The Episode for People Who Are Exhausted By Dating (How to Change Your Strategy and Mindset for the New Year)

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Speaker 14 Hey, everyone. Welcome back to On Purpose.
Thank you for tuning in for another episode. If you're in a relationship and want to know if it's the right or wrong one, this episode is for you.

Speaker 14 If you're newly dating and you're trying to figure out how to build a deeper connection, this episode is for you.

Speaker 14 And if you're exhausted of dating and it's feeling like a job, a chore, something you have to get to, this episode is for you.

Speaker 14 Now, I want to start off by saying that dating has become extremely challenging. We know it's hard, we know it's complicated, but here's the thing: it's not that it's ever been that easy.

Speaker 14 Sure, people may have found people quicker, sure, people may have found people closer to them, easier that knew their family, but that didn't mean it led to healthy, fulfilling relationships.

Speaker 14 I'm sure you've seen aunts and uncles, maybe even parents, people around you who didn't model or have the best relationships. And therefore, finding connection is something that requires work.

Speaker 14 It is something that requires time. And so I think sometimes we have this nostalgia effect that everyone who came before us found love and everyone who came before us found the perfect person.

Speaker 14 But that for some reason for us, it has got more hard. Now, I'm not saying that the day today may not feel harder.

Speaker 14 I'm not saying that the day today isn't more challenging and there are more aspects of ghosting and gaslighting and everything else that's happening.

Speaker 14 But I will add this, the possibility for you to attract love into your life exists every single day.

Speaker 14 But it's important that we come at it from a place of love, not from a place of anxiety. Anxiety doesn't attract peace.
Anxiety attracts more anxiety. It attracts more nervousness.

Speaker 14 It attracts more awkwardness. It attracts more discomfort.
But when we're in a place of peace, we're able to spot and attract more peace.

Speaker 14 Now, deeper connection and my fascination with it is what led me to partner up with Match.

Speaker 14 And something I've always loved about Match is that they've done their annual singles in America study and last year they revealed the top traits singles are looking for in a partner 94%

Speaker 14 said someone they can trust and confide in

Speaker 14 92%

Speaker 14 said someone who's comfortable communicating their wants and needs 92%

Speaker 14 said someone who is emotionally mature and 92%

Speaker 14 said someone who can make them laugh Now I just want you to take a moment. If you've just started dating, how many of you say this thing, but then an ick gets in the way when you're actually dating?

Speaker 14 Maybe you don't like the fact that they wear jewelry.

Speaker 14 Maybe you don't like their dress sense. Maybe you don't like their hairstyle.
Maybe you don't like some weird quirk they have. But what has that got to do with someone you can trust and confide in?

Speaker 14 Sure, I'm not saying to ignore attractiveness or chemistry, but so often we get fixated on this one element, this one idiosyncrasy of theirs that it kind of cascades across the rest of who they are.

Speaker 14 How does the fact that they wear jewelry affect whether they're comfortable communicating their wants and needs?

Speaker 14 How does the fact that they have a terrible dress sense relate to them being emotionally mature or immature?

Speaker 14 It's really interesting to me how we get caught up on these icks and these idiosyncrasies that just distract us away from what we actually set out to look for, what we actually set out to focus on.

Speaker 14 And we all know today more than ever, our time is valuable. The study shows that 73% of singles only want to go on in-person dates with someone they already know they have good chemistry with.

Speaker 14 And this can be really, really challenging because how do you quickly figure out whether you have chemistry with someone?

Speaker 14 And I think chemistry has been the red herring or the distraction. Chemistry has been that thing, that elusive,

Speaker 14 ethereal idea that almost keeps us single because we keep looking for it. We keep searching for it.
We want the relationship. we wanted at 16 years old.
We want the relationship we wanted at that age.

Speaker 14 We want the person we were attracted to at that age. We want the person that we dreamt of at that age.
And because we didn't find them at that age, we're still looking for them today.

Speaker 14 So we're now 36 trying to date that 16 year old. We're now 28 trying to find that teenage romance that we were looking for.

Speaker 14 There's a lot of us that are living in a younger love story than our current age.

Speaker 14 We're We're living in a mental reality that's younger, that isn't real right now, and it's keeping us distracted and keeping us

Speaker 14 fully fixated on the wrong things.

Speaker 14 So one of Match's most popular features that I worked on with them is the core values feature.

Speaker 14 where singles can share what matters to them most and find people who prioritize the same things as they do.

Speaker 14 Just for signing up, I will send you my 10 deep dive questions to get to know someone on a deeper level. We want to help people shift from a superficial mindset to a values mindset.

Speaker 14 In addition to our bespoke core values feature on Match, we've added deep dives, a way to choose a topic and

Speaker 14 share what you value and why it's important to you. I want to invite you all to put these lessons into practice with me.
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Speaker 14 Now that's so important to me because if we're saying the number one thing we want is someone we can trust and confide in, well, that starts on day one.

Speaker 14 Right? That starts on day one.

Speaker 14 And among the match community, honesty, love and loyalty are are currently the top values chosen across all demographics. And that says a lot about what people really want in a relationship.

Speaker 14 And hey, if you connect on that at the beginning, you have the chance to build the rest of it. I think this is the part that's really interesting for me, that

Speaker 14 you're with the right person if you start in the right place. I'll give you an example.
If I plant a seed, and I plant it in terrible soil, it's not fertile.

Speaker 14 I plant it in a way where it's not going to get sunlight or water.

Speaker 14 Sure, it might grow and sure I can try and save it later, but I'm not giving it the best chance of success. And a lot of our relationships are like that.
They start with the mind games.

Speaker 14 They may start with the manipulation. They start with the playing hard to get.
That's like having no sun, no water, and no fertile soil and hoping that we're going to grow love from it.

Speaker 14 And then we try and rescue it, right? When we see a little little glimmer of hope, we start watering it, we start giving it the right sunlight, we start giving it everything else it needs.

Speaker 14 And we're almost always hanging on. But what if you're with the right person because you made it right?

Speaker 14 What if that's what it meant to be with the right person? Not that you found the right person,

Speaker 14 but you found a person and decided to do it right. And you both decided to do it right.
That's actually what a healthy relationship is. I think we're perplexed.
72% of us believe in the soulmate.

Speaker 14 And when we say that, we mean that there's someone who's perfectly formed, perfectly created, perfectly crafted just for us, destined for us.

Speaker 14 What we're saying is we're going to potentially go through 8 billion people to find that one person.

Speaker 14 The reality is

Speaker 14 that most healthy relationships are not perfect relationships. Most healthy relationships will agree that they weren't made for each other.
They may feel they were meant for each other.

Speaker 14 But they'll recognize that there's the ability that they both choose to make it right.

Speaker 14 Stop looking for the right person.

Speaker 14 Find your person who wants to make it right with you and you want to make it right with them.

Speaker 14 You both want to make the the right choices together. And that's why you're right for each other.

Speaker 14 Not because you're perfect, not because you were designed, made, or crafted perfectly for each other, but because you chose together to make good decisions. And, you know, I get it.

Speaker 14 Sometimes you're thinking, well, how do I do this on a first date? Or if I just started seeing someone, how do I suddenly ask these questions? Don't they seem a bit too aggressive?

Speaker 14 And chances are, you're probably right. At the same time, you want to ask curious questions

Speaker 14 that actually

Speaker 14 give the person the opportunity to say where they're at. So if you say to someone, hey, what's been, you know, what's been exciting for you lately?

Speaker 14 And they talk about their job, you're getting a sense that that's their top priority. Now, if you say to someone, what's your top priority in life?

Speaker 14 Sure, that's a heavy question to just ask off the bat, right? You may ask that.

Speaker 14 And by the way, that's a great question to ask someone that you've been seeing for a few months and getting to know quite deeply. And you may say, what is your top priority in life?

Speaker 14 Now, my answer would be you should actually already know that.

Speaker 14 And a lot of us don't actually know what our partner's top priority in life is, or we believe what they say in answer to that question and not what they do.

Speaker 14 We believe what people say and not how they behave. when their actions tell us so much more about their priorities than their words.

Speaker 14 What someone does with their time, money, and energy shows you what they care about, not what they say they care about.

Speaker 14 What someone does and how someone treats you says so much more than how they say they think about treating you.

Speaker 14 And so I want you to ask yourself, When are you ready to ask that question? Hey, what's exciting you the most now?

Speaker 14 When you say that, it could be their career, it could be their family, it could be a personal endeavor, it could could be anything, but you're actually learning so much more.

Speaker 14 And here's the basic thing that we do. When we hear someone say, oh, I'm really, really excited about, you know, the holidays right now, we go, oh, yeah, I love the holidays, right?

Speaker 14 We make it about the holidays, whereas we're not recognizing. that they're showing you what they prioritize.
If someone says, oh, yeah, I'm absolutely loving this project at work right now.

Speaker 14 You then reflect on what you're doing at work right now, rather than recognizing they're showing you it's a priority. And so I think questions start at, hey, what's most exciting for you right now?

Speaker 14 And evolve into, hey, what's your priority in life right now? And then, by the way, if you've been with someone for quite some time, it's what's your priority this year.

Speaker 14 That same curious question never stops. It simply evolves, right? It simply evolves.

Speaker 14 Now,

Speaker 14 the study found that a top turn on with the new partner, conversation, 38%,

Speaker 14 and that included deep conversations, self-disclosure, compliments, and debates, right? That's what was considered good conversation.

Speaker 14 And 52% of singles feel a potential partner is serious about dating them when they're willing to talk about their feelings. Now,

Speaker 14 I find that a lot of us

Speaker 14 struggle to talk to certain people. If we're comfortable talking about our feelings, there's a lot of people who aren't comfortable about talking about their feelings.

Speaker 14 And that can often feel like they don't care about the relationship and i just want to say something in defense of all of those people because i think a lot of people are in that bucket where they just don't feel comfortable they've never been made to feel comfortable and that doesn't mean they don't care it means that you may need to be more patient with them and this is something i've realized over time when we talk about the right and wrong people

Speaker 14 a lot of the time the wrong person is just someone that we're impatient with. I want to dissect this for a second.

Speaker 14 When you're attracted to someone, you'll be much more patient than when you're not attracted to them.

Speaker 14 But the challenge is, your patience isn't real. It's just the halo effect.
Because you're attracted to them, you assume they have better qualities and you really want it to work.

Speaker 14 And we've got to be really careful about this bias because it actually can mislead us away from the person who's good for us and towards the person who's not good for us.

Speaker 14 And so, when you're talking about the right and wrong person, again,

Speaker 14 recognize that patience is something you'll need with anyone. Just make sure it's for the right person.

Speaker 14 And often we apply patience to the wrong person because there's other qualities we have that they're in that we're enamored by.

Speaker 14 I'll give an example. Someone was telling me recently that

Speaker 14 they can't see how their partner doesn't recognize that their friends don't give them good advice.

Speaker 14 And what I was saying to them is that, well, well, that person's been friends with those people for like 10, 15 years.

Speaker 14 And even if they are getting bad advice from their friends, it may take them another 10, 15 years to realize that. Now, you may say, well, I don't have that time and that's totally fine.

Speaker 14 But you're going to find that the next person you meet may need 10 years of unwiring and unlearning their relationship with their parents. Someone else may need to unwire their relationship with food.

Speaker 14 Someone else may need to unwire their relationship with something else. So what I find is whoever you end up with, they're going to have to rewire their relationship with something.

Speaker 14 And by the way, you do too.

Speaker 14 And often what we're saying is, I just want to be with someone who's not working on anything at all.

Speaker 14 And that doesn't exist, right? Everyone's healing. I remember in the monastery, we were told, you're in a hospital.
Everyone's healing. Everyone's diseased.

Speaker 14 Everyone around you is on their own journey. And so it's almost like the right partner is figuring out who are you okay healing with? Right? Who are you okay sharing an area with?

Speaker 14 Who are you okay sharing a space with? And when I say okay, I don't mean that it can't be beautiful and wonderful and amazing. I mean that's a healthier question to ask.

Speaker 14 is is this someone that i trust

Speaker 14 that i can heal with if i share my feelings with this person, are they going to take them seriously? If I share my heart with this person, are they going to hold it?

Speaker 14 Let me really dig into this.

Speaker 14 When you trust someone,

Speaker 14 it means if you share your emotions with them, you believe they'll take them seriously.

Speaker 14 When you share your heart with them,

Speaker 14 You believe they'll hold it gently.

Speaker 14 When you share your dreams with them, you believe that they'll be excited for you.

Speaker 14 Trust is when you feel such a safe space that you can truly be yourself

Speaker 14 without holding back.

Speaker 14 And create that space for that person as well.

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Speaker 14 So

Speaker 14 one of the ways in which you know that

Speaker 14 the place you're in may be challenging for you with a person

Speaker 14 is

Speaker 14 your partner's opinions bother you, right? It could be anything. For example, the way they talk about other people.

Speaker 14 It could be their political affiliations. It could be about men and women's roles in society.
It could be how they treat someone at the restaurant, right?

Speaker 14 And these are all important things, but they're also things that you can learn to address and have more thoughtful conversations about. And I think this is the challenge.

Speaker 14 I think we're now living at a red flags, green flags time. And what I mean by this is we're saying, hey, if you tick any of these red flags, you're out.

Speaker 14 And if you tick any of these green flags, you're in. And the crazy part about that is we're basically saying that there are amazing traits and terrible traits.

Speaker 14 What we're not recognizing is that everyone is complex and everyone's going to have some red flags.

Speaker 14 Like the fact that your partner has has different opinions from you isn't a sign that they're the wrong person. It's a sign that maybe you need to engage deeper to actually understand them.

Speaker 14 And if they're willing to, that's great. And if they're not willing to, that's more of a sign, right? Someone having different opinions is not an issue.

Speaker 14 It's about whether that person's willing to engage and you're willing to engage in a respectful way. So much of a relationship is about how you choose to engage and respect

Speaker 14 as opposed to having the same ideas and the same thoughts and the same beliefs. Now,

Speaker 14 one thing that you should never ignore is if your friends have reservations, you should take them seriously.

Speaker 14 The reason I say this is because a lot of friends, and you have to know your friends, a lot of your friends will struggle to tell you the truth about your relationship because they don't want to lose their relationship with you.

Speaker 14 A lot of your friends may struggle to be honest with you about your relationship

Speaker 14 because they're scared

Speaker 14 that you may be hurt.

Speaker 14 A lot of your friends may not be real with you about your relationship

Speaker 14 because they're wondering if you choose to be in it forever, then they will also have to have a relationship with that person. Which is why if your friend opens up to you, It's worth taking seriously.

Speaker 14 Which is why if they have the courage to share something with you, it's worth listening because it was so hard for them to do that in the first place.

Speaker 14 Now you have to know your friends. You may also have friends who just love to have opinions about anything, everyone and everything.

Speaker 14 And that may not be valued at the same level as what I was just talking about. But most of the time we call people our friends for a reason.
They know us. They've seen us at our best and at our worst.

Speaker 14 They know everything about us. They might even know things about us we're not even aware of ourselves.
The point is our friends look out for our best interests and want us to succeed most of the time.

Speaker 14 And that's why they're our friends. So why are they acting so strange around your partner? Why do you find yourselves by mutual agreement seeing your friends solo most of the time?

Speaker 14 Now, it's really important to use that data to ask them because what most of us do, and this is another another challenge, this is how you know you're getting something wrong is you isolate yourself.

Speaker 14 And by the way, it's natural. When you like someone, you isolate yourself from your friends and you only hang out with that partner, right?

Speaker 14 And by the way, we all do this. And if we're sitting here going, well, that person should be reminding me to spend time with my friends.

Speaker 14 I'm here to tell you you should be reminding yourself and them to spend time with their friends.

Speaker 14 If someone is too clingy or if you're getting too clingy or attached, it's important you remind each other and most of all, you remind yourself that it's important to keep deepening your other relationships, right?

Speaker 14 It's easy to get lost in a relationship with your partner. It's more important to make sure that you have other friendships that are healthy as well.
Now,

Speaker 14 An important part of whether you're with the right person or not is whether your communication needs match or don't match. Maybe you're someone who enjoys chronicling your day with another person.

Speaker 14 Or maybe you're someone who likes checking in via text with your partner throughout the day. Are you and your partner of the same mind about this?

Speaker 14 Or does your partner get annoyed when you text them or ask something important to say or worse, don't respond?

Speaker 14 Or perhaps you're a person who's upfront and honest about your feelings and you find yourself involved with someone who has a lot of buried, unexcavated stuff going on or who seems defended or uses humor to distract from their emotions.

Speaker 14 Maybe you like to go deep, whereas they're someone who likes keeping things light and superficial.

Speaker 14 Now, this isn't an issue in the sense that you can't be in a relationship with this person, but the question mark is:

Speaker 14 are you patient enough for them to change? And are you okay if they don't? That's really the question we have to ask ourselves in a hard relationship.

Speaker 14 Are you patient enough to wait for them to change? And are you okay

Speaker 14 if they never change?

Speaker 14 That's the real truth, right? That's the hard truth. And

Speaker 14 if you think about it carefully, this is quite common. It's very normal for one person in the relationships

Speaker 14 to not be able to open up.

Speaker 14 And

Speaker 14 a lot of the times, the other person wants to open up too much, right? We're both at either end of the spectrum.

Speaker 14 One person wants to talk about everything all of the time, and the other person doesn't want to talk about anything. And so, those are the areas in our life where we have to strike a healthy balance.

Speaker 14 We have to recognize that maybe some of our wanting to check in all the time is anxiety-based. And maybe some of their not wanting to check in is anxiety-based, right? That's the kicker.

Speaker 14 That's what's so interesting: that we want to check in with them all the time and know what's going on because we're anxious, but they don't want to talk about things because they're anxious about something else.

Speaker 14 And this is what I really want to encourage.

Speaker 14 Relationships are about healing. As long as they're not emotionally, verbally, physically abusive, those I'm not including in this conversation about what I'm talking about.

Speaker 14 Those are ones that you should seek professional support. You should not

Speaker 14 stick around out of pressure.

Speaker 14 But when you really think about it, a lot of the stuff we have challenges with with our partner is because we're not letting them heal and they're not letting us heal.

Speaker 14 Most relationships have a healing problem that causes hurt, as opposed to another type of problem. It's a healing problem.
We don't want to give the person space to heal. We expect them to be healed.

Speaker 14 And they're not giving us the space to heal.

Speaker 14 And the challenge is we think we're trying to heal and fix that person, not realizing we're being pulled and pushed to heal parts of ourselves. That's really what's being demanded in a relationship.

Speaker 14 What's really being demanded in most relationships is: can we heal?

Speaker 14 Right?

Speaker 14 Now,

Speaker 14 a relationship can be the wrong relationship if they don't respect you, right? If they don't want to give you an opportunity to pursue your career.

Speaker 14 If they don't care about your professional life, if they expect you to support theirs, and these are all common things, sadly.

Speaker 14 I've known a lot of people who, sadly where men in a patriarchal society have certain expectations of women that are unfair. They expect that the woman should not work.

Speaker 14 They expect the woman should take care of their parents. And there are all of these old-fashioned views and they cause rifts in relationships because the person doesn't feel heard.

Speaker 14 Do they treat you like a human? Right. That has to be what the right relationship is.

Speaker 14 And if your dreams are diminishing, you're in the wrong relationship. Maybe you've always loved to travel.
Maybe the future fantasy of yourself in the wilderness.

Speaker 14 Maybe you've always wanted to spend time in Italy, or you've had your eye on taking a teacher training course in yoga. Maybe you love to dance.

Speaker 14 And maybe, just maybe your partner isn't into any of these things, but that's okay. But now they're dismissing it.
They dismiss it as an unrealistic fantasy.

Speaker 14 I think also there are so many of us that just don't feel our dreams are supported by a partner. Now, I don't mean financially

Speaker 14 because that's a conversation.

Speaker 14 But what I've realized is a lot of people don't believe in our dreams because they don't believe in their own.

Speaker 14 They never had someone who believed in them, so they don't have the capacity to believe in you.

Speaker 14 And the question you have to ask yourself is: Am I willing to be the one to shift because this person has so much depth? This person has great qualities, great abilities.

Speaker 14 Or am I not ready to do that? And you're well within your rights to make that choice. Well within your right to make that choice.

Speaker 14 This is why I think when you start dating or restart dating, or even if you've been in a relationship for a while, find out someone's values quick.

Speaker 14 And that's why I created the

Speaker 14 values space on match.com match.com where you can actually find out your values, your partner's values and connect on that.

Speaker 14 And I also want to say that in addition to our bespoke core values feature on match, we've added deep dives, a way to choose a topic and share what you value and why it's important to you.

Speaker 14 And I want to invite you all to put these lessons into practice with me. I'm partnering with Match to create something that has never been done before.

Speaker 14 You will have the opportunity to join other other singles to date with intention based on your values and a deeper connection.

Speaker 14 If you're not single, please share this episode with a friend to help them change their mindset. Join the waitlist at datingreset.match.com.
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Speaker 14 And I'll say this too, this episode's for anyone, even if you're with someone, you're not with someone, because a lot of us don't really know our partners that deeply.

Speaker 14 And it's never too late to start. Thank you for listening.
Remember I'm always rooting for you and forever in your corner. I hope this helps.

Speaker 14 If you love this episode you're going to love my conversation with Matthew Hussey on how to get over your ex and find true love in your relationships.

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