Confessions of a Male Escort Turned Bedroom Coach with Sterling Cooper | Digital Social Hour #19

All right, welcome to the Digital Social Hour.

I'm here with my co-host, Wayne Lewis.

What up?

Ari Gold.

What's cracking?

And our guest today, Cooper Sterling.

It's actually Sterling Cooper because my Instagram's backwards.

It's a long story.

What up?

Sterling Cooper.

That's That's Sterling Cooper.

That's correct.

All right, what up?

How are you liking Vegas?

I like Vegas.

I used to work out here every now and then, so I like the city.

I'm kind of used to it.

Okay, was that during your male escort days?

That was during my porn days.

Damn, hang on, John.

Just dive right into it.

I didn't know where to start with that.

Male escort.

You can ask me about anything you like, bro.

I'm like, own the book.

So, did you get into porn before the male escort days?

I was a straight male escort back in Australia.

That's how I actually kind of got into porn in the first place.

You had to clarify with the straight there.

I really have to clarify that shit because some business.

What do you think?

Wealthy Chinese business ladies mostly.

For real?

On film?

No, no.

They were fucking private.

They were paying me.

They were paying me.

What the fuck?

Wait, wait, wait.

So you were being escorted?

Not live, but after.

Wait, so you were being like the you're

like an escort, a male escort.

Yeah, I was a companion.

A companion.

Yeah.

So y'all would meet and go straight and get started.

Oh, you would hang out.

You wine and dining.

You wine and dining, but technically they're paying for the whining and dining.

Yeah.

But it's like the boyfriend experience.

Yeah.

That's what it's about.

So like how many times a week were you having sex?

Like what what was like your maximum?

What was like the max times you had sex in one week?

I mean honestly like I didn't get into this stuff until I was in like late twenties so I kind of paced myself.

I wouldn't do anything more than like four or five times a week.

Oh, four or five times a day.

That's not bad.

So it wouldn't be out where it won't happen.

So you you never like took anything, you just worked out and just kept saying for the the escorting stuff, yeah, it was mostly just like God-given talent.

Then when I went to like porn, like you'd say you'd use like the little blue pill for like the super, super hard, difficult scenes where it's just like one woman and there's like ten dudes and you gotta like take your turn with like a vagina and you share that for like a fucking hour.

So that would be like, okay, this is this day's gonna be tough.

I'll pop a little blue pill.

And then on the other days where it's not so tough, you don't use use that because then it you're not relying on it.

It's not a crutch anymore.

Yeah, yeah.

You still need to use it as like a crutch.

Okay, so wait.

I want to know,

how did you go from porn to kicking it with Andrew Tate?

That's a jump.

Yeah, it's a bit of a jump, isn't it?

So,

well, I mean, obviously, at the time, him and his brother were doing webcam stuff, so kind of had that in common.

Actually, started off on Twitter.

I actually got into

a back and forth with Tristan Tate about the European porn industry.

We disagreed on some stuff.

And then I had Tristan on my YouTube channel.

And we turns out we were like Eskimo Brothers.

Oh,

that's not surprising.

That's a bond.

It wasn't a bond.

Yeah, it is, for sure.

No, but that's a bond that can never be broken.

But most men know because

once you've shared a plate of fish with another man, you know how that fish acts, you know the tendencies.

You can bond over the bullshit.

It's a very beautiful moment to share with men.

It's like, oh, Jessica,

oh my God.

Shanchi with this one?

Yeah.

For sure.

But if you do that and then they don't know, it's like, oh, it's okay.

You don't fuck so.

These days I try to avoid that completely.

So you always, what?

Do you deny it?

Like, nah, I don't know her, or you just kind of...

No, no, no.

Like, if I see a girl's following my friend on Instagram, I would talk to her.

Yeah.

Like, we have a very, me and my close group of friends have a very, very strict broker code around that.

Even if she just...

We try to completely avoid it.

I like that too.

I'm just saying.

Although,

the same girls will slide into...

Bro, buddy, too.

The same girls.

The exact same girls will be sliding into all our DMs simultaneously.

So it's like, it's a buck shot.

I'm like, I don't know.

Yeah, they're trying to see which one they can snap.

I don't want to be a part of that.

It's really more clout chasing, I feel like, these days.

Definitely.

Well, look at it this way.

If the guy's hanging around Andrew Tate, who's got more eyes on him in the world?

Andrew Tate.

Exactly.

So, you know, if you're just even a side bitch in the background, just kind of your head.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure.

You know, oh my God, girl, that's Stephanie with Andrew Tate.

Look at that.

And it's really obvious.

It's really obvious when you see it.

You're going to know.

You're going to know right off right off rip.

Do you think the Tates will get out of jail?

Yeah, they'll get out.

They're not going to be charged with anything.

The charges are basically.

Conspiracy, yeah.

That's the reason they're detaining them.

They still haven't been charged.

They've been sitting there for like, what, three months now?

They can keep them for like six months, really.

Without charging them.

So that's all they're doing.

They're just detaining them.

Not going to charge them.

At the end of the day, they might try and make something up so they can keep their watches in their cars.

But they're definitely not going to jail over any of these allegations.

They're all completely basic.

So you help men

perform better.

No, no, no.

Backjack, backjack.

Tell them what I'm talking about.

I'm already curious, man.

No, no, tell them what the IG handle is.

Tell them what your IG handle is.

Oh, but my tag.

Yeah.

The world's best bedroom coach for me.

Yeah.

So you help men get better in the bedroom?

Yeah, I helped them.

I helped them beat the four horsemen of the dick apocalypse.

What the fuck is that?

So the four horsemen of the dick apocalypse.

The four horsemen of the dick apocalypse.

Someone break out a note, though.

I know somebody about to go to school right now.

What are the four horsemen of the dick apocalypse?

Okay, erectile dysfunction.

Okay.

Premature ejaculation.

Okay.

Delayed ejaculation.

And performance anxiety.

Back out, back out, back out.

Delayed ejaculation.

What is delayed economic?

Delayed.

Exactly.

That's what a lot of young dudes have today because they watch too much fucking porn.

So they jack off too much.

They can't come at all when they're with the chick.

Oh.

So they're sitting there like pounding away for like an hour and fucking nothing's happening.

Poor bastards.

So

how do you balance the porn, or watching porn, and actually performing?

Is there a healthy balance?

That's what I'm doing.

Well, okay, so I don't shoot porn anymore.

I stopped shooting like two years ago now.

And I started helping guys out with this stuff.

And the more guys I started talking to, the more I realized how damaging being habitual with your porn use is to guys.

For sure.

It really fucks him up.

It's a crutch.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

So

fantasy.

But is it porn or is it the jacking off to porn?

It's a bit of both.

It's a combination of both.

I mean, like, back in our day, like, when we were jacking off, it was like a fucking aggressive dirty magazine.

And it was the same magazine.

I got in trouble in the third grade for bringing a cutout of the baddest bitch I ever saw on a Playboy magazine.

You were jacking off in third grade?

I mean, I don't know.

To call me out and shit.

It was definitely non-it was actually, I'm sorry, it wasn't third grade.

It was middle school.

So it

must have been like fifth or sixth grade, but some fucking asshole ratted me out just because he thought it was going to be funny, and I beat the shit out of him after school.

But

yeah, I took my fucking nudie mag, and then from there on, my parents knew I was going to be a horny little monster, you know?

So how do you, like,

how do you, like, like, combat with that, like, with those four dick, you call them dick apocalypse?

How do you defeat them?

There's got to be a better name.

I like that name.

I'm saying that.

Can you defeat them?

Like, are they...

Absolutely.

Like, it's not that...

So first, let's start with, say, performance anxiety, right?

That's kind of getting in your own head.

That's the thing that affects most guys.

What's that?

What's performance anxiety?

That's you.

psyching yourself out and your dick can't get hard.

Most guys think...

Oh.

That's what happens when you're drunk.

Happened to me once a week.

Well, that's what happens to me when I'm not attracted.

Technically, okay, so technically, if it's happening when you're drunk, that's actually more erectile dysfunction, because that's the difference between the two.

Like, erectile dysfunction, think of it as like a plumbing problem, right?

Which means like

your blood flows off, your heart's got like some plaque in it or something like that.

Are you calling me a fat ass?

Is that what you're trying to say?

Your words, not mine.

I thought we were going to be friends, Mr.

Sterling.

Fuck you, sir.

But then you got, okay, you got that's erectile dysfunction.

Performance anxiety is when you're psyching psyching yourself out, you're getting in your own head, like, oh, she's really, really pretty, and I'm nervous that I'm not going to be able to perform.

And then lo and behold, you don't perform.

And then you've got the other two, like delayed ejaculation, watching too much goddamn porn.

Premature ejaculation tends to come down to like, again,

half mental component and then half physical component with like your pelvic floor being imbalanced, you're being too tense and too tight.

So there's a whole,

definitely don't have time, enough time to go into detail with all of it, but all four of them are very, very easily easily fixed.

Right.

Yeah, and it's only because I've been

you know professionally laying pipe for like eight years.

Let's go to probably the number.

I feel like most people struggle or most people have premature

out of the four.

That's probably the number one.

Yeah, I think I'd say that's pretty fair.

Okay.

Premature, exactly.

So let's, that would be my, my, my fair bet because I think I know a lot of guys that, you know, don't last very long.

And so

once you come.

And that's like a, yeah, but that's like an that's a common thing where guys are trying to learn like karma sutra and all that shit i'm like you know balance your cock with your brain and da da da i i'm i'm curious no but listen it we're laughing because we don't struggle from that but i'm sure if somebody is for sure it sucks i'm i'm curious what your perspective is on something like that what what would you say to a guy that that is struggling with nothing too quick okay so one really easy thing he can do is he has to pay attention to the way he's like trained his body to act.

And one of the reasons why a lot of dudes will bust super quickly quickly is because when they watch porn

they finish in like 30 seconds they're true they're literally training their own body to finish super quickly and there's some there's other guys who like sit there and fat for hours they don't have that problem yeah but the dudes who when they watch porn they're like 30 seconds got done

they're literally training their entire body to respond like that so when they have a beautiful woman in front of them why are they surprised that they're busted and finishing so quickly right right so you have to you can completely reverse that physical anchoring that physical training by, well, one way is literally by

practicing what you would call edging or blue balling yourself.

Deliberately doing it.

So you can un your body can start to unlearn that response.

And you can learn to when you can you need to understand like

where you're where that point of no return is.

Blue ball.

Blue ball yourself.

Blue ball yourself.

Ah, okay, okay, okay.

Fascinating.

So look, let me, uh, so premature ejaculation, is that before sex or is that just coming too early or ejaculating too early?

It's really just coming before you want to.

Oh, okay.

Like

you're not having control.

You heard the man.

He's trying to lay the pipe down for hours.

Or

if you want to lay it down for five minutes, then do it for five minutes.

Yeah.

You know?

Come on, command.

Okay, Superman.

Okay, Superman.

Let's go.

Sorry, baby.

I only have five minutes.

Five minutes.

Oh, you know what, honey?

Daddy's got some time.

Well, there's nothing wrong with a quickie here and there.

Yeah.

Girls can enjoy quickies too.

At all, yeah.

I feel like a bit of passion in the bit.

Like, you know, you just can't help yourself.

I used to think the longer you could fuck, the better it was.

Yeah, it turns out anything past an hour, it kind of

takes a little bit.

Yeah, there's a difference.

An hour's a long time.

An hour's too long.

An hour's a long time.

An hour's a long time if all you're doing is just...

Pounding.

So that's all you're doing for an hour?

You got to make love.

Anything over an hour, you got to be making love.

That's a whole different type of thing.

What's the foreplay, too?

Is that included in sex, too?

Yeah, totally.

So, So like, okay, if you want to go for if you want to go for like an hour, like, okay, there's going to be, like, she's going to suck your talk.

You're going to go down on her for a bit.

Maybe you want to do some kicky shit, like, tie her up, like,

bit of role play, a bit of dirty talk.

That, like, that is an hour.

Okay.

You know, if you're just sitting there in Mishner.

Doing this for an hour, there's a problem.

Yeah.

Like, that woman is bored.

Yeah.

And is numb now.

She can't feel shit.

Yeah.

Yeah, I feel like.

I mean, unless you got a small dick, then she, you know, doesn't really feel like that.

During porn, as long as you did it, does it affect your relationships now or like your interactions with women?

Or you feel like you're more smooth when it comes to my you.

You know what?

It kind of took away the power of sex.

You don't care about it.

What do you mean?

Let's say that again.

Because most women will use sex as a power over men.

They'll dangle the pussy to get what they want.

Dangle the pussy.

Like, if you've had just

tons of sex.

Honey, I've been to this buffet before.

I ain't seen nothing new here.

That power's gone, right?

So it makes you more resilient as a guy when it comes to to relationships to dating.

But is that a good or a bad thing?

That's a good thing.

I think it's a great thing.

The pussy has no power.

That's a great thing.

I think it's a good thing, too, because it doesn't have power.

I'm just numb to it.

I feel like, especially living in Vegas, I'm just so numb to it that if you can't stimulate me mentally, I really could give two shits.

It's not, you can say something stupid or just something that's just not on my wavelength.

And I'm agreeing.

I'm not there.

So you think it's smart for men to kind of like not over sexualize themselves, but at some point in life, like fuck whoever they want to fuck to get it out of their system?

Because it prevents it.

It makes you have sexual discipline, right?

Yeah, I mean, because honestly, somebody might laugh at you and be like, or some women might be gross.

They're like, oh, you used to be a porn star, but your sexual discipline is a lot higher than other men when it's going to clubs and all that stuff.

You're more smooth.

Yeah, and I'm not just acting like a raging, horny teenager all the time.

Like most guys really are if they get any whiff of pussy.

Yeah, right.

They're just so desperate and they put a pussy on a pedestal, man.

And you'd be surprised, man,

with my background, when women find out my background and stuff, it doesn't really turn them off.

I think for girls, it's different.

It's more curiosity than anything else.

They just want to ask questions and figure out what it was like.

But you're absolutely right.

I agree.

For guys, it's the complete opposite.

Like, if a guy finds that out about his partner,

it's a massive turnoff.

For most guys.

For most guys, I think it is.

I feel that.

Do you know your body count?

Not really.

It's like somewhere like 600 plus-ish, something like that.

Fuck.

That's crazy.

And the only reason I know that is because I was was counting like scenes as well,

like when I got into the industry.

And then

before that and after that.

Does that count?

Professional body count and personal body count?

Do you, I mean, yeah, it's not your thing.

You're getting sex, right?

Well, timeout.

You're getting paid.

You're getting paid to fuck something.

It's still fucking, though.

It is.

It is still fucking.

Can most guys get paid to fuck?

No.

No, that's even more impressive.

I will never forget.

It's an art.

What about a prostitute?

Would you count that in your body count?

You have to.

No, no, no, no.

She might give you something that you can't get rid of.

No, no, no, no.

Because, like, what?

Like, I mean, like, with guys, they look at they take body count as kind of like a badge of honor in a weird way.

You've got to go to the bottom.

I don't actually agree with that.

I don't think that's like something to measure your self-esteem by.

I don't think it's a method.

Hold on.

I don't think it's a measuring of self-esteem.

I think it's more of like the hunt.

It's more getting the kill.

Yeah, that's that's the point.

It's like if you're going out and you're dropping somebody off at a bar and you're going, meet a new bitch, boom, take her home, and you.

It's a skill.

That's a confirmed kill.

It's a skill skill.

That is a confirmed kill.

In my book.

If you go out and you go to a bar and you're like, hey, baby, how much?

And she's like, $400.

And you said that.

That's not okay.

You give that to me.

That's not okay.

Okay, but that's my point.

How can you add that into a body count if that takes no effort?

Anybody can fucking do that.

So you feel like

body counts have to be added into the whole

hunt of the game.

That's like going to a safari and saying you killed a lion when the motherfucker was tranquilized.

But how many shits do you feel like you actually?

You're not hunting shit.

You're hunting a fucking sponge.

That's true.

But do you feel like, I mean, getting pussy for certain cats is easy, so they may not put it in.

Okay, but that's the skill.

That's my point.

Is that if you got swag

and I don't, then fuck, you got game.

I got to learn game.

It's nothing to get.

It's nothing wrong.

You just learned in a better scenario.

I didn't have somebody to teach me.

So now I got to go out and watch fucking YouTube videos or however the fuck people learn how to.

Bro, but I feel like at the end of the day, it's all about trial and error.

You don't understand how to talk to women or be comfortable around women until you get shot down or until you learn that path of like, okay, they like when I talk about this.

They definitely don't like when I say something about their boobs.

They like when I compliment their fucking eyes.

They hate when I say they have a nice ass.

There's, you know what I'm saying?

You got to learn the boundaries.

And then once you get there, instead of, damn, baby, that's a nice ass, you go, wow, you have a beautiful smile.

Can I offer to buy you a drink?

That kind of shit.

What do you think like the best approach is for a man, like giving them advice like kick up lines?

I want to hear it.

When it comes to women, like, like how.

You mean when it comes to just attracting a woman in the first place?

Yeah, like what's your advice to men with that have a problem attracting women?

Get blue eyes like this.

Zoom in right here.

That's rare.

Zoom in right here.

I bet, look, I bet this guy's just at the barn.

He's like.

Yeah, those eyes help for sure.

Just hit him with a little pinky.

Yeah,

it doesn't hurt at all.

Then the accent kind of helps a bit too.

Oh, yeah.

That's a game changer, too.

Yeah.

But yeah, but your accents kill it in Australia.

Really?

As well.

That's the same thing.

So we're going to Australia.

Yeah.

No, it's mine.

Man, we used to go out to the clubs and stuff.

And when like the sailing, like the American Navy came into town, we just, all right, we're going home.

Yeah, yeah.

These boys just got to clean up.

Yeah.

Like every time.

Australia's advice.

So what, so what would your best advice be?

Like, what's like the one-on-one?

Like, talking to a chick one-on-one.

Yeah.

Say you're at a bar or club.

Like, you have to, well, I'd start with yourself, man.

Like, you've got to start with yourself.

Like,

if you're low on self-esteem, it's because you realize there's something in your life that you need need to work on.

Like, so maybe if you're maybe you're self-conscious about your body weight, you hit the fucking gym for a start.

Maybe you're self-conscious about the fact that you're broke.

Well, maybe you should learn skills and start leveling up your finances.

You know, maybe you're maybe you're not very charming, maybe you're not very socially skilled.

Sure, all right.

Well, then start real simple and give every every old lady you see a compliment.

Oh man, that's a great one.

Because being social and charming is a it's kind of like a muscle.

Yeah, like you gotta see you gotta train it.

Like you don't, most people don't start the day very, very social.

Right.

If you force yourself.

Yeah, if you force yourself.

My day is starting in your gym.

Your gym is social.

Start in the gym, say hi to everyone you see.

Literally.

Get in the elevator in your apartment.

Say hi to everyone who walks in and out of the elevator.

It's literally a muscle like that that builds up across the day.

And then, okay, when it's time to go to the club in the evening or whatever.

You've just got to be comfortable.

You're like now at like a seven, eight out of ten when you were like a one at the start of the day.

It's just, it's just about being relaxed and taking those nerves away because that's a lot of the problem that that guys have they come across creepy if they're just nervous and they're like outcome dependent too.

That's another big thing.

If I need this to go well

There's a problem.

Women are so good at picking up that creepy vibe.

Yeah.

They'll know for us in a second.

This guy's got an agenda.

He's going to try, he's trying to get my pants.

And they kind of all they kind of do know that if any guy's talking about it.

I mean they know

they don't want it to be so obvious.

They don't want to feel like people are going to be able to do it.

It's got to be subtle.

You got to be subtle.

You got to be smooth.

You got to have sort of a finesse to it.

It's an art.

It really is.

It really is an art.

Yeah, you just got to be like, yo, take those off.

Like that.

Damn.

Just like Cat Guy.

Take those off.

Say that in Australia, or you'll clean up.

Can you see yourself being in a monogamous relationship?

Well,

do you think men today are built for monogamy?

I'm not going to be monogamous.

Okay.

I mean, I'm currently in three monogamous relationships, if that makes sense.

Do they all know about each other?

They know that I have other girls.

They don't meet each other.

They don't know that I'm not exclusive.

Are they all in the same place or different places?

They're in different places.

And why is that?

Do you feel as if you just don't want to be that guy that's in a monogamous relationship?

Or they don't see you.

I've cheated on every girlfriend I've ever had.

Got you.

And I knew that at a very early age.

I was like, yeah, this is not, like, I can't do that.

Too many flavors in the ice cream shop, huh, bud?

Bro, it's just,

I think it's honestly in every guy.

Okay.

Really?

I just think a lot of guys surprise me.

Don't get me in trouble.

Listen to this whole timeout.

Every guy.

Every guy.

I'll preface this, though, because we've had these conversations before.

And I will say, it's not every guy.

It's every guy in our generation now.

Our dads, our dads never dealt with this shit.

You know why?

Yeah.

Because when they hit our moms, they were like, damn, I ain't never going to see some pussy like this ever again.

They locked this shit down.

I disagree with that.

You know how, you know, before the internet, you know what?

Like, dudes would have two, like,

whole nother family in a different system.

Literally.

100%.

That shit still happened.

That's at the same time.

Social media.

No, no no yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes no no yes yes yes yes what the fuck bro i know guys that literally have machines that just do it automatically

so hold this so time out time out time out when we're talking about you got tinder bumble raya fucking hinge i could go on for fucking days bro seeking arrangers where people can literally pay for pussy okay so you're telling me that my dumbass dad had more access to pussy than me absolutely the fuck not.

You know what?

I'll say he probably had a better shot than the average guy does 100%.

Because those dating apps you're just talking about right there,

90% of dudes are getting no fucking action.

Really?

It's lit.

No, literally, you can look at

the profiles are influenced by

dating app dating app again now, now, today, right now.

So short.

Because of those dating apps and things, it's really skewed the way, like what you would call the dating marketplace.

I just think the accessibility facebook instagram yeah

twitter but think about you can shoot the shot you can shoot your shot with the girl of your dreams that you see on on tick tock and she might just message you back but for 99 dude she's going to ignore his ass however however

in your dad's generation everyone wasn't on their phones they were actually outside mingling and meeting people yeah you had to have a fucking person i i i have talked to you know some of the elders in my family who've as they've gotten older they've been a bit more forthcoming with their what they did as younger men.

Yeah,

they were still fucking, man.

They were still

happily married, but they would have the occasional bit of side.

Right.

I'm not saying they weren't, and it definitely, I'm sure, was a lot easier to get away with.

What I am trying to say is that the accessibility in options and the variance that you have at the touch of your variant, you can literally sleep.

Sleeping in the bed next to your girl and just swiping away.

I agree with that.

That's crazy.

The temptation is greater.

I do agree with that.

1,000%.

I I just don't think

the average guy, I mean, you guys are obviously not average.

You're obviously exceptional above the average person, right?

Because

you get attention, right?

Attention is the coin in today's world.

That's the currency in today's world.

You've got big social media.

I'm OnlyFans because that's their way of getting attention.

They can pay $5 for a subscription for the baddest bitch that they know to talk to them.

They're not even going to fuck this girl.

They just want to have a relationship where they talk into somebody.

Little do they know, at the end of the day, they're not even talking to those creators most of the time.

Once they're big enough, we have people in the Philippines that just run and we train them.

We give them booklets this thick, and this is how they have emojis, and this is how they do this and that.

And bro, there's so many different ways that you're literally getting catfish just by thinking that you have companionship now.

Oh, yeah.

So it's scary.

I don't think, I think in the next five to ten years,

kids won't be able to fucking

say

our parents know how to have like real

conversations.

Pussy wasn't like accessible as it is now, but he's saying they still had the same temptation and it's still the same options.

They were more social.

They still temptations increased.

They still, exactly.

I agree with that.

Temptations increase.

Temptations.

Temptations increase.

Yeah, absolutely.

And especially

the same, though, because, and again, I hit or miss.

I definitely feel like our parents' generation has more game than us.

And in a cumulative average, I'd say.

Face-to-face just makes more trauma.

Just because of that.

Just because of this, we are inhibited.

And we're raised to be fucking, you know, sucked into these little

matrices of social media.

But with our, like, dude, I'll never forget.

I went to the strip club for the first time with my dad, and I just remember what, like, I never seen him spit game in like a real-life setting, and I'm watching him maneuver, and I'm like, damn, okay, old man's got juice, but I would have never known that had I not seen him, you know, put back on the field in the hunt.

So I feel like it's good for every man once in a while to go out and experience that and get that adrenaline rush, even if you're just getting someone a drink or going out and, you know, shaking the rust off.

But if you can't communicate to somebody face to face and look a woman in their eye or even talk to another guy at the bar comfortably without seeing him as

a threat or whatever, whatever it is.

Just be social and be open with people.

And I feel like that's the best thing that people can come from or learn from, you know, coming from this kind of technology space.

So what were you going to say, Coop?

I was going to add to that.

I was going to say that, like, I think it makes, I think it genuinely makes men feel better and feel greater self-esteem when they're talking to women.

Even if it doesn't lead to anything.

Just by being a flirtatious guy.

Just hearing that, hearing that sound of a woman being satisfied, or just like the joy, like, oh, thank you.

The subtle things that you can pick up, and even just a light touch at a bar, something like that where you're not engaging, they are, you know, all right, cool.

Like, you know, if I wanted to, I could really.

I've still got it.

Yeah, I could shoot a shot here.

Yeah.

Good game, everybody.

Hit the lockers.

And you know what?

Like, a guy knowing that, let's say a guy's in a long-term relationship, happily married or whatever, a girlfriend or whatever, and he gets that occasional ping of, like, oh, yeah, I've still got it.

Yeah.

That's going to make his dynamic

back at home.

You're going to keep him right way better.

Oh, he's going to go home and fuck her breath as you're like, I'm a king.

Literally.

Literally, that's it.

Like, he's going to go home, feel like the fucking man, prove that he's fucking made better.

He's a confidence booster.

I 100% agree.

And then she ain't going to disrespect him either, which is a big thing, too.

Because if guys get lackadaisical, if guys get lazy, guys get, like, lose their self-esteem, lose their swag, then what happens?

Well, the women's, she starts bitching about him, not taking the trash out, you know, whining, complaining about things like this.

Yeah.

You know, and he gets cocked in the relationship.

But if he keeps that swag about him, okay, much better.

Yeah, the women's always going to be attracted to you.

That's why it's good to go to the gym and always stay fresh and always be attractive.

Because your girls be attractive.

Bro, you can't, like, being a man.

Yeah, you can't lose yourself.

Do you know the story of the Red Queen from from Alice in Wonderland?

No.

I believe I'm hope I'm not fucking this up.

You said the Red Queen.

The Red Queen is a character in Alice in Wonderland, and

she has to run as fast as she possibly can to stay in the exact same place.

That's her character.

And that's what it's like being a dude.

You have to constantly work on something

to stay where you are.

Right?

If you stop working, stop going to the gym, you stop making money, you stop networking and socializing, you go down real fast.

That's because there's so many motherfuckers right under you nipping at your feet.

It's true.

Being a man's competition, man.

It's competition.

Listen, and I didn't really understand this until the past few years.

Like the older I get, it's funny because, you know, once I've exited my 20s and I look back, I'm like, fuck, there are guys that are 18, 19,

and they're pushing millions a month or doing whatever just via Roblox or just, you know, gaming.

Yeah, but things changed since then.

But my point being is that it's fascinating to see the stuff that we were told coming up that's not a real shit that's not real like i don't care how good you were at goldeneye that's not a real job

nowadays it's like shit you're going to call duty get one of those

pile on fucking a hundred pounds get a sponsorship from doritos and play 24 hours a day

that's that's listen

it's crazy to to think that what we were

as kids, you know, playing street football and shit.

Now it's like, bro, everything's online or everything's via phone.

So I'm curious to see what the next generation's generation's coming up, like how their toughness is going to be.

They're nowhere near as tough.

I guarantee that.

It won't be there.

But you know what the funny thing is, in those environments, like the esports world, there's groupies still.

Sure.

These dudes, they're not going with that pussy.

They're like the biggest nerds, technically.

They're still getting pussy.

They're getting all kinds of pussy.

They're getting the gamer girls.

Literally.

Gamer girls are bad.

Shout out to the gamer girls.

So is

watching porn a bad thing for men?

For guys, I think so.

I think porn is like...

Like moderation.

Yeah, porn is a vice like anything else, right?

If I give a certain man a bottle of whiskey, it'll ruin his life and he'll end up under an underpass, homeless, broke, right?

That is the same for basically every vice.

Yeah, but you give him a shot and he can party with you all night.

Right.

Well, somebody else, I give him a shot, he's fine.

You know, so that's the point I'm trying to make.

Some guys, they'll consume porn, it won't fuck them up.

Other guys, they'll just go down this dark rabbit hole and they'll never get out of it.

They'll ruin their motivation in every aspect of their life.

They'll do nothing,

nothing with their life.

They'll have no aspirations or dreams and goals.

They would pursue shit.

Yeah, because you know, I've never jacked off before.

Good for you.

You serious?

Never.

Whoa.

I've never jacked off before.

I don't buy that.

No, no, I'm deadass.

I'll buy that.

Or I'm dead ass.

I'm never.

I've never been my meat before I came here.

I've never jacked off.

Porn or masturbation.

Never watched porn?

Porn or masturbation has never been my thing.

So you've never watched porn?

I mean, I've seen porn, but I don't watch it.

Is it

subscribed to an old fan either.

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, I don't do none of that.

I'm trying to call them out.

Yeah, no, it's it's it's just

okay.

I don't watch porn either.

I just skip the parts that I like, and then I'm not sure.

I've seen porn.

That breaks my heart.

No, I've seen it acting.

I've seen porn, but I don't watch it.

How many hours we spend on set doing the dialogue?

Do you have a character for this?

I'm just going to skip over this.

Yeah, I know, right?

I like now that they have the benchmarks where it's like mouth, anal.

They have to be able to do that.

I do feel like it's beautiful.

I definitely feel like masturbation is isn't isn't a good thing for men.

I don't think it's good.

I don't think it's a good thing.

I don't think it is either.

I don't give a fuck what it is.

I'm going to go to the topic.

I want to hear one last point.

I'm going to wrap this up because we're getting way too off the rails here.

We're talking about point of horn duck.

I want to know what your best advice for men coming up today is and how

you know how men can come into watching this podcast and learn something or or hear something from you that can inspire them into doing something different that they're already doing.

Good question.

I think the number one skill you can learn as a young man is stress tolerance.

So stress tolerance.

If you look at everybody who is successful, they are able to solve problems, make money, work long hours,

grind under pressure.

Yes, right?

Tolerance to stress.

Like the number of podcasts I've seen you guys crank out today, right?

The average YouTuber doesn't do that much work.

I'm really, really impressed.

So it's like, but that's you're able to keep going, that stress tolerance.

It doesn't bother you.

You're used to it, right?

If if you look at like that's why I respect professional fighters as well I've got a lot of friends who used to fight sure that's mad stress tolerance oh yeah my line of work what I used to do sitting around with all these lights and cameras and a bunch of dudes watching you fuck get your dick out and their paycheck depends upon it that's a stressful environment right you have to be you have to be comfortable right accepting that stress and get used to it

how do you build that stress by putting yourself into uncomfortable situations deliberately give people a couple scenarios well you become comfortable in the uncomfortable so one real real basic thing, going up to that pretty girl at the bar.

I knew he was going there.

That's the most uncomfortable situation for any man.

Think about every aspect of your life, right?

So, like, that'd be relationships, right?

Going up to that pretty girl that you would intimidate her to talk to,

doing some really, really heavy squats with good form,

something that kind of scares you a little bit, or having, like, a personal trainer really push you in the gym, right?

Like, health-wise,

sticking out a tough diet and committing to it.

Even though you're hungry and you hate the taste of lettuce, doing something challenging.

These are all things that deliberately push you

out of your comfort zone.

You know what I'm saying?

All right, so I appreciate the time.

Tell people where they can find you.

What's the best avenue for them to keep up with what you're doing?

Cool.

My Instagram is at CooperSterling.

My YouTube is probably where I'm most active.

If you just type in Sterling Cooper, I'll come up on YouTube.

You'll find a ton of stuff for me, a bunch of free advice in regards to any aspect in the bedroom.

And my Twitter is at SterlingWisdom.

Tell them where they can find you.

At the Creator.

Creator.

On Instagram, it's spelled T-H-E-C-R-3-8-T-O-R.

Sean?

Sean Mike Kelly.

Thanks for tuning in this week, Digital Social Hour.

See you guys next week.

Peace.