges.
That was a cool thing.
They had to inject, go manufacture, go work at optimism.
This group has to.
Everything is possible, but it can detach you from reality.
So you have to inject hard, regular practices on a day-in- and day-out basis.
You have to learn to cook in the microwave.
And wait.
And you have to learn to be bored and not scroll in a Walmart line.
You have to learn to pay off your stuff over time.
You have to learn to exercise on a regular basis.
And you will be stunned at who you become on the back end of that journey.
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Michael is in Arizona.
Hey, Michael, how are you?
I'm doing well, Dave.
How are you?
Better than I deserve.
What's up?
Well, Dave, I'm married.
I'm 25 years old.
I have a toddler and another baby on the way.
Fun.
And a bit of a pickle financially.
My job hours are really inconsistent.
And so we're about $13,000 in debt.
Most of it is medical or dental.
And I'm barely working enough to cover the essentials some weeks.
Some weeks I'm making overtime.
Up until now, I haven't made the best financial choices.
But I decided to start school, school, so I'm going to school for IT.
I just don't know if I should try to focus on getting out of debt or try to focus on school to get a better job and then try to
work from there.
What do you do now, sir?
Now I drive a cement mixer.
Okay.
And they pay you what when you're driving?
I'm on track to make about 65,000 gross this year.
Okay.
And you can't live on that?
If on that I could barely live, there would not be much extra for
much of anything.
With $13,000 worth of debt, you can't live on $65,000?
Well,
I haven't made the best financial system.
Ah, okay.
We don't have a system.
We don't have a system, so we don't know.
Okay.
That I believe.
That I believe.
All right.
That makes sense.
I need to change my ways, and I'm going to go ahead and get a little bit of a pair of people.
You and your pretty wife sit down tonight and open up the Every Dollar app.
I'm going to give you the upgrade version of it for free and start laying out a detailed budget of what it takes to live each month.
And your income is not as volatile as your behavior.
Okay.
So when you get that system down, that's going to help you a lot.
Because more you know,
and I don't if you want to change careers from cement truck driver to IT I'm perfectly fine with that
so what are you spending on the IT
I'm not spending anything I between scholarships and federal aid it's all paid for
that's awesomeness and what are you studying a certification program
it's an accelerated bachelor's and master's program for a bachelor's in IT and a master's in IT management okay
My biggest.
Oh, sorry.
Are you able to do this like in the evenings after you get done driving?
Yes, I've been working on it each day when I get done.
The biggest problem that I'm having is my hours are so inconsistent.
And with the way the market's been, they've been cutting our hours.
So
I'm making less and less money, and that could continue to go down.
I may not make
$75,000 this year.
All right, let me reset you for a second.
Okay.
To be making $200,000 a year, you do not need a four-year degree or a master's degree in IT.
You need to have certifications and you need to know how IT works.
But you can get all of that a whole lot faster than you can do an online bachelor's, online master's, even if they're accelerated.
What you've signed up for is complete overkill for your goal.
I've got tons of tech people, like 500 of them working in the building, and I don't know of any of them that have a master's in IT.
One or two have four-year degrees.
Most of them have industry certifications.
They've got Microsoft certs.
They've gone to code school.
They've learned to code.
They've learned some of the cybersecurity moves that need to be done.
They've learned platform technologies.
But they are not.
They don't have a master's degree in IT.
By the time you finish a master's degree in IT, what you have learned will be irrelevant because the market moves that fast.
So I'm going to ask you not to do what you're doing.
I know that's very hard.
But
if you were my son, I would say, yes, IT is a great path for you.
The good news is you can get a couple of certifications within six or eight weeks and go get a job in that field making $60,000.
be a lot more steady.
Oh, and by the way, they'll probably pay from that point forward once you're working for a technology company or a company that embraces technology and digital technologies like Ramsey does, they'll probably pay for you to continue to study and get more certifications.
We do that here.
We teach people new languages.
We pay for their certs.
We pay for them to go through because we want better and better technology people on the team every day.
But,
you know, a master's degree is 1,000% not necessary to move into that field.
I'm the hiring person.
I can tell you that.
I mean, I'm your employer.
So I'm sure I know what I'm I'm talking about.
And Michael, tell me about the jump from cement mixing to IT.
Is that something you want to do?
Are you just listening and hearing what people say is the next good job?
You're just going to try to do that.
When I was in high school, I took a certification and I really enjoyed it, but I just never did anything with it.
Okay.
And then when
I got married and then we had our first baby, I was already in the construction field and I kind of just stuck with it because it's what I knew.
Well, you got a job and you were trying to feed your family.
Yeah, good for you.
You're a noble man.
I'm proud of you.
That's a good thing.
So what I'm saying is that, number one, I might reset how
I'm trying to enter the IT field.
And with that, let's go ahead and get a different job today.
We don't have to stay in the cement business until we get cement driving business, until we get
to a master's degree completed.
That's not necessary to do this.
So you could get a job very quickly in the I.T.
world and be in the proximity of the people that you're going to be working with anyway.
They'll give you better advice on how to get tools in your belt, how to get educated to move up through the ranks in the IT section of a company.
And a lot of times they'll pay for it.
And so it solves several things at once.
It shortens the
time between you and the cement mixer and the IT.
And it fixes the fact that the cement mixer hours are going down now because we're going to start moving into IT now.
And that's what I would tell you to do across the board on this because
you're a good guy.
You're a noble person.
You're willing to work hard.
You're willing to do whatever it takes to feed your family.
You just hadn't had a good
track to run on.
And you got to develop a track.
And you reached out and got a track.
I'm just thinking, and there's a better one than the one you grabbed a hold of.
I'd also recommend sitting down with somebody.
So you got a degree in, you got a PhD in higher ed.
Does this guy need a master's in I.T.?
I mean, I don't know enough to know about it.
I don't know any of the guys that work on the stuff that I'm working on that have master's in IT.
Do you have a degree in Nashville that works
in the building here that works in?
You know more than I do about that kind of stuff.
Do you know any of them that have
a single PhD?
Yeah, no.
Not a one.
You'd get a PhD in IT if you want to teach IT.
That'd be it.
Right, that'd be it.
Teach people things that we don't use anymore.
I would love to see you go sit down with somebody, not in the university setting, but somebody who's working in IT in your local area and ask
what I need to do to get in the door.
And they might say, why don't you just come work here right now?
We have a $40,000 job, but we'll train you in the X, Y, and Z.
And you and your wife could take a six-month hit and you're back at the road.
But go sit down and have coffee with somebody in your area right now.
That'd be the path.
And don't wait till the cement mixer job just dwindles to nothing.
It's going to.
The boat has a hole in it.
Go ahead and get off the boat if you can.
Yeah.
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Stephen is in Michigan.
Hey, Stephen, how are you?
Doing good, Dave.
How are you doing?
Better than I deserve.
What's up?
So I got a question that I think I know the answer to, but I am going to see what you're going to say about it.
So
I bought a house last year.
My interest rate is 7.375,
and my mortgage was sold and the new mortgage lender is saying hey we can save you some money if you refinance now we're on the back half of baby step two my wife and i and i have the money to pay off our car it's approximately 6 600
and the mortgage lender says i would strike now while rates are a little lower because if you pay that car off that's the last piece of debt in my name you're you said your credit's going to start to drop off and that'll start to hurt you.
So I guess my question is, do I pay off the car or do I refinance and then pay off the car?
What should I do?
Yeah.
Well, your mortgage lender only makes a commission when they sell you a mortgage.
Right.
So we know their advice is tainted in this case.
This guy's pitching pretty hard.
He is.
They are pretty aggressive with the calls.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So
that right there tells you that something's up, right?
And so
yeah, I'm paying off the car and I'll get around to the mortgage later.
Why did you take such a high interest rate loan?
Well,
we were living in
the market.
I know, but that's above market.
Did you have bad credit?
No.
Credit score is up for sevens.
Hmm.
Yeah, 737 is ridiculous.
I mean, the market for a year has been at six.
That's weird.
Yeah, so I don't know a whole lot about finance.
I've recently started learning everything and going through the financial piece and the baby steps.
So I am making up for lost time.
All right, let's do two things.
Let's answer your question in two parts so we get the whole thing, and that'll help you.
And it'll help some people that are listening to.
Number one,
if the only choice is between paying off your car or refinancing, we'll pay off your car.
Okay, so that part's answered.
And
number two, the mortgage lender being aggressive is your hint that he's self-serving, not you serving.
Okay,
that's why they're calling back all the time and trying to make a commission.
And so
number three, here's how you calculate when you refinance a mortgage.
You're break-even, you do a break-even analysis.
All right, let's use an example.
Let's pretend that you had 737 and you could get 637.
That's a spread of one if you refinanced, right?
And your loan balance is currently what?
$380,000.
Okay.
So 1%
is $3,800
a year.
Correct.
That is your savings.
Okay.
So if it costs you $15,000 to refinance and you recoup at the rate of $3,800, it's going to take five years to get your money back.
You follow that?
That's called a break-even analysis.
How long before I break even with a savings of $3,800 versus a cost of $15,000?
If your cost was $7,600, you break even in two years.
And everything after two years, you're putting $3,800 in your pocket.
That one starts to make sense.
Right.
But 15 years doesn't make sense.
And so what we've got to do is we have to figure out the closing costs and divide the annual interest rate savings into the closing costs.
And that number should be two maximum of three years.
Two to three years or less.
And so
what that ends up telling us is the lower the closing costs and the greater the difference in interest rate when you refinance, the more likely you are going to be to do it mathematically.
Because the faster you're going to break even.
I agree.
Okay.
And so if these rates drop on down, if we see some continued movement, we've seen a little bit of movement in the last few weeks.
The 15-year right now is 5.86 on a 15-year.
Okay?
It's 5.95.
You know, it's only a tenth of a point.
It's just barely moving.
It's just hanging around.
But there's all this discussion around the Fed and all these other things right now.
There seems to be some downward pressure.
So I disagree with your guy that now is the time.
I probably would wait a little bit.
But
if you could save 2% right now and you could make your money back in two years, I'd refinance it right now, but not with your car money.
Okay, yeah.
So the way you do the analysis is divide your interest rate dollars saved, interest dollars saved, into your closing cost dollars, and that's your number of years to break even, and that number of years needs to be two to three years maximum.
And so just to throw a few more stats at you guys listening out there and hearing this, the average home in America for the past 25 years has sold every 6.5 years, and the average mortgage only lasts 5.5 years.
And so, if you have a seven-year break-even on your refinance, you got screwed
because on average, you're not going to be there that long.
Oh, it's my forever.
Oh, shut up.
I'm giving you the averages.
I don't hear about your forever, nothing.
Okay,
so
the deal is that your refinance needs to break even in two years, maybe
three.
But as we see these rates slide down, and some of you are sitting in some six, even some 7% interest rates, and we see them slide down towards five again, you're going to see that 2% margin, and that 2% margin is going to take a whole bunch of you to make this formula work to refinance.
Why would I, I'm asking for a friend, why would I pay off that car with that $6,000 versus pay this thing off and lower that rate substantially.
Because we've got to clear the cash first.
The cash flow on the car payment is much greater than the $3,800.
Good call.
So I'm probably paying $500, $600 a month on that car.
$77,000 average is $7.80 right now.
Then the $3,800 divided by $12,000.
And the mortgage is going to be sitting there, and the car, it's like an impediment in this whole thing.
It's like the fly in the ointment.
I love that.
And the mortgage is sitting there.
I've got to clean up the mess so I can go work on and fine-tune the stuff that's not as big a mess.
Yeah.
Okay.
We don't mess with the fine-tuning while we still got baseballs being thrown through the window.
So if somebody clears the cars and they've got $35,000 in student loan debt, they need to clear the student loans.
Before you go refinance yourself.
Yeah, unless if you want to roll your refinance costs into the mortgage, you can do that.
But you don't need to drain cash to do it.
Because, again, but only if you're breaking even then.
Right.
Because you now owe more on the house by $7,000, but you're going to save $3,800 a month or $3,800 a year.
So that's
two years you come out ahead on doing that, even though you owe more, but you'll owe less
when you're done.
So all that works out mathematically, but
wow, a little bit of a barrel of fish hooks.
But yeah, that's, guys and gals, how you work your refinance calculator.
And Churchill Mortgage can help you with all that.
We've endorsed them through all the ups and downs of interest rates over all these 30-something years they've been on the air with Ramsey.
And they can help you whether and they'll tell you the truth they're not going to do what this mortgage lender is doing to Stephen and just hound you to buy something you don't like I'll tell you my favorite thing when I called Churchill and said this is several years ago and refinanced my house and the first thing the guy said to me was I need you to hear me say it I'm not going to take your money unless this works out for you in the end and so let me run the math on it and I'll holler back at you and then he called back and said oh yeah this is a great deal X Y or Z but that was the first thing is I'm not gonna just make a sale on on your back I'm not going to take your money if this isn't going to work out for you and your family.
And I was like, man, I'm all in.
I appreciate that.
And just a little inside baseball, guys.
Mortgage companies have been dying for the last three years because they existed for the previous 10 years, 20 years on refinances and refinances have disappeared as some of you are sitting on 2.37 and you're not going to refinance at a 5.8.
You'd be dumb to do that.
And so the refinance market has dried up and they were living off of refinances.
So a lot of mortgage companies have gone broke.
And so that's where some of this pressure is coming from.
And then you got people like Rocket.
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Eric's in Ohio.
Hi, Eric.
Hey, Dave, how are you doing?
Better than I deserve.
What's up?
Well, I'm looking for maybe some advice in a sounding board.
So I'm 37 years old, married, and I have four young daughters.
My oldest is in second grade.
My wife and I both have very good jobs.
Combined income gross before retirement taxes is about 310, 315.
Wow.
Yeah, so we're doing well, right?
So about seven, eight years ago, we had the opportunity to buy from my uncle's estate, the family farm that's been in the family for 150, 60, some years.
And it's appreciated more than we would ever have thought, you know, in that amount of time.
So we bought it for $7,700 an acre.
You know, the neighbors just sold for like over $18,000 an acre.
So we're thinking like, I know, great.
Those things don't happen.
That's what I was saying.
Like,
this isn't real life.
You know, should we just get out now?
So we still have a note on the farm.
We didn't buy it in cash.
We didn't have that kind of cash, but it's relatively cheap money because that was back in 2019.
Then we refinance.
It's about
4.125 is what we have on it.
So 80 acres, you know, it would probably, you know, 1.4-ish.
Hard to say, you know, it's worth what somebody will pay for it.
And you owe it to like
about 400, just shy 400, I think $395.
All right.
And
you have a mortgage on your home?
We do have a mortgage on our home, yeah.
What do you owe on your home?
$235.
Okay.
And you make $315.
Do you have any other debts?
No, none.
How much in your nest egg and retirement and so forth?
So I was just looking this afternoon.
I think mine has $205 and my wife, she started a little bit later.
She has about $100, $105 somewhere in there.
So how old are you guys?
I'm 30.
We're both 37.
Okay.
Wow.
Well,
if you hadn't called us,
what normal people would do would be just continue to service the 400 and let this thing continue to skyrocket in value.
Right.
I'm not as happy with the 400,000 as most people would be in debt.
You've got a million dollars equity laying there.
And so I start asking myself: if I'm you and I've got a million dollars piled in the middle of the table and I don't own this farm, would I go buy this farm or would I do something else with a million dollars?
Right.
And you would only buy the farm if you thought it was going to continue to go up in value pretty rapidly, right?
As an investment, that's why you would buy it.
Well, in this case, it's actually got another added element.
It's been in the family for 150 years.
So that's
emotional.
It has been in the family for a while, but you know, at the time, nobody else wanted it.
And so my wife and I were like, I mean, we had some money.
We were able to make the payment.
We kind of, you know, penciled it out and all that, and it worked out.
Knowing that it's a good thing.
Do you have any money that's not in retirement?
Any cash or investments that are not in retirement?
Yeah, I mean, we have some savings.
We also have like a brokerage account.
The brokerage account has like 80-some thousand,
you know, just savings at the, you know, at our bank.
It's about 50,000.
Okay.
So
here's two options, and either one is fine with me.
All right.
Option one is,
you said how much is in the brokerage again?
80,000.
85, yeah.
85, 85, and you make 315.
And then you got 50 in your emergency fund.
Any other money that's not retirement?
No, not really.
I mean, some checking account, but that's maybe 20-some thousand, so I guess that counts, but I don't look at that as.
No, it's not a lot.
I mean, you're making $315,000, so that's a month.
And so, all right.
So what I'm going to do is look at our budget, you and your wife, and say, all right, I want to pay off our house really fast.
I'm going to throw $85,000 at the house.
That leaves $150,000.
And we make $315,000.
And so we're going to pay off the house in the next 24 months while paying minimum payments on the farm.
Yeah.
And keep the farm.
That's option one.
Option two is sell the farm, pay off the house, and invest the money somewhere.
Okay.
I mean, either one's fine.
So the question becomes, where do I want to invest a million dollars?
Right.
Do I want to invest a million dollars in wonderful dirt in wonderful Ohio,
which is not obviously not a bad investment.
It's done really well.
Yeah.
It's not a bad investment.
One of the guys we studied in the millionaire study had $24 million worth of dirt.
And it was just dirt.
I mean, he's Kansas
dirt farmer in Kansas.
I mean, just straight up, man.
I mean, soybeans and corn, baby.
Hello.
You know, and
$24 freaking million dollars.
All right.
So it's just, you know, so don't talk.
It's good.
There's nothing wrong with it.
I'm not mad about dirt at all.
So,
but you just need to ask yourself, the reason you bought this
was not because you woke up one morning and said, I want to systematically invest in dirt.
No, it was presented to you because of the family connection, and that kind of woke you up and you went, well, that might be cool.
Let's go do it.
So you almost kind of backed into it.
Definitely.
But it wasn't the implementation of a strategic thought.
That's true.
Okay.
And so now what I'm saying is I'd back up and look at this through strategic eyes and say, all right, I can keep it.
It's no sin.
But what I'm doing is I'm investing a million dollars into dirt.
If I'm going to do that, then I'm going to get my house paid off pretty quick, and then we're going to turn our attention to getting the 400 knocked out and be sitting here debt-free with by then a piece of ground that's worth $2 million and a house that's worth what?
What's it worth today, your house?
No, it's $350-ish, probably $375.
Yeah, so it's going to be $400,000, $500,000, $600,000 by then.
So, I mean, you're going to have a $2 million worth of dirt, $600,000 worth of house, and then you're going to be loading up your mutual funds and your retirement, and you're going to be looking at $5,000, $60,000, $7 million net worth in about a four to five-year period period of time by leaning into these things and thinking about it strategically.
If you keep the farm, if you don't, then you pay off the house, you take the money, you do the exact same thing, but you do it with different investment vehicles.
So, either one of those is fine.
But if you keep it, it comes with the pledge with the two of you to not beans and rice, but to be intentional and systematic about clearing the house pretty quick and then clearing the farm pretty quick after that.
No more debt.
If you're going to cup in five years, all this paid for.
You have a couple million dollars worth of real estate, which is not.
More like three or four million dollars worth of real estate in five years.
Yeah, that's where we're headed.
And that's if you keep it.
And it's obviously gone.
I mean,
I thought it's been a minute, but I thought I read that tech companies are looking at some of these places in the north that were old Rust Bell places where they can go in and buy dirt cheap and put out big ecosystems of whatever.
It could just be the farmlands doing that.
And it might just be good dirt for farmland.
Yeah, who knows?
I mean, Ohio, it's, you know.
So I don't know.
But I do not not have personal knowledge of that marketplace.
I don't either.
So it's just interesting.
I'm so happy for you that you made all that money on it and that you have this problem.
It's awful.
I have a strange attachment to dirt, so
my answers are never rational.
Yeah, mine too.
Brett is in Wisconsin.
Hey, Brett, what's up?
Hey, Dave.
Really great to talk to you.
Thanks for chatting with me.
Sure.
So I've got, I kind of came late to the baby steps.
I don't think I've been terribly terribly irresponsible with money, but, you know, was running out at the end of each month and thinking I make too much money to be broke, as you say.
And so I've kind of started doing your program.
We've gotten on a budget, stopped
credit card.
So every dollar's written down before the month and your wife and you agree on it?
Yes.
Wow.
How'd that feel?
So we've, well, it felt better for me than for her, I think.
But,
you know, knowing that there's money left over at the end of each month has been great for my peace of mind.
I know that.
So we've stopped using credit cards.
We never carried credit card balances, but everything came in, went right to them.
Right.
So
where I'm at right now is I've got a lot of retirement savings, but and my only debt is probably car loan and home loan.
And I'm trying to get on the path.
Is it really okay to stop saving for retirement completely?
Yeah, for a short period of time and knock that car out.
Absolutely.
Absolutely.
That's what we teach people and it works.
You're not talking about doing doing it alone five six months and you're clear you don't have car payment anymore no more credit card debt we now have a plan me and my wife are in agreement sounds like her vote needs to count a little bit more in this budgeting like you're trying to crammed it down her throat a little bit but um yeah other than that sounds like you kind of got it going it takes a little while to get the momentum moving off of this though
Our scripture today, John 8 and 12, Jesus said, I am the light of the world.
Whoever follows me me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of the world.
Jordan Peterson said, it is my firm belief that the best way to fix the world,
a handyman's dream, if there ever was one, is to fix yourself.
So
most of you are aware that we record this show or do this show live on the glass here at Ramsey from 1 to 4 Central Time, Monday through Friday
in the lobby of Ramsey Solutions.
and then various platforms pick up
what I'm saying right now, hours from now.
By the time you hear that, it will be old news.
But moments ago,
Charlie Kirk was shot and killed
in Utah, at Utah Valley University.
And
don't know a lot of the details at this point, other than apparently it was a long, long-distance shot, and
not super long, a couple hundred yards, but it wasn't up close and personal.
And
but in the days and weeks to come, I'm sure all the sordid issues of mental illness that are associated with a shooter will come out and all those kinds of things.
It just takes my breath.
I mean, I know Charlie, I knew Charlie, and I had spoken at some of his events, and
he's brilliant and a firebrand, for sure, a lightning rod,
and
brilliant in debate.
31 years old.
Two little girls.
Looks, I mean, and they're like four years old and under.
And same as my little grandkids, same age as them.
And
many, many, many of the people that we speak with in leadership events.
pastors across the country
a lot of us run in the same circle.
And we've been, you know, again, I've been at his events with pastor friends of mine and leadership
friends of mine that teach and so forth in that.
And so I
had many, many, many conversations with him.
And
this is just sickening.
I can't breathe.
I mean, it's just...
I can't think of anything except about a little wife that's 30 years old and a couple of little kids
because somebody
has decided that their political
views are more important than anything else and decided to put a bullet in somebody.
And it's just
simultaneously angry and sad and rage inside my chest right now.
And I'm just, I feel just sick.
I think I want to throw up.
But,
yeah, certainly we will be praying for his family.
and we will also be
in touch with all of them and
like everybody else in America, we'll be trying to help them out and do anything for them that we can to try to
just
deal with the results of some animal that is
some mentally deranged moron that's out of control.
And
this is just the result of people have lost the ability to have a good argument without losing their minds.
You can't argue your political point.
You can't argue a point of view.
You can't say that someone's right or someone's wrong without somebody losing their dadgum mind in this culture right now.
And it's just, it's plain dangerous.
And it's not going to end well
if we don't get some of these folks under control.
Yeah, I'm just, I'm just going to get home and hug my daughter.
Yeah.
Amen.
My daughter's,
I got a little girl home.
Yep.
And
yeah, that's all I'm gonna say.
Yeah, you just you can't have enough security to offset this level of crazy.
Yeah.
It's impossible.
I mean, we're careful with our appearances, places, and,
you know, do what we can to have reasonable wisdom about the exposure you take when you step into public and have an opinion.
But
And obviously he's a lot was a lot more controversial than us.
We stir up enough controversy and let people hate us, but nothing like he had.
The stuff he got was over the top.
But it just
he's sitting there in the middle of a bunch of college students having a discussion.
Well, it goes back to it.
Willing to engage today's societal events and
cultural arguments.
It just goes back to what you were saying earlier, though, man.
There's disagreements and there's vehement disagreements and there's anger and there's frustration.
Then when you go home, there's a dad of two little girls.
And
if you can't make that separation, man, you need to go get some help because it's a, I don't know.
I got too much experience showing up to that and having to call that wife.
And I don't have it.
You've done enough.
You've done enough.
I don't have it.
I don't have it.
I need to get home and hug my wife and hug my daughter and be really grateful that I've got that privilege today.
Yeah.
You know, it is interesting what you're talking about that
you go back to the number of
relationships, families and otherwise that were fractured by the argument over nuanced arguments about COVID.
Right.
And they still don't speak to each other, still don't see their grandkids because
one of them wanted a mask and one of them didn't.
And so they made little things the major things.
And
I can't speak to them because they voted for Trump or they didn't vote for Trump.
30% of the calls into my show are
adult kids who were cut off by their parents or parents calling in saying, our adult kids have cut us off.
Just divide it.
For whatever reason.
For whatever reason.
Yeah, it's like cancel culture in
inside families.
Yeah.
And inside neighborhoods and inside whatever.
So
yeah.
You can't you you know you can't seem to separate the level of importance between the father of two little kids and your little pissant argument that you've got.
Or even a big argument.
But it's.
It's pissant in comparison to him being there for his kids.
That's right.
That's right.
You know, and weighing against that.
There's not an argument you've got that weighs against that.
Zero.
No one.
No one.
Yeah.
I don't care about, you know, you can talk about whatever flag you want to fly.
I don't care.
But you can't, you know, that's just, it's just ridiculous.
because none of your little argument at the end of that trigger is actually
valid at that point.
You've invalidated the whole thing.
Yeah, but I'm a.
It's a really, really sad thing.
I want to not talk about that guy.
I want to talk about
go home and hug your kids and go home and
say a prayer for the Kirk family.
Yeah.
I don't care who you are.
I don't care what you believe.
I don't care what you vote for.
Say a prayer for a family that just lost their dad and lost her husband.
And if you've got nonsense in your family, make the phone call today.
It's too short, man.
It's too short.
Yeah.
It's too short.
Make amends.
Make the phone call, man.
Yeah.
I don't disagree.
I don't disagree at all.
There's some lessons you can take from this.
It's just
here for a vapor.
But,
yeah, that was a...
Violence has struck out again.
You know, there it is.
And
sometimes it's little children in a school, and sometimes it's other things.
But in every case, it's somebody that's trying to take power into into their own hands.
And this is
really at a really critical time.
It's scary.
It's heartbreaking.
This nation needs prayer.
And we surely do.
Oh, my gosh.
Well,
yeah,
we'll pledge to you guys that we'll be in touch with them.
And
obviously, anything that we can do, there's nothing we can do.
But anything we can do, we will.
And the thing we all can do is to try to be just a tiny bit better as a result of of our hearts being broken.
And just back up about three steps and reconsider how
to manifest some of these opinions without being so dadgum violent about it.
It's pretty simple.
Civil discourse.
Wow.
What an idea.
And,
yeah.
And, you know, let's just label somebody and then vilify them.
And it's just awful.
Just awful.
Well, we don't have that kind of thing on this show very often because we don't cover current events, but Charlie was a friend of mine, so pretty much sucks.
That puts this Hour of the Ramsey Show in the books.
We'll be back with you before you know it.
In the meantime, remember, there's ultimately only one way to financial peace, and that's to walk daily with the Prince of Peace, Christ Jesus.