838. Q&AF: Overcoming “People Pleasing” Behavior, Pursuing Greatness & Hiring Great Team Players

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Speaker 1 What is up, guys? It's Andy Prissela and this is the show for the realists. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society.
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Speaker 1 counting down the days for the launch of the new mfceo project we're down to days now and uh we're not going to talk about when it was launched or when it's going to launch you're going to have to be on the email list to know when it launches so if you're not on the email list you should go to andyforcella.com subscribe to the andygram which is your daily uh i don't know pep talk

Speaker 1 you know and uh you'll find out about when the mfceo launches where it's gonna be and how you can get it so yeah

Speaker 2 let me ask you how excited like like let's be real like no no fruit free ship but how excited are you for for that coming back very because it's more than just teaching people how to make money at this point

Speaker 1 you know the first time we did the MFCEO project it was about how to become successful and now it's about not only how to become successful, but how to become successful in all areas of your life, accompanied with the idea that it is our duty to become the best that we can be in order for this country to become the best that it can be.

Speaker 1 There has been an abandonment of personal responsibility and obligation because

Speaker 1 we have been quote unquote free for so long that people think they are free to live a shitty life and that America will just exist if all of our people here live less than the standard of what it should be.

Speaker 1 And that's just not how it works.

Speaker 1 So the goal here is for me to teach people who are young, not just young in age, but young in experience, how to build a life, how to build a company, how to make money, but also understand our obligation to becoming the best people that we can be so that we don't have what just happened for the last 10 years in this country or 12 years or 15 years happen again, which is the removal of personal responsibility,

Speaker 1 you know, and ambition, you know, where we started to get into a situation where people started to see ambition, success, and winning as some sort of negative thing, right? That is all programming.

Speaker 1 It is not negative at all.

Speaker 1 It is your obligation to go pursue the best possible version of yourself because other people are going to follow you, whether you

Speaker 1 understand that now or not. And, you know, there was a time in this country

Speaker 1 where people understood that sacrifices were made and that citizens had an obligation to try their best to be their best.

Speaker 1 And that's something that we need to restore with the younger generation and all generations.

Speaker 1 And so, you know, I'm excited because it's not just about like, you know, hey, let's go out and make some money. You know what I mean?

Speaker 1 It's about like, hey, let's go make some money and become the best that we can be and set the right example and show other people how it's done so that we can create, you know, a movement of citizens that stands for personal excellence.

Speaker 1 Because when we are personally excellent in all areas, other people notice, they start to pick up the pace, they start to join the group,

Speaker 1 the standards raise, and the standards of this country get better. So, you know, it's, it's a big mission.

Speaker 1 But, you know, I'm not CEO of, I'm not actively the CEO of uh, you know, first form anymore or, or really any of the companies anymore. I've moved into chairman roles and investment roles.

Speaker 1 I have the time to dedicate to this. So I'm really,

Speaker 1 I'm really excited about it, dude. It's going to be awesome.

Speaker 2 Like, I feel like there's a lot of people out there now who have gotten on that page of understanding the obligation. It's just, okay, but like.

Speaker 1 Now let's give them the tools. What do I do? Right.

Speaker 2 And a lot of new entrepreneurs, I feel, can come out of this too, bro, which we need.

Speaker 1 Well, I mean, bro, there's hundreds, there's, I mean, tens of thousands of entrepreneurs that started with the old MFCO project that are now, you know, eight, 10, 12 years in, doing well.

Speaker 1 So there's no doubt of the impact that it makes. But,

Speaker 1 you know,

Speaker 1 I just think that there's so much misinformation and there's so many liars and there's so much bullshit that the lack of real entrepreneurial experience and information

Speaker 1 is just it's just lacking.

Speaker 1 And the principles that make up a actual successful life and business,

Speaker 1 it's a little more complicated than just getting ripped. You know what I'm saying? Like,

Speaker 1 so, you know, I'm sharing my 26 years of experience building a portfolio that's worth 10 figures,

Speaker 1 you know,

Speaker 1 with everybody else. So

Speaker 1 I'm excited about it.

Speaker 2 I'm excited to get to it too, man.

Speaker 2 Well, it's QA. So let's make some people better today, guys.
Andy, I got some good ones for you. Let's knock these out.

Speaker 2 Question number one: Andy, Andy, I've always been a people pleaser, And it's exhausting.

Speaker 2 I want to set boundaries and prioritize my own happiness, but I'm afraid of upsetting others. How do I begin to change this mindset and stand up for myself?

Speaker 2 I don't want to go another year being a people pleaser.

Speaker 2 How do we do that?

Speaker 1 Well, look, there's nothing wrong with pleasing other people or servicing other people.

Speaker 1 And a lot of times when we talk about, you know, when we talk about entrepreneurship and we talk about serving the customers, we get into this mindset which isn't bad by the way of trying to please everybody but the problem is we can't please everybody it's impossible and a lot of times when we try to please everybody we end up abandoning our own self in that pleasing and that's where you have to draw the boundary you have to realize that when you're when you're serving or you're giving and it's not being reciprocated um you know it's time to draw a boundary of some sort like in a business environment you know you serve serve serve they give you money right?

Speaker 1 In a friendship environment, you know, you serve, serve, serve, you get nothing back. Well, you should probably stop that because you're pouring in and getting nothing back.

Speaker 1 And we are, we are energy beings.

Speaker 1 And when we pour all our energy into one person or two people or people in general, and we don't keep any for ourselves or don't get any back, we end up in a situation where we feel drained or feel exhausted like he's describing or she's describing the question.

Speaker 1 So how do you do that?

Speaker 1 Well, saying no is a skill that people have to learn and you don't have to you know just give this long explanation about you know why you're not doing things that you know you wouldn't normally otherwise do so or other people want you to do that's right and dude at the end of the day dude you do have to look out for the best interests of yourself because no one else is going to look out for you It's the truth.

Speaker 1 So there's a very fine line between being a team player and also making sure that you are in the spot that you need to be in.

Speaker 1 And most of the time when people can't set boundaries, it's because they have a hard time saying no, because they're such, they're so used to pleasing everybody or trying to please everybody that it feels unnatural to them.

Speaker 1 So just like anything that

Speaker 1 we,

Speaker 1 you know, have to get good at, you have to practice saying no. And then just letting it be.
You know, no is a complete sentence. It's a skill to practice.
And when you mean no, you should say no.

Speaker 1 And when you mean yes, you should say yes. And sometimes that is going to be uncomfortable because people have been used to you saying yes to things that you were now saying no to things.
And,

Speaker 1 you know, but reality is, is once you move away from those people and you just start operating like a normal human, nobody has a problem with people saying no.

Speaker 1 You know what I'm saying? So this is just something that you need to work on. Saying no without, you know, overly explaining yourself.

Speaker 1 Now, if there's people like in your family or close friends or, you know, they might be confused by this. So you might have to sit down and have a conversation.
Hey, look, I'm pouring all this.

Speaker 1 I don't have that energy, dude. And I'm not getting anything back.
Maybe they just don't realize that that's the dynamic. So innocently ignorant.
Correct. Well, they become accustomed to it.
Yeah.

Speaker 1 Right. Like when you start putting silk sheets on your bed and you sleep in them every night, you stop appreciating those silk sheets after a while.

Speaker 1 So it's important that you know you realize that maybe some people are doing this with just because you've been so over accommodating for so long and they're not aware so communication is a big deal uh the ability to say no is a big deal and um

Speaker 1 you know you have to understand that you have the right

Speaker 1 and the

Speaker 1 um

Speaker 1 Yeah, I mean, you have the right to to make decisions that and you should make decisions that that are good for you. You know, and there's a balance in life.

Speaker 1 Like sometimes you make decisions that are good for other people that may not be as good for you, knowing that that's going to create a better situation long term.

Speaker 1 There's all different ways to think about this. But at the end of the day, most people have problem with boundaries because

Speaker 1 they've not, you know, maybe they have a fucked up parent or somebody that's made them feel guilty for everything.

Speaker 1 you know,

Speaker 1 and you end up having a hard time setting a boundary because you feel guilty guilty every time you say no

Speaker 1 dude you're gonna feel better when you set those boundaries you know and those people that try to guilt you and try those people are manipulative you just cut those people out bro yeah i was like

Speaker 1 i don't have i don't deal with that no more like i i personally used to have a really hard time with that i used to i used to be able

Speaker 1 uh i used to let people make me feel guilty when i didn't give them what they wanted in the moment. And honestly, dude, like, it was one of the hardest things I had to get over.

Speaker 1 Sometimes I still struggle with it because I am that kind of a person. You have a good heart, man.
Well, it's, yeah, and people take advantage of it. And especially when you have financial means,

Speaker 2 you know, and you got a money tree in the backyard.

Speaker 1 Yeah. Yeah.
I mean, dude, look, it's be to be successful, you, you have to learn to set boundaries and say no.

Speaker 1 Otherwise, you won't be able to keep your money. So this is not just a skill that's going to make you feel better.
It's also a financially advantageous skill to learn.

Speaker 2 Yeah, 100%.

Speaker 1 I was going to, I mean, I i was gonna ask you this because i actually i heard you you you say this before i forget where we were man but you were like other people's reaction to your decisions is not your concern was like the gist of it and i think that got me like saying no that's i mean that's true that that's true in in some situations you know if it's your family or your your uh you know your brother or your wife or something you know i mean like it's not as cut and dry as that's nuanced sure correct yeah so but overall

Speaker 2 you can't you can't hang get hung up on how somebody else is going to feel about something that you're trying to do for your betterment of you.

Speaker 1 100%. But also, dude, is like, if you have those conversations and nothing changes, then you can't let that bother you either.
You just have to say, well, it is what the fuck it is. Yeah.
You know?

Speaker 2 I want to ask you this final little piece on this question too, man, because I think it's important too. You know, we've talked about accountability on the show.

Speaker 2 We talked about, you know, how do you, you can't hold somebody else accountable if you're not holding yourself accountable. Is this, does that same kind of mindset apply to this, right?

Speaker 2 Like, it's hard to take care of other people if you're not taking care of yourself. You know what I'm saying? And I think

Speaker 2 themselves out like that because it's like, well, bro, you're not even caring about your fucking self.

Speaker 1 I have something that I say all the time, dude. You have to be selfish to be selfless.
Okay.

Speaker 1 If you're not where you need to be, if you don't have the proper energy that you need, if you're not in shape the way you should be in, if you're not living the standard that you know you should live, you don't have as much to give to other people.

Speaker 1 It's just reality. So for you to be able to truly serve other people, you have to get to a point where you are taking care of yourself and your own shit is in order.

Speaker 1 Otherwise, whatever you give them is going to be less than what you could give them anyway.

Speaker 1 And quite honestly, you're doing both yourself and them a disservice by not holding these boundaries that we're talking about. Yeah, I love it, man.

Speaker 2 I love it. Guys, Andy, question number two.

Speaker 2 Andy, I appreciate the work you have done to elevate everyone around you. My question is more of a general question about success.
I'm 19

Speaker 2 and I think that even the idea of just pursuing greatness excites the shit out of me. Being able to write your own path, build something crazy, I know it's something that I want to do.

Speaker 2 My question for you is, though, on the journey, you've mentioned this like hockey stick thing

Speaker 2 being the visual to what success looks like. But are there times on the journey where you have to intentionally take one step back to take two steps forward?

Speaker 2 I feel like people would call sacrifices, I guess. But what were some that you had to take to stay on the path and keep moving forward?

Speaker 2 And how do you make sure that that one step back doesn't become two?

Speaker 1 Well,

Speaker 1 first of all, it's only a step back if there's no step forward later. And it's only a sacrifice if there's no payoff later.

Speaker 1 So really, the only way you lose in those situations, if you're doing it strategically, is by not following through on the other part of the deal, right?

Speaker 1 It's easy to take the step back and then just say, oh, well, I don't want that anymore because I changed my mind, right? Because it got hard.

Speaker 1 uh so this is a normal this is normal and there's been a number of times in my career where i've had to take steps back quote unquote but we're actually investments in my future um

Speaker 1 you know and and i'll talk about a couple of those in just a second but let's talk about the hockey stick thing because not everybody understands that so When you start out to do something, imagine you lay a hockey stick, the handle, the long part on the ground, and then you let the blade point up to the sky.

Speaker 1 That represents what has been

Speaker 1 the pretty standard curve of success for me. Now, I know there's other people out there who maybe they had investors or they had big things happen quickly or, right?

Speaker 1 But for me,

Speaker 1 it's grind, grind, grind, grind, grind, grind, grind, way past the point where it's any fun or it's, it's, it's sexy. Yeah.
And, and then eventually some things start to happen.

Speaker 1 You know, you, you make mistakes, you learn lessons, you make mistakes, you learn lessons, you make mistakes, you learn lessons, and eventually you accumulate enough lessons, quote unquote, skills that allow you to make the right decisions.

Speaker 1 And when that starts to happen, the curve goes up dramatically. And it's not that the curve just goes like that dramatically.

Speaker 1 It's that now you've built the skill set inside yourself that you didn't have before, right? If you had those skills in the beginning, the long part would be much shorter, but most of us don't.

Speaker 1 I started off complete rookie, all right, like a lot of you guys. So

Speaker 1 it just takes time for us to, you know, get our asses kicked and then learn the lesson. And that's the reality of how it goes.
And that's the reality of how it goes for any self-made entrepreneur.

Speaker 1 Now,

Speaker 1 there's been times where,

Speaker 1 you know,

Speaker 1 You know, for example, like there's been times in business where we were working on something and we had a lot of money invested in it. And And then we had to cut that because it wasn't working out.

Speaker 1 So then we had to cut loose, you know,

Speaker 1 big investments and time investments, energy investments because it wasn't going to work. So you take a step back, you learn a lesson, you keep moving forward, right? That's happened.

Speaker 1 I mean, that's happened a lot. It'll keep happening.
Yes. A lot of times of business, in fact, most of the things that we've tried didn't work.
Most. That's what people don't see.

Speaker 1 You don't see all of these failures, these micro failures that happen in someone's success because they're not getting on the internet and teaching you all that shit right because nobody wants to talk about it you get your balls kicked in but the reality is is like dude more things go wrong in business than go right and uh all those things that go wrong teach you lessons and they become very valuable you know um there's situations where you know uh

Speaker 1 you know i had to give up equity or partnerships in certain deals because we had to bring someone else in who was also skilled right so while that may seem, you know, to be a step backwards, it's not because the people that have come in are highly skilled and allow us to grow to that, that next level, next level, next level.

Speaker 1 So, you know,

Speaker 1 and

Speaker 1 there's all kinds of situations like that, dude. Like there's all kinds of situations where you're going to take a step back and you're going to be like, shit, is this the right thing?

Speaker 1 Or should I have done that? Or, you know, but it's always the right thing if you keep going because you're going to get a better result in the long term. So

Speaker 2 I feel like for a lot of youngsters, man, you know, this is something we talk about a lot, like fear of missing out. You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 2 Like for a lot of them, that step back might be you not going to go to that fucking party with your friends this weekend. You know what I'm saying? Like,

Speaker 2 you know, they're not looking at it. Like they're looking at it as truly something they're actually missing out on or stepping back away from.

Speaker 2 But it's like the reality is what's the payoff for not missing for missing that.

Speaker 1 Yeah.

Speaker 2 You know what I'm saying? Like, what were some, what were some earlier times? I mean, like, I guess when did you start changing your mindset and your, you know, your path of success here?

Speaker 1 Well, in the early days, dude, I, I, I didn't change. I still went out and partied.
I still went out and did all the shit. I drank all the time, uh, you know,

Speaker 1 and our business didn't grow.

Speaker 1 Okay. So when I, when I stopped doing that, when I started taking everything serious and I started getting serious, it grew very fast.
That's when the luck kicked in. Yeah, right.
Exactly. Exactly.

Speaker 1 But I wouldn't, I, I wouldn't trade it. I mean, like, I wouldn't, I have a lot of good memories.
I've, I've got to experience a lot of things.

Speaker 1 Um, I just would have been where I am now, I think, much faster.

Speaker 1 Uh, but I don't regret it because all those things made me who I am now. Yeah.
So I, I would, the last thing you want to be is some fucking business nerd with no life experience. You know what I mean?

Speaker 1 A lot of those out there. There is.
And I feel like I got successful guys. Yeah, I feel like I got both.
Yeah.

Speaker 1 You know, we've got a long way to go in business and we're going to take it there. But,

Speaker 1 you know, know, I think the more serious you take it, the quicker things are going to go. And the less serious you take it, the slower things are going to go.

Speaker 1 And if you're in a hurry to really change your existence, that's where you go all in, bro. And you don't play video games and you don't drink alcohol and you don't go out with your friends.

Speaker 1 And you fucking, there was a time five or six years from like 2009 to like 2016, that timeframe where fucked, dude, I didn't leave my office. You know what I'm saying? Like, I didn't fucking leave.

Speaker 1 Like, I was in my office all day staring at a computer all day i'm talking like 20 hours a day right up

Speaker 1 take a nap get back up work um

Speaker 1 you know and and

Speaker 1 but i i believe that those that's the time when the company was truly built you know and now we've brought in all these other smart people like you know my brother and jason and you know we've got all these other guys here that are a little older than us that have experience and you know now it's just 19 hours a day day right no i mean look man i mean i'm surrounded by people that are that are much smarter than me at this point and uh

Speaker 1 you know it's it's a different game at this point yeah you know what i mean you should by the way you should always surround yourself with people smarter than you always

Speaker 1 only dumb people with big egos don't do that yeah so it's not about who gets the credit it's about did you win or not win That's real shit.

Speaker 2 Yeah. That's real shit.
Guys, Andy, let's do our third and final question. Question number three.
Andy, I just started a life insurance agency, and I'm working on hiring some people.

Speaker 2 But I don't want to hire just anyone. I want to build a team that is success-driven and willing to continue to grow into amazing badass people that want to win at a high level like I do.

Speaker 2 What are some questions I can be asking or points I can be making to make sure people will be a good fit? Any advice on this would be appreciated.

Speaker 1 Yeah, I mean, look, dude,

Speaker 1 here's the thing about building a team that people, okay, look, dude, let me explain it like this

Speaker 1 when when college college football uh Alabama Michigan Georgia they're all recruiting the same guy okay they're all coming in and they're all saying hey come see us so you go on three visits and

Speaker 1 one of the visits is going to feel better than the other visits the reason that it's going to feel better than the other visits is because that place has a culture that aligns with that individual.

Speaker 1 Does that make sense?

Speaker 1 Okay.

Speaker 1 So

Speaker 1 when we think of an organization, it's very important to understand that there is no employee tree.

Speaker 1 There is no place where you just, there's no secret website where you go out and hire these people and they show up and they're fucking amazing.

Speaker 1 Now, eventually, like sometimes you're going to get lucky and you are going to have someone. But the reality is, is, you know, most people think of it backwards.
It's not go out and find.

Speaker 1 these people it's build what you want internally in terms of the culture that you want and then find people, the people that align with it will find you. Okay.

Speaker 1 So

Speaker 1 most businesses, especially small and medium businesses, are the opposite. They pick these employees from random places based on experience from all different areas.

Speaker 1 They stick them in a fucking organization and then they wonder why they don't have a good uniform culture or good teamwork. Okay.
This is most companies.

Speaker 1 The great companies, the ones that are the greatest companies in the world that have ever existed, they have a very defined culture. All right.
Apple runs things a certain way.

Speaker 1 Amazon at the office level. C-suite and management runs things a certain way.
Fucking,

Speaker 1 you know, all of these companies, all the biggest companies in the world, Anheuser-Busch, fucking Google, fucking, you know what I'm saying? They all have a culture. And that culture

Speaker 1 has either been established by the founder and passed down, or it's been intentionally intentionally built where they said, okay, this is what we stand for.

Speaker 1 And by the way, the best companies are those companies that intentionally build it. That means they have a set of core values that the management and the C-suite and everybody, the owners live by.

Speaker 1 They make decisions. They hire by these.
They fire by these. They live by these.
They correct by these, by these rules, core values of the character traits that we're going to embody as individuals.

Speaker 1 This is just like when I talk about personal excellence being the ultimate rebellion and that culture will change once the individuals change this is the same thing in business okay so you set the culture as an organization and then people will will either fall in line with that and and some will and some won't okay

Speaker 1 and then you're going to find as the company expands and as you get more people that are in line with the culture more people begets more people. Okay.

Speaker 1 So what will happen is your company will start start to attract these people because they can see from the outside, I want to be a part of that.

Speaker 1 Okay.

Speaker 1 So, but this all starts with an intentional

Speaker 1 construction of a culture that represents who you are as the decision maker, operator, founder, CEO of the company.

Speaker 1 It's very important to listen to what I just said, who you are, because if you try to go out and make a set of core values and cultural boundaries, and by the way this is what

Speaker 1 this is a this is something i could teach in a workshop for a week we could talk about so i'm summarizing this down into like

Speaker 2 an answer right it's also something can make you a fucking bajillion dollars if you do it 100

Speaker 1 100 dude but the point of this is is you have to be aligned with the core values that you set because if you don't live those core values your employees won't your team will never catch and the culture will never actually be be created.

Speaker 1 So it's very, very important that the core values that you set for the business are authentically who you are or who you make a very strong effort to be. All right.

Speaker 1 Genuinely, not, not, you know, making shit up and then you pretend like it's some sign that we see on the wall. That's what shitty companies do.

Speaker 1 And by the way, how many companies do you walk in and you see these motivational posters, right?

Speaker 1 Like, bro, or you go to these teams and they got a fucking saying on the wall, you know, play like a champion today. And everybody touches it, but nobody actually lives it.
It doesn't mean shit.

Speaker 1 And by the way, that's Notre Dame. We know that they all live it.
So I'm just using that as an example.

Speaker 1 All right. But

Speaker 1 we have to understand

Speaker 1 that as operators, founders, CEOs,

Speaker 1 the culture stems from us.

Speaker 1 We intentionally define it. We live it.
We have the people that work with us live it. And then we will

Speaker 1 the people who fit. Just like the guys who want to play in Michigan are going to go play in Michigan.
The guys want to play at Alabama, they're going to play there.

Speaker 1 The guys who want to play at Tennessee, they're going to play there. And the reason they pick that 100% of the time is because the culture fits them.
All right. So it's a very, very powerful concept.

Speaker 1 It's a high-level concept. Not very many people know how to do it.

Speaker 1 But

Speaker 1 if you set that up and then build questions, because now I'm going to answer the question.

Speaker 1 And then build questions in your interview process that dig out. And there is no standard questions.
You have to make them up.

Speaker 1 But what questions could you ask to find out if this person will align with the culture that you set?

Speaker 1 So what can you dig out of them? How can you get them to tell you stories about their life or situations that reflect the cultural standard that you're looking to reflect inside your company? Okay.

Speaker 1 And these are things that we teach in RTA. These are things that I'm going to get into on the MFCO project.

Speaker 1 But

Speaker 1 I mean, this is, this is a, like I said, like, this is a week-long workshop that I could probably charge seven figures for for companies to come learn it.

Speaker 1 So like this is a more, this is more involved than a Q ⁇ A question.

Speaker 1 But that's the gist. Okay.
Who are you? What do you want your company to stand for?

Speaker 1 Define that. Develop questions that reflect that.
Interview people and try and do your best. You're not going to hit a one.
You're not going to hit 1,000, dude.

Speaker 1 You're.

Speaker 2 Hall of Fame is 300.

Speaker 1 That's right. And if you hit 300 in the interview process, you will be in the fucking Hall of Fame.
Yeah. Real talk.
No shit.

Speaker 2 Let me, I'm going to touch on this piece, though, that you mentioned about building people, right? There is no.

Speaker 1 That's a whole nother. I'm glad you brought that up.
Yeah. You have to become the coach, the mentor, the leader of these people.
Okay.

Speaker 1 Both their skill set at work, but also their character, all right to take home. Yes.
Like, how can you be better?

Speaker 1 Why do we do things, certain things this way? You know, um,

Speaker 1 how

Speaker 1 most,

Speaker 1 I mean, dude, it comes down to a very simple question.

Speaker 1 Do you want a decent organization that does okay, or do you want a great organization that you enjoy going to work at and that makes a lot of money and that makes your customers really fucking happy?

Speaker 1 I want the second. Okay.
So I want to be around people that are like me. I want to be around people that are, you know, a cultural fit.

Speaker 1 I want to be around people that work hard and do the right thing. And, and, and I want to, that's what I want to do.
I don't want to be around a bunch of people I got to drag down the fucking road.

Speaker 1 You know what I mean?

Speaker 1 Nobody does. Well, I know, but most people do.
Yeah. Most people do.
The biggest question that I get when entrepreneurs come visit here is, dude.

Speaker 1 And this is what they say.

Speaker 1 Where do you hire your employees? Sign all these people. Yeah.
Like, and that's just the wrong understanding of,

Speaker 1 it's an oversimplified old

Speaker 1 thinking about how you could build an organization or a team. It's just what it is.
Like, no one goes to Nick Saban

Speaker 1 and says, where the fuck you find these people?

Speaker 1 Because everybody knows that Nick Saban builds these motherfuckers through a certain culture and standard at, you know, when he was the coach of Alabama. Yeah, bro.
You understand? Yeah.

Speaker 1 So no one says, hey, they just say, well, fuck, he's good at picking them and then he molds them. All right.

Speaker 1 And as an operator, you have to take on the role of, you know, not just CEO or founder, but also big brother sometimes, uncle sometimes, dad sometimes, right? Mom sometimes. Yeah, right.

Speaker 1 Like best friend sometimes, you know, like it's a, it's your role, you, you have to become a true coach.

Speaker 1 And that's something that I think, you know, the leadership here at First Form does a really good job of not just me, but everybody. Yeah.
100%, man. Yeah.

Speaker 1 Well, guys, that's a hell of a way to start a Monday. Yeah.

Speaker 1 Yep. All right, guys.
Well, let's get out there. Let's kick some ass.
And uh, don't forget to go get on that email list, all right, because that's coming in days, that's not coming in weeks anymore.

Speaker 1 Uh, the new MSCO project, so go get on that email list at andyforsella.com, and then uh, we'll see you tomorrow. CPI

Speaker 1 box froze. Fuck a bowl, fuck a stove, counted millions in a cold.
Bad bitch, booted swole. Got her on bank rope, can't fold, that's a no, headshot case close.