Ask me Anything

Speaker 1 First day jinners.

Speaker 1 I love an Ask Me Anything. Thank you guys for submitting so many amazing questions.
What do you think is the most pivotal moment that changed your life?

Speaker 1 How much time do we have? What is still on my bucket list? What are your thoughts on deep water? Did you see that drone footage of the octopus? No, no, no, no, no.

Speaker 1 What does a day in the life of Chloe look like? Do I journal? I used to love to journal. My ex-husband threw all of them into a fire.

Speaker 1 Any new dating updates to share? This is a scuba diver. 15 feet is like their small size.
We don't know what's out there. I digress.
What is the hardest thing you've had to overcome this year?

Speaker 1 What has happened this year?

Speaker 1 I don't know. Isn't that nice? Isn't that fucking nice? My life has been chip.
Don't even jinx myself. So, what do I do now?

Speaker 1 Just aquatic life. No one wants to fuck with it.
Hmm.

Speaker 1 Hi, everyone. I'm so excited for this week's Chloe in Wonderland.
And I'm incredibly excited because I love an Ask Me Anything. And we have so many submissions of so many amazing questions.

Speaker 1 I actually haven't looked at all of them because I love to be a little surprised and answer things just right when I read them.

Speaker 1 Thank you guys for submitting everything and let's get ready for Ask Me Anything. What is still on my bucket list?

Speaker 1 I think I have more things of like things I don't want to do as opposed to things that I want to do.

Speaker 1 In my experience, the older you get, well, for me, maybe this isn't for normal people.

Speaker 1 Maybe you're just my sick ass, but like the older I get and like that I have kids, I just want to protect myself at all costs and not do anything that could risk me not being here.

Speaker 1 Like I think most bucketless things are

Speaker 1 thrill seeking for people, right?

Speaker 1 Or like going to Paris with the kids. Oh, that's okay.
Those are nice. I thought it's like skydiving.
I'm not doing any of that stuff. Like even a hot air balloon.

Speaker 1 I did that and I'm like, how dare I, I would never do that now with kids. But now I'm so afraid.
I think when I did, I did this in Australia

Speaker 1 at least 10 years ago. And it was magical.
And what a cool experience. You're in Australia.
Let's go on a hot air balloon. Me and Malika went.
I think Jen Atkin went too. And it was beautiful.

Speaker 1 I would never do that now. Why am I such a pussy? Like, what happened to me? Kids, in the best way, but you just overthink.
You're like, I'm not jaywalking.

Speaker 1 Like, you're gonna, not even because I'm a rule follower. I am just not gonna risk not being here for my kids one day.

Speaker 1 But the way Alexa positioned the bucket list question was much

Speaker 1 nicer. I would love to take my kids to Paris and like go to Disneyland Paris and they want to see the Eiffel Tower.

Speaker 1 I'm waiting for my son to get a little older because I want him to remember these things. What does a day in the life of Chloe look like?

Speaker 1 A day in the life of Chloe looks like: I get up every day at five.

Speaker 1 I

Speaker 1 am up early. You get your workout in, you get kids food, like the breakfast ready.
You prepared lunch for if this is a school day for school.

Speaker 1 Then I get my daughter up around 6:30, breakfast time, start getting ready by 7,

Speaker 1 out the door by 7.30.

Speaker 1 Carpool, carpool's over,

Speaker 1 back to the house, play with Tatum.

Speaker 1 Tatum loves to do carpool drop-off. It's really hard for him to leave.
He's very ready for school. And then work

Speaker 1 all throughout the day. I have a bunch of different projects and jobs that I'm doing.
So it just depends what job has committed me for that day. I try as much as possible to be

Speaker 1 home for dinner with my kids. It's sort of a non-negotiable for me.
I love to do homework with them, have dinner with them. For example, tonight I can't because one of my sisters has a premiere.

Speaker 1 So it's a very blue moon thing that I'm not home for dinner, but that I try to make it a non-negotiable bedtime routine. Everyone is pretty much, my house is pretty silent by 8.45.

Speaker 1 And I have a few hours of what True says, peace begins with me. And that's my time.
Peace begins with me. And I just say that to myself.
I watch a few shows, fall asleep.

Speaker 1 You do the exact same thing again

Speaker 1 every single day.

Speaker 1 How do you deal with friendships in your 20s versus 30s versus 40s? What has changed? And what do you look for in people now?

Speaker 1 This is sort of sad because

Speaker 1 the older you get,

Speaker 1 your circle gets smaller, not even because drama or beef happened, just your own

Speaker 1 life.

Speaker 1 This is for me. I can't speak for other people.
Life just consumes itself. We started our TV show when I was 22

Speaker 1 and all these blessings started rolling on in after that. And it was really hard to maintain a lot of friendships just because we were so busy work-wise.

Speaker 1 So sometimes you lose friends along the way just because you're not good at nurturing those relationships. Like I was not good at,

Speaker 1 I'm not good at the balancing act of like right now, kids, work, my family, then like a friendship life, I'm really bad at that.

Speaker 1 But my friends that are in my life, they are all kind of similar like me. Like they don't need a lot of attention

Speaker 1 or they're just grandfathered in. So I've known them for so many years that we're just friends forever.
But I am not good at nurturing friendships at the later ages that I'm at.

Speaker 1 Like meaning, I don't have the energy to go out to dinner two to three times a week. I can't do that.
I can nurture a friendship on the phone, over text, send each other memes back and forth.

Speaker 1 My type of person. Where in your 20s, it's so much more of a social gathering and you can hang out with people so much more outside of your home.
You have all these other distractions.

Speaker 1 And then I think in your 30s, at least for me, I sort of whittled down my friend group, but in a good way, like you find out who like the ride or dies are, who's really there for what, because it's not so much about being so showy.

Speaker 1 And then

Speaker 1 your 40s, you're just still, it's like the same as your 30s, just figuring it out. I can't babysit a friendship.
And all of my friends were the same way. So I like.

Speaker 1 friendships that don't require a ton of

Speaker 1 hand holding. Like we're all too old to hold each other's hand.
So thank you to those friends who get it. Did you ever feel marginalized by the industry in your early days of fame?

Speaker 1 Describe what it was like having everyone know your name from a young age. Wow.

Speaker 1 Yes,

Speaker 1 I did feel marginalized, but

Speaker 1 I just always felt like I didn't fit in. And at the time, I don't think I did at all.

Speaker 1 But it wasn't

Speaker 1 like I didn't feel like a victim either. It was just like sort of the way it was.
It was a different time. You were able to say and do things

Speaker 1 back in

Speaker 1 2008 that you just wouldn't get away with now. Like Kim said something I heard, they were like, what's one thing now if you did, you would have been canceled for?

Speaker 1 And she was like, I wouldn't have, but like positions people put me in, something, and I'm maybe getting some of the facts wrong, but like she did a photo shoot or something with Justin Bieber.

Speaker 1 And I think he was 15. Either way, he was under 18 and she was like 30 or 30 something.

Speaker 1 And they did a shoot where she was a school teacher. It was like very

Speaker 1 now, we would all be like, What the fuck? And even us as the talent would be like, I'm not doing what you're saying I'm doing.

Speaker 1 But no one even behind the scenes would have asked us currently to do something like that. Like times are just so different.
But back in 2007, I don't know why it was a different world.

Speaker 1 Like we just didn't think that those things were wrong. Not we, just society.
It was very strange.

Speaker 1 She also said on the show that you guys were being interviewed, the three of you, and the interviewer asked you how it feels to look so different from your sisters.

Speaker 1 And they said it in like a nasty way. She said, so who are your parents? Like it wasn't even subtle.
It was and she's like, oh, you look so differently than your sister. She said, they look alike.

Speaker 1 They're pretty. And I was like, oh,

Speaker 1 okay. What does that say? She's like, no, you're just pretty, but in like a different kind of way.
And I was like, oh, just like the dog.

Speaker 1 She's like, yeah, like it was just like, but yeah, the balls people had, but it just was a different

Speaker 1 time.

Speaker 1 So yes, did I feel marginalized? Sure, but I never felt like

Speaker 1 it just like was the way it was.

Speaker 1 I always say that about all the diet stuff when people are like, oh, would you try Ozempic? I'm like, of course, because I've tried everything else under the sun.

Speaker 1 I haven't taken it yet, but if I need to, I would try anything and I would admit that. So I, yes, but I, it also was just how the times were.
I'm not offended by it.

Speaker 1 And describe what it was like having everyone know your name from a young age. I mean, it was,

Speaker 1 it was so different from now. Just

Speaker 1 it was so much more,

Speaker 1 it sounds nuts, but it was so much more personable

Speaker 1 because it was people like you had physical connection and contact with people now people know your name or your life because of the social media and what you put out there

Speaker 1 but for me when i post things i post things and i'm not registering that like oh millions of people follow me it's more like my friend group and that's just like what I am visioning this is going to.

Speaker 1 I'm not over like,

Speaker 1 oh, 300 million people follow me. I I don't think like that.
I think that's crazy.

Speaker 1 But so when people do come up to you and they know things about you, you're almost like, how do you know that about me? And then you remember, oh, I posted this on social.

Speaker 1 Back in those days, it had to be more like, we did appearances, you're out doing mall meet and greets. It was so different and tangible, and you got to meet people.
And

Speaker 1 it's just a different vibe now. I mean, my situation is a little different because my dad had media media attention for his own

Speaker 1 reasons. And so my family, we were used to paparazzi, but for not great reasons.
It was

Speaker 1 always over the OJ trial and things that were a much darker subject, but like paparazzi being outside of our homes,

Speaker 1 like news reporters staking out.

Speaker 1 Because that's where OJ was staying during the trial, things like that. We're very used to.
To other people, I think maybe if they were

Speaker 1 growing up

Speaker 1 without all the notoriety and then you get famous, it's like, wow, it's this huge culture shock. I think for us,

Speaker 1 because we were exposed to it even so minimally,

Speaker 1 but it was also the biggest trial in U.S. history at that time, or maybe world history, I don't know, for what it was.

Speaker 1 There was so much media, so many people staked out in front of our homes, all of that, that, but it was just such a, it was in such a different way.

Speaker 1 But it wasn't that jarring when then we had paparazzi following us for our own reasons. When you became famous, did it make you more careful about getting into trouble? Or did you lean into the fun?

Speaker 1 Okay, well, when I was first coming up, there were no iPhones. There was Blackberries, yes, but it was so much more fun.
And then being famous and you do get to do really cool things.

Speaker 1 Like in my younger days, oh, me, Court, Kim, Rob, we all leaned into it.

Speaker 1 It's not the fame. I mean, yes, the fame can make it not as fun because more eyes are on you, but it's really the social media that ruined everything because people don't want to be drunk.

Speaker 1 and just have fun in public because someone's going to take a bad picture of them. They're going to get, you know, slaughtered in all these magazines.

Speaker 1 Like it's just, they took the fun out of people being human.

Speaker 1 And sometimes you have a bad day or you want to have a good day and you just want to drink either your sorrows away or drink into a happy oblivion, whatever the case may be.

Speaker 1 But the fun got sucked out of everything because of

Speaker 1 it's a teardown for everyone. Everyone wants to make someone look bad as opposed to just being, they're a normal person having a ball.
So yes, I think we definitely leaned into the fun.

Speaker 1 And I miss those days so much. Now I would not not be, I would not think about drinking too much or anything like that in fear that someone, like you're always looking over your shoulder.

Speaker 1 And that is such a horrible way to live. I think for anyone, famous or not, it's just a different

Speaker 1 world than it used to be. And the shit I used to do and not be caught for it.
I mean, what a fucking fun life.

Speaker 1 I feel sorry for so many 20 year olds now because they don't get that freedom. It's so scary and overthinking at all times.
Do I journal? So I used to journal all the time.

Speaker 1 I haven't journaled in years. I used to love to journal, but so I had a few journals that I journaled literally my life away and I loved it and everything

Speaker 1 was in these journals. And I remember my ex-husband was going through it.

Speaker 1 He was having a tough time and he was incredibly paranoid and found these journals that he knew I did all the time and was reading them and just was convinced that I was like taking notes and sending them to the government or something crazy.

Speaker 1 And he threw all of them into a fire in front of me. And I remember sobbing, tears streaming down my face.
And I was like,

Speaker 1 like I could remember me on my knees screaming. Like it was years of my life in these journals.
And they meant so much to me. And it was years.

Speaker 1 And I just remember I I was at my old house in our master bedroom on my knees, screaming, sobbing. And that was the last time I journaled because I just felt like, wow,

Speaker 1 my, that was taken away in a fucking blank. And

Speaker 1 what was the point? So

Speaker 1 good question, whoever wrote that.

Speaker 1 Has anything taken the place of journaling for you? No, I mean, I do. I believe in journaling so, so much.
I think it is so incredibly therapeutic.

Speaker 1 I think it just,

Speaker 1 like, I had so much there of so many years of my life.

Speaker 1 And

Speaker 1 I think it just made me

Speaker 1 just like remind myself that like,

Speaker 1 like nothing, you don't get to really keep anything in this world. And it's

Speaker 1 maybe that's okay. And maybe it's okay to

Speaker 1 like, I used to hold on to all these things. And sometimes I will write something, but then just throw it away.

Speaker 1 I don't try to replace what I once had, but I do, I wish I had those books just to see like, what were my thoughts then? Like, what, like, I, that's just the special part about journaling.

Speaker 1 You look back, I don't know, five years, 10 years, two years, and you're like, wow, I was such an idiot. What was I writing about? Or I can't believe that mattered to me the way it did then.

Speaker 1 Like, though, that's what's so special about journaling is seeing emotional state and how far you came or if you need something to reflect on or maybe inspire you, whatever.

Speaker 1 It's such a beautiful process to do. And so I do hate that I don't do it anymore, but I also think there's a piece of me that doesn't ever want to risk that that could ever happen again.

Speaker 1 So like I'm not going to start a journal again

Speaker 1 and

Speaker 1 have someone destroy it. or I lose it or I don't know.
But yeah, it's more, I'm not going to say traumatic traumatic for me, but I just don't even want to open that up again.

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Speaker 1 At what point do you feel like you valued your own self-worth over other people's opinions of you?

Speaker 1 This might sound silly, but you're 40s. Like, I feel like

Speaker 1 I've always had,

Speaker 1 I've always had a really hard relationship with myself and self-worth. And it goes up and down.
I had good years and I had bad years. I had years that I was like, I'm the fucking shit.

Speaker 1 And I had years that I'm like, I'm a piece of shit. So I had, they just go up or down.

Speaker 1 And then I know I'm only 41, but I do feel like from the start of this decade, I've felt really

Speaker 1 good about where I am in my life, how I feel about myself. And I'm sure that can go up and down too, but I feel really solid in where I am currently.
But I think going up and down is normal.

Speaker 1 I don't know.

Speaker 1 What are your thoughts on mermaids and the deep water? Okay, two totally different things. Deep water is fucking nasty.
And no, don't trust it, hate it. You don't know what's in there,

Speaker 1 including mermaids, but those are good.

Speaker 1 But it doesn't even have to be deep water, dark water. Like I don't want to go anywhere.
It can be a lake, a pond, a stream, anything that's dark. I'm not going in it.
Not even a foot.

Speaker 1 Fuck no. Did you, I mean, sidetracking, did you see that drone footage of the octopus that a person took off the coast of California? That this octopus is.

Speaker 1 I've never seen anything so big. I sent it to my brother, so I have it.
I got to find it and show the camera. You guys, we don't know what's out there.

Speaker 1 And all you people that think it's so fucking fun to go in the ocean, no, no, no, no, no.

Speaker 1 More than 15 meters.

Speaker 1 That is 50 feet across with tentacles as long as a city bus.

Speaker 1 You guys.

Speaker 1 Can you see this? Are we okay?

Speaker 1 If I was like scuba diving, which is not happening, but if I was and I see this guy

Speaker 1 heart attack on the spot,

Speaker 1 we don't, this is one.

Speaker 1 If there's one, there's many. There's not just one.
What's the percentage of unchartered sea?

Speaker 1 Over 81% of unchartered waters

Speaker 1 in the world.

Speaker 1 This is 2025.

Speaker 1 81%.

Speaker 1 That is not.

Speaker 1 Why is it uncharted?

Speaker 1 Aliens, USOs, underwater, I mean, unidentified submerging objects, USOs. That's one reason why it's uncharted.
Number two,

Speaker 1 sharks, whales, just aquatic life. No one wants to fuck with it.
Three, mermaids.

Speaker 1 Oh, yeah. Sorry, I digress.
What are your thoughts on mermaids? They exist.

Speaker 1 Listen, whatever we believe and see and has been in movies, it's possible. Someone has seen it.
That means it's had to exist somewhere.

Speaker 1 Everything that you saw, whether it be Men in Black or all those other Will Smith movies where the aliens turn on people and kill you, it all is coming to life.

Speaker 1 It all happens. Mermaids Splash.
Has anyone seen Splash? Tom Hanks.

Speaker 1 That was such a fucking real ass movie. This shit is possible.
Just saying, yes, mermaids are real.

Speaker 1 I'm so freaked out by everything. Like, what is it called? A manatee.

Speaker 1 But there's a giant one

Speaker 1 that's like 15 feet. 15 feet.
This is a scuba diver. This is the thing, the giant mana ray.

Speaker 1 15 feet is like their small size. If I'm...
You guys, 15 feet, I'm 5'10.

Speaker 1 Not okay about this. It's been a while since we did this.
Any new dating updates to share? I, you guys, no.

Speaker 1 It's mortifying. But it's like, I feel really good here.
Like I'm in a good place. And it's actually not that crazy when I think about it.

Speaker 1 I think all of you guys are crazy for pushing me as hard as you guys are. My son just turned three.
So this December will be four years that I haven't dated or anything. That's That's not that crazy.

Speaker 1 Like, I see people at the time that are like, girl, 12 years of not dating, going strong. And I'm like, you go, girl.
Not saying that's going to be me.

Speaker 1 But when I think about it, like, I have young kids.

Speaker 1 I have a good excuse to not like bring a bunch of people around.

Speaker 1 Like, I'm busy. with my kids.

Speaker 1 I really don't want to.

Speaker 1 My life is peaceful, less dramatic.

Speaker 1 I don't really deal with a lot of drama unless it's like my family, which will never be drama-free. But like me personally, when I'm at home,

Speaker 1 I'm stress-free. Like I'm not worried about a thing.
Why would I add someone else to the equation right now that's just going to stress me the fuck out?

Speaker 1 When it's time, I just haven't met anyone that I even want to talk to. Like no one has my number.

Speaker 1 Also,

Speaker 1 the amount of people that I have to talk and text and email all day long for work, if I had to then like small talk someone at the end of the day, just

Speaker 1 kill me. Like, I only have a small window that I got to watch my shows.
Like, let me watch my shows.

Speaker 1 Oh, my God. I'm never going to date anyone.

Speaker 1 The right guy will like the same show as you, and he's just going to fit in. Okay.

Speaker 1 You're just going to fit in, right guy. Hey, god, love is blind together.
I love love is blind. I have two more episodes.

Speaker 1 Oh, I have so much to say about Love is Blind. Okay.
What is the hardest thing you've had to overcome this year?

Speaker 1 What has happened this year?

Speaker 1 Isn't that nice? Isn't that fucking nice?

Speaker 1 I am freaked out

Speaker 1 because I

Speaker 1 don't know. Like, that is the nicest fucking thing.
The realization of

Speaker 1 my life has been chill. Don't even jinx myself,

Speaker 1 but

Speaker 1 I've been great. Okay.

Speaker 1 Wow. That's a good realization.
Okay.

Speaker 1 Is there a compliment from a stranger you still think about?

Speaker 1 I mean, honestly, strangers are so nice to me. They will say,

Speaker 1 they compliment me like, if I'm such a good mom or

Speaker 1 I'm nice or things like those

Speaker 1 little things are so big to me and I love them. I think just any compliment, whether like you have a nice smile smile or anything, I love that.
That goes such a long way.

Speaker 1 And I think about it all the time. What do you think is the most pivotal moment that changed your life?

Speaker 1 How much time do we have? I mean, I have a lot of pivotal moments that changed my life, but in different ways.

Speaker 1 But I would say probably the biggest moment would be probably my dad dying. And I think it was the most

Speaker 1 like it obviously is the most traumatic, I think, for anyone. But then I was 19, my brother was 16.

Speaker 1 And for him and I, it was really traumatic. I mean, for everyone, but him and I had,

Speaker 1 we were together a lot. So I know our experiences together.
And that changed our life for the best, but the worst. I mean, at the time, you don't think anything positive is coming of this.

Speaker 1 But then after that, you realize, okay, it taught us to be responsible and to get jobs and to stand on our own two feet. We were very reliant on my dad.

Speaker 1 And And then when he died, we didn't have that privilege of relying on him. And so it just really made us strong, good, responsible people.

Speaker 1 And then very, very appreciative for family, for our unity together, for the time we did have with our dad.

Speaker 1 So much came out of it once you're able to get out of the grief and the sadness and you get to reflect. What was the last concert I went to? And what was my first?

Speaker 1 I went to the Cowboy Carter tour in Las Vegas. Really fun.
I went with my mom, who is the best date ever.

Speaker 1 What was my first?

Speaker 1 I don't really remember my first, but I remember probably one of my firsts.

Speaker 1 And I, okay, Kimberly was obsessed with the Backstreet Boys, who wasn't, to be fair. But I was like, I got to get Kim.
tickets to go to the Backstreet Boys. Like, this is all she wants.

Speaker 1 And she's obviously i was like what a cool older sister i need to do this and i actually have a picture from this concert i got her and i tickets don't remember where we were definitely in la but i don't remember

Speaker 1 what venue i'm assuming we can google it or whatever but We got to go to one of the after parties afterwards. And Kim just thought I was the coolest fucking person on the planet.

Speaker 1 And that just made me feel really good. We both are wearing cowboy hats.

Speaker 1 Not sure why, because I don't think it was a cowboy theme. She thought I was so fucking cool that I got her into this party afterwards.

Speaker 1 I think I was like 15, you guys, or 16. That's crazy.
Kim recently mentioned on a podcast that Tristan comes over and tucks the kids in at night when he's not in season.

Speaker 1 How are you able to heal and mend your heart enough to get to this place?

Speaker 1 Oh, man.

Speaker 1 So Tristan does. I mean, Tristan and I,

Speaker 1 we have a good co-parenting relationship. Tristan, I think what I find so funny is that people are always like, how

Speaker 1 do you let Tristan back in? And I'm like, well, Tristan's not back in. He's just the father of my kids.
So he's going to be around his kids. And I'm really grateful that he is.

Speaker 1 I love that he has a great relationship with his kids. I love that.
He wants to be with his kids and they want to be with him. I think that's a beautiful blessing.

Speaker 1 I'm never going to get in the way of that. I think it's so important for that relationship to maintain and be as strong as possible.

Speaker 1 And because we live close, it's easy for him to come over and do those things. But it's just about the kids.
Like once the kids are asleep, he leaves and does whatever he does.

Speaker 1 It definitely took time for us to get to that point.

Speaker 1 I have gone to a lot of therapy. I've done a lot of healing on my own.
And when you don't,

Speaker 1 like

Speaker 1 emotionally, I'm not invested in Tristan in that way, like in a romantic way. So he doesn't affect me when he does come around.

Speaker 1 And he's just like one of my friends, like, hey, what's up? Okay. Thank you so much.
Like, I hope you had a great time with the kids. Like, it's so just

Speaker 1 chill. But I know a lot of it is because of the work I've done.
Like, I'm just not affected. But it takes time.
I mean, definitely, I

Speaker 1 can't imagine at the beginning that was something that was easy. But also, his NBA schedule was really helpful because he was only here for like three months out of the year.

Speaker 1 And so that helped me heal a lot. And I don't think that's normal for people to get that much time off maybe from their exes.

Speaker 1 And so I think for me, that was really significant in my healing journey: having that space where I can go through the motions, really heal, and not have to be face to face with someone that hurt me so badly.

Speaker 1 Discuss forgiveness and how you're able to move on from situations.

Speaker 1 People are always asking me about how I forgive the way I do. And I don't just forgive and I say it, but don't mean it.
Like I genuinely forgive and I have to let it go. Doesn't mean I forget.

Speaker 1 I mean, I remember everything that someone's done to me, but it serves me no purpose being angry and holding on to something that long where it's really affecting me and how I treat other people.

Speaker 1 You definitely have to process things. For sure, you have to go through the motions.
For sure, you have every right to be angry.

Speaker 1 And you're going to have that time, that phase that you're like, fuck you, I'm going to fucking kill you. And if I see you, I'll slap the shit out of you.
Like those are all normal feelings.

Speaker 1 Doesn't mean you act on those. You just

Speaker 1 say them, you feel them.

Speaker 1 I've actually done them at times, but it's fine.

Speaker 1 Not killing, but you know what I mean. You just, you have to go through like the steps of grief and rage and all of that stuff.

Speaker 1 But then you also have to reflect and be like, none of that is serving to me. None of this helps me become a better person.
I'm someone that therapy really helped with me work through that stuff.

Speaker 1 And,

Speaker 1 but I'm also someone that can

Speaker 1 compartmentalize

Speaker 1 so much of my life. I don't know if that's the healthiest thing, but I'm like, okay, that's done.
Let me wrap it up in a cute little bow. It's over there.

Speaker 1 I don't really fuck with this person on that level, but I can forgive them, but I know what they're capable of. So I'll always have this block, but I can smile.
I can break bread with you.

Speaker 1 I'm good, but I will never let someone in.

Speaker 1 the way that they once work. So I'm always going to protect myself.
So I think totally forgive,

Speaker 1 but what's the point in carrying all of that with you just

Speaker 1 have your boundaries i don't know if any of this is helpful but it works for me did you love planning oh that's so funny did you love planning a wedding did you have any rules for yourself on your wedding day no drinking etc had you thought about your wedding since you were little it's so funny because actually my mom rob and i just watched

Speaker 1 like 30 minutes of my wedding episode randomly it was on and we were watching it

Speaker 1 and

Speaker 1 I forgot about so much that happened. So did I love planning my wedding? It was not something that really mattered to me.
The wedding, I just wanted to get married. I could have gone to a courthouse.

Speaker 1 But the planning of any party, like I love to do, I love

Speaker 1 micromanaging and like the control of it all, but I love all the details. I think love is in the details.
So I love that. My wedding, I didn't really plan.

Speaker 1 I let my mom do do it because Kim got eloped when Kim was 18, I believe.

Speaker 1 Never told my parents. My sister Courtney ratted out Kim, told my parents it was a huge thing in the family, off with everyone's heads.
And my mom always felt gypped, of course.

Speaker 1 She wasn't able to plan a wedding. So when my wedding came around, my mom had nine days to plan it.
I got married and I was going to get married. I mean, I'm sorry.

Speaker 1 I got engaged and nine days later, we needed to have this wedding before the Laker season started.

Speaker 1 So, my mom had nine days, and she

Speaker 1 loved every second of it. I think for nine days, every hour of every day, all she did was eat, sleep, breathe wedding planning.

Speaker 1 And I let her do that because, number one, my mom has the best fucking taste on the planet. And number two, I wanted her to have that moment.
So, mine was a little different, but my mom loved it.

Speaker 1 Did I have rules?

Speaker 1 no i definitely drank i had so much fun it was the best the only rule that i did have and someone gave me this advice and i loved it your wedding is incredible magical it's great but you're essentially a host and you're greeting all these people that are so happy for you and they're some of them you don't see that often they're extended family and so everyone wants a chance to say hi to you and greet you but then you're never with your husband and you're never enjoying, you're not being present.

Speaker 1 Someone said to me, take your husband once everyone's seated and go into the corner of the tent or the venue, wherever you are, and just watch the room for a minute and look about, look around and see everything.

Speaker 1 Look at like, it can be the flowers, it can be the people, it can be the stars, whatever it is. Just look

Speaker 1 around and

Speaker 1 see what you guys are starting together and look how many people came to celebrate you or any of that. And I loved that advice.
We never would have had that time together.

Speaker 1 I think him and I took like 30 minutes together and we're just, you know, goo goo gaga. You're just married.
You're like so mushy with one another. It was so great.

Speaker 1 And I never would have done that on my own if that wasn't in the back of my head. So that was the only rule I remember.
was like, I have to have a few minutes to myself with my new husband.

Speaker 1 And it was the best. I loved that.
And had I thought about my wedding since I was little, I never thought about my wedding. I'm sure I would play wedding with like Barbies, but it was like Kim

Speaker 1 has always had like a notebook of like printouts and like collages of what she would do. I never

Speaker 1 thought about stuff like that.

Speaker 1 You guys, I have so many pages of questions that I wasn't even able to get to and they're so good. So thank you guys so much for submitting questions.

Speaker 1 I'm definitely going to do another Ask Me Anything because I have so many good ones and I could sit here for hours answering these. Come back for more for AMA Part 2 eventually.

Speaker 1 Thank you guys so much and I'll see you guys next Wednesday.