My 5M Dating Criteria: Why I Don't Use Tinder I CJ Sparxx DSH #463

Do you know the five love love languages?

Yeah, acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch, physical gifts.

What's the other one?

Gifts, and then I think it's time.

Time, okay.

Time spent.

Yeah.

All men that know the five love languages, it's very good, guys.

It's helpful.

I really do think you don't necessarily use it every day.

This episode is presented by P.S.

Guys, are you sick of using products that aren't effective or even good for you?

P.S.

has created products for men you actually want to use.

Go to psgoodtimes.com and use discount code podcast10 for 10 off your order ladies and gentlemen we got cj sparks here you just said you're single so you hopping on those dating apps uh yeah yeah what's your favorite one my favorite one and the only one i use is seeking arrangements oh yeah that's the one where you could select your income and stuff yes okay so what's your criteria on that site um well i got um I went a little viral for saying this, but I want them to be at least $5 million or more.

Salary a year?

Worth.

Oh, net worth.

Okay.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I mean, that's.

I feel like in LA, that's.

That's like middle class in L.A.

I mean, I wasn't going to say it, but you know, Sean said it, y'all.

So no, for real, because like a house out here is like a million bucks.

A million plus, yeah.

And we're talking, you know, kind of like a fixer-upper at that point, like in a not-so-nice neighborhood at that rate.

Unfortunately, I don't make the rules, y'all.

It's pretty wild.

Have you been out here for a while?

I have.

I've been out here for about eight years.

Damn.

Yeah.

Where'd you move from?

From Sacramento.

So not that far, but a small town, though.

I grew up in a small town up in Northern California called Galtz.

What was that like growing up in a small town?

Um, a lot of cows.

You were a farm girl.

I was a farm girl.

Yeah.

We actually

used to butcher the cows growing up.

Damn.

One time, I've never told this story on a podcast.

One time, the school bus pulled up and there was like a cow hanging from a crane.

Wait, what?

And he was preparing to go to the, to go be

cut up.

Sounds pretty traumatizing to see that as a kid.

Honestly, so here's the thing.

You know, we were all country kids.

So it was a little bit traumatizing because we were young.

We didn't really understand, but we kind of already knew.

So it was a lot less traumatizing.

I think today nowadays, I think probably the suit, the school would get sued.

And probably, you know, whoever's family it was would get sued.

Yeah, they get sued.

People are so happy.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah, the whole farm would have been canceled.

I don't know where I would have gone to school.

There was only one.

Wow.

Yeah.

You were in the slaughterhouse capital of California right there.

I didn't realize that, but I guess I was.

Yeah.

So, what made you want to leave that and go out to what made me want to leave my riches on the farm where we were slaughtering all my pets?

Well, let me let me see.

You know, I moved to Sacramento kind of hoping to like start a life there.

And I got started into modeling.

And I went down to LA a few times and had made some friends down here and had tried moving once, lived in like a webcamming house and then moved back and I got myself a sugar daddy and then moved back to Sacramento and tried to like live life on the straight and narrow, if you will.

And

then I went back down there to LA to here and to West Hollywood and have been here ever since.

Honestly, I feel so at home here.

There's a lot of people up in Sacramento or different small towns you'll go to, and they're like, oh, I hear that LA is full of bad people.

You guys might get that about Vegas.

Do you ever get that about Vegas, though?

Because it's just such an influx of people from all over the world.

I hear people are bad there.

You can't trust anyone.

There's so many good people down in LA, and I've met so many of them.

I'm so grateful to be down here.

I don't think I would have been able to get sober if I was living in Sacramento.

Wow.

Yeah.

Okay.

So there's a lot we got to dissect here.

Starting with the sugar daddy thing.

What was that relationship relationship like was it financial you would just get money from them

well okay so i'm like really bad at

like being a sugar baby because i fall in love like when people are really nice to me and give me money that's your love language i just gifts gifts are my love language yeah i actually used to feel a lot of shame around that and um i don't anymore because it's a very it's a very valid love language y'all okay there's there's five do you know the five love yeah acts of service words of affirmation, physical touch, physical gifts.

What's the other one?

Gifts.

And then I think it's time.

Time.

Okay.

Time spent.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Very good.

All men, all men that know the five love languages, it's very good, guys.

It's, it's helpful.

I really do think.

You don't necessarily use it every day, but I think it's helpful knowledge to know.

So that's my big one.

And

I met this guy.

He was 20 years older than me.

Damn.

And yeah, but

he was so smart.

That's one of the things also that I I love.

I love when somebody can teach me something.

So typically it is older guys.

So I've typically always dated older guys.

And this guy was like my first sugar daddy and he just kept trying to give me things.

At first, I was just like, oh, this is a little uncomfortable.

I'd always dated older guys who had done nice things for me.

And I'd had boyfriends ever since I was like.

14, 15,

probably too young to have a boyfriend, admittedly, but I did.

It was a small town.

That's what we did.

So I was used used to people doing nice things for me and i always knew that i liked that but then this guy came around and um he was much much older again 20 years older so that was the biggest age gap dating situation i'd ever been in but he was so cool he spoke like five different languages he had a couple different businesses he at the time was encouraging me like to get a real estate license and to kind of think into the future and i'd never

i'd never thought about that i was in my my early 20s.

I'm like, future, well, I'm concerned about tomorrow.

I didn't know about any of that.

And so it was very, it was very life-changing for me.

So that's kind of how I choose to continue to date because I had such a good experience the first time.

That's an interesting dynamic.

When I think of sugar daddy, I just think of like gifts and money, but that seems more of like a dating relationship.

Yeah, that's why I say sugar daddy because honestly, I think it's very shocking and it gets people's attention.

He was giving me money, but I know a lot of girls

kind of use sugar daddy for a term like where somebody is, they don't care about the person.

And I'm kind of bad in that.

I just fall in love because I'm like, this person is so nice.

They're so awesome and they're so wonderful.

And they just want to do nice things for me.

Like, I just fall in love.

Yeah.

Some people fall in love easily, man.

For me, it's tough.

I've only had maybe one, two loves in my whole life.

Really?

Yeah.

Well, you're a dude.

I think it's maybe it's a little bit different.

You know, you guys have a lot more

different things that I think you're thinking of when it comes to love.

Women, we're typically led by our emotions.

So that's why women, men, and women, or the feminine and the masculine, fit so well together.

Because whereas you guys are a little more standoffish, then we're like, hi, baby, how's your day?

How's it going?

Do you like this outfit?

I was like, I was,

I was talking to somebody when I walked up and I was like, dude, like, oh, do you like my outfit?

I'm like, I'm being such a girl right now, but whatever.

I feel that.

I'm a woman.

Wow.

So you never tried out like Raya or Tinder or anything?

No, I don't.

Okay.

Raya number one, because I think that's for people that have a little bit of celebrity.

I don't give a about that.

I don't give a.

I'd actually rather somebody

not have like the social clout

and just have,

you know, be very, very financially stable.

I really don't care about that.

I also, I think it's weird.

I'm going to be honest.

I think it's weird when guys profit off their looks.

When guys profit off their looks.

Yeah.

What do you mean?

Because I think that men should be like a little bit more on the smarter side.

I think that women are typically the sex that is profiting off of our looks.

It's more of a feminine thing to me.

Oh, so like male models, you're not a fan of them.

Male models or, you know, like people that are like a male that's in the mirror, like doing a selfie or like a gym selfie or shirtless selfie.

Like, there's such a fine line for you guys.

There's such a fine line.

Like there's guys that there's one guy that I follow and he's like always taking a shirtless selfie.

And I really like him as a person.

I know him as a person, but I'm just like, this is so like, I don't know, look into the camera and say something.

Like, what am I getting from this as a woman?

Like, who are you thirst trapping for, sir?

So, looks aren't enough for you.

You need no, I don't even care what they look like.

Really?

So, you could date anyone.

I've dated people that are overweight.

I've dated people that are balding.

I've

been shorter than me.

That little baby alien guy.

Have you seen him?

No, who?

He, like, hooked up with that girl in the bus, the little short black guy.

You haven't seen that?

He's a baby alien?

Yeah.

Damn.

Well, okay, so I did

date somebody pretty seriously for about a year that was burned on 70, 80% of their body.

Burned on 78%.

So he was literally like...

Yeah, he had burns all over his body.

Yeah, and all over his face.

But before you dated him or while you were dating, he got burned.

He had been burned before at his um i believe it was his high school prom he got in a car accident and stuck in the car and the car blew up yeah damn yeah so looks really don't matter looks really don't matter that is rare i feel like i feel like most people put that in the top like two you know

i like want somebody that's gonna prioritize me make me feel good and really want to do things to make me feel good and put a smile on my face um i just don't I don't know.

I don't really know when that happened for me.

I've, I've never cared about looks.

Like, I'll have girlfriends be like, oh, look at this guy's six-pack.

I'm like, what is this doing for me?

Nothing.

Like, I've even said on my podcast, I'm like, I'm not going to fuck a celebrity or like a hot guy.

I see no point just because they're a celebrity or just because they're hot, unless it's like, I don't have to pay taxes afterwards.

Then that would make sense to me.

Yeah.

But like, other than that, I'm just like, what is this guy's abs gonna do?

Like, he's not gonna have these abs for the rest of his life.

So you're a team dad bond.

I mean, yeah, I want somebody to be healthy.

You know, I wouldn't want somebody that's like smoking, drinking, like coughing,

bad health, coughing, you know, like can't hardly breathe, snores when he sleeps, you know, like I wouldn't want somebody that was like grotesquely

not taking care of themselves.

But yeah, I don't, I don't need a six-pack.

If you're in the gym and you have like a belly, like I don't care.

Just try to try to do the best for yourself.

That's hopeful for a lot of guys watching this.

Thank you.

You just need $5 million, baby.

$5 million net worth, guys.

That's all it takes.

So you said no drinking.

I know you're completely sober right now, right?

How long have you been sober?

I'm so excited.

I'm coming up on five years, April 15th.

Wow.

So, of course, one day at a time, but I'm, you know, I'm like looking forward to that timeline because in the 12-step program, that's when you kind of graduate from being a kid to like a teenager.

Really?

So it's a bit of a

long time.

A bit of a milestone.

Yeah.

Wow.

And how bad was it at the peak?

Like, were you drinking all the time?

So bad.

Oh, my God.

And I love

too.

I don't know if we could say that, maybe just bleed that out.

But

I really just,

I really just loved drinking.

And people are like, do you miss it?

And I'm like, y'all have this beautiful vision of me on a yacht in Sandra Pay having like a beautiful glass of champagne, like the sun's beaming down.

I'm being served grapes on a platter.

It wasn't like that.

It was in a very dark, dingy, small, tiny bar.

I was belly up to the bar.

And, you know, like, like Ted or Bill, Bob, whoever is like on the other side.

And I'm like chatting with the bartender.

And I'm like buying this old guy, you know, a round or whatever so him and I can drink together because I'm just.

I didn't even want to go to like beautiful places.

I love to go to the dark places.

The dirtier, the better.

The smaller, the better.

Yeah, I didn't want to have to like get dressed up.

I mean, that's the end, of course.

But in the end, I even started like, I wouldn't want to go out because I would just be like, I'm going to come back home and there's not going to be any alcohol here.

Or like, I'm going to have to stop drinking at 1.30 so I can get back home.

And then there's a mad rush to go get alcohol at 2 a.m.

Yeah.

Wait, people are going to the liquor store at 2 a.m.

Like, you've never been to the liquor store at like 1.59?

Like, please, let me.

Okay, then you're not an alcoholic.

Congratulations.

Well, yeah.

I guess that's the test right there to determine if you're an alcoholic or not.

Yeah.

Wow.

um it was very dark geez um so you're 38 are kids out of the question or do you want kids uh no i think that

um obviously it's harder it's gonna be harder for me at this point um

and there are more risks when you're older um

but you know this is just like where it is i have to date with intention currently like kevin samuels used to say you have to focus like a laser during my dating right now i can't just be out do you know who kevin Kevin Samuel is?

Actor, right?

No.

He was like, he's kind of called like the godfather of the red pill.

Oh, wait.

Okay.

I think I heard him.

He died.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Was he black?

He was black.

Yes.

Yeah.

And so he would say,

you know, he would also say,

I think like after 25 or something, it's like no man's land.

And then

there was like a sound bite that he would use.

It would be the equivalent of like

the,

what is the bush like blowing in the wind?

Like no man's land where it's like the desert.

Yeah,

I've seen that clip.

The tumbleweed, yeah, yeah.

So he would have like the, he would have the sound bite that he would play.

Um, I had the good fortune to meet him in person and have like a private one-on-one hour-long discussion with him.

And he gave me some really beautiful insight.

And he was just like, listen, you know, like you've made mistakes.

Congratulations.

We all have.

Like, just, you know, when you're dating now from now on choose differently be better hold yourself accountable for certain things that you kind of up on up until this point and try to do it differently in the future um i do want kids i think it's like a little late for me to freeze my eggs yeah i've had a couple girlfriends say you need to freeze your eggs i'm like i'm not freezing 38 year old eggs well holly just had a kid at 40.

I mean, but that's Holly.

Did she freeze her eggs?

I don't know what she did.

I think she had her baby naturally.

And I think she's been in like a committed relationship for a while.

So that being said, I mean, that would probably work for me, but am I going to freeze my eggs at 38 and not hope that by 40, I'll already have had a baby naturally?

Yeah.

I think for me, you know, 40 is probably where it starts to get really scary.

It's nerve-wracking right now.

I'd be lying if I said it's not nerve-wracking.

It is nerve-wracking.

You know, I don't really have the cushion.

The cushion is gone and I'm on borrowed time.

Yeah, girls are on a clock.

I'm lucky to be a guy.

I can have a kid at Hugh Hefner's age, 80.

He had a kid, right?

Yeah, yeah.

I don't really know if 80 is that healthy.

Yeah, that's extreme.

That's definitely extreme.

But even like 40s, you could have a kid.

Because there are studies that have to do also with men's sperm and different things.

It's kind of tough for you guys as you get older too, the health of the child.

It can be questionable.

Oh, really?

Interesting.

Yeah, because the sperm's not as strong, right?

Yeah.

It's, I mean, we all, we all age, you know, but women, our worth in society is a lot more on our shoulders as we age versus you guys.

It would be societally accepted a lot more for you to have a baby at probably not 80, but like 55, 60.

It would be societally accepted.

You would have that easier.

For me, I would be roasted, my God.

And I think it would be foolish too, because I don't even know if, you know, there's probably some lady and lady in India who's maybe carrying a baby when she's 60.

You know, I don't know.

It's like there's always these incredible stories where you're like, oh my God, she was sleeping and then she woke up and had a baby, you know?

So, I mean, but obviously that's kind of like a very random, not the norm experience.

But that being said, societally, you know, women are a lot more judged.

Yeah.

Especially with like body counts and stuff.

Yeah.

See that all the time.

Yeah.

But now that now it's a new era I'm starting.

Low body counts.

You're starting a new era.

I'm starting it.

It's a spiritual movement.

High mileage lady.

This is what you're mainly for guys.

Okay.

So like guys it was looked down on to have low body counts.

For men?

Yeah, you got made fun of.

Like, in high school, to have a low body count, it would be a minus for a man.

Yes.

Yes.

You get bullied, made fun of.

You should be buying.

But not.

Oh, you're changing it.

Changing the narrative, guys.

No, the men need to know.

You need to know what to do as a guy.

You're supposed to kind of be the leader.

What are you?

Are you going to fumble around, Sean?

I'm keeping it single digits.

Single digits.

Yeah.

That's the way it is.

Just like one at a time, or like no more wild orgies for you?

None at all.

No.

Okay.

You've put the kabosh on that.

I don't know what that is, but yeah.

That means that you've stopped it.

I never started.

You never started?

I've never been in an orgy, no.

Oh my God, that's so beautiful and peaceful.

You've been in an orgy?

I haven't been in an orgy, but I'm a woman.

If I say, yes, I've been in so many orgies, people are going to go, boo.

death to CJ Sparks, canceled.

That's awful.

And then you as a guy, you're going to be like, I've been in so many orgies.

What do you mean?

They're incredible.

They're great.

And then people are going to go, that's great, Sean Kelly.

We think you should do more.

This episode is presented by PS.

Guys, are you sick of using products that aren't effective or even good for you?

PS has created products for men that you actually want to use.

These guys have done a ton of research and it shows they got thousands of five-star reviews across all their products from condoms to supplements.

Not only that, but they've somehow found a way to make dick jokes appropriate at their office.

Go to psgoodtimes.com and use discount code podcast10 for 10% 10% off your order.

Orgies.

Immediately, right now, kick CJ off and do an orgy here right away because you're a man.

Yeah.

Double standard, right?

Yeah.

But you do tweet a lot about full moon.

So are you into like astrology spiritual stuff?

Did I tweet about a full moon?

A few times.

Okay.

I am.

I was just talking, I was actually just telling one of my guy friends who was out the other night on Saturday and it happened to be a full moon.

I was like, you should go up to these girls at the bar and you should ask them about it being a full moon.

Like it would be a really good opener,

a really unique opener.

I don't really know too, too much about the full moon.

I have an app called Moonly.

You guys should sponsor the Sean Kelly podcast.

There's an app for everything.

There's an app for everything.

God bless.

And so.

I'll check up some of the things on that.

Women, our bodies are, you know,

again, we're a lot more like with connected to the seasons and connected to nature.

Like the earth is called a mother, mother earth, you know, like the time is a father, time is a dude, time's a man, father time.

But the earth is a mother.

So we're a lot more connected in that way, spirituality and all that good stuff, you know, like

without getting too crazy, like, you know, as a woman, it's really good if your cycle is synced up with the moon.

It's kind of like telling you that you're in sync and you're at one with your moon.

I've heard that actually.

Yeah, yeah.

So that being said,

I think that especially like the full moon

has a unique meaning for women.

So, I am, I guess, a little bit witchy in that.

I wouldn't be able to describe exactly why.

I know that there's a thing like with the water, like we as humans have, I don't know, 70% water.

Somebody's probably going to roast me in the comments for that.

However much water, we got a lot of water in our bodies.

I think it's in the 70s, I've heard that.

Okay, Sean said he agrees.

Damn, you're putting all the heat on me this episode.

I really am because I know the internet loves to roast.

So, I just need a partner in this place just to be my partner.

But

and then, so the full moon does have, it can like control, or I'm probably not describing it very well, but it has something to do also with the waves and the ocean.

So there is something like,

there's something emotional about that.

We have our, we can have mood swings or we can feel very at peace.

I love being a woman.

Really?

Yeah.

I like being a guy.

I don't think I'd pick woman.

If I got to choose, I'd pick guy.

That's good.

What about you?

That's good.

I'm happy being a woman.

Okay.

Yeah.

Although I did have a dream that I had a woman.

I mean, you probably were in a past life.

Who knows?

I mean, yeah, I hope I would get to experience like being a guy in a past life.

That would be really cool.

I feel like if I was a guy, I'd be like a very cool, fun guy.

Like probably.

For sure, I would be like the tribal leader.

For sure, I hunted dinosaurs at some point and got one, a big big one, for sure.

And for sure, I had a really nice house as a caveman.

Wow, the housing seems to be important to you over these lifetimes.

Stability.

Yeah.

Yes.

Interesting.

What was the dream with the about?

What were you doing?

I don't know.

I just,

I had this dream.

It was a while back.

And in my dream, I had a

and I,

in my dream, was like,

I've got to put this somewhere.

Because it was like ready to go.

It wasn't a flash.

It was hard.

It was hard and ready to go.

Okay.

And I was like, and I now I feel as though I can empathize with guys a little bit just from my small tiny dream experience.

That in that dream, I was like,

I got to put it somewhere.

Yeah.

It felt like I had the urge to put it somewhere.

I feel that.

Did you have to put a PS condom on it?

Did I have to put a condom on it?

Yeah.

You know, in the dream, I didn't get that far, but honestly, you know, like, I would like to think I would be a responsible owner and put a condom on it.

I feel that.

Let's see one if you don't mind.

Where is it?

It's in there.

This is the box?

Yeah.

Okay.

All right.

Here we go.

Zoom in.

P.S.

condoms.

What are we PSing?

Because, you know, P.S.

is something you say at the end of a letter.

Like, P.S., love you.

I remember.

P.S.

Never call me again.

Yeah.

PS.

Die.

Letters are a lost art.

We should bring them back.

I'd be bringing letters back.

I'd be leaving notes.

Yeah.

Yeah.

People, people would be knowing if I was there.

Are you that girl that leaves a note when you hit a car?

No, I don't drive.

For like, I just don't, I'm, I'm like a passenger princess.

Okay.

Very nice.

I would like to say the box is a 10 out of 10.

I have to also comment.

It's a little sicky.

Did y'all already use this?

Might have spilled some lube on it earlier.

Okay.

Oh,

love that.

Extra large.

Okay, so this is an extra large sonor.

Don't know if I had an extra large one in my dream.

There's so many in here.

This person is having a lot of sex.

Wow.

That's at least slip into something more comfortable.

That's a very good tagline for a condom because is it more comfortable?

I would like to know.

What is it more comfortable than?

Right.

The actual vagina itself?

Because that is a bold claim.

That is bold.

Probably other condoms are talking about.

Okay.

Is the condoms, do they like cut the, you know, is it good to have a little tightness at the base, Sean?

Yeah.

Or do you like it a little loose?

I don't know.

These are 30% thinner, I think.

30% thinner.

How many do we have in here?

Let's find out.

Let's count it.

You've been busy.

No worries.

We've got you covered.

So let me ask, is this something that comes monthly?

Is this a subscription, if you will?

Much like the OnlyFans?

I don't know.

Okay.

Two, four, six, eight, ten.

There's 11 in here.

Now, is the 11th a good luck condom or is has one already been let us show?

You might have filmed a little earlier, you know?

Oh, my God.

Keeping it LA, baby.

In the same chair you're sitting there.

I love that.

I love, okay, well, you wouldn't be the first people to film in the same chair that I'm sitting in.

So So

just so you know.

All right, latex condom.

There we go.

There we go.

Okay, love this.

All the looks really nice.

Is it like different colors or smells, tastes?

Open one and find out.

Let's see.

Open one?

Okay, hold on.

It's not going to get too juicy, is it?

Okay, it's just your typical yellow pineapple

condom.

there you have it guys doesn't smell bad

shout out to uh who's gonna have sex with this one now unused unused all right guys well there you have all right well honestly those condoms can take a lot of abuse so i highly recommend using them the next time you guys

how long will those 12 last you

what do you i'm not having sex right now yeah you are no

i'm not

what's the longest you've gone without sex Um, the longest I've gone recently was like six months, damn, five, and then I had like another spurt after that where I did five months.

It's pretty long, honestly.

I mean, not to say that I wasn't, you know, like

furiously masturbating at home, right?

Because I was,

but you know, um, also as women, like I think that

I think that if we're

like sex just means sex is typically means something different to women than it does for men.

So

while

I definitely support,

I think it can be very healthy when used correctly,

I support everybody's right to do, and I know that a lot of these women really enjoy their jobs and they have a very different sexual experience, you know, because there's work sex and then there's relational sex.

I think that

for myself, I was thinking or I was making

probably like

not the best decisions, like who I was getting into relationships with.

And so I had a couple bad experiences and I was like, I need to take a break because I don't know,

you know, like kind of to work on myself and just be like, why did I choose this person that was ended up being very, very, very wrong?

I feel that.

Yeah, yeah.

So you said sex means different things for men and women.

Yeah.

What did you mean by that?

Sex

emotionally, you know, like endorphins are released.

And sex for men is typically kind of like a means to an end.

You know, you kind of just want to get off, which is neither bad nor good.

It just simply is.

Sex for women, our emotions typically get more involved, you know, even if we just have sex with somebody just once, you know.

And I also acknowledge that I think I really do think that when these porn stars are having sex, I truly do think it is different for them because they go in there with a certain mindset.

Like, this is the job.

Like, when I take my pictures for OnlyFans,

I'm like not taking it in the same way that I would maybe take like a hot selfie for a guy that I was dating.

You know, I'm just not, you know, if there's a connection emotionally, then things are things are different.

So, I do believe that.

For me, when I'm having sex, it's like

I'm not somebody.

I'm like a big boyfriend gal.

I love a boyfriend.

Like, even when I was drinking all those years, I had people that I'm so grateful helped take care of me.

It was typically my boyfriend.

So, I'm so grateful for all those experiences.

And when I'm having sex with somebody, I'm

it's typically because I'm already liking them.

So, you won't just have a random one-night stand.

I, I mean, I, I definitely am not an angel.

I certainly have had those in my lifetime.

Um,

but yeah, it's just,

it seems like a net negative for a woman to even just go and have a one-night stand.

Like, why?

What am I getting out of this?

Nothing.

Just pleasure in that moment, I guess.

I would hope so.

I would hope so.

But if it's a one-night stand, how much, how much can that person know about me or my body?

And then how comfortable?

And am I going to be able to say like, no, baby, don't do it like that.

Can you do it like this, please?

I prefer it more.

Like, it's gonna be kind of weird, yeah.

Because most girls aren't, yeah, most girls aren't.

What's your name again?

Can you hit it like this and not like this?

I don't really like that.

And the person's just gonna be like, Okay, weird.

Yeah, why are you talking?

Yeah, because I heard most girls aren't even finishing like that, you know, from sex.

You need additional stuff done.

Yeah, a lot of girls, typically, again, I don't know the numbers.

Um, typically, most women come from penetration and clitoral stimulation.

Yeah, so it's like a puzzle.

We are.

You know the meme about the men's switches and women's switches.

Like men have an on-off switch and then women have like a whole motherboard, computer board.

It's like Dexter's laboratory.

Yeah, exactly.

Yeah.

And men, it's just on-off, which there's nothing wrong with that.

It's not right or wrong.

It just simply is.

It's just how it is, I guess.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Well, I want to talk about your podcast, actually.

You've been crushing it.

Any exciting guests coming on or recent episodes?

Yes, we have so many guests.

I actually just received a voice message from one of our guests the other day who is very excited to come on.

She's a very huge, very well-known,

very decorated

star.

So I'm very excited to have her on very soon.

So we're just figuring out dates for that.

We're going to be filming again this weekend, and we have another,

I think we film typically anywhere from four to five episodes in like a little crunch.

And so we have a bunch of great performers coming up.

And I'm excited for all of them, but we have one that I'm very, very excited for.

Yeah.

Do you have any that you film that are favorites of yours?

Any favorite guests that come to mind?

You know,

some of the guests recently have been killing it.

We, all of, all of the guests, I imagine it's kind of like being a guy hosting these podcasts.

All of these women bring something beautiful, unique, exciting, and sexy to the table.

Like I imagine it's like what dating would be like in LA as a guy where you're just like, everyone's hot and like they're all good in their own certain way.

Like there's definitely not any one standout guest because every guest brings the heat in a different way, which I'm so thankful for.

Absolutely.

Yeah, especially because when we were first starting out, it was, there was like a little awkward moments where maybe people didn't really know what to say, and you're kind of like still figuring out like what your job is as a host.

Yeah.

And you literally are like, just want to reach over and poke them, like, you good?

Like, are you alive?

Like, are you being forced to do this?

Like, what's happening?

And so I'm so grateful because as we've been going on,

the interviews get easier and better, and the guests get better as well.

One standout guest who made an outrageous claim

was the damn dangler.

And she said on the podcast

that she could taste between

a black guy's cum and a white guy's cum.

Wow.

And that she liked the black guys cum better.

And that kind of like set the internet ablaze.

Yeah, I can't speak from experience, obviously, but that's interesting.

You know, I wonder if there's something there.

Maybe the diet.

That's what she said.

That's what she said.

She said that the black men

tasted better, and she thought it was because they were ultimately taking better care of themselves because the black men are held to a higher standard physically.

Really?

Mm-hmm.

In the industry?

Huh.

I didn't even know that was a thing.

But yeah, it's got to be the diet because if you're eating like, obviously, it's going to taste weird.

Yeah.

Which I was like mind-blown.

We had a guest, Connie Pena, who was talking about how she was a working gal and she walked in on a client who was smoking crack.

Wow.

He was like chit-chatting with her with his leg like up on the sink like girl.

So, you know, and she's like, oh, what is going on here?

Oh my God, you know?

And I hope it was after the sex.

I don't, I don't recall whether it was because it'd be like weird to kiss someone that like just smoked crack.

That's so weird.

I didn't even think about that.

That'd be strange.

But like, that would be so, I want like, I don't know, can you taste it?

I would, I would be so freaked out.

I would just be like, sir, please brush your teeth.

I don't know.

I don't know how, like, that's what comes to your mind.

Brush your teeth.

Yeah, just brush your teeth.

But it was so funny because everyone in the comments was like, Hunter Biden?

So we did neither confirm nor deny.

Could be.

Could be.

And here you go, Hunter.

P.S.

P.S.

Condoms.

Wrap something up somewhere.

Do you only have women on your show?

So we typically do have women because, quite frankly, that's what everyone wants to see.

We've had men.

I would like to have Jason Love on at some point.

He's a big one.

Kirion, Kirion Lee,

Johnny Sins, and Manuel Ferreira.

That Manuel Ferreira is my hall pass.

Yeah, I'm not in a relationship, but like that's my hall pass.

Like, if I ever get in a relationship and everyone's like, you know, what's your hall pass?

It's not going to be a celebrity.

It's going to be Manuel Ferreira.

And it's because of his scene with Angela White.

The scene.

I don't even know what it was.

Y'all don't know the scene.

You got to look it up.

It was that good.

It's that good.

I watched just a little snippet and I was sold.

Damn.

Don't even know what this man's face looks like.

Damn.

It's ready.

That good.

Ready to go.

It was looking good.

Let me tell you.

God bless that man.

All right.

Well, if you're watching this man, shoot or DM, I guess.

Yeah, you know, I don't think so, but

I think actually, truthfully, I might be a little intimidated.

I actually don't know if I could go through something like that.

But

so these are these are men that we love to have on the show, but honestly, the guys' episodes don't always do as well.

People want to hear from the women.

Like the crazy things are happening to us.

I kind of feel that on my show, too.

The women get more views for some reason.

Yeah.

I don't know why.

For what?

For some reason?

Yeah.

Got to figure out.

They're so weird.

They're just big personalities.

Well, CJ, it's been fun.

Anything you want to promote or close off with?

I will just say that I am very excited to be speaking at an upcoming conference that unfortunately is going to be done after this airs.

But it's a biohacking conference that I'm very excited about.

And I hope to have more speaking engagements in the future.

So if y'all watch this in the future, you want me to come speak and do something crazy, shoot me a DMs.

Speak on biohacking.

Well, it has to do also with sobriety.

Okay.

Because, yeah, you can just, I mean, you hack your whole life if you're sober, babe.

Nice.

Love it.

Call me.

Yeah.

Thanks for watching, guys.

As always, see you tomorrow.