Optimize Your Brain: 3 Important Habits for Productivity, Memory, and Longevity (Based on 200,000 Brain Scans)

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Speaker 1 I am so glad that you're here today because when I started the Mel Robbins podcast, I always had this vision that it would be like you and I taking a walk twice a week and just doing life together.

Speaker 1 And then, occasionally, when we felt like it, if they were cool enough, we would invite some of the world's leading experts and interesting people to go on that walk with us so that we could learn from them.

Speaker 1 Well, what if I told you that I was able to get you an appointment with the world's leading expert on brain health?

Speaker 1 Somebody that has scanned 200,000 brains, somebody with clinics around the world that see 4,000 people a month, someone who has written 12 New York Times best-selling books on the brain and brain health.

Speaker 1 What would you say if I said, hey, I got us a free appointment with the world's leading expert on your brain health? Well, you know what I would say if you said that to me? I would say, so?

Speaker 1 I don't care. Why do I care about my brain health? It's basically like three pounds of macaroni in between my ears ears and some days it gives me a headache.
So what do I care?

Speaker 1 Here's why you should care. There are simple things that you can do to take better care of your brain.
And when you take better care of your brain, you will be happier, healthier.

Speaker 1 You can make a huge difference in symptoms of anxiety and depression and ADHD. It is literally the place that you need to start when it comes to a happier and healthier you.

Speaker 1 Our expert today that's joining us is Dr. Daniel Amon.
Dr. Daniel Amon has been a psychiatrist for 40 years.
He is one of the world's leading experts on brain health.

Speaker 1 He was on speed dial with the NFL during all of the concussion hearings because he understands that in order to improve your health, you have to improve the structure and functioning and blood flow in your brain.

Speaker 1 It makes sense, doesn't it? You got to tune up the engine in your car. So of course you've got to take better care of your brain.
And he's not going to overwhelm you. One of the reasons why I love Dr.

Speaker 1 Daniel Amon is, first of all, he's fun, he's hilarious, and he talks in takeaways. So, I am here with you.
I got my pen. I am ready to learn.
I am ready to learn.

Speaker 1 Okay, what supplements do I need to take? What do I need to know about how to be a happier me? What do I need to eat? What should I do that I'm not doing? How much sleep do I need?

Speaker 1 How much water do I need? What are the things that will help me, Mel Robbins, a woman woman without a PhD and not a lot of time. How can I make my brain better?

Speaker 1 And I got to be honest with you. I have referred so many people to him because I believe that his advice works.

Speaker 1 Whether you're dealing with the impacts of concussions or you're dealing with the impact of anxiety or you're dealing with a brain that has been impacted by past addiction, there will be information for you that is not only specific, but that's going to help absolutely everybody.

Speaker 1 So you ready? Should we invite Dr. Daniel Amon, the brainiac, the best-selling author, the OG of brain health to the Mel Robbins podcast? I'd say so.
Here we go, Dr. Daniel Amon, my friend.

Speaker 1 I'm so happy that you are here on the Mel Robbins podcast.

Speaker 2 Well, I love being with you. So thank you for having me.

Speaker 1 Oh, you're the best. You know, one of the reasons why I love you is

Speaker 1 you have been a expert on the brain and a psychiatrist for 40 years, and you do not focus on what's wrong with us. You literally teach us how to bring out more awesomeness through brain health.

Speaker 1 You call it elite brain training. What is that?

Speaker 2 Well, a long time ago, I realized I hated the term mental illness. It shames people.
It's stigmatizing, and it's wrong. There are brain health issues.

Speaker 2 And if I can teach you to get your brain healthy, well, your mind is better. People often don't understand that.
Your brain, physical functioning of your brain, creates

Speaker 2 your mind. Everybody wants to be better.
Nobody wants to be told they're mental.

Speaker 2 And so the mission I have on the planet is to end the whole concept of mental illness and create this revolution in brain health, which is why I'm so grateful to hang out with you today. Oh,

Speaker 1 I wasn't planning on asking you this, but I just was struck by the fact that you distinguished between the brain and the mind. What's the difference between your brain and your mind?

Speaker 2 Well, your brain, the physical functioning of your brain, creates your mind.

Speaker 2 And people get this mixed up all the time, but you just have to think of someone who has Alzheimer's disease.

Speaker 2 And if you saw the scans of people with Alzheimer's disease, you see that they're wildly damaged. And then that person is no longer fully that person because their brain

Speaker 2 has been damaged. People really need to know if you want a healthy mind,

Speaker 2 the first thing to have is a healthy brain.

Speaker 1 And so are you saying that absolutely anybody can improve the physical health of their brain and that will have an impact on your happiness, your performance and your mental health?

Speaker 2 Everything.

Speaker 2 And it happens quickly. So for example, if you get better sleep tonight,

Speaker 2 your mind can be better tomorrow. If you get drunk tonight, your mind's going to be worse tomorrow.
And because those both have a direct impact on the physical functioning of your brain.

Speaker 1 Wow. Like, you know, it's interesting because you're right.

Speaker 1 There is so much information and so many conversations out there about mental health, but you have this revolutionary approach of teaching all of us how to take better care of our brain and how to improve our brain itself and how that has a direct impact.

Speaker 1 So I want to start at the very beginning because, you know, you've been doing this for 40 years. You are, in my opinion, the world's leading expert on the brain.
And can you give us just a 101

Speaker 1 on the brain and what you want anybody and and everybody to know about the brain. And I want you to speak directly, Dr.

Speaker 1 Amon, to somebody who may be listening who's never thought about this topic before.

Speaker 2 So your brain is involved in everything you do, how you think, how you feel, how you act, how you get along with other people.

Speaker 2 It's the organ of intelligence, character, and every single decision you make. And when your brain works right, you work right.

Speaker 2 And when your brain is troubled for whatever reason, you're sadder, sicker, poorer, because your decisions aren't as good.

Speaker 2 Today I'm in Miami, but I usually live in Newport Beach, where we have more plastic surgeons than almost anywhere in the world because people care more about their faces, their breasts, their bellies, and their butts than they do their brain.

Speaker 2 And that's insane,

Speaker 2 because it's your brain that makes you attractive. It's your brain that makes you happy.
It's your brain that keeps you purposeful, or it's your brain that

Speaker 2 is the organ of rage. And so getting your brain right is critical.
And it's these three steps, brain envy, got to care. Avoid anything that hurts it, know the list.

Speaker 2 And quite frankly, most second graders would get a 90% if you gave them 100 things that hurt their brain.

Speaker 2 And then the third thing is regularly do things

Speaker 2 that help it.

Speaker 2 And I worked with BJ Fogg for six months. He runs a persuasive tech lab at Stanford on how people change.
And we develop tiny habits.

Speaker 2 You know, what's the smallest thing you can do today that will make the biggest difference? And the mother tiny habit is whenever you go to do something today,

Speaker 2 ask yourself,

Speaker 2 takes three seconds. Ask yourself, is this good for my brain or bad for it? And if you can answer that with information and love, love of yourself, love of your family, love of your mission.

Speaker 2 You're going to just start making better decisions because you care about the organ that makes you you.

Speaker 1 Wow. All right.
Let me unpack this. So, number one, brain envy

Speaker 1 is this idea of actually caring about the health of your brain. And so, do you recommend that you have somebody in mind that you envy?

Speaker 1 Like, clearly, I envy you because you take incredible care of your brain.

Speaker 1 But is it just this concept that you just actually have to wake up and realize that what's in between your ears is the most important aspect of your health and wellness period.

Speaker 1 Is that what you're saying? Yes. And number two, you then said that there are these micro habits that you have developed.

Speaker 1 What are three microhabits that have the biggest impact on the health of your brain other than asking yourself, is this good or bad for my brain?

Speaker 2 So I start every day.

Speaker 2 with today is going to be a great day because once you get the physical functioning of your brain healthy, you then have to program it. So I start every day.

Speaker 2 So why is today going to be a great day for you? Directing your mind, it puts your brain in a positive state.

Speaker 2 And then my favorite of all the habits I do is when I go to bed at night, I say a prayer and then I go, what went well today?

Speaker 2 And I go on a treasure hunt And I actually start from the very moment I woke up looking for what was right

Speaker 2 about the day.

Speaker 2 And I've done this now seven or eight years. And even the night my dad died about two and a half years ago, and it was an awful, awful day.

Speaker 2 I did it because it was my habit, right? The brain is lazy. It does

Speaker 2 what you nudge it to do.

Speaker 2 And so

Speaker 2 it really helped me even in a really hard time. But it's almost my favorite time of the day because like you, I'm busy and great things will happen and I'll just not really focus on it.

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Speaker 2 Well,

Speaker 2 a couple,

Speaker 2 multiple vitamin, a really high quality multiple vitamin, I make one called Neurovite Plus. Brand new study showed people with memory problems

Speaker 2 who were headed to darkness when they took a high quality multiple vitamin within a matter of months, their memory was better.

Speaker 1 What?

Speaker 1 Wait a minute. Hold on a second.

Speaker 1 So You're saying that a high quality multivitamin can not only improve your memory, but if you're sliding on a slippery slope toward memory loss, research shows that it can actually bring memory back?

Speaker 2 Yes, brand new research just came out. They're actually comparing it to placebo and cocoa extract, chocolate.

Speaker 2 And

Speaker 2 they were hoping the chocolate would do it. It wasn't the chocolate, it was the multiple vitamin.
Now, I never make a disease claim with supplements, but

Speaker 2 if this level of B6, B12, and folate

Speaker 2 did that.

Speaker 1 Wow, I'm going to start popping it like candy is what I'm going to do. That's incredible.
So, a multivitamin has a huge impact. I hear a lot about fish oil, too.

Speaker 2 Omega-3 fatty acids have been found to be good for your heart, good for your brain, good for your hair, good for your skin, good for your eyes.

Speaker 1 Why is it good for the brain?

Speaker 2 25%

Speaker 2 of the nerve cell membranes in your brain are made up of omega-3 fatty acids. So if you're deficient, your brain is not going to work as fast and efficiently as it could.

Speaker 2 And low levels have been associated with all sorts of bad things from depression to dementia to ADHD.

Speaker 1 I'm going to sprint out of this interview and

Speaker 1 go

Speaker 1 get this, these, these supplements. I mean, I've been really, I'm sort of embarrassed because we've got a brain that I clearly envy here in Dr.
Amon. And I feel like I am

Speaker 1 really dropping the ball here on my own brain. And so I'm going to report back the next time we have you on about how I feel really religiously taking a multivitamin and my fish oil.
I promise, Dr.

Speaker 1 Amon.

Speaker 1 I want to go into some of the other, I guess, chemicals that you hear associated with the brain and have you explain to us what they are and why they're important for happiness, for brain health.

Speaker 1 Let's talk about serotonin. What is it and why is it important?

Speaker 2 Serotonin is hugely important for many different functions in the brain,

Speaker 2 but for happiness, for flexibility,

Speaker 2 and respect.

Speaker 2 And respect's ones that fools people. But when your serotonin levels are low, you more easily feel disrespected.

Speaker 2 And if you

Speaker 2 have

Speaker 2 a social fight or you feel diminished in some way, your serotonin levels drop.

Speaker 2 And when serotonin levels go low, people tend to worry.

Speaker 2 They get stuck on negative thoughts, negative behaviors. They tend to be argumentative and oppositional.

Speaker 2 And if things don't go their way, they get upset, which on the surface can appear selfish, but it's really not selfish. It's rigid.
And boosting serotonin.

Speaker 2 It's like bright light therapy, which is why it's so important to get sunshine. And while, you you know, as we go into the holidays,

Speaker 2 time change happens just at the wrong time, right? As we get less sunlight and it gets colder outside, we just, you know, then got a bomb dropped on us. Like all of a sudden you lose an hour a day of

Speaker 2 light.

Speaker 2 And light is so important.

Speaker 1 Let me back us up a second. So does your brain create serotonin? Is that like, what is like, what is the function of serotonin in the brain?

Speaker 2 So your gut makes about 90% of the serotonin in your body,

Speaker 2 but it doesn't go directly into your brain. Your brain creates serotonin from the amino acid precursor called tryptophan.
And that's why often eating tryptophan-rich foods like turkey

Speaker 2 can be helpful. You have to eat tryptophan-rich foods with a carbohydrate because you need an insulin response to drive tryptophan into the brain.

Speaker 2 So turkey and sweet potatoes together is a great combination to boost your mood.

Speaker 1 So when you have high levels of serotonin, how does that impact you?

Speaker 2 We tend to be happy.

Speaker 2 You're a little bit less motivated. You sort of don't care that much.
I remember when Prozac first came on to the market, and

Speaker 2 I would give it to some of my depressed patients, and they would say they would be less depressed, but also less motivated.

Speaker 2 Because as tryptophan goes up, dopamine, another chemical we should talk about, goes down. They have this sort of counterbalancing effect.

Speaker 2 So a lot of people who take SSRIs, they go,

Speaker 2 well, I'm happier, but I don't really care that much.

Speaker 1 So, is serotonin sort of the happiness one and dopamine is the motivation and drive one? Is that their relationship?

Speaker 2 Dopamine is the molecule of more.

Speaker 2 It's when you get dopamine, you go, oh, I like that.

Speaker 2 And the problem is, the more you get, the more you want, and then it turns into trouble.

Speaker 2 We are wearing out our dopamine centers in the brain and our society with our phones and social media and the nonstop video games and texting.

Speaker 2 We're being thrilled to death, which ultimately wears out the pleasure centers in the brain. So you have to be very careful.
I often talk to people about drip dopamine. Don't dump it.

Speaker 1 What does that mean? Drip dopamine, don't dump it.

Speaker 2 So you want little tiny piece, you know, little tiny bursts of dopamine, not a big splash. So for example, cocaine, big splash of dopamine, and you go, whoa.

Speaker 2 But the problem is you have none left, and then you get depressed, which then start using.

Speaker 2 Alcohol is the same way. Alcohol dumps dopamine.
Nicotine vaping, dumps dopamine. Scary movies, dump dopamine, falling in love, dumps dopamine.
You want to drip it.

Speaker 1 So, would an example of dripping dopamine include the two microhabits you talked about? One being waking up in the morning and saying,

Speaker 1 I'm going to make it a great day. How am I going to do that? And also, at the end of the day, going on that treasure hunt for what went right?

Speaker 2 Yes.

Speaker 1 Excellent. How can you tell if you have low dopamine?

Speaker 2 If you're tired, if you're sad, and you just don't have the motivation to get done what you want to get done.

Speaker 2 But the good news is even if you've been bad to your brain, by doing the right things, your brain, you know, we call it neuroplastic, it can be better

Speaker 2 even

Speaker 2 in a matter of months.

Speaker 1 Wow. We've talked about supplements.
We've talked about some microhabits. What are simple ways to increase dopamine?

Speaker 2 Cold showers will do it.

Speaker 2 So I just took a shower before I did it, and I always finished with like two minutes. I turned it all the way cold because

Speaker 2 cold therapy has been shown to increase both norepinephrine, another neurotransmitter, and dopamine.

Speaker 1 Any like certain times of day where your dopamine is higher or lower just naturally?

Speaker 2 In the morning.

Speaker 1 And is the same true as serotonin? In the evening. Okay, so to explain that to us and then how we can use something natural to boost it.

Speaker 2 Everybody's circadian rhythm or the rhythm of their energy is different.

Speaker 2 There

Speaker 2 are morning larks. and night owls and you sort of have to know what you are.
A lot of my ADD

Speaker 2 patients are night owls, and society is sort of biased against them.

Speaker 2 You know, because school starts early, work starts early for a lot of people. But you just have to know your rhythm.

Speaker 2 And if your dopamine is high in the morning, that's when you want to focus and get work done. If it tends to be higher later in the day, know

Speaker 2 your rhythm.

Speaker 1 I'm like slightly overwhelmed. I don't even know where to start in terms of like

Speaker 1 how to, how to boost my serotonin naturally, how to boost my dopamine naturally.

Speaker 1 So are there certain things you should do first thing in the morning to keep your dopamine levels high, to stay focused, to promote your brain health?

Speaker 2 So one thing I really like is morning bright light. Okay.
Morning bright light therapy. And you can actually get these therapy lamps, 10,000 lux.
So it's bright. Okay.

Speaker 2 Put it, don't look at it, put it like an arm's length away from you for 20 or 30 minutes in the morning. Super simple, can significantly improve dopamine, your energy, mood,

Speaker 2 and cognitive function. Exercise.
Whether you want to increase serotonin or dopamine, it does both.

Speaker 2 Walk like you're light for 45 minutes, four or five times a week. Super simple,

Speaker 2 bright light, exercise,

Speaker 2 just incredibly helpful. I just turned 68 this year, and it's very clear to me that the stronger you are as you age,

Speaker 2 the less likely you are to get Alzheimer's disease. But it's really for older people, it's frailty that kills them almost more than anything else.
So

Speaker 2 light

Speaker 2 exercise, simple supplements, and no, you can eat in certain ways to boost the neurotransmitters in your brain.

Speaker 1 So when you say frailty and strength, Are you also recommending in addition to the 30 to 40 minutes of walking as if you're late three or four times a week, that you also add in strength training?

Speaker 2 You bet. I think it's absolutely critical for men and for women.
Your muscles are your protein reserve.

Speaker 2 You've probably, you know, seen, you know, one person gets into a car accident and they come out of it just fine. Another one's permanently damaged.
Same accident. Why?

Speaker 2 Because it's the level of brain health. or brain reserve they brought into the accident that often determines the outcome.

Speaker 2 So every single day of your life, from my perspective, every single day of your life, you should be boosting

Speaker 2 your brain reserve.

Speaker 1 Well, that's what I find to be so inspiring and empowering about your work, your research, your message, Dr. Eamon, and all the content that, you know, goes crazy viral on TikTok.

Speaker 1 You are very clear that there are simple things that we can do to train our brains, to make our brains healthier, and that has an enormous impact on the quality of our lives.

Speaker 1 And so, it's not too late for anybody listening to improve their brain health doing these simple things.

Speaker 1 Can we talk quickly about cortisol, like what it is, why it matters to kind of understand what it is when it comes to your brain health?

Speaker 2 So, cortisol is

Speaker 2 critical. It's made by your adrenal glands and it helps us manage stress and deal with inflammation.
When it's high

Speaker 2 because

Speaker 2 of chronic stress,

Speaker 2 chronic negativity, that it actually puts fat on your belly and shrinks your hippocampus, the major memory center in your brain.

Speaker 1 Dr. Raymond, hold that thought.
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Speaker 1 Okay, so Dr. Raymond, what are three things you can do to start to bring down those cortisol levels?

Speaker 2 Meditation, incredibly helpful.

Speaker 2 Prayer for people who do that.

Speaker 2 Hypnosis, I'm a huge fan. I've done it with my patients for the last 40 years.
Having a regular relaxation process.

Speaker 2 And then ask yourself, is this worth killing brain cells for me?

Speaker 2 You know, whenever I listen to people arguing or really focused on, you know, whatever the latest conspiracy theory is, I'm like, is this worth killing brain cells for me?

Speaker 1 No,

Speaker 1 it's not. I know you have a specific breathing pattern that is associated with a calmer mind.
Can you teach it to us?

Speaker 2 I love it so much.

Speaker 2 It's the 15-second breath. So if you're having a panic attack, this is going to fix it in two minutes or less.

Speaker 2 And what researchers discovered is you take twice as long to breathe out.

Speaker 2 As you breathe in, it produces an automatic relaxation response in your body. So the pattern is this: and

Speaker 2 it's four seconds in. Okay, hold it for a second and a half.

Speaker 2 Eight seconds out,

Speaker 2 hold it for a second and a half.

Speaker 1 Will you walk us through it?

Speaker 2 So,

Speaker 2 four seconds in,

Speaker 2 hold it,

Speaker 2 eight seconds out.

Speaker 2 Hold it out.

Speaker 2 And then repeat.

Speaker 2 So let the energy of breathing go lower in your body.

Speaker 2 And if you just practice this on a regular basis, cortisol will go down.

Speaker 2 And you're just going to get flooded.

Speaker 2 with a feeling of calmness and relaxation. Now you got to practice.
You have to create a pathway in your brain of relaxation.

Speaker 1 Why does this 15-second breath work?

Speaker 2 Because it stimulates,

Speaker 2 encourages your brain to go into a parasympathetic state. So there's a difference between stress, what scientists call sympathetic state, has nothing to do with sympathy.
It's a bad word.

Speaker 2 But a sympathetic state is where

Speaker 2 I was on the beach of Corona Del Mar walking my dog, and I saw two pit bulls running toward me.

Speaker 1 Oh my God.

Speaker 2 Oh my God. Right.
So my heart went fast. I mean, it was panic and

Speaker 2 ended up turning out okay.

Speaker 1 Well, what happened? Now I'm on the edge of my seat. Did you pick up your dog? Did they just jump up?

Speaker 2 Oh, no, he's a big white shepherd. Oh.
And I got bit. He ended up in the ocean.

Speaker 2 Yeah, it was sort of a disaster. I still get triggered sometimes.
It is critical to eliminate trauma because I love walking on that beach so much. So I actually did a session of EMDR.

Speaker 2 I don't know if you and I talked about EMDR.

Speaker 2 It's specific psychological treatment for trauma. It's actually really cool.

Speaker 1 You're right. It is really cool.
So I have been doing EMDR for the past two years as part of my work with my therapist on a whole host of issues.

Speaker 1 And in particular, EMDR, you guys, it is super helpful, or at least it has been, for addressing childhood trauma.

Speaker 1 And so what it is, because it's a big long name that I can't even remember what EMDR stands for, but here's what you basically do. You're with a therapist and you revisit something from your past.

Speaker 1 It's super triggering. And as you do that, you then stare at this ball moving back and forth on the computer screen.
And I have no clue why this actually works, but I do know it has helped me a lot.

Speaker 1 And it's so powerful and super cool that I want you to know more about it. And so we're just going to do another episode on it.
That's what we're going to do. But in the meantime, Dr.

Speaker 1 Raymond, I have another question. And it's this.
How do you calm a really busy brain?

Speaker 2 So the first simple thing to do is the diaphragmatic breathing, the breathing pattern that we just talked about.

Speaker 2 The second thing that we haven't talked about, but so important,

Speaker 2 is to direct your thoughts.

Speaker 2 I was 28 years old before I learned. I didn't have to believe every stupid thing I thought.

Speaker 2 And I'm in class when I was a psychiatric resident at the Walter Reed Army Medical Center, and I heard my professor say that. And I'm like, no way.

Speaker 2 Because my mind would torture me. You know, I'm one of seven children.
I was pretty much irrelevant. I have, you know, five sisters.
There's a lot of chaos in my family. And my mind would torture me.

Speaker 2 And

Speaker 2 if you

Speaker 2 start writing down your negative thoughts and just ask yourself whether or not they're true, and there's a whole process I teach my patients, I need to be the director of my mind rather than

Speaker 2 my ancestors directed or the voices of my parents direct it or the news or

Speaker 2 the gossip at work. I need to be the director.
I want to be happy, connected, purposeful. I often go, well, does this thought fit?

Speaker 2 Me being happy, connected, and purposeful.

Speaker 2 And you know, Mel, just because you have a thought has nothing to do with whether or not it's true or whether or not it's helpful.

Speaker 2 you know, everybody has crazy thoughts. Jerry Seinfeld once said the brain is a sneaky organ.

Speaker 2 All of us have weird, crazy, stupid, sexual, violent thoughts that nobody should ever hear. And just because you have a thought, it doesn't say one thing about you.

Speaker 2 It's just sort of, you know, like the weather.

Speaker 2 It's not the thoughts you have that make you suffer. It's the thoughts you attach to.

Speaker 2 that make you suffer.

Speaker 1 I want to ask you a question because

Speaker 1 I want you to talk to the person

Speaker 1 that has never considered that they could direct their thoughts

Speaker 1 or that the things that they

Speaker 1 think

Speaker 1 aren't necessarily true.

Speaker 1 If there's a person hearing this, just like you were 28 years old, sitting in a class when it first entered your mind.

Speaker 1 Other than taking out a notebook and just start to write down the things that are popping in your mind, is there some other way to help someone kick the door open?

Speaker 1 Because this is a

Speaker 1 revolutionary and life-changing concept when somebody first entertains the notion, Dr. Amon, that you can direct what you're thinking about and you can dismiss

Speaker 1 some of the crap that you torture yourself with as untrue.

Speaker 1 How do you begin this mental training and reprogramming?

Speaker 2 So I don't have any tattoos, but if I got one, one of the first tattoos I would get is, is it true? It's just start carrying that question

Speaker 2 around

Speaker 2 in your head. And so when you get a thought, My wife never listens to me.
I've had that thought.

Speaker 2 If you have that question,

Speaker 2 then you don't automatically have to attach to it.

Speaker 2 You can

Speaker 2 talk back to it. We don't have to believe the nonsense that's going on in our head, to sort of begin to think about it like the weather

Speaker 2 and then go, does this thought

Speaker 2 serve me? Does it help me? Is it even true?

Speaker 2 And it's so often the lies we tell ourselves that keep

Speaker 2 us

Speaker 2 overweight, depressed, and feebleminded.

Speaker 1 Yeah, I can give everybody an example from my own life.

Speaker 1 When I was super sick, I started to tell myself this story that my husband, Chris, was mad at me, that he was annoyed that he was taking care of me.

Speaker 1 I was telling myself this story that people were mad that I had to cancel things.

Speaker 1 And all of those thoughts made me feel terrible. And none of them were true.

Speaker 1 And so you're right. I didn't interrupt them last week.
I just sort of marinated in them.

Speaker 1 But I'm realizing sitting here listening to you that I allowed those negative thoughts that were not even true to make me feel bad. What advice do you have for people who are chronically tired, Dr.

Speaker 1 Eamon?

Speaker 2 Well, the first thing is get your thyroid checked.

Speaker 1 Get your thyroid checked. Okay.

Speaker 2 Chronic tiredness can go with low thyroid. It can go with you being anemic.
It can go with you having low iron.

Speaker 2 So, you know, I always think of people in four big circles, biological, psychological, social, and spiritual. And so I'm always going to, so what's the biology of tiredness?

Speaker 1 Okay.

Speaker 2 You know, got an infection. How's your gut health? What's going on in your hormones? You can also be chronically tired because you're filled with automatic negative thoughts.

Speaker 2 So that negativity can drive higher cortisol production and you just feel wiped out.

Speaker 2 You also might not be sleeping well and getting checked for sleep apnea is critical because that goes with chronic tiredness.

Speaker 2 So if you snore loudly, if you stop breathing at night, if you're chronically tired during the day, you should get sleep apnea checked.

Speaker 2 If you're in a conflict with a loved one, that so drains your energy.

Speaker 2 Or if you're holding on to hurts, I'm a huge fan of forgiveness and you know, not holding on to hurts where you're drinking the poison and hoping someone else is going to die.

Speaker 2 And then tiredness and spirituality, I think of purpose. The more purposeful someone is, the more dopamine they have.

Speaker 2 And so,

Speaker 2 really focusing in on, you know, why you're on the planet, I think is a critical piece to energy as well.

Speaker 1 I want to come back to some

Speaker 1 tips and some tools that people can use to start boosting brain health. What are the five best foods that you can eat for brain health?

Speaker 2 Salmon, especially wild salmon for the omega-3

Speaker 2 fatty acids,

Speaker 2 berries, blueberries, I often call them brain berries. So people take

Speaker 2 blueberry extract, X has been shown to improve memory.

Speaker 1 Okay.

Speaker 2 Nuts and seeds.

Speaker 2 People who eat nuts and seeds on a regular basis have a lower incidence of depression and dementia. Leafy greens

Speaker 2 for the fiber and the magnesium. But my favorite one is raw cacao, or, you know, the main ingredient in chocolate.

Speaker 1 Wow.

Speaker 2 I want you to try this. I make brain healthy hot chocolate virtually every day.

Speaker 1 How do you make it?

Speaker 2 And so I get raw cacao. So for each serving, you know, say the serving is like 12 ounces, a heaping teaspoon of rock cacao, unsweetened organic almond milk.

Speaker 2 And you could do it with other nut milks, but I like almond milk. And there's a company called Sweet Leaf that makes liquid chocolate stevia.

Speaker 2 And so I heat up the milk. I mix in the rock cacao.
I put a couple of dropper fulls of chocolate stevia and put it in a blender. It tastes amazing.

Speaker 1 See, I love that there was an ambulance driving by in the background as you, as my and our brain doctor, were telling us to make hot chocolate. That was just a beautiful thing.

Speaker 1 I think that was the universe telling us all we need to have our brain healthy cacao with the stevia chocolate sweetener. I'm actually going to make one when we are done with this.

Speaker 1 What can we do to improve our memory, Dr. Aven?

Speaker 2 Think about this, Mel. 50% of people 85 and older will be diagnosed with dementia.

Speaker 2 Like those are odds I am not okay with. And if you want to keep your brain healthy or rescue it, you have to prevent or treat the 11 major risk factors that steal your mind.

Speaker 2 And I know we don't have time to go in it, but the mnemonic I have is bright mind. So for example, maybe the most important thing, B, is for blood flow.

Speaker 2 Whatever you can do to increase blood flow to your brain, you're going to be happier, your memory is going to be better, and you're going to be more sexual.

Speaker 1 So is that the brisk walking?

Speaker 2 So you want to avoid things that steal blood flow, caffeine, nicotine, being sedentary, having any form of heart disease. And then you want to do things that enhance blood flow.
So walking,

Speaker 2 raw cacao, beets, the supplement ginkgo.

Speaker 2 These things all increase blood flow. Cinnamon, oregano.

Speaker 1 Cinnamon, oregano. Wow, this is starting to sound like a cooking show.
But don't worry, everybody, we're going to put Dr.

Speaker 1 Amon's information, including the information on bright minds, in the show notes because there are 11 of them. And I don't know about you, but I definitely cannot keep track of 11 things right now.

Speaker 1 So Dr. Amon, you've been a psychiatrist for 40 years.
What are five things that you would never do because it's bad for your mental health and your brain health?

Speaker 2 I would never say everything,

Speaker 2 I think.

Speaker 2 Some people come to me and say, oh, Dr. Eamon, I'm brutally honest.
And I'm like, well, that's usually not helpful. I would never purposefully stay up late and screw up my sleep.

Speaker 2 I would never eat everything I want.

Speaker 2 And I would never take medicine just based on symptom clusters. I always want to look at the brain and then target whatever treatment I need to how somebody's brain's functioning.

Speaker 1 Yeah, the one thing I forgot to ask you, this time of year, when it gets darker earlier and it's colder, I

Speaker 1 notice

Speaker 1 my mood drops and I feel sad. What do you do, whether it's because of the time of year or because of chronic stress, you feel this sort of languishing or heaviness set in?

Speaker 1 What are three things that you would recommend that somebody do to boost their mood?

Speaker 2 So morning bright light, exercise, don't overdo the caffeine. And it's really important.
I haven't talked about this yet. Turn off blue light when the sun goes down.

Speaker 1 What is blue light?

Speaker 2 Constantly flooded with blue light. And in the morning, it's fine, but after dark, it's not because it decreases the production of melatonin.

Speaker 2 So you get it from your laptop, or you get it from your phone, or you get it from whatever gadgets you might be looking at.

Speaker 2 And so

Speaker 2 after dark, either put blue light blockers

Speaker 2 on your gadgets or just turn them off and go read a book.

Speaker 1 If you could leave everyone with just one thing

Speaker 1 to start doing today

Speaker 1 to create better brain health, what would it be?

Speaker 2 Whenever you come to a decision point in your day,

Speaker 2 just ask yourself,

Speaker 2 Am what I'm doing good for my brain or bad for it? And if you can answer that with information

Speaker 2 and love, I'm serious about this, love of yourself, love of your family, love of the reason you're on earth. You're going to start making good decisions for your brain, and then everything

Speaker 2 in your life will be better.

Speaker 1 Dr. Raymond, you're so awesome.

Speaker 1 Thank you for giving us very tactical and doable strategies based on research that help us improve not only the the physical and functioning aspect of our brains, but also tools and strategies to help us to start to reprogram the brain and the thinking patterns in it.

Speaker 1 Dr. Eamon, you are a gift.
We so appreciate you. I love you.
Thank you for spending the time with us. Thanks, Dr.
Eamon.

Speaker 2 Thank you, my friend. What a joy.

Speaker 1 What a joy is right. And there is so much that Dr.
Eamon threw at us today in terms of resources and things to do.

Speaker 1 And there's a particular resource that he has for free that I want to make sure you know about. He has a website called brainhealthassessment.com.
I want you to check it out. And here's why.

Speaker 1 There are 16 different brain types. And based on 200,000 brain scans, Dr.

Speaker 1 Raymond has a free assessment that you can take online that based on these 200,000 brain scans that measure blood flow and activity in the brain, he literally can help predict what your brain might look like if it was scanned in one of his clinics based on the most common symptoms that you experience.

Speaker 1 So in less than five minutes, you can discover a comprehensive approach to optimal brain health based on your brain. You can know your brain's risk factors.
Why?

Speaker 1 So that you can actually address it starting today.

Speaker 1 And so I want you to go to brainhealthassessment.com if you want to learn more, if you want to know what specifically you should do for free, and you will get a personalized email report.

Speaker 1 And I believe so much in this, obviously, because Dr. Amon's work has helped my husband.
It has helped me, and I know it will help you. We'll put this all in the show notes.

Speaker 1 You can peruse it at your leisure, your desire, whenever the heck you want, but it's there for you because as you know, the Mel Robbins podcast, we're not just here to listen, we're here to do something about it.

Speaker 1 And one final thing, in case nobody else tells you, I want to be the one to tell you that I love you, I believe in you, I believe in your ability to create a better life.

Speaker 1 And what we both learned today is it does begin with you starting to take better care of your brain.

Speaker 1 That bowl of macaroni that's between your two ears, you and I, we need to start to really pay attention to it. And I hope that you now feel better equipped, I know I do, to be able to do that.

Speaker 1 All right, I'll see you in a few days.

Speaker 1 So, are you ready, Jesse? Okay, great. Here we go.

Speaker 1 Good level.

Speaker 1 Sorry, I'm eating Indian food that I made a month ago and put in the freezer.

Speaker 1 It's hot.

Speaker 1 Okay.

Speaker 1 Do you guys ever get dry mouth? Like, I just feel like I'm having a dry mouth day. You know, it doesn't matter how much water I'm drinking.
It's like dry. I hate that sound.
Hate that sound.

Speaker 1 Don't you hate that sound?

Speaker 1 What did I say? What is that?

Speaker 1 Oh, and one more thing. And no, this is not a blooper.
This is the legal language. You know what the lawyers write and what I need to read to you.

Speaker 1 This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. I'm just your friend.

Speaker 1 I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good.

Speaker 1 I'll see you in the next episode.

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