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Because you have asked us so many times for this, and because

my therapist has asked me to practice being more embodied,

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Okay, you guys.

So here we go.

We're doing this.

We are in video.

We are embodied.

We're going to all hang out together.

I think what you do is you just like turn on your computer, go to YouTube, and then put us on your counter.

They also have it on the counter.

And we can all just hang out together.

So two new video episodes every week.

It's a new chapter.

We'd love for you to join us.

We'll see you on YouTube.

Yeah, yeah.

Are we going?

We're going.

Is it happening?

It's all happening.

Okay, well, hi everybody.

Welcome to We Can Do Hard Things.

For some of you, this will feel the same and for some of you you will be seeing our faces yes we are on video now

which is the single most requested thing from the pod squad is that we record this in a way that we can all be together sort of in person which is what is happening now so we're on your screen hi how do we look Look, you're right there and we're right here.

Amanda, your background.

I'm just obsessed with your background.

It's beautiful.

Ours is wanting.

We're going to fix it eventually.

Maybe.

Yeah.

This is all about growing together.

Oh, it has been.

This little nook over here, I feel like when you do a behind the scenes, this little

window nook is where I did the last 450 episodes.

Just sitting crisscross applesauce in my son's nook

in his bedroom.

And then this behind me used to have a bunch of baseball trophies until like six six hours ago when I was like, sorry, Bobby, this is the only space in the house that will work.

And so now it has my thing.

So I feel like I have like a space, even though it's inside his space, which feels like an analogy for life.

So this is where I am.

A studio of one's own, sister.

A studio of one's own in a small corner of your 13-year-old's bedroom.

Yes, and we have graduated from Chase's room to the basement.

Yes.

So that feels like something.

It does.

It does feel like something.

He is home and so we were out of there.

Yeah.

So we're trying this thing which feels,

well, for some people, this will just feel like another episode.

For us, it kind of feels like the beginning of a new season.

We are in video.

We are in the basement.

We are trying this, as I said, because the pod squad requested it so much.

And it feels kind of exciting, like a little bit more maybe embodied

because you're not just hearing our voices our bodies are here and there's good things about that and there's challenging things about that i was thinking about this morning like what

well i know that embodiment is all the rage

having a body it's like a new trend hashtag bodies for humans yeah everyone thinks we should do it like we should be in our bodies and show up in our bodies and bodies bodies sure great it might be something we're overdoing i mean you know we were all about boundaries and then we overdid that.

We could be overdoing embodiment.

And I would like to make a small case for disembodiment, which is

that.

Said no therapist ever.

Well, I think maybe artists have think about that because,

you know, the thing I loved about love, all loved about writing is that, I know, I know.

About writing is that, you know, you don't have to bring your body.

Your thoughts just go out to people without your physical self.

It's like your ideas go in and then out into the world.

Yeah.

And then in podcasting, you just send your voice out to people.

Yeah, but your body's making the art.

Your body's making the podcast and the books.

Correct, but your body is not being perceived by the world.

Like you're not

perceived in any way.

Okay, your body is not the object.

It's the words.

The ideas.

And the ideas.

It's like the way of getting your insides to other people without your physical presence getting in the way is how i feel about it

um and i think it's the yake that's funny and weird but also for women it is a thing no people react to

bodily things first and don't even get to the insides wow i've never thought of it like that right so there is a case for it actually in some ways being a more pure form of communication to me when you get your body out of the way and it's just like mind to mind heart to heart spirit to spirit wow does that does that sound ridiculous to you Amanda no I'm just thinking about all the pieces of that because in some ways then does it make it

if the body is necessarily which it is

a political

structure, right?

Because even the fact that women show up in their bodies presenting themselves and their art and their ideas and they are immediately

judged and policed based on their bodies, then

doing it

outside of your body.

What does that mean for the political act of writing or showing up?

Yeah, I hear that too.

So really, the important thing about women is that we don't show up in our bodies and we also don't show up not in our bodies and then everything will be fine.

So is that why a lot of women, like, is this another reason why a lot of women would like hyphenate their names to pretend not to be a woman?

Oh, you mean, you mean create a different name?

Yeah, like an alias or like they like hyphenate their names.

Sure.

Sure.

Like, okay, if anyone has not seen Jinx

and the Jinx and Z-Way interview, where Jinx, who is a freaking genius,

explains how J.K.

Rowling actually

changed her fucking name so that she'd present to the world as a man because she wanted to be perceived as a different gender

so she's basically trans.

Okay?

That's not what Jinx said.

Jinx said it better, but just go to the interview

with Jinx and Z-Way.

Okay.

Anyway, when we watched that interview, Glennon stood up and ran around the living room like, why hasn't anybody ever said that?

That's it.

Jinxing.

I know, but people have been doing that for hundreds of years.

You You know, the pen names that are not in order to even be published.

So it's a very interesting.

Yeah, but Amanda, then those people maybe who change their names to more masculine names so that the world will accept them and celebrate them as they do men don't spend the rest of their lives on a crusade against trans people.

And that's what J.K.

Rowling has done.

So that's why it's so delicious.

That yes, framed it.

It is.

Yes, it is.

Okay.

Sorry, I got us off track there.

No, I liked it.

I loved when you get us off track.

Off track is often where we need to be.

all who wander are not lost

um

here we are embodied at the beginning of what we are considering this new season and i was thinking this morning and a lot over the last weeks that one of the things i'd like to do more of this season with the two of you is just talk to you just have conversations about what we're really feeling and going through and seeing in the world, and trying to make things a little bit less episodes and more just like us being together and conversational.

Oh boy.

What do you guys think about that?

I mean, I think that fits with this whole embodied thing.

Like, if you were just gonna

plop on a couch with the people in your life

who are the ones who are like, I really need some of them right now, you know, that's what I

friends who are either

the ones that you have to go to to be like,

you're going to tell me the truth about what's going on in your life.

And that makes me feel brave enough to tell me, to tell you the truth about what's going on in my life.

It's just, there's something really therapeutic about just sitting down and doing that as opposed to

always, you know, presenting and performing and

intellectualizing everything.

I think that's probably what we need now to stay a little more human.

Yeah.

I love it.

I think that, I mean, we've done almost 500 episodes and they've been so beautiful.

And I've often said that sometimes our pre-call meetings about the episodes where we're kind of mulling through it, where we're just like kind of free and we're not like thinking about

what's that?

What are we going to say here?

You know, like

those free conversations are often my most favorite.

Yeah.

Because we're like really kind of wrestling with something and it takes us wherever it takes us.

So I love this.

This is basically the way I want to live my life.

Right.

Where there's just like not really

a plan necessarily that we're just living minute and second to second.

Yeah, I was just thinking about how

you know I one of the great

joys and

shocks of my life is that we've had this community of people that we're doing life with

that is now, you know, over the last 20 years, it's been called a bunch of different things and it will continue to change.

And it's been called the pod squad the last few years.

And it sometimes feels like we're meant to just walk each other through these times.

And

when we are having the conversations that we have, the three of us off the pod

about the moment we're in, and about the pain and the anger and the feeling and all of it.

And then we get on the pod and we're like, and now the episode is about blah, blah, blah.

It's like, no, no, what everybody needs is to have those

messy conversations just on this and not switch to a different mode.

And then I just think that that might help all of us feel a little less alone during this.

really difficult time.

So we'll just try that and see how that goes.

That's exciting.

Yeah.

I mean, you said we're scrapping the plan today.

And so just go with me.

Go with it.

And I was like, holy shit.

This is exciting.

Yeah, we had a whole different plan this morning, actually, like 20 minutes ago.

And then I was like, that doesn't feel right.

So,

you know, speaking of

tricky times,

what I would like to

launch this new season with is just that

I would love some grace from the pod squad during this time.

I have, as I've mentioned

on the social media and on tour, been living at an interesting intersection

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if you like looked at a Venn diagram, you would see me at the intersection of

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And then

and then also there's a third one which is empty nesting.

So

I'm just going to say that again.

Fascism,

menopause, and empty nesting.

That's what we call a triple threat.

Yeah, it has made me a threat.

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I spend all the days, just all the days, just cycling between rage and fear and hopelessness and euphoria for one second and exhaustion.

And it's just an absolute I have lost whoever the hell I was before all this happened.

And it's been going on for a very long time, and you have been incredibly patient.

And,

you know a while back i was i was actually in the bathroom this is months ago

before

before tour before everything and i was brushing my teeth or something just exhausted because i hadn't slept the night before because

well because okay so i was listening to this bruce springsteen song the other day and the lyric is

Sometimes it's like someone's taken a knife, baby, edgy and dull, and run a six

something through the middle of my skull.

Valley through the middle of my skull.

At night, I wake up with my sheets soaking wet and a freight train running through the middle of my head.

No.

And I'm like, was Bruce Springsteen in paramenopause?

Like, this is...

I'm on fire.

That's about right.

I'm on fire.

The boss knows it all.

He covers it all.

Anyway, that's how I just felt all the time.

And then

what has tended to get me through is art actually it's cheesy but true and it's not cheesy I was in the background there was this Florence and the Machine song on called Free

and Abby knows like this has become my

something touchstone during this time she's coming out with the new album soon I know I saw that so exciting And it was the song Free.

The first lines are sometimes I wonder if I should be medicated,

If I would feel better, just slightly sedated,

which I think about every four minutes.

My life was better when I was sedated.

Was it?

Yes.

There are a few things in life that are black and white.

Life sedated,

incontrovertibly, yes.

That's why we did it for so long.

It was better.

Apologist for disembodiment and

But there's this part

where

she says, is this how it is?

Is this how it's always been to exist in the face of suffering and death and somehow still keep singing?

And then a little bit later, she says, there's nothing else that I know how to do but to open up my arms and give it all to you.

And in that moment, brushing my teeth, but there's nothing else that I know how to do, but to open up my arms and give it all to you, I

thought of the tour.

It was like the first hopeful, creative vision,

moment of vision that I had had in the midst of this onslaught of just horror in this country.

And I ran upstairs to Abby and was like, we have to do a tour.

We're going to do a tour.

We have to do a tour.

It was just that moment of thinking about all of these beautiful people that we have done life with for so long and saying, I don't have a fucking clue.

Like I have no answers.

I have

no wisdom.

All I know is that

we have to find a way

in the face of all of this suffering and death to still keep singing

and

that I have no idea what we're going to do except open up our arms and give it all to each other.

And I just had this vision of us just like this with all of the pod squad in the audience and us just together.

And so

we planned the tour.

A lot of you came and saw us and we came and saw you in all of your cities.

It's the best time I've had in a long time.

It was so special, really.

It's the best time I've had in a long time.

What did you love about it?

I don't know.

Well, first of all, it was nice to get a different scenery.

Like, I love you guys, and this is great.

But, like, it was nice to know you in a different place other than this and to experience like going to dinner and having conversations and then to be in those theaters around this country.

Like, it's the same way I feel when I'm watching women's sports and going to a women's sports event.

There's just this, I'm not alone,

a true sense of belonging that I have not felt in a long time since maybe the last time I I played sports.

What about you?

I felt really energized.

I felt very invigorated.

I felt like,

you know, there's that quote that hopelessness is a result of most people believing that most people don't care.

And being in those rooms, it was like, oh no,

we look at this.

All of us care deeply.

And if all of us knew that all of us cared deeply,

all of us would not

think of hopelessness.

We would be thinking of other things.

And so I think that that is part of the struggle right now is that it's

that

most people believe that most people don't care.

And I think that that's horseshit.

I think most people do care.

And I think we're not seeing the images of that.

And when you're all in that space, you just have incontrovertible proof that we exist and that we are a fearsome bunch when we're together and that there is so much possibility.

And I just kept thinking of that

quote of, you know, every generation.

has to decide like what its purpose is, what its mission is.

And I spent a really long time being like, I remember even before this is a weird thing, but like growing up, I just remember being so confused how some people just lived their whole lives during the Great Depression and being like, what a kick in the shorts, man.

Of all the places and times to be born, and you just drew the short straw and you're a Great Depression life.

Like, that sucks.

And then,

and just thinking of all the eras in which that would be like a real hard draw.

And then

being here in this moment of fascism, of genocide, of a real

tipping, turning point of our nation and

thinking,

oh no, wait, this is this is our thing.

You know, and you can feel real bad about it.

You can feel like, oh, I wish this weren't the case case and I certainly wish it weren't.

But also, you can also just say, am I going to step up into my place in this?

This is who I am.

I'm an American born in this time.

What do I have to say about this?

And what is my role in this?

And am I going to

take on what is clearly my generational

invitation?

to be part of this.

And it just felt like in those moments, in those groups, it's like, okay,

this is

what this time is calling for,

is for us to decide who we are.

And like, there's a real kind of

activation in that because there's a lot of,

there's a lot of ways you could look at this as a time of

pression and a time of

things happening to us.

And then when you switch your perspective and you're like,

no, we are in this time.

Yes.

We are actors in this time.

If we are doing nothing, we are also actors in this time that are facilitating this continuing.

And so it just felt like,

all right,

here we are.

What's our plan?

And what's our posture?

And

look at these beautiful people that we can do this with.

Yeah.

Wow.

Yeah.

It felt very...

That was good.

We were, we were talking during that tour.

There was a moment after we decided it and we got that little human spark back in us.

Well, it reminds me of that story I love to tell about the Vietnam War.

During the Vietnam War, there was a man who every single night stood outside the White House with one single candle.

just by himself, like a little alone vigil.

And he did it every night, show up like at sunset and just stand there with his little candle.

And eventually the media caught on, and somebody came to him and said,

Sir, what are you doing here every night with your one candle?

Do you actually think that your one little candle is going to change this war, is going to change this administration?

And he said, Oh, I don't do this to change them.

I come here every night with my little candle so that they don't change me.

And

I think it was, I think about that all the time.

And then it was shortly after that that Lillian from Florence, the Florence Project, the Immigration, Incredible Immigration Group that has been working so hard.

And if you've been listening to this podcast, you know that we have been working with them to make sure that the little ones who are representing themselves right now in court because the Trump administration has removed even their the funding to have representation for them during their

they're not even deportation hearings anymore.

They're just disappearing them.

She reached out and asked for our involvement, and then we just immediately knew that the whole tour should be for these babies, that we were going to make sure that every penny that

we made through tickets, through merch, all of it, all the profit would go to Lillian and her network of groups that were showing up for these kids, which is what we've...

It just felt so correct that in a moment of extreme greed, of extreme division,

of extreme fear that there has to be an equal, an opposite, like either we cave to that or we come with the opposite of that, which is just boundless open-heartedness and solidarity and love

and

sharing.

I mean, that feels like a simple word, but

and then we were

feeling so

everybody can be forgiven for feeling like they don't know where to start because the onslaught has been so

every day you wake up and it's a million different things and and you're it feels like the whole world's on fire.

You don't know where to put your water.

You don't know

and and so

it's sometimes easier just to to shut down because you think, how are we going to resist this?

How are we going to resist this onslaught?

And then while we were on tour, I reread this essay that Michelle Alexander had written.

And if you went to the tour, you know this moment because we started every night with this story, which is that Michelle Alexander during the first Trump administration wrote an essay about how

since the beginning of time, there has been a pull and a way of things, an energy, which she calls the river.

And the way of things is, is sort of love and justice and equality.

And

that is

the order, right?

That is God.

That is

energy.

That is source.

That is what

the greatest

flow

that we are meant to surrender to is.

That's what, you know, the moral arc of the universe that bends towards justice.

That is what everyone is talking about when they are saying there is an ordering, that that is the river.

Okay, that there is a force that seeks to stop that.

There is always a force that seeks to stop freedom and stop justice and stop love.

And that is the dam.

That is the resistance.

We,

those of us who

wish for progress in the form of love and unity and mutual care are not the resistance.

We are the river.

The side that wishes to stop that and builds the dam against it.

They are the resistance.

That is the resistance.

If you have to continuously make all of these laws and separate people and blah, blah, blah, that's the dam.

Right.

Right.

The flow

is love.

And yet, I think I thought about all of that essay and I think, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.

But also there is something, there is a human, it's like faith without works is dead.

And the river without human beings getting in the river, building boats and getting in the river is dead.

Right?

Like God, that flow, that river needs our

involvement.

And so I started thinking about like, what if we thought about

this time

as

all of us who are working towards

justice, love,

community, freedom are, we are on the river.

We are in a fleet of ships.

Okay, we are in a fleet of ships.

We're going to call this the freedom fleet.

Okay, this freedom fleet are people who have felt the river,

but knew it wasn't enough just to look at it, started building boats, right, to harness the power of the river, to move humanity forward.

through this fleet.

And the fleet is made up of so many different ships.

There's, you know, there's a Black Liberation ship.

There's a queer rights ship.

There's a Protect Higher Education ship.

There's a Free Palestine ship.

There's

on and on and on.

There's so many different ships.

There's an immigration ship.

There's all of you, I hope, right now, are thinking of 700 more ships that are all part of this freedom fleet, right?

And

the point of the fleet is that it is either it is one fleet, many ships, one fleet, that all the different ships are working together towards one goal to get humanity further.

And so

the rules of engagement on the fleet is that everybody in the fleet's job is to get as many people as humanly possible from the shore into the fleet.

Okay, because every American right now is either a freedom fleeter, a shore stander, or a dam builder.

And I doubt that there's many dam builders listening to this podcast anymore.

God help you.

If you are, this is not a safe space for you.

Okay.

We are not trying to disclose.

Our job

in whatever ship we're in

is not just to strategize and to organize and to protest and to boycott, although of course we are doing those things.

But our other job is to, in these boats, to make

life in the boat,

in the fleet, so irresistible, that we are loving each other so hard, that we are dancing, that we are singing, that we are so

irresistible, what Tony Cade Bambara used to call the irresistible revolution, that we are, or the beloved community during the civil rights era, that we are so irresistible that the people from the shore cannot help but want to jump aboard.

And the way that we do that is that we make sure that every time another ship comes by us in the distance or up close that we are not yelling at them for not being in our ship because we need them in their ship and we need to be in our ship and so the only thing we're yelling at them is go go go we are with you one fleet many ships and when we get into the ship all we have to do is say

permission to come aboard because every ship already has a bunch of captains.

These are the people, these are the democracy defenders that have been building these ships, womaning these ships, leading these ships forever in all times, not just these dumpster fire years, but all times.

And so when we get aboard, we are just humble duck hands.

We say, you tell me what to do, right?

People like us, we are not the captains.

They're captains of these.

We might be like on the dock going, everybody get your asses in the boats.

That's what we are.

We're those people.

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Yes.

Book club is always

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Okay.

Yes.

Yes.

Okay.

So

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And then when the shore standers do, when they, when they find us so irresistible and they finally jump on board and they don't know what the hell they're doing because they are new here, we do not yell at them for not knowing something that we just learned seven minutes ago.

Yes.

Okay.

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There are so many different ways to think about this time.

All I'm telling you is the way that I'm thinking about this time, right?

Which is that I am so incredibly grateful to every single person who has taken their

place in the Freedom Fleet.

I am so grateful for the captains, right?

I sometimes find myself spending a lot more time in a certain boat or another when I feel very committed to the immigration ship, the immigration justice ship.

I feel extremely committed right now to the Free Palestine ship.

I have so many beautiful captains.

I will, however, we do things, I'll tag them in the thing.

I would love for the pod squad to tell us who is your captain?

What ship are you in?

Who is your captain?

Let's start calling them out so that other people who are shore standers who want to come aboard know who the captains are and can ask permission to come aboard.

I'm going to stop right now because I feel like I've been talking for 17 minutes.

What do you guys think?

I just love it so much.

I just think that,

first of all,

You're just incredible.

No, I just think, you know, I feel very lucky to be able to like

witness you feeling all of these feelings and to come to this

understanding

whilst

going through all of the stuff that you're going through

in your body, in the world.

Like, I don't know, I just, I feel, I feel extraordinarily lucky and you're right.

I think that

one of the frustrations that I see a lot is,

you know, this idea where a new person comes aboard, and because they might not have the language down yet, or they might be

new

and they don't understand,

I think something that the left really does a terrible job at is we are actually very exclusive.

at times in our ships.

And I think we need to become much more inclusive.

And if people get things things wrong, lovingly help them through that.

If people say something wrong, lovingly help them through that because we need numbers.

We need as many people on these ships as possible.

What are you thinking, sister?

So many things.

I mean, I'm thinking of

how

this

can feel like...

the thing we have to do.

And incidentally, we do have to do it.

I mean, if we want a democracy and

these types of things, we do have to do it.

But also, I feel like it's

the wrong

idea of it.

Because in terms of like a have to,

I'm thinking of this meme that I see that is like, I just keep thinking how

exponentially happier I'd be if I was stupid.

Like,

like, like that, these things going around that are like, oh, the beautiful, you know, blissful ignorance that appears to exist in many seems like a very covetous thing to have right now.

And, and studies show that to some extent that is true.

Left people in this time are

actually

sadder.

Their life is

not as good right now,

Except

people

who are in that position who get activated,

who get involved.

And then their life is actually

better,

self-reported, feelings of engagement and empowerment and joy are happier engaged.

So if you are sitting there feeling like, everything sucks, life is shit,

yes and yes.

And that doesn't mean stop there.

That means keep pushing because the actual

place where you are going to be happy and contented is when you get on a boat.

And that doesn't take away

that

heartbreak and sadness.

It actually gives a funnel through which to communicate what is your heartbreak and humanity that is being distorted and confused and gaslit right right now.

So, so like that is if you're if you're keep going because that is the studies show

the key to happiness.

And I think it's also just like there's this weird kind of cognitive dissonance right now that happens where I'm like, I'm worried about

genocide and democracy and due process

and

disappearances of my neighbors.

And also I like really want to redo my kitchen.

Yes.

There's this weird thing where there's this sort of shame that comes between what is our

things that we're like, that's stupid and petty and not important.

And then there's these unpetty and unstupid and important things.

And I feel like there's this kind of

self-shame that we do where we try to pretend like we're not human and we try to pretend like we don't care about petty things, and we try to pretend like we're not mad about things that we know in the light of global events shouldn't make us mad.

But I actually think it's all the same

thing.

I think the same part,

the same like

engine

that is trying to tell us that we should see pictures of genocide and not

freak out and not have our bodies just

crumble with despair.

The same thing that is trying to deny that is also trying to say, you're not a person who should care about dumb stuff because we do.

And whenever we're trying to like patch up and hide and only present what

is

palatable or acceptable or morally upright, it's like, it's like those are two sides of the same coin.

So I think we we can just admit that we are who we are and we can admit that we care about what we care about and we can admit that we're as like

weird and

inconsistent as humans are weird and inconsistent.

Because what is happening right now in the whole of things is we're

the whole ball game is to hold on to our humanity.

The whole ball game is to remain so human that certain things don't fail to break your your heart.

And remain so human that certain things don't fail to delight and bring you such joy and make you laugh like crazy.

And I feel like it's all part of this same

project

that is trying to be dismantled right now.

So I think it's just as important

that

we

care about what we care about, whether it's on the list or not of what what we should care about and that we find joy in wherever the hell we find joy whether it's on the list or not and it's not that you should have any guilt about having joy when these horrible things are happening in fact you must double down yes like we actually need to do that and we need to do that here we need to like we need to laugh and we need to find joy and we need to because the whole enterprise is trying to unhuman us yes yep and all of those things are of equal import.

So it's not like care about these things and pretend you don't care about the other things.

It's like care about all of it and there's room for all of it.

And all of it is deeply human.

And anything that is deeply human right now is vital to maintain.

The only way to save each other and ourselves right now

is to hold on dearly to the preciousness of life,

of life everywhere, of life

here, of immigrant families, of

queer families, of families in Palestine, of families in Sudan, of children everywhere.

The only way to hold on to the preciousness of every life is to hold dear to the preciousness of your own.

Those two are so

inextricable.

And

goal of fascism is to make us, to wear us down until we actually don't care about life anymore, until it just all goes gray.

And so

there is something about

holding on to like the neon of life, right?

I mean, when you were talking, I was thinking about the last time Lillian was at my house and we had spent all day organizing, organizing, organizing.

And then

what we did that night is we got in our pajamas and had huge bags of candy and chocolate.

And Abby made us tea and we watched, I think we watched Love Island.

Yeah.

Like, I'm not ashamed of that.

To me, that is the irresistible revolution.

Like, we were snuggling.

Is the Freedom Fleet just circling Love Island?

That was happening.

Because I feel like with you two, all roads lead to Love Island.

And I'm just wondering,

it feels like an interesting pairing.

All rivers.

I don't know.

I don't know, Amanda.

It's just absurd.

And there's something about absurdity.

And there was something about being in pajamas with Lillian after a long day of organizing and just shoving sugar and just being like, now it's time to rest and

gawk at these people that felt like the irresistible revolution to me is all I'm saying.

That's so funny.

So I think that's what we're going to do here.

And I also, I just want to say,

I have a deep

compassion for everyone who is not feeling loving right now.

There's something about me when I like see everybody just lashing out each other on social media when everybody's just that I'm like, yeah, I get it.

I don't feel any shaming of that at all right now.

Like every, I just.

What is going on is so barbaric and so, and it's, it's almost like some of the people who are most angry, I feel like are staying the most human, too.

There's a double thing here for me, too.

I think we have to be gentle with each other, and I also respect the rage.

So, I just want to say that, like, there's no part of me that thinks you should be nicer.

Like, I just, I know for me to survive this, and what I want to try to is like the harder the world gets, I just want to be as soft as humanly possible and

make space

for people to join.

And I also just want to say that it doesn't feel to me like hard or extra or another thing to do.

It feels like the way life was always meant to be.

Like there's something about

truly like surrendering, especially as white women, like giving up the idea of wellness as like.

like we're ever going to fucking juice or red red light or individual project our way to any sort of joy or peace and instead surrendering to these collective liberation movements as deck hands it's like you see

what community and life is supposed to feel like and all the promises from whatever bullshit we were doing

just look absurd compared to like the purpose and meaning and joy that that you experience and like on these ships.

So I just think we should stop there and pick this up the next time.

And I just want to say to the pod squad,

we're going to be freedom fleeting.

We're going to be absurding.

We're going to shamelessly be holding on to joy and love and nonsense while we

do the work on the deck.

And

it's a hard

time

to be alive.

We're going to dig in together.

We're going to get through this like we've always have.

And

I don't know.

It is truly an absolute honor to be doing life with you in this particular moment.

And I love both of you.

I'm sorry this is such a hard time.

You know, it's just, there's part of it that I want to unwind this season.

That's like, I feel like it's the exact right, as ridiculous as it is, this menopause thing, and as much as it pisses me off.

And I'm going to, I've already requested an entire episode where all I do is bitch about this menopause thing with no solutions.

I'm not ready for solutions yet.

It also feels like the right time for it.

When you,

the, the, one lucky thing for me is when you said the word kitchen countertops, I was like, oh, for the first time in my life, I don't give a fuck about any of that.

Like, I don't know what that means, but it's like there is a shedding of

all the horseshit during paramenopause that somehow leaves you with all that matters.

So

while I spend most of my days wishing I was sedated,

I'm deeply grateful to not be.

I think

that my

rage and inner homicidal self,

whether it's due to the fallen estrogen or the fall of democracy or some sort of combination.

I think I was made for such a time as this.

That's all I'm saying.

God bless the menopausers.

This is our time.

Okay.

All right, pod squad, would you please, if you were on a ship, would you tell us?

Where do they do this?

How do we do this with video now?

Where does this happen?

Are we on like in the cloud?

Are we?

So we're going to be...

We're in the cloud.

You're in the cloud.

We are in on the We Can Do Hard Things YouTube channel.

Put a comment there because this is where this video will live and this conversation.

And tell us who, what,

Boatrin, who's your captain.

Tell us also what you're doing to stay human.

Like what you're doing to feed yourself, to delight yourself, to fuel your humanity.

tell us all the things because that is our mission to feed

our own humanity and that includes defending um

everybody's humanity right now so um all of those things tell us them okay so we've got two metaphors we've got two metaphors going on people what ship are you in and who's your captain Secondly, what is the thing you're doing each day that is equivalent to the little candle in front of the White House?

Yeah, okay.

What's your daily vigil that feeds your own humanity?

And what ship are you in that's protecting all of humanity?

Go on the Instagram, We Can Do Hard Things Instagram and leave your comment there under this episode so we can gather all that up and share it with everybody.

We love you, pod squad.

We'll see you next time.

We'll see you.

Bye.

You'll see us.

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