Dating in LA: The Red Flags You’re Ignoring | Katie Thurston DSH #869

Okay, so here's the thing with the feet pics.

I didn't know that was like a thing until I went on reality TV and there's a website.

I don't know if you ever heard of Feet Finder, right?

Well, no, but you know that one.

No, WikiFeet.

It's a ranking for feet.

You could search any celebrity, reality star, whatever, and it'll show the ranking and all these random feet photos.

Literally, it could be a foot photo that was from a story, and someone will like screenshot it and put it on this website.

Yeah, that is crazy.

All right, guys, comedian and poker champion.

Yeah, Katie Thurston here winning the celebrity tournament.

82 players.

It was 82.

I couldn't remember.

There were so many.

There were nine tables of nine.

Or sorry, 81.

Yeah, yeah.

That's impressive.

Thank you.

You must have done a lot of practicing before that.

I downloaded a poker app and I played a lot on my phone.

But like when I was

18, I was dating a guy who really loved poker.

So much so that we went to prom and then to a card room afterwards.

Wow.

Because we were too young for like a casino, but card rooms you could do at 18.

Damn.

So we played some poker and I really hadn't played in a while.

But the skill's there, you know, it's like riding a bike.

Like, you always kind of know it.

And so I just kind of played on my phone a little bit.

You were dominating.

The background of my phone during the tournament was like literally the hand rankings.

I just saw them.

Just in case I forgot.

But, you know.

You were knocking out champs.

You were knocking out pros.

I mean, I don't think a lot of people saw that coming.

Did anyone bet on you?

Yeah.

I mean, I told my people to bet on me because the odds were 75 to 1.

I was like, put your money on me.

I promise you're going to get paid.

Damn.

And they did.

So if someone bet $100, they won, what is that?

$750 or 7 500 bucks is that how that works with sports betting i don't know 75 to 1 holy crap yeah well i'll bet on you on the next one well now the odds are definitely going to change because now everyone knows i know how to play

yeah your table probably thought you were just like oh bryce hall talks so much

he was such a little dick and then even afterwards i like dm'd him and i was like nice playing with you loser yeah he never responded damn he's pretty butthurt i saw his interview and i was like oh he's pissed he's actually decent at poker but well i know that's why he's mad because it is hard to play in a tournament with like people who know how to play and then people have no idea what they're doing because you can't read that you know so I get it, but like he also was giving me shit.

I'm like, let me take my 20k and talk to you later.

Did you knock him out?

I don't think I did.

I don't think it was me, no.

Okay, and you guys had that girl that was halfway on the table or something.

Oh, oh God, I forget her name.

But yeah, she's, I think, from like America's Got Talent.

Yeah, that was insane.

Flexible.

Yeah.

Was on the table and her body was of the Sophie.

Sophie was her name.

Sophie Dosi, right?

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Yeah, that was was crazy.

Well, well done.

Are you playing in games out here too?

No, like that was it.

Like a one and done, you know, like I don't really play poker.

Like I just got invited and I was like, ah, why not?

So back to comedy then.

Back to comedy.

And you just did Oklahoma and a couple other states.

Boston.

Washington.

Yeah, yeah.

What was the favorite out of those three?

Oh,

honestly, I think Spokane, Washington was fine.

Yeah.

Yeah.

It's a small little city and I think they just really love to come out for comedy.

And so it was a sold-out show.

And my hometown is Washington.

So, like, it was just a lot of like progressive Pacific Northwest vibes, you know.

So, it was just fun time.

Yeah.

Were you a bank marketing manager in Washington?

Yeah, I was in finance like all of my working life.

So, it was just I was not expecting to ever take the direction that my life is now.

You know, I was very settled in my career.

I just bought a condo.

You know, COVID was hitting.

Like, everything was just very like traditional nine-to-five life.

And then one day I signed up for reality TV and then it just never slowed down.

Dang, what a big change.

That's like a 180 almost.

Oh, a thousand percent.

Like it's crazy like how much can change in such a short time.

Yeah, so you literally just applied online and it worked.

Yeah, at the time I was 29 and I remember thinking like, oh, I'm going to be too old.

Like for reality TV, that's considered like elderly.

Really?

Yeah.

I was like, this is the last year.

Like at this point, they will never pick me up, you know, once I hit 30.

And then I got the first call and I was like, oh shit.

And then I got another call because there's so many like rounds of interviews.

And every time I got a call, I i was like oh i think this is happening holy crap yeah how many rounds were there god i couldn't even remember like there's like there's medical there's psychival background checks interviews with like producers, pre-screeners, executive producers.

It's a lot.

So every time you're like, no way do I make it to the next round.

And then like you get the call and it's like, okay, you're on the show.

We leave in two weeks.

And you're like, that's nuts.

And that was the bachelor, right?

That was the bachelor first.

And that was during COVID.

So I was like, what else am I going to do?

So did you have to wear masks on the show?

We did not, but we had to have COVID tests every three days.

And then we could only film in a bubble, like on a resort, which was unfortunate because normally with the show, you travel the world.

Like you get to go everywhere, you know?

But no, it was very rigorous testing.

And everyone working, like who wasn't in front of a camera, all had masks on.

And if you got COVID, you'd have to go home.

Did that happen to anyone?

Not on my season, but you know, COVID was around for a couple years during filming.

Yeah.

So I think it happened on at least one or two other seasons, though.

Wow.

Did you make it farther than you thought you would?

I actually went home sooner than I thought I would, but I don't know if that's just part of the manipulation.

I don't know if that's part of like the brain fuck that happened there.

Because everyone thinks that he's in love with you.

He's always falling for me.

I'm going to go far, you know?

And then I had this, I don't know if you watch the show, but they're called one-on-one dates.

And so I'm all like, you know, and he picks up this asshole, Matt.

He picks up the rose as if he's about to give it to me.

And then he sets it down, which is like, you know, I'm going to go home.

Dang.

And I know the camera was like waiting for like that face drop or something.

And I just remember remember smiling and then holding my breath.

And I was like, I'm not giving you any reaction right now.

Damn.

So yeah, I actually was 11th place

before then being offered the bachelorette, which at the time was like the lowest ranking person to then be offered a lead role.

Oh, really?

Normally it's someone from like the top four.

Oh, I didn't know that's how it worked.

Yeah.

Wow.

Yeah.

Which show did you like better?

Um, I mean, you get paid to be the bachelorette, so at least pay me for my trauma.

Okay.

You know, But I will say it was a lot harder too.

Like people think it's very fun.

Like you're dating all these men.

It's not fun.

Like you don't get a lot of sleep.

You don't eat a lot of food.

Like you're just like delirious for

six weeks.

Yeah.

Six weeks?

Yeah.

Holy crap.

I didn't know it was that long.

Yeah.

And it's non-stop.

Like you literally like you get four hours of sleep because they're on like a, I forgot what it's called.

But with the camera crew, like they have strict hours of when they can and cannot work.

And so we have to kind of like go with them.

And we can't, we don't have room to just like sleep in a day.

Only four hours of sleep geez so you don't even know if you're picking the right dude at that point you're just delirious if you're crying you're just tired people like why is everyone crying i'm like they're tired and they're hungry they're turning to like babies you know that's crazy yeah has anyone actually married or stayed long-term from this show yeah yeah like the earlier ones though that's the thing because as social media becomes more popular more people go on the show uh the famous phrase is for the wrong reasons and so that's the unfortunate part is that you know the exposure that these people get and the opportunities they get kind of outweighs a lot of the

love, the potential love, you know.

So, a lot of the early ones definitely worked out.

They have kids, they're married, they're happy.

And then the more recent ones have been like six months at the most for their engagements back to back to back.

And then it ends.

Oh, so you get engaged.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Oh, I didn't know though.

I was engaged to a Canadian at the time.

Yeah, during COVID.

So that was just like everything stacked against us because traveling to Canada during COVID was like impossible.

You couldn't do it.

Yeah.

I think they banned it.

Yeah.

Oh, so that's why.

So that ended.

That ended.

Yes.

Damn.

I know.

Gave the ring back.

You have to.

It's never really your ring.

Yeah.

Okay.

See, some girls keep it, though.

Well, there's a lot of rules around how you can keep it.

And even then, when it's yours, if you go to sell it, they get the first rights to buy it back.

Oh.

For the price they want.

I didn't know that.

So it's never really your ring.

Oh, so you just buy back for a dollar.

Literally.

Yeah.

Wow.

I don't think that anyone's ever taken it as far as being able to actually try and sell it because what's the point?

Dang.

Good to know.

You recently moved to LA.

You started dating around here yet?

I did try to date a little bit in LA, but I did just start dating a guy from New York.

Whoa.

Yeah.

That's a long.

It's a long distance, but he's also a comic, so we kind of have the flexibility of being able to like travel and see each other.

And our lifestyles are obviously very similar.

So it's been going very well so far.

Props to you.

Distance is tough.

Yeah, yeah.

Well, it's great because we actually, we met.

This isn't even public yet, but I know this podcast will come out later, but we met because we had plans to get drinks when he was in town.

And I'd never met him before, but we weren't obviously in the same circles.

And then he had to bail last minute because he ended up in the hospital.

Whoa.

Yeah, he like injured his hand, whatever.

And then we ended up chatting that night.

You know, he's like, hey, sorry, I had to bail.

We chat all night.

And then for the next month, we never see each other.

We just chat.

And I think that's like the difference of like LA dating and like being really intentional with dating.

Yeah.

If you talk to someone for a whole month without alcohol, sex, you know, seeing each other and you can still like vibe, then like it's probably a good way to like start.

That's a good sign, right?

Yeah, yeah.

Yeah, it doesn't happen often in LA.

LA was the worst.

I hated it so much.

I dated like, but on dates.

I shouldn't even say dated.

Most of the guys were great, but there was one guy who made a TikTok about our date, just like such a clout chaser.

Just like this privileged 6'6 guy.

So like a swimming.

I'm 6'6.

Look, this is what happens with you guys that are tall.

We ignore red flags.

We're like, oh, he's tall.

The red flags don't see him because they're like way up there, you know?

So there's a lot of things I ignored.

And then like the next day, I was like, no, I think this guy's literally a walking red flag.

Damn.

Okay.

So a comic in New York.

Is it a Kosh?

No.

All right.

That was my one guess.

No, no, no.

Because I know Schultz is married and I don't know any other comic.

Well, I tried, but.

Good guess.

Are you ever going to publicize it?

Because public relationships are tough, too, right?

Oh, I mean, we're out in public together, and he'll talk about me like on stage and stuff.

So it's not, it's not that we're hiding it.

It's just at this point, on this date, we aren't like on social media about it.

Got it.

That's where it gets dicey.

yeah yeah yeah especially like bachelor nation they they can be intense oh yeah yeah but he's a great comic so he's not problematic that's where you dip into like bad territories if you date someone with like a history they'll find it they'll they'll dissect that you know so this guy squeaky clean background holy crap so the fans of the show are like running background checks on your boyfriend yeah yeah i i very short term dated a guy a comic i must have a type

well the thing it's kind of like being co-workers you know it's like we we get each other's industry our work, like we work late, we work with like men and women.

It's just a weird world, you know?

And a lot of people don't understand it unless you're in it.

And so it's just like, I guess the easier person to like relate to.

But yeah, he had a little bit of a past with who he hung out with.

And I never even posted about him.

They sleuthed it out based on, I'm not even kidding, based on tags and stories.

And like, that's his TV stand on her story.

It's crazy.

That is nuts.

It's crazy.

And then they start dissecting things that are like five plus years old.

And I'm like, oh my God, this poor guy.

Yeah, that's rough.

Yeah.

So what is your style of comedy?

Because I've never seen someone on the Bachelor Ad be a comedian.

That's pretty unique.

I mean,

I'm new.

So I mean, it's like, it's the low-hanging fruit, as I like to call it, which is like dating and sex and what it's like to be in your 30s.

You know, like stuff that's just like relatable, but like also personal to like my situation of like, let me tell you about a bad date I went on.

Let me tell you about this sexually awkward experience that I had, you know?

Yeah.

So it's just stuff like that.

But then also because I'm new, when I'm on the road, I'll bring more experienced comics with me.

And it's kind of like my way of like sharing the wealth sharing the stage sharing the audience you know it's like I'm only like a year and a half in

and I and I love it you know but I'm not gonna like stay on stage for 60 minutes and fake my way through that no one's gonna have a good time you know so I'll do like 20 25 minutes I'll bring in you know a host an opener a feature you know whatever and just make it like a universal show that's just cool guaranteed everyone's gonna have a good time yeah 60 would be tough people do that though that's the thing that people screw up on is like they're like oh I have an audience and then they don't put put in the time to perform to work it out on stage.

And then they just fake their way through.

And then no one's buying tickets again.

I've performed now in Washington twice.

And I've had people come for the second, like a second time.

And that speaks volume to how much fun they had.

And that's not even...

a compliment to me it's just like how I run my shows you know like I'm again I'm gonna make sure I have good people there I'm gonna make sure I'm prepared and that people want to come back time and time again yeah that's cool do you have the same material each show or do you switch it up um i mean it varies it's like someone who saw me last year might hear a joke but it's gonna be better a year from now because now it's there's the longer version of it the tighter version of it you get rid of some of the extra stuff that doesn't matter right you know and that just comes with time is like you figure out how to say that joke but just better yeah so sometimes it's gonna be the same but then also there's just gonna be new stuff inspired from that topic that branches into a whole nother story

on the money side of things i saw your instagram video you did 21 000 one month yeah yeah that's pretty impressive for just starting i mean yeah but the thing is like in that video, I really break it down.

You know, people think, oh, that's like quick money.

And sure, it can be, but then you deduct hotel, flight, you're paying those talented people that are joining you to come as well.

You know, food, Ubers, all of a sudden it starts to really like dwindle.

And that's all pre-tax, you know?

So as a like a former banker, I just thought it would be like a fun video to be transparent on like, here's how much, you know, I made, but then this much goes to the club and this much goes to a manager.

And like, really, I think the take home after that might have been like, I think, I don't know, know 8,000 maybe once you deduct all costs and that was for like a weekend yeah oh just for two shows that was that was three shows in that video that you're referencing got it yeah so if you do that twice a month that's pretty good money oh yeah well and you figure bigger comics are are doing bigger venues they're doing multiple shows in one night you know so like the more experience you get and the bigger your fan base is there's definitely money to be had there and then the specials too oh i mean the specials that's really where it can pay off too yeah nikki just launched one which was perfect timing oh yeah i mean she's had so many at this point, though.

She's amazing.

Yeah, she's probably, is she the GOAT for the female comedians?

You know, I don't know.

I think it's all subjective.

Like, my personal favorite is Allie Wong, Whitney Cummings.

I mean, there's so many.

Nikki's been in for a long time.

You know, she's having her viral moments right now with that latest roast and her specials and stuff.

But there's just so many great women in comedy.

I don't know if I could give her that title.

I don't know if I could give anyone that title, you know,

because there's so many.

Yeah.

So many great women.

Yeah, comedy is so subjective to each person.

Truly, yeah.

That makes sense.

If you got offered a million dollars to be roasted on television, would you do it?

Oh, for sure.

For a million?

Yeah.

I just, I had a show last year in San Diego where I was roasted for basically free.

Wow.

So, and it was, it was super fun.

Like, I can, I can roll with the punches.

I mean, there were some pretty aggressive things.

Brady said he actually regretted it.

I mean, he probably made a fat bag, but he has a problematic past, you know?

So, like, obviously, that's going to hurt a little.

Like, the worst thing I did was what, sell like feet pics on OnlyFans, maybe.

Oh, you did that?

Yeah.

Wow.

Yeah.

Hold a I dildo on on the bachelor like I don't know that's not too bad feet pics I mean I would sell a feet pick for money yeah well I didn't okay so here's the thing with the feet pics I didn't know that was like a thing until I went on reality TV and then all the I call them the feet people

were like oh you have really nice feet I didn't I didn't know that you could have like nice feet versus not nice feet or whatever and there's a website I don't know if you ever heard feet finder right well no but you know that one no wiki fee it's a it's a ranking for feet so if you go to wikife.com I'm not sponsored you could search any celebrity reality star whatever and it'll show the ranking and all these random feet photos no way like literally it could be a foot photo that was for my story and someone will like screenshot it and put it on this

website yeah that is crazy how do they rank it

I'm not a foot person.

I don't know.

Like your arch, maybe the angle of the toe.

I have, I don't know.

Because also sometimes they like the bigger pinky toe.

I don't know.

I don't know.

Yeah.

But I apparently had nice feet.

So I was like,

I'm going to see how this goes.

The first time I did it, I made 10 grand

in like a week from feet.

Not donated to the Boys and Girls Club because I was like, well, that was, that was too easy.

You donated all of it?

Yeah.

I would have kept some of it.

I mean, it was just like easy money.

And in some weird way, it felt like a Robin Hood moment of like, thank you, man.

I'm going to give it back to the children.

You know, like, I didn't, I don't need it.

Like, financially, like, it's whatever, you know, but it's just another platform of building a community, which to me,

community, no matter where it's from, is just like always important.

Yeah, I'm going to research that site for educational purposes.

I wonder.

No, I really wonder what the top foot is and like what goes into it.

That's, that's interesting.

Yeah, I mean, it depends.

Like, I think there's just different, you know, some people like the tattooed foot.

People like will ask weird things.

Like, I'm still learning.

Like, I don't know.

They'll be like, they want to see your foot coming in and out of like a high heel.

They want to see your foot being tickled.

They want to see.

Wow.

There's just, people love white socks, dirty socks.

I don't know.

It's all.

I'd love to know like the, like, the psychic behind it.

Yeah.

Like, that's interesting.

Someone said it's, um, it reminds me of like their mother's feet like if they're a baby

and then like women i don't know yeah i can't relate but i still will never kink shame because everyone has their own everyone's got theirs yeah i'm not public with mine i don't think i ever will be oh but you have one i think we all do right you have some no i i honestly feel like i'm kind of vanilla i think if i was to mention any of my kinks they're like probably standard like oh choke me that's nice choking i'd consider it but like but then there's like ones that are like beyond yeah beyond the the entry level of kinks handcuffs i see even that like that's in movies that seems like a normal.

Really?

Yeah.

I think that's...

Oh, you think that's kinky?

I think so, right?

Maybe I'm just vanilla.

I don't know.

Well, I think that's just like, if you're opening the door to kinks, those are beginner kinks.

Okay.

You know, like, standard.

So what's the next level?

Whips?

Like, BDSM.

What's that?

It's like where you get all like,

I don't know how to describe this wrong, but I think it's like with the leather and like a gag ball and like.

What?

Okay, so you're probably vanilla too.

You should be okay with your kinks.

Okay.

Damn, I didn't know.

You're like, whoa, the fact you didn't even know what that word was, that tells me your kinks are probably pretty entry-level.

Well, I watched 50 Shades of Grey.

I think that was nice.

No, that's.

Well, he gets a little wild, yeah.

So that's not even kinky dude.

Well, no, I mean, I didn't watch the movie, but I know some of his stuff.

He has a whole sex room.

That's like king level of

kink

status.

Yeah.

I don't have a bedroom dedicated to that.

Yeah.

Maybe it comes with the age.

With age experience.

Yeah.

Maybe we'll grow into it.

I guess we're vanilla for now.

Furries?

That's a that's

a a pretty intense one.

Yeah, you wear a tail, right?

Or a full costume.

Like a full costume, like a mascot.

That's crazy.

I've seen a furry convention once.

It was pretty cool.

You went to it?

Well, I didn't go to it, but they just, as a group, were walking through the town, and I was like, oh.

And then it's funny because the adults know what that is, but the kids don't.

And so the kids are like wanting photos with these cats and dogs and tigers.

And I'm like.

I feel conflicted because there's probably semen on that, but you know, whatever.

Oh my gosh.

There's some furries at schools.

Oh, Oh, yeah.

Yeah, yeah.

I guess I have seen that.

Yeah.

It's like pre, pre-teen Furbies.

Yeah.

And they're allowed to spit on people without getting in.

Yeah, because they're cats.

What?

Yes.

You're lying.

No, I swear to God, look it up.

So they could spit on you.

You can't do shit.

In high school?

Yeah.

You can just spit on people.

Yeah, and there's litter boxes in their high school.

Okay, no, no, no.

I've heard this.

I heard this was a hoax.

Was it?

Because I heard the cat boxing.

I was like, there's no fucking way they're allowing that.

Okay, so maybe it's fake news?

I think it's fake news.

I want the evidence.

Yeah.

Show me the real live footage of that.

All right, we'll have the producer research it then.

I mean, it is 2024.

It's not like it is believable, but at some point, you got to be like.

I mean, it's believable.

Look at what's going on right now.

Wow.

What a...

I don't want to get you canceled.

What a tangent.

I've been canceled like 20 times.

Have you?

Yeah.

Really?

Yeah.

Saying what?

Well, it's just like you just don't know.

Like, the very first time I experienced being canceled was I posted, I was fresh off the bachelorette, and I was posting a photo of me kissing kissing my girlfriend's cheek, like friend, that's a girl, her cheek.

And behind us was a neon sign that said, girls, girls, girls.

And my caption said, like, whatever floats your boat.

And then my girlfriend commented and was like, tune in to see who she really picks or something like that.

No big deal.

If we're drunk, I go to bed.

The next morning I wake up.

I learned about the term called queer baiting.

I'd never even heard it before.

And basically, it's where you use like queerness to like sell something.

And so it was just like this whole polarizing dialogue on like was it query baiting was it not was what I posted okay was it not and I was and that was my like first introduction to like bachelor nation and I was like wow oh I am not trained for any of this right now we're baiting I've never heard of that I'm just gonna have to learn as I go and then like shortly afterwards I had a post again where I typed snow bunny well in Washington that's like a cute like snowboarder girl with like her beanie whatever but on like um

what's the website where you search slang words oh uh urban dictionary yeah yeah urban dictionary.

Snow bunny is like a white girl who dates black guys or like a black guy who dates white girls or like someone who does coke.

I don't know.

There were so many different terms.

And people are like, I couldn't believe you posted snow bunny.

That's crazy.

There's a word for everything on that site.

Yeah, so I just like, I have to learn as I go.

You know, I fuck up and then I'm educated and I go, cool.

Never again.

And you're kind of under a microscope with Bachelor Nation.

Big time.

Because they're just analyzing all your posts.

Everything.

Dang.

So there's pros and cons of doing it.

Yeah.

You know, when people ask me if they want to do it, I always say, like, well, how is your mental health?

How strong are you mentally?

Because it is a rough road ahead for the next six months.

Wow.

Do you talk to the other girls about it?

Oh, yeah.

I mean, the bachelor's are all in like a group chat.

Oh, yeah.

That's cool.

Yeah.

It's not very active.

It's mostly like happy birthdays, congrats on the baby.

There's like 40 of you now, though, right?

I think there's like 20 something of us.

Of the girls.

There's the guy side too.

And is the group chat separate?

Yeah, yeah.

We don't talk to the boys.

Most of them end up sucking.

so

that's crazy and you went on f-boy island recently yeah which nikki was the host of yeah what was that like um that was fun it was a lot better than my bachelor experience there's money to be won and so on reality tv when there's a prize legally you cannot interfere oh and so you just get to just exist as a contestant and do whatever the hell you want and it's fun wow whereas like the bachelor there's no prize you know except i guess me but like they can like manipulate they can be like oh you know this guy's talking shit about this guy.

And no, you can't see that guy.

There's just a lot of like control that they have that then determines like what happens next.

And so it's not fun because you're not in on the secret.

You know, you're just like, who's knocking at my door?

And why are they leaving the show now?

You know?

That's funny.

Do you want to get more into acting?

You know, it's funny you asked that because someone asked me that, like, I think yesterday.

And I was like, I would love to be on a Hallmark movie.

Really?

I think that's like the highest level I could go.

Hallmark?

Hallmark and reality TV kind of of have a like similar vibe in terms of like oh we're making out in the rain you know and like oh don't leave me for the farm that's i don't know whatever but it's just like very like you know lighthearted yeah now you're in la too i know so anyone from hallmark listening head her up guys christmas is just around the corner just came from san diego why'd you leave diego

It's just a little slower paced.

I love it.

I love it there so much.

But when you're like fresh in your career and you're in entertainment, whether that be comedy, acting, writing, like right now now we're trying to sell a TV show everything is here in LA and I was doing the drive for a bit and I was like what am I doing yeah how far is the drive uh two and a half hours one way from San Diego to LA and I would do it same day like round trip I would do it

one time I drove two and a half hours just for a 15 minute spot here at the improv oh my god and then just drove back home damn yeah that is nuts I was like what am I doing so yeah so now I live close to all these comedy clubs and it just feels better to be here yeah how's the traffic though traffic's brutal and like LA is so big it feels like a state on its own like there's so many like different neighborhoods that's like i get why people now in la are like i don't date someone outside of like my like neighborhood because it could take it could take 40 minutes just to get to like five miles from where you're at which is crazy that's annoying yeah yeah in vegas we don't get that yeah yeah oh well here i'm complaining and now i'm dating a guy in new york

i guess if he's worth it you know would you rather move to new york or make a move to you

if you get to that point i we've talked about it oh yeah yeah yeah um honestly i i tell him all the time, I'm like, I think you're going to win that argument.

Because

I'm new to LA.

I don't have roots here necessarily.

My whole family's in Washington still.

And he's very rooted in New York.

And then his family's in Michigan.

So it's like, okay, fine.

When the time comes, you can win that.

But also that because we're both in the comedy scene, there's a world of just being bicostal, you know, and he's going to be traveling, doing shows because that's his primary focus.

Comedy, I'm so new to it.

It's just like one of many things that I'll tap into in the next five years you know wow so you don't have trust issues that's impressive i didn't say that i don't have trust issues with him though okay yeah yeah still for two months in that's that's good yeah yeah that's earlier than most yeah well i mean i don't know i'm 33 now and so you go on so many dates you have so many relationships like you want to think like the older you get the more you recognize exactly what you want and don't want right you know so is it true you feel a lot of pressure in your 30s um i don't because i'm indifferent on kids but i think women who are like for sure they want kids for sure feel that pressure you know but for me I'm like ah I'll adopt wow so you made that choice early oh yeah yeah I think by the time I hit 30 like I had to really reflect on that and I was like you know I grew up with a very unconventional family so it's like to me it's not important to have like a sounds weird say blood baby but you know like you know what I'm trying to say like for me it's just like love is love and you know there's so many kids that need to be adopted like if I ever couldn't have kids biologically, there's still a kid that could use a mom.

Nice.

I love that.

Well, what do you got coming up next?

Any shows or any uh comedy things?

No, I mean, I just tell people to follow me on Instagram, that's where I'll announce stuff.

If I'm ever performing in LA, I'll like announce it last minute because it's more for like practice, you know, get those reps in, work on a joke or two.

But uh, no, right now, my biggest focus is selling a TV show, so can't say much more about that.

But uh, we have some pretty big meetings next month, so that's like my primary focus.

Let's go.

Well, we'll link your Instagram below.

Thanks so much for coming on.

Yes, thanks for having me.

Thanks for watching, guys.

As always, see you tomorrow.