Episode 470: Zarina Del Mar: From Exercise Bulimia to Body Awareness That Actually Works

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Today we have Zarina Delmar, who is a fitness personality, but was a tax lawyer, which is a crazy transition.

We're going to get into it.

But before that, we're going to do something with you because you are in the space of health and wellness.

We're going to do a healthy shot.

Are you ready?

Yeah.

All right.

So we do these magic mind shots.

They're full of adaptogens and all these good, good ingredients.

And it kind of keeps us like very alert and focused.

So as opposed to doing like a tequila shot,

we do a healthy adaptogen shot, basically.

Mine doesn't have caffeine though or sugar.

I think yours may.

I don't know.

But we go like this.

We go like this.

Yeah.

Chin chin chier.

And then we just

down the hatch.

I've been having so many of these.

I'm only having half at a time.

They taste really good.

So you tell me what after you finish it or if you drink it.

Did you try it?

Yeah, yeah, I tried it.

I tried it.

If you like it or not.

I mean, if you feel more alert, you tell me.

Do you feel more alert yet?

Did it work?

It is fresh.

I will tell you about my eating habits because i'm trying to get rid of any snacks and i'm looking at how many included uh

calories

yeah no not calories just added sugar okay i'm going to send you a bunch so they just came up with this magic it's it's a no sugar and no caffeine so i mean i don't know how many i'm blind is a bat these have like 15 calories that's it that one i might think i think has like 55 0

but i mean oh wait hold on a minute.

Okay, so you're counting calories to that level.

Let's no, no, no, I'm not counting calories.

Okay.

I'm looking at the ingredients of the products I consume, and only one field, added sugar.

I'm trying to get rid of any added sugar.

Added sugar.

Yeah, that makes more sense to me.

Yeah, yeah, but yeah, I have never counted calories.

I don't think that it is necessary because it's not about full life.

About

what your whole philosophy is.

But yeah, I'm going to send you, or

I'm going to get them to Magic Mind.

Will you please send Zarina if you're listening some sugar-free Magic Mind shots?

Because they really do work and they are super healthy.

I would not be like sitting here blabbing about it if I actually did not take, like, I drink two a day and everybody who takes them says they're really good.

So they also love them.

But now.

Enough with that ad.

It wasn't even an ad.

It just sounded like an ad.

Okay, so then you are someone.

Are you very particular of like just sugar or what's your diet diet like what's your diet i prefer to call it eating style like

i'm this uh sweet tooth girl maybe because i had a long long history of trying different diets from my puberty because that was was the time when i just realized i don't like my body image i don't like my body composition because i have uh short limbs i'm like one meter

one centimeter yeah yeah yeah short legs and uh i was looking at these um

models models yeah having having uh beautiful long and uh thin legs so after uh trying a lot of diets when i was around 30 i realized that i cannot live this life i cannot count calories think about what i eat every day that's why i'm just trying to be super balanced we have i have my plate I have my protein, my fats, my complex carbohydrates, my veggies.

And I'm just trying not to snack because I want to feel real hunger and feel fullness and be able to move freely.

So it's just, this is all about basics.

Of course, I eat cakes, I can eat cookie, I love cookies, but I eat them after I had my full and complex meal.

And each meal is the same.

Like breakfast is the same as lunch, and lunch is the same as dinner.

And when you say that, you mean like each meal, you have the same breakdown, which is protein, complex carb, fat.

Yeah, I'm trying, I'm trying to do it.

Yeah, yeah.

Okay.

So when you were younger, were you athletic?

You said you had some body image issues, which I think every girl has to some level.

And, you know, very, I mean, if they say they didn't, they're probably lying.

Because I think there's a lot of different, like, we may not have, people may not have eating disorder, like a full-on eating disorder, but there's a lot of disordered eating that's in our culture.

And I actually think that the pendulum is swinging back to where we used to be, where everybody wants to be really skinny.

And that's like the Kate Moss look has become like really popular again.

Do you know what I mean?

It used to be for like, I mean, nowadays, it is coming back.

It's coming back.

Yeah.

Like the obsession about the obsession with being thin, because with all the GLP ones and with just overall, it's not not so much like there was this philosophy.

Actually, I wrote this book years ago, like 10 years ago, called Strong is the New Skinny.

Yeah.

And I believed that like the idea that like be like obtaining or trying to go for a goal like being strong is a much healthier goal than just being skinny because not everybody could be skinny, but everyone could be strong.

And I feel like for a while there, that was kind of like, kind of part of our like zeitgeist.

And in the last couple years with all the GLP-1s, people are now focused on like who can be skinnier.

If I'm a size four, I want to be a size two.

If I'm a size two, I want to be a size zero.

Like the pendulum now has gone and swung in a really unhealthy direction.

That's what I've seen.

Have you noticed that?

Absolutely.

It's because of GLP-1.

And I thought that it was common for us.

Like I am 39 years old for my generation of ladies around 40 or 45.

But then I found that even ladies of 50 and 55, they remember that they were dieting and they were trying to be as skinny as it's possible.

And what I say, I have 12 years old daughter, and now she's thinking about her waist

to be slim, her legs to be slim and long.

And I'm just explaining to her that you were born in this body composition.

Like I'm genetically, I have strong legs, and even if I don't squat,

I have strong legs, and my upper body is slimmer than my lower body.

And that's that's uh, I watched it.

That's your body type.

Yeah, yeah, that's my body type.

And I have to, I have to accept it.

And I will, uh, I had once in my life, I had very, very thin legs when I was

like four weeks pregnant, and I wasn't able to eat anything for two weeks and I wasn't able to exercise that was the skinniest the skinniest

sworm I have ever I have ever been yeah I've ever had so for for all the ladies who were born like this everything you can do just to keep moving and keep your your muscle mass that that that is suitable for you because for many ladies it is so difficult to gain muscle and for us who were born with with this particular body type it's easier so i believe, to be honest, and I know this is controversial, but I believe that we all have a certain body type and that you can only, you have a baseline and you can only manipulate it so much one way or the other until it gets to be unhealthy.

I mean, people can say all they want.

No, you can, you know, it's about this, it's about that.

I'm a perfect example, right?

Like I'm somebody who like, I'm more athletic.

by nature.

Like I'm built, I'm not an ectomorph.

You know what an ectomorph?

Yeah,

I'm a mesomorph.

Me too.

And when i don't eat a lot yeah do i get skinnier yes but do i can i maintain that level of thinness in a healthy way no because my body will will rebound back to where it's comfortable like you can you can fight at five 10 pounds unless i'm on a drug like a glp1 i'm not going to be staying 10 15 pounds lighter than my baseline so i think what's happening is people are fighting their baseline to such a point where it's so psychologically unhealthy it's physically unhealthy.

I think these GLP1s have been, I think it's like one of the worst things that's happened in this last couple of years.

I don't care what you say it's great for, but there's a whole argument like, oh, it's great for inflammation.

You know, it's great for perimenopause.

It's great for microdosing.

It's great for brain health.

I want to see the data in 10 years from now because nobody knows right now.

If you're a diabetic and you're 150 pounds overweight, God bless you, go on GLP1s.

If you're somebody who is a healthy person and like maybe 20 pounds too heavy for your body type, go and die, like go walking every day, you know, clock your, clock and watch your diet.

Like you don't need to be on a GLP-1 because once you get on it, once you get on them, in my opinion, what I've seen is it's really hard to get off.

On top of this.

And when you're on it, yeah, sorry.

You don't, you don't, I see it within my community, like you don't change your lifestyle.

You're not.

It's not behavioral change.

Yeah.

So like, unless you're doing things to change your behavior and make it, you know, it's all about like habits, right?

Like creating these like, these tiny habits that will make you behave different day after day, right?

If you're just relying on a shot once a week where you're just not hungry anymore, right?

And your appetite is now suppressed.

Once you're off of that, your hap, your appetite comes back with the vengeance.

I've seen that with friends of mine.

So when they try to get off, their appetite, and even when they try to titrate off, you know, they start to like make their doses lower, but they are still super hungry.

And like now they're having less muscle mass.

They have more, because you lose muscle in addition to fat.

And now they have less muscle mass.

Now they have only have more fat on their body.

And now when they go back to eating like a regular person, they're gaining weight because all of the metabolism is all wonky.

That's why I just...

started my movement journey.

I was fighting with the baseline, how you describe it.

And I realized that I I cannot live this lifestyle.

Like having two training sessions per day, seven times per week.

You were doing this?

Yeah, I was doing this.

I was trying to be as slim as possible, but keep my muscle mass.

But what kind of training were you doing?

So it was gym, CrossFit studio.

And

I was running.

So I was running in the morning, then I came to the gym.

Then in the evening, I was doing my CrossFit sessions because I am like, let's say, type A personality,

all or nothing.

And I'm physically prepared for

a CrossFit type of training.

And then I realized that it's not healthy.

I'm not an elite athlete.

And I don't have this regime in when I can sleep, eat.

I don't have like my performance coach, my massage therapist.

And I just, I didn't feel my body.

It was like, not I'm dying, but I didn't feel comfortable.

and i was looking for something that's how i found all this story about movement about uh being soft and and flexible and feel these true motions in your body not just repeating the same stuff as fast as you can

as hard as you can yeah repetitive and i didn't feel anything while i was doing these crunches or burp burpees we made like hundreds of burpees per minute per five minutes were you getting injured a lot too no you weren't getting injured no no no no because all what you're what you're saying though is that's funny sounds familiar like i think a lot of this what you're saying is you were like an exercise bulimic in a way like you were just exercising yourself to death and like typically what happens is you just end up with a ton of injuries you know like i was similar like i worked out a lot like a lot and it wasn't even so much for the physicality it was because it was good like my brain was getting much like it was distracting me from things things I didn't want to like think about, or it like turned on like my dopamine and my serotonin.

But everything has like a, like a breaking point, right?

Like you can overdo everything, right?

Like I love to run because of the cardio, but like I can run for 40 minutes or 30 minutes.

I don't have to run for like an hour and a half, right?

But like to me, that's like, that's also, again, like that's a super unhealthy mechanism.

How do you tell your people?

How did you, it was a good example.

You're an example.

How did you go from being so obsessive,

like an obsessive exerciser?

How did you get back into a moderate place where it's much more doable and manageable?

Because the psychological element is so hard.

Yeah, it's hard.

And maybe I got more knowledge about the construction of our body, about anatomy and biomechanics.

And I've just noticed that I don't even, I don't even get sweat, but I feel how my muscles are working when I'm doing, let's say, mobility or when I'm doing these mindful movement sequences, mindful movement flow.

And once you get knowledge about your body, you feel this confidence and you understand why softness is new strength.

Because for me, it was so difficult to make the motions, to think about the motion, to think about the position of my pelvis, the position of different parts of my spine.

But how did you do that?

Because if someone's listening to this podcast and they're like in

an obsessive exerciser because they're trying to burn as many calories as possible, how can, what do you tell people, the clients, your followers, like how they can get out of that hamster wheel into a more healthy, safe place where they can stop exercising like that and recognizing like they're actually like doing more harm than good to a place that's more

like normal, that's not so insane.

I see.

just try one session I remembered I tried one session with one movement guy and I felt something I you changed the type of workout you were doing yeah just one session and in and he explained me detailed instructions that's why what distinguishes me from all the fitness world is just detailed instruction I am I am explaining how to move and that was one session and I felt something I didn't have enough vocabulary to describe for myself what happened, but I felt really good.

And we were moving slowly.

He just explained me all this anatomical stuff very shortly, how I need to control the tension, how I can move like my pelvis, that there are lots of movement in my hip joints.

And it helped me, just the words, not even particular crazy or interesting movements or exercises, just the explanation.

And at that time, I didn't have, I didn't read any books on anatomy or biomechanics i didn't know what is happening in your joints etc so he just explained me that you are the main controller of everything what is happening so it is it is like self-perception you understand more if you have this knowledge i didn't have them nobody nobody explained me even at the gym it was just pull up push up deadlift squat and nobody explained me that in order to make for example the plank position you need to feel your fingers fingers on the surface because this is how you engage your shoulders, your shoulder blades, how you protect your shoulder joints.

And the same with your feet.

Feel the surface, feel the grounding.

And there are a lot of like these small tips that help you to create this presence in your body.

This is the main, the main thing that I'm teaching and I am presenting, not the movement, because many of many of my subscribers and many people think that give me one particular exercise to fix my knee problem, my lumbar spine problem.

I need one particular exercise, but it's not about exercise, it's about how you feel it, how you control the motion, and what do you understand about your body?

What's happening with your joints when you do

any movement, any exercise?

Call it.

We just forgot, and we just forgot how to feel comfortable and confident.