RHS 033 - The Art of Persuasion & Influence with Brian Ahearn

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Speaker 8 Hello, everyone, and welcome back to the show. Today, we have a tremendous guest, Brian Ahern, who is the chief influence officer at Influence People.

Speaker 8 And as a former director of learning at State Auto Insurance,

Speaker 8 Brian is well versed in both the ideas of influence and insurance and how to apply those to your business.

Speaker 8 He's authored a LinkedIn best-selling course, Persuasive Selling, has been cited in many books on the idea of influence and persuasion, and is certified in the Cial Dini Readiness Assessment, which basically is

Speaker 8 a fairly rare thing.

Speaker 8 Like Robert Ciadini, who is the godfather of work around influence and persuasion he quite literally wrote the book does not certify many people in his methodology and Brian is one of the people who who

Speaker 8 is able to achieve that and anyone who can speak sales persuasion influence and insurance is something someone that we want to talk to my friends so it was a great pleasure to talk to Brian our conversation is a little short only because I had some technical difficulties on the front end, but it's all good.

Speaker 8 This gives you a great base base level of what Brian can provide.

Speaker 8 And we've already started to talk about having Brian back on the show so we can dig deeper into some of the topics that he can really drive forward for us.

Speaker 8 So it's just wonderful to have Brian on the show and I'm happy to share him with you today.

Speaker 8 Before we get to Brian, I just briefly want to say thank you. Thank you for listening to the show.
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So, with that, we are going to get on to Brian Ahern right here on the Ryan Hanley Show.

Speaker 9 You are

Speaker 9 talk to me about this.

Speaker 9 You are,

Speaker 9 I'm not going to use the right phrasing, approved,

Speaker 9 certified Robert Cialdini

Speaker 9 influence trainer or coach. Talk to me about that because

Speaker 9 Cialdini's book, Influence, I've read it twice. I love it.
I've actually referenced it in some of my speeches. I know a lot of people have.

Speaker 9 I mean, it's one of the more popular business books, but I don't know anyone. I've never met anyone before that is actually certified in it.
And I'd love to hear more about that.

Speaker 7 Okay.

Speaker 7 I met Robert Cialdini pretty much by accident.

Speaker 7 Somebody who worked with me when I was with State Auto Insurance came down and gave a video to my boss and I at the time and it was Robert Cialdini presenting at Stanford.

Speaker 7 And when I watched the video, like so many people who read the book now, I went, holy cow, this psychology explains all the sales training that we do.

Speaker 7 And I liked the fact that it was based on research. It wasn't somebody's good advice.
It was empirical data. And then the other thing that really appealed to me was his stance stance on ethics.

Speaker 7 He's very big on non-manipulative ways to get people to do things. So I started to use the video and some training.

Speaker 7 And one day I got a marketing piece from Stanford and I'm flipping through it and I see Cialdini's picture.

Speaker 7 It says bestseller right at the top and then underneath it it says call it influence, persuasion, or even manipulation, right in the headline. So that didn't sit well with me.

Speaker 7 I like to think I'm a moral person and I felt compelled to address it. So I emailed Stanford and I basically said, I don't know anybody who wants to be manipulated.

Speaker 7 I don't know anybody who's looking to become a good manipulator. That word can't be helping your sales, but it really could be hurting.

Speaker 7 And I never heard from Stanford, but sometime later my phone rang and it was a representative from Cialdini's office. She said, I'm calling to personally thank you on behalf of the doctor.

Speaker 7 Your email is changing the marketing of all of our material with Stanford and we wanted to say thank you.

Speaker 7 And as fate would have it, she said, if your company's ever looking for a guest speaker, he travels the world and speaks about this.

Speaker 7 I said, I sit next to the woman who runs our events would you like me to transfer you and summer of 2004 he was in columbus ohio a couple of times to address our agents and that's what got the ball rolling wow so then how did that translate into you um actually working inside uh inside his program and learning kind of the nitty-gritty like the the the inside baseball and what he was doing Okay, well, when we hired him to come out and speak, my boss and I decided we should go to Arizona and go through the two-day workshop.

Speaker 7 And we went through it and he was the ultimate sales guy. I don't know if in your travels you ever met John Petrussi, John Ratire,

Speaker 7 but we both clearly saw the application. So I always had John's full support after we went through that workshop.

Speaker 7 But I did have to stay on him for about three years to allow me to go back and get certified because I said we could take this and we could use it with our leadership team.

Speaker 7 to help them be more persuasive with the people who report to them. But I was also thinking down the road that we could morph this into a sales training opportunity for insurance agents.

Speaker 7 And we did that about 10 or 12 years ago.

Speaker 7 I used to do something through state auto called the principles of persuasive selling with insurance agents where they'd come in for two days and we would dive deep into the psychology and talk about its application in sales.

Speaker 9 What was like

Speaker 9 in that certification process and in the training and workshop, like what was the first thing that grabbed you and you were like,

Speaker 9 I, this, this, this is, this is another level. Like, this is something we absolutely have to implement.
Like, what was one of the things that really kind of caught you and was meaty?

Speaker 7 When we learned about what's called scarcity, that we value things more when we believe they're less available or they're going away.

Speaker 7 Once we understood that, we incorporated one thing into a prospecting email that we would send to agents. So I like to think we were a little bit ahead of our time.

Speaker 7 In early 2000s, we were using a database where our field people would put in information.

Speaker 7 If they went out to see you and your agency, Ryan, they'd put in information and mark you as somebody to market to.

Speaker 7 We would send emails on a quarterly basis. And at the end of the third quarter, we decided to add one extra paragraph at the very end.
And it would have said something like this.

Speaker 7 Ryan, part of the reason I'm reaching out to you today is to let you know we're only looking to appoint

Speaker 7 30 agencies in our 40 operating states. As of the end of the third quarter, we have appointed 25.

Speaker 7 We hope you're one of the remaining few that we appoint by year end.

Speaker 7 And so realizing that there's not a lot of states, not a lot of agencies they're looking to appoint, and they've almost reached their goal, what ended up happening was John, my boss, came over to me within the hour and he said, I can't believe it.

Speaker 7 I've had eight agents reply to me within an hour, either via email or phone call. He said, I've never had an agent reply to that email within an hour.

Speaker 7 So he clearly saw that truthfully incorporating that scarcity was changing behavior.

Speaker 7 And you have aha moments like that, and you just start looking for all the other places that you can begin to incorporate the psychology.

Speaker 9 How would an agent, you know, when you were doing your persuasive selling course, like taking scarcity for as an instance, you know, I think

Speaker 9 that scarcity has always felt like a tough one to work into

Speaker 9 the insurance process.

Speaker 9 How would you recommend scarcity or if scarcity is different, a different one, but like

Speaker 9 what's a strong example of a way that an agent could use that in their agency?

Speaker 7 Well, the interesting thing about scarcity is most agents don't do any single thing that's unique. And

Speaker 7 they'll tout some things, but there's not much that's truly unique where you realize if I don't do business with this agent, I can't get this one thing.

Speaker 7 But if you package a number of things that they do, that's where they can legitimately say nobody else in the tri-state area or something like that does these three things.

Speaker 7 And it may be a combination of carriers,

Speaker 7 access to certain markets, and other things like that, but they have to step back and kind of creatively look at that. Because, Ryan, you and I, in the vast majority of respects, are the same.

Speaker 7 I mean, we're white males in insurance. I'm a little older than you, but we could go down this path of- We're both devilishly handsome.

Speaker 7 Oh, absolutely. that i don't know if it's your filter i don't know if that's why i look like uh

Speaker 7 um but but also you can say that there are certain things then that make you completely unique when you put them all together that ryan handley is different than brian ahern and that's what that's what agents need to really start honing in on what is it that you put it all together we are different than the people that we're competing with in our geographic area.

Speaker 9 Why do you think

Speaker 9 that's not like,

Speaker 9 why do we not just intrinsically do that? Like, what's keeping us from that idea?

Speaker 7 Well,

Speaker 7 John and I didn't intrinsically know that we should include that paragraph. Now it's a no-brainer.
I mean,

Speaker 7 I'm always thinking about how can I honestly incorporate scarcity into my communication so that it moves people to action. But most people aren't really thinking about that.

Speaker 7 Now, they may in a dating sense, right? Maybe they say, hey, this is why you want to marry me. I'm totally unique.

Speaker 7 But they don't translate that into everything else. I really believe that once people begin to learn the psychology and that you can put a label to something, that you start seeing it everywhere.

Speaker 7 I mean, it just becomes amazing how it's jumping out at you.

Speaker 7 Scarcity is an example: how salespeople are trying to get you to buy, and marketers are trying to get you to the store, or politicians are trying to get you to vote for him or her.

Speaker 9 It seems to me that, you know, anytime you talk about persuasion, as you said very early on,

Speaker 9 you want to do it in a moral way, right? And I feel like this is almost, people are almost shy away from some of these tactics because they're worried about feeling spammy.

Speaker 9 Because, you know, if you look in your LinkedIn messages, you know, someone has taken this concept to the nth degree so that it's not even useful.

Speaker 9 So, how do you, one, kind of get over the idea of using, I'll say tactics, but in a very positive sense in the first place.

Speaker 9 And then when do you know if you've taken it too far to the point where they start to not be useful because it's so blatantly obvious what you're doing and it's not actually real?

Speaker 7 I think, first of all, we talk about principles of influence. And I believe that when you incorporate principles into your life, it's just kind of who you become.

Speaker 7 For example, if you have some people that you enjoy being around and maybe you and your wife say, you know what, he or she is such a nice person.

Speaker 7 I mean, every time I do something, they say thank you, right? That stands out. Now, some people didn't grow up learning that that is so important, right? So they have to learn it.

Speaker 7 But I don't think it's wrong then that somebody realizes, wow, if I say thank you, more people do what I want or it builds my relationships. I'm going to start saying thank you.
I mean,

Speaker 7 I think that's a good thing.

Speaker 7 Where it gets smarmy is when people are not being completely legitimate and truthful. So for example, let's use the scarcity example.

Speaker 7 If somebody knocks on your door to sell you in your home, roofing, gutter, siding, things like that, and you give them time a day and you listen to them.

Speaker 7 And at the end, they say, Ryan, if you buy today, I can save you 15%. But if I have to come back, I can't give you that price.

Speaker 7 That's BS, because he will try to tell you that he's so busy he can't afford to come back. And you and I both know the close ratio on those kind of hard sales is probably pretty low.

Speaker 7 Any customer who would guarantee a sale, that salesperson would come running back. It might be legitimate if they said, you know, Ryan, there's a hurricane that's barreling down on the East Coast.

Speaker 7 And if it strikes like they think, there could be a shortage of lumber, building supplies, and roofing. So for that reason, I can't guarantee you this price.

Speaker 7 But if you sign today, we can guarantee it. That's legitimate because it's truthful information.
Does that make sense?

Speaker 9 It makes complete sense. It's funny, a technology vendor just played that,

Speaker 9 you know, if you sign in the next 15 minutes i'll you know double discount your price that i've marked up quadruple to start with deal and uh

Speaker 9 you know i

Speaker 9 i just i find it very interesting that

Speaker 9 i i just find it very interesting that tactic in particular because i feel like at this point it's been it's it's been when it is unauthentic It's been so bastardized in its unauthentic version that the fact that people even still use it is odd to me.

Speaker 9 Like it feels odd. And maybe that's because I have read the book.
I do have my eyes open and I feel like I at least have a certain amount of a filter to not fall for it.

Speaker 9 But at the same time, you're like, geez, like, you know, there's no possible reason on earth that if I wait seven more days, that that same exact price can't be available.

Speaker 9 Now, if what you're telling me is you're only, you know, you have to make your quarterly quarterly numbers and you, and this price gets you in, you know, and that's the reason that you're able to discount it, that's fine.

Speaker 9 But I can always just wait till next quarter because the same thing is going to be true again. So it's, it's interesting that people still use these.
So,

Speaker 9 um, so, so, in your work, um,

Speaker 9 you know, maybe what is so, so we talked a little bit about scarcity, um, and, and, and influence. Like today, um,

Speaker 9 and I think a lot of people listening to this are sales focused, marketing-focused. Some of them are more digital, some of them are more

Speaker 9 traditional. But I'd say all of them are at least thinking digital, considering digital, moving, trying to move their business in some way, shape, or form

Speaker 9 towards being more in the digital space.

Speaker 9 From an influence perspective, and trying to build relationships that are necessary and important to insurance agents, what are some of the influence, persuasion, techniques, ideas that

Speaker 9 work in the digital space

Speaker 9 that maybe

Speaker 7 or don't work.

Speaker 9 You know, what is the difference, I guess, is what I'm trying to get to between

Speaker 9 how you're building those relationships, how you're drawing people in in the digital space versus maybe what would happen for that guy knocking on your door?

Speaker 7 Yeah.

Speaker 7 Well, I think an advantage you have in the digital space, there are lots of studies that show that the more somebody is exposed to you, and assuming those are at a minimum neutral, but hopefully positive experiences, the more likely they are to say yes to you.

Speaker 7 I think that would translate the more likely they are to stay with you.

Speaker 7 So the days of the insurance agent really having contact with customers like once a year, sending a calendar around the holidays, just won't cut it.

Speaker 7 And I remember, and this shows my age, but there was a study that my boss John Petrusi used to reference quite a bit.

Speaker 7 It was a 1996 big eye study, and it showed that, according to customers, they only heard from their insurance agents once every four to five years. I mean, that will not fly in today's market.

Speaker 7 So, I think agents need to think: how can I use the technology that's available to do some of the things that I don't always feel I have time to do?

Speaker 7 To maybe schedule some emails that go out that if somebody responds to, I pick up the phone and I talk to them, or if they respond, I respond back in person.

Speaker 7 But there's an opportunity to automate some of these things so you become that memorized, top-of-mind, likable person.

Speaker 7 How important is it that you have like your language dialed in in these because it seems to me like you can you can send out more touch points but if you're not thinking about the language if you're not thinking about that that last paragraph as you described with with your email if you're not putting some conscious effort and thought and intention into those words then it's almost as if the touch point doesn't matter it's a zero impact event yeah it's there's got to be there's got to be some value or some ask or something that's in there just sending it out to send it out just becomes a little spammy and bothersome but if there's um tips for spring things to think about for vacation and i know some of those are somewhat traditional things but but making sure that that information goes out they're not going to read it every single time but that is certainly going to make them think about you when somebody else says let me quote your business and they're thinking well you know my agent's always reaching out to me i don't respond to every email but i appreciate the fact that he or she is trying to educate me

Speaker 9 You know, I think that point that you just made there,

Speaker 9 which was almost not a throwaway comment, but I think, that I think it,

Speaker 9 that they're not going to read every message. Like that to me is something that is often lost with a lot of agents is that, you know, they send out a newsletter and they're like,

Speaker 9 only 100 people opened it. Yeah, but then you send out another one and another hundred people open it.
And you send out another one and another hundred people open it.

Speaker 9 And now you're starting over time to reach the full customer base. But it's like, it's like we, we think that that we're not thinking about the cumulative effort.

Speaker 9 So when you're, when you're thinking about,

Speaker 9 maybe you have a prospect list and you're thinking about influencing that prospect list to consider you as their insurance professional.

Speaker 9 You know, how does.

Speaker 9 How do you start to consider the cumulative effort of the messages versus just the copy and one individual message?

Speaker 7 Well, I think,

Speaker 7 for example, if I'm reaching out to somebody, you know, and I stepped away from my corporate job almost a year and a half ago, it's tough.

Speaker 7 I mean, making phone calls, sending emails, doing follow-up texts. And I remember one day feeling pretty discouraged.
I'm like, gosh, I'm just not really hearing back from anybody.

Speaker 7 And these are people I know. They were people that worked with me who moved on to other areas.
And in the span of two days, probably half a dozen people got back to me.

Speaker 7 And it kind of restored my faith.

Speaker 7 But I realized they were seeing everything I was sending.

Speaker 7 and in every case it was hey brian you're not bothering me you're not doing too much here's what's going on been busy but i also realized too if i hadn't done that if i hadn't had you know maybe four outreaches in six months or something like that they probably wouldn't have made the phone call or email when they ultimately did so

Speaker 7 i always like to approach people and and ask the question what's the right cadence for you you know i want to stay in touch This isn't something that has to result in business anytime in the immediate future, but I want to be on the radar when you begin begin to think about certain things.

Speaker 7 And once they define that, that's a principle that we talk about, which is consistency. People don't argue against what they've said, what they've done, or what they believe.

Speaker 7 Once they've said, hey, Brian, it's totally cool for you to reach out to me every two months, then they're far more likely to actually respond to that because they know inside they told me they committed to that.

Speaker 7 Yeah.

Speaker 9 Do you think that, you know, I

Speaker 9 do you think that people

Speaker 7 are,

Speaker 9 I'm trying to phrase this question properly. Like, to me,

Speaker 9 is this just something that salespeople and marketing people need to think about? Or

Speaker 9 should we be, should we be thinking about these type of ideas from a much broader sense?

Speaker 9 I mean, obviously, your example with what you were doing at State Auto is one of those cases, but I just think far too often,

Speaker 9 anyone who doesn't think of themselves as a salesperson immediately takes these type of ideas and just puts them in a bucket and moves on. And that seems like not right.

Speaker 7 It applies to everybody.

Speaker 7 I typically will ask people, how many of you would agree that much of your professional success and personal happiness depends on getting people to say yes. And every hand goes up.

Speaker 7 I mean, people know, even if they're not in sales, I mean, if you're a manager in a big company, your great idea doesn't become a project until somebody above you says yes.

Speaker 7 And if you're the leader, it doesn't matter how good your mission, vision, and values are if you can't get people people to say yes.

Speaker 7 And when you go home, it's pretty darn important if your kids or spouse or neighbors more willingly say yes to you. There's a little more peace and happiness.

Speaker 7 You lay it out the right way, and everybody realizes I can use this.

Speaker 7 And when I speak to audiences, I always weave in a lot of personal examples because I know there are some people who are there because they have to be.

Speaker 7 And once you say, maybe I can help you get your kid to empty the dishwasher, they're all in.

Speaker 7 So people start to realize

Speaker 7 it really is a 24-7, 365 skill.

Speaker 9 How do you get your kid to empty the dishwasher?

Speaker 7 Okay.

Speaker 7 I've shared this example many times when I do a talk.

Speaker 7 It was not uncommon when our daughter was a teenager for my wife to maybe say, Abigail, empty the dishwasher in the hustle and bustle of the morning.

Speaker 7 And we take off for work and she takes off for school, our daughter.

Speaker 7 and we come home at 5 or 5 30 dishwasher's not empty now she worked a job she kept different hours so she might be out until we go to bed So we wake up in the morning, dishwasher not empty.

Speaker 7 And now, Ryan, you can imagine how that conversation goes, right? Mom and teenage daughter, I told you to empty the dishwasher. And then here come the excuses.
I didn't hear you. Been busy.

Speaker 7 I was studying. I was just about to do it.

Speaker 7 And all of that could have been avoided by simply doing this. I would have said, Abigail, will you please empty the dishwasher before you leave for school?

Speaker 7 She either says yes and does it, but if she says no, I can't, I'm in a hurry, then I'd say, hey, wait, time out. Will you empty it as soon as you get home from school before you leave for work?

Speaker 7 Yeah, yeah, I will.

Speaker 7 And virtually every time she did, because within all of us, and that principle of consistency I mentioned, we feel better about ourselves and we know we look better to other people when we keep our word.

Speaker 7 And it's a huge, huge driver of behavior. Because when we back out of our word, even when it's legitimate reasons and the other party understands, we don't feel good, right?

Speaker 7 And so we work hard to avoid that bad feeling by keeping our word. So that boils down to stop telling people what to do and start asking.
When you ask, make sure you have fallback positions, right?

Speaker 7 My daughter said, no, I can't. I'm in a hurry.
Fallback. Will you do it as soon as you get home from school before leaving for work? And virtually every time she did it.

Speaker 9 You know, that seems highly applicable to a sales process, a sales sales prospecting process.

Speaker 9 Getting people, you know, this is something that I've heard a lot of sales-oriented consultants and speakers and trainers talk about is getting them to commit to that next meeting, right?

Speaker 9 I had a sales trainer that I used to work with who was just like,

Speaker 9 I'm not going to this meeting to get a sale. I'm going to get the next meeting and the next meeting.

Speaker 9 And eventually, one of those meetings is the meeting where they say yes to you, but you're always going in and you never leave without a next meeting.

Speaker 9 Even if that meeting's a year from now, you're leaving with the next meeting because it gets them to commit to the idea that I've said I'll meet with you again.

Speaker 9 And then if they ever say no, then you just know they're not a prospect anymore. And I thought that was a really interesting way.
It also gets you on that yes train.

Speaker 9 It gets you used to saying yes to things that you're doing. And

Speaker 9 there's some things there, but

Speaker 9 that's really interesting that people want to

Speaker 9 keep their word.

Speaker 7 Yes, it's like I say, it's a powerful driver.

Speaker 7 I often ask people in the audience, I'll say, how many of you have ever given your word to somebody and then you had to back out? Every hand goes up.

Speaker 7 And if it doesn't, I say, if your hand didn't go up, then it will at some point, because there's always something that's more important that can get in the way.

Speaker 7 You might realize you forgot it was your anniversary. Somebody got sick.

Speaker 7 Your spouse had to go somewhere. You had to stay home with the kids.
Something comes up. And a good friend understands that.
And they probably say, hey, Ryan, don't worry about it.

Speaker 7 Just, you you know go do what you need to do but the question then is really though how did you feel and when i say shout it out give me a word the words are awful guilty horrible terrible everybody feels really bad even though their excuse is legitimate and their friend understands that shows that internal pressure we feel to keep up with our word it's more about us feeling good about ourselves than it really is the other person So if someone's listening to this and they're saying, you know, this is something I've heard about, I've bumped into it.

Speaker 9 Like, like, what is, like, what's a way that someone could start to practice this or, or put it into a practice at home? Now, obviously, you have formal trainings, you do speaking.

Speaker 9 So, anyone who puts on events, Brian is there to

Speaker 9 come and present to your audience or your workshops. There's all kinds of things that you have.
And we're going to talk about that in a minute.

Speaker 9 But, but like, if you're just sitting home and you're like, you know, I. like today, I'd like to start practicing this.
Like, what is one way that someone could start to put this into motion?

Speaker 7 I think the easiest way is next time before you send an email,

Speaker 7 reread it quickly and ask yourself, is there anywhere in here that I'm telling somebody what to do, but I could be asking? And if there is, change that statement into a question.

Speaker 7 People feel pretty compelled to answer questions.

Speaker 7 I mean, think about if you're walking down a mall and somebody's at a kiosk and they kind of run out and they're like walking alongside you and trying to get you.

Speaker 7 We almost always answer their question by saying, no, thank you.

Speaker 7 So people feel pretty compelled to answer questions so reread that email and ask yourself is there anywhere in here that i could change a statement into a question to engage this psychology because once that person says yes they're far more committed to follow through yeah i like that and in your world like ryan as you're starting up your agency you don't say um bob i need your loss runs by friday it's bob Can you get me your loss runs?

Speaker 7 And I wouldn't say Friday if that's when you need them. Bob, can you get me the loss runs by Monday? Because without them, I can't get your quote.
Okay.

Speaker 7 So if he says Monday's not going to work, you've got fallback positions and psychology says that if someone says no to you and you step in with another ask right away, the likelihood goes way up that they'll say yes.

Speaker 7 You've incorporated a little scarcity because you've said, I can't get your quote without it. There's a psychological trigger with the word because.

Speaker 7 I mean, you can go super, super deep into this, but that simple phrase, can you get me your loss runs by Monday? Because without them,

Speaker 7 I can't even start working on your quote, is going to trigger a lot more response than I need your loss runs by Friday.

Speaker 9 Yeah.

Speaker 9 So

Speaker 9 you're surrounded by bottles of, is it Scotch? I see, is that Johnny Walker back there? I see Scotch and bourbon. Yep.
Nice. And

Speaker 9 where did that affinity come from outside of the obvious?

Speaker 7 I had a friend who, I think it was about seven or eight years ago, asked me if I'd ever, if I like scotch. And I said, I'd never really had it before.
I said, bring a bottle over and I'll try it.

Speaker 7 He brought a bottle over and it was good enough that I'm like, you know, I'm willing to try more. And so my wife and I really started to get into it.

Speaker 7 I liked the fact that it didn't make me full like craft beer. Yeah.
The size of meals and two beers, it just felt like I was going to explode. She liked the fact that it didn't make her sleepy.

Speaker 7 If I drink too much, I never feel bad like I did with wine or

Speaker 7 beer.

Speaker 7 I say it's almost the perfect drink. I wish it were less expensive than it would be.

Speaker 7 And we got so into it that summer of 2018, we went to Scotland for our 30th anniversary. And my wife's an awesome golfer.
She wanted to play golf. So she played St.
Andrews.

Speaker 7 We went around the country and drank scotch and went to distilleries and had an incredible time. Wow.
She actually built that bar. She designed it and built it.
She's pretty amazing.

Speaker 9 Yeah, geez, that sounds that trip sounds amazing. That bar is beautiful.

Speaker 9 For anyone listening at home and not watching the YouTube video, if you go to the YouTube video, you'll be able to see this ridiculous, amazing bar with

Speaker 9 some very nice.

Speaker 9 I'm going down with my head, like that's going to work in the screen. But yeah, that's a very, very strong, strong selection of.

Speaker 9 Is that old granddad up there I see too?

Speaker 7 Yeah. No, no, I've got Oban though.
You're probably looking.

Speaker 9 Oh, yeah, the glare. I'm like, that would be an odd.
I'm looking at all the other ones and I'm going,

Speaker 9 that must be one of his, like, that's what he pulls out when the in-laws come over. Here, take, take this old granddad.

Speaker 7 There's no there's no doers cutty sark and

Speaker 7 most people who've who've told me that they don't like it i always say let me guess your dad drank something like cutty sark and you and your friends took a bottle one day to go have fun and he got sick yeah that's what happened so it tasted terrible and it made you sick but when i give people a good scotch I don't necessarily say they're all converted, but usually their eyebrows go up and they go like, wow, this is really good.

Speaker 9 It's so much different. It's a whole different ballgame.

Speaker 7 Oh, absolutely.

Speaker 9 It's like if you've ever, ever if you've drank bacardi your whole life and then you have real vodka like it changes your whole vantage point it's the same thing with the kids it's the same thing with basically all of them um not that i would ever condone drinking rum but you know the rest of them you you you you know you go to that next level and it becomes

Speaker 9 so much less about the drinking and more about the experience of what the what you know the flavors and how the flavors hit you i mean that was the first thing that i really noticed when I started drinking,

Speaker 9 you know, some higher end whiskeys and scotches and bourbons was, and again, I know that there's a range in there, but

Speaker 9 is, is the, the flavors are, they kind of hit you in waves. You know what I mean? It's not just like, oh, a taste and it's down.
Like it's a, it's more of an experience when done really right.

Speaker 9 And, you know, you take your time with it.

Speaker 7 And it lingers on your palate because, you know, you can have that, that sips goes down and a few seconds later, you press press your tongue up against the top of your mouth, and you feel it all again.

Speaker 7 It's yeah, and it's like beers and wines and other things. There's such a variety of flavors.

Speaker 7 And when we were in Scotland and we were in St. Andrews, we went to a little bar, and when my wife sipped a scotch, she said, Oh my gosh, this is the best scotch I've ever tasted.

Speaker 7 She said, It's melting in my mouth like cotton candy. Not that it was sweet, but just how it was all over.
Yeah.

Speaker 7 And it's called Glenn Dronach 18. And can't get it here in Ohio, but she found a place in Pennsylvania near her parents.
And so whenever she's out there, she picks up a bottle.

Speaker 9 So if you were going to give someone a recommendation for something they could probably find in most, you know, liquor stores or package stores, depending on what state you're in.

Speaker 9 You know, what would be that recommendation? What would be something where you'd say, you know, you're most likely going to find this.

Speaker 9 It's not obscure like there's a, you know, some hole in the wall place in Pennsylvania that has it, but like most likely going to be there. What would be your recommendation?

Speaker 7 I enjoy, I think, the Glen Moringey line the most. A lot of restaurants you can find, it's called the Glen Moringey Original or the 10-year, and that's really good.

Speaker 7 But when you start to drink their Quintarubin and La Santa and some of the other ones, they're like, wow,

Speaker 7 they're really, really good. So, but I kind of find my taste floats around because I don't like to open a whole bunch of bottles at one time.

Speaker 7 I kind of like take a bottle or two and work that one and then I shift to another one. I'm like, and I really taste the difference.
And then I'm like, wow, I I really like this.

Speaker 7 So it's, that's just how I roll when it comes to having me.

Speaker 9 So pulling us back into our conversation here,

Speaker 9 today you are speaking, consulting, doing workshops.

Speaker 9 Where would people, if they're listening to this and they're going, you know what, like this is absolutely missing from my business or I'm running an event and this is absolutely what I'd love to have in my program.

Speaker 9 Like where do people connect with you? Where's the best place to digest more of what you're doing and just get more of your work?

Speaker 7 So the best place to connect is obviously LinkedIn.

Speaker 7 And I'll tell anybody if you connect with me and you don't put a personal note, I always accept them, but I will send a note back and I might say, hey, Ryan, how did you find me?

Speaker 7 I'm just curious because I like to understand where traffic is coming from.

Speaker 7 The vast majority of the time, people are reaching out because they take my courses on LinkedIn and those are potential customers for me. So if you don't put a note in,

Speaker 7 I'll message you back. And I believe social media should be social.
And so sometimes you end up with interesting conversations. I publish a lot of content on LinkedIn.

Speaker 7 I repurpose my blog on there and all kinds of stuff all week long.

Speaker 7 Other people like to go to my website and actually sign up for the blog, which comes out every Tuesday or yeah, every Tuesday morning. It goes live on the internet on Monday at 5.

Speaker 7 But I've been writing for almost a dozen years every single week. Monday, a new post goes out.

Speaker 7 And I don't limit it just to business or sales i i've written a lot about parenting social issues you know when the election comes up i i look at it through the lens of influence and i find it fascinating on both sides of the aisle what people are saying and doing and a lot of the hypocrisy on both sides of the aisle

Speaker 7 but uh it's there's a variety of stuff so you know the the website is influencepeople.biz

Speaker 9 Nice. So

Speaker 9 I encourage everyone to go connect on LinkedIn with Brian, go to his website, check it out. It is very deep.

Speaker 9 When I was, you know, kind of researching our conversation, you know, it is, you have, you have been writing for a long time and it's great. I mean, it's great stuff.
So there's tons of content there.

Speaker 9 And then you can always go to the show notes on my site and I'll have links up to everything so you can find it there. If that's just easier when you're on the run and you forget, but Brian,

Speaker 9 this has been tremendous, man. I mean, I appreciate it.
I enjoyed, we had a, we had an hour-long conversation that we didn't record the first time we talked, and that was tremendous.

Speaker 9 And this has just, been wonderful. And I hope I know you've

Speaker 9 I know you spoke at many organizations in the insurance industry. And I hope that anyone who hasn't had you in considers you now.
And I just think the work you're doing is tremendous.

Speaker 9 And it's absolutely, these are absolutely skills inside of the insurance sales culture that we have to implement. We absolutely have to implement them.

Speaker 9 So I appreciate the fact that you're out there and it's just been great to get to know you.

Speaker 7 Yeah, well, I appreciate it too, Ryan. It was fun.
I enjoyed your style. It was fun to get to know you there on the phone.
I'm sure we'll have more conversations. I look forward to it.

Speaker 7 I'm sure we will.

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