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You're just going to plow through life and you're going to see everything that happens to you as just a random event. I don't believe that anything is random.

I think everything that happens to us is meant to happen to us to teach us some kind of a lesson. The number one health and wellness podcast.
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Madonna, welcome to On Purpose. I am so grateful to be here with you today.
Thank you for the honor and the opportunity. Thank you for having me.

I'm really, really happy to be with you after lots of FaceTime calls

and discussions about this conversation. We're finally to finally be in person.

Absolutely, absolutely. And I wanted to start off by asking: you don't do a lot of interviews.
We don't see you doing interviews, maybe even for the last nine, ten years, or give or take.

What's your intention for being here today? Why now? Why today?

Well, in the past, I've usually done interviews to promote my work, whether that's music or a tour or film.

But

today I would like to talk about my spiritual life and the spiritual path that I've been on

for

over 28 years. This wisdom has helped me navigate

the ups and downs of life, for lack of a better expression. People ask me a lot through the years, like, what is the reason you're still sane? What is the reason you you keep going?

Why have you not fallen by the wayside like other people?

Definitely a lot of my peers who

are no longer with us. Like, what would you say is the key?

And I would say that is my spiritual life. I absolutely would not be where I am or who I am if I did not have that.

It's helped me enormously, as I said,

navigate the ups and downs of life. So

I feel like

I would like to share that with people. So that's really the point of I'm not here to promote a product or

I don't want anyone to buy anything.

I just want to share something with

people that has pretty much saved my life. That sounds dramatic, but it's true.

Yeah, it seems like it's something that's extremely meaningful to you and a deep part of your life that often I feel you don't get to share in other spaces.

So, even though it's been a part of your life for nearly three decades,

maybe you haven't shared parts of it before. What would your life look like if you didn't find it?

I would believe that the physical world is all there is. I would believe all the illusions.
And that would be my downfall. And that is most people's downfall.
What does spirituality mean to you?

Because I think that word itself means so many things to so many people. Yes, I mean, a spiritual life or a spiritual path

could mean a lot of things.

I know that you have a spiritual path.

And for me, it's not really about, like, whose is the best.

It's whatever works for you. I've been studying Kabbalah for 29 years.
So since 1996.

Yeah.

It's a long time. It's a long time.
And I'm not a frivolous person. I don't suffer fools gladly.

If I think there's something false about it or corrupt or

not authentic, I wouldn't have stuck around for so long. I've had the same teacher for all this time.

I feel

like, almost like it's my responsibility to share with people because

I feel like people need guidance. People need enlightenment.
And for me, a spiritual life is having an internal life.

Because

you know this, I'm sure.

If we get caught up in the belief system that

our value in the world is based on people loving us or other people's approval or how much money you have or how many fabulous outfits you have or how many followers you have on Instagram, those things don't make us happy.

Those things don't bring us peace. So having an internal life and being able to look internally and having some kind of practice, whatever that might look like, your prayer, your meditations,

the time you take out of every day to stop and take stock, like contemplate, we live in a very busy, chaotic world. Lots of noise, lots of distraction.

I mean, how many times have you heard people say, oh, you know, social media and like all the, you know, people can't walk down the street without listening to music.

Everybody has to be visually stimulated all the time. Like, there is no peace.
There is no quiet. We're not comfortable being quiet with ourselves and

looking inward and asking ourselves, why am I here? What am I doing? Or what is my intention in this specific choice I'm making right now?

Whether it's about my work or the way I'm raising my children, decisions that I make about

everything, really.

I have to ask myself. And if you don't have a spiritual life, you're never going to stop and ask any questions.
You're just going to plow through life.

And if you just, and you're going to see everything that happens to you as just a random event. And I don't believe that anything is random.

I think everything that happens to us is meant to happen to us, to teach us some kind of a lesson. But the question is, are you aware enough? Are you awake enough?

Are you interested enough to find out what that reason is? Like, why did this happen to me? What is my lesson?

I don't want to go through life seeing everything that happens to me as random but i also don't want to go through life as a victim and i've had a pretty challenging life and it's easy to fall into the trap of feeling sorry for yourself or like being a victim or

you know why why isn't this happening to other people why is it happening to me why don't i have what that person has i'm sure you know the expression comparison is the killer of joy so you know it's like

you got to get out of that game you have to have a spiritual life you just have to you're reminding me of

something beautiful that I came across called the third space theory. Have you heard of it?

It's this idea that as humans, around 50 years ago, we had three spaces. So we had work, we had home, and then you had a temple, a synagogue, a church, a community center, or a third space.

And the point of that third space, it's kind of what you're saying, was a place that you could look back at work and home, and you could reflect on your life, you could take stock, you could introspect.

But as time's gone on, what's happened is we lost that third space. We stopped going to temple, church, community, whatever it was.
A place of self-reflection. A place of self-reflection.

And we ended up with working at home. And then after the pandemic, we lost work.
And so now we're in one space and we don't have a different vantage point.

to where we are anymore, which is what I think you're saying. Go back even one more step that to me is like a prison.

If you remove the spiritual life, spiritual practice, you remove the workplace, then you're in the home. And then removed once more from home is you're looking at your phone,

which even takes you out of home. That's a great point, yeah.

So

where are you? You're nowhere. We're living in the virtual world.
Yeah. We're living in the virtual world, not even in the material world.

Yes, but a virtual, and a virtual world is not a bad world, but if you don't have consciousness, there's really no point to living.

Yeah, it's yeah, so it's interesting to think about that because I feel like everyone can relate to the idea that if we all had,

we need physical spaces to sometimes make us do internal things. Yes, I mean, some kind of ritualistic behavior has to happen.
What have been your rituals? I'm intrigued. I'm curious.

What are your spiritual practices and rituals that have been so supportive and emblematic of your journey that have kept you going at the times, as you said, there were so many times you could give up or things could go wrong, or you kept pushing, and they kept you locked.

What were they? What are they? Well, one really important thing is studying, making time every week to sit down and study. I mean, you can study

the Bible, you can study the poetry of Kahil Gibran, or you can study study the Vedas.

And you did that, right? You actually studied different traditions on your own. I mean, to be honest, before I discovered Kabbalah, I was looking for answers.
And why do you think that was?

Why were you looking for answers? Because I had everything that

people would assume would give you happiness. I had

successful career, I had fame, fortune, monetary things, physical things.

But I wasn't happy. And I naturally sought out,

well, when I was a dancer, I had a roommate. She was a Buddhist, and she would get up and chant every day.

And so I was very intrigued by that. Like nothing bothered her.
You know what I mean? Everything bothers me.

Everything bothers me. I'm, you know, I'm a Leo.

I'm Italian. I'm very dramatic.

I wouldn't say she was peaceful all the time, but I was just struck by her confidence and her

knowingness that everything was happening for a reason. She never got upset about things.

And this is in the beginning of my career when I was living in New York and I was broke and a lot of crazy things happened to me,

really scary, traumatic things. And I would always ask her, her name is Marianne, I would always say, what, like, why are you like never upset?

So I attributed that to her spiritual life, but it didn't speak to me. And then later on, I started practicing yoga, Ashtanga yoga.
And my teacher, Eddie Stern, he still has a...

Love Eddie, he's great. You know Eddie? Yeah.

Yeah, he's amazing. I got quite caught up in and competitive about like first series, second series, third series.

But one thing I noticed is that a lot of people would come into his practice, his studio where he taught, and they wouldn't even do the poses.

They would just go and sit in front of the statue of Ganesh or light candles or prayer. And I realized, and Eddie pointed it out to me because sometimes I would have injuries,

or I would be traveling and I couldn't practice yoga. And he'd say, look, are you breathing? And I'd say, yes.
And he said, you're practicing yoga. So I realized that I was too, still

too caught up in the physical poses.

He's like, no, you don't understand. You're missing the whole point.

The poses are just something that you do

to breathe through, to calm calm your nervous system down, and to bring you back to your center. And that really spoke to me.
There was a big,

no, it was a painting on the wall of the yoga studio. It says desire and detachment.

And I said, what does that mean? And he said, well, of course, we want...

We want all the beautiful things in life. We want all the pleasures.
We want all the happiness.

We want it all. There's nothing wrong with that, but you can't be attached to it.
Because then if you're attached to it and you don't have it, what's going to happen to you?

So I studied that for a while and I studied Sanskrit. I had a teacher and I learned that the vibrations of the letters

had a calming effect on your nervous system and centered you and placed you firmly rooted in the earth. And all of that made sense to me.
But then, again, nothing happens by accident.

But I was pregnant.

with my daughter, Lola, my oldest daughter, and I suddenly realized, I was living in LA, I suddenly realized I'm going to be responsible for another human being. What

am I going to teach her? I'm just, I'm like a meteor, like

making my way through the, you know, the, on this planet. Like,

you know, I have great survival instincts. I have a great work ethic.
Yes, I'm very ambitious, all of those things.

But I was never like, I was just knocking them down, you know what I mean? And not like like looking back.

Like, I'm going to be somebody because that's, you know, that's why I came to New York in the first place. I will never go back to the nobody life I had when I was a child growing up.

So

I definitely was fueled

by

an inner drive. But I would not say that I was spiritual or conscious.
When I was pregnant, I suddenly realized I knew nothing. And I was a slave or a victim of other people's opinions of me.

And I didn't have really, even though it looks like and looks like I was confident, brave,

audacious, whatever, you know,

I deep down inside I was not.

So I was at a dinner party. While you were pregnant.
Yeah. I was at a dinner party at my friend's in LA.
and there was a woman sitting next to me.

And I knew her vaguely.

She's a costume designer. She was a costume designer.
Her husband's a director. And she said, oh, you should come with me to class.

And I said, what class?

I'm open to classes, by the way. I love being a student.
So what's the class all about? She said, there's a teacher there.

It's something called Kabbalah. It's next to a synagogue.
And I was like, wait, so he's Jewish? And she said, yeah, but it doesn't have anything to do with being Jewish.

It's just a belief system, not a belief system, like a philosophy about life that, you know, you could learn a lot from. And I said, okay, I'll go.
So I did. And that's how I met my teacher.

And I literally would sit in the back of class for years.

Mostly men were in the class at the time.

But everything that he said seemed to make so much sense to me and gave me courage to be who I am and who I meant to be and made me actually think

about intention and a real sense of purpose

because my sense of purpose can't just be I want to be rich and famous or I want to be popular or I want to sell a lot of records because none of that lasts but it wasn't until I went to class that I actually started thinking about those things so I just kept going and

here I am today but you know motherhood or being a parent is really what

made me start asking questions that I most likely I should have asked them sooner but I didn't because I was just caught up in my

self

I love that story for so many reasons one of them being that My journey to my spirituality had certain similarities in that, not that I was pregnant, so definitely not that one, but

I had a friend and friends who were starting to get interested in spirituality.

And they invited me to hear a monk speak. And I'd seen monks while I was growing up, but I'd never really engaged with one or really understood what they did or meant.

And I'm so glad I said yes to going along. And I was very young.
I was 18, 19 years old. I wasn't even seeking.
I was open and I was curious. Right.

And to be honest, I was doing what everyone else was doing at that time when you were an 18, 19-year-old kid, like, you know,

experimenting and doing everything else under the sun.

But I'm so glad I went because now looking back, I find that after meeting the monks that I met, it gave my life a compass at a very early age that I'm so grateful for because it changed the entire trajectory of my life.

I can't imagine what I would have ended up doing in the same way as you did. And it sounds dramatic, but it's true.

that without the group of friends that invited me to go along and meet my my teachers who'd become my future teachers,

I can't imagine what life could be like. And are those teachers still your teachers? Yes, absolutely.
Still since that time. So it's been nearly 20 years now.

That's meaningful. Yeah, very meaningful.

And are your friends that came with you still also studying?

Yes, absolutely. One of those friends was my best man at my wedding.

And he studies under the same teachers to this day. That's cool.
Yeah. What about that? The woman who took me to class, no.
Okay. No.

She doesn't stick with it.

Are you still in touch with her at all or not? Yes, I am sometimes.

It's amazing to hear that you had this ambition and this drive to become successful. And at the same time, there was this spiritual calling

that was almost happening simultaneously. How did you reconcile the two when

to the external eye, they could look very opposite? How did you actually see? Make them look weird, you mean?

Not weird in the sense of of I think a lot of people assume that spirituality and success don't go together. A lot of people would think.
Well, that's absurd. Those are narrow-minded people.
I mean,

you need to be spiritual to be successful. Success is having a spiritual life, period.
It's interesting because I had this boyfriend some time ago. And

after we broke up, we saw each other years later.

I was telling him about Cabal. He's like, oh, yeah, that makes a lot of sense because you grew up as a Catholic.
I know how religious your mother was. And I was like, no,

no, that's not what it is at all. It's got nothing to do with religion.
Everybody has to find the path that speaks to them and resonates with them.

But I do think it's important to have one. And I dare say, if you didn't have a spiritual path, you wouldn't be as successful as you are today.

I will make that assumption in your work, in your marriage, in your friendships, all your relationships. It honestly sounds like a really, like a cliche to your spiritual life, even.

It's like the reason,

but it's just got a bad rap.

You know, you like 100% can have a spiritual life and be successful. I wouldn't be here if I didn't have one.

Let's talk about how your spiritual life has impacted your different roles because you played so many roles in life.

And let's start with artist, because that's what the majority of our viewers and our audience will connect with you on.

Your spiritual life has directly impacted your art. When did you feel

it was first introduced to your art? How was it introduced? How would you use it to inspire your art?

About a year after I started studying, I made my Ray of Light album and that is 100% influenced by my study, my spiritual practice. Like a door opened for me and I suddenly

And maybe I was spiritual without knowing it, unconsciously,

and some things happened. I mean, often things would happen where I would have visions or I would get ideas and I would manifest them.

And if you're too busy to sit for a moment and think, wow, that's so amazing what just happened. I channeled that.

Like, you don't actually know that you're tapping into another dimension until you start paying attention to the other, to the idea that there is more to life than you and I sitting in this room on a chair.

Like, if you believe in energy and you believe in universal laws and you believe in quantum physics, like the possibilities are endless. And

miracles, the idea of miracles is not a foreign concept. It's not a lucky strike.
You know what I mean? It definitely affected my work. I became conscious of the fact that I was and am,

I am channeling light.

That's what I'm doing. I don't own it.
It's not mine. I am a vessel for it.
I'm a vessel for this light,

which in turn, my goal is to share with other people. Now, I can do that through my work.
I can do that through my music. I can do that through

my

relationships with people. I can do that as a friend.
I can do that as a mother. as a parent.
So you realize that it can informs every part of your life.

But the one really important thing, well, one of the many important things that my teacher taught me was that I am not the owner of my talent. I am the manager.

As long as you keep that consciousness and you're aware, like people who run to say, I did that, that was my idea.

I mean, you created an opportunity for yourself by allowing yourself to be a vessel for

this

call it what you like, magic.

I think it's magic.

I think when you channel artistic ideas and you have creative visions it's magic and when you think it overthink it or you start thinking about how much of that you own you stop it that's why a lot of i would say this is my observation that a lot of people have these great kind of meteoric careers and they

rise up and they take the world by storm and they influence the masses and they and then they just, something happens, and they can't handle the light, and they're not even aware of it.

And it, it,

in a way, they fly too close to the light and it burns them.

Yeah, that's diving. And I would say that's really true about my many of my peers that I had.
I was lucky enough to know them,

whether that's Prince or Michael Jackson or

Jean-Michel Barciat, the painter.

these are like people who just were

channeling, but I also don't think they understood like the concept of

what they were channeling and that

there has to be some kind of restriction, there has to be some kind of filament, there has to be,

you know, like people like to take drugs, right? Why? Because it makes they're actually channeling light with their,

you know, tripping on acid.

But it's light with no restriction, and then that's what kills you or burns you out. That was never your path to the life.
Oh, no. No, no.

No. Thank God.
Because everybody was doing it. What kept you away from me when everyone else was doing it?

The universe. God.

Honestly, people ask me that all the time because I grew up when I came to New York when I was broke.

And I had no friends, nowhere to live,

nothing really.

What protected me from,

you know, I was held up at gunpoint, I was robbed, like

I was raped, like all these horrendous things happened to me. But I just feel like I've always had a guardian angel.
It just, it took me a minute to figure out that

how blessed I was

and that the universe was protecting me and looking out for me. Was that a realization that came after? Because I mean, when you talked about what?

Well, when you talk about the events of, I mean, getting raped, being held at gunpoint, these are extremely traumatic, stressful.

I mean, the most extreme, tragic events people could go through in their life.

The realization you're sharing today, how long talk to me about the journey of having that experience and then getting to the realization you just mentioned because I'm I'm assuming it's not immediate.

No. And what is so what was through that?

Well, first there's just my determination that I think I was so I had such an unhappy childhood that whatever happened to me in New York City, I was like, whatever happens to me is better than what my life was.

So

I'm sticking around. I'm not going back.
But you see, the worst things that happen to you are the best things that happen to you.

Because if that had if my childhood hadn't been what it had been, if I hadn't lost my mother, if I hadn't had all of these challenges as a child, I would have have thought of my home as a place of comfort and I would have gone back.

But I didn't. So that's what kept me going.

And then, you know, there are challenges in my career, even though, even though I was very successful, I went through many periods of time where the press was beating up on me. I was demonized.

What kept me going? I don't, I don't know. Like I said, guardian angels, but again, I wasn't conscious of it until I was pregnant.

Then I started to see, like everything started to like come into focus for me. But it's not, I make it sound like it's an easy thing, like studying, like the more you know, the harder everything is.

And the more enlightened you try to become, the more conscious you try to become, the more tests you have, the more, you know, it's like, why?

Like, like the more you know, the more you realize you don't know.

And the more you aspire to be conscious, the more you feel like everyone's trying to drag you down and take you out of it and convince you that it's not true or, you know, the tests.

And, you know, life is a test, let's face it. Yeah.
I was thinking about, as you were saying that a bit earlier, of managing that balance between recognizing you are a manager of the light.

and you are not the light itself. I was thinking of this story about Marcus Aurelius where he was followed around the Roman town square by an assistant

and the assistant's only job was to whisper in his ear, you're just a man, you're just a man, because people would praise him and people would shower him with accolades and compliments and the assistant would remind him and it said that that was done so that he could always remain grounded.

I can imagine for you to not fall into the trap of believing you're the light is extremely difficult when you're one of the best-selling artists of all time. When you,

like you said, you name the company, there's only the Beatles, yourself, Michael Jackson that sit in this esteemed group of individuals who've achieved incredible things.

How did you hold on to that beautiful belief that you're not the light and you're a manager of the light when

anyone else could easily believe they were?

By continuing to have a spiritual practice, a spiritual life by continuing to study like always pulls you back

to

center were you able to keep it up when you were like on tour or when you were building your album absolutely wow that drove everyone crazy my manager is like why can't we have shows on this night or why are you late because i'm because i'm praying like what you know what i mean like no

would you people who are only focused on absolutely pray before every show but people who are focused on making money

are

definitely not focused on spiritual life. You have to have your feet in both worlds.

And

I see that. So you literally wouldn't do a show on a day because that was your study day.
Yeah.

Or I would be late.

Yeah.

I get a lot of shit for being late. Walk me through.
Honestly, it's really hard to balance being a parent, having work, having a spiritual life.

You're constantly juggling.

There's There's not a lot of time to rest.

And if people don't recognize that, then they're just going to look at you in a very 1%

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I became late.

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I want to talk about how spirituality affected you, your role as a mother. Obviously, you said that becoming a mother yourself is actually what even began that enlightenment.

It kind of began that journey. It felt like a responsibility.
It felt like a a moment of change.

How is well, my mother died after giving birth to all my brothers and sisters. So

literally, like the year after my youngest sister was born, my mother died. So I always equated motherhood with death.

So in, and I also equated it with, I could see she was not happy. I could see she wasn't living the life she wanted to live.

I equated it with death, or I equated it with no freedom, or I equated it with no life except taking care of other people.

And so when I started, when I came to New York and I started my career, I was like, no, this is not for me. I don't want to be a mother.
I don't want that.

I wasn't saying it out loud, but I was thinking that. Like, why would I give all of this up? I worked so hard for it.
Well, one day I

found that I was pregnant and

I had been running away from it for so long. And I wouldn't say I was in a stable relationship, but I loved her father.

So I wasn't really thinking it through, but I was like, okay, happened, this happened to me. So it's meant to happen to me.
So,

but honestly,

what the hell am I going to teach my daughter? Like, how am I going to guide her? I've just been living this, you know,

completely selfish life, really,

that, you know, turned out good in many ways. But in reality, I was doing everything for my own self.
And I also kind of thought, well, you know, okay, I'm pregnant, so I'm going to be a mother.

So I'll figure it out. I'll work it out.
But honestly, I was scared shitless.

And

I wasn't in a traditional relationship. And once again, like, this is the story of my life.
I keep finding myself in unconventional or untraditional or

unusual or

unfamiliar places. And I have to keep adjusting.
And I say that, I would say that that is also the reason that I am still here and still going and and have the strength to fight things or to

survive.

Because

being too comfortable in life, I would say, is the downfall of a lot of people who started off taking chances, taking risks. Is that something success does to you, do you think?

Where in the beginning you take risks and you get out of it? I feel like that happens to other people, not me.

I think I've always been, felt like an outsider in life. I felt like an outsider growing up in Michigan.
I felt like an outsider when I came to New York. I felt like an outsider when I moved to LA and

had my Hollywood life. You know, I always felt like I did when I was in high school.
I don't fit in. And not fitting in is what saves you.

And that, you know, studying Kabbalah, nobody else was interested in it, not my friend group. And if I would speak about it to people, they'd be like, oh, that's really interesting.

Having a spiritual life isn't necessarily going to make you popular.

But if you're a conscious person searching for truth, then it's going to be interesting. Like, I'm interested in your spiritual path, your spiritual life.

I want to know what you do, what it does for you. I want to know how you do it because I'm curious.
And curiosity and being an outsider, and

those are the things that actually save you,

even though it's not supported in our society, like to think outside the box, to take the road less traveled by,

to

not

be so concerned with approval, public approval. And now we live in a world where everyone follows algorithms, and algorithms are the opposite of taking chances.
They are the opposite of being unique.

They are the opposite of spiritual life. They are the opposite of consciousness.

That's why artificial intelligence cannot duplicate consciousness. It can duplicate doing things

following formulas, but it can't duplicate consciousness. So now have we gotten really off to soul? I love it though.

It's great to be in your stream of consciousness. And

on that point, I'll get back. But I often get asked the question right now when I'm on panels of, do I ever believe that AI will have a soul?

And my response is always, I just hope that the people who are building AI have a soul because ultimately it's becoming a reflection of whatever's inside of us. But I digress.

Going back to how, gone, you were going to say something. No, you're right.
Yep. The people who make it, but are they? Yeah, that's the most important part of it.
That's the scariest part.

Yeah, the intention and the purity. Intention.
And consciousness. Yeah.

Yeah. I just repeat that like a mantra.
Consciousness is everything. Consciousness is everything.
But a lot of people don't even know what that is.

When you became a mom and you're trying to teach your children about,

I guess I'm assuming you want to

pass some of these teachings on. Yeah.
I mean, they grew up learning it and studying it, studying or listening to me study with my teachers or listening to other people.

And they would bounce back and forth between thinking it was silly or something weird that mom does.

But I see that it has impacted all of them. What makes you see that?

Because they study. Not all of them.
But I feel like my children who have a spiritual life are happier than the ones who do not.

But obviously they could start at any time. It could happen.
I'm not, you know, there's no coercion in spirituality. It's like if you, either it speaks to you or it doesn't.

Yeah, I remember my dad was trying to get us. to do things for so long and I rejected it so hard because

children always reject

their parents the path they follow their belief systems they think it's stupid and then they

come back around

a little bit totally yeah yeah there's that famous quote that says

the day you realize your parents were right your kids are telling you that you're wrong and and I think it's an often common experience that people have yeah how did Kabbalah impact your and your spiritual practice impact your role as a daughter because like you said you lost your mother when you were five.

To a certain extent, I resented my father growing up because I felt like he wasn't present for us emotionally.

He did have a lot of responsibilities and

he's a deeply Catholic person, but I don't,

I felt like he followed his spiritual path or he followed Catholicism because that's how it was, that's how he was raised. That's how it was done.

When I was growing up, if I wanted to ask a question about why do we do this, why are we genucking? Why are are we receiving the body and blood of Christ? Why is my father didn't have an answer?

He just said, That's what that's what is written.

And what drew me to Kabbalah was that I could ask questions, and there were answers, and questions were invited,

which is the opposite of how I was brought up. So I looked at my father as kind of like a religious robot, you know what I mean?

Not that he's not a good person, but I didn't want to be a robot, and

especially having a spiritual life, I started to

see my father as a human being and see that he was a human that made mistakes and that he did the best with what he was taught, what he was given.

When those cylinders start clicking in your head, you start to have a lot more compassion, not just for your parents, but for all people who don't see life the way you see it, that you don't agree with.

it brought me to a place where i could have more compassion for him i mean that seems like a really big gift yeah to to have that understanding and and i i could agree i think spiritual context creates so much compassion when you are able to zoom out and look at someone's life.

Like I remember the moment I really had compassion for my dad was when I visited the home he grew up in, which was

this room i mean i can't even compare it to this his home was

like

probably just from here to here

like his entire home and they shared a bathroom with 20 30 families yeah and we went outside i was nine years old we're in india and there's cockroaches around us in pune

there's cockroaches around his home there's bats in the you know and it's just like and inside and i i was nine years old and i couldn't believe that you know that's where my dad grew up and it was almost like something clicked where I was like I unless I saw that I wouldn't have had that experience because it was always easier to assume that their life yeah well that's the thing my like I say to my kids all the time like you're judging me by the chapter you arrived in like this is not how my life has been

and it's really hard for kids to see that Yeah, yeah, going there was probably one of the best things that ever happened to me because it's what you're saying.

I was able to go to a previous chapter in someone's life. And even though my childhood, we weren't well to do or we didn't have anything, but we didn't have a lot.

Going to see that, I was like, oh, gosh, my life is a million times better than this. And having that context was huge for me.

I want to hear about how you were able to apply these principles in the difficulty of the big things you're talking about.

Because whether it's reconnecting with our parents, whether it's recovering from being raped, whether it's dealing with these challenges you've dealt with. As you said, it doesn't happen overnight.

It's not easy. It is the level of study and work.
But talk to me about the emotional journey of shifting from a victim to

whatever you would call this on the other side, because it would be very natural for anyone to feel that way. I want to hear about the emotional journey and the spiritual journey you went on.

What were some of the steps or stages that you saw that if anyone who's listening or watching can recognize and potentially be? Well, the first thing is you're suffering all the time.

If you don't have a spiritual life, like you're just suffering all the time.

And you really think that whatever is happening to you is like something that's never going to end.

And you drew the wrong card.

That's how you feel. Yeah.
That's how I used to think.

And even now, since I've been studying, there's been times where I've been really challenged and really suffered in certain situations. And I,

if I didn't have a spiritual life, I don't know how I wanted, you know, there were moments in my life where I wanted to cut my arms off. I wanted, I actually contemplated suicide.

And that probably sounds really weird coming from me because I'm not that, I'm not emo, you know what I mean? But I was like, I can't take this pain anymore.

But as soon as you understand that what's happening to you is

a challenge that you are karmically meant to experience and learn from and evolve to a higher level of consciousness, then you can look at that event, that experience, as a lesson and not punishment.

What pain at the time pushed you to that place of potentially wanting to take your own life?

I mean, I don't, I don't, I don't, I'm not in the blame game. That's the thing.
I used to be that way.

And

I used to always want to seek revenge, you know, if somebody did me wrong.

Or I would pronounce

loudly, oh, well,

you know, they'll get their own karma. Well, whatever.
You know what I mean? And even knowing about karma doesn't mean you're a grown-up. It doesn't mean you're not being a victim.

But I would say probably one of the most painful moments in my life where

I honestly couldn't see the forest for the trees was when

I went through a custody battle with my son. And

I, you know,

even though my marriage didn't work out, I mean, a lot of people, marriages don't work out. They marry the wrong people.
They're not aligned. They're not meant for each other.

Someone trying to take my child away from me was like,

they might as well just kill me. That's really how I was thinking.
And I was on tour at the time, so I had to go on stage every night. I would just be lying on the floor of my dressing room, sobbing.

I really thought it was like it was the end of the world. I couldn't take it.
I just couldn't take it.

But thank God, I don't feel that way anymore.

And I had to keep, you know, studying, like continuing my studies and continuing on my spiritual path, like helped me to understand that you know the enemy is within

talk to me about that you know lots of people do lots of bad things and make a lot of bad choices or make choices that cause other people pain suffering or chaos or whatever

but at the end of the day

I needed to learn some lessons and I can see that with the benefit of hindsight but I couldn't see it at the time and also I was abandoned as a child by my own mother.

And so, losing a child, it was like life repeating itself. I couldn't accept it.

And so, it caused me a lot of suffering. And not being able to accept things causes all of us a lot of suffering.

So, yes, and now, you know, I'm happy to say that I'm really good friends with my son.

But I couldn't see it then. I really thought it was the end of the world.
So, you know, thank God I had a spiritual life. Was the lesson radical acceptance? Yeah, exactly.

It took me a long time, actually, several years.

Radical acceptance is just accepting that what is happening to you is meant to happen to you and that you're going to be okay.

I mean, it's not an instant thing. There's no such thing as an instant thing.
There's no way we're we're going to escape suffering.

Even if we grow up with wealth and privilege and, you know, we didn't grow up in a small room, you know, our challenges and our suffering is going to come to us in a different way.

I can give you another example of radical acceptance, and that is,

and this is something that my teacher shared with me.

About a year and a half ago, I was rehearsing for

a tour, and

I got a bacterial infection. And I, one minute, I was alive and dancing around, and the next minute I was in the ICU unit of a hospital, and I woke up from being unconscious for four days.

I got out of the hospital, they took me off of, you know, the ventilator, I started to breathe on my own, and I had something,

something, it's called sepsis, and it's like it can kill you. Yeah, that's really bad.
And everybody recovers at a different rate. And so, you know, I've always seen myself as superwoman.

So I was like, oh, I'm going to, I'm going to kick this. Is going to, I'm going to kick this.
I'm going to be good. I'm getting back into rehearsals.
And I had no strength. I had no energy.

I couldn't get out of bed and I didn't know when it was going to end. And I used to talk to my teacher all the time.

And he's like, the sooner you accept what's happening to you and that you don't know when it's going to end, the sooner it's going to end.

That made so much sense to me. And of course it did.

But I mean, I've heard some people never recover from it completely, never recover and have their

full health again.

So again, it's the same idea, same concept. Like

if you sit around feeling sorry for yourself, oh,

woe is me, or poor me, or this is like, I don't accept it. I will not accept it.
Well, then you're just going to be swimming and suffering. You're reminding me of something I read in a,

it's not a spiritual book, but it has a similar message. It's called Culture Code by Daniel Coyle.

And he talks in this book about how when soldiers were out at war, a lot of them wanted to believe they'd be back by Christmas.

And there were the others that accepted that they had no idea when they were going to get home.

And he talks about how those who accepted that they had no idea when they were going to get home were actually happier.

and were able to endure what they were going through a lot easier than those who hoped they'd get back on Christmas and then didn't. Yes, it's like the Viktor Frankl book.
Yes. Man Search for Meaning.

Yeah. Yeah, exactly.
And it's such, it's when I hear it from those really extreme scenarios,

you're like, wow, if Viktor Frankl can think that, you know, in the experience that he had, you go, okay, well, and Edith Ego with the gift.

And you go, wow, like, yeah, if you can have that experience there, then. then there must be some truth to that because how could you accept that when it was when you were going through the worst?

Yeah. yeah yeah it's really really tough going back to your experience of that

where what would you say because you mentioned karma there and this idea of choices we make and lessons we need to learn and karma almost being this experience of learning the lessons how how do you see karma how do you define karma from your learnings and studies and let's start there and then i'll ask the second question after that

My personal understanding is that our souls choose the lives that we are born into,

the circumstances we are born into,

that our souls are perfect, but then we're born into a life which is

one challenge

after the next, and that

our journey is to navigate. and to like see

that each challenge that happens to us is our karmic destiny. It's energy.
It's the law of quantum physics. It's cause and effect.

Whatever's happening to me that might be uncomfortable is obviously meant to happen to me to teach me a lesson. And if I don't learn that lesson at that point,

it's going to come up again and again and again until I learn it.

and accept that it's a lesson, not a punishment. So that's how you get out of victim mentality also.
What was the lesson that kept repeating for you

and took you a bit longer than you would have liked to learn? What was the one that kept showing up?

Betrayal

or abandonment. Sometimes they go hand in hand.

But

it really kept me, like I saw a lot of people, or I felt and experienced that I was constantly being either abandoned or betrayed.

So that kept me in a state sometimes often like feeling sorry for myself,

stuck in a place of blaming others and not taking responsibilities for, well, how did I bring this upon myself? Or why asking the question, well, why is this happening to me over and over again?

Obviously, I need to learn something.

I think everybody,

if they think about it, like, what is the thing that always comes back to you? Or like for everybody, it's something different, obviously.

I think the abandonment thing was the greatest lesson that it could teach me that I could stop being

destroyed by it or paralyzed by it

was to think of all, like,

how am I not showing up for other people? How am I abandoning other people?

How am I abandoning myself?

How long have I been not listening to myself, my inner truth, my inner voice? Yes. And we all say goodbye to our inner selves at some point or another until something wakes us up.

Push has to come to shove for everybody. There's just no way to escape it.
So that's something that as a concept that you have to get your head around.

There's no running away from being tested.

There's no running away from experiencing pain, suffering, whether it's physical or emotional.

I mean, and that obviously that takes life experience and living

and, you know, going, okay, everything's going well for me. I'm so happy.
Everything's great. Oh no, this is like, this is a failure.
People are writing negative shit about me.

Like, you know, or this relationship ended or this person cheated on me or this, you know, like all these things that happened to you.

Rejection.

And then you go and you go no I'm not happy if you're gonna go through life like

being a slave to these like ups and downs you're just gonna be like

I don't know how you can last obviously

I mean it's obvious to me I don't know if it's obvious to you or anybody who's watching this but I don't know how we can maintain our sanity And especially now, I mean, when people lived simpler lives and we didn't see what was going on in the world and we didn't like, we weren't so connected like we are because of

technology and the you know the internet whatever um

it's hard not to get like anxious or

start blaming or taking sides or feeling you know what I'm saying

yeah I loved I loved what you said this one line will stay with me for a long time I really really thought it was beautiful you said we all say goodbye to our inner selves at some point

and that really landed because

that's why it feels like we're coming home to ourselves when you.

And I think everyone who's listening or watching can,

if they've started their spiritual journey, they've started their reconnection journey,

they know what that feeling is like. Where it's like, Yeah, wait a minute, I left myself

and now I'm coming back to myself. Yes, I always say, What was I thinking before I was thinking?

Right, I don't even know.

So

I was just thinking about myself.

But ironically and paradoxically, when you're just thinking about yourself and consumed with yourself, you're actually not connected to yourself at all.

You know what I mean? Yeah.

So how does it change now when you go through betrayal or you go through rejection or any of those things that you talked about?

How do you process it differently now with your spiritual practices than you did before? What's the different experience you have of it?

Well, I spend less time feeling sorry for myself, being a victim, blaming, and more time thinking, okay,

why did this happen to me? What's the lesson? I mean, I go to that sooner

than I did before.

What's the difference between self-blame and accountability?

Because I feel a lot of people fall into the trap of now you don't go and blame other people, but you blame yourself and you go, I messed up. I should have chosen right.
I should have done this.

Okay, well, self-reflection and acknowledging and being accountable for your behavior is not the same as feeling guilty.

Feeling guilty is just you're consumed with your ego. Shaming yourself.
Yeah. So you're not going to get anywhere with that.
That just stops any kind of growth from happening.

It's pretty amazing to say that you can speed up to that point of asking yourself that question of what can I learn from this? I mean, that's the ultimate question. Yeah.

And believe me, it's not something that stays with me all the time. It's like sometimes I forget.
I'm like,

I'm doing it again. I'm doing it again.

I'm falling back into a familiar pattern. Yeah.

But if you don't know, then you're not, like, it's important to know, again, not beat up on yourself. Well, okay, I made a mistake.
What can I learn from it?

Swallow your pride.

Tell your ego to shut up, basically.

You mentioned the word manifesting earlier

and channeling and being a vessel.

And I wanted wanted to ask you, because manifesting becomes very popular in the world today as a concept, it's at least out there. People understand the word.

Now, when people would look at your career, they would assume you've manifested incredible amounts of success for yourself, incredible amounts of wins and all the rest of it.

Talk to us about your process of manifestation. What does it actually look like?

If you're manifesting things and you're not conscious that it's a gift from the universe, from the light, from the creator, whatever you want to call it, if you're not aware of that and you're not conscious, then

okay, you you invented something. Great.
You created this thing that now is selling billions,

but everything becomes finite when you're not manifesting with the with the consciousness that you are

channeling something. You You don't own it.

So

that's a big thing. That's the key pod.
Yeah.

Sure. So whatever it is.

So if I have a successful show, if I have successful, if anything happens to me successfully, like is perceived as a success in the outside world, I just say, you know, that's, I, I,

how blessed am I?

I manifested that with the help

of God.

I didn't do it on my own. I do nothing on my own.

And

if you think you're manifesting on your own,

you're like an ostrich with your head in the sand. And there will be an end to whatever you're manifesting.
So, if someone desires something, they've got to recognize that it's not their hand, it's

something that they're willing to become

recognized. I mean, it requires work to

be conscious. It requires work to see that you're channeling something and being a vessel for something.

So you do have your part in it, but you're not on your own. That's the point.

And a lot of us feel like, I'm going to do this. When I do this, I'll get this.
And when I get this, then I will be this person. That's desire for selfish reasons.

You know, manifesting success

is whenever you want something for the sake of sharing. When you want something just for yourself, like I'll be happy when I have 10 Bugattis and a mansion in every major city.

And I'm the brand ambassador of Louis Vuitton.

No offense to Louis Vuitton, just throwing that out there, but you know what I mean? Like those things like really make people happy.

But it's short-lived. And sooner or later, everybody comes to that realization anyways.

It's just just whether it's sooner or later.

And these are the things I talk about this in our studies. You know, let's get back to why I'm here.
And my intention is to share my spiritual life with people.

We talk about in our studies, we talk about manifesting and we talk about

being a channel. And,

you know, I share in one of the studies, I talk about writing my first song, for example,

and how

I taught myself how to play the drums. And then I,

my friend, my boyfriend at the time was in a band and he taught me how to play guitar, like just simple chords. And when nobody was around,

I would start playing with all the instruments and start

without thinking, without any like, I'm going to be this or I'm going to be that. Let me just...
I just sat down and wrote a song for the first time.

And I was very conscious at that moment after it happened, where did that come from?

How did that happen? I didn't grow up with musicians. I didn't grow up with songwriters.
No one, I didn't have a goal to be that.

Where did it come from?

And so when you start opening your eyes to that,

how did that happen? Where did that come from? Then you see

the possibilities. You see the magic of the universe of life.

And you see that, you know,

that was a gift some angel showed up in my room and

you know what am I going to do with that gift so these have these moments happen to you throughout life and they happen to everybody whether you're saving someone's life or or

you have this incredible idea for some life-saving invention you know what I mean we're we're all blessed with those moments and it's you know it's really the important thing is to acknowledge where that came from that's really manifesting.

I love that.

That's my favorite explanation of manifestation I've ever heard.

Truly, it really is because I think what often happens in substitute of what you said is we have an idea and then we try and manufacture that set of inputs and outputs again to get that again.

And then it doesn't work. And then we're confused because we're like, wait a minute, last time I did this and did this and did this, then I got this.

And now I'm trying to to do it again, and then you get stuck because now you think you can't do it.

But the reality is that's just a very functional way of looking at something that's far beyond input, output, and

manufacturing. You can't manufacture to manifest.
It doesn't make sense. Nope.

Yeah, I really, really like that. I really, really appreciate that definition.
And I think that's going to.

help a lot of people because I think the way it's being talked about right now is just being be clear about your goals and be really clear about what you want. And I mean, that's important too.

Say out loud what you want out of life.

That is important. But

you're in a partnership.

That's

really what's important to remember.

And we become our environments as well. So we want to surround ourselves with people who, with like-minded individuals.
And if you are around people

who also are attaining to reach a higher level of consciousness or want to know the deeper meanings of life or want to look inward and figure out why

what their karmic destiny is or even take into consideration the idea of karma.

I mean, you need that also, because if you don't have that support system, then you can also fall back into the trap of recreating formulas that work or

trying to capture some magical moment and make it magic again.

And that's just our ego taking over and telling us, you know,

I did that. I did that.
I can do it again. Yeah.
Yeah. And you can't.
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One of my favorite ways of thinking about it, especially when you said it's a partnership,

is

When we look at the universe, everything's always serving. So the sun's providing light and heat.
water is obviously giving us life, oxygen exists, trees are giving us shade and fruits and flowers.

And so in order to really be in partnership with the universe, one has to want to serve because everything is designed to serve and give.

And everything's designed to give and serve and provide. And so when we're not serving, we're actually acting.
against the universe

because everything in the universe is designed simply to give.

We're wired for generosity, but educated educated for greed. And when that juxtaposition comes up against itself, it just creates friction.

It's like we all feel better when we do something for someone else. Absolutely.
We all feel more joy when you take care of someone in need more than if you did it for yourself.

And the science and the research backs it up as well. This isn't some woo-woo spiritual idea.
No, it's absolutely the truth.

But it's amazing how our conditioning and education is so the opposite that we all believe that. Every man for himself.
Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah, that's the statement.

No.

How much unconditioning does it take for us to lose the every man for himself mindset? What does that look like in your spiritual practice and journey, especially to not fall back into that trap?

You mean

to continue to have a spiritual life, a spiritual practice, to study. I love asking.
To stop every, you know, whether every day, once a week.

You, if people don't have some kind of ritualistic moment in their life, like I said, whether it's every day or a few times a week, that like what's gonna stop you?

You know what I mean?

You have to have that moment where you're thinking about what you've done, thinking about what you'd like to do, thinking about what, you know, have I capitalized on the opportunities that have come my way, not

monetarily,

spiritually.

Like, what did did I do to help someone?

What have I done for others?

I mean, that's really the only way you can be successful in life. What were you trying to channel when you were creating in your music? And what were you trying to do to help people? What was...

Well, in the beginning, I just wanted to be somebody.

I just wanted to be somebody. Like, I wanted to have a voice.
I wanted to make a difference in the world, but I wasn't clear about what that meant.

Now I'm clear about what it means. What is it? What does it mean today?

That everything I say has weight and gravity and that words are powerful and actions are powerful. And I always ask myself,

like, why am I doing this? Why do I want to, why is this song important to me? Why is this performance important to me? Why is this conversation we're having right now important to me?

That's really the difference is like having intention

and consciousness. We're really like, I'm repeating myself over and over again.
I can't think of other words that capture that, but

self-awareness. Self-awareness doesn't really do it because self-awareness kind of implies like selfishness.
You know what I mean? A day at the spa.

Not that that's not something to be enjoyed. I could use a day at the end.
You could use a day at the spa.

Sure. My roof has been leaking for a month.
Yeah. I want to go to the spa.
That's okay. But that's not going to bring me lasting happiness.
Well, I think that's the reality of it, right?

Like when you look at your experience, there's this,

everyone's experience is this paradox where it's like you have the highest highs, the lowest lows, you have a life that, of course, you need everyday self-care, but there's also what is lasting happiness and these bigger questions.

We all live in this world, but we're not of this world.

It's almost like everything that it makes more sense to recognize it's both and. as opposed to either or.
Well, you have to live in the paradox. Yeah.

It's like the greatest amount of light is where there's darkness and you can reveal the most amount of light when you're in a dark room you turn on the light when you're in a room that's already light what do you there's no um effort made so should we look for darkness you know what i mean should we but no but when we are in that space where we're feeling dark where we're feeling an absence of light an absence of hope an absence of inspiration of vision then you have to those are are the moments, the challenging moments where

you have to say to yourself, this is my opportunity to bring light to a dark place. You know, spiritual wisdom is not helpful when everything's going your way.

It's helpful when you're challenged. And when you're happy,

it's helpful to remember that at any given time, in any moment,

it could be gone. So don't take it for granted.
Have humility. Be grateful when things are going your way.
And when you're being tested, also be grateful. That's a hard one.

That was a hard one for me. It still is.

But I'm glad that I know what I know.

One of the key aspects of this beautiful study series that you've created is

We've talked about some of the themes today. We've talked about karma.
There's manifestation. There's desire.
There's

all of these themes that exist. And one of the big ones that really stood out to me was

forgiveness.

Because, you know, when I listened to you today and I even watched the studies that you created that I'm hoping our audience will go and watch and appreciate and learn from as well,

you've conquered and continue to try to conquer some really difficult emotions, like really, really difficult things.

And I feel like forgiveness for us in the world today is probably one of the hardest things for us, whether we've been betrayed, whether we've been lied to, whether we've been exploited, whether we've been taken advantage of.

And we always hear the age-old phrase of forgiveness is for you, it's not for them. And you hear these things, but it's...
Wait, wait, who says that?

It's, I mean, it's common verbiage that exists in the world, at least,

of this idea that... you know, don't hold on to grudges.

Well, you shouldn't. We shouldn't.
And it is ultimately liberating for us to forgive, But obviously, the world benefits from our

empathy, our ability to forgive. Talk to us about that conditioning.

Because I'm a fighter. You know, if somebody messes with me, they're going to get it.

You've always been like that. Yes.

But,

you know, when things happen to you and there's not a tangible enemy that you can like put your finger on, like, what are you going to do?

You have to lean into radical acceptance.

But,

you know,

there are things that have happened to me in my life that I just thought,

I will never forgive this person. I will never.

Now,

I just don't, I don't want to have those feelings anymore because they're really,

it's a prison and it's poison to not be able to forgive and to live in a state of like

holding a grudge or hating someone. or wanting them to suffer.
It's like a kind of poison. It's like a kind of cancer.

That's why it's important to find a way to forgive even people that you perceive as your biggest enemies. For a really long time, it was my brother

who died recently. Because

I think the hardest ones are the people that you feel like

you're the closest to. They're your greatest ally, and they turn on you.
The people that hurt you the most are the people that you love the most.

And when life doesn't go the way that you expected it to go, that you suddenly suddenly this pain is unbearable.

And that you think what's going to save you is to think vengeful thoughts or to never forgive. Like that's going to give you some kind of power, magical power.
It doesn't.

It just weighs you down and eats away at you and is poisonous.

So

having to forgive my brother, knowing that I had to forgive my brother was, you know, it's like your ego dances around it. Like, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'll get to it.

I'll get to calling him him up or talking to him or being his friend or helping him. But eventually, I did.
And

I know I'm being mysterious. If someone you love deeply betrays you and does something that shows that they have no consciousness in that moment that they made that choice to do that,

it's really, it's a bitter pill for me to swallow. I can't speak for everyone, but I imagine that lots of people feel this way.
I agree. For my brother, I didn't speak to him for, you know,

for years, years and years. And it was him

being ill

and

reaching out to me and saying, I need your help.

And me having that moment, like, am I going to help my enemy?

You know? That's how it felt. Yeah.

And

I just did.

And I ended up, and I felt so relieved. And it was

such a load off my back, such a weight that was removed, baggage that I could put down to finally be able to be in a room with him and holding his hand, even if he was dying.

And saying, I love you and I forgive you. That was really important.

And that was another thing that I realized when I woke up in the hospital.

forgiveness that word came to my mind like i have to forgive people because i was there i was almost there on the other side, and I had a conscious moment.

My mother appeared to me, and she said, Do you want to come with me? And I said, No.

My assistant was in the room with me, but I was still unconscious, but she heard me say no.

And then, when I did eventually wake up,

I realized that the no was about me

needing to forgive and

make good with people that I still held grudges against.

So, and interestingly,

well, I wrote a song about him. I'm working on new music and I wrote a song called Fragile, which is about my brother.
And then I wrote another song, and this is again just channeling.

It's called Forgive Yourself.

But

the repeating phrase, the chorus of the song is, if you can't forgive me, forgive yourself,

which is something we all have to do.

We have to forgive others but we also have to figure out about forgive ourselves and stop beating up on ourselves about things choices we've made in the past that haven't

worked out for ourselves or other people

taking responsibility again we come back to that concept also or that idea of being accountable and being responsible taking responsibility that's a very big lesson that I learned studying Kabbalah is that I am responsible.

I am responsible. And every, and I believe in personal accountability, personal karma, and I believe in global karma.
Like a lot of the things that are happening in the world is as a result of our

selfishness as people, as humans, as a society. We are responsible.
You can't just sit in your room and your house or the safety of your home and go, oh, those people are, you know,

they deserve it.

Whatever. Like,

to be aware and conscious that you're contributed in in some way shape or form

and

at the same time if we have collectively and consciously evolved to a higher state of consciousness we can change the world

that also sounds like a cliche but make the world a better place tip the balance so to speak but that's why i'm here and that's why i'm talking to you and that's why i made these,

this is why I documented my studies with my teacher because I really believe that this wisdom can help other people in a very practical way, not in an esoteric way. And that's why I'm here.

Thank you for sharing that and that journey you went on of forgiveness because

yeah, for you to be that honest and vulnerable and explain that that was someone that you felt was an enemy at that point but the relief you felt from helping someone it i mean that's like you know, I can, I'm thinking about the people that are listening and watching right now and the

experience that they're having where they're really struggling to forgive themselves or forgive someone else

and looking at it from the point of view of

what would that look like if you never got that opportunity. I know so many people who regret the last thing they said to their parents or the last thing they said to a loved one or whoever it may be.

And it seems that vengeance and

spite doesn't seem to heal the soul. Well, harsh words and

harsh behavior is energy. And you can never take it back.

But you can change your destiny, your karmic destiny. And one of those ways is to

forgive others and forgive yourself. Madonna, you've been so gracious with your time, your energy,

and vulnerability today i feel like i've learned so much about you i've very grateful to get and and you said you repeated yourself but i'd i'd honestly say that i enjoyed that because it shows to me the

good training is good repetition and so if you have the same if you have a similar mindset towards something it's it's not in the material world we

only get good at something if you do it a lot yeah in the material world we know that but we often look at repeating as oh i've heard that before i know that but actually

the thing we think we know the most is the thing we need to hear more often

and when i think about the gita or the vedas

you're the soul not the body is the most repeated lesson it's the first lesson but the most repeated

you're the soul your consciousness not the body yes is repeated more than any other teaching even though it's the most obvious and it's the first teaching very obvious but so look how attached we are to physicality exactly so you need to repeat it but yeah I was thinking that this might be a perfect time because you've been referencing in this conversation.

You've referenced your teacher so many times.

And we're fortunate enough today to actually have the opportunity to invite him onto the show.

And if you're open to it, I think this may be the

same should we do it? Yeah, let's do it. Perfect.
Eitan, I'm so grateful that we actually get to speak to you. Madonna's been talking about you the whole interview.

And I want our audience to know, of course, you were sitting in on our conversation as well.

And so you have context of everything we talked about and of course you have 29 years of context of everything Madonna shared with us over the last couple of hours but thank you so much for doing this and thank you for being here thank you for having the honor of being here and being part of really sharing these teachings yeah well I was sharing with you earlier that my vision when I started my platform was to make wisdom go viral, especially ancient wisdom.

And so this is truly my heart's work.

And so thank you for the opportunity back I want to dive in because we've heard about Madonna's journey and her journey to Kabbalah but I would love to hear how you came to it because I'm assuming everyone has their own spiritual journey of awakening or connecting and I'm sure many of our listeners today are either on their spiritual journey want to start one but I'd love to hear how did you come to this practice yourself

I started in a young age. I grew up in Israel in a non-religious family.
and from a young age I was asking questions about life.

I think it came from the depth of my soul. It's beyond because someone taught me or anything.

And when I was 17 my brother introduced me to Kabbalah. I went to the Kabbalah Center and I met my teacher for many years, the Raf Berg.

And after hearing one hour of a lesson of how the universe began and why are we here.

It resonated in such a deep level, literally I couldn't sleep for three nights.

And I felt I'm home.

I felt I'm reconnecting to really my purpose, what life is about.

And it took few years.

And by the age of 21,

I knew that's my mission mission in life. So basically, in the last 40 years,

that's what I'm doing all day long.

Student and a teacher in the last 40 years.

That's beautiful. Like I was saying earlier, I felt like I came to my work when I was 18.

And so I'm a couple of decades behind you in my journey, but that idea of discovering something early and it resonating so strongly with your heart and committing your life to it.

What was it like when you first met Madonna? What was that first interaction? Like from your vantage point, your perspective, tell us about it.

I don't think she knows, but when Madonna's friend, which studied with me, called me and told me, I'm bringing Madonna to a class tonight.

40 people.

So I told her,

you know, I never saw a picture of Madonna. I heard their name.

So

cute.

so don't worry she'll sit in the back with me so that's actually the first time so you had no idea what she looked like no i didn't i didn't have a clue i didn't even have a clue those days i was pretty

naive

you you were plugged in yeah i was totally in dishon and i i didn't

i heard the name madonna but I didn't actually recognize and then did you connect that evening was that yeah that evening actually we sat We did?

Yeah, we sat in the conference room because we sat in Venice that we'll meet.

And Madonna was very suspicious of me.

I can relate to that.

What's the agenda here? What's happening?

But

listen, she

had many students.

But one of the amazing qualities of Madonna

is perseverance, tenacities in the ups and downs. And trust me, I've experienced and seen a lot of ups and downs.

But

I always say

when you constantly nurturing your soul,

your soul will guide you.

Our soul is the part within us which knows all the answers that connected to the higher force 24-7

It is our body our logic our ego the layers in our hearts that blocking us to see and to feel the truth when you just agree with some spiritual concept and once in a while learning so wow, it's amazing I love it

It's not enough

You need to nurture the soul, that that light of the soul and that wisdom of the soul and that intuition that come from the soul will channel back its energy to your life

because the source of all protection and the source of all true joy come from the soul

so

so she has that an amazing and amazing attribute of tenacity and persistence not giving up not giving up no matter what one of the reasons i like going there is because it's like it was the only place where people didn't bother me about who I was.

I literally sat in the back of a room with folding chairs. As I said, there was mostly men and and no one said a word to me.
No one bothered me. No one said, oh my god, aren't you a donal?

Can I have your autograph? Or like whatever. Like I just felt like I could be anonymous there.
Was that the first time you'd experienced that in your career at that point? Well, for a long time, yeah.

So with a large group of people and strangers. So I liked the anonymity of just being a student and going there and learning.
And it had nothing to do with my career or work or, yeah.

So that it was inviting. So I wanted to go back.
And then I would always bring my notebook and take notes. And

I have a zillion journals from all of my classes and studies. And I loved to be a student and learn.
And I was learning so much.

And I also was so, what I loved so much about Cabal and studying Cabal was how in tune it was with science and quantum physics. And,

you know, it wasn't just

because, you know what I mean? Like everything made sense to me.

And I could see how,

you know, even the idea of

how the world was created or the beginning of life, or the idea of, you know, Genesis, for instance, or the idea of Adam and Eve. I learned that nothing in life can be taken literally.

You have to study the deeper meanings of everything.

And that is true for a spiritual practice as well as science, as well as everything we do in life. You can't judge a book by its cover.
You can't take things literally.

And I was like, oh, like when I was growing up as a Catholic, I would always say to my father, well, why

do we have to, you know, why do we have to wear dresses to church?

Why does the, you know, like, you know, wear a hat, cover your head.

what like he there was no explanation for anything and that really bugged me so if you can't find a reason if you can't explain something to me I'm not interested

so he did explain things to me and they all everything made sense nothing was silly what we do study when we study Kabbalah is the we study the Zohar

and in within the Zohar is everything about life, about medicine, about

science, about nature, about relationships.

And

that was really comforting to me

to see that's what helped me see life is not a series of random events.

Etran, you mentioned, I mean, as I'm listening to Madonna speak about this as well,

you mentioned that obviously, you know, this tradition is 4,000 years old.

How was it? The first book that was written, but it was before, it was before. Right, right, right, yeah.
So it was put into writing. It was put into the technology of books 4,000 years ago.

How did it come to be? Like, tell us a bit about the history of it so that we get some context of the tradition. Actually, the first book that was ever written in Kabbalah was three pages long.

It's called The Book of Formation that was written by Abram the Patriarch.

And it's written in such a coded way and will not get any understand the secret of life and the whys of life. Three pages.
Three pages. That's cool.
Yes.

It's a lot of commentary, but yes, three pages.

And then the main book of Kabbalah, after many Kabbalist teachings from one to another,

was the book of the Zohar or the Book of Splendor that was revealed 2,000 years ago.

And the Zohar is actually decodified the Torah, decodified the Bible.

And helping us to understand the Bible is not a book of stories or laws or religiosity or dogma.

It's the secrets of life are hidden there.

And the Zohar, the main book of which we have it today translated to English and to other languages, it's actually helping us to understand

that

everything

in this world has a purpose and a reason. And if you ask him what's really Kabbalah is about, Kabbalah is about understanding the whys

of life, of the universe, and why I'm here, and what is my purpose, and why are we struggling, and what is the journey of our soul, and where we came from.

And if the Creator is such an infinite force of good and love,

how come we're all struggling?

either with pain with doubts with negativity with selfishness

so

that is the main book of kabbalah and of course was many kabbalists throughout history since then that that was a were able to bring kabbalah down to us

and in 1970, that's when the Kabbalah Center started, which is opening the gates and the doors of Kabbalah to all mankind.

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You're talking about the whys of life and the questions and the seeking. Do you remember one of the first questions that Madonna inquired about, or one of the first things that she was grappling with?

Or do you remember, Madonna? I don't even remember.

So I just...

I don't remember in what specific context.

Also, I didn't study with him like this. Like, I was just a student in the back of a class.
It took a while

for us to have one-on-one conversations.

It took a year or two until we started to meet regularly once a week as well. Yeah.
Wow. So, but I think one of the One of the things that

I remember speaking to Madonna, and this is a struggle that everybody have.

So we get there's a higher power.

Call it God, call it the light, call it Einsov,

endless energy of love, of giving that is beyond time and space and it's within us. Okay,

so why there's evil? Forget about outside, even inside.

Why do we have constantly destructive forces within each one of us? There's a constant chatter.

You wake up and gravity pulls you down. Why?

A lot of people study today how to overcome that negative force, but why there is a negative force within us?

So

one of the basic understanding we're talking about is it's

understanding that the greatest gift

the greatest gift the Creator gave us

is the opportunity to overcome the opponent within.

Because when you overcome,

you become co-creator.

The reason why we don't experience enough peace, enough light, enough fulfillment, it's very simple. Like attracts like.
You want to experience the light? Be like the light. Be a being of sharing.

But part of what the light is about is a creator. So the gift to overcome negativity within is the gift of being the creator.
Imagine you were given everything. You were born with talents.

You were born with love.

You were born with just helping people all day long. That's your natural tendency.
No negative force try to pull you down. No selfishness.

Do you think you really

will be able to actually experience and appreciate the force of the Creator, the force of love, the force of light, the force of true fulfillment? The answer is no.

So while sometime

will upset why I have this particular negative voice in my mind,

and why do I have to struggle with abandonment issue?

And why do I have to struggle with moments of sadness?

At the moment you realize one second, this is the greatest gift the creator gives you. It doesn't mean you right away know how to overcome it.
Maybe we'll share some tools how to do it.

But the fact that you accept, the greatest gift in this world is the gift of overcoming.

And it doesn't mean it has to be with suffering. Actually, it doesn't mean.
But the fact that you accept that opponent within you, it

was created by the light by the universe by the force of good to help us to grow

imagine you bring spoke about soccer a little bit before imagine imagine you bring your kid

to play soccer and you bring them in front of a goal and with a ball and say now score Will it be fun? No, he needs an opponent. He needs a goalie.
He needs to overcome something.

Without overcoming anything, we'll never have a sense of true fulfillment.

And we're not talking about overcoming the external challenges, which is part of life,

but recognizing the unique challenges each one of us needs to overcome. We call it karma.
We call it Kabbalistically tikkun. Each one of us have our own unique areas of transformation.

And everything

that life presenting to us is to present these opportunities of overcoming. And as a result, allow my soul to shine, my gifts to shine,

my true purpose to shine.

That's beautiful. I love hearing that.

It's so interesting to hear how that which we believe to be the obstacle. is actually the path.

And it reminds me of, and I know, Madonna, you studied the Gita as well

Origin's dilemma in the first chapter so Origin's a warrior he's an archer to be specific and he's in the middle of a battlefield

and on one side is his brothers and on the other side is his cousins so it's all family the opposing side and his side

and he's on his chariot in the middle of the battlefield and he's talking to God and God god is serving him as his charioteer

and what he's expressing to god is his doubt his anxiety and his insecurity and that's how it begins it begins from a place of doubt stress fear pressure which is what engages him to ask the question and it's so interesting that we often think that

doubt and anxiety are the problem

But often they are the seed of where the question comes from and why we even look up or look around and question what's happening in our lives.

And it's almost like doubt is the direction, and anxiety is

beautiful, right? Like, there's that's it's it's similar as an

something else to wake you up, whether you need some kind of pressure,

whether you're standing in front of a goal or you're you know trying to win a war.

Well, your pressure was becoming a mom, yes,

it's yes, it was, you know, and coming to terms with, you know, is also, you know, is my life, is my life as a in my career, as, you know, as an entertainer, is it going to change?

Is it going to, is it going to be over?

Like I said, I associate motherhood with death. So it's like, what's going to happen to me? Like, I needed to be rooted somewhere and I needed to have certainty.

But you can't have certainty unless you start with doubt. And

exactly. Like she mentioned before, madonna mentioned before that the greatest light

hiding behind the greatest perception of darkness so if darkness manifests itself as fear or the unknown doubt or the uncertainty or the doubt or the weakness

So one of the practices is actually ability to pause and allow yourself to feel it for a second because there's a great light hidden there.

Yeah.

What did you help?

What do you remember helping or what advice would you have given to Madonna at that time to help her connect the dots?

I think the phrase that she's repeated a few times in this conversation of seeing motherhood as death is such a strong statement, but it makes so much sense from your experience when you connect the dots.

How did you encourage her to reflect on that association? We didn't necessarily speak about that concept, but about other challenges challenges and fears and perceived pain.

Abandonment. We talked about that a lot.

Abandonment, absolutely. I think.

Also, you don't want to love or be in love or be attached, feel attachment,

because then you could get hurt.

So that was a big issue for me. Like, I'm good on my own.

Like, as a warrior surviving, like, don't f with me.

I don't need help. I don't need any help.
like i'm good but then you need help and then it's hard like to say it and say i i

i'm doubting myself i'm i'm

i don't feel it like a warrior yeah that's yeah it's it's it's arjuna's dilemma he's he's the greatest archer of his time

yet his bow is slipping from his hands because he's like, I can't shoot an arrow. And he's the best.

And that feeling of, I think we all have that. Like you, you so beautifully talked about it, Eitan, this idea that we've been given so many gifts with so many talents.

And I think a lot of our audience today, in the world,

people have forgotten the gifts that they have. And then we often get into this feeling of low self-esteem.
You know, we don't feel worthy. We don't feel we have a purpose.

And I feel like that's what the world is today.

A lot of people who are listening and watching today probably feel like they don't have something to offer, or maybe they know kind of what they have to offer, but they don't feel confident enough.

What would your teachings and some of your guidance say to those kind of people who are sitting there thinking, I kind of, you know, I don't have that confidence in myself, I don't, I don't really know what I'm gonna do, and they're feeling stuck.

I think, like Madonna mentioned,

she felt weak, she didn't feel

her

personality

of being a warrior

so there's a big difference between personality and soul strength talk to us about the difference yeah yeah what's the difference between personality and soul strength so madonna always been a warrior

that's her personality

that she grew she did that's part of her gifts but it's not necessarily mean that she'll channel a warrior's attributes in a soulful way

But we identify with that. I'm a warrior.
When I'm a warrior, I'm strong. When I'm strong, I'm happy.
When I'm strong, I'm meaningful. When I'm strong, I matter.

And when suddenly you go through a situation that threatens that ability to be a warrior, to be strong, to be independent, suddenly you feel fear and emptiness.

And what I would recommend, what I would share with Madonna, I would recommend anybody,

In order to find your strength,

start

with the challenges of today.

It's not about finding my purpose in the future.

And let's break it down to simple.

Such a great point. It's such a great point.
It's brilliant. Simple four steps.
How do I handle a challenge today?

So step number one. I just want to, before you you dive into the steps, that is beautiful.
I absolutely love that mindset.

I think it's such a great, I hope everyone who's listening and watching right now, it's such great advice because we're so fixated on finding, discovering, looking for the answer in some point in the future.

And it just keeps feeling postponed and further away. And I love what you're saying: is that the challenge in front of you right now is the purpose.
Exactly. It's a beautiful.

How do you connect with the light with the energy, with your soul, with the blessing that's available in this very moment so good sorry yeah and that will lead to other blessings

that will open doors that will attract clarity

we face a challenge

all of us it can be challenge at work it can be challenge at home it can be just i start to compare myself to someone else and it triggers lack.

All of us, doesn't matter how spiritual we are and doesn't matter how successful we are. Guilty.

We'll have at least 100 times a day,

lack will be triggered. Fear today.

Even today. Yeah.
Absolutely.

Every day.

It's like the comparison game.

At least 100 times a day. I mean, that's what social media is for, really, to make you feel bad about yourself.
Unless.

You recognize that that is an illusion. That's not reality.
Oh, this is an opportunity. Right.
An opportunity for me to not engage. Exactly.
And to actually find light in the moment.

But just actually to conquer your fear in that moment or to conquer your repetitive behavior of, oh my God, I wish I had that. Oh, my God.
I wish I was that person. Oh, my God.

I wish that my life was like that person's life. Like, if only I had dot, dot, dot.
You know, it's like to stop yourself in that moment and conquer that moment, which is, I'm good enough.

I'm everything that I I need.

I am.

I embody it. I just have to reveal it.
But

that's a really hard one. I think, especially for women, you know, because we are conditioned to want to aspire to be this beautiful or this great of a mother or

this great of a homemaker or this great of a, you know, it's a test every day to not judge yourself and to not like feel like you're lacking in some way, like you say.

And when I say my prayers, part of my prayer is that I rise above my limitations and that I rise above my nature

and that I don't get sucked into the vortex of lack, which can come in so many different forms.

And tune into like you just, you really have to be consciously like going, like your head is a radio dial, like going,

like, like, like, no, I'm not that's not me you know what I mean it's constant it's a constant

conversation you're having with yourself yeah

so true so that's a really relatable problem and

it requires work and it requires paying attention and being aware and we also get caught up in we know we live in a world that's just distraction Right? So easy to get distracted.

It doesn't mean you're not supposed to have fun. Like right now, I really want to have fun.

But not that you're not fun.

Oh, we're not having fun. I think we're having fun.

But

yeah, it's just, we live in a world of distraction. So it's so easy to get caught pulled off the track of,

you know, what am I doing? What am I doing right now? What am I doing to myself? Like,

I'm already there. I got caught.
You know what I mean?

By the seed of doubt and self-judgment. and comparing and I'm not good enough.

Therefore, I'm going to be in a bad mood I'm gonna shout at my child or you know what I mean it's like takes so many different forms and like the greatest thing in the world is to be able to stop yourself before that happens

but it does require constant vigilance yeah absolutely it's amazing to hear you say that you still feel that way yeah that's helpful and validating for for all of us that's part of the path of transformation

sorry back to the tool yes So really, because

without what is lack

is the illusion that there's no force of good,

you're not protected, you're not loved,

you're alone,

you're sad,

you're disconnected.

And the practice to overcome that, not just in meditation, throughout the day,

which is very powerful is step number one

as you face the challenge

before you get as the reactive process of lack and negative thoughts tell yourself say these words pause what an opportunity i don't know why it's an opportunity

But I know every moment of lack, it's a gift from the universe to help me to reveal greater light and a blessing in my life.

Step number two,

don't fix it yet.

Embrace what is.

Embrace the difficult feelings. Because in order to find light in darkness, you need to be there.
with courage a little bit in darkness. We want to fix right away.

We want to get rid of what bothers us. We want to get rid of the fear.
We want to get rid of the insecurities.

We can't stand it. We don't like the discomfort.
And how do we want to get rid of it? By being reactive, by blaming, by judging ourselves, by

jumping after opportunity for insignifications, by being self-destructive.

Pause.

Embrace. It's okay.

And part of the reason of study is developing trust. It's okay.
Embrace first what is

and then go to the next level. And when you say embrace,

do you mean to meet it positively in that to me as it is to you? To allow it. Yeah, to allow it.
Allow it. Because sit in it.

Allow it. Not because I want to stay there, because that's part of the process of revealing.
the great light of my soul.

Yeah, it almost feels that often what happens is because we've tried to go to the light so much, sorry,

it often feels that because we've tried to go to the light so much, we don't know how to sit in the darkness. Exactly.
We want to go to the good so quickly, we don't know how to sit in the bad.

And that's when you develop strength.

And there's a concept kabbalistically called. Discomfort.
Yeah, there's a concept kabbalistically called certainty beyond logic.

Explain that.

I'm trusting, even though I don't feel it,

and it doesn't make sense that actually I'm led towards anything positive,

but I'm trusting beyond logic that this experience is for my best.

Even if I'm guilty and feeling horrible about mistakes that I've done, it's okay.

You're going to get to the part of learning the lesson. Don't fix it, don't erase it.

Certainty beyond logic.

So

the part of embrace, see it, allow,

and then you're ready to the next step, which is telling yourself. Because our belief system tells us it's a moment of darkness.
There's no light here. There's no good here.
There's no light here.

There's no love here. There's no light here.
So you need to tell yourself, all the light that I need is within me now. Just tell yourself,

it doesn't make sense. Logic doesn't agree.
The heart doesn't agree.

But that's the job of this world: to allow the thoughts, the stream of energy that come from the soul to influence gradually the mind and the heart and the body.

And again and again and again, tell yourself, all the light I need is within me now. I'm certain beyond logic, it's for my best.

And then

show me the way, the light, the universe, what's the, when you feel less reactive.

Because usually when we experience lack,

we're reactive. We want to get rid of the lack.
We want to get rid of the fact. And that's what's caused.
Think, what's caused evil behavior between people?

Not knowing how to handle moments of lack. That's where it starts.

So forget about others. Let's start with ourselves.

And sometimes we'll fix the lack because someone will tell us, wow, you're an amazing person. I love you so much.

And now we feel good. And I fixed it.
I forgot about my lack. I forgot about my insecurity.
Actually, I am amazing.

Are you? Are you developing true muscles and skills to find the light within? Or do you want to be attached to the external energy that will fix you? It will never work.

And of course, when you're in that place,

actions of giving, even if it doesn't make sense, calling someone, adding value to someone, being kind to someone, also help you to shift your energy towards the vibration of the soul,

towards the vibration of the light.

But we all need to go through this test.

You know, some people would call it

mental illness,

but we all have that mental struggle.

We all have that mental struggle

in feelings and in our mind. So it's a, it's actually, it's a daily practice

to transform. It's a daily practice.
And when you have the courage and you study enough depth, that support, the understanding that the light is never gone. Yeah.

It's my perception, I see the light, I don't see the light, that is causing me to feel the light is disappear and I'm small and I'm not enough and I'm not capable and I'm not confident.

Yeah, that really resonates very strongly because

I feel like

when you're first reading this new script, you don't believe it.

And that's why, as you're saying, the regular study is almost like reading a script, consistently, a new script, because we're already reading the old script of I'm not good enough, I'm not capable enough, I don't belong, whatever it may be.

But the one line that I really loved that resonated with me, which I want to ask you about, Madonna, is the trust beyond logic, because I think that's the phase that most of us give up because we are living in a logical, functional, material world

where

if a train's not coming, you would leave the station.

But here, the trust beyond logic is, no, I'm still going to wait here, or I'm going to act in a certain way, way, or I'm going to change these behaviors.

Madonna, when did you have to practice trust beyond logic in your life the most? Where have you been? I mean, every challenge I've ever had, once I became aware that I had the power to do that, and

like making art creation is

has nothing to do with being logical.

Doesn't have anything to do with the logical part of your brain. You can't measure it.
You can't predict it. You can't control it.

You have to allow it.

So I would say that challenger is like happening on a daily basis.

Like even now, like I told you my,

you know, there's a pipe that bursts in the middle of my house and it's like creating havoc. And

I was so excited to come to London. to be in my house in London

and everything's gone wrong. And I'm like, okay,

so there has to be a reason for it. I can't just sit here and like be angry or upset.
Like there's an illogical

wisdom to everything that's happening. If that's not being attached to material things, then that could be an option.

If that's because all these things are broken, I need to spend more time doing something else, it's more important, then that's, you know what I mean? There's always a reason for something.

so and you can't logically figure it out like i wish that i could have seen 10 years ahead that my son was going to be my best friend

i was trying to make logical sense of everything

you know what i mean so

i wish that i could knew then what i know now

So

there's always, and there's big struggles and little struggles. Like you can't logically explain things, like, especially, like, I always use art as

an example because

I can tell you that

99% of the time when I'm writing lyrics or singing a melody, I'm not thinking about it. That's logic.
If I think, it's gone

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you know, her son becoming her best friend. I think a lot of people wonder,

how is the

reason revealed or received?

How do we know? Because, like you said, it's trust beyond logic. And logic is like, if I do this, then this will happen.
And this, like, my pipes are burst.

If I call the guy, he'll come and fix it, right? Like, that's the kind of way our brain works. When we're trusting beyond logic, it could take 10 years to receive a reason.
It could take 20 years.

It could take 50 years to really have a revelation on something.

How is it often revealed or received when it's not based on logic?

Does that make sense? Yes, it makes sense. What you're asking, number one, is when things don't go your way.

and of course sometimes we need to do practical action to make things better and to fix things but sometimes it's out of our control things don't go our way like the situation with that the experience that Madonna shared

so

certainty beyond logic is that the struggle that I'm going through

is for my best

but it doesn't allow me to be self-destructive because if I want to speed up the process that I see the light at the end of the tunnel, I need

to strengthen. And we need friends, you need teachings, you need the right support, to actually trust

the universe loves you and it's for the good, as difficult it is.

But then you need to ask a second question.

When you're ready, when you're not as reactive what's my lesson

why is it in my movie and sometimes

the answer is simple every time we experience rejection

what is rejection things don't go our way it purifies us

because our mind and our heart

It's so attached to happiness is when this will happen.

which is not necessarily the big picture happiness what really good for me yeah

so when you actually realize that actually that's a purification process and you open and you allow it to happen because all of us

are not align with the true desire of the universe if it would be aligned

we would be joyful every second

and we will be giving unconditionally every second

and we'll think all day long how can I add value to others and because we are not there and that's part of the gift of life gradual transformation we need moments of rejection but when you question yourself hmm where am I too attached what's my lesson what do I need to let go

That will support to speed up the process of seeing the light.

Because every fruit, in order to become sweet

and ripe, is first sour. There's a process.

Actually, the botanist would say that the more sour the fruit in the process,

sweeter at the end.

It's so easy to throw the sour fruit and to say it's a bad fruit.

But if you're able to

allow this process, and you need a lot of spiritual strength, because

culture, society, our body, our mind is prone to react and to decide it's bad. That constant conversation in our mind, it's good, it's bad.
I'm good, I'm bad.

It's that reactive conversation we have within us that actually prolonging the process.

So actually, faster we embracing certain tibiologic, fasting we're asking questions because at the beginning you cannot ask because you're in pain yeah so you just try to at least trust and embrace and embrace and and beg something and asking

but when you're ready to ask questions what's my lessons

because

very often we are so attached we spoke about forgiveness to what's wrong with them

and we forget that the true purpose of life is my own transformation transformation and elevation

while I'm interacting with other people.

So, when the conversation is no longer about their good, they're bad, how did they do it? And you bring it back to you, how can I elevate? How can I become better?

How can I transform between me and my soul, between me and my perfected self? When you that's when you inject the energy, then

things

the light will be shown faster

yeah that's the question that's

the accelerator

we want we want the pain to go away quicker exactly that question is and sitting with that question exactly is is the thing that actually speeds it up What are you trying to work on right now, Madonna, that you're working on in your studies?

I know you get together regularly. People are going to be able to watch your studies as well that you do together.

What's something that you're trying to work on right now that seems very fresh as a challenge, something to overcome, as you said?

The lessons that I learn and study are more applicable to things that are

challenging me on a regular basis,

which would be, you know, my children. They're always challenging me in one way or another.

And that's a big, like it's such a big lesson for me to let go of expectations and stop trying to control the outcome and

over-worrying. And, you know,

I'm just like, some days I wake up and I'm like, I'm just relieved that they're all okay. You know what I mean?

And I always say to people,

when you have that many kids,

you're not really a parent, you're a manager.

You know what I mean? Yeah. And by the way, she has amazing kids and spiritual kids.
And because of her tremendous effort to infuse,

not just with the teachings, with their behavior, consciousness, sometimes you don't see it right away, but we see kid after kid that actually they're coming around in their own unique way. So

it's also infuriating me. What kind of things trigger you? I mean,

I have to stop thinking that, you know, my way of doing things or my way of approaching life or my way of being an artist is going to be somebody else's or my kids' way of doing it.

Everybody has their own journey, and

it's taken me a long time to accept that. And to let go of control.

Why is that so hard as a parent?

Because I feel like so many parents would be able to relate to that right now, where we subconsciously or consciously are projecting living through our children, wanting them to, you know, wanting them to be successful or in

not like, not even in a

not like I want them to be rich and famous. I just want them to be happy.

I want them to be authentic. I want them to not compare themselves to other people, not worry about what people think of them

because they're my children. Like we're, you know, fearing judgment,

letting that go.

helping them to see their own unique gifts. It's a constant battle because also you don't want to come off as somebody who's trying to control the situation all the time either.

My weekly studies with Eitan or my daily prayers or whatever are often about, you know,

I don't want my children to do specific things.

I want them to

realize what they were put on this earth to do. I want them to

elevate to their highest level of consciousness and how can I help that?

That's it. But it's still hard not to be bothered by

things.

Things.

Yeah, I think that's a very relatable challenge for parents. Yeah.

It's a real one.

And I guess when you ask that question then of what is the lesson in this, applying Eitan's

process,

what do you often come up with? Trying to control all the outcomes in life is and not getting the outcome you wanted is what makes you suffer.

So if that lesson keeps coming back to me, then I guess I haven't learned it yet.

And children are a perfect teacher for that because they're never going to do what you want them to do, the way that you want them to do it.

You know, just get them from here to there without hurting themselves or anybody else. You know what I mean? Yeah, because they too have to overcome.

Exactly.

Yeah. You know, I grew up with very little, and that so I have a huge desire.

And then, of course, you give your children all the things you wanted to have. And then you realize that's killing their desire.

And so, you know, it's like, it's just, you're just constantly going, oh, shit. Oh, shit.
Okay.

Okay.

Just be counterintuitive. Just say nothing.

That's a big one for me. Say nothing.

But I'm getting good at it. I'm just really getting good at it.

I appreciate you walking us through that thought process because I think you've summed it up that's exactly what we want to do we want to take away someone's pain or the pain we thought they're going to have because of the pain we had and then you provide something only to create a new pain and for them to never have the pain that you had but have a completely different version of it we do it for everyone we love and i was going to ask you eitan like what do you do when you don't like the answer

That question is so important. Like, what is the lesson I need to learn? But a lot of us subconsciously may not like the answer we get.
and that's why we have to keep learning it again.

What happens when you don't like the truth that you're experiencing?

So

I think part of true spiritual transformation is craving truth.

I want to know really

what's my lesson. Because what's the other option? More pain until I'm going to learn the lesson.
So the reason why we're not listening to the voice that tells me let go of control

or for kids one of the biggest mistakes parents do

is

overgiving to kids

which in

Kabbalistic terminology we call it bread of shame. When you give to someone something without working for it, without earning, you're actually hurting them.

And the parent might know, I'm overgiving and it's not healthy for them, but I'll feel guilty to say no.

And I'll be popular if I say yes. Exactly.
So here is the test.

Guilty of saying no versus long-term pain for the kid and for yourself.

So actually pause and ask that question.

That will help you to get closer to the truth and be less in denial. And a fork, short-term, long-term.

Saying yes just to fix the pain, to give them what they want

to let them play with the phone or

say no

and it's difficult and they feel bad

and they're blaming you but you're doing it from place of love

because

yes because

what's driving us true desire to share in a long term yeah

if that's my true and that's the truth am i really coming from true desire to share for a long-term sharing, not just temporary fix? Yeah.

And when I'm coming from that place,

only blessings. You're planting a seed of light, a seed of blessing, a seed of miracles.

When you're coming from another place, pretending to be good or nice or kind, only because you cannot handle the temporary pain,

you're planting a seed of chaos which chaos also has intelligent to teach you lessons but in a longer path yeah I mean I can relate to that as a kid because I'm not a parent but it was almost like during your teens you just think everything your parents say is wrong and then in my 20s I was like so grateful for the discipline and the rules and the you know I was only allowed to play video games for like X amount of time or whatever it was and all of a sudden everything my parents did I was like oh wow there was actually a lot of good in it but during my teenage years,

I obviously didn't agree with anything they said. And there's such a reality to that feeling of the long-term point that you're making.

The long-term you realize, oh, yeah, I'm glad you actually didn't just let me eat rubbish. Or I'm really glad you didn't just let me waste hours playing video games.

I'm really glad that you didn't do X, Y, Z, or whatever it may be. And so

it's hard, though, because the parent or the person, this could be romance, it could be in any relationship, you've got to be unpopular in the moment absolutely you have to put aside your ego and you have to go through that discomfort yeah yeah which applies at work it applies everywhere in anything yeah especially in the culture today

when everything can be so

instant yeah

app

and ordering food and getting what you want and watching any program and in your phone so that instant culture

preventing a child or an individual to go through a real process of going through discomfort or earning the light as we coin saying Kabbalistically

and people don't understand they can be bright

how come I'm depressed depression very often it's a consequence of instant gratification not willing

to go through difficult process.

So hard

so hard we We don't want to go through the difficult process and we don't want anyone we love to go through a difficult process, although

that is the only process that's going to benefit us all. Or we're going to anyway.

Absolutely. I have one last question to ask both of you.

What is your

soul's purpose? Why do you think you're here?

And

what personally was the becoming or the overcoming that you went through to really receive that soul's purpose that you're living by? What was it that birthed that idea within you?

My soul's purpose is to reveal light in the world

through whatever I do, whether that's being a parent

or being an artist,

being a friend,

being a leader.

Yeah.

We are here to receive for the sake of sharing. So I have a huge desire.
I have many desires.

This is not a belief system or philosophy that's about,

no offense, being a monk and going up in like the mountains and meditating for hours and hours. I want it all.

But I want it for the sake of sharing, not to keep it for myself.

Eta?

He wants more followers on Instagram.

The personal relationship between me and the light, between me and the Creator. creator.

I know that I don't want anything less

than

connecting while I'm in this physical world

to the soul that was given to me.

And it means total transformation, total desire to receive for the sake of sharing, certainty beyond logic, until it becomes second nature.

That's in a personal level.

But one of the ways to achieve it is to connect with our purpose of sharing.

So I know in my gut, in my soul, and it was beyond knowing it was beyond logic that that's what I came to do in this world, which is

to spread, to be a teacher for the teachings of Kabbalah while I'm studying. One of them is about

being too perfectionist spiritually.

You know, taking spiritual lesson to an imbalanced place.

Something is wrong with me.

So,

and I know, as long as we're in this world, and if we're truly not settling for less, and that's a message for everybody, I want to say, never settle for less.

Wherever you are, this is just the beginning comparing to your next level potential.

So, those challenges were necessary.

to help me to evolve to where I'm at today.

And of course, this is just the beginning.

What's that?

Adonai Tan, thank you so much for your time and energy. I've, again, learned so much from both of you today.
And I really can't wait for people to watch the studies.

I hope that it gives spiritual seekers a opportunity to ask better questions, deeper questions, and begins their quest for

overcoming and becoming whatever their soul's purpose truly is. And I'm so grateful that you're both living yours truly.

And I'm really, again, thankful for the opportunity to have learned so much from both of you today. Thank you so much.
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