Fear: The Ghost Standing Between You and Success | #Success - Ep. 02

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Speaker 6 That's kind of repetitive now that I say it. We are in episode number two, and as I told you guys last time, we have rebranded the show to the Russell Brunson Show.

Speaker 6 So I can talk about all the things I'm excited about. And we're going to be rotating through marketing, selling, success, personal development, a whole bunch of fun things.

Speaker 6 And today, we're going to be going deeper into some of the secrets of success. Some of you guys know we have a really cool platform called Secrets of Success.

Speaker 6 In fact, you should go to secretsofsuccess.com and go sign up for the newsletter.

Speaker 6 But today I want to talk about just some of the things that I think are, I don't know, we don't talk enough about those.

Speaker 6 We talk so much about marketing and business and sales and how to go, you know, get the sale, how to write the script, how to do all sorts of stuff.

Speaker 6 A lot of times we don't talk about the things that are actually holding us back. I remember one of the first times I had a chance to hang out with Tony Robbins and, you know, Tony's such a giver.

Speaker 6 You're always like asking questions and stuff. And I can't remember exactly what he asked, but something around like, you know, like how our people are doing, how he could help and things like that.

Speaker 6 And I said, it's interesting i'm like i feel like it's it's weird for me because i'm teaching everybody the exact same tactics right here's the step-by-step ways to do things and i'm like some people have tons of success and a lot of them don't and i don't understand it and it's frustrating me and i remember tony key kind of laughing he's like well it's the problem russell is that you think that um you know success is is all about the tactics i'm like isn't it he's like no no he's like he's like success is like 10 tactical and 90 is psychological it's the things happening between your ears your brain and you know if you're if you uh how confident you are if you're willing to do these things, if you're, if you're too afraid, like all the kind of things.

Speaker 6 He's like, most people struggle with the psychology, not the tactics. And he's like, you're one of the best in the world giving people the tactics.

Speaker 6 But he's like, but the problem people are getting stuck on is the psychology.

Speaker 6 And I remember after that, I was like, well, do I want to come speak at my next Funnel Hacking Live event and help people with the psychology? And luckily he said yes. And he's spoken now, I think.

Speaker 6 four of our funnel hacking live events. And the last ever funnel hacking live is coming up soon, Funnel Hacking Live 10.

Speaker 6 And Tony is doing like a three or four hour long keynote to help, again, help people with their psychology because it's such a big part of of it and so um in this episode i want to talk a little bit more about psychology about the the things in our heads and um when i do these episodes on secrets of success uh i'll probably jump around different topics different ideas but for this one specifically i wanted to talk about a concept called fear how many guys have fear right now you have fear uh fear of success fear of failure fear of all like fear is such a big thing right and um I don't know, I don't,

Speaker 6 it makes me laugh. A lot of you guys know Annie Grace.
She's someone in my inner circle my Atlas group. She helps people overcome alcohol addiction.

Speaker 6 And anyway, we were having this conversation one time. She's like, Russell, I'm convinced that you don't have an amygdala.
Did I say that right? I don't have you have an amygdala.

Speaker 6 I'm like, what's that? She's like, that's part of your brain that

Speaker 6 makes you have fear. She's like, you have no fear.
You just go do things all the time. And I kind of laughed.
And the reality is I do have fear, but I do things anyway.

Speaker 6 And I started thinking about that. And I was like, what can I help people with? That so many people are struggling with fear.

Speaker 6 In fact, I'm curious, for those of you guys listening right now, how many of you guys is fear? That is the thing that's holding you back from sleep.

Speaker 6 Like, you just know, like, you want to do the thing, but the fear is holding you back and it's driving you crazy. If so, that's what this show is going to be about, is actual fear.

Speaker 6 In fact, a lot of you guys know I collect old books, and I got this book in the mail on Friday, and I was going through, I got a whole stack of a lot of books, but I found a new author.

Speaker 6 Again, I'm always looking for really cool authors in the personal development space. I love like the years, like 1897 to like, you know, 1920.
That's the window that I love the most.

Speaker 6 And so this is an author named Dr. Frank Crane.
If you watch the YouTube versions, you can see here's a copy of the book. And I was going through, I got like 10 different booklets from him.

Speaker 6 And this one said fear on the front. It's got this big picture with, I don't know, snakes and a crazy mask.
And so, for you know, it kind of jumped out at me.

Speaker 6 So I always like to browse through all the books I get just to get ideas. And the intro of this book was so cool.

Speaker 6 So I'm going to share this because this is probably where some of you guys are at right now. So it's called Fear by Dr.
Frank Crane. And this is what he said.

Speaker 6 It is safe to say that no good work was ever done in fear. Until you have struck the shackles of fear from your hands, you can do nothing.

Speaker 6 Until you get the grip of fear loose from your minds, your brain is not efficient and you cannot remember well, think straight nor imagine constructively.

Speaker 6 Until you purge the poison of fear out of your heart, your emotions, instead of giving you power and pep, will cause you only shame and confusion. Fear is your greatest enemy.
It is a ghost.

Speaker 6 It is nothing at all, but it is no less terrible for all of that. It is the ghost that knocks the cup of success from your lips when you are about to drink.
Oh, I love that.

Speaker 6 Imagine you got a cup of success you're about to drink. It says,

Speaker 6 fear is the ghost that knocks the cup of success from your lips just when you're about to drink.

Speaker 6 It is fear that reaches out its ghostly hands to strangle you in crisis just when everything depends upon you.

Speaker 6 It is fear that tangles your feet, hangs down like a millstone around your neck on your journey, dims your eyes so that you cannot see the truth, roars in your ears until you cannot see the music all about you, fevers your blood, unstrings your nerves, and pours its senile impotence into your cup of life.

Speaker 6 You have one big battle, that is to conquer fear. That done, the world is yours.
Your own will come to you and the stars and their courses will fight for you.

Speaker 6 Like, what a cool introduction about fear. So fear is the enemy.
That's what we have to beat. That's what we got to figure out how to dominate.

Speaker 6 And so I want to talk about that during this episode because,

Speaker 6 again, for some reason, I have the ability to plow through fear. I don't know exactly why, but these are some of the reasons, some of the lessons I've learned along the way.

Speaker 6 I've got four of them here to kind of walk through, and hopefully one or two or all four of these simply help you guys in your journey so that the cup of success will not be knocked out of your lips as you're about to drink success.

Speaker 6 Because I want you guys to be successful in all areas of your life, in your business, your family life, your personal life. And so that is kind of the goal and the game plan.

Speaker 6 Okay, so let's jump right in to ways to overcome fear. And this is not an exhaustive list.
Maybe I'll do an episode two later of some other things.

Speaker 6 These are just the first four I want to talk about today that I thought were really impactful and important. All right.

Speaker 6 Number one, you guys ready for this? Number one is I want you guys to understand that fear and excitement feel the same. Okay.
Now, the first time I really understood this,

Speaker 6 Again, you guys know I do funnel hacking live. It's a huge event.
We have 5,000 people.

Speaker 6 And for whatever reason, every time I'm about to walk out on the stage, I get so much fear and anxiety where I'm sweating. I'm shaking.
I'm nervous. Like my stomach's just like in a knot.

Speaker 6 And I'm like, it's all these things, right? And it's funny. People always, you know, the other speakers at Funnel Hack Live will come back and they'll be nervous.

Speaker 6 And they're like, so Russell, when do the nerves go away? I'm like, I don't know. It hasn't happened for me yet.
I've been doing this for 20 years. I still get nervous every single time.

Speaker 6 And I remember I would talk to people. I'm like, oh, I'm so nervous.
I'm so anxious. I hope it goes well.
I'm like, I have all these things.

Speaker 6 And I remember one time, this is like, man, probably four, three or four years ago, Annie Grace was, again, here's another Annie Annie conversation, but Annie was speaking on stage and she saw me backstage.

Speaker 6 She's like, how you doing? I'm like, I'm just nervous and excited. And like, all right, I'm nervous.
I'm like, my stomach's tied knots. And, and she pulled me aside.

Speaker 6 She said, I want you to understand something. She's like, if you look at like what happens inside your body, when you are nervous, you have fear.

Speaker 6 And when you're excited, it's literally the same chemical reaction inside your body. Okay, the only difference between

Speaker 6 fear and excitement is the meaning you are attaching to it.

Speaker 6 And she's like, instead of when you're going out and saying, I'm nervous, I'm so nervous, I'm scared, I'm nervous, like the thing, she said, just change it, say, I'm excited, I'm excited, I'm excited.

Speaker 6 And I remember like, at first, I'm like, that's too simple, that's not going to work, you're crazy.

Speaker 6 But that day later on, I was about to go on stage again, and again, all the butterflies and the nerves, I'm like, ah, and I just, I stopped a second, I was like, I'm excited, I'm excited, I'm excited, I'm excited.

Speaker 6 And what's crazy is like, it felt like excitement. And I was like, huh.
I was like, I'm so excited. I'm so excited.
I'm so excited.

Speaker 6 But it changed, like, just by changing the meaning of the feeling inside of my head, it changed the experience.

Speaker 6 Then I went on stage and it was like, oh, I didn't have, like, I was still, I still had fear, but I changed it to excitement and it, like, the fear and excitement felt the same, right?

Speaker 6 And so that was really interesting. It's changing the meaning.
And so for me, now it's interesting.

Speaker 6 Whenever I'm going into a situation and I feel the fear, and you guys know, I don't know what fear feels like to you, but like for me, it's like this knot in my stomach. My hands start sweating.

Speaker 6 I'm like cold. It's like a cold sweat or am I cold? I shake, almost shaking sometimes because I have shivers, but like I'm also sweating and I hate that.
I hate that feeling. And I just just change.

Speaker 6 I'm like, I'm excited, I'm so excited, I'm so excited, I'm so excited. And it's crazy how just changing the meaning and reattaching the meaning will shift the entire experience for you.

Speaker 6 I remember going to Tony Robbins' date with Destiny, and you know, if you haven't been to Date with Destiny yet, it's amazing.

Speaker 6 I went, man, it's probably 14 years ago now because Colette, we just found out she was pregnant with our son Aiden. In fact, we hadn't told anybody yet when we were date with destiny.

Speaker 6 And Aiden's now 14.

Speaker 6 So we're there at Date with Destiny, and Tony starts talking about how we have to become masters of the meaning that we attach to things and he talked about how what happens in in our brains is like our brain is always looking for meaning right so anything happens it's trying to attach a meaning to it so in the future when that thing happens then the meaning just shows up like in real time subconsciously boom it's there and the meaning shows up right so you're walking downstream someone punches you in the face right first time you punch in the face you're like what what's happening like you don't know what's happening right and your brain quickly starts creating a meaning for that.

Speaker 6 So in the future, you get punched in the face and all of a sudden someone punches in the face, like you instantly, like your subconscious jumps directly to like, this is is a fight.

Speaker 6 You know, I'm angry at this person. You come back at it and you're able to be combative with them instantly, right? Because the meaning is there subconsciously.

Speaker 6 It just shows up the second you need it. The problem is that most of the time, like our brains don't always attach the right meaning, but it always starts showing up that way, right?

Speaker 6 And so what Tony talked about is like if somebody punches you, you have to stop for a second. And like the first meaning is going to be negative.
It's going to create a fight and a battle, right?

Speaker 6 Versus stopping and saying, okay, someone punched me. What's the situation? Let me quickly attach a meaning, but let me figure out the situation before I attach a meaning to that thing, thing, right?

Speaker 6 And by shifting the meaning, it changes the experience, right? Maybe the person hits you because you were in the way and the fire was coming in. They're trying to get you out of the way, right?

Speaker 6 And if you stop for a second, it gives you a window to like to actually change the meaning. Now, punching is probably not the best example of that.

Speaker 6 One of the other things, this was a really cool exercise. This was like life-changing for me, actually,

Speaker 6 at the same date with Destiny. I remember Tony,

Speaker 6 he wanted us to think about an experience that we had recently

Speaker 6 that was hard for us. I still remember for me, like what the experience was.
My wife and I had had an argument that morning and then we're both down at Date with Destiny.

Speaker 6 You know, we're sitting in different areas of the room because you're supposed to sit away from your spouse. And so we're sitting there and they said, pick a situation that made you mad recently.

Speaker 6 So I was like, oh, I know exactly what it is. He's like, right that the top of the

Speaker 6 pad of paper, right? And it's like, then draw a big line down the middle. It's on the left-hand side.
He's like, I want you to write every single meaning that you attach to that experience.

Speaker 6 And I was like, oh, well, she doesn't love me. And she's blah, blah, blah.
You know, I was like, you know, and she's whatever. And I worked out all the different meanings that I had attached.

Speaker 6 And it was funny because it felt good.

Speaker 6 I was like, oh, I'm angry about these different things that the meanings I was attaching to this thing, this situation that Clint had gone through earlier that morning, right?

Speaker 6 And so I had a whole list of them.

Speaker 6 And then Tony said, okay, now I want you to do is on the other side of that line, I want you to look at the thing you wrote, and I want you to write the opposite, okay?

Speaker 6 So instead of like, Clett doesn't even love me, it's like, man, she loves me so much that. whatever, right?

Speaker 6 And then I figure out the next, the next meeting, and then he's like, have you written the opposite? And so I'm writing the opposite of every single thing.

Speaker 6 And at first, I was like, I'm like, this this is so stupid and I write the first one the second one and by the third one I had like that light bulb moment where I was like oh my gosh and I remember actually breaking down in tears and I was like

Speaker 6 I was like all the meanings I attached to that situation that I thought were real subconsciously they showed up like

Speaker 6 right all the things all of a sudden stopped it was like none of those meanings were real and I looked at the opposite and I was like that's probably actually true like Clet's scared she's nervous she has fear she has these things right and it was the exact opposite meaning and uh and that was like life-changing for me um and you know learning from tony was like you have to become a master at at meaning like attaching the correct meaning because um two different things can happen and the different meaning you attach will change everything in fact i remember one story he told how he told a story about there were two people who had come to i don't know if it was date with destiny or upw I can't remember exact details and I'll probably mess the story up but the the the um hopefully the the story like the the meaning behind this will hopefully come out correct but he said that there were two people who were both at a UPW and both of them had served in Vietnam, I believe.

Speaker 6 And

Speaker 6 both of them at Vietnam had friends who were shot and had died while they were there, right? And they had a chance, they had witnessed the death of their

Speaker 6 like one of their friends in Vietnam. And he said what was crazy is that now this is like whatever, 30, 40 years later, one man was very successful, had a lot of really positive things happening.

Speaker 6 One person had a really horrible, really hard, really bad life. And he was interviewing both of them.
And he said that

Speaker 6 the thing about both of them 40 years earlier, whatever it was, both had had almost the exact same situation happened, right?

Speaker 6 Both of them were holding a friend, got shot in Vietnam.

Speaker 6 Both of them held their friend while they had died in their arms and just had this thing, right? And one of them attached the meaning that

Speaker 6 I can't believe my friend died. People are so cruel.
This is what human beings, this is what human beings are like, right? And attached that meaning.

Speaker 6 Where the other friend said, man, I can't let my friend die. Life is so short.
I got to make sure I live to the best of my abilities, right? And so, like, same situation, different meaning.

Speaker 6 And now, you look 40 years later, like, how different

Speaker 6 those two experiences.

Speaker 6 Like, one person was because they're like, Man, life is short, I got to make meaning, I got to like have relationships, stuff like it built this beautiful life because of that situation, where somebody else said, Man, people are bad, people are cold, people, people are ruthless, had built a whole different thing, right?

Speaker 6 So, it's looking at these two completely different situations, all based on the meaning that was attached, okay?

Speaker 6 So, fear, like, number one here is like we have to become really good at attaching meaning correctly.

Speaker 6 And so, when you have fear, fear just realize that like the the um the what's happening inside your body the chemicals the feeling all that kind of stuff is the same with fear and excitement and only different is the meaning you're attached to the very first thing is learning how to attach the correct meaning to something okay If you attach the meaning to fear, you're going to be fearful.

Speaker 6 It's going to take you on this path. If you touch the meaning of excitement, it's going to make you excited.
It'll take you down a completely different path.

Speaker 6 So step number one is changing the meaning from fear to excitement. Okay.

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Speaker 6 Step number two, you have to become okay with the worst case scenario.

Speaker 6 I see so many people get stuck inside of fear because they're scared to death of the worst case scenario.

Speaker 6 Now, the story behind this, I remember I have a friend, his name's Chad Woolner, he's a chiropractor. And Chad,

Speaker 6 I met him probably over a decade ago now, and he's a great chiropractor, came out of chiropractic college, you know, worked for somebody for a while, and he wanted to start his own business, started his own business, launched it, you know, did all the, he bought the...

Speaker 6 bought the chair and the the office and like spent a lot of money building out his practice and he tried to launch it and it wasn't going really well and he kept trying different things to market it.

Speaker 6 He was trying, he was running different ads, like all sorts of stuff, and just struggling and struggling and struggling. And we became friends during this time, so we got to know each other.

Speaker 6 We would talk about business back and forth a little bit. And then one day, I got the call, right? It was probably 10 o'clock at night, maybe 11 o'clock at night.
And he called me. He was in tears.

Speaker 6 He's like, Hey, I've tried everything. He's like, We're about to go bankrupt.
Like, I can't afford the bills. No one's coming in.
He's like, Dude, you're the best marketing guy in the world.

Speaker 6 You're my friend. Do you mind just like coming in? Let's just like, like, give me, like, tell me what you would do if you were in this situation.

Speaker 6 And I was like, oh man, man, you know, no stress, no, you know, I was a little nervous. I'm like, yeah, I'd love to.
So we go to his office, I guess, like 10:30, 11 o'clock at night this time. And

Speaker 6 I think he was waiting for me to wave some magic wand. Like, oh, here's the secret funnel.
Here's the secret thing. And I started asking him questions and things like that.

Speaker 6 And what I realized is that he was so stuck with fear, like fear was so tight that he was not able to move forward. And

Speaker 6 I realized after talking to him for 15, 20 minutes, I was like, I don't have a secret marketing thing I can give him.

Speaker 6 But I was like, what I can give him is like, he has to become okay with the worst case scenario. I said, and I told him stories about myself.

Speaker 6 I had the same thing where until I was okay with the worst case scenario, I couldn't move forward. I said, okay, well, Chad, what's the worst case scenario?

Speaker 6 Let's say that like this whole thing collapses and like business fails. Like,

Speaker 6 what's the worst case scenario? He's like, worst case scenario, I go bankrupt. I was like, hey, write that down.
You go bankrupt. I was like, hey, what does that mean? Like, what's the word?

Speaker 6 I can do a bankrupt. Like, what's so bad about that? He's like, well, if I go bankrupt, then, you know, my, I don't know, I can't remember what my in-laws will think less of me.
Okay, write that down.

Speaker 6 In-laws. I'm like, if I go bankrupt, I'll lose my house.
I can write that down. You lose your house.

Speaker 6 And I'm going to, you know, have to go and like I'll have to move to a different area of town maybe different city to move and then your kids won't go to school they're going to kids don't go to school and like we list out every single one of the worst case scenarios if he goes bankrupt what's the worst case scenario and we sat down I had this whole list of everything I said okay now we got to go through these things like number one you go bankrupt you lose your house I'm like I mean or if number one's bankrupt like number one you go bankrupt like like who cares the founding fathers of our country gave us the bankruptcy laws so that entrepreneurs would have the ability to risk like most successful entrepreneurs I know have gone through bankruptcy at least once a couple of multiple times before they became, before they had success.

Speaker 6 So worst case scenario, you're like all the other great entrepreneurs of all time and you went bankrupt. I'm like, are you okay with that? Like, could you survive if you go bankrupt?

Speaker 6 He's like, okay, like, okay, I could do that. Right.
And I go to the next thing. Okay.
Next thing is that you're going to lose your house. I'm like, who cares?

Speaker 6 Like, your house is, I'm like, your house is great, but like, there are better houses. Like, you lose a house.
Like, you know, we went through like, okay, if you lose houses, I'm okay. Okay.

Speaker 6 They went through the in-laws and then went through, like, went through every single thing. The time we were done, I was like, okay, so worst case scenario, all those things.

Speaker 6 Are you okay with those kind of, those, those worst case scenarios? He's like, actually, yeah, I guess worst case, like I can deal with all those things.

Speaker 6 I'm like, okay, now, like, now you look at the worst case scenario. Now you got to run forward as fast as you can, right?

Speaker 6 Like, I took, like, again, most people are so scared of the worst case scenario that they can't move. Like, the fear is just tight, like, like, grab them, they can't move.

Speaker 6 And it was interesting because.

Speaker 6 After that, it was cool because then he started running and then he, he literally saved his own for action. It wasn't like some marketing secret.

Speaker 6 I just helped him to, like, to overcome fear, like to to be okay with the worst-case scenario.

Speaker 6 Um, I think a lot of people, it's like you know, the worst case scenario, you're trying to think about it, trying to be positive, you'll think about it, so you just like you block it off so it doesn't come out there.

Speaker 6 And it's like, instead, you gotta stop and look at it directly and stare it in the eye, stare that fear, stay that worst case scenario in the eyes, look at every single thing, list them out, write a piece of paper, every single thing, and then you come okay with it.

Speaker 6 Worst case, I get that, I get that, I get that, okay, I'm okay with that, I'm okay with that. And you go through all the worst-case scenarios, and it's like, okay, I can deal with that.

Speaker 6 Now you're free, now you can run forward. Okay, another good example: if you guys guys have seen um the third Batman

Speaker 6 the one with the banes in it

Speaker 6 There's a really cool

Speaker 6 story if you I mean all that Batman nerds you know we talk I'm talking about like

Speaker 6 Where Batman like bane breaks his back and throws him in this pit where you know only one person's ever escaped from the pit and they have to go and they have to like

Speaker 6 If you remember like you have to like climb up this thing you have to jump to try to like climb out of the the pit but everyone who tries falls and they and they fall to their death or they fall and they break their, you know, whatever.

Speaker 6 And no one's ever made it except for one person's only made it. And so Batman's trying for a whole bunch of time, trying and trying and trying.
And every single time he fails.

Speaker 6 And I can't remember, it's been a while since I've watched the movie.

Speaker 6 But basically what happens then day is he realizes he's like, the rope, so what he would do is he tied a rope around his waist so that worst case scenario, if he jumped and he missed it, he wouldn't die, right?

Speaker 6 So he keeps jumping and like falling on this, from this rope and it's just like jacking his body and everything.

Speaker 6 And so finally he realizes, in fact, I think they asked like the one person that actually escaped, what did they do? And so they jumped without the rope.

Speaker 6 And so he decides he takes takes the rope off and he goes last time he jumps and he actually makes it right and what happens is like that that thing that the worst case scenario that thing holding him back right the rope that was there to protect him um kept him from leaping as hard as he needed to go when he didn't have that rope and he had to go 100 right because there's no other options then he succeeded and got out of the the pit okay the same thing's true with us like we have to like cut the rope look back worst case scenario i'm okay with that and now we can go forward okay so step number two to be to really smash fear is you got to become okay with worst case scenario.

Speaker 6 And this is hard. A lot of times it's looking at those things like man that would suck.
That would be horrible. Okay.
But if it happens, I'm going to be okay with that. Right.

Speaker 6 You got to become okay with the worst case scenario. Okay.
All right. So that's number two.
Number three.

Speaker 6 Number three thing, and I actually heard this, Sean Stevenson is a friend I had who passed away a couple years ago. He was a speaker and he used to speak at big events.

Speaker 6 And he actually spoke at the second ever funnel hacking live. They called him the three-feet giant.
He's this little tiny dude. He's awesome.
I miss Sean. He was

Speaker 6 one of the coolest guys ever. But anyway,

Speaker 6 he did a course on public speaking. It's just a great speaker.
And I remember listening to it. And he said something that at first,

Speaker 6 it's funny because at first it bothered me because I, again, I would always speak at stage. I still got nervous, still got nervous.
And he said something in his presentation, or the course he had.

Speaker 6 He said that if you have fear when you're speaking, he's like, the problem is that you're focusing on you and not them. He's like, when you're focusing on your audience, you're not going to be scared.

Speaker 6 When you're focusing on you, that's when you have fear right because you think about that like when fear is coming it's like I have fear because what if I make make a mistake or I look stupid or I decrease my status or like all these different things right all the things you're happening that's creating fears because you're focusing on you you you you you you you right he said when you're focusing on them and the audience how do I serve them how do I help them like and you start shifting your focus from you to them then fear goes away and I remember again I was I I hated that.

Speaker 6 I did not want to believe him because I was just like, no, I still get scared. Like, I'm focusing on my audience.

Speaker 6 I'm focusing on serving them, but I didn't realize it for a couple years that how right he was.

Speaker 6 When I shifted from like, I want to give a really good presentation so that I look good, so people talk about me to like, all right, these are my people. This is who I'm called to serve.

Speaker 6 How do I, how do I get through them? How do I help them? How do I serve? Like, what are things am I going to get?

Speaker 6 Like, I'm so focused on them, understanding and getting the thing I need to get from them. When I shifted the focus to that,

Speaker 6 the fear, the anxiety lifted, and it changed everything. So

Speaker 6 understanding that if you are still feeling those fear, it's because you're worried too much about you.

Speaker 6 In fact, it's one of the worst case stares, right? Like, I'm going to feel stupid. I'll lower my status.
All those kind of things. Where versus shifting to like, okay, I'm building a business.

Speaker 6 I'm speaking. I'm doing whatever the thing is you're trying to do.
Like, it's about them. It's about the people I'm serving.
And you focus on that and shift folks from you, it goes away, right?

Speaker 6 Think about it. Like, if you were to listen to

Speaker 6 all the stuff in your head that's going crazy when you're trying to do something, right?

Speaker 6 All of the all of the chatter in your brain, if you actually stopped and started writing out what you're doing, like, what's the chatter? She's like, what if I look stupid? What if I trip?

Speaker 6 What if I, whatever? What if my words don't come out right? What if I talk too fast? What if I stumble? What if I blah, blah, blah.

Speaker 6 You know, it's like those things that's causing the spirit anxiety versus like, I'm here. I'm a, you know, I'm a conduit for God.
Like, I'm supposed to talk and share with some of these people.

Speaker 6 I'm just going to focus on them, and the right things will show up. And, you know, if I mess up, like, you know, you make that shift, it's crazy.

Speaker 6 And so, whenever you have fear, start focusing more on the people you're serving than yourself, and the fear will subside okay now number four

Speaker 6 this one's gonna be a little hard for some you guys

Speaker 6 sometimes you gotta do it scared sometimes you gotta do it through fear okay that feeling is gonna be there right it's gonna keep showing it's gonna keep popping up sometimes you gotta do it scared and it's hard um the key to this though is like practice practicing and practicing and practicing i think about this like um

Speaker 6 Like again, I thought it was funny that that Annie said that I've got a no amygdala like she's like you have no amygdala how you're able to say go you have no fear i'm like i have fear um but the reality is like i've i've stepped into the fear so many times i stepped into the fire so many times that i'm okay with it right i think about myself like i was a i was a wrestler growing up right i was a wrestler in college in high school and college i was a state champion in high school uh i was an all-american or an all-american in high school uh ranked in the top 10 in college um and so you look at that like Every single year, I would have, you know, during the season, I have 40, 45 matches.

Speaker 6 During the off-season, I have 100 matches. I have like 150 or so so matches a year for a decade.
So that's like, what, 1,500 or so matches before every match? So much fear.

Speaker 6 So much like consistently, every single night, especially like wrestling good guys, you all look across the thing. You see that, and like, literally, both guys are warming up.

Speaker 6 We're staring at each other, trying to stare each other down, trying to act all tough, trying to, like, you know, just try to intimidate the person. You come out and shake their hand, trying to be

Speaker 6 intimidating, right? The whole time, here's like so much fear and anxiety, right? I remember before a match, like, I get so sick in my stomach. I'm warming up.
I'm stretching.

Speaker 6 I'm still looking at the other guy. It's just like all the thing.
But as soon as they said your name, all right, Russell Brunson, you're matted number two.

Speaker 6 And like, and then the match in front of you gets done. Like, like, you had to walk out.
You didn't have an option, right?

Speaker 6 Like, the guy gets pinned, the match ahead of me gets over, and also my name pops up on the screens. It's like, I have to go.

Speaker 6 So in wrestling, I'm taking my, you know, I have a single out underneath my sweat.

Speaker 6 So I take my shirt off, take my, my sweatpants off, and I walk out there, and I shake hands, and the whistle blows, and you go. There's no, there's no like waiting.

Speaker 6 And, you know, it's like, you have to go. I think about this.
I don't know if you guys do cliff jumping.

Speaker 6 I used to do a lot more of it until last time, we were at Pirates Cove for my Atlas group and I jumped off a 40-foot thing and smacked my ear and I couldn't hear it.

Speaker 6 Anyway, I had all sorts of weird things. So I probably don't cliff jump now very much, but when I would cliff jump, this is what I found.
Like

Speaker 6 in Pirates Cove, if you haven't been there before, it's one of the best places, but there's this big pirate house, it's insane. And in the middle of it, there's this big, huge pool at the bottom.

Speaker 6 And then there's this pirate mast that goes up about 40 feet. And so you have to climb up this mast.
You're climbing it, you're climbing, it gets higher and higher.

Speaker 6 And then there's like, there's three levels, and then the top lever is called the crow's nest. And there's a big, like fake skeleton guardian crow's nest that says, you can't go beyond this point.

Speaker 6 Do not go up here. And so like to get past it, you like climb behind this thing where you're like dangling, barely holding on to climb past this like big skeleton warning you from going up there.

Speaker 6 And you climb into the crow's nest at the top. And you get up there and you stand up there and like the wind blows and this thing is moving like rocking back and forth and back and forth.

Speaker 6 You look down, you see this huge pool of water way down at the bottom.

Speaker 6 but the pool seems so tiny like if i jump and the wind blows a little bit i'm gonna smack into the rocks right like it's that kind of scary thing and what I found is like if I stand up there the longer I stood up there looking the harder it was I stamped there it's like oh my gosh I'm gonna die I could hit that I could hit that I'm so nervous I'm so scared and like and I had times I sat there for 10 15 20 minutes I couldn't go because it's just like so much fear so much anxiety was like

Speaker 6 right what I found was like if I was gonna go cliff jumping I couldn't think about it So I would go, I'd climb, I'd climb, I climbed to the crow's nest, I'd get to see the skeleton, I'd climb behind it, get up top, I'd get up top, so I looked over the top, I had to jump.

Speaker 6 Like if I thought for a second, it would just slow everything down, right? I had to do it scared. I had to do it anyway.
I just had to go, right?

Speaker 6 The longer I sat there thinking about it, the harder it was to do. The wrestling was nice.
I had no time to think about it. Like, as soon as it pops up, like,

Speaker 6 Russell Brunson, you're up, like, I had to go. There's no way I can, I couldn't just wait inside the mat, like, oh, I'm nervous.
Oh, I'm nervous. I'm nervous.
But it's cliff jumping.

Speaker 6 I can sit there being nervous for a long time, right?

Speaker 6 Same in the ice bath. Somebody gets ice bath.
Okay, ice bath is one of the worst things in the world and one of the best things in the world at the same time, right?

Speaker 6 It's so, I don't know about you, but it sucks every single time. And so when I pull the top of my ice bath off, i totally take my shirt off and get down to my to my uh whatever um

Speaker 6 if i if i hesitate for 10 seconds then i'm hesitating for 10 minutes right but as soon as i as soon as i take my shirt off pants you know pants come off i got my tidies on or whatever and then i just got to go i have to go immediately in and if i do that then i'm fine but it's like if i hesitate for 10 seconds is it's over okay and so for i've climbed up jumping off cliff i can't hesitate ice baths i cannot hesitate um also i started doing peptides this year any guys doing peptides if you haven't peptides are amazing there's so many cool use cases but i'm taking peptides for two or three things the only problem with peptides is the peptide you have to give yourself a shot okay i am scared to death of needles so the very first time i give myself a shot i get my peptide get my thing in there i check it all out and then um you can give shots different places i'm gonna give this i'm gonna give a shot in my stomach so i pinched my little stomach and i sat there and i was like oh

Speaker 6 okay took me over an hour took me an hour to sit there just to like finally do it and i was like that was horrible and i gotta do it again tomorrow Okay. So tomorrow I got down there.
Same thing.

Speaker 6 I'm waiting. I'm waiting.
I'm waiting. You know, five minutes, 10 minutes, 25 minutes.
And my wife's like mocking me. She's like, Russell, you're such a wish.

Speaker 6 She grabs her, boom, shoots it in two seconds. She's done.

Speaker 6 And so for me, I was like, okay, I got to do this scared. I just got to do it.
The longer I wait, the longer, you know, the more painful it's going to be. And so I thought about cliff jumping.

Speaker 6 If I, if I get up there, I just have to jump. Ice bath, as soon as I'm able, I jump right in, right? Same thing with this.
So for me right now, I've got peptides.

Speaker 6 I go and I fill up the syringe, I turn it around, I put the alcohol Wi-Fi in in your stomach and then boom i just jam it in instantly i don't think and then when i don't think fear there's no fear no chance for fear to show up okay and so sometimes you got to just do it scared you just got to do it like stop thinking and worrying and all that kind of stuff right

Speaker 6 and so those are the things i wanted to share with you guys again there's a lot more things uh to overcome fear but for me those are the things that that have meant the most okay so number one understand that fear and excitement are the same feeling cycle or not psychologically but inside your body chemically inside your body it is exact same thing things happening and you got to become good at attaching the correct meaning changing the meaning from fear to change it to excitement and that will like that's a huge simple thing you can do number two you got to become okay with the worst case scenario look at again making a list of all the worst case scenarios if you fail what does that look like look at all of those and go line item by line item by line item becoming okay with it worst case scenario i can do that worst case scenario i can do that i can live with that i can live with that and as soon as you're okay with the worst case scenario it'll unbind you and give you the ability to move forward number three understand that fear all comes when you're focusing on you you you you, right?

Speaker 6 And in your business, in your life, if you're focusing on who you are serving, it'll take that fear and it'll take the pressure off when you start focusing on them and not focusing on you.

Speaker 6 And then number four, sometimes you got to do it scared. You got to go out there and just jump off the cliff, jump into the ice bath, give yourself the shot, take the thing, just do it.

Speaker 6 Just don't sit there thinking about, thinking about, like worrying about it, right? You just got to jump. And it's going to be uncomfortable, but it's the thing.
It's the secret.

Speaker 6 It's the thing that's going to get you to be successful. So those, you guys, are those four things.
Those are are four ways to overcome fear that I think will be helpful.

Speaker 6 Those are the core four things I do. Again, we'll probably do fear episode number two someday in the future, but those are the core, the core things.

Speaker 6 It all came again from me reading this book, Fear, by Dr. Frank Crane back in, I think this is published in

Speaker 6 1921. So I believe that all the best writing happened from like the 1900s to 1920s.
Like that's kind of my, that's the era that I love the writing the most. But

Speaker 6 just

Speaker 6 a couple of things again for me. It says, until you purge the poison of fear out of your heart, your emotions, instead of giving you power and pep, will cause you only shame and confusion.

Speaker 6 Okay, so we got to purge the poison of fear out of our hearts.

Speaker 6 It says, this ghost of fear is the thing that knocks the cup of success from your lips just when you're about to drink, right? Don't let it knock the cup of success. Just go and drink it.

Speaker 6 Again, don't hesitate and wait and wait. That fear, you're going to miss your shot, right? Just take the drink.

Speaker 6 And then this is...

Speaker 6 This is, it pours its senile impotence in the cup, in your cup of life, right? Like, that's how bad fear is. It It says, you have one big battle is to conquer fear.
With that done, the world is yours.

Speaker 6 Your own will come to you and the stars and their courses will fight for you. So overcoming fear, you guys, it is the key.
Because again, like Tony Robbins said initially, right?

Speaker 6 Like 10% of this is tactical. Like you guys have my books.
I got dot-com secrets, expert secrets, traffic secrets. That's all the tactics you need, right? It's the psychology.

Speaker 6 It's like getting rid of fear so you can do the thing is one of the big keys a lot of us are missing. So with that said, you guys, I want to help you guys overcome fear.

Speaker 6 So I hope these four things helped. Feel free to listen to this episode again to go through those things and start going through them, right? Figuring out how do you attach different meanings.

Speaker 6 What's the worst case scenario? I got to become okay with that. How do I shift my fear focusing on me to focusing on them? And then how do I just do it scared?

Speaker 6 How do I just jump off the cliff, jump into the ice, whatever it takes for you just to do it. And when you overcome those things, it'll change everything for you.

Speaker 6 I hope you enjoyed this episode of the Russell Brunson show. I almost said the Marketing Seeker Show.
This is episode number two, all about fear. And I hope you guys enjoyed.

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