A DAY WITH BROOKE BURKE AT HER MALIBU HOME - Video Episode Part 2

Let's do it.

Let's get into it.

We're in such an awful because this conversation is so that's the amazing

thing.

I'm like, shut up, let me record.

No, because this is why I love so much talking to intelligent, powerful, successful women.

Because you know, you come up with the most important, intelligent, meaningful conversations.

And Majde brought something up that, yes,

we all have been victims, or I don't know if victim is the word, but we all have been in these situations before.

The masculine energy, the feminine energy, and men that cannot handle women that are successful and powerful and doing a lot of things.

So let's talk about, do you want to share what you were saying off camera?

There's so much to share.

And I love having the question posed from the beautiful 35-year-old goddess because I want to be vulnerable.

and humanize this and saying, you know, during the commercial break, you were saying that it's insulting and we're often judged as powerful women.

And I can remember doing a really deep dive in my own personal exploration during my second marriage, where I was constantly hearing, you're masculine, you're masculine, you're masculine.

And then the other little voice that was coming even from the outside was, God, it must be really hard to be married to Brooke Burke.

And I kept thinking, that's really fucked up.

Like, what do you mean it must be?

But this could be fabulous.

Like, what do you mean it must be really hard?

And it was this misunderstanding and this misconception that an independent, this is my opinion, and I think we all are probably in the same space, an independent, strong woman is often misinterpreted, misunderstood, right?

For being a boss bitch, for being masculine, for having too much masculine energy, strength, blah, blah, blah.

I

didn't know it while I was in that time, during that time of my life, but I have explored and dissected and really realized that The most divine space for a woman to be in and her divine feminine energy is a beautiful balance balance is a tough word but a beautiful mix of masculine and feminine energy so it takes a very strong woman to surrender and it's tough to get there it's tough to get to this balance right

because like you said if we are in charge of our business we're in charge of 10 million things any given day like you even more because you have kids major and i don't but still we are business owners we're in charge of our clients our life our life we have to be in charge.

We have choice.

Because we're running the business.

We have no choice.

So if we were not in charge, and if we did not step into our masculine...

I don't know if masculine is the right word, but if we did not step into our power,

shit doesn't get done.

I think the confusion, I believe this to be true, is that there's no femininity in masculine energy and there's no masculine energy in femininity.

I find it to be in yin-yang.

I find them to be woven together.

The strongest people know when to surrender.

The strongest woman has a balance between masculine and feminine.

For example, if you surround yourself by feminine men, really entertain this because I know you're both going to manifest your love, your love mate.

If you surround yourself by men who are not strong,

they become more feminine, you become more masculine.

It's just nature.

I've done that many times.

And you're going to get crucified and blamed for being masculine because, in fact, you've assumed the masculine role because you're surrounding yourself by feminine people.

I guarantee you that if you surrounded yourself by a really strong masculine man, you would like open like a flower, you would blossom like a freaking roast.

And you would be so feminine.

But Brooke, let me tell you.

If you had a person that was capable of assuming that masculine role

at times.

But you know, sometimes because I always go for the super powerful masculine man because in my personal life I want to relinquish control.

Okay.

I want to like the the guy, do something, please.

Be in charge.

Most men, and I talked about it on the podcast, but when you're talking about masculine feminine.

I just want to understand it.

So if you find the powerful masculine men, do you meet them in feminine energy or do you meet them within?

I meet them in, yeah, my personal life is very feminine energy because I'm only the boss in my business life.

But most men and tell me you girls tell me if you agree or not when they meet you because they want to date you or they want to fuck you.

Sorry, my

I have a dirty mouth

They tell you oh, no, it's okay.

I love what you do.

I love everything.

I'm I have no problem with it.

No, no, no, but then as you're dating the real personality comes out like maybe they're feminist and they're like they start feeling intimidated They're like, oh, I don't want to know this bitch is just too much.

She has too much shit going on.

They have to like kind of, you know, follow what they're saying you should do or not.

You know, I you never it's not never good enough if I'm in my feminine energy.

Oh, you're not doing anything if I'm in my masculine energy.

Oh, you're too much

I wish there was an answer.

It's it's so complicated what I what I know to be true and what I tell my daughters is to never dim your light or be less than what you are or try to diminish or be smaller agree to let someone else shine there is enough room and there is enough power and there's enough space in this world for you to have the most badass powerful man and to be a badass powerful woman.

I agree.

And together we are illuminating unbelievable possibilities.

What happens is if you don't have the right partner, if you don't have the right best friend,

if you don't have the right girlfriend that you walk through life with who isn't celebrating you and raising your average, and like it gives me goosebumps,

then suddenly

you're missing those little celebrations along the way.

And in an intimate relationship, it takes a very strong man and woman to vibe together.

It's complicated.

I think I made this mistake before in my marriage.

Like I said,

my husband didn't even want me to work.

So I relinquished.

I gave up so much of my life and I don't want to make this mistake again.

And I agree with you.

The right partner for you is going to be 1 million percent supportive of everything you do.

Right?

They're not going to try to cut you back or make you feel bad.

I agree.

Or gaslight you or tell you like, oh, you're being too masculine or you're doing this.

Like you said, that has to be a lot of fun.

That would be a terrible conversation to even hear from someone like even when you say that my my it makes me go like this and imagine being in a really healthy supportive relationship where those conversations are you're open for dialogue if there needs to be adjustments or compromises or little tweaks along the way for the higher good of the relationship for the higher good of both beings right I mean that's

That's really the goal.

It makes me sad and I know that there are a lot of women who go through that and who compromise and who give up

to mold and to become something that they're not for the better good of someone else.

It's a horrible idea.

It's not sustainable.

No, exactly.

It's not sustainable.

And if it is, if you sustain it, you're miserable.

One day you're going to wake up and be like,

by the way, I have this to a lot of women.

One day further down in life, they wake up and they're like, oh my God, I've been in this miserable marriage for decades because that's how we are brought up

to make a man happy.

It happens all the time.

There's a lot of societal

influences and limitations, but

I went to a female

therapy group session when I was in my 20s.

I was very young.

I'll speak fast because I just want to make this point.

I don't want to get back to our conversation.

But I surrounded myself with women that were in their 50s and 60s, and I was like in my 20s.

I didn't know shit about shit.

And somehow I found myself in this women's therapy group, very similar to the type of work that we do out here in Sisterhood Circle.

And I remember listening to women become storytellers.

And I think we're storytellers as women.

We're meant to share our stories.

They were stories created by women for women.

We were breaking down this book called Women Who Run with the Wolves, chapter by chapter.

And I was so inexperienced, okay?

And I hadn't even become, I hadn't even started the process of becoming who I was supposed to be.

And I remember listening to these women.

who had given up their goals, their dreams, were redesigning their life.

Maybe they were divorced.

Maybe they were starting over.

Maybe they never found love.

Most of these women didn't even know who they were.

What they knew was, oh my god, here I am, and I should have, coulda, woulda.

And I remember listening to them going, and I was like 22, thinking, I'm never going to be that woman.

I'm never going to do that.

I don't know what I'm going to do.

And I might not know who I am, but I know that I'm never going to do that.

And I know that I want to grow up.

And it was a commitment that I made to myself very early on.

I want to grow up and be who I'm supposed to be.

And so I think about that in a little bit of a lighter way, that shoulda, coulda, would have.

What if there is no shoulda, coulda, would have?

What if we just get to make a commitment to ourselves and become who we're supposed to be?

Not for our man, not for our kids, not for our parents.

Just who we're supposed to be in our divine right.

And there's freedom in that.

And no one gets to stand in your way of that unless you let them.

No, that's the most, I think that's the most important message.

That's the most amazing thing that you've gotta put yourself first.

It took me all this journey to learn that.

It took me all this long time that if you don't love yourself and if you don't put it's not selfish if you don't put yourself first it's true you're gonna be miserable and you're probably gonna make somebody else it starts with self-love yeah it starts it starts with love we come into the world with love divine love we live in love yeah we have to live in a loving space it's like the labyrinth that we walk today which will make no sense to people listening but no but you guys if you're listening to someone like you gotta go i'm gonna post all the videos all over my instagram youtube and everything because she has the most insane the the handmade labyrinth

on your back this isn't even a backyard right this is like a property I don't know what to call this

it's a fantastic retreat I mean it's impossible to describe it in words you would have to be here to believe it but I'm bringing it to you guys via video since you're being insanely kind and letting us film it go check it out because it's such a beautiful beautiful labyrinth it's the shape like a heart and I loved watching cat experience

you were thinking about spirit i wanted to cry because i felt like my mom there because my mom was all about this kind of things and i felt like my mom would be crying and crying and crying it was really beautiful to see that and to witness that to share that with you and to describe it to your listeners because you just took a moment to go walk in silence and to feel something and there's something emotional that happens to a woman we slow down yes and we start to listen to the language of our spirit, our soul, whatever it is you believe in, the language of your heart, with all the noise and all the grind and being an entrepreneur and being a boss and managing so many things,

we compromise stillness and we compromise that selfish moment.

I don't like the word selfish.

We should be selfish.

We should get selfish so that we can fuel our souls, ourselves, and be in service to ourselves.

I was talking to a friend of mine yet and she's been married for 14 years.

And she just got divorced recently and she was telling me, I don't know who I am.

I'm really trying to figure out who I am, you know, like

you know, regardless of my kids and my ex-husband, you know, and it just breaks my heart when she said that because she doesn't know who she gets used to.

I understand that.

But I have to say, it's never too late.

She'll start over.

She's like, Can we go down a retreat?

Can I

be in?

Like, I would definitely

meet your friend.

Yeah, we gotta bring.

And I have to say, a parenthesis, I'm so happy she came

because she's always like on the goal, on the go, on the go, on the go, stressed, stressed, stressed.

And I'm like, Maj,

we both work like,

and I know you do too.

We work seven days a week, 10 million hours a day, but you need to pause, you need to breathe,

you need to remember because if we don't have our health, we don't have anything.

And in that chaotic world out there, we forget about ourselves.

And even last night,

one of our friends were always like, you know, when she was, you know, we just kind of started talking about, about, you know,

just who we are as a person.

And she's like, I don't know, because she's been in a marriage, you know, because so many women go through that.

Can I share something with you that this made me think of?

Two things.

You remember how many times in class I said, breathe, breathe, breathe.

It's almost annoying.

It's an amazing reminder.

We forget how to breathe.

We do.

I teach breath work, which I would love to invite you both as my guests.

We'll do a breath work session.

But my recent retreat in Arizona at Sivana

was so profound.

Women from all different walks of life.

So I had women in their 60s and I had young women.

And the one thing, the one common denominator that kept coming up, because I ask everyone always in the beginning, who are you?

Who do you think you are?

Which is a real mind fuck.

And why are you here?

And in exploring why are you here, the one thing, like your conversation with your girlfriend that kept coming up is they said,

what now?

Like, I don't know what happens next.

I'm an empty nester.

I'm newly divorced.

I'm single.

I haven't met the love of my life.

I just retired.

All different reasons.

And these were like powerful women, all kinds of women.

The one thing that they all had in common is they were like, I don't know what this next season looks like.

What's next?

What now?

So we spent three days together, okay?

And there was a song that I played today in class, which we should post it for your listeners.

It's fucking amazing.

It's Whitney Houston or Aretha Franklin.

The playlist was fantastic, by the way.

Thank you.

We'll share the playlist because I have a female empowerment playlist just for you.

There was a song that came on in the final day as we were still exploring.

So we do journal work, we do meditation, we do breath work, we do all kinds of stuff.

Sound bath.

There was a song that played in my final day with them, and it is, I'm Every Woman, but it's a really cool like medley.

And I stopped the song, and I stopped in the middle of the class, and I went, holy shit, everybody stop.

And I'm like, that's our answer.

Here we all, for three days, we were trying to define who we are.

Are we a title?

Am I a mother?

Am I a doctor?

Am I a teacher?

Am I a daughter?

Am I a CEO?

Like, who the fuck am I?

We had all these descriptions.

They were just words.

I'm like, I just realized we are the collective energy of all these life experiences.

We are the collective combination of all of these things that have happened to all of us.

And it was very emotional.

Everyone was crying.

I'm like, crank this music back up.

I am every woman.

Yes.

And we are a little bit of everything.

And we stopped in it.

And that question that you had that was emotional with your friend last night, especially after divorce.

I've redesigned my life twice.

That what now, I said in the middle of session, I'm like, what now is right now?

We're already here.

So we keep wanting an answer.

We keep fighting uncertainty.

Partner up with uncertainty.

Who am I to decide?

What now?

Am I going to know what the next five years look like?

I have to tell you the secret

for me.

Yes, we have to learn how to live more in the present.

And I think people think too much about the future.

If you start, it's hard, but if you get in this place that you appreciate today,

the present, your life is going to be a million times easier.

It's really hard.

It's really important.

I know.

And the what now, right now, in this present moment is the moment that's going to serve you and really define you.

It's not what happened to you.

It's not what you're afraid of.

It's not what you're manifesting for this next month, this next season.

It's really right now.

Who am I?

Can I find my purpose?

Whole note.

Oh, my God.

We have to do a Brooke Bird podcast series.

Brooke on the looks.

Oh my gosh.

Brooke on the looks.

Oh my god, Brooke on the Looks.

That sounds really fun.

Speaking of, I gotta go back a little bit because, like you're saying, so many women out there they wonder.

Maybe they're in a bad marriage, going through a divorce.

Like this lady isn't even going through a divorce.

She's married, but God knows what her problems are.

That's a whole other episode.

But you went through

twice with four kids.

I cannot even imagine because I went through all my nasty crap and I consider myself a survivor, but I don't have kids.

I cannot imagine what it must have been.

Plus,

I think it's an aggravation of the media, right?

All over you.

Yeah, they cry shit about your life like they live in your bedroom.

They slice you together, like put you in a place with someone that you weren't even with.

No, and my favorite party isn't.

No, that's crazy.

And they think they know.

And I'm thinking, nobody knows what's going on in four walls in her house, but they talk about your life like they know you like they're your friend.

TMZ, like when you're dirty hair, getting your lungs, like, bruh,

like they make sure they catch you, like at the worst possible moment.

Sensationalism itself.

So you went through all this shit, the kids, the media, na na na na na na na.

And you're obviously on the other side and you're living your best life.

So someone out there listening, oh yeah, she's Brooke, she's beautiful, she's rich, fuck all of you.

It's easy, you live in the babe.

That's the emails I get from it.

Staff, you're staff!

Eugenia, can I please have a little more cash here?

There's no one here.

Oh, you gave me Eugenia the day off.

What's wrong with you, Brooke?

The day I come visit you and give you butler.

But anyhow, I forgot.

Daniel, you were saying what would I say?

I was saying, yeah, so because I know women, and I'm sure you get that on social media as well, we have to talk about that.

People send me this nastiest message.

It's like, you're blonde, you live in Beverly Hills.

You don't have any problems.

I'm like, huh?

You don't know anything about my life.

You don't know the uphill better that it's been.

So what would you say?

Maybe somebody needs a little pep talk or motivation or anything like because there is a better tomorrow.

There is another life.

There is another chance.

You're proof of that.

I'm proof of that.

Do you have anything to say to somebody?

I do.

I mean,

I want to back up for a second to all that criticism and all that chatter that doesn't serve us.

You know,

I challenge people to ask questions rather than assume things and make negative statements.

You know, if anybody ever came to me and said, Hey, how do you run your life?

Do you have a nanny and a housekeeper and a driver and a chef?

I'd be like, shit, I'm looking for all that.

Yeah, I have a nanny.

Otherwise, I wouldn't be able to run my four kids.

And yeah, I have a housekeeper.

I have a big house.

I like it clean.

Don't judge me.

Do I want more things or less things?

Like, who am I?

You want to know who I am?

Ask me, right?

So I find a lot of freedom in that very open dialogue for me.

I do not lean into that 360 conversation of criticism on social media.

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We, I like to engage my audience, so it's there.

Does it sting a little bit?

Yeah.

There's a really great

emoji, the one that looks like the little shit and the one that's the middle finger.

Use them.

Oh, there he is.

Oh, yeah.

I'm joking.

I mean, I'm not joking.

Oh, we have to create one.

Oh my gosh.

I'll show them to you.

Okay.

There's also that block button, which you can use too.

I'm joking.

I'm joking.

No, but in all seriousness, I wanted to just say, engage with people who are asking questions, not just throwing out, you know, casual judgments without even a face on their profile or any followers.

So that's that.

But what I would say to people that need a little bit of love and a little pep top is just lean into possibilities.

You know, I didn't know what was happening in my life when I got a divorce.

And I was the woman that would have been on forever in marriage.

So the first time was really necessary.

I picked the wrong person.

It was ugly.

It's still ugly.

We don't even talk.

It's a damn shame.

The second time I was really married to, I thought who was my soulmate in the love of my life, who's one of my best friends right now.

And we sort of had a parting because it was necessary, right?

We both agreed that it was time to redesign our lives in a different way, and we committed to raising our children.

We have a beautiful relationship right now,

but I didn't know what life was gonna be like, and I didn't know what was on the other side.

I didn't know what was coming, it was really, really scary.

I didn't know if I would find love again, I didn't know if my kids were gonna be okay, it wasn't the lessons in the fairy tale that I wanted to share with them.

But I allowed myself room to to accept the need for change.

And I did go through that very difficult inner dialogue of did I fail?

And what does that look like?

What does that mean?

And what did I do wrong?

Or what could I have done different?

And I had to surrender to the concept of failure.

And I had to surrender so deep to allow myself to believe and accept that it was time for change and change was necessary.

And one step further, I had to teach my children that valuable lesson: not to give up, not to have grit, not to do everything possible, but to accept the fact that sometimes change is necessary.

Maybe you were with the wrong person, maybe you weren't the right person, maybe you need to change, maybe you need to choose differently, maybe you need to pause, maybe it's time.

But that's very brave because most

people stay in unhappy relationships because they're afraid of starting over.

It's true, and staying

for too long is really hard.

Not staying long enough is really hard.

And

many women have asked me, like, how did you know?

When did you know?

And I'm like, you just know when you know.

You just know.

You just know when you know.

And I really would like to believe in forever.

I didn't get that lucky in my life in love.

And here I am again.

Yeah, so let's talk about that.

You got divorced.

And then how long after that you met your now fiancé?

David and I had separated and kind of worked through our permanent separation for years.

So divorce took a long time.

We weren't in a hurry because it was very peaceful.

Thank God.

God love him.

He is the greatest ex-husband of all time.

I have to compliment him because not everybody has.

He's a great ex-husband.

I love David.

We actually really love each other.

That is so nice because you have kids and it's so healthy for the kids if you get along for the kids, right?

Yeah, it's really important.

Learn how to be a cardio.

And your kids, if you're a shitty husband,

try to be cordial for the kids no matter how old they are.

Yeah, exactly.

Your kids are worth everything and taking the high road.

I'm sure he must be a great guy.

He's a great dad, and he's an amazing guy.

Anyway, so it took years.

And your kids, by the way, I have to make a parenthesis.

That's major DNA, but they're gorgeous.

Thank you.

They're gorgeous.

Thank you.

Thank you.

They're good kids.

I'm very lucky.

Thank you for saying that.

So it took years.

I needed to, and I'm curious how you both feel about this.

I was never alone in my life.

I was married for 19 years to two different people.

I was very codependent.

I was probably insecure in alone time as a younger woman.

I was very lonely in a lone time.

I needed to learn how to be alone, and I was not good at it.

I dated a lot as a younger woman.

I had a lot of relationships.

But as a woman in my 40s, I had never been alone.

So suddenly I found myself with, thank God, for my children, but like alone alone as a woman.

And I didn't like it.

And I really had to fight through it.

And I learned more about myself during that period of time in my life than my whole life.

And so when you're designing, when you're a mother, when you're building a life, building a marriage, you don't have time alone.

You got a man next to you.

You got to date all the time.

Time alone as a woman is so invaluable.

It was the only season of my life where I really learned how to listen to my own language, my inner language um and i wanted to date i wasn't lucky like you said you had 25 dates in one year god love oh my god i wanted to date and i wasn't dating i dated a little bit i would have liked to have dated much more because i i thought it was how would you meet people like through friends did you ever do dating apps never did a dating app

because that would be hard for you never did a dating app and i'm nothing against it it wasn't for me friends weren't setting me up you will always wonder like if they had the right intentions or like did they want to meet me because if you're not on a dating app and you don't have generous friends with single people, there's no single great single guys around it.

So it's tough.

Yeah, it's very tough.

And I think we become peakier, right?

Select.

Well, we just meet a lot of people because of what I do.

Yeah, you're lucky.

Yeah.

I don't know.

I feel like I'm nice, but people weren't, no one was really approaching me.

I wasn't probably, I also stay home, so I probably wasn't out and about.

I could have had more fun.

But anyway, I dated a little bit.

I had one relationship that was wrong, but necessary for the time.

I knew that it wouldn't last.

And then I accidentally met Scovet, like literally by accident.

I was at a bar having a cocktail with my stylist and a very close friend here in Malibu.

Here in Santa Monica.

Which bar, please?

At Wally's.

At Wally's Wally.

In Santa Monica.

In Santa Monica.

I was having a glass of wine.

Yeah, because the Wally's in Beverly Hills is a, it's such a peacock.

Yeah, no.

I was actually with my girlfriend and with a friend and I was finishing a long day of work and I was at the bar.

I was having a glass of wine and he was so brave and so masculine and so confident and so cute and he walked right up to me and he actually grabbed my arm but not in a weird way which who does that yeah nobody

does that nobody like goes into your space right now right but it wasn't intrusive or creepy and he was like he said hi I'm Scott and I was like he's so did he know who you were or he just told me

someone says he didn't do you believe him I believe him I believe him he's a sports guy he doesn't watch he doesn't watch what does he do is he in a commercial real estate he's like a girlfriend I don't don't think he knew who I was.

But anyway, he said I'm Scottie was come and have a drink.

Come and have a drink with me.

I'm just being a.

No, I believe him.

I believe he's true.

He said, come and have a drink with me.

And I really wanted to have a drink with him, but I couldn't because I was on my way out because I was with my girlfriend.

I didn't drive.

I'd come from work and I was all the way in Malibu.

So I wanted that drink and I couldn't have that drink.

And I think he

thought that, I don't know, I decided I was very nice.

I said, genuinely, I would love to have that drink with you, but I can't because I'm leaving.

And he didn't really stop me.

Did he ask for your number?

didn't ask for my number really but he didn't take no for an answer he said no no no come and have that drink

so i went over to the table and i said i really can't so sorry i really have to go pause pause pause didn't ask for my number pause pause pause and i'm like okay so i leave and my stylist her name is isabelle van ham she's a goddess was at valet getting her car and she's like what happened i was like well nothing i'm like i'm gonna leave you hanging she goes did you get his number i go no i didn't get his number did you give him your number i go no i didn't give him my number i don't even know she's like the fuck is wrong with you?

That's how she goes storming back inside.

Ah!

I said, oh, wait, wait, wait.

She goes storming back inside and she was like, hey, do you want her number?

What's wrong with you?

She's like, oh, my God.

So

she gives him my number and she says this.

She goes, and don't be that guy.

You call her tonight.

Did you ever ask him why didn't he ask for your number?

I think he maybe felt rejected because I said I couldn't.

So she

gives him my number and he called me that night and we met for a drink.

And that was it?

it that was it and how long have you guys been together four years wow that's a long time

I know and we're engaged and so here I am talking together I saw your beautiful pictures I think we were in Europe last year we were yeah with your where is the

bling um I know I was working out this morning so I don't have it on I know but it's gorgeous thank you

and we were talking a little off camera I don't know if you're okay talking on camera but you don't have a date set we don't have a date set I'm a a little slow in the party planning.

Maybe you can help me.

I can help you.

Yeah, we can.

But be really honest and vulnerable.

I'm

very committed in love, and I love our life the way that it is, and it's scary.

And I'm not afraid of scary things.

You know, I'm not afraid to be uncomfortable.

I just wasn't that girl that was like dying for the big wedding and rushing off to go do it again.

And we're trying to do it right and make sure that it's spiritual and soulful and right for all of us and for our family.

And so I'm just a little slow in my party planning process, but we're getting there.

We thought we would do it this year.

You know, the pandemic was,

you know, it was just, there were so many things, but I need to, maybe you can help me.

I need to help you.

But you know, I love that you said,

by the way, you don't live with him.

Yeah.

Like you were telling me, and you love your home, you're happy in your life.

And I was saying, I think this step is so important because that's what happened to me.

I'm at a point in my life that I'm insanely happy in my little world.

Like my little home, which is like the size of your guest bathroom.

But I love it.

My dog, my work, my projects.

I have my little universe.

So when I meet the right person, I'm not like desperate because a lot of girls, I know they don't like to hear that, but they send the desperation energy.

You can smell desperation.

You can smell, and I'm like, you need to be happy with your life.

You need to love your life.

And then somebody comes and they compliment it and I agree the dating part is so much fun right getting ready for the guy and him picking you up or you sleep here he sleep there la

it makes it all sexy and fun it's very sexy we have a very modern approach to it and by the way lots of people do it so we were joking around off camera before about what it's like and you know we don't live together yet we're building this life together and for right now it really works how it is.

I actually like that it's a date half the week when we spend together when we don't have the kids.

He comes over, he still brings me flowers.

I'm able to like wash my hair and like get

if you're listening, please can you open like a boyfriend dating husband's school?

Excellent.

Oh yes.

Scott.

It's Cott the fiancé.

Yeah, I know that.

I'm like,

yeah, I know.

But you need to teach men how to date a lot of people.

And you know,

it's not easy.

Like what's most important is that you design it and you define it, and then you realize that for the right man, I would have said I would never do it again.

I would have said I would never live with someone again.

Because I've been here with my children, and it's like, we have a very like feminine house.

I have three daughters, my poor little son, he's the only dude around here, and then Scott when he comes in half the week.

But I would have said I would never do it again.

And then the right man, the right person comes along with Scott.

And then we'll shift again.

And we change our point of view.

And then, you know, we find a way to sort of weave our lives and blend our family.

Scott has two kids.

I have four.

That's something that's fine.

So now we're trying to figure out what does the future look like for us?

Where do we live?

Where does marriage live?

Is it here?

Is it there?

Is it somewhere?

And your dog is in love with Majda.

You know, she has something because

my dog Phoenix is madly in love with her.

Like, he can smell her when she's parking the car on the street.

My dog is hard.

She just put her little palm on you.

It's so sweet.

It's something I can't do.

Even Billy's army.

You can always pur.

The dog is in.

But you you know, I think it's important for women to know we have this idea, right?

We have this preconceived dream, this notion, this idea.

It is important in our lives, even as strong, independent women, to just be open to the possibility that something, someone, something comes along that will rock you and you'll go.

Huh?

Maybe.

Yes, one minute.

Maybe

I say that.

I'm going to come to the Malibu and Diana more often.

Does he have any friends?

I know, right?

I know.

Well, now that I've met you two goddesses

hey feel free to feel free to pimp those out leave leave her alone she really wants your attention

they're fine they're like playing with the dogs no they don't it's really funny i always say brooke that no matter how much you it is for me and i i guess you agree now they fall in love but even if somebody breaks your heart even if you're dating and it doesn't work out you should always be open to love

like don't let one bad nasty relationship close your heart forever.

You know, you need to keep believing.

You can't stop believing.

And if you stop letting love in, if you stop giving love, you can't let love in.

I agree.

You know, there's this beautiful concept and practice that I do sometimes in yoga when I'm teaching.

We receive, we give love through the front of our heart, right?

We give love.

We receive from the back of our heart.

So we have to breathe into both spaces.

We have to create space for love.

I was really willing, and my heart was broken.

Not going to lie.

Broken after David and I split up.

It was necessary.

I was willing to let my heart get broken again.

Because otherwise, how can I meet someone with all of me?

I will say that I'm wiser and I'm more careful and I have boundaries and I understand who I am as a woman more today than I ever did before.

And I'm still learning, by the way.

I'm still learning.

I'm still growing.

I'm still shifting.

I'm learning all the time.

But I'm willing.

I'm willing to hurt.

I'm willing to love deeply.

I'm willing to let my heart get broken, and I'm willing to take those chances.

I really don't know how to do it any other way.

1 million percent.

And I tell my daughters and my son that too.

Like,

we're going to get it wrong, right?

Things are going to hurt.

People are going to disappoint you.

People don't really break your heart.

I really believe this.

They break your expectations, right?

So true.

And if your heart's broken, it heals.

It heals.

It heals.

Do you believe in twin flame?

David is my twin flame.

I do.

I just had this conversation.

I love it.

See, I thought David was my soulmate.

He's not.

He certainly wasn't my life partner.

I'm not with him anymore.

He is my twin flame.

In fact, if you looked at him on my phone, there's two flames.

And some people are like, why do you have two?

It's like double hot.

It's not that he's doubly hot.

He was my twin flame, and he challenged me in so many ways.

And I did him.

And we had a lot of,

you know, life business to do together.

I believe in all of that.

Do you believe in that?

Do you?

Yeah, I do.

It doesn't have to be just a man.

It could be a woman.

It can be.

There's so many people who come into our lives to challenge us, to teach us.

And sometimes they leave us.

Sometimes they're here for a moment.

Yeah, I met Mike Queen Flame, but we're not together.

It's just a great time.

It's intense.

It's intense.

I can't even just

share it.

I hope that you will.

We'll do some manifestations of that.

But in the light of the broken, the willingness to have a broken heart, which sounds, people are going to be like, why would you do that?

It's because

people come and go, and it's not always up to us.

People come into our lives at moments.

Oh, yeah.

Before I let you know,

we need to talk about a little bit.

Oh, see, I can't believe we've been talking like for

we need to talk for a few minutes about this incredible wellness, fitness

world that you created.

So, stay there.

I'm gonna take another two-minute break, and we are gonna do a little extra chunk of Carondeleuse because she is multi, multi-talented.

And I hope to God she's inspiring you guys 10% as much as she's inspiring me.

Like, I'm ready to love, I'm ready to get my summer body, I'm ready to dance.

I'm like, I'm leaving here, I'm going with you.

Yeah,

can you adopt?

Can we sleep at the TV?

You know, I have tents, you know, I have tents.

Yes,

we'll be right back in this incredible, incredible, incredible episode with this incredible one, Brooke Burg.

We'll be right back.