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What you got going on, Leg?

Well, today I did my annual mammogram.

Let's ladies of a particular age, unless, you know, breast cancer or anything like that runs into your family, then you go sooner.

But

I had to go and get that done and taken care of.

And it was so uncomfortable.

When I tell you, like to have yourself in the machine, you have to be still.

And they take your breast and squeeze it with like literally squeeze it.

Two pieces of like machine come down and squeeze your breast so they can get the breast tissue.

I mean, we have to do it once a year, but it's super uncomfortable and doesn't feel good.

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You know, but it's something that has to happen.

So in this women's month,

take care of yourself.

It's a good thing that you're doing that, Lick.

Thank you.

Thank you.

And thankfully, breast cancer doesn't run in my family.

So it's still precautionary.

But at the same time, I need to know what's going on with my body.

So have to stay on top of it

once a year.

Okay.

And you just put it in my mind.

I need to schedule all my doctor's appointments.

I'm a little behind because I've been traveling and doing the most, but I need to to schedule my appointment.

So thank you for that reminder.

Welcome.

Yeah.

I got to schedule my dentist appointment.

Yes, every six months.

All right, y'all.

So let's get into the T.

I'm ready to dive into it.

First of all,

have y'all seen this whole interview with Young Miami and Shannon Sharp?

Yes.

First of all, I love the whole interview.

I thought she's so entertaining.

She's cute.

And

I don't know.

The questions he was asking was like so on point.

But the one thing that's really got the internet in a frenzy is she basically said that she would allow, you know, her guy, whoever she's in a relationship with, he has four chances to cheat.

So she wouldn't leave.

We cheated one time, two times, three times.

She would say, not till the fourth time would she be like, all right, I'm done.

So a lot of people are like, okay, that's real.

Like, cause, you know, men going to do what they do.

So like, why would I leave a good man?

He runs out, makes a mistake or whatever.

But a lot of people are like, nah, like, that's crazy.

Why would you like out loud say that?

Like four times is a lot to let a man disrespect you like that.

So what's y'all take on that?

Well, first of all, how old is she?

I don't, I don't, I don't count the times.

I mean, you know, there are situations.

you know, there's temptation out there, but I look at

how you move.

Just

I'm not counting the times.

If you, you make your mistakes,

it has to be to a point where I'm just fed up and enough is enough.

Like, I'm not

counting, oh, it could be

there's no number two issues shit with someone and you know things happen.

I'm not going to count.

Oh, you cheated one time, you cheated two times, you cheated three times.

It's, it's basically how the respect and how you move.

Like, if you're just out here moving reckless and just cheating and it's just known and it's just embarrassing and it comes back to me, then that's a different story.

But me counting to get out of a relationship.

No, I'm not.

I'm not.

That's just my opinion.

I'm not counting it.

So it depends on how he moves.

So say he was cheating in peace and quiet.

Nobody knew but you.

That it's different.

We'll talk about it.

We'll speak on it.

It's just cheating is not going to be the main reason of why I,

why I have a relationship.

But other people know about it.

It's not about

the cheating.

Like cheating is not my main

deal breaker.

Cheating is not going to be my deal breaker in a relationship.

It has to be a little bit more than just cheating and how you move and how the relationship is.

It's not just going to be cheating.

Okay.

I think for me, it's like when I was younger, I would tolerate more just because I was learning myself.

I was a little like not confident in my, how I'm moving or feel like I was going to lose out on this person or let me just bend to their rules.

So like, I feel like now being older, I look at the cheating as disrespectful.

habitual, distracting, like very behavioral and very much of your character.

So like, depends on like of the intention intention and where we're going and want to take this relationship.

And we both have this open dialogue of

this open dialogue of just really like, what are your boundaries?

What are your insecurities?

What are your deal breakers?

That's what I'm set on.

And I know now going forth in these relationships that I don't want that.

I don't want to feel like I have to be looking through your stuff.

I don't want to feel like I need to be hearing on the word on the street.

Just all these things.

I want to be set in that situation where I'm not even thinking about that we should be thinking about what we're investing in what else are we doing what's our next date night what vacation we're going on you know it's not really supposed to be about the cheating but you can you can think about

you can think about that and still somebody can still just i mean they just go out and cheat they go out and have like again people look at at relationships like it's so perfect like people can say oh i couldn't do that i wouldn't do that meanwhile you're men out here having a whole nother relationship you know screwing off on yeah

everybody else and you don't know and you think you have a perfect relationship so like you say you're not going to focus on cheating that's why i said it's it's not a number it it takes more to end a long-term relationship especially if someone that you're in love with it takes more than just cheating i just say whatever the boundaries are but if you go i feel like For young Miami to make this statement like four times, like I'm allowing it four times.

I feel like that means you're going into a relationship and you're putting it out there that cheating is okay.

As long as you only do it three times, because the fourth time I'm done.

So I just feel like that's a very like interesting take on relationships in general, because I feel like you get into relationships because you want to commit to somebody.

fully like you want to commit to them in a way where they're not dealing with anybody else like sexually emotionally whatever so once you make that commitment

if you're going into it saying, okay, well,

I know they probably gonna cheat, but they only got this many times before, you know, I'll stay, like, before I leave.

I feel like you're setting yourself up to have a relationship fail.

Yeah,

you know, and it's like basically saying, like, you don't deserve a relationship where you won't be cheated on, where the other person can't commit to you.

Like, you don't believe that you can attain that relationship, like that, it's not real.

Like, you think monogamy doesn't, it doesn't exist, basically.

It's like you're setting yourself up already, you know, especially if you're putting it out there.

Yeah, they have enough energy.

You went on this big platform with Shannon Sharp, and you told the world that I'm going to stay with a man until he cheats on me for the fourth time.

So it's like, I'm sure she has a lot of men who are interested in her.

So now they hear this and they're like, okay, cool.

Like that, I can get with her and I can do whatever I want.

I just got to make sure she don't find out four times.

Like, you know what I mean?

Like, it's just,

even though it's like, we all go into a relationship, we all want the same thing.

We all want to be able to trust in somebody.

We all want it like, and I mean,

I'm not saying like it's,

like, I don't want to sound like naive or like a hopeless romantic or whatever, but I feel like we should still like.

for our own sanity and like as women and our respect, like we shouldn't go into relationships saying stuff like this.

Like we should believe that we can be with somebody who's going to respect us.

And, you know, but things happen, like you said, Sherelle, like, you know, people make mistakes.

And I understand like she then may not be like the end all be all for people.

You know what I mean?

But I feel like we still as women

as men should have a standard.

I agree.

And if you don't want that, then don't be in a relationship.

And if you feel like you don't deserve that, then that's a whole nother thing and a whole like we need to go to therapy and we need to you know what i'm saying like it's a whole thing i feel like it's a self-love thing like i would never put that into the universe like i'll go be with a man and i'll i just wouldn't put that energy into the universe like of course i i don't think like cheating is like the end all be all but like i'm not going to sit there and be like well he got this many times i just feel like that's just not the energy you should put out into the world that's not what you want for yourself so why even say that?

You know, it's to each their own and what they can tolerate, what they want to deal with, how what their relationship looks like.

I mean, for me,

being married, being divorced, being cheated on, being whatever the case may be, I am not tolerating it in my situation.

If I'm being intentional with you, I'm setting those boundaries, those values, those, those railings up ASAP.

Like, this is what I'm not tolerating because I've healed through that already.

I know where the flags are.

And And especially

I'm just not going to, I'm not tolerating it.

So you feel like you can find a man that's just going to be fully faithful.

Yeah.

100%.

100%.

And going back to what Ashley says, throw that out there.

Why would I want to say I want a portion of a man?

I want a portion of a partner.

No, it's not saying you want a portion of a man, but it's just expectations.

Like, I just feel like

I I want them to live in that truth.

People live in that truth, but no one is perfect and things are going to happen.

But would you just, you, so basically, if you find out a man cheated on you, you're done.

Absolutely.

It's not for me.

So, Sherelle, you don't feel like

you're being realistic if you go out into this world as a single woman looking for a man who

can commit to you and you only.

Like, you feel like like that's not being realistic it's not i'm just being honest it's not why sweet the bar so low

it's not setting the bar low it's realistic it's real no

i want i want more i want more i want more it's majority men who want the same things like you just had them nothing and those men

Name a man that's that's that has been straight up faithful.

Name one.

I'll wait.

that has never changed

no i don't know that i don't i can't name it that's not what we're talking about but what i'm saying

i

what i do think it it's realistic to want something from somebody and yeah you should want it for other people but that was my question that i asked alexis i asked alexis was could she find a man

that will be faithful to her fully.

And if he did slip out, she's done completely.

And she said, she's done completely.

So basically, if he cheats one time,

whether it's physically or emotionally, she's out.

Because this man is going to spend time with me.

He's going to be intentional.

He's going to be sent from God.

And I know for a fact, he's going to know where my heart is and know where my mind is.

And it's a lot going on over here.

You know, like, don't, you know, we're penetrating souls.

And so once you start intertwining all that, putting my health in jeopardy, my mental health in jeopardy, I just know this person, whoever my person is, is going to know who I am and know that is the non-negotiable for me because I've healed my way through that.

That is a, that was a dark spot in my life.

So it's triggering, you know, so how dare that person that I'm spending time with, that I'm building with, that I'm like want a relationship with, that I'm loving on, that I'm being romantic with, how dare them disrespect me with one of my non-negotiables?

That's not my person.

I feel like, especially at our age, if you looking for somebody who wants the same things that you want, if you're putting those intentions out there, I feel like there's less of a,

maybe less of a chance, you know what I mean, that it could happen.

But if you're going into a situation saying, I know I men cheat, you're probably going to end up.

Yeah, those are your intentions.

Those are the vibes that are creating your situation and your relationship.

My question, not

my thing that,

right, my thing is not what I'm trying to get at with Alexis is people make mistakes.

And her thing was

her biggest boundary: if you cheat on me, I'm done completely.

What I'm saying is, people do make mistakes.

No, you don't go into a relationship saying that all men cheat or all women cheat.

No, because you're basically putting it into existence that it happens.

What I'm saying is, no one is perfect.

And nine times out of ten, most relationships, they look for just

100 like faithful but things happen to people and it and veers them away in relationships the biggest thing is cheating is not the the downfall in my relationship it takes more because things are gonna happen but i would not just end a relationship just because you cheated it it's just more so my question to alexis was so you're non-negotiable basically if he cheated on you one time someone that you are in love was he cheated on you once you're completely done Yes, that's not my story.

I'm not agreeing with Carisha or anything.

That's not my portion.

That's not my legacy.

That's not my destiny.

That's not in my spirit.

I'm not a cheater.

I know that

you're looking for it.

No, it's not.

It's not an option for me.

I'd rather have open dialogue and let me decide what I'm going to do with it.

Don't go behind my back.

Don't be doing the sneaky stuff.

If we locked in, we have this dialogue of what it is that you are trying to do with me, Alexis.

You know, y'all know my stance on even having multiple relationships, like Polyamor's.

It's not for me.

I want someone, and I know I'm going to have someone that's locked in with me fully.

Now, it's just not, it's just not, it's non-negotiable.

Like, do you all think that emotional cheating is different than physical cheating?

Yeah, I definitely think it's different.

They're both the same.

They're both the same.

I think they're both wrong.

I feel like women tend to do like emotional cheating.

Emotional, it's worse.

I was going to say,

I feel like emotional

physical cheating, though.

So it's like, yeah, if you're, if somebody, if, if somebody is interested in somebody else emotionally, like physically,

especially for a woman, because once you get their heart and their mind, like their body is going to follow.

Right.

So I don't feel like men can, you know, go have a one-off with somebody and like they don't think about them, call them or anything after that.

So yeah, I would probably say emotional is worse,

like Sheryl said.

That's what you say.

But

yeah, what if you found out that your friend's man was cheating?

Would you tell your friend?

Or would you keep it to yourself?

Well, we need to establish what a friend is first of all.

What type of friend is this?

Exactly.

Yes.

Okay.

This is a friend.

Y'all aren't the best of of friends, but y'all, you know, y'all are social friends.

You go to dinner.

You've had some private conversations before.

That's none of my business.

I'm staying out of it.

Okay.

What about you, Lego?

That's a tough one.

I feel like if we have a better relationship, friendship, then I need to say something, especially if I broke bread with this couple, especially if I've had, you know, dialogue and we're in the same room of just a few people.

I'm going to have to say something, especially because if I'm out and it sees something inappropriate, again, being someone that has been married and again, with my cheating tolerance and all this thing, I just will feel some kind of way holding that in and

will take the repercussions.

Nine times out of 10, women do go back to whoever, you know what I mean?

So then the friend is always the one that's asked out.

So low-key, if it's not a, if it's not a friend that I would risk losing, then, you know, I'll just say it.

You know what I mean?

But if this is somebody that's like my sis, I got to say something because it's violation.

Right.

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If it's a best, a close friend, I'm definitely saying something.

But if it is someone that's a social friend, I'm not saying anything because I don't know what the situation is.

I don't know if they have an open relationship.

I don't know if this person are just, you know, they have a private breakup and, you know, we don't know about it.

So I stay out if you're not close to me i'm not in your business that's just what it is because you it's just it's too much confusing and drawing my act like i don't see you and mind my business and drink my water i have definitely seen some people's husbands out in these miami streets okay

did you say something did you say something no

No, no, no, no, no.

I am not getting into that.

And it wasn't like a close friend of mine.

So I didn't feel obligated at all.

but I did want to run up on him and be like, I seen you.

Like, I see you.

Do you know, like, we can see you.

Like, you know what?

I'm due for a pull up.

Like, I'm okay with pulling up.

That little while.

Hey, how y'all doing?

I'm definitely going to make the situation very.

It's telling you.

And I don't feel like if I see you outside, too, it's like, if you're that bold to be outside with another woman, I feel like.

Frank girl, she probably know.

Like, she probably knows something.

You know what I'm saying?

If you have the audacity to be outside, like in our hometown with another lady,

she knows already.

You know what I'm saying?

So I definitely wouldn't, I wouldn't say anything.

But yeah, that is a tough situation too.

Like y'all said, it depends on the situation, how close you are with that person.

Because like Lex was said, nine times out of ten, that person is going back to them.

And they're like, you don't know what they can say, man.

They lying.

They did, they did.

You done got yourself caught up in the mix.

Close friend, baby, I'm gonna have proof.

Maybe you'll record, take pictures, do my little research.

Girl,

so that video record, send a drink over.

I gotta have the proof because, because you know, they're gonna lie, so you gotta have the nigga.

I'm like, uh-huh, you gotta take a picture of me.

You need some evidence.

Yes, you gotta have the evidence.

Doing the detective work.

Yeah, no,

I'm letting somebody know.

I have to, especially if that, if that's my girl, we gotta, we gotta have a discussion.

You know, yes, yes.

Okay, well, next topic.

So we recently saw LeBron in Zuri hanging out together, going on a date night.

And

there was also future that was singing at his daughter's Sweet 16.

So what do you guys think about like this?

Just,

I think we just want to like really acknowledge our humble zaddies, daddies you know just in general of just like how our black men and just men in general of stepping up and just really like being a force their families what do you what do you guys

I'm gonna add one more to it because we didn't highlight shout out to Chad like Chad did something and

you know what that's why you my that's why you my dog he took all his girls on a trip just daddy and daughter time I love that and I just I just loved it all his daughters they went to Dominican Republic, spent time with them, took them on excursions, like the whole nine yards.

Like, he really had the photographer there.

I felt a little jealous.

I was like, oh,

I loved it so much

because I was, you know, I was like, okay, I see.

Like, they were so beautiful.

They were dressed alike.

He had the photographer.

He just made them feel like queens.

So he was set.

I love a father that just set the standard.

So shout out to all the humble daddies out there.

Yes, I agree with that.

Yeah.

Yes.

Kudos to Chad.

Like he is a girl's dad.

Like I saw him out there posing with the girls.

Super cute.

Super, super cute.

I saw Futures

Daughters Sweet 16.

It was like a little mini rolling loud.

He had all the Martha Travis.

Red.

I think

he performs.

I was like, I'm County.

Like it was lit.

It looked like she had the best time.

so the daddies are showing yeah it's it's necessary you know we need help with guys

when it's necessary takes two to have these babies in the first place and so it's it's actually been beneficial for me to really like

like since I have my speaking of my kids are with their dad right now for spring break so I have I can do way more work at home.

I can do whatever I need to do.

I can travel.

I can move around.

So it really is giving me a break, low-key, because we need that.

We need to like recalibrate our minds and our in our spirits and our energy and so like low-key has been helpful that he takes that on and so it's like shout out to you know blended families too because it definitely takes a village and um i think that's what i was i was gonna get into i was i mean to cut you off alexis

how would y'all feel if okay some a father-like future he has how many kids

i don't know

That's a great question.

Maybe let's say, like, maybe six or seven.

I don't know.

You have, you have some fathers that go above and beyond for some kids.

And then some of the kids, they just don't do anything.

You mean like in families or just in general?

In the blended families, like, okay, they have like several baby mamas.

And okay, for this child, I'm going to do all, I'm going to go all out.

But

for this child, because I hate that baby mama, I'm not even in that child's life.

That's a turnoff for me.

Like in this day of like, you know, in this day,

he had in this day of just dating, if I see that you're not talking about your children and I know you have them, like if you're not involved, if you're not trying to schedule things and really be mindful of these children, then it's a turnoff for me.

I'm like, what's going on?

That's not attractive.

That means you have no time management.

That means you have no like regard to your blood walking on earth.

So it's an immediate red flag for me if you are, you have children and you're not talking about it, like I want to get to know you, I want to know who you are.

Like, if you have little people walking around this earth, how involved are you?

You know, the more involved, the sexier that is.

Like, you know, so I mama sees asking me,

What you leave me off is the child is celebrating.

What'd you say, Boo?

Now the continent.

It's okay.

Not a time zone.

No.

No, what I was saying is it just, you can't take it out on the child.

That's that's what I don't like.

Like, you knew what you was doing when you were doing what you was doing.

And then now that, you know, they kept the baby now that that child is coming into this world without a father figure and you're treating the child wrong.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Right.

Yeah.

And I feel like we see this a lot, honestly.

And it's very, very unfortunate to see it.

And I feel like it's, you know, always

It's a big, big difference.

It's not like some kids and it's mainly our people.

It's unfortunate.

Yeah.

Like we see like them doing the grandest things for some kid and then some kids get nothing.

Like it's, it's crazy.

And I wonder like, you know, how that ultimately like

affects the children.

You know what I mean?

Like they feel like, you know, they're less than the other kids.

Like,

I'm sure like, you know, that's going to do some damage, some long-term damage.

Absolutely.

That's that's it's heavy.

And you want to be open and have that.

You just want to be open and have that dialogue for sure about who you raise in, who you not raise in.

You know, it's all rooted and stimulated from just how you were raised too.

So it's, it's crucial when you're legacy building.

And shout out to Future.

My bad.

He has four kids.

Thank you for our check on that.

You know, they put him out there.

I thought he has more than one.

I thought he had more than one.

I thought he did too.

I guess the fact checking is this for.

So, right?

Is that right?

No, it shouldn't.

No, I think he has more.

Yeah, I don't know.

I don't know about that fat chick.

Yeah,

it's fine.

We don't have to.

But shout out to all the others out here representing because we definitely need to see more of that.

Shout out to Big Phil.

He's always holding it down to me so I could be here doing the humble baddies podcast.

He's, you know, taking care of the kids right now.

So

shout out to you, boo.

Do you all think with parenting

what parenting do you think you it's different raising boys ash compared to like us sherelle you and i we have a we have boys and girls so do you think like it's a difference of influx with the father raising boys compared to like raising the girls in general ash

like what do you think i'm just curious

Is it a difference?

What?

Like having an either?

Ash,

what's the question?

I just feel like, I just feel like, as far as with

fathers, they're more

lean on their girls than the boys.

The boys, they're going to be hard.

They're going to break, you know, they have, that's that soft spot.

I don't know.

I feel like,

you know, I am a girl's dad.

No, I'm a daddy's girl.

I'm sorry.

I am a daddy's girl.

and my dad was very strict on me like he he did not play but i was still a daddy's girl even up until like i was grown like my dad was very strict on me you know like when i got pregnant he stopped talking to me for

a month or two you know because we weren't married yet my dad did the same thing

yeah he had these expectations of me you know what i'm saying so but i do feel like having that strong father's presence in my life really did shape the woman that I am today.

And it shapes like, you know, my preference in men.

So,

and then now that I'm a boy's mom

and, you know, my husband is very hands-on with my children, I can see, you know, how his.

presence, him being so, because a lot of people, you know, they have their fathers around or their husbands around helping with their children or whatever, but they're just kind of there.

They're not really like fully present.

Like the mom is very much like the default parent or whatever they call it.

But like Phil is very, very hands-on.

And I can, and I can see how his presence in their life is, you know, shaping them into the young men that they are.

So I do think like having a man, a man in the household absolutely like makes a difference in like raising your children.

And I know it personally from, you know, being raised by a a two-parent household and now raising my own children in a two-parent household um

but when it comes to like

you know the difference between raising boys and girls all i got is boys right now and thank gosh yeah because i just feel like i wouldn't know what to do how where to start and raising a little girl and y'all are doing amazing like y'all daughters are beautiful they're so smart they're so respectful you know they're everything that i would want a daughter to be because in this crazy world that we're living in right now and all these outside um influences like i just don't know how i would you know maneuver and do everything um so kudos to y'all because y'all are the best moms y'all children are amazing and y'all don't always have somebody else to help you and support you in the way that you need you know the typical way you know so y'all are killing it so y'all tell me child i would have to get get notes from y'all on how it is raising young women these days it's definitely not easy but it's i feel like look when serenity come over

would you say phil and uh fox raising serenity

i know

thing

it is so cute when serenity comes over the boys absolutely

into different little boys.

I'm like, oh, y'all do know how to be gentle.

Oh,

they be giving her a hint.

Like, mom, we want a sister.

Oh, okay.

They're like, let's do some practice.

They can hint all they want, but it's not happening over here.

Okay, honey.

It is locked up.

Okay.

Not locked up.

Locked up.

Not playing them games.

Yeah.

No.

The baby making factory is shut down over here.

Okay.

absolutely not so y'all bring y'all daughters over so we can get our little daughter time in because that's all we're gonna get

the scars

i love it i love it i love it

well speaking of daughters did you see where felicia rashad was on the breakfast club

and she

you see that they were tapping into her great would you say

I said that was a great interview.

Yes, it was.

Did you see where she was talking about how there's an influx of how there's a nudity with our young queens

and the influence on Hollywood?

So since we're talking about the ladies and growing them up in a certain kind of way, what are you guys' thoughts on that?

You know, I feel like she's like the auntie, like not even the auntie.

I feel like she's grandma, honestly.

Not saying because she's old, but like she still has that old school like mentality, old school like upbringing that's kind of like we don't get that as much anymore but she's like one of the last few left that's like here and like we listen to and we respect and we appreciate and so i think she's just coming from like that old school style of like you should be covered and we should you know there's a certain way that a lady acts and talks and you know there's something that we all can like take from that because we're slowly like getting away from all of that.

And, you know,

I myself,

you know, I like to be naked most of the time when I go out.

Like my face and,

you know what I'm saying?

I like to show a little ass and titties here and there, you know what I'm saying?

You know, I'm going to be like pushing the limits with my outfits, you know what I'm saying?

But I feel like that part of me is coming from a like woman empowerment.

I feel like maybe she might be old school in her thinking.

You know, I feel like now women feel, you know, powerful and strong and confident enough to come out and wear whatever they want to wear.

And Noah doesn't mean like we're out here having sex with everybody.

It's just we're confident in who we are.

We like how, you know, we look.

We love our bodies and we're confident in it.

So I think there's truth and a lot of wisdom in what she was speaking on.

But I also think,

you know, we're in a new day and age and we're taking control of our bodies and our choices.

And,

you know, I don't think there's anything.

That's true, Ashley.

I'm with you on that.

I feel like there's a

there's a point where you just

draw the volume.

Like you can, you can still be sexy, show some skin and be classy with it.

But then there's, There's that point when you get to Bianca Kanye Weiss,

whatever his name, Kanye's wife.

Like, I would never go to that line.

But to show skin, show legs, I like showing, you know, my body, my curves and everything, but still in a respectful way.

There's left goals to it.

Yeah.

I agree.

You know, I tell my...

children and really my daughters specifically because they show their bodies more often obviously than the boys do but i feel like you know we're in that age of female empowerment, self-love, self-empowerment, improvement, health journeys, whatever it is to make you confident.

And so I feel like their generation is very old school and very much set in their ways.

And they're like, it's a little bit of, I don't want to say jealousy, because I don't want to give them that, but it's almost like, whoa, they can talk how they want to talk because they were basically censored.

We can move how we want to move.

We can wear what we want to wear.

We can travel.

We don't, we're choosing not to have children.

We're choosing not to get married.

So we're just in these stages of really, who of really just projecting our authentic selves.

And that's trickling down to my children because it's like, they're so much more confident than I was at that age to where they know what they're wearing.

And then also when you're adding like spirituality or religion to it, they're so smart where they know, well, I want to be more modest around this person because it's older, older people, like the elders are around, or I'm in this setting, or it's more professional or whatever the case may be so it's about teaching them about balance and really much how to carry themselves but i love that both you know my my daughters and my sons are very confident in who they are their bodies because it's hard out here social media has made it extremely difficult for our children that's the difference too in the generation

My mom is like, she can see that on Facebook she's a Facebooker.

So like Facebook is more like post of these are the this is the family and this is graduation whereas like instagram is instant gratification you can buy things enhance things in the quickness and so it's like we see that being able to touch both generations but our younger ones are very much in the space of just more open more honest about who they are and it's the colors it's the text it's the piercings it's all these things and they're the rebels you know what i'm saying and i'm here to embrace it i love it express yourself.

Yeah.

You know?

No, I agree.

But

I feel she feels like she has this duty and responsibility to speak with wisdom and come from this whole place.

You know, like she's always been like the black representative.

Like everybody looks to her,

you know, as an example, as a role model.

You know what I mean?

Like she

bears that weight of generation.

our kids don't know who that is yeah

exactly exactly

so i mean times are changing um

you know we can still respect her her views and take something away from it um but yeah she's just part of that old school mindset and there's nothing wrong with that i think we need to keep that you know

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What else?

What else?

What else?

What else?

But yeah, you're raising boys.

So is there, what if they brought home a girl, Ash, that, you know, just came and had like,

you know, a little bralette on and,

you know, some little shorts or something.

And

you know, how would you feel if they brought a girl like that to the crib?

You know, I feel like

it depends because right now I'm very much in control of who they're around.

You know, I'm very much in control of like who their friends are and everything.

So

I know that's not always going to be the case, but I try to, you know, steer them in a direction of like, these are the kind of women that you should be interested in.

And, you know, I honestly am, I feel like I would be open to arranged marriages.

Okay.

I'm trying not to go that far.

So you know the family, you know, this little girl, you know, their background.

And we make an agreement with the family, like, hey,

son, you got a daughter.

You know what I'm saying?

So I'm all about like,

right now I'm just trying to steer them in the direction of like, this is what, you know what I'm saying?

He should be going for.

But I know that may not be like realistically what happens.

So, you know, I wouldn't judge the girl,

but you're going to be hard on yours.

I'm trying, I swear to God, I'm trying not to be that mom.

Like, I don't want to, like, I feel like I went through some tough times with my mother-in-law.

So, I'm very much being as conscious and like intentional about how I treat my future sons

interests, love interests, or whatever.

But I definitely am trying to do my part while I can to like steer them in the direction of where I want them to go.

Yeah, I feel like we have to.

That's what wearing is.

So if they buy home somebody in somebody.

They believe the opposite.

Maybe, possibly.

But if they buy home somebody in like a skimpy outfit,

I mean,

I would try to show them that,

I don't know, I would be nice to the girl.

But I might explain to them why this choice may not be the best.

Is there there something wrong with that?

No, you're going to base it off clothes, Ashley.

I mean, no, I wouldn't base it off clothes, but if she's like

fast

and she's wearing them clothes, then yeah, I'm going to be like, she's fast.

I would be too.

There's layers to it.

You're right.

Yeah.

Leave it up to my daughters.

They'll be like, we heard or we, that's not a good one.

You know, mine will chime in and add the little two cents.

I don't know.

Like I said, I'm a big old school with it.

I want to know who your mama is, who your daddy is, who your auntie is, what church you go to.

You know what I'm saying?

Like, I'll predict.

Well, what perhaps she can say, well,

Miss Willard, you wear it.

I think you wear it.

That family history.

I'm going to be like, I'm grown and I'm married.

You're trying to get to where I'm at.

So, you know what I mean?

I don't know.

I feel like she may not say that to me.

I feel like that's disrespectful.

You don't talk to a grown-up like that, first of all.

I don't like that.

So, she already out.

Next.

I might be bad.

Lord, Jesus.

I might be bad with them.

I don't know.

We'll see.

I'm going to let y'all know.

But I'm trying not to be.

I'm trying not to be.

Do you think Hollywood has made it hard on our young girls?

Like with what they have to wear and just a little pressure of like instant, fast fashion.

Oh my God.

I couldn't imagine being like a young teenage girl right now like when we was in high school like you know we tried it like we might change our shirt or something

yeah you know but now you gotta have like the 30 inch bust down you gotta have makeup you gotta have lashes you gotta have nails like you gotta have a body you gotta have a bust

Exactly.

So listen, listen, y'all.

It's not the same.

When I was in school, I snuck some clothes in my backpack to change.

It was this little skirt with this little tied-up top.

My teacher called my mom so fast, my mom came up there and told my behind up.

I was in third grade.

She was like, I raised you better than this.

I thought I was trying to dress like a little Uchi.

Third grade.

Straplica.

Oh, my God.

But I didn't dress like that.

I just, I wanted, I wanted to, I was trying to be like one of them little other girls that I was not.

My teacher was not.

She was like, she was like, Your mama, I know the Alex.

Your mama raised you better than this.

She called my mom.

My mom came up there and told my behind up.

Yeah.

Well, it's more than just the clothes now.

You got to have everything.

You got to have the designer outfits, the designer bags, the jewelry.

You got to have the bancliffes and the cartiers.

You got to have everything now.

So,

I mean, these little tents.

Do you think music has done, it has a big influence

like the music industry in general?

No, I think it's social media.

Yeah.

You know, influencer, influencing,

everybody making it like all these things are so attainable and you should have this or you're nobody.

You know,

the social media.

Yeah.

Are we are we holding our men in a

different media?

Do you think we're holding the boys at a different standard than the females?

I mean,

I think

boys and men have their own things too, like that they're pressured by and to do and to attain and all that.

But I think it...

I think it's probably harder on the girls.

Just from hearing like my friends dealing with like their teenage daughters and the things they go through.

I think boys are a little bit more simpler, but they do have their things.

But I think it's mostly like

harder on the girls.

I think, you know, boys still want to be cool, you know, I think there's still like a lot of bullying and stuff that could happen.

But

I don't know.

I feel like it's hard to be a teenage girl right now.

I don't like my son.

I don't like my son in the, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to cut you off.

I was saying, I don't like my sons in like hoodies

all year round.

It'll be hot outside.

They on the scooters with these hoods, the hood down here, or um, the push ices, they call it when they have like the ski mask.

Oh, yeah, my son loves that too.

No, I have to get on him, like, not wearing that.

Yeah, it's hot outside.

We're in Miami,

and also we're in a stand-your-ground state.

Oh,

what'd you say?

Is that

what you say, Real?

I think she, I think she might have

frozen up on us in the other time zone over there,

right?

But yeah, you know, so I think I do hold a standard with my boys a certain way, just for like things like that, just in these streets and how they carry themselves.

I want to make sure they have eye contact, things like that.

I guess that would be the only difference.

I don't have to

worry about them not wearing certain things besides that.

What are you about to say, Rhea?

We still can't hear.

It's okay.

Okay, so let's move on.

I want to talk about

Megan Goode and Jonathan Majors.

They retire the knot

and are officially married.

They are.

Yeah, so I mean, I feel like all of this happened pretty fast.

Like,

it was like when we found out they were together, we were like, oh, okay, interesting.

Cause he was going through his whole legal battles with the white lady and everything and it was a whole thing and he lost all of his deals he had like movies coming out and he had major like deals that got taken from him and it was a whole thing and megan majors she um not megan big well she is megan majors now megan middle

his coretta his coretta

yes um she was right by his side through it all and we was all kind of like side eyeing it like

this is cute but but it's also weird right

you know like people were questioning like

you know why because he had said some some weird thing right their whole relationship was kind of like under scrutiny then they got engaged all of a sudden and now they're married yeah

so he was recently doing some interviews and said that because she decided to stand by his side through all of his legal troubles, that she lost a lot of endorsements.

And let's talk about that.

I mean, how, how do you feel about, you know, potentially, potentially, potentially, potentially,

you know,

messing up like some business deals that you have going through for somebody, like for a love interest?

Like, how far would you go standing by somebody's side?

Do you agree that she should have been there through it all?

Or should she have waited till he was done with all his legal issues?

Should they have kept their relationship private until all of that was done?

Mike, what do y'all think about that?

I would have

kept the relationship private until it was all done,

especially with the situation.

Megan is Megan.

Megan is that girl.

So I feel like, you know, now that they're married, people go through things, people have done things, and people rebound from them.

And she chose spook love over money.

And I feel like

it's a genuine relationship and

it's only up from here for them.

I look at it like this.

I mean, you can't help when you fall in love.

Can y'all hear me?

Yes.

You can't help when you fall in love with somebody.

I mean, whether it was fast or not, I don't know.

They should have definitely kept their relationship private.

But at the same time she was supporting him showing up to trial you know right there just supporting him and being vocal about it and that's what a wife is essentially is through sickness and health richer for poor that's that's do its part so she's definitely obviously has made an influence on him and got him through a difficult time.

And it's somebody, you know, that you want to invest your time in and your last name in and really being the having the union of a marriage.

You, they went through such a, just a like a turbulent time early and that probably is what made him more attracted to her and ready to like lock it down just because he was like yo she stood by me when i was at the lowest and that's a testament to her too of the fact that she is willing to bring this this man up you know what i mean so like i'm sure that was the ultimate for both of them to be like you know what i got your back i'm doing these things more than a friend you know what i mean and then so we built this foundation it definitely was a little tough, but we went through it.

We got through it.

And here we are.

So, I mean, I think it's beautiful, you know, in its own,

definite way, definite, like a weird way.

But at the same time, I get it as far as you know, you just take your love with the good and the bad and the ugly.

But about messing up the coins is tough, though.

You know what I mean?

But she'll get it back.

Yeah, I would say, I would, I would say, you know, I really feel like

their relationship relationship has been so public from the start.

And

I feel like it was a little unnecessary.

I just think that he was going through so much, you know,

in the public.

Like,

I don't know.

I feel like

I wouldn't have.

come out in public with him.

Like, I feel like they could have

kept it private.

Yeah, I feel like I would have kept it private because

I just don't understand

why they needed to go public.

Like their relationship moved really, really fast.

And so to me, it's like he's clinging on to her in a time that he really needs somebody to cling on to.

What are his motives?

Yeah, and not saying like their relationship isn't real or nothing like that, but it's just clouded by so much,

you know, and everybody's just, I don't know i just feel like i will want our love to not be overshadowed by all the other things that he had going on and then on top of that to like lose business endorsements and deals and stuff like that on top of that to me it just doesn't make sense like i feel like we have to be smart like yes we can be in love you know what i mean but like we should still be smart about what we're doing and who we're attaching ourselves to publicly.

Like, like you said, Sherelle, like, she's that girl.

Like she's making good.

You know what I mean?

Like,

I just don't understand why you would attach yourself to him so publicly, so fast.

You just don't understand it.

But I wish them well.

You know, I think they are a beautiful couple.

But yeah, I just, I just.

I don't really understand that part of it.

Like they could have just quietly been dating this whole time.

And then once we forgot about all that he did and said and his legal troubles, they could have came out and started dating and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

But

best of luck to them.

You know, it is what it is.

Congrats to the newlyweds.

Hopefully we'll see a little baby.

You know,

maybe

soon.

Okay.

So yeah, so, okay.

Now I want to talk about William.

Well, you know, I think we have a little time for a humble baddies mail, actually.

I don't mean to cut you off, though.

What are you thinking?

You want to have one more topic and then we have humble baddies?

Y'all got time?

I think well, we want to do humble baddies.

We can do humble baddies mail.

Go ahead.

You got it.

All right.

I'll read it then.

All right.

All right.

This is from an anonymous baddie out in Jacksonville, Florida.

Okay, Jacksonville.

Hey, ladies.

So I have my eyes on this guy.

And let me tell you, he's the whole package.

He's smart, loves God, and he's giving full-on sexy vibes.

I first spotted him on Hinge, but lost his profile.

However, I did some digging and found him on Instagram.

Now here's the question.

Should I slide into his DMs?

And if yes, what should I say without sounding too desperate?

What's the move, Addies?

Please help.

Anonymous.

Well, Sherelle is the queen of sliding in people.

People do.

So well,

did you hear a little bit?

It's service so ghetto over here.

Well, long story short, we have an anonymous from Jacksonville and she saw this guy, but they lost.

She doesn't have his contact.

So she's found him on Instagram and sliding his DMs.

What should she do or say?

So she doesn't sound so desperate.

What's the mood?

What should she do?

Hey, hey, big kid.

Just say something.

Hey, big kid.

Or just like the pic or something.

Or just be professional or say, you know, hey, how have you been?

Oh, my goodness.

I haven't seen you in forever.

How have you been?

And either he's gonna respond or he gang.

So shoot your shot.

Yeah.

Shoot your shot.

Is that what you're saying?

People got shot out of the waiting for a man.

Shoot your shot.

Yeah.

I mean,

girl,

you ain't did that yet.

Like, come on.

If you want hinge, you got to be sliding in people's DMs.

Like,

I feel like you do that first before you get on Hinge.

Yeah, especially because it's right there in front of you.

You know, it's in your hand.

Compared to Hinge, you got to answer some questions and upload a profile.

Instagram is already there.

So, I mean, what is Hinge?

It's like a

dating service.

Or a dating app.

I'm sorry.

Like a social dating app.

Okay, Hinge.

I might have to put it over there.

Hinge.

I'm just like a Hinge.

Like, connect, Hinge.

Bring it together.

Well,

is it free?

Sure, I'm sure there's packages and like levels to it, like VIP or some, I have no clue.

I can only speak for like Raya or things like that.

I'm not familiar with Hinge, but you can connect on there, you know what I mean?

But it's definitely, I feel like Instagram is your number one way of connecting.

You know, I might be wrong on those stats.

I'm not sure, but it's super easy.

You have an advertisement.

You see the profile.

You've got a little information on them.

And if you ran into them somewhere in public, like public, you can low-key.

That was just like your, your first initial.

Now you can be in the comfort of your home and go and hit them sliding them DMs like like real did you know I mean

it's going down

sliding them DMs can get you in trouble.

I mean you never know there's there's lessons in life there's lessons in in love.

That's true.

That's true.

Well,

go ahead and slide in them DMs and see how they manage it.

That's right.

I think you should.

I think,

hey, I saw you here and here and here.

Connect the dots.

And then, you know, hopefully he can backtrack of his memory and y'all can lock in.

So good luck to you, Anonymous from Jacksonville.

Well, speaking of sliding in and messaging and all that kind of stuff, y'all can message us for some more humble baddie mail at contact at humblebaddies.com.

And we are here for all of your tea, your questions, your concerns, some shout-outs, or whatever.

And, you know, I think we want to wrap it up, ladies, huh?

How are you doing over there?

Yes.

Y'all so much for tuning in.

Thanks, Sherelle, for joining us all the way from the mother's end.

All right, well, until next time, we're signing out.

Love you.

Thank you guys.

Take care.

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