827. Q&AF: Taking Advice From Others, Restoring Business Relationships & Goal Setting Strategies For 2025

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Speaker 1 What is up, guys? It's Andy Prissela, and this is the show for the realists. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society.
And welcome to motherfucking reality.

Speaker 1 Guys, today we have our first Q and AF of 2025. That's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers.
Now you can submit your questions a couple different ways. The first way is...

Speaker 2 You still submit them the same. Guys, email these questions in to askandy at andyfasella.com.

Speaker 1 Good job. Thanks.
Yeah, or you go on YouTube in the Q ⁇ A F episodes, drop your question in the comments. We'll choose some from there as well.
Other times throughout the week, you know the deal.

Speaker 1 We're going to have CTI. That stands for Cruise the Internet.
That's where we put topics on the screen. We speculate on what's going on.

Speaker 1 We talk about what's true, what's not true, and then we talk about how we the people solve these problems going on in the world.

Speaker 1 Other times we're going to have real talk, real talk's just five to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk. And then we're going to have 75 hard verses.

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Speaker 1 They talk about how they were before, how they are now, and how they use 75 Hard to completely transform their lives and how you can do the same.

Speaker 1 Now, if you're unfamiliar with 75 it is the initial phase of the Live Hard program, which you can get for free at episode 208 on the audio feed.

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Okay, episode 208 on the audio feed. There's also a book.

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Speaker 1 What's up?

Speaker 2 What's going on, my man? Nothing, dude.

Speaker 1 Yeah. What's up with you?

Speaker 2 Oh, not much. I appreciate the compliment of the beard.

Speaker 1 Yeah, beard looks good, bro.

Speaker 2 It's a process. Who did that?

Speaker 1 Did you do that? I do it. I did myself.
Bro, it is a thing. It's a process.
Like, you can mess it up real bad, real easy.

Speaker 2 Super easy. And like, it's always sucks because, like, my hair, even when I had hair up here,

Speaker 2 it's not the same. Like, it's two different textures.
You know what I'm saying? I don't know what this is.

Speaker 1 Well, my fucking beard ain't the same as my hair up there either.

Speaker 2 But like, even my, my, my, uh, your downstairs hair? Downstairs is like the downstairs carpet don't match the upstairs carpet. You know what I'm saying? Like

Speaker 1 you got like gingerballs or something.

Speaker 2 it's kind of in between, actually. It's like in between

Speaker 1 the only black guy in the world with gingerballs, gingerballs.

Speaker 2 No, man, it's a process, though, man. You got a shampoo, condition, and then I like blow my shampoo condition your ball hair? My beard.
Oh, the beard. Yeah, the beard's a process.

Speaker 2 Downstairs, I just, you know, it's like the Amazon

Speaker 2 forest down there.

Speaker 1 You gotta, you gotta trim that down. It adds extra length.

Speaker 2 Is that what it is?

Speaker 1 Yeah, I do trim mine now. Yeah,

Speaker 1 optical illusion. Are you using nair?

Speaker 2 You want to hear my nair story?

Speaker 1 No, because I got one too, bro. We'll save that for CTI.

Speaker 1 Bro, don't let that stuff get in your butt crack. Bro,

Speaker 1 it's so bad. Oh, man.

Speaker 1 Oh, I got it. And it smells bad.

Speaker 2 Dude, I had another.

Speaker 1 You can't get the smell. The smell doesn't go away for days.

Speaker 2 No, you know what the worst pain is? So in the police academy, you got to go through OC's training, right? Yeah. And you get sprayed.

Speaker 2 They don't tell you exactly when it is. Like, you just know it's coming up, right?

Speaker 2 And I had, you know, I used to shave down there. Yeah.
Like baby fresh.

Speaker 1 Yeah.

Speaker 2 Okay.

Speaker 2 And I just shaved like, I think the day before. And so come in, like, all right, guys, it's OC day.
I'm like, okay, didn't thought nothing of it. You know, do the spray.
It's fine.

Speaker 2 You go take a shower. Take a shower.
It all

Speaker 2 goes down. Yeah.

Speaker 2 Probably, I mean, it's like childbirth. I would imagine it'd be comparable.

Speaker 1 Bro, one time I threw, I had a, I had a little rash down there. You know how how like us big guys, we get a little chafing down there sometimes.
You get some chafing. You know what I'm saying?

Speaker 1 I threw some of that medicated gold bomb powder in there. Oh, dude.
Oh, dude. That was a fucking mistake.
I thought that would fix it. Why'd you put gold bombs?

Speaker 1 Bro, I thought that would fix it. It said medicated.
So I'm like, oh, this will fix it. That was a terrible mistake.
Woo. Yeah.

Speaker 1 And then the other, then one time, dude, like, this is even worse. That's bad.
Yeah, I know. This is even worse, though.
So another time, like, dude, do you remember when you were playing football?

Speaker 1 They just had that stuff in the locker room. It was just called fucking Red Hot.
It was like in a white little jar.

Speaker 1 They might have quit making this shit because it was dangerous, dude. Anyway, it's like super, like

Speaker 1 industrial strength, like fucking what's. It's like Ben Gay? It's like Ben Gay, but it's not Ben Gay.
It's called Red Hot. Uh-huh.

Speaker 1 And what's that shit that you got, Tiger Bomb? Tiger Bomb, yeah. Okay, it's like Tiger Bomb, all right? But it's super hot.

Speaker 2 That's some good stuff.

Speaker 1 Tiger Bomb works, bro. That's some good stuff.

Speaker 1 So

Speaker 1 I put some of that on. Like, I had like a, oh, I, dude, I do remember this exactly.
I had a fucking strained groin muscle.

Speaker 1 Okay. So I had to like, I had to, like, get some of that on there, right? Up in the groin.
And a little bit got on the, you know, on the carrying bag down there. You know what I'm saying? Right.

Speaker 2 And uh,

Speaker 2 yeah.

Speaker 1 And then, uh,

Speaker 1 you know, this might be why I don't have kids.

Speaker 2 I thought that was a commercial for this.

Speaker 1 Fuck, dude. But anyway.
I love one. Everybody's ready.

Speaker 1 Dude, it got on your balls. You may be entitled.
Yeah. But, dude, I like seven hours later, dude, like I fucking touched my eye.
Oh, man.

Speaker 1 Like, and dude, my eye burned for like three fucking days, dude. Like,

Speaker 1 water. Like, oh, man.

Speaker 1 Anyway. Well, that's the last thing I got.
So first, we lost everybody.

Speaker 1 See you guys tomorrow. If you're still here, let's get better.
Yeah, let's get better. Lesson number one.
Tip number one.

Speaker 1 Don't put any Red Hot on your nuts. Yeah, no, no, no, don't touch your eyeballs.
On the shopping bags. Yeah, no.
All right, man. I'm down, man.
All right.

Speaker 2 Well, I got three good ones for you.

Speaker 1 You do? Let's knock them out. All right.
Guys,

Speaker 1 how does anyone listen to anything I say after that?

Speaker 2 Man, this guy's laying down some knowledge.

Speaker 2 I guarantee you, Google searches for red hot.

Speaker 1 He goes through the roof right now.

Speaker 2 All right. Let's get better, man, guys.
Andy, question number one.

Speaker 2 Andy, I'm a 25-year-old business owner, just getting started. And I have a lot of people wanting to give me advice and help me in any way possible, from friends to family to business owners.

Speaker 2 A popular topic always gets brought up, and it's this.

Speaker 2 Stay as small as you can for as long as you can I listen to what they have to say but I don't agree with that statement at all my goals are much larger than to stay small forever I want to grow expand and employ people because I believe in myself to take this time and make it really successful for not only me but other people who want a career in this sector that statement lingers in my head over and over a few close friends of mine have said it the bigger you are the more headaches what's your thoughts on all of this how do you what what is the proper advice here?

Speaker 1 The proper thing to do is to never listen to anybody who hasn't done what the fuck you want to do.

Speaker 1 Okay, you guys mess yourselves up because you go out and you ask everybody who's never been there, who's never created anything, who's never built anything, and you ask them what they think.

Speaker 1 What the fuck do you think they're going to say? They have no idea. That's like asking someone the best place to eat in China that's never been to fucking China, bro.
They don't know.

Speaker 1 So you have to start qualifying who you're asking advice from. If they don't live the life that you want to live, don't listen to what they have to say.

Speaker 1 If you do listen to what they have to say and you take it to heart and you go to do your thing or create or build your business around what somebody who's never built a business has to say, whether that be your mom, your dad, your brother, your cousins, your aunts, your uncles, all these motherfuckers come out of the woodwork like they've done this shit and they haven't.

Speaker 1 Okay. And if you listen to them, you will be like them all right that is it so why are you listening to people who have never done the thing it is you want to do why would you do that

Speaker 1 it's it's literally it makes you stupid as fuck okay that means you're stupid secondly i think you're misunderstanding what people are saying okay

Speaker 1 i don't think they're saying to you And maybe they are because maybe your friends and family are just that fucking dumb.

Speaker 1 But I don't think they're saying to you, stay small forever i think what they're saying to you is and this is what i would say to you is to keep your lifestyle small keep your bills small stay agile and be able to pivot quickly a biggest

Speaker 1 The biggest advantage that you're going to have as a small business is your ability to pivot and make moves quick when you're competing against bigger companies.

Speaker 1 Bigger companies, when they try to pivot and make moves and change things, that's like turning around a fucking cruise ship in the middle of the ocean. Okay.
It takes a minute.

Speaker 1 For you, it's like a jet ski. You can just fucking turn and that's where you're able, that's your advantage as a smaller business.

Speaker 1 You don't have the employees, you don't have the experience, you don't have the knowledge, but you're agile and you're quick and you're able to make adjustments fast, which allows you to pay attention to what bigger companies are doing, see them start to make the adjustment, you pivot right away and you actually beat them to it.

Speaker 1 Okay. So this fluidity and agility is a massive advantage for someone who's running a smaller company against people who are running bigger companies.
And that's something to think about. Okay.

Speaker 1 That's a good advantage for staying small. But to your point, you're not going to always be small.
You're going to want to employ people. You're going to want to grow business.

Speaker 1 And, you know, to make a lot of fucking money, bro, you got to have a pretty big fucking business. That's reality.

Speaker 1 So I'm assuming that the reason that you're in this is because you want to be financially successful. And you're right.

Speaker 1 You're going to need employees and you're going to need to scale and you're going to need to grow and you're going to need, you know, line extensions of your products and all these different things, integrations.

Speaker 1 Those things will come. But as they come, you should always try to maintain the agility and the ability to pivot of a small company.
Okay.

Speaker 1 One of the best things about the companies that I'm involved in is that we don't do corporate hierarchy bullshit. Okay.

Speaker 1 We work really hard, and some of it you can't avoid because you're going to have to have systems, you're going to have to have

Speaker 1 procedures.

Speaker 1 But the more of that shit that you have, the less agility you have, which means the slower it is for you to move. So, and this is like the government.
This is why the government sucks. All right.

Speaker 1 They have the

Speaker 1 that's a whole nother problem. We'll talk about that tomorrow.
But

Speaker 1 the point is, is that becoming a bigger company and maintaining the idea of small, agile, quick to pivot is really the success recipe that you need to have. So that's what I would say to that.

Speaker 1 Keep your bills small, keep your lifestyle small as long as possible. Okay.

Speaker 1 And I did that. Like, bro, like

Speaker 1 people who become successful, dude, they, they don't just like make their first million bucks and go out and buy a fucking house or a car or this or that.

Speaker 1 They reinvest that and they roll it over again and again and again and again and again. And eventually they're buying cars like other people are buying fucking candy at the grocery store.

Speaker 1 Like they don't give a fuck. Okay.
And that's where you want to be. You want to be to the point where you're not having to really pay attention to your lifestyle because your business is so big.
So

Speaker 1 I think that's the advice I would give you. But the biggest advice of this whole question

Speaker 1 is don't listen to fucking people who haven't done what you want to do. Don't listen to them.
Don't listen to them for a second.

Speaker 1 If you have a very good friend, or maybe you have a dad or a mom or an uncle who has some business experience, or maybe they don't have any, and they're just like, Hey, look, I don't know much about this, but I'll support you anyway.

Speaker 1 Here's what I learned. I read this, and maybe you think about that.
That's shit you can listen to. That's cool.
Yes, because they're making an effort to try to help.

Speaker 1 I had a lot of people in my life coming up who,

Speaker 2 you know,

Speaker 1 always gave me advice. And dude, because I didn't know, like I didn't know, I would take it.
But they didn't know either.

Speaker 1 And so I spent all this time making all these mistakes based upon what other people thought that had no idea.

Speaker 1 So why the fuck would I listen to what they thought when I should just be listening or trying what I, I'm more qualified than them. I'm in the game.
They're not in the game. You see what I'm saying?

Speaker 1 And as a young entrepreneur, you know, what do you say, 25? Yeah, 25 years old. Yeah, dude, we've got to get to the point where we are trusting ourselves.

Speaker 1 And the way that we learn to trust ourselves is by going out, doing what we think is best, making some mistakes, learning from the mistakes, and then continuing down the path.

Speaker 1 And dude, like I tell you guys over and over and over again, you really only need a couple things to be successful long term. You got to build the grit, the determination, the fortitude to not quit.

Speaker 1 And you got to be smart enough. to learn from your mistakes, okay, the first time,

Speaker 1 for sure the second time.

Speaker 1 If you're someone that can make the same mistake seven times you can't make it in business it's impossible but if you're someone that can you know make that mistake and then say all right cool i lost ten thousand dollars today because i made this mistake that lesson cost me ten thousand dollars and then look at it as an investment in your education and then never make that mistake again bro there's no limits to how far you can go So anyway, don't listen to people who haven't done what it is you want to do ever.

Speaker 1 They have no fucking clue what they're talking about. And everybody out here on the internet thinks they're some sort of life philosopher or fucking business advisor.

Speaker 1 How many business advisors and gurus do we have on the internet that have never built a fucking company? You can't order their product. You can't see their employees.

Speaker 1 You can't see what the fuck they do, but somehow they know everything about business.

Speaker 1 How many fucking life philosophers do we have on the internet who write all this shit about life and you look at their life and it's a fucking dumpster fire? Start qualifying who you take advice from.

Speaker 1 It's a major, major, major skill set that you have to have. You cannot fucking take advice from people who are not in a position that you want to be in.
Now, there is one exception to that.

Speaker 1 If there was someone who was in that position and then lost that position, you can listen to that person too, because that person will give you valuable insight as to how not to burn your own shit down.

Speaker 2 I love it. Andy, you described

Speaker 2 a few times, you know, about like, you know, imagine you're driving the Titanic, right?

Speaker 2 You kind of like, as the owner operator, operator, you kind of have to like look out and see when the icebergs are and navigate the boat, right?

Speaker 2 What would you say was one of those like moments where you had to make that pivot early on in business?

Speaker 2 What was like one of those first icebergs you kind of saw and had to readjust and you were able to readjust because you were smaller?

Speaker 1 Man, there's been so many, dude. I don't think I can name one.
It's just a normal part of business. That's like asking someone who is like, you know, how many breaths did you take today?

Speaker 1 I fucking don't know. You know what I'm saying? like that's normal yeah but here's what i will tell you i will tell you that

Speaker 1 if you lack the ability

Speaker 1 to see what is happening in the environment the business market whatever it is whatever game you're playing and where you're playing if you lack the ability to have foresight and vision as to what's actually coming and you can't make a plan to navigate through, you can't do it, dude.

Speaker 1 You have to be able to look out on the horizon and say, okay, this is happening. This is happening.
This is happening. We got to do this.
We got to move this way and then that way.

Speaker 1 We got to zig and then zag at this exact time. That's a huge part of running an organization.

Speaker 1 And it's a skill that you're going to learn over time. You know, it's not something that people are gifted with.

Speaker 1 But that also comes, dude, with bigger visions, right? A lot of people,

Speaker 1 dude, here's the truth.

Speaker 1 A lot of people just shouldn't be entrepreneurs they want to fucking have a place where they show up every day at 1130 with a fucking Starbucks and they want to stay till two and they want to walk in and they want to look around and they think they're going to make a gazillion dollars and that's not how the fuck it works bro you've got to be able to

Speaker 1 understand every single element of every single detail of every single product in every single market environment period and you have to be able to anticipate and you have to be able to see what's coming and you you have to be able to have the confidence to make the move now versus after everybody else has made the move.

Speaker 1 And that's another thing that entrepreneurs do, bro. It's a me too business.
Because entrepreneurship has become so accessible, people run it as like a me too. Okay.

Speaker 1 And what I mean by that is they see everybody else do something and then they do it. And

Speaker 1 bro, you're too fucking late. You're too late.
You have to be making those moves before everybody else. And when you're a small company, you could do that quickly.

Speaker 2 And that's a huge advantage dude that reminds me uh in college when our offensive coordinator he was like doing a film study with us one time and he put out the question he was like what what makes the quarterback the best quarterback right and everybody like gives a tip oh you gotta throw it long you gotta throw it far he was like no you gotta be able to read the defense better than just that read the defense and know when a fucking blitz is coming yeah that's only part of it bro the you know what the you know who makes you know what the next best quarterback is the guy who could fucking read the defense yeah that's a good quarterback most people can't right?

Speaker 1 But do you know what the best, the next best one is?

Speaker 1 It's the guy that can run three or four plays in a row to run that fifth play.

Speaker 1 Okay, so he's running this dive, and then they're running this toss, and then they're running this play action, and then they're running this, and then they run the play they're trying to score on.

Speaker 1 So it's chess, right? And business is no different. You're going to make these little moves that are going to set up the big move that you're trying to make.

Speaker 1 And that's, that's, that's what makes a great fucking visionary operator. I love it, man.

Speaker 2 I love it, guys. Andy, question number two.

Speaker 2 Andy, I own a commercial cleaning company here in Arizona and now have some of the biggest names in the state as clients.

Speaker 2 But last year, when I was trying to land bigger clients, I had the opportunity to clean one of the biggest names and brands in the states, and I fucked up the job.

Speaker 2 But I now have employees, top of the line equipment and confidence to do any job.

Speaker 2 So at the start of quarter two, I sent in a handwritten message with a nice bottle of tequila apologizing and asking for another opportunity to work together, but I got no response.

Speaker 2 Any advice on how I can restore that relationship? Business relationships, are they salvageable? How do you do that?

Speaker 1 Yeah, first of all, they're salvageable.

Speaker 1 Second of all, when you salvage them, especially when someone is disgruntled with your services and then you exceed what they initially expected from you, they will actually become a massive advocate for your brand.

Speaker 1 So, what I mean by that is this: you piss them off, now you've got to make it right.

Speaker 1 Your first attempt to make it right didn't work, right?

Speaker 1 But if you get the opportunity to do it and you do it, and

Speaker 1 you exceed their expectations of what they originally had and went so over the top, now that person becomes an advocate of you.

Speaker 1 Now, they're telling all their other business buddies, dude, listen, work with this guy, work with that guy, work with this guy. And so,

Speaker 1 when you piss someone off,

Speaker 1 the ability to make it right is almost worth pissing them off because of how good of an advocate they become when you exceed

Speaker 1 the expectations of what the job was in the beginning and take an extra step to make it right.

Speaker 1 So what I would do is I would, instead of writing a letter, I would show up there and I would figure out who the decision maker is. And I would say, hey, here's the deal.
I know I fucked this up.

Speaker 1 Let me fucking do it for free. Let me do it for free.
Let me do, let me do everything for free. And let me show you how I can do it.
And then when you go in and do it, you do it.

Speaker 1 Like you, if you clean the carpets, bro, you also clean their windows. And then you go out and wash all their cars.
Okay. I'm talking about like over the top so that they're like, holy shit.
Okay.

Speaker 1 So that's, that's what I would do. And I would be relentless in my pursuit to have the opportunity to do that,

Speaker 1 knowing that the story that it's going to create is going to be beneficial to business. I would not give up on getting that customer back.

Speaker 1 I would not give up on doing whatever I had to do to make sure that that was right.

Speaker 1 And I would not give up on creating an amazing experience where they had to tell people how awesome of a job that you did.

Speaker 2 I was going to ask it, like, is there a point where, like, okay, tequila didn't work. That didn't work.
I mean, do you give up at all? You kind of answered that. No,

Speaker 1 you just keep going. Because eventually you're going to get it, and that'll be part of the story.

Speaker 1 Look, dude,

Speaker 1 the story will be this: hey, you got to use DJ over here, brand. The guy fucking cleaned the carpets.
But let me tell you something about him. The first time he cleaned him, he fucked him up.

Speaker 1 Then he sent me a bottle of tequila. I didn't respond.
Then he showed up at my business and he said he'd do it for free.

Speaker 1 And I still didn't let him do it. And then he wouldn't leave me alone for a year.
And finally, I let him do it, dude. And this is what he did.
You got to fucking use him. The guy's relentless.

Speaker 1 He's the best, most dedicated person I've ever met at this. And that's the recommendation that you're trying to build here.
And you're going to build that by inconveniencing yourself until you

Speaker 1 get done what you're trying to do.

Speaker 2 All right. I don't want to miss this nugget here because I feel like this is also important.
You're talking about when you over deliver that.

Speaker 2 I feel like when you're, when you do that, you're, you're, you're also setting a new standard. So how important is it to make sure that like you don't just do really good that one fucking time?

Speaker 1 No, you got to do it. That's the other thing.
And that's a great point.

Speaker 1 Whatever standard you operate at when you get the second opportunity, you have to operate at that standard forever and ever and ever have to

Speaker 1 so uh

Speaker 1 short story and by the way why wouldn't you why wouldn't you operate at that standard all the time if you're trying to get referral business that's how people buy people don't necessarily buy from ads they buy from word of mouth they buy from stories they use services that their friends use

Speaker 1 you want to own those stories that's the whole game so you own those stories you own those recommendations your business is going to grow yeah don't just do it once and all right we got it That won't work anyway.

Speaker 1 Yeah. That won't work anyway because the second time you do it, they're going to be like, oh, this guy was full of shit.
I knew the first time. Yeah, fucking man.
Geez. I love it.

Speaker 2 Guys, Andy, question number three. Let's get a third and final question.

Speaker 2 Guys, Andy, question number three. Hey, Andy and DJ, a huge fan of the podcast.
And I've been following you in first form for a while now. A big fan of the work you're doing.
I've read your books.

Speaker 2 Every year, I love to take some time to reflect on past year and set goals for the year ahead. I find this practice really helps me stay focused and motivated, but I'd love to hear your take on it.

Speaker 2 Do you have any specific strategies or practices you follow when setting goals for the upcoming year? And what's your process for reflecting on the year that's past and planning for what's next?

Speaker 2 Thanks for your time. I really appreciate everything you do and looking forward to hearing your thoughts.

Speaker 1 I don't operate that way. I don't operate that way.
I've never operated that way.

Speaker 1 I've never sat down at the beginning of the year and been like, this is what I want to do this year, or this is what I want to do next year.

Speaker 1 My goals are so big

Speaker 1 that

Speaker 1 they take multiple years. So like

Speaker 1 I don't think of it like that. And when I used to think of it like that, I never achieved any of those things.
So I look at it just like I teach you guys, which is this, one day at a time.

Speaker 1 I look at it very simply. This is my goal.
This is my huge goal that I'm trying to achieve over the course of my life. Okay.
This is, this is who I'm becoming. This is what I'm creating.

Speaker 1 This is the businesses that I'm going to create. This is the physical shape I'm going to walk around in.
This is the lifestyle I'm going to live. And I fucking lay it all out there.
Okay.

Speaker 1 Then I attack it one day at a time. Okay.
Just like I talk about in the podcast, Win the Day, which is episode 16 on Real AF. If you go back to episode 16 in Real AF,

Speaker 1 we talk in depth about this thing called the power list. All right.
And I actually have an app launching for this any day now called the Power List app. Okay.

Speaker 1 And it's a productivity app that lets you do this right there on your phone. But basically, if you go listen to it,

Speaker 1 it'll explain to you the productivity system that I have used for the last 25 years to build my life.

Speaker 1 So

Speaker 1 understand this:

Speaker 1 huge life,

Speaker 1 huge business,

Speaker 1 badass physical condition awesome lifestyle all these things go into what i want okay and then i back that down into a day by day by day

Speaker 1 system

Speaker 1 and then i just look at it did i win today did i win do i win tomorrow do i win the next day and i don't think of it as this massive thing i just think of it as you know one day at a time and and dude that is the only way you could win and it's by the way the only way that you can guarantee success you cannot lose if you win every day you can't lose there is no x factor there is no magic there is no

Speaker 1 you know

Speaker 1 failure villain that's going to come in and your up bro if you win every day you cannot lose at life so what does a win every day look like for you go listen to episode 16 and it'll help you figure that out the live hard program is an excellent framework for success over the course of your life because it is all the things that I have done over the course of my life that have produced this in a repeatable system year by year by year.

Speaker 1 A lot of people will say, oh, Live Hard, you're only, it doesn't, you got to do it over and over. No shit, bro.
Just like you got to take a shower.

Speaker 1 Discipline's a perishable skill, like playing guitar. If you don't fucking practice guitar, you're going to suck at guitar.
If you don't practice at jiu-jitsu, what's going to happen?

Speaker 1 You're going to get your fucking ass beat. If you don't practice shooting guns, you're not going to be good at shooting guns.
If you don't take a fucking shower, you're going to fucking stink. Okay.

Speaker 1 This is the idea of discipline as well. It is a perishable skill.
If you do not practice it over and over and over and over again, you get mentally weak and then you cannot win the days.

Speaker 1 So go to the Live Hard program. Live it every single fucking year.

Speaker 1 It's less than half the year of a commitment to being perfect, which creates a situation where you're generally getting almost everything out of your life that you want.

Speaker 1 And the biggest thing that you get is you get the ability to have the choice to do what it is you want to do with your life because you have built the skill of discipline and you can adhere to any plan that you set forth for yourself.

Speaker 1 It's not that you don't know what to do. It's that you can't fucking do it when it's not comfortable for you to do.
And that's why people lose.

Speaker 1 So what would your life look like if you were able to adhere perfectly to every motherfucking plan that you ever set out for yourself from the time that you were born to now?

Speaker 1 Would your life look completely different? The answer for every single fucking person listening to this is yes.

Speaker 1 So fix that problem now and you will have the choice at a bare minimum to become whatever it is that you want to become. And this is a huge deal because people will say, well, fuck dude.

Speaker 1 dude, what if I do all this work and I don't get where I want to go? And they'll talk themselves out. That is impossible.
It does not happen. It does not exist.
Well, so-and-so is a roofer.

Speaker 1 He works harder than you. Yes.
At what?

Speaker 1 At driving nails into fucking shingles.

Speaker 1 Okay. No offense, but that's not a fucking high brain capacity situation.
We're talking about strategically designing your life to become what it is you want to become. Okay.

Speaker 1 And no disrespect to anybody who wants to go do whatever they do or work very hard. I have massive respect for that.

Speaker 1 But if you want to graduate from having to work hard into the situation that everybody says, let's work smart, not hard. No, it's work very hard and then smart.

Speaker 1 And then the fucking shit starts to come together. In the beginning, you're going to have to work your fucking balls off.
The point is this.

Speaker 1 If you develop the ability to adhere and you develop discipline and you practice it over and over and over again, there's literally nothing that you can't become, create, or build if you win day by day by day.

Speaker 1 I love it, man. I love it.

Speaker 2 Hell of a way to start a Monday, man.

Speaker 1 Yeah.

Speaker 1 Kick some ass.

Speaker 1 It took a little minute to get started there, huh? Yeah, just a little bit. Balls are burning.

Speaker 1 Shopping bag. Hey, look, dude, that's the truth, guys.
If you fucking, if you can, if you can build...

Speaker 1 in yourself, which is what the Live Hard program is all about, the ability to adhere, The ability to adhere. Like really think about this.
I want you to really think about this.

Speaker 1 And by the way, we're fucking starting today, but I want you to really think about this.

Speaker 1 What would your life look like

Speaker 1 if you had the ability to adhere to every single plan, every single dream, every single goal that you have set forth for yourself from the time that you were 10 years old to however you are now?

Speaker 1 What would your life look like? It would look completely different. So fix that fucking problem of adherence and everything takes care of itself.
Because now you can say, I want to be this.

Speaker 1 That could be, I want to be a superior athlete. You could become that.
I want to be this. It could be an accomplished musician.
You could become that. I want to be a black belt in jiu-jitsu.

Speaker 1 You could become that. I want to build an amazing company.
You could become that. I want to build an amazing relationship.
You could do that.

Speaker 1 There's literally nothing you fucking can't do if you can develop a plan and then adhere to it. It's not that people don't know what to do, it's that they can't fucking do it.

Speaker 1 So fix that problem and you fix your whole life. All right.
So go check out episode 208 on the audio program.

Speaker 1 Go on andyfree seller.com, order the book on mental toughness, and let's get fucking started. Let's fix our shit.

Speaker 1 Counted millions in a cold. Bad bitch, booted swole, got her own bank roll, can't fold, that's a no, headshot, case cloak, close.