AI Secrets That Transform Your Business Fast | Jeremy Sigal DSH #1389

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all right guys today's guest has done more time in prison than your favorite rapper made more money than your favorite business coach 75 arrests 10 years in prison adhd and autism jeremy segal thanks for coming on man yeah that's me uh sean honestly so happy you reached out today um i i look up to you and everything you bring to the table and i'm really excited for you to uh uh give this audience some game on things they need to hear.

You are one of the most interesting people I've ever met.

Um, your energy is just, I've never seen that in someone.

You know what I mean?

Yeah.

Like, have you always radiated this positive energy?

I, you know, I really love that you said that because I was thinking about you today.

Um, we train for energy.

You know, when we're young, we realize that we like it.

But also you're seeing that when we show up into these situations with that energy, we're literally creating the opportunities.

So I would say if your move is to connect with people and build huge things together, you have to train for energy.

So that's going to be your workout, you know, eating the right food.

And

yeah, I would say training for energy and not being afraid of it.

And, you know,

most people, they're feeling because they're not enough.

But, you know, usually when I fail, it's because I'm too much.

And it's a lot easier to do a little bit less than to not have it going on at all.

I also noticed this really stands out to me about you.

You run headfirst into conflict.

You're not afraid of it.

You know, I think that's a skill.

I don't know if that's teachable, but it's, it's really impressive to me.

Sean,

you do the exact same thing.

That's why we're BFFs.

It's just that the types of calm, okay,

I have a rule that if it's a if it's an opportunity, a problem, or a fear, it gets confronted immediately.

And that's because we're self-made.

You know, nobody is giving us opportunities.

Nobody's coming to solve.

You can't scream and get your problem solved.

You know, we need to go handle it.

So I think that most people they tend to overthink, and that's why they're missing all the best things in life.

They're hesitating.

So I have learned that if you can kind of get ahead of things and get on top of it, you can get that comfort.

And you always know, like, once you get in your rhythm, you're good.

So why run from it?

Chase that rhythm.

You know, a lot of people push their problems back.

They procrastinate, but I think that just makes it worse.

Right.

Hesitation is the absolute worst thing you can do.

People are always looking for answers.

And at the end of the day,

the greatest failure you can make is in action.

And so when you're self-made and you're going for everything and the world's got what you want, you can't hold back.

You need to find the things that you're looking for and then build a life in a circle that allows, that kind of provides that for you.

You've recently explored the mental side of things, recently being diagnosed with autism, right?

Was that last year?

Well, so what I would say was, you know, growing up, I kind of got pushed into different systems and different

problems and opportunities, and I never really had the time to get formally diagnosed.

I think that people who have all this long list of things they have, those are, they're just trying to justify their failures, but I'm trying to solve problems.

I'm trying to acquire and fix all the things that.

that are on my path in life.

And so there have been moments where I was able to slow down enough and get some formal diagnosis because in reality, I want to connect better with people.

I'm not really worried about me being a failure, like I'm happy with me, but I'm realizing that there's moments where I'm failing to connect.

And in life,

as long as

in life, we're one connection away from our dreams.

So don't don't run from what's going on with you.

Understand it and then kind of play to your strengths.

So that was why I was getting diagnosed.

I love that because a lot of people will get diagnosed with autism and then they'll see it as a negative.

And I think these days it could be a superpower.

I mean, I was with a doctor last night.

The way they talk about diagnoses, they're usually more handicapping.

For me going to prison, I ended up in court diversion programs before I had to go to prison.

So I was supposed to just do different therapies and stuff.

And I realized that in going to all these therapy programs, I was being helped through the lens with which they know how to help,

which is through their life, through their problems, which are not my problems.

I mean, I've never met somebody with my problems, and that's okay.

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not really worrying about the diagnosises, but more so, uh,

what do I need to make that connection?

How am I failing in my connections?

And when it comes to autism, a lot of it is social cues.

And then, um,

but to be honest, they said it's the ADHD.

So So they say that ADHD is causing a lot more problems with the speed, you know?

So for us, just learning to slow down, we're going to pick up on more social cues.

So, but yeah, getting diagnosed, I've been enjoying the process and not worrying about any kind of diagnostic disease.

I'm trying to apply it into wherever we're going in life.

You got kicked out of autism therapy.

Fuck, man.

I, man, I really thought, I don't know if I told you, I'm like, man, I finally got a therapist that's going to work for me.

I ended up in prison because I was going to these core order therapy programs and not always clicking.

You know, these therapists, they want to break you down and fix you through how they know and in the people they're dealing with.

And so I was never connecting with therapists and I really was scared of therapy

because it was ending me up in prison.

So when I finally

have time and I'm doing some self-help and

I'm getting into therapy and I get this diagnosis for ADHD, autism, whatever, and they want to do some follow-up therapy.

I'm thinking, great, this is a safe place.

We finally figured out

somewhere I can get help or whatever.

We finally figured out a way that

it's a conducive environment.

So yeah, so I ended up in autism therapy and it just

the same exact thing.

Autism issues are missed social cues.

So when I was in these therapy programs, these therapists are trying to fix you and we're just, they're trying to understand where I'm at.

But in reality,

yes, I got kicked out of my autism therapy and I really thought that was it.

So it's interesting because you say you struggle with social cues, but in order to survive prison and not only survive, you were a leader in prison.

You had to have some sense of social cues, right?

Well, correct.

I mean, I think that.

We're not really ever failing in life.

We're just missing parts, you know?

And so the social cues that I I was missing typically are politeness cues.

You know, it's just really slowing it down for the speed of others so that they can be comfortable.

Most of the feedback that I get is like, hey, don't be so short with people.

Don't be so direct.

But in reality, success rewards time.

Time is the only thing we're trying to make up for.

And so the best way I can honor people is to get them where they need to go as quick as possible.

And so I've never really worried about, and you too.

We don't really worry about other people's feelings.

We're trying to solve the issue at hand.

And

in prison, you got to be real careful because missed social accusing there can

ruin your life, you know?

Yeah.

No, that's been an issue for me because that's never my intention to hurt someone's feelings, right?

But because I'm so direct sometimes, and you've probably experienced this too, my advice comes across harsh sometimes and they think it's a personal attack.

Yeah.

And I would say it's the person.

You know, guys like us, we're not thinking about that because we're self-made, dude.

There's nobody that's coming for us.

We have to be on top of everything so the way

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it's kind of a it should be filtering your circle by showing you who who shouldn't be there who cannot run with growth who runs from it you know and if people are getting triggered and they're too sensitive to hear things and a diagnosis this and i was too short for you that they they they missed the moment because we only have so many uh when you give me feedback even if i disagree i heard it and i want to kind of understand it because you're not wrong.

You're someone that I need to see where that came from.

And I would never be upset with you sharing your best with me.

Yeah, you've always been honest with me.

You tell me if I've got food in my teeth, whatever.

I appreciate that.

If I got a booger or whatever.

I mean, honestly, the things that I love to give my friends is strength.

I don't want them to miss a beat.

We know how it is in sales, online.

Everybody's coming off perfect.

So you're only looking for that one little thing that kind of throws you off.

And then you run from that.

So you want your friends to be perfect.

In fact, a lot of, it's kind of embarrassing, but like when I date girls, you know, I, well,

when I enter into relationships, women are around a lot of my friends and they're always chit-chatting with my friends.

And I hear these girls say, you know, Jeremy, he's perfect, perfect, perfect, perfect.

And I didn't understand that word at first because I'm not physically perfect.

I'm not like resourcefully perfect, right?

I'm not perfect in the sense we might read a book or a model, whatever.

But where I'm perfect is actions.

Where I'm perfect is intent.

Where I'm perfect is really seeking to understand where she's at and where she wants to go and then making that path.

And that's what I would do for any of my friends, including you.

So I'm really happy to be here today.

No, I love that.

I was just going to ask about dating.

So that's a good segue.

Dating in Vegas, you know, walk me through that experience, what you're looking for.

Do you care about money when it comes to the woman?

Like, what's your process, I guess?

Dating in Vegas.

To be a girl to date a guy like me, these girls, they're living their best life because a man who's showing up full needs so little, which is why I break up so quick because I need so little, you know?

But at the same time, people have a

missed assessment of what the dating pool really is.

Anytime you're in a bigger city, it's going to be more difficult.

But in reality, we're living in a digital world.

So the way most men are failing in dating, it's because of the connection, right?

Men didn't used to have to compete the way we compete now.

We used to be able to compete with the car, with the house, with the business, with the friends, right?

Now women have access to everything dating apps social media every guy's got you know the jets they all have the same stuff so it's so um

where men fail is they're showing up internally empty and um

the reason that i thrive is i know where to compete i don't compete off of resources i'm not showing up with louis vuitton bag i'm not jetting you out here.

I will business class you, right?

If I like you.

But the point is this, where I compete with women, or where I compete with men against women is mindset.

It's journey.

It's strength.

It's power.

Joy.

Being on top of everything.

I cook.

I clean.

I'm going to get them to the gym.

And so dating in Vegas is excellent.

You have access to people all over the world.

But it's just as toxic as I would say LA or New York.

And in reality, you just need to go through enough people and you have to manage your expectations.

In Vegas, people are more easily misguided towards the more fun, pleasure-filled, fleeting moments, you know?

And if you're someone like me who's looking for more wholesome, you have to just kind of manage your expectations more, which is why I fly girls in because I'm not really concerned where they're at.

I'm concerned with like, does she have the right qualities?

And as far as things I'm looking for, same thing I look for in a man, right?

But for real, it's the exact same thing.

Most women are showing up so empty.

That's why I don't date as frequently because it's so boring.

It's such a low return.

You're just pretty.

You want to fuck?

Like I got a thousand of those.

You got anything else?

You know?

Looks isn't enough for you, basically.

Dude, I want a leader.

I'm addicted to women that make an impact and women that are

a leader in her passions and pursuits.

And you can find that anywhere and you can complain about it everywhere.

But in reality, I'm starting with me.

I'm showing up full and I'm coming ready to give you everything.

Do you have like a checklist or do you have set things that they need to check off for you to to consider them a girlfriend?

It's it's honestly, it's it's so fundamental.

So I used to have a list of like physical traits and maybe goals or whatever, but then I'm looking at my dating checker, my past.

It's all different colors, sizes, and financial backgrounds.

So in reality, just like you, Sean, I want people that are playing full out.

The one of the girls I'm seeing.

The girl that the only girl I'm seeing right now.

No, I am kind of seeing someone right now.

and she's a little bit younger than i like a little bit less experienced than i'd like but she's all in on our conversations and and on the knowledge skill set to move her life forward and when i see her absorbing and applying i go all in on people's ability and i go all out when i see limits and i haven't seen hers yet wow i know you go all out for your girl which is impressive to me like you said earlier you cook and clean typically uh that's the role of the woman but you're doing nothing yeah uh prison habits you know they die hard, you know?

I did want to talk some prison stuff, too, because 10 years, I mean, was that all at once?

No.

So it wasn't all at once, although at once is longer than probably anybody we'll ever meet.

You know, I did go into prison with a longer sentence than most everybody, not everybody there, but the prison that I went to was a max.

Usually when you get sentenced, you start at

a maximum and you work your way to lower security.

And so

when I went into prison this last time with an 18-year term, it was actually just a little bit under 17 years of a term, six-year minimum parole eligibility so no it was not all at once my life involved from the time i was 18 and driving crazy and buying race cars and you know not paying attention to police um i racked up a lot of you know jail time probation programs house arrests then you know it would be drug programs but no it wasn't all at once and what i would say is Anywhere we find ourselves in life, we've got options.

It doesn't have to be a bad situation.

Prison, just like anywhere, can be the best thing that ever happened to us if we make the right moves.

And that starts number one,

do the right research.

So wherever I showed up, whether it was court programs or prison, I was very aware and I got a lot of information back to figure out the right next moves.

And then also not being impulsive.

I think my very first book, my very first chapter, Prison to Penthouse, the first chapter is called Slow It Down.

Now, you might think, hey, a guy with ADHD autism going a million miles an hour, he's preaching slow it down.

but that's the truth if we slow it down we can grab everything and we can make the perfect next move always

yeah i know you also have the 99.5th percentile for working memory too so your brain's just non-stop right it's it's not that you know our brains are non-stop because they are but it's the type it's the way i process information is i happen to have an one of the largest rams of a human possible i'm in the 0.05 top percentile.

So I can hold mass amounts of information and kind of work through it, you know, which is great for how I can write books and do lawsuits.

And that's how all these things come about, but also learning where I miss so many things and learning to build a career and a friend and a social circle that allows me to play to those strengths and have a lot of different projects.

So I can always just, you know, quickly go in and give people my max.

Going back to lawsuits, you helped me with mine.

So first of all, thank you.

This man is a beast of lawsuits.

But you stay so mentally sharp.

It's super impressive because lawsuits can destroy people mentally man i mean i'm gonna be honest i was getting anxiety from mine they should call me faster i know i brought you in and you were like this is nothing yeah and uh it's just impressive to me that you have that mindset because lawsuits really can make or break someone yeah uh well

a lawsuit it's just a fight you know and any fight most people when they think about getting into a fight they're going in there with their fears they're like fuck this guy he's gonna kill me i could die i could get my ass killed him i was like i was with brad lee and he's like well aren't you worried you're going to get hit in the nose?

And I'm like, just the fact that that's your fear is why you should never get into a fight.

But for me, no, I don't worry about the fear of not doing something or the, I don't worry about the fear of anything, right?

I worry about for us, the best next move.

And what I have learned in fight, the only way to win is that both people have to walk away with the max.

That doesn't mean that you can't beat the shit out of someone, they can't lose, but you can't beat the F out of people because you'll end up losing.

So in prison, the way I would get into these fights and then still have to live with people, it had to be a measured um victory.

And so, knowing that you're going to be safe and you're going to be fine in these fights, as long as you're showing up full and strong and ready, you're not going to die, you're not going to get your ass kicked, you're not going to lose everything.

So, when you come with a lawsuit, let's get more information.

Let's call these guys, let's see what they let's see what it's going to take for both of us to move forward.

And I swear to God, aren't we, aren't we like friends with those people now?

Yeah, yeah, yeah, we're on great terms with great terms previously, uh, you know, bad, it was all bad.

And they were like, forget you guys.

And so communication,

getting more information, and then leading with good intent.

You know, the reason people like us or the reason we connect, we, the reason we rise fast, it's our hyper honesty.

It's part of autism.

We have an extreme sense of justice and we really thrive.

We like to find environments where we can let our guard down all the way.

And then you realize nobody's doing that.

So we're going through this world where everybody's got their guard up and you got these autistic kids with their guard all the way down.

And maybe they're not coming out there with that precision precision power but they're also not pushing everybody away like that what we're doing is we're showing up and we're really trying to find like how we how we build on the strength we came with so that everybody can win together and the only thing that's keeping us from thriving forward is that first step knowing it's going to be okay and the reason you don't know it's going to be okay because you ain't done it you ain't done it 50 000 million times i live that world where i just always if it's a problem, a fear, or an opportunity, I confront that motherfucker immediately.

Absolutely.

You know, and then let's get on to the next one.

There's a long list of other things we got to get to.

I also feel like you know the mindset of lawyers really well.

So you kind of understand your opponent.

You know what I mean?

Like, you know what they're thinking almost.

You should know.

Whoever you're sitting aside from, you should know exactly what they're thinking, whether it's your girlfriend, whether it's the police officer pulling you over, or a lawyer you're competing with.

I mean, at the end of the day, it's a fight, right?

And at the the end of the day, I've been in more fights than

in prison.

I am known for having physically, people saw me get into more fights than anybody in there, right?

On the streets, college, in business, I get into all these fights, but I'm never starting them.

Really?

No.

Only bullies start fights and we see where bullies end up, right?

They don't go anywhere far, right?

If you want to go far, you got to take people with you, which means I'm bold enough to take that first step.

But if I'm always just doing me, I'm just going to get hate and people are going to try to sabotage me.

So I learned in prison, the way I was able to get out of prison was I had to bring people along with me.

Oh, I didn't really know the mindset of lawyers.

Oh, yeah, yeah.

Yeah.

And that was really, it's a very good point you're bringing up.

So when I first started to work for law firms, I was very intimidated.

Back in the day, I mean, now we have AI and the internet, but back in the day, it was all asymmetrical information.

So you really were like scared about things that you didn't know because it didn't exist.

Whereas for me, I I had to learn quickly, like in talking to these lawyers and doctors and prisoners and whoever it was, like we're all the same.

Now, now that we're on the same level, the question is, what's the core issue?

If it's a lawyer, they're going to try to outlaw you.

So what do we need to do?

Go get more information.

So if we're always going to get information, I'm sorry, if we're always going to go get more information, we're always showing up with a good idea of what should happen.

The next question is rhythm, right?

And now we're talking negotiation.

The greatest negotiations win with the right rhythm.

They're never like a pickup line, you know, where it's very tactical.

What I have learned in business is 90% chit-chat, gibber, bold, shit talking at the end, get to the point, but get that rhythm going.

We like each other, blah, blah, blah.

You know, now go for it.

When I started doing that with lawyers and anybody else that was difficult, I no longer had to fear the process.

So that's why now it's not really about confronting.

It's more like, I'm excited because people don't realize how easy this is going to be.

Yeah.

Not only is it going to be easy we're going to be celebrating at the end dog yeah it's almost like you humanize the lawyer you don't fear them anymore you treat them like a normal person everybody's a normal person in fact you will find most people will fear you they're like coyotes dude they're so much more afraid of you than they are than you are of them you just are going in uh

um

focused on all the wrong things it's like if you're a killer and you've and you've been doing the work man you've got this just and if you don't know say you don't know take the time take a pause say hey let's process this or that's interesting let me go learn about that but like you don't need to show up with fears absolutely something you taught me when we were negotiating my settlement this is really stuck with me uh you kept bringing up leverage and i was like yeah they have the leverage here but now in my everyday life and in business i always think about okay how can i get some leverage it's really important right

um

i love that you said that i i'll be honest i mean we haven't really talked about we we never really reflect we're always so busy yeah and i and i appreciate you you reflecting give me some feedback and leverage and i think what you'll learn is the leverage that we have in life, number one, it's timing.

And then number two, so number one is timing.

And then number two, it's relationships.

You know, too often we think that the leverage is force, but in reality, we're all on this fucking rock together.

You know, success is a measure that the community awards you.

So, and so knowing that leverage is timing and

leaning on relationships, leaning on the fact that we can all win together and people are willing to pay a premium to win together rather than to get a little more, you know, at the loss of someone else.

Yeah.

No, relationships are super important for me.

I mean,

you're 100% relationship with the industry, with the community, you know, and that's how you thrive.

No one handed you your success, your parents, your schooling.

You know, I remember you starting your podcast.

It wasn't a book you read.

It was you going to figure it out and then making the calls and then putting people together.

Yeah.

You were one of my first guests.

But yeah, it's all about relationships.

People wouldn't come on if I didn't have strong relationships.

You know, there's millions of podcasts.

Why are they coming online?

Yeah.

And you've done well with that.

I mean, you're dealing with billionaires.

You're dealing with all sorts of cool people, the guys running F1.

I mean, hats off to you for building that network.

Yeah.

Sean, honestly.

This is what frustrates me in life is I'm watching all these people go through and they're just, they're complaining, they're miserable, they're upset, you know, they're, they have all these fears.

And it's like, man, we are one,

everybody in life at every fucking time, we are one connection away from our fucking dreams, one connection away.

And when you're one connection away, then why aren't you learning to connect?

Why aren't you perfecting the art of connecting?

You know, and that's for me, I have learned that

trust is the foundation for relationships.

You know, if if a meteor was going to hit the fucking world in 10 minutes, Sean, you got 10 minutes till we're all dead.

You're picking that phone up.

I guarantee you, first you call your girl, then you call your mom, right?

You're going to call your family first because of trust.

And so when trust is the most important thing in relationship, why aren't we leading with that?

And what does it look like to lead with that?

Number one, I showed up with good information.

Everyone else is showing.

You know this.

Everyone is shows up in life with everything they heard and they want to advise you on what they heard.

And what about this?

And what about that?

What about what you do?

What about what worked for you?

And you're a guy that figures out what works for you.

And that's what you preach on.

I figure out what works for me and that's what I preach on.

And so as far as relationships, we're showing up to our relationships with our expertise.

We're also, we're quick to throw out unsolicited advice.

You know, we're just giving you our take.

Most people, they're just so afraid of losing everything by saying the wrong thing.

So they say nothing.

Right.

You know?

And when you learn to bring expertise with good intention into relationships, see you at the top.

Absolutely.

And to add on to that, I think a lot of people are inherently selfish.

I don't know if that's a a survival thing or something, but that's why it's hard to build relationships right now, I think.

Yeah.

And we go a step deeper.

People are selfish, but in reality, it starts with self.

So I, you know, a good analogy is how everybody's like the chit chat, small talk, we, we, we hear a lot of negative stuff, you know, or like we're kind of like, oh,

people are so quick to jump on negative rather than positive.

Why?

Because negative is easy.

Selfish is easy.

It starts with us.

Negative is just, I just look around and be like, oh, look at how cold it is.

That sucks.

And look, you know, they just complain.

They just complain.

They just look around and they complain about things they see.

Selfish, it's so easy just to enjoy things that I enjoy, but that's not life.

Life is what we build together.

Life is how we move forward and we're better.

together.

So if you're not putting the effort into positivity and the effort into how we do this better together, then you're always just going to be that fake person online, you know, spinning around at the bottom, full of misery.

Where guys like us, we're just trying to help the next person and stack on stack along the way.

I love it.

You plan on getting any more tattoos?

Finish the sleeves up?

That's so funny you say that.

So I get a lot of people that ask me about my tattoos.

I have a lot of insecurities about my tattoos.

I think this money sign is stupid.

I mean, it really is.

This is a, well, so some context of my tattoos, they're 100% prisoning.

So I never, I never had a tattoo before I went to prison.

I always thought people in prison, or sorry, I always thought people with tattoos and like showing it off.

I thought it was kind of corny, you know.

But then when I went to prison, I was stuck there.

And I wasn't in like a minimum where you're running around.

I'm in cells.

You're just sitting there.

You're just sitting there and trying to die.

And every once in a while, if you get enough respect, you got to ask tattoos.

And I got all my tattoos in prison.

They were all measures of success and/or who was finally able to put hands on me or things that I could get, which I got.

Um, I did get Jew stars from the Aryan Brotherhood.

Wow.

Um, yeah, those are actual gifts.

Um, but just because I was a solid dude, super solid.

And, but your question was: the tattoos, am I going to get more?

All my tattoos are prison ink.

So, they were made with like you know, how we make our ink and how we make the gun, and they're very special.

And I wouldn't want to,

you know, cloud that.

So, I think right now having 100% prison ink, let's keep it that way.

Love it.

Thoughts on women with tattoos is that a turnoff for you or do you not care

so

it's i love that you asked that question i think that in life until we're old and ready to die and we have everything i think we need to be i think we need to be adjustable we need to be a chameleon we need to be able to make changes and the problem with tattoos is you're branded that that's just there you no longer can go from this to that to this to that and if you're a woman who really who women are you know they rise off of vanity

you really need to make sure that your look can be flexible instead of like a big black splotch, you know?

So if you're a girl, absolutely no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no tattoos.

If you already got them, great.

I think they look beautiful, but but just wait, just be patient.

Cute little ones, little ones you can hide up, great, you know?

But even as a man,

I wouldn't be, you know, getting tattoos that are going to limit your opportunities in life until you get there.

Hey, when you've got the kids and you've got the career and you want to get a sleeve, you know, in prison, I always wanted the neck one.

It fucking looks so tough.

It looks so sick.

There goes my job searches, you know.

That's a good point.

There is a lot of judgment when you get tattoos, especially from corporate people.

You know, like I don't give a shit, but like, if you're trying to get a corporate job, they definitely take notice of that.

Why did you never get tattoos?

Uh, never called to me.

Plus, now that I learn about what's actually in the ink.

Isn't that crazy?

I'm watching people from your podcast talk about like all the risks we're running from being tatted up and the cancers and stuff.

Yeah.

Well, there's probably none in that, but the modern ink, yeah, a bunch of heavy metals and terrible stuff.

So we made this ink by burning, making like a candle out of baby oil or Vaseline, and then like a mop thread, and then lighting that on fire.

So we have like an oil candle, then put a brown paper bag overnight and then scrape the soot in the morning.

So I guess the base of burnt baby oil or burnt Vaseline, if somebody can look and let me know if I'm, if I got cancer coming up, that'd be cool, right?

Well, you're pretty preventative with health.

You're doing good with that too.

So

with the blood work and everything.

Sean, I know that's probably the most of what we talk about.

And that's why I love you so much, because to me, you're an athlete.

Like first and foremost, I'm realizing my best friends are athletic.

They will go, go, go.

Number one.

Number two, they're flexible, man.

They're flexible in their health.

Meaning, like if they found out tomorrow that this water versus that water, they're going to that water, right?

And so for me, I'm all about bringing strength into everywhere I go because when I was younger, I used to bring pleasure.

I used to have fun and I suffered.

I went to prison and I racked up a long criminal record.

Whereas now I've realized like if I'm showing up with my max performance, I'm going to be in a better position to lead other people toward their next best move.

And so for many years now, I've just been dialing in my posture, my hydration, my nutrition, my fitness to make sure I can lead by example.

And now the end result, I've got more testosterone than guys my age.

I'm probably double as strong as men my age.

I work out probably a third of as men my age.

I do eat really well, but I probably cheat about 20% eating whatever I want.

I do zero cardio.

So the point is.

Well, you do pickleball.

Well, correct.

I mean, I, I, I, I, even in my workouts, I'm getting out of breath, but I, but the fallacy of like treadmill, you know, uh, steering master and having to do all these things for us to look the way we look.

I got a fucking eight-pack with no cardio, you know?

Like, how come no one's talking about that?

Right.

And so when with guys like me and you, we're just trying to make a big impact fast and long term.

You know, hey, I mean, because if I wanted fast, I'd do steroids, but that's the other thing, too.

You know, all these guys are all taking testosterone therapy.

They're all leveraging these supplements.

And it's like, dude, if you pay attention to posture, right?

And you really go in there with precision and you eat a lot better and drink water, you're going to look like a fucking boss.

And you don't have to put none of those toxins or bullshit through your body.

I agree.

I'm not a fan of TRT.

You are one of the best people I know with AI.

I think you pay $200 a month for the top chat GPT players.

Vegas, Matt, thanks for sticking with the...

But I want to ask like how you're using it, what your advice would be to people watching this too.

So

men are known, you know, this

the history, or I don't want to say the history, but Men are really known for if we need help, we like to do it ourselves.

We don't want to pull over and ask for directions.

right?

And that's the thing with AI.

You want to get so good about asking for everything.

You want to ask it everything you've ever thought, any strategy you have just for refinement.

And I use AI for research and refinement.

The things that I refine is going to be my health, my health, my business, my branding, my relationships.

And so the way I'm using AI is for feedback.

I want to know, like, should I phrase this differently?

How does this logo look?

here's a picture of my breakfast what what should i have eaten differently right so because i'm asking everything number one i'm getting a lot better information so now i'm showing up to all my conversations as an expert medical legal relationships business the second thing i'm doing with ai is i'm using it for speed so i'm taking other people's information and i'm refining it through through how i know to use ai and i'm giving them impact actions now and also uh the perspective.

So they're getting perspective and they're getting actions.

And now guys like us are becoming leaders because I feel like AI is a contact lens for ADHD autism.

You know, and so if you're not leveraging and just starting, you're not just asking all these questions,

you're missing out on the leader and the man or woman you're supposed to be.

AI is phenomenal.

So I'll share how I'm using it too.

I did my blood work last few months ago.

I put it into AI.

gave me a blueprint game plan on how to improve all my deficiencies.

I put contracts in there and asked for ways on how I could get screwed.

I want to 10x the revenue this year from 1 million to 10 million.

I put that into ChatGPT.

It gave me some phenomenal advice on how to increase business revenues.

I mean, if you're not using AI daily, you're investing, you're losing, you're falling behind, you know.

For you, like,

how does AI make you a better human?

I've done relationship stuff there.

So in dating, I've asked for advice on like cute date spots,

how to have better conversations, more meaningful conversations, how to be there when she's upset.

Wow.

Cause yeah, I have autism.

So like I'm not, emotions are not my strength, as you know.

So AI can help me with that.

Friendships, you know, how to have meaningful conversations.

Yeah.

And using AI, like, is it like, what have you become an expert in?

And then what have you, like, what weakness have you walked away from with AI?

Ooh, expert in?

It's really good for summarizing podcasts and audio books.

So I'm just an expert in learning faster.

So exactly.

And let that be the message.

AI is not where you go to create your dream world.

AI is where you you go to refine your expertise.

And I love that you're doing that.

And exactly.

So for me, I'm using AI for all of my branding, all of my relationship stuff,

but really perspective.

So now I've learned to just, when people are sharing their ideas or I'm in court or I'm out, I'm transcribing.

I'm grabbing the conversation because most people were putting too much time into typing out that perfect prompt.

But in reality,

AI wants guidelines.

It kind of wants the full conversation.

Just talk, just record record that conversation.

Put that into AI.

Use that for some direction on where you're going and then do some research, go deep, become an expert, all that fun stuff.

Absolutely.

Yeah.

You'd be recording our phone calls.

Fuck yeah.

I'd be telling you those.

So don't act like I'm a creeper.

No, it's smart because then you'll throw it in there and then boom.

I'll record a call and within three minutes of that call, people will have their dream plan.

They will literally have a plan to fix their biggest problem or make the have their biggest success a minute after hanging that phone call up because of transcripts.

You know,

success rewards speed.

And honestly, AI is for clarity, right?

Take all that chaos, get that clarity, and then take that step.

You are one of the best people at controlling.

You're giving me so many compliments.

Dude, seriously, I love you, dude.

And there have been times in the past where I've asked you for like insight.

I'm like, oh, who is Jeremy to you or some comments?

And you always give me junk, dog.

Like you always give me just the most basic feedback.

I'm like, really?

Well, because like in the moment, you give me the best stuff.

But when I call you out on it and you have to think and it's like, so today, but today you're giving me gold, dog.

And like, I love you.

I'll work on that.

That's my autism.

But no, no, no, you're not doing anything wrong.

You're good at really good at controlling your emotions.

I've actually never seen you get angry once.

I've known you for four years now.

Is that something you've always had or did you develop that?

It's called prison, dog.

If you get angry at the wrong time, you're dead.

And I'm not, I'm not even making that up.

I mean, my first book, Prison at Penthouse, the whole conclusion dedicated to my best friend Mitch, who was just recently murdered in prison.

Yeah.

You know, the prison I was at, you know?

Holy crap.

The prison that I was at, I was at a few of them, but the main one, the Max, I mean, I watched multiple people die.

It was just a normal thing.

I mean, thank God there's all these gunners there because when the guns go off, people stop stabbing a lot faster.

But

your question was, how do I control?

And yeah, you know, when you're younger and when you're not privy to consequences, you're just kind of loud.

You're just a protest.

You're just making noise.

You're a child, right?

But when you go into systems of accountability, you know, especially when there's life is on the line, you tend to get real good real fast.

And for me, I didn't want to survive prison.

I wanted to thrive because I needed to get home.

I wasn't supposed to be there.

I couldn't just go with it, but I also didn't want to die.

So I had to always push, but be relative.

And so I really learned to be.

a lot more aware and to kind of, like I said, chapter five of my first book, Be Seen from Afar.

And it's always like

you always doing the right thing and other people kind of seeing you.

And this way, when you do connect with them, they're already kind of knowing where you're at.

And your question was, how do I control myself?

And that's because number one,

the control starts with what you put into your body.

So I control what goes out because I control what goes in.

What goes in is man, all my disciplines, right?

All of our nutrition, all that perfect posture, all that when I go to the fucking gym and I do my 10-pound dumbbells when I can really hit hundreds, but I stick with those tens until I get that perfect form, you know?

And that's what every conversation is.

It's so easy to get emotional, upset fast.

And now you're actually fighting.

And the reason I don't get emotional is because I know what a fight is and I'm ready to go for it.

And I fucking love it.

If you have the opportunity to fight and there's no rules and like you really can go for this and you're a man, it's it's pretty exciting that you don't have a lot of opportunities with no consequences like that.

Yeah.

But also we're all going to be bleeding afterwards.

He said, Do you want to do that?

I want to be flossing right now and I want to have a good rest of my day.

I don't want to make it emotional.

And then also, I recognize that when people are getting emotional,

most people can't fight.

Okay.

When you're getting emotional, I'm just seeing your weakness.

So I'm going to be even quieter and kind of slow it down a little more and let you kind of get it out and then totally just take back control of the narrative.

And that may be what you were referencing when you said, how I interact with these lawyers, because I don't care about all the noise and all the toughness because I got the position.

I got the manhood.

I got the relationship skills.

And I know that we're going to figure this out in a way that we're all happy moving forward.

And because we're moving at that speed, there's nothing to be emotional about.

Yeah, I love that.

You also are good at putting your ego to the side.

You deal with a lot of ego.

What ego?

No, you deal with a lot of ego with lawyers and in the gym with these bodybuilders or whatever, but you're good at kind of putting yours to the side.

Yeah.

Ego, pay attention to your ego is the fastest way to go to the bottom.

It's the longest life sentence to stay at the bottom.

It's an early death sentence.

Ego will take everything and give you nothing.

Literally gives you nothing because

you have to compete with people, right?

And you don't want to just kill everybody around you.

You want to bring people with you.

You want people to be better for our time.

Not so much anymore.

What I feel creeping up is the byproduct of like maybe some humor because I'm like, I'm assessing.

I'm like, you know, but also like you're talking to a guy that has stared death down in the face at the highest levels.

I'm talking about imprisoned the biggest guys that would also bring weapons to try to kill me.

And that, that just was like a thing that I would deal with.

And that wasn't my first or my last.

You know, I've been in fights since.

I've been in a lot of fights before.

But yeah, so

I have learned to focus on the outcome, right?

And the outcome, for me and you, it's always like,

Where's Sean going?

Because I know the farther Sean goes, the farther I go.

So I always kind of want to see where you're at, how to support you.

And if I'm having a problem with people in the community, if I were to have an ego, I would lose everything.

And in reality, it's got nothing to do with my ego.

It's got to do with the outcome, which is like me and this dude need to be safe together.

And I wouldn't mind making some money off that guy, too, if that's an option.

So, how can we stay level-headed and just really hear what the core issue is and then show the agreement and then how we're going to move forward?

But as far as ego, ego in the gym, that'll get you hurt.

Ego in prison, that'll get you killed.

Ego with cops, that'll get you arrested.

I'm just not really seeing where ego is ever a good thing.

It's really an amateur thing to people that are used to cheap attention.

I love that.

Yeah, that's great advice.

A lot of people need to keep their ego in check.

Dude, I was really bad on the podcast at first.

That's so interesting, the throat being tense.

So the very first time I spoke on stage, it was like that for like 20 minutes.

Yeah.

And it was awkward.

But I wasn't nervous.

I just didn't know how to make go away.

It might be your body.

It might be something with your subconscious.

Maybe you have some trauma from speaking out in prison.

Maybe it was that time.

Yeah.

No, honestly, it's what I have learned.

Guys like us,

what that, all that energy is, that anxiety.

So there's parts of your brain that might be closer that are sparking, you know, like static

and causing more anxiety.

So like I personally get cripplizing anxiety.

I just know how to get through it.

And I get through it through breathing because I'm not nervous.

I'm just A, not breathing.

And then B, how I calmed down on your show today was I think the question started to be more relative and I had to really think about the answer and then it was gone.

That makes sense.

So let that be a lesson.

Don't think, do.

Don't overthink.

Yeah.

Let's dive into that more, though, because you're one of the most confident people I know, but you also struggle with anxiety.

So what do you think is the root cause of that for you?

For anxiety?

Yeah.

The fact that we're fucking everywhere we're not supposed to be, dog.

We're trying to come up, homie.

We are taking steps and we are in the rooms where God did not design us to be.

Yeah.

So you got high expectations.

You think you're just hard on yourself and then you get anxious.

I'm so sorry.

Where does anxiety come from?

Anxiety comes from,

it's a speed of the mind.

If you look at jocks and like, you know, the really handsome guys like in college, like they're slow.

They can just look at you in the eye and just kind of be sexy, you know, whereas guys like us, it's this speed, right?

And so you never really have a chance to breathe.

And as soon as we realize like a slow, deep breath,

we can get ahead of the situation.

Because since we're not nervous, we need to focus on the outcome.

And the only way we can focus on the outcome is if we can let go of the noise through calming our

breathing and then the speed of our mind.

I agree.

I'm learning how to become a better speaker right now.

I'm taking courses and using AI.

And one of the big things they say is to take a pause when you're talking because I like to talk super fast.

I just get excited.

But the best narrators in the world, the orators in the world, all take pauses.

Orators.

I love that.

Yeah.

Absolutely.

I mean, they say in marketing, white space sales.

And then also, nobody that you're talking to has the speed that you have in your mind.

And so the space, the silence that you're giving is just room for them to absorb.

And that's really what it is.

When we talk to each other, you can't talk fast enough.

Like, we already got it.

But everybody else, when you're trying to deliver a message, you have to go at a speed that's absorbable.

And

again, all conversation and communication negotiation, it's rhythm.

It's a song and a fucking dance, you know?

And that's why it's not about the best openers, the best positions.

It's like, dude, you look fucking great in that blue.

Or like, man, how'd you get that fucking shoulder muscle, dog?

You know, it's personalizing.

It's seeing what moves them in life as a man and knowing that.

We're fucking good.

And yeah, we've got this issue we're going to figure out too, but we're fucking good.

And that's that rhythm.

And that's what that silence or that pause does.

It allows people to get back in the rhythm.

Absolutely.

Jeremy, what's your main focus for the rest of this year, man?

My main focus for the rest of this year is I really want to start making content to give people my exact specific insights for my shortcuts.

Because I'm realizing the way I solve problems and rise in life, I have so many, I have endless shortcuts

and things that I put into place.

And so I'm going to be making content to educate people on elevating their life quickly.

I want to be supporting my best friends.

So for Vegas, Matt, I'm writing him a book, but I want to be there for you and for my other friends to see how I can add value to your guys's operations and then just be present for things that come our way because I never know where my big money is going to be.

How did I know coming out of prison homeless and broke that I was going to make millions building law firms?

Never fucking knew.

Just a good ass dude being present.

Prison to uh penthouse, prison to everything.

We'll end it there, man.

If you want to talk to him, we'll link his Instagram below.

Thanks for watching, guys.

Peace.