199. Why Glennon Says We Should All Be In Recovery

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All right, everybody.

Here we are.

at we can do hard things welcome back how are you two doing i'm actually doing great i don't know if like something's happening with my med equilibrium or something, but I woke up this morning and I said to my husband, I said,

I do not feel bad this morning.

And you know what?

I'm like just riding that horse to town.

That's really excited.

I wake up not feeling bad.

You feel not bad.

That's great.

What about you, love?

I'm actually great today.

Okay.

Yeah.

I feel,

you know, when you feel a little off, I think I felt a little off for the last couple of weeks

and trying to like do all the things.

And I don't feel off today.

Great.

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I feel not bad today.

I don't feel great.

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All right.

We'll take it.

We're wishing all of you a not bad day.

Yeah.

That's right.

How are you, Glennon?

I am

feeling,

let's see.

Well, today I'm going to give a recovery update.

And so

I feel like I'm going to talk about some things today

that

have been floating around

in my head and body and universe.

And I'm trying to like grab

and keep and put them on paper and then talk about them on the pod.

And sometimes in recovery, it feels like what you're discovering is the most most amazing thing that anyone has ever discovered and probably going to change the whole world.

And then when you say it out loud, everyone's like, what?

Or, or they're like, yeah, everyone knows that.

Either it's, that doesn't make any sense or that makes so much sense that it should have made sense to you before now.

Right.

Like when you were five.

Right, right.

So I feel nervous a little bit talking about what I think has been a tremendous breakthrough for me.

Ooh, hashtag breakthrough.

I know, right?

So you heard it here first, or maybe you heard it a long time ago.

Exactly.

Maybe I heard it a long time ago.

But right now, it feels very, very

new.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Fresh take, hot take.

Hot take, right.

So maybe this hour will change your life.

Maybe it will not.

Thanks for listening.

Anyway, so hopefully it'll be not bad.

Yes.

Yes.

We keep talking about recovery.

So the first thing I want to talk about is what I've been thinking about: what the hell is recovery?

Because a lot of people think of it as just this thing that happens when somebody's really addicted to something and then their whole life is shit.

And then they get dragged away.

And it's this horrible, painful process that only happens to like a certain amount of people.

And I've been thinking about

it so much differently lately that

I feel like we could consider

thinking about recovery much more widely.

that we always have invitations to recovery.

It kind of feels like being invited

to like a quest or an adventure or something.

And I think that it happens when someone you trust or, or your deepest self or whatever, shares with you that something you're doing is kind of like a blocker.

And yes, that thing can be alcohol or drugs or, you know, anorexia in my case, but I don't think it has to be.

I think it could be, you know, you're interrupting me all the time or you're overworking or you're

just doing something

that is blocking something else.

And I think that something else is usually connection.

But I think it is like a moment arrives in our lives, big or small, when someone says to us, like, there's something you're doing down here that I think is keeping you from this treasure that might be on the other side of the blockage.

If you

get the treasure, then you might be able to like live deeper or truer or freer.

But there's this like quest that you have to go on first to get it.

And I think most, a lot of people don't accept the invitation.

And the question arises then, like, how do you know when it's an invitation for a blocker that you should pay attention to and accept?

Or when is it just something that is bullshit, that's criticism, that you're like, stat,

that you just say, no, I'm good.

And the only answer I can come up with that is that you just always know.

Yeah.

It's the dragon.

It's the dragon in the middle of the snow globe that you're like, if I'm really quiet by myself, what is the thing that I'm not saying out loud that I know to be true?

Exactly.

When I think about every person who's come to me to say, like, well, is this, is it a problem?

Like, is it, do you think this thing is a problem?

I always know that that person knows if it's a problem or not.

It's like people who think,

you know, I don't know.

I mean, I've spent all year thinking about whether I have a drinking problem and I just don't, I don't know.

I don't think I do.

And I'm like, well, I don't know if people who don't have drinking problems spend all year wondering if they have a drinking problem.

So there's that moment where you decide whether you're going to accept this invitation.

And I think that even that

acceptance or not acceptance is so hard

because you have to get over an ego thing

because it's not like this invitation is coming from an angel who's like, blah, blah, blah, you have been invited to a quest.

It's like usually someone telling you that you're being an asshole or you're telling yourself.

Yes.

Except this is also a relationship with yourself too.

Yeah.

Or that you're hurting yourself or hurting somebody else.

So you got to kind of get out of your ego to even see the invitation

instead of just the insult in it.

But if you can get past that ego part,

then therein lies this invitation to recovering some part of ourself that we were supposed to be or some part of life that we were meant to have.

A recovery is like a reclaiming.

of what could have always been.

Yeah.

The origin of that word is to salvage or to rescue.

It's like you salvage a treasure.

If you can search through the place and salvage it, you're regaining a thing that was lost.

So many of us are every day.

We know some of the things that we want to work on, some of the things that we struggle with, whether it's relational or personal.

How does one

think about their ego?

Because maybe some of the listeners.

might feel confused even about that.

What is the ego?

How do you keep it in check so that you can actually see the invitation when it arrives?

I think the ego is the part of you that like holds on tight,

that is like, I, that, whatever that thing is, it's part of my identity.

And the ego says, I'm, I'm trying my best, I'm doing good enough.

I'm good enough.

It's good enough.

You know, it's like protective, I think.

The ego is like protective of something.

Or defensive.

Yeah, and defensive.

The

true self is like soft and a little bit curious.

Right.

Two.

Two, defensive and judgmental.

Yeah.

Versus open and curious.

And longing and yearning for something better.

And practically speaking, it makes sense that that's such a struggle because a lot of people who have developed these coping mechanisms that aren't working, whether it's eating disorders or drinking or overworking or whatever.

we've developed them honestly to protect ourselves.

And then when people come come to us and say, what you're doing is hurting me or obnoxious or messing up your relationship with me,

we are defensive of ourselves because we're like,

wait, why should I make the world perfect for you?

It wasn't perfect for me.

And then it becomes this cycle where if you're motivated by preserving your relationships or you're motivated by making someone else feel better or making yourself more palatable to someone, it's never going to sustain.

It has to be because you believe it could be better for you.

And that's where the ego gets out of the way.

If you're like, no, I deserve a better life,

I know deep in my bones that things could feel more peaceful and real and less frantic for me.

That's when you're like integrated in the this is what I want.

And that's the moment of knowing.

That's what I meant by people know or they don't.

You know, it's this interesting

backwards and forwards motion.

I mean, the reason why it's so scary to accept the invitation

is because you know something terrifying is coming next if you do that, because that's why it's the ego is fearful.

It wants to hold on to this thing that a previous version of you has decided you need.

A previous version of you has decided you need to drink to survive.

You need to overeat to survive.

You need to restrict.

You need to interrupt.

You need to keep people out.

Like yourself

has decided that as a sound judgment, yeah,

might needed to

use those things to survive.

I've heard you say that before, and that is one of the truest statements about recovery that I've ever heard.

Because

deciding to give

your go at recovery is deciding with no evidence that you can live without something that you cannot live without.

This is why I consider

invitations into recovery

some kind of cosmic honor.

I feel honored by it when it happens because what it is to me

is

whatever you want to call it, God, the universe, your people, whatever.

Looking at you

and all your coping mechanisms and all the things that you have decided correctly that you needed to survive up to this point

and saying,

She's ready.

She's ready now

to live without this blocker.

She wasn't ready before.

She needed that shit.

But to me, it's like the universe tapping me and being like, oh, she's ready to level up.

She's ready to

enter into this faith leap.

with

no evidence at all that she can live without something that a previous version of her decided she could certainly not live without.

I think that's so important.

I want to say it again.

Recovery is so courageous

and nonsensically faithful and wild

because it is deciding with no evidence to live without something that you cannot live without.

Exactly.

The reason you need to live without it is because you can't live without it.

yes the reason you're so worried about your drinking is because you know you can't stop drinking that's right and so you're just deciding okay i'm gonna do that thing and that's the wilderness right that's that miracle that's the miracle because it's ridiculous it's the biggest act of faith and that's why it's so hard for so many people that are at the edge having to make that leap That's why it's so hard.

And I want to just say to the people out there who don't make that leap,

that this is the hardest step to take.

I just want to be conscious of those listening that are still struggling, that haven't made the choice.

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So it's like when people say to me, well, I cannot stop this thing.

I cannot stop drinking.

I cannot.

I didn't.

I'm like, yes, you are correct.

You are, I get that.

You are absolutely right.

It's just that when you enter into recovery,

that quote, let me fall if I must, the woman I am becoming will catch me.

You are throwing yourself into this abyss,

trusting that the person that comes out is going to be the one that can live without the boost.

Knowing full well that you can't,

that a new self is going to have to be born after this fucking dark night of the soul that's about to come.

Because if you do take that ridiculous leap of faith that there is a forward version of yourself that is going to be able to live without this thing, that's going to be a happier, freer version of yourself.

But first, you have to take this leap.

There's no cart before the horse.

You get rewarded

for this amazing act of courage

with withdrawal.

Fuck.

Okay.

Yes.

Exactly what you're saying applies not just to strictly recovery things.

Like when you think about when you know you need to leave your spouse, but you absolutely cannot leave your spouse.

That's recovery.

It's that whole world.

Like you cannot live without them.

You cannot live without this life you made.

And then you go ahead and do.

It's the same phenomenon.

I'm going to throw myself off the cliff and just assume that the person I'm going to become after is going to be at the bottom of the cliff and is going to catch me.

And that there's a bunch of shit that's going to happen in that fall

that's going to change me into a different woman by the time I catch myself at the bottom.

And so you trust that.

I don't even know if it's trust.

This is this ridiculous hunch.

It's a devil's bargain.

Right.

You can't stay.

You can't leave.

So here the fuck goes.

You could stay.

You could, though.

You're going to go see about it.

Most people stay.

Most people stay.

Oh, you're going to go see about a girl who's yourself.

I get it.

I'm with you.

So what I want to say about the next part.

The reward of withdrawal.

The reward of this leap of faith is the shittiest shit that ever shitted.

Okay.

I'm just coming to you.

The shittiest shit that ever shot from shitter time.

Thank you.

And by the way, let's think about this like, you know, I freaking love a metaphor.

So if you think about, you know, all those movies you see where the person's literally in withdrawal and you're like, just hang in there.

Just hang in there.

You're going to come out.

Just make it through this night.

We all know you're going to like, you know, the heroin's going to get out of you and you're going to be this.

I just watched this movie last night.

Yeah.

I'm like, do we?

Do we know that?

I've never had that experience.

Well, those of us who have been through many recovery situations know that there is this withdrawal period.

And when it's like a drug, it's very painful.

Well, yeah, but it's very obvious.

It's very literal.

Yeah.

When you're leaving a bad relationship or you're even recovering from anorexia, the withdrawal is much different.

It's just as hellacious, but it's just like this long, drawn-out shit show where you can't,

all your coping mechanisms are gone.

It's this transition period where you've stopped doing the thing that you needed to live with and you haven't replaced it with anything else yet.

And you haven't become the person you need to be to fall.

And so it's very tempting to want to turn around and grab back onto the edge and just sort of crawl your way back up there and decide to live there.

It's like this, the free fall lasts for a very long time, and you just are this like sniveling, shaky, cranky,

terrified, sweaty, newborn self, which is very interesting

because it is a rebirth.

Yeah, you are actually becoming a different version of yourself.

So,

it is strange to me to think about

how

small and clueless and just a

bundle of tears and reflexes and instincts that you are during that time.

Yeah.

You're like a little baby deer.

Yeah.

And it feels like nothing's happening.

And the thing is that everything is happening.

I don't even know what else to say except for everything is happening during that time.

Like you're just becoming the person who knows more than your last self did.

I know you say it's hellacious, but what are some other words that you can describe the last couple of months?

It's been six months, hasn't it?

It's felt different

at different times.

I have felt like this is absolutely pointless, that

I'm never gonna

become.

What happens when you're in withdraw is you're left with yourself.

I just read a study that said people would prefer to be electrically shocked over and over again than to be alone with their thoughts.

Wow.

That people chose that.

You can fact check that, sister, but I know.

Oh, I sure will.

It is a terrifying thing to live without the thing that you decided that you needed to survive because you are just a raw nerve.

And then what happens is a lot rises up that was there before.

but that you pushed down with this blocker.

And the universe has decided that now you can deal with that shit.

Why did you decide to stay?

Well, I think this really cool thing happens when you get out of the first parts of withdrawal, which is like you can kind of feel this new self being born.

And it's like this new self has new eyes that can kind of see or feel this like outline of the treasure that you're about to get.

There's a time when you can start to see something

that feels real, that is like

your reward.

It's unclear, but it's there.

And the more work you do and the more you stay with yourself and let yourself fall, the clearer it becomes.

And then it starts to become like colored in.

And then you like start to feel

that it's real.

You can start to feel yourself becoming.

And when you start to feel yourself becoming, which is the reward for the quest you've been on, which i love that the quest is just you know the word that means question it's really just a question what if i didn't need this thing what if i let myself what if i left what if i starts with a deep question

i don't know the answer starts to become clear i guess what's on the other side of it and that thing becomes more alluring than the thing behind you

And you're also free to ask questions, right?

Even that idea of quest, like most of what we're doing when we're scared

that we need to make a change that we're not willing to say out loud is avoiding questions.

Yes.

There is a large sack of forbidden questions that we cannot say to ourselves or others.

But when you're going on that path, it's like suddenly there's fewer questions that are scarier to ask.

You're capable of like facing the questions finally.

When you asked me what withdrawal is like, the truth of it was that

I had to taking away all of my control things and this fake life that I had made around like food and body and whatever, because it's just like this little world that I had made up to avoid my actual world.

What happened is that a lot of shit came up.

A lot of painful stuff from my childhood, stuff from my teenage years, stuff from my college years, stuff from my drinking years, stuff from my drugging years, memories that I don't even know if they're real.

When you are drunk for so long and you are an addiction for so long, I get flashes of things and I'm like, wait, oh my God, did that fucking happen?

I don't even know.

Okay.

And

painful things that I

have explained away.

I'm just a sensitive human being without looking at all of the things that I that happened in my life that

maybe I was just responding humanly to, not overly sensitively to.

I would go for walks.

I've talked about this, where withdraw felt like just allowing every ghost in the world to visit you and just having no doors to close any of it out.

And

allowing that over and over, just days and weeks.

In therapy, I just, I felt like

I just got sober and I just was like, Okay, now I'm a grown-up and I'm just gonna like move forward.

And it was like there was a kid inside me that was like, We were never ready to move forward, we didn't talk about any of this shit.

And like, anorexia was the grown-up that was like, Get your shit together, we are doing this thing, we have no time for this.

We have children, we have a job, we are gonna do the thing.

And then, when I

stopped that, it was like the resurrection of this self, this young self that was like, We have so much to work out.

And I would walk and I would talk to my therapist, talk to Abby.

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During this withdrawal time,

I kept thinking about the judge in the Larry Nassar trial during my withdrawal time, which

was those days where I was just walking on the beach for like way too long and like in the fetal position a lot,

remembering, remembering, remembering.

And then I felt like this

younger version of myself was just demanding to be heard,

just demanding that I stay with her for a little while and we just kind of go through her life.

And I kept thinking about Judge Rosemary Aquilina, who was the judge in the Larry Nassar trial.

So the Larry Nassar trial was that trial of the doctor

of the gymnastics national team and several college teams and had been a doctor forever of young gymnasts and he abused them,

hundreds of them.

for forever.

And these incredibly brave, amazing women just came forward and they had a trial.

And once a few women came forward, then a ton more women came forward and they kept coming forward, me too, me too, me too, me too.

And they were this like sisterhood of

survivors.

And this judge decided not to only choose a couple of them to tell their stories.

She decided that every single last one of those women got to come to the front of the courtroom and tell her story.

And then 150

ended up speaking.

And they sat in that courtroom.

And Larry Nassar, by the way, he said, this is too hard for me.

The judge in nicer words said, fuck you, sit down.

Okay.

So

every woman got to stand up and tell her story.

And

nothing was going to be fixed.

It just was the telling and having the witnesses.

I think somebody I heard once say, the truth live outside your body.

And she said, after this one woman told her story and she was crying and the judge said, leave your pain here and go out and do your magnificent things.

And I think that

withdraw

done best would be like that.

If every single pod squatter could just have their own freaking beautiful hearing where like some judge would let them speak all of their pain and then bless them to go out and do their magnificent things.

That is what withdraw feels like for me this time.

And I'll tell you this, like I, in my therapy, the way it was going, I loved it.

It was wonderful, but I didn't feel like there was enough space for me to do that.

And so I'm changing.

I need the kind of therapy where my younger self gets to show up for as long as she wants and tell every story she needs to tell.

For if it takes three years, great.

That's what needs to happen.

I need to go back before I can go forward.

And that's why this recovery will be different.

Because I'm not just trying to do a bunch of strategies.

I'm allowing that self to speak.

You know, it's so interesting about the part that I remember from those proceedings is that one of the women was saying, like, Where were the adults?

Why didn't the adults listen to us?

We were just kids and we were trying to get their attention and tell them about this.

And the judge said, I'm an adult and I'm listening.

I'm sorry it took this long.

You were never the problem, but you are so much the solution.

And if you go through a bunch of stuff and no one is there to pay attention to the stuff,

then you are viewed as the problem

and you believe you're the problem and you act out as if you're the problem for a really long time.

Yes.

And then

you become your own solution.

Yes.

And I think

that the reason why I have to go back to go forward

is because I want to be able to create a life

that is as weird as I am.

I want to be able to live differently than other people if that is what I need.

Like, I want to be able to make decisions that are different than the culture, if that is what I need.

But I have to start trusting myself completely in order to do that.

And in order to really trust myself, I have to go back.

My younger self needs to go back and figure out why she wasn't the problem,

that she isn't crazy.

What that judge said to those women that you just said

is what I need to finally believe.

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One of the things that I've just been so amazed about watching you go through this process is

you were going to your therapy and you'd come out and you kept questioning like, I don't know, I just feel like I have to go back.

And it feels like you have to go back, unlock the door where this child has been locked away and say, come out.

Let's sit down and talk.

And let's get the story straight.

And let's get to know each other and understand what the fuck happened.

And I want you to know that you weren't ever the problem.

And I just want you to have a voice.

I want you to have.

whatever it is you need so that we can both move forward together.

Yes.

And what's beautiful about that is that, in an imperfect way of looking at it, it's this idea of shifting responsibility, this idea of like, okay, I'm going to go back and figure out who fucked up my little kid because this is not cool.

And we're going to do it.

And I did.

And I was there for a while.

I was there for a long while.

Yeah.

Right.

But really, it's about

complete accountability to yourself.

Yeah.

Because whether you are hiding from yourself or whether you're blaming your parents or society or whatever it is for the reason that you are not living your healthiest life,

you are still not wholly

integrated and you're still not trusting yourself because you're giving everyone else the accountability and the responsibility and the ability to drive you.

Whereas if you say, I'm going to listen to you.

I'm going to be your solution.

I'm taking you in me.

And we are going to be responsible for ourselves.

Yes.

Then you can trust yourself because it's not up to anyone else.

Yeah, it's full responsibility.

And it starts with a question: like you said, why do I do these things?

I do.

Why do I, why do I, why do I?

We're going to find out.

We're going to find out.

And then we're going to get the life that we want, how we want it.

And then we're going to fully be responsible for that.

So

that's why people don't go through with

that's why it's the dark night of the soul.

And look, like I just, it takes so much.

It takes so much time.

It takes so much energy.

It takes so much money.

Like therapy.

Makes sense why people turn back, grab onto the ledge and crawl back to their old life.

Yeah, it does.

I'm starting to be able to see what the treasure is

on the other side.

Like

the big learning of this.

And it, of course, has nothing to do with food or any of that.

It's like there's the dragon and then there's the thing behind the dragon.

And you have to slay the dragon, which is the thing they're doing.

But then the thing you get is completely different.

Like it never had anything to do with drinking or booze or shopping or food.

It's a different level of living.

It's a different level of being human.

I didn't mean to talk about all of that today.

So

I have a whole nother thing to talk about, which is this treasure, this new self-learning.

What the treasure is, you mean?

Yes.

Okay.

And so what we'll do is we'll come back.

Hashtag cliffhanger.

Hashtag cliff cliffhanger.

Literally.

Oh my God.

That's what we're talking about.

Jumping off cliffs and shit.

Okay.

So I love you all.

Thank you for listening to that.

Come back and I'll give you the treasure.

I'm proud of you.

I love you.

Love you too.

We can do hard things.

Bye.

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I give you Tish Melton and Brandi Carlisle.

I walked through fire, I came out the other side.

I chased desire,

I made sure

I got what's mine.

And I continue

to believe

that I'm the one for me.

And because I'm mine,

I walk the line.

Cause we're adventurers and heartbreaks on map.

A final destination

we lack.

We've stopped asking directions

to places they've never been.

And to be loved, we need to be known.

We'll finally find our way back home.

And through the joy and pain

that our lives bring,

we can do a heart again.

I hit rock bottom, it felt like a brand new start.

I'm not the problem,

sometimes things fall apart.

And I continue to believe

the best

people are free.

And it took some time,

but I'm finally fine.

Cause we're adventurers and heartbreaks on that.

A final destination

we lack.

We stopped asking directions

to places they've never been.

And to be loved, we need to be known.

We'll finally find our way back home.

And through the joy and pain

that our lives bring,

we can do a hard

thing.

Adventures and heartbreaks on that.

We might get lost, but we're okay with that.

We've stopped asking directions

in some places

they've never been.

And to be loved, we need to be known.

We'll finally find our way back home.

And through the joy and pain

that our lives

bring,

we can do hard things.

Yeah, we can do hard things.

Yeah, we

can do

hard

things.